Beck Diet Solution - Beck Diet For Life/Solution – June 2013 – Support, Discussion, Buddy/Coach

06-01-2013, 06:11 AM
Welcome to the discussion group, support group, diet coach group, diet buddy group relating to the two books by Dr. Judith S. Beck:The Complete Beck Diet for Life ( the first bookThe Beck DIET solution: train your brain to think like a thin person. (

The Beck Diet Solution is a psychological program, not a food plan. It provides a step-by-step program to learn specific techniques to stay on our diet, lose weight, and maintain our weight loss for life. The program is based on Dr. Beck's clinical research in Cognitive Therapy (CT).

The Complete Beck Diet for Life expands the earlier work and includes a food plan with suggested menus. From the cover:With The Complete Beck Diet for Life you'll discover the 5 stages of successful dieting and maintenance. You'll learn how to motivate yourself, give yourself credit for every change you make, create time and energy for dieting, and handle hunger and cravings. Dr. Beck eases you into changing one step at a time. You'll master one task before moving on to the next. And you'll learn techniques to deal with challenging situations, such as sticking with ou plan at celebrations and dealing with "food pushers." With Dr. Beck's skills, you'll achieve a lifetime of healthful eating and lifelong motivation.

This is a place to discuss the Beck strategies and our daily efforts, to receive and provide support, and, for some of us, is where we serve as on-line diet buddy (coach) to each other.

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06-01-2013, 06:12 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Exercise was the walk to a concert last night, CREDIT moi. DW had checked the hourly temperature chart in advance so that we knew we wouldn't even need jackets when leaving the theater. Walking in the city in the evening when warm is magic.

Eating was good enough, CREDIT moi. I resisted some additional snacking just due to being busy.

nationalparker – Ouch for home maintenance chores with their cleaning up. The old "limited time only" trick sucks me in also. It's neat that you "THOROUGHLY enjoy" your three bagels a year - fits right in with Dr. Beck's quote today.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Yay for your June dumbbell challenge. Do you do this at home?

IBelieveInMe2 – Bummer to miss your first session with the new personal trainer. Shuddering at the thought of kids out of school all hyped up - maybe that'll help with your own exercise.

sparks17 – Lovely thought of Tony Bennett singing Fly Me to the Moon. This dessert with concerts is a challenge. DW and I used to split a luscious brownie during intermission at the opera. Then they started selling cellophane-wrapped factory made ones so I was able to quit. Kudos for wrestling mindfully with the issue.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

Guidelines for a Doable Diet
. . . Choose a diet that allows you to budget for indulgences. ... The Beck Diet Solution teaches you how to eliminate spur-of-the-moment eating. I encourage you, however, to modify your diet by working planned indulgences into your overall plan. This can help you stick to your diet long term.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 66.

06-01-2013, 09:35 AM
Good morning! I am having a late start and wondering if I should change my plan. Eat a bigger breakfast in an hour, have a small lunch at around 1-2 and then dinner as usual. But...I am quite hungry and I wonder if I will just plain eat too much for breakfast once I get started. I need to replan and give myself a calorie limit, I guess. I could do 600 for breakfast, 400 for a snacky lunch and 600 for dinner and still have room for a snack this evening...

Before I go plan -

Nationalparker - gotta love a handy husband!

Ibelieveinme - Oh, I am so looking forward to you meeting with the personal trainer. It is going to be awesome!!! :carrot:

Beth - hope you are having great weather for the graduation - congratulations!

Bill - Sounds like you had a lovely evening! You are obviously feeling better :)

06-01-2013, 11:28 AM
Good Morning, Coaches.

Welcome June 1st with my new ticker number. This is very exciting for me. I think of all the changes I have made in the last three years and I am astounded. In August 2010, I made a decision I wouldn't go into my fiftieth year fighting the same old demons. It has been very painful in many ways. I am still so afraid, so often. I have let go of a job, a few friends and a world view—my need for redemption because I was not enough. I think using food as a narcotic kept me stagnant. As long as I progress in peace with food, I can do anything or maybe it is the other way around. As long as I practice being enough, I have peace with food. In either case, thanks everyone for your help.

BBE: Great quote about indulgences. I plan a cupcake today after DS recital. He is playing the "Humoresque" on the violin.

Sparks17: Credit for the plan. When I get off schedule, I have to stop my panic and say, I am more important than the chaos around me (one of my advantage cards.)

06-02-2013, 06:05 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – At dinner with friends, I served my own plate. I chose well, CREDIT moi, and avoided several dishes that were 'white' - without even knowing what they were, LOL. Big excitement was a huge furniture store that included a trapeze school. It was fun to realize that I could actually take a swing if I had wanted. I watched some ten year old girls takes swings and even transfer to the strong man on the other trapeze - just WOW! It helped me to remember that I'm neither as lithe or limber as ten year olds.

Walking, CREDIT moi, was an assigned last minute dash to the supermarket to buy cilantro. I spent considerable time examining bunches of flat parsley trying to convert them. They remained parsley. Finally, despite being male, I asked another shopper if any were cilantro. "No, they're flat parsley which is more tasty and looks better than curly parsley," she replied helpfully. So I went to the case of organic herbs and picked up a $3.69 clamshell marked 'Organic Cilantro.' My next career might just be selling herbs in clamshells to get rich quick.

maryann - Congrats on your new sticker number. Seriously interesting thought, "I think using food as a narcotic kept me stagnant" - gonna go off and ponder that one.

sparks17 – Yay for planning and Yay for re-planning as required. I was startled when I realized that three meals of 600 calories each, plus snacks, was the basis of a reasonable diet - particularly since there are so many 'snacks' greater than 600 calories. (Thought of you when I heard Fly Me to the Moon in an ad yesterday.)

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

Guidelines for a Doable Diet
. . . Learn from your past. Think about previous diets you've tried. Did you lose weight? Were the diets healthy, appetizing, and relatively convenient to follow? Perhaps there is a healthy diet you liked that worked fairly well. You might consider trying it again.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 66.

06-02-2013, 10:03 AM
Hey everyone - quiet this weekend. Just want to tell you all a big THANKS! This forum-as-coach has been so helpful. Knowing that I will have to post here is that extra pressure to be sensible and honest.

Yesterday was funny. I tacked my planned snack on directly after breakfast - and I felt great. Later lunch, later dinner, ate what I had planned, ignored the donuts that my kids love and was in control all day. Credit! It was quite muggy and hot so I did not go out to walk till after 8, and it was so beautiful then! Walking "in the cool of the evening"...what is that from??? Anyway, it was cool and lovely and twilight when I got back home, humming bits from Days of Future Passed under my breath and feeling about 16 years old (high school boyfriend introduced me to the Moody Blues).

Today is a mystery, so I need 2 plans - one if I go out and one if I stay home. Let's see what my husband decides!

Bill - cilantro is very important business! Parsley is NOTHING like it :?:

maryann - I hear you. Food is handy for filling in the gaps in life , isn't it?

And someone, mommyhoneybear maybe, recommended The Power of Habit? I just finished it yesterday and I did find it fit in well with Beck. I am considering buying it so I can highlight the best parts.

OK. Off to make some decisions and start my day!

06-02-2013, 10:23 AM
Hi Coaches!

Sorry to have been MIA here for a few's been difficult to fit computer time in with all the other events/chores/etc. I have a date w/DH to head to the pool in 5 minutes. It will be our last soak before returning either tonight or very early tomorrow morning.

I have been very mindful with my food and have weighed AND contacted my SBD/Beck diet buddy daily with my written food plan. credit.

BBE, I just pulled out my receipt.... 1 bunch cilantro/ .34...They were 3/$1.00. I am thinking they did not charge me the organic price...Cilantro is very popular here with our Latino population. I often confuse it with flat leaf parsley...a common mistake.

I've got to get going....
Thanks for being here everyone!

06-02-2013, 10:57 AM
Happy Sunday! I was MIA yesterday from here. We went to see Tomas Kubinek last night - it was absolutely hysterical. We got a deal on the tickets and just said what the heck, let's have a laughter-filled date night and we sure did. I'd not heard of him before, but if you ever run across a show, it's worth catching. My review of the day, not NYTimes level, but ... from the heart, ha! (Actually, The New York Times called him "Absolutely expert" and I thought that was lacking :) )

Food needs to be reined in. Clear and simple. I find myself looking at food thinking, Oh, that looks superb as a decadent treat instead of as fuel. I spent time yesterday afternoon preparing white wine parmesan risotto. Clearly, I didn't need to do that. We were running out of vegges for sides and I thought, oh, i have this wine, and parm, and the arborio rice ... Instead of, Oh, I need to get to the market NOW. So that's on the errand list for today.

Dh goes in to work tonight, switching from days to nights with just one day off. Hard for him to be awake all night without a transition period, I think. Well, not just awake but safe and productive awake. Will check in tonight here and am committed to posting that I had a great eating day and stayed on plan. Now to create today's plan.

06-02-2013, 11:11 AM
Hello coaches,
Whew! I am beat! I did the water aerobics/racquetball combo and then walked "the hill" in my neighborhood. The hill is a mile long and steep and we walked 3/4 of it without stopping! I was so happy that I didn't get out of breath and that I felt good doing it. I went slowly and paced moi! I ate within plan and sat down while eating....(I wrote that last night and forget to get back to finish)...

06-02-2013, 01:39 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

Great Day. DS won lots of kudos at the recital. I have to admit starting to cry because he is so beautiful to watch and to hear. Later a picnic in the park with all of us lying under a tree using each other as pillows. I'll take this life over any other imagined.

Thought of Sparks17 because my plan went awry when the cupcake i had planned was unattainable. The place was closed. Slight spiral into "I can eat anything because I tried to plan and i was foiled. Right?" Not too much damage and restarted my day at 5:00 pm.

Today is planned and yoga completed. I am making a menu for the month. Glad to read NationalParker's refusal to get veggies. It is a good lesson for me. I am on a strict budget this month and when that happens I don't go to the store thereby sacrificing what is fresh. Not a good plan.

BBE: I make a mean cilantro and chickpea sausage stew.

Hello all, especially busy Lexxiss Enjoy the pool.

06-02-2013, 08:45 PM
BillBlueEyes: Thank you for always providing the link to the new month! It is very helpful. CREDIT for resisting additional snacking, even if only due to being busy.

Home from the lake after letting my daughter have a friend with us all weekend for her 14th birthday celebration. Drove up and back Saturday night to attend my niece's/Goddaughter's graduation party. (An hour and 15 minute drive one way.) The girls had a blast together! Had their photo drawn together by an artist at the party. So adorable! Lots of giggles coming from the back seat of my van on the way to and from the party! Love that sound! :) My daughter enjoyed staring at all of the cute (older) boys (friends of my niece) at the party! LOL! She is boy crazy! :dizzy: My kids have finals this week and then they are out of school early on Thursday. Studying hard right now..... I hope! At least all is quiet right now. I resumed my 15+ minute walks Saturday with a 20-minute walk around the lake neighborhood with one of our dogs (Lucy, the puppy) and a 20-minute ride on our recumbent cycle there. Still need to get that in today..... and I WILL..... come **** or high water!!! :D Eating has been off plan, so I need to buckle down this week and get myself back on some type of schedule. I have not been holding myself accountable with calories lately and I know I've been way over the past couple days. As always, the weekends are much more difficult than during the week. I also need to come up with a plan for the summer to keep both me and my daughter MOVING and in-check with food intake.

sparks17: Thank you for helping to psyche me up for the personal trainer!!! I am anxiously and cautiously optimistic about this new venture! I know it is much needed and will be great for my health ~ both physically and mentally!

Gotta run right now. Will check in later! :wave:

06-02-2013, 09:15 PM
The kitchen is closed. Credits for me on a day when I'm disgusted and negative on myself are that I actually logged food into MFPal (yes, was over by a solid amount), and that I counted the chicken I prepped early for DH's dinner tonight and ATE AT 4 p.m. as my dinner. It came out delish and I gave in to eating it and not waiting until my regular dinner time. Ate carrots and a serving of risotto a bit later but in all honesty, I didn't need the risotto. Well, NO ONE needs risotto, but I mean I was satisfied after the carrots. Yet I kept going. Remove earlier credit.

Wanted to snack this evening, so got out of the house to do some marketing. I'm in a funk right now and not sure WHY. Ordered a lot of the pavers to be delivered for the wall I'm building. As it turns out, that will have to wait until late June to REALLY dig into it as we'll be gone for 10 days home to Florida for fun/work. I need to find clothes that fit for the work part. And I think nothing will fit. So instead of getting in there and trying them on, I sit out here and think of how fat I'm getting.

Beth - Sending major kudos to you for your weight loss that just keeps chugging along with hard work on your end. I remember it was close to 20 pounds and now you're close to 40. You are rocking it!

Bill - Good posting today - it reinforces the plan of ours to add in more healthy, nutritious food and edge out the less-healthy options. I'm trying to use up most of what we have before the trip, with just getting SOME things fresh.

Maryann - LOVE that your thinking mirrors mine at times; makes me feel less alone here. (my planned snack isn't available. Free pass for something else.)

IBelieveInMe2 - Sounds like a well-spent, memory-in-the-making weekend! I love joyful laughter and think that's one of our blessings as hearing folks.

Lexxiss - Your time there is sounding wonderful; and what a great accomplishment to be following program while away. That is so difficult for me. I will channel your success this next week!

Sparks - Thanks for bringing up the Power of Habit. I forgot about that and will put it on hold at the library or on my kindle. LOVE that my library has such a varied ebook collection.

Rosebud - Great active weekend for you! What a feeling to not be out of breath when challenging your body!

Lizagna - Are you still around and I'm totally missing the days you check in? Hope you're doing GREAT and look forward to hearing your voice on here. Well, seeing your words :)

06-02-2013, 10:32 PM

So, I can hardly believe 6months have passed and we are halfway through the year. I feel like I have been super un-productive. Wow.

This week that cold got me and it's still got me. My upstairs neighbour always knocks on my door to see how well I am, offering to make me some Syrian cold remedy thing--which I gather revolves around lemons. I've been too sick to say yes. I really just want her good-hearted self to leave me suffer in peace. Tomorrow night is the final potters' guild meeting for the current year. That means potluck. Whatever I bring it's always a dud. I asked DH's mom what to bring and she suggested coleslaw. Dullsville, but I bet it would be ok. I'm not sure I'll stay for the dinner, but I do need to be at the meeting for a couple of announcements.

My food has been weird cause I have been in a fog. I am trying and keep righting myself when I drift in the wrong direction. I think I am doing damage though. By this you can see I have not weighed in since Thursday. Tomorrow I will.

BTW I was seasrching for potluck recipes on and came across this: I cannot believe it is a special food holiday every single day of the year!

Have a good night.

06-02-2013, 11:13 PM
Hi all,

Today was mostly an OP day. Like most weekends, I didn't enter it all into MFP the night before, but I ate my "goto" lunch (skipped breakfast) and ate one of my 'regular' dinners. Then I tucked in an ice cream treat at the end, which put me over calories--not badly but over.

I did Day 2 of the 30 day dumbbell challenge today. I do it with 8 lbs weights in my office--I even dragged DH's weight bench up here to make it easier to do some of the exercises, rather than using a chair or getting an exercise ball. Lizagna is doing it with me. Credit to both of us!

I did my meal plans for the next 3 weeks and the grocery list for tomorrow's grocery trip. It's a concrete way in which Beck has changed my habits--I now consider the Monday evening grocery run to just "be"--I don't think about whether I want to go to the store--I just do it. (DH and DD the younger think this is a great improvement.) Credit for new habit!

The reason I did several weeks is that I went through the freezers to find out what was there, so that pushed me to schedule more food! It's also because I'll be out of town the next 5 weekends. (3 individual weekends, and then a week's vacation).

I need to come up with a strategy, one weekend at a time. This coming weekend will be the hardest--it's one of my "party weekends" which I know will have tons of food. In fact, I have to make some of the sweets this coming week. I need to decide how I'm going to limit myself, recognizing that "totally on plan" is not going to happen. I need to make a plan that will keep me "mostly" OP--I can't just go crazy--which I've done at the last two events like this. I know DH, DD, and several friends will support me--I just need to figure out what I'm going to commit myself to and be determined to do that.

onebyone: I hope you're feeling better soon. Some periods, just getting through them is the best we can do. You've had a lot going on.

nationalparker: Thanks for reminding me how far I've come. It's so easy to look at it the other way (how far to go) and that's nowhere near as helpful. Hugs for clothes...I hope you've found a wardrobe you can take that works for you.

IBelieveInMe2: Be sure to tell us how the personal trainer appointment goes now that you're feeling better! I'm encouraged by your 15 minute daily walk--and I'm hoping to start mine again tomorrow, if my foot doesn't object.

maryann: It sounds as if the recital and picnic were a perfect family weekend. It's encouraging to hear "back on plan at 5:00 pm"--to remind myself that "off plan" can be a SHORT duration!

Rosebug170: Credit for the hill! It sounds as if you're realling getting a lot of good exercise in.

Lexiss: Credit for pool and weighing and keeping up with your buddy on your written plan. Lots of credits, there!

sparks17: The forum as coach really does help, doesn't it? I know that I would have stayed derailed multiple times if I hadn't this group to come back to--to confess--and to get encouragement to get back OP. It's strong enough that the encouragement is there even before anyone posts back to me--it's strong enough to feel. Congrats on a great food day.

BillBE: I always feel overwhelmed by buying cilantro. I don't really care for it, but BFF cooks with it a lot, and I am the designated grocery-goer. (And I buy whatever she tells me to) (How come white food is generally not-so-good-for-us but good-tasting?)

Take care, all.

06-02-2013, 11:35 PM
I got in my 15+ minute walk tonight by walking 2 of our dogs. My foot didn't hold out for the 3rd dog, so DH walked with him. So happy to be back OP with exercise!!! :carrot: Now, if I could only get my food straightened out..... :dizzy:

06-03-2013, 08:00 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Dinner on the patio with DW while her garden is at about its peak of gorgeous. Just heaven on earth. CREDIT moi just for savoring life.

Lunch was awful, Ouch, because I got caught with nothing to eat before an afternoon event. I nibbled on cookies. Double Ouch. I was fully capable of skipping lunch, or just postponing it until about 2pm, but I acted like hunger was an emergency. I wasn't even hungry; the timer went off in my brain that it was lunchtime and I was headed to a period of time with no food. Perhaps I'd starve to death or at least pass out due to the calorie shortage. Bad planning, Yes. But much worse, bad thinking.

onebyone – Wait, Stop! I want 27 more days before you declare us half-way through the year, LOL. Choosing potluck meals is a challenge - I always feel embarrassed if my dish isn't the most consumed, like it was a contest. (What am I supposed to do on 'National Egg Day?')

Debbie (Lexxiss) – A soak in the pool is just what I needed last night around here. [Wonder how much cilantro I'll have to buy to justify a flight to Denver to enjoy your mountains.]

maryann - Nearly tearing at the image of your family lying under the tree using each other as pillows. Congrats to your DS for a successful concert. "cilantro and chickpea sausage stew" has me drooling.]

nationalparker – My dream is to conquer, "as a decadent treat instead of as fuel" without giving up the joy of the taste. I wish that "white wine parmesan risotto" wasn't making me drool right now. Yay for marketing instead of snacking.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Seems smart to me, "I can't just go crazy." It's the big fall off plan that causes me the most damage.

IBelieveInMe2 – Congrats for raising a 14 year old who can spend a weekend in the vicinity of her mom. Loving the thought of two 14 year olds giggling in the back of the car. Kudos for continuing to hold yourself accountable - that's the first step back to on-plan. A two-dog foot is progress.

Rosebud170 – What a terrific exercise day - Kudos.

sparks17 – Yay for feeling sixteen!!! Kudos for walking in the evening and enjoying it so much.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

skipping meals
Are you tempted to speed weight loss by eating as little as possible or by skipping meals? Don't do it! Several studies have linked skipping meals, particularly breakfast, with weight gain rather than weight loss. If you skip a meal, you'll probably compensate for it later on. For example, research shows that people who habitually skip breakfast tend to seriously overeat at night. You might be better off, in fact, if you plan to eat up to six small meals a day.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 66.

06-03-2013, 12:01 PM
Good Morning Coaches

To celebrate national egg day, which turns out to be a real and ancient day of celebration, and not something created by megacorppoultry factory farms ( I cooked two eggs overeasy and basked in their glory. I love the egg. I have fond memories of watching my Hungarian grandmother melt butter in a small cast iron pan and fry one egg, sunny side up for her breakfast with two toast bread (as she would say) and coffee with carnation evaporated milk. She'd place all of this on a faded yellow tray, a partioned plastic tray, with each thing occupying one section and often bring it into ehr bedroom while she read the Hungarian newspaper, tray on her lap, feet up under the covers. What a fond memory that is today. Huh.

Anyway, I feel better but I sound waaaaayyyyy worse. I croaked into the phone this morning while cancelling a shceduled visit to a potential home for my mom. My second cancellation due to the cold. The lady on the other end just burst out laughing as I identified myself to her. She just told me to call back when I feel better. *sigh* I thought that was today. My energy is definitely returning and my desire to do stuff is returning. DH told me I can't go to the potluck tonight as the guild is populated by oldsters and if I won't go to the nursing home I can't go there either. :mad: He's probably right. Given it's a potluck with sharing of food I'd better stay away. I'll have to send my messages to the guild via email.

Food today has been a retun to normal,as mentioned re: breakfast and eggs. I actually had bacon on my plate but sent it off to DH's plate when I tasted it and realized my tastebuds are working at 30% if that. Why bother with bacon if you can only taste saltiness?

Lunch will be soup, and probably more soup later. Dinner is steak I think -- soup if not. Tea, juice, coffee, water all that liquid stuff for the day as well.

*credit moi* I stepped on the wii fit scale to see where I am at and it's holding at 254. Up 0.2lbs from Thursday but this is nothing given the salty soup I am eating. So long as I remain below 255 I am ok with this viral interlude.

That's it. I plan to do a bit of work toward my farmers' market debut THIS weekend (please let it happen) and I wish all of you a great day.

06-03-2013, 12:57 PM
Wow - it got busy!!

lexxiss - sounds like you are doing very well! And cilantro is very cheap by you...wish it were here!

nationalparker - I am going to check out Kubinek on youtube after lunch - sounds funny!

rosebud - sooo much exercise :carrot:

maryann - lol at the unattainable cupcake!

ibelieveinme - weekends really are much harder to's a good thing that you are home and can get back on track!

onbyone - sorry that you are still sick! Virtual hugs :)

Beth - I am inspired, and a little terrified!, by your planning so far ahead!!

Bill - the timer went off in my brain that it was lunchtime and I was headed to a period of time with no food. Perhaps I'd starve to death or at least pass out due to the calorie shortage.

I had a good day yesterday - I even left room for my first Mike's Hard Lemonade of the season! My husband bought them for me and told me to pace myself. It's true that I won't lose weight having one of those every night...sugary beer is not a daily necessity!

I walked quite a bit yesterday- credit. Measured myself this am and I have lost 3 inches off my hips since March - and my husband actually said that he had noticed! He tries not to pressure me in any way - loves me no matter what weight I am - but he was pleased!

I have yet to plan lunch and dinner...I honestly do not feel like cooking anything and certainly do not feel like washing dishes! My oldest could cook but she has a nasty I need to get my act together. I think...coldcuts and fruit for lunch. My menu for the week says asian chicken/veg stir fry with fried brown rice with edamame. I forgot to pick up the scallions, so there is a nice afternoon walk right there. OK. Now I have a plan!

06-03-2013, 01:22 PM
nationalparker: I think it is a great triumph to enter ALL food in MFPal. It is really growth to be willing to see the truth and be accountable. Credit.

IBelieveInMe2: I know my 10yo is going through his last week. No finals, just fun but we are both ready for him to be done.

onebyone: Did I miss who your new avatar is?

bethfromdayton: This last month I have had a "goto" meal and it is really helpful. It is a bowl of the Eat2Live Soup. I don't have to think about it. It is filling, gives me a ton of servings of veggies (juiced as well as whole veggies), and I seem to be willing to not eat before or after it. I made a bunch and froze it in mason jars. Good Luck with your parties.

Sparks17: I am jealous that you and BBE can walk to everything. City life. I am suburbs/rural. There are few sidewalks or walkable stores.

As for me, I am going in for the last time to my son's class to teach music. Credit for teaching 30 little guys about music theory and history; getting them to dance and sing; and creating enthusiasm for the arts. I really tend to take my classroom music skills for granted. I know not everyone can do it. Credit. (A litttle good self talk in the bank helps when I am am so down on myself in other areas. This fits in with the Beck day 37 I read today. Summary: lower stress by getting off your own and everyone else's back.)

Yesterday OP until I had the dastardly thought after dinner "I didn't eat enough of the cheese I had planned for. I better have another ounce." Drat. Led to five more walnut halves. Credit for stopping and closing the kitchen again.

06-03-2013, 01:58 PM
Monday, Monday ... So good to me. (Power of positive thinking or only the corny song make the call.)

Since I seem to be completely motivated, if only for a brief time, by numbers, dates, deadlines, trips, ANYTHING that starts with a good round number, I counted it out and have 100 days until my birthday (no thrill if 87 or 53 days until my birthday, mind you, but 100 seems perfect). Not a landmark bday, but I celebrate them all. So I'm on day one again. And trying to drag my sister along for the ride with me this time. She lives in Colorado and is 13 years older than me, and we see each other a few times a year, but in all honesty, we are like oil and water. But I keep hoping that together we can join forces and help each other lose weight, stay on track, and work toward getting in better shape, since diabetes runs in our family pretty strongly. I've suggested she check out Beck's book from the library and she did, but i think I might just send it to her, so it's not a loaner. I would like to restart it with someone again. She revels in being busy, and I don't admire busy for busyness sake, so often probably don't give her the support/praise she is seeking, but rather say she should focus on two things she wants to do, and two that she needs to do. Combine some pleasure with achievement. I don't believe her personality appreciates that.

And I'm sorry to post so much, but I aim to check in again this evening while DH is working and I'm alone with the kitchen, and will use GardnerJoy's (?) "kitchen is closed" mentality, I hope. Need the accountability.

Breakfast and lunch are on track so far. Tonight I shall pack a duffle with walking clothes for lunchtime. Step One.

I was thinking WHAT is different in my life from when i was 130-140 pounds? Oh, I'm eating more. And more treats. And I'm not walking an hour a day. And I'm not choosing wisely when eating out more often than not. And I'm eating out more often. And I'm not tracking as i was when on maintenance. And... voila! UP 35 pounds or so. I long for the days of vacationing in Italy for MANY things, but the freedom to eat as desired and enjoyed while walking miles daily was a joy.

06-03-2013, 10:05 PM
Back. A series of family emergencies, etc. No gain/loss but no plan either, just lucking out. Back at it constructing tomorrows plan.


