Beck Diet Solution - Beck Diet For Life/Solution – May 2013 – Support, Discussion, Buddy/Coach

05-01-2013, 06:13 AM
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The Beck Diet Solution is a psychological program, not a food plan. It provides a step-by-step program to learn specific techniques to stay on our diet, lose weight, and maintain our weight loss for life. The program is based on Dr. Beck's clinical research in Cognitive Therapy (CT).

The Complete Beck Diet for Life expands the earlier work and includes a food plan with suggested menus. From the cover:With The Complete Beck Diet for Life you'll discover the 5 stages of successful dieting and maintenance. You'll learn how to motivate yourself, give yourself credit for every change you make, create time and energy for dieting, and handle hunger and cravings. Dr. Beck eases you into changing one step at a time. You'll master one task before moving on to the next. And you'll learn techniques to deal with challenging situations, such as sticking with ou plan at celebrations and dealing with "food pushers." With Dr. Beck's skills, you'll achieve a lifetime of healthful eating and lifelong motivation.

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05-01-2013, 06:14 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Such fun to be out in the sunshine. Weather is predicted clear for the next few days so it's easy to enjoy the fresh air.

Walking, CREDIT moi, included a stop at that magic machine that dispenses cash. Gotta have cash because I need gas in my car and the local stations charge 5 cents a gallon to use a credit card - like the ones that advertise on TV that they'll give you 3% rebate. Paying 10% extra for a 3% rebate isn't attractive. And walked to vote because Massachusetts is having a special election to replace Senator John Kerry who abandoned his post to become Secretary of State.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – I hate "awkwardly timed" food - it's a challenge for me to say NO. Kudos for stopping mid-plate to salvage your situation.

Beverlyjoy – Congrats for surviving your dietitian. That matches my experience - a donut makes my whole body want to eat sugar.

spanky - Great mantra: "Nobody can do it for me ... Nobody can do it for me ... Nobody can do it for me." Fun news about the new puppy.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – What a demo about getting out of sync and spending the day to recover. Kudos for being aware and working to figure out what you could do differently next time.

IBelieveInMe2 – Walking with dogs is just the greatest. Except of course for walking with dogs and DH. Hope your foot continues to heal each day.

Jo (veganasaurusrex) – Kudos for choosing your Eating Plan. This sitting to eat business was hard for me because I just assumed that I always did. Was big time surprised when I discovered that I didn't. My only reminder was when I noticed my hand going to my mouth while I was standing.

Liz (lizagna) – LOL at the insight that we can do the 42 'days' of the Beck program by counting in "Beck Years."

Lulu (LuLu01801) – Thirty Kudos for sticking to your chosen eating plan for the whole 30 days. Just love, "I'm feeling spectacular!!!"

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

day 1
Record the Advantages of Losing Weight

Face Reality!
. . . Think about it: If your doctor gave you an antibiotic to get rid of a bad infection, would you take only half the pill? Of course not. Likewise, don't take shortcuts with this program. It's most effective if you follow it in its entirety.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 60.

05-01-2013, 09:08 AM
This came through Facebook today via The Beck Diet Solution:

Wednesday Sabotage: I’m too busy to eat healthfully right now. Response: That’s just an excuse to make unhealthy choices. In this day and age, there are almost always healthy options available that are as easy and convenient as not healthy ones.

05-01-2013, 09:14 AM
Happy May! Straining to put together a full day on track again ... Monday was good; yesterday I added too much to my dinner and then a snack later JUST because DH had the munchies and his munchies looked good. Today is lunch with a friend, and will go where she chooses and order wisely, eat until no longer hungry. DH goes back to work tonight and I can use the other half of meal for dinner.

DH and I spent a month last summer (the month where it was over 100 degrees for record number of days and then dropped 20 degrees once we took the "after" picture), sledgehammering out a concrete back patio, grading, doing all the fun stuff to create a larger paver patio and surrounding garden that looks wonderful. I can't wait to enjoy that more this year. Now we're thinking of eliminating one garden/berm further out in the yard that is hammered with weeds/seeds from the field next to us and building a wooden deck/pergola out there. I'm most excited about lighting it - ha ha! I love the looks of those that are beautifully lit at night. Then realized we have to be permitted with the city, etc. so DH said he must do the plans first. I, however, want to go look at lighting - ha ha - we operate TOTALLY differently, but work really well on projects together. So my mind is whirling with those ideas. I must rescue all that I want from this garden first, so will get to work on that tonight - before they grow any more. That'll be an undertaking in itself.

Know my weight will be up this Saturday, and just knowing that is causing me stress. Thank you, Lulu, for posting some of your thoughts, because NO CHOICE has worked in the past well for me. I "no choiced" when someone offered me a bakery donut yesterday - so why didn't that come to my mind when DH hauled out the hummus/pretzel chips?

Bill - Kudos for walking vs. driving on so many of your errands! I wish I had more nearby that was safe to walk to. I've called our mayor's action line for crosswalks/signal as one of the roads nearby is 6 lanes and no cross opportunities. And a handicapped bus rider is always trying to manage it. No progress yet.

More personals tonight - gotta run

05-01-2013, 09:51 AM
OMG, today is just the VERY BEST DAY!!!
I chewed food today, haven't chewed a thing since March!!
food is glorious, it's meant to nourish us and bring us pleasure (that's why we have taste buds).
God meant for us to have pleasure with eating our food, but he didn't mean for us to abuse ourselves with it.
Food is life, food is what keeps us going . . . but it's interesting what we choose to do with it sometimes that does just the opposite.
We developed unhealthy behaviors by living in this society that God did not create.
Let's try to go back to what is natural for us as human beings and eat to live.

I'm gonna do a little horn tooting . . . or more modestly, giving myself credit.
I am extremely proud of myself for committing to do something extremely healthy for myself this past month.
Some may beg to differ, not being educated in the benefits of fasting.
Fasting has been around for centuries, although not so much in the West.
It's a physical, emotional and spiritual experience and people do it for one or all of those reasons.
I am so grateful that I stumbled upon this particular cleanse five years ago and felt an overwhelming desire to be a part of it.
this was my 20th cleanse, although this was my longest one.
and I plan to do many more to maintain my health.
I wish I could be a little less toxic in between fasts, but I'm not perfect.
but I clean up my mess four times a year and for that I give myself a boatload of credit.

oh I hear what you're saying . . . maybe people think I'm a health freak because I'm a vegan but it is rather surprising what the diet can actually look like. I would say I eat mostly healthy food, but like my junk and booze and even smoking. Sometimes I hear "what vegan smokes?" I'm like "this one right here!!" Although I love the healthy food I do choose and the junk I'm forced to avoid because of my commitment to veganisam, my main motivation is for the animals.

yes, it is YOUR plan. nobody here is gonna tell you what plan to follow, you own it. it’s so fabulous to have all the folks here, to bounce ideas off of, get advice, or to just listen when things aren’t going well . . . a great group of cheerleaders!!
a puppy? oh, nuttin’ like a puppy….I’m jealous.
I’m not in a position in my life right now to have another dog after losing my golden retriever Romeo 7 years ago. He was my number one guy and I miss him terribly, but I just need the freedom at this point in time. I like having friends with dogs, that way I get doggie kisses all I want!!!

good for me to see someone like you getting off track just a bit and not blowing it completely. I need to learn from you. thanks for being here.

you talk about actually breaking your food addiction. I wonder if it’s possible for me to actually “break” it. I think of it as something I need to manage for a lifetime. And adopting Beck behaviors will make it that much more manageable.
yup, with the dogwalking it certainly is a win/win!! so nice to have animals that you adore. it contributes to good mental health in my opinion.
snack ideas . . . I love seaweed snacks that are really low in points and calories, they are salty and like eating chips. Also I do hot air popcorn with butter pam spray and sea salt. Make an all vegetable soup with tons of flavors with herbs and spices and chipolte peppers and a bowl of that anytime is a good filler.

I’m thinking I’m going to chew gum while I prepare food in the kitchen to remind myself not to pick and eat standing up.
anybody else do that with success?
or do you yank the gum out and nibble? lol

thanks for sharing those newsfeeds, great stuff to ponder. yes, it is just as easy to pick something healthy as it is to grab junkfood, and I wonder why I typically grab the bag of tortilla chips instead of an apple….UGH!!

what fabulous plans for your patio!! so nice to hear that you and DH work well on projects together. many couples do not, and when you can, it’s a nice way to spend time together and beautify the home you share. reading that made me smile.

everybody have a Wonderful Wednesday, and I'll check in again later.
I have a fruit smoothie coming up soon that will taste like flippin' icecream to me!!


05-01-2013, 10:03 AM
Welcome to the Merry Month of May!

I wanted to eat more all day yesterday. Credit for not doing it! Credit for making garden work into exercise some of the time. Planting lettuce isn't really energetic enough to count, but pulling henbit while doing squats and lunges is. We have one more warm day today before it gets cold and rainy again, so I'm going to take advantage and do my exercise in the garden again.

05-01-2013, 12:59 PM
Good morning, Becksters!

This morning was the first day of my masters (coached) swim class 6 - 7:15am. :swim: I approached it with trepidation, nigh unto terror. Part of the terror was having to do a whole new morning (and evening) routine. CHANGE! Auuuggggghhhh! And part wondering if I would be able to keep up with the workout.

Last night I took Emma for a pre-emptive 3-mile wog since she wouldn't get one this morning. Made my green smoothie & put it in a thermos in the fridge, assembled healthy, OP lunch & snacks to grab & go. Got all my swim gear together & bagged. Also have NoBo tonight, so put all my running gear in a bag and hauled both bags up to the car. For all the prep, you'd think I was ascending Everest--but no oxygen tanks. (Although maybe I should bring those too.)

Left the house at 5:30 this morning after feeding Emma & Watson; and after all that, the class was almost anti-climactic. It was great! I'm the slowest in the slow lane (I like to think of it as "controlled"), but not painfully slower. And I managed as much of the workout (2300 yards) as the others in my lane. I'm SO pleased. And everyone in the group is really nice! :) During the workout, the :sunny: came flooding through the windows & lit up the water. Beautiful.

Eating OP. I feel great!

Lulu - Major congrats on your successful cleanse. I'm so glad you're pleased with your results. Enjoy all the chewing! I've been reading a book on mindfulness & have been working to intensely focus on every bite/sip, the texture, taste, & every nuance of the food/beverage. It really is like exploring another universe.

BillBE - Kudos on walking and thriftiness when you do have to purchase petrol. Enjoy all the wonderful weather, and please report on it to provide vicarious pleasure for those of us forecast to be plunged back into rain & 40s tomorrow. Thank you for setting up another month of our Beck forum, and being our fearless and generous leader. I appreciate it so much.

IBelieveinMe2 - I'm so glad you're feeling more comfortable about controlling food. Re snack suggestions: I enjoy apples, red bell pepper, Oasis fat-free lentil or black-bean dip (unbelievably low calories) with baby carrots or celery, reconstituted PB2 (powdered peanut butter that can be reconstituted with water--although I use it in smoothies in powdered form--1/4 the calories of regular pb & 85% less fat) on apples or celery, low-fat string cheese. I used to indulge in the 100-calorie snack packets, but those are the devil to me--I'm more likely to rip open & eat 10 of them before I'm through than to stop at one. (Yes, dear Lulu, as you suggested for yourself, my food addiction is one to be managed and probably never entirely overcome.)

Have a wonderful day, everyone! :wave:


05-01-2013, 03:26 PM
Hello everyone! It's mid day on Day 3 - Eating while sitting down. I'm sitting right now, finishing a delicious plate of rice and beans left over from dinner and a lovely salad.

I'm not on giving credit - YET - but credit to me for refusing donuts, skittles, and a multitude of fast food this morning even though I was very hungry and knew it would be a half hour drive back to my office and my lovely lunch.

I'm not much of a cook but I'm trying to figure out if I'm going to enjoy baking. Last night I baked zucchini chocolate chip muffins that were delicious.

I've also been focusing very hard on upping my water intake. I have to pee constantly but I think that it's been beneficial for my mental and physical health.

BillBlueEyes It's pouring rain here and when it's not raining the air is thick soup. Very annoying not to be able to get my running in - I suppose it's time to join a gym for the summer so I can work out less miserably!

BeverlyJoy Thanks for that! I struggle so much with that issue when I'm out and about and need lunch quickly. I guess I should make a list of healthier options around me, it's very hard though.

nationalparker We're working on building raised beds so we can start a produce garden - yay for gardening!

Lulu I'm right there with you - for me it's an ethical thing not a health thing. I need to get my health things other ways I guess :)

Lizanga My mother's favorite thing is swimming up through the water into light. I've developed a real love for it also. Kudos for doing such a fun sounding thing!

05-01-2013, 04:20 PM
so, for the first time in my life, I just intentionally stopped eating and threw away uneaten applesauce. I savored every mouthful and when there was one spoonful left, I threw it away. goes against every morsel of my being!! haha . . . but I did it!!!

05-01-2013, 06:53 PM
and now I'm home, eating standing up and picking at a few things that were not planned!!
I'm a piece of work, I tell ya.
well, I guess I'll cut myself a little slack because I'm just a little over the top excited about food today.
I'm eating some plain cooked fresh pinto beans.
and a few slices of tofu.
I don't need to munch junk food today . . . the simple healthy stuff is just so delish to me today!!

05-01-2013, 08:43 PM
Continuing on a 3 day roll. OP this evening with calories left if I choose them.

I think I'm going to open up the Beck Workbook and start on Day 1, just to have that lifeline to hang on to each day. I actually got a little better understanding of why I must read my Advantages each the thinking gets ingrained. I get that, I think, but my Advantage card now has a picture of a midsection with a generous spare tire on it. A visual sort of prompt since that is what works right now.

To you maintainers:I realize how tired I am of being in the same wearying space. I realize I'd like to treat this as a task to get done. To get closure. To think of something besides my weigh issue for once. Is that realistic to imagine I'd actually feel a sense of closure? What is on the other side of that "Made It To Goal" Wall?


05-01-2013, 10:57 PM
Hi all,

I was OP today until dinner--we went out with a bunch of other people. I ordered a "slightly more but reasonable" entree (which wasn't even that tasty and I didn't finish). But then I ordered a piece of carrot cake. I don't even know why. Non-optimal behavior.

I need to start re-reading Beck every day--I don't think I'm spending enough time on it. Tonight is another late night, too. I have to pack tomorrow's breakfast and lunch and head to bed now!

05-01-2013, 10:58 PM
Hi Coaches, it's been awhile.

We're slowly returning to pre-Looloo status in the household. Caesar looked for her a bit the other day,expeccting her to be on the bookcase shelf she favoured. I haven't removed her papers there, the ones she used to lie on, nor have I been able to wash off the small footprints her always-wet feet left on top of the printer as she moved from litterbox to bookcase shelf. And then, when I thought it was all fading, I had to pay the vet for her last appointement and they handed me an envelope containing her pawprints. :( They took prints before she was cremated. It just killed me and to compound it, I saw her blankie, the one we donated, the one she was wrapped in last, in the box by the door for the cat rescue people. Oh man.

So, the upshot of all this is I have had a few food items not on my plan. I have eaten more than I needed a few times. I have eaten to keep DH company and eaten because he told me it was ok (he was a food pusher which is really out of character) so long as I was reasonable and eating only a modest amount. For me, this never works. I didn't get to within a hair of 300lbs using moderation and being rational and reasonable with my food.

My weight has been 251.5 the last two days. The culprit mostly is salt. Today I was on plan all day until this evening. I had a snacky thing and a bread thing. This slide was precipitated by too much cheese, which wasn't on my plan today because I have noticed that cheese triggers me to eat more things.

Upcoming events include a week away in Ottawa with a jam-packed schedule. Ottawa and visits there, as the oldtimers who know me here know, is a real powderkeg for me on all levels. I've decided to let the farmer's market go that weekend, which is Mother's Day weekend and a bad day to miss *sigh* but if I push to make it, it'll be worse for me personally. Also coming up, the opening market weekend this Saturday and I had a job interview today for the local art store. My applicaton was submitted last year when they opened the store. I heard nothing. They want someone from 4-9:30 during the week in the crafts section. I wouldl do it, and work other things around it as it is guaranteed $ and I want to pay down my debts. I'm never productive during those hours anyway. usually DH and I are just hanging out, watching the tube. I wouldn't need to work weekends, which was a bottomline for me given I am committed to the market now for the season. I'll know if I get it in a few days after the police check comes back.

So, yep, here I am. Not looking forward to the scale, of course, but knowing what I need to keep doing. I have said no no NO no NO to many many offplan things *credit*, emailed my support people daily, *credit* and written out my food daily even it changed which I noted in other emails, *credit* and here I am again. *credit* Time to move forward again. I'm ready. And so glad it is May.

Thanks for reading.

05-02-2013, 01:49 AM
Hello coaches,
Not much to report. I ate OP but did do an unplanned snack of that blasted Pirate's Booty tonight. I went to water aerobics and was really hungry (not an emergency) and wanted a snack. I indulged. It was still within my calorie range but unplanned and high in sodium. OH WELL!

I have read what a few of you wrote about Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead and want to try to watch it this weekend. It looks like, from the website that I will learn a bit about juicing from it too!

I must hit the hay so I can function tomorrow! Goodnight all....

05-02-2013, 06:23 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – First time birding in May, CREDIT moi. Expected to see a bunch of early warblers but, for their own reasons, they've dawdled this year and weren't here yet. Oh Well. The Yellow-rumped Warblers are here and feisty as ever. In a few weeks they'll be ubiquitous and annoying since we'll be looking for their more rare cousins.

Too much snacking - Ouch. I had to make some reservations for a trip to see grandma that includes my adult kids. Young adults have predictable unpredictables in their lives to disrupt any sane plans based on non-refundable deposits. I am so looking forward to being a totally centered person - just know it's coming. It doth seem to be dawdling like the warblers, LOL.

onebyone – Ouch, Ouch, Ouch for the pain of continuing to process the loss of Looloo. Kudos for being realistic about what works for you with food.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Had to google 'henbit' - what a delightful looking invasive. Yay for exercise while doing something useful.

spanky - Seems to be the reason, "so the thinking gets ingrained." If there's a place when I don't have to think about food, I'm not there yet.

nationalparker – Marital co-munchies are a challenge. Good luck rescuing your plants (possible) and good luck moving your mayor (dubious?).

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Sometimes "slightly more but reasonable" is victory - Kudos.

Jo (veganasaurusrex) – Rice and beans is just the best - per my sister's New Orleans' recipe that includes about half ham, LOL. Hardly vegan food. Kudos for refusing all the junk food.

Liz (lizagna) – Kudos for all that prep for swimming - maybe that counts as exercise, also.

Rosebud170 – Maybe the sheriff will come take that Pirate's Booty away, LOL. Yay for water aerobics.

Lulu (LuLu01801) – Taking credit is required - it's not considered tooting one's horn around here. So Kudos for even one spoonful of uneaten food - even healthy food like your applesauce.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

day 1
Record the Advantages of Losing Weight

Face Reality!
. . . Your Advantages Response Card is the first of many Response Cards you'll create to answer back to sabotaging thoughts. At the end of each day of this program, you'll create Response Cards to help carry out that day's task.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 60.

05-02-2013, 09:10 AM
Hi coaches - I am struggling.... it's those darn evenings. I need to pull out my strongest resistance techniques and throw a good dose of willingness. It's easy to wallow in a tough time. I don't want to do that. It's all so frustrating sometimes.

Part of it is facing six days away from home coming up. I am feeling defeated before I even start. I need to snap out of it!

One credit is that I have been reading my response cards and advantage cards.

So, I will carry on. Make my plan for the rest of the day and move forward.

I'll check in later.

This is something from Facebook today:

Think Thin Thursday Tip: If you go out to eat with a friend who then expresses disappointment when you order something healthy, remind yourself that it is not your responsibility to make others feel better about what they eat. It is your responsibility to be healthy and make eating choices that work for you.

05-02-2013, 09:52 AM
Wednesday was an OP day! I was able to wait until my stomach felt empty and/or was growling to eat my next meal or snack. I feel so much better eating when I know that I am truly hungry and I choose healthy foods. No guilt! And that feels wonderful!!! :D :carrot: It was a gorgeous day here yesterday, but I was on the go literally all day long, so didn't get to walk the dogs. (DH did though, so they got their exercise and fresh air!)

LuLu: Congratulations on completing your fasting cleanse! Thank you for the insight about "managing" rather than "breaking" my food addiction. Once my mind gets stuck on something (i.e., breaking the food addiction), I have a hard time thinking outside of the box, so I appreciate your input and perspective. Maybe that is part of what is holding me back. Maybe I need to work on accepting that I have a food addiction, forgiving myself for it, and moving forward on Beck principles to help me manage it. I will take this into serious consideration.

spanky: HOORAY for your 3 day roll!!! Keep up the positive attitude and good food choices! You can do this! You ARE doing it! :D

Liz: Thank you for the snack suggestions. I eat some of the same stuff, but you gave me some other great ideas, too. Yes, those 100 calorie packs can be a slippery slope! Sometimes, though, they just "hit the spot!" I do limit myself to one.

:wave: to everyone else! Hope all is well!

05-02-2013, 10:12 AM
onebyone: It is great to hear from you! Sounds like you are busy, busy, busy! I can relate to your sadness upon getting Looloo's pawprints from your vet and seeing her things lying around, especially those things you will be donating/letting go of. I am still finding stuff from our Golden who died in January...... and my heart sinks when I find these things. I am just now at the point that I am donating some of her old medications to our vet. [I was saving them "in case our other dogs ever needed them."] I will be taking the medicine to the vet tomorrow, and I know it will be difficult. I feel like I am letting go of her in some way, and I don't want to. But I need to. HUGS to you as you continue to process your grief. :hug: [My stomach is churning as I type this; perhaps I still have some grief to process.]

Hang in there and remember to take care of yourself in the midst of all of the busyness! :)

05-02-2013, 10:16 AM
Good morning! We're enjoying a beautiful morning here, and I'm thankful for that. Was able to stay 90% on plan yesterday, and that was a success to me. Alone for dinner now for a few nights, and went very light as I'd had a larger lunch. Then busy with plant shopping and came home and caught up with a friend from home in Florida for almost two hours.

Lately, I've been frustrated when we talk because of her financial stress, but nearly all of the issues are self-induced (I mean what I think of as poor decisions, not unexpected health or vet or vehicle bills)... I find myself judging her when I have no right. But for her to be newly retired and DH unemployed, own a $425K home, buy another $300K beach home and have season tickets to NFL team and cry poor frustrates me. Credit that I kept busy for the evening, though. Made, of all things, rice krispie treats, for a coworker's birthday - they tend to go very quickly and no oven needed :)

Tonight I'm picking up more plants and the soil to get going on the patio planters. Itching to get some more color back there. The weekend cannot get here fast enough. Next weekend I work all the weekend, so I'm determined to enjoy this one completely.

Vet appt for aggressive cat (toward one other cat) went well, so I'm really keeping my fingers crossed that we see a change in the next 6-8 weeks on this medicine. I've procrastinated while trying everything I could think of, but now resigned to this step. Vet is very compassionate and said if this doesn't work, we could look at re-homing her since she's a great "solo" cat and i started crying. He backpeddaled and said well, that's just in extreme situations. Will keep a positive vibe about it and hope it works.

Volunteering gig today so subway afterward for lunch. NO CHIPS. NO CHOICE. My card of the day.

05-02-2013, 10:24 AM
good morning, fine folks!!
I did some unplanned eating last night, I was just too excited about food I guess. no junk food though so kudos for that!!
I weighed myself this morning and I was exactly the same as yesterday morning. I was quite shocked as naturally some poundage comes back once eating again after not eating for so long. so I did something right yesterday, huh? CREDIT!!
today is gonna be a rough one.
we are celebrating Staff Appreciation Day here at my company today.
mind you, there 100s, maybe even a 1,000 staff members at my company.
we got a beautiful plant for our desk.
a breakfast buffet set up in the conference area (bagels, muffins, homemade granola, yogurt, blueberries, strawberries, pastries, coffee, juice, etc.)
I had blueberries and strawberries and my one unplanned munch was a couple of bites of that yummo granola, that’s it!!
then we have two raffles during the day with loads of prizes to win (the biggests ones being TVs, iPods, airline tix, red sox tix, restaurant gift cards, etc. . . . and little things like company logo coffee mugs, umbrellas, etc.)
hope I win!!!
then a huge luncheon spread today too, with the most fabulous food and desserts.
fortunately 90% of what is served I don’t eat, but I remember last year the most delicious grilled veggies (eggplant, tomatoes, asparagus, onions) sooooooo delish!!
I’ll plan on a plate of those and hope they are not too oily, if they are I’ll blot them with a napkin.
then tonight I have a second date with a fella I met and he’s taking me to the Cheesecake Factory for dinner.
I already checked out their menu and have made my selection . . . The Skinnylicious Vegetable Salad, minus the cheddar cheese.
just gotta stay out of the bread bowl . . . UGH!!!
so, as you can see, I will have a challenging day and doubt I will eat as planned 100%, but I’ll do my best.

gardening certain does account for many squats and lunges. I did about 10 hours of it last weekend and it’s tough work, so yes credit is due to you!!

what is your coached swim class like? do you do laps? perfecting different strokes? with the goal to pick up speed? nothing like the look of the sunlight shimmering the water. :)
sounds like a great way to get exercise and hydrotherapy, all in one!!
I love green smoothies! yesterday I had green juice that I put through my new juicer that I slurged on. I used carrots, celery, cukes, parsley, ginger and granny smith apple, delish!!!
thanks for your congrats to me!!

rice and beans . . . yum!! I’m going to a Cinco de Mayo party this weekend with a full Mexican menu. 90% of it I don’t eat. the only things I saw that have potential for me are rice and beans (but I have to ask if it was made with chicken stock or bacon fat), and Cuban Black Beans (again, must ask ingredients) and homemade guacamole (which should be a sure vegan thing but then that means I get into the tortilla chips) UGH!!!
so great that you resisted all that junk food yesterday!! YEEHA!!!
about the animal ethical thing . . . sometimes I wonder if I care more about the animals than I do for myself, since I consider them with every bite I take, and don’t do that for myself.
whacked, huh?

so glad to hear you are back on track!!
I do not expect a sense of closure anytime soon with my weight issue. I’m at my goal (actually below it) and the fight feels more intense for me. instead of being on the solid path to goal, I’m on the slippery slope, and it’s sometimes hard to hold my balance on that slope. my advice would be to not be looking for an end to the mission, and live in the day and do what you need to do for today. the future is always uncertain, no since trying to predict it. that’s what I tell myself, anyway.

yeah, I look at the Beck book as a perpetual read. finish it, start all over again, as I always feel like a beginner. kinda like AA meetings where they read the big book together and when they are done, they start from the beginning again and read it over and over and over again.

so sad that you lost your LooLoo (my namesake kitty!) I lost my Romeo doggie 7 years ago and I still have his ashes in a wooden box with his picture inserted in a slot in the front of the box, it’s on top of my fridge, with a lock of his fur cut and sitting on top of it. He’ll always be in my heart, and unfortunately pets don’t stick around for a long as we’d like them to. good luck on the job opportunity!!

I’ve been doing some unplanned eating myself, but still staying within my points. easy to justify that eating but I understand Beck as far as developing new habits. I’ll get it one of these days!!

yeah, sometimes it just feelings like bragging when I give myself credit, but it’s getting easier with all of you doing it too!!

yes it is frustrating. tackling food issues is a full-time job and it’s exhausting sometimes. but we’re all in this together!! again, thanks for posting those facebook newsfeeds every day, they are helpful.

way to go, being OP yesterday . . . all we have is each day as it comes, so that’s an accomplishment!! I’m glad that what I suggested to you yesterday you found helpful. just like AA people that have been sober in that program for 25 years or more . . . they still say “I’m an alcoholic”.

I hear ya about your frustration with your rich poor friend. I have a friend like that, that lives beyond their means. and she comes to be for money!! some people can't control their food, some can't control their finances. we all have our stuff, I guess.

have a beautiful day!!

05-02-2013, 10:40 AM

Big workday today.
Fantastic day to spend at home working the day away. Not a cloud in the sky.

Official weigh-in day. +0.2 to 250.0 exactly. Every cell in my body certainly has a sense of humour. Fie to that 250 number, yet thanks to not being more. Its a good starting point and it's also a 10lb loss in the month of April. Yay. Something to remember as I head into my travels next week.

Food was awesome last night as we had our first bbq of the year. DH was thrilled. I was thrilled. Caesar was thrilled as we took him out on his leash, now 2x as long since I added Looloo's leash to it. I am thinking of getting him a tie out like dogs have so he can be outside with me. I don't trust him off the leash but the two small ones are too short. I did also think that I can describe him pretty well were he to be lost: big gray cat with muted stripes, scar across bridge of nose, walks with limp and has one big bottom tooth, answers to name of Caesar. Plus I have tons of pictures, he has a microchip (which needs to be changed) and he doesn't go out without a collar on with tags with our phonenumber but his tag says Tinkerbell --Looloo's former name given to her by my sister --the tags came with our phone number on them - 2 tags: pink and purple hearts with a purple collar with pink palm trees on it.

Anyway, food today is planned. *credit* gotta get to work now. Have a good day :)

05-02-2013, 10:41 AM
oh yeah, I almost forgot!!
while I was on my cleanse, I kept a daily journal, writing a full notebook page each day.
last night I was rereading the 30 pages of writing, and it sure was interesting to see what I was feeling and what was on my mind each day.
one thing I wrote on Day 7, I want to share with you:

"it's really not about what you can or cannot, should or should not eat or drink . . . it's all about your frame of mind, your mindset. it's not about your strength to resist temptation, its about the strength you get from passion for what you really want to achieve."

I read that last night and thought "wow, where did that come from?" haha

05-02-2013, 01:33 PM
Good morning, Becksters!

I was so grateful this morning that although the temp had dropped to the 40s with windchill in the 30s and a big wind--it wasn't raining as predicted. Yeaaa! :dancer: Ms. Emma the Rocket Dawg and I had a lovely wog, and I wore sunglasses. My bod is really sore from all the workouts, so before the wog I did yoga & foam roller.

This morning the Beck blog post had this about desserts. I found it really helpful, and BethfromDayton, it would also relate to your post.

BillBE - The birding sounds great! I've been seeing large groups of birders on the running paths in the aboretum & nature conservancy. (Some of them are so lost in their amazement and viewfinders, they block the path for those of us trying to move. Bless their hearts.) Are you and/or other birders starting a pool to predict when the warblers with non-yellow rumps will arrive?

Kay (IBelieveinMe2) - You can east JUST ONE (of the 100-cal packets)? You are a goddess. But then we already knew that. :) Congrats on your excellent OP day! I'm so happy for you! :carrot:

NationalParker - I recognize your friend and want to dope slap her. Part of my very visceral reaction is because I'm currently editing a sort-of friend's novel draft--and she has populated her book with characters like what you described. All of them. Self-entitled, whiny, heading for ruin at their own hands. Anygry at people who aren't thinking of them. It's exhibited in different ways with each, but a pattern in every single character. (And my impression is that the author wants the reader to really like some of them--like the two protagonists.) I want to scream, and am regretting agreeing to the edit (free & an act of friendship) and wondering if the characters reflect something about the author. Anyway... I am happy for you that your friend does not live nearby. :rolleyes:

Lulu - It's wonderful that your company tangibly expresses their appreciation for their most precious assets! GREAT JOB on your discretion at the cornucopia-like breakfast buffet! Also on maintaining weight-wise. Waytago! Also, good luck on winning a great prize or eight on this fabulous day at your company. :gift: Re: your question about the swim workout: It entails a warm-up (400-500 yds interspersing various combinations of 100-yd swim, 100-yd kick, 100-yd pull--that's using a "pull buoy" between the knees, which keeps the bottom half afloat & allows total focus on the upper body & stroke.) Then usually a few hundred yards of 25-50 yd drills to improve stroke & general technique. Sometimes breathing drills--like going the pool length with incrementally fewer breaths & ultimately doing the distance with one breath. Then doing repeats of various distances (usu 50-200 yards) at differing paces/levels of intensity to increase speed & stamina. I would like to improve my swimming--technique, speed, & stamina--but my main goal is the workout. There's nothin' like it.

Have a happy day, everyone!


05-02-2013, 03:33 PM
I won a raffle at work!!!
not one of the grand prizes but I won a fleece jacket with the company logo on it.
I didn't eat exactly what I said I was going to.
I had plain salad with roasted veggies on top (that was planned).
what was not planned was a small tongful of ziti.
and one plain small crusty roll.
darn!!! I said I wasn't going to do that!! grrrrrrr..................
I suppose it could have been worse and so glad that there was no dessert for Lulu . . . the gals were enjoying those fancy deserts and stuffed shells and fattening stuff.
but I can't be comparing myself to others that don't have the goal that I do.
I can't get into the "it's not fair" mode.
"right, it's not fair . . . oh well."

it was all sooooooooooooooooooo DELISH!!!

05-02-2013, 04:26 PM
I decided to spend yesterday afternoon at the bookstore doing market research. My first thought was to take myself out to lunch, but I couldn't think of anything to eat at the mall that sounded better than what I had planned at home. Well, it sounded better but only if I overate it, not if I ate it in a reasonable amount. If I were going to eat a reasonable amount of food, I preferred what I had at home. Credit for eating my planned lunch.

In answer to spanky's question about what happens on the other side of the wall of goal weight, I haven't really experienced it as a wall. More of an oscillating spring. Most of the time, I'm trying to lose back down to the middle of my maintenance range after I've sprung back up to the top (or over it). That's the bad news.

The good news is that along the way I realized that what I was learning about myself to lose weight was equally applicable to other things in life -- and I didn't have to wait until I hit goal weight to apply them. Yesterday's bookstore trip was a celebration of a milestone. I finished the rough draft of a book project on Tuesday. Getting it written required pretty much the same things that losing weight did -- finding structures and strategies and tips and tricks that worked for me.

WI: -0.15, OP: 80%, Exercise: +60 60/1000 for May

05-02-2013, 09:52 PM
Good evening! I've gotten so much done this evening - feels good! Gorgeous weather here again. I stopped at Lowe's on my way home and spent an hour admiring all of the plants while talking to my brother who lives in Florida. Wonderful time spent. Picked up a small variety and got right to work on the large planters. Then another quick run out for a few more, and am finished; very pleased with results. I love the flowers we had in our gardens and patios over in Italy (the deep red geraniums, etc.) and I cannot pass those by to this day.

Dinner was eaten way too quickly to get it "over with" and get outside. I wish I'd have savored it a bit more. Because now I'm wanting to just munch, so hopped on here.

Meetings abound tomorrow at work. Looking forward to doing personals as we close in on the weekend and I have more time. Think I'm going to hop in a hot bubble bath to avoid the kitchen and relax!

05-02-2013, 10:19 PM
Good Evening, Coaches.

Good News with the changing of the month. I am down 3 pounds. YES!!!! Sometimes I resist only changing my ticker once a month but it helps me let go of compulsiveness and reminds me that finding peace with food is a long race. OP today. Meeting tonight and i will go to it with an empty belly which is what my goal is every night. No exercise. Frustrated that my feet are still painful.

nationalparker: I share the trouble with frustration when listening to friends who I feel are making bad decisions or morally "wrong" decisions. I realize that as I judge others ruthlessly, I judge myself in the same manner. I am working on a meditation "Teach me to forgive myself and others." I am tired of being so hard on everything.

LuLu: Work has historically been super tough for me. Credit for at least a plan.

Lizagna: That is a big gift of friendship to edit a book. Yikes!

Gardenerjoy: Big Credit on the book project. That is a big deal!

05-02-2013, 10:58 PM
Hi all,

Today was an OP day. Now that I'm back at work I find I really miss my mid day walks. I can't do them for a few more weeks, but I look forward to being able to again.

I've got tomorrow all planned out. I know that I'm tight on time in the mornings and I know I am not going to get up 15 minutes earlier for a leisurely breakfast. So, I packed breakfast as well as lunch and I'll bring it into work tomorrow and eat there.

My food, as entered, is a bit over my calorie goal, but it's a balanced set of meals with a single snack. It's hard to eat at my goal now that I'm back at work--I managed at home somehow, probably because I wasn't moving much, but I think I'll just have to accept a slightly higher caloric intake since I can't exercise any of it away!

I'm off to bed to try and catch up on my sleep!

