Body Image and Issues after Weight Loss - I am thinking of a tummy tuck... what do you think? (pic included)




sacha
03-23-2013, 08:33 AM
I know it's not a massive amount of loose skin but part of me is frustrated at my loose skin on my stomach. Do you think this is somethign to resolve itself over time or am I hooped??? It's the belly button that bugs me. My smallest baby was just under 9lbs.


LucyOlivia
03-23-2013, 08:55 AM
You seem top have a better stomach than me...Is it really loose skin or do you just need to exercise your core and abs more and reduce body fat percentage? by the way, I am not saying you are fat, you look very fit! But even fit people can improve themselves and maybe a personal trainer st the gym could get you some great results and it wouldn't cost as much? I just was surprised you were thinking of a tummy tuck based on that picture. you would never know you'd had three kids!

sacha
03-23-2013, 08:58 AM
Thanks Lucy.

I've had a very nice/flat stomach my whole life (well except for when I was 40lbs heavier lol) and so I wonder if part of it is just me needing to adjust to the new "me" rather than anything wrong. It is completely loose skin that I can pull out 3 inches ahead of me, there is really no fat to speak of.

I've been working out (powerlifting) for almost 10 years and qualified to train others, so unfortunately I don't think I can get much results beyond what I already do.


CherryPie99
03-23-2013, 08:59 AM
In my opinion you look wonderful! I mean that honestly. But, based on all my research and my own experience at a plastic surgeon's office, that skin will never firm up on it's own. Sorry.

Jen

elvislover324
03-23-2013, 09:00 AM
If I looked as good as you, I'd walk around naked! :)

Seriously though, I think you look great. But you should do what is best for you. If it will make you feel better and more confident, I'd say go for it. But if the thought of surgery is putting you off a bit, I'd say you could totally rock what you have. Good luck!

LucyOlivia
03-23-2013, 09:27 AM
Yes, I agree with Cherry pie and Elvis lover: you look great but I guess if you are unhappy then do whatever you need to get that extra boost! maybe have some consultations with a surgeon first to explore your options/what type of results you can expect. Best of luck (but damn I hope I look like you after I have kids).

sun
03-23-2013, 10:13 AM
hey I think you look great But I understand where you are coming from. Personally I wouldn't care about it because you still look smoking and I have a kind of pride in mommy bellies. Are you done having kids? I have a friend who finished having kids and had a similar belly but a bit more loose skin and she had a tummy tuck. It was something she needed to feel good. It's really up to how much is this affecting you.
cheers

berryblondeboys
03-23-2013, 10:51 AM
Honestly, I would not risk major surgery to deal with a bit of loose skin that still looks so modest and fine.

I think we get in our heads this idea of looking perfect. Well, we have babies, we gain and lose weight. We gain and lose fitness. We get older. We have accidents and get scars. We live life and it's OK for our bodies to show some wear and tear and yours shows very little wear and tear.

Is it your choice? of course, but major surgery, anesthesia is no joke and shouldn't be taken lightly either.

With that said I would think on getting a tummy tuck of someone gave me the money to do it (as I know my husband would never agree to spend the money on it), but I have far more tummy troubles and woes and even then I'm still not sure I would risk it for pure vanity reasons.

charliee
03-23-2013, 11:28 AM
I think your stomach looks great, and would be very happy if mine looked like that at the end of my journey. But I understand that when something bothers you it's personal and other people reassuring you that it's fine sometimes doesn't work.

Have you thought about trying some none surgical procedures like vela shape or cool sculpting. There are some great before and after pictures on realself.com. A lot of these treatments usually have deep discounts on groupon as well (at least in my area). It might be something to look into before surgery.

Good luck. And congrats on your weightloss!

sacha
03-23-2013, 11:34 AM
Thank you girls, I appreciate it.

I think maybe the issue is more self-acceptance than anything.

My mom had a heart attack during surgery (she was 37 years old, not much older than me) and I have a serious phobia of general anesthesia because of that. I don't think I could actually do it. It took me 5 years to show up for my wisdom tooth removal because of it.

Yes, I'm done having kids. Maybe I will just try very hard to look as good in a one piece as I can ;) It's just hard. My kids are young (3 & under) so perhaps this is more of a postpartum adjustment.

sacha
03-23-2013, 11:36 AM
I think part of the problem too, is that I am very into fitness. I love it, but it's hard when the other girls do not have children and haven't dealt with the ramifications of that. I think it can warp my perspective.

berryblondeboys
03-23-2013, 12:22 PM
I think part of the problem too, is that I am very into fitness. I love it, but it's hard when the other girls do not have children and haven't dealt with the ramifications of that. I think it can warp my perspective.

Ah yes, it is warping your perspective. For sure. Wait until these same women have babies!

See, at my fitness area, most of the instructors are mid 30s and 40s. They have great bodies and are very fit, but you can see the results of pregnancy - stretch marks, slightly poochy stomach, etc.

