Beck Diet Solution - Beck Diet For Life/Solution – March 2013 – Support, Discussion, Buddy/Coach

03-01-2013, 07:18 AM
Welcome to the discussion group, support group, diet coach group, diet buddy group relating to the two books by Dr. Judith S. Beck:The Complete Beck Diet for Life ( the first bookThe Beck DIET solution: train your brain to think like a thin person. (

The Beck Diet Solution is a psychological program, not a food plan. It provides a step-by-step program to learn specific techniques to stay on our diet, lose weight, and maintain our weight loss for life. The program is based on Dr. Beck's clinical research in Cognitive Therapy (CT).

The Complete Beck Diet for Life expands the earlier work and includes a food plan with suggested menus. From the cover:With The Complete Beck Diet for Life you'll discover the 5 stages of successful dieting and maintenance. You'll learn how to motivate yourself, give yourself credit for every change you make, create time and energy for dieting, and handle hunger and cravings. Dr. Beck eases you into changing one step at a time. You'll master one task before moving on to the next. And you'll learn techniques to deal with challenging situations, such as sticking with ou plan at celebrations and dealing with "food pushers." With Dr. Beck's skills, you'll achieve a lifetime of healthful eating and lifelong motivation.

This is a place to discuss the Beck strategies and our daily efforts, to receive and provide support, and, for some of us, is where we serve as on-line diet buddy (coach) to each other.

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03-01-2013, 07:19 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Great walking day, CREDIT moi. Hoofed it to two different events and to gym. It was just chilly enough to make walking pleasant. All sidewalks are clear. There's that false sense in the air that winter is over despite the logical part of my brain remembering that many a blizzard has arrived in March. Gym was special because I worked out next to a guy who was using really heavy dumbbells that made me want to work even harder. It's hard for me to imagine ever lifting an 85 pound dumbbell in each hand as he was doing.

Meals were on plan, CREDIT moi; Snacks were about right because I skipped my planned morning and evening snacks and doubled my plan in the afternoon. DW made pumpkin soup for dinner - one of my favorite cold weather meals. Having survived February, I'm ready to bring out the patio furniture.

onebyone – Love the sardonic perspective, "Cry me a river." Congrats on your new Richeson Baby Press. Methinks it's the salt in ham that draws us - like cows to a salt lick.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – The reminder I need, "many frustrations but I did not eat over them" - Kudos.

maryann - Now that's a motivator: "gunny-sack of oranges." Congrats for giving yourself space to mail off that packet.

Ann (Newlifestyle) - An hour of shoveling snow is great upper body exercise, Kudos. Gratitude for snow seems more likely after it's been shoveled, LOL.

BigchiefDavid – Yay for a "goofy dog" physical trainer to push you when lazy thoughts might have offered an out.

nationalparker – On plan, all week wasn't a miracle; you did it, Kudos. And Kudos for facing reality with your eye and taking a whole week. It's so easy to ignore the needs of our bodies.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Now that's working your strategies, "not finishing what I was too full for, even though it was portioned out" - Kudos. [Yep, I see excess nibbling in the scale wiggles that don't wiggle down until I've compensated.]

Nola (Nola145) – Big Kudos for seeking ways to exercise that work for you. With an extra Kudos for planning the kind of short beginnings that are a proper fit for a body that's just beginning. (My first walk was exactly around the block and no more; I was mortified, of course, LOL.) Congrats for getting your Avatar picture up.

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

characteristic 8
You Stop Dieting Once You Lose Weight

The Beck Diet Solution
In order to lose weight this time, you'll learn crucial Cognitive Therapy techniques that you'll use for the rest of your life. They include planning what you eat, choosing healthy foods, resisting cravings, soothing yourself without turning to food, using good eating habits, and exercising, to name but a few. You'll also learn essential skills to counter sabotaging thoughts that would otherwise lead to overeating, demoralization, and giving up. And you'll learn how to motivate yourself to use your skills in the future.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 41.

03-01-2013, 08:28 AM
Happy March... I've been really sick.(cold, fever, body aches, etc) Our darling little Maya Jane gave DH & I the a cold or flu. Am starting to feel better. Grateful. She started daycare last week for two days a week. Son and DIL had to wait until she was 10 months old to take her.(policy of center) Of course, she came down with a cold. I have always said that child care centers are like 'petri dishes' - lots of growing germs dispite all the precautions they take.

DH just woke up after sleeping for 13 hours. Yikes. Sleep is healing, though.

Yesterday I broke a tooth.. eating a cracker! I guess it was ready to break. It doesn't hurt too much because it's had a root canal years ago. Grateful.

Today I will catch up on drinking alot of water. I've got out my notebook and have started to journal. My weight has stayed the same all week.

Talk to you later.

This Beck Solution information came through my newsfeed of Facebook this morning:

Friday Weekend Warm-up: If you get off track this weekend, remember that there is NO SUCH THING as “blowing it for the whole weekend,” because if you stay off track, you’ll continue to take in more calories. There IS such a thing as making a mistake and then continuing to make mistakes, but it’s impossible to ‘blow it’ definitively because at any point you get yourself back on track puts you in a better position.

03-01-2013, 08:47 AM
HAPPY MARCH to everybody!
And have a good weekend!

03-01-2013, 12:21 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

Last night I had my birthday chair position and, for the second month in a row, I did not eat a cupcake. More specifically I did not scrape the frosting off a few cupcakes (I don't like the cake part.) Credit for resistance. I ate less then plan because I was hoping to drop a pound for the month and what happened? I went up a pound. I really hear onebyone about disappointment regarding expectations for good behavior.

Let's all chime in: It is just a number!

Mailed off my packet. Step class this morning. Credit, credit. Woke up blue—my little neurons are not efficiently processing serotonin (I listen to Dr. radio). I am making fun but it does help to know my blue periods are a direct result of biology—not moral fiber. And I can help that biology by eating right (check), exercising (check) and getting off my back for a day (check check). Didn't get to sort oranges yesterday but I will. I think I will cook some soup for the weekend. I think I will snuggle with DS tonite (the best serotonin booster in the world.)

03-01-2013, 03:58 PM
Dear coaches and friends,
I have really fallen behind with my support system here. I've caught up reading February's thread.

My little trip to Arizona was so nice but the return to real life has been rocky. I'm having strong feelings of discontent. I hope much of it is weather related and spring fever.

I'm continuing to struggle with the stinking income taxes. (The inital estimate was that we owed $5000) I saw a tax preparer last week, she was able to whittle it down to $4000 but we still have a complicated real estate sale to sort out. The frustration is that we didn't get much money from the sale but enough to hurt tax wise. I've been working on looking for records with family (through e-mails) and calling agencies. I think I'm at a dead end but at least we can get the taxes out of the way.

<skip this part if you like, in the next paragraph I'm just processing>

I'm still seeing my counselor that I started seeing after my dad's death. I am coming to grips that my sadness over my dad has tipped me into the overload area. I think I've referred to a stressful family tragedy (for lack of a better word) that started about 2.5 years ago. Much of the heavy lifting fell to me and I've never put it to rest in my mind. The situation has pretty much resolved but the emotional memories of that time linger and still leave me in tears and sadness. I want to reach a state where it is a part of my life that I made it through and not a source of pain that feels like it's still going on.

Weight Loss: I'm hanging at 195.4. Less than 1/2 a pound from 20 pounds total. Tomorrow is my official weigh in so I hope I'll be there. Food has been pretty good, exercise doesn't exist. This shall be the month to change that. I remembered I have a Walk Away the Pounds video that I will start with.

Bill So glad to hear that you have been pronounced "healed" as far as your leg. I got the giggles with your umbrella story.
IBelieveInMeLast week you posted about being at your lake home and the mentality of "vacation eating". I also have a summer home too and I have that same problem there. It's a strong mindset. Thank you for the sunshine you sent to me last week.
NationalParker So sorry to hear about your eye. It sounds painful and worrysome. I hope it's on the mend. Your doctors sound like they are on top of things. How frustrating about the child support issues. That just sounds crazy. Good luck for a quick resolution.
BethI'm sending positive vibes for you to find a strategy to prepare for your gathering without the anxiety of going off plan. You are doing so well, I have so much admiration for you. Back a few days ago you said that you have a hard time sometimes with your step-kids but your husband's is awsome. I had to think for a minute, lol.
OnebyOne I'm so impressed with the way you talked your way through the scale disappointment. You are spot on in your analysis. (I'm referring to yesterday's post) But I did laugh at your reference to the G-D ham. I did find 2 useful points on the list for the HCG diet (planning and sleeping) otherwise, no, just no.
NolaWelcome! We are in different areas of the state but yes, enough of winter. My son lives in Portland. I plan to get over there to see him the first week in April. I miss him so much. You are off to a fabulous start, I'm right with you on being out of shape and would rather crawl into bed with a book most evenings than think about exercise.
DaveWelcome back to getting on the wagon again.
Ann So glad to have you back. Like I said on the declutter's thread, you sound so optomistic and determined. I missed you and thought of you often.
BeverlyOuch on breaking a tooth on a cracker. It's almost funny when it happens. You are doing so well. Kudos for your planning and staying on track!
Kitty Sorry to hear you are having to work extra but major kudo's for not neglecting your exercise. that's always the first to go for me when I get too busy. I'm impressed.
Debbie I love how you reflect on the changes you've made like walking past the Costco samples. We all need to acknowledge the changes we've made and not dwell on the ones we've want to make.
Tazzy You were right when you said you'd jinxed the dogs to wake up.
MaryAnn I hear your frustration with the degree but I KNEW you wouldn't give up now. We just juiced the oranges we picked up in AZ, so good.
GardeningJoyOh, I struggle with snacking when I'm relaxing. Good for trying new strategies for avoiding.

I think I caught up with everyone, if I missed anyone, it was not intentional. I'm glad to be caught up with all of you and met the new people. See you tomorrow (if not sooner)

03-01-2013, 04:01 PM
Happy March - and the ever-closer sliding to spring at SOME point! Spitting snow/sleet here today, but I put three small pots of yellow primroses in the window over my kitchen sink for cheer. Good news from the dr. today in that my eye showed definite signs of improvement and to follow the every two hours of meds for a week and I return for another check and steroid Rx next Friday. YAY. SO relieved about that. I let my worries get the best of me last night and tossed and turned until close to 3 a.m. I hate it when I cannot turn off my brain.

I am hoping for a good weigh in tomorrow, but know it might be a bit higher with water weight. If so, so be it. I know I've stayed within my calories (nutritionally, not so hot but a trip to the market will help with more veggies/fruits here this evening).

Maryann, I can feel your pain with just wanting to see that number. And how come it always seems to be that we go lower and go up and indulge a bit and go down. Contrary to what seems logical :)

Bill - GREAT job on keeping up the activity/exercise. And LOVE your positive thoughts on patio furniture in March - even just pulling them in and putting by a flickering fireplace ha ha! I keep wanting to grill because Lexxiss is across the country. I think we've got another month until we'll be doing that, though.

BootedKitty - Have you just been swamped with only news about the Vatican? It's certainly leading many newscasts here! I haven't been completely following it but have enjoyed the views of Roma and Vatican City! Have a super weekend - family time?

Julia150 - I think I've been stressed; I cannot imagine what you've been going through longterm. Have you ever tried yoga for mind clearing? I'm going to set that as a goal for me for March - to get back into it (lately, I've just pulled out the yoga mat and stretched out and did floor exercises. No asanas.) Hang in there and good luck with weighing in tomorrow!

03-01-2013, 05:16 PM
Hello Coaches

Bit of a bumpy day so far today, leftovers from yesterday's big events and the continuing story of those into today.

Specifically we took Looloo to the vet last night. She gets the sniffles and gets all stuffed up and it comes back again and again. This is our :celebrate: 1 yr anniversary of having Looloo come to live with us. Also, one year that I came home from my Key West residency.

A year goes by so fast.

Looloo's been to the vet 3x in this one year. All for nose stuff: being way too stuffed twice and then the nosebleeds inbetween that, when she collpased on the floor. We thught she was a goner then, but she's still here, sniffling away. Actaully my old vet, who we consulted after the nosebleed episode, called it "snuffles". So I guess he's snuffling---which just sounds way more adorable than it actually is.

Anyway, at the vet last night at least she could be handled. Much improved in that way. He gave her the antibiotic shot and we wait. She doesn't seem great today though but it's too early. She isn't hiding though and that's a good sign. Even ate a bit and drank water and got up to sit in the window in the sun until she was so hot you could hardly pat her. (HEY WE HAVE SUN!)

So food today is more than I wanted and I didn't plan my lunch--just pulled one o the leftover's DH brought me home and dug in. Dug in and should have stopped earlier BUT *credit I stopped, I threw the extra food away, I tracked my food, I'm making a plan for dinner so I don't do the same thing twice in one day. I also didn't step on the scale. We had takeout last night and I tracked it but just didn't want to see that scale even higher than it was on weigh-in day. Now I wish I had seen it cause I am just imagining the worst. My brain is not my friend when it comes to food and things related to food. It's why I need a plan and coaches and this sounding board. Thanks, and have a good day.

03-01-2013, 06:15 PM
Happy March, new friends and coaches. Day 11 for me. I enjoyed reading your posts. I am learning so much from you all.
Although I planned my meals for the day (credit), I didn't get to my BDS reading today until after lunch. That's when I found out I should have been gauging and tracking my hunger all day today. I will have to push that exercise to tomorrow. I do notice I feel resistant to doing it; I want to eat what I've planned and not pay attention to how full I may be getting. Yikes!
Did my 10 minute walk as planned. (credit) It was a bit of a stretch to go past 7 minutes. I will probably stay at 10 for a few days. Yes, I am a wimp. Bill, how long did it take you to go from just getting around the block to showing up regularly at the gym?
Coaches, I have been pretty much perfect in the planning/eating food department since I started and that really worries me, because it feels like all the other diets I've been on where I start out great and peter out after two weeks. That two-week mark is getting close. What made the biggest difference for you all between this program and others you tried? Appreciate your insights.
- Nola

03-01-2013, 07:49 PM
Hi Coaches!

I finally got here....tried this morning but internet was too slow to let me reply. It's still slow :shrug: so I'll be brief:

Overate OP foods yesterday but didn't binge on junk. credit. Weighed this morning then had to change plans from "day off at home" to take mom to Denver...snow was coming. I already had a Sumo in my bag and grabbed a banana and filled my water bottle. I ended up not eating either, and enjoyed a healthy lunch at the asianfusion place. credit. Dinner is planned...a vegan BLT.

I don't know what's happened to my internet service and I have to be to work at 530 tomorrow morning so I'll check in later tomorrow and will zip an email VIA iphone to my personal beck buddy. credit.

03-01-2013, 08:30 PM
Good news! At eye appt. dr. said it's showing marked improvement and continue on the meds every two hours for the next week and a followup next Friday. WHEW. I was worried! I feel a sense of relief.

Did a solid marketing trip this evening - and have wonderful ingredients for healthy meals. Does anyone else come back and want EVERYTHING right away? I am thinking, hmmm... the turkey and bean chili sounds great for the weekend - lots of tomatoes, peppers and onions, but so do the chicken and bean and onion enchiladas... hmmm... how about the pesto chicken panini? :) So to work on the meal plan for the week. DH is working tonight - his last shift for this go-round.

03-02-2013, 12:26 AM
Hi Everyone,

Wow, the March thread already. Where does the time go? Did well yesterday until dinner time. Didn't have DS here as he is at his mom's house on Thursdays. Not always a good thing for DH and I as then we both use fend for ourselves. And I apparently have a whole new category of the major food groups: cereal, yogurt (at this point it was still looking good), ice cream, crackers, chips and chocolate. Pretty sure those last 4 are not major food groups! I was having one of those "I could eat everything days" and apparently I did. This morning at work I put it all in my tracker and realized that points wise it was not as bad as I expected, still no excuse for doing it though. Must have been those darn chocolate covered macadamias! I'm going to send them to you BBE. I'm sure a trip across the continent would be fine for them.

I had a better day today, took the dogs to work briefly before dropping them at doggy daycare to get their nails done. These boys get more spa days than me. Everyone I work with was so surprised at how big they are, the last time they saw either of them was probably at the 4 - 5 month age, Dexter is now around 11 months old so really big change there. Picked up a couple of tired pooches at the end of the day and they've been sleeping most of the evening. Time to get them upstairs and settled into their beds for the night.

Most exciting thing for me today is that we had a central vaccum system installed and I spent all evening vacuuming everything I could. It's quite cool to have a powerhead that pulls itself along because it has so much suction. Makes the task almost enjoyable. :D

Busy weekend ahead, eye dr appt for DS tomorrow, want to check out the home and garden show happening and one of my nephews is coming to live with us for 2 months while he does his second year of apprenticeship training. Looking forward to having him around.

In case I don't make it back tomorrow have a great day everyone. We had temperatures of +12C here today and it's predicted for tomorrow too. Sunday is supposed to be 10 - 15cm (4-6") of snow so will likely stay in the house more that day. Oh the Alberta weather, ever-changing. :wave:

03-02-2013, 12:57 AM
Hi all,

Food was OP today--credit for that. I hadn't been able to plan a specific lunch (college cafeteria day) but had a lovely salad that fit perfectly into my day. Dinner was OP and delicious--and my BFF arrived today to spend a few days with us.

Exercise was all spontaneous--traipsing around that college campus. It's strange realizing DD will be off at school next year--we'll be empty nesters with all three out of the house.

I can't even plan my meals for tomorrow--we're having both lunch and dinner out in order to pick a restaurant to cater one night of our event. I'll just have to be mindful.

Tomorrow we start our baking and cooking. We're making multiple treats. I'm really glad I've been practicing and really succeeding at not eating standing up--it'll keep me from spoon licking and such while baking. Once the treats are in the freezer, I don't have a problem leaving them alone. So, I'm planning one of each treat as we make it and freeze it--and that's all. (Believe it or not, every year we make 40 or 50 dozen cookies/bars/etc, and no one in my family touches them once they're bagged and frozen and marked!)

At least I'll find the black beans easy to resist :-), and chicken is easy to resist compared to peanut butter cookie dough.

By Monday night, we should be done with all of the baking and cooking. I'll still have lots of pre-event planning and shopping to do, but I won't be facing temptations in the kitchen the same way.

There will always be other opportunities for any food--I can just have one now and there will be times in the future where there will be other chances.

Take care, all.

03-02-2013, 01:58 AM
I feel so inadequate right now in the weight loss department. I weighed in Thursday and was up a pound. Temporarily threw in the towel....... and thought, "I have been working so hard and this?!?" and proceeded to go get those damn Cinnamelts from McDonald's this time. :o I was craving them and my mouth was salivating waiting in line (sorry if TMI), so I know it was emotional eating. How do I break this pattern of food addiction??? Despite years of therapy, there are obviously still underlying issues that I am not facing in a healthy way. Part of me really wants to face my fears and get to the bottom of things and the other part of me wants to ignore it and "numb out" on food. It feels like a constant struggle for me. Does anyone else feel this way? When I read your posts, I feel like everyone else is making progress and, just as soon as I begin to, I somehow sabotage myself and take 2 steps backward. :( I am really feeling defeated tonight, but I will attempt to pick up the pieces and begin fresh with a workout in the morning. Please send me strength!!! :^:

03-02-2013, 07:17 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Walked, CREDIT moi, to hear a presentation about how the U.S. Economy is doing. Ouch. What a depressing subject. Trillions of dollars are hard for me to envision when I think the price of a new car is a bunch. And it makes me happy to buy salad dressing at a dollar off. The speaker wasn't wearing Prada, herself, but tossed trillions of dollars from chart to chart with ease. Ouch, again.

Eating was on plan, CREDIT moi, with snacks under control by being busy but not stressed. The pattern is obvious; the solution escapes me. I don't know how to eliminate all stress in my life - certainly not by thinking about the U.S. or World economy. Or taxes. Or home repair. Or the need for new cars. I'm off this morning to see what early Spring birds have arrived. That's relaxing for me, but small birds don't live through a harsh winter night if they haven't found enough food during the day. Now that's stress!

onebyone – Ouch for Looloo's sniffles - without even going to daycare, LOL. Yay for enough sun to warm a cat. Sunshine helps my brain focus on non-food things.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Just love the notion of a "a vegan BLT." Before our local vegan restaurant closed, DW would order the vegan Bacon Cheeseburger and I'd laugh the entire meal.

Beverlyjoy – Petri dishes indeed. Enjoy the thought that you're part of your GD improving her immune system for her lifetime. Ouch for the broken tooth - hope there's a fix.

maryann - It is just a number! It is just a number! It is just a number! Congrats for getting your packet into the mail. Sending your blue neurons some cyber hugs to get their axons firing.

Tazzy - I'm green with jealousy for your central vacuum system - the geek in me has always wanted one. LOL at your expansion of the major food groups. And shuddering at the thought that chocolate covered macadamia nuts are about to arrive at my front door - I'm off to find an appropriate filing cabinet they can sit upon.

nationalparker – Yes, if we keep cheering Spring will just slide in - officially in only three weeks. Yay for yellow primroses to encourage it along. Glad to hear that your eye is improving.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – "40 or 50 dozen cookies/bars/etc" is one whole lot of sugar. Kudos for having a one-each plan and quickly getting them to the freezer.

IBelieveInMe2 – Yep, the old way of eating drops by the visit from time to time. You got back on your path, the most important thing, Kudos, Kudos, Kudos. It's probably true that twenty years of psychoanalysis will find the root of your food thoughts. But it's also probably true that some carefully crafted strategies can get you past MacDonald's Cinnamelts in less time. Can you devise a plan for getting past MacDonald's? Maybe walking a different way so that addictive smell doesn't hit you. Sending my best supportive thoughts for you to find the strength and wisdom to stay your path.

Julia (Julia150) – Kudos for processing. Process here and then process here some more. Repetition changes the pathways of the neurons in your brain. Good luck at your weigh-in today.

Nola (Nola145) – It's a big step to be aware of how full you feel at every meal - Kudos for that. [My walking increased more rapidly than I expected; I added extra minutes every day. Amazes me that the body can respond that rapidly. I started going to the gym after about three weeks. First sessions were wimpy, wimpy, wimpy. I sat on a yoga ball moving small dumbbells looking at myself in the mirror and seeing the Michelin Man. Ouch. But, I just kept going.]

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

characteristic 8
You Stop Dieting Once You Lose Weight

The Beck Diet Solution
...The good news is that once you learn these skills, dieting becomes much easier. And so does maintaining your weight loss. The dieters I counsel tell me this all the time. It doesn't require as much effort to maintain your weight as it does to lose it - if you learn the skills you need along the way.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 41.

03-02-2013, 08:25 AM
Good morning coaches

Where is my post from yesterday? I was sure I posted here yesterday. I have been very busy as we are going on vacation Monday for two weeks. I think I need a vacation...I know don't we all.
I will try to post while I am away. I know I will get much unplanned walking in.
I worked yesterday and I am struggling with whether I should stay at my job or move on. I volunteer and that energizes me, while my job doesn't seem fun to me anymore. I always said, "When I stop having fun here, I will move on." I am unsure if it is everything that has happened in my life recently or that it is time to move on. I will go on my vacation and maybe I will see things clearer. Eating was on plan yesterday. I need to make a plan for vacation as I know how appealing fast food can be when I am hungry. I don't enjoy it so I will try to plan for healthy eating.
Only walked about 20 minutes yesterday, guess that is better than not walking.
House need cleaning today so I need to go.
Thanks for all the wonderful posts that make me more aware of my journey. I appreciate all of you.
Have a great day everyone.
Take Care

03-02-2013, 08:29 AM
Hi Coaches!

Could slip in now and perhaps not later...weighed, smoothied, packed Sumo and am off to work. Food OP yesterday, except for an evening dip into the homemade granola. Ouch but grateful to make better choices...still.

Nola(Nola145), great job starting with exercise. I join BBE as one who started by going around the block(on a bike) was all I could do. You've got the idea...just keep making baby steps and they add up. I upgraded to a better bike several years ago then bought yet another last fall. I put cyclometers on both and have logged hundreds of miles. I'm grateful that I kept trying.

IBelieveinMe2, often my "success" is just getting here. Kudos for getting here and for finding strength to keep going.

Ok, work calls

03-02-2013, 09:31 AM
I haven't been following Beck to a tee. I even went ahead and made all the cards and haven't used them yet! But I think writing all the cards has helped keep things in mind.

Today, I had a huge issue with a food pusher. Every time I was by her (and she was eating), she was trying to push food at me. I feel like she was even getting a bit upset cause she offered 3 times or more each time (this was 3 different instances through the night). Honestly the way I figured, if I was going to eat anything off plan, it better be worth it (like a chocolate truffle or something I rarely have). Peanut butter girl scout cookies and dill thank you!

03-02-2013, 11:18 AM
Happy weekend! I'm off to a good start today, seeing a two pound loss on the scale! Then my mind immediately puts it down - "it'll stay there for a while, it never drops more than a half or pound per week..." Shush, negative thinking. And if it does, it's better than going up! :)

Think we're going to go see Quartet today - not sure why DH is interested (?) but I'm thankful for that. We don't see many movies in the theatre.

Goal this weekend is to stay focused and not let up.

03-02-2013, 12:14 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

I can't help but feel a little guilty when those of you from four season places talk about winter. It has been a sunny 65 degrees here for two weeks and the blossoms are out. We have the opposite problem—spring can't come until we get more rain. Farmer DH is facing draught conditions. So come on March rain. Bring it on.

I am officially changing my ticker back up a pound which is disappointing. I was hesitant to do it(just give me a few more days to lose) but I value the truth more than I value looking good. Food was healthy and reasonable like it has been for a week but the portions are just too big to lose. I am apparently a genius at maintaining. GRRR.

Still, credit for seeing the whole picture:
Once over two hundred pounds, I only shopped at Lane Bryant. I had one pair of pants that fit and a stained sweatshirt that was my everyday wear.I rarely looked in the mirror, had clothes that were ill fit, was baffled over hair and make up.

Today, every piece of clothing fits, some are single digit sizes. I weigh less than on my wedding day twelve years ago. I can complete an entire step class. I still can't do hair and makeup but I splurge on getting my hair done once a week.

These things sound superficial but they are evidence that I value mysel today when in the past I literally felt like I was an ugly monster. Today I only have people in my life that love me and treat me respectfully. That was not always the case. Today, when the blues hit, I can modify my schedule, be gentle and not participate in self destructive behavior. I am 25 years sober.

When compared to all these good things, a pound on the scale seems pretty insignificant.

Nola145: Although I lost the majority of my weight before BDS, the program has helped big time with the last of it. This program is different. It focuses on always being accountable rather just on what you ate. It talks about behavior not calories. Although my food plan is not causing me to lose, I have maintain with a great deal of peace for closing in on three years. That is the difference.

