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Garnet2727
05-14-2013, 09:12 PM
I am so blasted frustrated with my hair! I started a new job on May 5 so right before that, I went to a local, well recommended salon here and had the owner cut my hair. When he got done with it, oh my, it looked great.

But now?

FREAKIN' FLIPPY DOODLES KEEP POPPING UP ON ONE SIDE OF MY HEAD!!!!

Look here. This is the side that styles quite nicely and looks good:

http://i164.photobucket.com/albums/u32/Garnet2727/3f72acef-412e-4001-8b32-a9a0a3a7ba06_zps91e1f414.jpg (http://s164.photobucket.com/user/Garnet2727/media/3f72acef-412e-4001-8b32-a9a0a3a7ba06_zps91e1f414.jpg.html)

Now, for the flippy doodle side:

http://i164.photobucket.com/albums/u32/Garnet2727/851142f5-0245-405f-918d-af9ee66e16dd_zpsacc449df.jpg (http://s164.photobucket.com/user/Garnet2727/media/851142f5-0245-405f-918d-af9ee66e16dd_zpsacc449df.jpg.html)


ARRRRGGGGHHHHH!!!!!


elvislover324
05-14-2013, 09:16 PM
Still love the new style on you! And I hope you are liking your new job!

Are you able to straighten it with a hair iron or curling iron? And kind of force it to curl under the same way?

Do you use any hair product in your hair? Maybe try a straightener product to use with the curling iron?

I'm sure someone with more knowledge will be along. I always wish I could have my hair done professionally every single morning as it never ever comes out the same way the stylist does it! :lol:

Garnet2727
05-14-2013, 09:29 PM
Thank you, elvislover. :hug: I am loving my new job but oh to win the lottery and have my hair professionally done every day! :lol:

I blow it dry and use a round brush to style it. I'm seriously considering trying a flat iron although I've never used a curling or flat iron of any sort. I am seriously under talented when it comes to hair styling.


elvislover324
05-14-2013, 09:31 PM
Then...you'll have to learn to walk with your right side to face everyone until you hit the lottery!! :)

Garnet2727
05-14-2013, 09:33 PM
Heh. I'm tempted. That or shave my head. My hair used to be straight all over and I actually liked it like that. But now, I'm getting these curls but only in spots. I just don't geddit.

Jez
05-14-2013, 09:39 PM
If the dryer and round brush isn't working, just buy a cheap flat iron. You'll be able to get one for under $20 now.

CherryPie99
05-14-2013, 09:46 PM
Flat iron! Once you get used to using it, it will literally take you less then a minute to make your style perfect!

JerseyGyrl
05-14-2013, 09:47 PM
John Freida makes a hot air brush that would probably work beautifully for your hairstyle. Ebay sells them reasonably. I'd also try a little mousse to make your hair easier to work with and don't forget heat protectant spray!

Garnet2727
05-14-2013, 09:57 PM
Thanks, all. I forgot to mention that I do use a light mousse. I think I'm'a have to try that flat iron thingy.

Garnet2727
05-14-2013, 09:58 PM
JerseyGyrl, is this the brush?

http://www.amazon.com/John-Frieda-JFHA5-Brush-inch/dp/B0056GDG90

thnknthin1
05-14-2013, 10:06 PM
Okay, this sounds weird but it has worked for me when I've had similar issues. Are you using the same hand to style both sides? I found if I switch hands (using left hand for right side of hair, right hand for left side) it has fixed the problem.

Worth a shot. ;)

SuperHeroTeacher
05-14-2013, 10:08 PM
Hi Garnet - I think tour hair looks great! We're all so critical of our own hair though and see flaws that nobody else would consider a flaw (at least I do!).

I had straight - straight hair for most of my life and styled it much as you do - hair dryer and round brush. About 7 years ago I noticed my hair getting more wavy. And then it just kept getting more and more wavy. It became a daily battle for me to blow it straight, and then eventually flat iron it, and I still was never satisfied with the outcome (not to mention the damage I was causing).

About two years ago I started seeing a new stylist. She asked me if I ever let my hair just be naturally curly. I was taken aback. I never thought of my hair as curly before, but sure enough, when I stopped torturing it with heat everyday my hair is naturally curly! Now I let it dry natural, use a little bit of texturizing product and do some minimal blow dryer styling just to frame my face (to tame the curls a bit). In all I spend less than 10 minutes on my hair each morning (other than the natural drying time - about an hour) and I've never been happier with it!