06-03-2013, 11:07 PM
Tonight I stayed busy and stayed on track. Mowed the whole lawn, dinner, dishes, laundry ... productive. When DH works nights, he leaves before I get home, so if I make him dinner to take in, I have to make it the night before. So then I want some of it, too. But I tend to make myself something different than I'd send in with him (spinach salad, etc.) So tonight, my strategy was to skip it altogether and he can take a frozen Indian meal he chose from Trader Joe's :)

Off to bed early to skim through Beck's and plan strategies for tomorrow.

Night, all!

06-03-2013, 11:12 PM
Hi all,

Today was OP except for that stupid ice cream treat. I may need to get rid of them until I can get myself back to using them as a treat--not as a daily thing. I think I'll take them to work tomorrow and offer them up--and leave my freezer bare of them for a couple of weeks. That sounds like a good plan.

I walked one lap at work today and my foot is doing fine. Tomorrow I'll do one lap as well. I don't think my foot is up to twice a day yet :-( but I need to concentrate on little steps (and they were little steps). I did Day 3 of my Dumbbell Challenge.

I also got a new book today--The Four Day Win by Martha Beck, PhD. I haven't started it yet--I ordered a used copy based on reviews and thought I'd see if I found it useful.

Take care, all!

06-04-2013, 06:38 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Exercise was walking the miles of Home Depot to get some flexible duct pipe. CREDIT moi despite being a rabbit in the brier patch. Good news is that I didn't buy any tools, new LED light bulbs, multi-packs of gloves, 36 packs of paper towels, or clever Wi-Fi enabled thermostats that would allow me to set/reset the temperature controls of all three heating zones in my house from my iPhone in Europe when I've left on a cruise without adjusting before I left home. If I cruised Europe. If I had an iPhone.

Eating was mediocre. Snacking raised its head as if peanuts resolved zoning issues. I did buy too many blueberries at the supermarket, CREDIT moi. Blueberries cure everything.

onebyone – Such a lovely memory of your grandmother with her morning egg. Kudos for loving a real food . . . instead of something like Doritos. (Your avatar picture scares me - who is that?)

maryann - From me, Praises and Admiration to you for being able to teach kids and for doing so. It should be illegal that walnut halves are so appealing, LOL.

spanky - Perhaps "just lucking out," perhaps some habits have become ingrained. Kudos for starting with planning.

nationalparker – Happy Birthday in a hundred! Extra celebrations in a year is a terrific notion - if you can avoid the notion that every celebration is a reason to eat more food. Good luck with your sister.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Yay for being able to say "I need to concentrate on little steps" by the literal meaning of steps. And Yay for co-workers who'll take unneeded ice cream treats.

sparks17 – Yep, "sugary beer is not a daily necessity" - tis a pity. Kudos for recognizing that scallions are and hiking out after them.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

Pick Your Diets Now

Before moving on to the next step in this plan, I want you to pick the primary diet you plan to follow, along with a backup diet. I've found that some dieters have to go through a process of trial and error before they find a diet they can follow for an extended period of time. You might find after a couple of weeks or months that the first diet you selected isn't working for you. You don't enjoy the suggested recipes, the meals are too complicated to prepare, or you really want foods not allowed by the diet. In that case, you can move on to Plan B.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 67.

06-04-2013, 08:53 AM
Good morning all! I've not been posting here for the last week due to overhwhelming stress at work. I work in a disaster non-profit that works to export our model of disaster recovery to other areas who have recently suffered from a natural disaster so they don't have to "reinvent the wheel". I found out last Tuesday night that I would have a person from a group doing Hurricane Sandy recovery training with me Wednesday-Friday. My assignment was to delegate training to my team, but many of them were unable to help because they were too busy. I ended up spending 8 hours a day with this (lovely) woman but I got absolutely nothing else done! I gave feedback to my boss that I needed more notice and more help delegating if I was to do this again :)

This weekend my partner's 6 year old had her first slumber party at our house - and after being put to bed at 9 the girls whispered until 11. I was informed this was the point of sleepovers and my controlling impulse to seperate them was not the point :P

Food through all this was tough to plan but mostly within my calorie range. I don't own a scale right now, need to invest in one stat, but I don't feel like I gained any weight (though I certainly didn't lose)

Yesterday was totally OP with the exception of increasing my dinner size (within my calorie alotment) because 30 mins after dinner I was still HUNGRY. Then early to bed so I could wake up early this morning and go running.

My food today is planned and I'm finishing up my OP breakfast as I write this :)

I hope everyone has a wonderful day!

BBE A concert on a warm spring night sounds divine! I'm jealous beacause here it's something like 85 degrees at night so sticky walking around. Your weather sounds lovely. That's some furniture store!! Also your cilantro story made me laugh out loud! As someone alergic to cilantro I'm not sure why you would want to convert parsley ;)

sparks Great job thinking about how to plan your day and still be successful despite obstacles instead of saying "my day is different I can't diet" like I do sometimes.

IBelieveinMe Weekends are so hard for me too. I know that we can get ourselves on track then too though!

maryann Thank you for your inspiring words and YAY to your journey!

06-04-2013, 08:57 AM
Busy day ahead, spending the day with a few fellow homeschool moms. We will be evaluating the work of several 1-8th graders in our homeschool group. The evaluations are in lieu of testing for certain grades here in NY. It's always an exhausting day and we bring snacks as we are usually too busy to take a lunch break. I am planning a wrap with grilled chicken, arugula, and romaine and unsweetened iced tea. I am also planning a snack for 3ish - it can be as snacky as I want but not more than 300 calories!!! I will choose it when I run to to the corner after breakfast.

Yes, it is convenient to live here, with 3 bodegas, a Rite Aid and a Walgreens, 2 chinese take outs, McDonalds, KFC. Wendys and Dunkin Donuts all in a 2 block radius. Surprisingly, no pizza! I try to avoid all the fast food, even when I am not consciously watching my diet...but we do find ourselves there at least once a week. Though I do have to go a little further for fresh fruit/veg (the bodegas are limited and not usually good quality), it is not more than a 20m walk to 3 different supermarkets. So if I am in the mood for...apricots or asparagus, I can almost always have them the same day! A farmer's market, though, is a bus ride away.

Hmm. I have been hovering over Day 19 in Beck - Stop Fooling Yourself. I am not in a hurry to move on as I am sort of meditating on all those terrible excuses. They are ALL so familiar and it is NOT OKAY!!!

Well, hey to everyone and hop you all have a good day :)

06-04-2013, 09:27 AM
Hi Coaches!

I guess I'm destined for slow internet. Nothing seems to change it right now. I'm thankful to be able to sneak in for a moment before work. Food is reasonably OP and I continue to resist multitudes at work. credit. I've weighed and have a plan for the day. I'll email my Beck diet buddy with my daily food plan before I leave this morning.

Work calls....

06-04-2013, 03:00 PM
Gorgeous day today - drove home at lunch to eat on the patio in the sunshine surrounded by my in-bloom garden and pots. I wanted to stay there and make lunch last much longer. So I had more to eat. Logical? I think not. But what 'tis done, 'tis done or whatever that quote is and I have 313 calories remaining for dinner. Good news is that dinner will be a chocolate/spinach/cherry smoothie so I can do that for 313 calories.

Baking biscotti tonight for my father and for a friend's birthday lunch tomorrow. I would like to make a few kinds and do her gift bag up pretty, but we'll see how well I manage my time. Need to do a quick market stop, and Father's Day planning for my dad, as we're celebrating this weekend.

Bill - Your Home Depot travels sound like ours. I keep finding things we NEED (who doesn't need a pencil with a retractable thingy that clips to your belt? My DH doesn't because I put one in his stocking last year after he laughed at me for thinking it was handy - he goes those are for roofers, not me. Well, lo and behold, he discovered it IS handy. I want one for my purse... at only $1.50 or so) :)

Sparks - what is a bodega where you are? I lived in Spain in my teen years and our bodegas were places that fermented grapes into sherry, and had small tasting rooms. Interesting to me that it's the same unusual word.

06-04-2013, 05:16 PM
Hello Coaches!

Happy National Cheese Day, National Frozen Yogurt Day and National Cognac Day!

For today, I will have to just wave at those foods from a distance. They are not on my plan today.

DH is out late tonight. 12 guys from work are being picked up at his work by a limo. They are having a bachelor party for one of their co-workers. The limo is bringing them back before midnight and I'll go pick him up at wok if he needs me to. Not sure how much he'll tell me about the goings-on tonight and I don't really care so long as they all have a great time. I'm sure they will.

Food has been OP today. *credit* and while out, I turned myself away from several treats in coffee shops and at cashier counters.

Bye for now.

PS. my avatar is the fashion curmudgeon Karl Lagerfeld. I am fascinated by this man. He lost about 90lbs one year a few years back. It was rumoured that he only ate lettuce and drank diet coke. He really believes he is all that and a bag of chips. Even though he's such an unlikeable human being, I do admire his self confidence and no choice attitude. I need a bit more of that... he really looks like he would not accept any excuses. This is just a temporary avatar...fear not... he will move on.

06-04-2013, 11:19 PM
Hi all,

I was short on time this morning (not totally my fault <this time>), so since I hadn't cut strawberries last night, I substituted blueberries (no prep!) for my cereal.

For dinner, we swapped out leftovers for the planned dinner, but it was a meal I could have planned (and did plan over the weekend, actually).

So, I consider today a win. I especially consider it a win because I forgot to bring my ice cream treats to work this morning :-(, but haven't had one tonight. I thought of it a couple of times and told myself "use your resistance muscle"--and I did!

Tomorrow is going to be a baking day, so I'm going to plan for one brownie bite or one raspberry shortbread bar bite--whichever one I make tomorrow (and the other Thursday night).

Take care, all.

06-04-2013, 11:27 PM
Good Evening, Coaches.

DH has been working round the clock for about a week now. He slipped home for last night but is gone again til Friday. The walnuts must be irrigated and sprayed for coddling moth. I know he is trying to arrange things so he can come with us to my BIG graduation at the end of the month in Vermont. I am much less agitated with his absence this year. It has been an ongoing struggle in the marriage-mostly because of DS. But i have done lots of counseling on it and DS is old enough to be such good company. Plus, I am very grateful for his excellent work ethic. So "Oh well" to a farmer's schedule.

OP today. stretches for a hurting shoulder but MY FEET ARE HEALED. Orthotics and ten nightmare sessions with a chiropractor which had me screaming and lamaze breathing ( he breaks up the scar tissue with his thumbs!!!) I walked all day with no pain.

Good to read everyone's challenges.

Sparks17: I see no need to rush off "Fooling Myself." Very powerful thoughts for me.

06-04-2013, 11:58 PM
Hello coaches,
I love reading what everyone writes and also love how varied our lives are an interesting group of people, not to mention supportive and dedicated! I appreciate you all....

I have been OP with food but have had a couple of small, spontaneous snacks that were not OP...I have stayed within my calorie range but I don't like to go off like that. I do my final weigh in for our challenge on Thursday morning. I am only half kidding when I say it will be after I pee and get as close to naked as I can at the YMCA to be weighed by someone officially! We have a new team starting on June 14 and every person is very motivated to lose...even if we don't win the cash, we will have fun and stay on a healthy path! I love the fun and support of it all....

Dad went to the YMCA kid workout consultation and is now approved to go into the weight room. So we could go and workout together which I think is so fun! They also have a "lazyman triathlon" which is an 8 week challenge where you can use water aerobics or swimming toward a 2.4 mile swim, bike or spin class toward 112 miles on bike (or exercise bike), and aerobics classes, walking or running on road or cardio machine for the run...I may do it for fun and to mix up my will be summer so why not!!!

And I am finished with report cards!!! This is a HUGE feat.....still finishing projects with kids, cleaning classroom up and getting ready for that much needed time of r and r and house projects!!!!

06-05-2013, 12:13 AM
Proud of myself tonight in that I ended up sticking to my calorie goal, despite swapping out my planned dinner for a different, yet still spinach-filled, option and will use the spinach/cherry/chocolate planned smoothie for tomorrow's breakfast instead of tonight's dinner. Baked only one recipe of biscotti, but got half of them wrapped up for a friend's belated birthday lunch. I did butterscotch chip/cashew, which isn't typical Italian, but one I tried out when trying to make new recipes and it goes quickly. # biscotti eaten? 0! Yay!

06-05-2013, 01:00 AM
Hello Coaches,

Just a quick check-in before going to bed. I am still maintaining my 15+ minute walks every day! CREDIT! :carrot: Meals have been mostly OP but I am still eating too many unplanned snacks in the evening. Had to cancel with my personal trainer due to still having a cold/flu, but I am rescheduled for next Tuesday morning. I have put the nutritionist on hold. Overwhelmed with my schedule right now. :dizzy: I am trying to squeeze everything in before I go to Ireland on the 19th and then before my foot surgery on July 16th. I also want to focus on getting the personal training established before I begin the nutrition component. One thing at a time!!!

06-05-2013, 07:40 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – A wash of a day - Ouch. Too much stuff brewing with me waiting for phone calls from lawyers and esteemed professional staff of the inspection/zoning board.

My meals were on plan, CREDIT moi, my snacks weren't, Ouch again. The current crisis in my life will end, as all do.

onebyone – Hope your DH made it home in one piece. Kudos for turning down those treats. (Typed with my eyes closed to avoid Karl's stare, LOL.)

Debbie (Lexxiss) – "I continue to resist multitudes at work" remains Kudos worthy every day.

maryann - Cheers for "I walked all day with no pain." Send my thanks to the walnut farmer - I'll think of him when popping walnut halves at breakfast.

nationalparker – Good luck backing biscotti and keeping your hands out of it.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Kudos for "use your resistance muscle" - neat that it's working.

IBelieveInMe2 – Ouch for cancelled personal trainer session. Are you psyched about going to Ireland?

Jo (veganasaurusrex) – Hope all goes well with your disaster recovery training. Those Sandy folks certainly need all the help they can get.

Rosebud170 – Love the thought of a "lazyman triathlon" when you do it over eight weeks.

sparks17 – Yep, the excuses are "ALL so familiar" - kinda embarrassing that Beck can write down what I'm thinking.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

Pick Your Diets Now

Why pick a second diet plan now? If you become discouraged with your first diet, you'll be at risk for abandoning your weight-loss efforts altogether. If you know from the start what your fallback diet will be, you'll be much more likely to switch to it and to continue dieting without interruption.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 67.

06-05-2013, 08:36 AM
Hi Coaches!

Quick check op, weighed and I have a plan for today. Quite busy taking it one day at a time.

06-05-2013, 08:43 AM
Hi Becksters - well, I am back after a downward spiral with food from when my sister was here and then beyond. She is not doing so well with her health. A fall from a stepladder three years ago has resulted 4 back surgeries, 21 back procedures, a back made of steel rods, plates, screws (everything except ductape), chronic pain, and loss of being able to do much of what she used to do. She can only sit in a chair for about 20 minutes and then must either stand up & walk or lay on the couch. She had to retire from a career that was exciting and important. It all has made me so sad. Her stomach is 'wrecked' from all the meds. She lives on the blandest foods. Her favorites are sugar & butter cookies and vanilla ice cream (she is not over weight, lab numbers great). I was into the cookies and goodies along with her. When she left she felt wonderful as to be somewhere different and nurturing. I was left with my heart broken for all she has gone through and still not better yet. She is better than she was several years ago - but, is now trying to see if this less pain, etc is as good as it gets.

My food has been all over the place. I was feeling so sad and bad and mad that I didn't have the energy to come here and post. Sorry I just faded away for a time. I am up three pounds over my ticker weight. Down a couple from the cookiefest my sister and I had.

One wonderful credit in all of this is that I've done my exercises every single day - for over a month. YAY.

I saw the dietician yesterday. Although I was up four pounds from when I five weeks ago. I am still down ten pounds from last November. Credit. It could be worse, for sure. She told me to sit down and write out where my health will be in five years if I continue to eat so very unhealthfully. Where it could be if I eat a healthier food plan. Food for thought.

So, once again I have my pencil in hand and my spiral ready to write down a plan. I will try again. The good thing is that the past is done. Learn and carry on. Thanks.

06-05-2013, 01:44 PM
Hey. I am having mental battles today - FOOD FOOD FOOD is all I can think about. My oldest has been home sick all week...and eating all the stuff I bought for healthy lunches so I have nothing left for today but a small yogurt! I want to go to McD and have a big sandwich and fries. I want I want I want.

So I forced myself to come here. I ate too much breakfast - but stopped when I realized that I was eating too much and wasn't hungry anymore -credit. I have a gyn app tomorrow and do not want to sabotage my weigh-in by eating unnecessary salty junk today. I have errands to run this afternoon and I am trying to figure out lunch first. On the way home I can pick up good stuff for the rest of the week...bu I am fighting all the "Just this once it is ok not a big deal you don't have any other choice go in the kitchen and just eat whatever you find it's not your fault" thoughts. It's not OK, I am shrieking it in my mind!!!

Deep breath. I think it would be best to be content with the yogurt, run my errands right now, pick up some fresh stuff on the way home. I will not die if I am hungrier than I would like to be for a few hours!

06-05-2013, 11:13 PM
Quick check in tonight ... baking more biscotti for my dad (toasted coconut and one with white and milk choc chips; clearly not one traditional italian anise or almond piece in the basket this time). I'm wiped out. Day has been rushing from one issue or place to another. Planned to pack tonight and still haven't begun, so that'll be put off until tomorrow night. DH suggested we go to his folks tomorrow night for an early Father's Day gathering, so made a cake for that to take and leave there. That reduces the number of things i can get done tomorrow night, though, as it's about 75 minutes each way. Picking up dinner to take out there.

Night has been a stressful one with pet issues, work issues, home issues, delivery truck issues and a feeling like I have 101 things to do and no time to get things done; and with DH working nights/sleeping days, that it falls to me. I wanted to sit here and enjoy a glass of iced tea and log in. Exceeded my calorie allotment by 81 today. I'm okay with that as I kept my mitts off the biscotti :) except for a broken piece that I counted and savored.

Tomorrow's goal - Eat light but not too light during the day to afford the calories of dinner (pizza and salad, but consolation is the pizza is easy to count and non-greasy).

Vivid reminder on why losing weight is important to me - wore a summery skirt and did a lot of walking today, and got the horrid thigh rub a bit and that brought back memories that I thought I was past. UGH.

Might just hit the sack early and get started early tomorrow. Wanted to hit Friday morning at my ticker weight and that's not going to happen, but I'm closing in on it.

06-05-2013, 11:33 PM
Hi all,

Today was an OP day--no deviations, no changes, just as planned.

Big credit for: <wait for this> I made a triple batch of brownies and didn't eat ANY of it. DD cleaned up the bowls and spoons--I didn't so much as lick my fingers. She laughed at me as I all but danced around the kitchen I was so proud of myself! I haven't cut them yet--I'll do that tomorrow when I bake the shortbread bars.

I took the ice cream treats to work for my coworkers who had them for lunch dessert. I wasn't even tempted--the habit I've developed of not having extra food/snacks at work has really sunk in so that it's not even hard.

I've got to enter today's dinner into MFP and then plan for tomorrow. I still haven't figured out how to handle the weekend full of sweet treats. I need to spend some real time tomorrow figuring that out.

Take care, all!

06-06-2013, 07:13 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – At a friend's house last night, I was offered top shelf snacks left over from their weekend visitors. CREDIT moi for taking only a sane amount anyway.

Lots of walking to two events for the day, CREDIT moi. I didn't believe it would rain in the evening so didn't carry an umbrella. It did rain, but stopped before 10:30 when I left. I got to walk, feeling slightly chilled but dry, watching the streetlights reflecting from the wet streets. All flowers are blooming everywhere.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Waving back. Yay for busy.

Beverlyjoy – Super Kudos for daily exercise despite the emotions with your sister's health. A written plan is a good step forward.

nationalparker – So important, "I counted and savored" - to stave off falling off the wagon. I only think of 'anise' when I think biscotti.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Ice cream treats to work . . . brownies without licking the bowl - just the greatest, Kudos.

sparks17 – Yep, "I will not die if I am hungrier than I would like to be for a few hours!" Kids are great for reminding us of the source of our " I want I want I want."

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

Pick Your Diets Now

To pick your diets, you can tap the following sources:

Ask a health-care professional for suggestions.
Consult with people you know who have lost weight.
Talk to friends and family - those who know you well - about what kinds of diets they think will work for you.
Go to the bookstore or library and look through diet books.. . .. . .

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 67.

06-06-2013, 09:07 AM
national parker and beth - great that you are not strengthening that giving-in muscle! I rarely bake in the spring/summer but I really ramp it up in the fall...and I hope to be more accustomed to control by then!

beverlyjoy - :carrot::carrot::carrot: for daily exercise!!

Bill - sounds like you had a beautiful night!

It was a good thing that I had this forum yesterday. After I got a little hysterical here...I calmly ate my yogurt, did what I needed to do and came home with fruit and salad stuff. My best find was a tomato/cucumber salad (it was called Shepherd's Salad) from a Turkish restaurant. It was so delicious that I am already thinking about lunch! You know....I do want to change my thinking but I do not want to stop enjoying my food!

Last night I did have an unplanned treat - a glass of white wine. I had the chance to see Comedy of Errors in Central Park (I go almost every year but this was unexpected - I was planning to go in 2 weeks with my daughters) and the women I was with brought wine. My husband had told me before I went to buy myself a glass so it was in my mind...and I did drink it sitting down! And it was well within my calorie range (my goal is 1600-2000 per day and I keep an eye to be sure that I am averaging 1800 or so every week - so far so good) for the day as I had a tiny lunch - fortuitous! Usually I have a hot dog and soda and then a brownie before the show!

OK. Today I have the gyn (follow up o some stuff I had done in the fall) so I will see where my weight is. It has been 2.5 weeks since I was last weighed so I am anxious. But I will be ok no matter what it is, as I have been planning, keeping track of my food and exercising regularly. Even if the scale does not reflect new jeans are already loose on my waist so I know I am on the right track.

06-06-2013, 09:12 AM
Good Morning,

A little rickety on sticking with the plan, perhaps the habits are fading if I don't constantly reinforce them. The stress of life continues to ramp up, just really trying to "stay on the board" as we Lake Michigan surfers say.

Today my plan is solid, the food in place--should be okay. I notice I go along eating the same things each day and don't mind the sameness since it makes it easy to prep in the morning. Then in the middle of a day I freak for some food I haven't had in a couple weeks. "TACOS!", I yell, and go off plan. Gotta build a little more variety in, I think.

BethfromDayton I read what you said and I wonder if you could tell us more about this idea: "--the habit I've developed of not having extra food/snacks at work" ? Thanks ahead of time.

My best to all! Spanky

06-06-2013, 10:58 AM
Hi Coaches!

I'm off to Denver for mega errands. I hope by leaving now I'll be home for lunch and will avoid having to eat out. We have to take the pup so getting back before it gets hot is another reason to get going. I followed my plan yesterday, weighed this morning and sent my food plan to my diet buddy. credit.

Crossing my fingers :crossed: I may be back later depending on internet stuff...

Have a great day everyone!

06-06-2013, 01:40 PM
BethfromDayton I read what you said and I wonder if you could tell us more about this idea: "--the habit I've developed of not having extra food/snacks at work" ? Thanks ahead of time.

One of my big downfalls (and the big reason I put 30 lbs back on the last time I lost it) is because I snacked at work--it could be a candy bar a day--or it could be two. Chips. Cookie packages from the snack area. Whatever anyone brought in (and often two servings of that).

So, one of my first new behaviors was "no snacking at work". That left me way too hungry by dinner time, so I changed it to "no unplanned snacking at work". I bring a snack with protein every day (usually crackers and cheese or nuts) and on the rare occasionas I forget, I eat half a package of cashews from the snack bar.

One of my other behaviors was "If I'm going to have something sweet, it will be after dinner."

When I see something I want to eat at work (when someone brings something in), I think to myself "That has nothing to do with me. I don't eat sweets at work." "I am a person who doesn't snack at work." Sometimes I have to remind myself "If I hadn't seen that, I wouldn't even be thinking about it."

I've repainted my self image as someone who is mildly curious about what people bring in but someone who doesn't eat it. I do not make exceptions for birthday cake or other celebratory events.

This is definitely something I learned from the Beck books--I don't have to make a decision because the decision is already made--I don't eat treats at work.

I started this January 7th--and have successfully not had an unplanned snack at work in that time!

06-06-2013, 04:38 PM
We're home from France. I'm happy to report that I weighed in this morning within my maintenance range. Woohoo! It was less about the food choices and more about the walking, I'm sure.

Serving sizes were larger than I expected, even with meals with multiple courses. It's a good thing I've had some practice leaving some of my food on the plate. Veggies and fruits were less in abundance than I anticipated but I sought them out as much as possible. There was plenty of abundance when it came to bread, wine/champagne, cheese, and sweets. I enjoyed every bite and sip that I took!

The gardens were lovely although everyone reported that they were two weeks to a month "behind schedule" due to a cool, wet spring. Paris is just what I imagined Paris to be -- a place of magic and light and walking and shopping and art and architecture.

Last year, I managed to gain more than 6 pounds in the 2 weeks following my trip from Ireland. I think that was because I was in denial about jet lag. I thought if I denied it, that would minimize its effect. I'm trying a different strategy this year. I'm planning a lot of self care, including careful food planning and exercise so that I get back down to the low end of my maintenance range.

06-06-2013, 06:19 PM
BethfromDaytonThat is TOTALLY Inspiring! Thank you for taking the time to give plenty of detail. You are now my "Snacking-at-Work" model. This will help, fer sure!



06-06-2013, 07:52 PM
gardenerjoy - sounds like you had a wonderful time! Take good care of yourself this weekend :)

Someone asked about a bodega a few days ago. It is what I, and many NYers call a small grocery store or deli. I am Puerto Rican (born here, very Americanized) and that is what my parents called a small grocery store in a ...marginal neighborhood. And, even though my neighborhood is really not that bad, it is not as nice as where I grew up (my parents moved us out of their immigrant neighborhood and into the best school district they could afford) so it seems appropriate. I could just as easily call them delis, but I guess they are just not as pleasant as what I would call a deli.

Anyway. My weight was down more than I expected - three pounds!!! I wanted to celebrate by - hahaha, eating lots of sugar and taking the day "off", but I did not. I had planned two treats for myself - pasta salad for dinner (all those carbs!!!) and something sugary that I could not overdo. I bought a little 4-pk of Nutter Butters and they were great! If I had bought a whole package it would have been pretty difficult to stop :o

I feel - hungry. But I am almost positive that it is just craving for more pasa salad! If I am still hungry at 8ish, I can have a 120-cal yogurt. No more dinner. It's not OK!