03-02-2013, 03:14 PM
:wave: Daimere!!! Welcome to the group! Best of luck to you with using Dr. Beck's principles for your weight loss journey!!! :)

03-02-2013, 03:36 PM
Hi becksters - glad to say I stayed with my plan yesterday. I was mindful of sodium, too. It's been a while since I've kept track. I didn't keep track when I was feeling sick this week. I am better.. almost. DH is making progress.

Some of my credits: planned/measured/logged food, drank more water, kept track of my sodium, and prepped lots of healthy foods to have ready.

Tomorrow afternoon is a bridal shower for my neighbor. I don't know what will be served. I will make choices mindful of sodium and a broken tooth. (I will see the dentist on Tuesday morning).

Hope you are having a healthy day.

WELCOME! - nola145 & Daimere - I am so glad you posted. I've beenout of town and then sick so I havn't had a chance for a welcome, yet. Folks here are helpful & supportive. I find that Dr.Beck's principles are helpful in my finding some sanity with food.

03-02-2013, 03:57 PM
Hello and happy Saturday, Coaches. Today I am doing the day 11 exercise that I missed yesterday, of gauging how hungry I am before and after meals. So far no big surprises. I did my 10-minute walk again, this time indoors at work. Saturdays are quiet here, and I can work up a decent head of steam in the 50' carpeted hallway. Better than nothing.
After my stellar week 1, my weight is not budging at all this week. I am looking at making some tweaks to my calorie intake starting next week. As you all have talked about, it is discouraging to be working the program, eating OP, exercising and not seeing a change for all one's efforts. I know it is early in the game and I am not even close to calling it quits. There has got to be a workable change or two I can make.
Bill, loved your Michelin Man image. Three weeks from sidewalk to gym is impressive.
You all keep on keepin' on. Have a great weekend!
- Nola

03-02-2013, 05:58 PM
Hey all,

Just a quick check-in before starting to bake. We went out for Chinese for a fact-finding mission and I ate too much. I have uncomfortably full. I didn't eat as much as I used to and then I was probably used to being uncomfortably full. Now, I don't like that feeling at all--my stomach feels heavy and I am really regretting that I didn't portion off my food before before eating. The food was good-but I should have eaten less.

I will learn from this--eating as much as I used to does not feel good--it feels uncomfortable and unpleasant.

So, credit to me for recognizing what happened. And I think I'll take advantage of the uncomfortable tummy to do some baking of delicious stuff--I'll feel less tempted.

03-02-2013, 06:45 PM
Hello coaches and friends,

Today was my official weigh-in day. <Drum roll> I had a 3 pound loss!!! Last week was a very small loss so I guess it was averaging out. I'm down a total of 17.2 since 1/12 and 22 since 11/14/12. I need to fix my signature and ticker. I'm more than a third of the way to my goal. Now I'll focus on chasing the halfway mark.

<processing here> Yesterday I wrote a chronological history of the "tragedy". I put all of my memories, the facts and the emotions, into words on paper. I went to a trauma class that worked with moving the emotional memory into the factual, thinking part of the brain. I'll re-read it to myself and to DH to get those neural pathways established.

NationalParker I have often thought I'd like to learn Yoga, I went to one class awhile back. Right now I can't put out $$ for anymore classes. Do you think I could learn from a DVD? I'm so glad you have good news on your eye. I thought the previews to quartet looked good. LOL on not knowing what to make first when you get home from shopping. I do that too, it all sounds good!
Tazzy Too cool to have central vac.
Beth Your comment about having future opportunites for treats is something I use for myself. I tell myself the same thing when I'm tempted by a treat. I tell myself "later, when you are maintaining you can enjoy one of those". It helps me to remember that whatever it is will still be available someday down the road.
Nola Today was the end of week 7 for me. I haven't been perfect on following my plan but I've lost 17.8 pounds. I completely understand your fears about petering out after the first few weeks. I've done that before. I do the best when I have a support group. I lost almost 70 pounds a few years ago, what kept me OP was the support I got on an online forum. The people you interact with here understand what you are talking about and have the same struggles. It helps me so much to read about other people's success and gives me the opportunity to support other people. That's my word of advice to you about fizzling out. Look at the successful people here, Bill, Debbie, MaryAnn and Gardnerjoy are a few of the people I look up to. They stuck with it for the long term and they are maintaining their loss. (Maintaining is a real problem for me) The people who are in the process inspire me by their dedication. So, bottom line after that rambling: Stick around the fabulous people here who will support and encouage you. If you stumble as we all do, don't go hide away from us. Come back for all that the group has to offer. Perfect is good but 90% works too.
Bill Economy ugh. I don't need anything else to be depressed about. Thank you for encouraging me to process here. I'll try to put up a disclaimer so people don't read my rambling.
Daimere Food pusher can be such a pain. When I don't want to hurt a food pushers feelings or they persist, I accept their kind offering and tell them I'm going to save it for later. As soon as they are out of sight, in the garbage it goes. It goes against my grain to waste food but like a WW once said "It goes to waste one way or another" (pretty sure she was referring to it ending up as poo.) Welcome, I haven't seen your posts before.
MaryAnn May I say WOW on how far you've come. I like the way you just put it all in perspective. You may weigh more than what your goal is but major kudos for how far you've come. Your whole post was inspiring. Thank you maryann.
Ann, have a wonderful vacation!


03-02-2013, 07:08 PM
There have been so many times I could have written just what you did. Sometimes the scale just doesn't play fair. When I see a gain after I've been so faithful to my plan I'm disappointed but try to remember that the number isn't always a reflection of weight loss. It's also a reflection of fluids you're carrying around and lots of variables. I try to be patient and I'm often rewarded with a lower number in the next few days. Like everyone keeps saying here, It's only a number, It's only a number It's only a number. That's a hard concept for me to internalize as the only way I have to measure progress in the short term is that stupid number on the scale. We can work on that together. In the longer term I measure progress in smaller size clothes. Also, you didn't take 2 steps backward with the melts, maybe a 1/4 of a step. :)
I think we all probably have unresolved issues that cause us to eat emotionally. Whether or not you get to the ultimate cause, CBT is a different kind of tool for rethinking. I don't think I'm telling you something you don't know, if I remember correctly, you have some past experience with CBT. Just don't give up darlin', I'm pulling for you.
If I might quote NationalParker again. If you took the wrong exit on the freeway, would you just keep going the wrong way? No, you'd turn around and get back going in the right direction.
Here's a big hug ((( ))) from me.

03-02-2013, 10:45 PM

Saturday night after a day of exploring new places. I *did* visit the original Tim Horton's in Hamilton. They promised a museum. They delivered two glass cases flanking the front door. A tad disappointing, but really, what does one expect to see in terms of the history of a donut and coffee shop franchise?

Foodwise today, well I had two items I don't usually eat at the Timmies. Counted the points, knew we'd be a) walking a lot = 2hrs worth right after and b) I'd planned for it. I did ok. DH made dinner, counted that too. It's all good.

Weightwise what can I say? The scale said I am up 2.2lbs overnight. According to my scale I have gained *almost* 5 lbs in a week all the while eating less and tracking more and staying on plan, What does that say? It says my body is a sponge-I already knew that(water weight/salt). It says what goes up, must come down IF I am on plan and that's the key. I CANNOT allow these "numbers" to be accepted as "facts". It is information for the day. It makes me concerned, yes, but you know what? If I could control the rate at which my body loses weight I would do it. In a heartbeat I would do it. And I'd tell all of you how to do it from my gold-embossed hand-spun gold coin laden chaise lounge. My people would tell your people cause that ability would make me rich. Alas, it is not so. My body metabolizes without my conscious mind. I *can* mess it up by actually going off plan. That's the part I, mindfully, consciously, am accountable for. And, for today, I'm good, thanks.

With this I am heading to bed. Have a good night.

PS attached a jpg showing a man enjoyng the "museum" and also the storefront with bronze commemorative plaque-terrible parking lot btw. waaaayyyyy too tight and small. No idea how they parked those much bigger cars from the 60's/70's and etc.

03-02-2013, 11:46 PM
Hi all!

After having too much for lunch, I made a small but satisfying salad with chicken for dinner--and felt much better with my more appropriately sized meal. We made 20 dozen peanut butter cookies--I ate 2 (one cooked, one raw dough). We made an 11x15 pan of fudge--when we cut it, I'll have one small piece before we freeze it. I also unwrapped 6.5 dozen mini reeses cups without eating one. I feel pretty pleased with myself--and it demonstrates to me that I can bake without going crazy. If I did it today, I can do it again tomorrow.

I knew I haven't been taking enough time for focusing on the Beck techniques this week, so today I created a new response card for myself.

Things to tell myself

A year from now I’ll be glad I started. Every day counts.
I’m not really hungry—but I’m really tired of being heavy and tired.
As I learn to resist, resisting will get easier. Practice resisting!
I choose not to eat that—I choose to stay on plan.
I have the right to be healthy. I want to be healthy more than I want that treat.
Every day staying on plan leaves me healthier than the day before.
I want more energy—losing weight will give me more energy.

IBelieveInMe2: I am sending strength. I don't know what else to add, but I do know that "numbing out" with food hasn't really made you happy. I think it's one of those "one step at a time" things. Do you think it would help to follow Dr Beck's idea of keeping a counter of each time you give yourself credit? Credit for recognizing what you were doing, credit for posting here, credit for your workout tomorrow morning...

BillBE: Avoiding stress isn't easy--and thinking about the economy certainly doesn't help that.

NewLifeStyle (Ann): I hope your vacation is somewhere warm and/or fun! I think it makes sense to wait until more rested to try and see things more clearly and make decisions. (My job isn't fun either, unfortunately--not sure what the solution is there.)

Lexiss: Thanks for introducing me to Sumos--they are amazing. I'll be buying some more at the grocery tomorrow!

Daimere: Welcome! Credit for resisting the food pusher (although I went so far as to plan for peanut butter sandwich Girl Scout cookies). Treats--especially ones as wonderful as truffles--need to be planned for and fit into the plan!

nationalparker: I'm glad you're seeing improvement with your eyes. Congrats on the loss--it's great to see hard work paying off!

Nola145: 10 minutes of walking is 10 minutes more than you were doing. When we walk at work, I remind myself we're lapping everyone sitting at their desk--lots better than nothing!

maryann: Credit for listing all the ways you've made progress--that leve of progress and success is a real inspiration to me, only two months in.

Beverlyjoy: Kudos for prepping healthy food in advance--easy to grab and serve food gets served more often!

Julia150: Congrats on the loss! There are yoga videos on YouTube--I haven't tried yoga, but it could be a way to get started--I'm going to explore YouTube for some variety in workouts at home.

onebyone: What a positive way to think about it--what comes up must go down--especially when it can be discouraging.

Take care, all.

03-03-2013, 01:31 AM
Julia150, Lexxiss, BillBlueEyes, and bethFromDayton: Thank you for your thoughtful words and ideas. It helps to receive coaching from all of you here. Just to know you guys are in my corner helps a lot, too! You always have a way of putting things into perspective. CREDIT to you for good coaching! ;)

I made progress today. Still battling an off and on migraine, but forced myself to work out and felt great afterward. Food was okay. Dinner was a bit heavy at a special steakhouse for my son's birthday celebration with family. Definite room for improvement. Really want to buckle down this month and make some progress before our vacation at the very end of March. I had hoped to be much further along by now, but it is what it is. I will move on from here. One day at a time. One moment at a time. One meal at a time.

bethFromDayton: Thank you for sharing the response card you made. It helped me to review it. CREDIT to you for not beating yourself up too much about overeating at lunch, but instead recognizing that you do NOT like that feeling of being too full and learning from it. You are an inspiration to me!

Julia150: You are so sweet to dedicate a whole post to me! You are doing so well on this journey! Congratulations on your 3 pound loss and for all of the progress you have already made! Keep the ball rollin' in your favor! You are an inspiration to me, too! Thank you! :hug:

onebyone: Remember, as I am trying to, that the scale just provides us with a number at a point in time. I hopped on my scale the other night (usually weigh first thing in morning) and was up about 3 pounds. :( I am sticking to weighing in the morning from now on. That # is often discouraging, but it is just information. Hope you are hanging in there!

maryann: Much CREDIT to you for recognizing how far you have come, rather than getting too discouraged about a single pound! A great big CONGRATULATIONS on 25 years sober!!! That is awesome! My brother is just about there, too, with his sobriety, so I can appreciate how hard you have worked to get there! Keep on keepin' on ~ one day at a time! :)

Nola145: CREDIT to you for your 10-minute walks! Focus on PROGRESS ~ not perfection! You are making changes and they WILL pay off eventually!

Beverlyjoy: Good luck with food at the bridal shower! Sending you strength to make good choices. Ouch on the broken tooth! Been there many times. What a hassle! CREDIT for remaining mindful of your sodium intake, planning and prepping food, and giving yourself some well-deserved credits! ;)

nationalparker: CREDIT for the 2 pound weight loss and squelching those negative voices in your head! I can relate to the negative thinking. It requires constant vigilance to combat it. I drive myself crazy at times! :dizzy:

Daimere: CREDIT to you for resisting the food pusher!

Newlifestyle: Have a wonderful time on your vacation! Best wishes to you as you decide on what to do about your job. Follow your gut!

BillBlueEyes: Yes, the U.S. economy is a depressing subject at the moment. :( Hope your stresses ease up. CREDIT for keeping the snacks under control in the midst of it all! Don't forget to count your blessings, too! ;)

:wave: to anyone I've missed and those who might be lurking..... ;)

03-03-2013, 07:45 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Walking, CREDIT moi, included the slow pace of our birding in the morning. Spring is indeed coming, as evidenced by two American Black Ducks choosing that exact moment to mate before our group. A couple of new birders were royally excited - it hadn't occurred to them that mortal people would ever see this. Seems a bit presumptuous to me since water can still freeze over in March, but I leave it to the ducks to decide when the time is right, LOL. FWIW, the female initiated the activities and the male leapt (literally) at the offer. Faster walking happened in the evening getting to a gospel music performance that was off the charts. Mystic Choral Gospel ( sent everybody into the streets singing. Jonathon Singleton played Oh Happy Day on the piano with gusto to bring down the house.

All meals on plan, CREDIT moi. I ignored Fig Newtons being gulped around me in the morning, special CREDIT moi, and skipped evening snack since we were out. Afternoon snack was extra large - standard reasons - Ouch. I'll keep working on it.

onebyone – My mind just boggles that there's a Tim Horton's museum. Glad you keep to your vision, per "IF I am on plan and that's the key"

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Naturally, given your avatar, when you "dip into the homemade granola" I have that Scrooge McDuck image of a basement full of it, LOL. Yay that the daily smoothie continues.

Beverlyjoy – Not sure that I want to sign up for it, but the Broken Tooth Diet might be effective, LOL.

maryann - Sending appropriate supplications to the rain gods to get water to your walnut trees. LOL at "apparently a genius at maintaining" - wish I could just borrow that from you.

Ann (Newlifestyle) - Hope you're headed somewhere fun and warm for that vacation. Seems wise to defer all major decisions until the brain is restored to its rested state. Kudos for remaining on plan despite whatever.

Daimere – I need help understanding your new Avatar. I presume it's got a hoop and fire, from stuff you posted in the past, but I can't decompose it. Triple Kudos for standing down your food pusher at work. You might be encountering someone who is having a hard time facing the 58 pounds you've lost without her own negative feelings. LOL at "like a chocolate truffle or something." Sounds like you've made yourself ready to start reading those cards - good luck.

nationalparker – Congrats on another two pounds gone forever. Ouch that negative thinking needs to be kicked to the curb to savor your success. DW and I absolutely loved the movie Quartet - although admittedly I'd love Maggie Smith if she was reading a phone book. It's a good movie to see in the theater since it has a near constant music track of high quality singing.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – My head spins from "Chinese for a fact-finding mission" - half of my excess weight probably came from Chinese food, eaten past satisfied to full and beyond. That's a Beck-worthy strategy to bake when your tummy is uncomfortable. Great reminder, "If I did it today, I can do it again tomorrow."

IBelieveInMe2 – This perspective is so helpful to me, "I will move on from here. One day at a time. One moment at a time. One meal at a time."

Julia (Julia150) – Congrats on those three pounds gone forever. Kudos for diligently working the processing to move those memories out of the neurons where they're causing distress. So smart of you to have a trauma class.

Nola (Nola145) – Kudos for another 10 minute walk - neat to take advantage of a quite work place to get good walking indoors.

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

the solution at a glance
If you struggle with weight loss, you have a different mindset about food and eating then people who don't struggle with their weight.
.... . .

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 43.

03-03-2013, 10:45 AM
Good morning all,
Being rather scatter brained this morning, who am I kidding, I am always scatterbrained and I am okay with that. It is who I am. Following Beck allows me to realize that it is okay to be someone who is not always like the other people around My son has never really fit is with the general population and he is okay with it. As I continue on this journey I see it is not bad to be an individual. Now to keep on track with my food. I am doing okay, just a little worried on vacation. If there were a magical list for vacations it would be awesome. Plan, plan, plan, hearing echoes of my
We are off to Florida, even if it is not warm, it's okay. Has anyone ever been to Jekyll Island. I have heard so many wonderful things about it lately, not sure why we have never gone.
As I am packing to go I realize I have so many clothes I will never wear again, I will donate them.
Thank you all for sharing your successes and struggles each day. It gives me guidance each day. My hope is I will get back to writing personals, but my sabotaging thoughts tell me, what if I miss someone and hurt their feelings, or what if I type something stupid. I know these are only sabotaging though, I just need to do it and not worry I guess.
Have a wonderful day everyone.
Take Care

03-03-2013, 11:36 AM
I went completely off the rails for the last few days, in ways I never expected to again. Yikes! I had this fantasy that declaring that I was in maintenance was going to mean that I maintained all my good behaviors and all my weight loss like clockwork and would never again be bothered by desires to numb out with food or cravings for everything that isn't a vegetable. Apparently, it doesn't work like that.

I did learn stuff, though, so credit for that Beck behavior. I've always said that I don't notice a difference in how I feel when the quality of my food changes, except for sodium bloating. But I noticed:

unbalanced moods
diminished thinking skills
increased physical clumsiness

In other words, eating little but fat, carbs, and sugars had significant and noticeable effects on the quality of my life.

Part of the cause, probably, was gearing up for a stressful family business meeting yesterday. So, I have a new response for when I feel stressed before an event:

I want to be on top of my game for this event which means I want to eat a variety of vegetables and other healthy foods to fuel my brain and body.

Credit for posting here and for having both a food and an exercise plan written for today.

03-03-2013, 11:51 AM
Good morning, Coaches.

Big Day Yesterday. Faced a few demons and did not feel the need to over eat. I met with a 30+ year friend who I said "Good Bye" to nine months ago because of her continuing hurtful behavior. I had written her a loving letter telling her that I'd always want the best for her but I couldn't participate anymore. She contacted me and asked to meet. She apologized several times, validated what I was feeling and asked if there was a way forward. We agreed to make a few small steps. Boy, was I nervous before we met. Also, went to DS last Basketball game. Memories of my father's terrible temper at sporting events always brought out the worst in me (flashback memories etc. . .) and the games had been excruciating. Yesterday, I was able to put focus on my beautiful boy smiling, running, happily participating in his youth ( not something I had an opportunity to do.) It was terrific.

Food was not perfect. No written plan but spontaneous exercise. Today yoga and writing, Committed food. Scale at ticker.

bethFromDayton: Boy, you sound like you are in "the lion's mouth" with all that food. I don't think I could do it. Credit for you control and "this too shall pass."
IBelieveinMe2: Let's buckle down this month together and see if we can move the ticker down.
Julia150: Congrats on the terrifc weightloss. It is especially admirable that it is ocurring while you work through the grief with your father.
BBE: We are in the flyway belt here. Birds galore and they are out in super bunches right now.
Onebyone: I know when I exercise (your two hour walk) I immediately gain two pounds.
nationalparker: How was Quartet?
Nola: keep up the good work.

03-03-2013, 02:32 PM
Hi Coaches!

It's the big holiday weekend here! DH'sBD today and mine tomorrow. Yesterday OP. Today's credits include weighing...finding a "way" to get out of two celebratory meals out...making a NSA BD cake and inviting mom over for a super healthy breakfast where I enjoyed small portions including a planned piece of the cake. We're off to Denver for a meet up and I'm going to drop DH off at his favorite place (A CD store) so I can visit my favorite place (City Park). Car is washed and bike to be loaded soon.

I feel so connected to all your posts and this morning even had a few chuckles...

Take care all!

MaryAnn, wow what a step with your friend. I would have been very nervous, too.

Ann (NewLifestyle), maryann helped me to leave "posting perfection" behind. Have a great bro lives in Key West but I have never been to J. Island.

03-03-2013, 07:49 PM

I continue to watch over Looloo. She is not getting better like I had hoped she would be by now.:( She did eat a bit, drink a bit, purr alot, and is sleeping in our company so this is all good but she is still very wheezy and very stuffed up. But she is showing some improvement over this afternoon when I thought she was on a fast decline. I don' know what to think or what to do. We just wipe her nose every so often which helps her breathe and she hides right after then comes out looking for a snack.

Stress over this little kitty had me at the stove, boiling up some turkey thighs to try to entice her to eat and I, guess, yes, ate some turkey while at the stove. *credit I stopped and tracked. I weighed this morning (-0.4lbs) and planned my food. I have frittered the day away. Got good news tht I was accepted at "art camp" aka a week long residency hosted by an artist association in Quebec. We will do art every day-every day a different art thing. They will find me somewhere to stay, will feed me breakfast every day and pack me a picnic lunch. I am responsible for my dinner. This will be in July. So happy I was accepted into this!

PLENTY of reasons to get my weight lower, if only for mobility and heat tolerance issues. *credit for staying on track and self-correcting.

03-03-2013, 08:58 PM
Hi Coaches: I've been on here for a few days now and am starting to feel like I know each of you a little bit better. But I do share Ann's fears of not doing individual comments "right". Had to chuckle at that part of your post, Ann.
Today's lesson #13 in the BDS book was the one about conquering cravings. Since I started my actual diet almost 2 weeks ago, I've been getting in some good practice strengthening my ability to resist. For me, there are two critical keys to success. First, I eliminated all the flour and sugar foods so my blood sugar stays nice and quiet. That's a huge one to prevent most cravings. And second, I'm still planning every meal and most full days ahead of time. If I don't write it out it is too easy to fib to myself and eat something a little off plan.
That said, I did go off plan last night. I did it pretty much on purpose. Remember yesterday I was worried that I was being too perfect and I was afraid I would crash and burn? So I intentionally ate a second piece of flax bread, which was over my calorie limit for the day, so I could get over that fear of screwing up. In the past, I've been known to go way off a diet for days in response to one mistake, so it was wonderful practice to be "bad" last night and then be good again today. Yay! It does make a difference knowing I will come here and tell you. In that way, you are all A+ coaches, because I know you are listening and holding the space for success for me and for all of us. I am also holding that space for all of you. We are in this together.
Sunday is my planned day off from exercise. Monday and Tuesday I will hold at 10 minutes before I move on to 12 on Wednesday. I like knowing I can move ahead at my own pace and not have to compare myself to what I "should" be able to do. Without that performance pressure, I actually find myself looking forward to doing it instead of dreading it. I do so wish I had access to a swimming pool.
That's it for me. Have a pleasant evening.
- Nola

03-03-2013, 09:46 PM
Hi... checking in.

I've been doing well. I did fine at the bridal shower today. I went in and 'surveyed' the food, decided on what I'd eat and stayed with it. It was 2 fruit kabobs, one small 'pinwheel' slice (cheese, spinach, tortilla) & a cookie. No seconds. I stayed with it. Credit. The shower was fun. One of the bridemaid's lives in Atlanta. She came to the shower via skype. I was amazed.

I've read what everyone is doing and saying. I hope I can get to the personals tomorrow.

As always thanks for being supportive and helpful.

03-03-2013, 10:51 PM
Hi all,

I didn't have a food plan today :-( but I've been within all my parameters. I logged everything I ate. Credit for that. I'm making a plan for tomorrow. Exercise was on track--I got up early and did WATP before starting to cook. Credit for that, too, especially since everyone else was still asleep!

Serious cooking day today--we cut, marinated, cooked, and froze 18 lbs of chicken (plus cooked another 1.5 lbs that we had for dinner), and cooked and froze 20 cans of (seasoned) black beans. The only "nibbling" I did was one small piece of chicken for flavor testing. Credit there.

There are chocolate chip cookie muffins stuffed with reese's cups cooling on the counter. I intend to have 2 for an evening snack, and then we'll freeze the rest and they'll be out of the kitchen, too. I had extra peanut butter cookies in a container to take to work this week and had to move them to a container that I couldn't see through!

I am really pleased with myself right now. It wasn't as hard as I was afraid it was going to be (although I do have one more day of it). It is getting easier--and I am encouraged that I will really be able to decrease my overall sweet tooth so that I won't spend the rest of my life feeling deprived. Although I've enjoyed the treats I've had, they haven't been heavenly bliss--and planning and savoring them has made that obvious.

Take care, all.

03-04-2013, 07:30 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Did OK with eating, CREDIT moi, with lunch away from home and dinner with guests. I didn't have seconds of pot roast - one of my favorite foods and one that I overate with gusto in the past.

Little opportunity for exercise in an overly busy day. Hoping to do better today getting to the gym before dinner followed by a longer walk. Walking in the cool weather is so good.

onebyone – Being taken care of for a week in July sounds lovely.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Food messes with my brain, also. I hadn't quantified it as carefully as you just did - thanks for that.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yay for birthdays, and Yay for "a planned piece of the cake."

Beverlyjoy – This is so neat, "'surveyed' the food, decided on what I'd eat and stayed with it."

maryann - It is terrific that you've broken the cycle to make a joyous childhood for your DS. Kudos for being aware that you've done that.

Ann (Newlifestyle) - Donating clothes is just the best feeling. Nope, never been to Jekyll Island - the web pages sure make it attractive. Is that were you're headed this trip? One good way to overcome the Sabotaging Thought that you'd forget someone in posting personals is to just post one. It's not like 4th grade valentines where you had to give one to everyone in the class, LOL.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – 18 pounds is a lota chicken! Love reading, [I]"Although I've enjoyed the treats I've had, they haven't been heavenly bliss" - it's so easy to exaggerate the joy we'll have from some sugar thing.

Nola (Nola145) – It's super that you've set up your exercise plan so that you can look forward to it.

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

the solution at a glance
The way you think - seeing hunger as an emergency, overestimating the discomfort and duration of cravings, underestimating how thin people restrict their eating - makes it more difficult for you to stick to a diet.
.... . .

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 43.

03-04-2013, 08:48 AM
Hi Coaches!

