Weight Loss Support - A habit to replace weighing myself so often?




wolfgirl69
04-24-2013, 05:36 PM
I weigh myself like every 30 minutes uncontrollably. I told my therapist because my mother was worried I was turning back to anorexia. My therapist says shes not worried about anorexia. She's worried that the scale will control me. Because of the scale I have had 2 mental breakdowns. I have this urge to weigh myself and just can't help it. It's not only not good for me-it's not good for the scale. I have to keep taking the battery out of my scale and putting it back in to reset it because it gets messed up. My therapist says I need to break the habit with a new one before it totally controls me and it becomes an even bigger issue and she said that maybe 3FC could help me. Any ideas?


Candeka
04-24-2013, 05:40 PM
What some people do is put the scale in a very hard place to get. Up above the fridge, behind the couch to the point you have to physically move the couch a few feet to get it. Outside in the garage.. anywhere that you can't just hop on easily.

Another option (if the above does not work) - is to just get rid of the scale or store it a friends house - the only time you can weigh is when you are out visiting that friend.

PreciousMissy
04-24-2013, 05:42 PM
I would suggest alternating between a few habits so you don't replace one obsession with another.

Maybe you could go for a (short or long) walk when the urge strikes you. This will also get you away from the scale.

You could rearrange your bedroom. I know it sounds like a daunting task, but, it will keep your mind occupied for an hour or two.

You could take up knitting/crocheting/sewing this will keep your mind and hands occupied.

You could surf the internet for healthy recipes.

I hope you're able to break your habit!!


Amarantha2
04-24-2013, 06:04 PM
I use my Fitbit to keep me focused on the healthy habit of walking 12,000-15,000 steps a day. I walk whenever I start to feel anxious about anything lol.

Nichole2013
04-24-2013, 06:42 PM
I totally understand how you feel. this may sound drastic but i suggest going cold turkey ! throw your scale away or leave it with someone who will only let you use it once a week

i was a slave to my scale for the longest time. i would let it dictate how i felt about about myself ! if i had lost weight it was a good day , if i didn't lose anything i would feel frustrated and starve myself until i did lose ! when i would gain, i would get depressed and isolate ..feel worthless and that would usually lead me to binge eat until i came to my senses. amarantha has the right idea focus and health and fitness not the number on the scale.

elvislover324
04-24-2013, 07:02 PM
I don't know if this will help you like it did me but I hope it does. :)

After I have one sip, one bite, put on one piece of clothing (even a sock!), that scale is automatically done with for the day. I used to weigh myself like crazy and once we change one thing on or in our body, the scale is totally inaccurate!!

The only time it's a true reading is after getting up, using the bathroom, taking off your clothes, stepping on the scale. After that we can't see anything, especially progress!! So then I wait patiently until the next morning to see where I'm at. :dizzy:

wolfgirl69
04-24-2013, 07:29 PM
So many great ideas! My mom has offered to take it to work with her. It's going to drive me crazy not having it but hey it'll probably help me so. Thanks you guys! :D I love this place-so supportive. :)

Arctic Mama
04-24-2013, 07:46 PM
That's way beyond healthy, especially if you can't physically stop yourself or fixate on it. I'd suggest either tossing it completely or, as someone else mentioned, having it be out of the house for most of the day. But honestly, if this is a tendency for you tossing the scale and focusing solely on behaviors that actually affect your health (like eating on plan or getting your daily activity in) is going to be much more helpful long term.

wolfgirl69
04-24-2013, 08:46 PM
So here's the plan. I get to weigh every morning-then my mom to takes it with it to work all day (And she works late). So there we go :D It's gonna be heck for me the first few days though.

elvislover324
04-24-2013, 08:48 PM
So here's the plan. I get to weigh every morning-then my mom to takes it with it to work all day (And she works late). So there we go :D It's gonna be heck for me the first few days though.

You are going to do awesome!! :carrot::carrot::carrot:

Keep Moving Forward
04-24-2013, 08:58 PM
So here's the plan. I get to weigh every morning-then my mom to takes it with it to work all day (And she works late). So there we go :D It's gonna be heck for me the first few days though.

Sounds like a good plan! Good luck! Breaking up with the scale can seriously suck, but you can do it :)

Out of curiosity, did you find a habit to replace weighing yourself?

wolfgirl69
04-24-2013, 09:20 PM
Sounds like a good plan! Good luck! Breaking up with the scale can seriously suck, but you can do it :)

Out of curiosity, did you find a habit to replace weighing yourself?

Nope lol that's why it's gonna be heck haha

RavenWolf
04-24-2013, 09:21 PM
Get rid of the scale. If you don't have it, you can't use it. If you absolutely can't part with it, try the "hard to reach" approach.