06-07-2013, 03:19 AM
Hi Coaches!
My day in Denver turned crazy….I had to go clear across town for a second consult. We did end up eating out and I had an old favorite at the mexican restaurant which was DH's choice for the day. The good news is that I just didn't enjoy it as I used to so I'm ready to come up with a new and healthier favorite. credit. I was so tired when I got home I slept from 4-10pm so missed dinner. That made for an ok calorie day. The other good news is I get to say hi to everyone since apparently I have good internet at midnight. lol

BBE, yay for sane amounts of top shelf snacks! Your neck of the woods must be quite beautiful right now. I love city walking! When I come visit I will remember my umbrella, though, especially since you influenced me in my choice to take it out of the thrift box.

sparks17, yay for a positive weigh in and kudos for choosing a reasonable treat. It was so great that you came here and vented the other day instead of giving in to your cravings!

spanky, it will be easy to stay on the board with a solid plan. BTW-I have a plan for healthy tacos and we enjoy them quite often.

gardenerjoy, glad you enjoyed your trip and it's great that you already have your two week plan in place.

Beth(fromDayton), thanks for taking the time to explain some of your "new behaviors" and I enjoy reading how you repainted your self image. Kudos on your successful 5 month anniversary without an unplanned snack at work! It's similar with me at work everyone else eats all day and there are always treats coming in for mass consumption.

nationalparker, I'm glad you made that glass of iced tea and checked in with us! My compliments to you for doing so much baking and such little tasting! Safe travels!

Beverlyjoy, glad you are back! I understand the difficulty you have with your sister's many issues. My sis has so many, too, and it breaks my heart. I just have to keep reminding myself that my food is MY issue and it IS something I can deal with. I want to say kudos for keeping up with your exercise! That is such an effective long term strategy!

MaryAnn, I'm glad your feet are doing so well! Yay for the self care you gave them by seeking help. What progress you have made with DH being gone so much. (In Alaska it's similar with the fishermen)

IBelieveinMe2, yay for continued short walks. I hope you're feeling better.

onebyone, big kudos for turning down the treats in coffee shops….they are very counterproductive….

Rosebud, kudos for continuing to try new things at the Y!

Jo(vegan...rex), hope your stress is easing. Yay for working on your Beck skills/food plan anyway.

06-07-2013, 06:15 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Walk, CREDIT moi, included a stop at Goodwill to check out books. Found a neat CSI (Crime Scene Investigation) book with envelops containing the clues for two murders to be solved. Special CREDIT moi for leaving it behind; just because the format was new to me doesn't mean I have to read it, LOL. Was diverted to watch a large tree limb being removed and ground into wood chips. I did admire the skill of the bucket operator going up between wiring and other branches.

Skipped my evening snack, CREDIT moi, because I'd overdone my afternoon snack, Ouch. It was an attempt at balance.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Welcome home! Gotta love, "I enjoyed every bite and sip that I took!"

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yay for fast internet at midnight when all the skiers are in the hot-tubs and can't use electronic devices.

spanky - Kudos for thinking about strategies to vary your foods so you can "stay on the board" when "TACOS!" calls your name.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Thanks for the thoughts about staying away from snacks at work. My own weight was solidly built upon vending machine candy bars. Kudos on your five month anniversary of no-snacks-at-work.

sparks17 – Yay for free Shakespeare in Central Park. N.Y. has some of the bestest. And drooling over "Shepherd's Salad." Congrats on the NSV of loose jeans. Thanks for the definition of 'bodega' - I'd never known when to use that word for a 'corner store.'

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

Pick Your Diets Now

To pick your diets, you can tap the following sources:
. . .. . .
Investigate commercial weight-loss programs.
Look into nonprofit weight-loss programs.
Go online to investigate reputable Internet-based diets.
Ask a nutritionist to develop a diet specific to your lifestyle and health needs.
Join a weight-loss program at a local gym, hospital, or community center.
Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 67.

06-07-2013, 11:33 AM
I'm celebrating National Doughnut Day with the observation that it's been 3 years, 9 months, and 22 days since I've eaten a doughnut. I went cold turkey off of junk food after reading The End of Overeating by David Kessler. My cravings disappeared after a couple of weeks for most of that stuff, but I was still having doughnut cravings 10 months later. I won't eat another, because who wants to go through that twice?

I suppose, at this point, I could happily eat two or three bites of a doughnut without triggering a craving. But it wouldn't be as much fun as being able to say that I haven't had a doughnut in 3 years, 9 months, and 22 days.

Still jet-lagged, but I got about a 6 hour stretch of sleep last night, twice as much as the night before, so I'm seeing improvement already.

I have a food plan and an exercise plan. I'm baking my first loaf of bread since our return, I'll wash lettuce from my garden to make salads for lunch and supper, and I'll do some tidying work in my overgrown garden.

BillBlueEyes: I'd be tempted by the CSI book for it's special format, too. I'm currently reading a "true crime" book merely because the crime was in Paris during WWII. It's not a genre I've read before and I don't think I really have the right mindset for it -- I suspect true crime aficionados have special spots in the brain to store clues from the investigation so they can anticipate the reappearance at the trial.

Lexxiss: I always feel like it's something of a bittersweet accomplishment to realize that an old favorite isn't a favorite anymore. Good for you for being motivated to find a new healthier favorite.

sparks17: good for you for a treat that is completely bounded. That was a very useful concept for me.

spanky: cool that BethfromDayton gave you inspiration for changing habits at work.

06-07-2013, 11:56 AM
We came up to the lake last night and I began snacking on some of the snacks we bought for the kids. (My son has a friend up with us.) I feel like when we get to the lake, someone pulls my Beck principles out from under me when I walk through the front door. Anyway, this morning, after eating planned cereal, I unconsciously began munching on some cheese popcorn (DS's favorite) that was on the island counter. After 2 quick small handfuls, I thought, "What am I doing?!? Remember my Beck principles!!! This popcorn should be NO CHOICE!!!" I immediately sealed the bag and put it away in the cupboard. CREDIT for stopping, but what was I thinking?!?! I thought about my snacking the night before and, although tempted to be disgusted with myself, I again STOPPED and gave myself CREDIT for at least catching myself (finally!) and stopping myself in the act of snacking on unplanned extras. CREDIT for choosing not to berate myself for my slip-up! :) That is HUGE for me!!! :D Thank God I caught myself in that moment. I will remember that moment if I begin to go off plan any other time this weekend, and JUST STOP!!! NO CHOICE!!! Stick to my Beck principles and my plan! Do I want to have the immediate gratification of snacks OR do I want to have the lasting reward of good health and weight loss? That is what it all boils down to. Now if I could only stamp that question on my brain and forehead to remember constantly, I would be okay!!! And........ I will be okay, because I will repeat that question to myself whenever I am tempted this weekend.

I didn't take the time to get my formal 15+ minute walk in yesterday. No excuses!!! Just simply did not take the time or make it a priority. I will get 15+ minutes in every day this weekend, though. Somehow easier to do up here at the lake, because there is a convenient circle in our neighborhood that takes about 20 minutes to walk. It is nice because I can decide to go one more circle or not depending on how my foot is holding up. And the dogs love it!!! Little pups come out to bark at us all along the way. :)

gardenerjoy: Welcome home from France!!! Somehow I missed the "memo" that you were going. I've just been treading water here lately and skimming quickly through posts. Hope you had an incredible trip! And being within your maintenance range upon your return home is awesome!!! :D

BillBlueEyes: Here's to "an attempt at balance" (with your snacks)! The story of my adult life ~ trying to find balance in all things. Always a challenge.

Lexxiss: Thank you for wishing that I feel better. I finally do, so no excuses for Tuesday a.m. with the personal trainer. It will be our first session. I am really nervous but excited to get started! Wow, you sure took a power nap ~ from 4-10pm!!! You must have been exhausted! Yes, that is one sure way to be okay with calories ~ sleep. It sometimes feels like the only way I can avoid extra snacks at night (just going to bed). Great to hear from you! ;)

sparks17: I love pasta salad, too!!! Yummy!!! Congrats on being down 3 pounds!!! :D :carrot:

bethFromDayton: I love how you said that you "repainted your self-image....!!!" I need to do that! I tend to think I will "always" be a person with little willpower and the inability to delay gratification. Then it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Wow, no unplanned snacks at work since January is just incredible!!! Way to exercise that resistance muscle..... over and over again! You inspire me so much!!! ;)

spanky: Here's to "staying on the board!" Sometimes, that is all we can manage.... and it is better than trying to take on too many big waves and falling off the board!

Beverlyjoy: Welcome back and CREDIT for having the courage to post! 3 pounds is minimal damage from the "downward spiral" you described. I am so sorry about your sister's condition and your resulting heartbreak for her. Just remember that the best thing YOU can do for her is to be the healthiest person you can be, so that you can be there for her at your best! No amount of eating will take her pain (or yours) away. Keep on carrying on and you will be back on board in no time! :hug:

:wave: to everyone else!!!

06-07-2013, 01:49 PM
On Plan oday. Trying become The Person Who Does Not Eat Unplanned Snacks At Work just like Beth from Dayton! Kind of tough when it's Friday in the Lab, all the work is done and the dance music is playing. Snacks and Order-In lunch abounds!

Finally. It is Puppy Weekend!!! Headin' down to Boo's Bulldog Farm to pick him up on Sunday. Exciting but still bittersweet. I cried over Finn this morning again, nearly a year after his death but it's a measure of my love for him and not despair. There will be quite a pack of dogs waiting with Jesus for me when I go into The White Light but Finn will Pack Leader! That said, Onward to the Bulldog Farm!

Puppy names are flying through the air these days, still don't know what we'll come up with on the long ride home.

Happy Friday,


06-07-2013, 02:30 PM
lexxiss - yay for good internet, even if it is at midnight!

Bill - are you on a book diet?

gardenerjoy - you make me laugh! It probably is more fun to be able to say how long you have gone without a doughnut than to actually eat one!

Ibelieveinme - CREDIT for choosing not to berate myself for my slip-up! That is HUGE for me!!! Thank God I caught myself in that moment. I will remember that moment if I begin to go off plan any other time this weekend, and JUST STOP!!! NO CHOICE!!! Stick to my Beck principles and my plan! Do I want to have the immediate gratification of snacks OR do I want to have the lasting reward of good health and weight loss? That is what it all boils down to. Now if I could only stamp that question on my brain and forehead to remember constantly, I would be okay!!! And........ I will be okay, because I will repeat that question to myself whenever I am tempted this weekend. :carrot::carrot:

spanky - The Person Who Does Not Eat Unplanned Snacks At Work LOL!!

Well, today is rainy and nasty - which make me want to eat everything. I really is amazing how many circumstances make me want to eat everything :rolleyes: But I am not. I only ate half my breakfast this morning as I just did not want it - I wanted something far tastier...but I went back and ate the other half at 10ish because I was hungry! So lunch is a little late today, but I am doing ok otherwise.

The weekend, as usual, is only half-planned, but I am getting the hang of making good choices as I go and not allowing myself to pretend that weekend/restaurant/party meals don't count!

Day 20 is Get back on track. I absolutely LOVE the graphic on page 167. I should copy it and put it on an index card...but I doubt it will fit! Something about seeing it like that really speaks to me, moret han just a Get back on track card. Hmmm...maybe I can shrink it?

ETA: trying to see if this will work - (

Yay - it did! That is the back of my daughter's head today in the Alps.

06-08-2013, 07:00 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – It's the season to buy too many blueberries. CREDIT moi since I'm not buying too many packages of ramen noodles or cookies. It rained all day with the leftover storm that hit Florida earlier - certainly more than an inch. The Boston Globe called it "torrential rain" which seemed appropriate.

Eating was only OK. Evening snack was fresh pineapple which always puts me in a healthy food mentality. I did avoid the several stores handing out FREE doughnuts yesterday on National Doughnut Day. I'm pleased with that since I even thought about which one's I'd choose.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Remarkable achievement to have gone that long without a doughnut.

spanky - Yay for the "bittersweet" process of moving forward. Love the image of a pack of dogs waiting for you with Finn as Pack Leader.

IBelieveInMe2 – Yep, Kudos for catching yourself on that cheese popcorn. Sure enough, your Beck strategies travel to the lake with your body.

sparks17 – I clicked on your jpg thinking I was about to see Beck's graphic from page 167 of the pink book, but love the picture of your DD's head in the alps. ["on a book diet?" Yep, I'm trying to wean myself away from Amazon One Click - too many books in this house already.]

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

what are you thinking?

What's been going through your mind? When I told you about the importance of slow and steady weight loss, did you have any sabotaging thoughts? For example, did you find yourself thinking (as many dieters have revealed to me), I have to lose 15 pound in a month for a wedding [or some other special occasion] ... I have to go on a crash diet!

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 68.  

06-08-2013, 07:46 AM
Hi becksters - quick post. Thursday DH were off to my son's house. He is in the hospital. They need our help. My food has not been crazy, but, a bit too much salt and sugar mixed in. I think he will come home Sunday or Monday.

I'll post later... I hear my granddaughter waking up.

Send some positive thoughts to my son please.

Thanks.... B

06-08-2013, 08:48 AM
Hi Coaches!

I got online this morning and have been using my time to find some massage/accupressure techniques to relieve an ear issue...seems I have some fluid build up and can't hear very well. I did have a dinner switch (legitimate) last night but otherwise followed my plan...resisting an off plan snack after dinner and sticking with my planned one. credit. I've weighed this morning have a written plan emailed to my buddy and will anticipate goodies will be at work which require saying no choice.

Beverlyjoy, I'm sending supportive thoughts to your family today, especially to your DS. Take care and thanks for letting us know.

06-08-2013, 03:34 PM
Saturday--still OP today. Have decided to switch to my "Plan B" diet that Beck had me line up as a fall back. Reading up on South each Diet and going in that direction since I need a little more structure.

This week I exercised 4 [maybe 5 if there's time tonight] times. This is a KUDO for me of late. No unplanned snacks at work yesterday or today. Kudo.

I have the whole week off to get our puppy off to a good start around our house. That seems to be what it takes to get them in the swing of things. Yes. Summer. Week Off. Puppy. Sweeeet!



06-08-2013, 07:54 PM
Bill - the rain was pretty torrential here too!

BeverlyJoy - Oh, I am sorry to hear that your son is in the hospital. My thoughts and prayers are with your family!

Lexxiss - hope you are not in any pain!

spanky - exercise, no unplanned snacks, puppy, vacation - :carrot::carrot:
The South Beach diet is great for a structured low-carb :)

Today I was kind of open for dinner, so I had not planned past lunch, when my husband came home from food shopping with a box of my favorite donuts. I gave him the evil eye for it!! Could I have one? Yes - I had plenty of calorie-room to fit one in tonight. But I decided to say NO CHOICE, because I had not been planning anything sugary. We are going out to dinner tomorrow so I was planning for tomorrow to be a higher calorie/carb day...and I just do not need that donut! I am actually under my minimum calories today (I was planning a yogurt and/or a banana for around 8ish) and part of my mind is doing the excuse dance frantically, trying to get the rational part of me to pay attention. No. I am sure that I will have a great meal out tomorrow, possibly with a great dessert (I have a calorie range in mind) and there is no need for empty calories today.

Delayed gratification. It is a thing.

06-08-2013, 10:53 PM
Hello coaches,
All is well here...we have the sunny weather and I love that! I went to water aerobics this morning and couldn't do racquetball since today was the day that arents stay in dance class to preview the performance that we will see next week. Eating today is OP but I did have a day of snack attack but, luckily the scale didn't reflect it....

Only 8 more wake ups until summer break!!!

06-09-2013, 06:39 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Exercise was getting past items on nefarious to-do lists - both at my house and at the house of a relative who is getting a place ready to rent. After changing a zillion toilet bowl flappers in my life, I was handed a "Universal Flapper" that didn't fit the toilet in need. Ouch, because that meant several trips to the local hardware store and then to Home Depot to find the one that works. The world's easiest handyman job escalated to a standard multi-trip pain. Fortunately, the electrical work that can sometimes be difficult was easy this time. Working with four inch duct pipe isn't my favorite thing, but feels soooo good when it's done. We handymen don't get to specialize; each to-do item was a different trade.

Eating was OK enough. CREDIT moi enough. Meals continue to be stellar; snacks continue to be larger.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Hope you can resolve that ear issue. Kudos for an on-plan "dinner switch" - which I read as dimmer switch since that's what I was just doing.

Beverlyjoy – Sending supportive thoughts for your DS and family. Hope all goes well.

spanky - Yay for Puppy Week - that's sure to add even more exercise.

Rosebud170 – LMAO at, "Only 8 more wake ups until summer break!!!" Kudos for OP; Ouch for the snack attack - I know about those.

sparks17 – Kudos for "NO CHOICE" on that doughnut - on National Doughnut Day, no less. Wonderful thought for the day, "Delayed gratification. It is a thing."

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

what are you thinking?

If so, take the time right now to counter that type of thinking. For example, if you want to lose weight quickly for a special event, be realistic. Tell yourself that you're better off if you diet sensibly and lose just a little weight before the occasion and then continue to steadily lose weight afterwards.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 68.  

06-09-2013, 11:37 AM
Hey everyone! Today my plan is...leave some on my plate. I was out for breakfast and I will be out for dinner. Hard to know about the calories - I don't even know where we are going tonight! But I can order exactly what I want and NOT EAT THE WHOLE THING!!

At breakfast I - skipped the muffins they put on the table. Ordered eggs, ww toast, sausages, home fries, oj, tea. Had only one slice of toast and didn't finish that - I made myself leave a few bites! I pushed half the potatoes to the side of my plate and did not let myself consider them as available. I still ate plenty and feel satisfied, not deprived!

I hope to do the same thing tonight at dinner.

And here is a great NSV. My husband dropped me off at the supermarket to pick up meat while he ran into the bank. He texted me when he got to the store and before I could get back to him, he found me. I was down the same aisle but he texted me because he did not recognize me from behind. How awesome is that!!!

06-09-2013, 08:48 PM
Hello coaches,
Today is better...I followed my plan and am going to walk THE hill a bit later for some exercise. I also did some strength training on my TRX...dd and I have plans to go to the Y for strength training this week since she took the orientation that makes it so she can come with me! It is fun to be able to do something like that together.

Not much to report...already trying to figure out how I will structure my exercise in the summer time...I will be able to go to some new classes and also need to get some biking in for my lazyman triathlon.

Happy rest of the weekend to you all!

06-10-2013, 05:02 AM
Hi Coaches!

OP yesterday and stuck to my dinner even when DH decided to change to pizza. credit. A good decision, as the scale continues to show a favorable number these days....(helped, admittedly, by slammer busy work days) My ear problem is resolved...internet searches provided the answer for me -I found a way to continually flush the ear until all the built up wax came out….voila I can hear again.

BBE, yay for exercise crossing items off your list! I find it so helpful for my peace of mind. Yay for stellar meals...even if snacks are off a bit.

Rosebud, I'm so interested in your lazyman triathlon. It sounds like such a great way to challenge yourself.

sparks, love your NSV! Great job leaving food on your plate!

spanky, yay for OP and preparation for new pup….I am a little envious as I continue to love and nurse my sick one.

IBelieveInMe2, yay for making your Tuesday appt with your trainer. Glad to hear you are feeling better.

06-10-2013, 07:02 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – I was out walking, CREDIT moi, just like Noah surveying the damage from 40 days of rain. My resolve had weakened so that I now wish that I had purchased the CSI: book that I passed on a few days ago but the good news is that it had been sold. Sometimes procrastination pays. I really don't want the book; I only want to see if my mind works like a detective's mind or not. Methinks not since I gloss over details that seem irrelevant at the time. I'd hate to lose that skill. How could I ever read Tolstoy if I remembered every detail?

Did OK on eating. Dinner was outside on the patio. I briefly stopped by an event to wish some folks well and avoided the mushy cake that looked awesome - CREDIT moi for that. A British guy talked me into trying a slice of sweet potato from a dish because he said they don't have sweet potato in England. He also said they don't have raccoons or Northern Cardinals. Seems odd for a place that has Wood Storks on chimneys.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Congrats on the favorable scale readings. I do love when I discover that I'm not going deaf - just gotten behind on ear wax.

Rosebud170 – Yay for strength training with your DD. Kinda neat that your gym gives an orientation for the weight room - at my gym any fool can do anything so long as they pay their dues.

sparks17 – Terrific situation, "feel satisfied, not deprived!" - Kudos for getting there. Yep, awesome indeed that your DH didn't recognize you from behind.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

what are you thinking?

Here are some common sabotaging thoughts that I've heard over the years, along with helpful responses. Make Response Cards for any you think may apply to you.

Sabotaging Thought: I want to try this diet I heard about. It promises I can lose a lot of weight very quickly, very easily, and without effort. So what if it isn't nutritionally balanced? I won’t be on it for long anyway.

Helpful Response: A fad diet isn't healthy, and I'll need to be on a diet - or a variation of the diet - for a long time. Promises that sound too good to be true invariably are too good to be true.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 68.  

06-10-2013, 09:41 AM
Last night did not go as well as I had planned. I ate more dinner than I should have, becasue it tasted good. I had half a dessert...but I could have had none. I did not bring my cards to the restaurant...I could have read them in the car before going in, at least! Part of me wants to think that I am a big girl and I don't need these constant reminders, but I really do! So I am sticking on Day 20 - Get back on track - for a bit longer. I have a good plan for the day - meals and snacks, exercise and walking.

Bill - LOL about Noah! On Saturday I was walking in the park and had to detour around the Parks Dept. truck as they were removing fallen branches. Thankfully, not that much damage around here!

lexxiss - I really struggle with sticking to my plan when my husband changes things up! I need to have a talk with him...but I feel guilty. How much should he give up to help make things easier for me??

Rosebud - what is a TRX?

06-10-2013, 11:40 AM
Hi folks... my son is home from the hospital now and I have returned back home. He's doing much better. I am glad to be back home in my 'food comfort zone'. Or - at least a place where there's good potential for eating healthfully.

DH and I held down the fort, so to say. We did lots of laundry, cleaning, grocery shopping, gardening and playing with the grandkids. We had a few fun adventures, too. Glad to be able to help.

I feel like a need a few days with limited carbs. My dietician said that is fine.

I am weary and still worried - but, things are going in a positive direction for my son.

Thanks to you folks who sent positive thoughts and/or prayers. I really appreciate it.

I've written down a plan.

Have a great day.

06-10-2013, 01:53 PM
Like Beverlyjoy, I've written down a plan. That is such a huge step. Things went haywire over the weekend with continued jet lag leading to a lot of lethargy and apathy. But, I can be tired and still follow a plan so that's what I'm going to do. Off to make parsley soup from all the parsley I pulled up from the garden since it went to seed while we were gone.

06-10-2013, 04:48 PM
Good Afternoon, Coaches.

Survived last week of school and a flight to LA for a bridal shower. Food not OP but exercised everyday. I wish I could have enough confidence in myself to survive a last few days of school without resorting to eating crap. I drown in the emotions.

Sunday started new variations on my Eat to Live program. I read about the two day hospital diet out of the University of Manchester. Five days a week you eat a Mediterranean diet ( which I do) and then two days several limit the calories to 650 (1 fruit, two pints dairy, 4 servings veggies). Apparently this helps lose "stress" belly fat. I am giving it a try because it is very close to what I am doing now.

Read all your posts but am swamped with catchup work here in my wreck of a house. Plus DS is a little under the weather.


06-10-2013, 10:47 PM
Hi all,

My weekend away was beyond off plan to "never heard of plan" :-(. Today is Monday, though, and things are much more under control--breakfast, lunch, snack and dinner--OP. I planned on having some cake at the graduation party we went to, but had a bigger piece :-( than I'd planned, and a glass of wine I hadn't planned on.

Tuesday will be an OP day!

06-11-2013, 12:15 AM

I've had a very challenging 3 days, no now it's 4 days. I'm struggling a lot right now and can't seem to find my "I really want to do this" motivation. It seems to have morphed into an "I'm doing ok. :shrug: whatever" grudging compliance to the status quo. I think I am now harming myself by not moving forward with my weight loss. ie. this is getting serious, and so, I need to treat it seriously and get back on track.

I had a really *really* tough Saturday. My first day selling at the farmers' market this year. This was my 21st (!) year selling things at a farmers' market btw. Wow.

So, it was the after-the-market part that took me by total surprise. I had expected the first part of it, the market part/the set-up part. I did have an OP breakfast. I made sure I wasn't stressed out--took extra time/plenty of time/asked for help. I did stick to a planned treat of a "vendor-priced" coffee at the market and I was feeling good.

Then as I took a stroll to see who's new and who's back from last year (forgetting TOTALLY that new foods are a major trigger for me) I came upon a new vendor with made from scratch cheap dessert squares. I wasn't selling much ($13 total for the day - not unexpected) and, since I had actually made it there, my feelings of entitlement and righteous I deserve this for all I have done were looming large. I thought "I'll bring these home for DH and have one here (3 for $5).

What I had planned to do was go to the smoked meats guy and buy pepperoni for DH and have 2 of those--which would have been OP as they are not carby/sweet. Never got that far. So I ate a brownie.I stopped there and then after market went to my studio to drop my market stuff off which felt great to unload the car instead of come home to unload/find spots for my market stuff in the apartment. I was feeling smug and decided to get cheap chinese takeout for lunch from the place near my studio. It's a lunch special $4.99 no substitutions. I got beef/broccoli with fried rice for DH and chicken lo mein with fried rice for me. As my large meal it is not great but not terrible once in a while and I seem to go there once a month. Ok so then I come home and all of a sudden boom I am exhausted. completely like can't think straight exhausted. Normal for after market. I sit down to eat and the knocks on the door start. I can hardly talk and my Syrian upstairs neighbour is at the door with a tray of kibbe = bulgur and bits of meat deep fried into a ball. I've had these before in Ottawa. they are ok. I thank her and I go back to my food, put hers in the kitchen. I had just finished my soup and knock knock. More food, this time a small pot of soup (lentil?) I take it she wants her pot back asap. I now have to wash her pot and knock on her door. Ok. I do it. Then go back to my food and then knock knock and she had fogotten the yogurt that goes with the kibbe. She needs her bowl back. Ok. wash wash knock knock and then back to my food and her food sits in the kitchen. I can't/don't know how to deal with this. I overeat in response, eating DH's leftover rice plus mine plus a dessert square earmarked for the next day.

My Beck buddy has suggested I need to meticulously plan my market day. I totally agree. And I know I can do both: lose weight and be at a farmer's market one day a week. It's not some impossible feat. I have to make checking in with this group/my buddy a no choice thing as well. I am hesitating committing to a no choice must check in before I eat. That must mean that it would be a serious crimp in what can be a seemless mindless flow of energy right into overeating.

Anyway, I welcome the input you may have in how to deal with the food that's coming to me on a regular basis from upstairs. I am uncomfortable revealing to her that I plan my food to lose weight. I don't talk about this with anyone except a select few, and I think culturally, this won't wash anyway. It feels like more than I want to reveal. It's tough enough for me to have my boundaries as it is.