Yesterday, 90% OP (using gardenerjoy's formula). We decided "last minute" to enjoy Vietnamese in Denver. I ordered wisely and passed on my favorite sugary coffee. credit. I've weighed this morning and am feeling very grateful to have thought out the birthday stuff ahead of time. It's so much better for my "head" than recommitting after.

Bike ride was spectacular and I found two cottonwoods near the zoo which had 50-60 cormorant nests...many with pairs already sitting in them. When we got home I grabbed two bags out of the car then hoisted it off the rack and carried it up the steps with one hand. credit. I am still sometimes amazed at my progress in the exercise/getting in shape arena. Yay.

Work calls!

03-04-2013, 09:18 AM
Hi friends... quick post for now.

This came through my Facebook today, via the Beck Diet Solution:

Monday Motivation: Repeat after us: Losing weight is hard but with practice, it gets EASIER! It’s hard but by no means impossible. It’s hard but the benefits and advantages of doing so are enormous. Every time I eat I have the opportunity to strengthen good habits and make it even easier the next time. It’s hard, but it’s not always hard, and it GETS EASIER!

03-04-2013, 11:42 AM
My first day of back at it felt wonderfully normal. Yay! Credit for following my plan to the letter and having one written for today.

Exercise: +60 60/1400 minutes for March

Nola145: Thanks for posting about each day as you encounter it in the Beck book. It's like a refresher course!

Happy Birthday, Lexxiss! I hope it's wonderful and that you have a lovely year ahead.

For Nola145 and NewLifeStyle, as BillBlueEyes said, you can post just one or two personals. We're easy about that. I can skip Beverlyjoy, maryann, bethfromDayton, and onebyone today and know that I'll get to them another day. Sometimes, I end with something like "hi to everyone else" for a universal greeting.

03-04-2013, 01:31 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

I had a breakthrough thought for me today. Yesterday, I ate my dinner and told myself that I was done, no extras. Then five minutes later, I got up and ate "just a few more" walnuts and chocolate chips. In thinking about last night, It really hit me that I had made a conscious choice to eat extra and that that little extra is what is making my program a maintenance program rather than a weightloss program. I also realized (lightening bolt) that the choice to eat extra was COMPLETELY UNDER MY CONTROL. Now this might not sound earthshaking to you but for me, a control freak who tries to control everything and everyone, this is a critical piece.

The one thing I do have control of (my own actions) is the one thing I don't take responsibility for. Now that is ironic. I feel responsible for my family's happiness, for my students love of school, even sometimes for the checker at the grocery store who is having a bad day. But getting off the couch and eating another handful--well that I am powerless over.

So my food plan is simply this today: Eat sitting down and when the meal is over it is over. It is going to have to be over sometime. It might as well be over before I exceed my calorie limit.

I know. I know. This is all basic stuff but it really hit me today.

Credit Beverleyjoy for great shower choices and gardenerjoy for an OP Day. Happy Bday Lexxiss and BBE you can have all my pot roast if I get all your Mac and Cheese.

03-04-2013, 02:00 PM
Another week starting out ... I am so over the winter and I'm anticipating the spring and walking in warmer weather. And just running errands without gloves, hat, heavy coat, etc. Those of you in Canada, just tell me to hush up. :) You deal with it much longer than I do.

We changed around our plans over the weekend, going to see Quartet yesterday, followed by dinner out. I thoroughly enjoyed the movie and especially loved at the end, where they showed the now/then photos of many of the supporting cast in roles in the performing arts over the past 40 years. Neat premise of the retirement home for professional musicians. Dinner was, of all things, Olive Garden, not a typical spot for us. I tracked everything and went over by a little bit and I can live with that.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, LEXXISS! :) Think how different this next year will be for you as you celebrate your life, compared to a few years ago. What an achievement!

Ann - Have a wonderful time in Florida - any horseback riding plans in the works on J.I.? Looking forward to hearing about it. And if you're still reading - do as I say, not as I do ... enjoy a treat at the start and the end of your trip like Dr. Beck says - i could have done that and been fine. Instead I treated too often! :) And returned with two extra pounds to remove again.

Bill - Good job with two meals away from home yesterday and succeeding! Recognizing the changes in your eating habits surely seems to be a great reinforcement. Did you see The Last Quartet, too? I've missed it at our theatre, and now must wait for the dvd release.

BeverlyJoy - Great way to enjoy the food you chose at the shower yet not have it be the focus! And thank you for posting the motivations, as well!

Beth - Down to the last day of the food prep fest - kudos for doing so well with it and not being tempted to slip in food without counting it!

OneByOne - How is LooLoo doing today? Worry is one of my biggest triggers - hope she improves steadily.

GardenerJoy - Yay for the wonderful accomplishment of the first days back at it and getting into the routine vs. dreading it and putting it off. Good job!

Maryann - What a strong person you are to meet back with your former friend, and not turning to food right after for a calming feeling. And for standing up for yourself in the first place - good job! I tend to sever ties and they stay cut. I admire you for meeting up!

Nola - You are really setting yourself up to succeed! Great job in sensing where you might struggle a mental setback and handling it with control.

IBelieveInMe - Glad to see that you're back here - we've all been there and are looking forward to seeing you posting when you can this week!

BigChiefDavid - How has Brees been adjusting? All going fairly smoothly? Since you're looking at possibly changing his name, and as a Colts fan who is now Peyton-less... you might think along that route..hint hint. HA HA - just kidding. Hope your weekend went well!

03-04-2013, 10:04 PM
Hi coaches/friends - Today has been healthy. Grateful. I've had a really nice birthday and didn't overeat at all. Major credit.

Happy Birthday to Lexxiss/debbie! I think we share a birthday.

Dh is feeling alot better. So we went to our favorite Chinese restarant where I got my favorite Hong kong sea bass. I took out my portion of rice, fish and some veggie and set the rest aside. No seconds. Credit. I ate the leftover for dinner tonight. Yum.

It was a fun birthday. I got such nice calls, some cards, flowers from DS & family, perfume from DH. lunch out, greetings from the neighborhood cutie pies and many Facebook birthday greetings, too. I feel like I hit the Birthday Jackpot this year. Grateful.

I've had three days of food sanity and I am so grateful.

Today I did my journal work, was mindful of sodium, did exercises, had no seconds, and always left a bite.

Tomorrow I go to the dentist and check out my broken tooth.

nationparker - I am looking forward to Spring, too. Credit for doing well at Olive Garden. Eating out can be tricky. Glad to hear your opinion on the movie. Carry on.

MaryAnn - I love your incite today. Reminding yourself that a meal/snack does end... that we are the ones to carry this through. Wonderful post, thanks.

Gardenerjoy - Thanks for sharing you thoughts on your struggles of late. It's actually helpful to me - as I can identify with what you were saying. I am so happy to hear of your good food day - back to your routine. I know that it feels good. It's the stuff that we 'build' on. Carry on.

Lexxiss/debbie - so glad you had a special dinner and still was able to avoid what wasn't really within your plan, credit. Kudo's for all the exericse turning into something noticeable. Also... nice that you could plan in your cake, too.

billbe - it really is a credit when you can eat a sensible amount of something that you used to eat a way lot of. I totally understand about roast beef. Kudos. I am so, so glad your ingury is all better. YAY.

bethfromdayton - kudo's for staying with your food plan.. without actually planning. For some reason that is a 'slippery slope' for me. Excellent you've got in your exericses and getting food ready for later on!!!

Nola - there's no 'right or wrong' way to post personal messages. Do it when you are comfortable and have time. Sometimes, there isn't time to address everyone. That's OK too. I am glad you are getting in good practice with your resistance. Every time you strengthen that resistance muscle... it can help for the next time you face a food 'calling to you.' I love reading your journey.

onebyone - I hope that Looloo is better soon. It's hard when are furkids are sick. You said: *credit for staying on track and self-correcting. Yes, credit, indeed!!!

newlifestyle - you said: As I continue on this journey I see it is not bad to be an individual I love this thought ... so true when we make ourselves a priority. Have a wonderful vacation. PLan the best you can.

I hope you've all had a great day.

03-04-2013, 11:30 PM
Hi all,

Food--hmm. Not so OP today. Breakfast was OP. Lunch was an unexpected meal out due to a schedule change, but I kept within parameters. I abandoned the treats baked today and had BFF finish getting them into the freezer, so credit for that. The dinner out (another fact-finding Chinese restaurant) did not go so well. I knew as I was doing it that I wasn't following my plan, and the dessert was an "oh whatever" on top of it all.

I just re-read that paragraph--only dinner was off plan. The rest of the day went well--I need to give myself credit for that. And decide I'm not going to another Chinese buffet until and unless I've worked my resistance muscle more! (For all practical purposes, today was a weekend day.)

But that was today, and today is over. Tomorrow is a work day and I'll get back into my routine and groove.

Exercise was good today (a WATP workout).

So I had a "flubbed it" dinner. I didn't have anything additional at home (and didn't want anything else, for that matter.) I've got a plan for tomorrow, and need to keep in mind that I really do best with a plan.

Take care, all.

03-04-2013, 11:52 PM
Happy Birthday, Lexxiss!!! I can just see you soaking in the springs and sipping on a smoothie! ;) Whatever you did, I hope that you had a wonderful day! :)

maryann: You certainly hit on something!!! Interesting that "the one thing I do have control of (my own actions) is the one thing I don't take responsibility for." I do not think your realization is small or insignificant. It is very helpful and I have had similar "aha" moments, too. Thank you for sharing!

nationalparker: I am with you on being so over the winter and looking forward to the spring and warmer weather!!! I can't wait!

gardenerjoy: CREDIT to you for being back at it!

BillBlueEyes: HOORAY for only one serving of pot roast! CREDIT for exercising that resistance muscle!

bethFromDayton: Way to go on WATP! How do you like it? I have an old VHS tape of Leslie Sansone's and have considered getting a new DVD to use. Happy cooking!

Beverlyjoy: Way to survive the bridal shower food! Good choices! Did I understand correctly that today was YOUR birthday, too?!? HAPPY BIRTHDAY to you!!!

Nola145: CREDIT for eliminating sugar and flour and for planning! Sounds like you have the "recipe" for success! ;) Interesting that you "made" yourself have seconds to get over your fear of messing up. Sounds like it worked for you. Way to know yourself and your needs!

onebyone So sorry about Looloo! :( I hope things turn around for her soon! Congrats on being accepted to art camp!

Newlifestyle: CREDIT for recognizing your sabotaging thoughts about posting perfection. I feel the same way, but try to get in as many personals as I can anyway; at least to those who have most recently posted. And a quick :wave: "to everyone else" will hopefully suffice.

:wave: to BigchiefDavid, Julia150, and everyone else!!! ;)

03-05-2013, 01:10 AM
Hi Coaches: A quick check in. I was OP with food today but I have not yet read my day 14 lesson. Nor have I gotten my walking in. Will do both in the next half hour. Tomorrow I am starting the two-day-a-week fasting tweak I hope to make to my food plan. On Tuesday and Friday, I will cut to 720 calories, and eat 1800 the other five days. This 60% reduction qualifies as fasting and offers great health bennies aside from weight loss. I tried to do it before and got completely obsessed by food. Now that I'm 2 weeks into the Beck Diet book I feel like I have tools I did not have before. Plus I've gotten used to planning and counting calories over the past two weeks. I have three sample 720 days already planned out. Credit for planning. Since 720 calories doesn't go very far, I'll also be practicing being okay with being hungry. :)
Thanks for being here, coaches, and for all your supportive messages to me.

03-05-2013, 01:16 AM
Just completed 3 days in a row of at least 30 minutes of exercise ~ despite this nasty, persistent migraine! Very proud of myself and had to share my good news! :D

03-05-2013, 07:04 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Good walk in the sunshine, CREDIT moi. Headed out for another walk in the evening to a meeting, but was hit by the rain so took the car instead. My brain is trying to take credit for good intentions, but my cardio system isn't sympathetic to the degree of nobility behind failure to exercise, LOL.

Food was good enough, CREDIT moi. I had more opportunities than I accepted. At my meeting, a mini-cupcake was about to follow me home but I found another taker. She was grateful and I was grateful - at least that's the way I'm filing my food pushing in my own mind.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Yay for normal. Kudos for having a normal that's on your path.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Happy Birthday - may you have many more. That's a lot of cormorant nests - what a find. Kudos for having gotten yourself in good shape.

Beverlyjoy – Happy Birthday - with many more to follow. I love the regularity of your Hong Kong sea bass; it's good to be reminded that one can have a plan in their pocket for each of their regular restaurants. And thanks for "and it GETS EASIER!"

maryann - Almost hurts when it's this simple, "when the meal is over it is over." [You can have my Mac and Cheese when they pry it from my cold dead fingers, LOL.]

nationalparker – All your cold weather is drifting down from up North; South Park says it's OK to Blame Canada, LOL. Glad you also liked Quartet - no one got up to leave as the trailer showed those pictures and let the singing continue - such fun. Was it the new, improved Olive Garden? [Confused here: thought you did see Quartet?]

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Ouch for Chinese - even "fact-finding Chinese"- whatever that means, LOL. Maybe they have the Hong Kong Sea Bass that Beverlyjoy always orders. Kudos for keeping off-plan to a single meal and continuing to charge forth.

IBelieveInMe2 – 3 times 30 Kudos for continuing your exercise despite the migraine.

Nola (Nola145) – Sounds like you'll have opportunity to experience real hunger, and to practice returning to planned eating rather than over-compensating eating.

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

the solution at a glance
No matter what your mindset is like today, you can learn how to change it, not only to lose weight, but also to make sure that you keep it off - permanently.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 43.

03-05-2013, 08:36 AM

Well I wote a post for yesterday-just forgot to post it here! :doh:

Well scale weigh-in this morning was better, so *credit for tracking weighing, checking in (-1.5lbs today to yesterday's +0.4)). Kept my meals to a minimum.

An exciting day for me today as the art store may have my new printing press delivered today! If they don't get it from the warehouse, then it's coming from Brazil=new press in 4 weeks. Either way though it's goooood.:carrot: UPDATE: got the call & it's here :dancer:--going to pick it up tonight with DH as it could be heavy

I'm planning my food today to be as salt free as I can manage. I'm making sure to drink my water and will aim to do some exercise. Yesterday I walked outside instead of the WATP dvd I'd planned. *credit*

And Looloo is hanging in there. Her recovery is much slower than last time when it seemed that after 2 days she was just herself again. Such a good little cat. We're having a tough time coaxing her to eat though, and she needs to eat. She's only 5 3/4lbs! She lost 1/4 lb in the last 9 months. The vet wants to see her at 7lbs. Otherwise she has done all her cat things again, but not as long, and not as often, and she is still stuffed up. I can hear her breathe still and see her whole body move when she does. Don't like that at all. UPDATE: she's in the sunny window. *credit for the sun shining and for Looloo seeking it out. I believe it will help her little body heal.

So, that's how I'm starting the day today.
Hope all is well with you.


03-05-2013, 09:48 AM
Quick note here. Not a great day yesterday and got home (alone as DH was enjoying his fave stores - guitar center and REI) ... and immediately decided I must destress - with baked scoops and pico de gallo. Kept it under 100 calories but WHY? Then started making dinner as I was hungry and made way too much, added in corn and had that, too - reasonable 1/3 cup portion, but STILL. I was in a cranky mood and it continues this morning, apparently, after being awoken by two cats dueling from opposite sides of our bedroom door - whappity, whappity, bang, clunk, slap - as our doors to the bedroom meet in the middle and have a little play because of that. Instead of being thankful that I have pets I love and good shelter in the winter, a warm bed, I was cranky that I had to get out of said bed and deal with the pets I love. Ha ha!

Need a better coping strategy - perhaps i should actually follow my plan tonight. Argh! So disappointed with myself from yesterday evening.

Bill - I was wondering if you'd seen The Late Quartet? I wanted to see it but haven't yet. Did love Quartet :) ... I just missed the Late Quartet as it left our artsy theatres a few weeks ago, I think. I keep calling it the LAST Quartet by accident.

BeverlyJoy - SO SORRY I missed your birthday! Sounds like it was a wonderful one. Continue to celebrate the week/month! I had a friend who celebrated her birthday month - not in food/cake, but in gatherings with friends, movies, etc., and so I've adopted that! Why not, right?

03-05-2013, 10:31 AM
Quick check-in. Food and exercise went according to plan yesterday. I have a plan today but I need to find the willingness to close the kitchen while DH is out of the house. We worked out that strategy a couple of weeks ago so I'm going to dust that off and implement it today.

I intend to exercise a lot this week. I have a note in my tickler for March that says that exercise helps me sleep and sleep helps me cope with the "Spring Forward" time change. Some years, it's taken me a couple of weeks to recover from that and I want it to go more smoothly this year.

Exercise: +80 140/1400 minutes for March

03-05-2013, 02:20 PM
Hi coaches... Today I made myself some black bean hummus and it was terrible. ( usually use garbonzo beans) I ended up throwing my lunch portion away. Two things came to mind. I should eat it anyway. And, why eat it if it doesn't taste good. The latter 'won'. I didn't end up eating it. Maybe I can fix what's left later. (add some cumin and almond butter, maybe). I am worth eating food that tastes good.

I realized last night that I didn't have any cake or 'goodies' in honor of my birthday. DH didn't tell the restaurant it was my birthday... who needs the cake they offer?? really? Credit to him and me for making a the right decision. I did have one cookie at the bridal shower on Sunday. (thoughtfully selected).

On Saturday we will gather with cousins/sil/stepmom from two other states for a March birthday party celebration. I have two cousins that have the same exact birthday as me. Also birthdays on March 9, 13, 26, & 30. I am bringing the salad. I know what is being served... so I can plan around that.

I saw the dentist and will get my tooth fixed later. It is a tooth with a root canal so it doesn't hurt at all.

I hope you are all having a good day.

bethfromdayton - credit for giving yourself credit!! - for staying mostly on plan. Hop right back to it and you'll be fine. I don't think I could do a Chinese buffet either.

onebyone - YAY on seeing the scale go down. I too watch my sodium. EVERYTHING processed, it seems, has loads of salt. It's a challenge. I love cottage cheese... but, the salt is so high. So, now I am getting into lowfat Ricotta with only 55mg of sodium for 1/4 cup. Finding some switches.

nationalparker - I like your friend's idea of celebrating a birthday month. Our family is gathering soon for another celebration... so, we are on our way. I understand totally about eating measured food and it still feels unplanned and/or bingey. Sometime's our fur-kids can be annoying. But, soon they are a sparkle in our live's again.

Ibelieveinme - yes, it was my birthday, too, yesterday. Thanks for the birthday good wishes.

Nola - so glad you are finding the Beck techniques helpful. Some folks do the book slowly and some do it strictly each day after the other. Either is OK. I find planning so helpful too. It keep the thoughts of: "What will I eat now?" from spinning around in your mind. It's because it's planned. Carry on.

billbe - phooey on the rain that spoiled your walking plans. Kudo's for keeping that cupcake from jumping in your pocket

onebyone - YAY on seeing the scale go down. I too watch my sodium. EVERYTHING processed, it seems, has loads of salt. It's a challenge. I love cottage cheese... but, the salt is so high. So, now I am getting into lowfat Ricotta with only 55mg of sodium for 1/4 cup. Finding some switches.

gardenjoy - great to hear that your food went well yesterday. Also - it's good to get out things that have worked in the past. It's a good reminder to me... that I should put the chair in front of the fridge to remind myself the kitchen is 'closed', I forgot about it when we got back from our trip. Thanks for the reminder!

03-05-2013, 05:53 PM
Hello Everyone,

I have not checked in for awhile. Busy weekend, probably vacuumed more than necessary but it's actually enjoyable with a nice new central vac. Sure works well at picking up all the dog hair. Need to tackle the back seat of my car as I forgot to put the dog's blanket in last time and you can sure tell. Weight was up on Sunday and I didn't want to log it but realized that I was only lying to myself if I didn't change it. Not sure the WW online program would care either way what I put for a number. Have adjusted my signature here too.

Very busy at home with the return of winter on Sunday, we got about 6 - 7" of snow, not much in comparison to BBE this year but does slow us down a bit. At least it was on Sunday so travel to work yesterday was not impacted once we got out of our neighborhood. Today is a bright, sunny day with a temp around -7C. Pretty tolerable for March and it is our snowiest month.

Exercise has been walking the dogs lots, have not been to the gym for awhile, need to get that scheduled again.

Well back to my desk and :wave: to everyone!

03-05-2013, 10:05 PM
Hi Coaches!

First off, thanks for all the birthday good wishes! A belated Happy Birthday to Beverlyjoy (don't recall that I remember we March Forth together)!

I am noticing more and more that my internet is spotty and undependable. I'm finding it more difficult to depend on posting at a certain time. I live about 2 blocks N of I-70 on the major corridor to SkiCountry...over 10 areas within 60 miles of here. Spring skiing/spring break brings record amounts of tourists in addition to Coloradoans. I have found year after year that the cell towers in our tiny town get totally jammed. I'll try to post as I can.

Yesterday OP, today (so far) OP. I weighed this morning and planned my day. credit. No unplanned eating at work. I'm really feeling like my mojo is returning (perhaps not coincidentally) with better weather and more light. I got a notebook out and put it on my bedside table for writing new ideas as my "life plan" evolves. I've dedicated a desk in my office for my dieting/healthful lifestyle. Now, after birthday week, I hope to settle in a bit.

03-05-2013, 10:25 PM
On to personals....and a PS

PS Credit for pitching the rest of the birthday cake this morning!

BillBlueEyes, love that strategy of sending the proverbial cupcake home with someone who is "grateful". Lol and credit.

Tazzy, thanks for checking in and updating us on your progress (and the pups). PS vacuuming the car sounds like spontaneous exercise to me.

Beverlyjoy, great job not eating the food you prepared but did not enjoy. Perhaps you can tweak it but if not it's ok to let it go.

gardenerjoy, great that you are planning ahead for the time change with exercise! I lived in Alaska so long and dealt with such extremes that I don't seem to notice.

nationalparker, love your cat story….well I see that food did not fix cranky but credit for making reasonable choices. Thanks for the happy thought of a new year of progress forward. I must say that I am looking forward to this year. February marked a solid year of decluttering/home improvement ala Beck and I am most looking forward to this new year with many less environmental burdens.

onebyone, yay for releasing salt-induced weight. ...and yay for a plan which keeps the sodium down. (hope you got your printing press)

IBelieveInME2, kudos for 3 days of consistent exercise despite your migrane. (thanks for sharing your success)PS I had to work on my BD but hot springs and smoothies sounded great!

Nola, best wishes as you start your two day a week fast. Now that you have your Beck tools handy you'll have options as you give it another try.

BethFromDayton, great that you were able to re-evaluate your day and look at the positive stuff, too. I still enjoy Chinese occasionally but try to stay out of the buffets.

Maryann, yay for many successes over the past few days. I'm finding, too, that the longer I stick with this...the more is revealed. I think as we keep "trying" and working our program(s) we become more receptive to the revelations.

03-05-2013, 10:55 PM
OK, I had a nice post and it disappeared. I really hate this new laptop sometimes.
Completed the taxes today. The good news is that we owe $4700 instead of the $7000 originally calculated. The bad news is that we owe $4700.
I weighed in at JC yesterday and was down about 3#. It helps that I have no appetite.
I don't have the energy to rewrite my post so a big HELLO to everyone. I've been awake since 3 am.

03-05-2013, 11:04 PM

I just felt the need to post a second time here. I heard from the friend who is doing the HCG diet and I was wondering if I would be filled with the desire to do this diet. I was afraid to listen or to talk about the diet plan with her, anticipating feeling jealous and envious. She, as is always the case with a brand new diet that we believe "is it", is very excited and wants to share it and urges me to try it-maybe-if I want to- and I just feel sooooooooooo skeptical it's hard to be supportive. My way is not everyone's way. She says "it's time to just get rid of all this fat, all this weight once and for all, I've had it. You need to do this to. It's time for you to stop carrying it around too." Yeah, I know. But the difference between a drastic diet like the HCG, which I reserve all judgment on as to whether it works only when I see where she is at in a year from now - or even at the end of the summer - and between losing 30lbs(her) vs 100lbs(me)--well I already know even if I wanted to try it, I could not sustain it and what that would do to my food sanity is pretty much predictable. It's just not for me. She is down 3 lbs in 4 days. I don't even care that much-but it's not noticeable yet. I am worried though that her health will suffer. We'll see. I sure hope not and I hope she gets what she wants from it. I am finding this all pretty hard to navigate though. OTOH I have re-focused on my own plan and am moving forward at my own pace. It all seems so mundane and middle of the road which is EXACTLY what I want cause that is TRULY a change for me.

OK, feeling better for leaving that here. Thanks.

03-05-2013, 11:42 PM
Hi all,

Today was OP, but I was more tempted by sweets than I have been for quite a while. I think the indulging this weekend of several sweet treats made them more appealing again. I had brought extra peanut butter cookies to work so they wouldn't be at home--but they were a definite temptation. I didn't really think of any of my Beck techniques--I just kept telling myself "Those aren't for me." Credit for not having any.

My primary walking partner was in all day meetings today, so I walked alone this morning, and did my afternoon walk with another woman. Credit for moving!

BillBE, "fact-finding missions" were to identify a restaurant to do catering for us for dinner one night of our weekend event. Last year, I think we went to six different Italian places before picking one. We're on a tight budget, so that makes it really hard.

I really had some distorted thinking going on yesterday with overeating at the Chinese buffet. I had a sense of "my weight has gone up a couple of pounds even though I'm eating right so I'll just do whatever" and "I had too much food so I might as well have ice cream". (I stopped myself from having seconds of ice cream, but I thought about it.)

Both of those are really flawed reasoning. I guess I was going to have my first setback at some point--so that's it.

I know I haven't eaten an extra 18,000 calories since Thursday, but the scale has me up 5.2 lbs. I know it's just a number--but I'm finding it a distressing one.

Snow has started falling here--school has already been canceled for tomorrow (DD is thrilled). DH works from home tomorrow anyway. If my work is closed or delayed, well, I brought my laptop home just in case.

03-06-2013, 06:40 AM
Didn't work out and had the urge to graze all evening on Tuesday. :( I only exercised my resistance muscle a little bit and didn't tolerate hunger very well. :o

But TODAY IS A BRAND NEW DAY!!! I will practice my Beck skills and get that workout in!!! Today is my son's 17th birthday and the kids have a snow day! He will be thrilled when he wakes up! :D This is one of my very favorite days of the year, because our twin boys were born on March 6th! They were born at 28 weeks and one of them only lived for 14 hours. :cry: So I am also thinking about my other son in Heaven on this very special day and sending him lots of love and hugs! :hug:

Happy Wednesday to all of you! Make it a great day! ;)

03-06-2013, 07:09 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Did gym, CREDIT moi, getting interrupted from my dreaded lunges by a buddy who wanted to know if I was going to hear The Flying Dutchman ( Can't remember if I've ever heard it sung, although I know the story of a ship that can never reach port. What a fun way not to exercise, LOL. My brain lost track of how many lunges I'd done. I felt guilty for the rest of my workout since I then did a remaining number probably lower than my plan. Found myself on a bench holding one 50# dumbbell and one 55#. That's not right, so I immediately refocused myself at my assigned task of righting all the wrongs on the dumbbell rack and got back on track.

