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mandypandy2246
04-02-2013, 02:08 AM
So I have some good friends who have been helping me clean my closet - figure out how to present and dress myself better. They are amazed that although I appear to wear crap daily (I do! I am a sneakers and t-shirt kind of girl), I really do have some nice things and I really would like to present myself better.

The big question though - is that some of the things they want me to wear I think are too small. By "too small", I don't mean busting at the seams ... I mean they are more form fitting which means showing stomach rolls etc. The friends think these things look better than the oversized stuff I currently wear. I personally, don't think I've lost enough weight to wear these things.

Obviously, I need to feel comfortable - and that is important. But should I be pushing myself a little out of my comfort zone and wear tighter looking clothes that my friends swear look good on me? (I trust these people). How comfortable are you showing your figure? Do you think people look better in figure showing clothes than they do in bigger things that hide more lumps and bumps?


Woo
04-02-2013, 03:32 AM
I personally find when I look at the mirror.. I see all the faults because that's what I am looking for. Im not comfortable wearing tight clothes or anything because when I do I look in the mirror and I'm like Gosh you ate all the pies haha but truth of the matter is, we see our faults because we know they are there but other people (most people) don't look or judge us that way. I would trust them, being your friends they would know how you feel and have felt about your weight and wouldn't tell you something didnt look nice if they didnt think it would :) Sorry bit of a ramble but hopefully somewhere it makes sense.

Smuffer
04-02-2013, 04:22 AM
I think the most important thing is for YOU to be comfortable, whatever that means for you :)

When I wear clothes that are too form fitting, I'm really self conscious all day and have the urge to run home and change. I like clothes that skim the body, u see your curves but not your rolls lol, yes, there is a difference :hugs:


Novus
04-02-2013, 04:31 AM
IMO, when you look at yourself, you scrutinize and see every lump and bump and imperfection. When other people look at you, it's often just a passing glance that sees a general shape. When you wear clothing that is too loose, people register your shape as "fat, shapeless, blob." When you more form-fitting clothing, they see you as smaller. Just remember, though, that there's a big difference between "form-fitting" and "sausage casing"! ;)

AlmostMe
04-02-2013, 06:04 AM
I completely agree with Novus. I used to wear really baggy clothes, but what it did was hide my relatively slim waist. It's more important to emphasise the positive than to cover up the negative. Really.

Wannabeskinny
04-02-2013, 07:03 AM
I battle with this all the time. I love my hourglass shape, but I find my form fitting clothes showcase my belly rolls. I don't know what to say, just exercise. Exercise makes me feel skinnier and more confident than I really am.

VermontMom
04-02-2013, 07:45 AM
I guess I would trust your friends' advice. but I struggle daily with this too! if something feels form-fitting to me, I feel fat. If something is loose, I feel sloppy. WTH.

Garnet2727
04-02-2013, 08:12 AM
I'm having the same struggle. I have a blouse that I bought a few weeks ago that is a color combination that just makes my eyes and hair pop. It also emphasizes my boobage. When I modeled it for my husband, he lit up like a Christmas tree. The problem, though, is that it is very form fitting across my belly. Hubby and my best friend don't even see that but I still haven't worn it outside of the house because I feel like mah belleh is on parade when I wear it.

nelie
04-02-2013, 08:27 AM
I think loose clothing tends to make you look a lot bigger than you are. I've always worn fitted/semi-fitted clothes but do my best to prevent muffin tops on my jeans.

L J
04-02-2013, 08:46 AM
It's hard to find a balance. I gravitate towards floppy t shirts and sweatshirts to hide my imperfections. But, I know I look better when my clothes are more fitted.

I think if you like the way your friends look, you can trust their advice. If you regularly look at them and cringe thinking, "She shouldn't be wearing that," then maybe not.

My mom is my go to for telling me what I can pull off and what I can't, I know she isn't going to lie to me and let me look ridiculous. But, even if she tells me it looks good, if I feel horribly self conscious and I find myself trying to cover myself with my arms and tugging on my clothes, I change. Confidence is the most attractive thing a woman of any size can wear.

Megan1982
04-02-2013, 08:52 AM
I had lost some weight in college and had a similar situation. Some friends took me shopping and bought me pants that were much more form fitting than I was used to, and in truth, fit me quite well. I had a hard time with the concept as I also tried to hide in baggy clothes. Looking back at photos, I looked so much better in the proper sized clothing.

You mentioned being pushed out of your comfort zone. I think a little pushing is fine, but of course you don't want to be terribly uncomfortable. Maybe try wearing one form-fitting clothing item at a time and see you how you feel. I agree with novus, there is a difference between form fitting and sausage casing, but I don't think your friends would steer you wrong. Perhaps look at what they wear. If they look nice in their clothes, perhaps it's worth taking advice from them.

elvislover324
04-02-2013, 09:05 AM
I guess I would trust your friends' advice. but I struggle daily with this too! if something feels form-fitting to me, I feel fat. If something is loose, I feel sloppy. WTH.

I agree with VermontMom, try and trust your friends advice.

