Body Image and Issues after Weight Loss - Embarrassing Question




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FlowerPower79
05-20-2013, 12:46 PM
Sooo this is raelly embarrassing but it's bothering me a lot. I have a very fatty mons pubis, and I'm worried that it won't shrink as I lose weight. I've lost 55 lbs already and it doesn't seem to be smaller at all, in fact it's sticking out more than ever. Also the fat on it is weird - it's very bumpy and not firm at all, and the skin is quite thin. I think it's disgusting and I'm scared that I won't ever have a normal sex life because I feel deformed.

Has anyone had a similar problem and did it eventually resolve itself??


beerab
05-20-2013, 02:31 PM
What's your current height and weight?

Bumpy? Might be good to see a doctor, bumps don't sound okay.

100Mother
05-20-2013, 02:38 PM
I agree that it might be good to see a doctor, just to put any fears to rest.

How much more weight do you have to lose?

By the way, I have the same problem to an extent, and let's just say, my boyfriend loves it the way it is. I won't give you details, but he REALLY likes it. I would especially like to reference that scene from Eat/Pray/Love where the main character asks her friend, "Have you ever taken your clothes off and have a guy run away?" Of course the answer is no.

*hugs* I know these kinds of things are hard to deal with.


ikesgirl80
05-20-2013, 07:37 PM
I've lost 160+ pounds, and never knew I had that much fat there, but apparently I did, as it is all loose skin now! My plastic surgeon says that will be mostly fixed during my TT&BL this summer. I will try and come back and let you know my results!

Chris

tubolard
05-21-2013, 03:22 PM
Ah, the lovely fupa. Mine has gotten slightly smaller but it has taken a long time with very little reduction. I think it might be here to stay on me, although as bony as some areas on me are and my hubby doesn't have any extra weight some cushion there might not be a bad thing. Sorry if it was tmi, lol.

Wannabehealthy
05-23-2013, 07:23 AM
Awww, man! I knew I was going to have loose skin on my belly, but I never even thought about this! LOL

zoesmom
05-23-2013, 07:54 AM
Awww, man! I knew I was going to have loose skin on my belly, but I never even thought about this! LOL

^^^THIS!^^^ :rofl:

I've lost right at 50 and I've noticed that it is decreasing in size. My hubby has noticed it too. So far, no loose skin there....but I also have 100+ more pounds to go. I know how much you weigh and how long you've been overweight and how quickly you gained greatly impact things like this.

ikesgirl80
05-23-2013, 12:22 PM
^^^THIS!^^^ :rofl:

You won't be laughing when you have a whole handful of loose skin there! :-P

I'm messing with you!:D

But seriously, I am going to the surgeon tomorrow for my pre-op, and am going to ask him more specific details about this topic, and will report back!

zoesmom
05-23-2013, 12:29 PM
I am only laughing because I read that and went.."Oh. Well. Yep, never thought of that either!" Funny how somethings just NEVER cross your mind and once it does you either roll with the punches or figure a way out of it. I decided rolling would be funner...you know, that way all my extra skin will kinda be like some sort of propeller fan or something. Or a blob monster. That works too. The visual of myself just greatly amused me. :D

Sometimes, you just have to laugh, else all you will do is cry. ;)

annie175
05-23-2013, 12:39 PM
Once a fupa always a fupa....sorry but that is me!

Underwater
05-23-2013, 02:23 PM
Ikesgirl please let us know how it goes. I also want to have mine "lifted" when they do my tummy tuck!

There was a girl on Reddit who did it, they called it a "mons lift" with her tummy tuck. She liked the results.

ikesgirl80
05-23-2013, 02:44 PM
Oh, trust me! I was laughing too! Whenever I talk about it I always say "I've grown a **boy part**" lmao

ikesgirl80
05-23-2013, 02:45 PM
Ikesgirl please let us know how it goes. I also want to have mine "lifted" when they do my tummy tuck!

There was a girl on Reddit who did it, they called it a "mons lift" with her tummy tuck. She liked the results.

I'm not having the mons lift, but was told when they did the tummy tuck, it would be pulled tight and help my upper thighs also.

Lecomtes
05-23-2013, 04:02 PM
I have to ask you ladies, what about like Palmer's and other creams? No luck? Is surgery the only way? I'm so scared of going under the knife!

Underwater
05-23-2013, 04:47 PM
I'm not having the mons lift, but was told when they did the tummy tuck, it would be pulled tight and help my upper thighs also.

What is the difference between mons lift and just getting the skin tightened? I guess I thought it was the same thing, but I haven't been to see a surgeon yet.

Underwater
05-23-2013, 04:57 PM
I have to ask you ladies, what about like Palmer's and other creams? No luck? Is surgery the only way? I'm so scared of going under the knife!

I think it depends on the severity of the problem skin. I was obese from puberty and maybe before. So around 20 years. I carried most of my weight in my stomach. I have big skin fold that isn't going to just shrink up. It's terrible to deal with while doing any exercise and I cannot wear form fitting clothing.

My boobs are so empty that they cannot stay in a normal victorias secret bra. They have little volume and somehow wind up half falling out toward the middle throughout the day.

My arms... well, they could still get better, but I'm not holding out much hope. What's funny is my husband thinks my arms need the surgery most and that my tummy and boobs aren't that bad. That's how I know I need to do the arms hahaha!

ikesgirl80
05-23-2013, 05:57 PM
I have to ask you ladies, what about like Palmer's and other creams? No luck? Is surgery the only way? I'm so scared of going under the knife!