Walking included a trek to a neat event where we were confused with folks who might give a $Million and fed appropriately. Ouch. I lose my track when tables of FREE high-end food appear. I stopped myself before getting stuffed - maybe at full instead of the desired satisfied. I did choose to fill my little plate with strawberries and blackberries at the end to signal 'dessert' to my brain and stop. CREDIT moi for stopping.

onebyone – Welcome to the new printing press - if we don't hear from you for a few days we'll know where you are. Using HCG with ultra-low calories in one of the pacts with the devil that appeal to the quick fix part of the brain. Ouch for your friend. Cheers to Looloo.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Neat idea to prepare for the 'Spring Forward.' I also find myself with jet lag for a spell.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yay for returning mojo. And Yay for tourists who bring money - but perhaps their non-resident cell phones can be banned, LOL. BIG Kudos for pitching that remaining birthday cake.

Beverlyjoy – Black bean hummus sure sounds good - did you leave out the salt? Good reminder, "I am worth eating food that tastes good."

Tazzy - LOL at vacuuming away with your new house vac. I still keep gray bath towels in my station wagon that I had used for my dog - turns out to be frequently useful to have towels for some sort of padding or protection.

nationalparker – Ouch for the causes of stress - even when they come from our joy and abundance. Goodbye yesterday, Hello "actually follow my plan tonight." [Haven't seen A Late Quartet - fine music and "insuppressible lust" sounds neat; I've marked it in my Amazon list.]

Beth (bethFromDayton) – So many Sabotaging Thoughts end with the same, "so I'll just do whatever." Kudos for recognizing it and stopping. Have a cozy day cuddled at home with your whole family and your laptop.

Julia (Julia150) – Ouch for lack of sleep - may the sandman visit. Good news on the lower taxes.

Readers - chapter 4
How to Use the Beck Diet Solution

During the next six weeks, you'll begin to make over your mindset and, as a result, gain the skills you need to make over your body. You'll learn how to motivate yourself and how to feel good about eating differently. You'll develop a consistent sense of control that will continue to grow the longer you practice the techniques in this program. And you'll learn how to use your new skills for a lifetime.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 44.

03-06-2013, 08:46 AM
Hi Coaches and Buddies! I'm not dead, but just trying to survive at work! :mad:
I have to give myself credit for keeping on staying OP and excercising. I started this week doing something new! First I went running on Sunday and secondly I'm trying not to write my alimentary diary. It's one year and a half now that I monitor my eating, writing down everything and kalories. I know now I can keep this weight/slimming without doing it, I know what I need to eat, I know I have the instruments to resist cravings and to remain a slim (also menthally) person.
So I'm trying this "test" on myself.
I will let you know.
A big hug to everybody.

03-06-2013, 10:16 AM
Closing the kitchen while DH was out of the house worked liked a charm. Woohoo!

I have a written plan today even though I don't have the things I need made to make my plan match what I "should" eat for my program. That's a danger because one part of my brain is saying that if I can't be perfect, why bother? I will bother because I can still keep my eating under control and with a reasonable amount of calories even if the mix of macronutrients doesn't suit my current program. And I'll bother because once the cleaning crew is gone, I can take over my kitchen and make all the missing bits and pieces so that the rest of today and tomorrow will be on plan and on program. I'll only have one meal that's a little off and that's not a catastrophe, just a hiccup.

Exercise: +60 200/1400 minutes for March

onebyone: kudos to you for taking the middle road that you know works best for you -- it works best for me, too. I'm convinced that slow loss is the only loss that has a chance of staying gone.

bethfromDayton: restaurant Asian food will cause temporary 5lb gains -- it happened to me overnight once. Pretty startling! But it was all gone in about four days. Lots of water and patience were what helped!

03-06-2013, 03:03 PM
Midway through my workweek - whew. Seems like the days are just stalling out around 3 p.m. We had what DH calls "Christmas morning" snow - beautifully blanketed the trees, yard, everything so picture-perfect. It's slick underneath, but will see if we get out on the trail this evening.

Snuck a peek at the scale this morning and was gifted with the reminder of WHY to not check at certain times - up several pounds, and now I let it get in my head. Pants are a bit looser (yay) and I acknowledge that and forget it, yet keep thinking about the scale. Enough of this nonsense!

I will have to use GardenerJoy's method and close the kitchen tonight until close to when DH gets home. I prepped the pasta sauce with bolognese (turkey and wine) and so don't have much to prep but our salad and pasta. Perhaps a nice hot cup of tea and some relaxing reading to recognize that I mustn't turn to the fridge 'because i'm home alone'... I lived alone for years, for goodness sake, so i can't figure out this mental switch here lately.

Now still in the midst of winter, I'd like to get my mind on spring/summer and plan some fun backcountry trips locally. In addition to backcountry camping/hiking, and good trails in state parks, we'd like to do an overnight canoe trip - so will check into locations where we could rent on a river. One day last year DH was checking his email and said - "We're camping at a state park this weekend?" I'd reserved us a site and was going to just have the car packed up and ready to go when he got off work as a surprise, but forgot that our reservation registration goes to HIS email :) oops. He was still surprised and happy, though. Typically I'm the less-adventurous; I had to be talked into white water rafting in Montana because my scenic trip had only two people signed up - um ... us. :) Discovered that I was among the stronger of the paddlers on the boat and could sync my rowing well, things I'd been nervous about (that along with getting thrown overboard!). They promised me that no one had every fallen out yet this year ... then three people were promptly ejected from the boat on the first rapids. (No, not me.) :)

03-06-2013, 04:28 PM
Hi friends/coaches - yesterday was mostly (credit) on plan. I did eat about 200 extra calories in the evening. DH has candy around. Sometimes I can stay out of it... sometimes not. I finally remembered to put the chair in front of the fridge - symbolizing that the kitchen is closed. I ended up going to sleep 9:30 (ish). However, that means I woke up at 2:30am. However, I did NOT eat breakfast until my normal time of 8am or so. Credit. I am really tired now at 3pm. I have writing and rehearsing to do. Yawn.

My scale has said 211 for several days... so I am calling it a loss of 2. Thus, I got to change my ticker from 213 to 211. YAY.:)

Some other credits: planned/measured/logged food, always left a bite, lots of water, checked in, journal work, tried to eat slower and very mindful of sodium. This lower sodium aspect of my food plan is very challenging. :dizzy: It's often hard to make it work.... I'll stay at it.

We had a big snow storm over night. Seven inches of wet heavy snow. And yes.. I know the neighborhood cutie pies were cheering at the news of a snow day - and no school. It was nice how folks in the neighborhood helped each other as some people were stuck in the snow. It's half melted by now.

nationalparker - credit for closing the kitchen when you needed too! Your mention of tea was good, thanks... as I was thinking about something else. Dr. Beck says.... Drink...don't eat.

gardenerjoy - I, too, strungle with the 'perfection' aspect of my plan. Sometimes, I feel like Dr. Beck wants to be perfect, almost 'anal' about every bite, food plan, time, environment, and all the many things we work on. I guess it's how we can have some food sanity in the long run, but - I then feel badly if I can't do it.

bootedkitty - wow... wonderful to be able to eat and not have to keep such close track. Yes... you know the techniques and can turn to them if necessary.

billbe - oops on your interrupted concentration a la Flying Dutchman talk. Good thinking about using fruit as the signal to stop eating. Full is much better than stuffed. It was good to read your Beck info today.... a basic reminder of it all. Thanks. Also - as for the salt in my black bean hummus - 1/8 of a teaspoon. I am watching it and sometimes things just don't taste good to me without it.

Ibeleiveinme2 - yes, hop right back on to your plan and you'll be OK. Sending you a hug in remembrance of your angel. It's wonderful to have your other precious son to be with you now. So glad for that. (and a snow day to boot!!!)

bethfromdayton - I understand how the willingness of doing the resistance techniques ebbs and flows. Just keep practicing. You said: I know I haven't eaten an extra 18,000 calories since Thursday, but the scale has me up 5.2 lbs. I know it's just a number--but I'm finding it a distressing one.
I know how 'bad' it feels.. have been there. We need to tatoo to our brain that it's just a number affected by: water, salt, hormones, foods, 'poop' (sorry), TOM and more.

onebyone - sorry about your gung ho friend with the new diet. Sometimes it's hard to take. She probably means well... but, who needs it, really. Wish her well and do your own thing.

Julia - I hate it when I lose a post, too!! Bravo for 3 pounds down!!!

Hi Tazzy! - ouch on the scale being up. Posting makes it so real - whether it's helpful or can depend on our moods. Hooray for the furkids that get you out walking!

Hope you are all having a healthy day.

03-06-2013, 09:28 PM

Stayed on plan today and still have some drinking to do. :hat: No, not that kind. Just water. ;)

*credit for tracking, weighing in (-3 something :D), posting, checking in, planning, no seconds, eating light, leaving some, eating sitting down.

Looloo sounds better. Not wheezing/breathing so hard but she's really eating very little. Sleeping too much an kind of wobbly a bit. I decided to make the appt for her to get the blood test and urinanalysis tomorrow afternoon. I'll be taking her on my own as I couldn't keep the appt tomorrow night cause I wanted to go to a members only art opening with a potters' guild friend and I figure this is important too.

I got my press set up in my studio. It's adorable. Now I have my very own small press! No surprise here but I see handmade books in my future. So very very exciting.

Ok going now. Just wanted to check in and post. Official weigh-in day tomorrow. I am looking for a loss tomorrow.:mag: Hope I find one.

03-06-2013, 10:35 PM
Hi all!

Food was mostly to plan today--just a few adjustments (skipped the bread with my burger and swapped raspberries for blackberries at dinner since DH threw out the raspberries at breakfast.)

Exercise wasn't as planned. Work was closed due to snow, so I didn't get my building laps in, but I carted boxes upstairs as part of preparation for our March event. (All of the supplies are stored in our basement and we just staged them to the garage.)

My BFF borrowed the pink Beck book. I am hopeful that she'll find it useful. In the meantime, I'll re-read the other one.

IBelieveInMe2: Happy birthday to your son. I'm sorry about his twin. That must be so painful.

BillBE: High-end food is more tempting--especially when it's stuff you don't normally get to eat. Definite credit for stopping with a serving of fruit.

Bootedkitty: Good luck on not writing your diary for monitoring your eating. At this point, stopping sounds scary to me--but maybe a year and a half from now, I'll feel in control, too!

gardenerjoy: Congrats on closing your kitchen! Perfection can certainly be the enemy of success, can't it? Thanks for reassuring me about restaurant Asian food--this morning it had gone down almost 2 lbs, so perhaps the rest will disappear quickly, too.

nationalparker: You'll have to work harder to plan surprises for DH if he gets the notifications! Whitewater rafting is great--you're not that far from West Virginia which has some of the best whitewater in the country (in the world, actually). How are you eyes doing?

Beverlyjoy: This "closing of the kitchen" seems to be a theme today--it's a wonderful image. Real credit for not eating when you woke up early. We only got 4-5" of snow, but it was enough to cancel school and to close my facility.

onebyone: I hope everything goes well at the vet with Looloo. Credit fore tracking and staying on plan--and congrats on the drop--what went up did go down!

Take care, all.

03-07-2013, 01:45 AM
Hello Coaches: A quick check in before I bed. I didn't make it on here yesterday. House is in an uproar. Older son, fiancee and baby are moving to their own place. Glory be. He works nights, so there has been no way to exercise at home in the mornings. That will end next week when they make their actual move. I think that's the only way I'm ever going to get into an exercise routine that is anywhere close to consistent.
Today was day 16. NO CHOICE day. So far, sticking to what I have written down is working for me. I like having a plan. It's like a safety net. Even yesterday, when I started to feel panicky about only having 720 calories to eat, I just followed the plan and it worked for me. I like the whole NO CHOICE commitment. I just need to get to that same place about exercise now. Everyday is a new chance to do better.

- Nola

03-07-2013, 07:45 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Walked, CREDIT moi, to the library to return the book Mortality by Christopher Hitchens. A moving read by a guy who knows how to write. It was a dreary day looking out the window - was glad I wasn't a traffic cop yesterday.

Eating was only OK. OK moi, I guess, LOL. Dinner was salmon, a super food, so I'm healthy today. And some of the best asparagus we've ever had. Some days, when it's particularly fresh, asparagus becomes my favorite food.

onebyone – You've got me excited about your small press. I do hope you print some books - I'm becoming a curmudgeon about Kindle books. In my course when a page is mentioned, someone has to suggest a unique text string for the Kindle folk to search since the electronic version isn't paginated like the book.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – I like the perspective, "not a catastrophe, just a hiccup."

Beverlyjoy – Yay for a "chair in front of the fridge - symbolizing that the kitchen is closed" - I need to try some variant of that for snacking.

nationalparker – Love the story of your surprise camping weekend. And the adventures on the rapids. It's easier to be on plan while adventuring.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Carting boxes is great resistance exercise - Kudos. Either raspberries or blackberries work to get me drooling.

Kitty (Bootedkitty) – Kudos for making conscious choices to change your program. Hope they work for you. I am so ready for white smoke so my newspapers will stop writing about the secret thoughts of each Cardinal in the Conclave. Enough already.

Nola (Nola145) – Ouch for the uproar, Yay for kids making transitions in life. Count me as one of those parents who thought that it was all over when they turned 18. Yeah, LOL. Kudos for doing your 720 Calorie day.

Readers - chapter 4
How to Use the Beck Diet Solution

... I predict that six weeks from now, when you look back and compare yourself with how you are today, you'll be surprised at how much you've changed - and not only because you've lost weight. You'll realize that you're a different kind of eater. You'll have a full set of new tools and a new-and-improved mindset that will last forever.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 44.

03-07-2013, 09:54 AM

I'm trying to get DH to make a plan re: whether he wants to be at the vet with me and Looloo or not. He's got another 15-20min. to decide. We got testy with each other last night right after we fed Looloo with a syringe. Having been down that road with 3 other cats, well we knew what to do but we have also seen what comes next. Needless to say, when Caesar started eating Looloo's food again and Looloo came up to him and watched and then he let out a little prrrrt! and she started to eat from the bol and he backed away, well I held my breath and she ate for the longest she has in a week or more. Now I feel *super bad* about having to uproot her and take her to the vet. Not sure how she'll be as usual, but the silver lining in her not feeling well is she's not as feisty as normal. It should be easier for them to do what they need to do so we can get her back home ASAP.

I go to WW to weigh-in this morning. My scale said 252.9. It also said 259.2 5 days ago. I prefer this number configuration. I expect it to be less than 255 = last week's number. You just never know. I will continue to follow my plan no matter what the scale says. I continue to have fath that my moderate plan will get me to my desired destination in a healthy, calm way.

Will update later. Have a great day everyone. Please think good thoughts for the little Looloo cat.

03-07-2013, 10:15 AM
I stuck to my written plan yesterday. Thanks, coaches, for being here to listen while I worked out what it meant to be on plan and off program. I did the cooking yesterday required for me to be on both today.

Exercise: +70 270/1400 minutes for March

onebyone: I'm all excited about your press, too. What fun! And I can see exactly how your creativity will suit that tool. Thinking good thoughts for you and Looloo.

03-07-2013, 11:39 AM
Hi Coaches!

Day off and I enjoyed sleeping in...630 is a late one for me. I weighed and have a plan for today. Yesterday, OP, with the exception of switching my evening yogurt to a small glass of almond milk with fresh ground nutmeg on top. I've been measuring my coffee creamer in the morning and it seems it's a catalyst for being more thoughtful at other times of the day. credit.

I will try to get back later...8:38now and the ski traffic is slowing my internet. I have online business which needs to make forward progress before I lose that connection.

03-07-2013, 06:47 PM
Good afternoon, Coaches. I'm checking in early today. Today is day 17, which is Overfill Your Plate day. I'm a little nervous about this assignment. Tonight a friend is making chicken enchiladas and he is a really good cook. I have calculated and planned that I can have 11 ounces of enchilada. So I will take 13 or 14 ounces and at the end of the meal give the extra to my hubby to eat. Actually I do this kind of thing almost every day when I share my eggs with my dog. She always gets the last bite, even though I LOVE my breakfast eggs. I guess I love my dog more.
Onebyone: Speaking of pets, I am holding a positive thought for little Looloo. I have 3 cats myself and they are much more than "just cats", aren't they? Hope your weigh-in was to your liking.
Joy: I notice you post some awesome exercise numbers. May I ask what kind of exercise you do and how you work it into your routine?
Bill: Salmon and asparagus sounds wonderful to me. Yum. Good menu idea for later this week.
Hope you're all having a great Beck Day!

- Nola

03-07-2013, 07:16 PM
Busy day at work, and could easily put in hours of it tonight, but have enough to do around home, as well. I have a fun recipe with a chocolate peanut butter rice krispie treat bowl to make to send in with DH for his crew - they love homemade treats and no one at his work has trouble with desserts showing up. No guilt in sending food in to his work.

Ate dinner early tonight - DH is stopping by a friend's house to play guitar for a bit ...and feel like I overate a ton. But it all fit into my plan and was at 1,200 calories.

Another eye appt. tomorrow - hoping it's showing major improvement. Still hurting but not like the first few days. Wow - just realized that I'm at the two-week point from the onset of it.

I'm failing miserably on the Beck strategies. I need to get back into EVERYTHING, it seems - the response cards, the thought processes, etc. (Don't ban me from this forum yet - I'm going to do a review and hopefully journal a bit tonight...)

03-07-2013, 07:41 PM
Hi.. checking in. Yesterday I stay within my basic food plan. However, my daily plan got scratched early in the day. I was having a Not Fair moment... & I didn't say... Oh well. Was tired of eating low sodium. But... I still was within my range of that. Credit.

I did my meditations yesterday! Credit.

I need to tidy up. I am a candidate for 'get rid of your clutter' thread!

Hope you all have had a great day.

03-07-2013, 09:48 PM
Dear friends and coaches,
I am having trouble keepin a post to stick. Something keeps making things disappear. grrr This is going to be a sad lament today.
I am having a difficult time right now. I have struggled with depression most of my adult life. I finally accepted that my brain won't stay stable without medications so I've been on the same medication for about 10 years. I did well but the side effect of sweating was just awful. My doctor changed my med for me in August. Well, I quit sweating but I wonder if I'm on the right drug now as I'm slipping again. Of course it probably didn't help that I only took the medication 1 time a day instead of the 2 that it was prescribed :). Maybe I should listen to the dr huh? I think that my dad's death pushed me over the edge. So, here I am feeling sorry for myself. So...I am taking my medication 2x/day now.
Yesterday, I was in a really bad spot at work and a woman that works in my building and I got to talking. She takes folic acid in a prescription form that is used as an adjunct to antidepressants. She has been able to decrease her antidepressants by 3/4 dose. She has such success with it she tells everyone. Of course I was really motivated to try it so called my Dr. After 4 calls my dr. agreed to prescribe it. She had never heard of it so tried to tell me to use over the counter formulations. I finally got what I needed across to her. So frustrating to have to go through her assistant. Who knows what was being communicated. Well, the prescription is called in!!
Yesterday, I started having horrible back pain at work. I have a new appreciation for people with back pain. I was able to schedule a same afternoon massage and whew, what a relief! I'll confess I've never had a massage because it hurts when people try to rub my shoulders thinking it's going to help. the guy who did it listened when I told him it hurt and I came out of there feeling like a new person. I think it's caused by stress. I felt so good after the massage that I actually wanted to eat something. I stopped and got fast food. I was up 2 pounds today but I don't even care. I didn't eat 7,000 calories, just a lot of extra salt.
OK, pity party is over, I'm back on JC today, I will get my new prescription tomorrow, my family loves me, I have a job, I've lost 22 pounds and spring is coming!
NationalParker Where in Montana did you whitewater raft? I'm originally from Montana. There are some really beautiful places there. My in-laws will be moving back there so we'll probably be spending more time there again.
I'll be back tomorrow. Everyone have a good night. I hope I can sleep tonight.

03-08-2013, 12:22 AM
Hi all,

Today was OP foodwise except for a fruit substitution. (The raspberries were too expensive at the store so I bought watermelon and blackberries.) (There were two Sumos left, but they were too sad looking to buy.)

Exercise was OP.

Today was an easy day, plan-wise. I think the more structured workday really helps me keep to a schedule (well, duh). Weekends are more fun--but harder to plan and keep to.

Julia150: If I can, I'll just send a hug, and remind you that for many people with affective mood disorders, the goal is stability--even when that means medication.

Beverlyjoy: What type of meditation do you do? I would think that'd help you get back to 'oh well'.

nationalparker: I find it easy to not make new and re-read existing response cards--and I think they really help. The one I've printed out and put on my computer monitor really sticks with me. I've got to do that with more of them. Good luck with your journaling.

Nola145: How did the overfill your plate day go? Chicken enchiladas are very tempting! I take it DH doesn't have weight issues? I agree with you about the plan being like a safety net. Last night, I didn't want to make dinner--but it was on the plan and all I had to do was follow it. Safety net--and a kick in the behind, too!

Lexiss: Credit for starting out your day with a measuring spoon! I've taken to packing one with my lunch salads so I can measure my dressing at work! It does sort of become habit, doesn't it?

gardenerjoy: Credit for doing the necessary cooking.

onebyone: How is Looloo? And how was your weigh-in? Thinking good thoughts at you for both.

BillBE: Can I give you credit for making me laugh? "OK moi."

Time for me to enter my plan for tomorrow into MFP and call it a night.

Take care, everyone.

03-08-2013, 03:00 AM
Hi everybody! Last night when I finally managed to read you, I wrote a post and then...I don't know what I did with my pc...I lost it all!! :?: I'm a disaster!
I just wanted to say that even if I'm not so "present" here, I love this forum that is a sort of "shelter" for all of us Becksters... it's nice seeing how this method works and how is the process going on with us at different stages...someone is where I was one year ago, someone is where I'd like to be in some months...well this is witnessing the success of the method for us. :carrot:
I was scared about leaving my diary, but I didn't left counting calories at all, I'm just doing it menthally it was not a "neat detachment" (is it the correct word?) from monitoring my eating...I'll do it gradually!
Still reading chapter about cravings (day 13 I think..not sure), I'm gonna stay on that till I'm sure I can beat them!! seems you are more informed about Church than me.... :^:
Have a good weekend!!!!

03-08-2013, 07:10 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Walked, CREDIT moi, as the snow was falling - really beautiful. Initially I walked wearing my glasses. Dumb move. They weren't very useful when the snow stuck to them. I've only worn glasses for about two years and still resent them as the symbol that bodies don't perform as well each year as they did the year before.

Food was only OK, again. Despite the snow we ended up at a cocktail hour preview for next year's opera season. Talk about inspiring. We were presented with two arias from Verdi's Rigoletto in an intimate setting with views of the Boston Common out the window as the snow was falling. Life doesn't get better. Unfortunately it came with some fine cheeses and breads. Ouch. But the singing was rare and unusual so I'll count that, LOL.

onebyone – Yep, trust your plan - the scale will get the message. Positive thoughts to Looloo.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Yay for two days' worth of cooking at once. Hope you are following the daily comic strip, Stone Soup ( with the young lady packing for Paris.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Fresh ground nutmeg is just the best to pick up the mood.

Beverlyjoy – That old "Not Fair" Sabotaging Thought seems to turn up even when we think we've long outgrown it. Did you read yesterday of one-more-study showing that salt isn't just implicated in heart disease, but autoimmune diseases ( as well. You're doing the right thing.

nationalparker – Shuddering at the thought of a "a chocolate peanut butter rice krispie treat bowl" within my reach, LOL. Kudos for looking at your performance using Beck strategies and heading back to your path.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Yay for an easy day on plan. I recognize that ease that comes with a structured day, even as I long for an exciting weekend.

Julia (Julia150) – Lovely conclusion of your reality, "my family loves me, I have a job, I've lost 22 pounds and spring is coming!" Perhaps it's useful to feel sorry for ourselves every now and then to flush it out of our system.

Kitty (Bootedkitty) – I like the notion that we're a sort of "shelter" for each other. There's no place in real life that I can tell someone with a straight face that I just didn't eat a Girl Scout cookie. They'd think me nuts.

Nola (Nola145) – LOL at daily sharing with your dog - an in-house diet coach.

Readers - chapter 4
How to Use the Beck Diet Solution

A Program for Everybody
The beauty of the Beck Diet Solution is that it can help anyone. It doesn't matter if you want to lose 5 pounds or 100 pounds or if you just want to maintain your weight. It doesn't matter if you're male or female, old or young. It doesn't matter whether this is your first or tenth diet, or whether you've been dieting on and off forever. If you want to keep off excess weight permanently, you need to have a good set of dieting skills. All I ask is that you choose a healthy, nutritious diet (make sure to get approval from your health-care provider) and that you don't start dieting until you're psychologically ready, which might not be until two weeks from today.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pgs 44-45.

03-08-2013, 10:00 AM
Hi... just a quick stop here for now. Want to share some information that came through my facebook page via The Beck Solution:

Friday Weekend Warm-up: Being accountable for your actions is a critical part of successful weight loss because it enables you to recognize mistakes, which then allows you to learn from them for the future. Are you going to committ to stay track this weekend?

I'll be back later.

03-08-2013, 10:05 AM
Hi Coaches!

Yesterday was OP, with the exception of the extra piece of rosemarysourdough bread I just HAD to have. It was my choice. I've weighed this morning and am off to Denver for a bike ride before the snow hits here again.
I pulled my BP monitor out again several days ago. I used to run 145/95 with medication. My readings over the past few days are always around 118/80. What a blessing and credit moi for persistence with health. (I notice it's dropped again since we really went vegetarian 9 months ago).

Hopefully BBL.

03-08-2013, 10:35 AM
On plan yesterday for food and exercise even while all other plans went haywire. That's an accomplishment for me -- I often let the food and exercise slip when everything else does. It looks like we're going out of town next week and I have less than a week to plan it. Eek. Fortunately, it's a place we've been before. I may even be able to find an old packing list from the last time we went in OneNote.

Exercise: +55 325/1400 minutes for March

julia150: sending hugs. This is a totally off the wall recommendation but I'm reading a book called Your Playlist can Change Your Life that I seem to want to tell everyone to read. I'm not a morning person at all, but my Good Morning playlist has me getting out of bed when the alarm goes off. While it plays, I make my daily posts here as well as doing a few other things to get my day going well. It feels like a minor miracle to me.

