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HungryHungryHippo
05-08-2013, 04:20 PM
I lost weight for myself, and I'm happy with the way I look. (FWIW, my husband likes it too. :) ) But I've noticed whenever a woman complements me, the other men in the room jump in to say they prefer a woman with more curves! It's all good--although I'm starting to get tire marks on my back, from being thrown under the bus!! ;-) We women are just more strict on body-fat comp than the men!

I've actually noticed this at work--too--I'm a fashion stylist, and I work with both men's magazines and women's magazines. The women's magazines cast models who are muuuuuuch thinner, and less curvy than the men's magazines do!


IanG
05-08-2013, 04:29 PM
This is so individual-specific that you run the risk of driving yourself nuts for nothing!

Me....thinner/less curvy means HOT HOT HOT!

So please don't post a pic. We are both married after all!

PreciousMissy
05-08-2013, 04:37 PM
I've heard men specify that they like thinner women, but I've also heard the flip side, too.

I personally prefer men who are toned, rather than men who have bulging/extremely defined muscles. I'm sure there are women out there who disagree with me.


IanG
05-08-2013, 04:38 PM
I personally prefer men who are toned, rather than men who have bulging/extremely defined muscles.

I'm neither. Where does that put me?

elvislover324
05-08-2013, 04:42 PM
I think, HungryHungryHippo, that it could matter how you dress too. I know that not all women have defined curves but there are dresses or tops/bottoms that can give the illusion of curves.

I can say, as a totally straight woman, that there is something so beautiful about a woman with major curves going on (even if she's a plus size, it's all in the presentation of said curves) but then I can find a total stick-figure (for the lack of a better word!) woman absolutely beautiful too.

I guess it's more in how the woman carries herself, dresses herself, accessorizes herself, that would define the beauty and not the curves themselves.

IanG
05-08-2013, 04:54 PM
It's also about pretty face (in the eye of the beholder), confidence and so much other stuff too though Elvis. One size does not fit all.

Obese never did anyone much good though. I can attest to that.

So feel good with you, and the men will follow.

joefla70
05-08-2013, 05:39 PM
This is so individual-specific that you run the risk of driving yourself nuts for nothing!

Me....thinner/less curvy means HOT HOT HOT!

So please don't post a pic. We are both married after all!

First, just because somebody says they "prefer" a women with more curves, that does not mean that they find less curvy women un-attractive. It most likely just means that -- all things being equal -- they prefer more curves. Ian is right... in a "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" sense. Its all a matter of individual taste.

Like Ian, one of my co-workers is attracted to very thin, non-curvy women. He's always pointed them out when we've been out of the office together -- and he eventually married a women with that type of body. His wife is very attractive. I think that anybody would think so. But all things being equal, I prefer women with more curves. So, when he points out the women he finds really hot, I don't see what he fusses over.

elvislover324
05-08-2013, 06:15 PM
It's also about pretty face (in the eye of the beholder), confidence and so much other stuff too though Elvis. One size does not fit all.



You are correct.

PreciousMissy
05-08-2013, 06:16 PM
I'm neither. Where does that put me?

You're married remember ;)

hhm6
05-08-2013, 06:39 PM
I've heard men specify that they like thinner women, but I've also heard the flip side, too.

I personally prefer men who are toned, rather than men who have bulging/extremely defined muscles. I'm sure there are women out there who disagree with me.

Definitely with you on that one!

This is something I've wondered about too. When I used to go to the gym I would always hear guys talk about girls who were too chunky but in my eyes they just looked curvy, so I think it def depends on who you ask!

elvislover324
05-08-2013, 06:47 PM
I think as far as attractive men are concerned, I could write down a list of physical features and physical characteristics here that I like in a man but in reality, the real men I have been attracted to in real life sometimes don't fall into any of those requirements.

There are men who have turned my head that weren't my type (on the above-mentioned list) that for whatever reason did it for me. So we may all have our types but that has nothing to do with attraction and compatibility.

