100 lb. Club - Emotional Eating Share Your Thoughts




MoniqueMclean
05-05-2013, 08:54 PM
Hey guys goodnight,

So I sitting here at home tonight on day 3 of eating healthy and all I can do is think about food.. I feel like im starving I have ate 6 times today all healthy snacks/choices but for some reason all I can do is wanna eat and eat bad.. I am not horribly upset but man I hate this feeling being a food addict is just as bad as quitting smoking its uncomfortable and painful. There is so many triggers..so many reasons to give in .. pheww I am going to go grab a water and crystal light and see if that helps ughh .. mabey a handful of nuts .. I know I am a food addict and this sucks .:(


elvislover324
05-05-2013, 09:16 PM
Hi Monique! The first few weeks of my new way of eating were the same way. The more I tried to think about not eating and then when I did, I had to eat healthy, I almost went out of my mind!

One of the most helpful things I did was hang up a mini-goal shirt on the front of my closet door. Any time I was tempted to go off plan, I thought about this summer top I wanted to fit in for this coming summer. Long story short, the top went into the donation bin yesterday with tags STILL ON! It's too big and I never got to wear it out, I lost too much weight!

I had to make little goals like that to keep me in the right place. There was no bag of chips or piece of pizza that was more important than this shirt I wanted to strut around in this summer. I was a tight 3x when I started, this top was a 1x that I couldn't get further than my shoulders. Now I could wear it as a dress...

I had to make a mental change to help me with the physical change, if that makes any sense.

You can do this, I know it!!

time2lose
05-05-2013, 09:33 PM
Monique, That first week is so hard. Hang in there! If you feel like you have to eat, go for something low calorie. You don't have to be perfect, just better. Eating 100 or 200 extra calories is much better than giving up.

You can do this!


JustB1027
05-05-2013, 10:35 PM
When I want to eat I try asking myself if I am hungry bores sad mad happy depressed whatever. I try to think before eating. I also try ro plan everything out.

Daimere
05-05-2013, 10:36 PM
When I first started my original journey, on my emotional eating foods, I had markers/post its saying, "Is this worth it?" and "STOP. Think. Are you craving or are you truly hungry?" Usually this would stop me. Goals also help. Even if you can't get to the gym, when you feel upset, try to channel your energy into something other than food. Take a walk, play with the kids/significant other/pets/etc, learn a new hobby, do some jumping jacks. You may realize that feels a lot better than eating. When I do emotional eat/boredom eat, I usually take notice how it's affecting my body. Is it making my tummy upset? I try to re-envision making better choices and how THAT would affect my body. After time, your emotional eating WILL get better. It takes time. But you have to put in the time and the think thinking for it to work. I am so much more aware of my emotional/binging/boredom eating versus 5 years ago.

MoniqueMclean
05-05-2013, 11:12 PM
I know what hunger feels like but man I honestly feel hungry its like a burning feeling in my chest mouth tastes bad despite drinking water headaches what's all this about. all you ladies are so inspirational I can only wish to achieve what u all have achieved.. I have never lost more than 20 pound NEVER .. and it was hard to that I feel like a whinney wimp today... as I sit here I can feel my neck rolls yuck lol look at me getting negative... what are some good ow cal snacks other than fruit

luckymommy
05-05-2013, 11:31 PM
I'm an addict too, so I can really relate to how you're feeling. I suggest you brush your teeth, chew gum, paint your nails, organize your closet, dance to some music, drink some hot herbal tea, anything to distract yourself. Even though the urges can become incredibly strong, it is possible to let them pass. You can also visualize how proud you'll feel tomorrow morning for not giving into your cravings. I really hope you feel better soon.