BillBlueEyes: as a long-time glasses wearer, I recommend a cap when it snows. DH wears the newsboy cap he got in Ireland -- it has just enough brim to keep rain drops and snowflakes of this glasses. Thanks for the link to the comic -- that looks like a fun one to follow!

03-08-2013, 12:43 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

Busy as always. But I do not want to let a triumph go uncredited. No chocolate foraging for a whole week at school. (One small square of OFFERED-not stolen- English chocolate only.) I really kept in my mind all week the idea that what I put in my mouth is one of the few things I can control so when I was overwhelmed with things (a usual occurrence in middle school) I felt better NOT eating than eating. I was part of a solution in a small way.
Weight is at ticker. No step class today but heading up the hill to ski this weekend.

BBE: Your talk of the Boston Commons reminded me: What hotel would you recommend for DS and me? We will drive to Boston after graduation in Vermont. Price is less of a concern than perfect locality on the Freedom Trail, touristing, safe part of town.
Lexxiss: terrific news about BP. My crowd is turning 50 and it is shocking the med problems coming up.
Beverleyjoy: Belated bday congrats.

Wave to all.

03-08-2013, 02:26 PM

The vet called ith Looloo's test results. She's in kidney failure. With treatment she can have another 1-2 years. Treatment=giving fluids subcutaneously at home or we can bring her in 3x a week. They want to give her a step up and hospitalize her for 2or 3 nights for IV Fluids. We opeted to get the subQ fluids done today (aleady done and back) and then see where we stand come Monday. We have a tentative appt for eithe the subQ or the IV overnights. We gave her an appetite stimulant last night and we told it would tkae up to 3 days to work and no, she was hungry hours later. She came up and slept with us, sitting on me, purring away. Her meows and purrs are high-pitched right now so that purring kept me awake. I am exhausted today. I could not bear to mvoe her away or off of me inspaite of the non-sleeping. Just grateful she was feeling better. And again, after returning home frm the vet, once the carrier door was open she wanted food NOW. Apparently stressful situations trigger in her a desire to eat. Perhaps this is more instinctual than we realize in ourselves as well.

DH was a wreck after heaing the prognosis for Looloo even though we had suspected this. We opted to get a bite to eat before he went in to work and then he discovered he was 20min late for a meeting with THE boss there and someone else. They stated the meeting without him. He sounded positively chastised on the phone. Yikes. I said "are you fired?" "No." "Ok then." Poor guy. He's quite the sensitive character. I know this as I have seen him misty-eyed during the national anthem for instance, which is not a common thing up here in Canada.

As for me I didn't complete my tracking for yesterday so I will go do that and include what I have eaten today as well. Last night at the member's only preview evening for the art gallery (it was GREAT!) there was an s-shaped table lined with many small dishes of food offerings. I thought "rare and unusual...rare and unusual" and chose one handmade mozzarella ball - small, one stuffed olive and one smores-ish cookie, plus a cup of fruit punch. All good as we walked the exhibit for 2 hours and still got kicked out. We had to rush the last room which should not have been rushed.

I am finding the urge to eat strong in me today. It's the stress, the worry, the wondering, the everything. And the being tired. I need to be vigilant and remember I want to be close to that 250 mark as I head off to my week long residency at this time next week.

Ok better go track now. Thanks for the good thoughts re:Looloo. Bye for now.

03-08-2013, 02:36 PM

Ok, the pity party is ending. I've been here before (depressed) and life always gets better. This is my mantra for today.
BethfromDayton Thank you for the hug. Yes, my reality is that I will always need medication to maintain a stable mood. This is my own fault for not taking my meds properly. I may have to go back to the medication that was effective before but I'll give this drug (taken properly) and the other new adjunctive treatment till the end of the month when I see my MD.
GardnerJoy Thank you for the hug as well. I am making a trip to the book store today so I'll check the book out. I read a bit about it online, it sounds interesting. I have to return a Christmas gift. I loved the show "Six Feet Under" a few years ago. My DD and DH got me season one on DVD. I don't think they were really thinking, dad died just before Christmas and I want to watch a show centered around death? I don't think so.
BillThanks for the sentiment about feeling sorry for ourselves. I hope it does flush out.
LexxissIt's amazing how much losing weight does for blood pressure. When I've lost weight in the past, I've been able to completely go off BP meds. Your numbers are phenomenal, your heart thanks you I'm sure.

I seem to have really fallen off the Beck method. I hope it's OK for me to stick around while I work back toward using the principles.


03-08-2013, 02:39 PM
OneByOneWe crossed posted, I'm so sorry about your kitty. I'm keeping you in my thoughts. I love my cats and my heart hurts for you.

03-08-2013, 04:07 PM
Hello All,

I came to the board yesterday to post and it never did happen, was also looking for my Wed post when I realized that went sideways too. Some teenage angst drama for my 14 yr old DS and it was a flashback to his father and I of 5 years ago with the older son. Not sure I'm up for this again but 5 years ago I ate my way through and that's not the case this time. This morning I kept repeating 4 more years, 4 more years, like a slogan for a politician!

Weighed this morning and am below 170 again but will wait until Sun to track and try not to let the number make me believe I can eat whatever, whenever. Going to my parents tomorrow and my sis and I are taking them lunch, which I am shopping for later, so I'll have all the control over the menu and choices. It's great that all 4 of us are really happy to eat well so that will make it easier.

A few quick personals then back to my desk.....

onebyone Sorry to hear about your kitty and her health problems. :hug: to all as I know how hard things would be if it was one of my puppies.

Julia150 I think we would all agree that you are not "pushed" out of the group while trying to get back to the BDS principles. I personally would not have been welcome here many times if that was the case. That's when you need to be here more. Also I have to say I love the names you give youself at the end of your posts.

maryann Credit for not "sneaking" any chocolate all week. There must be a large supply of it in your school. That could be quite scary.

gardenerjoy I don't think I've ever created a packing list that I would have saved anywhere. It's always been more of "where are we going on this trip and what would we need". Hope you find your list!

BBE I can relate to your post about wet glasses. I walked the dogs early on Sun morning in the midst of blowing snow (from every direction we turned) and wished for ski goggles to keep things clear. Now I seem to have more puppy kisses on them than anything. You sure seem to live a cultured life with all the entertainment you enjoy. Rare and unusual singing is a treat.

nationalparker Chocolate peanut butter rice krispie treats sound way too inviting for me! I love to bake and prefer to send it to work with DH as well, his colleagues appreciate it. Better on their "waists" than mine.

Hi to Nola, Beth, Booted Kitty,Lexxiss and Big Chief David. Hope to get back over the weekend to check in, really hope it's with a lower number too. ;)

03-08-2013, 08:20 PM
Hi coaches... yesterday (Thursday) was a 'hard' day... but, I made it through. I did have about 200 hundred extra calories.. but, was able to stop. So grateful.

Some other credits: journal, planned/measured/logged food, exercises, watched sodium, no seconds, always left a bite, took a couple deep breathes before eat meal/snack, tried to eat some slower.

I am worried about my neice, who has Crohn's disease and is in the hospital. She's had Crohn's since she was 8 years old..She is now 20. It just doesn't seem fair for her to have this health challenge. We will go see her over the weekend. Please send some healing thoughts her way. Thanks.

Saturday we are gathering with family for a March birthday celebration. I have been trying to plan and do the things that will be helpful. I can have one small taste of the appetizer (if it looks good) a small piece of the mussouka, salad, bite of potatoes and only a bite of cake. NO seconds. It's a pot luck. Also, I am excited to meet my newest cousin who is 15 months.

billbe - thanks for the extra information on sodium and autoimmune diseases. It's a good reminder and helpful. Thanks. Ouch on the extra's before the opera. Sounds like a fun evening, for sure.

bethfromdayton - kudo's for staying within your plan. My meditations are some guided imagery cd's or some short ones that are on youtube. They are helpful when I am willing to use them. I took a few classes a few years ago teaching the techniques of relaxation & guided imagery. It's actually very helpful.

Maryann - thanks for the birthday wishes.

Remember, folks, to treat yourself as kindly as you would treat a good friend.

03-08-2013, 09:13 PM
Hey Coaches! Happy Friday! It's day 18 over here on the BDS program. Last night I triumphed over the extra enchilada on my plate. Food OP for the day. Today is a 720 calorie day on the two-day-a week-fasting plan I'm doing. Again, I felt a little panicky this morning at the idea of eating so little, but my written-out plan has seen me through in good stead. I am also using EFT when I feel really "cravy" or panicky. It does seem to take the edge off immediately. Doing just 720 calories fits right in with Day 18 stuff of practicing being hungry. Meals are smaller and leaner; I don't get as full and the effect doesn't last as long.
Nationalparker: Good luck getting back on track. I bet you can do it!
Julia: It sounds like you are a good candidate for a fresh start and I hope you're feeling better and more optimistic now.
Kitty: I mentioned above that I've been using Emotional Freedom Technique for cravings and it is really working. You can Google it if you're interested. There are lots of free tutorials online.
Bill: Snowy walks and opera sounds like a perfect way to spend an evening. Like Joy recommended, my hubby also wears a newsboy cap. He loves it and I like the way he looks in it.
Debbie: Those are awesome BP results. Congratulations!
One-by-one: My heart goes out to you. I'm glad little Looloo got her appetite back.
Tazzy: I had to snicker quietly about "only 4 more years". Did I tell you I have a 20-year-old still at home, and my 28-year-old has been here the last year as well? Who knew we were signing up for a life-time parenting commitment? LOL
Have an amazing evening, everyone.
- Nola

03-08-2013, 10:12 PM
(Makes concerted effort to sneak into thread unnoticed, but the thunder in thighs aborts the attempted stealth re-entry.)

I've fallen off the Beck wagon more than a few times. Why is this round different?

1. In the past, I've a plan for food, but not for thoughts.
2. In the past, I've allowed myself to be intimidated by the time required to support my fellow Beck chicks. For me, it's important to give as good as I get.
3. In the past, I've devoted a huge chunk of what spare time I have to dating.

Cognitive Plan

For the next thirty days, I will check in and :


After 30 days, I'll reassess, tweak and strategize for the next 30.


For the next thirty days, I'll offer support for the chick who checks in directly above me each day. After 30 days, I'll reassess my time commitment, tweak and strategize for the next 30.

Spare Time

I'm sitting pretty in the relationship realm at the moment and have more time to devote to a healthy Nelia. But even so, I'll insure my spare time by setting the alarm for 3:30am on weekdays and 5:30am on weekends for the next 30 days.

After 30 days, I'll reassess my insurance policy, tweak and strategize for the next 30.

I look forward to jumping back into the Beck fray! Smooch!

03-08-2013, 10:20 PM

Dim Sum this morning. I'll be certain to drink a full glass of water before digging in. No more than one of anything - with the exception of my designated favorite. For the designated favorite, I have the option to splurge and eat two. Between each dim sum morsel, I'll take a sip of water and assess my whether I'm comfortably full. I'll stop eating when I hit that point. No prevarication about it.

I'll pick up a grilled salmon salad on the way home. And if I feel the need for a sweet night cap, I'll end the evening festivities with one row of dark chocolate.

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Reinforce Not yet applicable.

Revision Not yet applicable.


Rejoining my chicks and heaving this fanny back onto the Beck wagon!

03-08-2013, 11:12 PM
Hi Coaches!
I'm checking in for's my long day at work and it seems a blizzard is planned. Today I tweaked my plan after a late lunch and unplanned afternoon snack. I had a fruit/yogurt smoothie and 2 slices of WF toast for dinner. Reality is I don't always "need" a meal. I told DH he was on his own….he wasn't that hungry, either. I'll weigh tomorrow….always do. credit.

Nelia, welcome back! Kudos for your well thought out plan. I find dim sum much more enjoyable now that I am mindful about it. I have lived in HongKong...I understand the frenzy.

BillBlueEyes, yay for an amazing evening with your opera preview even if it included some fine cheeses and bread. We are learning to enjoy then "adjust".

Nola, great that you are using EFT for cravings….I'm familiar but had never thought of that application. Thx.

Beverlyjoy, kudos for stopping after only 200 extra calories. Enjoy your family BD celebration...glad you are going with a plan. credit.

Tazzy, what a success when you recognize you no longer have to eat your way through a teenagers drama.

Julia, continuing to send supportive thoughts as you regroup. (ps missed you)

onebyone, yay for food success at your event and supportive thoughts sent your way as you adjust to the daily reality of Looloos condition. Good news (in my opinion) is now you know just what you need to do for her.

maryann, kudos for a scavenge free week!

gardenerjoy, I just love the feeling of exercise and food sanity amidst "other plans went haywire." I almost went to the library for your book today...decided I'd finish what I had first. I use playlists at home a lot. I have a morning….bike riding….It makes me look forward to my daily events.

Nationalparker, I really enjoy baking stuff that I can send somewhere else. Hope your eye is doing better.

Beth(fromDayton), I scrounged at WF today and brought home 4 sumos...the last for this year. I think we need to find a new yummy fruit. I have a new favorite (frozen) from Costco.

Bootedkitty, great that you are able to mentally do your calculations now.

03-08-2013, 11:19 PM
Checking in to stay accountable today. Half good, half bad day. Guess I can't complain. Eye appt. went well - continue the three antibiotics every few hours for another week, but added another Rx in there. But good news that it's improving! Along with the vision - also improved!

More frustration with the legal issues with DH's ex. She's a tool, and I say that in no nice way. Manipulative and lying and that's a terrible combination in my book. Very hard for me to deal with the fallout from someone I hold no respect for. It just keeps getting more stressful. Need to step back and b-r-e-a-t-h-e.

Dinner wasn't until 9:30 - my own fault. I waited for DH to get home and thought we'd do one thing and that fell by the wayside as we discussed the new "ex" issues and then ordered Chinese. I can do well enough there, nothing fried, and plenty of veggies. But sodium I KNOW is a hit. I ate too much too late. Disappointed in myself - I skipped the snacking when super stressed; made hot tea. Then pfft - feel like I ruined my attempt.

More positiveness coming from my little place in the world tomorrow.

03-09-2013, 01:07 AM
Late check-in for me--have spend the evening with my eyes going blurry from spreadsheets and lists for our event--it's only 2 weeks away and I have a lot of shopping to do!

Food was pretty much OP today. Made a fruit adjustment for dinner and skipped the salad in favor of more stir fry veggies, but everything else was right to plan. Work walking was to plan and I stopped at Half Price books after work and picked up a couple of inexpensive workout DVDs--ones that I'd been eyeing on line at a much higher price!

I hate making weekend plans, but I'm going to do it--and try to stick as close to it as possible. If I sleep late and end up with 'brunch' instead of separate breakfasts and lunches, I feel off all day. I need to accept that might happen and that if it does, I'll re-plan for the rest of the day then, and stay on target for it. It would mean not keeping completely to my original plan, but a re-assessment could really help me keep myself within program parameters.

I've been watching my carbs (under 55% of total calories), protein (81g), and fiber (25g) this week. I've got some improvement to do, but I'm doing pretty well with it. Entering my plan the night before lets me see what I need to adjust before the day even starts!

Take care, all.

03-09-2013, 07:39 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Exercise was shoveling snow, CREDIT moi, and then shoveling snow again. It came down as predicted. The good news is that it was easy shoveling stuff and left bare pavement underneath. Nine inches but no complaints.

Food was OK. Dinner at a restaurant with DW and a friend. My portion was larger then I needed, but not large enough to take home the remainder. DW and I later planned a combo for that restaurant where we'd order my dish and she'd order a veggies-only dish and it'd be about right.

onebyone – Ouch for the continued stress tending Looloo. Kudos for choosing one item from abundance at the preview evening.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Kudos for on plan when the other plans went haywire. [Thanks for the tip for a brimmed cap for glasses.]

Debbie (Lexxiss) – That's an admirable BP - Kudos for the life changes that caused that. LOL at "a blizzard is planned" - that's exactly what I suspected: the powers sat around a table and thought, "they need a blizzard now."

Beverlyjoy – Yay for "accountable." Sending supportive thoughts for your niece with Crohn's disease. Happy multi-Birthdays today. Sounds like you have a plan.

maryann - Ah, "OFFERED-not stolen" - you made my go look up Yevtushenko's Stolen Apples, "The odor of love is the scent not of bought but of stolen apples." I love to be reminded of that from time to time. Sobering to be reminded that faculty can be overwhelmed in middle-school also.

Tazzy - Ouch for the "teenage angst drama" - hang in there, it does get better. Yay for meals where you control the ingredients.

Nelia – Such an interesting insight, "I've a plan for food, but not for thoughts." Neat that you've put together a thorough plan. In fairness, dating [I]is one of the important events in life, particularly with the challenge, as I recall from your earlier posts, of sometimes being here and sometimes there. Thirty days is a nice, finite goal. You'll do well with the determination, "No prevarication about it."

nationalparker – Yay for the improvements in vision and in staying the path. Ouch for the continued drama from the "ex."

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Stir fry veggies are so good. Kudos for entering your plan the night before.

Julia (Julia150) – Now that's an inspiring thought, "life always gets better. This is my mantra for today." Keep nibbling at the edges and you'll find your way back on the path.

Nola (Nola145) – Kudos for triumph over that extra enchilada - I love those little victories.

Readers - chapter 4
How to Use the Beck Diet Solution

A Program for Everybody
,,, Many dieters I've worked with over the years were initially a little hesitant about starting this program. It made sense to them, but they were concerned that it might be difficult, that it would take too much time, or that they wouldn't be able to stay motivated. They didn't realize that the program was designed to help them solve these very problems. They also didn't know (although they quickly found out) that dieting would become easier and easier as they learned and practiced the skills I was going to teach them.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 45.

03-09-2013, 09:07 AM
Good Morning! Wow, BBE, 9 inches of snow! When I went downstairs at 4am there was no the time coffee started it was coming down like crazy! DH said...I guess I have my work cut out here today...he shovels at mom's, too. I prefer MY spontaneous exercise at

Have a great, and planned day, everyone!

03-09-2013, 10:21 AM
On plan food and exercise yesterday. My reward this morning is a scale reading that's back down in my maintenance range. Woohoo! That took longer than I expected which is another reason to stay on my plan -- I get to spend more time in my favorite weight range.

It's raining now, but the weather lady promises that it will stop in a bit. We're meeting my brother, his girlfriend, and her 12-year-old daughter at the Missouri Botanical Garden this morning. We'll start in the Orchid Show which is indoors, but I'm hoping that we get the promised drier and warmer weather so we can go outside some, too.

Exercise: +80 405/1400 minutes for March

Great to see you back here, Nelia!

03-09-2013, 12:09 PM
Thanks a lot for your suggestion Nola, I'll definetely have a look! Cravings are my worst enemy! Have a good weekend!

03-09-2013, 05:53 PM
Thanks, all, for the warm re-welcome! Y'all make it easy to come back home. Your warmth is much appreciated.


After a resistance session in the gym, I'll stop by the grocery store to pick up a few necessities. Water, eggs, cashews, macadamia nuts, yogurt and berries. Lots of berries.

When I return home, I'll eat the grilled salmon salad purchased yesterday. Early evening, I'll eat a chicken caesar salad and a trio of satay. For an evening night cap, I'll grab a handful of nuts and a row of dark chocolate. If I'm terribly hungry, I'll add yogurt and berries to the mix.


Dim Sum this morning [Credit]. I'll be certain to drink a full glass of water before digging in [Credit]. No more than one of anything - with the exception of my designated favorite [Credit]. For the designated favorite, I have the option to splurge and eat two [Credit - Didn't take advantage of the option.]. Between each dim sum morsel, I'll take a sip of water [Partial Credit - Missed the first round, but did well thereafter.] and assess my whether I'm comfortably full. I'll stop eating when I hit that point. No prevarication about it [Partial Credit - I stopped. But prevarication was involved. I'm not yet skilled in listening and understanding my body cues. In retrospect, I stopped too early.].

I'll pick up a grilled salmon salad on the way home [Revision]. And if I feel the need for a sweet night cap, I'll end the evening festivities with one row of dark chocolate [Partial Credit - Timing was different.].

Managed to talk myself into purchasing the salad later that evening as opposed to immediately after dim sum. I became hungry sooner than anticipated and as a result nibbled on home offerings. Luckily, there wasn't much in the cupboards, so the damage was minimal. I ate unplanned macadamia nuts, pistachios and boiled eggs. And the chocolate was eaten earlier, rather than later as planned.


Eating mindfully is a weakness. I'd like to make it a strength. I spent a considerable amount of time researching various offerings to reinforce Beck's call to eat mindfully and decided upon Somov's Eating the Moment. Thus far, I'm thrilled with the choice. Similar to Beck, this guy has a no nonsense, practical approach to conscious eating and I'm excited to dig in. I read his introduction this morning and have decided to follow his recommended sequence.


I chose to revision the moment when most of the food arrived during dim sum. I was so anxious to make the right choices, that I didn't enjoy making the right choices. I replayed that initial moment sans tension, taking deep breaths and making certain I felt relaxed before choosing what to eat.


Purchasing, if not eating, the grilled salmon salmon. I tend to get lazy in the afternoons and opt for the convenience of junk food. But yesterday, I skipped the short cut. Triumph!

03-09-2013, 06:08 PM
Thanks a lot for your suggestion Nola, I'll definetely have a look! Cravings are my worst enemy! Have a good weekend!

Hmmm. I'd like to lend support to the cause, but it seems I've missed the original account of the challenge on tap!

Regardless, credit to you for tackling cravings! This, alongside mindful eating, tends to be my biggest obstacle, and so I look forward to mirroring your success!

03-09-2013, 07:50 PM
Sorry I have been AWOL the past couple days. Haven't really had much to report or say. I am just sort of coasting along..... not making progress, but not regressing either. Need to step up my reading of my ARC and response cards and have been revisiting the pink Beck book again. I have been "hung up" for quite awhile on Days 26 and 27 ~ Rocognizing Thinking Mistakes and Mastering the 7 Question Technique. There is so much information to process in those 2 chapters alone. I really want to conquer my sabotaging thinking and thinking mistakes. I finally moved on from those chapters, but I will be revisiting them often, as they are crucial for my success, I think, especially the thinking mistakes chapter. The 7 question technique feels too tedious for me, but I guess that is part of my sabotaging thinking. Did any of you find it useful or should I just move on from it? It has me perplexed for some reason.

Nelia: Welcome back! :)

onebyone: So sorry about Looloo's diagnosis! :( Our golden (who recently died) was in various stages of kidney failure for the last 1-2 years of her life. She was eating a special low protein food and on many meds, but we sure treasured those last few years with her! I know you will treasure your time with Looloo, too! Sending you hugs and prayers! :hug:

Beverlyjoy: Sending healing thoughts and prayers for your niece and hugs for you! :hug: It is so difficult to see those we love suffer. Hang in there!

:wave: to everyone else! :)

03-09-2013, 10:26 PM
Beck post

Hi everyone!

Like Nelia I am sneaking back stealthily into this thread. I feel like I keep doing this, over and over … perhaps it's getting old for you folks. But I need to keep trying.

It seems like the more and more success I have with my work the bigger I get. I have recently come to the realization that I am putting off being brave and doing new things in my life until I lose weight. This is a completely vicious cycle because I end up putting off all the things I could derive pleasure from in life … except food of course. So I am determined to live life as much as possible AS IF I were at my ideal weight already… including eating in a way in which I'll get closer to that weight.

And Beck is the only way I know to help me get there. I am redoing my 42 days and I'm on Day 6 now, so here I am. One thing I'm doing differently this time around is that I'm not strictly dieting until day 15, as Dr Beck suggests. I have never tried to do it that way before and I think it will make a difference.

I am also avoiding wheat and most dairy right now and it seems to be making a difference in my energy levels and digestion. I've switched from coffee to green tea, and I'm alternating walking and yoga as daily exercise. I'm hoping to get back to running soon. I ran a half-marathon in 2005 and it would be wonderful to be back in that kind of shape again.

Question: Would anyone be interested in a one-on-one diet buddy/coach relationship? I would be willing to email daily and meet via Skype or FaceTime weekly for mutual support. Please let me know if you're interested!

Thanks for reading me and I'm looking forward to catching up!

03-09-2013, 10:33 PM
Beck post

Like Nelia I am sneaking back stealthily into this thread. I feel like I keep doing this, over and over … perhaps it's getting old for you folks. But I need to keep trying.

(Laughing!) If it's getting old because of you, I'm making thread positively ancient. I appreciate your tenacity and bet others do, too!

Question: Would anyone be interested in a one-on-one diet buddy/coach relationship? I would be willing to email daily and meet via Skype or FaceTime weekly for mutual support. Please let me know if you're interested!

Definitely interested in the one-on-one. Shoot me a PM if you wouldn't mind being a diet coach/buddy to a hot mess.

03-10-2013, 12:29 AM

Have to go to bed but here to report I had an excellent, if indulgent, day today. Ran into "rare and unusual" food more than once. Had seconds of home made lemon ice cream-dinner at a friend's-rare/unusual in itself. Have not tracked as I just got in the door to starving cats and the need to stop by here. Off to do that now.

More tomorrow.

03-10-2013, 08:36 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – I pulled away from my quasi-legal parking space in the supermarket parking lot just as the car in front of me was getting ticketed. Wowsii! Dodged a bullet - making for more joy than all the legal and good things I do in life. Strange that. It's a little embarrassing that that's the most risquι thing I have to report, LOL.

Exercise was walking, CREDIT moi, to and from the place were three of us were going to do some volunteer cleanup work. Sheer drudgery, except that there'd be three of us to share it and laugh. Walking was just the best: dry sidewalks, sun out, and white snow stacked nine inches all around like snow would be in Disneyland. Then a miracle happened. People were using the space and that prevented us from doing our work. So, with full credit under my belt for being so generous to donate my time, I did no work, and walked home in the wonderland snow. Two sources of fraudulent joy in the same weekend.

onebyone – Yay for dinner at a friend's to keep on living even while so distracted attending to Looloo.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Neat that a twelve year-old will still go to the Botanical Gardens with you. Congrats for back in maintenance range.

Erika (eusebius) – Congrats on that "more and more success" with your work - hope you are giving yourself credit for that. Kudos for charging forward to Day 6 - we welcome another Diet Coach and look forward to that role with you. And Kudos again for making diet choices that are working for you. (Since there are so many new folks, perhaps you'll tell again that your Avatar isn't named after the pope.)

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Sympathy to your DH shoveling two places.

Nelia – Such fun to be addressed as "Y'all" from Cambodia. Kudos for enjoying Dim Sum while sticking to your plan. And Kudos also for choosing Somov - how can you not love a guy who emphasizes the OM in his name.

IBelieveInMe2 – "Thinking Mistakes" was one of my favorite parts of Beck - couldn't believe how many I did (and do). "7 Questions Technique" was the least. I worked and worked at it to find one example that I could use. Interesting that Beck dropped that from the green book - so feel free to charge forward while still "perplexed" with it.