05-03-2013, 05:18 AM
Hi coaches... been struggling. So glad that everyday is a new beginning. I am going to see my 'smile makers'' as Billbe says (grandkids). Since I have a dumbphone... I must rely on others to stay in contact with the internet. I will check in when I can. As from the conversation with the dietician, I will start each day with a healthy breakfast and plan the best I can. I will use my exchanges and aim for food sanity.

As always, I appreciate your words of support. Talk to you later.

05-03-2013, 06:37 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Wonderful day of no extra snacking, CREDIT moi. I needed a perfect food plan day to revigorate my mojo. A key event was passing a bowl of FREE Tootsie Rolls - helpfully left by a generous soul by the coffee. I recognized that a sugar hit in the morning would alter my brain for the whole day. Lunch was changed when a friend asked me to join him at a local place even though I had my packed lunch with me. It was an easy choice, since camaraderie is high on my goals. The red lentil soup was superb as was the salad - whose feta cheese wasn't particularly low calorie.

Walking, CREDIT moi, in the warm sunshine was a joy. There are tulips and daffodils everywhere.

onebyone – Yay for the first BBQ of the season. It's fun to hear you talk of Caesar who had disappeared from your conversations here.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – A day in a bookstore for you seems a bit like a rabbit in a brier patch - glad you had a reason. Kudos for recognizing how to use your CBT stuff elsewhere in your life. And congrats on completing that book draft.

Beverlyjoy – She coaches herself, "I need to snap out of it!" So glad you're finally getting to see your DGS laugh therapist. Have a good trip.

maryann - Congrats on another three pounds gone. Hope those feet begin to feel better.

nationalparker – Kudos for giving yourself credit for a neat 90%. You're a good friend to listen when a friend has to whine - but super smart to stay untangled from someone's illusions of money problems.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Packing breakfast for the office is a neat change - hope that works for you.

IBelieveInMe2 – Waiting for hunger before eating is a neat education.

Liz (lizagna) – Needing sunglasses to walk is a good sign. [No betting on warblers' arrival - they're pretty independent.]

Lulu (LuLu01801) – Yay for a day of being celebrated by your company followed by being celebrated by a guy who shows up for a second date. You're doing something right. You won that fleece jacket just in time - it began to turn chilly yesterday afternoon.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

day 1
Record the Advantages of Losing Weight

Face Reality!
. . .If your doctor gave you an antibiotic
to get rid of a bad infection, would you take only
half the pill? Of course not. Likewise, don't try
. . .to take shortcuts with this program.Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 61.

05-03-2013, 12:36 PM
good morning!!
no, I didn’t follow my plan exactly yesterday.
I meant to have one glass of wine on my date last night and I had three . . . OOPS!!
I did get the veggie salad but I had one piece of crusty bread with it and I hadn’t planned on it, better than the whole basket, I guess.
the good news . . . I weighed the same this morning as I did yesterday morning as I did the morning before which was the morning after wrapping up my fast!!
it really is a small miracle that my weight hasn’t gone up at all, just for the mere fact that I was coming off of the fast.
so I’m doing something right, I guess.
I’m grateful to be maintaining, but I know me and I know it won’t go like this forever.
and like Beck says, you have to develop the habits NOW even if you feel like you’ve got everything under control because when the day comes that you don’t, you’ll have the skills.
I’m trying.

my credits yesterday . . . even though I didn’t follow it to the letter, I created a food plan and a daily schedule for the day.
I did my self-care ritual of oil pulling, dry brushing, deep breathing, starting the day with lemon/water, stretches, journaled.
I weighed myself.
I left food on my plate and threw away (not easy for me).
I read Beck book.

by the way, although the gentleman I went out with last night was very nice and we had great conversation and a lot of laughs, I’m not too sure I’m feeling the level of chemistry that I need to go on with it.
like Beck says “oh well”.

going out tonight with my "boyfriend".
I know it seems strange to say I have a boyfriend when I went on a date last night.
but let's just say . . . my doors are never closed.
anyway, we are going to Bertucci's for dinner where I'll get a salad.
just had a salad last night out to dinner, I'll see if I can persuade him to do chinese, as I could go for a veggie/tofu stirfry.
he will likely go with the flow and he usually does.
after dinner we'll go to the club we frequent and listen to live music and dance all night with a club full of our friends.
I'm looking forward to it!!!

tomorrow I have a Cinco de Mayo party to go to, lots of mexican food, most of it I don't eat, thank you God!!!

Sunday I'm going on a Boston Harbor cruise for the afternoon with BF and another couple.
it's called Bacon and Beer cruise.
I don't eat bacon and not much for beer so this should be interesting.
I emailed the caterers of this cruise and asked what would be served that a vegan could eat.
they got back to me and said that they have been hired to create a buffet where every item contains bacon.
oh well . . . I'll throw something in purse that I can eat!!
hopefully they have wine!!!

I love bubble baths and it’s a great place to hang out and be sure to be away from food!!!
unless, of course, you bring a sandwich and a glass of wine in with ya, which I’ve been known to do!!!

down 3 pounds . . . COOL!!!!
“teach me to forgive myself and others” . . . I have found peace in this area by acknowledging that people make bad decisions and do or say bad things, and rather than ridicule them, if only in my head, I just express gratitude for myself that I didn’t make that bad decision or do or say bad things. Everybody is just doing what they do. Keeping your eyes on your own plate is just so much easier for me. And I realize I can’t fix the world.

yeah, every day is a new beginning, there’s the key.
“it’s not how far off-track you go, it’s how quickly you get back on”.

boy, the weather yesterday really took a turn, huh?
at lunch time I went out and it was hot in the sun.
commuting home was brrrrrrrrrr!!!

WOW, what insight to know that about yourself, that what appealed to you was a bigger lunch, not a different lunch. impressive!!!

wow, you are crankin’ with the exercise!! I’m envious . . . I want to get committed to exercise too. you may be sore from your workouts, but it’s a good sore . . . right?
your swim class sounds great!! I look forward to hearing about your progress.


05-03-2013, 12:57 PM
Good morning, Coaches.

Slept poorly last night. Bad feet and loads of anxiety over just getting through the day. This comes and goes with me. At times, I lose the ability to put things into perspective. An overdue library book is as critical as a family issue and nothing will ever change. I get overwhelmed and then cry bunches. Credit for having picked a DH who hangs in there with me, always trying to help. Credit for staying OP, canceling a few commitments and trying to take things one step at a time. This too shall pass.

05-03-2013, 01:05 PM
Good morning, Becksters!

The rain is here, but at least we're not getting the 18" of snow other places not so far away are shoveling. Some places are re-opening the xc-ski trails. Wow! Happy spring!

I particularly didn't mind rain since it is swim day. (Poor Emma. But even though she's 3/8 lab & has webbed paws, she doesn't like water except to drink. So she probably didn't feel all that badly about not getting a wog, either.) Good swim, great endorphins!

Eating OP. Leaving for lunch in a bit with some former co-workers. I'll have the salad, which is fabulous with chicken, pecans, cranberries, & blue cheese--but a little on the high-calorie side. In planning for the weekend, I have included "cheesecake" as one of my planned foodgroups, so we'll see if I do better OP with some nice indulgence.

BillBE - Kudos on the no extra snacking! The lentil soup & salad w/feta sound divine! I know what you mean about the "social" being high on the list.

Lulu - I can identify with the love of wine & going past the one-glass plan. Sounds like you had a nice time socially even if he wasn't the greatest chemistry ever. And like you've got GREAT times planned for the weekend. I especially loved the sound of dancing all night!

Maryann - Congrats on the -3#! Fantastic! I don't think I'd read about the painful feet before--so sorry to hear. Hope they feel better soon. As for the book--when I've taken writing classes & we did critiques, I think it is a wonderful skill to learn, but I really do not like doing it at all. I don't think I have the temperament to be a fiction editor. (I can do technical documents all day long--well, unless they're authored by a weak writer. So... maybe that has a lot to do with my angst with the current editing.) Do you have plans for future writing projects? I'm sure you're taking some deep, cleansing breaths after just finishing the MFA. But what's on the horizon that we can look forward to hearing about?

Happy weekend, everyone!


05-03-2013, 03:44 PM
Friday and still OP. I have 4 [going on 5] somewhat crumpled 3x5 index cards, one for each day this week, that report my daily food intake. They're stacked on my placemat at the breakfast table like a little pile of trophies attesting to the fact I've been OP for 5 whole days (assuming I make it through this evening). The fact I kept them means I didn't just 'misplace' them halfway through the day while I strayed off-plan (!)

No special plans for the weekend, all the right foods in the house. Hoping for a Happy Weigh In on Monday, after the first week of getting more focussed!

Best to all and Happy Friday!


05-03-2013, 06:50 PM
Hi Coaches!

I am still here. I am still reading. I am still working a program. I am contacting my Beck diet buddy every day by email. I am weighing everyday
Between Internet woes and a crazy schedule I am finding it difficult to find the moment to post right now. This morning I had set aside time and could not access the Internet. Now I have bags of wonderful organic veggies which need to be washed and put away...along with numerous other things.
Credit today for not tasting some kind of unusual lemon coated almonds at Costco.... because I knew they had sugar in them and I am not consciously doing sugar right now.
I work at 5:30 tomorrow morning perhaps I'll find some time to say hello this weekend.
Best wishes to everyone!

05-04-2013, 12:02 AM
Today I worked on Day 4 – giving myself credit! I’m going to try and find five things every day to give myself credit for.

I’ve also found the Beck blog – I’ve very much enjoyed reading the posts. They’re giving me inspiration!

I’ve additionally been drinking a lot of water lately. I’ve heard that drinking water is good for weight loss – and anything helps!

My current steps are reading my ARC, eating sitting down and giving myself credit. Today I read my ARC twice (CREDIT 1). I ate all of my meals sitting down (CREDIT 2), but I still grabbed bites of food while I was carrying plates from place to place. I did notice every time I did it and told myself that it wasn’t an option (CREDIT 3). At my weekend job people bring in and prepare large amounts of food. I said NO to everything I saw and ate only the food I brought with me (CREDIT 4). Oh and I posted on the Beck Forum today  (CREDIT 5!)

I am also looking for a Beck buddy who may be looking for a regular email partner. My current email buddies are great but none are versed in Beck so it’s a little harder to communicate about. Ideally I’m looking for an “accountabiliabuddy” who I can email on a regular basis about my successes and struggles and offer the same in return. Please let me know if you’d be interested!

05-04-2013, 12:26 AM
Happy Friday night!

I'm glad my first week back at work is over. There's plenty to do to catch up with everything that's been waiting for me, though.

My weight isn't going down (or up) (although the few off plan days are enough to explain why I'm still at 200.x). I'm fighting my way towards ONEderland.

Food was OP today and as planned. Credit for that. And credit for accepting that I can't be as low-cal net as I want to be without exercise--and that's okay. I'm still at a losing level. "Oh well" to not being able to walk at work.

We have several house guests coming tomorrow for our friend's memorial celebration of his life. Tomorrow I need to make sure that the beds I'm giving them all have clean linens.

I'm looking forward to an OP day tomorrow--and really looking forward to my breakfast bowl of Puffins! (I realized yesterday that I really want a peanut butter and jelly sandwich--I'll probably get that in there, too, but it has to wait until a grocery store run--if I'm going to have it is has to have the right kind of bread) Credit for recognizing that and planning for it so I can make it fit into my plan.

veganasaurusrex: Credit for giving yourself credit! That can be hard to do--but you did great at it!

Lexxiss: Free samples can be so tempting--and I sometimes find new things to bring home and eat that way--but they are just a way to get unplanned food into us. Credit for withstanding it.

spanky: Credit for the crumpled index cards--that's great. What a visible reminder of how great you're doing this week.

Lizagna: Rain definitely sounds better than 18" of snow. Heck, rain sounds better that 1/2" of snow! I hope you had a great lunch out--the salad sounds yummy (even if I would have substituted for the blue cheese)

maryann: It takes a long time to move past really hard emotional blows. Be gentle with yourself. Staying OP when you find it hard is something to really give yourself credit for.

LuLu: Wine? Date? (and then a BF--if we ever get together for wine, I want to hear that story) Looks like you have a great weekend planned--and with some food plans to make it work.

BillBE: Credit for sharing the image of tulips and daffodils with us! Tootsie rolls are very tempting things--major credit for not giving into the sugar hit.

Beverlyjoy: I hope you're having a wonderful time with your grandkids. Starting each day with a health breakfast makes a lot of sense--getting off to a good start makes it easier to stay on the path.

Take care, all.

05-04-2013, 07:11 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Another day 100% on plan, CREDIT moi. Better yet, I had NO snacks - just my meals - as part of getting my brain back on track. Quite nobly, so that no food is ever wasted, I had my pre-made lunch from the other day. A day old sandwich isn't so joyous, but that's replaced by the soaring good feeling of doing the right thing. Celebrating today the Red-knots who'll soon be arriving at Delaware Bay to eat enough Horseshoe Crab eggs to fuel their journey to the Arctic to nest.

Had to wear a jacket when walking, CREDIT moi, due to the return of chilly. The cool weather has helped the Lilacs at Arnold Arboretum to be at full bloom for Mother's Day - a tradition around here that's been tough to meet since warming weather has caused them to peak two weeks early in recent years. Non-gardening visitors are annoyed when flowering peaks don't arrive on the expected calendar dates. Why can't the flowers just return to Capistrano on time like the Swallows?

Debbie (Lexxiss) – I am so happy that "lemon coated almonds at Costco" don't sound that appealing to me - maybe I could pass on them.

maryann - Beautiful vignette on the reality of a difficult day. Kudos for seeing, "This too shall pass."

spanky - Yay for your "little pile of trophies" - Kudos for staying the course.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Yes, design the food you want exactly as it brings on the pleasure - otherwise we try to get that good feeling by eating more and more. The proper bread for a PBJ sandwich is crucial.

Jo (veganasaurusrex) – Neat set of credits particularly, "I said NO to everything I saw and ate only the food I brought" - Kudos for them all.

Liz (lizagna) – I love what I'm willing to believe is healthy food when it's combined into a 'salad.' Yours sounds delish. Kudos for the joy in "Good swim, great endorphins!"

Lulu (LuLu01801) – Always ready to pass out Kudos for "left food on my plate and threw away" since I'm still working on that one. LOL at using Beck's CBT, "Oh, Well," for leaving a gentleman on the plate as well.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

day 1
Record the Advantages of Losing Weight

Face Reality!
. . . As time goes on, you'll have lots of sabotaging thoughts, but if you've been reading all your Response Cards regularly, you'll be ready to counteract them. The dieters I counsel tell me over and over again that these cards make a big difference for them. The cards prepare them to overcome their sabotaging thoughts, charge their mindset, and do what they have to do to lose weight. It works for them - and it'll work for you, too.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 61.

05-04-2013, 11:17 AM
The combination of eating out at lunch and adding two slices of bread to supper for no good reason, caused a jump on the scale. I won't be doing that again. My days have not been going according to plan recently, but until yesterday, I was doing okay with that. Today, I want to aim for 100%. But that means, I need to write a plan....Done -- Credit!

WI: +0.9, OP: 70%, Exercise: +30 135/1000 for May

05-04-2013, 12:02 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.
Yesterday, pretended that I was feeling capable and hopeful. Got some feet therapy and a Dr. referral, did a few errands, and by the end of the day I did feel hopeful. Credit for acting my way into right thinking.

Huge credit for going to the mall and NOT eating my number 2 rabbit hole food—See's Candy. It gave me pause to think what gave me the strength to say "no" yesterday? Weight at ticker. Food planned. Two parties today. Never easy. One is a Kentucky Derby something. That will be interesting.

Lizagna: I do plan on doing editing in my second career. i will probably retire from teaching in about 7 years.

Lexxiss: Sending computer mojo.

BBE: Weather is the ultimate mystery. This may be the first year Bill has not had to spray the trees because it refuses to rain. Nothing makes me feel more helpless than mother nature.

BethfromDayton: Thanks for the thoughts. Today was better. I just had to slow way down and put first things first. Then things started to be possible again. I hear you about feet frustrations. I want to be able to do what I want. Sometimes I feel I am being punished for wanting to exercise.

gardenerjoy: I aim for 100% today, as well. I was nibbling standing up making dinner.

05-04-2013, 01:04 PM
I am so mad at myself. Without going into the details, I ate some really bad unplanned foods Friday evening. :( It was as though I was eating unconsciously and not even trying to hold back. What is my problem?!? :?: I really DO want to lose the weight. Still working to believe again that I CAN. I know it in my head, but not quite in my heart. I am reading a book on getting motivated to lose weight, and it said that weight loss will be a difficult process if you have low self-esteem and a negative body image. I have both. :( I have been working on my self-esteem for YEARS now, and I finally have a few smidgeons of self-esteem, which is huge for me. It is difficult to not have a negative body image when I look in the mirror and see myself carrying 60+ extra pounds. But they said (and I think I agree) that I need to accept my body as it is now to make the process of losing weight easier (because even as I lose weight, I will still be overweight). I do want to embrace the PROCESS of losing weight and be content with where I am at each stage. That is how I felt a few years ago when I lost 35+ pounds. And it DID make losing the weight easier. Of course, the lower you get (weight-wise), the easier it is to accept and embrace your body at that weight. Anyway, I am putting the slip-up behind me and have eaten well so far today. Plan to get in some exercise, too. We are at the lake, so eating extras is tempting, but I will exercise my resistance muscle at every opportunity.

BillBlueEyes: 100% OP eating and no snacks to get your brain back on the right track is terrific!!! Much CREDIT to you!!! Thank you for your continuous example that weight loss and maintenance are both possible!

05-04-2013, 10:12 PM
Hello Coaches,
I am so excited to have another workout buddy. Dd goes to 2 back to back dance classes with 2 of her friends on Saturdays. One of the friend's moms and I played raquetball today and it kicked our butts (in a good way)..after that, we walked for about 20 minutes, scoping out a trail near the rec place. We plan to do something each Saturday so I am very excited. All that after I had already done water aerobics! I am beat and hope I can get out of bed tomorrow morning! I feel so much better, even though I have so much more to lose, I want to do what my body can do and I am really enjoying it! Eating OP and got over a mini plateau despite having been OP all week...

It is sunny here in the NW this weekend and it is just so is supposed to get up to 80 degrees tomorrow. I plan to get stuff done, including wash my car and make minestrone for my lunches this week. Credit moi!

05-05-2013, 01:08 AM
Hi coaches!

Today was a mostly successful day!

I ate everything sitting down, except one stupid noodle. But 99% is great! (CREDIT 1). Today is eating mindfully which I didn't do perfectly but I did better at (CREDIT 2). I'm a big fan of imbibing media with my food so that's a hard habit to break. I continued avoiding all food that wasn't stuff I packed to bring with me (CREDIT 3). I used a lot of spare time today to read up on the Beck blog and other diet resources. Preparing to be ready for week 2, traditionally a really rough time for me. I drank SO MUCH WATER today. I feel like I might float away! (CREDIT 4). Finally, I read my ARC twice. I need to up that tomorrow (CREDIT 5).

Tomorrow's plan is to up my ARC reading and to actually write out some physical response cards to prepare for the week.

Love and strength to you all!

05-05-2013, 02:17 AM
Hi all,

Today was the memorial for my friend--which means a buffet. Emotionally, it was tough, and there were lots of tears and lots of stories shared, and it was a healing time.

Foodwise, I managed to make one trip to the buffet, pick a limited number of items, and not go back for seconds. I allowed myself one alcopop and switched to diet soda. Several friends are staying here overnight and we've been up talking--and I left the Rumchata alone.

I started re-reading the "Diet for Life" book--it pointed out that I've been getting away from eating slowly and savoring every bite, so I'm trying to pay more attention to that.

I started the 30 day squat/crunch/plank challenge today--it didn't bother my foot, which is good--today was the first day--pretty easy. I don't think it'll stay that way.

AND (can't believe I almost forgot to mention this since it's big), I have a new mini-goal, because this morning, I reached ONEderland.

Take care, all.

05-05-2013, 05:59 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Beautiful sunny day, although still chilly. Wasn't a particularly productive day since I remember getting air in a tire on my car as an event, LOL. Cucumbers are back in the supermarket. They had disappeared last week, presumably for the food poisoning scare.

Food was only good enough, CREDIT moi, since the afternoon snack was larger than planned. I did finish reading Tolstoy's The death of Ivan Ilych. It's a reminder that the dying process includes critical evaluation of whether our lives have had meaning. Reading great fiction reminds me not to attempt to become a writer.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – I hate it when I eat something "for no good reason."

maryann - Two parties in one day is a whopping challenge. I so hope that See's Candy never makes it to the East Coast.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Monster Congrats for reaching your ONEderland goal! May you never see a '2' digit again. Kudos for dealing with food even while dealing with grief and bunches of friends.

IBelieveInMe2 – Great reminder, "I do want to embrace the PROCESS" - it's so easy to get hung up on our dream body. Kudos for keeping your wits despite not being a perfect human being.

Jo (veganasaurusrex) – LOL at "I might float away!" Kudos for all that water and all those credits.

Rosebud170 – Our newspapers made a big deal that one of your local schools declared a holiday because the sun came out. Neat that you have an exercise buddy and a regularly scheduled slot to do it.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

day 1
Record the Advantages of Losing Weight

what are you thinking?
You might still be having sabotaging thoughts about creating or reading your Advantages Response Card. If so, these responses may help.

Sabotaging Thought: I don't need to remind myself of the reasons to lose weight. I know them.
Helpful Response: I know them - now. But think about all the times I strayed from a diet in the past. I sure wasn't thinking of all the advantages of sticking to it then!

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 61.

05-05-2013, 08:15 PM
Two unplanned snacks today. Came home and said "OK, back to the Plan" and, just that easily, pulled out of a Potential Tailspin. Ate the planned salad for dinner and am done for the day. Weighed in this morning 2 pounds down.

I had to pull over to the side of the road yesterday to cry after hearing a song that reminded me of my dog Finn.

I always think of this line from a poem by Pablo Neruda:

"Love is so short, and the forgetting is so long."

Yep. Ouch.


05-05-2013, 11:14 PM
Hi all,

Today's been a good food day. We had overnight guests, so last night I made a breakfast casserole and we had that for breakfast (and I'll have leftovers tomorrow morning), fresh fruit, orange juice--nobody (including me) had toast, although I had it out.

I was ready to have my peanut butter & jelly sandwich when DH wanted to go to Home Depot. So, off we went. We out for dinner, but picked a place where there were low-cal/low-oil options, so that worked out well. DH took the other tactic--he ordered a meal twice as big as he could eat and immediately boxed half of it up for dinner. This is good--he can have his leftover steak for dinner tomorrow and I will have my PB&J that I've been craving.

I'm 2 days into the squat/abs/plank challenge, and 1 day into the Dumbbell Challenge. It feels good to be moving at least a little. I am not totally sure the podiatrist would approve, but I am keeping my post-op boot on!

I've got next week's meals planned out--I'd fallen down on that. I have tomorrow's food all entered into MFP. Lots of credit for that.

I became more aware of the speed of my eating and started paying attention and slowing down more--I think I had started creeping the speedometer up and not realizing it. So, I eased off on the fork speed and I think that's a good thing for me.

spanky: Credit for getting back on plan so fast--mistakes happen. Recovery is the answer!

BillBE: Credit for reading The Death of Ivan Illych. I've totally pushed that book out of my brain. Air is useful, at any rate.

Quiet day on the Beck list today!

Take care all.

05-06-2013, 12:53 AM
Today was an okay day food-wise. Progress with resisting extras, but still much room for improvement. Saturday night, I took my daughter and niece to Dairy Queen for dessert and did not order a thing for myself! CREDIT!!! :carrot: Spent much of the day today (Sunday) planting flowers at our lake house. :sunny:

Sorry, but that's all I have energy to write tonight. CREDIT for checking in!

05-06-2013, 01:04 AM
Hello Coaches,
Another sunny day fun! I got tons done today including making minestrone soup for my lunches this week and pulled pork to freeze some and eat for dinner a couple of times this week.

I watched Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead and, of course, now would love to get a juicer! I can't do that right now but will think about that as a weight loss incentive.

Credits today for: reading cards, sitting while eating, eating planned food, doing unplanned exercise whenever possible and drank loads of water.

Have a wonderful week everyone..

05-06-2013, 07:39 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Another splendid day to be outside. We joined a group of plant lovers to climb a small mountain in Western Mass to see what's growing, while I looked up to see what was flying about. It's a perfect combo: lots of exercise walking up and down with incline; no time to think about needing extra snacks. DW commented that the granola bars we packed tasted a tad stale. That reminded me that they sit in the pantry for months being ignored by me even when my mind is prowling because I'm 'hungry.' I think of all packaged food as inert, so don't have a notion that it needs to be eaten in a timely manner, LOL. Year old granola bars are stale. CREDIT moi for a good day.

Got home tired and late, so it was a short walk to our favorite fast Thai food place for dinner. CREDIT moi for a good choice and for bringing our own plastic containers so that we were both prepared to eat half our meals and bring the other half home for a later meal to be savored.

spanky - Ouch indeed for the unexpected memory of Finn. Thanks for the poignant line about remembering. Congrats for those two pounds down and Big Kudos for immediately recognizing that extra snacks can lead to a "Potential Tailspin" so getting right back on track.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Yay for moving, while keeping my fingers crossed that your foot is happy being pushed. Kudos for eating well with house guests - it's easy for me to think that rational eating is trumped by the desire to be a gracious host.

IBelieveInMe2 – Planting is good exercise - Kudos. And Queen sized Kudos for ordering nothing at Dairy Queen.

Rosebud170 – Honking Kudos for pulling pork and not doing the standard: one for me, one for the bowl. Before my journey, I would eat a ton doing something like that. Drooling over the thought of a fridge full of fresh minestrone soup for the week.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

day 1
Record the Advantages of Losing Weight

what are you thinking?
You might still be having sabotaging thoughts about creating or reading your Advantages Response Card. If so, these responses may help.

. . .
Sabotaging Thought: I don't feel like going to the trouble of getting index cards and writing down advantages right now. I'll do it later.
Helpful Response: To lose weight, I'm going to have to train myself to do what I need to do, not what I feel like doing at the moment. If I put off this task, I might end up never doing it.
. . .

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 61.

05-06-2013, 09:57 AM
Back after struggling a bit on the weekend. Stayed busy on Saturday, mowed for two hours - major chore and the lawn looked wonderful when done. Tried to rush to beat the rains, which never came other than a few sprinkles. Got some transplanting and weeding done, and more deck planning and dreaming. Somehow decided that since I'd mowed, I could have this ... and that. So rescued it with a lighter dinner, but then yesterday was a bit offcourse as well. Not sure WHY I lost my way a bit. DH and I went out and then decided to do dinner out as well, and we wanted a non-chain, something we'd never tried before. Ended up at chinese (his fave) buffet - which i like because I never know WHAT i like - and it had a great selection of non-fried, non-greasy options, so took mainly chicken and tiny pieces in different flavors. BUT then I got an ice milk cone and it wasn't even deelish. I was mentally beating myself up over it before we even closed our car doors. But then I had to think, I don't want to NEVER treat myself, even if it's the wrong treat ... what is most important lesson for me to grasp with Becks is that I can stray a bit but come back and keep on chugging. Years ago with WW I certainly built in indulgences and strayed from my plan, and lost weight and kept it off for 12-13 years. Now I'm almost panicky about straying, which then makes me feel less in control - as if I don't believe in myself and my ability to make wise choices the following meal, day, whatever the case is. Bottom line was I didn't fill my plate on the first go-thru on the buffet, chose to try a few new things (bonus for me since I'm not gung ho on that at times) and didn't have a second plate. So a credit for that :)

Back to work - and working through the weekend until next weekend, so i tried to really get a lot done the past two days. But not enough relaxin'.

Sorry for the lack of personals here lately! But I didn't want the guilt of that to stop me from posting this week.

05-06-2013, 01:05 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

Woke up grumpy but I seemed to have worked through it. Gave myself small tasks to accomplish to avoid the blues. Credit. Weeken parties did me in with food but this morning is OP. Weight 1 pound above ticker. Off to DR. today for feet and then I will do a Pilates routine.

bethfromDayton: Thanks for reminding about slowing down while I eat. I have an ARC card that says, "Eating fast has contributed to my weight gain."

Spanky: credit for starting the day over after a slip. That is truly the way of sucess.

Rosebud: I love my juicer. I remember debating the cost. Would I use it enough? It has easily payed for itself with the fruits and veggies that would have gone bad had I not been able to juice and freeze them.

BBE: I had to toss about two pounds of brown rice because it was about three years old. I didn't know rice went bad.

nationalparker: I struggled this weekend also. This morning, I woke up and said "Oh Well" and read my no choice ARC card. Here is to us both having a brand new start.

05-06-2013, 01:32 PM
Good morning, Becksters!

We were supposed to have cold, drizzly, ucky weather from last Tues through today; and we are totally forgiving the weather(wo)man for getting it wrong. The rain Sat turned into brilliant blue, sunny skies; and that has persisted to the present. :sunny: Yea!

I didn't do as well planning my weekend as I do my weekdays--but I did better than I have in the recent past. I'm counting it a win & a big credit!

I am going to keep weighing, but I start feeling paranoid when I think about sharing it. It just hovers in a 2-pound range; but my body comp (fat & muscle %) and measurements for the most part go in the right direction. Although this time a couple of the measurements went up, while others went down. (Lost 1/2" off my hips since last week, so I'm definitely reporting that one! ;) ) It reminds me of a potter shaping clay and how it keeps shape-shifting. That's what I feel like my body is doing--a glacially-paced reforming. I feel great, my clothes are fitting better.

Saturday I did my first 5K in a couple years--with a few members of my NoBo group--and managed to run (albeit at a slow pace) the entire distance. Yea! Before the race I saw a friend I hadn't seen since she married and moved to Milwaukee 6 or 7 years ago. Thin, thin lovely woman; and it was so great catching up with her. She had someone take a picture of us, and I felt pretty certain that when that picture was posted on Facebook, I'd look like a manatee next to her. And that was okay--it is what it is. I was so surprised that when it did show up on FB, Steph was, of course, her thin, lovely self. But I didn't look like her fat, older friend. I certainly didn't appear as thin as Steph--nor would I want to--but I looked like a fit, trim, happy person. Yea! And that's who I am.

This morning I started the cycle of starting Day 1 of the Beck workbook again.

BillBE - I had to look up the red knots you mentioned Friday. They are so cute. But then it seems like every bird has its attraction: beautiful or cute or majestic. I loved your statement: ...see what's growing, while I looked up to see what was flying about. What a lovely time with your DW & friends.

Maryann - I'm glad you got some foot therapy and hope that you are soon happily hopping about, pain-free. Wonderful reminder: acting my way into right thinking.

Vegan...rex - I meant to comment days ago on your remark & have been remiss. But I loved how you shared about your mother teaching you to swim into the light. I will think of you & your mom every time I see sunlight on water now.

Beth - Wooohoooo on ONEderland! Great, great, great! Also, major credit for your planning through foot surgery, grief, and company. You would deserve enormous credit/kudos under any circumstances, but particularly for how you've persevered through such adversity--both emotional and logistical.

Getting ready for our trip to Key West--I'm so excited!

Have a wonderful week, everyone! :wave:


05-06-2013, 03:05 PM
This weekend was definitely a success for me. I work part-time at a non-profit hotel for patients in my city for treatment. This is a fun job, but it involves a lot of challenges to my desires to eat healthy. All guests prepare their own meals on premise, and since I can’t leave from Fri-Sun I have to do the same.

In the past, this has been a once a month HUGE blocker to both following my Beck steps and eating healthfully. I would arrive there and because there were SO MANY TEMPTING OPTIONS of food that other guests had prepared, I would just eat everything in sight. Particularly because I have to sit at a desk for 14+ hours a day and it gets incredibly boring and tedious. This weekend, however, I broke the cycle.

One of my big goals in utilizing Beck and eating more healthfully is to return to a strictly vegan diet. This is very important to me both ethically and spiritually. However my addition to food has a tendency to overcome my moral opinions. I have no problem never eating meat, but dairy (particularly CHEESE) is a huge draw and I struggle with that a lot.

This weekend when I arrived and unpacked my vegan friendly groceries, I saw there was a whole cabinet full of mac and cheese. This has traditionally been a HUGE draw for me because it’s easy and in the past I have been known to eat an entire box in one sitting while there. This weekend I closed the cabinet and I thought of Bill Blue Eyes and said “it’s not about me” to the Mac and Cheese (CREDIT 1!). Then, on Sunday night, someone brough KFC chicken. This has no appeal to me, but they also brought mac and cheese (noticing a pattern!?) and biscuits. Of course, they didn’t finish and left it on the counter for people to eat. It was there for 6 hours and I kept having to walk by it. I didn’t give in to the cravings because it was NOT an option (CREDIT 2)!

There’s also a small fitness center there and I have always said that I would plan to work out during my time there but have never gotten around to it. This weekend I ran on the treadmill according to the Couch to 5k plan that I’ve been doing off and on for as long as I’ve been using Beck off and on. Last time I got to week 4. This time I started again on week 2. It was killer (too long without running) but I got through the whole workout (CREDIT 3!) Ideally I’ll get two more runs in this week.

I think the most useful thing I did a lot of this weekend was reading the Beck blog A LOT (CREDIT 4!). I took away a few key points, like the fact that I don’t think I want to do a super restricted calorie diet. In a video snipet of her she explains her idea of reducing your calories down until you reach a level you are comfortable staying at for a long time. That really resonated with me so I’m going to spend some time this week rethinking my diets. I guess the idea that dieting doesn’t have to mean extreme deprivation is kind of a new thought for me.

I also finally got an understanding of what Response Cards should really look like and I wrote a brand shiny new one: I do not have to give in to my cravings. They will pass. Remember the May 5th KFC incident. I felt so much better because I refused to eat food that is unhealthy for me and not vegan. I have the willpower to say no, I just need to strengthen it like any other muscle. (CREDIT 5!)

I also decided that I don’t need to rush from step to step until I’ve really finished the one I’m on. Therefore I’m sticking at “eating slowly and mindfully” for at least another day to make sure I’ve got it.
Thanks all for being a place I can share all of these when I don’t feel like I have people in my day to day life I feel comfortable discussing it in detail with.

spanky What a beautiful poem about your dog. He sounds like he was an awesome fellow. Also, awesome on getting back after the snacks! I’m drawing inspriration from you for when things get rough and I slip up.

bethfromdayton Good reminder for me on slowing down eating. Also awesome job coping with changes and still staying OP!

IBelieveInMe2 Yay on not ordering at DQ! I had that happen with buying McDonalds for coworkers.

BillBlueEyes You’re definitely making me miss the Northeast a lot with that wonderful story. I’m heading to do something similar out in the swamps down here next weekend, but it won’t be as pretty as home ;)

nationalparker Excellent job in remembering the great parts of your dinner and not just focusing on one decision.

Lizanga Thanks for the kind words :) I'm very early on in the book too, restarting as well, and it's a fun process. Good to know someone else is starting at the begininng again too!

05-06-2013, 04:38 PM
hi gang!!
my god, I had the busiest most fun weekend and didn't get a chance to get on this forum at all.
that's NOT good.
I didn't go horrible but I didn't do terrific either.
I'm disappointed in myself.
anyway, I'm on my way out the door here from work so I gotta make this short and sweet.
I will catch up tomorrow.
miss being here and having my heart in it.

hey veganasaurus . . . email me [at xxx] to discuss email coaching.


05-06-2013, 07:36 PM
Today has been an OP day so far. Just finished dinner and I will have one planned healthy snack before bed. The scale actually moved DOWN a few pounds the past 2 days. YAY!!! I know it is just information, but I like getting GOOD information, especially when I have been working hard to eat well and stay in control of my food intake. Now, if I can just add in some formal exercise tonight, I'll be set for this day! Taking things ONE day at a time!

BillBlueEyes: Happy to hear that you are finally enjoying some nice weather! :sunny:

Liz: Hooray for looking and feeling like a "fit, trim, happy person!" THAT is my goal! ;)

veganasaurusrex: Way to go on breaking the cycle of eating "everything in sight!" Huge accomplishment! :carrot:

05-06-2013, 07:38 PM
Beth: I see that your ticker says 199!!! That is so wonderful!!! I am happy that all of your hard work is paying off for you. Welcome to ONEderland!!! :broc:

05-06-2013, 08:56 PM
A good day, OP. A hugely busy week at work ahead of me and now a phone call at the end of the day that one of my two last living relatives has died. Waiting to hear what's to be done, whether I need to make a long drive...

Lots of planning to do, and quickly. Onward, and my best vibes to all here.


