Weight Loss Support - Do some NSVs make you sad?
04-28-2013, 02:53 PM
I love that I lost weight, I want to lose more weight, I love celebrating milestones and NSVs. I love celebrating all of YOUR NSVs here.
But today, I got sad with things that should be exciting for me.
Today I was looking for a short sleeve shirt to wear with my workout pants to go for a walk outside. Since it's warm out, I am more conscious of the clothes I wear since it's likely I'll run into a neighbor to chat. Usually I just throw on whatever shirt is in my workout pile on the shelf in the closet.
So I pick out a black top with sparkly rhinestones, it's been my favorite top for the last 2 summers so I figured today would be a great day to wear it. A little bling with my walk! And that's when I wanted to cry. This shirt was SO big, I could have put on a pair of black tights and worn it as a dress. :( I used to wear it with everything and it fit perfectly (?!). That's when I reminded myself that I lost 130lbs since I wore it last. And I still wore it one last time, for old time's sake. I'm washing it and putting it in the donate pile. I hope someone loves this top as much as I did.
So then...the other day I tried on 2 size 18 jean skirts I have and used to wear every weekend when I was thinner. These skirts are so big now! My body definitely lost weight differently this time. I think I was in the 180s or 190s the last time I wore these. So I washed and dried these 2 skirts trying to shrink them (who does that?!). Tried them on again this afternoon, still way too big. I can turn them fully around on my waist without unbuttoning them, that's how big they are. I had some of the best nights of my life in these skirts as a newlywed going out with friends and my husband! I loved getting married and being able to say I had a husband and these skirts remind me of those young, newly married times. But into the donation bin they go. I secretly hope a newlywed finds them at the Goodwill and enjoys the heck out of them too! Of course I'll never know.
I have no intentions to gain any weight back just to enjoy my nostalgic clothes but I'm feeling so emotional about donating these clothes.
I'm on the prowl for onederland tomorrow (yes, again) but even if I don't get it, there are so many more measurements showing me my success. Trying so hard not to worry about the value I put on the scale and the pressure on myself to make 199 happen.
04-28-2013, 03:02 PM
Here, here! I connect my clothes with all the good times I had in them too. It must be because being so big, I didn't have THAT much clothes to chose from...so I have a dress in which I met my best friend for the first time, it's the same dress I wore on my wonderful trip to England, and the same dress I wore throughout my twin prengancy until the day of delivery (yes, THAT stretchy dress). If I can't wear it anymore...WHEN I can't wear it anymore, I'll be sad. And I can say the same about that wonderful M&S top I had on me when I was graduating....the skirt I bought like 10 years ago and still looks so fabulous I always get a compliment when I wear it... Ah, my lovely old clothes.
It will be pain to put them away, but, it's worth it. No doubts.
P.S. I can always hope I'll get pregnant and wear the **** out of those big suckers again!!!
04-28-2013, 03:03 PM
Awwww. You'll find new clothes that will become your favorites! Most of my clothes these past two years were maternity (I had a baby in 2011 and another in 2012!) so I'm happy to get rid of them! I'm also happy to fit in some of my favorite pre-pregnancy clothes :)
04-28-2013, 03:10 PM
Haven't had that happen to me yet, but I can imagine the feeling. I have some clothes I wish I could wear forever, and I don't wanna give them up. It helps a lot to think about the good selection I will have when shopping for new clothes though :)
04-28-2013, 03:27 PM
But today, I got sad with things that should be exciting for me....
...I have no intentions to gain any weight back just to enjoy my nostalgic clothes but I'm feeling so emotional about donating these clothes.
elvislover - first of all, congratulations on such a fantastic accomplishment. I see your posts and have great admiration for what you have done in regards to weight loss. You are to be commended.
As for your question - "Do some NSV's make you sad?" I have to answer - not no, but h*ll no! No matter how much I may have liked my bigger clothes, I was never sad to get rid of them. Couldn't get them out of my closet and my house fast enough!