So far I have decided that I can accept the food but don't have to eat it, just like the conclusion I came to with DH's mom, who was my biggest food pusher until this new neighbour. I ended up eating all of the kibbe. The yogurt remains in the fridge as does the soup. I don't want them. I haven't thrown them out yet though.

When I am not tired, I can cope with this stuff. When tired, I go to old path-of-least-resistance-people-pleasing mode. My weight cannot take another weekend like I just had. THIS is what I really need to remember, tired or not.

Today's food was better as the day wore on. I was ravenous this morning but by dinner was strting to feel normal and had a decent light meal. I am feeling very bloated, very puffy, very f-a-t tonight. Scared to step on the scale in the morning. Oh well. I need to know where I am at.

Have a good night.

06-11-2013, 12:24 AM
Well, I talked a good game the other night when I posted about being better at the lake. Unfortunately, my talk did not transfer into action. I went with what tasted good at the moment over what is best for my health in the long run. So food was off plan and a bit out of control. Exercise, on the other hand, was great!!! CREDIT for many walks with DH and the dogs and some long bike rides with DH around the islands at the lake. Beautiful bike rides!!! Nothing like seeing the sun shining down on the water while riding through the islands! :sunny: It made the exercise fun and stimulating for the senses at the same time. Yesterday, I started feeling like my cold was coming back (or I was getting another one) and woke up this morning feeling terrible. :( I am supposed to work out with my trainer in the morning. I have a call in to him and will go with whatever he says. With another cold, my trip to Ireland coming up on the 19th, and my foot surgery July 16th, I am wondering (and mentioned to him) if I should wait until after it all to get started with the personal training. If he thinks I should at least meet him and get started, I will, but it will be somewhat sporadic for the first several months. I am really focusing on increasing my activity on my own, too, regardless, so that movement becomes a more natural part of my day. It has to be a priority if I am going to lose weight and keep it off.

Well, I really did not want to "fess up" to my poor eating at the lake, so CREDIT for coming here and posting the truth anyway. It feels better to get it off my chest. Back OP in the morning! I will re-read my last post and LIVE IT this time!!! :D I can do it!!! :carrot:

spanky: Did you get your puppy?!? I saw a brief plan you had for taking the week off with the new pup, but didn't see a post with details. What kind of pup, what color, name, etc.?!? Details on the newest family member, please! ;)

:wave: to everyone!!! Hope all is well!!!

06-11-2013, 06:19 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Gym was gym, CREDIT moi. The weight area had been rearranged. They move stuff around as often as my SIL rearranges furniture in her house, LOL. Maybe they do it for the exercise since it's super heavy equipment.

Today's the day I uptick the counters in my signature, CREDIT moi. It's fun to remember that just moving on is the goal. Eating was OK enough. Dinner was a good lentil soup leftover. Reheated lentil soup is even better than the first time.

onebyone – Ouch for a rough day at the farmers' market and a rough several days. Beautifully described Sabotaging Thought, "feelings of entitlement and righteous I deserve this for all I have done." Kudos for being able to see that.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Hard to believe that there could be any calories in parsley soup, LOL. Ouch for "lethargy and apathy" even though they're such neat words.

Beverlyjoy – So relieved to hear that things are going in a positive direction for your DS. Kudos for getting right back into writing a plan.

maryann - Hope you succeed with your 'catchup' - that my brain insisted was 'ketchup' for several readings. Kudos for surviving a flight - always a difficult eating environment for me.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Welcome back to On Plan. Celebration food is so seductive.

IBelieveInMe2 – Spot on, like the Nike ad, "a little less talk and a lot more action!!!" Kudos for that lovely exercise.

sparks17 – Kudos for stopping at half of that dessert. Sometimes we need to celebrate the good that we've done rather than how much we left undone.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

what are you thinking?

Here are some common sabotaging thoughts that I've heard over the years, along with helpful responses. Make Response Cards for any you think may apply to you.

Sabotaging Thought: Since my diet doesn't say I have to eat breakfast, I'm going to skip it. I'd rather be able to eat more later in the day.

Helpful Response: Skipping breakfast in the past hasn't allowed me to lose weight permanently. I need to change my eating habits if I want to be successful this time.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 68.  

06-11-2013, 09:33 AM
Hi Coaches!

:wave: Whew...busy but I do have a plan and intend to follow it.

06-11-2013, 09:35 AM
Yesterday..I was a little over my plan but within my calorie range (1,800 eaten instead of 1700 planned). I had a small breakfast and I was swamped with thoughts of food and real hunger and cravings all day. I do so much better when I eat enough breakfast so why don't I always plan for it :?:

Today is set for breakfast and lunch and snack. Dinner is up in the air again. We are picking my daughter up at the airport and I have left dinner up to her. If she wants me to cook, I have a meal she likes and I know how I will handle it. If she wants to go out, it will be a place we go to often as a family and I will have a lot of good choices. If she wants pizza...I have a hard time with pizza. I don't find it filling enough for the calories, if that makes sense. So if it is pizza, I will be at the top of my calorie range and I will probably still be a little hungry...but it wont' be an emergency!

Beverlyjoy - so glad that your son is doing better!!

onebyone - :hug: And about the neighbor's food. I don't think that you need to tell her about your eating plan, as I don't think it would be worth the risk of offending her. I am assuming that she is older and not Americanized? I am imagining her like one of my grandmothers (the other would not have given anybody anything!!) - sweet, giving yet very set in her old-world ways. Anyway, I think that you can eat some or all of it if you like, but the next day, so you can plan it. And I think here is nothing wrong with tossing some or all of it, discreetly. At least, that is how I would handle it!

My best encouraging thoughts to everyone else!

06-11-2013, 10:25 AM
Hi Becksters: Well, yesterday I had the stomach flu. DH has it too. My DIL had it a few days before we got there last week. Who knows where or how we all got it. I couldn't even sit up in bed without getting dizzy and nauseous. Today I'll try to drink some juice or something.

I surely do appreciate all your kind thoughts and steadfast support that I receive from you folks here.

Have a great day.

06-11-2013, 12:02 PM

Many thanks to everyone who continues to post here and keeps this forum alive. It's great to know that when I need you, you're here. What is that worth? It is invaluable.

So I am re-making my advantages cards and making them so they are *physically* available to me to hold in my hands to read wiht my eyes to get it into my brain that I actually *want* and am *choosing* to be on a foodplan to lose weight. I am not being punished, or deprived, or forced to do this for some unknown period of time until I can "get back to normal", all :devil: thoughts that continue to circulate in the addled part of my brain that controls "thinking about food". That part's messed up and needs outside information to make good choices (Hello Coaches :wave:

I have a foodplan for the day. I have committed it to my foodplan coach and I am now following through with the rest of my promises.

I have been writing down onthe calendar my due dates/deadlines/projects and OMG Coaches, wow. It's all colliding around the 2nd of August. I have A LOT of artwork deadlines for that 1st weekend of August. And with me being away July 4-14 for holidays with DH and then 22-27 at art camp, wow. It's going to be tight. I have to get it in gear NOW.

And with that I am off.

Enjoy your fabulous day!

beverleyjoy Good news about your son. Great. Sorry to hear you are dealing with a cold bug. I had one that was so sticky it hung around for 10 days. Even this morning I could *still* feel it. Take good care.

sparks17 Yes, my neighbour is new to Canada, arriving here in April. 3 boys and the parents all escaping Syria. She has been trying to get her driving license and it's not happening. She keeps failing the test, even though she has driven in Syria since age 15 she said. She is 46. She was an electrical engineer. I just feel such deep feelings of loss when I interact with her. I have no idea how they cope with the immense changes. Really, she's just lonely and her whole household is angry with her that she cannot pass the driver's test. I do not want to add to her stress by rejecting her friendly overtures. When I was sick she knocked at my door daily to see if I was ok, commenting on my coughing and offering me dates and some kind of medicine with lemon... I will take your advice. It's good. Thanks. I'm just uncomfortable with this level of personal concern/involvement from a neighbour.

Lexxiss Enjoy your day today! I saw on weather news that Denver had a record high of 99F. Was it that hot where you are too??

Billblueeyes Kudos for the uptick of your signature counter. Awesome. I notice the Bruins made it to the Stanley Cup finals vs. the Blackhawks. Wow. I will throw my allegiance behind the Boston Bruins. I hope they win the cup!

Bye :wave:

06-11-2013, 01:07 PM
I'm here! My entire family (except the baby) came down with a wicked stomach virus 2 Sundays ago so I'm just now getting back into a groove.

Ugh. I don't feel so great about my Beck progress while I was sick and recovering. There have been a few slip ups. No weight gain, but I'm disappointed in some of the things I ate (cupcake, M&Ms, bread). But I guess I shouldn't be too hard on myself. Just disappointed that I wasn't able to keep my momentum going.

On a happier note, the past 2 days I've been reading my Advantages Response Cards and listened to the audio.

Yesterday I did a hunger day. Skipped lunch and survived! :) I felt better than I imagined I would, I was just tired around lunch time but perked up later. So I'm giving myself credit for that.

Today hasn't been the greatest. I just had a giant bowl of Sweet Potato Tomatillo soup with shredded cheddar. It's not awful, but way too many calories for lunch.

Anyway. Hi all! I'm back. Now I'm going to go back and read what you've all been up to.

06-11-2013, 01:42 PM

I took a step forward toward health just now. I have an appointment for an eating disorder assessment at a treatment center near where I live. It's on Friday. I have been mulling this over for at least 6 months. I have been feeling so stuck on so many levels that I need something heavy duty and focused to clear the way. I am hoping this might be part of the solution for me. *credit* for doing what is hard.

UPDATE: Credits** made my new advantages cards (see avatar) and was OP and checked in all day with my food. Stayed OP today.

06-11-2013, 02:37 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

OP yesterday with the first of my TwoDay Diet. Did not feel hungry at all. Today I eat another 650 calories and then eat a reasonable five day Mediterranean diet 1800 calories (which is fairly easy for me. In fact it is the perfect maintenance amount which is why I haven't reached my goal---Anyhoo...) Optimistic. DS is much better. Planned Pilates.

A little obsessed over ordering "the perfect" piece of luggage for my trip at the end of the month. I have spent two days on the computer searching. I feel guilty. I should have spent two days working for world peace or something. I am sometimes disappointed by my shallowness. However, I did clean out under every sink in the house yesterday (three big trashcans full of half empty cr**. I restocked cleaning supplies and am ready to take over for the cleaning lady I let go for the summer.

BBE: Did you buy chairs? Did you spend longer than I did on the luggage?
Onebyone: Huge Credit for steps to get "unstuck." It is not easy.

Those with the flu aftermath: Feel better.

06-11-2013, 03:08 PM
So here he is. Named for Sherlock Holmes' older, bigger, and smarter brother, Mycroft. This is our English Bully boy. 10.6 pounds, 8 weeks--lookit those big paws! ( (

These summer days hanging out with him do evoke last year's hospice time with Finn. Funny, when Finn was a puppy this size, I was doing hospice for my Mom. Time rolls on.

Feeling some kind of flu-ish, doing protein shakes and salads. Definitely OP, going to try to exercise today. Mycroft is too tiny and foolish yet to walk hard in a straight line, so I'll take a Puddin' Jack out for a spin later.

First Vet appointment today. Onward!


06-11-2013, 09:37 PM
Mycroft is cute!

I went into today without a written plan, but since I bring my lunch and snack to work, and I'd mentally planned dinner, everything was totally on plan.

I went grocery shopping today (a day late due to a graduation celebration for some of DD's friends). I thought about buying ice cream treats for myself, but then told myself that there was a reason I took them to work. I need to go a couple of weeks without them so that I can get used to not having one every day. Of course, once I start reliably walking for exercise again, I'll have "room" for that type of treat most days.

I did walk today--28 minutes total, which is the most I've done since my toe surgery and my foot is doing well this evening, so that's a good sign!

Take care, all!

06-12-2013, 06:38 AM
Beth - Wow, you were great with the ice cream! And your foot is much better - :carrot:

spanky - I am not an animal person (please don't hate me!) but that is one cute puppy!! Enjoy him :)

maryann - The TwoDay Diet sounds...hungry, but I can see that you weren't! Hope it works well for you.

onebyone - My thoughts are with you as you have that evaluation Friday. I hope that it is very helpful!

happyhoustonmommy - Great job on the lunch-skipping! I failed the first time I tried, so I have done it twice since then! Glad that you all feel better.

Beverlyjoy - Oh my - really hope that you have recuperated!!!

Reading about how many have been/are sick is making me grateful that I feel fine and nervous about what may be brewing!!

Yesterday I was OP during the day. When I got to the airport I found myself craving ice cream or a cupcake because I saw several people eating and they looked good. I did not get anything even though I really wanted to - credit! After we picked up my daughter and her friend we realized that w did not have enough time for us all to go out to eat (which is what she wanted) before my son's soccer practice. So I gave him PBJ and went to soccer with him and my husband and girls went off to dinner.He brought home half of his dinner for me, which I ate at about 9pm. Part of me was annoyed that he did not order me a whole meal becasue I was hhhhuuuunnnnggggrrrryyyy...but the truth is that half of his wrap (chicken, mozzarella cheese and spinach) was enough and I felt fine when I went to bed. I really am getting better with eating less!!

Today I am having company at 3ish...and I want to EAT lots of whatever it is I serve! So I am up early, planning. I do have room for whatever I want...but I want to choose wisely! I will be hitting the store early and picking up fruit and something from the bakery that will be just enough, so I can't overdo it!

OK - I have to finish planning and get started.

06-12-2013, 07:05 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – More rain today of the downpour type; the local gardeners are grateful. Those of us who don't like to walk in a downpour aren't.

Dinner came from the freezer since I was scheduled to walk to my favorite Greek takeout place for their vegetarian plate and chose not to do it in the rain. My accomplishment for the day, CREDIT moi, was to make some phone calls that were necessary and were languishing on the to-do list.

onebyone – Sounds like a plan, "I have to get it in gear NOW." Wishing you well for handling the convergence of the first week in August. Kudos for OP and making that appointment. [This town goes bonkers when the Bruins are in the Stanley cup playoffs. T-shirts are already being sold.]

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Waving back; busy is good.

Beverlyjoy – Ouch for the family flu. Sending virtual Chicken Soup.

maryann - LOL at the luggage search - because I used to fall victim to every ad for a 'carry on' bag that promised no wrinkles. Terrific news, "Did not feel hungry at all." [Yep, bought four dining room chairs that DW likes and I can tolerate. Now that they're here, I'll never think of them again, LOL.]

spanky - Gotta love that bulldog face on Mycroft Holmes. Kudos for "Onward!"

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Congrats on those 28 minutes of walking with your healing foot. Kudos for leaving the ice cream treats in the store where they belong.

sparks17 – Some foods are like this, "I don't find it filling enough for the calories" - almost all appetizers for me.

happyhoustonmommy - Kudos for achieving your hunger experiment. How hungry did you record?

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

what are you thinking?

Here are some common sabotaging thoughts that I've heard over the years, along with helpful responses. Make Response Cards for any you think may apply to you.

Sabotaging Thought: I can learn to eat sensibly after I finish dieting.

Helpful Response: If I don't learn how to eat sensibly now, what evidence do I have that I'll be able to learn later? I need to start now.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 68.  

06-12-2013, 12:45 PM
Struggling today. I find that the slower pace of an at-home vacation has allowed a lot of normally tamped down anxiety to float to the surface. Our family finances have become ever more precarious as the care for our adopted son gets ever more expensive.

At this point, we have put our not-too-ritzy beach trailer up for sale to cut down on expenses. Next we'll have to sell our house and find a much cheaper one. We thought we'd first do one, then the other, but are afraid we'll run out of summer and not get the house sold.

Suddenly the whole mess is a lot to think about and there's a fountain of anxiety. Snacking is the temptation, I can only do deep breathing for so long...thought I'd try venting here, then going out for a walk.

Stayin' on the board for now. spanks

06-12-2013, 01:31 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

OP Yesterday. Weight at ticker.I have started an annoying pattern of waking up at 3 a.m. At least it gives me an opportunity to read my new book Flight Pattern by Barbara Kingsolver. I see few parallels between the midwest dirt farmers in the book and my farming life here. My husband tells me to just wait. The river could come up, the trees die and we could be smoking a pack a day and skipping payments. Something to think about.


Some residual work from school and then camping this weekend in Santa Cruz on the coast. it is DS 11th bday. I have bought a beautiful puppet owl and plan to hide it along with his letter from Hogwarts somewhere on our hiking trail. Grateful to have time and energy in my life for such moments.

BBE: Credit for not taking a frozen dinner as license to eat a spectacular something else.

Spanky: Few problems are more emotional than financial ones. Credit for checking in and fighting the good fight.

Sparks17: Credit for finding dinner "enough" That was the first big hurdle in Beck for me.

BethfromDayton: Congrats on a better foot. I did my first step class today (after a two month hiatus.) Felt good to be exercising.

06-12-2013, 07:44 PM
Hi there Coaches,
It has been insanely chaotic this week and will continue to be that way through next week. But then, Hawaii!!!

For now, I have been doing very well with exercise and eating within my range. I have, however been slacking on reading ARCs, giving credit and on planning as thoroughly ahead of time. I truly want this to be a lifetime change of managing my weight and being healthy. I will pick my book up tonight and run off the checklists of the basics to use each day for awhile to stay in that groove.

We have only a few days left of school and I am enjoying every last moment with my students and Girl Scout troop and getting my stuff done to pack up classroom for summer cleaning.

06-12-2013, 07:44 PM
I had my first training session with my new personal trainer, Steve, on Tuesday. I have a cold (again!) and have been battling migraines, so not at my best, but we had a great first session. He said that I am very strong and have good stability. :D He is big on getting the metabolism going with strength training with heavy weights. YIKES!!! I pulled a 75 pound weight on a "sled" wrapped around my waist as I walked around a huge parking lot area ~ twice! I also did some free weight exercises and worked out on many of their weight machines. I was sweating a lot...... and I am not a big sweater!!! So he gave me a heck of a workout. Going back tomorrow for our 2nd training session. My thighs are killing me today!!! :o Can't wait to see what's in store for me tomorrow. He seems to really know his stuff and echoed my notion that I should do one thing at a time, so put the nutritionist on hold for now until I get the training routine established. He said that if I take on too much at once, I will just crash and burn, which is true.

Food has been better during the week, but still room for improvement. It is so difficult to pull together the whole deal (food, exercise, and mental attitude), but I will never give up! I can do this...... one thing at a time!

spanky: OMGosh, Mycroft is so darn cute!!! Thank you so much for sharing the photos with us! :) Enjoy every minute with him! :)

06-12-2013, 10:11 PM
Hi friends.. beckies - I am coming back to 'life'. I am on the upswing from the flu. Grateful for that. I had oatmeal today and crackers and some gingerale.

We are anticipating some severe weather overnight. The weather folks are telling us the 'batten down the hatches'. There are tornado warnings to the north. Neighbors helped get the garden things brought into garage etc. I think I am ready... filled up the gas tank, got some cash, got the flashlights/lanterns/candles out, got the batteries in the radio, charged my cell phone/laptop, and picked up my Rx's that were ready. With what has happened in the Midwest of late... I just want to be prepared. It usually means I won't need any of it. (I hope not.) I am fascinated how the weatherfolks can watch a storm from street to street as it 'marches' through a town and report on it and show it all to us.

I think by tomorrow, I'll be able to eat again.

Thanks folks, for you kind thoughts and wishes of better health.

Take care anyone in the Midwest.

06-12-2013, 10:35 PM
Hi all,

Food was OP today. My only deviation from my written plan is that I'd forgotten to pack my cheese for my afternoon snack--so just had crackers. I walked this morning and this afternoon. I still haven't gone back to the dumbbell challenge, though. I'm not sure why I find that so hard to stick with.

I've got breakfast and lunch all planned out for tomorrow, and will take dinner out of the freezer to defrost before I go to bed.

Take care, all!

06-12-2013, 11:21 PM

I had a good day. 97%OP I'd say with one deviation of tasting the slow cooker food as I was serving it onto my plate ie. ate standing up at the stove. But, I *credit* stopped. However, other than this I not only stuck to my foodplan but reported in my changes and changed a snack up for an even better quality of snack which actually came to me while I was in the grocery store for cat food. Amazing and *credit for all this* Also, weighed in this mornig to see 253.3 a drop of 5.3 from yesterday's weight. Had I not gone back on plan that 5lbs would have been permanent. *credit Dr. Beck strategies*

I also *credit* did not over eat either before or after my visit to a prospective nursing home for my mother. I am continuing to adjust to the notion of her being here. Were she not an alzheimer's patient it would be a tad easier. As it is a move means learning a new place/layout (not sure how capable she is of this) and also leaving behind a friend. It was hearttbreaking to see her long for friendship when everyone around her adores her and talks to her and they consider themselves her friend but her memory issues prevent her from knowing who they are-- I had never before considered how important shared memories are within a friendship. They are an enormous part of a relationship.

I also went to my unplanted community garden plot today. I have plants that need to be transplanted and seeds that need to be planted. I haven't decided if I want to do it inspite of everything being at hand. Today, while there, I felt the urge and thought it would be a good thing for me to do so I am planning to plant in the morning. It doesn't even really need digging just mounding. Now I'll need to make friends with a gardening neighbour as we will be gone for 12 days soon and that could kill it! Yikes. I need someone to agree to water it now and again.

Must hit the hay. Have a good night.

06-13-2013, 08:16 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Gym was gym, CREDIT moi, with a walk afterwards. Then took my serious walk, CREDIT moi, when the sun was bright.

The best part was stopping by the recently opened farmers' market. Bumped into a friend holding a large tomato in his hand like a trophy, LOL. (It was a local greenhouse tomato - field tomatoes arrive around here in July.) Bought a quart of strawberries (for exactly twice the price of California shipping strawberries); they are soooooo good. Had them for dessert, as did DW. We'll consume them quickly as they don't last as long as the shipping variety. That won't be hard.

onebyone – Sobering notion "how important shared memories are within a friendship" - I hadn't thought about losing my friends when my memories go. Ouch! Kudos for finding your way using Dr. Beck's strategies.

Beverlyjoy – Hope you do OK in the storm; after you, it heads to us.

maryann - Love the thought of DS getting a letter from Hogwarts - quite an honor as so few muggles are accepted. Ouch for the painful thoughts of worst case scenarios - when California isn't growing, none of us will be eating.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Two walks in one day is good news.

spanky - Sending supportive thoughts for facing some difficult choices. Kudos for choosing deep breathing over snacking when facing anxiety.

IBelieveInMe2 – Yay for such a good workout. May you have another one today.

Rosebud170 – Chaotic to Hawaii!! sounds like a book I'd buy, LOL.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

what are you thinking?

Here are some common sabotaging thoughts that I've heard over the years, along with helpful responses. Make Response Cards for any you think may apply to you.

Sabotaging Thought: I can lose weight only if I find exactly the right diet.

Helpful Response: There is no one right diet. There's nothing magical about any diet. the only formula for losing weight is taking in fewer calories than your body expends.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 68.  

06-13-2013, 09:36 AM
Good morning!

Yesterday was instructive. I had planned a high-end calorie day,with a piece of cake, 1 cookie and fruit with whipped cream with my company as well as pasta and meatballs (measured!) for dinner. But one of my guests brought Dunkin' Donuts and, while at first I had NO INTENTION of eating the afternoon went on I "found myself" eating one, all distracted-like. Then a bunch of thoughts went through my head - not worth it. Actually a little stale. Need to pay more attention when I am at the table with a lot of dessert. Probably would not have had it if I had had a cup of tea. So, credit for seeing and stopping it right away! No more donuts. Actually threw away the leftovers after dinner. No more cake. I wrapped up and froze the half that did not get eaten. No more cookies. Didn't fancy one. Not too much dinner - I served myself half of what I had planned and stopped there,even though it was delicious!

So, I ate more than I should have and too many empty calories at that...but I SHUT IT DOWN! :carrot:

Bill - now I have a desire to hit a Farmer's Market this weekend!

onebyone - Oh, I feel for you with your Mom. There is never any good solution, only the best of difficult options...

Beth - the dumbbell challenge actually sounds fun!

Beverlyjoy - really hope you did not get any extreme weather!!!

Ibelieveinme - a 75 pound weight on a "sled" wrapped around my waist as I walked around a huge parking lot area ~ twice :dizzy: Wow - what a workout!

Rosebud - I truly want this to be a lifetime change of managing my weight and being healthy. I will pick my book up tonight and run off the checklists of the basics to use each day for awhile to stay in that groove. Well said!!

Maryann - LOOVEE your birthday plan!! Hope it is a great birthday for him! I should have done that for my younger ones....though we have had a few Harry Potter parties (when a new DVD came out) with all kinds of food/drink/desserts from the books piled on the table, Great Hall style. Fun times.

spanky - hope the walk helped! So sorry that the more relaxed pace brought out more stress, not less.

06-13-2013, 11:15 AM

Today is Kitchen Klutzes of America Day, also Sewing Machine Day and Weed Your Garden Day. I am out on all three counts! Just an ordinary day for me. I am going to finish two paintings for the farmers' market this weekend and I am hoping to make more progress on Zeus the Moose for my gallery show in August. I am sharing the space with my good friend Tim, and we are trying to collaborate but it is hard over a long distance. Luckily the gallery isn't that big. We are trying to do art+story in some way. We have been writing short stories to each other, using three words that we provide and that must be included in the tale. He sends me three and I have to use them and vice versa. We did this for a few years many years ago and then just stopped. We both enjoyed it and so we decided to start our project from that starting point but I am, as is usual for me this year, stumped. I'll keep trying. Something will happen as long as I keep trying.

Tomorrow is my official weigh-in day. I have changed from Thursdays to Fridays for the summer months. I saw 252.6, 0.4shy of my weigh-in last week which is fabulous given my disastrous eating this past weekend. Great. I am so thrilled I have totally accepted that getting back on track immediately is the sane thing to do. It really is. I was 258 two days ago. Had I not course corrected I'd still be there, or more, and feeling terrible. I now feel hopeful and even. Yay for that. I need all my wits about me these days.

I was going to plant that garden but it is raining yet again today. It rained all yesterday. The soil is very wet. I have rain shoes but don't really want to trample all that fluffy weed-free soil in my 20' x 20' plot. I am going to make a plan for the garden today and get my supplies together in the morning and get out there and do it tomorrow. I have my appt with the food folks tomorrow afternoon so I can spend the full morning out there. I don't think I'd be there longer than 5 hours anyway. I'll be ready to be done with it and happy to move on into therapy for food issues in the afternoon. Curious and scared to hear what they say. The evaluation form is SERIOUS. Yikes.

So I have had my OP breakfast, heading into OP snack and will start artwork as soon as I leave you to your day... and so :coffee: a good day to you Becksters you!