05-06-2013, 09:06 PM
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05-06-2013, 09:56 PM
Hi all,

Today has been an OP day. I did Day 3 of the squat/crunch/plank challenge and day 2 of the Dumbbell challenge. I had to skip part of the dumbbell stuff for today (toe raises) in deference to my healing but not healed foot! My foot is healing fine, though, and I'm hoping to be given an all clear two weeks from tomorrow.

I had a lovely PB&J today--with fantastic red raspberry preserves and natural peanut butter. I enjoyed it immensely and savored every bite.

I've got tomorrow's food all planned out and entered into MFP. I'm going to read from Beck before going to bed. It does seem to help me to read daily, even though it's re-reading--I feel as if I ought to have "gotten it" but there's more there to get through to me!

Take care, all!

05-07-2013, 06:47 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Having brown bag lunch with some friends (mine: on plan peanut butter, banana, and pecan sandwich, CREDIT moi), I learned that it's possible to take a tour on a Russian nuclear ice breaker above the Arctic Circle - now that's a thought I'd never had before. Not sure what one does on a nuclear ice breaker when not looking at their GPS, LOL.

Eating was OK, CREDIT moi, but not perfect because an extra snack happened. Good news was that I had a reasonable dinner when extra food was available.

maryann - Yep, it's the recovery that matters most, "but this morning is OP."

spanky - Sending supportive thoughts for the loss of your relative. May you find a way to stay your path as you process this.

nationalparker – Always a good sign at a buffet, "and didn't have a second plate."

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Cheers for "a lovely PB&J today" - from an unabashed fan. Kudos for that exercise even while watching your foot.

IBelieveInMe2 – Kudos for an OP day ending with a healthy snack.

Jo (veganasaurusrex) – So nicely put, "I have the willpower to say no, I just need to strengthen it like any other muscle." Kudos for avoiding that KFC and tending to yourself for the long weekend.

Liz (lizagna) – Love the positive image, "but I looked like a fit, trim, happy person."

Lulu (LuLu01801) – Brightens my day, "busiest most fun weekend."

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

day 1
Record the Advantages of Losing Weight

what are you thinking?
You might still be having sabotaging thoughts about creating or reading your Advantages Response Card. If so, these responses may help.

. . .
Sabotaging Thought: This won't work for me.
Helpful Response: I don't have a crystal ball, so I don't know whether or not it'll work. The one think I do know for sure is that I didn't do this in the past and I haven't achieved lasting weight loss yet. I may as well just do it. What do I have to lose?

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 61.

05-07-2013, 09:38 AM
Hi Coaches!

I will probably be MIA here for a bit.

It's DDay...a week early, I might add. Our renovation project was supposed to start NEXT Wednesday and a call from our contractor friends moved it up to tomorrow. They will arrive today with construction trailer and then head to denver to see if they can purchase a camper. If they don't find one then they will reside in our tv room for the next 4 nights. Either way, we will be sharing our home with them. I have to work today but will have the next 3 days off to focus on the project.

Internet has been painfully slow here....sometimes I can barely post which makes it impossible to take 5 minutes to check in and say hi.

I'll keep reading, though....iphone seems to work good for that but not so good for typing responses.

05-07-2013, 10:57 AM
Yesterday was an interesting lesson. I did have some good moments. I got to work (at my regular full time job at a different non-profit) and was told there was leftover corn from a Friday BBQ. I love me some corn. So at lunch time I gleefully skip to the fridge, open it up and am confronted with a GIGANTIC chafing dish of Macaroni and Cheese. As everyone around me is chowing down I felt frustrated, but still in control. I said “not an option” and enjoyed my corn (CREDIT!).

Then, when I got home, I was baking muffins and found myself tasting the batter to make sure it had enough vanilla in it. Then when I made pasta I tasted a noodle to check for done-ness. Then I thought about posting here today and wondered how people balance tasting food while cooking with not eating sitting down. I had a sabotaging thought “Tasting standing up can’t be a big deal or a problem, I’m sure everyone does it”. Then, I found myself eating part of my bowl of pasta standing at the counter getting a bowl ready for the kiddo staying over. Then I found myself eating bites from her bowl. Then when the muffins finished I ate a bite of muffin standing up. I recocognize now that there IS something to this Beck stuff – if I eat anything standing up I will be more prone to continuing to eat standing up and not paying attention. I turned this into a response card (CREDIT!)

Yesterday was totally OP in the sense that I didn’t eat anything not vegan (I haven’t started my “diet” yet.) I also noticed that I slipped on a few other things when I didn’t take my vitamins and drink my water – everything is connected! Making a lot of great observations yesterday has put me in a good place to be successful today! (CREDIT!) Also I've completed Day 5, finding a diet coach, because this community is certainly in my head all the time!

LuLu I was hoping you would respond to my request! Expect an email soon 
IbelieveInMe2 Yay on making that scale obey you! (Now I have an image of you as a lion tamer cracking a whip over the scale as the numbers fall) And thanks for the kind words.
spanky I’m sorry for your loss. Sending good vibes of healing to you.
bethFromDayton Now THAT PB&J was worth waiting for! The difference between waiting and savoring something wonderful and just scarfing down a PB&J in response to a craving is something I’m working to learn.

05-07-2013, 10:08 PM
Hi coaches,
Things are going well but I am dog tired! Our grade level gives the state test next week so we are prepping the kids for it with released items for lots of practice. practice is good but not that exciting. i to,d the kids that we will have book groups and art after the test!

I ate within my range but tweaked a few items at the end of the day on my plan. Water aerobics last night and tomorrow too.

It is so weird how I was feeling so "sassy" having lost a good chunk of weight -I really feel the difference. Now, even though I have kept that weight off, it feels just like I did before losing it. I have a lot to lose and feel overall really positive but feel less of the skip in my step now. Is that what maintenance is going to be like? Maintainers-feel free to chime in.

05-07-2013, 10:55 PM
Hi all,

I had a great OP day today--and a food victory that I totally attribute to all of you. We went out to Hot Head Burrito for dinner, and that was fine, since their Lil bowl is a reasonable size and fits my plan just fine. Then we went grocery shopping. That went fine, too.

I bought some frozen ice cream low-cal treats--and then spent a little bit of time arguing with myself. "No choice" I told myself. "Not an option" I told myself. "You can plan for one tomorrow" I told myself. I thought I'd gotten through to myself, but then the issue raised its head again when I put the treats away at home. I told myself "which story do you want to tell on the Beck forum tonight?" I definitely heard that one--and backed down and the frozen treats are still in the freezer for when I've planned on a treat. CREDIT! (all in caps)

I've planned out tomorrow--and I will have one of those tomorrow evening.

I didn't buy any deli meat at the grocery store--I enjoyed my PB&J so much I think I'll plan for those for a while.

I'm Day 4 of 3 of my challenges (2 rest days plus a plank) and on day 3 of my Dumbbell challenge--didn't have any trouble to get motivated to do that after work. Big credit there. DD kept my company while I did them and told me about her day, so that was really nice.

Rosebud170: DH thought I was nutty when I told him I simultaneously felt as if I'd lost a lot of weight and that I hadn't changed any. I think each place we get starts to feel like a new normal, especially if we're there for a while.

veganasaurusrex: Thanks for sharing your standing up sort of day--we all have those slippery slopes we have to watch out for. I think it's hard when cooking because sometimes we do have to taste for flavor (spaghetti sauce, anyone?) but it can really snowball if we're not careful. Credit for a day full of observations!

Lexxiss: I'll be thinking good thoughts at you as you deal with the disorganization of renovating. Even if you can't post, I'm thinking of you!

BillBE: I want to take a tour on a Russian nuclear ice breaker--I didn't know I wanted to do that but now I know I do! I've never put nuts on a sandwich, but it makes sense.

Take care, all.

05-08-2013, 05:45 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – 100% on eating plan, CREDIT moi. With a bunch of uses of No Choice tossed out during potential snack times.

Even better, my walk (CREDIT moi) took me to Whole Foods because I needed peanut butter. Without planning in advance - I know, dumb - I encountered my first FREE sample and thought, It's cheese, neither rare nor unusual and certainly in my life anytime I want, including in my fridge right now. So, passed on that and the next sample, Double CREDIT moi. Kids were playing soccer in the park. Ate dinner on the patio - first time this year - interrupted by a very noisy, very insistent pair of House Sparrows in a loud mating ritual. First he chased her, then she chased him. First time I've yelled, "Get a room" to birds, LOL.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Contractors living in the TV room is up to your neck in the work. Bon Voyage. May it be a successful ride. Remember, eating has never released renovation tension.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Super to have a DD who'll tell you about her day. Kudos for keeping up with your exercise plan.

Jo (veganasaurusrex) – Ouch for an unexpected "GIGANTIC chafing dish of Macaroni and Cheese" with GIGANTIC Kudos for leaving it be. Great insight about chef-tasting as a gateway drug to mindless nibbling.

Rosebud170 – Neat on-plan day with exercise, Kudos. Maintenance has lost some of the "skip in my step" because I no longer have the adrenaline from seeing the numbers drop.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

day 2Pick Two Reasonable Diets
If you already know which diet you plan to follow, that's great. But keep reading because you need to choose two diets - the one you plan to start with and a second diet in case the first one doesn't work out.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 63.

05-08-2013, 09:34 AM
Happy Hump Day, Becksters! I am thankful that I have a few minutes to check in here today.

Busy evenings so far this year. Monday night I was prepping dinner and DH went into garage and said oh no - another one! Me: Another What? ... Another dog in our garage! Me: OH NO! (We are the last house on a residential street, but there is a trail right next to us, and a farmer's field right there, too ... and we suspect people come down that side road, open the door and dump animal... but that wasn't the case thankfully. This dog (pit bull/bit of boxer) was uber energy, leaping all over me, which does drive me nuts. I yelled DOWN!! And out of habit with our dog did the down command that I learned with closed fist, and the dog bellyflopped down. OH, okay, trained a bit. Well, after it was chasing everyone on the trailend, and racing all over, punctuated by spells sitting ON our patio furniture and looking out over the yard and checking out what was grilling, I saw a neighbor who is usually an "in/out" one - you only ever see them rushing in or out. I hollar to him to see if he's ever seen this dog, who was collared but not tagged (nor neutered). Yeah - i'm trying to get him in the house. Oh, well. Nice. I said well, with no tag, it's hard to call him out of the street when cars are whipping by. Kind of irritated me. I ended up walking the dog over to get inside ... No hey, thanks for keeping an eye on him so he didn't get hit, etc. And the dog's toenails went through our back sliding screen door when he was peering inside our kitchen, so that needs to be repaired. This took the WHOLE evening. We got nothing else done. I was cranky afterward - seriously, tag your dang dog. Esp with a pit mix - people are quick to call animal control.

Made up for lost time yesterday evening - got home and straight to work digging out the berm and weeding and transplanting and chopping stuff down. Now we have NO privacy from the trail, so I'm anxious to get started on the deck, which will not be a quick start as we're still trying to figure out the permit stuff. Sorry for the boring update here - but since not bored, I didn't add in extra food to attempt to relieve the boredom.

Meeting DH for lunch at a museum cafe near work, and then he'll go through the exhibit - special one on guitars I know he'll really enjoy. Then more garden work tonight. I'm really psyched as I've figured out what I want to do with what I'm rescuing, building two small garden walls for retained gardens on different levels. Want to price that out tomorrow evening. My plans are often bigger than my pocketbook. :)

GardenerJoy - I might be coming to you for suggestions! I LOVE gardening but am not a great maintainer with our activities. The centerpiece of my berm now is a 9' Canadian Hemlock that I love (and oddly enough, worry about in the winter with the winds, ice, etc. - I "feel" for it.)

Bill - GREAT job with passing up the samples and being 100% on plan! You're my role model today! I have a lot of birds in my area, but I know so few of them. Last night we had all the regulars - bats, canadian geese, crows, starlings, mallards, cardinals, robins and all the little brown fellers I call sparrows and wrens but in honesty, I don't know what they are! But they were all conversing and it was so pleasant. Re: ice breaker - my dad was stationed on an ice breaker in the navy years ago and I love his stories when I am able to wrangle them out of him. :) Never thought you could go ON one! Cool!

Beth - What a GREAT way to think of what your action is - which are you going to report? Proud of you for making that choice - and I'll bet YOU are, too!

Lexxiss - Good luck with the renovations! Exciting, though disruptive! I've never had a major one that was planned - hope it comes out wonderful!

Jo - It appears that you have stared down the mac and cheese beast and came out VICTORIOUS!! You go! Major kudos abound. That is by FAR one of my favorite foods and we enjoy it sparingly, but when I make it, I try to not feel guilty because I lighten it up to a point that it's do-able and use real cheese, light milk, etc. I used to have a friend who would come over and say, I've had a hard day ... will you make some mac and cheese? And it is an hour-long recipe - not a speedy dealio. :) I never taste food when cooking - I wonder why. Well, i do take a bite of a piece of pasta but always spit it out. Sorry, yuck. It's just not "ready" food?

Rosebud - Good luck with the testing prep and the testing! Will you have a sense of relief when it's over?

05-08-2013, 10:43 AM
Hi Coaches!

Our friends decided to travel this morning so I was given a wonderful reprieve. I got some rest and was able to regenerate after finishing my work week. They'll be here in an hour although I've heard they may be traveling in snow. It's a beautiful day here.

My fridge is stocked with healthy foods and my goal for the next few days is to stay as close to my normal/standard/average/comfortable "food self" as possible. I don't know exactly how they eat but I do know how I eat. I've weighed this morning (maintaining) and feel up for this challenge. I'm glad I got to get in and say hello to you all. credit.

BBE, thanks for the reminder that eating has never released renovation tension…..advice coming from a I think of you often as we move it's my turn. Kudos for spontaneous resistance with free samples!

nationalparker, I'm thankful that I have a few minutes to check in here today, too. Wow-crazy evening you had with the loose pup...irritating, for sure! Your yard projects sound rewarding...I look forward to the day when the other stuff is finished and I can concentrate on the yard. Thx for kind reno wishes!

Beth(fromDayton), yay for resisting the low cal treats as you remembered you could successfully plan for them. Thx for thinking good thought for me...I'll be reminded while I'm at work. I AM going to try to keep posting. It's mostly my super slow internet that's foiling me right now. Congrats on your new ticker weight!

Rosebud, yay for eating within your range while tweaking a few items. I am maintaining my losses right now yet always understand I have more to lose. I try to acknowledge and enjoy my progress while reminding myself I need to keep learning new strategies to help me to eventually find my goal.

Jo(veganasaurusrex), I think every encounter I have with food provides a lesson for me. Kudos for saying no choice to mac/cheese (for more reasons than one). For me, in the kitchen, a taste needs to be legitimate, and often it is. When it is not legitimate I make every effort to use my Beck skills and say no choice. If I find myself with a part of a bowl of pasta then I decide right then...either sit down or stop eating. Yes, everything is connected.

LuLu, I look forward to catching up with you, too. Sometimes we all get tugged in just too many directions at one time.

Liz(agna), credit for finishing your 5K running the entire distance. Neat that your FB picture felt good you you. A fit, trim, happy person sounds great!

spanky, thinking of you as you are experiencing the death of a last living relative. My living family is very small, too.

IBelieveinMe2, yay for good information on the scale. Kudos for taking a one day at a time approach!

Maryann, hoping for good news about your feet. Great strategy giving yourself small tasks to avoid the blues.

05-08-2013, 11:00 AM

Unexpected NSV I had to share! Was preparing to head up to the project...needed something for my phone/keys/etc. I remembered a cool fanny pack purchased years ago in Alaska...old style, well built and for years a very serious no fit. I kept it because I really liked it and today it fits OVER a turtleneck/sweatshirt combo with 3 inches of strap to spare. Makes me feel happy. credit.

Thx for letting me share....the real people in my life just wouldn't understand such a simple joy. lol

05-08-2013, 12:28 PM
I'm still here. Dealing with a skin infection that I finally went to the doctor for. Now I'm, reluctantly, on antibiotics. The doctor asked "Are you a yogurt person?" So, I'm carefully planning my pills around my meals and snacks that feature yogurt (you want them two hours apart so that the antibiotic doesn't kill the good bacteria in the yogurt before it has a chance to do its thing). This is all good for my eating. Nothing like a little enforced structure to keep things in line!

I also got a tetanus shot. These days, that comes with a whooping cough booster because they've decided adults need one. My shoulder is sore from that. Which is nothing, I know, but I thought I'd give a break in complaining to my husband and complain to y'all instead. Thanks for listening!

There's a possibility that I'll need minor surgery to remove the infection, but the doctor was good enough to come up with a treatment plan that put that off until after our trip to France.

Lexxiss: Woohoo for a waist strap that goes around and then some!

05-08-2013, 12:52 PM
Hi all! Checking in this morning to report things are going well! I'm on Beck day 7, rearranging my life style. I don't really have any junk at home to toss. In terms of work, I'm just trying to avoid places that have lots of junk. It varies day to day and today I haven't seen anything. At least no one has bowls of candy on their desks. The real struggle there is saying no to going out to eat, or making better choices when I go out to eat.

I'm having trouble figuring out WHEN to read things like my ARC and my response cards but I'm striving for when I get to the office and when I leave the office. On weekends, when I get out of bed and when I go to bed. I'll iron out these kinks as I go!

Credit for choosing a diet buddy, eating everything sitting down, eating completely vegan, reading my ARC and my response cards, drinking a ton of water. Yay!

Rosebud I remember the unpleasantness of standardized tests from when I taught 2nd graders. Getting 26 7 year olds to sit still for 6 hours of testing was HORRIBLE. I also had to read most of the math and science sections to them which was even worse and they mostly circled random things. Awful!

bethFromDayton I have moments like that with this forum too! It's cool. Happy to be there for ya!

BillBlueEyes Thanks for the constant inspiration and tools to add to my toolbox! Credit to you!

nationalparker Good job saving that pup! Good karma (and kudos) coming your direction on that one! Also, I wish you the same strength you showed getting him to lay down when you're making food choices! Make all off plan things lay down before you and stop trying to jump on you! (It's a clumsy metaphor but I think it's threre)

05-08-2013, 02:11 PM
After several consecutive days of mostly OP eating, I am feeling more confident and beginning to believe that I can do this!!! :broc: Now, I need to incorporate some exercise into the mix, and I will really be making progress! :) It really helps, especially during my "down times," to read about each of your triumphs and struggles and to have all of you cheering me on!!! :cheer2::cheer3::cheer2: So THANK YOU ALL..... again..... for posting and for caring! It really makes a difference in my weight loss journey! :hug:

Lexxiss: Hooray for a fanny pack belt that FITS..... with room to spare!!! You must be doing a happy dance!!! :carrot: :cp:

veganasaurusrex: Me, a lion or scale tamer?!?! Now, that's a funny image, and one I will remember!!! :lol: CREDIT for interesting lessons and great observations the other day!

BillBlueEyes: Wow, 100% OP eating, "No Choice" to snacks, walking, and turning down food samples..... You are rockin' that maintenance thing!!! :carrot: :bravo:

nationalparker: Way to go on keeping that dog safe!!! Crazy story! I hate when you go out of your way for others and they show no appreciation, but the dog is okay because of you..... and that's what matters! ;) You did the right thing!

gardenerjoy: Hope your skin infection clears up soon, without the need for minor surgery!

bethFromDayton: Way to go on an OP day and your food victory!!! Glad you were able to share the good news with us! You should feel very proud of yourself for waiting to eat the dessert until planned! ;) Good job on your challenges, too!

spanky: So sorry to hear about the death of your relative. Take good care of yourself! Hope your busy work week is going okay.

Rosebud170: Sorry to hear that you are dog tired and have lost that skip in your step. Hope you get back to skipping and feeling good about things soon!

05-08-2013, 02:15 PM
Hey - is it ok if I post a question or two about the Beck diet solution here? I picked up the pink book at the library yesterday, skimmed it, read the intro, though the first two weeks (to see what I was getting myself into) and did Day 1 yesterday. I'll be working on Day 2 this afternoon...but I have one small practical question and one big emotional one!

1. The notebook - what exactly are we supposed to do with it? She mentions it several times in the book but I can't find a section where she explains how we are supposed to use it. She mentions jotting things down or keeping a record of certain things...but it does need to be done in an orderly way, or just however I feel will help me?

2. Day 8 scares the socks off me! I have never been able to keep to a schedule and I don't believe that I will be able to do it even for a few days. I believe that I can learn to think in a way that helps me eat sensibly...but how am I supposed to learn to live on a schedule? Should I try to master that first and then come back to the book? I was so hopeful and now I am so anxious :(

05-08-2013, 02:56 PM

1. The notebook - what exactly are we supposed to do with it? She mentions it several times in the book but I can't find a section where she explains how we are supposed to use it. She mentions jotting things down or keeping a record of certain things...but it does need to be done in an orderly way, or just however I feel will help me?

I actually don't keep a notebook although I post daily and that's sort of my jotting down things. She actually does a better job of explaining the diet notebook in the other book. I am a firm believer in doing things in a way that will help you--so if that means organizing it--then do that. If that means just getting them down--then do that. (I actually typed and color coded my response cards, and even gave serious thought to the fonts I used. I'm sure that wasn't part of the expectations!)

2. Day 8 scares the socks off me! I have never been able to keep to a schedule and I don't believe that I will be able to do it even for a few days. I believe that I can learn to think in a way that helps me eat sensibly...but how am I supposed to learn to live on a schedule? Should I try to master that first and then come back to the book? I was so hopeful and now I am so anxious :(

My schedule is nowhere near as detailed as the ones she uses as examples. What I've done instead is to do general times of when I do things--it is a schedule, but it's not detailed like that.

So, my schedule is:

Sunday after my evening euchre game, I plan meals for the next week and create a shopping list (lots of re-use here)
Monday after work, I go to the grocery store
Thursday after work, I go to the grocery store (if needed) for additional produce
Either as I'm making dinner or when we're putting dinner away, I make my lunch for the next (work) day
Every night, I enter all of the next day's food into MyFitnessPal
Throughout the day, if necessary, I update MyFitnessPal
Before I go to bed each night, I post on this forum, with the commitment to never miss two days in a rowCurrently, I have a workday pretty regular schedule for meals, and weekends are very ad hoc. So far, that's working for me. If it stops working for me, then I can adjust at that point.

Edited to add: if I still had kids in activities, that would be adjusted to "Monday or Tuesday, whichever one doesn't have a soccer game" to be decided over the weekend and then adhered to.

As for "before bed"--that can be immediately before, or it can be "right after dinner". I don't think it matters. Making lunch has to happen in the evening, or I'd fail at it in the morning (that's me--others are different). I sometimes do the week's meal planning earlier in the weekend, but I have to do after euchre before I go to bed.

This is more of a schedule than I've followed for pretty much anything. I just decided that this time, I wanted to lose weight badly enough to get myself into a set pattern. I balked and balked at planning--it works, it helps, it's probably essential to the success I've had so far. Now I'm a planning advocate.

So, that's my perspective--I hope it helps.

05-08-2013, 05:13 PM
Beth - quick note - Thanks for mentioning MFP in your note above - i had gotten completely away from it over the Los Angeles trip a few weeks ago and while I've been doing fairly well, I need to get back to it. Good reminder for me. Love your new pic, too (but what did the kitty do to lose his props of being on here?) :)

SoHopeful - Don't stress about any part of it. We're all trying to do our best with something that each of us struggles with or has struggled with in the past. Perfection would be a rarity, I'm sure. But you DO want to prepare your environment and way of thinking to build the habits for long term success. What you might find stressful now, you might think why in the world was that an issue when you rethink about it in three months. :) You can do this and you want to prepare to succeed!

05-08-2013, 06:01 PM
Thank you Beth!!!

So. I currently have a routine for the week that includes menu planning/shopping list on Friday nights, food shopping Saturday mornings (my husband does that), and extra produce shopping as needed during the week. This is part of my exercising, as a walk to and from the supermarket is about 1.5 miles. I do this once, often twice a week even when I am not trying to lose weight! But I never know if it is going to be Monday and Thursday, or only Wednesday, or not at all because my husband stopped after work!

I am a sahm (homeschooling edition) so I am around to make meals and have a lot of control over them. But. I am not the kind of person who eats meals at the same time every day. I often plan my meals vaguely - like Chicken and fresh veg, and then fill in the blanks when I see what looks fresh and good in the store. And I don't always know in advance if we will be going out to dinner as my husband is very spontaneous.

So really I am talking about 2 things here. Day 8 has a lot of scheduling but can I plan breakfast this way - "eat between 7 and 9 because we start math around 9:30", not "8-8:30 breakfast". Or "walk between 4 and 8, depending on how the day is going. If I can't get out, do a 20-30 minute walking dvd before I an watch any TV or read, after the kitchen is clean.". Is that scheduled enough?

The other thing is Day 14 - advance planning. Generally I know the outline of our week, and I almost always know what I will be making for dinner the night before, and breakfast and lunch during the week would be easy to plan...But busy weekends are hard to plan with a spontaneous husband (he is rule bound all week and likes to be freeer on the weekend) and 4 kids...I just don't see how I can plan ahead realistically more than about 80% of the time! :dizzy:

05-08-2013, 11:43 PM
Hi all,

I've had an OP day, even though I made dinner changes to my plan since we unexpectedly ended up eating out. I chose banana nut bread at Bob Evan's over my ice cream treat, so it is just going to have to wait a few days (there isn't room for it in tomorrow's plan).

I had a sabotaging thought of "you did plan it" and I told myself that I didn't plan on banana nut bread though, and I couldn't have both today and that I wasn't even hungry so I wasn't having it. And I didn't!

In re-reading Diet for Life, I'm struck by the same thing that I noticed in the pink book--the expectation that I would be ashamed or guilty or upset or bad if I ate something I wasn't planning on eating/shouldn't eat. I don't feel guilty at all (for me, guilt and shame are reserved for things that hurt other people). I mostly feel annoyed at myself, and usually baffled as to why I'm making decisions that aren't good for me. I'm not a robot--honest--but it's been a long time since I found it necessary to beat myself up over something--and I certainly wouldn't do it because I had an ice cream treat and banana nut bread. Does anyone else have this kind of reaction to the assumption that mistake makers will be ashamed of themselves?

sparks17, I should confess that I'm not a big rule for the sake of rules person--I never have been and never will be. (And it's why certain teachers hated my kids) But I'm extremely practical and also a fan of processes that help you reach your goal. I'm also a fan of adjusting processes so that they work for you.

That's why I do my planning over the weekend, but on Sunday after euchre if I haven't done it earlier. Some Sundays, I just feel like doing it and it gets done in the afternoon or before euchre. So what? What works for me is having a 'loose' plan with a 'hard' 'must' after it. So, 'weekend' is loose, but the Sunday after euchre timeslot is a "hard must".

I think planning the way you describe makes eminent sense. What also makes sense is reassessing. If it is clear that the looser schedule works for you and your goals of controlling your diet the way you want to, then it works. If it doesn't work, then it's time to re-look at your approach.

For grocery shopping, I follow my main course plan no matter what is on sale. On the other hand, my meal planning includes 'fruit' or 'vegetable' and I pick those based on what looks good. You might find it works better for you to plan your detailed meals while shopping.

Other people have been at this longer than I have, so their experiences may vary, obviously.

Have a good night all.

05-09-2013, 06:43 AM
:welcome: sparks17 :welcome:

And in case you haven't gotten one of these yet in your two weeks here, :wel3fc:

How did you learn about the books by Dr. Judith Beck?

And how did you find our Beck thread her on 3 Fat Chicks?

05-09-2013, 06:52 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Walked in the evening to see some friends, CREDIT moi, where I nibbled more than I had planned but less than the food laid out encouraged. Too much nibbling is becoming embarrassing to keep typing. Roasted salted sunflower seeds isn't one of my usual snacks, but it's hardly rare and unusual. There was no need for multiple dips into the bowl. Those buggers have 100 calories each - or something like that.

The walking (CREDIT moi) after dark on a warm evening was sheer joy. I didn't even mind that I was carrying a golf umbrella in anticipation of the predicted rain. Always a joy when that prediction is wrong. (DW, the gardener, on the other hand, will read her rain gauge and moan that her plants didn't get the predicted watering.)

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Getting shots makes Paris sound closer. Ouch for their discomfort.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Terrific reminder, "I don't know exactly how they eat but I do know how I eat." We all would do well to put our eating plan first - others can learn to eat well.

nationalparker – Sounds great to be the last house in civilization - but had never thought of being the recipient of all ditched dogs. Your concern for that lost critter was touching. Good luck planning your garden.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – So glad you laid out that it's also common not to feel embarrassment but "I mostly feel annoyed at myself." (I've never played euchre - is it like bridge?)

IBelieveInMe2 – So neat to be here, "I am feeling more confident."

Jo (veganasaurusrex) – Oh Good Grief! This is just amazing, "I don't really have any junk at home to toss." Kudos for being there - from a guy who's spent all his life collecting stuff that now needs to be tossed.

sparks17 - Re: "1. The notebook" - I used mine (actually an Excel spreadsheet) to record my daily weight, my daily exercise, and my daily foods. Later in her book Beck suggests collecting successes and other things.

Re: "2. Day 8" - My take is that the idea is to find the time and energy for our food plan and exercise plan rather than to use lack of time as our excuse to wimp out. For some people, like mothers of toddlers, finding time is uber challenging - something has to be replaced. The planning you list seems more than good enough. Spontaneous has to be accommodated for a real life and flexible planning allows that. Glad that you've joined us.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

day 2Pick Two Reasonable Diets
. . . The specific primary diet you choose doesn't matter, as long as it's healthy and well-balanced. You can choose a diet from a book, a Web site, a national health organization (such as one that promotes a diet that is healthy for your heart), a hospital or weight-loss clinic, or a commercial organization.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 63.

05-09-2013, 06:52 AM
Beth - I thank you. I feel better, as I do have a meal planning method and shopping routine, even though it is loose. I am sure that I can tighten it up a bit since it will further my health/fitness/weight loss goals. And your story about changing your dinner plan and then giving up your planned treat in favor of one at a restaurant...well, that is exactly the type of situation I was concerned about!

Thanks again! I feel more confident now. :carrot:

ETA - Thanks, Bill, for the encouragement and the welcome! I plan to post here every day now. See you soon!

Oh - I first read about the book here, as when I joined I started scrolling through all the different plans to see what others were doing. The CBT idea interested me so I ordered the book from the library. I especially was looking for encouragement and structure but not another eating plan, as I am comfortable with low-carbing. This time I am working on doing it in a way that allows me to "budget for indulgences", like it says in Day 2.

05-09-2013, 09:10 AM
Hello - My name is nationalparker and I have a food issue. Feeling good that I could get back on track fairly well over the past couple of days, I made a quick dinner last night before we went out to the movies. (The Big Wedding - bought the buy one/get one free tix before we heard it was panned... ehhh.)

We got to the theatre and I saw the kids popcorn meal deal - which I used to get when on ww once/month and it worked in fine. Did DH want one, too? Yep! WELL ... i know the small drink there won't hold him, so said do you want to just split this other? Okay. Well, #1 - I don't know how anyone but the wealthy can afford drinks/snacks at the movies if not the kids cheap treat, because I should have asked before - $18.50 for two drinks and a popcorn. I was stunned. We haven't bought popcorn in the theater in about four years. Fast forward to me eating SO MUCH popcorn. And it was salty and over fake flavored. We typically make ours with a tbsp olive oil and the kernels to pop on the stove, add some sea salt and we're good to go. So, epic FAIL. But wait, I can top THIS. We are leaving and I drive out a different direction, because, if I'm this far over NOW, might as well get a froyo (and I don't delude myself that they're light - i KNOW it's an indulgence of about 600 calories and I try to guess high).

I was so frustrated and mad at myself. Talked to DH who has been struggling to stay on track himself here lately, he really seems to have trouble when working the night shift and the days in between and after the next night shift. So basically half a month, he struggles. So we recommitted to eating and snacking wisely and have the Rocky Mountain National Park plan back in place today.

But my epic fails are all I can think about. I was feeling GOOD with the delish @ 450 calorie-dinner I'd prepped, and it tasted great, etc. What a different way my story might have been had I just brought a little dry cereal with us like I usually do ... and said NO CHOICE to my mind on the froyo like I did the night before when DH wanted a McD vanilla cone. Feels good to get it out but I now feel like i've set myself back immeasurably.

05-09-2013, 10:48 AM
Good morning coaches! Evenings are still a struggle to me, especially when my partner's daughter is over. This week in general I've been feeling draggy and stressed. However my meals were still vegan and in reasonable quantities (that's been my goal lately, trying to set reasonable portions in preperation for begining my diet).

I have a big CREDIT though, last night I read Beck Day 8....FOR THE FIRST TIME! I've picked up this book so many times in the past and never gotten past Day 7! But I'm on day 8 and looking at scheduling my day and having fun with it.

Not tooo many sabatoging thoughts yesterday, though of course there were some. Just have to keep on top of them!

Lexxiss Yay on the fanny pack! What a fun awesome moment!

gardenerjoy I'm sorry for your health struggles. Sending thoughts of healing your way.

IBelieveinMe Are you sure you don't get enough exercise wrangling beasts at the circus ;) Kudos on feeling empowered!

sparks Welcome! I agree with you that somehow the Beck books are very clear but also strangely vague. I recently discovered there's a website/blog and reading the blog posts (most of which are examples of clients in session) was really illuminating. Also, from the website you can print out pages to go with each day. They have the checklists from the book but you can store them in a folder and write on them. Discovering this has been really helpful to me. Also yay Brooklyn!

BethFromDayton That's interesting and a much healthier approach to eating Off Plan. For me it IS a heavily loaded with guilt issue. I feel angry at myself and ashamed. I think this is due to a lot of other head issues I have percolating around but it's great to see a vision of where I can get to once I get my head issues in line!

BillBlueEyes Thanks so much for the kind words :) But don't worry, there's a whole WORLD of junk food out there - I just eat it elsewhere and not bring it home ;)

nationalparker If I was in your situation, I would feel the same way. And so I'm going to be the objective outside voice. You've taken the first step by identifying that you're not pleased with the choices you made and you also posted here to hold yourself accountable (huge kudos!). You haven't set yourself back immeasurably - it'll be perfectly measurable based on how long it takes you to get back OP and you can control this. This doesn't have to become any more than a tiny blip on your long journey of health and success. You've got this!

05-09-2013, 12:46 PM
An extra slice of bread after supper marred an otherwise 100% day. I'll see if I can get to 100% today.

Exercise: +60 325/1000 for May

sparks17: Welcome!
I work from home and have a spontaneous husband, too. My plans generally don't have times on them -- it's more like "before lunch" or "between supper and bedtime." Your planning sounds like it will do the job.
For those spontaneous meals out, I have a plan for each of our favorite restaurants; grilled fish over salad at the seafood place, salad/artichoke hearts/seared tuna at the tapas place, etc. So, when DH says "let's go out to eat," I just substitute the normal plan at that restaurant for whatever I had planned. I still consider myself 90% on plan when I do that.
Beck brings out the perfectionist in me in some places, but in others she's more about getting right back on track after the inevitable lapse. In fact, that's much of what we do in this support thread -- help each other deal with life in all its imperfect glory and still be reasonably healthy. I used to grade the on-planness of my days (and may get back to it -- it was pretty useful). The vast majority of my days were 80 and 90% on plan. A 100% day is definitely helpful once or twice a week and a 70% or lower day is definitely not helpful, but you can make a lot of progress hitting that 80% mark.

nationalparker: time for "what can I learn from this that will help the next time?" and a big "oh well" and "what can I do to make today feel good?" You can do it!

05-09-2013, 04:22 PM
hello everybody!!
I'm back.
I just wasn't making the time for this forum nor for Beck behavior.
but the party is over!!!
I'm back on track today with a solid plan (which I intend to follow 100%) and just workin' in.
it works if ya work it!!!
it's only been a half a day and I feel better already.
something to be said for just that feeling you get from just being in control.
last night I had a few cocktails then found my spoon in the jar of peanut butter.
now that NEVER has a happy ending!!

I'll have to spend some time tonight reading all your posts from the past few days to catch up.
I hope you are all doing well and feeling well.

I just had the biggest most beautiful bouquet of tulips delivered to me at work!!
OMG, they are just beautiful.
from my BF to say happy mother's day.
he's such a sweetie . . . eeeek!!!

have a fabulous day and I'll check in again soon.
thanks for having me back no matter how much I mess up or disappear.
I know you are always here and that's a gift.