Kitty (Bootedkitty) – Yep, I could do without cravings myself. Especially for fried stuff.

Readers - chapter 4
How to Use the Beck Diet Solution

A Program for Everybody
,,, Like those dieters, you might also feel hesitant. You might not believe right now that dieting will become easier - but it will. The Beck Diet Solution is designed to help you solve the problems that have made dieting difficult for you in the past.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 45.

03-10-2013, 09:17 AM
Hi coaches. - Yesterday was a long day. A three hour drive took us to the family March birthday party. Thirteen folks from three states gathered. Five of us have birthday's in March. It was so joyful. I loved it. I got to meet the newest cousin in the family. It couldn't have been a better day.

My food was so good at the party ... it was hard but I stayed with it & made excellent choices.

When we got home (three hour drive home) I felt like I was going to 'explode' if I didn't eat more. I wish I had gone to bed. I had a binge at midnight. What is wrong with me - that I am so ovecome with that desire to eat, just because I denied myself with not overeating at a party. I feel frustrated and bewildered and a little bit hopeless about my food addiction.

Sometimes I feel like I am too old to ever conquer this food addiction. I just don't know. I'll try again today. I guess it's a setback.. but, not the end of the world. I'll plan for a healthy day. Sometimes I am weary of it all - but, I won't give up. I've come too far for that I guess.

(Ya know... I have the tools and techniques to 'get through an approaching binge' - but, sometimes the willingness to use them flies out the window.)

03-10-2013, 10:44 AM
It rained longer than expected, but we did get out far enough to see the camellias in the oldest continuously operating green house west of the Mississippi. I'll attach pictures -- some orchids, a camellia, and the 12-year-old wearing my sweater from Ireland because she didn't come dressed warmly enough for the day as it turned out.

Eating was on plan, included the Chinese Garden Salad. The cafe at the Missouri Botanical Garden has salads named after each of their gardens.

Today's forecast is rain all day, a visit from the French tutor late this afternoon, and on plan food from my kitchen. I'm counting on it being relaxing while I recover from the jet lag of the Spring Forward time change.

Exercise: +45 450/1400 March

IBelieveInMe2: The 7 Question Technique works applied at the right time. But you can move on -- just keep it in mind to try when you're having trouble.

Great to see you, eusebius! I missed both you and Nelia. I especially miss you every time I have something musical to report about my day! I've just finished Your Playlist Can Change Your Life by Galina Mindlin, et. al. And it changed my life - heh. I was actually up at 8AM the morning of the Spring Forward time change and I'm giving credit to my Good Morning playlist. The first song is the version of "Here Comes the Sun" on James Taylor's Christmas album accompanied by Yo-Yo Ma. The promise of that lush cello behind Taylor's voice as he calls me "little darling" and assures me that "it's all right" is enough to get me out of bed.

Beverlyjoy: kudos for doing so well at the party! I usually plan a snack for when I get home from an evening event. If it's been more than three hours since dinner, I know I'm going to want something to eat before bed even though I rarely eat at that time on normal days. It works better, for me, if I shift my snacks around so I can have a late night snack in that one circumstance.

03-10-2013, 11:39 AM
Fairly uneventful weekend here. Doing quite a bit of [office] working from home and house stuff ... marketing and hopefully a trail walk before the rains start. Wonderfully warm - in the 50s! Down to 20s tomorrow but that's another day, as Scarlett O'Hara would think.

Meeting with our lawyer tomorrow morning on one of the busiest work days and it's 90 minutes from my work, so while not ideal, we NEED to get a handle on this mess with DH's ex. It's unbelieveable stress and stomach hurts and heart pounds when I get embroiled in it. Typed up listing of our issues/questions and we'll proceed from there. Now to remember to BRING it.

Thought I'd gone over on calories the past two days as i'd not entered them all into MyFitnessPal but when transcribed the food items and snacks, I was on target. Felt good.

Pulled out a few pair of shorts and they're fitting much better - one still has a way to go before the back "puff" above the butt because the butt is too big goes away. That helped me mentally, as the scale was up a half pound.

New response cards today, thinking more along the lines of spring and being more active.

GardenerJoy - beautiful pictures. I want things blooming HERE...NOW. :) I'll settle for my primroses in the kitchen window ... sadly STILL in the plastic pots I bought them in. Perhaps that's a project for the afternoon. Find planter or buy window planter. Hm. :) LOVE the idea of listening to Here Comes the Sun in the mornings - that used to be my "song" to get me out of the winter funk and it slipped by the wayside a bit ago. Wonderful reminder. Many thanks!

Hopefully more personals later...dh just popped up.

03-10-2013, 12:06 PM
Hi Coaches -

So great to be back with you :)

I was very happy that I managed to go to bed without snacking after dinner. Credit! Today is grocery shopping day and I'm getting used to buying the wheat-free stuff I need on my new plan. I must say, it's been great not having headaches or digestive issues, and drinking green tea instead of coffee has meant that my energy is steady and calm instead of nervous and jittery ... a wonderful feeling. I also don't get hungry as suddenly as I used to.

Today is Day 7 - Arrange Your Environment. I work mostly at home so that takes care of the work part of it. I think the environment has been pretty well arranged in my past attempts at Beck - my husband and daughter are pretty good about putting their goodies out of sight, and I don't tend to buy goodies at all unless I'm going to eat them immediately. The one thing that would really help me in arranging my environment is blowing up the convenience store that is 30 seconds away from my door. But somehow I think the consequences might be greater than the advantages ... ;)

onebyone - homemade lemon ice cream sounds scrumptious! Kudos for tracking even on a day with rare and unusual food.

BillBlueEyes - yay for fraudulent pleasures, LOL! Kudos for keeping your walking going, and thanks for welcoming me back :)
Oh and good point about my avatar. That is Clara Schumann over there. Eusebius (not the pope) was one of the nicknames Robert Schumann gave to himself - the quieter, more introverted part of his personality.

Beverlyjoy - I have been there! I remember lots of occasions where I ate perfectly in public and then went home and binged. ((((HUGS)))) to you and Kudos for getting back on track!

gardenerjoy - I don't think I realized that you had reached your goal weight! Big, big congrats and hugs from me!! Thanks for sharing the beautiful flowers with us (including the lovely 12-year-old flower LOL). Kudos for staying on plan throughout your outing. What a cool story about your morning playlist! I need to check out that book for sure.

nationalparker - sending good thoughts to you as you deal with the stress caused by DH's ex. Great to hear that your clothes are fitting better! A trail walk sounds great and I hope to do the same with my family later today.

Time to make some tea and do a bit of practicing before DH and DD come back from church and pick me up for brunch :) Have a lovely Sunday, all!

03-10-2013, 01:00 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

Up in Tahoe with two other families. Food is a free for all. I can't get away from the rationale "I skied all day so I can't eat anything." I know better than that. Bummer. But today is a new day.

Best to all.

03-10-2013, 03:17 PM
Hello Coaches

A really nice Sunday here. Warmest it's been in months. The sun is even showing up off and on.

I've had breakfast and am planning a light lunch and dinner with a special dessert purcahsed yesterday from a Swiss-trained Master Chocolatier in St. Mary's Ontario. *credit* for planning it for the next day and not gobbling it down when purchased.

After tracking my food for yesterday I am at the upper limit of everything now. I have to stay within my daily points or add exercise points into the mix. Either way I am good until Thursday. I do want to see the scale drop down a wee bit closer to that 250 mark as I leave for my residency on Toronto Island this Friday afternoon. I am going to rent a bike for island use. I plan to use it everyday and hopefully come back with a *desire* for a new bike for my everyday use. If I want my weight to move, I'm going to have to move more.

Ok, off to do chores.

Looloo Update: Today we give her the second 1/4 of the appetite stimulant pill. So far it's working as she is seeking out food on her own now. We need to decide whether she gets hospitalized for IV Fluids a) tomorrow b)while I am away c)never. We are going to have to administer subcutaneous fluids at home, which DH says he's ready to do, I'm not sure if I can--but I can be supportive. She had that done on Friday and it really helped her become more herself. It's like she's dehydrated and we all feel pretty crummy when we are dehydrated. Her sniffles seem to be returning though and we had discussed another antibiotic shot and she'll probably receive that this coming week as well. It's an ongoing thing but it is sooooo heartwarming to hear her purring and chomping at the same time as well as purring in her sleep. FOODWISE: I'm not eating over this as I cannot eat for Looloo and it does her no good for me to eat off-plan--in fact it makes me more ineffective in terms of being able to cope with this situation.

Bye for now.

03-10-2013, 03:58 PM
Hello Everyone,

Quick check in here. Weighed today and back down to 169.6 and it's been that for a couple days now, so hopefully will stay. Today is my tracking day for it. Food was good yesterday, did have 1 hot cross bun and checked points later, not sure it was worth 6 points but I did leave them with my parents and sister so that's a big credit as I'm the only one in the house that likes them.

Took the dogs for a 45 minute walk this morning and enjoyed watching them leap through snow banks. Off to find new glasses for me this afternoon. Really missing that extra hour of sleep already.

Happy Sunday!

03-10-2013, 07:32 PM
Chicks, I've decided that I won't check in daily to 3FC. At least not while I have a diet coach/Beck buddy. (Smooch! Thanks eusebius for the call to arms!) ( 1 ) I'm nervous I won't be able to maintain accountability to both her and this forum due to limited time; and ( 2 ) I think OM is about to go deep - and I've always been a bit queasy about broadcasting my particulars in a public form.

But I will be certain to drop by each weekend and see how my chicks are doing!

Thanks once more for the warm re-welcome and I'll see you on the weekends!

03-10-2013, 10:44 PM
Hi Coaches!

As I have expected, no internet due to heavy ski traffic. Besides messing with my 3fc mojo I had lots I wanted to do on my day off...finish airline tickets, etc. Oh, well. I weighed this morning and had a pretty good food day....not 100 percent as I did not make a plan this morning. I did weigh, however. I'm going to bed early with hopes of getting some computer work done before heading to the "real job".

03-10-2013, 10:44 PM
Hi all!

Food this weekend stayed within all parameters, but it's another weekend where planning and I didn't get along. Part of the problem is that I never known when I'm going to get up on the weekend, and then it gets confused what meals and snacks I'm going to have. I even swapped the planned Saturday night dinner for Sunday.

It's back to a regular week, though, which I find so much easier to plan. Lunch and snack for tomorrow are already made and ready to go. After I finish this, I'll plan next week's meals and shopping list for tomorrow after work. The structure of doing that every Sunday evening is good for me.

Exercise this weekend was all unstructured--we shopped and shopped--it's less than 2 weeks to our big event and my dining room is full of food. We had decided this year to mix all the individually wrapped candy together and it occurred to me I could take care of that early, so we wouldn't have to do it at the hotel. Then I realized--who the heck am I fooling? I can withstand bagged candy, but once it's open? That's a stupid temptation to put myself through! So, the candy is all still in its bags--and those bags are in bankers boxes. Tomorrow, I go back to walking building laps at work!

Nelia: Good luck with your path!

Tazzy: Congrats on the weight staying under 170! Those 'decades' make a huge difference, don't they? I know what you mean about food "not being worth" its points (or calories, for those of us counting those).

onebyone: Another scritch to Looloo. Big credit for postponed gratification on your dessert!

maryann: I hope your Sunday went better than Saturday--but that you had fun skiing both days!

eusebius: I think you made the right cost/benefit analysis with regards to destruction of the convenience store. (I joined this group in January.)

BillBE: Fraudulent joy is wonderful stuff.

gardenerjoy: Thanks so much for sharing the flowers with us! You had me looking up the Missouri Bonanical Garden.

nationalparker: I'll think spring with you. Good luck with the lawyer tomorrow.

Beverlyjoy: Credit for making good choices at the party--parties are hard. "I was good and so I get to reward myself" is a pretty common thought process--and it's not a bad one as long as it's with something other than food. I like the idea of planning an evening snack on days that like that so you have a plan to follow.

IBelieveinMe2: I've missed you on MFP. I haven't written down any of the 7 questions--I sort of moved past that part of the book.

Take care, all.

03-11-2013, 02:39 AM
Hello Becksters,
I am brand new, have read the pink book from beginning to end and now am ready to follow the steps. I googled Beck Diet Solution Support and came across this wonderful board.

I, like many of you I would bet, have gone on the weight loss/gain roller coaster several times. This time, my weight is higher than it has ever been and it does not feel good at all. Because of that cycle, it is scary to take on losing weight knowing that every other time it has all come back and then some. I know that I will be creating responses for when/if this type of thinking creeps in. Any advice you all may have is always welcome.

I thought I would introduce myself. I look forward to learning with/from you!

03-11-2013, 07:11 AM
:welcome: Rosebud170 :welcome:

And, on the occasion of your first post, :wel3fc:

How did you discover the books by Dr. Judith Beck?

03-11-2013, 07:25 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Exercise has been walking, CREDIT moi, but not enough gym, Ouch. I've let the snow shoveling substitute for gym, but it's a wimpy substitute. I need a sport like rugby to keep me interested.

Food was only OK. I'm ready to let Spring get the juices flowing in my veins to get back to 100% on plan. It is, however, the day I tick my monthly counters for being on my journey. Yay for 3 Fat Chicks and Yay for all of you for being here.

onebyone – Welcome sun. And Kudos for recognizing that caring about Looloo isn't improved by eating.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Love the face of confidence on that 12 year-old. Yay for having a French tutor. (Oω est la Solution aux Rιgimes Beck?)

Erika (eusebius) – Sending a stick of Mr. Nobel's best to help you with your convenience store. Some things are better when less convenient. Thanks for the reminder about the Schumanns. Yep, making it to bed without snacks is Kudos worthy.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Just love that skiers mean logjams on both roads and internet. Of course, it's just so un-obvious to me.

Beverlyjoy – Never too old - a setback is just a setback and promptly returning to the path always possible. Here's to the resurgence of "willingness" when the body is all full of emotions from a long and happy day.

maryann - Kudos for the exercise by skiing - a much better use of snow than shoveling.

Tazzy - Kudos for leaving those hot cross buns with your parents and sister. Kudos for you, that is - they'll have to find their own support groups to deal with the food pusher in their lives, LOL.

Nelia – Kudos for working your way to a path that's yours. Cheering for you whatever way that takes you.

nationalparker – Yay for new response cards, and Kudos for the delightful yet simple, "I was on target. Felt good."

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Ouch for the reality of opened bags of candy. Kudos for recognizing that and taking action.

Rosebud170 – Yep, a bunch of us have cycled our weight multiple times before finding out that we can learn how to eat. One of the big steps is facing the fear that it could happen again, and facing the reality that we can learn how to avoid that.

Yay for google directing you here. We serve as each other's Diet Coaches, and welcome you to be part of that. Glad you've joined us.

Readers - chapter 4
How to Use the Beck Diet Solution

A Program for Everybody
...This program is designed to help you
solve the problems that have made dieting
......difficult for you in the past.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 45.

03-11-2013, 09:13 AM
Hi friends/coaches - Just want to post this message that came through my newsfeed this morning via The Beck Diet Solution:

Monday Motivation: So often we hear from dieters sabotaging thoughts like, “I don’t deserve credit [for my weight loss efforts] because I should already be doing these things.” Here’s what we want them (and you!) to know: No you SHOULDN’T already be doing these things. If it was easy, nobody would be overweight. If it was easy, nobody who ever lost weight on a diet would gain it back. It’s really hard, but you’re learning and making progress, and you deserve credit EVERY step of the way.”

PS - yesterday was a healthy day. I'll be back.

Thanks for your kind thoughts and good support yesterday. I am performing today. Gotta go.

Rosebud - WELCOME!
Glad you posted. Folks here are friendly and helpful.

03-11-2013, 09:18 AM
Hi Coaches!

:welcome2: Rosebud! I found 3fc at THE point when I was ready in my heart to make a change and recognized that I needed support. These forums are the best. I have checked in every day since registering here and have many steadfast friends. I'm glad you are joining us.

BBE, congrats on another month moving that maintenance ticker! I am very ready to be switching my exercise program to bike riding/hiking vs shoveling and scraping cars. It's nearing....I feel it.

I weighed this morning. credit. I overate last evening...WHfoods whole grain bread, but still the fact remains. I acknowledge this morning what is really bugging me....angst over making reservations for DH's DD's wedding in Minn. this summer. Lot's of ex stuff involved as well as $$ and uncertainty over leaving ailing pup here. Unfortuntately, a DD's wedding trumps the pup (if I played poker).
Response: just deal with it! I emailed Kirk's ex wife this morning and will email the expensive 24/7 pet sitter with dates. Once it's done I know I'll feel better.
I do far better when I deal with things rather than trying to hyper-monitor food choices while I deal with the effects of not taking care of things.

03-11-2013, 10:08 AM
Hi Coaches - I think I am in the same position as Nelia right now - (HUGS)- because we are buddying up I may need to post here less frequently, at least for the time being. But I will be lurking and reading, and thinking of you all!

Today is Day 8 - Make Time and Energy - which is making me think a lot about my scheduling and what activities are truly essential.

Yesterday: made it to bed again without snacking (credit) and did an unplanned hour of walking with my family (credit)! Also got groceries and planned meals for the week (credit). Today: figuring out how to prepare turnips and rutabagas for a slow cooker stew. Wish me luck :)


03-11-2013, 10:45 AM
Hi All,
Just popping in to say hello and that I'm doing ok. Food situation is bad. I'm hardly eating and when I did eat yesterday it was pizza. Not much sounds good or tastes good. I am going to check out a yoga class tomorrow with a friend. BeverlyJoy I know you didn't specifically say this to me but I read that you use some meditations on youtube. I really need something to help me rest. I wake up in the middle of the night and ruminate. That's not helping anything.
I got 2 phone calls from some loved ones that were very supportive. Plus one call to my mother which was NOT supportive. I should know better. She changes the subject if I tell her anything that's going on with me.
Off to work.

03-11-2013, 11:05 AM
Food was on plan yesterday, but I didn't find any willingness or time to exercise on a rainy day even though many of my exercise options are indoors. Today will be challenging for exercise, too, with a photography class in the evening. I have a written food plan which includes carry-outs for a quick supper from the new near-by grocery store that specializes in local and organic and has a small deli.

The photography class is at the Missouri Botanical Garden. We get after-hours access to the Orchid Show with permission to use tripods. Those aren't allowed in the daytime. This allows for fancier set-ups including my new ring flash. I have no clue what I'm doing so I don't know if I'll come away with any photos to show off this week. Fortunately, it meets next week, too, so I may get a chance to develop some skills.

Exercise: +0 450/1400 March

Welcome, Rosebud170! My most recent weight loss journey began after I'd lost 40 pounds slowly over a couple of years with some small changes, then gained it all back in a year. For the first time in my life, I fully realized that losing weight and maintaining had to be a lifetime commitment. That's when I came across the book The End of Overeating by David Kessler and then the books by Judith Beck. I'm your height and at your, and my, goal weight, so I can report that it feels much, much better. I can also report that Beck is absolutely right when she says that it gets easier, although I can't yet say that it's always easy. And I can report that the trade-offs are worth it, that there are delights in store for you that you can imagine and others that will be a wonderful surprise. I can also tell you that you are in the right place with this forum. The practice of checking in with my coaches here has been the cornerstone of what made this effort to lose weight the one that worked.
It's cool that you read through the whole book once so you've got a nice overview and understanding. You're primed to make this work!

Lexxiss: great job figuring out what was bothering you and dealing with it. I struggle with those situations, too, and take a long time seeing the solution when it's to accept reality and move on.

Nelia and eusebius: good luck with your buddy system! I'll love hearing a report once in awhile about how it's going!

Julia150: I've just started using a playlist I call "Sweet Dreams" and it seems to be helping with insomnia. I sometimes have to get up to go listen to it. More often, I can play the songs on it in my head and that keeps the ruminating thoughts away long enough to go back to sleep.

03-11-2013, 02:01 PM
Hey y'all!

I am a newbie here, right off the truck & 3fc registration. Similar to Rosebud (we're kinda like twins, aren't we? born here the same day), I found this through a search engine.

I am using WW as my food plan and have been working my way (weigh) through the Beck workbook. But didn't know where to turn for a coach. (DH, bless his heart, was game--but he's supportive whether I stick perfectly to plan or go for third helpings.) And I really need the support that includes accountability.

I've gone through some of your posts, and this seems like an amazing, welcoming, supportive, and slightly twisted group (and that is said with highest regard). Thanks so much for providing this forum.


03-11-2013, 04:26 PM
Hi coaches/friends - thanks for the support of yesterday when I was so mad at myself for my Sunday night binge. I appreciate it greatly.

When other folks go through this I usually say to them: "Forgive yourself, learn something if you can, and hop right back on to your plan." I also say: "Treat yourself as kindly as you'd treat a good friend." Some of you may have heard me say these things in the past. Sometimes we/I can't remember or take our own advice. LOL Between what you all said and remembering what I've said to other's in a similar situation - I am feeling some better.

Yesterday was a healthy day. I am grateful for that. I wasn't happy in it all.. but, got through it. I wrote down my plan, measured my food & logged it, I kept track of my sodium/water/exercise, and tried to eat slowly. Yesterday the scale was up two pounds. Today the scale was up that same 2 pounds.

lizagna - WELCOME! - So glad you posted. Folks here are pretty friendly and often, very helpful and supportive.

gardenerjoy - credit for planning in your carry out foods. That is always so helpful. What a GREAT place, at the botanical center, for a photography class. Thanks for your kind thoughts about my binge after the drive home.

Julia - I am sorry to hear that you are struggling now. Yes, I do use some of the guided meditations on Youtube. I also have some cd's that I use. If you are intersted, I would go to Youtube and put in 'guided imagery sleep' or 'guided imagery relaxation' or 'guided imagery weight loss'. At that point you can listen to some of what is there and see if something could be helpful.(some of this 'free' stuff is very good... some, not so good.) I also have downloaded or bought guided imagery cd's/sessions via There are reviews with each cd. Lately, I've used youtube because it's free - just wanted a change. I do find it very helpful. I think at first and often later, the mind wonders - that's OK. Just get back to your breath and what you are listening too. It's all OK. I hope you can find something helpful.

eusbias - Hi.. nice to see your post! thanks for your support. Credit!!! - for not eating in the evening. You are inspiring me to go through the book again. I think it would be helpful to me, too.

lexxiss/debbie - ouch on the unplanned food. Sometimes those 'have to' family gatherings aren't how we'd like to spend our money or time... sometimes it's not something we can skip. Not fair....

billbe - you said: Never too old - a setback is just a setback and promptly returning to the path always possible. So basic... such a good reminder. Thanks. Credit for realizing that waiting for the perfect moment to start back to exercise of food is not in the future, really. Credit for the snow shoveling... it is exercise.

Bethfromdayton - glad to hear you are back to your regular schedule... in your 'food comfort zone.' Thanks for your thoughts on my binge after a successful party. Yes... planning for a good snack afterwards is a good idea.

tazzy - credit for getting back down to your weight from before. I know it feels good when it stays for a few days too. Credit.. for the dog walking!

onebyone - credit for your good tracking! Great idea to rent a bike on the island!!

maryann - plan the best you can. Glad you posted.

Hoping everyone is having a good day.

03-11-2013, 06:09 PM

After coming back from the vet with Looloo this morning my mood keeps getting lower. I think I'm feeling blue over the on-going care that Looloo is going to require. The vet says fluids 3x a week and another antibiotic for her continuing snuffles. I just want her to get better and there is a ceiling on what "better" is. I want to say "Oh Well" and mean it but I'm not there yet.

This feeling of frustration/anger/sadness/fear makes me want to eat. If I eat I will be truly unhappy come my weigh-in day. I will feel happy for having held my ground and stayed on plan though. That's a guarantee and a really good resistance muscle workout.

Ok off I go to pick up DH at work.

Have a great day gang.

03-11-2013, 06:49 PM
Onebyone... so so sorry about Looloo still being so sick. It's hard when our fur-kids aren't well. Stand firm! Exercise that resistance muscle the very best you can. Take care now.

03-11-2013, 10:49 PM
Welcome Rosebud170!!! So happy you found the group! Best of luck to you as you work the steps in the Beck book this time around. Just remember that this time CAN be different, and convince yourself that it WILL be different! YOU CAN DO IT ~ and so can I!!! I joined the group a few months ago and don't post quite as often as I should, but I am trying my best to follow Dr. Beck's principles and ideas for lasting weight loss. Haven't seen the scale go down much yet, but I am making progress in my thought processes. That is a constant battle for me, so every bit of progress matters and is HUGE for me! Do your best to give yourself a fresh start! You deserve to be fit and happy, too!!! ;)

03-11-2013, 10:59 PM
onebyone: So sorry for all that you are going through with Looloo! :( I can understand the temptation to eat under the circumstances. The thought of all the care she will need is probably overwhelming, but remember that you don't have to do it all at once. Do your best to take one day and even one moment at a time. You will find the strength to get through this ~ one day at a time! One of my dogs from awhile ago was diagnosed with diabetes and ~ on top of already caring for a handicapped baby and another fragile child ~ his care felt overwhelming to me at first, too. But I made it through and I know you will, too. Just do your best to take care of YOUR needs, too, and rest your mind when you are able. Eating will not solve your problems. It will make them worse, as you know. Please know that I am keeping you and Looloo in my daily prayers. Hang in there and keep on exercising your resistance muscle as often as possible. You are strong and you can do this!!! Hugs to you, my friend! :hug:

03-11-2013, 11:57 PM
Hi all!

Food today was completely on plan. Exercise was adjusted because I took most of the morning off, so I got 30 minutes in instead of the 40-50 I often do.

I have another Chinese buffet (not really a fact finding one, though) dinner out tomorrow night. I organized it in February before I realized how hard Chinese would be for me. Now I'm thinking about hwo I'm going to do well there.

I've weighed every morning, and if the scale is consistent tomorrow, I'll be able to drop 2 lbs off my ticker.

Rosebud170: Welcome! This is a great group! I've been between 235 and 190 multiple times in the last 11 or 12 years. I am determined this time to keep off what I'm losing, and I think Dr. Beck's approach is going to help me to do that.

Beverlyjoy: My BFF is sometimes too hard on herself--and that's what I ask her--would you say that to me in this situation--but I know it's hard to apply it the other way. It's one of the earlier cognitive approaches I learned to distorted thinking patterns.

lizagna: Welcome! Having a suppportive DH is a great thing, even if he isn't a great diet coach :-).

Julia150: I wish it wasn't being so hard for you right now.

Lexxiss: Thanks for the reminder of it being more stressful to angst over what I'm not doing than it is to actually do the thing. BTW, my Kroger had Sumos again when I went Saturday--I bought 5 more. DH has decided he likes them, too. If I'd known he would, I might have bought more.

