Living Maintenance - Maintainers Weekly Chat June 24 - 30




BillBlueEyes
06-24-2013, 06:06 AM
We are so into summer around here - at last - with dinner on the patio in the cool evening. We have one male Robin squawking up a storm, presumably because he's the only bachelor left with the pairing up all done. Beginning to make a pest of himself; spring was when this was supposed to happen.

I've been distracted with some chores with deadlines lately and skimping on my exercise. It's not that I couldn't make the time, it's just easy to become hyper focused on pending doom if things don't get done before a deadline.


Mudpie
06-24-2013, 06:33 AM
Last week of June and I think summer's finally hit Toronto - :sunny:. DH and I went for a walk, after attending my father's 90th birthday celebration yesterday, and it was HOT :flame:; shorts, tank top, and sweating hot.

I realized how anxious :yikes: this all had been making me after it was done. Nothing major happened (although my dad did thank my cousin for being "the only one" who still attended to him and ignored me) and now I don't really need to see my dad ever again (unless he lives to 95, which is not really a possibility given his physical deterioration). :dance:

I am being as mean as he is in this post. But at least I attended the celebration, took along a really good chocolate raspberry truffle cake, and gave my dad a photo of him and his former girlfriend that had been in his bedroom at the family home. DONE!

I didn't eat everything in the house when we came home either (see above). All that nervous energy :hyper: that I expended in getting through the day left me feeling quite depleted. And the sugar crash from the cake was quite intense. I had several bottles of water and a bowl of semi-frozen cherries and called it a night.

I finally feel like I can enjoy summer and all that comes with it. First order of business is to get some beginner spanish and french instruction DVD's, which DH ordered from our public library system yesterday.

DH and I need to do something in the evening other than watching absolute dreck and reruns on TV. He kept after me about learning another language so I've decided to take him up on it. Maybe this will snap him out of his slump too.

Good week everyone!

Dagmar :strong: :beach: :bike:

krampus
06-24-2013, 12:07 PM
Hello Maintainers,

Had a sun-soaked weekend paddling canoes down the Delaware River from PA to NJ with BF and his friends and a dozen of their friends. Excellent times. I did not tip the canoe and I ate a lot but all the paddling and sun seemed to have magically made all that food disappear. I will not question this decision by Mother Nature.

My sciatic pain is not getting better. I need to schedule an orthopedic dr appointment as well as figure out moving in a month and my first fillings appointment on July 8. I hate this!


Mudpie
06-24-2013, 05:44 PM
The internet can be quite creepy. I bought a rug on eBay Thursday and I keep seeing ads on this site for rugs from a site I looked at but didn't buy from. I also only looked at t-shirts on a site I frequently buy from and now I'm getting their ads here too.

Interesting also that they call the things helping link users and marketing sites tracking "cookies".

Dagmar :eek:

WardHog
06-24-2013, 07:00 PM
Hi maintainers! We are in the home stretch of swim team now. I am looking forward to getting back into my normal routine of walking the dog early and then going to the gym. I will let the kids sleep as late as they want ... Too bad DS pops up around 6:15 every day. :-) At least he's not grumpy in the morning.

alinnell
06-24-2013, 07:03 PM
The internet can be quite creepy. I bought a rug on eBay Thursday and I keep seeing ads on this site for rugs from a site I looked at but didn't buy from. I also only looked at t-shirts on a site I frequently buy from and now I'm getting their ads here too.

Interesting also that they call the things helping link users and marketing sites tracking "cookies".

Dagmar :eek:

I recently ordered some cat food from Chewy. On another forum I belong to, all the ads are for Chewy or for cruises (because I often go to Holland America to review my booking for next month). Yep, they're cookies and they're spooky!

saef
06-24-2013, 09:55 PM
Dagmar, since I was furnishing my apartment about this time last year, I was also pursued by advertisements for many things that I'd already bought and did not intend to buy again for some time. I, too, bought a rug, and once I had it, was done utterly with rug-buying. I mean, they're not like clothes, where you don't want to wear the same shirt every day. You buy a rug, it lies on the floor. That's the end. But I kept getting rug ads served up to me months later. After I didn't click on any of them for months & months, they finally went away. But for a time it was like a persistent salesman constantly pressing his face to my window or showing up on my doorstep. This is the price of all the free info or services we get on the Internet/

bargoo
06-25-2013, 01:51 AM
Re: Ads. My Ds had an even eerier uxperience, he was at Target picked up a few things . looked at themn but didn't buy them, now he is getting ads re : those items on his computer,. Another friend had a similar experience only his visit was to Sports Authority, now he is getting the ads on his computer.

Mudpie
06-25-2013, 06:29 AM
Re: Ads. My Ds had an even eerier uxperience, he was at Target picked up a few things . looked at themn but didn't buy them, now he is getting ads re : those items on his computer,. Another friend had a similar experience only his visit was to Sports Authority, now he is getting the ads on his computer.