05-09-2013, 10:28 PM
Good food day today, all in all, but a MAJOR challenge. Breakfast, lunch, snack, dinner, not a problem. However, we're going to a party tomorrow night and I thought it'd be a good night to use up the frozen cookie dough I'd bought from a fundraising thing. One little piece of raisin in dough found its way into my mouth--but it was little. I fought off all the other pieces. I baked 3 dozen cookies (plus 1) and cooled them. I fought myself a bit more--I don't have a choice--these aren't for me. They're for tomorrow. I can have one at the party. They are now packaged to go--and there are still 37 cookies there!

Somehow in there the ice cream treat came into play as well. I fought it off as well. I am victorious tonight, but it was quite a battle. It was one of those nights when I needed a red ottoman to close my kitchen, but I had too much cleaning and putting away of stuff to do to leave it!

I also managed my squats, crunches, plank, and dumbbells tonight.

All in all, successful day.

I know I'll much a bit at the party tomorrow night, but I'm expecting that, and will have a light rest-of-the-day.

BillBE: Euchre is a trick taking card game--it's played all over the world, but it's primarily a Midwest game. It is much easier than bridge--it's easier than hearts or spades or pinochle, for that matter. It's a 4 person game and a group of us meet on-line in a Yahoo! game room every Sunday night to play. We're scattered, but several times a year we're all in the same place at one of the Big Events and then we play in person.)

Take care, all!

05-10-2013, 06:32 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Extra walking, CREDIT moi, with two trips home in pouring rain. I had an umbrella both times even though I'd left the house under sunshine both times. The rain drove the petals off the flowering trees so that the umbrella was covered with wet petals that fell off when it dried and left the foyer looking like a walkway prepared for royalty. Enjoyed that picture . . . then had to get a broom before we had a petal strewn house.

Eating was OK including snacks, CREDIT moi, except for dinner made from the food served at a reception - as planned - but I hadn't expected walking hors d'oeuvres. Ouch. Top shelf stuff like rare beef on a stick with a dab of horseradish. Smoked salmon piled up over something white that didn't taste low calorie. Chatting with friends who were also grabbing as they passed by didn't make it easier. The good news is that receptions like that aren't often.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – One slice of bread away from a perfect day isn't bad. But it is the case that one slice is the gateway bread to . . . a whole baguette, LOL.

nationalparker – Ouch for the diversion at the movies. That "$18.50" I consider a gift from the gods of sticking to the path since it rankles me to be gouged. Swift recovery with, "So we recommitted to eating and snacking wisely and have the Rocky Mountain National Park plan back in place today." Is that an actual plan or a reference.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – 37 Fresh Kudos for those fresh baked cookies all destined for the event rather than your own use. Good plan to go light in anticipation of the party.

Jo (veganasaurusrex) – Kudos for breaking through to day 8 - Create Time and Energy. Celebrate the small steps, one by one by one after the other. Good plan, "Just have to keep on top of them!"

Lulu (LuLu01801) – Congrats for choosing such a neat BF who sends tulips. Good place to be, "back on track today with a solid plan."

sparks17 - Cool to already have in mind to "budget for indulgences" - it's so easy to get discouraged and then feel the 'right' to have a little something like a pint of Ben & Jerry's. It's a great start to be drawn to Cognitive Behavior Therapy. CBT works . . . provided that you overcome the monster Sabotaging Thought that the strategies are too simple to be necessary. Keep coming back.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

day 2Pick Two Reasonable Diets
. . . Before you pick this primary diet, though, you need to know that there are no miracle diets and that no one diet works equally well for all dieters. Although, many diets are marketed as a "breakthrough" and "the easy way to lose weight," scientific research has determined that such sweeping claims are simply not true. All diets enable weight loss in the same way - by getting you to eat fewer calories.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 63.

05-10-2013, 08:41 AM
Hi Coaches!

We got all the wall demolition finished on our project. We are unable to go any further until the new water/sewer service is installed from the street to house. We feel happy with the progress and I'll meet with the excavator/water guy today. Food choices were good and my friend commented on "how healthy" we eat. credit. I've weighed this morning and am pleased with the number. credit. Today is "just another day" where I'll continue to focus on healthy behaviors.

sparks17, Welcome! I didn't get to say hello yesterday. Thanks for asking the scheduling question. It was great to read everyone's responses. I've made major headway with planning ala Beck. It seems I used to be at the grocery store every day which was inefficient AND opened many doors for additional items which weren't needed or wanted. We live in the mtns and a good store is an hour roundtrip. I've learned to purchase and stock very efficiently so that we can eat for 7-10 days OP without going to the store. I rotate a small number of meals and plug them into individual days based on available time.

BBE, it sounds like you fared pretty well with the reception. I'm glad, too, that those events don't occur too often. After the rain we've had this week I'm motivated to pull the umbrella from the thrift pile and stash it for a "rainy day". Lol

gardenerjoy, I loved your words from yesterday, "In fact that's much of what we do in this support thread--help each other deal with life in all it's imperfect glory and still be reasonably healthy". Kudos to us all!

nationalparker, are there any cards you can create for your sabotaging thought, "...but my epic fails are all I can think about". You’ve already recommitted and in reality it was just one day and just one set of choices you made which are a very small part of the big picture. credit yourself for moving on so quickly. BTW-my take is you've been suckered at the theater for the last time!

Beth(fromDayton), kudos for sane actions around a "major challenge".

Jo(veganasaurusrex), credit for tackling day 8 for the first time and recognizing its further than you've ever gotten before. Kudos, also, for meeting your goal of setting reasonable portions.

LuLu, kudos for recognizing you need to make time for this forum AND for your Beck behaviors.

05-10-2013, 10:38 AM
I had a 90% day yesterday, just swapped a snack for something equivalent so I'm happy with that!

Exercise: +60 385/1000 for May

LuLu01801: a happy day with tulips!

bethFromDayton: Good job using your resistance muscle with all the interesting things in your kitchen right now! My Indiana relatives taught us Euchre so we taught people in Missouri.

BillBlueEyes: love the image of your petal-strewn foyer.

Lexxiss: that sounds like a big project! Glad it's going well!

05-10-2013, 01:19 PM
Well. Thinking this way - planning and being in control in advance of everything I eat - sure does not come naturally!!! I need more reminders around. Even when I am dieting and losing as I have been the past weeks, I really eat mindlessly a lot more often than I would have thought!

For example, I was on the phone with a friend and I went into the kitchen, washed a bowl of strawberries, cut them up and ate them, all while listening to my friend. Now, this snack was one that I was intending to eat - I was looking forward to it for after lunch! - and I just ate it early without consciously thinking about it. I bet I do it all the time!

Well, I am working on Day 5 today - can you tell? Being mindful. Very different thinking for me.

Sooo...can I give myself credit for planning a good snack? And for eating them sitting down?

05-10-2013, 10:18 PM
Hi there Coaches,
Finally, the needle on the scale moved downward! And I got to wear some kicky capris that I agent worn in years...feel in' sassy! Plans for water aerobics in the am and then more raquetball during dd dance class. Credit since my friend and raquetball partner wondered if we should cancel since I amgettingmy hairs done right after...she thought I wouldn't want to be sweaty... I will crank the ac when I drive there so I won't be sweaty!!

Fitbit giving me fits... Trying to contact their customer service since not working properly...hate that kind of stuff...

Sort of interesting that Boston is rainy and Seattle is sunny...I have to enjoy it...more tomorrow!!

05-11-2013, 12:25 AM
Still doing pretty well. Eating is probably about 85% OP with some "extras" mixed in. Walked the dogs yesterday. Scale moved down a few pounds and then back up the next day. I can't seem to make it STAY down and continue moving down....... but that will not deter me. I am trying to focus on NSVs for now. I am making progress, but still much room to improve, as always. I saw my podiatrist and scheduled foot surgery (to repair a dropped metatarsal) for July 16th. I would really like to shed some weight before then, because doc said it will be a few months before I can exercise vigorously again after surgery. :( Oh, well, been there, done that. I can do it again. And, hopefully, after THIS surgery, I will be able to "wog" (walk/jog) without pain and get the weight off quicker. Hope everyone is doing well. Thanks for all of your support! :)

Oh, and :welcome2: to sparks17!!! Glad you found us!

05-11-2013, 01:53 AM
Quick note for me tonight. Eating--totally completely off plan from about 3:30 - midnight. Two parties. Two sets of overeating. I don't even know that I enjoyed the food that much. I just ate--and I don't feel good about that--my stomach is even a bit upset. I left all the uneaten cookies behind at the second party.

Too little exercise--didn't do my challenge stuff--I'll do it tomorrow.

Back on plan when I get up in the morning!

Take care, all.

05-11-2013, 06:07 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Took my walk (CREDIT moi) under a weather report of "0% chance of rain." Spent many steps pondering how it could be zero. Then remembered. I'd read the 'hourly' report for the following three hours. I do believe that it's possible to use satellites and other data and know the weather future over three hours with some certainty. I only recently learned that hourly reporting was available. Real exercise was driving in the stakes for the fences for the sugar snaps in our community garden. They're about 8 inches tall.

Eating was OK, CREDIT moi, not fully on plan. Both lunch and dinner were away from home with meals prepared by others with lots of chatting with different people for long times at the table. Sitting before food for a long time makes it seem reasonable to continue to eat. Today's the day I tick my monthly counters, CREDIT moi.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Always nice to see your exercise ticker ticking.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Congrats on demolishing - a wonderfully irreversible step. Yay for "just another day."

Beth (bethFromDayton) – This is the part that bugs me when I overeat, "I don't even know that I enjoyed the food that much." Kudos for seeing that to help make plans for your next parties.

IBelieveInMe2 – Great motivator - staying on track before some forced low exercise time. Ouch for the reality of scale jiggle - that does annoy.

Rosebud170 – Congrats on the progress behind "feel in' sassy!" And Kudos for not letting a hair appointment block exercise.

sparks17 - Oh Yes, does Beck ever force us to discover, "I really eat mindlessly a lot more often than I would have thought!" Kudos for seeing that so that you have the option to think of what to do differently.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

day 2Pick Two Reasonable Diets
. . . It doesn't matter whether a diet directs you to consume certain combinations of food; to eat prescribed meals; or to count calories, grams, or predetermined numbers assigned to foods. The bottom line is that you'll still be taking in a limited number of calories. Researchers at the U. S. Department of Agriculture have determined that most people who don't vigorously exercise need to pare down their daily consumption to between 1,400 and 1,500 calories to lose weight. In fact, in a review of popular diets published in the journal Obesity Research, researchers found that the daily meal plans of several current popular diets each contain roughly 1,500 calories.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 63.

05-11-2013, 07:22 AM
Hi Beckfolks... Home Sweet Home. I got home last night from our visit with family. I couldn't use DH's computer while I was gone. It's a new rule from his company. (It's his company computer.) DS has a handheld phone/computer thingy - I didn't want to get involved with that. It's very strange and almost hard to not have the computer at my fingertips. I realize that I wanted to 'google' something frequently and had no way to get that information quickly. I must admit that the computer is a huge part of my day to day life.

I had a wonderful visit with my son, dil and two grandchildren. I am exhausted. Having little children keeps a person busy every second. I wouldn't change a thing. My one year old granddaughter is so fun as she loves to dance, smile and is so curious - and trying to talk. My GS always keeps me hopping with his wonderful shenanigans.

My son and wife, as all parents of young children, are so busy between work and children. So, I took it upon myself to do lots of cooking so that they will have things ready to pull from the freezer for a quick dinner. It was mostly healthy things and some of DS's favorites. I did not use this time to overeat. I was careful about eating while cooking.

Exciting news... I will be a grandma again in October!

Now... on to the food. It was on and off... mostly off. I did get on the scale and saw that I am up 6 pounds. EEK But, what goes up, can come down. I think a portion of that is water as I took a vacation from my sodium watching. I have made a plan and will get to the grocery today to fill up the fridge with healthy choices. I am so glad to be back in my food comfort zone.

The garden has grown so much in my absence! Many more things are blooming and emerging.

So, I begin again. Getting on the scale was a hard thing to face... I am giving myself Credit for that. On the way home we stopped and had lunch at an Italian restaurant. I ordered a side dish of spaghetti and a salad.. it was a perfect amount. Credit.

I will try and catch up with what everyone is doing as the day goes on. Now off to the laundry.....

Have a GREAT day.

05-11-2013, 12:09 PM
My day was 100% on plan yesterday. Woohoo! Credit for going with club soda and lime when I was offered champagne at the symphony last night. I'll save champagne for France.

Exercise: +30 415/1000 for May

sparks17: It doesn't come naturally -- but it does get easier with practice!

Rosebud170: Yay for sassy capris! Cool that you're getting in all that exercise and a hair appointment, too.

IBelieveInMe2: Good thinking before your surgery. Beverlyjoy has some tips, I think, for getting in some exercise even when you're not on your feet.

bethFromDayton: Good for you for planning to get back on plan! Would it help to get really determined about getting to 190? My previous attempt at weight loss stopped at 199, then went back up -- this time around I was terrified at that weight and couldn't rest easy until I go to 190.

BillBlueEyes: yay for sugar snaps tall enough for stakes. I had some kale that I planted last fall hoping for an early winter crop come back this spring. Now it's blooming. I've never had kale bloom before. Fun to watch.

Beverlyjoy: Exciting news of a third grandchild! Good for you for getting back to a plan, including a run to the grocery store. And laundry!

05-11-2013, 12:44 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

This week at work was very challenging. It ended in conflict and controversy, two things that make me very, very hungry.

It was difficult for me to leave the classroom for this new leadership position. i had big time guilt. I am so thankful for this words gardenerjoy wrote to me a few month's ago:
"I hope you can find a way to peace with your new job description. It's so obvious from the outside that you are doing a job that needs to be done, that you have the experience and expertise required to do that job, and that there is no reason whatsoever to feel guilty. The banter is meant to be what it is -- a light-hearted way to recognize your separation and your connection at the same time."

I have read and re read these words and they really helped me in my last meeting of the week when a teacher verbally attacked me for coming into his classroom to reteach intervention students. He has done everything possible to keep me out—from not giving me student names to telling me none of his students need extra help (in spite of the fact 70% of students in one of his classes were receiving "F"'s.) Because of gardenerjoy's words and others' support, I was able to not react defensively. I explained my reasons again for promoting school change in the area of writing.

Then my principal and vice principal supported our initiative and tried to move on. I think the teacher thought I was working on my own but everything I did was completely approved and encouraged by my bosses. Eventually, my principal basically shut him down and the teacher stood up, slammed his chair against the desk and stomped out. This was very frightening to me. I asked if there was anything I could have done differently and was assured the teacher was on the last nerve of everybody.

So here is my challenge: I am wired to believe conflict is bad and to be avoided. This is not true. If I am to promote the change I believe in there MUST be conflict. It is inherent in the process. So how do I stick to my beliefs but not give in to overeating resulting from the anxiety change produces.

The only answer to me this morning is to continue to be transparent with you all in this post, with my friends and family. To continue to focus on the only thing I really have control over: what goes in my mouth. To trust that the feeling of abstinence will be more comforting in the long run than a dozen cookies stuffed in my mouth,

IBelieveinMe2: Whenever I make a gratitude list, I never think to put healthy feet and yet how life becomes restricted if the feet are out of commission. I am working through plantars faciatis. It is painful and painstaking. Now I put feet on my gratitude list.

BethFromDayton: i was in the exact same overeating position last night. i made myself uncomfortable with food. This morning, per gardenerjoy's suggestion, I am going to reccommitt to get under 160 by the end of the month.

BBE: Credit for some restraint during "endless" meals. I really want to be a hermit becuase then I can control the food that comes into my little cave.

Beverleyjoy: Congrats on new baby. What an exciting time.

05-11-2013, 11:15 PM
Today I am on Day 6 - Finding a Diet Coach.

Can I use this forum as a coach? Am I better off finding someone in my real life as well? The truth is that everyone I know who might help me would probably be too soft on me....except for my younger children, who would probably be martinets!

Last night I made my menu plan and this morning my husband shopped...and I still found myself in the kitchen with no idea what I was doing for dinner! All my planned options seemed boring and I wanted to treat myself - not with sugar, but with as much delicious food (I was particularly craving pasta) as I felt like eating. I did not like the self-imposed restraint one bit. But I made chicken breasts and broccoli for the whole family (some had cereal and/or fruit afterwards) and no one suffered too badly (thyme and garlic make everything tasty!)! So - credit to me!

BTW - is it too soon to start commenting on every one else's posts? I don't want to horn in, as you all seem to know each other so well....

05-11-2013, 11:39 PM
Just another quick note from me. Food was boring but OP. I never seem to plan weekends very well, but as long as I'm not at a party, I eat within my "ordinary usual meals" so everything is OP.

I spent today curled up on the couch reading, with a cat on my hip. She thinks I'm a perch.

sparks17, we all serve as each other's coaches (and coachees).

Take care, all.

05-12-2013, 05:56 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Happy Mother's Day to all of you who've spawned. And to all of you who were of woman born. Just dance at the marvel that the tiny egg and sperm grow themselves as well as the marvel that a human spirit can be patient enough to nurture us for umpteen years until we can flourish on our own. Whole Foods will be providing Mother's Day dinner here (restaurants around here are crazy today) and we'll go out for dinner on another day.

Mediocre day - mediocre CREDIT moi. It started raining each time I walked to the front door and I seemed to 'forget' that I owned an umbrella and Gore-Tex. When offered a slice of apple pie at dinner by friends, I tried to feel noble because I left the big chunk of crust. It was also an option to just pass on the pie altogether - there was no one around with ego so fragile that they cared.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Can't beat 100%. But special Kudos for recognizing that champagne is just champagne - until it's in Paris. [DW just yanked our over-wintered kale as it was blooming. Her beauty side isn't moved when in her functional garden, LOL.]

Beverlyjoy – Yay for the joy you find in your DGS and DGD. Kudos for making a side dish your lunch instead of groaning about restaurant entree portions being too large. Congrats on pending grandmotherhood. Take your vitamins.

maryann - Powerful thought that conflict is necessary for change. Kudos for recognizing how much of a challenge that is for you and moving forward anyway.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – LOL at the image of your lioness treating your hip as a perch - better to stalk the wilderbeest. Boring isn't a crime and On-Plan is worthy of Kudos.

sparks17 - Oh Yes - we're each here to be your on-line Diet Coach/Diet Buddy and ask that you serve that role for us. My take is that an ideal real-life Diet Coach is the best option, but spouses are a terrible choice due to conflict of interest. This group works well for me. Jump right in. And do personal responses as you see fit - there's no waiting period. It seems daunting that we might all know each other, but many of us are only posting together for a few weeks. Kudos for making your menu plan and Kudos again for wrestling with the desire to do something else.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

day 2Pick Two Reasonable Diets
. . . All diets enable weight loss
in the same way - by getting you
. . . . . to eat fewer calories.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 63.

05-12-2013, 04:34 PM
Happy Mother's Day, Becksters! I've not been hiding out because of perceived failure on plan - just have another weekend full of office work - lasting until 2 a.m. each night and should wrap up in about two hours today, I hope. I'm weary. Not even able to get small chores like vacuuming done because of the pace of the work. Food has been okay, nothing spectacular. Few, if any, veggies, though. Weight is up a pound from ticker. I never want to move it up, but try to hold me back from moving it down.

DH is working all weekend as well, and will drive over to his mom's after work, so will figure out dinner and plan tomorrow's lunch, too.

05-12-2013, 05:16 PM
Dear Coaches,

Despite my good intentions, I have found it difficult to resist extra snacking the past few days. I really need to GET and STAY FOCUSED for the long haul..... or my haul will be even longer! I wish I could make some lasting progress to prove to myself that I can do this. I am focusing on NSVs, but those just aren't moving the scale down, which I desperately need. It would be different if I was losing inches or something, but that's not happening either. Clothes all fit the same..... :( I guess I am feeling a bit down about it all (again!) today. I will try to move forward from here, though, especially since it is Mother's Day, and make some progress. I did have a HUGE non-scale victory today, though, which I need to be proud of. My kids were going through the Dairy Queen drive through and I thought, "Well, since it's Mother's Day, I will treat myself to a dipped cone and then start over afterward." Just as soon as I had that thought, another "voice" chimed in ~ fortunately louder and wiser ~ and said, "No! Since it's Mother's Day, I will treat myself to better health and NOT have anything!" So BIG CREDIT there! :D I will CHOOSE to focus on the positive over the negative and maybe it will help to improve my mood, which will put me in a better frame of mind for this incredibly challenging journey!

Waving hello :wave: to all of you!!!

05-12-2013, 10:39 PM
Hi all!

Food was OP today, except for the add-in of popcorn at the ballpark. I skipped making a starch for dinner, so I was still on target calorie-wise, so I count that as a win.

I've got next week's meals all planned out, and DH is going to swing by and pick me up to go to the grocery store after he gets home from work. It'll be faster for him to get me and let me do the shopping--it takes him forever and I'm pretty quick at it.

After an anti-whoosh yesterday, I'm back at ticker today.

I'm getting antsier and antsier about not driving--I don't mind the post-op shoe that much, but I really want to be self-mobile again!

Take care!

05-12-2013, 11:33 PM
Hello coaches,
What a great weekend...I planted containers and a few veggies today, planned food for the week, grocery shopped and prepared food for lunches and dinners this week. The weather is starting to get gloomy again. We have enjoyed the sunshine immensely while it was here though. We have four more weeks to our Healthywage challenge and I am quite motivated to hit 12 percent of my weight gone by then. It is a bit optimistic since that means 11 lbs in a month but I will do my thang and see what the results are. I am looking at veggie smoothie recipes that I can make in my blender. If anyone has a winning combo of veggies that is palatable I would love to see it! I am thinking that it could be part of my breakfasts...

Oh, and somewhere recently, I read about a slew of benefits to freezing an organic lemon and zest ing on food and in water, etc...I have been doing just the water and it is a nice addition...

05-13-2013, 07:39 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – As planned, I walked (CREDIT moi) to Whole Foods to fetch Mother's Day dinner. DW liked that since she could work in her garden until time to actually lift forks to eat. She's prone to stay puttering until pitch black darkness signals that it's time to quit.

I even saved half of my salmon for another meal, CREDIT moi. It's possible to leave food on my plate when I know it's going to be eaten. I'm still wrestling with leaving food that's going to be thrown out, despite being able to understand the thought, Better wasted than waist'ed.

nationalparker – Hope all this extra office work doesn't keep you from remembering your mantra under your avatar, "Enjoying la bella vita." Vacuuming can wait until the kids leave home.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Neat adjustment to dinner to account for ballpark popcorn. I'm so glad that popcorn is never sold at what it costs or I'd be one of those folks with the Uber Buckets.

IBelieveInMe2 – Kudos for the remarkable Helpful Response, "No! Since it's Mother's Day, I will treat myself to better health and NOT have anything!" Working the strategies like that will allow your body to adjust in its time frame - be it as "long haul" as it takes.

Rosebud170 – Kudos for using your "Healthywage challenge" to keep the path. Love the lemon zest addition to water to stave off liquid calories.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

Two Kinds of Diets
There are two basic types of diets: One type encourages you to follow a set eating plan, which provides a detailed prescription for meals and snacks. The other type is a counting system, which allows you to design your own meals and snacks - as long as you stay within a certain number of calories.
. . . There are pros and cons to both types.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 63.

05-13-2013, 08:51 AM
Good morning! Yesterday I had planned to take the day off totally. So I did not plan what I would eat - but I did keep track. I ate out twice (actually only ate twice yesterday - late breakfast and early dinner) and ate as much as I wanted. However - I tried to do all the little things. I forgot my Advantages card but I mentally rehearsed the ones I could remember (6 out of 10!) - half credit? I sat down to eat -credit. I ate slowly and really savored it - credit. I ordered the pasta (with Chicken Parmigiana!!) I had been craving for dinner - and left half the pasta on my plate, as I just wasn't hungry anymore - credit.

And then I had an interesting mental adventure. I went to a show in the city with my sister (Listen to your Mother ( as we lost our Mom in October of 2012 and wanted to be together. Afterwards....I really wanted an ice cream cone. I looked around the area and saw only frozen yogurt places and Starbucks. I debated taking a walk looking for a place but I told myself no and headed to the subway instead. Got off the train near home and, instead of just getting on the bus, I scoped the neighborhood. Nope, no place for ice cream. Dunkin' Donuts, a great bakery, stores full of candy bars and Hostess cupcakes - no. I reasoned with myself - all those treats would not be satisfying. So I took the bus home. Now here are several stores up my block where I could get ice cream and bring it home. No. I had treated myself enough and it was time to go home. Oh well.

Now, I know that I will not always stand up to cravings, but the Beck book (I am reading ahead so have read about hunger, desire and cravings) is giving me a mental framework - thoughts with words instead of just feelings. Very helpful.

So, all in all, a day of credit even though I was off plan. Today - I have a written plan for breakfast and lunch. I haven't yet figured out dinner - I have a thing at 6pm and I have to leave at 4:30 for it - but I plan to know before I leave the house.

Today is Day 7 for me - Arrange Your Environment. My fridge is full of leftover Chinese food (my husband and 4 kids had it while I was out with my sister)...a good day to think about how I am going to handle things like that! Not that I can't eat Chinese on my plan, but it is a big trigger for me. I am not gong to worry about it until after lunch, so I am not making decisions on an empty stomach.

I believe in me - I also really like what you said about treating yourself to better health - I am writing that one down!

05-13-2013, 11:56 AM
Eating was healthy during a weekend that included a family meeting and my birthday. Good food choices were rewarded on the scale -- that's always fun! Credit for following my plan when I could and for making careful choices when plans changed.

Exercise: +30 465/1000 for May

maryann: I'm so sorry you're having to deal with that much conflict. That would be a very difficult situation for anyone, I would think. Good for you for keeping your cool. I'm glad that you're getting support from administration and finding meaning in important work that ultimately serves everyone.

IBelieveInMe2: you said "I really need to GET and STAY FOCUSED for the long haul...." There are moments when that's a helpful attitude, but it can also be helpful to adopt the AA motto of "One day at a time" or, even, "One meal at a time." Sometimes when I focus on the long haul, I procrastinate forever. I get better results asking: What can I do right now that is the best choice for my health?

05-13-2013, 12:28 PM
Hi everyone!

This weekend was my birthday ( I turned 26). I didn't totally scrap everything...but I was a lot freer. However things weren't too terrible and I don't think I ate anything too outlandish! I was not as satisfied as I am when I'm eating what I loosely planned though, food for thought.

The biggest problem, in my eyes, is that I didn't read my ARC or my response cards - I was too busy having fun! So I made sure that I was back on plan and using my resources this morning.

I don't own a scale yet to get daily information about my weight but I'm plannign to re-join a gym today and so I will have access to the scale there. It's on my todolist!

Thanks everyone for sharing, it's a joy to read you all.

05-13-2013, 12:58 PM
Good Morning, Coaches:

Rosebud: My favorite veggie smoothie is mashed sweet potato ( I cook a bunch in the oven at the same time,scrape out the pulp and put it into ice cube trays and freeze.) I take a cube of sweet potato, o.j., banana, and a pear with a little vanilla and cinnamon. Yum! I juice my own greens and freeze them in the ice cube trays, as well. I can add a cube of greens to anything. If I add greens I usually add some lemon juice.

vegansaurusrex and gardenerjoy: Happy Birthday!!!

I had a terrific Mother's Day. DS cooked me breakfast in bed. Then we went to the tennis club, swam, and I had a massage. Later, sushi. I feel very lucky. While getting the massage, I tried something new. I let my mind imagine scary places (like the conflict at school) while my body relaxed, remembering I was safe. My body was hardwired long ago as a child in chaos to respond to almost anything with adrenaline even if my mind knew I was an adult capable of taking care of myself. Much of my daily life I have adrenaline fatigue because of the automatic response. Then when the response is over, I feel blue. Yuck!

So, I am going to try and commit to a few massages a month to work on relaxation technique. I will have to budget in other areas but it is worth a try.

Weight 1 pound above ticker. I realized I was ignoring Beck's suggestion of a food diary — writing what works, what doesn't, writing the steps out when I slip, recording stories of dietary success. I downloaded a diary on my iPhone. The bonus is I can just speak into and don't have to type.

Best to all.

05-13-2013, 04:55 PM
Hi Coaches

I spent all last week in Ottawa, vsiting friends, my mother and my sister from Florida joined me after a day of being there on my own. There were many unexpected stressful incidents. As usual for trips to see my mom. I remain estranged from my other two siblings who live in Ottawa. Oh well.

So, food during the trip was good. I stayed on plan, and even intervened with my sister when she had her mitt in a giant bag of jujubes my mom bought for herself. She looked out for me as well. Then things fell apart a little and then yesterday a lot. On my drive home I ate fast food, and then came home exhausted to no energy to eat well or say no to anything. We went to the grocery store and I was fixated on snacks. We bought/I chose the least of the bad snacks (for me this is pre-popped popcorn). So this was Saturday. I stepped onthe scale Sunday moring to see 250, +2.2lbs which I knew was water weight/salt and took that as a victory. Then, yesterday, we went to DH's mom's, my food pusher MIL house and I just ate what was put in front of me. There were some cookies, some regular ice tea, a box of timbits (aka donut holes). More popcorn at home. Got on the scale this morning and saw 254 +4lbs overnight +6 now from my low. salt salt water water--it will come off as fast IF I STOP NOW.

What was driving this eating? Well, we are going to move my mother to where I live now. I am depressed over this. She won't be living with me, but I will have no escape from the duties of my mother as far as I can do that. DH's mom is having rotator cuff surgery this fall and I was already anticipating the extra care she will require. She lives alone and her right arm will be strapped to her body for three months. I will adapt but I am not thrilled. I will do it, because I must, but I worry my own life will be greatly impacted. However, these situations are ever changing. I am grateful my mom is doing as well as she is. I want her to have visitors and days out and about and to still be part of Life.

Eating extra food is not a help to any of these situations. It's just so obvious. I've already stopped that. *credit* The best thing I can do is continue to stay well and healthy and to get my house into a welcoming comfortable state as it looks like family will be a bigger part of my day to day life. I have never wanted that but whatever. It's going to happen. I'm choosing not to fight it but to do the best I can with it all.

One more thing, everyone but everyone commented on my weightloss. Go figure. Not much down from my last trip there, less than 10lbs, but who knows about that stuff? Everyone, oddly, just took my smaller size=happier person. I find the whole world's reaction to weightloss baffling.

Thanks for reading.

05-13-2013, 08:28 PM
Just came back from a long walk with DH and our 3 dogs. Left foot hurts but the walk was nice and it felt good to get moving. Now the dogs are zonked! :) Eating has been mostly OP today. I feel in a better frame of mind, too; like I can do this once again.

gardenerjoy: Thank you for reminding me to take one day and even one meal at a time. I do try to focus on that, but need to get some consistency going (for the long haul) if I am going to lose a significant amount of weight and maintain it. I need more "on" days than "off" ~ if that makes sense. It does still boil down to one meal and one day at a time, though; you are right! ;)

gardenerjoy and veganasaurusrex: :bday2you: Hope you both had fun b-day weekends!

onebyone: Sorry you are struggling with having your mother come to live with you. A tender situation indeed! But, you are right, eating over it won't solve a thing and will only make you miserable. I hope the transition will go smoothly and end up being a blessing for both of you!

maryann: I can so relate to that automatic adrenaline response and the resulting fatigue afterward (also from my past). You described it so well. It robs me of my energy on too many days. I hate it! :( My DH has been buying me massages since the first of the year and they are so therapeutic for me. I hope yours help as well!

sparks17: It sure sounds like you are making good use of the Beck techniques! Way to go on skipping the ice cream, too! ;) So sorry for the loss of your mother this past October. Still very fresh in your mind, I'm sure. :hug: My mother-in-law died 2 years ago and we all still miss her like crazy! I am still blessed to have both of my parents (84 and 79 yrs old), but the time is nearing....... and I dread it!!!

:wave: to everyone!!! Hope all is well! ;)

05-13-2013, 10:08 PM
Back form "The Drive Down" [which is a drive to almost anywhere from Michigan where we live...]

Went to a huge, traditional Irish Catholic funeral that involved the whole tiny town and all the good Irish whiskey for several counties from what I could tell. Enjoyed every single thing and had an awesome celebration of my Aunt's well-lived life. A good time was had by all.

Home again, I find myself up 1 1/2 lbs, not so bad and well worth it. On Plan again all the way today.

Greetings to all and thank you to those who sent me private messages--Aunt Nellie was 88 and much loved by all. A good life and a good death.



05-14-2013, 07:33 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Leftover salmon - with nothing else - for lunch is just the best. And better, abandoned by my DW for dinner, I had a bachelor's meal of leftover rotisserie chicken - with nothing else. I feel so 'Paleo.' I am the cave man, me. Also feel a bit lazy and guilty. Oh, well.

Exercise was walking around a furniture store looking at couches since a new one is in our future. Getting up and down from couch to couch is definitely exercise. My definition of h*ll is a GIANT furniture store from which I'm required to furnish a mansion to Martha Stewart's satisfaction. I did suggest a lemon yellow one at which, as I expected, DW winced while I got credit for at least speaking out. In heaven, you're assigned furniture and it lasts for eternity.

onebyone – Supportive thoughts as you find the right place for your mom and deal with all the emotions that come with relatives. Wish you'd tattoo this on my head, "Eating extra food is not a help to any of these situations."

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Happy Birthday! Double Kudos for staying your plan during both birthday and family meeting.

maryann - Yay for Mother's Day breakfast in bed. Kudos for addressing the adrenaline issue with a pleasant massage. If it works, you should write a book - that's ideal CBT.

spanky - Such a beautiful thought for your Aunt Nellie, "A good life and a good death." Kudos for back on plan today.

IBelieveInMe2 – Congrats for getting that foot exercised. Kudos for seeing, "I can do this once again."

Jo (veganasaurusrex) – Happy Birthday! My take is that the Beck strategies can be molded to fit, "I was too busy having fun!" Joy in the heart seems a good basis for any goal.

sparks17 - Kudos indeed for, "left half the pasta on my plate." And many Kudos for each step in your saga of the non-ice-cream-cone.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

Two Kinds of Diets
Set Eating Plans
Pros: You don't have many choices. For some people, having a lack of choices is easier to deal with, especially initially. You can just tell yourself, No candy at all, and abide by this rule. Because you know what you're going to eat every day, you don't need to expend much mental energy on finding recipes or choosing foods.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 64.

05-14-2013, 09:17 AM
Hi becksters: I am down one pound since my return from visiting family for a week. YAY.

My sister is coming for a week's visit starting on Thursday. I am excited. This is kind of last minute - she has to have another back procedure soon. (#5). She won't be able to travel for a while after that. She really wants to see our Mom and Stepmom. It's time for lots of planning.

I've had my healthy breakfast and am ready to do my journal work and to write down my food plan for the day. I must get back to more consistency with food and ultimately my food sanity.

Yesterday I got some things planted for the swap on Saturday. Looking forward to going and not being in charge of everything. It's now a community tradition. I am feel very proud that I created this fun way to share extra plants and a potluck meal. After 11 years I am so happy that a group of three women stepped up to keep it going.

I'll be back. Have a great day. Remember to treat yourself as kindly as you would treat a friend.

05-14-2013, 10:53 AM
I had a 100% day yesterday -- woohoo! Today, I haven't written a plan. That will make it hard to have a 100% day. I'll do that next as soon as I finish this quick check-in. It's a bit more than a week before I leave for France. My lists are too long and days are too short. A plan will help.

Exercise: +30 495/1000 for May

05-14-2013, 11:09 AM
My oldest is graduating from college today, it is my 2nd daughter's 20th birthday today as well, last night was the Baccalaureate Mass (Catholic college)...I got super busy, did not think about myself at all and let myself get carried away.

So. Bad morning - no planning last night and no planning this am = leftover chinese food for breakfast. :devil: Not that I overate - there wasn't that much left - but I did not think long term, just what would be easy (didn't have to make it, just heat it up), tasty (yum!), frugal (didn't want to throw it away). When I get to the days about sabotaging thoughts, I will be making some great cards!!!

And yesterday was about my environment. I thought about tossing the leftovers, but I didn't because the kids ate most of them last night. I could have done it when I went to bed...but I was not thinking about it at all. So this morning - there they were!!!

How can I get back on track? 1. Won't really have time for lunch, so string cheese and fruit and a salad. 2. Out to dinner after the graduation - have no idea where we will end up but I can plan this far - eat only half the meal I am served. That should make it easy to be restrained no matter where we eat! And if I am still hungry when I get home...I have plenty of apples and peanut butter!