As my husband said when I was getting HUNDREDS of pregnancy stretch marks (and my chubby tummy had NONE before pregnancy) and I was getting freaked out by my tummy, "It's a small price to pay for the kids".

And I know women who have opted to NOT have kids just because of not wanting to deal with the physical side of it. That's their choice and I respect that, but my choice was the kids and yes, they were worth the damage they caused (and it was more than just stretch marks - but bladder issues - stress in continence, and I broke my tailbone with the youngest and I still can't sit in certain positions because of it).

sacha
03-23-2013, 12:37 PM
Thanks berry. Maybe I need to find a new crowd - I'm nearing 'retirement' age for my sport (powerlifting). I'm barely 30 which is so young but when the other girls are 20, it hits hard. Maybe part of it is the jealousy that they can recover like beasts (I'm up with the youngest alll night long! ;)). I hear you on the recovery - 14 months of colic (infant acid reflux disease) won't go down in vain, it was a great way to learn unconditional love to say the least ;) Not to mention those lovely scissors come out as my linebackers had shoulder dystocia (both of them!).

Thanks for this thread contribution all of you. It's given me a lot to think about. I think I'm going to change my general crowd instead of my body.

berryblondeboys
03-23-2013, 01:22 PM
The irony is that those 20 year olds are probably saying about you, "Dang, I hope I look that good when I'm 30 and have had two kids!" Because most likely they won't!

But for your head to be in a better place, hanging out and working out with more like-aged peers might help your self-confidence. There are tons of super fit 30 and 40 somethings too and you would be quite the inspiration!

Mozzy
03-23-2013, 01:30 PM
If you can afford it, go for it.
Cosmetic surgery is meant to help you feel better about your appearance, there's no shame in that.

sacha
03-23-2013, 01:36 PM
The irony is that those 20 year olds are probably saying about you, "Dang, I hope I look that good when I'm 30 and have had two kids!" Because most likely they won't!

But for your head to be in a better place, hanging out and working out with more like-aged peers might help your self-confidence. There are tons of super fit 30 and 40 somethings too and you would be quite the inspiration!

It sure would be nice to spend time with other women who don't think going to sleep after a late movie at 11pm and waking up at 7am is as exhausting as nursing a baby every 1-2 hours a night..... :D

I'm already done 2 loads of laundry and the dishes by 7am........ lol. Thanks :) This has been very helpful.

ReillyJ
03-23-2013, 02:21 PM
i think if you want to and have the $ for it and have thought carefully about it then you shouldn't have any shame in doing so

However

i would LOVE LOVE to have an abdomen like that. LOVE! Well i'm almost 51 and could care less about a bikini or midriff baring clothing but i would be in Heaven over that tummy, LOL

Maybe...learn to enjoy what you do have and how flat it is, etc. and admire yourself and THEN...go for a consultation :)

BreathingSpace
03-23-2013, 03:02 PM
Thanks berry. Maybe I need to find a new crowd - I'm nearing 'retirement' age for my sport (powerlifting). I'm barely 30 which is so young but when the other girls are 20, it hits hard.

Changing the crowd you run in could completely change your perspective on things! I would start with that.

However, that doesn't mean you can't look into surgical options. No one says that just because you do research and plan that you HAVE to go through with it. You could find out everything you can about it, even go as far as to find a surgeon, and then put it on the back burner for awhile as an option.

You may change your mind in 6 months from now, you never know.

deadkittens
04-03-2013, 12:31 AM
i would say over all your abdomen looks really good and if i was you i wouldnt bother getting a tummy tuck. it appears that the excess skin is mostly above the belly button but everything else looks firm and in really good shape actually. if it is just the bit above the belly button, i would wait and see if that sorts itself out but if you really are uncomfortable with it then save for the surgery while waiting to see if it goes away and if it doesnt then have the surgery if you feel the need. i think your abdomen looks good though. from 1-10 on the omg this person needs surgery i would rate you a 1 and a 1 is low and really not necessary. sure its a "flaw" but its such a small flaw that its hardly a flaw if that makes sense. its like having perfect skin but then having a freckle and thinking well im perfect but i could be just a little more perfect without this freckle.. my view anyways im sure you view it as worse than anyone else who would see it would find it because its on your body and not theirs. i think your good the way you are now.

mandypandy2246
04-03-2013, 01:34 AM
I agree that you look hot and I don't think you should get invasive surgery for somthign so minor.

Because it is so minor, maybe you could work into laser skin tightening? I looked into it a little out of curiousity at one point - and it really doesn't do very much (for people with real lose skin the results would never be noticeable) - but give you have such a small problem area, its possible you may see results.

I think if you go to realself.com you can find reviews on the different laser tightening procedures and the before/after pictures to see if that is a potential way to improve the issue and if laser tightening is worth your money.