06-13-2013, 07:26 PM
Popping back in to say that I was totally OP today. :)

Also. I am not tech-savvy...but I figured out that I have a Notes app on my Blackberry - and I made a note for the Advantages. And next I am going to put in a note for each card. Easier than carrying them in my bag when I am out!!

06-13-2013, 08:56 PM
Hi Coaches!

I've been through alot the past few days. The fires are ravaging our State. I'm back in my "spot" of mega-responsibility for other family member's "stuff". I am dealing with it all one step at a time and keep reminding myself that my "getting stressed" will only affect my food choices, and me ultimately. No one else will really care.
I'm solo here now as I drove over the Divide yesterday for a 3 day break and ended up driving back over this morning to deal with a big$$ vehicle issue w/hubbys DD.
So financial stuff, being alone, feeling tired and deprived are all perfect reasons NOT to eat. I credit BDS with my general feeling of calm today. As I was encountering traffic today I specifically noted it was in my best interest to remain calm. Making the choice to be agitated and upset would only harm me.
That said, I certainly felt like a "treat"....something "bad"....the list went through my head. I had to make a stop at WhFoods and came out with the item for my mom, a box of blueberry cereal bars, one papaya and 4 bananas. No bread, no sweets, no tasting samples. I credit my resistance techniques learned via BDS.
I am alone. I have a food plan for tonight and I will follow it.
Utmost in my mind, is the family wedding in 6 weeks. I want to be my best and overeating/emotional eating hurts both my body and my soul. Staying OP helps me stay healthy in more ways than one.
Credit moi and extra credit for posting and contacting my diet buddy today. I know I do better if I share my story with all of you.

spanky, I send you many supportive thoughts. Walking through your struggles as you work on being the healthiest person you can be does matter. I wish you the very best and am glad you are here with us.

06-13-2013, 09:30 PM
Good Afternoon, Coaches.

Second to last work meeting of the summer. Tidy things up on Monday and I am through. That will feel good. Bosses are very positive about my projects and I took that good feeling in. Credit.

Packed for the weekend camping. I am going to not make a big food production. I have hard boiled some eggs, fruit and yogurt. Really, there is not much more I need . Boys will stop at the store and buy what they want. Credit for letting them take the lead.

IBelieveinMe2: That is a very true statement "It is so difficult to pull it all together." I have thought often about the necessity of treating the whole person. If I attacked one issue, I use another issue as a "release valve" and sabotage myself.
Beverleyjoy: Hope all is well on the weather front. I can only imagine the fear. No tornadoes here in CA just earthquakes which to me don't seem as scary.
BethFromDayton: Boy! You can't imagine how often I forget to take the dinner out of the freezer.
onebyone: credit for the OP weight loss
BBE: I am spoiled. We rent ground at the ranch to "strawberry guy" and he usually gives dh free baskets.
Sparks17: Superduper credit for throwing the donuts away. Beveleyjoy taught me to put dishwashing soap in it becuase I am not adverse to diving in the trash to fish out food.
Lexxiss: I am so sorry there is so much responsibility on your shoulders. Super credit for remembering all the reasons NOT to eat.

06-13-2013, 09:53 PM
Hello, all! Still out of town, last day of work is tomorrow and then two days of vacation for DH and me and then travel back on monday. Food has NOT been good. No, that's incorrect; the food has been good but my choices have not been. more later - off to the pool.

06-13-2013, 10:39 PM
Hi folks.. the weather wasn't too bad last night It was more fierce north of us. I am grateful. Today I ate real food and was mindful of what and how much. However, I still have a lot of heartburn. Hoping tomorrow I can eat some fresh fruit or veg.

Thanks everyone.

06-13-2013, 10:43 PM
My plans for tomorrow and Saturday are loose--I'll be eating at the university cafeteria during DD the younger's orientation. I've eaten there before, though, and found it pretty easy to stay OP, so I feel confident.

Today was the first day all year I've had an extra snack at work. I had my planned snack and was still very hungry--to the point of shaking hands. So I set my watch for 20 minutes and told myself that if I was still hungry then I would have something additional. Well, 20 minutes later my hands were still trembling a bit, so I had half a package of cashews.

I'm counting this as a "needed to" snack--in the category of diabetics with shaking hands need to eat.

I ate a bit more dinner than I intended, though--I hadn't thought about the calories in the bun or bbq sauce and didn't add it all up until after dinner. I do best when I enter everything into MFP the night before.

Take care, all.

06-13-2013, 11:01 PM

White knuckle yesterday and today with the anxiety! The walk helped yesterday--I used my stopwatch to do intervals so I had to keep my mind on it. That helped. More deep breathing. More thought stopping--all the stuff one does for anxiety.

Remarkably, I did not eat! Today the same, very OP and did weights--which I have to count. Sat in the chapel and whined [whining is a little known type of prayer]. It also helped to read more of this forum's boards.

And so I've made it safely to bedtime again today--Very grateful for the kind thoughts sent my way.

Onward. spanks

06-13-2013, 11:27 PM

I had an emotional shock today but I didn't eat over it. I thought about it but didnt do it. *credit* I was surfing the net this morning and by accident, somehow, I saw that the mother of a friend died on the last day of January this year. She and I had discussed a few art projects at one time but I nixed it. She was too needy for me at the time. I was too over-worked. I also knew a bit about her via her daughter, who was an artist friend of mine for many years. We did shows together, tried to figure out how to make a living as an artist without having to do other work, what shows were good. Recently she wrote a book, then another, illustrated it with her special unique artwork and it was on my mind to pick her brain about that. I have been promising myself I'd do that very thing "really soon". I was going to set some time aside during an Ottawa visit to go visit her. Then I saw a facebook post that they were closing their shop up due to illness. Then I found out she was ill with a rare cancer. I meant to send something, make something, DO something, but just didnt figuring I'd see her soon. So this morning when I saw her mother died I thought wow DO SOMETHING NOW and I was going to send bright colourful flowers as her mother's death would have hit her hard, especially since she, too, was dealing with being sick. I then saw on their company facebook page a post by her husband showing him carving a totem pole. He wrote that he is "over trying to deal with the grief. Work helps." I was puzzled by this figuring it's the whole household--everything must be so heavy and then on a whim I googled her name and up came her OBITUARY. It was like someone took all my breath away. She died April 16th. She was exactly the same age as me, only a July baby. I thought "she didn't make it to 50." Which makes making it to 50 a real gift to me today. I have been trying to understand this all day and my eating has been solid but the urges to overeat are just right there, just under the surface.
When DH got home with the car I showed him the obit and he let out a gasp. I have never seen that reaction in him. It was just like mine. I have not cried over it. I don't know where my tears are. I am so sad she is not still in the world making things. It's just plain wrong. I got a sympathy card-they all seemed wrong-and will write a letter to her husband. I know what I will say.

Tomorrow is my eating disorder assessment. I have been avoiding filling out the assessment forms. They are heavy duty. Now I want to just run away and say "oh no I'm ok thanks but no thanks" but I am going to see this through. I need to allow myself to check it out. Just cause I am not "as bad as I used to be" doesn't mean there is nothing there for me. Whatever. All I know is I have been in my own way for a few YEARS now. Something is blocking me. And I have got to remove that block. It's just time to turn the page on this. My friend's unexpected death (I was sure she'd beat the cancer. She was FULL of life and plans and energy) reminds me to focus and get moving on what is important.

And so my heavy 2013 continues. What is up with this year?!

Good night. I was 100% OP today. CREDIT.

06-13-2013, 11:37 PM
Spanky I'm sorry about the stress over your house and the finances. Things can be pretty tough at times. Things can also get unexpectedly better. We just don't know what the future brings. Kudos for not making your immediate future feel worse by using food to cope. Kudos as well for using your coping techniques. The more you make those choices, the less the anxiety controls you. Thanks for posting.

06-14-2013, 07:10 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Interviewed cars for adoption again. CREDIT moi since that's what's needed real soon. My desire for cars to live forever doesn't fit reality. The Ford Focus Hybrid had a rear view camera that displayed on the flat screen in the dashboard, with lines indicating where I was likely to end up given the way I was backing. For more money, the car would parallel park itself! (But won't drive you out of the space which can be as difficult for those who can't get in, LOL.) All cars have tons of flat screen displays integrated with all the controls so that anything that goes wrong disables the car completely. The Focus even eliminated the spare tire; the trunk held an air pump to attempt to re-inflate your tire before you get towed to a garage. I long for a VW Beetle of the '60's.

Eating was OK at an event. There was opportunity to eat more that I avoided. It was a rainy day and life was busy.

onebyone – Thanks for the sobering reminder that life is a one pass journey whose duration isn't guaranteed. Good luck with your assessment today with Kudos for sticking with it.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Your fires are frightening. Kudos for tending to your busy while staying mindful.

Beverlyjoy – Yay for "real food."

maryann - Kudos for accepting the positive responses of your bosses. Your camping trip sounds fun.

spanky - Kudos for using the chapel and the walk to deal with anxiety instead of food.

nationalparker – Waving toward Kathmandu (as substitute for wherever "out of town" really is). Posting is a good start to minding your food choices.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Kudos for making thoughtful choices for the cashews at work by paying attention to your body.

sparks17 – Ouch for the doughnut that was "not worth it" - Kudos for stopping at one as well as Kudos for Becking your Blackberry.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

.......Once I accept the fact that
I have to follow a healthy eating plan
......for life, dieting will be easier.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 69.  

06-14-2013, 09:18 AM
Just had hummus and pita chips for breakfast...and I did not measure them, just ate. No cards, no conscious thought, only stealth-thinking. I couldn't let myself really think about it becasue I would have started I just did it. I need to figure out the calories and plan the rest of my day before a small problem becomes a big one!

I am totally thinking IT's NOT FAIR right now - can't I just eat some healthy food without writing it down??? No, I can't because I know that "just eating healthy food when I am hungry" turns into "just eating when I am hungry" which turns into "just eating" which turns into - gaining back any weight I have lost. What is the proper response? Oh well. I can't have everything I want.

OK. Back on track in my head. Now it is time to get back on track for real - in my plan on MFP and with my exercise. And today is Friday -menu planning and shopping list creating day.

It is also Day 25 (or so) for me - Identifying Sabotaging Thoughts. Definitely getting some practice this morning!!

06-14-2013, 09:29 AM
This came through via FB today.

Friday Weekend Warm-up: If you feel frustrated by the food pushers in your life, remember that you can’t control anyone else’s actions, you can only control your reactions. So it’s not their job to stop offering, it’s YOUR job to start saying no. This weekend, if someone tries to push food on you, practice saying no (over and over again if necessary!).

I got on the scale and it seems I've lost 3-5 pounds. It says I am at my ticker weight. I don't know if it's 'real'. I ate way extra when my son was in the hospital... so I don't know exactly where I was a week ago. Nevertheless - it's down. Heck of a way to get there. Time will tell. I will eat some steamed veggies today.

Have a great day.

06-14-2013, 10:21 AM
Hi Coaches!

I have a plan for today and I've emailed it to my Beck buddy. credit. Still feeling a bit numb about the car issue but recognize there are far larger problems in this world, too, especially with the wildfires here. I heard this morning 40,000 people are evacuated right now.

Thanks, BBE, for your daily posts. This morning you posted one of my favorites and also most helpful. This is not a temporary fix it is a healthy lifetime plan.

chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

.......Once I accept the fact that
I have to follow a healthy eating plan
......for life, dieting will be easier.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 69.

Beverlyjoy, thx, also for the Friday quote. It's always a great reminder for me because Sat. morning is when all the goodies come into work and everyone is pushing me to eat them.

onebyone, 100% OP yesterday! Kudos during such an emotional day!

06-14-2013, 10:30 AM

Lest I jinx it, the sun it out today. It's still cool, but it's not raining. I will plan to get the garden in today. I'll plant the plants right after I drop DH off at work, then I'll do the seeds later.

I sent my assessment off into the void this morning. It's now in the email of my prospective counsellor who is to give me a more detailed on this afternoon. I guess they are assessing what/how/if they can help me. It is just Irony of the Highest Order that the scle presented an exact 250.0 this morning. This is *the* weight that vexes me. I go up and down and all around it but I have not been able to leave it behind for almost 2 years. However, just looking at it from last week's weigh-in, I am down 2.2lbs. Ok. good. *credit my body*

Oh Dh ready to go--better get ready too.

Will be back later.

06-14-2013, 10:45 AM
I want to take the time when we return on Tuesday to catch up with most of the posts, but a quick minute here to say to OneByOne - wow - what a shock that must have been, and I hope you're able to focus on the assessments and good luck with your appointment. And Lexxiss - be safe and be careful out there. I keep hearing about the wildfires and the stories get scarier and the air quality must be horrid.

Bill - you're right; I think posting yesterday helped me in ordering a salad with grilled chicken for dinner with DH and friends as everyone else had yummier (Greasier is that what I still consider yummier?) things. Mine was super spicy and they forgot wonton strips and that saved me calories :)

Last day of work stuff here but schedule is extremely light, so I will take advantage of the time to read and relax. And hopefully make wiser meal and snack decisions from here on out.

06-14-2013, 11:04 PM

I had my assessment appointment but it was a non-assessment and they don't actually have an eating disorders program right now. Apparently I was given misinformation and they tried to catch me but I was already gone. So I saw the assessment counsellor anyway and we had a therapy session basically and I asked her what kind of counselling she would recommend and she mentioned a kind and I thought "Huh. I think you are right." and so I have steps to take to pursue it. I discovered that i am both more aware and less aware. Strange mix.

I was also reminded that I really need to do more self-care, and to just simply put myself first more. I was waaaaaayyyyyy better at that 2 decades ago. Those boundary setting skills have eroded over time. I need to re-visit this bigtime. Especially if my mother will be living nearby. I have to do this or I will self-care via food. Not a choice I need or want to make. I can figure something else out. I am now on a singular quest to replace comfort food with other things/acts.

*credit for stepping on the scale. Saw 250.0 today a drop of 2.something lbs. This past week I have dropped 8lbs--all water. I continue to be a sponge.

I am off to bed. Getting up and out very early tomorrow for the market. Bye for now.

06-15-2013, 06:57 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Fell into a neat random reward when on my walk (CREDIT moi) I dropped off a book at the library and discovered Cooked: A Natural History of Transformation, by Michael Pollen ( on the magic shelf of new books about to be returned somewhere that could be grabbed. It's easy to be a Michael Pollen fan, so I'll see where he's headed with this book. Library books have two great features: they must be read within a few weeks, and they go back instead of becoming clutter.

Gym was gym, CREDIT moi. It's in a rut. Perhaps I need to join a class to change my pace. The classes are juggled frequently - I don't see any right now that appeal in time slots available to me. Zumba seems out of my reach; the unwritten local rule is that you have to be female, young, lithe, and gorgeous. And wear matching outfits.

onebyone – Terrific to pull this out of your visit, "I am now on a singular quest to replace comfort food with other things/acts." Boundary skills are a challenge.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Thanks for, "This is not a temporary fix" - like others, I find myself wishing that this phase was over.

Beverlyjoy – Now that's an executable plan, "I will eat some steamed veggies today."

nationalparker – LOL at "Greasier is that what I still consider yummier?" We don't give it up, do we.

sparks17 – "Oh well. I can't have everything I want" - is so obvious to us in the other parts of our lives. Perhaps that's why we fight it in food. Kudos for wresting the Sabotaging Thoughts.

Readers - day 3 Eat Sitting Down

If you always eat sitting down, you've mastered this important step. However, if you've struggled with your weight and dieted on and off for many years, my guess is that you probably do some eating while standing. You also probably have a tendency to rationalize or perhaps not even notice how much you've eaten. Opportunities to eat while standing up abound.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 70.  

06-15-2013, 08:34 AM
Hi.... I feel like I am back to the living today. I still have 'heartburn' leftover from the stomach flu. It makes sense.

Yesterday I stayed with my plan which did include some fruit and cooked veggies along with my protein. I tried to eat some raw red pepper - not yet. The past few days I went back to my daily exercises (stretches & strengthening) Credit. I had lots of water too. I wrote it all down. I feel like I can get back into my Beck routine again - even with kind of bland food.

Billbe - I've never heard of that Pollen book. Let us know what you think. I agree about maybe taking a class at the gym for a change of pace. Carry on. (I long for the VW Bus days my self)

lexxiss/Debbie - I thought of you when watching the devastating fire in Colorado. I hope that they contain soon! I love what you said about this food stuff not being a temporary fix. That is such a good reminder. Thanks. Also - credit for good choices and WF.

sparks - I can so relate to this 'not fair' syndrome. Why do I have to write down a plan.... why can't I just eat. For me, it's because I know that any other approach doesn't give me any food sanity in the long run. Credit for meal planning and getting the food. Sometimes I think we go into all this food 'kicking and screaming'. - Credit because you are heading into the best direction. If you know what I mean. I am so sorry for your stresses.

onebyone - I am so sorry to hear of your friend's death. Credit for staying with you intentions.

beth - hope orientation goes well. Credit for waiting the 20 minutes.

maryann - have a good weekend. Credit for planning for some healthy foods.

Have a good day.

06-15-2013, 10:32 AM
Beverlyjoy - Glad that you are just about back to normal! And I hope that your son is also doing well!

lexxiss - you are the only person I "know" in Colorado, so I think of you every time I see a new headline. Hope you and yours are safe and well.

nationalparker- Hope you were able to read and relax!

onebyone - it is great that the assessment was profitable, even if it was not what you expected!

Bill - I am laughing at the picture in my mind of you doing Zumba in a "matching outfit" - :rofl:

My husband wanted to go for frozen yogurt yesterday. Thankfully, I had saved room for an evening snack so I just readjusted and ended the day higher in calories than I had planned, but not over my limit. But I felt - and still feel - yuck. Too much sugar. Too much dairy, maybe? But he is really into this new I guess that I will be having some practice this summer with moderation and ordering less and leaving some on my plate (in the bowl?!). Probably good for me. I guess. :o

06-16-2013, 01:40 AM
We had a party tonight--ate too many brownies. And an unplanned snack this morning. And I didn't record anything today.

Tomorrow I will be back on track--it is easier to stay on track than get back on track--I still haven't really recovered from last weekend--I did okay Mon breakfast-Friday lunch, but by Friday dinner, out of my "normal zone" eating in the college cafeteria, I was off plan again.

I think I need to start reading Beck chapters again--I've been slacking off.

I did get plenty of walking in this weekend--too much, actually. By the time we finished up Friday evening I could have used a golf cart ride to the hall where I was staying--my foot was done for. I'll probably limit my walking tomorrow to minimal time.

Good night, all.

06-16-2013, 06:52 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Once again, I helped to fix an older toilet with a flapper that seats poorly. What an uninteresting issue - except that failing to seat leaks water continuously. The fix words sufficiently; the dribble stops, albeit more slowly than wished. New toilets aren't that expensive and can be installed by a handyman but they are color matched with the sink and tub and the color is dated. Congratulations to the genius who invented bathroom fixtures that aren't white so as to require a full bathroom remodeling ($$$) in order to change a toilet.

Dinner was a vegetarian takeout plate from a Greek place. CREDIT moi for a healthy dinner and a fine walk there and back.

Beverlyjoy – Welcome "back to the living." Glad the flu is moving on.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Seems like a challenge to both exercise that foot and honor its slow healing. Kudos for working on that.

sparks17 – Ouch for a favorite frozen yogurt place. The only good part is that our places are sold by the ounce - so a bit of planning and restraint allows purchase of a tiny size. Let us know when you discover how to do that, LOL.

Readers - day 3 Eat Sitting Down

. . . Do you do any of the following?
Take free samples of food at the grocery store.
Taste food as you prepare meals.
Sneak bits of food from someone's plate as you clear the table.
. . . . . .

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 70.  

06-16-2013, 09:08 AM
Hi Coaches!

Happy Fathers Day, BBE! I always enjoy your "dad" stories around here. Your kids hit the jackpot and I think they're old enough now to know it. Kudos.

Yesterday was my super early day at work which meant I got to run way the heck down to a section that's only open on the weekend. It's great exercise but can be when you forget the guy wanted bleu cheese to put on top of his cottage cheese??? Maybe I forgot because they don't seem to go together in my food brain. I met some nice people who commented on my ability to go back and forth without much effort. Credit moi.

Food was OK. I didn't eat at work because there isn't time....I had my coworker make me a "healthy" breakfast burrito, which is a step in the right direction. It was bigger than the 1/2 I had ordered so I had part as "late lunch" and part as dinner. It still made me feel like I was doing something brain, I guess. Scale was fine this morning so I guess even the extra salt wasn't a big deal.

A day off I need to go find coffee. I wanted to check in before the travelers start clogging up my internet.

06-16-2013, 02:35 PM
Weekend greetings!

OP yesterday, suddenly struggling today. Yet another stressor has appeared in the form of "in-law drama". Honestly, just when I thought I'd get a quiet Sunday afternoon to get ready for next week. The way things have been going, I'm wondering if there's sunspots or a full moon or some such!

Stayin on the board!


06-16-2013, 03:57 PM
Hi Beckies! Yesterday was a real food day. I am grateful for that. :) I had a plan/measured/logged my food, did my exercises, had no seconds, left a bite and said NO CHOICE to DH's honey roasted cashews, Werther's candy & Breyers Ice Cream. DH said to me: "I've had enough ice cream you can put your dish soap on the rest, like you sometimes do." :)

Now that I have a real food healthy food day, it's time to start working on the important parts of the program. This includes my journalling, reading the arc/rc/beck, etc..

Some friends came over this morning and helped by clean out a garden. They filled up their cars with plants to be shared all over the place. My gardener's creed: Enjoy and share. We will eventually clean it out and plant grass except the small bed of tall grass, maybe, as a delineation for our property.

Tonight's Father's Day dinner is steak, corn and salad. Sounds good to me!

national parker - I hope you are having a good trip.

billbe - yum on a healthy veg. Greek dinner and a walk. Yes - I remember those colors from the fifties for bathroom fixtures. My aunt had pink as I recall. Also, Happy Father's Day.

spanky - kudos on your OP yesterday. Phooey on your struggles today. I hear you on the moon stuff, LOL.

lexxiss/debbie - so nice to get a positive comment from a customer at work - especially for the way to maneuver around. I totally understand how something too big can make the whole day seem off, food wise. I hope things are improving in the fires going on. It's heartbreaking.

Have a great day, folks

06-17-2013, 08:59 AM
Hi Coaches!

A quick-before work-check in. I've weighed and planned today's food. I've emailed my food plan to my Beck buddy. credit. Yesterday included an extra snack yet I'm still calling it a win since I'm by myself and my mind occasionally wanders to that spot of thinking about what I could eat because no one else is around. For me, it's a success to say no to those sabotaging thoughts.

Happy Monday, all!

06-17-2013, 09:50 AM
Hi Beckfolks,

This came through my FB this morning from Beck.

"If, after you lose weight, you think, “I’d like to lose a little more but I don’t think I can eat less or exercise more,” ask yourself: would my life really be so different if I were a few pounds lighter? Yes, I’d like it, but it’s likely I’d have to work so hard to stay there that I wouldn’t be able to enjoy it anyway. In the scheme of things, your life probably won’t be drastically improved if you lose a few more pounds, so instead of thinking about where you’d like to be, think about how much better your life is where you are now.

I will be back later.

06-18-2013, 12:37 AM
Hello Coaches,

I didn't check the computer from the lake at all this weekend, which I admit was nice, but I thought about you all and how I "should be" checking in. Anyway, we had a busy Father's Day weekend as my 2 nieces and a nephew ended up staying with us at our lake house for the weekend (long story). It worked out well for our kids, who enjoyed having their cousins around, but kind of changed our plans to celebrate Father's Day with just our little family all weekend. CREDIT for adapting our plans without too much anxiety! My husband was a real trooper, I must say. And, for some reason, I didn't have the same urge to munch on snack food all weekend like I usually do at the lake, which made it much easier this time to exercise my resistance muscle MOST of the time. It has been that way for the past week (less of an urge for snacks), actually, and I love it! I needed the break for my peace of mind. Maybe it has to do with my personal training workouts?!? If so, I can't wait to continue with them!

This might be my only check-in for awhile, because I leave for Ireland with my mom and sisters and a cousin early Wednesday morning and will most likely not have WiFi access where we are staying. I am not even taking my computer and I am debating about taking my Samsung Note. Still learning how to use it, so might just leave it at home, too, and live primitively while I am there.....LOL!!! :lol: I am taking a journal and one or two other weight loss books. Trying to keep things to a minimum, because I usually way overpack!!! I will be thinking of all of you and wishing you well. I hate leaving my DH and kids, but it will be a good experience all around for everyone, I think. Perhaps my last chance ever to be in Ireland with my mom. She is 79 years old. We have an okay relationship, but I am hoping that this trip will bring us closer. Not getting my expectations too high or unrealistic, but this is an opportunity I can't pass up. Please pray for my safety. If I knew that I would for sure get back safely and the kids and DH would for sure be safe while I'm gone, I would be much less anxious about leaving the country. But that's life. We live and breathe and take chances every day. No guarantees. I need to practice my faith and trust that all will be well. Working on that as I pack, do laundry, try to leave the house in okay condition, etc. DH is very self-sufficient and capable with the house and kids, thank God!!! Otherwise, I would be a total wreck and would never leave!!! So I will do my best to embrace this opportunity as the blessing that it is. There will be time to be with my family when I return. I will just miss them so much..... including my three pups!!! :(

onebyone: So sorry about your shocking finding that your friend's mother and your friend have both died! That must feel horrible! Have you tried journaling about your feelings about this? It might help you process things. Good for you for taking it as a lesson that we only pass this way but once and for moving ahead with things in your own life. Too bad the eating disorder thing wasn't at all what you expected. I applaud you with going through with the counseling that day anyway. I can relate to the feeling of something holding you back and really wanting to find out what that is. I hope you get to the bottom of it! YOU CAN DO THIS!!! Keep on keeping on and putting one foot in front of the other, and BREATHE!!! :hug:

spanky: Sorry for your stress and anxiety lately! Keep your chin up and remember deep breathing exercises. Things will be well soon. Sending a big hug your way!!! :hug: How is that adorable puppy?!?

:wave: to everyone else!!! "See" you when I get home.

06-18-2013, 07:17 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – The malware threat is gone; it came from a third party advertiser. I didn't take a chance so I took a 3FC vacation day. I missed my daily fix. At Father's day dinner on Sunday I had double salad instead of rice pilaf, CREDIT moi. I pretend that baked lamb has no calories since there's no visible fat. Yay for denial.

Toilet saga update: DS and I installed a new toilet last night since we were never happy with any new flapper we could find to fix the old one. Good news is that it's a dual-flush type so it saves even more water. Super CREDIT moi since I've installed toilets before that took two days because I had to go out for forgotten parts.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – LOL at " bleu cheese to put on top of his cottage cheese???" Kudos for resisting telling your customer that his taste is broken.