And Joe---I know someone like the guy you mentioned. But I will never know if he loves her (like REAL love) or if she's just a status thing for him like his boat and fancy wheels. He loves pretty things and she sure is pretty.

ASaladandaDream
05-08-2013, 07:16 PM
Yea, I think what you're describing is similar to buying a new car. Ya know how you buy a new car, you've never seen it before and it's so beautiful - then now you own it you see it everywhere, everyday!

I don't remember what that phenomenon is called but I feel like this is similar... Everyone has different preferences, you are just becoming more aware of the people who prefer curvy women now that youre skinny! (I bet when you were "curvier" these men were nowhere to be found)

Don't stress!

As far as my taste in men, it's not typical either! I hate bulky muscles! I'd prefer a chubbier guy that reminds me of a teddy bear than an Arnold Schwarzenegger look-a-like anyday!

PreciousMissy
05-08-2013, 07:32 PM
There are men who have turned my head that weren't my type (on the above-mentioned list) that for whatever reason did it for me. So we may all have our types but that has nothing to do with attraction and compatibility.

I completely agree with that statement! When I started dating again I was attracted to guys that fell into my type. Turns out I had my "type" all wrong.

Arctic Mama
05-08-2013, 07:52 PM
I lost weight for myself, and I'm happy with the way I look. (FWIW, my husband likes it too. :) ) But I've noticed whenever a woman complements me, the other men in the room jump in to say they prefer a woman with more curves! It's all good--although I'm starting to get tire marks on my back, from being thrown under the bus!! ;-) We women are just more strict on body-fat comp than the men!

I've actually noticed this at work--too--I'm a fashion stylist, and I work with both men's magazines and women's magazines. The women's magazines cast models who are muuuuuuch thinner, and less curvy than the men's magazines do!

I hate it when that happens. All sorts of traits are beautiful, and there is NO accounting for individual taste. It is generally true that what women find appealing in their own sex and what men find appealing in the opposite sex are a quite different set of traits, but the converse is also true. What many men aspire to as the dude ideal is often not what xyz Jane walking down the street would consider 'ideal' for their taste. As an example - most men don't aspire to look like Orlando Bloom or Ryan Gosling, but most women don't lust after Tom Venuto or Serge Nubret (excuse the old school reference :D).

I'm sorry you've been treated that way by men. They probably don't mean anything by it, but that doesn't make it feel less cruddy to be held up as what someone DOESN'T want to look like. It happens with obese women and slender women, alike, and it's very destructive.

rubidoux
05-08-2013, 09:48 PM
Well, I am just shocked that someone would, in response to a compliment to you, go on to say that they don't like your body type, but like something totally different. That is insane!

And I completely agree w other posters that people like all sorts of different things. The women I always find most attractive (and, well, you can take this w a grain of salt since I'm into guys) look like I did when I was younger. lol Is that creepy? But it's a very particular look -- severely pear shaped with big strong legs. The media gives this look no play at all, but I know I'm not the only one who likes it bc my dance card was always full back then! :o

HungryHungryHippo
05-08-2013, 11:37 PM
Aww, thanks! I think it's not meant to be mean--comments only hurt me when I wasn't comfortable in my own skin--but it is...interesting!!

HungryHungryHippo
05-08-2013, 11:48 PM
The women I always find most attractive (and, well, you can take this w a grain of salt since I'm into guys) look like I did when I was younger. lol Is that creepy? But it's a very particular look -- severely pear shaped with big strong legs. The media gives this look no play at all, but I know I'm not the only one who likes it bc my dance card was always full back then! :o

Oh, and BTW, do you know who R. Crumb is? He does cartoons that celebrate that look, and I think it's pretty hot, too!

rubidoux
05-09-2013, 04:29 AM
Oh, and BTW, do you know who R. Crumb is? He does cartoons that celebrate that look, and I think it's pretty hot, too!