Now the other way around? Well, sad really isn't the word I'd use to describe how I felt when I couldn't get in my "skinny jeans." More like really PO'ed. :mad:
Yes, this happened to me this weekend. I have a really awesome purple and grey plaid western button up shirt. It's been my favorite shirt for a year. I was wearing it the day I interviewed for my current job, which has changed my life in so many huge ways for the better. I put it on Friday night to go out to dinner. It just hung on me, like a tent. It has darting at the bust and waist and now it's all wrong. I tried tucking it in and no luck, still too baggy. I was sad to fold it and put it in the box of clothes to pass on.
04-28-2013, 03:40 PM
I absolutely wash and dry my pants to make them fit!!! I hate to shop and I HATE to replace clothes even if I'm just buying the exact same thing in a smaller size.
Ive never had an NSV that made me sad but I definitely understand how you get attached to clothes. I still have a lot in my closet that I haven't gotten rid of because they are NICE clothes even if they are too big. And the clothes I got rid of, I just put them in bags in the garage LOL they didn't even really go anywhere
04-28-2013, 03:45 PM
I don't get sad for the victory, I'm sad because I loved it so so much, actually some dresses I'm holding onto Incase I can make them into maternity dress when I decide to have a child, congrats! And you will find new favorite clothes!
04-28-2013, 03:50 PM
I can definitely related to being attached to clothes. Perhaps it is a worthwhile investment to take some of your more favorite things and have them taken in?
Something else I have done: if there is something I really really love, I set up an ebay alert and try to find someone selling a used one in the size I need!
04-28-2013, 03:57 PM
I can relate, elvislover. Just yesterday I wore a tunic that I love. It's cherry red and has a draped neckline. It's been one of my favorite pieces. However, it's going in the donate bag now. It's a 4X and even though I can get away with tunics being too big, this one is more like a dress and the shoulder seams were about 2 inches below my shoulders! There are a few other things in my closet that I'm having a hard time letting go even though they really are way too big now.
04-28-2013, 05:35 PM
Thanks, everyone! Your responses (as always) cheered me up, validated my feelings, and just overall made me feel better.
I guess it's more about the feelings about myself and when I wore those clothes, now that I thought of it more since I posted. The rhinestone top made me feel like a million bucks, like I was pretty even though it was a 3x. And to see it on me today, pretty much falling off me, drew so many emotions about where I was and where I'm going.
And maybe the skirts and the memories I have with them made me realize my life in my late 30s is so much different than my late 20s and it's time to move on from them. And THAT sure is emotional too!
Who knew all these feelings can be drawn from something as simple as a few clothing items?
04-28-2013, 05:49 PM
I have a kimono style blouse that is a pretty, flowery, Japanese-style print in shades of green and gold. It looks great with my skin, hair and eye color. My husband loves me in that blouse. Sadly, it may too be on the way to the donate bag. I have a lot of good memories associated with that blouse and I always felt good wearing it.
I'm just going to have to buy other things that I like and make more memories. :)
04-28-2013, 08:47 PM
That's definitely not an uncommon feeling for those of us losing larger amounts of weight. It's nice to shrink, but can be bittersweet in many small ways.
When my wedding dress (that was custom tailored to fit my body at the time) was tried on for giggles and fell from my shoulders straight to the ground, I was excited. Then I felt sad, because I remember being so frustrated with my wedding pictures and how heavy I looked, even while being so young. And now after having children my hips are smaller than my waist used to be! And that's not to even mention the PILES of beautiful clothing I've spent money on and shrunk out of, that has sentimental value as well as monetary. I'm so glad to be smaller, but definitely miss some favorite outfits.
04-28-2013, 08:56 PM
Yes, I have been sad to let some favorite items go so I try my best to re-purpose or re-size them myself if possible. You have done tremendously!!!!
04-28-2013, 11:30 PM
On that show "Ruby," her friend took some of her old, sentimental clothes, and turned them into a patchwork quilt. I thought that was incredibly thoughtful and creative.
04-29-2013, 12:03 PM
I haven't had that happen to me. I don't think I've ever owned anything that I *loved*. Just stuff that I didn't hate. I've never felt pretty enough to wear anything that I consider my style.