05-14-2013, 03:38 PM
Hi Coaches!
It has been so busy and I have still made more good food choices than the not so good. Last evening was actually the worst- I had a cinnamon roll and chips for dinner. Ouch but credit for not adding a dinner on later...or more chips. I was tired and went to bed.
This is the end to this long haul. Work today, family dinner tonight, a 2 hr RT to airport at 3am then a 2 hr drive to our other home for *possibly* 5 days off. I still have several long hauls to go.
I've made a few changes that are already helping:
1. I changed the picture on my iPhone to the picture of myself in the dress I'm wearing to the July wedding. I'm already finding it quite motivational.
2. I changed my shift meal to only one choice two scrambled eggs plain. It has already helped me as well.

I must get back to work....

05-14-2013, 08:43 PM
Another good day OP so far. Hoping I can remake the ground I lost by staying totally on plan this week. Things seem to be moving at a hectic pace now that Spring/Summer is afoot...

We took a drive across the state to visit the English Bulldog puppy at the breeder's home. He's just 4 weeks old and a total Love Bug. A handsome little red boy. The puppy names have been flying through the air all week, but still not 100% settled on what we'll call him.

Spring and a puppy--they make me feel almost youngish again. I SO want to feel that way physically too. Looking forward to it, in fact.

OP Vibes to all!


05-14-2013, 09:02 PM
Hi Coaches.

Another coolish, greyish, springish day. I started making things for the farmers' market. DH mentioned wanting to go on the weekend to pick up comics he bought on ebay and I saw a ceramics exhibition I want to visit and I am wondering, will I make it to the market or not on Saturday? Perhaps not. It's a long weekend here as well, not that we have any special plans.

I *credit* planned ahead and made soup overnight in the crockpot. I have been enjoying that today but for dinner DH made breaded chicken wings and I just said yes to the wings. I will make sure I drink a lot of water this evening to counteract the salt. I have enjoyed raw veggies with the wings though and no extra sauce.*credit*

*credit* as well for weighing in and seeing -2lbs = 252 this morning. I think the wings I just ate will prevent the drop to 250 or less, but I never know that for sure.

And that's how things are tonight.

05-14-2013, 09:39 PM
BillBlueEyes, loved your bachelor's food plan! I marvel that when left on our own that we make good choices today...even if they lack a little...ahem….balance. lol

gardenerjoy, Happy (belated) Birthday! Yay for a 100% op day AND commitment to a written plan so you can enjoy another.

Jo(veganasaurusrex), Happy (belated) Birthday. I'm glad you were able to enjoy yourself without being too outlandish. credit.

MaryAnn, glad you had such a wonderful Mother's Day! DS bringing you breakfast in bed must have been so sweet! Kudos for loading the diary onto your iphone!

IBelieveInMe2, kudos for persistence and finding that good attitude to help you with your goals. Keep trying...keep trying...that is how CBT works. The more you keep trying the more automated it will become.

Beverlyjoy, gosh**I am sorry to hear your sis must have yet another back surgery. How nice she can come and visit. Kudos for getting right back into your Beck consistencies after returning from your trip.

Rosebud, your weekend sounded fun! Lots of planning and planting, too. My veggie/fruit smoothies ARE my breakfast. I add a protein powder. Palatable? It works for me as a nutritious energizing drink. My veggies...beet, carrot, kale, parsley, and berries. Ginger root for immune system boost. I make a big batch and DH and I share.

Beth(from Dayton), nice that you have all your meals planned for the week!

nationalparker, hope you are recovering from your busy working weekend!

onebyone, nice job getting right back on plan after your busy and sometimes stressful trip.

spanky, nice job with another good day OP and a reward of getting to visit your puppy. glad to hear you had an awesome celebration of your Aunt Nellie.

sparks17, happy birthday to your DD and family kudos at the graduation of your oldest. Kudos for giving your best food effort during this busy and celebratory time...especially with your plan to get back on track.

05-14-2013, 10:57 PM
Hi all,

I'm OP with food today--just as planned. I had my snack a bit earlier than usual, but it was exactly the snack I'd planned.

I haven't re-started my challenges after taking Friday off--and it snowballed. My foot is doing tons better and I expect the podiatrist to release me (flying colors and all) next week.

I haven't planned tomorrow in detail, but lunch is made and dinner is decided on. Breakfast is always one of just a couple of options--it's easy to stay OP with.

Take care, all.

05-15-2013, 01:39 AM
Hello coaches,
Nothing exciting to report today...we gave day one of the state test today. A lot of energy goes into that process of testing. It is going fine but will be happy to be done with it next week! Water aerobics last night and tomorrow night. Shooting hoops with dd this evening was today's exercise ... Credit for reading ARCs, drinking water, planning food.... I am loving the smoothie ideas...thank you so much for sharing them. I am printing them out..will try some this weekend!

05-15-2013, 06:35 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Walked to gym, CREDIT moi, to work some muscles that were feeling abandoned. Each skipped workout sets me back at least two. When I was in high school, we'd start football practice on August 15th and be in shape by September. Muscles have grown resistant to change over the years but my brain still thinks as if they were in their teens and should respond with a few quick workouts. Wish I'd retrain my brain to see this as an incentive to stay 100% on track since recovery is slow.

Food was good enough, CREDIT moi. Leftover rotisserie chicken was at lunch - there's a bunch of leftover rotisserie chicken that has to be consumed before we go out of town for the weekend.

onebyone – Your explorations always sound exciting. Good luck producing stuff for the weekend farmers' market.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Yay for planning. I can almost hear France calling from here.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yay for the thought of 5 days off. Kudos for thinking to put your dressed picture on your phone for motivation. By the by, where is your new avatar picture taken?

Beverlyjoy – Just super that your plant swap lives on. Kudos for thinking planning for your sister's visit.

spanky - Can't wait to hear what you name the new puppy. When does he come home? Kudos for just another OP day.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Yay for a healing foot. And Kudos for an OP day.

Rosebud170 – Just wait. When I get to be Czar of the Planet, there will be no standardized tests - education will be allowed back in the schools under the control of the teachers. Yay for water aerobics.

sparks17 - Congrats to your kids for marching forward in life. Leftovers for breakfast is plain fun. Kudos for having a half-meal plan for your restaurant adventure today.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

Two Kinds of Diets
Set Eating Plans
Cons: This inflexibility can create a mindset of "good" foods and "bad" foods. If you slip and eat a bad food or something not on the meal plan, you might think that you've blown your diet and, therefore, might as well keep eating bad food for the rest of the day and start your diet again tomorrow. Another disadvantage is that you might not be able to sustain a set eating plan for the long term. Plus, with little or no flexibility, this type of plan doesn't allow for uncontrollable food circumstances, such as eating out or going on vacation.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 64.

05-15-2013, 08:11 AM
So I will start with some credit - Did my morning planned exercise instead of claiming I was too busy. Read my Advantages Card surreptitiously at the table in the restaurant. Had half a piece of bread from the basket. Ordered a whole wheat wrap with chicken and arugula, instead of, as Joey says on Friends, "Fried stuff with cheese!". Ate half my wrap and brought the other half home.

My struggle started at dessert. My husband couldn't decide on what he wanted so I told him to order both and I would eat the one he didn't want, as they both looked good. Convenient way to get dessert and fell helpful while doing it, huh? When I got it I thought about just eating half...but I strengthened my giving-in muscle instead of my resistance muscle.

Well. Today is a new day! I am planning my food for the day now before breakfast. I am up to Day 8 in the program - creating time and energy. I have a flexible weekly plan for menu planning and shopping. And I like what Beth said about having a few options for breakfast. If I did that for breakfast and lunch (as I am almost always home for those meals), it would make my planning, and sticking to the plan!!!, much easier.

Lexiss - I like your I phone photo idea!

onebyone - what do you make for the Farmer's Market??

ETA: We are very proud of our daughter so I am going to boast a little -Summa cum laude!!! Woo Hoo!!! However, now the hard part begins. She wants to work this year while she applies to grad schools and she wants to earn enough to move out to live with some friends. But she has applied to several jobs and nothing yet. And housing is tremendously expensive here. Realistically, I can see her getting 2-3 part time jobs, saving money and moving out next year. We'll see!

05-15-2013, 09:32 AM

A little boost for my morning, coming here to post. I've chanted my ARCs and prepped all meals--going into the day strong, but I am hungry !

I remind myself that having the feeling of hunger be a rare occurence in my life is a very First World problem to have!!! So I will soldier on with it and expect to live to see another day.

Have a great day everybody! ;)


05-15-2013, 12:44 PM
I'll keep this short since I've been having trouble with 3FC this morning and I may not get to post it at all.

I had an uptic on the scale this morning that's frustrating when I followed my plan precisely yesterday. I'm not quite willing to conclude that my plan is too generous might now, but it may be.

Today we're going out to supper as a late birthday celebration, so I'm going to skip my snack since I seem right on the edge calorie-wise anyway. That should help.

05-15-2013, 02:27 PM
Hello! I was able to take yesterday off as a result of working through the weekend again and apparently I thought that meant take the day off from eating smaller portions and smart choices. End result is that lunch was heavy, but worked loading and hauling about 500 pounds of rocks for my garden walls, didn't snack at all (hands were too dirty and no snacks were outside at my garden) but drank a TON. Edged a bit, weeded and laid down bags of nice black mulch and DH came out and said the patio looked like a magazine photo. My sister had said the same thing last week when i sent her a pic of the "stray" dog that showed up on our patio furniture. I see what needs to be done, not where I've come. It was a lightbulb moment, as I see where i need to be weight-wise, not that more often than not, I'm making choices that will get me there at some point.

Tonight I'm heading back by the hardware store for another 30 wedge stones and will load/unload those and get them out to the garden. Upside is DH has been grilling dinner (as he says, chicken, chicken or chicken, huh?) but tonight it's turkey sweet italian links.

Late night last night and need to wrap it up earlier tonight. But we're planning to relax by the firepit, so that'll put an end time on evening chores, I hope. Love the flames dancing in the night when it's not 95 and humid. We have good talks out there, it seems.

05-15-2013, 04:29 PM
hi everybody!!
I've been doing not so great, not too bad.
my biggest problem areas . . . eating sitting down and staying focused on mindful eating.
if I don't get these two things to become habit, I'm doomed.
I will think about it sitting down after I've already eaten standing up.
last night I ate my entire dinner standing at the island while preparing and packing up my lunch for the next day.
what the heck?
it's not like I'm short on time . . . I had the entire night to myself with nothing to do, nowhere to be, my son had my car.
I just wanted to.
words of wisdom to those that are successful at these two things will be greatly appreciated.


05-15-2013, 04:33 PM
forgot to give myself credit (another struggle of mine).
here I go!!

I eat all healthy food.
I always cook low or no fat, lower on carbs.
I eat loads and loads of organic fruits and veggies.
I've been walking to the bus stop instead of driving.
and walking home from the bus stop too.
I've been walking on my lunch hour.
I've been climbing stairs with a coworker once in the morning and once in the afternoon, we do 6 flights up and then down, twice a day.
I've been reading my ARCs twice a day.
paying attention to water intake.
corresponding extensively with a diet coach.
reading Beck's book over and over.

but I'm not doing everything perfectly and that bugs me.
if you remember, I'm a perfectionst to a fault.


05-15-2013, 06:43 PM
I just got home from work.
poured myself a cocktail (not planned).
got out the tortilla chips (not planned).
and ate them standing up.
does anybody have a 2 x 4 you can bang me on the head with?

05-15-2013, 07:50 PM
then I was ready for dinner.
made myself a fabulous dinner and thought "Lu, how about sitting your arse down and paying attention to every bite?"
so I tried it.
got myself a pretty placemat and a cloth napkin.
sat down to eat with no distractions.
it was BORING!!
and honestly . . . I wasn't even the least bit hungry.
how sick is that?
I stopped before I finished (not sure if it was more to do with being full or being bored).

somebody help me here!!!
my goodness . . . I do a lot of it right but when I do it wrong, man I do it WRONG!!


05-15-2013, 10:46 PM
lulu, nobody is perfect. None of us.

I had an OP day, although I was very hungry and had my snack early again. After dinner, my mouth wanted an ice cream treat. Out loud, I explained to myself that I was full from dinner, it probably wouldn't taste good enough to be worth overeating, and that I wasn't having an ice cream treat tonight. DH looked at me a little strangely, but it worked--no ice cream treat and I was fine with that.

I have fallen down on the exercising. I need to figure out what I'm going to do and start back up again--probably just the 30 day dumbbell challenge, since that works all the muscle groups. I have the weight bench in my office now--I ought to be using it!

Take care, all

05-16-2013, 02:20 AM
Darn it! I was already in bed and came back downstairs and ate a single serving bag of popcorn and a lemon fruit bar. OUCH!!! So here I am to "fess up!" :( Prior to this, I had already slipped in an extra snack earlier tonight :o, so my day of food didn't end very well. At least I did get in a long walk with DH and the dogs. Hoping that walk will offset the extra calories I consumed this evening. Scale still either teeter totters or stays the same...... and ONEderland only remains a dream for now. :( But what do I expect when I ruin my good days with extra snacks here and there?!? I need to really exercise my resistance muscle and the "NO CHOICE" response as often as possible, and see that it leads to a better result. I just don't feel like I have enough willpower to do it most of the time, though. I am letting the food control me instead of the other way around. :?: I have been reading all about emotional eating, but just can't seem to transfer the information into results when faced with a tempting "extra." It's like I think I can "sneak in" the extra food and it won't matter. I have friends who were significantly bigger than me who are now losing significant weight (one with surgery and better eating post-op) and are now well under my weight. While I am happy for them, it really depresses me. I can't seem to get anywhere and I know that one big reason ~ in addition to general overeating ~ is the medication (Abilify) I am on for depression . Right now, I think I still need the medication, so I just have to deal with it. I feel like this means NOT losing the weight I so need and want to lose, though. I wonder if I would be losing at least SOME weight if I wasn't on the medication. My doc said I could TRY weaning off the medication, but that it would be against his advice, so I have chosen to stay on it. It took me sooooooooo long (years!) to get the right mix of meds to become stable that the thought of going off any of them scares me. I don't know what to think, but at the moment, I am really tempted to try going off the one med that is a potential weight gain culprit. I would only do this with the doc's supervision, of course. I know that only I alone can make this decision ~ with my doctor ~ but do any of you have any thoughts, ideas, or experiences to share with me about discontinuing meds that have weight gain as a side effect?!? Part of me is afraid that I will get off the med and STILL not be able to lose any weight or that I will go off the med and have a relapse in my depression, which would just.....well......depress and scare the crap out of me!!! As long as I remain on it, though, I just continually wonder (in the back of my mind) if it is preventing any significant weight loss. I don't know, but I think I am rambling now, so I better go back to bed. Thanks for listening and for any input you might have for me about discontinuing the med.

:wave: to all of you! I'll try for some personals tomorrow. Good night! ;)

05-16-2013, 06:53 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Leftover rotisserie chicken is all gone, CREDIT moi, without a clue as to why I think that an accomplishment, LOL.

Walk, CREDIT moi, included a stop at a Goodwill to scout out newly dropped off books. Double CREDIT moi for buying none, although the shine is dimmed because I didn't really want any that I saw. I was motivated because, once again, I'm reading a book that I don't want to finish; the author is arrogant beyond the smell test. But it's like leaving food on my plate - we just didn't do that as kids and, as kids, it was not OK to fail to finish a book. Methinks I could use this book experience to allow myself to leave something on my plate - cross fertilization of CBT. Everything you need to know about Antifragile: Things That Gain from Disorder ( r) by Nassim Nicholas Taleb can be learned from the Book Description on Amazon.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Yep, I had trouble getting on 3FC yesterday, also. Seems OK now.

spanky - Yay for hunger - that is kinda rare.

nationalparker – Useful insight for me, "I see what needs to be done, not where I've come." 500 pounds of rock is serious exercise.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – LOL at, "DH looked at me a little strangely" with Kudos for doing whatever it takes.

IBelieveInMe2 – Sending supportive thoughts for a difficult decision. No experience here to offer on the meds. For the snacking and exercise plan it could be helpful to attempt a daily plan - even to the hour. A one hour plan can seem more doable. Good luck.

Lulu (LuLu01801) – Kudos for giving yourself credits even while beating yourself up for being a perfectionist. I join you in finding it difficult to eat alone with no distractions. However unBeckian it be, I'm always reading while eating when alone. I occasionally do the exercise of concentrating on tasting my foods - but I get the most out of the first bites.

sparks17 - "Woo Hoo!!!" indeed for "Summa cum laude!!! " Gotta love that your brain can conjure up the notion of being "helpful" to your DH by ordering two desserts - now that's creative!

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

Two Kinds of Diets
Set Eating Plans
, , , , ,Do you function better if you
. . . . . . .have set rules to follow?
Or do you do better with more flexibility?
Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 64.

05-16-2013, 09:38 AM
Happy Thursday! Another busy evening yesterday. Stopped at the hardware store to get another 30 wedge blocks, so this round only 330 pounds :) I loaded into the car, unloaded into wheelbarrow and around back to the in-design garden and worked on coming up with a flow that I like. It's obviously not leveled yet, the stones are just being placed so I can see how it looks, etc., and DH keeps saying, but it'll be level, right? :) YES. It's on a slope, so a lot of digging, etc. But for now I want to know what I'm looking for. He was building a screen door and dinner didn't get started until 8:30 p.m. WAY too late for me. It stays light here until close to 9 now, and it'll be light close to 10 in another month. He was going to grill and finally i just cooked myself in the kitchen. I do NOT like to light a gas grill and need to get over that fear. Have had two incidents with gas leaking and WHOOSH.

Have strayed way too much from my program here lately including (but not limited to): 1x2" piece of birthday cake complete with ample frosting (delish), a homemade s'more, some of Trader Joe's dark chocolate covered sea salt and turbinado sugar covered almonds (for those of you who have a Trader Joe's near you and you haven't had these - you must try at some point), french fries at City BBQ for lunch earlier this week, the list goes on. So why was I surprised to see the scale having ticked up a few pounds this morning? I was expecting a slight rise for other things but then was like WHAT? So today I'm recommiting to getting BACK ON TRACK.

Perfection isn't my goal - I'm not perfect and don't want to be beating myself up over everything. But to eat wisely and be active, get ample sleep and check in here are the four touchpoints I believe I need.

IBelieveInMe2 - I read and reread your post. It does sound as if continuing the Rx would be beneficial to you, especially if you feel it would. It sounds more as if the snacks and choices are the reason, vs. the meds, for the challenge in getting down a bit more right now. Focus. You SO can do this. Don't compare yourself to your friends - they are completely different hormone systems and metabolisms, etc., than you are. I've learned that - don't compare and don't wish for others' non-weight struggles, they might be battling something far worse in their lives that we know nothing about. I digress. Will you join me today in making great choices? In thinking about what we choose to fuel our bodies? In being positive about turning the corner here, today? Will it go perfectly? Probably not. But will it be markedly better than yesterday? You betcha! Grab this hand I'm reaching out and join me today.

05-16-2013, 10:04 AM
Credit for a good eating day even though plans changed. I didn't use that as an excuse to go off the rails. Today, I wrote a Plan A and a Plan B so that I can handle the uncertainty of the afternoon.

Exercise: +60 615/1000 for May

BillBlueEyes: 3FC does seem to be feeling better today.

IBelieveInMe2: I second BillBlueEyes that the thing that got me eating on plan was a very detailed plan, thought through in advance, taking into account what else was going on in my day. It's sometimes helpful to write a generous plan because developing the skill and habit of following a plan is more important, in the long run, than what's on the plan.

LuLu01801: Like BillBlueEyes, again, I read when I eat alone. I have yet to achieve anything that looks like mindful eating, but my eating is a lot less mindless than it used to be. I'm considering that good enough.

05-16-2013, 11:23 AM
Yesterday went pretty well. I was on the high end of the calorie range I aim for, but not over - credit. Exercise felt great in the am, but I was too pooped in the evening for a walk. So I took an extra walk this morning - I had to run to the store to pick up a few things for a birthday dinner tonight (we rescheduled daughter #2's birthday because of the graduation) and I went to a further store to get in a longer walk - credit.

Today is planned as far as breakfast and lunch - but dinner!!!! She requested pasta and meat sauce, string beans and a salad, and of course - cake! I don't want to go over my calorie limit and I don't want to skip lunch so I will have more calories/carbs for dinner but.... I am thinking about different scenarios but I can see that what I really want is it to be ok to overeat today. :( I feel like I have TOO MANY special occasions in my life! This weekend we are going out for our anniversary (which is next week) and I WANT to eat popcorn at the movies and whatever I feel like eating at dinner and dessert too! But I also want to be thinner. What do I want more???

While I am wrestling with that, I am also on Day 9 - Choose an exercise program. For the past six weeks or so I have been doing strength training type things (overhead presses with 5lb weights, chair squats, etc) that I can manage at my current fitness level, as well as walking 3-5 times a week. I want to plan to stay with this for another month or so.

Enough about me.

I believe in me - you have received some great advice here. Best of luck as you work this out!!

National Parker - Now that I know about these almonds....I think the only time I would buy them would be to bring them to someone's house, as I would only be able to have a few then.

And I really like what you said here - Perfection isn't my goal - I'm not perfect and don't want to be beating myself up over everything. But to eat wisely and be active, get ample sleep and check in here are the four touchpoints I believe I need.

Gardener Joy - Your Plan A and Plan B for uncertain days is a really good idea!

05-16-2013, 11:44 AM
Hi! This came through my newsfeed on FB via Beck:

Think Thin Thursday Tip: If you think, “It’s too hard to think about practicing my diet skills forever,” remind yourself that some of them you won’t have to do forever, and others will start to be become more and more automatic.

05-16-2013, 02:27 PM
IBelieveInMe2: While my husband was going to school and working out of town for his Funeral Directors' license, I spent the year holding down the fort with a 3 yr old, a full time job with the most stressful boss of my career, and a looming house foreclosure. I went on a "Head Med" for that year. It worked so well that I was effectively "bullett proof" for that whole year. I think it did affect my ability to lose weight to some extent, but that may have been the stress of the situation.

It took me 6 months to come off it because the rebound was awful. I actually sat and counted the grains in the capsule each day, decreasing by just a couple per week. I have to say that I don't see a major increase in my ability to lose weight or control myself; actually Beck itself has been much more helpful.

I wonder if it would help to practice by resisiting just one thing per day? I know my days are full of challenges and more than one thing crosses my path that I need to resist. Do it just once, that day and give yourself credit. Build up that Resistance Muscle just like you'd work up to a 10K run--by walking a block a day and building up to it.

Hope that helps, spankx

05-16-2013, 08:07 PM
Just a quick update - I try to keep my daily calories between 1,600 and 2,000 and my carbs between 75-100. After careful planning and measuring and putting my cake recipe in came in at 1,986 calories and 115 carbs. Not too bad!! I also exercised and walked today. Credit!

05-16-2013, 11:33 PM
Hi all,

Today has been OP. I didn't really have a written plan today, but I'd mentally planned out breakfast and lunch, and then at work, planned out dinner. I forgot to pack a snack for work today, so I fell back on the snack area--but it was a snack I've planned in the past: I had 1/2 package of Planter's peanuts.

I've got tomorrow's breakfast and lunch planned out (lunch and snack are packed and ready to go), and I know what we're having for dinner, although I didn't plan it in detail (doing it in my head right now, and will enter it into MFP when I finish this post.)

DH is going out of town this weekend for DD the older's college graduation, my BFF is coming to visit, and DD the younger is celebrating her 18th birthday (birthday is next week).

My BFF has been reading Beck and is starting to work out an approach for herself--it'll be our main thing to work on this weekend. Her weight is a real problem in her life and I hope that she finds a path that works for her. I'll do anything and everything to support her--but as we all know, the person losing has to do the hard work.

DS called tonight and we chatted for a while. He's an amazing kid (although not so much a 'kid' anymore). He asked about how my weight loss is going and pointed out that buying new clothes is way cheaper than the health issues I've had (and he's right). Even if I need to buy several wardrobes on the way down to a goal weight, it's a win--even if I don't wear the clothes for very long.

sparks17: Way to go on your calorie and carb goals for today. Special occasions are hard--but when I started counting them, I realized I could have a "special" occasion every week or two--so I guess they're not really that special, are they? Your exercise program sounds great. I don't know that I'll ever work up to more than walks and dumbbells and other resistance stuff--what you're doing sounds perfect to me!

Beverlyjoy: I needed that reminder today. Some of them are becoming more and more automatic. And even planning is becoming much easier--I may not have to write it down forever, but even doing that is easier.

gardnerjoy: Did you end up with Plan A or Plan B? For those of us who lead unpredictable lives (would that be all of us?) having a way to deal with uncertainty makes a lot of sense.

nationalparker: Straying is hard. I think the resistance muscle vs the giving-in muscle is a pretty hokey idea--but it really does seem to be that way, doesn't it? I hope today was a good resistance OP day for you!

BillBE: I'll have to tell DH that eating all of the leftover rotisserie chicken is an accomplishment. I don't think he knows that (and I'm sure I didn't).

IBelieveInMe2: I agree with spanky--it might make sense t try resisting one thing at a time or to pick one behavior to work on at a time. <<hugs>>

Take care, all.

05-17-2013, 01:19 AM
Thank you to everyone who offered suggestions to me! I appreciate your input. I think I am going to call my doctor and ask about going down (and eventually off, if able) on the Abilify..... just to try it. I figure I can always go back on it if needed. I don't expect the weight to just fall off, though, so I am also going to take the advice of focusing on ONE behavior at a time to change. It will revolve around exercise. I will walk for at least 15 minutes every day ~ either outside (whenever possible) or on the treadmill (or TreadClimber). I tried this half-heartedly awhile ago and just didn't stick with it. But it's time to try again and "just do it" this time! If I miss a day here and there, I won't beat myself up over it. But I will get 15 minutes in most if not every day. That should be a no brainer, but I tend to put off exercise, so if I can pull this off ~ or I should say WHEN I do this ~ it will be a significant positive change in my life. This gives me a PLAN for getting movement in each day! And having a plan gives me HOPE again! :)

Have to get to bed. We are traveling to Pittsburgh very early tomorrow for doctor appointments with the kids' endocrinologist there. Hope all is well with everyone!

05-17-2013, 06:22 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Heard Temple Gandin speak last night - what an inspiration that thinking differently is just . . . different. Said that we need more different thinkers in the workplace, particularly visual thinkers like her. She wore her trademark Western shirt and scarf. Don't know why that surprised me. Says she does 100 sit-ups every night and hates every one. But still does 100. Made me appreciate discipline.

Exercise was walking (CREDIT moi) to dinner with DW at a local hamburger place. DW ordered a bacon cheeseburger since the last time she'd had one was at a vegan restaurant. She admitted that she could taste the difference between tofu and beef, LOL. It's hard to believe that a single hamburger is too much food - even without fries. But it was huge and I was in no mood to doggie-bag a quarter burger home. I'm now protein fortified for a three day weekend to visit family. I'm off-web till Monday. Have a good weekend.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – It's useful for me to remember that "a lot less mindless than it used to be" is worthy of credit. So Kudos to you for that.

Beverlyjoy – Beck's right; some of the strategies become more automatic - eating sitting down is one.

spanky - I like the analogy to "Build up that Resistance Muscle just like you'd work up to a 10K run."

nationalparker – Czar BlueEyes is gonna have to ban Trader Joe's from the planet for such as "dark chocolate covered sea salt and turbinado sugar covered almonds." Good luck with that patio.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Striking reminder, "buying new clothes is way cheaper than the health issues I've had." Kudos for raising a DS who'll call home and chat.

IBelieveInMe2 – Super Kudos for making a specific exercise plan for 15 minutes a day.

sparks17 - Is this ever the case, "I feel like I have TOO MANY special occasions in my life!" It's a big step forward to become aware of how many 'special' cakes are offered in the just-this-once category each year.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

Two Kinds of Diets
Counting Systems
Pros: You can more easily match your diet to your lifestyle, designing meals that work for you whenever you travel, eat out, or attend social gatherings. You can also ensure that your meals and snacks include all of your favorite foods.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 64.

05-17-2013, 10:39 AM
Happy Friday!

Still OP this week, got in a brief, brisk walk this morning. Took off fast this morning and didn't pack my snacks. Taking time now to decide what, of the stuff available in our lab kitchen would do in a pinch--before I'm crazy with hunger and eat a bunch of the wrong thing.

IBelieveinMe2 Exercise is something you can do, medication or no medication. A daily 15 min bit of exercise is a perfect way to begin!

Have a great day everyone!


05-17-2013, 11:50 AM
From Dr. Beck for today:

Friday Weekend Warm-up: If you think, “Having to work on healthy eating will ruin my weekend,” remind yourself that since being in control makes you feel great and being out of control makes you feel badly and guilty, working on healthy eating will make your weekend BETTER, not worse. (And remember – our definition of ‘healthy eating’ includes treats.)

My sister has arrived. My weight is the same every day. Credit. I've got lots of healthy things in the house. I bought a bag of hard candy because I know my sister likes that. It may have to go into the trash.

Have a great day!

05-17-2013, 11:55 AM
Good Morning, Coaches.

IBelieveinME2: My heart goes out to your struggle. I have battled the depression/anxiety cycle my whole life. My overeating, I understand now, was my attempt to self medicate. I think exercise has truly been the solution for me. Just by focusing on exercising everyday, I dropped from over 200 to 180. I didn't even look at the food for years. The exercise helped my moods to balance. Then i went to counseling to help with the past and I dropped below 170. Now, with Beck, I am looking at the food. This is a slow process but I am happier now than I have ever been.

LuLu: I realize my refusal to sit down to eat is just another way to "use" food as a distraction. I will wait and wait for a sugary treat and as soon as it is in my hand I will "check out" -turn the t.v. on, stand up, call a friend so that the actual eating of the treat goes unsavored. Food is my escape from living in the the moment, from feeling my true feelings. I grew up in Malibu, California. I knew lots of people who bought beautiful houses on the ocean and then never touched the sand or the water. They were workaholics who looked briefly at the view while on the phone for business. It is the same with food. i am obsessed with having it but refuse to let myself truly enjoy and experience it.

As for me, I am truly grateful for another abstinent day. Said "no choice' to cupcakes on the faculty lunch table. Said "oh Well" when I thought at the end of my plan lunch, "Is that it?" Weight is one pound under ticker. Feet are getting better but I still can only do yoga. Good enough. Counseling appt. this afternoon to keep on track.

05-17-2013, 01:49 PM
Plan B worked for me yesterday. I haven't written a plan for today and I'm resistant. I think it's partly because we've been saying that we'll go to the Missouri Botanical Garden followed by supper at our favorite restaurant for three days and it probably won't happen again today. I feel like I deserve some compensation for that. And maybe I do, but it doesn't have to be food. It could be doing something else fun this afternoon or taking care of a whole host of little things that are worrying me about going out of town. Or a little of both. Okay. That motivated me to write a plan -- credit!

Exercise: +60 675/1000

05-17-2013, 02:51 PM
hello everybody!!
I’m back on track after that gawd-awful moment in time that I felt such despair.

Bill, when you said to me “I join you in finding it difficult to eat alone with no distractions. However unBeckian it be, I'm always reading while eating when alone. I occasionally do the exercise of concentrating on tasting my foods - but I get the most out of the first bites”, that was EXTREMEMLY helpful to me.
you helped me to see that it’s ok if I don’t do it all 100% perfectly, as you are someone here with long-term success and if you read while eating alone, you just cut yourself some slack and make it work for you.
when I was poking around on my laptop while mindfully eating last night, I thought of you and wasn’t worried about being such a bad little girl.
what a relief!!

Maryann, when you wrote to me “I realize my refusal to sit down to eat is just another way to "use" food as a distraction. I will wait and wait for a sugary treat and as soon as it is in my hand I will "check out" -turn the t.v. on, stand up, call a friend so that the actual eating of the treat goes unsavored. Food is my escape from living in the the moment, from feeling my true feelings. I grew up in Malibu, California. I knew lots of people who bought beautiful houses on the ocean and then never touched the sand or the water. They were workaholics who looked briefly at the view while on the phone for business. It is the same with food. i am obsessed with having it but refuse to let myself truly enjoy and experience it”, that just hit me over the head with a boulder!!
thank you very much for opening up your soul and sharing that with me, with all of us.
it was very powerful and gives me much to think about regarding my relationship with food and how to make it more healthy.

I’m planning my food, practicing Beck behaviors in a way that works for me and to still feel successful, I’m exercising, I’m doing the drill.
and, for today, I feel fabulous!!

thanks to all!!
have a great weekend.

05-17-2013, 05:04 PM
I’m planning my food, practicing Beck behaviors in a way that works for me and to still feel successful, I’m exercising, I’m doing the drill.
and, for today, I feel fabulous!!

lulu - :carrot:

I believe in me - exercise really does make one feel better. Hoping you feel it soon!

Today I had a "spontaneous" lunch out with my husband. It was higher in carbs than I had planned....but I also had a "spontaneous" 2-mile walk - credit! Now I am home and adjusting the plan to accommodate the lunch and still stay within my planned calories/carbs for the day - credit!

Credit makes me happy!!

05-17-2013, 05:18 PM
Hi Coaches and Bon Voyage to BBE!
I've been crazy seems days yet we only traveled 48 hours ago. I've tried to stay focused on my food plan on exercising and weighing in every day. I've done pretty well with the exception of some emotional eating yesterday afternoon. These days, it tends to be my most prevalent downfall. I'm taking time to reread Dr. Beck's chapters on emotional eating this afternoon. credit. I did contact my Beck Diet Buddy by email to provide the specifics of my off plan eating yesterday accompanied with my ideas on how to make today better. Several emotional issues out of my control have already popped up and I've resisted eating over

IBelieveInMe2, I'm glad that you were able to receive such heartfelt feedback regarding your medication question. Interesting to find, too, that many of us have or have had issues with depression, too. Me, I don't take any medication and usually feel pretty good but often (like yesterday) a single emotional event will "set me off" and I instantly feel very hopeless and get the just don't care attitude about food. I have found exercise so helpful and I have adopted the 15 minute routine. I have 3-4 songs on my ipod that work for weights, one for aerobics and one for stretching. When the songs are done, I am too. My best medicine for a day like yesterday is to get back up and try anew. I am being very careful to resist temptaion to stray today. Best wishes at your kids Dr. appts.

LuLu, I enjoyed hearing the responses to your question. There are others, here, who eat in front of the TV...and we are one. Same, I find I can time out from the TV and focus on my food but tend to be pretty strict about not standing and eating.

gardenerjoy, loved that by the time you finished your post you HAD a plan. credit. I also appreciated your comments on planning made to IBelieveinMe2. It's so sensible!

Beverlyjoy, yay for lots of healthy food. Do you have any luck with the SF hard candies? I just purchased some again and find they satisfy my after dinner need for a sweet.

MaryAnn, I appreciated hearing your story again...much like mine. I agree, it's a slow process looking the food but it does feel good.

Beth(from Dayton), yay for a well thought out substitute snack!Enjoy your busy weekend. Nice that your friend has been reading Beck. You'll have something to talk about. lol

Sparks17, nice well rounded credits especially since you thought out the different scenarios for the birthday celebration!!

spanky, what a brilliant suggestion to practice on resisting just one thing per day. It simplifies the process yet accomplishes the resistance goal. Thx!

NationalParker, wow! I'm amazed hearing your landscaping process! I have a project that so needs to be done but I don't have the vision of's not my strong point. Yay for back on track in response to the scale.

See ya'll soon!

05-17-2013, 07:08 PM
Coaches, hello.

Our first long weekend of the "summer" is upon us. I'm not sure if that means anything to me. I am not ready to go to the farmer's market again. I'm bummed out about this. I don't know what's wrong with me but I am royally unmotivated. I figure I have the long weekend to procrastinate and then there is no more time for it. Sometimes you can't push water uphill.

Exercise this weekend is happening though! I just got acall that I can get my community garden plot tomorrow morning at 10am. So exciting. Looks like the church has done a great job upgrading the garden. They have makers and they've tilled the soil and everything. Now if they have a real hose with a real nozzle I'll be a happy camper. By the end of last year's season the nozzle was gone and then the fitting that the nozzle screwed onto was gone and we were watering with just a hose that had the end chopped off so the water just came out of it. I used the watering cans as well which took forever. So, looking forward to setting my garden up and spending time with the good earth.

Foodwise, not too bad today but I succumbed to a small container of Ben and Jerry's late last night. Geez. haven't done that paticular thing in years now. We picked DH's mom up from the airport, had words trying to figure out where she would be, then drove home, then when we were driving home we had tense words. It was all just crummy. We've been sniping at each other for over a week a little here and there and this coupled with my resistence and procrastination makes me take the bait as well as baiting him. Dumb. So this was fuelling my food last night. As of this morning I am back on track and I have my food planned for dinner.