Did he enter a "contest" or "free draw" while he was there? DH pointed out the marketing ploy masquerading as a contest to me when I intended to fill out a ballot @ the Art Gallery of Ontario. :eek:

Does he have a cell and was it on? did he text or make calls while at the store? I get the feeling there are a lot of things in people's phones that can be used by others (mostly for marketing). :yikes:

And I have absolutely no proof of this nor do I spend nights tossing and turning worrying about it - I don't have any paranoid fantasies about people tracking me. My life is far too BORING! for that. :lol3:

I don't have a fancy phone because I don't have anyone to call and I don't generally need to use the net @ the dog park.

Dagmar :dizzy:

traveling michele
06-25-2013, 06:21 PM
Hope your pain improves Krampus-- did you make an appt for the doctor?

Dagmar-- I bet it seems like your dad will live forever. Kudos for hanging in there!!

Mudpie
06-28-2013, 06:36 AM
Took a week but I found out why DH is is such a :mad: bad :tantrum: mood (and passing it on). Troubles with his boss. And he got a personal, scathing (according to him) attack and she said she should fire everyone.

DH has been dealing with this woman for 15 years, on and off. He knows all this BS comes down the pipe all the time so why is he so shocked :eek: and upset by it :(?

We had the suck it up, get in shape, diet, and find a new job conversation again. SIGH.

I'm going to be out in the rain all day but I'm determined to get DH out for a small walk this evening. I have to find the energy to drag him out 3x per week until his own body starts demanding it. MOVE!

That's the problem with living with someone for so long. We can both anticipate all the familiar patterns and our reactions may not always be so sympathetic.

Looooooong weekend ahead I guess.

Dagmar :tired: of the :moo:

krampus
06-28-2013, 12:34 PM
Dagmar, hang in there :\ It's so frustrating when those you care about do nothing to improve their own health!

I have an appt with a Real Sports Doctor for next Monday. I have a filling that same afternoon at the dentist X(

Mudpie
06-28-2013, 07:46 PM
Apparently DH's long weekend is going to consist of drinking bourbon, eating chips, ice cream, etc. and talking very LOUDLY. Good thing I have lots to do outside the house. And I guess I'll take myself to a couple of movies and make a couple of sympathetic noises when he complains about how physically bad he feels.

Interesting how abusing his body is still some kind of celebration for DH.

Dagmar :(

ReillyJ
06-28-2013, 08:46 PM
I had several bottles of water and a bowl of semi-frozen cherries and called it a night.


Dagmar :strong: :beach: :bike:

Semi-frozen cherries. Hmmm, that sounds good! i tried the frozen grape thing and wasn't impressed.

i'm whining here because Washington state is in a sizzler now and getting hotter by the minute. Can't work out in weather like this with my CFS/Fibro so i'm going to be WHINING!

alinnell
06-28-2013, 08:49 PM
I'm in need of some frozen/semi-frozen fruit. It is currently 117 degrees with a prediction of 120 tomorrow and Sunday. The AC at the office had a hard time today--set at 77 and it kept running and running and was at 82 when I left.

I got home and now have no desire to cook for dinner. Don't really want to go out in the heat either. That leaves pizza (or some other disgusting delivery food). I'm trying to convince myself to do something myself but it's just too hot to cook and I'm all out of fresh vegetables for a salad.

Mudpie
06-29-2013, 08:30 AM
I'm in need of some frozen/semi-frozen fruit. It is currently 117 degrees with a prediction of 120 tomorrow and Sunday. The AC at the office had a hard time today--set at 77 and it kept running and running and was at 82 when I left.

I got home and now have no desire to cook for dinner. Don't really want to go out in the heat either. That leaves pizza (or some other disgusting delivery food). I'm trying to convince myself to do something myself but it's just too hot to cook and I'm all out of fresh vegetables for a salad.

I am going to try some cold grain and vegetable salads - right from the back of the grain boxes. Tonight it will be quinoa and vegetables. After DH has accepted that I will branch out to freekeh and vegetables. I always have a BBQ'ed chicken handy for protein (DH has started picking one up whenever he makes a fruit run to Costco) and greens, cuke, and avocados for green salads.

Speaking of semi-frozen fruit DH and I are really liking the Costco cherries, kinda liking the blueberries, and the frozen figs (my idea) were disgusting. So far the other "stone" fruits haven't been much of a success either. I had high hopes for the frozen mango chunks (I am a hopeless fresh mango peeler - wind up with squishy sludge and juice) and also the peach but they're not at all a success.