BillBE: YAY for updating your monthly ticker. I'm so glad that you've stuck around offering so much support--and it's an inspiration and an eye-opener that even at goal, a diet buddy still might be the best way to stay where I want to be.

gardenerjoy: Credit for figuring out a plan for a carryout place--that's always a great thing to have in your back pocket (or on your phone!)

nationalparker: How did it go with the lawyer today? I hope you were able to get through it okay.

Beverlyjoy: Thanks for sharing the Monday Motivation--for some reason, I usually miss those on my newsfeed. Hope you had a great performance!

onebyone: Credit for recognizing what is making you want to eat--and for recognizing the consquences of that eating. Here's a scritch under Looloo's chin.

IBelieveinMe2: I'm so glad to hear (read) you saying (writing) that you can do it--you can!!!!

Take care, all.

03-12-2013, 12:20 AM
lizagna: Welcome to you, too!!! (I didn't see your post earlier for some reason.) Wishing you luck with WW and using the Beck principles!

03-12-2013, 12:56 AM
Hello All! I am feeling somewhat hopeless and defeated tonight. :( Didn't want to bring you all down, but realize I need to post and reach out for support. I know that my mind is trying to sabotage and undermine my efforts, and I didn't have any major relapses or anything. I am just sick and tired of feeling fat and unattractive. :( I feel like I do pretty well for most of the day and then blow it with one unplanned snack. I am fighting somewhat of an uphill battle because I am on a few meds with weight gain as a side effect. I have worked with the doctor to decrease dosages where possible and recently got off one med completely, but some of them are still necessary right now. I have MUCH room for improvement in the eating department and need to get consistent with exercise, but I feel like I should really be making more progress than I am. :?: I will not give up this battle and still believe I can do it, but I am tired of waiting for the scale to go down. I am tired of thinking about food all of the time. I am tired of making a little bit of progress and then backsliding again. I just feel tired tonight...... in mind, body, and spirit. Heading to bed and thankful that tomorrow is a brand new day! I will go to sleep counting my blessings and hope to wake up refreshed and recommitted to this journey! Thank you for listening and for being here! I really need your support!

03-12-2013, 01:04 AM
I'm a busy Mom/Grandma and Student, brand new to 3 chicks. I love the Beck Diet Solution. Hope to get in on some good conversation and healthy support.

03-12-2013, 07:56 AM
:welcome: Liz (lizagna) :welcome:

And, on the occasion of your first post, :wel3fc:

How did you find out about the books by Dr. Judith Beck?

Neat that you found our Beck Diet Coach/Buddy thread by a search engine.

03-12-2013, 07:56 AM
:welcome: Bellevivrien :welcome:

And, on the occasion of your first post, :wel3fc:

How did you find out about the books by Dr. Judith Beck?

And how did you find our Beck Diet Coach/Buddy thread on 3 Fat Chicks?

03-12-2013, 08:00 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Today's the last day of collecting all my tax data before going to our accountant. Ugh! For this much effort, one should be filthy rich. When I get to be president taxes will be eliminated and the government will run on donations placed in buckets on street corners - like Salvation Army. Did I ever mention that doing taxes replaces all the good neurons of my brain with a bowl of mush?

Walking and eating were OK for the day. Partial CREDIT moi. Beck needs to add a chapter on Cabin Fever for when we wish we were outside and aren't thinking properly. Did I ever mention that when my brain turns to mush I tend to repeat myself?

onebyone – It's so difficult to reach acceptance - for ourselves, loved humans, and loved pets alike. Continuing to send supportive thoughts for you and your DH helping Looloo.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Yay for a "new near-by grocery store that specializes in local and organic" - seems like choices are improving everywhere.

Erika (eusebius) – It's super that an unplanned hour of walking can get in your schedule - Kudos for the attitude that allows that. We'll enjoy your posts when you're here and wish you well with international buddying.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Ouch for the angst of a wedding and being a step parent. Many Kudos for biting the bullet, making choices, and moving forth. I sure need this right now, "I do far better when I deal."

Beverlyjoy – Thanks for "If it was easy, nobody would be overweight." Neat idea to treat yourself with the respect you'd give a friend.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Good luck making choices at the Chinese Restaurant. Good choices are there, even if you have to ask for something special.

IBelieveInMe2 – Yep, "tired" of it all is one great catch-all Sabotaging Thought that's so common and a real challenge to wrestle to the ground. Kudos for recognizing it for what it is and seeking to find your way along your path.

Julia (Julia150) – Sending Cyber Hugs and warm thoughts for your brain to find its calm spot. Keep the faith that you'll get there and it will get easier to choose foods on your plan.

Liz (lizagna) – Yep, we serve as each other's on-line Diet Coach/Buddy and welcome you to join the fray. My take is that it's a harsh conflict of interest to be both spouse and Diet Coach. My DW would go bonkers if I told her every day that I didn't eat a Girl Scout cookie, LOL. But on this forum, that's considered a sane statement. Glad you've joined us.

Bellevivrien – Mom, Grandma, and student all at once sounds busy. Look forward to hearing how you meet the challenges of finding time for your exercise plan and eating plan along with all that. Glad you've joined us.

Readers - chapter 4
How to Use the Beck Diet Solution

The Two-Week Wait

Every diet provides you with a plan that tells you what you should and shouldn't eat. But knowing what to eat is only a small part of successful dieting. In fact, the Beck Diet Solution doesn't tell you what to eat. You can choose any reasonable diet. If you followed a sensible diet in the past but couldn't lose weight or deep it off, it wasn't necessarily the diet's fault. You just didn't have the skills to make the diet work - now, you will. This program teaches you how to eat, how to motivate yourself every day, how to create time and energy for dieting, how to solve diet-related problems, and how to use many other essential techniques.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 45.

03-12-2013, 09:09 AM
Popping in with something that came through on FB from The Beck Diet Solution.

Tuesday Reality Check: Many dieters imagine they’ll be happier eating off track but when they actually do, they feel just the opposite: sick, badly, guilty. Remember – the things you think you’ll feel as a result of eating off track might, in fact, just be a fantasy, and the reality of being off track may not feel nearly as good.

I'll be back later.

03-12-2013, 09:22 AM
Popping in very quickly here - it's been nonstop work - through to 11 p.m. the past few nights, punctuated by a meeting with our lawyer yesterday morning (for which she was a half hour late ... to start the day - not in court, etc. ... I have a hard time with that.) BUT will stay positive that things might improve. His ex has now claimed both girls on taxes, against the court decision, so we have to deal with that as well. I hate to say it, but "it's always something"...

Eating has been okay for the most part - I DID want to treat myself with food after the lawyer meeting. But I've been recognizing that being and feeling hungry isn't an emergency. And it feels good to be in control there.

03-12-2013, 09:38 AM
Hi Coaches!

:welcome2: Bellevivrian and Lizagna! I look forward to sharing in your journey!

Sending hugs and support to those who are struggling...IBelieveInMe2....just keep coming and keep trying. You will learn through Cognitive Therapy to be more consistent and easier on yourself.

I am out of time....I should be walking out the door but it's important to check in. Yesterday was OP and a success as I've decided to seriously eliminate my refined carbs and grains for a bit while I get grounded again. I weighed this morning and have a plan for today. I wrote emails and no one answered. Oh,Well.

Take care everyone!

03-12-2013, 10:18 AM
The photography class was fun. We got home so late I haven't even looked at the photos. Food was on plan. My weight was up this morning. Partly because yesterday's plan included a snack after my event which is later than I normally eat, but helps prevent unplanned snacking that is worse. And partly because I haven't exercised in two days! I've got a plan to fix that today even though I have another evening event planned. Tonight's adventure is back at the Garden (three times in four days!) -- this one is a presentation about local foods by a couple of ladies who wrote a book about eating locally in Missouri. Should be fun!

Exercise: +0 450/1400 March

Welcome, lizagna and Bellevivrien!

IBelieveInMe2: Hugs! That was a great pep talk you gave yourself! Are you currently working through one of the Beck books? Would that be helpful right now? You said " I am tired of thinking about food all of the time." Are you writing a food plan down the night before? I find I think about food less, most days, than I used to because I have a plan. I don't have to make decisions about food all the time.

03-12-2013, 10:27 AM
Good Morning,
Just checking in to let you know that I'm reading and I appreciate all the support and hugs. I had a monthly gathering at my house last night and I'm glad the stress of that is over. I did have a good time.
Today I weigh in at JC. I'm afraid I am going to have a gain. The last week has been erratic. Not really overeating but not eating very well.
I am going to a yoga class for the second time in my life. The first was a disaster.
Again, thank you for the hugs and support.

03-12-2013, 01:26 PM
Good morning!

Thank you all SO much for the warm welcome and for sharing your wins, your struggles, and your insights. This place, virtual though it might be, has the most wonderful vibe. :carrot:

I think PLANNING is my new mantra. Yeah, yeah, it's not like I didn't know about it before; but do you ever have something you know, but it has to re-introduce itself? Yesterday I planned WHAT I was going to eat and WHEN, and the day went great! Woot! My biggest problems have been evenings and weekends--lack of structure--so this should help. As the old Magic 8-Ball would say: More to be revealed....

This morning I did 15 min of an hour-long P90X workout (15 min being better than zero) and walked Emma the Rocket Dawg a mile & ahalf. I'm not fending off calls from the Olympic committee, but it's exercise.

Beth - Congrats on staying on plan, the exercise (so what if it was less than usual? give yourself credit! you did it!), & the -2 lb. WTG!

IBelieveinMe - So sorry you're struggling. I'm a contrarian who believes in thoroughly wallowing in crappy feelings rather than trying to deny them. Then shake'em off. I'm hammering on theme here, but are you giving yourself CREDIT for the awesome things you're doing despite not feeling entirely joyful?

Bellevivrien - Welcome! I'm only one day older on the site than you are. I think we've landed in a wonderfully feathered nest.

BillBlueEyes - Sorry about the taxes, but at least it's not the other twin certainty. Ummmm... perhaps you haven't looked at a calendar. It's only March 12--aren't you supposed to wait until April 14 to be (frantically) hunting & gathering tax info? In answer to your question, the way I found Beck was years ago book on CD from the library. Then three years ago I started working through the Beck workbook--that was when I discovered that my fantastic DH is a lousy diet coach. :D (Oh. You mean I'm supposed to do more than listen to a book and "start" a workbook for weight loss success?) Anyway... third time and follow-through's the charm. I'm also working through the workbook now.

OnebyOne - So sorry about your travails with Looloo. Is that a dog? We're a cross-species family with a dog & cat. Pets are so precious. Blessings to you & yours.

Nat'lParker - (aka Roseanne Rosanadana - "It's always something.") You deserve some major award for going through the whole lawyer, ex-, etc debacle without throwing yourself into a trough of ice cream. AMAZING! U rock!

BeverlyJoy - Thanks for the Tues reality check.

Lexiss - Good luck with the no-grains/less-carbs regime!

Julia150 - Glad you had a good time & the stress is over. Good luck with the yoga. My first class was in 1975--when yoga was still some "weird Indian thing"--at, of all places, a Y in Amarillo, TX. Not exactly a mecca of progressive thought, but a fantastic class with lessons that have stayed with me for almost 40 years. I hope you find some of the same wonders.

Okay, sorry to go on so long. Since I'm new here, please let me know if I do or say anything outside the bounds of good 3fc citizenship. I'm trainable. Kind of.


03-12-2013, 04:45 PM
HELP!! I bought the book and read the whole thing. Loved it!! I bought the workbook and decided that I was going to dive in and commit. That was a few weeks ago. And what I find myself doing it and not going past day three, then break from it, go back to it and start over, stop again, eat standing up just once because I forget then I'm hard on myself, wanting to start the diet but not suppose to start for two weeks (that messes me up because if I'm disciplined with the beck program, my food needs to be disciplined too, I'm sorta all or nothing). I'm such a piece of work and I'm reaching out to you all for some advice on how to kickstart myself and DO IT. Thanks, Lulu

03-12-2013, 06:30 PM
Coaches, old and new :welcome: LuLu01801, lizagna, and Bellevivrien

*credit* for weighing in this morning to see the scale go down again. Yay. Official weigh-in has me feeling hopeful. Better yet, I am feeling confident and settled in my foodplan as I head off to my residency at the end of the week.

Today I begin planning for this event. I am going to be on an island, in Lake Ontario, with limited ferry access on and off. We were told to bring our food for the week with us, as a van will meet us on the other side. It's a 45 minute walk from the residence to the ferry. There are three of us going. We will share one large art studio space, the bathroom and the kitchen and common room (tv/couch/internet) and each of us has our own bedroom. We decided that for our meals, we would be responsible for our own breakfasts and lunches, but will share dinner. So each of us is making dinner 2x during the week. One of our members is going off island for one meal, so the other two (me and S) will be on our own for one meal. One of our group is a vegetarian so I am expecting all our dinners to be vegetarian. This is fine with me. Also I have *credit* aranged to rent a bike to explore the island while I am there. The weather doesn't look like it's going to be very warm, but it doesn't look like it's snowing either. I can deal with that. I am hoping to get in the habit of getting on a bike and riding around, enough that I will miss it when I get back and *desire* a bicycle for use at home. We'll see.

Looloo is pretty good today. I slept 13 hrs last night. Exhausted I guess. I went to bed so early I forgot to give her her antibiotic and DH misunderstood thinking we were supposed to do it today. And so, we do it tonight. Her next vet appt is Thursday evening. It's been nice to see her up and about today. Did I tell you she lost another 1/4lb? She is now a 4 3/4 adult cat. Yikes. I never thought any adult cat could be 4 lbs. Wow. She's been steadily eating today though-her face is in her bowl right now.

:cheer2:Go Looloo Go. :cheer3:

Have a good evening wherever you are.

03-12-2013, 06:40 PM
Hey Lulu,

Let me share the enormous wisdom I've gained being on this site for two days... :lol: I've done the same stuff you're describing. I was actually fortunate to have a phone consult with Debbie Beck Busis, and one of the points she made was, "You have to do what works for you and what you can live with for a lifetime." So if you feel like you're holding off getting started on the "diet", then start it. Essentially you'll just be starting to eat the way you plan to eat for the rest of your life anyway.

I'm sure all of us are hard on ourselves; but as others have pointed out, would you talk to/treat your child or best friend who was just learning a new skill that way? Really, we're all learning to ride this Beck bicycle and hanging on for dear life--and frequently falling off. I know I won't get better balance or learn faster if someone is yelling at me while I'm on the ground with a bloody knee. The "giving credit" and talking positively to myself is one of the lessons I'm learning--imperfectly--but it seems really important.

Okay, this rookie is signing off. My advice is free, and you get what you pay for. ;-)


PS Just saw your post OnebyOne. Your residency sounds so exciting, and BIG CREDIT for all of your excellent planning. Yeaa Looloo! Eat, baby, eat!

03-12-2013, 08:00 PM
thank you Liz.
I'm an imperfect perfectionist and sometimes it's exhausting!!
I feel so much better when I'm in control of myself and just doing what I say I'm going to do.
but I keep putting it off.
it's very frustrating!!!!
so I'm going to regroup and dive in and this message board, I predict, will be my lifesaver.
as I can feel alone in my journey sometimes.
I only need/want to lose about 15 pounds, but that 15 pounds might as well be 150.
my big fat head is full of fat thoughts 24/7.
I will learn, from Beck's book, to deal with my struggles along the way.
I believe in the book and I trust I will/can find peace by changing my thinking.
stinking thinking is what I'm blessed with!!!
anyway, thanks to all of you for being here and I do want to get to know all of you and feel inspired by you.
Lulu xxoo

03-12-2013, 11:58 PM
Hi all,

I am swearing off of buffets. Buffets are dangerous to me. I did not apply my skills successfully. I made a plan before we went not to get a second plate and what I was going to eat. If I hadn't gotten a second plate, I'd have been right on plan and I would have been quite satisfied. No, I had two more crab ragoons and an additional egg roll. I took a little more lo mein but it wasn't as good as the first reasonable sized portion I took, so I didn't finish it. I took a cookie but it wasn't tasty enough to justify eating it after the first bite. But I got ice cream. I knew I was full, I knew I said I wasn't going to get a second plate, I knew it wasn't good for me. But I got a second plate (and then the third for the extra ragoon, which was awesome, but even so.)

So, no more buffets for me for a while--I did one of those "la-la-la fingers in the ears" things as I was telling myself that I would regret it, that I had a plan, etc. I even realized as I was doing it that having done it before made me more likely to do it again--that 'giving in' muscle got stronger :-(.

I'm not much of one for "beating myself up" (earlier CBT work got me over that), but I am definitely a little annoyed with myself--especially while I realized that my stomach was uncomfortably full and that I caused that myself, knowing better.

I even came home wanting something additional--and obviously, that wasn't hunger related--it was slipping into a bad habit. But I didn't have anything, so credit for that. Right now, I'm giving myself credit for not having yet another crab ragoon (wanted one) and for recognizing I'm not ready for the buffet issue. I'll tackle a buffet again in a few months, perhaps--but not now.

Breakfast, lunch, and snack were all OP. Exercise was OP. So, two bad hours out of 24. No more food tonight, and tomorrow I'll be totally back on plan.

Writing this has been a pep talk to me, as well!

03-13-2013, 04:01 AM
Quick Ciao to everybody...
Beth...oh you can't imagine how I understand described exactly what happens to me too often in special occasion!!!! :-)
We will manage to beat our cravings!!!
I'm sure of that.
Have a good day!

03-13-2013, 06:43 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – It's pinch time. With arm loads of papers I'm real soon off to see the accountant for taxes. Mostly everything is there; I'm still working on some stuff. Needless to say, if I had done this last week, I wouldn't be in a bind this morning. Perhaps planning my time better would be in order.

Waving to all.

03-13-2013, 09:29 AM
Welcome to our new friends and Becksters! (I like that sound - reminds me of roadsters - kind of rarin' for excitement and to enjoy adventure!) ... I need to take more time to catch up, but unfortunately it doesn't look like that time will come for a bit ... but wanted to check in here to be accountable.

Ate on plan with the exception of a slice of toasted Italian bread and took a smaller one vs. the larger ones that wouldn't FIT in the was over by approx. 100 calories. And the scale went up three pounds. Let that there be a lesson to all :) ha ... No, soup was on the lunch plan and my rings are stuck, so I know it's water. I've been eating most of my calories in the evening and think that is affecting me - I'm feeling like i've overdone it, even when I'm finishing up in calorie range. Soup again today as I left without a lunch and have that in my drawer ... unless I venture to a museum cafe nearby for a mental treat and then it's half of a sandwich.

Icy roads all the way in - I'm SO thankful that I saw someone creeping along in my neighborhood, going about 5 mph ... that caught my attention as I was scraping and thought, oh, must be slick. Sure enough - and that is a major fear of mine. I need to be able to drive like Lexxiss - good winter driver. I'm a terrified winter driver. So I'm certain I was the ONLY motorist, who, after seeing headlights facing ME in my lane from spun out cars, was thankful to have the interstate traffice moving at 0 - too low for the odometer to register as we crept along. :dizzy: I didn't grow up with this and it stresses me out. ENOUGH on that -sorry, folks!

Hope to rent a movie and relax this evening - worked until 10 p.m. last night once I got home ... have heard good things about Hope Springs, so that might be the selection.

Felt great this weekend to be trying on a few pair of shorts and have them fit better ... but now feel like I'm kind of losing focus. Not sure WHY? Need to regroup - thanks for everyone posting about their challenges; makes me feel like I'm not tackling stuff alone!

03-13-2013, 10:20 AM
The local food presentation was fun and more informative than I expected since I've been eating lots of local foods for several years. A couple of women have written a book about the local food situation in Missouri so we got lots of bigger picture information that was new to me. For instance, did you know that Missouri is 2nd only to Texas in the number of farms? Turns out, places that you think of having lots of farms like Iowa and California have huge farms and, therefore, fewer of them. Missouri has lots of smaller farms, many of them providing food through local distributions rather than dumping them into the national or international food system.

Exercise: +75 525/1400 March

Lulu01801: Welcome! You certainly wouldn't be the first to change your eating style while working through the first two weeks of the Beck Diet Solution. But some of the problems your having? They are exactly the ones that would be addressed by going through the first two weeks as suggested without paying so much attention to the diet to start. I suggest posting here every day stating what day you are on and what issues that brings up (it will be a good refresher course for all of us!)

BillBlueEyes: waving back! Good luck at the accountant's office. At least, it will be done for another year.

Beverlyjoy: I enjoy the little tips from the Beck folks.

Lexxiss: Cool that you're trying a new experiment with your food plan. Looking forward to hearing how it works for you.

Julia150: I hope your yoga class went well. I've done better with yoga from DVDs, starting from beginner ones. In classes, I tend to think I can do what every one else can. With DVDs, I'm more comfortable doing just what feels right. I think YouTube might be another source for short routines for beginners.

lizagna: PLANNING works like magic for me. You're doing great, jumping right in! Don't feel obligated to do personals if it seems too much one day. It's more important to do the check-in than it is to do the personals. Even BillBlueEyes didn't manage them today and he pretty much always does.

bethfromDayton: buffets are definitely an advanced concept for dieters to handle. And by the time you're ready to handle them, they no longer hold any attraction at all. I'd much rather sit down to a meal that is served to me rather than pass by mountains of food in a buffet line. Very Beckian of you to take it as a learning experience and to remember this: "So, two bad hours out of 24."

Bootedkitty: waving back towards Italy!

nationalparker: that sounds like a stressful commute! Take care of yourself today. A movie sounds lovely. What do you need to feel focused again? For me, it's often planning food and exercise the night before and reporting daily here.

03-13-2013, 11:08 AM
my first post, I have been dieting for 4 months and have recently
started with the Beck plan to help keep me motivated.
I am having a hard time remembering to read my cards, I posted reminders but keep looking right past them. If anyone has a good suggestion that
will help me remember, I would appreciate it.

03-13-2013, 11:12 AM
Hi Coaches!

I, like BBE, could have planned some things better. Oh, well. Now I am out of time...taking mom to Denver for an eye appt...all the way back up....then back down right by the place we were on the first trip...only she can't drive home. We're off for a few days to visit our friend. I've brought my vitamix, vitamins, healthy foods. credit. Also a knitting (distraction) project AND MY BIKE! credit for healthy habits. I weighed this morning (down) and followed my food plan yesterday. credit.

Welcome, Lulu! I'm an everyday poster at 3fc. For me, the routine of posting translates to a routine with my food/exercise and evolving healthy habits. Best wishes! I look forward to getting to know you!

03-13-2013, 11:14 AM
I am having a hard time remembering to read my cards, I posted reminders but keep looking right past them. If anyone has a good suggestion that will help me remember, I would appreciate it.

I've shared before that I keep a copy of my Advantages Reponse card on my dresser next to my ring box. Every morning, before I put on my rings, I read my ARC. I also have a "It's easier to stay on plan than to get back on plan" card on my desk propped against my monitor--I can't re-read that one often enough :-).

I'm not always good about re-reading my other cards, but I'm working on it. I keep my "cards" in a file on my computer and usually keep the Word document open to encourage me to read them. I also can access that file from my phone, so that's another way to encourage myself to read them.

03-13-2013, 11:22 AM
I am in somewhat of a funk at the moment. Life at our house has been stressful lately (more than our "normal" stress) and I am realizing ALL of the "reasons" I have for emotional eating. They all seem to be staring me directly in the face (and belly) all at once. I began to journal about it yesterday, but I am overwhelmed with all of the emotions churning inside me right now. It feels like there is just too much to write/think about, but I will keep at it until I come to some realizations and peace ~ through writing. I appreciate the input that some of you posted for me. No, I have NOT been planning my food ahead of time ~ which I know is not helping. I have also NOT been logging my food lately. I know I need to "get back to basics" ~ again ~ but I feel too overwhelmed and emotionally exhausted right now. We are dealing with some health issues with our 13-year-old handicapped daughter and both kids (the other is our 17-year-old son) were home sick yesterday and demanding my attention much of the day, in addition to being at odds with each other. I am trying to tackle my weight and house clutter challenges at the same time. My husband, who tries hard to be supportive, has been saying some things lately that are both sabotaging to my efforts and hurtful. I don't think it is intentional, as he is also under a lot of stress and I am trying to be cognizant of that, but the little "jabs" hurt nonetheless. I have an appointment next week with my therapist, which I know will help, but I am trying to keep everything together "under the surface" for now. It doesn't help to discuss this with my husband. If it isn't something he can solve, then he isn't interested in discussion. Period. Our communication has always been a challenge, and it is even more strained during times of stress and conflict, like now, when we need good communication skills the most. Blah, blah, blah............... I could go on and on, but I have said more than enough and choose to not air any further "dirty laundry" on a public forum. Just please send me strength and any suggestions any of you have for coping "in the meantime." I feel somewhat at the end of my rope, but I am determined to go forward with everything and will not give up on myself or my weight loss journey. I can't. I want to do it for myself and for my children. For right now, I am putting "hubby" on the backburner. I will deal with him later. Thanks for letting me vent and for any feedback you have for me.

03-13-2013, 12:14 PM
Hi! I am off to perfrom again. I gotta scoot. This is a link from the Beck Solution, on the subject of slipping, that came through my Facebook today:

I'll try and get back later. I promise!

03-13-2013, 12:42 PM
Good morning, Becksters! (I agree NationalParker, that has a great sound to it--and I like your association with "roadster"!)

I am giving myself big, big credit and am SO happy! I have stayed OP since Sunday. It's a miracle! The planets have aligned, I've committed myself to planning, and this wonderful forum has been a huge boost and motivator. THANK YOU ALL! :cp:

This morning I tarried too long over journaling and my Beck workbook to do a toning/strength workout (ironically, I'm on Day 13: Distractions--so I used Beck to distract myself from the workout--I don't think that's exactly how she intended it), BUT... drum rolllllllll... despite the 6-degree windchill temp and icy snow-dusted roads, I put on layers & layers of clothes plus ice cleats; and Emma the Rocket Dawg and I wogged for 1-1/2 mi. Besides credit, the rewards were many. It was a gorgeous day--blue skies and the sun backlit everything a golden-pink. Tonight is the first run (walk/crawl) with my Couch to 5K group, so I should get in another mile.

Gardenerjoy - Thanks for the great support and suggestions. I know I don't have to do personals--but I really love doing them. It makes me feel more connected to everyone. I do tend to go on, so please do an intervention if I become tiresome. BTW... what does "+75 525/1400 March" mean?

IBelieveinMe2 - I believe in you, too. You are doing such an amazing job, particularly under such duress. The journaling may be tough, but I've found that those pages graciously receive and hold even the most difficult (and sometimes outrageous) of feelings and for me, often save them from spilling over in ways that would be destructive. Please give yourself credit for every big & little positive thing you do. ("I got out of bed this morning! I'm incredible!") Much credit for the love you have for your children and DH (bless his pointed head), and for working through the issues you're facing. Sending good juju your way.