And that's where I am at today.

Bye for now.

05-17-2013, 11:14 PM
I love weekends and I'm so glad this one has started!

Today was an OP eating day. I know I'll have cake after dinner tomorrow (DD's birthday), but it'll be a small piece. The rest of the day should be easy.

Not much to report!

05-18-2013, 11:06 AM
I hit a new low for the month this morning and I'm now at a weight that I'm happy to take to France -- although a few more fractions of pounds for good measure would be helpful. Yesterday was a 90% day. I swapped out the supper plan for something equivalent and it worked out well.

Exercise: +30 705/1000 for May

BillBlueEyes: I love hearing Temple Grandin interviewed on the radio. Cool that you got to hear her in person. Hope you're having a great weekend!

spanky: good for you for working out a Plan B for snacks before they're needed.

BeverlyJoy: Hope you're having a great time with your sister!

maryann: woohoo for "no choice" to cupcakes!

LuLu01801: Yay for "doing the drill" and feeling fabulous!

sparks17: good for you for finding ways to make life work and to adjust your plan accordingly.

Lexxiss: Ouch for the emotional issues but I'm glad you're finding ways to make your day better even when other things are out of your control.

onebyone: cool that you can get into the garden this weekend and it sounds like things might have improved with the management. Glad to see you back here!

bethFromDayton: Happy birthday to your daughter! Good for you for having a plan for dealing with the festivities!

05-18-2013, 12:31 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

Yesterday 80% OP. Gave myself practice at identifying sabotaging thoughts by eating two squares of chocolate and 1/4 cup candied walnuts. I stopped, flushed all the rest of the offending food down the garbage disposal and notated in my diary what thoughts I had before I ate them. One was "It is almost on plan" (I had walnuts on my plan but not candied walnuts) The other was that sugar tastes so good, this is fun and a little vacation." Both thoughts lasted a moment then I felt the regret coming in. But i stopped that as well, read my get back on track card. Weight is still 1 pound below ticker. Pilates this morning. DS is in the state finals for conservation debates. We have his "owl box" (an alternative to pesticides) loaded in the truck.

Wave to all.

05-18-2013, 12:45 PM
Morning lovely coaches!

It's a beautiful day today here in the south east! I am on Day 13 which is resisting cravings meaning tomorrow is....DAY 14! Diet Day! I am really proud that I've gotten this far..most of the credit goes to my very motivational diet coach.

I've not been checking in here as much because I've been awful busy but I'm going to get on it and be present here! More to come later but have beautiful days full of beautiful choices for your beautiful bodies!

05-18-2013, 08:29 PM
Hello all! Today has been successful so far, I survived a children's birthday party full of food to munch on (not a choice, and after all those children's hands/flies on it..probably not a good choice for anyone!).

I brought lunch with me, a yummy falaffle sandwich, and I ate half and saved half for tomorrow's lunch.

This evening I baked vegan chocolate rasperry muffins and didn't lick a spoon or sneak a chocolate chip at all.

Now I have to confront the evening. veggie dogs and french fries are on the menu and french fries are a trigger food. I plan to put my portion on my plate at the beginning and not go back to the kitchen. Also only prepare part of the bag so tehre aren't a lot sitting out.

Then for evening snack I get a delicious muffin! Yay!

I have decided on a new rule of no eating while watching a show or playing a game on the computer. I have to pause those activities to eat in order to cut down on "mindless eating". I think that this rule will help me.

maryann Thank you for your powerful words about the reasons we use food. Food is supposed to be for sustance and health and enjoyment - not for escaping or self medicating. I feel a response card coming on!

bethFromDayton Kudos for plannign on how to deal with a possibly challenging cake situation! They key to success, I feel, is making sure we can still enjoy those little treats but not let them control us.

gardenerjoy Yay for the low weight! Those French fashion models wont' know what hit 'em!

05-18-2013, 08:40 PM
gardener joy - I hit a new low for the month this morning and I'm now at a weight that I'm happy to take to France awesome!!

maryann - Wow - putting food down the disposal is hardcore!

Well. I am still hungry. But I have eaten everything I planned for today and I am just going to suck it up. I am not at the "Oh well" day yet...but I know that it is coming, so I am practicing it. OH WELL!

Today I am up to Day 10 - Set a Realistic Goal. The thing is...I am not planning to weigh myself more than once a month, or whenever I or one of my kids has a dr appt. Have I mentioned that I do not have a scale and am not planning to get one at this time? (one of our daughters has had some food issues and it is better for her not to have a scale now, just in case) My longer term goal is 10% of my original weight, which is 25 pounds. So I can plan to think about 5 pounds at a time, but I may not actually know when I get there...

I do have a dr. appt on Monday, so I will see how I am doing then. If my loss works out to less than .5 pounds per week, I will look at being more strict with my carbs and/or calories. I can't be sure that my current plan is sufficient until after I see whether/how much I will have been 4 weeks since I weighed in at 237, so I am hoping for a 2-4 pound loss. Of course, I really hope it is more like 4-5 pounds, but I am trying to think slow and steady!!!

I am just thinking out loud here. Suffice it to say, I am going to celebrate each 5 lb. loss as soon as I know about it!!

ETA: veganasaurus - great new rule! And thinking about your falafel and muffin are not helping my

05-19-2013, 12:18 AM
I went a bit off plan today (pizza instead of the planned steak and potato for dinner), and had cake & ice cream as planned. Was at maintenance level calories today--but that's not so shabby for an 18th birthday!

DD and her friends are in the basement hanging out--shrieks of hilarity (they're playing Cards against Humanity).

I won't have treat stuff tomorrow--the cake was a one-time thing--DD will have to figure out what to do with the leftovers, as I won't be eating them!

I'm yawning a bit--off to bed with me soon!

05-19-2013, 01:17 AM
Late check in tonight ... will post better note in the morning ... Bad news from the permitting office here and no deck can extend into an easement on your property. SO, staking out our property lines not counting the easements had us realize that we cannot put up a deck at ALL unless it's right against the back of the house. Right now, I said no to that. That's not what we were after. SO revamping and trying to wrap my mind around a change of plans/complete change of design. I can't 'see' it yet, though, so have to keep pondering on it and walking around out there. I was crushed yesterday hearing that. DH was as well, I think.

So, decided to take control and make one improvement that I've wanted to for a bit, and prepped the front bathroom for a makeover this morning, went to Lowe's, picked the paint, and got to work. End result tonight is a completely finished bathroom with new linens and just need new towel rack. Have a shelf unit that's enameled that won't match now, so will attempt to sand and then paint chocolate brown. Sitting down tonight feels good. I'm weary.

Food = so/so today. I'd not prepped anything for dinner as I didn't hit the market, so made pillsbury pizza crust as flatbread with pesto and parmesan/romano on it. I've not done well at all on the veggies here lately. And then when I sat down tonight, I took a 130 calorie snack that I didn't need, but just wanted. Apparently more than I want to lose weight. I'm up a pound from ticker. Haven't set GOALS here lately - feel like i"m floundering and just treading water. So will set a goal to be down two pounds from where I am today by next Saturday. Even if I don't make it (putting my safety cushion in place?), I'm at least aiming for it and focusing on it.

G'nite all!

05-19-2013, 11:04 AM
Extra bread yesterday led to predictable results on the scale. Following my plan more precisely would have worked better -- I had my afternoon snack way too early which led to hunger before supper.

I have a plan today with no snacks, which will be a good exercise for me. My brother's taking us out to lunch to a restaurant called Gulf Shores. The themes are southern and sea food. I already picked out my meal from the menu -- blackened tuna on a salad, dressing on the side. I'm prepared to leave half the fish if it's large and I'll only eat three bites of the corn muffin that they serve with the salad -- I'll call that dessert.

Exercise: +65 770/1000 for May

nationalparker: so sorry the deck plans didn't work out. That always throws me for a loop when I have a vision and can't make it come to fruition. Good for you for channeling that energy in a direction where you could make a difference. I should try that.

bethFromDayton: Sounds like a festive birthday! Great that you're committed to not continuing with treats into today.

sparks17: Excellent use of OH WELL! Your realistic goal sounds reasonable given the tools you have. The book You On a Diet by Dr. Oz recommends using waist measurement to gauge success.

veganasaurusrex: Way to go with bringing your own lunch to a birthday party! I like your rule of not eating in front of the TV or computer. I eat in front of the TV at night with my husband and its not a problem, but that's a rule that would help me at other times -- eating in front of the TV when I'm alone in the house causes all kinds of struggle for me and it was a factor in my early snack yesterday.

maryann: Thanks for describing exactly how the identification of sabotaging thoughts worked for you. That's so helpful!

05-19-2013, 01:38 PM
So far so good today. I have enough calories/carbs left in my plan for a snack later....but there is nothing snacky in the house (credit!), so I may just eat a little more dinner if I am hungry.

Today is Day 11 - Hunger, Desire and Cravings. At this moment I know that I am hungry as it is lunchtime but I won't probably eat for another hour. So I have a feeling that after I eat my planned lunch I will have an opportunity to practice distinguishing!

Beth - maintenance calories - great idea!! I am stealing it the next time I have a "special day"!!!

Nat"l Parker - Sorry about your deck. I had to Google "easement" and I am still a little confused, but I get the idea.

gardenerjoy - thanks for the advice about the measurements. I have lost 1.5 inches on both my waist and my hips in the past 10 weeks. Not as fast as I would like...but I can see it in my clothing so I do feel progress.

05-19-2013, 04:25 PM
Hope everyone is enjoying a beautiful Sunday. I used to think the best job would be a pilot - you'll always see sunshine when you're above the clouds, and my mood is so, so determined by the weather. I am alternating chores inside with 15 minutes sitting out in the sunshine reading and sweating like a roasting pig. I am putting off the major chores (steam cleaning carpeting), and handling the simpler things (culling towels and putting donations aside for the humane society ... laundry ... meal/marketing plan). Will hit the market early evening. No plan for today and that's been apparent in my food intake. Hoping DH is up for Panera tonight, as I'd like their asian chicken salad. Typically I want to eat at home on days when I'm home all day to prep/cook, but not today :)

On week #3 of one of our cats being on med to have her chill a bit and not target another cat to attack. No change whatsoever and another 10 days to keep trying/test before trying another med. I'm frustrated as it stresses me out. I'm not even letting them together at all now, it just ends the same way and not fair to the other cat. I feel like a lion feeder - with opening doors and closing others, making sure I know where they are. The funny thing is, this one cat is the most loving. Go figure. I wanted them to all comingle by June (this started when we brought her in - someone dumped her or she was a complete stray - in October).

05-19-2013, 04:50 PM
Great weekend!

Weighed in down 2.5 pounds, really able to connect the result to the hard work all week.

Today got in extra calories knowing I'd be off schedule due to going out of town with some friends for a special Mass. I've been solid all day and didn't get frantically hungry enough to dive into those deadly "After Sunday Mass Coffee and Donuts". Didn't even touch 'em--credit fer sure!

I've picked a battle with some croissants sitting on the counter. They are for my son's breakfasts this week. Normally I steal the tips of them and, being 6, he doesn't notice. I can consume a whole roll in this sneaky way. This week I'm drawing a line in the sand and choosing to strengthen my Resistance Muscle until they're all gone. NOT. ONE. BITE. So please, ask me how I'm doing this week on this point, if you think of it! ;)

Hanging on to the motivation from this nice little weight drop and wishing all a good evening.


05-19-2013, 08:49 PM
Good evening all! Today was a good day and tomorrow is day 1 of my diet and that will be a good day!

Everything is planned in myfitplanner. Does anyone else here use that product? It seems to have a social component where you can connect to other folks on any of you utilize that?

Please send me good vibes as I continue this journey tomorrow!

sparks17 I hear you on the scale thing. I'm not comfortable having one in my house but I DO want to weigh myself daily because I think it's a good idea. I'm compromising with the scale at the gym for weighing, I'm also considering getting one to keep in my car (I know, it's insane, but there we go) so I can weigh the parkling lot at work? In the parking lot at the store? Clearly I haven't thought this through all the way. But I'm working to find ways to give myself that daily information (not reinforcement, nessicarily, just data) that I think will be helpful. But yea, difficult question!

bethFromDayton Kudos for asigning other people tasks that could be challenging for you!

nationalparker Goals are great because met or unmet they still provide you with something valuable! If you're down 2 lbs...that's 2lbs less on your journey! If you're not, it's an opportunity to look back at what you've been doing and see how you can improve your skills to be more successful next time. I wish you the strength to reach your goal and the wisdom to learn from the process (and hopefully with you having both of those I can get some for myself!)

gardenerjoy Yay for gaining knowledge from the data of the scale! I think you're a model of what Beck wants us to use that info for! Also pet stress is the worst. My dog has terrible allergies AND agression problems and I find both kind of overwhelming to deal with. We'll get through it though!

[B]Spanky Yaaay! Sometimes when I know I'm doing everything right and the scale doesn't reflect it I personify the scale and get mad at it for not doing it's job! I'm glad your scale is behaving as it should be! Also, now I'm personifying your croissants as evil lizards that will bite your figers if you try to nibble them! Though that's probably not a helpful image, I hope it can at least help you giggle your way out of cravings.

05-19-2013, 10:50 PM
Hi all,

Today was an unplanned day, but within parameters, so I call it OP. I ended up skipping breakfast, having a 'typical' lunch, and a 'typical' dinner. I skipped my afternoon snack and have stood firm against leftover birthday cake and ice cream. Weight is at ticker.

DD the younger is having a smartphone crisis--and although I'm getting things working again, I can't do anything about the fact that she hasn't done a backup in 3 months. Granted, she has an old computer, but she didn't ask for help, which I would have gladly given. Her new "going off to college" laptop has been ordered, but that doesn't help when she's lost months of pictures, notes, and texts from her phone. I've been working on it for several hours--at least her phone is responsive again, which is better than it was when I started!

I've got tomorrow planned out and lunch packed. I've got to get back into exercise...

05-19-2013, 11:54 PM
Hello there Coaches,
What a busy and active weekend I had! Yesterday was the "new regular" of water aerobics and racquetball. Then, dd had 2 friends sleepover since they are in the dance class and also in the Girl Scout Troop which was going on a field trip today. We went to Northwest Trek Wildlife Park. I have livedhere my whole life and had never been before today. It was a lot of fun and I got some steps in as well. It is fun to hang with this group of 5 girls who have been together as a troop since first grade. It is often difficult to not feel like these events take up so much of my valuable weekend, etc... but it turns my heart to mush to see them be such nice kids out there in the world and get along so well despite the odd number of them.

Anyway, credit to me for working my Beck plan with eating sitting down, resisting temptation (I said NO CHOICE to myself for grilledcheesesandwichesbutteredonbothsidesofWHITEb read, chocolate covered strawberris and nachos)... Not.a.crumb.passed.these.lips!!! I have gotten in some extra workouts, done some unplanned movement, drank large quantities of water and prepared healthy food that I am excited about. On a side, I made a veggie smoothie today and it was a FAIL. :( I followed a recipe online and didn't like the combo...and my blender didn't really "liquify" so thetexture was weird. I will try gain with my food processor and also no sweetener... and maybe not the almond milk. It tasted like gaspacho (which I love) with added flavors and I didn't enjoy the blend. I left my Ipad at school this weekend and the recommendations some of you gave me are screenshots on that. I will collect those tomorrow and try again!!!

Have a wonderful week everyone...

05-20-2013, 01:03 AM
Hello Coaches,

Just got home from the lake earlier tonight. Much better weekend! I walked my 15 minute minimum both Saturday and Sunday. Also biked on Sunday after my walk with DH. :) So I am feeling good about things tonight.

Gotta hit the sack, but I wanted to check in since I was at the lake all weekend without a computer. I love reading all of the posts. I learn so much from all of you, and it soooooo helps to know that I am not alone on this journey!!! ;)

05-20-2013, 03:24 AM
Hi Coaches!

I am getting back into the swing of things after my five days away from our primary home. My food choices on the other side were all in all pretty good. I did have a day with emotional eating and also had a day without emotional eating. Truth be told it was a rough few days. My husband was having some difficulties and he took a lot of his frustration out on me. Ouch . The good news is that tonight he's still there and I am here. LOL I'm hoping that absence does make the heart grow fonder.

I am truly enjoying the peace and quiet and have already made my food plan for tomorrow. I have emailed it to my diet buddy. Credit. I have a plan to up my exercise this week, too.

BBE, Welcome home! I'll look forward to hearing about your weekend away. BTW-My new picture is at the harbor in Homer Alaska. It was taken just a year ago. Our house sits on the beach near that bluff you can see in the background.

IBelieveInMe2, Kudos for a successful weekend and that wonderful feeling that you're doing it!

:wave: everyone else!
I'll get back to more personals when I'm not posting from my iPhone

05-20-2013, 07:32 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Back from three days of the agony and the ecstasy of extended family. Apparently, evolution has devised food as the universal lubricant for extended contact with dear folks all of whom are trying not to trigger each other. We all did well; I had cheerful and endearing conversations with some who I haven't seen in ages. I watched my adult kids duck some attempts to be dragged down into political tirades by those who don't know the rules. The social aspect worked well. That was goal one - so CREDIT moi.

However, exercise was nil and food was overdone for all three days. I was fed meatballs that were being described as "delicious" by all - except that they weren't. They were designed to slide down while creating the desire for another meatball. DW makes meatballs on occasion with a bite; they have noticeable spices and a texture the feels like food is being consumed. One success: I turned the crowd away from a trip to an Italian restaurant for dinner to a patio event with takeout from Wegman's amazing cooked food section. I managed to include a huge bag of mixed spring salad, a carton of strawberries, and bag of cherries for the taste of real food.

onebyone – Ouch for the difficulty of transition to summer and farmers' market. Kudos for recognizing that harsh words are from baiting and not from deep errant feelings. May your garden refresh your soul.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Neat to be at your French weight.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – May you have a rejuvenating week with many trips to swim in the springs. Glad to know I'm looking at Homer, Alaska.

maryann - Love the notion of an "owl box" as part of a debate. I'm a huge owl fan.

spanky - Congrats on those 2.5 pounds gone forever. Stealing croissant tips from a six year old is as sneaky a Sabotaging Thought as I've heard, LOL. How's it going so far this week?

nationalparker – Ouch for getting caught by surprise by the permitting office. Super Kudos for choosing a project instead of food in response.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Planning a small piece of cake is a stellar way to avoid a large piece of cake - followed by another to 'wash it down.' I love the sounds of young adults having fun.

IBelieveInMe2 – A whole weekend without a computer is good for the soul. Yay for biking as a chaser to a walk.

Jo (veganasaurusrex) – Being able to leave half a falafel sandwich is worthy of Kudos - I do love my falafel. (Around here, there's a sandwich shop that has to call them 'fried chickpea' sandwiches for some reason - but they taste the same.)

Rosebud170 – Kudos for avoiding a "grilledcheesesandwichesbutteredonbothsidesofWHITEb read" which is a mouthful. (Or would have been, LOL.) Ouch for a failed smoothie; even Julia Childs had failures on live TV.

Lulu (LuLu01801) – Doesn't get better than, "practicing Beck behaviors in a way that works for me." Kudos.

sparks17 - Spontaneous walking is just the best - even more so when we remember that spontaneous cookies were another option. Doing the Beck strategies without a scale should work since you're conscious of what you're doing.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

Two Kinds of .Diets
Counting Systems
Cons: These plans might provide you with too much flexibility You can choose foods that aren't particularly healthy but still meet the set requirements. This type also takes more time and energy than a set eating plan to figure out what you're going to eat.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 64.

05-20-2013, 07:44 AM is my weigh-in day.

And it is funny, or maybe sad, that I found myself thinking "If I show a good weight loss, I want to celebrate by...getting a Pecan Bun at Cinnabon on the way home." :?::?::?::?: Not that I can never have a treat again...but those are particularly huge at over 1,000 calories and almost 150 carbs! AND I need to start thinking of ways to reward myself that do not involve food! But, I will be out at lunchtime and the dr is right by the mall and it is normal for me to eat out on a day like today. But I want to feel confident about NOT stopping by Cinnabon before I plan to have lunch at the mall....

I am actually on Day 12 - Practice Hunger Tolerance. But I am planning to skip ahead and reread week 4 (I finished the book last week but I am still going through it a day at a time) about Sabotaging thoughts, etc.

05-20-2013, 08:50 AM
Hello all! I am writing to you from my redesigned kitchen breakfast nook. I went plant shopping yesterday (joy!) and came home with 30$ of beautiful plants raised by a gardener who clearly loved them. I put a few on my table with a lovely (small) plate and all my vitamins and water and coffee. I woke up super early to have time to eat this lovely breakfast before going on a run before work!

These are huge transformative changes from my "10 minutes wake up rush out the door" normal morning routine. I credit Beck, my diet coach and all of you for this very new choice making that I'm doing. I admit I'm reading the forums while doing it but I think Dr. Beckw ould understand :P

Today is Day 14, starting my diet. I have a food plan and I'm following it, with measuring, thus far.

bethFromDayton Your daughter is so lucky to have such a tech savy Mom! I'm always on the other side for my mother.

Rosebud What a lovely day with your daughter! She's lucky to have a mom who enjoys doing things like that with her and, more importantly, who is physically able to do such things! You're taking care of your health to do stuff with her and that's such a beautifuls tory! I'm trying to start smoothying as well - any recipe recomendations?

IBelieveInMe What a blissful sounding weekend! I'm jealous!

BillBlueEyes Congrats on a successful family occassion. That triggered a memory for me of an ill fated family gathering where I at so many donuts, at ate 6 or so, that I threw up all night. What is it about such things that make us make food choices not in our best interest. It soudns like you did a much better job tahn my 6 year old congratulations!

sparks I am also struggling with ways to reward myself that aren't food! Thus far I've settled on fun gadgets to support my weight loss - in 5 lbs I'm going to buy a pedometer adn in 10 lbs I'm going to buy myself new running shoes. I enjoy new things :) Have you come up with anything?

05-20-2013, 11:55 AM
My no snack day worked -- I lost a whole kilogram over night. I was definitely hungry in the early evening. I said "Hunger is not an emergency" and went off to find a distraction. Credit!

Exercise: +40 810/1000 for May

sparks17: Thanks for reporting on the Beck days as you go through them -- always a useful review. I hope you avoided the Cinnabon. I used to treat myself after doctor's appointments, routinely, to the point that it is still the first thought I have when I walk out the door. Life, it turns out, goes better when I don't have to have a treat just because I went to the doctor.

nationalparker: good luck with your kitties -- that does sound stressful!

spanky: woohoo for seeing results on the scale after making great choices! It doesn't seem fair that church treats have calories, but I know they do. Donuts, for me, are ridiculously triggering. That's the one food I have eliminated completely. I suppose I could handle one now (or rather half of one because a whole one would be so rich it would probably make me sick), but it's got to the point where it's more fun to say that I haven't had a donut since August 2009.

veganasaurusrex: yay for Day 1 of the Diet -- you sound really ready! Love that you have a beautified breakfast nook to start your day!

bethFromDayton: good for you for staying away from the treat food while dealing with someone else's technology stress.

Rosebud170: loved reading about all the treats you skipped this weekend -- good for you! Sounds like a fun time with the girls.

IBelieieveInMe2: woohoo! So great that you're making those 15 minutes happen!

Lexxiss: Sounds like you survived a difficult time and you're already back in the swing of things. Way to go!

BillBlueEyes: I'm just starting to distinguish between food that tastes good and food that goes down well. The former works well for me and the latter can be a disaster. Thanks for describing the meatballs so well that I just took another step in my ability to recognize it. Pretty much all processed foods are in the "goes down well" category but I routinely mess up that distinction in homemade goods or ones made by local suppliers.

05-20-2013, 02:17 PM
Hi everyone! I'm SO happy to see a whole forum dedicated to Beck Diet Solution. I've been listening to it in my car and am so happy to have found it :)

Today is my first day. I just wrote my Advantages Response Cards, one in my phone and another in my wallet and set up reminders.

I've got about 35 lbs to lose since having my 3rd baby (and c-section) almost a year ago.

Two barriers to weight loss that I've discovered about myself is when I have PMS (not your run-of-the-mill moodiness, it's PMDD) or when I'm sick...those are the times I most get derailed.

Does anyone have responses for cravings during those times in life?

Thanks and happy to be here!

I should add, I don't know if I'm doing the right thing by jumping right in to the forum or if I'm supposed to email a moderator for a coach, but please let me know if there's anything I need to do!

ETA: I'm going with a modified Weight Watchers eating plan and 10,000 Steps a Day movement plan (I'm a writer, so this is a BIG deal!) :)

05-20-2013, 02:17 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

Attempted to add grains this weekend and I proceeded to jump down the rabbit hole several times this weekend. No grains planned for today. Oh well to the cravings for them. Weight one pound above ticker.

05-20-2013, 03:02 PM
spanky - Credit for getting serious about the croissants! How did you do this morning?

veganasaurus - Your plants sound lovely!!! BTW, I am using Mt Fitness Pal to track, after trying a few others (like Lose it and Livestrong and another I can't remember right now) - I liked MFP best.

Beth - great job standing firm against the cake and ice cream - :carrot:

Rosebud - wow, I would have a hard time being with the kids for a weekend and not eating their treats - woohoo!!

Iblelieveinme - adding the bike ride - fabulous!!!!

Lexxiss - peace and quiet FTW!! Hope you feel recharged.

Bill - your meatball story made me laugh! Sounds like you had a good time with your family :)

gardenerjoy - Hey, can you explain the #s you post for your exercise??

Maryann - sounds like it was an experiment worth doing!

And houstonmommy - welcome! I have only been here for 10 days or so and I have found it tremendously helpful!

OK - my weight was 231, so I lost 12 pounds in the six weeks in between visits. And my BP was down. So...:D

I have been tracking my calories/carbs and reading Beck for about two weeks and before that I was avoiding processed carbs and trying to be reasonable in my eating, plus exercise. I expect that both approaches work...but keeping track has given me so much confidence. Since I have been doing well, I am going to stick with my current plan.

As for a 5-lb goal...right now I am celebrating 3 of them - :carrot::carrot::carrot:

And I did NOT go to Cinnabon. I had a delicious lunch at Panera Bread (looked up the calories/carbs before I went) and did not even walk past Cinnabon! Credit.

05-20-2013, 07:01 PM
OP today. The croissants remain intact. I will NOT cave!

Three days of disabling asthma, another sick dog with a possible cancer [lab report back by the end of the week], and continued trials with DS's ADHD- ness. Oh well. Eating stupid stuff won't help these issues.

I ran across an unusual movie about weight loss I found very inspiring which I'd like to share here, it's called "LBs". It got a Sundance kudo and stars Carmine Famiglietti. Just an awesome Indie Flick about a man unhappy with his weight. I found it on Netflix instant watch the other night.



05-20-2013, 10:02 PM
Hello coaches,
The natives are getting restless in the classroom. State testing is behind them and the sun was out and a few have that dreaded countdown to summer going that creates that "I am excited and would like to interact with others at inappropriate times" vibe....ah well....we have some fun things planned to keep them groups being one of them. Then they can talk to each other about the book!

I was OP today and am gearing up for water aerobics now. I did try another green smoothie and am now thinking that I will stick with veggies in my salad. My taste buds are confused perhaps with trying to liquefy them. Or maybe I will just make some gazpacho...anyway....I am down 29 lbs and really am appreciating how much easier it is to that!!

We have a breakfast for the parent volunteers tomorrow which will be teacher made egg dishes and fruit and pastry. My plan is to eat one piece of the Caprese quiche that I will be making and then some fruit.

05-20-2013, 11:59 PM
Hi all,

Tonight has been a good day, foodwise--everything exactly as planned, under my calorie goal, and I felt completely satisfied all day (except for feeling hungry right before my snack, which was perfect timing.) BFF made the pork chops tonight--they were delicious, so I'll be doing it her way next time!

It's also been a productive day around the house, including closet cleaning, various household chores, and putting-away-stuff.

I've got meals planned for tomorrow, although not yet entered into MFP. I'll probably do that as I go tomorrow since it's so late now that I just want to go to bed.

Take care, all!

05-21-2013, 07:03 AM
:welcome: happyhoustonmommy :welcome:

And, in honor of your first posts, :wel3fc:

How did you learn about the book by Dr. Judith Beck?

And how did you find this Beck Forum on 3 Fat Chicks?

05-21-2013, 07:19 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – It takes a day to recover from a weekend away. The 'Things Fairy' should have stayed home getting 'things' done. One thing was to order a new Casio wrist watch because the resin case of this one broke. I buy cheap Casio watches so I'll have little stake when they need replacing. Casio cases break frequently; they can't be repaired nor can the bands be replaced. If I buy a Rolex would I have this problem?

Exercise was planting lettuce, cukes, and tomatoes - CREDIT moi - in our community garden. The sugar snaps have grown to about 18 inches from seeds a few weeks ago. They're looking healthy on the chicken wire fence we put in for them. We stopped planting sugar snaps for a while because House Sparrows were eating the baby plants to the ground. The hordes of House Sparrows aren't around.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Yay for a kilogram below French Weight - hope your clothes aren't baggy on your trip.

maryann - Ouch for being grabbed by grains.

spanky - Sending supportive thoughts for your wait for your dog's diagnosis. Kudos for [I]"I will NOT cave!" during stress.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Productive and on plan is just a perfect day - Kudos.

Jo (veganasaurusrex) – Yay for how much pleasure is available for $30 of plants. Kudos for a mindful breakfast.

Rosebud170 – Oh Yes, Kudos for having a plan for the parent volunteers breakfast. LOL that the natives are restless. I loved school, but hated the last stretch when I could smell summer.

sparks17 - LOL at the thought of rewarding weight loss with a Cinnabon. BTDT. Not having a Cinnabon is worth a Kudos. Not even walking past the joint is worth an extra Kudos for using your CBT skills.

happyhoustonmommy - Kudos for hitting the road running with an Eating Plan and Movement Plan already in place. And with Advantages Response Cards in place (feel free to share some of them if you like).

You've done just the right thing by jumping in. Each of us does this our own way. Generally it seems to work best when we post regularly. We serve as each other's Diet Coach/Buddy without a hierarchy. Some of us do personals; some of us do some personals; some none. It's all good. Glad you've joined us.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

Two Kinds of Diets
. . .These are very broad definitions, as some diet contain element of both types of plans. Think about diets that you've been on in the past. How well did any of these work for you? When choosing your diets (primary and backup), think about what type of person you are. Do you function better if you have set rules to follow? Do you experience fewer craving if you know that certain foods are completely off-limits on your diet? If so, then a set eating plan might work best for you. On the other hand, if you do better when you have more flexibility, then a counting system that guides your choices might work better.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 64.

05-21-2013, 07:24 AM
Today I will be Practicing Hunger Tolerance - Day 12 - by skipping lunch and not eating again till dinner. I am taking my daughter to the allergist. Leaving 11:15, 12:30 appt, probably done by 2, home by 3-3:30. Dinner is usually around 6 so I guess I won't die. I am not looking forward to it. Not that I have not had to skip lunch before...but I would normally grab a snack when I got home to tide me over till dinner.

I am trying hard NOT to justify having a bigger and or/later breakfast than usual :?:

Well, I have my notebook ready to keep tack of my hunger feelings. Adventures in dieting!

05-21-2013, 09:23 AM
Good morning all! Yesterday was day 1 of my diet (day 14 of Beck) and I was totally OP all day! I'm starting day 2 now but of course the sabotaging thoughts are starting. "well you did one day and maybe you'll do 2 but eventually you'll mess up and it'll be like every other time and you'll fail". I hate that my brain is so cruel and sabotaging. I answer it now, but I still can't understand why I say things to myself that I would never say to a friend in the same situation.

gardenerjoy Yay for your loss!

happyhoustonmommy Welcome! Happy to have you aboard. I'm not good at resisting cravings at all, difficult time of the month or not, but I'm most successful if I leave the room of the tempting food. Have you thought about choosing a diet plan that lets you be more flexible during that time of the month or when you're sick? Would allowing yourself some extra number of points allow you to take care of yourself and allow you to control how much of your cravings you give in to without letting you get out of control?

maryann Good use of data to make good choices for yourself!

sparks17 Would you like to be buddies on MFP? I'm there under the same handle. YAY on weight loss and YAY on the cinnabon avoidance! Also I just finished that day and what helped me was to remember that TOMORROW I will get to eat lunch so it'll be easier!

spanky Yay on those croissants remaining in one piece.

Rosebud Your posts make me nostalgic for my classroom! Also I think it's amazing that you're managing this awesome weight loss while you're also teaching, I know that all my weight loss struggles then were unsuccessful. You've lost so much already - you can succeed at anything!

bethFromDayton I've found a strong correlation between days I'm OP and days I get stuff done around the house. Thanks for making me notice that in my own life.

05-21-2013, 09:53 AM
I'm straying too far from my program. Feel like I no longer have the time to check in like I like to, I'm not prepping healthy enough meals with ample veggies. I'm making choices that do not support what I say I want in my healthy life. I'm frustrated and coming clean. Will take my lunchtime today to re-evaluate, rewrite some personal response cards (they're still old from facing my event back in April), and get my head back on straight. Need to make better use of my time. I'm getting a lot done at home - cleaning, organizing, redoing, but the eating is getting more and more indulgent.

Dinner out (date night) and I've planned my meals around a larger one this evening, so at least a credit there. I always split that in half, and often DH eats the leftovers, so only one splurge on a half meal. If strong storms, though, I'll just cook at home and we'll hunker down.

Heard from my friend in OKC who is doing okay; was worried yesterday with the news. Realized I was almost eating a meal of leftover this and that BEFORE dinner, watching the weather channel. Dinner was tids and bits and very light for me since I'd already eaten, but dang, c'mon!

05-21-2013, 01:13 PM
BillBlueEyes WOW! What a great welcome :) Love it.

I found out about the Beck Diet Solution through Working Mother Magazine. Actually, the Working Mother Magazine Blog (No Excuses blog specifically) I'm a fan of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for depression and anxiety so when I saw there was a program to help with weight and healthy eating I knew it would be a winner :)

I found this forum by googling "Beck Diet Solution Group"

vegansaurusrex That's a good idea! To build in a little wiggle room during that time of the month or when I'm sick. When I say modified WW, what I really mean is WW with a diabetic slant :) So yes, your suggestion will definitely work with my plan. Thanks! (Though, I'm not diabetic but many in my family are and I was "pre-diabetic" when I had my gestational diabetes test last year).

05-21-2013, 01:27 PM
Part of my exercise yesterday was to pick up sticks from Saturday's wind storm. Last night's wind brought down more but we got nothing as dangerous as Oklahoma had. I was working, it occurred to me that I could pay a gardener to do this work for me while I paid a trainer to motivate me to do squats at the gym. I prefer being motivated by weeds and wind-fallen debris -- and look how much money it saves me!

Exercise: +35 845/1000 for May

Welcome, happyhoustonmommy! Beck's emphasis on planning really helps me through the rough spots. If I have a snack planned for an hour from now, I'm really unlikely to go scrounging for treats no matter how upset I am about something or other. One thing I've discovered since I quit eating away those frustrations is that I'm a bit more likely to handle them head on -- not eating right away gives me a moment to ask myself "how can I make myself feel better without eating?" and often the answer is easier than I imagined and I just go off and solve the problem or decide that it doesn't need to be solved by me and I can do something more interesting like write.

sparks17: I made a goal to exercise 1000 minutes in May. I exercised 35 minutes yesterday and my total so far this month is 845. This is a short month for me since I'm leaving for France on Friday, so I'm right on track to get to 1000 before my adventure.
Yay for avoiding Cinnabon and going with your planned food at Panera! Good luck with your hunger tolerance day -- mine was enlightening. But once was enough.

Rosebud170: lots of people swear by smoothies, but I don't get it. To me, it looks like putting a perfectly good salad in a blender. I much prefer eating a giant salad to drinking my veggies.

BillBlueEyes: DH has become enamored with good watches in recent years, but he hasn't gone for a Rolex yet. He got me a Citizen EcoDrive -- no batteries to replace since it's solar-powered and the thing seems pretty rugged. I'm pretty much a bull in a china shop so I don't do well with dainty accessories.

05-21-2013, 01:58 PM
Becksters! Coaches! Hello!

