100 lb. Club - Commitment versus motivation




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Mozzy
05-16-2013, 06:40 PM
I always tell people the exact same thing when they ask me "what's your motivation to lose weight?"

IT ISN'T ABOUT MOTIVATION, IT'S ABOUT COMMITMENT!

And it's a damn good thing I'm committed to this journey because I lack all motivation today. It's *that* time of the month and all I want to do is stuff my face. But my commitment to getting fitter has established a routine in my life and that routine dictates I stay "on plan".

(P.S. there's no point to this post. I'm pms'ing, starving, and feeling grumpy so I thought I would remind myself (and maybe others); it's not about motivation, it's about commitment.)


Radiojane
05-16-2013, 07:48 PM
Hi. Come sit by me. I'm also pmsing, starving and eyeing the donut box in the office.


I'm also burned in the butt a little because my boyfriend had the gall to say I started losing weight to "impress" him. I didn't think I needed to impress him. The worst part is he thought he was complimenting me because he said "your working so hard to lose weight for me is paying off. I'm definitely impressed!"

When he saw the look on my face, he backpedaled, but god. You're not the only thing I considered when changing MY body. And you haven't been keeping me at it.

Lecomtes
05-16-2013, 07:51 PM
Thanks for the reminder Mozzy! Oh boy did I have a day like this on Tuesday! You got this! :)


KYgirlinSC
05-16-2013, 08:38 PM
Thanks for the reminder Mozzy! I needed it. You are very right.

Mozzy
05-16-2013, 10:25 PM
Thanks y'all!!!

And radiojane-- did you smack some sense into him? :)

Radiojane
05-16-2013, 10:32 PM
LOL. He learned. He meant well, he just needs language lessons

RitzyFritz
05-17-2013, 07:09 AM
I feel I'm in the back of your canoe right now, also! You are SO correct. I love how you put it. It truly is about commitment because motivation is like the ocean tide, but commitment is like the rock that stays put whether the tide is in or not! So - thanks for this, Mozzy. That was inspirational for me.

Novus
05-17-2013, 07:28 AM
...motivation is like the ocean tide, but commitment is like the rock that stays put whether the tide is in or not!

^THIS is awesome!!

JenMusic
05-17-2013, 09:02 AM
LOL. He learned. He meant well, he just needs language lessons

LOL! I'm going to remember this! :)

time2lose
05-17-2013, 09:05 AM
Yep, commitment is more powerful than motivation!

betsy2013
05-17-2013, 10:42 AM
Mozzy. I needed this today. I'm way past the age (thankfully) where I have all the PMSing issues any more, but I've spent the last 6 weeks trying to get 10 pounds off. I needed to be reminded that it's about commitment and not motivation......in other words I need to string more than 1 day of staying on plan into a row!

Jane, I'm chuckling. I always wonder what goes through our guys minds some times when their assumption is that they are the center of our universes on every single action.

Issaknits
05-17-2013, 12:15 PM
Thanks for this. For me, commitment is concrete and motivation is fluid. There will always be the commitment to become healthier and more active, but motivation varies. One week my motivation might be "insert holiday/event/deadline here" and another week my motivation might be a certain item of clothing that I want to look better in. The end result is the same: getting healthy. I just might take a different route to get there from day to day or week to week.

(and I'm right there with you on the hungry front! The Friday office pastry box is looking mighty tempting and I'm this close to rationalizing a cherry turnover as a fruit! Sticking with the apple I brought from home though.)

Mozzy
05-17-2013, 12:19 PM
I'm glad others can relate! Hugs to all :hug:

elvislover324
05-17-2013, 12:20 PM
Great thread as usual, Mozzy!!

(And I saw your "y'all" above and laughed, that's no California talk!!)

bethFromDayton
05-17-2013, 01:32 PM
I sometimes tell myself "You don't have to want to--you just have to do it".

So, I don't have to want to exercise, I don't have to want to follow my eating plan for the day--wanting to is optional. It's sort of like "there is no 'try'".

Thanks for posting this, Mozzy!

CherryPie99
05-17-2013, 03:12 PM
Today at work they were having a pizza party. I changed into my running outfit, went out and ran 7 miles came back and fortunately the pizza was gone and I ate the heathy lunch I brought.

A couple of co-workers expressed being baffled by my motivation. Well I was NOT motivated. I WANTED to hang out and stuff at least 3 pieces of pizza down my throat. I really really really wanted to do that.

But I didn't because I just don't give myself that option. Period. I'm committed even when I'm not motivated. That is so hard to explain, though!

Jen

elvislover324
05-17-2013, 03:18 PM
I sometimes tell myself "You don't have to want to--you just have to do it".

So, I don't have to want to exercise, I don't have to want to follow my eating plan for the day--wanting to is optional. It's sort of like "there is no 'try'".

Thanks for posting this, Mozzy!

Today at work they were having a pizza party. I changed into my running outfit, went out and ran 7 miles came back and fortunately the pizza was gone and I ate the heathy lunch I brought.

A couple of co-workers expressed being baffled by my motivation. Well I was NOT motivated. I WANTED to hang out and stuff at least 3 pieces of pizza down my throat. I really really really wanted to do that.

But I didn't because I just don't give myself that option. Period. I'm committed even when I'm not motivated. That is so hard to explain, though!

Jen

Both of these posts really struck me, I loved them.

I'm finally at a point after all these months that exercise and eating right actually comes naturally (not that I always want to do them, but I know they have to be done. Does that make sense?)

It's no longer a matter of "if", it's just "when". And sometimes "when" means I'm on my treadmill at 9pm at night. If I can't log my daily exercise in MFP and my food journal, I get quite anxious. And seeing my food logged with 99% healthy choices makes me excited. Seriously, like obnoxiously excited knowing I conquered another day.

vdander24
05-17-2013, 09:16 PM
It is SO true, and so good of you to put it up! I need to put this up so I see it everyday. Thanks!

Cherrypie99 - OMG! THAT is commitment with a capital C Great job!

Mozzy
05-17-2013, 11:31 PM
Cherrypie-- I'm impressed!!!!

the shiv
05-18-2013, 02:11 AM
I have ZERO motivation. Honestly. Not a single shred of it. I just happen to like being smaller. I'll throw my resources at this as and when I can, and it's slow, but the only way my scale goes overall... Is down. Gradual integration of healthier habits doesn't take motivation, it takes persistence. Aaaaand motivation and persistence could not be more different!!

You've got it bang on. Keep on keeping on, and I hope you feel better :)