JerseyGyrl
05-14-2013, 10:20 PM
JerseyGyrl, is this the brush?

http://www.amazon.com/John-Frieda-JFHA5-Brush-inch/dp/B0056GDG90

Yes, thats it:)

Vex
05-15-2013, 10:22 PM
I like it!

Flat iron will do wonders, and spray the really stubborn pieces with hair spray or thermal spray BEFORE hitting it with the flat iron.

Daki
05-16-2013, 01:28 PM
Just a note about flat irons. The $20 ones don't always work for everyone, at least in my case. I bought one once and was so excited, but it barely did anything to my hair. Sure it was more straight, not completely straight, but it was still a frizzy mess. The next time I got my hair cut I took note of what brand of flat iron she had because my hair came out pin straight, no frizz and SHINY. I knew it wasn't the products she used because I don't use bargain basement shampoo or conditioner and I asked her not to put anything in my hair for styling.

So I asked for a CHI flat iron for Christmas that year and got it. NOW I get what all the fuss is about with flat irons. The cheap ones just did not do anything for my hair and left me feeling like I simply had bad hair.

IanG
05-16-2013, 01:32 PM
Flat iron. I blew loads of money on a good one for my wife. You do pay for what you get for some people's hair. The expensive ones get hotter and quicker, or so I hear.

CherryPie99
05-16-2013, 03:02 PM
I have naturally curly hair and straighten mine once and a while with a cheapo flat iron from Target that works perfect. I really recommend straightening cream in the hair BEFORE using it.

Garnet2727
05-16-2013, 07:53 PM
Thanks, y'all. My apologies for the delayed and very much not personalized response. I've been busier than a one-armed paper hanger at work and by the time I get home, I've been kind of wiped out.

Anyway, I think I am going to try for a good flat iron and see if that will tame my flippy doodles. I'll get some thermal spray too because I don't want to harm my hair. There are two things I really like about my hair; the color and the fact that it is healthy. I don't want to mess up either one of those things!

ETA: Here's a picture I took today for my WW blog talking about the outfit I don't like much because it looks too manly on me. Anyway, see those blasted flippy doodles sticking out? My next pay day so I can get a flat iron can't come fast enough!

http://community.weightwatchers.com/LoadDown/Blogs/58/ee/1c1b50f30eaf42ef85f37639e9cd4f00_2.jpg?repository= 2

Scarlett
05-16-2013, 11:05 PM
If/When you get a flat iron you can use it to curl the ends under. After a week or so of using the iron to curl the ends under they will probably stay that way. I also have shortish hair with cow lick issues and the flat iron works. I let it air dry out of the shower and 5 min with a flat iron does the trick.

Jez
05-16-2013, 11:23 PM
Just a note about flat irons. The $20 ones don't always work for everyone, at least in my case. I bought one once and was so excited, but it barely did anything to my hair. Sure it was more straight, not completely straight, but it was still a frizzy mess. The next time I got my hair cut I took note of what brand of flat iron she had because my hair came out pin straight, no frizz and SHINY. I knew it wasn't the products she used because I don't use bargain basement shampoo or conditioner and I asked her not to put anything in my hair for styling.

So I asked for a CHI flat iron for Christmas that year and got it. NOW I get what all the fuss is about with flat irons. The cheap ones just did not do anything for my hair and left me feeling like I simply had bad hair. Just a comment on this- No, the $20 ones definitely don't work for everyone. I have PITA hair, and i have multiple flat irons, all of them $100+ (same for my blow dryers). But for what she wants, which is just to tame one trouble spot that will not stay under, a $20 flat iron will do. She could also just use a curling iron.

Scarlett
05-16-2013, 11:38 PM
Agreed. For your purposes a cheaper one is fine. This is the one I use (the one inch purple) and I would recommend it. I paid $40 at Target but it is $30 on Amazon. I have shoulder length hair and I use the flat iron on med-low (the high is VERY hot) to straighten it out and curl the ends under.

http://www.amazon.com/Conair-CS710R-Infiniti-Tourmaline-Ceramic/dp/B004INQ65S

Garnet2727
05-17-2013, 06:44 PM
I am definitely getting a flat iron on my next payday. I think I'll go over to Target and check out what they've got. Also, my hair is not as bad today. What did I do different? I used conditioner. Maybe I need to do that every day now that I'm blowing my hair dry?

hhm6
05-18-2013, 03:10 PM
You should also check out tjmaxxx! My cousin got CHI flat iron from there for $40 and I saw her use it this past friday 7 yrs later!!