I am restarting the south beach diet phase 1 again, well, phase 1.3 actually as I am keeping the berries but losing all the unnecessary snacky things that have re-entered my life the past month. Ice cream a few times a week. Microwave popcorn, tortilla chips. I just can't have that stuff on regular basis and see weightloss. I want to see that scale get AND STAY below 250. OMG I am like Sisyphus it seems ( with that stupid scale number. May I never ever have to mess with it again once I get through this phase. And let that be SOON.

Also on the agenda is exercise, done daily. I don't care what it is I just need to do something everyday. Today I'm going to try DH's bike, even though the seat is way too high. If I can find the wrench to bring it down I will ride it for 15 minutes. If not, then I will walk for 15 minutes.

I have also recommited to my decluttering. Since the heat will be turned off and the air conditioning turned on, the picky landlord will be in the house soon so I have to get it into better shape to minimize his critique. I did a major spring cleaning a month ago so it shouldn't be such a huge task in the kitchen. Other areas have, however, not be attended to.

And then there is my community garden. I think the new management for the garden made the plots bigger. it's 20' x 20'. I have some cucumbers, melon and eggplant seedlings that I repotted from flats into fibre pots (new to me!) yesterday. Since the garden is home to the striped cucumber beetle which decimated these crops for me last year I did notice that those who planted plants that were of a fair size were not as bothered by the beetle and their plants went on to produce veggies. I am hoping I can have that success but holding them back from the garden until they have at least doubled in size. I have to get into the garden to make the beds. This means digging the beds, ie. turning the soil. I am planning on getting into it in a few days. Right now I have to focus on getting ready for my first market day.

Someone asked what I bring to the farmers' market and I show and sell my artwork: paintings, cards, handmade jewellery, some ceramics if I have some to show. I am fcused on the handmade jewllery right now and trying to make enough to fill my tri-fold screen display bought at a garage sale for 50 cents last weekend!). It will hold a lot of jewellery but that stuff sells and it's flashy so I need to focus and get it done. That's my goal for the week as I just found 5 bags of paintings in various stages of completion.

And that's how things are here with me. I've been off the mark since my visit to Ottawa to see my mom and it just takes me 1 1/2 weeks to get back to "normal". Thankfully, that's how I felt when I woke up.

Bye for now.

05-21-2013, 10:30 PM
Hi all,

Today has been an OP day. I also have been given permission to wear regular shoes instead of my post-op boot. And I drove tonight.

I bought cat food and noted the bag was 16 lbs (they keep getting smaller as the price stays the same). I realized that I had been carrying two of those around with me--no wonder I have more energy now!

I overdid it on my foot, though, so I'm going to go to bed early and read so that I'm off my foot.

The dr said I could start walking for exercise next week but would need to start out slow with short walks (10 minutes), and to stop or cut back if my foot became sore or swollen. Today it's swollen, so I guess that tells me I really do need to wait a bit.

My plan for breakfast, lunch, and snack for tomorrow is all worked out. Dinner is up to DD the younger, since tomorrow actually is her birthday, so she gets to pick the restaurant.

I need to think about what cards I need for this (and additional) weekends away this summer. Between two different one week vacations and various weekend trips, I'm going to be away from home more weekends than I'll be home this summer. I need to be prepared for eating well when we're traveling.

Take care, all--I'm off to put up my foot!

05-22-2013, 12:50 AM
Hi Coaches!

A brief check-in tonight. It was a very busy day and I ate within the parameters of my plan. Credit. I believe I actually practiced the hunger experiment somewhere during my day since it's 9:30 PM and I'm just finishing my dinner. It's a very powerful feeling to know that I can occasionally miss a meal without it being an emergency. I have to be to work tomorrow at 5:30 AM. I will see you all on the flip flop.

Welcome happyhoustonmommy!

:wave: everyone else!

05-22-2013, 01:12 AM
I have done at least 15 minutes of walking every day since Saturday, so BIG CREDIT there. I am really working hard to make this 15 minute walk a priority, so that I can establish a routine, a positive habit, and some self-discipline. Today, for some reason which I am trying to pinpoint, I overindulged in extra snacks without giving it much thought. Ironically, I am reviewing a bunch of info on emotional eating at the moment, so I really feel a need to figure out what was driving me to overindulge today. I have a hunch that it is because I stepped on the scale mid-day yesterday (usually weigh first thing in morning) and was UP even more again. :( I know, it doesn't make ANY sense whatsoever to eat over it, but I think being bummed out and feeling hopeless about the higher weight may be the culprit. Back OP in the morning! I will not let the scale derail my efforts!!! Oh, I almost forgot! I contacted a fitness center yesterday through Angie's List and one of the owners called me back today. I am meeting with him for a consultation this Friday at 11am to assess my needs. They have personal trainers, nutritionists, and life coaches there, and I think I'd benefit from combined attention from each one of them. I am so nervous, but also excited, about this possible new venture for me. I KNOW I'd benefit from this experience, and the place got excellent reviews on Angie's List, so it is definitely worth considering. Also, my personal organizer comes in the morning (Wednesday), so I am still working on decluttering. Have made some progress, but have a long way to go. Maintaining organization is extremely difficult for me. I need to work on it daily and, so far, I just haven't put in enough time on it. So, there are MANY things on my plate right now regarding self-improvement, but all are exciting new prospects and potentially life-changing, so I am diving in head first! At the same time, I am still trying to take things one day and sometimes one moment at a time. This may seem a little contradictory, but each thing (weight loss, decluttering, and life skills) feeds off the other and is intertwined for me, so in a way, I need to consider all things at the same time. Better hit the sack now, as I am also working on getting adequate sleep, since that is so important for weight loss, too, and I often neglect this area.

happyhoustonmommy: :welcome3: Glad to have you on board!

Hope everyone is hanging in there and having a good week!!! :D

05-22-2013, 06:58 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – My turn for the head cold/virus/sniffles/whatever. It's not the worst problem in the world, but it bugs me as if I'm dying. I spent most of yesterday in bed waiting for the end of the world, LOL.

I did do a short gym, CREDIT moi, which at least got me out of the house. Hope I didn't spread anything. I also left some potato on my dinner plate but compensated with snacking to try to cure my head. Eating doesn't fix head colds like it doesn't fix anything else except replenishing the body.

onebyone – So that's the explanation of Sisyphus - he was a dieter. I often miss the symbolism of myths. Yay for bike rides.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Now that's my type of motivation - saving the cost of a gardener and personal trainer each squat for a stick. I'd silently (so my geek wouldn't show) count them as $1 each and gloat at the total. [Enjoyed reading the positive reviews of the Citizen EcoDrive on Amazon.]

Debbie (Lexxiss) – I, too, love this about the Beck Strategies, "It's a very powerful feeling to know that I can occasionally miss a meal without it being an emergency."

nationalparker – Kudos for facing the churn in the brain to seek a solution. The storms are frightening - hope you don't get any.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Yay for regular shoes. Happy Birthday to your DD. I hope she picks a healthy restaurant.

IBelieveInMe2 – Superb mantra for the day, "I will not let the scale derail my efforts!!!" Kudos for diving in to so many things at once. Remember to cut yourself some slack if you haven't become your ideal self by the weekend.

Jo (veganasaurusrex) – I've never been able to figure this one out either, "I say things to myself that I would never say to a friend in the same situation," When I remember to do it, I sometimes help myself by asking the question, "What would you recommend to John?" We are so unusefully hard on ourselves.

sparks17 – Yay for the hunger experiment day. Can't wait to hear.

happyhoustonmommy - Starting as a "fan of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy" is hitting the deck running. You're on your way already.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork
. . . . .Choose a diet that allows you to eat a
reasonable variety of foods. You might be able to
. lose weight on a diet that isn't nutritious, but
. . eventually your body will rebel - and you'll
. . . . . . .start to gain back weight.Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 65.

05-22-2013, 07:49 AM
The Hunger Day did not turn out so hungry! I lasted about 3 hours...And I am making a list of the thoughts and circumstances, so I can be better prepared for next time. I really didn't think it would be that hard as I have skipped meals before....

So I was in the allergists office with my daughter, who is 14 and hates drs offices and being in public with Mom ( :( and my other daughters were not like this at all so I am still surprised every time it happens) - stress. The staff told me that my referral was expired and that I would need to get one faxed before she could see the dr - stress. Several phone calls and I get it straightened out - no one actually looked in her chart to see that it was all in order - anger. She missed her appt time and had to wait longer - stress and anger. By now I was getting hungry - probably a combination of lunch time and stress. Had the appt, results were worse than we expected, lots of discussion of her condition (Eosinophilic Esophagitis ( - more stress.

Afterwards she was hungry so I took her to Burger King (yeah, nasty but she was hungry and I went for it! Her weight is up and we want to keep it up!) - anyway, we went to BK. And that is when I decided that I would just do this trial another day as I was way too drained to fight off hunger and cravings at the same time. So not only did I eat, I ate a crispy chicken sandwich and fries.

I can give myself credit for a few things - I ordered the small fries. I sat down and ate slowly and savored it - actually, it was really delicious! Diet coke. No dessert. Did not get anything at Dunkin Donuts when I got her a latte.

So. I think I would have been fine if I had not actually gone into BK. And I was ok in DD becasue I was not hungry then. I realized that I am ok skipping unplanned treats when I am not hungry or I know that I am about to eat something tasty. But to fight off hunger and cravings at the same time is a lot harder!

05-22-2013, 09:46 AM
Hi.... I've been using my families visit as an excuse to over eat and just eat whatever I want. I am now 5 pounds above my ticker weight. (a week away from home + company here at home for a week = 5 pounds) I have made a plan for today.

I am journaling and promise to check in tomorrow.

05-22-2013, 12:20 PM

*credit* for re-starting my foodplan yesterday and sticking to it. *credit* as well for standing over the stove eating 2oz of cheese and realizing my :devil: brain was telling me to "just skip breakfast - don't eat anymore" What kind of crummy self sabotaging advice is this?? By then I had eaten the cheese (oh well) and thought I had better make my planned breakfast (at least the cheese was part of my planned breakfast. 0.5 credit there.) So I had my egg + egg whites and then took my vitamins to solidify my commitment to my health, wealth and happiness. Lunch and dinner are already planned. *credit* and committed to my coach *credit* and I have laid out a comprehensive strategy to deal with my decluttering issues for the next 6 weeks when I am pretty much on vacation for 3 weeks. I must be a busy beaver to get all that I need done done before we go to the Bluesfest and then I go to art camp for a week.

Better get to work. It's already almost noon!

UPDATE: made less progress than I planned to make. Oh well. *credit* for all the progress I did make. Also walked 60min or so through malls and stores with my upstairs neighbour who is very persistent. *credit*
did manage as well to make some progress with the decluttering for the landlord's visit (coming soon) *credit*

05-22-2013, 01:17 PM
I love reading everyones updates!

I'm on Day 3. I'm giving myself credit right now:

1. Have walked 10,000 steps everyday since Monday. *credit*

2. Have not reached for chocolate or sweets or sodas this week even though I started my period and my husband is in a depressive cycle. I usually binge on those foods/drinks when I'm going through those times. *credit*

3. I weighed myself on Sunday and told myself, "That's higher than it needs to be, but that's ok. I'll reweigh next week and keep working at it. If I need to make adjustments, I will." *credit*

4. Even though I was rushing out the door this morning and the baby was SUPER fussy, I remembered to stop and take my medications and vitamins before I left. *credit*

Oh! And I'm going to buy a pretty new bra at the end of this week as a reward. I haven't bought a new bra since I was pregnant!

05-22-2013, 03:47 PM
HHM - Lots of credit - esp during PMS! I am due next week and am dreading the next few days...

Ibelieveinme - BIG CREDIT for sure! This may seem a little contradictory, but each thing (weight loss, decluttering, and life skills) feeds off the other and is intertwined for me, so in a way, I need to consider all things at the same time. I really needed to read this as I am struggling in the same way. It is great that you are getting the help and encouragement you need - credit!

Hey to everyone else!!

OK. TODAY I am doing the Hunger Challenge. I just started feeling hungry at I came to post here. Dinner is at around 6, so I have some time to log my feelings.

I have already been doing Days 13, 14 and 15 so I tackled Day 16 and made a NO CHOICE card!!! This one is hard for keep the flexibility I need for my husband and family without letting it be a license to eat whatever/whenever. If I have an unexpected dinner out, that does not mean that it is a special occasion and I can add calories/carbs to what I had planned. I can choose to order something comparable to what I was originally planning, right? Right!

05-22-2013, 04:34 PM
Hi all!

Stopping in to say hi. Yesterday was a really successful day for me. My boss said she wanted to take our deparment out to lunch. A place was chosen, and the night before I looked up the menu and chose my lunch. Right before we leave she said "Actually, place A is too far away. Let's go to place B". I have a small panic attack. We arrive at place B. The ONLY thing on the menu without meat was french fries. I am very uncomfortable asking for "special treatment" but it was an asian restaurant so I ask the waitress if there's anyway to have a dish prepared with tofu. She has never heard of tofu. She begins talking to all of the other wait staff, and I am mortified. Finally the chef comes out to speak to me. I explain what I want she is more than happy to oblige.

As soon as food arrived, I boxed up half and stuck it under my seat (just enjoyed it for lunch today actually!) .

After lunch, my coworkers decied we should go out for frozen yogurt. Not on my plan, not vegan. I had a thought about whether to just get a cup of fruit, but that's not on my plan and my goal is to stick to it. I simply sat and enjoyed their company and didn't eat despite how odd they clearly found that.

I got home to learn that we only had ingredients for half as much dinner as we had planned (only four total tortillas left). I added in steamed dumplings to round out the meal and not feel hungry.

This morning when I woke up early to run I had a text from a coworker asking for a ride. I realized I could go run in the park by his house before I picked him up...but of course the park was closed. I ended up running through his neighborhood instead.

Overall these past two days have shown me I CAN respond to changes outside of my control in ways that are still true to my health and wellness goals. Thank you all for your support, a few months ago I wouldn't have believed I could have dealt with so many annoying changes to my plan as well.

sparks I absolutely empathize with how difficult spontenanity and flexibility are with planning..but I've found the tools I've gathered from Beck are helping me deal with both of these things better.

05-22-2013, 06:45 PM
Jo/Vegan - such great responses to changing circumstances :carrot:

Just here to say that my hunger level has not gone above a 3...but now I am a little stressed because almost everyone (22, 20, 14yo daughters and my husband) will be home late for dinner. And this is a dinner that is best made fresh - fajitas. So..instead of eating at 6 like I had planned, I probably won't eat till 7. Not that I will be that much more hungry in an hour, and I can handle it if I am...but of all nights for them to be late!

05-22-2013, 10:02 PM
I have a challenging day ahead of me tomorrow. I am going to a photography conference (my hobby) and then will be picking dd up in a cool part of the city where my teaching partner lives and will have taken dd since I won't be at school. Are you still with me? We will go out to eat and I don't know where yet. I plan to have a salad of some kind and one "bready item"....and water to drink. I will be sitting all day at the conference and will go to Subway for a small sandwich for lunch. I will avoid any snack items that may be offered there....not too bad sounding now I guess!

Water aerobics tonight...scale needle seemingly stuck...argh! I feel good and have started my lifelong weightloss process so who cares if I periodically plateau, right?

And we are number 7 out of 39 teams in our challenge which is also quite exciting. Three more weeks in the challenge but a few of us are already planning to do another one after it ends in!!

05-22-2013, 10:51 PM
Hi all,

Today was an OP day even though it wasn't according to my plan the night before.

I didn't have time for breakfast this morning (before an early meeting), so stopped at Tropical Smoothie Cafe for a breakfast (splenda) smoothie. I forgot my frozen meal for lunch so had to have the extra frozen one in the freezer. We ended up going to Red Lobster for dinner--I ordered well, and only had one biscuit. For me, that's amazing. I only had 3 bites of DH's key lime pie--also amazing.

My foot was a bit swollen this morning but is doing better this evening. I'm looking forward to no longer thinking about it at all.

I've got to get tomorrow planned out--and then get myself mentally prepared for the weekend, since we'll be on the road. DH and the kids are committed to helping me with controlling my eating, so they'll help pick restaurants with options that work for me. (DD even checked to make sure I'd have an option at Red Lobster--it's her favorite restaurant, but she'd have been willing to go elsewhere if I hadn't assured her I'd be fine there.)

sparks17: A late dinner on top of skipping lunch--but you're holding in there. I hope dinner was delicious and you really enjoyed it. I think of being OP as being two pieces--did I stay totally within my plan parameters (that's key) and second, did I follow my written plan? If I was within the plan's parameters, but deviated from my written plan, I generally still count that as a 'win'.

veganasaurusrex: Big credits for asking for what you needed at the Asian restaurant and holding out agains the frozen yogurt. I almost got pulled into one of those places last night--and you went in and didn't have any--incredibly impressive! (I reminded myself that I wouldn't have wanted it if I hadn't walked past the store.)

happyhoustonmommy: Welcome! Credit for doing such a great job of giving yourself credit. Big credit for a week without treat binges!

onebyone: Credit for progress on the decluttering--it's weird how a cluttered area can make it harder to declutter because it's hard to know where to start. Credit for the progress you made!

Beverlyjoy: I'm sorry about the 5 lb above ticker, but it was a real kick in my pants (a needed one!) to read that. I can't use being out of town this weekend as an excuse to eat whatever I want. It's good to be reminded of that before I go.

BillBE: I hope you're feeling better. Eating doesn't cure head colds? DARN--no feeding a cold.

IBelieveInMe2: Did things go well with the organizer today? You've got a lot of self-improvement things going on at once. Be kind to yourself.

Lexiss: It's a good reminder that hunger is not an emergency.

Take care, all.

05-23-2013, 05:53 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – I continue with male-head-cold malady with full permission to be miserable and make others so. DW insisted that I was in no shape to visit friends last night. So I didn't. Oh, Well.

I did get in a walk (CREDIT moi) since I had a library book due that couldn't be renewed. Good news: my copy of Salt Sugar Fat: How the Food Giants Hooked Us ( was waiting for me so I have a book to make my brain miserable while my head is stuffed anyway. I'm only ten pages in and already hate the food industry for taking yogurt and converting it into high sugar Yoplait, and then into Go-Gurt in tubes for kids to get their sugar hit while parents think of the nutritional benefits of yogurt. Don't know if I'll make it through the book without having a coronary. Oh, Well.

onebyone – Yes, "*credit* for all the progress I did make" - rejoice with the pieces of progress.

Beverlyjoy – Family and over-eating - sounds familiar to me. Keep the faith and move forward.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Kudos for only "one biscuit" from Red Lobster - those are formulated to demand another to follow. And then another. Hope foot keeps healing.

Jo (veganasaurusrex) – Super Big Deal, "I CAN respond to changes outside of my control" - Kudos for stepping outside of the nothing-I-can-do syndrome.

Rosebud170 – Congrats on your status with your challenge team. A photography conference sounds fun.

sparks17 – Oh the memories triggered by "hates ... being in public with Mom." Be encouraged that as an adult, my DD just asked me to review her CV - as if I were an intelligent human being who might contribute. Ouch that too much reality interfered with your hunger experiment; there'll be another chance.

happyhoustonmommy - Kudos for "10,000 steps every day since Monday" and the other credits. Keeping your wits with a fussy baby deserves canonization at least.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

Guidelines for a Doable Diet
In my experience, many dieters choose eating plans based on how quickly they expect the diet to help them lose weight. But rapid-weight-loss diets usually require you to eat fewer than 1,200 calories a day, and you'll have to endure more intense hunger than you would if you were following a diet that lest you eat more normally.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 65.

05-23-2013, 10:35 AM

My ticker is up 2lbs today. *sigh* 252. Moving a ticker up is certainly no reason to eat more or to eat off plan. More than likely, this is a reaction to salt eaten the night before an official weigh-in.

In a few months I will be back at the superduper health clinic and it will have been a year since I was there. Last year I told them "I lost 40lbs" This year, if I don't step it up, I will be saying, "but I tried to lose weight all year and haven't been able to" .... yeah, like that will wash. *I* don't even believe that and I'm the one I'm talking about here. Now my :devil: inner saboteur is telling me "you just didn't try hard enough. you're not going to do this. you're failing." But then I think "but I have not gained anything back. That has got to count for something."

It's just not enough.
We go there in August. This is May. A good 14 weeks between then and now.

Have a good day.

05-23-2013, 10:37 AM
Good Morning,

Still OP. The croissants are almost gone and not a one with my fingerprints on them! Now that they're not hot out of the oven or especially fresh they're less alluring.

Still OP this week, but found out [when I looked up the nutrition info for that restaurant] I had a Salt Bomb of a sandwich yesterday and am expecting to see an uptick on the scale. The kicker is-it was an "Un-wich", that is no bread! Argh!

No news from the vet as yet. Still inspired by the movie I mentioned here--seeing the hero struggling with all I struggle with involving food and arriving at a sane space with it. I wanna be like him.

Today will be a busy day--I'm leaving a "Kudos!" behind me for everyone who posts today!


05-23-2013, 10:48 AM
Final check-in before my trip and I'm at my "France weight" -- woohoo!

Today is packing. Tomorrow is a strange long travel day plus first day of the tour, unless I manage to sleep on the plane to make it seem like two days. I've never slept on a plane before, but I keep hoping for a first time.

My vacation plan is to thoroughly enjoy small portions of great food. After all, that's the French way.

BillBlueEyes: I look forward to your thoughts on Salt Sugar Fat. I intend to finish reading that next month.

05-23-2013, 11:25 AM
gardenerjoy I just wanted to wish you a bon voyage! L'extra large crιdite pour atteindre votre but de poids de Frances ! Formidable! I am reading Salt Sugar and Fat too. I am also interested in hearing what you and Billblueeyes get from this book. Have a really great trip.

billblueeyesAs I read your post today about food not curing a headcold, and my inner :devil: whispered ah, but it can prevent one. Holy cow. Is it ever on the ball! I do hope you are on the mend. Sending you virtual chicken soup, made from scratch ;).

spanky Thanks for the kudos. I encountered the salt bomb as well. Like missing a meal, salt weight is also "not an emergency"... great job on not eating those croissants.

bethFromDayton Great strategy getting your family on board with your eating plans and for being aware that eating of plan can easily happen when you are not in your own environment. I have had more success than not in the last year with eating away from home. I look forward to your after-trip report! Have fun.

Rosebud170 You've made some great weightloss progress! Kudos! Enjoy the conference--sounds fun to me! Great that you are thinking ahead with your food/choices in the evening...

sparks17 How did your food go last night? did you manage to hold off eating until your family arrived home?? It was actually the exact kind of thing that can happen to us, so kudos for not automatically throwing in the towel but for your intention to see it through.

veganasaurusrex Wow. You were faced with challenge after challenge after challenge. I am sure that the *thought* of causing such a scene, asking for food the way you want it, and then the chef coming out to speak to you about it, well I am sure the thought was way worse than the reality of it actually happening. HOW GREAT that you persisted in asserting yourself. I am sure that that success helped you resist the frozen yogurt later. BIG KUDOS.

happyhoustonmommy great job this week with the credits and the steps and the planning. I am telling myself the same thing about my higher scale weight--wait until next week. Oh well as Dr. Beck would say.... and it's just not an emergency.

:wave: to everyone.

05-23-2013, 11:47 AM
Hi Coaches!

Quick check in....I took care of home, smoothie and garden this morning then slow internet has left me just out of time.

I weighed, made/consumed green(actually red) smoothie, packed snacks and planned lunch and dinner. Credit.

BBE, get better! Why is it these colds come on when the weather turns nice? It has happened to me, too, though not this year...:crossed:

05-23-2013, 01:24 PM
Today is a busy day :) I've got my daughter's talent show in an hour (it's a long, LONG talent show) and some other miscellaneous activities.

I'm going to have a salad before I go and pack a Kind bar in case I get the jitters.

So yesterday was Day 3 for me and I have a question for all of you...How do you remind yourself to sit down when you eat? I've been good about sitting when eating (I listened to the audiobook 2 weeks ago also) but it's mostly come easily, I know it won't always be that way.

I'd love to hear what you guys do to remind yourself to sit.

Oh, also another question, what other Advantages Response Cards do you have? I keep seeing that on each day's to-do list and so far I have just 1 ARC. Do you have more?

05-23-2013, 01:28 PM
Wanted to add that I L.O.V.E. audiobooks. I'm in the car at least 2 hours a day since the big kids go to a school across town. I use my commute to learn new things and this week I'm listening to a book called The Power of Habit.

It is SO good! It basically talks about how Cognitive Behavioral Therapy works in organizations, life and relationships--without explicitly using the words "Cognitive Behavioral Therapy".

It uses phrases like "cues and rewards", "keystone habits", and "small wins". I highly reccommend it if you're looking for something that complements and confirms why the Beck Diet Solution works :)

05-23-2013, 03:27 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

Took time to catch up with the posts. I have an extra day off today ad I am very grateful for it even though I spent an emotional hour on the phone with DH and an emotional hour in therapy. So, at this moment, I am sick of talking; it is time for action. And today's action is my favorite: puttering around home. I have started a bunch of sweet potatoes baking in the oven; have iced my feet which are feeling 100% better; washed all the fruit we here in California are getting at the fruit stand— cherries, apricots, strawberries; returned library books, and bought new underwear. Then on the to do list is "Relax and Watch a movie." What I know about me is that I do too much for too long and then crash. I give myself permission to watch my new Harry Potter DVD and take a nap.

Someone asked about my advantage cards. This is one of my favorites:


Food is in MFP. I have been OP three days straight. Weight is at ticker.

HHM: I think you were the one talking about sitting down while you eat. Here is one of my advantage cards that has helped me. "If I do not sit down while I eat I will buy all new BIGGER clothes."
gardenerjoy: Enjoy your trip.

05-23-2013, 06:11 PM
I feel like crazytown today!:dizzy:

Last night, I did not eat till dinner time - credit. But I ate standing up, because I always do when we have fajitas, because I have to make them in batches because there are 6 of us and no pan is that big!! But I made sure I read my cards first and did not wolf it down - credit. Takeaway from the experiment - I do not like to be hungry. But it is not because I get too hungry - it didn't get above a 4 - but because it is just wrong and I do not like it. I should do this again soon!

Today. Oh, today. It is my anniversary - 26 years!! We had plans to go out for breakfast, get some things done around the house, maybe take a nap and then go out for dinner. I was figuring it would be a two-meal day and I could keep it all in a maintenance-calorie range, knew exactly what I was having for breakfast...But something came up with daughter # 2 . She has a trip to Austria and Switzerland planned for next week and just late last night she realized that her passport had expired. :stress:

So, my husband has spent most of the day helping her find out what to do and then helping her do it. And a few hours ago I had a craving that was not even a craving - it was a decision that my body made and I just let it roll over my conscious thought, if that makes sense. I got these ice cream bars - Magnum - at the store down the block, brought them home, took one and gave the rest out to the kids. I ate it slowly, savoring every delicious bit. Within 15 m I started feeling like my fat cells were expanding and I was going to gain back all the weight I had lost in just one day. Regret and misery. Then - my period came 6 days early. Then I went to bed!

My husband has been calling the bank/catching up on paperwork/doing stuff for the kids/ordering meds/answering work calls while I have been lying in bed, crashing from the sugar high and feeling generally crappy. Now I am up and trying to decide what to do tonight. I was supposed to defrost something for the kids to make for dinner - forgot. So, I think I am going to declare the anniversary a bust,be glad that my husband had the day off to help her because he is very calm in a crisis, and just order Chinese for the whole family. But - he will be sad and my daughter will feel guilty! But - it is rainy and nasty out and I do not want to do anything but lie on the couch, eat a lot and watch a movie.

I need to find some credits put the Magnum bar in MFP so I can't pretend that I did not eat it! Credit. I am realizing that the cake I plan for is very different emotionally than the ice cream I do not plan for - credit! I am drinking lots of water - credit. I am not going to let myself eat lying down on the couch - credit!!

05-23-2013, 10:18 PM
Hi all! Quick check in I just got back from 4 hours of CAR REPAIR ****!

OP all day despite the frustration, missing my afternoon snack and dinner not being ready until 8pm (I last ate at 12)

That's 4 OP days in a row...maybe more than I've ever had! Thanks for helping me keep my momentum (I guess celebrating over 4 days is a little silly but it feels like a victory for me)

05-24-2013, 12:30 AM
Well, I have walked at least 15 minutes every day since Saturday, except Wednesday, but I made up for that by walking 35 minutes with the dogs today. CREDTI! :D Things went well with the organizer on Wednesday. (Thanks for asking, bethfromdayton!) We got a lot accomplished! CREDIT! :D I meet with one of the owners from the fitness center Friday morning to assess my needs. CREDIT for breaking through my fear and setting that up. :D Eating has been just good enough. I have had a few "extras" here and there. It has really felt good to get outside and walk lately, so I am on track with exercise. Feeling energized and more hopeful since I am sticking to it. Didn't beat myself up for not walking on Wednesday. CREDIT. Just realized that time got away from me and got right back on board today. :)

Going to bed, but wanted to check in first. CREDIT! :D

Hope all is well with everyone! Will try personals one of these days..... ;)

05-24-2013, 06:58 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Not much happening as I continue to spend my time indulging my head cold. Snacking is off; exercise if off. It's as if I'm stepping outside of life to wait this out. The sore throat part has gone so it's simply a mop up situation with the symptoms that bug people who have to see or hear me. I'm playing old James Taylor uTube albums as I type - nothing like living in the past to avoid reality.

I continue to read Salt Sugar Fat: How the Food Giants Hooked Us. Sugar is in ketchup because it's cheaper than tomatoes. Sugar is in dog food as a preservative. Sugar gives browning and other properties. The food industry thinks that it can't live without it. In the first 20 pages this book is a downer. Maybe the salt and fat sections will be uplifting.

onebyone – 14 weeks is sufficient time for small changes to reestablish the mojo. You've done this before - you can do it again. LOL at your inner devil whispering Sabotaging Thoughts.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Bon Voyage! May you find a way to sleep on the plane so you arrive wide-eyed in Paris. I drool at the thought of your first baguette from a street vendor.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Your post made me rethink: perhaps the world won't end in either a bang or a whimper . . . but by continually slowing Internet, LOL.

maryann - Kudos for declaring "it is time for action" and then stepping forth. Drooling over your California valley fruits and veggies.

spanky - Neat word, "Un-wich," sounds good. Reminds me that I once tried to eat in a healthy manner with packaged meats without bread - just protein and nitrites. Ugh!

IBelieveInMe2 – Big Kudos for confronting your reluctance to meet with the trainer. And Kudos for good walking and giving yourself credit.

Jo (veganasaurusrex) – Ouch for "4 hours of CAR REPAIR ****!" Such an insult on Day 4 of OP, which deserve Kudos.

sparks17 – Kudos for pulling off the hunger experiment. Peak hunger of 4 is a real insight. Love being reminded of the joy of having a DD old enough to go to Austria on her own while still young enough to not know that the US Dept of State takes its sweet time issuing passports. Graphic image in, "I started feeling like my fat cells were expanding."

happyhoustonmommy - Hope you survived that "LONG talent show." Sitting to eat gets easier. My primo ARC is "Healthy life style allows "I am engaged." The big deal for me is that mindless eating follows mindless living; it doesn't cause it. Neat to hear about CCBT (Covert Cognitive Behavior Therapy).

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

Guidelines for a Doable Diet
. . . These types of deprivation diets can also backfire. They can negatively impact your energy level and mood. They also can slow your metabolism, which means the rate at which you lose weight starts to slow. Also, research shows that the large initial weight loss from these diets generally comes from the loss of body fluids, not fat.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 65.

05-24-2013, 08:51 AM
A new day! In the end, we did go out to dinner o my husband's favorite place. I was not very hungry, so I ordered a half-sized Chicken Caesar Salad, and then only ate half. I am wondering if that can count for Day 17, which I am up to...not really, because I was not hungry. I think I need to do it at a regular meal, so it will really be more than I planned to eat and I have to consciously not eat it....Anyway, I also had sangria and when I got home and added my dinner to MFP, I found that, even with the ice cream, I was pretty low on calories yesterday - at the bottom of my daily range. Then I realized that 1. I skipped lunch 2. I had an unusually small dinner. 3. The problem was not the ice cream at 320 cal. It was the unplanned, compulsive eating! If I want ice cream so much I can fit it into my plan occasionally!

Today - I have filled in MFP in advance. I have a reasonable plan and am not planning to eat out. I am working on NO CHOICE.

OK. Right now I am so hungry that it hurts and I feel a little sick - like a 6. It was the very small dinner, I guess! I need to get off the computer and make my lovely breakfast - and eat it slowly!

05-24-2013, 09:41 AM
Hi Coaches!

My planned day took several twists yesterday. My lunch substitution was legitimate and my unplanned SF cake after an otherwise healthy day was not. Ouch. I did calculate calories before I ate it yet wished I had resisted instead. I have a plan for today which includes taking care of "my stuff" since I spend so much time taking care of everyone elses'. Credit. I do continue my SF morning coffee today acknowledging it as the "new normal." Yay.

BBE, lol at old albums on utube...I like your choice, though. I think I need to request your current helps me reinforce my better choices. PS I doubt you are going to find much uplifting in the salt/fat sections.

IBelieveInMe2, yay for persisting with your new walking habit. ..and for other steps forward. Glad to hear you are feeling energized and more hopeful.

Jo/vegan...rex, so neat to stay OP despite frustration and missing your snack AND having a late dinner.

Sparks17, credit for completing your hunger experiment and finding out new things about yourself.

Maryann, my response to "stop the glorification of busy" in my life is to learn ways to be more efficient with must do's and learn to say no to others. Balance….I hope you enjoyed your movie and nap.

happyhoustonmommy, thanks for the book suggestion! For me, learning to sit and eat became more natural as I continued to practice. Now, it feels odd to eat when standing at all. When I would catch myself I'd either go sit down and eat what was in my hand or put the food back where it came from. Regarding ARC's, the pink book suggests that you take all the items you put on your list of reasons to lose weight and put them on an index card you can read at least twice a day. In addition, you can make your own and there are brief statements at the end of each chapter which can go on individual cards, (p. 73 Once I accept that fact that I have to eat everything sitting down, dieting will be easier.) I hope that helps.

onebyone, kudos for talking back to your inner saboteur!

spanky, glad you are still finding inspiration from your movie as you move through another difficult time.

Beth(fromDayton), safe travels! How exciting to have kids and DH who support your new way of eating!

Rosebud, credit for continued water aerobics and a great plan for your conference!

Beverlyjoy, keep persisting! Credit for acknowledging necessary changes before 5 becomes 20….an important Beck strategy.

I need to keep moving forward with my list. Crossing items off my list gives my the space to "make time for dieting".

05-24-2013, 09:54 AM
I ate breakfast and I feel good!

Rosebud - I am looking for a water aerobics class that does not cost more than I want to spend :(

Beth - ONE biscuit!! woohoo!

onebyone - Maintaining such a large weight loss deserves a LOT of credit!

spanky - :carrot: on the croissants!

gardenerjoy - ohhh...have a wonderful time and savor every minute - and bite!

lexxiss - how can a green smoothie be red?

happyHmommy - I ordered The Power of Habit from the library. It looks like it would be helpful!

maryann - you made me think of Elvis' song A Little Less Conversation! A little more action please...

Jo/vegan - Really, 4 days OP is a victory!

Ibelieveinme - Best of luck today with the trainer! And I am glad that your time with the organizer was productive.

Bill - I feel for you! I hate head colds :rollpin:

05-24-2013, 02:25 PM
Good morning, Coaches.

OP yesterday. One pound down from ticker. Thoroughly enjoyed movie and nap.
Online traffic school today. Blick. But it will good to be done with it. Food in MFP. Pilates planned.

Wave to all.

05-24-2013, 03:28 PM
I rewarded myself for Week 1 of the Beck Diet Solution (10,000 steps a day and diabetic/WW modified diet) with a cute new undergarment :carrot:

What's on tap for today? I did some work, shopped, had lunch (cut vegetables w/ hummus and crackers/cheese/turkey stacks) and am now at home puttering around until I need to leave to pick up the big kids. Oh! I almost forgot--I haven't weighed myself since Sunday but I went to Old Navy to look at casual dresses and I fit better into a smaller size than I do in my regular size :D It's still a big snug for my taste but the bigger size is without a doubt too big.

maryann I love your Sitting Down to Eat response! I think I might steal it. I hope you relaxed and enjoyed your movie. Yay for 1lb down :hug:

Sparks Happy Anniversary! I hope you like the Power of Habit :)

vegan 4 days is a huge accomplishment! I'm celebrating 4 days myself :)

IBelieve Good job on the walking!