04-29-2013, 12:16 PM
I have a few things that I think about and say "oh, yeah, I remember wearing that" or even thinking that I miss wearing something I particularly liked.
But no sadness for me - I'm relishing the day when I get rid of everything I currently own because it's too big. I'm overwhelmed by the amount of clothing I have and one of the biggest rewards of losing weight is going to have a much smaller, but much, much more functional wardrobe.
I could get started on that now rather than wait, though, and get rid of the things that I don't like wearing even though they do fit but part of it is also having so many things that are too small that I am holding onto to wear on the way down.
Mission Fat to Fab
04-29-2013, 05:58 PM
I went through this feeling a few weeks ago, and I ended up sabotaging myself a bit by falling into my bad habits. I've decided to move on from it and realised i've actually dropped from a UK size 26 (3XL) to a UK size 22. It's an amazing feeling and I've even taken the step to buy a pair of jeans and a dress in a size 20 which I'm aiming to fit into by the time it's by birthday in August.
Celebrate your achievements and embrace these changes. You're working hard for it and it'll feel a million times better when you're buying clothes from a normal shop than from a plus size shop. Give your bigger clothes away to charity or sell them, and think about fitting into your goal size and looking amazing in it.
04-29-2013, 06:05 PM
:hug: x a million sweet heart. I can completely understand. This is such an emotional journey.
You know what might be neat? Make a quilt out of some of the clothes that you have really cherished memories in, or if there aren't that many a pillow. I couldn't make a quilt to save my life, but a pillow might be doable.
04-29-2013, 07:56 PM
Love these replies, so many things to think about.
Wearing another of my 2x shirts today. It's so weird the attachment I have to them. I have new shirts that are XL or L (!!) that I can wear but it doesn't feel real to me.
I was looking at new capris I got but hadn't worn yet (size 16). I said to myself, there is no way my butt is getting into those (they looked so small). But they fit! I think I need my mind to catch up with my body.
I wore my hair in a bun type style today, there was only 1 chin. I had to look twice, I don't even recognize myself. Such a weird feeling!
04-29-2013, 10:10 PM
What an inspiration you are! And I was actually surprised that nobody mentioned this yet in this thread. But I'm losing my BOOBS.
I met an amazing man last year who i am madly in love with...but 2012 was my year of pigging out and partying with him. And my boobs were getting bigger and bigger. He loved it! lol
Well here I am now over -20 pounds in 7 weeks and my big boobs are all but completely gone.
I wouldn't say sad though...because I was just able to pull up a pair of size 16 for the first time in over a year and I'm beyond thrilled. I'll get over how much smaller I know my boobs are about to get. :)
04-30-2013, 01:14 PM
Not a lot of stuff I'm going to miss wearing, but I'm frustrated and sad because I'm at a really awkward phase. Everything I had at my largest fit like a tent, and was always long enough. Now, I technically fit a 2X top, but nothing covers my belly and my boobs are so big I look out of balance. I feel awkward and now even though I fit some "younger" clothes technically, they do not look good on me at all.
I get very frustrated with clothes that look too loose on me. It's the weirdest thing. I used to worry about clothes looking too tight. I still do but too loose is also a problem now.
My biggest struggle is that my body is just such a moving target at the moment that I don't know what will fit from one week to the next. It's causing me to spend way too much time in front of the mirror and I literally have to plan my outfit for the next day every evening. I used to just chuck any old clothes on. Now I have to make sure I don't look either super tight or too baggy. Some days, having nothing right to wear gets me down.
I even have a tight side to my wardrobe that I can't fit into yet but will ungrow into in a few weeks. The baggy stuff I keep on the other side. Some of the once tight stuff I forget about and by the time I remember it, it's too loose.
Way too complicated.
I have pants that I bought new a month ago that I can now pull up and down without unbuttoning. When clothes get like that, I draw the line. But these are still new clothes.
Argh. It kills me.