AnnMarie77
05-06-2013, 10:37 AM
I don't know what calorie level you are eating at, but are you eating enough? Feel better.

ubergirl
05-06-2013, 10:49 AM
I know what hunger feels like but man I honestly feel hungry its like a burning feeling in my chest mouth tastes bad despite drinking water headaches what's all this about. all you ladies are so inspirational I can only wish to achieve what u all have achieved.. I have never lost more than 20 pound NEVER .. and it was hard to that I feel like a whinney wimp today... as I sit here I can feel my neck rolls yuck lol look at me getting negative... what are some good ow cal snacks other than fruit

:hug::hug::hug::hug:

I know exactly how you are feeling and these early days maybe it's not just emotional eating, it may be your body being in a state of shock from suddenly eating way fewer calories.

I just restarted a little more than 3 weeks ago. In 2009-2010 I lost 110 lbs and kept it off until the middle of 2012 meaning that I was eating healthy pretty much every day for close to 3 years (before I lost it, which is a different story) but my point is that when I restarted three weeks ago, the first 5 days or so were living ****. I literally felt like I was starving, lightheaded, cranky, etc. etc. etc.

I kept telling myself that I had managed to eat healthy for 3 straight years... could I really not manage to eat healthy for a few days???? It made no sense.

I also kept reminding myself that the first time around it got WAY EASIER. The big losers you see here on the boards are not struggling every single day like you do in the beginning. After a while, staying on plan is mostly routine and only a day now and then is hard.

What totally helped me, was one of the posters on this board, Time2Lose, who told me she just had to "white knuckle it through" the first few weeks.
Whenever I felt like going off plan, I kept reminding myself that this was the hard part and it was going to get easier if I could just "white knuckle it through."

For me, the intense, awful craving hunger only lasted less than a week, then I started to adjust. I'm definitely not over-confident. I still worry that I might get distracted and fall off the plan, and I'm still trying to use all of the strategies mentioned up thread by others, such as mini-goals and distraction, but already, it's a little easier.

You seem really committed to doing this, and so I feel really sure that you can do it!!!

punkrocksong
05-08-2013, 12:13 AM
I had horrible caffeine headaches and I felt sick almost everyday from the radical change in diet....it takes time but it won't last forever. I'm only five weeks in and it's already getting easier to say "no" to all the food I love but doesn't love me in return.

Elvis has a great idea about having something motivational to keep you going. Personally, mine isn't clothes, my goals are more emotional: I want to first weigh less than my husband, then I want to get to the weight I was when I went back to college, then I want to be at the weight I was when I met my now best friend, then I want to get where I was when I was married...these are what is keeping me motivated.

It sounds like from what you have written that your kids are very important to you...hopefully they will provide some of the motivation you need to get through this first very difficult week.

smashlers
05-08-2013, 12:20 AM
monique are you working with a diet plan?? How are you tracking/determining what you eat? You may want to mess with your planning a bit, you could be cheating yourself!!

Thinforme
05-08-2013, 07:07 AM
When I have these moments and I know it's not real hunger. I use bullion "stock" cubes. Very little to no calories, its really satisfying and able to help with those want to eat out of boredom times. Plus it's a yummy way to get in water. Just becareful if your avoiding excess sodium some brands have alot but they make a reduced sodium. I like chicken myself but they come in beef, seafood and vegetable. I also like the quaker quakes rice cake snakes lots of yummy flavors even chocolate and only 100 calories a bag and Special K makes a air pooped chip their so yummy and lots of flavors " I like sea salt “ and it's only 110 calories for 30 chips.

MoniqueMclean
05-08-2013, 10:14 AM
smashlers yah I am doing a 1500 a day calorie intake I started to use my fitness pal as some ladies on here suggested.. keeping track of what I eat I love that sight ... My dietary goals generally are keeping my breaky very healthy high in nutrients fiber and what have you to start my day.. I AM CANADIAN lol so I love my timmies coffee.. I haven't givin it up yet all 260 cals per 1 coffee .. that's almost a small friggin meal .. I don't even think about it when I am drinking about it I love it so much ... I am trying to keep my lunches as a salad and I am doing different kinds to keep it interesting. adding lean meats as well or beans or chick peas for a filler... I do honestly know how eat well I have done this so many times I cant count now...do you have any point you can give me as far as your post was concerned how I may be cheating myself...