I agree that it depends on the severity. I have been over 200 pounds since I was 15, over 250 since I was 18, and from 25-29, I was 350 pounds. At current (31 yo), I am the lightest I've ever been since middle school. I carry all of my weight in my stomach, and have a "double stomach", the lower of which is an "apron". I lost my first 100 pounds in 9 months, 3 weeks. The last 60 pounds took me from October 2012 - now. The surgeon said I have (when I weighed 208) 10 - 12 pounds of loose skin on just my stomach. I have lost about 20 pounds since then, but do not look much different. So I am guessing, I am around 15 pounds of loose skin now. I've included 2 pics. One (red undies) is my stomach after losing 100 pounds. It was taken after maintaining 100 pounds lost for 3 months. The second (blue undies) is after 160 pounds, I took it after maintaining 160 pounds for about 2 weeks. It has not changed in the past 3 weeks at all. Even according to my VERY honest boyfriend.




What is the difference between mons lift and just getting the skin tightened? I guess I thought it was the same thing, but I haven't been to see a surgeon yet.

I am not having that area in particular lifted, which is what I thought you meant. I am having a traditional tummy tuck with an anchor cut (to fix my upper stomach), but all the surgeon is doing is pulling the skin up, so it won't be perfect, like my stomach, but just better. Thighs will be the same. Part will be fixed by the pulling of the stomach skin, but it is not the focus of the procedure. Does that make sense?



Chris

Underwater
05-23-2013, 06:24 PM
I am not having that area in particular lifted, which is what I thought you meant. I am having a traditional tummy tuck with an anchor cut (to fix my upper stomach), but all the surgeon is doing is pulling the skin up, so it won't be perfect, like my stomach, but just better. Thighs will be the same. Part will be fixed by the pulling of the stomach skin, but it is not the focus of the procedure. Does that make sense?



Chris

Yes. I am excited to see your results!

ikesgirl80
05-25-2013, 08:28 AM
Report from the surgeon!!!!

1. He can't believe I've lost 20 more pounds since I've seen him last!
2. I asked if I had to kill myself to lose 10 more pounds in the next 10 days, or can I just maintain and still be happy with my results?

He said MAINTAIN!!!!

3. Has loosing the 20 pounds lessened the amount of fat on my upper stomach (Where most of the remaining fat was located)?

He said YES!!!

4. When he makes the horizontal incision on my lower stomach, will that pull everything up and at least partly fix the loose skin "here" (as I grabbed the mons area, lol)?

It won't be perfect, but there will be a huge improvement. The thighs will have less, but since I don't have much loose skin there, he thinks I will still notice positives.

My surgery is June 6th, but I will be spending the night in the hospital, so it will probably be Friday night or Saturday before I can report on the actual changes!

Chris

pnkrckpixikat
06-20-2013, 06:27 PM
*bump* what happened ikesgirl80?!? :)

mascara blue
06-21-2013, 09:36 AM
Thank you so much for posting this Q! I have exactly the same issue and I HATE it! It's such a pain when buying pants and I have to buy larger size or wear long tops. It was making me feel like such a freak but now I know I'm not alone with my chubby lady part :)

ikesgirl80
06-23-2013, 02:18 PM
*bump* what happened ikesgirl80?!? :)

Oh it looks good!

Sorry I have not been online much in the last 3 weeks!

Short story, and then tomorrow I PROMISE I will have a nice long post!

Mom and step dad arrived June 5th.
Had surgery June 6th. Went perfect.
Home June 7th.
Kicked my boyfriend out on June 12th (see long story tomorrow!).
He had his stuff out on June 15th.
Went off ALL pain meds June 16th.
Mom and step dad left today, June 23rd.

Healing beautifully. Scars are NOT as bad as I thought they would be. Pain is NOTHING. Sneezing is a B*TCH! Can't wait for an evening with my BFF's tonight (they are spending tonight with me, just for my mom's sanity!) and then a day more or less alone tomorrow (to type up my story/experience). Promise pictures will be included tomorrow!

Mommy2k9
06-25-2013, 09:29 PM
I think even when I was skinny I had a pooch there LOL... Good Idea to have it corrected w/ skin removal surgery :P

mcsickie
08-11-2013, 06:06 PM
hi I'm 16 and starting to lose weight I too have sort of large mons pubis, I'm 222 pounds and I'm really worried that when I lose weight it either won't go with weightloss or ill be left with lots of unwanted excess skin, which do you think is more likely to happen do you think the mons pubis will just decrease in size because I really don't want to have surgery, sorry if someone else has already posted a similar comment it's just I'm really scared :?:

mandypandy2246
09-08-2013, 05:43 PM
McSickie - I wouldn't worry to much. The thing about the mons pubis is that it doesn't gain super fast so it often doesn't get stretch marks - so most people skin there is in pretty good condition. And at your age, you probably have great skin tone there. So I think the skin will probably bounce back just fine - particularly the sooner you lose weight and the less time that area spends big.

Don't be scared!!! Worst case scenario - you can have it fixed. There are even really minor procedures you can have done - some can be done with local anesthesia.

But really, with age on your side,your skin is likely to bounce back. If not, you can always pursue surgery.

graciaincito
09-20-2013, 11:12 AM
Congrats on your weight loss. I've lost 130ish lbs and i have noticed quite a substantial difference in this area. I was really worried about this as well, i figured since I couldnt exactly "work out" the area, I was doomed to have a fatty area there forever. While other areas are looking like they are going to need some nipping and tucking once Ive hit my goal, im pretty confident that wont be one of them. I would be curious to hear if the surgery helps though! Good luck!