Too funny! I did know about him but hadn't noticed the shape of his female subjects. I love how they're all wearing bobby socks. Being ankle-less, they're the only socks I can pull off. lol

sacha
05-09-2013, 10:04 AM
I've always had a giggle when women say they don't like men with bulgy muscles.

Quite honestly, even being in the sport of weightlifting for 10 years, I've never seen many "bulgy" men, let alone them come and hit on me.

It's like men who complain they hate female bodybuilders. You see them walking around? Do they ask you out on dates?

Let people be, right?

Keep Moving Forward
05-09-2013, 11:57 AM
I totally agree with Ian about beauty being in the eye of the beholder. I've known men who wouldn't look twice at me because of my size, & men who were attracted to me because of my "fuller figure" (I believe that's the accepted pc term?). Makes no never mind to me as long as no one claims to be a "chubby chaser." That'll only get ya a kick in the junk ;) :-P

novangel
05-09-2013, 12:38 PM
My BF prefers the VS model type, tall with minimal curves (with nice cleavage :lol:) but he doesn't like too skinny either. I'm happy with myself and he doesn't love me any less for having some extra fluff. I think everyone has their preferences, there's no right or wrong IMO. To each their own.

BlueIsis
05-09-2013, 01:39 PM
Does anyone else see the irony that at 16-18% bodyfat (where most VS models are), except for the rare genetic freak/gifted person, natural breast tissue is virtually non-existent (as it is largely an adipose store)?

I find it interesting that as a society we have created an ideal that is physiologically impossible to acheive without surgical alteration (implants). I'm just as guilty, either through conditioning or some other unknown intrinsic preference - I think the most attractive females (and what I'd want for myself if i could choose), have minimal bodyfat stores but still have C/D cups breasts. :?:

sacha
05-09-2013, 01:52 PM
^That is SO true. I've gotten down to a fairly petite size but my now-34Cs are a miracle of nursing a baby every 2 hours (and don't touch or they'll squirt). Once this baby has decided he's done, back to the A cups we will go.

Everyone wants what is impossible I guess. It's why girls here will subject themselves to skin cancer risk in tanning booths whereas girls in Korea will happily bleach their skin.

Lecomtes
05-09-2013, 02:39 PM
I'm sorry people would detract from your achievement with such comments! I realize they probably were not meant to be rude though...still I must stress, CONGRATULATIONS on your success!
On muscles/appearance. I just. don't. care. Am I crazy? I'm probably going to come across as some self-righteous hippie or something, I don't mean it that way, this is just how I feel. To me, there is no external beauty standard. Nothing trumps intelligence, kindness, humor, and a good work ethic. In men or women! These are the traits that make my fiance sexy, not chiseled arms or a "strong jaw line", or designer clothes. The man buys me flowers every week for the **** of it, is smart as a whip, and is an adoring father...he could look like Shrek and I would love him 'til shriveled up and looked like yoda. :) I reject what the media and free market have handed to us as "attractive", not to say that there is anything wrong with the appearance of "models". I just refuse to categorically rank people based of their appearance. I won't have opinions handed to me by a magazine or TV...and let's fact it, that's the source! Weather we claim to like the buff Vin Diesel or the trim Jude Law...the "curvy" Kim Kardashian or the svelte Giselle...these are representations of "beauty" that were fed to us...they are not organic. From Michelangelo to modern producers, nobody has me convinced that beauty falls within such a narrow band of the spectrum of human diversity.

Ronja
05-09-2013, 03:20 PM
So feel good with you, and the men will follow.

This.

I admit I have never had a problem getting men intersted in me, and I have always been on chubby side. I was obese when I was getting married at the sweet age of 19 (mind you I was on high doses of corticosteroids then).

Truth to be told, being thinner (and I had few short spells of being normal weight in my life) always got me more "general" attention, i.e. comments from strangers or getting hit on in bars etc., but even when I was quite...how to put it...well when I had quite a bit of extra weight to lose, I still got asked out by men I wanted to be interested in me. One of the reasons I think is I never considered my weight to be in my way, if you know what I mean.