Thinforme thanks ill look into some of those num nums!!

punkrocksong omg headaches yah I got them at least daily 1 to 2 a day yah it sucks but I think of my kids and their weight and I want to fix what ive done comfort food isn't worth it to me this time it really isn't ... I spent my life out of control in my young years I couldn't control my parent they were who they were I couldn't control what people treated me like so I resorted to food I could control that.. I recently found out that I am co dependant I was seeing a councellor for it ...I never went back because the lady was not accomadating to me she was very direct and mean so I felt... so food has been my control .. now I am turning the switch off cant do this no more.. I hope with all my might I make it I wanna I really do but sometimes life is hard and stress sneaks up and next thing yah know your gaining again...with god as my anchor I can and I will ...

ubergirl thanks yah I feel committed to it I just hate the failures ive had but I am trying to let go of it and move on past is past and all we have is today RIGHT... fingers crossed this time I am working on it I promise...:)

annemarie77 thanks I am feeling better day 5 I am consuming 1500 cals a day my body is craving salts and fats I know that it has become easier lol just a lil

luckymommy good tips thanks I will take ur advice and thanks for relating I appreciate it ..I feels much better to know I aint alone in this quest for freedom...

smashlers
05-08-2013, 10:45 AM
Monique What I meant by "cheating your self" is something you seem to already know and ladies on here talk about it all the time, not all cals are created equal. Other foods that are high in protein are going to keep you fuller longer. I am doing Weight Watchers and they REALLLY stress that. I know you might love your coffee, but the sugar might be whats is causing your hunger. I am by no means a professional, I just know that you can be content and sustained while counting cals.
When I first started I was totally against fat free cheeses and stuff, and now I can't live without them because they keep me full and help me feel like I am not on a diet. lol.... Fat free greek yogurt... Fat free shredded mozzarella, light string cheeses, I could go on and on.

Best of luck Monique. Another tip **Don't ever stop coming to 3FC!!! LOL**

MoniqueMclean
05-08-2013, 11:28 AM
smashlers yah on the coffee I just don't know if I could manage giving it up right now ...I do know however living healthy life giving up caffeine would be in my best interest ... I wont give up this place I am in love with forums and obviously this place is right up my alley.. I haven't been on a forum in 3 years so I need this
..okay well that's some good info thanks:)

AnnMarie77
05-08-2013, 12:53 PM
1500 is low for your starting weight and your height (I'm 5'4 too). Not saying that you shouldn't start there, but I started at around 1,800 a day and then of course I try to exercise for more calorie burn. I know later, as I move down the scale, I will have to lower it as I go, but I don't see myself ever going lower than 1,600 to 1,700, I'll just be too hungry. Although I will have to up the exercise as I go down to keep a calorie deficit going.

Anyway, just a thought! I'm so jealous of your Tim Horton's coffee, yum!!!

time2lose
05-08-2013, 01:00 PM
Monique,
I know what you mean about not knowing if you can manage giving up coffee now. You don't want to tackle too much at one time. Depending on your metabolism, I don't think that 1500 is too low but you may want to give yourself a little leeway while getting started. When I first started at 300 pounds, my eating habits were so bad that it took me awhile to find good healthy low calorie foods. I think the key is to find foods you like and will allow you to eat some volume.

Hang in there. I promise you that it does get easier! My restart after gaining some weight was hard but after a few weeks, it was much easier.

Numina Dae
05-08-2013, 01:40 PM
Everyone is addicted to food, at least in one sense: we all have to eat! I think that's one of the hard parts of beginning this --- you can't just quit all food cold turkey. I find that crunchy food, like salads and celery, make me feel more satisfied. Adding some protein, like some chicken or tuna, makes it an actual meal. And lots of times I think I'm hungry when I am really thirsty.

You can and will get through this beginning nonsense. You want to be healthy and look beautiful more than you want that chip/cookie/slice of pie. You are STRONGER than food and STRONGER than fat. Put on the theme from "Rocky" and shadowbox around your kitchen (screaming "Adrianne!" is optional) and imagine all those lurking pounds of fat cowering just out of sight as you scare the jigglies out of them.

http://www.sherv.net/cm/emoticons/boxing/boxing-practice-smiley-emoticon.gif

There is a lot of good info on this thread, so thank you for starting it!