Beverlyjoy – Kudos for having trained your DH to send excess food to be soaped. I admire that all the gardeners I know constantly share plants.

spanky - Ouch for family drama - in whatever variety it appears. Kudos for being here instead of head first in a bag of chips.

IBelieveInMe2 – Have a wonderful trip to Ireland with your mother. Kudos for choosing a DH who can manage the house and kids while you're gone.

Readers - day 3 Eat Sitting Down

. . . Do you do any of the following? . . .
Spoon ice cream out of the container or reach into a bag of chips while you're walking around talking on the phone.
Take a piece of candy or a pretzel as you walk past the snack jar siting on a coworker's desk.
Nibble on something you see when opening the refrigerator to get something else out.
Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 70.  

06-18-2013, 08:30 AM
From Beck via FB:

Tuesday Reality Check: Sometimes in dieting (and in life), you just have to say, “Oh, well.” To us, this means: I don’t like this situation, but there’s nothing I can do to change it (not if I want to achieve my goal) so I just have to accept it, stop fighting against it, and move on.

This is a good thing for me to think about with a busy weekend of having food around from the potluck. Oh well.... Yes, I better start planning.

The past couple of days I have stayed within my plan. I was suppose to have a turkey burger for dinner - but, realized that I left them out on the counter too long to eat. So, I switched it up a bit. I had an extra snack last night.... figured I 'deserved it' for working so much in the garden. I didn't deserve them, however.

One time in the day I wanted to eat extra and I DID pull out some resistance techniques.

I am trying to the garden all spruced up because I am hosting a potluck for my storytelling guild. My friend, LeighAnne, is helping me. DH is doing his garden stuff too. It will look nice.

billbe - glad you get to bring this chapter of the toilet to a close. Credit for double salad. I LOVE lamb too.

Ibeleiveinme - have a wonderful and safe trip. Credit for taking your journal and books to help you stay aware of the food. Have fun.

lexxiss/debbie - credit for checking and sending your daily plan for the day to your private sponsor. That is a winning combination.

Have a great day everyone. I am off to rehearse.

06-18-2013, 08:57 AM
Hi Coaches!

I stuck with my plan yesterday until I got invited out to dinner w/mom. I made healthy choices, so I'm happy with that. I've been keeping up with my at home exercise. Yay.

Ibelieveinme2, have a great trip!

BBE, I will second a cheer for double salad!

spanky, sending you supportive thoughts as you encounter family drama.

Beverlyjoy, yay for squashing the urge to eat extra. Your garden event sounds fun.

OK, off to work!

06-18-2013, 09:16 AM
Hi all,

I missed 3FC during the time my computer was telling me about the malware threat. Knowing how hard it is to get rid of malware, I thought it best not to take a risk.

Food was OP yesterday, even if not quite to my expected dinner plan. I also didn't grocery shop last night, but I will tonight. I'm trying to "eat from the freezer" for a while, so my only real need is fresh produce.

One of the advantages on my ARC is "get up and down from the floor more easily" and I thought it was the weight loss that was helping that (and it was easier). BUT, it's getting harder again, which makes me think that it was the walking as much as the weight loss--and the walking is stalled because my foot was hurting again. I'm wearing different shoes today--I usually don't wear hiking shoes to work--but perhaps that'll help my foot and allow some walking. I see the podiatrist on Friday.

I need to start reading Beck again--I've stalled on weight loss, but it's because I'm not exercising my resistance muscle at parties (including party weekends). I do fine on 'regular' days--even 'regular' weekends--but at a party, I just eat and eat and eat.

We'll be on vacation the week of the 4th of July--and that will include a 4 day party (no joke there)--and I'm in charge of the food for one of the Hospitality suites. I have no doubt it'll be a great party--but I've got to recognize and FOLLOW THROUGH on that I can't eat my way through it!

Take care, all.

06-18-2013, 01:06 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

I took a break with the malware warning, as well.

Back from the black hole which is camping with my extended family. Credit for not touching mom's mac and cheese -- a rare occasion. Thankfully DH went with us this time which is always better. My family has strong personalities which sometimes drown my sense of self. Then I try to resurrect independence by eating everything around me. I'll show them!

In any case I am two pounds up this morning but on my second fast day for my two day diet. I feel pretty well and I am grateful to have a structure.

Happy traveling to IBelieveinMe2.

I hear everybody who is bemoaning weekends. I want to remember that my food plan is not a punishment but a gift to myself.

06-18-2013, 01:41 PM
Hello! Back into the groove, back at home and back at work. And back up on the scale. I've not had time to read posts but want to say, Maryann - that was the best thing I could read today your last line of "my food plan is not a punishment but a gift to myself." That goes on a card for me today! I have been viewing it as a punishment and viewing getting on the scale as a further punishment. (Up several pounds after being gone 10 days and nearly all meals at restaurants ... will reweigh each morning to see what's sodium and bloat and what's legit.)

A gift for my future. That's good. Thank you.

06-18-2013, 02:57 PM

I stayed off here too due to malware threat. *credit to the wizards here for banishing the evil intruders.

My food has been even lately and on plan so that's good. *credit for the planning and the checking in with my food buddy and for posting here.

*credit for standing on the scale and seeing 250.6 today. Official weigh in day is Friday. Perhaps I will be less.

We have had rain every day or every night for many weeks now. I went ahead and transplanted over half of my plants into my garden before I wore out a few days ago. It's rained, hard, since then and the soil in the garden is almost completely clay. After researching transplanting in the rain/wet soil it's just about the worst thing you can do and the plants can die. But if it's always raining and the soil never gets to dry out and it's already past the middle of June? Well, I need to plant the rest of those plants and so I am planning on getting out there in a few hours to finish the job.

Ok-I'm back from the garden and everything is planted. Weird garden this year-all plants no seeds sown. The "soil" is hardly that. Super hard and lumpy clay clods. On the plus side, not many weeds. The plants I put in before are ok it seems. *crossing my fingers for my garden this year* All super hot peppers and exotic tomatoes with melons, cucs and eggplant and 3 celery plants to round out the group. I also planted portulaca flowers just cause I love them. I am exhausted. I don't recall feeling like this after gardening before. I don't like it. Oh well. *credit for the exercise and the job done.

Be back later.

06-18-2013, 11:08 PM
Hello coaches,
I have not dropped off the face of the earth...just sooo many things happening right now with closing out the schoolyear and a dd dance recital and Girl Scout overnight in the zoo (I am a co leader so I spent night too) and now I just found out that I am hosting our "drink wine and chat it up after last day of school for teachers" party tomorrow. I have been eating OP and exercising (water aerobics and hill walking) so credit moi for that! I leave for Hawaii on Saturday and am not nearly as worried about what I will eat there compared to will be a challenge in some ways but not in the butter/bread/wine/cream kind of way that was Paris!

We started a new Healthywage challenge on Friday and we have new team members. We took our "before" picture of all of us trying to cram through the front door (5 abreast) of the Y and acting like, because we were too big, we couldn't get in. Fun!

I missed the malware warning but wasn't here anyway...hope nobody got zinged...

06-18-2013, 11:20 PM
Hi all,

Today was a good food day, although I didn't measure my dinner portions (I guesstimated half minus a bit of each of the two serving packages.) (Then it looked like to much so I gave more to DH.) Too much processed food, but since before I started this we were eating out at least 4 or 5 nights a week, this is a big improvement!

I walked twice today--in my hiking shoes. That made a huge difference--they are sturdier and my foot bends less. I can't wait until I get back to really walking--2.5 months off has really undone 3 months of improved agility and strength.

This weekend, I'm going to visit my BFF--my turn to make the trek (she lives about 3.5 hours from me). We're already planning meals and I'm trying to figure out if I can fit Mediterranean food into my meal plan--they have the best Arabic restaurants near her! If not, we'll cook at home and it'll be easy to stay OP.

I'm going to finish planning tomorrow's food--it does work better when I get it all into MFP the night before.

I'm realizing I'm starting to eat too fast again. I'm back to having to consciously think about it at every meal, reminding myself to put my fork down, to not get ready to take the next bite until I'm done with the bite I'm eating. I started re-reading the pink book this morning, too.

What I really need to do is address party eating--I need a workable plan that isn't "put head in sand" (which hasn't worked). I need to start thinking ANYTHING between "I'm going to eat that" and actually eating it. I don't even have a sabotaging thought--I have no thought at all--I just do it. I can undo an entire week's worth of careful eating with one party night. I go to too many parties and events to continue that. I can do it and stay stable--I can't do it and lose.

06-19-2013, 07:16 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Visited my DD to see her new kittens. (I only ate a small piece of the offered carrot cake, CREDIT moi.) The challenge is that I'm not a cat person. Cats seem to know this and immediately jump on my lap to try to convert me. I've been in a room of ten people with two cats on my lap, LOL. The good news is that kittens tend to either sleep or jump about so I was spared.

Exercise for the day was holed up finishing a book for my book club tonight beating on myself for putting it off until the last hours. Song for the Blue Ocean ( by Carl Safina is as depressing a book as I've read. He paints a bleak picture of the health of the ocean as overfished.

onebyone – Yep, Kudos for the exercise of finishing up your garden.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yay for keeping up with the at home exercises.

Beverlyjoy – Love to read that you're feeling flexible enough to work too much in the garden.

maryann - I'm stealing this, "my food plan is not a punishment but a gift to myself."

nationalparker – Welcome back. Ten days of restaurant food could take a while to settle away.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – I always laugh at the combos that "eat from the freezer" produces. Yay for hiking shoes for foot support. LOL at, "put head in sand" for a party strategy.

Rosebud170 – Wondering where you slept in the zoo. Did each girl get to choose which cage to pitch her tent in?

Readers - day 3 Eat Sitting Down

. . . When you think about it now, I'm sure you recognize that all calories add up. But at the moment you're actually eating, you might rationalize what you're doing with the sabotaging thought, It won't really matter if I eat this.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 70.  

06-19-2013, 07:33 AM
Glad things are safe here now!

I have been mostly OP....yesterday I fought off cravings while shopping for ice cream and Starbucks brownies and Five Guys and waited to eat till I got home. But then I ate an unplanned bowl of cereal after my planned lunch. Better choice but still not planned. I know that it was cravings, since I didn't want more soup or a was also hunger as I was satisfied afterwards and stayed on plan the rest of the day.

Am I the only woman here who should be planning for some extra calories at certain times of the month?

06-19-2013, 09:07 AM
Today from Beck Solution via Facebook:

Wednesday Sabotage: I want to have an off track day so I can eat all the foods I can’t while dieting. Response: There’s no food I can eat when I’m off track that I can’t also eat when I’m on track. And, when I plan it and eat it on track, I enjoy what I’m eating more because I don’t feel guilty about it. Guilt tastes bad!

I will post later... off to a performance.

06-19-2013, 09:25 AM
Surfing the "white water" this week--a week too busy with the extras of summer--extra driving my son around the city for 'Vacation This' and 'Vacation That'. All the puppy action. Friends and parties and Dr appointments etc.

Of course, with all the action, my anxiety has vanished!

But totally On Plan and hoping for a loss at Sunday weigh-in.

maryann - This will become a Classic for me! "my food plan is not a punishment but a gift to myself.

Bethfrom Dayton:-I do have strategies. One is to pile on the raw vegetables. The other is to eat ahead at home and stick to coffee. I go for the socializing, not the food and I'm very prone to eating mindlessly while talking! Also, I was on medical leave once for 5 months while my foot healed from a total reconstruction that went bad. Very long recovery and I got to my highest weight that year--I think you're doing great!

BillBE-that's the tough part about book clubs, having to read things you might have preferred not to. On the other hand perhaps it classifies you as diverse and widely read.

sparks I have passed the menopause ordeal and only have to deal with the absence of estrogen now. But those days were extremely difficult for me and mostly led to binging and 'Eatin' Nasty'! Mostly I just had to get back to the plan after the craziness of Hormone Week and mop up the damage.

OK, off to work and the 'Vacation Speed Rally'! Best to all!


06-19-2013, 01:05 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

Yesterday was my final workday of the summer AND I finally submitted my thesis. It had been approved weeks ago but I was dragging my feet on the edits. In the end, no big deal, and I am free. It makes me wonder about all the other things I procrastinate on which would take only a moment to clean up. Truth be told, though, I tend err to the compulsive side. Always cleaning things up, failing to relax and live.

Food OP and weight 1 pound over ticker. I am putting on a big push to lose a pound because I will change my ticker early seeing as I am traveling on the first of the month. DS is enjoying robotics class and has music lessons today. Currently he is burning a few brain cells with a few hours of tv. I think it is good for him to relax and live, too. He works hard for a little guy.

Rosebud: Good Gravy — the evils of a teacher's party. I went through my share last week and have to say I did pretty well. Good Luck and enjoy your summer.

nationalparker: I will be traveling in the next few weeks and really hear you when you talk about eating at restaurants three meals a day. I am planning on only one meal "out" a day. This depends on me finding a a little food market and making a commitment.

bethfromdayton: reading your "part plan" ideas reminding me of a trick I need to re-adopt. I tell myself, "I can eat anything I want for one meal tomorrow if I don't eat the party food." The net seems to be positive.

BBE: What is it about cats loving cat haters? I am a complete dog-o-phile.

Sparks17: Credit for distinguishing craving from hunger. That seems a skill I am doomed to practice and not perfect.

beverleyjoy: "Guilt tastes bad." That is a biggie.

06-19-2013, 03:30 PM
Was closer to plan yesterday than the day before. And am fairly "on" for today as well, despite dentist appt. and mammogram, so I felt I deserved a good lunch and Panera salad fit the bill. AC is out at home, and it's working up to be a steamy hot week, so I hope we can touch base with the repairman asap. No luck so far.

Bill - I ENVY you the time with the kittens. Love kittens and cannot help myself from catching them and smooching them so much I end up with furry lip syndrome as I call it. Also love puppies, but tend to get so gnawed up and scratched up with their puppy teeth and toenails that I don't hang onto their wriggling bodies as much :)

Maryann- Good luck with your travel meals and kudos for planning to have items where you're staying. I did some breakfasts but clearly not enough! Your line yesterday resonated with many of us - thank you again.

06-20-2013, 12:40 AM

I was OP today. It was a busy day. I weighed in and saw 250.2. Good.

I walked the aisles of a home imporvement store today, searching for the material to make the Guild's new outdoor sign. we are making a mosaic border for it using pots that were donated by the puclic and by our members which we are breaking into shards to be attached to the sign in a mosaic-y fashion. I have no "design plan" at the moment, except "make a border, about 2' wide on all sides". it truly should be a bit more than that but I don't know what I am working with yet either. Much to do; not much time to do it (about 10 days). I did learn about concrete backing board today and had several conversations about grout and mortar. Interesting. *credit for doing research.

Foodwise I stuck to my plan until about 3pm but came home famished from the store and the walking so I had popcorn for a snack. Then I had a light dinner (cheese sandwich)to compensate for the unplanned snack. Dinner was super late (8:45pm) so I am glad I had the snack or I would have been tempted to eat 2x the amount at dinner.

Just a busy day today. Going to bed now. I think it's almost summer ... :carrot:

06-20-2013, 06:38 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Made a successful trip to Home Depot because . . . I learned they didn't have what I needed so it was OK to order it on-line. CREDIT moi for getting something done. Life is busy at moment trying to trim down an overflowing to-do list.

Dinner was vegetarian, CREDIT moi, because I don't tend to overeat vegetarian.

onebyone – Doing research at a home improvement store is just the greatest fun there is. Yay for "busy."

Beverlyjoy – LOL at, "Guilt tastes bad!"

maryann - "I am free." "I am free." "I am free." "I am free." "I am free." "I am free." (Just enjoying reading that.)

spanky - Yay for "too busy" as the antidote to anxiety. Kudos for totally On Plan.

nationalparker – Kudos for having your head at a place where a salad is the good lunch you "felt I deserved."

sparks17 – Kudos for figuring out, "I know that it was cravings" - awareness is the first step to finding a solution.

Readers - day 3 Eat Sitting Down

. . . Today, you'll make a commitment to sit down every single time you eat something - even if it's just a bite. Are you thinking, Why do I have to do this? What's the big deal about eating while I'm standing up? Well, here's why you have to adopt a strict rule about sitting down to eat.
. . . You absolutely need to become more conscious of everything you put in your mouth. You need to pay full attention to what you're eating so you don't say to yourself, I'm still hungry ... I want more, when you've finished your allotted food.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 70.  

06-20-2013, 08:57 AM
Good start to the day; AC repair folks called at 6 a.m. that if it worked, they'd be on their way here. YAY. They're coming from a ways away (we called the company who installed it even though they're not local - they are reliable and honest and I'd rather pay a bit more for travel to get someone I trust implicitly). Hoping for a rather inexpensive fix, though. :)

OneByOne - your mosaic project sounds like something I'd LOVE to watch you make. I keep looking at our local continuing ed classes for their next mosaic class and they haven't offered it since I've been looking for it. I want to do sunshines SOMEHOW.

Bill - Good job on the vegetarian meal! Sounds like you're tackling a lot of projects this month - I'm envious. We have the 300 wedge pavers on pallats in our driveway, ready to be installed in our backyard berm ... waiting for me to get moving on it. Now that temps are close to 90 - phooey. I was sweltering doing it when it was only 80 and muggy, ha!

Dinner wasn't the healthiest by any means, but calorically it fit in with my day. Turkey sloppy joes on light wheat rolls, tomato salad, and baked tater tots. Able to stick with one portion on those, so that's a success.

Weight is slowly dropping so at least it's trending in the direction I want to see!

06-20-2013, 10:02 AM

The weather forecast is looking hot humid and rainy. Sunday, the day we are to begin, it says thunder storms. Hmmm. Oh well. That's not today.

And coaches I have no summer clothes. I have lots of tshirts but no bottoms. Yoga pants and jeans. Oh I do have 2 pairs of linen pants. I need capris. I need shorts. I need a colour other than black. I think I'll see what the local second hand store has today.

Foodwise I am aiming to eat clean and simple today. That cheese sandwich was super salty (processed cheese) and my weight showed a 1.8lb rise this morning. The goal is to be 250 or less on official weigh-in day on Friday. I had better step it up. Time to get moving on that goal.

Bye for now

nationalparker Thanks for mentioning the mosaic and your plans cause you ave me an idea to make mosaic weather icons in the corners of the sign! snowflake, raincloud/drops, sun, wind -- or maybe just sun and snow -- or winter fall spring summer--could do that--all season guilds. Hmmm. Or maybe just colours representing that. Thanks for the idea! I'll let you know if the concrete backer board works. Apparently it solves the thaw/freeze/pieces crack and fall off dilemma of creating outdoor mosaics in this northern climate!

06-20-2013, 05:01 PM
Hi.... checking in from the library. Something is wrong with my computer. It won't charge.

Proved another Beckism to myself today. I know I don't have to eat just because I want to..... I had fasting labs today scheduled for a 10 am appointment physical. I fell asleep at 9:30 last night. Had a snack at 9pm. This morning the Doctor was running late. I didn't have my labs drawn until 11:30. I wasn't ever hungry the whole time. (14 hours between eating) So much of that stuff is in my head. I like my new doctor very well.

Hope you are all having a great day.

06-20-2013, 09:44 PM
Good Afternoon, Coaches.

Op yesterday and today. Weight at ticker. I want (with a vengeance) to see the next number down on the ticker. This was foremost in my thinking all day, and, even though I was hungry, I practiced resistance.

Cleaning frenzy in the neglected office. I have not de-junked it since the beginning of my master's program two years ago. I am grateful that I am a 'thrower" and not a "keeper." There have been a few mistake tosses over the years but the bad has been out weighed by the good feeling of space and clean. I read many minimalist blogs like Project 333 and I have really understood that my emotional reaction to any object must not have immediate caveats or negatives. I will not use them EVER if they do. It is better to donate.
Hall linen closet got a spontaneous clean as well, and it now holds exactly three blankets and 3 travel bags.


06-20-2013, 11:41 PM
Hi all,

I'm not even sure today was on plan--breakfast lunch and snack were--dinner was spontaneous--I ate a meal I usually eat at that restaurant, but I usually eat lighter earlier in the day if we're going to eat out.

I've got breakfast, lunch, and snack planned (and packed) for tomorrow, but I'm not sure yet about dinner, since I'll be stopping for dinner on my drive up to my friend's house.

I need to get packed and off to bed, since I'll leave straight from work!

maryann, I'm incredibly impressed by your cleaning out!

G'night all!

06-21-2013, 06:19 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Exercise was a lovely bird walk in the evening, CREDIT moi. Seeing two Orchard Orioles in my area is a treat. I learned what I had to learn with another trip to Home Depot. It's random; sometimes you encounter the guy who's just done what you're trying to do and has some insights.

Food was good enough, CREDIT moi. We're swimming in blueberries and I just love it - I had them for my afternoon snack.

onebyone – Ouch for all the salt in cheese. Good luck finding some summer clothes.

Beverlyjoy – Ain't it so, "So much of that stuff is in my head."

maryann - Shuddering at your successful de-junking. I'm just so jealous. Someday the clutter gene will be identified; I know that I've got it.

nationalparker – Yay for repair men who come when called. Yep, one portion is success.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Have a fun, mindful, visit with your friend. Having a packed plan is a great start.

Readers - day 3 Eat Sitting Down

.........I'm sure you recognize that all
calories add up. But at the moment you're
....actually eating, you might rationalize
...............what you're doing.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 70.  

06-21-2013, 07:28 AM
Another hit and run post....hope to catch up with you all tomorrow!

Early eye dr appt this am so I will be eating an early breakfast. Lunch is out as I have errands to run. I have a meal from Chipotle and one from Panera Bread chosen as they are the two most likely places I will land! Dinner...chicken breasts and whatever fresh veggies look good on my way home! I am planning to leave room for a dessert today - something affordable, appealing and in the right calorie range.

And a great thing yesterday! I stopped at Subway (unplanned as I was out a few hours longer than I had expected) and I ordered a 6" sandwich. Last year I would have ordered a footlong, and the cookies and maybe a bag of chips. But I was satisfied with the smaller sandwich, even though I had had a very busy day with a lot of walking. Credit!

06-21-2013, 08:30 AM
Hi Coaches!

I've enjoyed my 3 days poolside with minimum computer time. It's been good to have a mini break. We travel today and I'll be glad to get back to my food routine and scale. I've contacted my Beck Buddy everyday. credit.

06-21-2013, 11:04 AM
Hi Coaches,
School's out for summer!! We had a wonderful parting ( my students and I) and my classroom is all ready for cleaning and I am ready to hop on a plane to Hawaii on Saturday....a MAJOR cold set in on the last day of school but it is already feeling better.

Credit for: eating OP, exercising (and doing some different forms when opps arise), planning food ahead and sitting down to eat slowly. Dd and I did the family circuit class at the Y yesterday which was really fun for both of us. I also went into the spin room to get oriented to the spin bikes for my bike miles on that Lazyman Triathlon and got some miles on the bike while I was there. Lastly, I tried a morning water aerobics class and the instructor approached before it started and introduced herself adding "I am 81 years old. So you will have a hard time keeping up with me!" Ha! Love that tude!!

06-21-2013, 12:18 PM
Rosebud170: Credit for your exercise adventures. I know exercise has been the true key to my success.

Lexxiss: I am glad you had a nice break. You deserve it.

Sparks17: You reminded me of how much my own eating has changed over the years. I made DS a VERY rare box of Kraft Mac and Cheese. He ate a couple of servings. It was nothing for me to eat a whole box in ten minutes.

bethfromDayton: Safe trip.

BBE: Your Home Depot is my clothing store. I can spend hours and need much advice. (Yours is probably a lot more practical however.)

As for me, OP yesterday and step class this morning. The cleaning continues as DS and I work through the cleaning calendar I found online. Baseboards and bathrooms today.

Cute Story: I don't have the clutter jean but DS becomes attach to his things. I gave him a shoebox to fill with toys to donate and a brown bag to fill with books to go. After an hour, neither was more than a quarter full. The next day I gave him the same job. He groaned and looked sad. I told him my job was to clean the toilets. We could switch. He said, YES! So I taught him to clean toilets and I went through some of his stuff. Not many other kids would have made the switch.

When he was three he saw a Berenstein Bears about a garage sale, asked me with horror what that meant, and made me promise to never have one.

Best to all.

06-21-2013, 11:23 PM

*credit* for walking down several trails today as I document local parkettes. There are 34 parkettes here where I live. I have never lived anywhere where there was a parkette. I have been curious about them since I moved here 2 years ago and I am finally going to visit all of them over the summer and do an art project around them. It's a ME thing. Part of trying to do self-care and putting my needs and myself first and not waiting to start things. I visited 4 of the 34. Ended up walkin 2.6km cause I went the wrong way at one. Then had to go back. Then decided their map was very vague--which seems to be the theme with this. Interesting. Food was OP except for an evening ice cream treat which was not planned. DH sprung it on me and I did not resist. Alas. I did 100% enjoy it though.

Market for me tomorrow. Could be hot hazy and humid with thundershowers. Not matter. Looking forward to it all. Have a great *summer* evening...

06-22-2013, 12:06 AM
Hi all,

Today was an OP day. I hadn't figured dinner out in advance because I was driving to BFF's house. Well, I stopped at Subway and had a very reasonable sandwich. Several other options went through my head, but they were all places at which I hadn't ordered and eaten successfully. I knew I could be (and was!) successful at Subway.

The podiatrist says I should keep walking and if my hiking shoes provide more support for my foot, then go ahead and wear them for a while.

Food with BFF is easy--we talked about it before I came up and she shopped with my food plans in mind. Food wise, it'll be as easy as being at home--but with a helper!

Take care, all.

06-22-2013, 06:38 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Worked with DW for a long time replacing an over the stove vent. Ouch for how badly contractors can install something decades ago causing great pain when it's time to replace it. The old one was held up by 3 inch dry wall screws set at an angle to go searching for a stud. CREDIT moi for hanging in there to get it right so that the next one won't have that problem.

Walking, CREDIT moi, was to the market to get a chicken since we were too tired to make dinner. After cutting it up, I then indulged in picking at the carcass - a childhood treat that I love more than the chicken itself. Nevertheless, I'm moved by today's quote to remind myself that eating while standing is a slippery slope. Fridge currently contains way too many blueberries, strawberries, and sugar snaps - I'm in heaven.

onebyone – Your parkette project sounds neat - I've never heard that word before.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yay for time away from the computer, he typed self-consciously.

maryann - I have a relative who built a barn so that he never had to throw anything away. Then be built a second. He's now filling his third. I identify with your DS, LOL.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Kudos for talking to your BFF before the trip started.

Rosebud170 – Love your 81 year old with 'tude!!'

sparks17 – Shifting to a 6" sandwich from the foot long one is a great step forward.