It's hard for me to get used to my new body. It's like I am meeting it for the first time! Congrats on your weightloss!

Silverfire
04-02-2013, 09:11 AM
Yup! This is me. I hate it when my shirts are too tight across my belly. I have a little bit of a waist, when you look at me from the front, but from the side, I'm ALL belly. I have lots of tops that I wear that are mostly flattering, but then I throw a hoodie over top so my belly isn't hanging out! I will even wear a short sleeved hoodie in the summer to hide my belly! I generally wear my pants below my belly too, otherwise I feel like I am being cut off in the middle, so shirts are never long enough to hide my stomach hanging over my pants and out from under shirts!

Wear what makes you comfortable. You are going to look better wearing something with confidence, than wearing something that you will be uncomfortable in and constantly adjusting.

mandypandy2246
04-02-2013, 10:43 AM
Thanks for all the great advice. These friends are trustworthy in this regard - one is just this super classy type that is sort of a mentor to me who always looks professional and impeccable. I thinkI'll start slow with a happy compromise- try not to wear such baggy things but find the comprimise between form fitting and covering my stomach rolls in a way that makes me feel confident.

I do think though that if they say these things look fine - I should push myself to become more confident wearing them! I'm not sure how to find that confidence but will try.

Cali Doll
04-02-2013, 12:54 PM
IMO, when you look at yourself, you scrutinize and see every lump and bump and imperfection. When other people look at you, it's often just a passing glance that sees a general shape. When you wear clothing that is too loose, people register your shape as "fat, shapeless, blob." When you more form-fitting clothing, they see you as smaller. Just remember, though, that there's a big difference between "form-fitting" and "sausage casing"! ;)

I agee 100%! Baggy clothes aren't flattering on anyone. Your clothes should accentuate your body. However, you shouldn't feel uncomfortable. I guess you have to find that balance.

Quirky Chick
04-02-2013, 01:26 PM
That sounds really similar to me. I tend to wear jeans, sneakers, and either a t-shirt or casual/semi-nice shirt. I'm not big on the tailored outfits, or form to the body clothing. I don't wear extremely baggy stuff, but I prefer my shirts to go a few inches past the waste of my jeans/pants and I don't want my shirt "tight' - I wear them with a nice breathing room fit, but I don't swim in the shirt lol. I don't know that I am being helpful, but I don't tend to like a lot of those looks that a lot of people tend to say looks great for our sizes. Some are nice, but a lot I don't think look that great on me, or a lot of other plus size women. Depends on the body and exact outfit, though. I can say though, I do hear you on this.

mandypandy2246
04-02-2013, 01:49 PM
Quirkychick - I dress exactly like you described. I buy cute feminine cut plain tops/tees that are baggy enough around the belly, nice jeans and sneakers. We are the same height and your starting weight is my current weight! :) Are you also an apple shape? Maybe I should buy your used clothes as you slim down!!! :)

om namah shivaya
04-02-2013, 01:51 PM
Yes! I'll tell you... in high school, my lightest weight was 118 but I didn't have any of my body 'toned'... there was still fat and belly rolls AT 118. Looking back I'm like A: holy shoot, I should have been that stand-on-top-of-a-mountain-naked-and-sing-with-my-arms-in-the-air confident but I still wasn't. Having gained 50 lbs since then I have learned that changing your MINDSET on how you PERCIEVE your body needs to happen JUST AS MUCH as actually physically changing with weight loss and gain. The funny thing is, I gained 50 lbs and hardly realized it because I was already in the fat kid mindset (I was a fat kid growing up, slimmed out in my junior year HS, and chunked up again in college). In my journey to lose weight, I am constantly feeling my body, looking at it, and noticing the small differences and feeling happy. I'm also giong to stores a lot to try on clothes and seeing how they fit. Mentally, I'm still a work in progress :) but I'm trying to point out the positives to myself now, so that I can continue to has success, but also because it's completely possible that even when you lose the weight you want, you will still feel uncomfortable! So who cares about rolls! You've lost weight, you're going to continue to lose weight, wear what you've got and be glad to be alive and working towards a goal! :D :D

mandypandy2246
04-02-2013, 01:55 PM
Yes! I'll tell you... in high school, my lightest weight was 118 but I didn't have any of my body 'toned'... there was still fat and belly rolls AT 118. Looking back I'm like A: holy shoot, I should have been that stand-on-top-of-a-mountain-naked-and-sing-with-my-arms-in-the-air confident but I still wasn't. Having gained 50 lbs since then I have learned that changing your MINDSET on how you PERCIEVE your body needs to happen JUST AS MUCH as actually physically changing with weight loss and gain. The funny thing is, I gained 50 lbs and hardly realized it because I was already in the fat kid mindset (I was a fat kid growing up, slimmed out in my junior year HS, and chunked up again in college). In my journey to lose weight, I am constantly feeling my body, looking at it, and noticing the small differences and feeling happy. I'm also giong to stores a lot to try on clothes and seeing how they fit. Mentally, I'm still a work in progress :) but I'm trying to point out the positives to myself now, so that I can continue to has success, but also because it's completely possible that even when you lose the weight you want, you will still feel uncomfortable! So who cares about rolls! You've lost weight, you're going to continue to lose weight, wear what you've got and be glad to be alive and working towards a goal! :D :D

Thank you for this beautiful motivational statement! Its true .. .they are just rolls. I love this "wear what you've got and be glad to be alive and working towards a goal!" Something I remind myself of, is that no clothes are going to hide the fact that I am a big girl - so I should just embrace it. I'm not talking looking like a sausage in casing - but its no the end of the world if appropriately dressed bulges are noticeable. And I'm starting to realize looking around, that this is a more flattering look for big girls than way oversized clothes.