Hang in there!

MoniqueMclean
05-08-2013, 01:42 PM
Yah I have a tendancy to be bull moose in a china shop with everything I do.. hey I am a aries lol

I have always done the 1500 but I don't get crazy crazy counting either I know most calories and what I don't know I read on the label... I guess its something that is trial and error.. I have a friend whos in the military and told me that she tricks her body she does 1 week of so many calories then then next so many then the next so many.. she was 300 pounds and now is a healthy 137 pounds and she said she did it in a year and a half.. with moderate exercise in the beginning and just progressed to running an hour 5 times a night Saturday sunday off.. I dunno know if I could do that but hey all is possible hahah..

annmarie ----timmies is delicious and I am pretty sure is related to the devil haha !! I am going to keep it real and try to do trial and error ..gosh it does suck going from eating 8 chicken wings potatoe salad and fries to seasoned chicken breast with salad my bdy is like where is the grease

MoniqueMclean
05-08-2013, 01:54 PM
here is a good dinner me and my girls made last night...

taco salad 6 tortilla chips crunched up in big pieces , ground chicken cooked lots of cucumbers tomatoes romaine grated low fat cheddar cheese either use low fat ranch or low fat sour cream salsa
omg comfort food you can feel good about eating mix it up like a salad and oh the crunch it to die for and I felt full after eating it

the key though is keeping your portions sizes with the ground chicken and tortilla other than that all the veggies you want ... its a fav here and we love doing this one

Trazey34
05-08-2013, 04:27 PM
I'm always on the psychological bandwagon, I know I know!!!

BUT

Just like drug addicts or addicts of any kind, they can rarely quit it alone right? they need some professional help to get to the root of WHY they need whatever substance. We can suppress our cravings all we like, for years even, but that monster will find a way out someway somehow sometime. Have you given any thought to seeing 'someone' about this addiction you feel you have?

elvislover324
05-08-2013, 04:32 PM
gosh it does suck going from eating 8 chicken wings potatoe salad and fries to seasoned chicken breast with salad my bdy is like where is the grease

Just remember once you start eating healthy, your body will love the chix breast and if you eat grease, you will feel yucky (for the lack of a better word!) and not want the grease. Now that I cut out the greasy food and alcohol, I think my body would cry if I fed it that crap (plus my colon wouldn't like it either I'm sure!! :D ).

My body craves healthy food now. It used to crave chicken fingers and pork fried rice!

AnnMarie77
05-08-2013, 05:42 PM
Just remember once you start eating healthy, your body will love the chix breast and if you eat grease, you will feel yucky (for the lack of a better word!) and not want the grease. Now that I cut out the greasy food and alcohol, I think my body would cry if I fed it that crap (plus my colon wouldn't like it either I'm sure!! :D ).

My body craves healthy food now. It used to crave chicken fingers and pork fried rice!

This is very true!

MoniqueMclean
05-08-2013, 09:33 PM
Interesting for sure.. I just never have stuck out healthy eating to find that out ...well today was fairly easy no headaches but tonight im starving like my belly is growling I had a portion of cheese drank plenty water had a decent supper... ughh I don't like feeling like this .. cannot wait for the day like you described up above to come ..:)

MoniqueMclean
05-08-2013, 10:29 PM
okay so im sitting here hungry as heck I said to myself ill have oatmeal nope still hungry had 2 pickles nope still hungry...what is this good god I tell yah I am frustrated very badly first thing im thinking bad food will fix this .. I think if I had 6 burgers I eat em all ...my belly is growling and all I can think is to eaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat... stress my number 1 reason to emotional eat! going on the treadmill before bed kids are asleep it me time :)

elvislover324
05-08-2013, 10:39 PM
Did you try a cup of hot tea? (Decaf might be best!) Hot beverages fill my belly and make me feel full! And to be honest, sometimes I go to bed when I'm hungry just so I don't eat more. It might not be the best solution but it helps me when my mind just thinks I'm hungry but I know I had plenty to eat.