Readers - day 3 Eat Sitting Down

....Most of the eating that people do while on thier feet is impulse eating, not food that they had planned to eat. When you sit down to eat, especially at your dining table, you've made a conscious decision to eat. You know these calories count, and you can more easily monitor what you eat - and, thus, avoid overeating. In essence, you're telling yourself, I'm sitting down, having a proper meal (or snack), and I'm eating what I'm supposed to be eating. When you impulsively eat standing up, you're telling yourself that it's okay to give in to this urge to eat, that it doesn't really matter, and that there won't be any consequences. But there will be consequences because every bite of food you put in your mouth has calories. Even if you're only eating raw carrots while you're standing up today, you might be eating chocolate while you're standing up tomorrow.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pgs 70-71.  

06-22-2013, 01:05 PM
It is really a lovely day here in NY! I am hoping to get in a long walk after I get all my stuff done. One of the things on my list was going through some of the clothing I have in storage. I was a pleasure to try on some things that have not fit me for a few years and have them fit!!! Great motivation to sticking to plan. Yesterday's treat was froyo, again. This time I thought carefully before I started filling my cup, and it was about half the size it was last time - credit!

I am sort of hovering on Day 27 as the Seven Questions are kind of a lot to think of all at once. I am not in a hurry, though eventually the library is going to stop letting me renew this book! I still have the green book but I find myself not wanting to read it till I am done with the pink one...but I want to get it done so I can see which one I want to buy!!

lexxiss - your time at the pool sounds wonderful!

rosebud - your Y is amazing! I have thought of joining one...but the trip to the closest one is 2 buses and I just know that I will not go often enough to justify the expense.

maryann - your son is a panic! My kids had to learn from a young age that there is just no way to keep everything - 4 kids in an apartment means everyone, even Mom and Dad, has to be flexible!

onebyone - is a parkette a little park? how little is little??

Beth - your BFF is a keeper!

Bill - LOL - there can never be too many berries!!

06-23-2013, 03:21 AM
Hi Coaches!

I had a good day at work but did not even find time to eat my planned eggs and toast only having 1/2 bage.. I got home at 330pm again proving to myself that hunger is not an emergency. Still not hungry I decided to enjoy my scrambled eggs at home adding veggies and low carb tortilla. credit. I am grateful for the daily willingness to plan my meals AND the flexibility of being able to make a legitimate change in my meal plan, as Dr. Beck discusses in the green book. Sunday was a day off but I've agreed to fill in for a coworker. The $$ will come in handy when we pick up DD's car on Tuesday.

BBE, yay for completing that hood repair. Those 3" screws are really grippers. Have you ever tried picking at the chicken sitting down? I don't think standing up is a requirement lol

sparks, I hovered on the 7 questions, too. Lots of information and so helpful.

maryann, I'm back to eating from the freezer for this month prior to the big wedding. Saving $$ and decluttering, too.

Beth(fromDayton), yay for a reasonable sandwich atSubway! So nice your BFF plans food with your plan in mind.

Rosebud, I smile at the thought of an 81 year old water instructor AND recovering from a cold on a Hawaiian beach.

onebyone, yay for exercise and parkettes!

06-23-2013, 06:54 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Look up tonight to see the supermoon - when the full moon is closest to the earth in its orbit (perilune) and thus appears larger. Good things will happen. Dinner was leftover Thai chicken - left by a friend, visiting from a distance away, who brought it over for her own lunch then forgot it. So it was leftover from a meal I hadn't eaten. Felt weird, but it was good chicken. I ignored most of the rice, CREDIT moi.

Finished the installation of the vent hood after the glue dried overnight from DW's clever wood reinforcements of the cabinet to allow proper installation. Then, because I was tired of taking so long on a quick job, I was using a pair of priers on an awkwardly placed screw which slipped; I jerked my hand across sharp metal which removed a sliver of skin. Ouch - literally.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yay for Hunger is Not an Emergency to help with a busy schedule. [I]never[/U] in my life picked at a chicken sitting down. It's not done, LOL.]

sparks17 – Thinking carefully before filling your froyo cup is a super Beck strategy - Kudos. Yay for clothes shopping from your own closet. The Seven Questions Technique was difficult for me, but I finally got it done. It doesn't appear in the Green Book. FWIW, my city library is persnickety about only two renewals, but you can check it out again after returning it.

Readers - day 3 Eat Sitting Down

....You'll feel more satisfied. Since you'll be eating less food, it's important to see all of it spread in front of you at meal or snack time so you can be more visually satisfied. The less food you see, the more deprived you'll feel.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 71.  

06-23-2013, 11:35 AM
Hi all,

I'm still at BFF's house (I'll leave in the early afternoon.) I got up this morning and yesterday morning and took half hour walks--yay for me!

We made an incredible mid-afternoon lunch yesterday--she made the fruit salad and the grilled chicken (which she had marinated for a few hours and was [b]fantastic[b]--moist and flavorful, and I made the stuffing and the veggies. It was a beautiful meal--all sorts of colors on the plates. I measured my food out carefully--and then didn't eat it all--even left uneaten fruit salad because I recognized I was full!

For a late dinner, we had lovely large salads with grilled chicken in it.

So, it was a totally OP day and the food was delicious and healthy.

I'm really proud of myself for talking walks both mornings. I'd forgotten headphones for my music so borrowed some from her. During the day, we did serious decluttering to her office--we made incredible progress on a disaster zone :-). I just wish we didn't live so far apart! Oh well. And I'll see her next month--she's coming down to stay with us for a week to take care of DD the younger after her jaw surgery. (while I go to work)

We have a nice egg breakfast (with lots of fruit) planned, we'll do a bit of cleaning up the mess generated by decluttering and then I'll head home.

It's about a 3.5 hour drive--I'm going to stop at an antique mall just off the highway on the way home. I'm not really an 'antique' person but I've found some lovely bowls for my kitchen at antique malls. I may try to find something old and useless for DH--he likes those :-) and tomorrow is our anniversary.

Have a great Beck day, all!

06-24-2013, 05:48 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Did OK at a potluck lunch, CREDIT moi, since I had brought a tasty white bean and tomato salad. I did less well at an open house where standing was the only option and food just kept coming. I did avoid candy, soda and some other empty calories.

Heroics was rescuing my DD's car with a can of brake fluid. I did learn that loss of brake fluid doesn't imply a leak; it implies that disc brakes are wearing down and probably need replacing soon.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Happy Anniversary! May you have many, many more. You're so lucky that your BFF is so compatible with your eating style. Kudos for staying your path instead of using the visit as an excuse to wander. Hope you find some desirable antique on your way home..

Readers - day 3 Eat Sitting Down

....Let's say you're having cereal and an orange for breakfast. If you eat the cereal standing up, you'll probably eat it too quickly or absentmindedly. And then when you sit down, you'll have only the orange left, and you probably won't feel satisfied.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 71.  

06-24-2013, 09:12 AM
Hi Coaches!

A quick check in...I'm off to work and am determined to get my 15 minutes of "prework" exercies in. credit. I've weighed and have a plan for today. The rest is simple....just follow my plan. My weekend was good...OP....lots of exercise at work and lots of $$ which will come in handy when we go to pick up DD's car today or tomorrow. A simple NSV I noticed yesterday...I go up and down the stairs so many times....reading glasses upstairs...take the dishes down bring dinner up take the dog out....I DO still remember how difficult just once was, especially the UP. I actually thought yesterday I wonder how many times I'd do it if I strapped 90# on myself everytime. Sometimes as I work so hard at my very small steps of progress I will forget just how far I've come. I will credit myself for persistence this morning ALA Beck.

BBE, kudos for a stellar food function and thx for automotive tips.

Beth(from Dayton), yay for such a well thought out and successful weekend and Happy Anniversary!

OK, better exercise!

06-24-2013, 10:28 AM
Good morning! I had a good weekend and am looking forward to a good week, foodwise. It is truly summer now - very muggy - and I just don't FEEL like exercising. :o So I joined Fitocracy for a little extra motivation. It will take me forever to get very high in points but I have been consistent and I am looking forward to seeing where I am at the end of the summer!

Happy Anniversary Beth!!

Lexxiss - Credit to you for your long term consistency and hard work!! :carrot:

06-24-2013, 12:43 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

Getting excited and a little anxious over my trip to Vermont and Boston. I will be trying to vacation with DH and DS and finish up two or three days of school with school chums at the same time. I also have to put together a ten minute formal reading of my thesis. Tough to select small parts of short stories which are meaningful and make sense yet don't go over time limit. My goal is to relax and enjoy the process but that certainly won't happen perfectly.

Grateful that both DS and DH are kind of laid back dudes on vacation who are happy to spend many hours in the hotel pool. Cerainly the Ben and Jerry's tour will be a highlight.

Food has been mostly OP. Fast Days are Monday and Tuesday so food is planned and easy. Pilates this morning and then a serious check off list before I fly off across the country.

Lexxiss: It is very satisfying to freezer cook until I can see the bottom of the freezer. The meals are still tasty and get very creative. I bet I can still go another two weeks when I get back if I just shop for fruits/=veggies and milk.

BethfromDayton: I have friends to which I have to travel. It is so great seeing them, I wonder how I let so much time go by.

BBE: You reminded me of DH's mostly unheralded heroics like putting salt in the water softener and fixing frozen plumbing up at the cabin. I need to remember them when I get cranky being stuck with the kitchen duties.

Sparks: I am fascinated with New York and the small spaces home shows (House Hunters, etc. . . .) that show beautiful, economical spaces that we here in expansive western suburbia can't imagine. I would love to live in an apartment in the big city at sometime in my life.

06-24-2013, 11:15 PM
Hi all,

Today's been a good food day, but I still need to enter dinner into MFP. I probably ate a bit more than I intended (dinner out for our anniversary). However, we split a meal--and I still ended up full, eating only half the salad, some bread (probably too much bread), 1/2 potato, and about 1/4 of the steak. I did enjoy a glass of wine with dinner, deciding I wanted wine more than dessert.

They offered us a free desert (bananas foster cheesecake) since there had been a mistake made in the kitchen (made something 'for here' when it was supposed to be 'to go'), but we declined--I was full. Major credit for that!

Oh--and the flowers at my desk smell wonderful!

06-25-2013, 06:27 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Walked, CREDIT moi, in the early evening as a rain storm brewed. Just magic. Made it home in time before the rain started falling, but I was a little sad that I didn't get wet. Was shocked when I bumped into friends. My walks are private - what were they doing out on the street, LOL.

Food was 100%, CREDIT moi, mostly because I'm working on my stash of too many blueberries and too many strawberries. I blushed as I typed the Beck quote below since taking FREE samples at warehouse stores is one of my challenges.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Oh Yes, "credit myself for persistence" - you've come a long way. Good luck ransoming your DD's car today.

maryann - I can imagine that it's difficult to extract part of a short story. Good luck with your check off list.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Monster Kudos for turning down a FREE dessert. Yep, "Major credit."

sparks17 – Kudos for "I have been consistent" - apparently the theme for today.

Readers - day 3 Eat Sitting Down

....Here's another example: You're at a warehouse grocery store and try several of the free samples of food, which you eat while you're wandering around. Now you go home for dinner. You can eat only half of what your diet prescribes because of the calories you consumed at the store.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 71.  

06-25-2013, 08:13 AM
Good morning!! I had an unexpected treat last night...but I was very low on calories as I had not been very hungry during the day - sooo muggy! I was considering having more dinner but my husband suggested gelato while we were out walking in the evening. I got a small even though I wanted a large, and I did not have extra dinner anyway when I got home, so some credit there. In the end, I was only at about 1,600, the lowest end of my planned calories.

OK, help me think this through. My larger plan is to stay within 1,600 and 2,000 calories per day and to check my average every weekend. Plus I have an exercise plan and I evaluate how I did every weekend. I also plan my food options for the week on Friday nights when I make my shopping list. And I make a daily plan, as far as I can, every morning. So, on a day like yesterday, when I ate a smaller breakfast and lunch than I had planned becasue I was just too hot to be very hungry, and then ate my planned dinner, and I exercised twice as planned, but I then topped off my calories with an unexpected far off plan was I really?

I am not a plan-ahead kind of person so I was worried when I started Beck that I would not be able to succeed. I do feel good with my level of consistency over the past few months...and I am down another three pounds over the past 2.5 weeks. But I know that I am not really at a "Beck level" of planning and maybe I should step it up if I want to be successful for the long haul...just thinking out loud, I guess!

Bill - so you own the streets, do you! lol

Beth - the smell of flowers is as satisfying as dessert, I think!

Maryann - well, I have always wanted to try suburban living! The thought of my own washer/dryer and a yard and a basement is pretty heady, let me tell you! Actually, there are plenty of neighborhoods in Brooklyn where I can have those things, but we live in an apartment (we actually own it - it is a co-op) so we can afford for me to stay home and homeschool. Everything in life is a trade-off, I think.

06-25-2013, 09:11 AM
Wow Coaches, hello!

Things have truly ramped up here for me and my weight climbed overnight. 254. It's within that 5lb cushion I have.

So this is what I need to examine about my faulty (sabotaging?) thinking. My weight goes up and over that 250 mark. I feel anxious, a little panicky, I do what I need to do, ie. re-focus and keep that up until I see 250 again. Once I do, I feel a huge wave of relief and I relax and I am just so thrilled to be "back at 250" I don't even consider being BELOW 250. I honestly don't. It's like those numbers, for me, well they don't exist. I don't know why this is, why I think this, why I think 250 is "good enough"? Do I need some Dr. or my body to do something bad to clue me in that I need to lose more?

Anyway I am pretty sure this is the thinking pattern that is keeping me stuck at 250. Can you guys suggest any response cards to counter this? Specifically the relief I feel at seeing 250 which allows me to take the pressure/vigilance off my foodplan cause I simply need to eat a bit less and to eliminate some foods from my diet once more to get the scale moving. I'm certainly doing the activity these days.

Must go--! Bye!

06-25-2013, 09:35 AM
I'm right there with you OneByOne - my weight went up five pounds in three days after it was going back close to ticker level after the trip. A three-day span of working hard in the yard, eating too much because I 1) was ravenous, 2) felt I "deserved it" because i'd worked so hard in 90+degrees with 97% humidity and 3) figured I'd burned a HECK of a lot of calories, so ... have at it. CLEARLY, disordered thinking and lack of proper planning. I feel like I'm a failure for gaining weight.

How about this - can you, when aiming back at 250, not weigh for two weeks or whatever range of time you feel will get you UNDER 250? Then set your goal, not at 250 or vaguely "under" 250, but set it at 246. Then it's not all the way to 245, but fairly distant from 250. :) Get the next goal in mind and SHOOT for it! I'm going to take my own advice. Now I'm aiming to get back to where I was on my ticker, but I have to get down to 170 first!! ack.

Now have a 15 pound turkey finally thawed in the fridge ... (DH's company gift at xmas) ... I don't get home until 6 to begin prepping it. He didn't cook it on his day off yesterday. So either we eat full dinner at what - 10 p.m., which is not gonna happen, or we do something else and still roast the turkey for future meals. I needed the freezer space for other stuff including a bag of ice, which I am sure sounds silly. DH starts working nights tomorrow night, so no mealtime together until Sunday night and we take his folks out to celebrate their anniversary that night.

Landscaping has been going full force, except for yesterday evening - finished up the mowing and it kinda selfishly put me in a cranky mood. I did 9/10 of the yard and left ONE area hoping DH would do it. I've mowed the yard, which is sizable for a push mower, the last three or four times now. I was hoping he'd say, let me finish this up for us. Nope. But he does other things, but I just hate that one section. I asked him to do it finally on Sunday, and he laughed and said, oh you left that for me huh? Which grated on my nerves. I wanted to be a snit and say I've done it the last several times but kept my trap shut. Finally last night when I knew he wouldn't do it, just DID it. Then he said oh i'll help you, want me to do that? Some days I just don't take things right. I think this week I'll enjoy my time alone in the evenings.

I stopped at the library yesterday on the way home and picked up several books, a few of which were on hold and others captured my attention by their covers. I completely judge a book by its cover. I know, I know :) Then I wanted to ask one of my librarians for a note to take home, saying that I need to read an hour a night. Wonder if they do that, ha ha.

Rambly check in. Will get caught up and post a normal note tomorrow. Aiming for on plan today. Even if my plan isn't superb.

06-25-2013, 09:37 AM
From Beck Solution via Facebook:

Tuesday Reality Check: If you’re in a bad mood and think, “I don’t care, I’m just going to eat,” remind yourself that overeating will only ultimately cause you to feel even worse because you’ll compound the situation by adding feeling guilty and badly about your eating. Ask yourself, “Do I want one cause of my bad mood, or two?”

This is such a good reminder for me today.

06-25-2013, 12:37 PM
Good morning, Coaches.

Booked our lunch cruise of Lake Champlain in Vermont for Thursday. Hope the thunderstorms and mugginess decide to take a vacation. We west coasters have rather high weather expectations. Also planning on visiting the Shelburne museum which I guess is terrific. I am anxious to see the quilts but I suspect my time will be brief as DS and DH would rather see the grass grow than study textiles.

Yesterday was OP until after dinner. I could not close the kitchen. Still weight is at ticker and hopefully slides a little further before I leave. Credit for food planned in my fit. Barefoot Contessa's tomato soup is already made in the frig for dinner.

onebyone and nationalparker: I completely agree the psychology of numbers is baffling. I was steady at 155 last year but now I keep retreating to 160, lose some and then relax back up. I have to remember that the secrets to my success before were Beck's simplest skills - sitting down while I ate and planning/ cooking my food in advanced. When I ignore those, I plateau. Food plan changes mid day NEVER workout for me.

06-25-2013, 11:21 PM
Hi all,

I'm starting my organizing for our vacation--including the 4 day party. I'd started a post about it: Controlling myself at parties (

I also started create a response card for myself:

Control myself at parties
• Having a treat can’t mean eating treats non-stop
• One plate of treats per evening—that’s all I need or want
• I will feel better if I eat less
• I can’t reach the weight goals I want to reach if I don’t control myself in the Hospitality Suite
• I stopped eating sweets at work. I can stop overeating at parties.
• I control what I eat—and I choose to eat one time and then stop

Today was a good food day and a good exercise day. The negative is that I wasn't feeling well this afternoon so skipped my afternoon snack. However, tonight's dinner wasn't very protein rich, so I added on a piece of cheese after dinner to up my protein. I was still hungry (skipping my afternoon snack is not a good idea for me), so told myself I could have a snack later in the evening if I still wanted it. I did, only in terms of wanting to eat, but not in terms of being hungry, so I didn't have one.

If anyone has any bullets to add to my response card about overeating at parties--about not binging at parties, since that's all I can call it, please weigh in on that thread or here.

Take care, all!

06-26-2013, 06:29 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Got a good sweat walking to the gym, LOL. It was a muggy day, but loved the sunshine. My walk included stopping by an upscale grocery store just to see what was new. Unfortunately, a FREE blueberry coffee cake sample popped into my mouth - Ouch. But, I counted it as afternoon snack leaving only unplanned and eating-while-standing as issues. CREDIT moi for sweating whether in the gym or out.

Food was on plan, CREDIT moi. I continue to pop blueberries like an addictive substance. I've added our garden fresh sugar snaps to my snack and meals. It was too hot to cook so dinner on the patio consisted of cold left overs which felt just right.

onebyone – Perhaps a Response Card that doesn't kick in until your goal of 241.5 pounds. Maybe a desired item of clothing. Or perhaps a reward that you particularly desire. It does seem like a good idea to seek some Response Cards to help.

Beverlyjoy – Thanks for, “Do I want one cause of my bad mood, or two?” I so forget that.

maryann - hmmmm . . . "high weather expectations" in New England might be a problem, LOL. Perhaps, high weather better describes climate here. Kinda hard for me to believe that there's actually a museum full of quilts. Kudos for weight that remains at ticker.

nationalparker – Love, love the notion of getting a prescription from your librarian. Perhaps Joy (gardenerjoy) can write you one since she's card-carrying, certified. Kudos for recognizing that the lawn mowing is causing resentment so that you can figure out a solution.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – I particularly like, "Having a treat can’t mean eating treats non-stop" - it's a challenge for me to avoid the slippery slope of non-stop nibbling.

sparks17 – Well put, "Everything in life is a trade-off, I think." Maybe so for your planning. If you've found a level that you can follow that allows you to turn down stuff off-plan, maybe you're at your right level. The final parts of Beck's Pink Book talks about planning during maintenance. You might be at that level. And Congrats on those three pounds gone forever.

Readers - day 3 Eat Sitting Down

.....Since you'll be eating less food,
it's important for you to see all of it spread front of you at meal or snack time you can be more visually satisfied.
Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 71.  

06-26-2013, 08:54 AM
onebyone - I second nationalparker's advice - consciously setting a goal under 250 sounds like it will work!

nationalparker -There is this book that you may find helpful and they probably have it at the library - It's Not You, It's the Dishes (originally published as Spousonomics) ( I thought it was great!

Beverlyjoy - I follow Beck on FB too - it is always a little burst of encouragement!

maryann - I looked up that museum and I don't know which seems more wonderful - the collection or the buildings!! I hope that you can find something to keep your menfolk occupied so you can really enjoy your visit!

Beth - I am copying your response card! I don't go to that many parties, but I always always overeat at them...:o

Bill - Garden fresh sugarsnaps - oh my. You have me thinking...this coming Saturday is he last morning of soccer so I will be free for the next few months on Saturday mornings....I want to plan to hit a farmer's market asap!

I ate too little yesterday and I was SOOO HUNGRY at around 10 pm. But I sucked it up and planned a big delicious breakfast for this morning. It was very very very hard not to have seconds. But I told myself that I could have more of the same for lunch, if I wanted it, which really helped. There was a post about this on the Beck FB page last week -

Sometimes, when eating something they really like, dieters get into what we call the “Last Meal Mentality,” where they think they need to eat as much of it as they can right then. It’s important to remember that it’s not your last meal, and if it’s something you like, you can ALWAYS have it again.

I am planning to do some card-making this afternoon, and that is going to be one of them!!

06-26-2013, 10:20 AM
Hello! This week seems to be slowly moving along, and I'm excited for the weekend (only to get more things done that I want to in the yard/house, nothing thrilling planned). A very small playhouse about 40 minutes from me is presenting Hallelujah Girls and I'd like to go see that on Friday night. DH is working. I'll see if I can swing that - it's community theatre, which I do enjoy for little more than the cost of a movie ticket, and it supports efforts locally.

DH did great on a test for accreditation at his work, so I suggested we go celebrate at one of his favorite spots - Texas Roadhouse. I ate my salad and baked potato and brought the entree (roasted chicken) home. Then started prepping the turkey to get it baking and it finished up at midnight. So, while he's working nights now, we'll have ample options for meals and sandwiches and salads. And I now have freezer space for ice in the dead of summer :)

I'm struggling lately. I want to keep eating, not for pleasure, it doesn't even have to taste good ... with just wanting something about it - the comfort? The familiarity? I looked back to see when I really started getting off track (early May) and that completely coincides with stress at work in turnover of higher-ups and what that means for everyone else. My direct boss is retiring and new one was just selected and that's a new stressful situation. Now I'm coming home from work and greeting pets and opening the fridge in one motion. Activity other than yardwork and housework has been nil. I want to add in more relaxing reading and get restarted with yoga. I want to get out walking my dog when it's cool (early or late) more. I'm going to journal tonight, pull out the Beck book. I think I need to visually see what I "want" to do and figure out what I'm doing instead of that. We don't turn the tv on and sit and watch tv in the evenings - that's not the time suck. I need to figure this out. I feel like I'm just floating along and not digging in and stopping myself and making the changes I want to see. Or the changes I SAY I want to see!

Suggestions? I'm struggling with the fact that when I AM successful, I open my dang big mouth and say to DH that I've dropped 10, 12, whatever pounds. Then he says he loves me as I am and stop worrying about it. He's gaining weight solidly this year, as well, and he said he worried that I was judging him as strongly as I judge myself. No, that's not the case, but I do know we'd both be more comfortable with 20 pounds off. I do NOT want to face diabetes and it's prevlent in my family. That is a concern, but it's also vanity - I don't like walking into a meeting room and being the heaviest woman in there. I want to wear clothes I have that don't fit. I want the sexy lingerie, etc. The connection between the wants and me following through and doing what I know I need to do to GET there is not firing. Thanks for plodding through this, if any brave souls did :) I'm sorry. I had to come clean and will make today the best I can make it, plan and follow-through-wise.

06-26-2013, 12:09 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

A very exciting day. I changed my ticker down another pound. Whoooop! I usually change it on the first of each month but I will be traveling till the 5th of July. So today is the day. Mond and Tuesday are my 700 calorie days. I practiced a LOT of resistance and ended the day with a big bowl of Romaine lettuce, chickpeas and 1 T. Ceasar dressing. The old me kept trying to say "that is not enough. You'll damage yourself." The truth is I do far more damage NOT eating a big bowl of greens. My diet book Eat to Live is very insistent on the fact we overeat because we are nutritionally bankrupt. There was many a day on Weight Watchers when I ate four Skinny Cow ice cream sandwiches instead of lunch and dinner. My mind never warned me "you can't eat that, you'll damage yourself!" Hmmm. Suspicious.

Credit for overriding my insidious food addiction and feeling really healthy this morning. Food is planned -- a healthy 1600 calories. Pilates is planned. DS is going to the barber for the big flight tonight.

nationalparker: Credit for the insight into how your routine has changed. It is so true that once I let exercise slide, my world starts to spiral. Weight loss, as much as I hate to admit it, is simply cause and effect not magic. But I want it to be magic because then I don't have to take responsibility for it and maybe I will wake up one day thin. This journey is so tough.

Bethfromdayton: I like your party strategies. I really want to know how you do. Parties are my NUMBER ONE resistance buster. I have had one breakthrough understanding. I am uncomfortable around a lot of people. I start "performing" then I get really hungry because I am not being true to myself.

BBE: Yey for cold dinners being completely enough.

Sparks: I tried the same resistance technique yesterday. I told myself that I would have a nice big breakfast in the morning. Then I looked at the clock and pondered how long it would take my craving to go away; it was not more than an hour.

06-26-2013, 01:54 PM
Hi Coaches!
I was up really early this morning but have filled every minute so far. I think Kirk and I both had our first cup of coffee at 2:30 am then made a plan for these next few days. I have a coworker who is leaving tomorrow to take her mother-in-law to a cancer treatment center in Phoenix. I'm going to need to fill in on Sunday and next Wednesday-5 days in a row...then right into 4th of July weekend. My boss doesn't have a plan yet for that. There is a very small possibility that my coworker will come back. I think those chances are pretty slim though.