BBE Ugh. I hate being sick. You'll be over it soon enough. It sounds like you have something similar to what I have a month ago. It felt like it dragged on and on. Glad your sore throat is gone.

Lexxis Ah thanks! NOW I get it. Those statements at the end of the chapters are what I haven't been writing down. Need to do that.

05-24-2013, 04:55 PM
The croissants are history! As though to tempt me, a corner fell off as I put the last one into DS's lunch. There was a moment--so small and so pop-in-the-mouth-able. But I managed to toss it into the bag and move on. A kudo for me.

What wasn't so good was the pizza I had at work today. Unplanned. OFF plan, as a matter fo fact. So I'll have to slim down the dinner menu considerably.

Working tomorrow. Still waiting for lab results on my doggy...


05-24-2013, 06:37 PM
Change of dinner and snack plans as my husband was not able to get everything I wanted at the store...poor planning on my part. I am substituting chicken cooked a different way - not that different. But, while I was expecting a small yogurt and some I have chocolate donuts. Yes, one will fit in my calorie plan. But but but but nowhere near as nutritious. So...I am increasing my dinner amount (if I am hungry enough, that is), substituting string cheese for the yogurt and saying NO CHOICE to the donut.

Glad that I have somewhere to post things like this!!!

05-24-2013, 09:51 PM
Hi coaches,
Happy Friday!! The conference was great and I had salad for lunch with no bready item! There was a kiosk called "Tossd" and you choose a container (clamshell) of greens, they put in a bowl with your chosen ingredients, toss it for you, dress it and put back into clamshell...brilliant IDEa... Then Thai food for dinner and I ate half my plate of pad Thai and took the rest home. All within my range....

Work was great...I am loving my students. We started the sex Ed unit today which is always fun to teach. I have their full attention...they giggled for a shorter amount of time than any group Ive had. And they asked great questions. It is always fun to start a new year with new students but I do get attached to the current ones, especially this time of year.

We have a 3 day weekend...I have water aerobics on Sat and also will try Zumba (not in water!) on Sunday. I have lots of schoolwork to do and also some house projects. Oh and there is fun and relaxation to be had as well!!

Sparks17-not sure if you are near any local, less expensive pool but a gal that goes to our aerobics class did water walking in the lap swim lane for 45 min and altered her arm movements to keep her heart rate up...just an idea. I just love it for when my weight is up since there is s little impact but a good amount of resistance in the is good!!

05-24-2013, 11:30 PM
My consultation with the owner of the fitness facility went really well! I shocked myself when he asked me what my motivation level is. I asked, "on a scale of 1-10?" He said "yes".... and I blurted out, "a 9!" :D And it made me realize that I really am very motivated to get fit. Next, he asked, "what is holding you back?" I said, "that's what is driving me crazy..... I don't know." Then, upon further reflection, I said that the only thing I know that might be holding me back is that the excess weight serves as a protective barrier due to past issues. He said that is a very common reason, especially among women. We discussed how the pain of staying the same has to outweigh the pain of change in order for someone to be ready to make a change. I said I'm not sure if I'm there yet. I am so afraid of change! :( Anyway, this guy could not have been nicer and more knowledgeable, and ~ even though I didn't feel quite ready when I walked into the place, I feel ready now! :carrot: I mean, what am I waiting for?!?!? I want to be fit and trim, so let's get this show on the road!!! :broc:

Got my 15 minute walk in today! CREDIT!

BillBlueEyes: I hope your head cold gets better soon!

Spanky: what lab results on your dog? I am out of the loop there, but interested. Way to go on flexing your resistance muscle on those croissants!!! That is awesome that you didn't have even one bite!!! :D

Sparks17: Happy Anniversary! 26 years is really something to celebrate!

Happyhoustonmommy: congrats on your "cute new undergarment!" ;)

On that note, I need to close this post. I have almost lost it 3x. Typing on my new tablet from the lake. Happy long weekend to everyone! Enjoy!!! :)

05-25-2013, 01:58 AM
Hi all

We're staying in an amazing B&B--beautifully decorated rooms.

Even though both meals today (brunch and dinner) were at restaurants, I made good choices and stayed OP. As we know, each day OP makes it easier to stay OP the next day.

My forebearance is being tested. There are so many wedding details still unplanned--I remind myself that they are not mine to solve. I am not going to eat out of frustration--nothing will improve DD the older's planning skills--certainly me stopping at the frozen custard place wouldn't have done it (and we didn't stop)

Tomorrow will be another loose day--I don't know where or when we'll be eating so I can't plan ahead. I can just go into each meal determined to make OP choices.

Take care!

05-25-2013, 06:20 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Continue wading through the sniffles as if I was an invalid. I did make it to the supermarket for strawberries and blueberries. We also have peaches that DW found somewhere - they taste pre-season but the texture reminds me that peaches are coming. It's summer when breakfast has peaches, blueberries, and strawberries to go with the year-round banana and walnuts.

I talk about food to counter the yuck feeling from the book Salt, Sugar, Fat. Why I've chosen to read such a depressing book is a mystery. Mr. Rogers loved me; Betty Crocker never did. Oh, Well.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yay for the caregiver who remembers to take care of herself. I have to read your posts twice to overcome my intuition that SF abbreviates San Francisco, LOL.

maryann - Yay for naps - I wish I'd never given them up when I was four years old. My mind is unable to guess what means, "Online traffic school today." So "Blick" seems a reasonable response.

spanky - Gotta love that this forum is a place where one tip of one croissant can be celebrated as victory - Kudos.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Wish I could learn this, "I remind myself that they are not mine to solve." Kudos for recognizing that eating won't solve your DD's planning skills.

IBelieveInMe2 – Exciting charging forth with, "I want to be fit and trim, so let's get this show on the road!!!" Sounds like you've found a good place. Congrats for moving to a tablet computer. Methinks I should go there.

Rosebud170 – Terrific notion, "a kiosk called 'Tossd' " - Kudos for making such a good choice. Monster Congrats for teaching SexEd to combat kids who think that all their friends think that they know everything about it all but are willing to fight the embarrassment of learning.

sparks17 – Half of a "half-sized Chicken Caesar Salad" puts restaurant portions in proper perspective. Feeling hunger at level 6 is real even for morning - Kudos for the choices that caused that.

happyhoustonmommy - Kudos for a successful first week and Double Kudos for rewarding yourself with a non-food reward. Clothes that are too big are just the best.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

Guidelines for a Doable Diet
. . . Even if you lose all of the weight you want on an extremely low-calorie diet, you're unlikely to be able to continue following such a plan over the long term. Research shows that nearly everyone who loses weight in this way quickly regains it.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 65.

05-25-2013, 08:03 AM
Hi Coaches!

OP yesterday, except for the one bite of pasta at WF. Decided I wasn't going to eat it. credit. Weighed and did some stretching exercises. I will get more exercise at work today.

BBE, I enjoyed a poblano chicken at WF yesterday. I decided to bring some home for dinner. After not eating for hours and having the chix without anything else I was able to notice how salty it was. Actually too salty to be enjoyable. Too bad.


05-25-2013, 11:06 AM
Hello all! It's the weekend again and I'm back at the hotel that I manage one or two weekends a month. This time I planned all my meals before I got here and brought portioned food. I feel a lot more capeable of saying no to temptations. Thus far I've said no to a chocolate coroissant and macaroni and cheese. Both were No Choice! I brought a lot of fancy frozen foods I've wanted to try to make saying no a lot easier and more pleasant. I feel like I'm going to be successful. So far I'm on my 6th OP day. I have a plan, a great forum of coaches and I'm planning to go back and read my next day of the Beck book after I finish this post. At least I have a lot of time to focus on this! In the last three weeks or so I've lsot 7lbs. I'm just feeling anxious that I won't be able to keep it off.

onebyone Great job setting a goal! Setting a daily plan is something I'm working on too. How'd this week go for daily planning? Also thank you for your kind words.

spanky YAY! on the croissants!

gardenerjoy YAY on reaching france weight! Have a wonderful journey and enjoy every experience!

happyhoustonmommy For the first few days I wrote "SIT" on my hands. Now I don't really notice myself eating standing up anymore. Also, I see a difference between advantages response cards and response cards. My ARC is my list of reasons for wanting to lose weight. My other response cards have a sabagoging thought and a response below it. For example one says "I don't want to read my ARC!" and below it "I have to read my ARC twice a day because it grounds me in my committment to this journey. Even if I remember the reasons now, there will be a time when I need the motivation and I have to build that now!"

sparks17 Good on you catching the difference between the "letter" and "spirit" of the days. You can consider anything as "counting" as doing the exercise, but if you don't feel like your participation is meaningful I've found it won't stick. Sometimes I spend a few days on one step just to make sure it really becomes a part of me. YAY with sticking to your calorie plan.

Rosebud170 When I was in college I taught a sex ed class to college kids that was likely mroe...comprehensive ;) than what you're teaching your students but it really is a fun and interesting subject. Kudos on ejoying your students!

bethFromDayton Thank you for your wise words "every day OP makes it easier to stay OP the next day". New Response Card for me!

05-25-2013, 11:42 AM
Hi my fellow Beckers!

Just got back from Zumba. Two reasons I'm so excited about Zumba--1) it's the first time I've been back since Octoberish *credit* and 2) my husband went with me :carrot: He was feeling rather defeated earlier this week and made some sad comment about never being able to get the energy to go to the gym early in the morning again--and he DID this morning, with me :)

Today is a mother daughter day. My mom, me and my daughter are going shopping for summer clothes for my daughter. It's kind of a birthday celebration (my bday is on Memorial Day) so we'll do girly things like brunch, getting out hair washed and blow-dried (which is a FANTASTIC reward that I need to remember to give myself sometime), and shopping.

It was a little rough eating last night. We went to Pei Wei, I had a salad *credit* but I was still starving when we got home so I had a cup of chocolate milk. I've been really good about having sugar only in my coffee or yogurt this week so I won't call the chocolate milk a slip-up, but it is definitely not an everyday habit I want to get into. I plan on saving chocolate milk for when I'm PMSing and I'm having a horrid craving for chocolate :devil:

Gotta keep my sugars low because I was diagnosed pre-diabetic when I was pregnant a year ago. I do not want to go down that road. And just to show you how badly my subconcious doesn't want to be diabetic, I had a dream that I was diagnosed as diabetic last night. Ha! :o

But that may have had more to do with a blood test I had to retake last week (unrelated to diabetes) and I'm impatiently awaiting the results.

Anyway, hope everyone has a GREAT weekend!

BBE Peaches! I forgot peaches are coming!

vegan Thank you! I'm definitely going to do that. I need to buy actual hardcopies of the book so I can do that, I've been listening on audio.

05-25-2013, 12:21 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

Jumped off plan yesterday at 4 pm and was back on at 5 pm with little damage done. Skimped on dinner and the calories were fine. Credit for not letting grains get into the slip. I am committed to being off grains until June 1. Weight still 1 pound under.

I wrote in my journal using the 7 question technique I am supposed to use. I discovered I slipped for the same old reasons. DS and I were on the second movie of our weekend Harry Potter marathon ( I bought all 8 dvds). We were celebrating the weekend. I popped him popcorn, took a few tastes and thought, "It is fun to be free from a food plan." This is old thinking. I must continue to practice mentally that true freedom is staying OP because then I am free from regret.

We are going up to Tahoe for the weekend. I have planned bike rides and Yoga. I hope to cook at the cabin and avoid going out.

BBE: Online traffic school is penance for a speeding ticket for ten mile over the limit. I must say it is much more pleasant than sitting through an 8 hour lecture at a Motel 6 conference room ( I had to do that 30 years ago.)

HHM: I made a decision at the beginning of this year to get a wash and blow out every week. My hair lasts through my work days (with help from dry shampoo) It saves me precious minutes in the morning and looks great all the time. Best treat in the world.

vegansauraus: I admire your planning for when you manage the hotel. I remember jobs I had that were constantly filled with prohibited foods. I was terrible. Good for you for taking proactive steps.

Wave to all!

05-25-2013, 01:10 PM
happy I don't actually write these cards in the book, they're hardcopy on index card in the purse and digitally on "postits" on my computer. I think you'd be fine without it if you don't want a hard copy :)

05-25-2013, 09:32 PM
Still struggling to haul myself back on the Beckmobile. WHY do I struggle for one month every four months, it seems? I do well enough for four months to see progress and feel progress, then have a month of decisions that are less than stellar that set me back on the scale. Mentally, I'm wrapping this month up today. I find myself LOOKING for splurges. I'm struggling and DH basically keeps saying, I find an hourglass shape on a woman very attractive, I don't want you to lose your butt. I don't want you to look like a preteen boy. ... Okay, hon. There is NO WAY my body shape will EVER look like that and even when i was 25 pounds down, still an hourglass - always have trouble finding clothes that fit my waist if they fit my hips, so they are always altered. I know 100% that he would love me however I am, but I look around and see temptations more often when he says things like this. I keep trying to bring him to focus on our shared goal of the hiking trip later this summer, but no success. I need to make it my priority, and not hope that it's his, too. When he strays, I'm giving myself the excuse stray and this isn't working. Thanks for letting me vent and gripe about my poor choices here. Beck's book is coming out for another start tonight.

We went to see The Iceman last night (violent but I knew that going in). Was so frustrated with myself to see that I missed The Angel's Share ... need to write the title down to rent when out on DVD. Anyone seen it and liked it? Came home at midnight and, though chilly in upper 40s, we lit a fire in the firepit and sat outside under the full moon for about three hours until 3 a.m. Out of my norm. But oh, so relaxing. And yes, it did include a few toasted marshmallows for me and a s'more.

I ate an early (4 p.m.) lunch/dinner so I could eat with him before he left to work night shift. Now he found out that his boss forgot to tell him that he didn't have to work this weekend so he could do other sked next week - we made no holiday plans because he worked all nights until Wednesday. Grr but good news once it sank in, as we'll tackle big yard projects, I hope.

We went back to the nursery and walked in the muck for another hour, looking at all the possible newcomers to our home :) and picked the one that we both loved earlier this week, but was too $$ and too big. We kept coming back to it and I said we go with our gut instinct, so it'll be delivered and they'll help us plant it. I think it's about 12-14' tall. Then ... build the retaining/border walls, etc.

Bill: Keep healing, and keep reading. Your book sounds very much like the movie I watched a few months ago. Illuminative and educational and frustrating and shocking. I remember running into my kitchen to look at ingredient listings only to find the dreaded HFCS crap in my stove top stuffing and "natural" blueberry muffin mix. The two things I DIDN'T look at the ingredients on. And I typically make my own muffins/coffee cakes and not from a mix. They're still sitting in the pantry. Grr.

Maryann - Your weekend plans at the cabin sound so wonderful.

Beth - Good luck with the continued smart choices, and enjoy the festivities! Major credits for doing so well.

Lexxiss - Credits for taking care of "your stuff" ... I feel guilty when I do things for me instead of for the house/yard/DH ... and am ready to dump that feeling tout suite.

IBelieveInMe2 - YAY on getting to the gym and being at a 9!! :)

Spanky - I have been laughing at the image of the end-less (literally) croissants that your son wouldn't notice were missing. Great image and honesty.

HHMommy - Hope you have a wonderful weekend with the mother/daughter outings. Sounds like fun. I never had that with my mom, though I had wonderful times with her. We never did "girly" things. And I wouldn't count the glass of chocolate milk as a negative myself! If you were hungry, I find it a filling option.

Vegan - Kudos for passing on the mac and cheese (I chose to mention that one because I LOVE it, but never have found one that I like as much as the one I make with 1% milk, etc., but I keep wanting to TRY others)... You go! Keep on staying strong!

05-26-2013, 07:21 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Raining all day made DW the gardener happy, but made for a miserable day. Our morning bird walk excursion to the Atlantic coast was cancelled - sea ducks don't mind the rain but optics used to look at them, even though nitrogen sealed against water damage, aren't fun to look through with raindrops on the lenses. Oh, well.

Exercise was, again, shopping for chairs for both the kitchen and dinning room. Nothing made me happy; it seems that my only idea for a chair is an overstuffed chair suitable for sleeping. Some human beings were not made for shopping. I didn't eat candy from a bowl in the store only because there was no bowl of candy - I even looked, LOL. None of the other shoppers looked particularly happy. Maybe buying chairs is supposed to be a miserable experience. For the money furniture costs I'm sorta expecting ecstasy - which might be a barrier. Gonna check if the local Center for Adult Education has a course titled 'Male Furniture Purchasing.'

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Congrats for having a palate that rejects over salting.

maryann - Happy Harry Potter Marathon Weekend - what an idea! Kudos for spotting as a Sabotaging Thought, "It is fun to be free from a food plan."

nationalparker – My take is that it's a real conflict to want our SO to love us in whatever body while simultaneously pushing us to change. Going for the shared goal of summer hiking sounds good. [I HATE finding HFCS somewhere unexpected.]

Jo (veganasaurusrex) – Kudos for your 6th day OP. Sounds like you're doing well at your hotel with its special distractions. I love that you wrote '"SIT" on your hands - Beck should include that in her next book.

happyhoustonmommy - Happy three generation Mother-Daughter Day. Super set of rewards all unrelated to food.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

Guidelines for a Doable Diet
. . . Rather than basing your diet selection on speed, consider these factors:
. . . Your diet should be healthy. Because you'll be following this diet for a long time, you need to select one that promotes good health. Choose a diet that allows you to eat a reasonable variety of foods. Be wary of any diet that unduly restricts healthy food choices. You might be able to lose weight on a diet that isn't nutritious, but eventually your body will rebel - and you'll start to gain back the excess weight.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 65.

05-26-2013, 09:30 AM
Some trouble...and then some success!

Friday night I did not eat in a Beck way - no cards, no sitting, just hanging at the kitchen counter, chatting with my kids and one of the boyfriends. Not only did I eat that donut I had earmarked as NO CHOICE, I had a biscuit. With butter. And I ate less chicken and none of the salad, with dressing, so I could 1. fit in in, as I was honestly not that hungry and 2. justify it so my calories would not be over. could have been worse, but I was not in control.

Saturday was a new start - family party with lots of choices, good and poor. As soon as I found out the menu, I planned what I would eat, what I would skip, and how much dessert I would have. Fit into my calories and this time I was in control!

Today - company for dinner and making a favorite meal of mine (pollo guisado, which is a Puerto Rican chicken stew with carrots, potatoes and peas, over rice, with string beans and salad)...and probably a slamming bakery dessert (I don't think I have time to bake). So my plan is - good breakfast. Small lunch. One serving of dinner. I can have extra veg if I feel like I want more. One serving of the dessert. I need to put it into MFP and see how it comes out! I have been too busy to even walk this weekend so I do not want to go overboard on the eating. Control control control!

05-26-2013, 05:49 PM
Hi Coaches!

I've had one of those days where everything food related just jumps out at me and I want to eat it. Donut...biscuit with butter....saw a menu downstairs that had come out of our car and I thought oh Mexican...I could go down to that restaurant.
So: credit for getting up and weighing, sending my food plan to my diet buddy and for resisting any such off plan urges, so far.

I won't be checking in here tomorrow. I work early and won't have internet by the time I get home and the masses of holiday travelers are headed back to Denver. I will email my diet buddy with my food plan.

BBE, ouch for missing the fun exercise then having to exercise while shopping for chairs. BTW-I've been looking for months...even hit Ikeaseveral weeks ago. Glad the candy bowl eluded you...reminded me there were some green/white stripy candies somewhere last week that I kept avoiding. (??where were they??)

sparks, great job getting up

05-26-2013, 10:26 PM
Busy day here and the sun is now setting. Got out to mow at 9:30 ad worked out in the yard until 4:30 p.m. with a short lunch break. We finished clearing our berm, and I started in on the stone wall and I'm realizing it's a bigger project than I anticipated and will run a good bit more money. But will be beautiful aspect of the yard when done, I think. I'm not the best with the level, so level, tamp, tamp, add more dirt, level, no still off, tamp, tamp, level. Okay close enough. And onto the next wedge paver. Hopefully the close enoughs will be that.

Got the halo effect of hours of exertion and opted for making baked ziti tonight. Portion was reasonable and hoping that I burned some of the calories off earlier. Did a healthy marketing trip tonight with good fruits and veggies and now to USE THEM ALL UP.

Will head to the cemetery tomorrow for DH's grandparents, who kind of almost raised him. Bought a gorgeous geranium to place there. My mind keeps thinking, oh, let's stop for brunch somewhere... instead of thinking, make a healthy smoothie and sip it on the long drive.

05-26-2013, 11:11 PM
Hi all!

Another successful OP day. Again at the hotel where food is usually a huge problem. I had a plan, I ate exactly what was on my plan, everything on my plan was vegan and healthy. I got all my exercise in this weekend. Still fighting off the terrible fear of "when things go wrong". Down another lb today so that was nice but I feel like it can't last. *fingers crossed though!*

05-27-2013, 06:01 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – The walk (CREDIT moi) included Whole Foods for peanut butter. I never tire of watching the stuff come out of the grinder - in fact, I feel cheated if the grinder is out-of-service and I have to buy a pint they've already ground. I happily accepted a sample of sashimi tuna - about a cubic centimeter - as an easy fit into my rare and unusual exception. (Good grief, I just saw the pun with rare, LOL.)

I avoided some opportunities for cookies, CREDIT moi. Even though factory made they still yelled my name. At some later point should I be asked to redesign heaven, I'm not sure if I'll design Girl Scout Thin Mints with no calories are just ban all cookies. I have time to work on this.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – LOL at jumping to an old menu because it reminds me how easily our minds can be triggered.

nationalparker – It does seem that all projects are bigger than anticipated. Kudos for absorbing that and moving forward.

Jo (veganasaurusrex) – Kudos for sticking to your plan despite the distractions of your hotel. Recognizing those Sabotaging Thoughts, "when things go wrong," and "it can't last" is half-way to defeating them.

sparks17 – Making choices in the midst of reality is always a challenge. Kudos for threading your way with enough control to stay your path. That "pollo guisado" description has me drooling.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

Guidelines for a Doable Diet
. . . Rather than basing your diet selection on speed, consider these factors: . . .
. . . Choose a diet that includes food you like and can easily prepare. You'll be much more likely to stick to a diet that allows food you find both tasty and convenient. If you like the food, you'll more easily find the resolve to make the required recipes and to eat the required meals.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 65.

05-27-2013, 12:38 PM
Happy Memorial Day, Coaches.

Terrific mini holiday. Just the boys and me. DS and I watched Order of the Phoenix on the computer while DH went to Reno (30 miles away) to turn in a coffee can full of change at the casino. Over $500 smackaroonies plus he won $50 at the sLots. Wow! Then we took our tandem kayak (it is a fishing and diving one so it holds the three of us) on the reservoir behind our cabin. Really beautiful. Then the boys puttered in a boy-like fashion and I went to an hour and a half "restorative " yoga class which is simple lying on bolsters in various positions—no stretching or stress. WOW. Very meditative but I'm glad I also paddled the kayak to burn some calories. Then DS pick was a favorite restaurant in old town. I made a terrific choice for dinner and then out of nowhere ordered a gourmet cupcake. DRAT!!!!!

Like nationalparker, I have to wonder how I can be so on target for a succession of days and then have an equal number of days off plan. In my diet journal I wrote, "This behavior will not get me to my goal of under 150 when I turn 50 (in December)

Food in Myfit. I do see a pattern of not writing food down and jumping into the sweets. If I do two things this week it will be commit food in phone and SIT DOWN.

BBE: I have decided to only buy antique furniture and get it recovered. I am sitting on a hundred year old chair that is comfy to die for.
vegansaraus: Congrats on sticking to your food plan.
Lexxiss: I understand about the call of food. It is an insidious task master.

05-27-2013, 06:09 PM
Home from the lake and need to back on board with a food plan. We celebrated my niece's birthday and our daughter's birthday (early) since my sister-in-law is in from New York. I enjoyed lots of various foods ~ some healthy, some not ~ and really didn't plan over the weekend. Right back OP now that we are home! I did keep up with my 15 minute minimum walking over the weekend, but still need to get it in today. Hope everyone has had a safe and good long weekend! I am remembering those heroes who gave the ultimate sacrifice for our freedom today ~ Memorial Day in the United States. So thankful for their service and their sacrifice! We in the U.S. are so blessed!

05-27-2013, 06:24 PM
Hi coaches,
What a busy weekend! I went to water aerobics on Sat. racquetball since it was closed and friend is camping. But did a first for me..dropped my daughter off with her 13 yr old pseudo cousin (my best friends daughter) at the mall. Then my BFF and I went shopping was such a win/win and made realize/remember what life was like before dd. of course I wouldn't change a thing and love being her mama but it was just fun to get out.. I bought myself some workout wear and a new swimsuit. It was fun to try stuff on at a smaller size!! I got to wear that new workout outfit yesterday when I went to Zumba. Dd came with me and did the whole class too. It was fast and jumpy and loud and so fun. My Fitbit almost burst into flames trying to keep up with the steps! It was a fantastic workout even if I didn't do the moves exactly like the instructor always. I didn't want to blow a knee or an ankle or anything else that would keep me from returning. I love the YMCA...

Eating has been within range but I did have my first unplanned eating session. I made banana bread and had allotted myself one slice at breakfast time, I was alone with it later in the day and I indulged and was also standing up while eating. It did not feel good of course and I adapted my food for the rest of the day...I actually did have the thought that since I already ate off plan, that maybe I should just snack away. The thing that kept me from doing so was that I didn't like that full feeling that I used to consider "normal"... My new normal is to get a bit hungry and be okay with it until it was time to eat then eat an appropriate portion and feel satisfied but not overly full. For me, this is progress!

I have a day today filled with getting a bunch of stuff for school completed, writing a big/important letter of rec for a former teachers assistant trying to get into nursing school and getting food and life ready for the workweek. I may take a trip to Trader others have TJs in non-PAC NW cities? It is healthy stuff for cheap. I don't live near a Whole Foods (jealous of you BBE) but make due with TJ at times...enjoy your day today everyone!!!

05-27-2013, 07:26 PM
Happy Memorial Day everyone! Let's see...yesterday was a fun day. We went to a crawfish boil. Was mightily tempted but I didn't have any sodas AND I played a very active game of kickball with the kids *credit*.

I had about 3 too many rosemary potatoes and I licked the frosting off of 2 cupcakes (didn't have the cake part, I'm gluten free). I was really hungry, so next time I know I'm going to a party where I'll be tempted I'll make sure to have a big salad beforehand and bring a Kind bar if I'm having a sweet tooth. Didn't see any negative impact today but still, it's a slippery slope that I don't want to go down.

Today has been a totally lazy day--and it's been nice. The only "naughtiness" I've imbibed in is a dark chocolate covered frozen banana, BUT I planned on that in lieu of's my birthday!!! :D

I'm about to head out to Barnes and Noble to buy myself a birthday gift and then tonight I plan on spending the Amazon gift card my husband gave me on books, books and more books. Book nerd in the hizzy!

When it cools off I'd like to get the whole family to go on a walk after dinner tonight.

Can't wait to get back into the routine tomorrow and my big kids only have 2 1/2 more days of school so it'll be a fun week for all of us :dizzy:

05-27-2013, 10:05 PM
:bday2you: happyhoustonmommy!!! Hope you are having a wonderful day!!! :D

05-28-2013, 12:34 AM
Just happy to report that I continued my streak of 15 minutes of walking with a late night workout. Walked on the Bowflex TreadClimber for 15 minutes and burned 223 calories!!! CREDIT! Quick but intense workout! Feelin' gooooood!!! :carrot:

05-28-2013, 05:49 AM
Hi Coaches!

A healthy OP day yesterday and I'm going to weigh right after I check in. credit. I did make a legitimate switch for dinner-decided that since it was a holiday and I'd been wanting Mexican that I would make my healthy mexican dish instead of dreaming of all the off plan stuff at the restaurant down the street. Out in the yard last eve I enjoyed the first scent of the lilac blooms. Heavenly...I just put a note on my mirror to remind myself to get out on my bike for a aromatherapy tour soon! This morning I had that moment of gratitude for weightloss. I needed the cat food from the back end of the suv. It was out of normal reach. I was able to climb up on the bike rack and crawl through the back window to retrieve it....not achievable at my high weight. It felt good. Ahh...simple pleasures.

BBE, I am pondering on the cookies in heaven...perhaps they'd be organic and healthy and my obsessive brain would be unplugged allowing me to eat just one or two and be done. PS I love the fresh grind and just don't buy anything else anymore. Credit for such a simple and healthy pleasure.

happyhoustonmommy, Happy Birthday!

MaryAnn, yay for a fun and healthy weekend. I've been meaning to ask if you've ever eaten at the thai restaurant across from the Matterhornmotel? It's my favorite spot in Tahoe.

Rosebud, kudos for a new swimsuit and workout wear! It's so important to take care of ourselves on the way down.

IBelieveInMe2, continued kudos for establishing the exercise habit. PS You reminded me to do my small weight routine at home before I left for work thx

Ok, the scale calls....gardening early this morning then off to work.

05-28-2013, 06:09 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Out looking at birds in the morning, CREDIT moi. There were some little kids on the walk so a pair of honking Canada Geese flying over was a treat instead of an annoyance. I admire folks who get their kids outdoors looking at nature while young.

One more trip upping and downing in chairs until we bought a set of four. CREDIT moi for surviving this nonsense. I was greatly helped by stopping in a store that sold less expensive stuff - the kind that looks great but the quality clearly drops off sharply on close inspection. It helped me feel happier paying for the chairs we bought.

maryann - I like the notion of "restorative" yoga - like yoga for the mind. Ouch for the cupcake; I wish they didn't make them look so attractive. On Sunday I passed on some blueberry cupcakes that didn't have the 'aura' so they looked just like fourth grade birthday party cupcakes - easy to pass over.

IBelieveInMe2 – Kudos for continued walking. Celebrations are a challenge.

Rosebud170 – LOL at stressing your Fitbit to "almost burst into flames." Smart move to take a shopping trip without your DD to start to prepare yourself for empty nest syndrome. Kudos for raising a daughter who'll do Zumba with her mom.

happyhoustonmommy - Happy Birthday!!! So jealous of an Amazon gift card that I'd use as permission to buy something that I knew I didn't need. Frozen banana seems like a good way to force slow eating.

Readers - chapter 5
Get Ready: Lay the Groundwork

Guidelines for a Doable Diet
. . The Beck Diet Solution teaches you
how to modify your diet by working planned
.indulgences into your overall plan. This can
. .help you stick to your diet long term.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 66.

05-28-2013, 09:29 AM
Good morning all and Happy Birthday to Happy Houston Mommy!

I have had 2 good days - Sunday was planned as higher in calories (thinking maintenance, not losing) so I could enjoy my dinner with company and it went well. Monday was actually lower than planned, as I just wasn't hungry at dinner, so I ate only half of what I planned.

Today I am going to try Day 17 and overload my plate, then eat only what I planned. I am...worried about this. Last night was easy as I didn't feel hungry. Who know how I will feel today? More adventures in weight loss!

05-28-2013, 10:17 AM
Tuesday greetings! After a day that seemed to slip by with only a cemetery visit in another town to leave flag and geranium for DH's grandparents and a trip to Kohls, I put on "Hungry for Change" on netflix to have DH watch it with me and get his take on it. I liked it, but am mostly struck with the first 3/4 (I'm not a juicer and don't think I'll ever be one to juice kale and celery, etc., so ... during that part we kind of discussed the rest). I had watched it in January and the review was interesting. Similar things impressed him, as well. So he says we need to get rid of all of the white starches, etc. I said NO - we need to add in much more veggies and fruits and it'll naturally crowd out the rest (which is what they discussed). Now I didn't research their backgrounds, their degrees, etc., -I'm completely taking their discussion points as valid, since I DO believe they're valid :) but I'm glad that DH seemed to be on board with me. We'll see. One funny note in that is one of the speakers said when he was trying to lose weight, he'd fill his "trolley" with loads of vegetables and fruits and all healthy items and want the cashier to comment on how healthy it all was. My stepdaughter used to compare our cart to everyone else's in the market ... look, they have little debbies, look, they have doritos, whatever. I had to tell her that you can't judge based on this stuff. Ya never know ... maybe they're buying something for an 89-pound grandma nearly passing away and this was what she wanted to eat. Oh. But tried to get her to focus on what healthy things we could make with our food vs. checking everyone else out.

I've reached a point where I'm worried about losing control and that I'll keep gaining weight back. I need the confidence that I did this and will regroup and get back on track. Today is my Day 1. So far, so good.

Plan to order the Beck's book for my kindle.

05-28-2013, 10:50 AM
So he says we need to get rid of all of the white starches, etc. I said NO - we need to add in much more veggies and fruits and it'll naturally crowd out the rest

OK - this is VERY helpful!!! Thanks!

05-28-2013, 10:28 PM
Hi all,

DD the elder is now married and we are home from the wedding festivities. My food was not OP while I was gone--I went back and forth from OP to "whoever heard of controlling food intake?".

I'm home now and today was an OP day, even if I didn't plan it in advance. My week is a bit messed up since Sunday night is supposed to be my planning night and Monday night is grocery shopping. I did the week's meal planning at Sam's Club tonight. I still need to purchase some additional things at the regular grocery store, but I have the entrees planned out.

I also have lunch tomorrow already made and it is sitting in the fridge along with tomorrow's afternoon snack. Credit.

I weighed this morning--something for which I deserve credit because I really didn't want to. The scale is up :-(. I expected that, unfortunately, but I didn't think I'd ever see that 200 number again, so 200.4 did not please me. It is information, though, and that information will help motivate me to be on track again.

Take care. all

05-28-2013, 11:00 PM

My food have not been great, but the last two days see steady improvement towards being 100% OP. Unfortunately, the cold DH started to come down with two days has begun in my throat nownso I am hoping my immune system will kill it in my sleep. We'll see.

It's cool and foggy right now. Hard to believe they are saying hot and humid in a day or so: 13C now to 30C in two days with humidity feeling like 36C.

I have yet to plant the garden. I haven't made it to the farmers' market either. I have been in a tailspin for weeks. But I woe up yesterday knowing I was never going to give up trying to lose this extra weight and I also had insight that every time I go offplan it will just add time onto my weightloss phase. It's going to take me that much longer. I consider this a huge success in "thinking like a thin person" in that I a) know I will not stop pursuing the thin me and b) I no longer doubt that that will be me. Credits for these bottom level beliefs now totally ingrained. What I need to work on is realizing that given these two things, it's in my best interest to just get there already. I toroture myself with the self sabotage. Why? I think I'm goin g to get tired of this soon enough.

I'd write more but I need to get to bed. Feeling exhausted all of a sudden.


05-28-2013, 11:09 PM
Good Evening, Coaches.

Full week as school races toward promotion and vacation. Super determined to break 160 by June 1st. Food OP. A little hungry but I said "Oh, Well." Tired but I can absolutely go to bed early. Must remember Beck."Weight loss takes time and energy. I can't pack my day and night and expect to stay OP." Easy does it.

Lexxiss: I looked up Matterhorn Hotel. It is South lake Tahoe and we go to the Northside. It looks cute though. Not a big Thai food fan. Actually I am a super bland girl. I went to an Indian bday and nearly died eating the shrimp. :) although I did manage some tasty chicken and chickpeas.

Congrats to BethfromDayton on planning. You'll lose the extra weight in a heartbeat.

onebyone: I don't know why we torutre ourselves. I personally would like to start treating myself like a queen.

05-29-2013, 02:18 AM
Hello everyone,
I ate OP today except for one pc of that blasted banana bread again. It fit with my calories and that was the sabotaging thought.."I have the calories..why not?" Next time I will respond with "not an option...not planned and not hungry and does not jive with my plan to lose weight and keep it off"

I got the math section of my report cards completed tonight and then did some unplanned exercise. Dd asked if I wanted to do Just Dance on the Wii with her....yes! I got a lot of steps in and then did some stuff on the WiiFit...and that scale reads three lbs less than my bathroom scale!! I am still using the bathroom one but it was fun to see a lower number..will weigh at the Y tomorrow to see which one it syncs with..

Hard to believe that we only have three weeks of school left but it is true!! I am going to Hawaii for a week after that and am very excited about getting some R and R in the sun!!

Off to plan my food for tomorrow and then get to sleep. Goodnight!!

05-29-2013, 05:50 AM
Hi Coaches!

Yesterday 100% OP without one single bite at work other than my small lunch from home. credit. I've weighed this morning and have a plan for the day. I have an extremely busy day today and the plan in advance will help me achieve my goals. Everything is so much easier when I don't have to "worry" about food.

BBE, yay for new chairs! I think my chair decision can be postponed until Fall.