Issaknits
05-10-2013, 05:10 PM
I found that finding foods where I had to do a lot of chewing - crunchy veggies mostly - takes a lot longer to eat. One of my big problems when I started was that I was eating way too fast and my brain didn't have a chance to radio in to my stomach and feel full. I also had a bad habit of either eating standing up or eating in front of the TV. Now dinnertime is a TV-free, sit-down experience.

Another thing that got me was eating out of boredom (especially late at night!) and eating when I really wasn't hungry. I have several projects tucked around my house that I'll pick up and work on until the bored feeling passes and I've rediscovered my love of teas, both hot and iced that I'll drink instead of eating when I'm not really hungry. For me, 9 times out of 10 I mistake hunger for thirst, growly stomach and headaches included.

stress my number 1 reason to emotional eat! going on the treadmill before bed kids are asleep it me time

That's awesome! Keep it up and leave that stress in the dust!

the shiv
05-10-2013, 08:42 PM
Hey! :hug: :hug: :hug:

It's a process of experimentation that gets easier as you learn little snippets of information about what works for you. If you keep going, it'll get easier! I'll give you my story as an (ex?) binge eater... I'm doing intuitive eating. The whole eat what you want when you're hungry, stop when you're full thing. I used to be constantly hungry, and when I started this, it was all pizzas, chocolate, cakes, donuts for the first week or so. But I felt truly AWFUL - heartburn, constant growling hunger no matter what I ate, bloating like a puffer fish, cystitis, headaches, insomnia, aching muscles... For starters. I did a bit of reading up on it, and figured refined sugar might be the problem. I got lucky, as it was. After that I could barely even LOOK at a bar of chocolate. Now I'm getting used to how much of that my body can handle, and moderation is starting to come naturally.

As for what this has to do with your predicament - it could be any one of a number of things that's making you feel hungry all the time. As a lot of posters have said, it might be your body adjusting to your new intake. It could be the kind of things you're eating, the times you're eating, your stress levels (stress makes you crave carbs as they release hormones into your system that calm you down, dopamine & serotonin - never underestimate the power of your hormones to demand what they want, lol!) Any change is stressful on the body and mind, even if it's a positive change. Basic laws of the universe... we take the path of least resistance. Change means more exertion and use of resources in learning different ways to live.

If you're feeling deprived, have you thought about taking the "adding things in" approach? While you're cutting out some things, can you add in other things? Without this sounding too unscientific and wishy-washy... You've removed a habit from your life which has left a gap. You need to fill that gap with something else. What can you add in to replace what you've taken away? I think it takes your brain a month or two to adjust to a new habit, but you need constant repetition and reinforcement for it to become second nature. Sooo... You've taken away something you enjoy. You can't replace that with an obligation, you need to replace it with another thing you enjoy. Doesn't need to be weight-loss related, but it can be! Is there an activity you want to try, like hiking, skating, snowboarding? Anything! If it involves not sitting or lying down - you can count it as an improvement even if it's not "official exercise". I get more "exercise" working in a bar than I did working in an office, for example. If you can't think of anything weight-loss related, what about... Taking 10 minutes a day to check out new artists on YouTube if you love music? Watching your favourite tv show? Browsing net-a-porter, or asos, or another clothing website if you like fashion? Reading IGN reviews if you're a gamer? Doing your nails? Playing board games with your family or friends? Doing your garden if you have one? Going for a drive? Looking at photos online of places you want to visit?

SERIOUSLY... ANYTHING. Pick something you love and use it to plug the gap where the unhealthy food used to be.

Ok, I've totally gone off on a dissertation post here, so I guess I need a conclusion paragraph ;)

1. :hug:
2. Feel out the awful side effects of unhealthy food, and take pleasure in them gradually departing!
3. Experiment - make this as easy on yourself as you can.
4. Constantly repeat a fun, non-food habit whenever you have these cravings, to reinforce to your brain that it has something new where your food habit used to be.
5. :hug: