Looking Good, Feeling Great - Do you dress more revealing the more weight you lose?




LebenAlles
03-22-2013, 11:25 AM
It's slightly embarassing to say, but I've noticed myself going away from the more prudish choices, the more I lose weight. Now, I've never really been a conservative dresser, but when I was heavier I covered up a LOT more (obviously). I find myself wanting to show off a little more these days though, while still making sure not to cross over into the slutty line...and while part of me feels like A) I'm not skinny enough yet to do this and B) It's something I might have been disdainful of in the past so I'm being hypocritcal and should be ashamed...but then on the other hand I feel like A) I'm really looking good and I make sure to only wear the most complimentary things while 'showing off' and B) Part of me is happy to have people look at me now and think something other than 'she is fat and gross'.

I'm kind of rambling now, but I just wondered if I was the only one letting my freak flag fly more now that I'm getting smaller. (While still keeping it tasteful, I promise).


Sunday115
03-22-2013, 11:32 AM
You have lost over SEVENTY pounds. By all means, let your freak flag fly!

ChickieBoom
03-22-2013, 11:35 AM
I don't think you should feel ashamed at all! I have definitely noticed that I care a lot more about how I look now. I used to wear whatever fit and covered me up the most. I didn't really have any nice clothes or shoes. Now I think about what I'm going to wear each day and I take pride in how I look. I also lean more towards wearing fitted clothes because I think that they look neater on me and are more flattering for my shape. I have a large chest so I don't like a lot of cleavage but if I'm wearing something more fitted, it's not like I can hide these girls.

I say, do what makes you feel good. You've worked hard for your new body.


Roo2
03-22-2013, 11:50 AM
Well I 've given up wearing sweats and switched back to jeans.:D

Have purchased colorful shirts for spring and summer if it ever gets here in our neck of the woods.

So the most revealing thing I will be wearing is a dress that is above the knee....
And for me that is huge and puts me out of my comfort zone.:D

Roo2:carrot::carrot::carrot::carrot:

MzJuicyD
03-22-2013, 11:57 AM
I'm way more open to colors now. I used to only buy black or grey and now I love bold colors. I'm also a fan of cute, short, fit and flare dresses! It's not super short but before I would wear dresses that go past my knees. Someone commented that I had nice legs and boy did that give me confidence! And, I used to hate dresses in general and now i wear them all the time!

MzJuicyD
03-22-2013, 11:58 AM
And to add to what I just said, sometimes when I put on clothes I feel like i still look the way i did 50 pounds ago. I start to second guess my choices but my mom comes with a "girl you are young! Go ahead and strut your stuff!" It's all mental. My mind tries to tell me that I'm still almost 300 pounds!

elvislover324
03-22-2013, 12:18 PM
I am trying to dress a little more flashy than my standard sweats but it's anxiety inducing!!

My husband and I have plans tonight with friends and they haven't seen me since I lost 1 pound, nevermind 118!! I picked out a skirt, v-neck fitted sweater, boots/tights. Something totally like the old me would wear. I can already feel myself having anxiety that I am going to look foolish and I'm not small enough to pull it off, etc. etc.

The safe thing for me to wear is jeans, flat boots, and a nice sweatshirt (I do have one that is not for the gym!). But I didn't do "all of this" to dress like I am running errands on Saturday morning.

I have a feeling I will be changing my clothes 72 times tonight before we leave!!

NorthernChick13
03-22-2013, 12:31 PM
HELLS YES, I dress more revealing! I became a teacher a few years ago and didn't realize how boobalicious everything I owned was until I learned I can't wear it anymore! Now, I LIVE for non-teaching days! I love to "let the freak flag fly!" ahaha best quote ever!

I was also much thinner a few years ago (getting it back!) and while some people lose weight and still feel overweight, I gained weight but still kept dressing like I was thin! lol cheers to my clothes looking better on me than I actually THINK they look!!

krampus
03-22-2013, 12:46 PM
Yes and no - being thinner/comfortable in my own skin for me = not feeling like I have to get "done up" to go out in public.

But when I do get "done up" - I like to show off a little, cause why bother having great legs if you wear baggy pants?

kisskiss
03-22-2013, 12:49 PM
I like to think I had style when I was bigger,
but yes, I love to wear things that are more close fitting. And, I've started wearing skirts and dresses (which is something I avoided before bc I was uncomfortable with my thighs).

Agalinfl
03-22-2013, 01:16 PM
I can't wait to start wearing skirts and dresses again...

Radiojane
03-22-2013, 01:42 PM
You have lost over SEVENTY pounds. By all means, let your freak flag fly!

THIS. You've made phenomenal progress! Show off if you want to!

But I didn't do "all of this" to dress like I am running errands on Saturday morning.
!

Absolutely! I'm only half way to where I need to be, so I'm still really big, but I'm starting to remember how great it felt to have nice clothes. When I lost a lot in high school I was a fashion plate, and I'm getting that back.

As for revealing? I don't generally go JLO with the cleavage outside of the house, but I like things that are fitted in the right way to maximize my assets. I'm definitely showing off more than I have in the last ten years!

d130
03-22-2013, 04:09 PM
I'm another yes and no similar to krampus. I definitely wear more fitted things now both for work and going out, but I like to show off my shoulders/back more now that I'm in better shape and have lost the weight - when I go out obviously (!)

I can get away with backless tops and slightly deeper v's in some ways because I'm small up top, and I can go bra-less. I do try and go for that look more now that I've got a better shape and more definition and my new wardrobe definitely reflects my taste. :)

Like she said, what's the point in doing all that work and putting in all that effort if I can't at least show it off occasionally!? :D

Scondy
03-22-2013, 07:51 PM
I started wearing shorts! So yes, you do start wearing more revealing clothes because you become prouder of your body! I know I have and it's enjoyable to be.......free. :)

Mozzy
03-22-2013, 08:58 PM
Weirdly I'm covering up more now than before, like I don't want people to notice my weight loss and make comments :-(

IanG
03-22-2013, 10:23 PM
Yes, I do. Big time.

Tight pants.

More fitted shirts.

Open shirts even.

No more vests.

etc. etc.

ReillyJ
03-22-2013, 10:28 PM
Nah, no cleavage or sexy here, LOL

BUT.. yes definitely more clingy stuff, no more baggy clothes for me!!

joefla70
03-22-2013, 10:45 PM
Yes, I do. Big time.

Tight pants.

More fitted shirts.

Open shirts even.

No more vests.

etc. etc.

LOL. It never crossed my mind that one of the guys would reply in this thread. When I read your post I couldn't help but think of you as John Travolta in "Saturday Night Fever." ;)

IanG
03-22-2013, 10:46 PM
Yep, that's the new me!

Novus
03-23-2013, 01:49 AM
I have definitely noticed that I care a lot more about how I look now. I used to wear whatever fit and covered me up the most.

^This.

I used to leave the house without even glancing in a mirror. In fact, I'd go days without looking in a mirror. I just did not care. The fat was covered and that was all that mattered. But now I find myself checking the mirror 3 or 4 times after I get dressed. :lol:

L J
03-23-2013, 09:13 AM
Yes! I am leaving the house in something other than a baggy men's sweatshirt these days. I still haven't splurged on any bright colors, but I'm thinking soon my closet will have more than black and dark grey.

I have found, since losing some of this weight, that I am having more fun with my makeup, and really playing up my eyes. Before, I didn't want to draw attention to myself at all, not even my best features.

LebenAlles
03-24-2013, 01:13 PM
Thanks for replying everybody! It's good to know that I'm not the only one. I definitely try to make sure I don't look like a total tramp but it's really an amazing thought that someone might think something about how I look other than 'fat'...and especially nice to catch my reflection somewhere and be like 'Who's that sexy thang? Oh..that's me!'....so I say everyone should let their freak flag fly in whatever capacity they like...men included! Like some of you said, we've earned this!
(shortly after my post I went on a shopping spree...it was heaven...expensive, but heaven. And in a non plus sized section of the store! woohoo!)

CabernetKitty
03-24-2013, 05:19 PM
Thanks for replying everybody! It's good to know that I'm not the only one. I definitely try to make sure I don't look like a total tramp but it's really an amazing thought that someone might think something about how I look other than 'fat'...and especially nice to catch my reflection somewhere and be like 'Who's that sexy thang? Oh..that's me!'....so I say everyone should let their freak flag fly in whatever capacity they like...men included! Like some of you said, we've earned this!
(shortly after my post I went on a shopping spree...it was heaven...expensive, but heaven. And in a non plus sized section of the store! woohoo!)
Life is too short to worry about other people's opinions. Even if you went out to the bars wearing red sequined booty shorts, you know you're not a tramp and that's what matters.

When I was younger I had friends who were total party animals and got into trouble- the funny thing was, their moms thought I was bad news because I wore short skirts and had purple hair. On the inside, I was the most conservative of the bunch! People will have their opinions...doesn't make it true. :)

elvislover324
03-24-2013, 05:40 PM
and especially nice to catch my reflection somewhere and be like 'Who's that sexy thang? Oh..that's me!'....so I say everyone should let their freak flag fly in whatever capacity they like...men included! Like some of you said, we've earned this!
(shortly after my post I went on a shopping spree...it was heaven...expensive, but heaven. And in a non plus sized section of the store! woohoo!)

This all made me so happy to read!!! So happy for you!!!:carrot::carrot::carrot:

threekidsandasheltie
03-26-2013, 09:42 AM
yes, not really revealing but definitely more fitted clothing! I still lots of issues with my body image because of extra flabby skin :(

LadyP2013
03-27-2013, 12:04 AM
I have been. I haven't been able to do it. I'm going to flaunt while I can and while I'm still young.

Jez
03-27-2013, 12:37 AM
Yes and no - being thinner/comfortable in my own skin for me = not feeling like I have to get "done up" to go out in public. I feel the same. I feel like a nice, healthy body is naturally sexy. It's like being able to run out and do errands in your gym clothes and look cute and athletic, vs being fat and going out in gym clothes, I feel looks sloppy. :-/

Life is too short to worry about other people's opinions. Even if you went out to the bars wearing red sequined booty shorts, you know you're not a tramp and that's what matters. I agree about not worrying about others' opinions. I don't care if someone looks like a "tramp", but I'll also go as far as to say that I also don't care if they DO sleep around. I see no reason to shame any of them.
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I am in the opposite boat right now. I am used to looking a lot better than I currently do. So I notice the difference in how I used to dress vs. how I dress now. Mostly because none of my clothes fit anymore, and I hate clothes shopping, so it's limited.

PaintedPonies
03-27-2013, 09:39 PM
My views on modesty changed drastically when I lost weight!
I went from little chubby conservative girl who thought shirts were too low if I could see any skin on my chest when looking down, and shorts were too short if they were more than a few inches above my knee. I would never wear tank tops or skirts/dresses. I thought bikinis were awful.

When I lost weight, then came the cute bikinis and short skirts and tank tops and cleavage!

Now that I gained 50 lbs, I miss being comfortable in those clothes... I will get there soon, though!

I'm not very modest... But I'm not trampy. I just like to be free. And I'm pro-nude. :)

It's actually funny, I have no problem getting naked to sauna with a bunch of other people (mixed sex and gender), but the thought of wearing swimsuits and shorts scares me...

anyway, I agree with others- you lost the weight, revel in it, be proud of your body and show it off!