Dagmar :dizzy:

ICUwishing
06-30-2013, 11:36 AM
Home sweet home! More post later, after I make a huge dent in Dirty Laundry Mountain, pick up the bunnies from the sitter, and restock the refrigerator. :)

alinnell
06-30-2013, 12:14 PM
Welcome back, Becky! How was the weather on your cruise? Can't wait to hear the details!

I made an amazing lasagna last night. I think I mentioned it on a thread somewhere. I had my doubts but it turned out great. I have to think it was fairly low in calories but haven't gone so far as to figure it all out. Anyway, the sauce was called an Alfredo sauce, but it was made out of cauliflower, a little garlic and some vegetable broth. I used chopped carrots, onions, tomatoes and spinach for the filling. Then mozzarella cheese and the pasta--the only high calorie stuff in it! DS didn't get to sample it because just before dinner he announced he was going to his friend's for dinner. Sigh. Soon he'll never be home for dinner.

DS and I have been dorm shopping. We ordered a bunch of stuff from BB&B and that arrived on Friday. (I decided I didn't want to bother trying to find a store in Irvine to pick it up when he moves.) Two boxes which we've unpacked and reloaded everything into just one box. We washed his towels because usually towels are so linty in the beginning, but these seem fine. We went to Target yesterday and loaded up on toiletries and other stuff. The only thing he needs now is a bathrobe. Target didn't have any which I thought was strange.

We're dealing with record setting heat here. I believe the high yesterday was 122 which broke the previous record of 121. Not that one degree makes that much difference when you're that hot in the first place! We did all our running around before noon and then stayed inside the rest of the day. Today is more of the same except DH wants to go see a movie.

Mudpie
06-30-2013, 01:36 PM
I think my DH may have finally had that moment when the pain of his weight exceeded the pleasure of overeating. We went kayaking this morning for 2 hours and it was beautiful. Light wind, some cloud cover, easy paddling all the way.
When we got back DH could not get out of his boat. He had to ask me for help which I gave willingly and without any comment whatsoever. He outweighs me by at least 125 lbs. but I was able to lever him up and out, using the boat and his paddle to help me.

Let's hope this is his "aha" moment regarding how unfit he's become and enough of a motivator to put him on the road back to a healthier life.

Dagmar :crossed:

neurodoc
06-30-2013, 08:36 PM
Hello everyone. It seems always my fate to post last on the weekly chat thread, as I usually have free time on Sunday evening. Hope folks check in one last time (or read the daily email digest).

I am back from a very relaxing and interesting 2 week vacation to Greece. Really glad I went, even though there was all the usual drama of a family of 5 forced to spend every minute of the day together (we had 2 hotel rooms everywhere, so we were thankfully free of the 3 boys after bedtime). I have a new appreciation for the U.S. highway system, which provides for 2 lanes in each direction on all but the smallest, most rural roads. In Greece, 1 lane plus a shoulder is the norm virtually everywhere, and it means that the Greeks both use the shoulder as a defacto right lane, and routinely pass over the median double line (sometimes all the way into oncoming traffic) in order to pass slower traffic. UGH. I loved all the ancient history - the ruins of previous civilizations that are so common that the Greeks just build around them. And I loved travelling between islands on huge modern ferries that tell me Greek priorities lie mostly with water rather than land-based travel. Most of all, I loved the people we interacted with: though I shouldn't engage in "ethnic profiling," we found Greek people to be exceptionally kind, friendly and outgoing - they seem to really enjoy chatting with foreigners (and their English is excellent, the product of starting language classes in 2nd grade).

I mostly haven't kept up with the 3FC boards, but read through this week's Chat before adding this, so I know that Allison is enduring insane heat (we thought the Greek summer was pretty horrendous, and it only hit the mid-90s most days), I know that Dagmar is both excited to be a home owner and frustrated by her DH's stubborn refusal to do anything about his weight and health issues, that Krampus is suffering from sciatic pain and that several of you are quasi-freaked out about the eerily accurate targeted ads on websites, courtesy of mysterious cookies that get lodged in your OS (BTW, if it bothers you, you can easily clear both your "cache" and your cookies in the preferences section of your browser, and this will remove at least recent evidence of browsing activity).

As for food, I am thoroughly sick of Greek cuisine, healthful though it claims to be. To be honest, I saw nearly as many overweight and obese Greeks as I do Americans here in the states. Portion sizes at restaurants and "tavernas" (pubs) are so huge that we would routinely order only 2-3 appetizers and 2 entrees for the 5 of us and have leftovers, and everything is DROWNED in olive oil if you don't ask for them to hold it. I ate very carefully but have no illusions. I will eat sensibly this week, exercise daily, and only get on the scale on Friday to avoid "scale shock."

Shannon in ATL
06-30-2013, 11:36 PM
Welcome back, Andrea! I've always found Greek people to be exceptionally friendly as well.

traveling michele
07-01-2013, 01:42 AM
Welcome back Andrea. I'm looking forward to hearing more about your travels.