If you believe you're a catch, you will make others believe it too. If you believe you're not worth it, others will likely to think the same. The choice is yours.

ChickieBoom
05-09-2013, 03:34 PM
Well, I am just shocked that someone would, in response to a compliment to you, go on to say that they don't like your body type, but like something totally different. That is insane!

And I completely agree w other posters that people like all sorts of different things. The women I always find most attractive (and, well, you can take this w a grain of salt since I'm into guys) look like I did when I was younger. lol Is that creepy? But it's a very particular look -- severely pear shaped with big strong legs. The media gives this look no play at all, but I know I'm not the only one who likes it bc my dance card was always full back then! :o

LOL...I had to laugh at the severely pear shaped with big strong legs. I have crazy thick legs and I've always hated them but men will compliment me on how nice they are and I can't believe it.

novangel
05-09-2013, 04:21 PM
Does anyone else see the irony that at 16-18% bodyfat (where most VS models are), except for the rare genetic freak/gifted person, natural breast tissue is virtually non-existent (as it is largely an adipose store)?

I find it interesting that as a society we have created an ideal that is physiologically impossible to acheive without surgical alteration (implants). I'm just as guilty, either through conditioning or some other unknown intrinsic preference - I think the most attractive females (and what I'd want for myself if i could choose), have minimal bodyfat stores but still have C/D cups breasts.
:?:

You don't need implants, they don't call it "miracle bra" for nothing. It works. :)

krampus
05-09-2013, 04:51 PM
I'm sorry people would detract from your achievement with such comments! I realize they probably were not meant to be rude though...still I must stress, CONGRATULATIONS on your success!
On muscles/appearance. I just. don't. care. Am I crazy? I'm probably going to come across as some self-righteous hippie or something, I don't mean it that way, this is just how I feel. To me, there is no external beauty standard. Nothing trumps intelligence, kindness, humor, and a good work ethic. In men or women! These are the traits that make my fiance sexy, not chiseled arms or a "strong jaw line", or designer clothes. The man buys me flowers every week for the **** of it, is smart as a whip, and is an adoring father...he could look like Shrek and I would love him 'til shriveled up and looked like yoda. :) I reject what the media and free market have handed to us as "attractive", not to say that there is anything wrong with the appearance of "models". I just refuse to categorically rank people based of their appearance. I won't have opinions handed to me by a magazine or TV...and let's fact it, that's the source! Weather we claim to like the buff Vin Diesel or the trim Jude Law...the "curvy" Kim Kardashian or the svelte Giselle...these are representations of "beauty" that were fed to us...they are not organic. From Michelangelo to modern producers, nobody has me convinced that beauty falls within such a narrow band of the spectrum of human diversity.

The world would implode if everyone held this (ideal and admirable) worldview!

I do love Vin Diesel and the Rock though. Would tackle them both at once. Bahahahaha :D

Keep Moving Forward
05-09-2013, 05:57 PM
@ Lecomtes: You don't sound self-righteous or like a hippie at all. You sound like a logical woman who can think for herself & I agree with you! To me, no matter how physically attractive a person is my concept of their real beauty is based on how I perceive their personality. I've known men or women who were very nice to look at, but their personalities/attitudes made them very unattractive. The reverse is true, too. An average looking person could become the most beautiful to me because of their personality/talents/kindness/etc.

Your fiance sounds wonderful, btw :)

Eat
05-10-2013, 09:59 AM
I've known quite a few guys who will only look at stick thin women, but they need to have large breasts as well. I used to think that was just a sitcom, joke type thing. Different strokes for different folks, I guess.

Body size/shape doesn't matter to me. One of my all time favorites is Ann Wilson of Heart during the Bad Animals era. I think she looks drop dead gorgeous at the 3:29 mark of the Who Will You Run To video. At the same time, I think Evangeline Lilly is extremely attractive.

As stated earlier, eye of the beholder.