So I'm sitting outside my moms eye treatment center in East Denver and Kirk went all the way over the hill to our other house in Glenwood Springs he'll be poolside by himself this week. That works okay for me actually I'm going to have a few relaxing days by myself and work on wedding flowers as we got Kirks daughters car back to her last evening.
I've been staying on plan and getting in my extra at home exercise in addition to work. Credit.
This iPhone has sure been handy. it's allowed me to check in from places that I never used to be able to before.

06-27-2013, 08:58 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Eating was on plan, CREDIT moi, including mounds of blueberries for snacks. Lunch was late because we . . . finally . . . bought a new car for DW. The one she's driving is 14 years old so it's not like she's over doing it. Dealing with car dealers is one of life's most unpleasant chores. It's not just the shading of the facts, but the constant stream of chatter to 'bond' that tires the whole brain. But I didn't eat about it, so CREDIT moi again.

My walk, CREDIT moi, included stopping at the magic ATM for cash. Around here, gasoline costs about five cents per gallon less for cash and filling up the car takes a wad of it. And a stop at the store that creates cut-to-size window shades to pick up a pair we'd ordered to replace two that were frayed beyond acceptability. For some reason, no window in our house fits the inexpensive ones from Home Depot.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yay for success with your DD's car. Hope you can continue to keep your path despite the extra busy.

maryann - Interesting thought that "we overeat because we are nutritionally bankrupt." I have noticed that the food that just slides down is the processed stuff with no nutrition.

nationalparker – LOL at the cascaded events of roasting a turkey so you can have summer ice. I recently enjoyed a community theater production that would be declared mediocre except that I knew the actors and roared laughing at all the local humor - so I loved it. Ouch for the marital dynamics. It is hard to talk about weight loss and not have our SO feel judged. Kudos for working on the communication about this.

sparks17 – Kudos for tolerating "SOOO HUNGRY" without falling into the “Last Meal Mentality.”

Readers - day 3 Eat Sitting Down

....When you eat standing up, you might feel physically as full as if you had eaten sitting down, but you don't feel as psychologically satisfied. Tasting, chewing, and swallowing food gives you a certain degree of satisfaction, but you also need visual satisfaction. You have to make the most of every bite.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 71.  

06-27-2013, 09:28 AM
maryann - There was many a day on Weight Watchers when I ate four Skinny Cow ice cream sandwiches instead of lunch and dinner. My mind never warned me "you can't eat that, you'll damage yourself!" Oh, I can relate to this! I find that it is a struggle to pay attention to both the quantity and quality of my food...When I ate low-carb, I often overate. When I was on WW, I often ate junk that fit in to my points range. Now I am trying to plan for difficult! And it is true that eaing too little is a warning sign to some part of me that does not notice when I am eating too much!!

lexxiss - what kind of work do you do? Obviously, one person being out makes a big difference!

Bill - we only have one car and I don't drive it - I don't even have my license. If I did...well, I would be a lot bigger, as I would not walk as much as I do!

nationalparker - How was the turkey?

I did not do as well yesterday...sigh. My daughter made a no-bake cheesecake with fruit on top. I had an unplanned piece and then I was like a carb addict. Not that I had more of the cake, but I overdid the carbs at dinner and ate so much that I felt too full. Not as much as I used to, but more than I am comfortable with now! I think I need to start memorizing a few of the biggest sabotaging thoughts so they will be RIGHT THERE in my head, kwim?

Today we are going to see the new Monsters Inc movie and probably stopping for fast food on the way home. Plan is...I have no plan that I like yet. Eat there but plan ahead and restrain myself is the best one but I wish it were easier!!!

06-27-2013, 10:03 AM
In a better frame of mind this morning. I think the evening to just "be" alone was helpful. I say alone -with a needy dog and three cats that cannot be together at the same time, so attention is spread out and in different areas of the home. Came home and wanted to EAT ... ended up using up the last third of a chinese dinner that was 90% veggies and felt good about it - saving it from the trash and getting in the vegs, but also added in some of the small sweet potato casserole I made to go along with the turkey. It used two sweet potatoes and I hope we'll get about 8 smallish servings from it. Today I try the turkey :) brought a sandwich for lunch. Challenge today at work will be the reception for my boss who is retiring - reception with cake and cookies.

Hauled out my long-lost journal last night - one I really like - but never take the time to journal. I wrote down my thoughts and what I want to bring back into my life, what I need to choose to make time for, etc., and it was time well-spent.

I checked out the book that you recommended, Sparks17, and spent an hour reading it last night and it's helpful to look at chores/errands that way and not 50-50. Lately I've been trying to really SEE what the other things are that are getting done and to see my messes as well (not hard to do) :) ... Also - we went to see Monsters University on the weekend and I thought it was so clever. I'd not seen a Disney movie in decades and didn't know there was another earlier one, etc. But I liked the creatitivity in the college campus.

Maryann - Congrats on moving your ticker DOWN and early!! Kudos!! Can I ask you when you started at 173? I'm feeling like I'm "stuck" in the lower 170s due to my poor choices and seeing how you're doing is very inspirational as you're on the track I want to be on.

Bill - Have you seen The Kings of Summer? I would like your opinion if you have... With DH working nights, though, we might have to hit the 9:40 showing one night and i'll be wiped out the next morning. I tend to miss many movies that I think look good, and then forget about them when they're out on DVD. I wanted to see The Angels' Share and missed that... I want to see Before Midnight for the scenery of Greece, too. I need to use that as a reward!

Lexxiss - Sounds like you have a Busy summer with a capital B on both the work and personal front. Enjoy your time to relax!

Beth - Enjoy your time with friends and family! Your plan sounds like a great one, you are planning to succeed! Maybe look at a "before" picture of yourself that you might not particularly care for and bring it in your purse to see how far your wise choices and limiting the extra calories have brought you.

06-27-2013, 11:10 PM
Hi all,

Food and exercise were OP today--credit. Now that I'm exercising again, I even could consider bringing ice cream treats back in the house, but I'll wait a while longer before I do.

We're leaving for our vacation on Saturday and I'm going crazy trying to get everything ready. I'm bringing my computer, but not a printer, and so I need to have all the printed stuff for the hospitality suite ready before I go. I'm feeling a bit frazzled--and wishing I hadn't told DD I'd go with her to a play tomorrow night!

Oh well--DS says sleep is for the weak and sickly--I can't say I agree, but fortunately, I can sleep on the plane Saturday (I hope).

I'm going to print out a new set of response cards tomorrow and bring them with me. They're all on my phone, but I think it'll help me to have a few scattered around the prep area of the Hospitality Suite!

I think I'll be okay on the pre-Hospitality Suite travel days, even though we'll be eating out every meal. My family will be okay with staying away from buffets (which I have so much trouble with), and DD the younger is really good about gently reminding me when I order about what I said I was going to do. I may eat breakfast 3 meals a day--I'm really good about staying OP for breakfast meals! :dizzy:

There won't be any home baked goodies at this event, so I know that everything we serve I'll be able to eat again some other time--there won't be any "this time only" items in the Hospitality Suite.

I've also planned some healthy and not-snacky options--lots of veggies, hummus as well as sour cream dip, a fruit bowl, cheese, crackers, and summer sausage. There will be chips and candy--but I can and will limit myself.

I'll have my computer as well as my phone, so I'll probably check in here every day--I think it'll keep me on track better to know that I'm reporting how I did every day, and knowing that all of you are rooting for me!

Take care, all.

06-27-2013, 11:54 PM
Great idea to realize that any of the food items you'll be able to get again, Beth! Good luck - it sounds like a true food-fest. Are there games and other things that go on during these get-togethers?

Have really enjoyed a relaxing evening here - got some household chores done, puttered on the patio repotting a few things and cleaning up and enjoying a gorgeous late sunset. Fireflies are so entertaining to me; I never grew up with those in Florida or in Europe. Rearranged a bit on our patio. We're having DH's folks over on Sunday for their anniversary and taking them out to a nice restaurant on a reservoir, then dessert back here. need to find a recipe that is diabetes friendly for them ... And have a ton of housework to do - the monthly stuff never got done this month - the deeper cleaning :)

Now I see that another movie, Love Is All You Need, set in Sorrento, is out. By golly, I want to see that one, too ... DH says I'm the only one he knows who will choose a movie based on it's setting. You betcha, if it's a place I love. We don't hit many movies and to have several out now that i do want to see is $$$ and a commitment of time. I said I'd go to a matinee on Saturday while he's sleeping if he wasn't interested...but apparently he IS interested, lol.

Trying to check in often and stay accountable. Today was mostly on plan. Not entirely ... Friday will be better!

06-27-2013, 11:58 PM

Hello. I think this week is making up for the MONTHS spent languishing in the neverland of not being able to make anything. Wow. I have spent 4 of the last 5 days focused on the guild sign. Today we are almost done one of the 2 mosaics. At least we are done attaching the shards to the backing board. I suspect true completion won't happen until I come back from holidays. I hope not but maybe. I've attached jpgs of it as it stands. On Sunday that was just and empty wooden board. And all that mosaic was done between the hours of 9 and 3:30 today.

Foodwise. I totally forgot I was supposed to be following the South Beach Diet. Hello nurse. So after being reminded of this by my coach I am going to set an appt with myself to sit down and read about SBD once more and write out the guidelines for phase two. She committed to sticking to a plan for 6 months, no deviations, and seeing where this took her. She ditched the BP meds and lost weight is where it went.

Thank you all for the suggestions about my 250 number drama. I will take it to heart.

And also, more sad news in the artist-friend category for me. Another printmaker, who was fantastic and should have been working into old age, has slipped into a coma today. She was fighting breast cancer for a few years and I had heard it spread to her brain a month or so ago. She sent me a very thoughtful facebook message a few weeks ago. She is expected to die soon. This is now artist-friend #3 plus my beloved Looloo cat, all dead this year. I am about done with this sort of thing... I have to say, it is supremely motivating to get that mosaic sign up and out there. The other sign stood for 30 years. May this one reign at least as long.

Have a good night.

06-28-2013, 07:39 AM
Hi Coaches!

Yesterday was as close to plan as possible. Mom and I ended up at the little mexican restaurant in Denver and I reminded myself that the last time I just didn't enjoy my old favorite anymore. I ordered a small and satisfying "one cheese and onion enchilada heavy on onions light on cheese extra sauce with lots of lettuce and tomato." It worked for me. Tasty, small and on the low end of calorie choices. Credit. I've really been focusing lately on "smaller portions" instead of bulking up on giant salads, etc. I believe that it's essential for me to embrace this new mindset right now. It's been a few weeks now and I have to say it feels ok. Oh, major success last night at a meeting-not one stale cookie was consumed. Credit. I've been getting in my home exercise every day calling it my "metabolism booster" That reminds me it's best done in the morning before I head out for the day.

BBE,yay for a successful food day which included buying a new car. I'd have to agree on the whole dealership thing...not a pleasant chore.

MaryAnn, kudos for your ticker moving down and for a great plan for your travels. Safe travels and happy memories in the making!

sparks17, sweets seem to be the most effective food in kick my carb addict brain back into gear. Recognizing it is a giant step forward. Kudos for working on both quality and quantity of food. DH and I are semi retired...down from Alaska to help care for my mom. I took a part time waitress job, which ends up being closer to full time….Waitressing was one of my first jobs in life and I enjoy the social interaction as well as the endless running. I love being out doing something I wasn't capable of at my high weight.

nationalparker, I'm glad your alone time helped. Yay for using that time to pull out your old journal and doing some updating in it.

Beth(fromDayton), I enjoyed reading all your advance planning for your trip. It's such a strategy for success! Credit.

onebyone, love the mosaic! Yay for making an appointment with your SBD book for a review. I'm reminded of when you were trusting the WW scientists….time to swich your brain over to the SBD scientists.

06-28-2013, 07:47 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – At gym, CREDIT moi, I found amusement by hunting down the missing 50# dumbbells and returning them to their proper locations - whatever keeps me coming back.

Events kept me busy around noon with only a vending machine in sight for lunch. So, CREDIT moi, I decided to skip lunch to do the Hunger is Not an Emergency demo again. After about an hour, I completely forgot about eating and continued with my day. Around 3pm I had the opportunity to eat lunch but felt no hunger whatsoever. So I had some garden fresh sugar snacks for afternoon snack. Was concerned that I'd overcompensate at dinner, so I deliberately served myself (from a buffet) a plate where the food didn't touch. That worked, although I followed my friend to get some homemade cobbler for dessert - but didn't fall for the Sabotaging Thought, Since you're having dessert, might as well make the most of it. I need more days like this in my life.

onebyone – Yay for the burst of productivity. Love the sign made from chards. Kudos for setting an appointment with yourself to get the South Beach on track.

nationalparker – Leftover turkey sandwich is the best lunch ever. Good luck with the office party food - wish someone would retire with platters of healthy food someday. [The Kings of Summer looks interesting - haven't seen it yet. Since I've fed a teenage boy and his friends, I'm skeptical that such creatures can live "off the land."]

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Kudos for planning carefully for the time in the Hospitality Suite. I ignored a bowl of mixed nuts last night and wore a happy halo around the entire evening.

sparks17 – Ouch for carbs calling. I'd have had a hard time with my DD's "no-bake cheesecake with fruit on top." [Odd thing about the huge 'teenager' surcharge on automobile insurance: it isn't related to teenagers, it's related to the first five years of having a driving license! If one gets their driving license at 30, they'll still pay the surcharge. If one gets their driver's license at 30, then doesn't drive for five years and doesn't pay for insurance, the surcharge wouldn't apply when they do get put on the auto insurance. Weird practice to reward having a driver's license without driving.]

Readers - day 3 Eat Sitting Down

....Many of the dieters I've counseled have told me that learning to eat only when seated was key to their success at losing weight and maintaining the loss. It was crucial to my own success - it also was one of the hardest skills to incorporate into my life. I had a tough time with it in the beginning, but now I eat almost everything sitting down, except for a few raw vegetables that I plan to eat while I prepare dinner. (No one is perfect!) Every time I slip back into the habit of eating standing up, I invariably gain weight.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 71.  

06-28-2013, 09:20 AM

Can't stay must go but wanted to check in. I am about to weigh in, and wash my hair and get to the guild for this morning's work. we will be done at noon today due to my ride's previous commitments. Thank goodness.

I had to laugh I read this: day 3 Eat Sitting Down as "day 3 eat standing down" which made me picture me approaching the food on the stovetop where I most frequently eat standing up and then hearing a big scary police-riot squad-like voice saying "stand down" as in step away from the food! Sheesh. It's probably a good day to paint things for me today with my mind so freely free-associating.

And just to wrap up yesterday's note, I just read an email message that my artist friend died at 5:21pm yesterday. She died quietly as her family held her hand. I am sorry for this loss.

Time to go.

Enjoy your day and LIVE IT UP.

06-28-2013, 01:24 PM
Happy Friday, all. We're enjoying a strange cool snap in weather, and I woke to temps in the low 70s and tomorrow's high will be low 70s. Can't believe it! And now want to take a half vacation day to enjoy it and take advantage of the temps while doing landscaping - so will just do a super quick post. I need to crack down on off plan eating. But that implies that I HAVE A PLAN. Tonight: will plan the weekend out, including my dinner out with DH's folks for their anniversary. Need to drink more water, too - I'm slacking on that this week.

Booked my trip home to see my family for my folks 62nd wedding anniversary in about five weeks. Rather soon after the last one, but when the fall starts up my job gets super busy. At this point, it's just me going, but since DH is off that weekend and it was just $$ that prevents us from both going, I'll keep my eye out on fares. They rarely drop now, though.

OneByOne - I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of this friend; you have suffered such a series of losses here in the first half of this year. Hopefully this caps it for quite a while.

Bill - I had to smile at your tracking down the 50# weights :) How is the new car? What's your wife's favorite feature? I'm driving a 2003 and hope it holds out several more years...keeping my fingers crossed.

06-28-2013, 08:31 PM
Terribly busy but just popping in to say - I told my husband that I don't want to go to the froyo place anymore. Last night was not good...but today has been on track. Credit.

06-29-2013, 12:16 AM
I keep having one okay day followed by one totally whacked out day. For some reason, I got it in my head that I should put together a couple of good days before I posted again. Yeah, I'm seeing the flaw in that logic.

So, I'm kind of back at the beginning again as far as re-establishing my good habits.

I will start tomorrow with this one: eat sitting down (and sitting down in the car doesn't count). I'll be back tomorrow night to let you all know how I did.

06-29-2013, 06:08 AM
We're at the airport waiting for our flight. I didn't get much sleep but I made new response cards. I feel like I have a good plan for the Hospitality Suite--and my family is on board to ask me if I'd read my response cards recently if they see me overindulging.

I've been successful--I can continue to be successful!

06-29-2013, 07:17 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Harvested more snow peas from our community garden, the next to the last bunch. I planned to eat as I picked, and planned to do so standing - one of the great joys of summer. We've had a good year. The tomato plants are dawdling like September will be a good enough time to ripen. Just to make sure that my "Sit Consistently" skills weren't permanently diminished, when I was transferring a chunk of doggie bag lasagna into a plastic container, one noodle with sauce didn't make it BUT, I didn't pop it in my mouth as every cell in my body called for, CREDIT moi. At dinner I ordered a sane meal with broccoli and salad as sides and only had one bite of the Italian garlic bread. CREDIT moi for skipping garlic bread during the meal and Super CREDIT moi for not popping it into DW's open doggie bag, just in case I changed my mind.

Walking, CREDIT moi, got an errand attached because I'd dawdled and a payment had to arrive that day. I won't diminish the walking credit just because I unnecessarily procrastinated mailing a payment I've known about for a month.

onebyone – Sending supportive thoughts for processing all the passing's you've experienced this year. Kudos for remaining yourself enough to make me LOL at "day 3 eat standing down."

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Whatever it takes to keep the habits habitual. It does surprise me that I can 'forget' about the sitting down from time to time. I just returned Michael Polen's Cooked ( mostly unread. I absolutely loved his other two books but didn't get into the history of cooking. Perhaps a cook book reviewer will have a different take.

nationalparker – Yay for a day cool enough to get to your landscaping. LOL at the thought that you have to have a plan before you can be off-plan - Yep. [DW's new car isn't delivered yet - hopefully by Monday. She's most excited about the battery mode of the hybrid.]

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Terrific idea to have your family ask about reading your Response Cards rather than bugging you about the food. Kudos for thinking of that one.

sparks17 – Goodbye froyo, it's not you, it's me, LOL.

Readers - day 3 Eat Sitting Down

How to Sit Consistently
Stop yourself whenever you're tempted to eat while standing. Remind yourself why it's important: Even if you can get away now with eating while standing, you're putting yourself at risk for gaining weight at some point in the future. You have to make eating while sitting a lifelong habit.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 72.  

06-29-2013, 09:05 PM
Aloha coaches,
I am back from plus seven lbs that is... :( the good stuff: my dad and I split most meals plus shared a salad at most meals as well. Most of the food we ate was real food..not processed fast food...there was lots of swimming and walking with a bit of water aerobics in the ocean happening throughout the week. Any dessert items eaten were bites from a shared portion. I think I ate sitting down all the time. I cannot remember a time where I stood..I really enjoyed the food I ate there. The challenges: I felt too confident about managing my health plan while there thinking that, since I did well while in Paris With the butter/cheese/bread/wine deal there...part of the reason Paris worked out well was because we walked everywhere...I found myself slipping more and more as this week went bread at all, to one piece to a roll, etc.... So the scale is up a bit and I am not going to freak out...back on plan NOW!!

It was a wonderful trip with my DD and one of her girl cousins 8 months older than her hanging with their grandpa and with mommas in tow. My favorite quote from the car ride home last night was , "cousins are BEYOND best friends..." And then back to singing about poop and other hilarious topics...sniff.

The sun was wonderful and the Disney resort, while being extremely kid/family friendly, was not irritating for adults...there really was something for everyone and we got to go exploring outside the resort which was so great...

Happy to be back...I do solemnly swear to read my cards, eat within my plan and not believe that part of myself that sometimes thinks that I cannot get back on track ASAP or go on vacation without taking good care of myself. The journey would be very boring without some snags along the way to remind us of these things, right? :)

06-30-2013, 12:17 AM
I did pretty well with eating only sitting down. I caught myself twice with my finger in my mouth, but I didn't lick (is that kind of like not inhaling?) -- instead, I washed off the food in the sink. And once, I didn't catch myself until after the deed was done. So, I'm going to practice this one again tomorrow: eat only in eating places.

BillBlueEyes: thank you for the reminder about Cooked. That book was on my radar before our trip, but I forgot about it. I just put myself on the waiting list at the library.

Rosebud170: welcome home and back on track!

06-30-2013, 01:02 AM
I had planned on a day of landscaping, but intead it started raining about 20 minutes after I got out there. I stayed out working another 40 minutes until it was dripping in my eyes too much. Rained off and on ... I hope tomorrow morning is better weather. I'm enjoying the rare cool temps, though.

Could have done better today. Could have done worse. Should have done better, and have my plan for tomorrow.

Bill - Your community garden sounds wonderful. I'm envious. I have plots near me (1.5 miles away) that are very inexpensive, but I don't set the time aside to work another garden. I want to get a good compost pile going as my next project. DH kids me as I have 184 projects in my mind.

Rosebud - Glad to hear that your trip was great - would love to hear more about Hawaii! Top 3-4 tips for those planning trips there? DH would LOVE to go there and I'd love to surprise him with a trip there one year, but know it'll be $$$ ...

GardenerJoy - You had me smiling at not licking ... good analogy :) Let's hope for another on track day tomorrow. I always eat sitting down but now am thinking that makes me lazier than others who don't ... I love my dishes - all varied and all ones I enjoy setting a pretty table with.

Sunday goal - check in here at end of day with a successful report

06-30-2013, 06:44 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Busy'd myself all day doing stuff. Some days I'd hate to be judged for how I use my time. It just gets consumed. We attended a "Lawn Party" held to raise money for a worthy cause where there was only a modest amount of food of which I ate a modest amount, CREDIT moi. It was a pleasure not to have to face a typical table of too much. Took out of town friends to dinner in a diner where I ate what I'd planned. That meant leaving the mashed potatoes behind and not snarfing all the fried eggplant offered.

Gym was gym, CREDIT moi. It's fun to do gym on days so hot that the air conditioning is a welcome relief. Rather than thinking about getting out, I enjoyed being there knowing that a heat wave would hit me at the front door when leaving.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Adding to my list of best lines ever, "but I didn't lick."

nationalparker – Kudos for continuing to do landscaping for 40 minutes in the rain - that's determination.

Rosebud170 – Aloha! Yay for real food even though on vacation in an exotic place. Kudos for beating down the Sabotaging Thought, "sometimes thinks that I cannot get back on track ASAP or go on vacation without taking good care of myself."

Readers - day 3 Eat Sitting Down

How to Sit Consistently
... So make it your goal to sit down whenever you eat. Consider placing a note that says "sit down" in your appointment book, diet notebook, or on your refrigerator or cabinet door. It might also help to reset the table immediately after finishing a snack or meal as a reminder to sit down the next time you eat.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 72.  

06-30-2013, 09:16 AM
Hi Coaches!

Just enough time for a quick check in before work. Yesterday was stellar-lots of exercise at work and 100% OP. It's working in my favor as the scale shows a good number and I'm noticing, as well, how my clothes are fitting nicer, I believe, as a result of my at home workout.

Rosebud, welcome home! Kudos for such mindfulness during your vacation! I'll bet that those added pounds will come right back off!

gardenerjoy, glad for your reporting in to us as you rehone your Beck skills.

My waitress-coworker (who is 68) started in with a group of 11 pedometer gals in January. Their pedometers hook to a computer program which compiles results. They each kicked in $50. the winner to take all. My coworker won-almost 1 million steps. She gets the $550. and I get an idea of just how many steps I take since the majority of hers came from our workplace. Ah, those numbers sure add up.

Ok, off to work.

06-30-2013, 11:04 AM
onebyone - so sorry to hear of your friend's death. But glad for her that she was not alone and for her family that it was peaceful.

nationalparker - 62nd wedding anniversary? That is so wonderful!!!

rosebud -Sounds like you had a wonderful time with your family! And I am sure that you will lose hose extra pounds since you know how to lose!

gardenerjoy - lick/inhale/LOL!!!

Bill - AC is a great thing. Could you imagine going to the gym in the summer without it??!!

lexxiss - almost a MILLION steps??? woooooooowwwwww that is a lot of walking!

Yesterday...was good in that I planned to eat at maintenance levels because my husband wanted to go out to dinner, so I ate a regular breakfast and a small lunch. And I ate barely half of what I ordered, which just shows how huge portions are! We stopped by a bakery and picked up 6 pignoli cookies to share when we got home and they are still in the bag.

So that was all good. But. I just eat out way too much! Since I have been keeping track of my calories, I realize that I eat out more than I ever thought I did. Mostly real food, no fast food, but still. Something to think about!!

Today I am planning to fit in those cookies and make asian chicken and stringbeans for dinner. My husband wants to go to a biergarten for lunch, though...I find myself hoping it will rain! That is easier than going and trying to figure out calories AND restraining myself :o

See you all tomorrow!

06-30-2013, 07:43 PM
Hi everyone--

I posted last night from my phone but it got eaten by the internet gremlins.

We're on vacation and I'm really pleased with how my eating has been going. I've made some special requests (salad instead of fries with a burger) (chicken fancy-something without the cheese and bacon), a custom-designed-for-me chicken taco salad without a shell!

Dinner last night was huge--I ordered a burger. I cut it in half and enjoyed half of it a great deal. I wanted more, but set my watch for 5 minutes and told myself I'd decide then if I was going to eat more. 2 minutes into that, I asked DD to move it to the empty table behind her. She did--and I was fine--and I certainly was satisfied. For lunch, I even cut my chicken breast into the "part I'm going to eat" and the "part I'm not going to eat"--and stuck with it.

I feel pretty confident about keeping on track for the next couple of pre-party vacation days. I plan on getting some exercise in--we didn't do any today (unless you count strolling through a Texas antique mall), but I did take a 30 minute walk from terminal to terminal at O'Hare yesterday. Our hotel has a fitness center and a pool, so I'll check that out later tonight.

I'm committed to our vacation not being a setback for my weight loss. I've already discovered that one pair of the shorts I brought are loose (I brought the two smallest shorts I had, so it's not as if I had others to bring).

The travel scale showed me at 3 lbs under ticker this morning. At home, it weighed a pound higher than our main scale--I'm just going to treat it as 'real' and then when I get home, be prepared for it to be a pound off.

Best to all,

07-01-2013, 12:58 AM
I successfully ate in only my eating places. I'm going to keep focusing on that one habit until I get it solid -- especially since a few other good habits seem to be coming along for the ride.

My healthy lifestyle pretty much fell apart in June, except for one thing. I kept exercising. I met my goal today of 1000 minutes in June after our return from Paris. So, yay for that! It's definitely something to build on.

07-01-2013, 06:18 AM
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