I straighten my hair all the time with a remington straightner from walmart, it's been 2 yrs and no problems thus far. If you have a round brush and blow dryer, you could always use the highest heat, curl the hair in with the round brush, but before taking the brush out, hit the "cool" buttom on the dryer and then curl the hair in as you take the brush out.

My mom has almost the same hair style as you and I style it everyday for her with a round brush and blow dryer (she hates flat irons) Good luck!

Garnet2727
06-25-2013, 10:09 PM
OK, it's official. I GIVE UP! I've been trying this style for over 2 months now and it is just NOT working. I bought a flat iron. I've tried it at several different temperatures and I still have freakin' flippy doodles. My hair just looks like crap.

I should have known better. Hair stylists freakin' always want to cut my hair into some kind of bob and I, operating under the very definition of insanity*, let them thinking, oh, it will be different this time. I've had this same kind of hair cut probably ten freaking times.

Well, it isn't different this time. It still doesn't work for me. Yes, I have fine hair but it's not straight and I don't have the skills or the patience to spend a freakin' half hour or more on it every day only to have the flippy doodles popping up again about as soon as I walk out the door!

When my stylist does my hair, it looks great. But he loads it with a bunch of stinky product and sprays the ever lovin' **** out of it. I hate that. He takes a half hour or more to blow it dry and while I've tried to emulate his technique, I just can't. Even after he gets done with it and has all that sticky icky crap in my hair, within about an hour or so, here come the blasted flippy doodles.

I just have to face that fact that my hair will never look good. I'm going to let it grow again so I can put it up in a blasted pony tail and have done with it!

ARRRRRGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH!

*The definition of insanity: Doing the same thing over and over and over again but expecting different results.

Vex
06-25-2013, 10:39 PM
Now hold on there a minute missy....

Maybe it's just THAT style that's annoying you with the flippy doodles. Take a look through some magazines or online and see if you can find any styles that INCORPORATE those flippy doodles, so you don't have to fight them all the time. Maybe something a little longer but not as long as before that it weighs down your face..maybe just above your shoulders for some swing.

Here's a site that lets you upload your photo and try different hairstyles:

http://www.taaz.com/

Garnet2727
06-26-2013, 09:15 AM
:D Thank you, Vex. I'm going to give that website a shot.

Garnet2727
06-26-2013, 10:09 AM
OMG, Vex! That website is amazing! It has helped me to discover that not only is the cut I have not working because I'm fighting with styling, it's also wrong for my face!

I was actually going in the right direction when I let this guy chop my hair off. I need medium length, layered hair with bangs.

Holy moly.

Garnet2727
06-26-2013, 10:23 AM
Here's the look from the website. I know I won't be able to get my hair to look exactly like that but I also know that it will be a lot easier than trying to force my hair into the straight bob cut I have now.

http://i164.photobucket.com/albums/u32/Garnet2727/MediumHair_zps05a2282d.jpg (http://s164.photobucket.com/user/Garnet2727/media/MediumHair_zps05a2282d.jpg.html)

ETA: This is also making me want to try wearing make up again...

MAK247
06-26-2013, 11:25 AM
I ran into the same problem after I got a bob, one side would curve in towards my face and one side flipped out at the ends. I blow dried with a brush, without a brush, flipped my hair upside down, etc. A flat iron helped but I am hair-challenged and at best could get it to straighten but never curl inwards.

The last time I went in for a trim I asked the hairdresser and she said it is a weight issue, I guess because the hair isn't weighed down anymore? I don't know, but she put a few layers in it and evened it out a bit. I'm trying to grow it out and it has gotten to shoulder length and is finally not flipping out. :) The problem is, now it is annoying so I put it in a ponytail all the time again. haha

Another option is to work with the flippies instead of against, style it so it flips outwards all around and put a texturizer in to get more of a tousled look?

Garnet2727
06-26-2013, 11:43 AM
Yeah. I'm thinking that I really need to go with more layered and more tousled looking and let it grow. Fighting with it just isn't working and it's irritating the crap out of me. Would I love to have a nice, smooth look? Oh, yes. But that is not the way my hair goes.

Vex
06-26-2013, 11:46 PM
Yeah, that site is pretty fun. I actually liked playing with the makeup parts too. I must have been on there for 2 hours . :)

Garnet2727
07-17-2013, 10:48 AM
Well, my appointment for a hair cut is this evening. I'm going to have a heart to heart with my stylist about this bob cut not working and ask for something that's more layered and not so difficult to work with.

Wish me luck!