04-30-2013, 03:49 PM
I have been experiencing that for the last 50 lbs of my weightloss. I totally get it. I am happy for where I'm going but I can't help but think about my favourite bomber jacket that I know I won't be able to wear next fall and how I felt like a million bucks in it.
I know I'll find another jacket that makes me feel that way but I can't help remember all the good times in it and how I saved my money specifically for it! I was a poor student when I bought it and it meant a lot. I'm a very nostalgic person. I hold onto a lot of "stuff" that's crap but I can't let it go because their are memories attached. It's pretty hard for me to even think of starting a donate pile. So messed up!
05-27-2013, 12:29 PM
Yes, I have an absolute favorite suit that is just too big now. I still can't bring myself to part with it - I'm trying to figure out what material it is and see if I can get a similar one from the same label.
I've had it for about 7 years, and I don't wear suits that often, but when I got it (at around 190 pounds) it fit perfectly and I looked amazing. Great for job interviews.
Then I gained about 30 pounds and I wasn't able to wear the pants because they were so tight - it was horrible! I couldn't believe it when I tried them on.
Then I lost weight down to where I am now, and they are so loose they just slip and slide everywhere. Even if I belted them the thighs and butt just look huge and ridiculous.
I'm very sad, but at the same time it definitely underlines how much weight I've lost when I remember being so sad they fit like sausage casings and now seeing and feeling the difference. I honestly can't see the difference in my butt/thighs just looking in the mirror, but those dress pants make it crystal clear.
05-27-2013, 12:34 PM
I was happy to see this thread bumped as I re-read my posts and the replies. The size 16 capris I wrote about just last month are too big now even though I'm only down about 8-10lbs since then. It has to be my running that is slimming my body down. And I'm sad to lose these new capris, I begged begged begged my husband for them and told him I just *had* to have them. Oops! Someone at the Goodwill is going to be very happy soon...
05-27-2013, 04:47 PM
Most of my fat clothes I HATED. But I had an enormous sweater collection that I adored - lots of angora, cashmere, merino - and just fantastic colors and styles. I sorted through them today and was devastated at how many I just HAD to put in the thrift store pile. I kept a few to wear through the summer (because I am always cold, especially in air conditioning) and I tucked a few away into the cedar chest in hopes that they'll just be loose but not unwearable in the autumn. It was a sad day in Novus Land. :cry: ;)
05-27-2013, 04:49 PM
It was a sad day in Novus Land. :cry: ;)
Awww, don't be sad. :hug: You are too skinny for your sweaters, it's a good thing!
05-27-2013, 05:40 PM
Glad to see this thread bumped too!!! Don't worry about the capris, Elvislover! From the sounds of it, your hubby just wants you happy!
And Novus, think of the alternative! Do you really want those sweaters to fit again? i hear you guys though- no judgment! My fave jean jacket is my STAPLE and it's growing too! I also boxed up my bright pink pants today...I'm going to miss them!!
05-27-2013, 06:05 PM
Have you thought about taking some of your favorite things to a tailor or seamstress to have them sized down? My mom does alterations for me - its just about time for me to send a batch of shorts to her to be taken in.
05-27-2013, 06:12 PM
What's your mom's address? We can keep her busy! :D
05-27-2013, 07:00 PM
Since I have gone down 8 or 9 sizes, depending on the cut of the clothing, I can relate a bit to some favorites not being able to fit anymore. The worst problem though has been the cost! Every time I go down, I have to buy new clothes and I'm poor because of it! I can wear baggy stuff outside of work, but I have to dress professionally at work so I can't get away with being too baggy. I was embarrassed a couple of weeks go when I was wearing a white shirt over a black tee and the exec I was meeting with said it looked like I was wearing a lab coat :o. She meant it in a not-mean way but I was mortified.
Still, the happiness of going down in sizes outweighed the sadness of not being able to fit into clothes I liked. Who knows, maybe I will even enjoy clothes shopping one day.
05-27-2013, 10:08 PM
Uhh, yeah, try having to throw out 2 drawers FULL of nice underwear. It sucked...but I'm not gonna gain weight to be able to continue wearing them. LOL