IAmTheGlue
04-02-2013, 02:14 PM
I think confidence is everything. If you are uncomfortable, it will show. Take a picture of yourself in the shirt. Look at it & then look at it again in a few days.

I think sometimes you see something in a picture that is not obvious in real life. I always look in the mirror before I leave, but I was wearing my favorite hoodie around months after I should have been. When I went on vacation with my mom, husband & kids and AFTER the pictures came back... here I am wearing that baggy hoodie in most of the pictures. I was like "WTF am I doing wearing this giant sloppy thing around?" It is STILL love it, I just don't wear it in public.

I generally wear fitted shirts. I don't even own a tshirt. I think that with giant boobs, if I wear a shirt like a tshirt I look like I am way bigger than I am.

jamsk8r
04-02-2013, 02:35 PM
I can relate to this post, more because I was pretty much a tomboy growing up, and my dad raised me through my teen years. Long story short, I'm now 43 and trying to figure how to "girl up" my wardrobe somewhat, since most of it consists of work and gym clothes, and after so many years of feeling like I needed to hide every inch with ginormous men's t-shirts and baggy pants, I'm pretty clueless as to where to start. I was thinking that when I get some money freed up for clothes next time, I'd ask some friends from the gym to help me with a wardrobe makeover. I still do grubby work that requires the tshirts and carharrts, but at least I could dress nicer when I go out!

Vanessa M.
04-02-2013, 10:33 PM
Do you have any shape wear to help smooth the lumps? It may be all you need to pull it off confidently. :-)

pixiefalls
04-03-2013, 02:51 AM
I had lost some weight in college and had a similar situation. Some friends took me shopping and bought me pants that were much more form fitting than I was used to, and in truth, fit me quite well. I had a hard time with the concept as I also tried to hide in baggy clothes. Looking back at photos, I looked so much better in the proper sized clothing.

You mentioned being pushed out of your comfort zone. I think a little pushing is fine, but of course you don't want to be terribly uncomfortable. Maybe try wearing one form-fitting clothing item at a time and see you how you feel. I agree with novus, there is a difference between form fitting and sausage casing, but I don't think your friends would steer you wrong. Perhaps look at what they wear. If they look nice in their clothes, perhaps it's worth taking advice from them.

This is sound advice (as were the other replies!) I too try to hide in bigger clothes, but I've come to realize the importance of proper fitting clothes. I'm sure your friends mean you well and you look good in those clothes! Wear what you feel is most comfortable (I love the idea of trying one item at a time) and remember we tend to see more of our own flaws than others see.

Pink Hurricane
04-03-2013, 10:58 AM
IMO, when you look at yourself, you scrutinize and see every lump and bump and imperfection. When other people look at you, it's often just a passing glance that sees a general shape. When you wear clothing that is too loose, people register your shape as "fat, shapeless, blob." When you more form-fitting clothing, they see you as smaller. Just remember, though, that there's a big difference between "form-fitting" and "sausage casing"! ;)

I completely agree with the above. Wearing more fit and shapely clothing recently for me has been a battle in my head. I feel great in it, but on the other hand I know that I cannot look into the mirror for too long since I am overly critical of myself. It's a work in process, but overall I feel a lot better wearing stuff that is not super baggy and actual fits my shape, and I know those clothes will look even better every inch I lose along the way!

LadyP2013
04-03-2013, 06:01 PM
Wearing these things will help you to get comfortable in your new body......But........Wear tight clothing that you feel comfortable in.......That fits you correctly......It's all about body shape with clothing. There's different cuts, etc. in shirts, jeans, pants, skirts that will fit a different body shape perfectly. Go shopping on your own terms and try on a bunch of clothes until you find those perfect fitting clothes.....The perfect fitting ones will make you look smaller also.

mandypandy2246
04-04-2013, 02:03 AM
Great advice everyone! And I really should find some shapewear - if I could get the area around my belly button to srhink just a very tiny bit - I think I'd be comfortable in a lot more of my clothes.

Any recs for good shapewear?

My ideal thing would be like a belly band type thing that pregnant people wear - easy to get on, won't make it hard to pee while at work (a lot of the panties with tummy support or bike short type things that you can pull up high to under your boobs are a pain for peeing!!!).

I keep seeing Squeen get recommended but that seems too hardcore and potentially uncomfortable for daily use.