The only other thing I can come up with is when you get the urge to weigh, walk briskly outside for a few minutes. Or read a book.

I am "scale obsessed" myself and just have to make myself walk past it.

racrane
04-25-2013, 05:15 PM
I got rid of mine. I didn't weigh myself regularly for about two years after my eating disorder treatment. Now I weigh myself once a week at my mom's house. I still don't trust myself. I would recommend you get rid of it if you feel it's still too much while your mom takes it during the day. Yes, it's rough at first, but the feeling fades after a while.

Just get rid of it. I promise you will be a happier person.

BeachBreeze2010
04-25-2013, 05:22 PM
Ummm...this doesn't sound like scale obsession in the way that we usually talk about it. I think this is a form of OCD (your focus seems more on the act of weighing than the results) and you should seek help from a therapist. An SSRI may help with the behaviors also. Simply getting rid of the scale won't work - you need to solve the underlying problem here. Finding something different to obsess on will only perpetuate avoidance of the underlying problem. Good luck and hug!

DianeM2
04-25-2013, 06:32 PM
When I quit smoking I got compulsive about reading and posting on a quit-smoking newsgroup. How about every time you have an urge to weigh, you post a post here - help somebody, play a game, or just rant. Helping others is best, because that makes you feel good in addition to being a distraction. If you're not near a computer, write a post in your head to be posted later. Good luck. My compulsion faded after a year and a half or so, when I developed other interests.

Any ideas?

Rhiko
04-26-2013, 08:12 AM
Ummm...this doesn't sound like scale obsession in the way that we usually talk about it. I think this is a form of OCD (your focus seems more on the act of weighing than the results) and you should seek help from a therapist. An SSRI may help with the behaviors also. Simply getting rid of the scale won't work - you need to solve the underlying problem here. Finding something different to obsess on will only perpetuate avoidance of the underlying problem. Good luck and hug!

I agree with this. I don't know if your mother taking it away will help in the long-term. How likely are you to go and buy a new scale while your mother has your other one? I think that you need to figure out the reason why you need to weight yourself all of the time. You mentioned you were anorexic once before, so I wonder if the issues surrounding that period of your life aren't resolved.

You have an addiction to the scales like an addiction to, say, chocolate or smoking and you need to gradually change your habits. It's not going to be done overnight :)
My advice would be to start with positive thinking, to tell yourself every day that you are wonderful and that you are losing weight to be healthy, not to get thin.

You will get there. You have the ability to make positive changes in your life, it's all a process of trial and error. :) If your mum taking the scales to work doesn't work for you, then try something else.

Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up ~ Thomas A. Edison

Don't be afraid to fail. Don't waste energy trying to cover up failure. Learn from your failures and go on to the next challenge. It's OK to fail. If you're not failing, you're not growing ~ H. Stanley Judd

sacha
04-26-2013, 10:18 AM
Ummm...this doesn't sound like scale obsession in the way that we usually talk about it. I think this is a form of OCD (your focus seems more on the act of weighing than the results) and you should seek help from a therapist. An SSRI may help with the behaviors also. Simply getting rid of the scale won't work - you need to solve the underlying problem here. Finding something different to obsess on will only perpetuate avoidance of the underlying problem. Good luck and hug!

I was thinking the same thing - this sounds like a form of OCD (and while you have/had anorexia, a person may have several issues at once, and this may not be a result of the anorexia). People with OCD have anxiety and perform certain tasks to try and relieve the anxiety. Does that sound familiar? The scale is just a symptom of a larger problem. This is unhealthy behaviour, as you already know, but it may require additional mental health professionals.

wolfgirl69
04-26-2013, 10:23 AM
Okay no I am not OCD it IS the results I am after. They reassure me that I am doing good on my diet. Once in the morning is not enough reassurance. I have two voices in my head-one good and telling me how great I'm doing-and one bad telling me how horribly I'm doing. The mean one wins. My therapist wants me to try to fight it if I can but understand if I can not.

wolfgirl69
04-26-2013, 11:09 PM
I went a whole day weigh myself only in the morning and at night! Just like my therapist said I could! :D YAY! And it was actually easy. It's easier when you don't have the option lol. :D

Rhiko
04-27-2013, 03:50 AM
I went a whole day weigh myself only in the morning and at night! Just like my therapist said I could! :D YAY! And it was actually easy. It's easier when you don't have the option lol. :D

Awesome :D :bravo:

wolfgirl69
04-27-2013, 04:04 AM
Awesome :D :bravo:

Thank you! :D

Chronostasis
04-27-2013, 11:27 AM
Great job! Keep up the good work :D