Linda - :welcome: I've only been on this site for a few days, but I can already tell you that it is AWESOME! My suggestion (and that is helping me) is to get the Beck workbook (avail on and work through it one day at a time. It only takes a few minutes, and it gives more hands-on reinforcement. It also contains the cards (tear-out, perforated, at the back) and reminders to read them.

Lexxiss - Debbie R - Good luck with your mom's eye appt. Good for you on your planning! (I love both my Vitamix & my bike--although the bike hasn't seen any action since last summer.)

Beth - Thanks for sharing about the buffet. Buffets are not my thing (snacking and red wine are), but I could still relate--the day-after feeling of "#@%* I did it again. I KNOW better. I promised myself...." Yup. Great job on the recovery and seeing the lesson and putting it into perspective. Super you!

Bootedkitty - Ciao, back!

BBE - Good luck with the accountant. I still insist that you're planning REALLY well--most of us are scrambling 4/14 and filing extensions.

NationalParker - DH & I watched Hope Springs a couple weeks ago and really enjoyed it. It has many funny moments, but it went deeper into relationships than I expected--in a good way.

Have a wonderful day everyone.


03-13-2013, 01:03 PM
Hi linda(xtals) and :welcome2: Like Beth, I keep my cards on an open spot of my dresser in the office with special notes on my computer monitor. Just keep trying....Best wishes and glad you're joining us.

IBelieveinMe2, I'm so sorry you've got so much going on. Your situation is so much more difficult than mine yet we share many similar family dynamics. I was reminded today of something I wrote and put on the front of my pink book..."My normal is not normal". It helps me to remember that I need to just keep trying....Coming here every day is comforting and I feel comfortable when I check in...taking time for me. As I keep trying things do get easier...I find things that work and others that don't. Sometimes, for me, following my "plan" is to very simply "just keep trying". Right now I'm in a medical office w/ my mom, but I'm grateful for each moment I find a little time to participate here. ((Hugs))

03-13-2013, 01:04 PM
I just had a new piece go up on The Huffington Post. I didn't mention Beck in this one, but got in a whole lot of other diet books!

03-13-2013, 06:18 PM
I'm still feeling like I'm standing next to the merry-go-round of thoughts that won't stop, waiting for the time to hop on and do this. But I've become an excuse factory, and in the meantime I'm pretty miserable. I'm reading your posts and I want to be you. I want to have a list of things I give myself credit for. Waa, waa, waa . . . I'm such a cry baby. Just do it, Lulu . . . right?

03-13-2013, 10:59 PM
Hi Becksters,
Well here I am. Oddly, feeling pretty good right now. I'll take it! I think I'm feeling a little better because I'm going out of town for a conference tomorrow. I felt pretty good most of the day. I took a few hours this morning to complete a project at home. I've been trying to get it done for 3 weeks and keep getting interrupted. It is a relief to have it done rather than stressing over it. I'm not good at doing some things on "my time". I give away enough of my time that I don't get paid for, I just wasn't willing to on this one.
Yesterday was of my diabetic students came to my office, sicker than a dog. Turns out she hadn't checked her blood sugar or taken any insulin for 3 days. Her blood sugar was too high for my meter to read. I'm just sick about it. I've been her school nurse for 5 years. I spent a long time with her mom on the phone today, mom thinks she's depressed. I'm so sad for her. Also got a report about a 6th grader who confided in another staff member that he's hearing voices. He's been seen talking to the "voices". It started 2 months ago and the parents have done absolutely NOTHING. And, yesterday a coworker told me she has a tumor in her leg that's grown 4" since her last x-ray. Then I got news that a former co-worker's 24 year old son died last week. It was either a drug overdose or a suicide. No wonder I couldn't sleep last night.

Yoga was easy peasy. It was canceled because the teacher was ill. :) I'm looking forward to the class because an friend that I've lost touch with is in it. Oh well, there's always next week.

I weighed in at JC yesterday. I gained 0.6 pounds. I'm not surprised, I earned it by eating too many salty snacks at my party. My counselor there recommended that I get some of the "super juices" because I haven't been able to eat very well. I got one of those green ones that looks like bile and guess what? It didn't taste like bile at all!

I'm working on my insomnia with meditation cd's and relaxation cd's. I can't find the one that came highly recommended, but will keep looking.

I probably won't be around for a few days so everyone have a great rest of week. I'll be home on Sunday.


03-13-2013, 11:39 PM
Welcome Lizanga-love the glasses and your sense of humor!
And welcome LuLu. I could have written your post. Post often and read. The support from people who share your food/weight issues is invaluable. You are not alone and you'll get there with the support of this group.

OnebyOne: Your week sounds wonderful! I hope you have a very creative and relaxing week. Are you going with people you know already?

BBEAs you can guess, I have immense empathy for you on the tax issue. I hope your outcome is better than mine.

BethI admire your reaction to overindulging at the buffet. I think recognizing where and why you strayed is real learning.

NationalParker Ouch on the white knuckle commute. I hate driving on the freeway when it's icy. I share the road with too many idiots. Luckily, I only have to drive a few blocks to work. We haven't had much snow this year which I'm thankful for. I'm in the same spot with losing focus. It's HARD.

GardnerJoy Your presentation sounds interesting. I'm going to go read your reviews :)

Lexxiss You sure get around! Have a good time with your friend!

My dear IBelieveInMe2. I'm sorry you are having such a bad time of it. ((hugs)). You sound like I feel. Be gentle with yourself until things turn around. My advice is to scale back on expectations until things are more settled for you. One thing I'm doing is accepting "maintaining" as good enough for right. Just take some baby steps. I agree with putting DH on the back burner. LOL, deal with him later. My thoughts are with you, keep journaling and checking in here. When I'm stressed and feeling overwhelmed, I try to do ONE thing that I can be successful doing. One thing often leads to another. Even if it doesn't I congratulate myself for accomplishing that ONE thing.


03-13-2013, 11:39 PM
I'm still feeling like I'm standing next to the merry-go-round of thoughts that won't stop, waiting for the time to hop on and do this. But I've become an excuse factory, and in the meantime I'm pretty miserable. I'm reading your posts and I want to be you. I want to have a list of things I give myself credit for. Waa, waa, waa . . . I'm such a cry baby. Just do it, Lulu . . . right?

Yay Lulu! You are one of us because... *CREDIT* for POSTING and CHECKING IN with your COACHES. :hug:

03-13-2013, 11:49 PM
Hi all! (doesn't BigChiefDavid call us Becksters, too?)

Last night, when I was about to go to bed, I realized I hadn't entered today's stuff into MFP. I wanted to go to bed, but instead I took the time to do it--about 5 minutes or so--because I knew I wouldn't do it in the morning.

Food was mostly to plan today--had to swap the planned cantaloupe for strawberries and raspberries due to the condition of said cantaloupe, but everything else was planned. When I looked at my final numbers, though, I had planned too many carbs and not enough protein. There's room for improvement but it's much better than it was 2 weeks ago! (And it's what happens when I don't plan earlier in the evening when I'm not too tired to think about adjustments.)

Exercise was OP, too.

I'm getting a bit overwhelmed with all the things for our big event. It starts a week from Friday. There's a lot to get done between now and then. I'm trying not to let it interfere with my careful attention to my dietary and exercise needs.

LuLu01801: Welcome! With previous CBT work I've done, I was told to pick one type of distorted thinking and concentrate on that one. Sure, there were other instances (lots of them) of distorted thinking that I didn't "think back" at--but after doing two weeks with one, and two weeks with another, the rest fell into place much more easily. It also helps to think about your successes in small increments. So, if you ate standing up while prepping dinner, give yourself credit for eating sitting down the rest of the day, for recognizing you'd done it and stopping. If you thought of it as a successful/unsuccessful day, you wouldn't give yourself any credit--but you could have succeeded for two meals and a snack, and only taken 2 bites standing up instead of what you would normally have done--give yourself credit for your successes.

gardenerjoy: I liked your article. Thanks for sharing it with us! That's interesting about the farms--I hadn't thought about the number/size of farms issue before.

Lizagna: Big credits for staping OP since Sunday--resistance muscles are wonderful things! I'm impressed that you're walking outside in this weather, but I'm sure Emma the Rocket Dawg appreciated it!

BeverlyJoy: I hope your performance went well! I read the In Session--it's important for me to realize that these skills cannot be temporary if I'm going to lose weight and keep it off. They have to be permanent.

IBelieveInMe2: You can do this--and you deserve a lot of credit for reaching out for support and help. We're on your side.

Lexxiss: Have a wonderful and relaxing time with your friend.

xtals: Welcome! I think I am going to strew more of my cards all over the house. What if you skipped the reminders and just had the cards there to read?

BillBE: I hope your tax visit with the accountant went well. I just want you to know how much I love your daily personals. I had a little twinge of "aw" when I saw you didn't have time for them this morning.

Bootedkitty: We will manage to beat our cravings--and for a while, for me, that will mean avoiding the source of temptation. How are you doing now that you're not keeping a food diary?

nationalparker: I keep reading studies that say it doesn't matter what time you eat, and it might, not across a large enough sample, but I think it definitely does to individuals! Credit for recognizing that and thinking about it. How are your eyes doing?

onebyone: Your residency sounds incredibly exciting and a terrific opportunity. Planning food like that is a bit daunting (not having a grocery store at an easy distance), but it sounds like you have a really workable plan.

Julia150: Working with kids is so hard--and I admire your compassion and caring. I hope your conference is a happy thing!

Take care, all.

03-14-2013, 12:03 AM
Hello Coaches

:welcome3: xtals!

Spent the day in a bit of a mental fog. No matter. I did my laundry and made my lists. My MIL can pack her suitcase a week in advance. That I *planned* my packing is already ahead of the game for me. I'll manage to get it all done tomorrow.*credit for packing and planning and making lists.

Foodwise I was exactly on plan today. I still had a queasy stomach though. Day#3 or that. I was writing about Looloo to someone this morning and oh! the tummy got even sorer, so perhaps some of the discomfort is stress. I don't cry as much a I used to--so maybe I swallow it more. And I am not acting out with food, and I'm not exercising so that tight ball of worry energy has got to go somewhere. I guess it's in my gut. A little bit of worry and tension about my trip as well. I get that before every trip. The unknown and all that.

Anyway, the forecast is for cold, windy, snowy weather. I vow to bike ride anyway even if it is ridiculous.

Tomorrow is official wegh-in day. I am hoping to edge closer to that 250 mark yet again. Not sure if I'll do it given the tummy trouble of late. We'll see. I know I've been on plan and the WW Scientists promise me that if I follow their plan the weight will come off and so I see no need to tweak anything come what may. My job is to move ever forward.

And that means shuffling off to bed right now. Have a good night.

IBelieveInMe2 I have to echo Julia150's suggestions for you to choose one behaviour you can be successful with in times of stress. Do it and hang on until you can do more. It is key to simplify when our life gets complicated. *credit for checking in. *credit for looking for ways to hang onto your foodplan/goals and recognizing you need more support--and not looking for it where you won't find it. Awesome. Don't waste the energy you do have in places where it won't be nurtured. We are always here to listen and support.:hug:

Julia150 Yes, I do know the people I will be sharing my space with for a week. We are all members of a "drawing collective" our manifesto says we draw for the sake of drawing and we draw collectively-meaning we all work on our drawings and no one person claims to have made it. We all decide when it is done too. It's been a fascinating experience. Total trust is involved and our trust comes ffrom our respect for each other as artists. My secret thrill is our group is non-commercial, which thrills me to bits. But you didn't want to know all this did you? Thanks for reading/listening anyway! :hug:

03-14-2013, 12:40 AM
Dear Coaches,

Thank you so much for your input regarding my funk. As usual, you have a way of helping me to put things into perspective. I appreciate your ideas and support! :hug:

Food was decent today, but I nibbled on extras too often. Emotional eating, I'm sure. Anyway, I want to give myself credit for exercising for the third night in a row! :carrot: I am working hard to get consistent with exercise. And, after a good workout, journaling, reading your posts, and having everyone sound asleep in bed now ~ life is good and I am hopeful once again ~ if even for the moment. :)

Heading to bed now................ :yawn:

03-14-2013, 12:52 AM
Hi coaches... checking in. Food has been off. *Sigh* I think it's time for me to read the whole Beck book again.

Sometimes I get frustrated. However, 'running away' is not the answer. I will try again.

Sometimes the stress of performing is 'calmed' by eating extra food. I will work on that too.

Kind of tired. Credit for checking in!

Goodnight. I'll catch up on what everyone is doing tomorrow.

03-14-2013, 08:06 AM
:welcome: Lulu (LuLu01801) :welcome:

And, on the occasion of joining, :wel3fc:

How did you find out about the books by Dr. Judith Beck?

And how did you find our Beck forum here on 3 Fat Chicks?

03-14-2013, 08:06 AM
:welcome: Linda (xtals) :welcome:

And, on the occasion of joining, :wel3fc:

How did you find out about the books by Dr. Judith Beck?

And how did you find our Beck forum here on 3 Fat Chicks?

03-14-2013, 08:14 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – I'm back - mush brain and all. The good news is that I'll owe less taxes than I thought, and no penalty. That's because I had practiced the negative thinking that it would be the worst that it could be. So I got a benefit from predicting armageddon: I only owe the government an arm - I keep the leg. Oh Well.

Food was awful, as if I could snack my way through form 1040. I'm through that and am back on track. I've got a busy day, with fun walking planned, so it's easy to envision being on plan for the day. I did notice a happy event - I was on the second floor when I noticed I had walked up without a small item that would be useful. So, instead of following the salient thought that I could live without it, I just walked downstairs and got it - as if I was a normal person who can do a flight of stairs. CREDIT moi for the attitude change.

onebyone – Your island journey is sounding more real and more exciting. It's a big deal to back pack in a weeks food for a 45 minute hike. It's really annoying to encounter people who can pack a week in advance. I married one and have to confront her suitcase for a week before I start.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Amazing that Missouri has so many small farms. What a gift for locovores. Congrats on Huffington Post - again.

Beverlyjoy – Just love reading "off to perform again" - so glad you're mobile enough to write that.

nationalparker – Ouch for the continued saga with your DH's Ex, along with Super Kudos for, "But I've been recognizing that being and feeling hungry isn't an emergency."

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Buffets are a challenge. Swearing off is a good temporary fix, but my life finds them in front of me over and over and over. One strategy that has worked for me is to slowly survey the whole affair, actually walking around the table, and then choosing the one item you'd most regret not having eaten. After that, you can fill your plate according to your plan. That said, I still find them a challenge for me.

IBelieveInMe2 – Ouch for the stress that comes when life is difficult. Sending you supportive thoughts for dealing with the real stuff and just plain old empathy for dealing with kids who bicker with each other to deal with their own stress. Sometimes it can help to plan just six inches of rope at a time to help avoid that "end of my rope" feeling. Good luck.

Julia (Julia150) – Ouch for all the difficult news that crosses the desk of a school nurse. Congratulations for helping folks by absorbing it all. Have a good conference. [Re taxes: Let's pretend that you and I are funding a day of Ole Faithful blasting away - now that's a good use of our money.]

Kitty (Bootedkitty) – Hopefully, with white smoke behind, you'll get your newspapers back.

Liz (lizagna) – Love the "Beck bicycle" analogy, since getting up from a bicycle spill is what we did a zillion times as kids. Yay for Emma the Rocket Dawg as a live-in exercise coach.

Liz (lizagna) – Kudos for 15 minutes on your P90X workout. As you feel the credit you're giving yourself, you'll feel less the need to notice that it wasn't longer.

Lulu (LuLu01801) – Your post is a great "kickstart." You're in. You're at that point where I finally realized that the list of thing to do, strategies to follow, applied to me - they weren't just for reading about. So, my advice is: march forth, continuing what you've started.

Perhaps you can avoid that "merry-go-round" feeling by focusing on one thing to give yourself credit for. An example is simply: you're posting here despite how you feel. Glad that you've joined us.

Linda (xtals) - Yep, the Beck Diet Solution is good for boosting motivation. It's kinda fun to have a quiver of strategies to use as needed. Congrats for making it for four months already. Glad you've joined us here.

Readers - chapter 4
How to Use the Beck Diet Solution

The Two-Week Wait

...If you've already taken a look at the Content page or flipped ahead in the book, you probably noticed the program suggests you start your diet on Day 15. Why wait to start dieting? Because you need time to build the skills that will make your diet a success. During the first two weeks of this program, you'll learn and practice these skills. Some of the techniques are so effective that you might start losing weight even before you officially start your diet. In fact, researchers at the University of Pennsylvania reviewed a series of studies in which behavioral techniques were used instead of prescribing a diet. They found that participants were able to lose weight if they engaged in goal setting, problem solving, and self-monitoring (keeping a written log ow wheat they ate). All of these skills are also incorporated in the Beck Diet Solution.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pgs 45-46.

03-14-2013, 10:12 AM
hi everybody!!
I can't thank you enough for all the encouraging words of wisdom.
much appreciated.
Bill (my fellow Bostonian!!) . . . I discovered Beck Diet Solution after seeing a message thread on the weightwatchers message boards which made me further research it.
And I found this forum (since the forum on weightwatchers was not very active) by an internet search.

I give myself credit, right here and now, for writing this post and for expressing my truths.
some day, very very very soon (I can feel it in my bones) I will dive in and commit to this 6 week program.
here you all are, every day, keeping in touch, sharing your successes and struggles, cheering each other on, sporting impressive weight loss tickers, making time for the program . . .
if you all can do it, I can do it, right?


03-14-2013, 10:36 AM
Got overtired and overwhelmed and I overate yesterday. Sigh.

I'm headed out of town and I have a written plan for the whole time. I was feeling a bit shaky about it and now I have even less confidence. So. I was going to stay off 3FC, but I think I'll check in each morning after all because I, apparently, need the accountability and that will give more confidence in my plan. Thanks, coaches!

Exercise: +30 555/1400 March

Welcome, xtals! I have my advantages on a sheet in the same Excel file where I record my daily weigh-in. I have another list in my Tickler file. I rarely skip both recording my weight and going through the day's Tickler so I read them at least once.

IBelieveInMe2: hugs! Asking my DH for emotional support in my weight loss journey was never as helpful as either of us wanted it to be. It has worked much better to push that stuff into this thread where all my coaches can be supportive of me. DH is helpful in other ways, like getting all the laundry done so I can pack this morning.

Lizagna: My goal is 1400 minutes of exercise in March. Yesterday I added thirty minutes, so the total so far is 555 minutes. Not quite where I'd like to be at the middle of the month, but there's a lot of month left!

Lulu01801: give yourself credit for posting! That's actually quite hard when you feel like you have no good news to report.

03-14-2013, 10:54 AM
Just a quick check in today. I got a scale reward! 191.8! I'm creeping slowly toward the 20# mark.
I think I can eat rationally this weekend away. I'm not going to be with any food friends.
Bye for now

03-14-2013, 11:22 AM
On page 31 of the Beck Workbook, I wrote down the important things I learned about myself after completing the questionnaire beginning on page 27.

Things I've Learned About Myself:
I've been on/off diets forever.
I want to be in control really bad.
I mindlessly eat.
I justify blowing it.
I pay little attention to hunger.
I overeat mostly out of boredom.
I make excuses for most of my eating.
I don't care what other people think of my food choices.

thanks for listening,

03-14-2013, 12:30 PM
and more credit to me . . . I have made my ARCs a while back and even though I'm on the sabotaging merry-go-round lately, I still read them twice a day.
yay me!!!

03-14-2013, 01:39 PM
Good morning, Becksters!

My days used to be pretty darned fine before I got here--but y'all make them even better. Again, thank you.

Another day OP! Woot! I have my WW weigh-in at noon, so... more to be revealed.

Last night was the first run with my No Boundaries/Couch-5K group. It was fantastic! Background: I was a total couch potato until I was 30. Then I started walking, then running, then triathlon... I've finished 5 marathons & one half-Ironman distance tri and a lot of other shorter events--all of which I'm really proud of--but I've always, always been very, very slow. "Slower than my grandmother--and she's dead." And BTW, I started exercising so I wouldn't have to diet--but discovered I can out-eat any number of calories I burn.

While craving the sense of community running groups can provide, each time I have joined one, the experience has been nothing but painful. I would either be left and end up running alone or some kind soul would hang back with me, and I would feel like an albatross. Then as I got into my late 50s (I'm 60 now) my "running" kept deterioating further; and I finally just gave up trying. So now I walk with the occasional jog. (Wogging.) And even though my wogging partner, Emma the Rocket Dawg, is quite fast, she's always totally happy just to be on the road with me.

Anyway, I really would like to run--no matter how slowly but with some consistency--so joined this NOBO group at Fleet Feet with hope and trepidation. It was INCREDIBLE! One woman who shared my sentiments said, "It is so wonderful to be running with people who go at the same pace I go because that's the pace that they go." So for the second time this week, I have found my people. What a banner week!

BethfromDayton - WTG on exercise, OP, & entering your data on MFP. Good luck with the Big Event!

Julia150 - Congrats on the scale accomplishment! Woot! So sorry about the influx of difficult news with your school kids & friends. I hope you'll get this since I now you're on your way outta town. You mentioned the meditation/relaxation CDs. Right now there's a 21-day meditation challenge (doesn't meditation challenge sound oxymoronic?) sponsored by Oprah & Chopra. Because I have fewer than 25 posts I can't put the link in, but if you're interested it comes up on a Google. I have been LOVING it. The links for each day stay up, so you can start whenever.

GardenerJoy - Thanks for explaining about the exercise minutes. I love how methodical you are in so many ways! Congrats on the Huff Post article. Very nice. I also followed the link to your blog & enjoyed that as well. Yea on your planning! I really liked how you described to IBelieve about looking to your DH for support in the areas in which he is good at giving it--and not in those outside his bailiwick of helpfulness. Great example in so many areas of life. I once had a teacher who said, "You not only need to know whom you can trust--but what you can trust them for."

BeverlyJoy - What kind of performances do you do? Congrats on the exercising!

IBelieveinMe2 - Waytago on the exercising, journaling, and feeling heartened by the end of the day. One minute at a time, baby! You're doing great!

OnebyOne - Hurrah for staying OP! How is Looloo doing? Your drawing collective sounds amazing. What an act of collaboration & trust.

BillBE - So great to see you back! Congrats on getting through your travails with the Good Uncle Sam. It cost you an arm, you say? I thought, based on your avatar, you would be more likely to lose an ear....

Lulu - Yea for you! One step at a time. You're doin' it. I came to this forum from the WW boards as well. I actually found a Beck group there that was quite active, but they seemed a little clique-ish--supporting the "old guard" and ignoring upstart newbies like me. So... as you have witnessed, I looked elsewhere and found this fabulous group. :hug:

Have a wonderful day, everyone!


03-14-2013, 02:46 PM
Super quick check in to say that anyone who is hanging off the back of the weight loss wagon, grab me and pull me back on. My mind IMMEDIATELY takes two indulgent meals and tells me that I'm a failure. I logged it all but recognize that it must stop HERE. Dinner last night was at Cracker Barrel and I told DH that I would enjoy splurging in one meal - had gone light the day with only 500 calories and would like to have their grilled chicken tenderloin sandwich and split a dessert with him. We have never had a dessert there, probably eat there 5-6 times/year. But they look good :) ... so I did and ate about 1/4 of the dessert and was satisfied. Then logged and then freaked out and then today, after the Thursday volunteering gig with a different person this week who wanted to return straight to the office, I skipped Subway's safe choice and got a grilled cheese at the cafe. I can live with that as they just put the cheese, tomato and bread in a panini press with no butter or oil. So it's a hot sandwich and clearly no nutritional value but not a pit of fat. THAT I got from the 12 homemade kettle chips. NO idea how to count it but added in a tbsp of oil on my planner for those. WHY? I have told myself that I can have a serving of those chips once every season. And the first three months of the year are wrapping up so I gave myself permission.

GOAL - to log in again this evening when I get home before DH does, with a healthy dinner plan for myself and personals. :) I need to do a veggie heavy dinner for me tonight. That will give me a leap back onto the wagon here.

Thanks for letting me vent on completely innocuous stuff - in the scheme of things, it matters not if I ate chips. But in the two out of three meals are NOT wise, it is weighing on my mind.

03-14-2013, 03:22 PM
Hi Beckies... here's what came through on Facebook today via the Beck Solution:

Think Thin Thursday Tip: Don’t sit down with a big bag or container of ANYTHING. Portion off ahead of time how much you’re going to have and then sit down and eat it. Doing so will ensure that you don’t go overboard and will help you enjoy each bite more because you won’t be constantly asking yourself, “Should I have another one? Is this my last one? Should I have one more?”

I know this seems pretty basic... but, it's such a good reminder. -especially if someone else near by is eating out of the package.

03-14-2013, 04:05 PM
Down 1.6# at WI. :yay:

NationalParker - I know exactly where you're coming from with your keenly honed sense of guilt. (The other night before bed I had a 20-calorie s-f cocoa with 20 calories of frothed almond milk and 0-calorie s-f salted caramel Torani syrup--and it was so filling and tasted so wonderful and so decadent, I KNEW that somewhere I had really screwed up.) But do you see what a great job you did? Credit, credit, credit. You planned. The only real slip seems to be the chips. Twelve. You even counted them. So you're right back on track now. You are a fabulous role model!

BeverlyJoy - I really appreciate your sharing the Beck tips. They're helpful & encouraging--and you save me from having to either look them up myself or... forget.


03-14-2013, 05:04 PM
Hi Coaches!

Food is spot on and it's shaping up to be two very nice days away from home. Our Alaskan fish was a big hit with our Alaskan friend and we stayed up until very late looking at pictures. Food is planned for the day because if "I didn't bring it I'm not buying it." credit for the planning. It's just made things so stress free.

BillBlueEyes, congrats on keeping that leg! Great that you have a fun day planned. Yay for that extra trip on the stairs...yes, you are back to being that normal person who can gratefully do a flight of stairs!

Lulu, what wonderful and important things to learn about yourself. Some, probably already known but by following through and doing the exercise you now have a list...all of which Dr. Beck addresses. credit! PS you can commit to a 6 week program, "one day at a time".

Julia150, great how you've gotten back to weighing and then are rewarded by diminishing numbers! Credit for having that feeling that you can eat rationally this weekend.

Liz(Lizagna), wow! I loved reading about how you are "finding your people". When you recognize something you like then find a group that inspires you that is exponential progress. credit

Beverlyjoy, thanks for the Thursday tip, which is such a great reminder. I do my best when I say NO CHOICE to measuring/weighing ALL snack items.

gardenerjoy, great that you are RIGHT BACK ON TRACK! credit. Thx, for yet another outstanding article!

nationalparker, after reading your entire post….down to your last words, "it matters not if I ate chips…." my conclusion to your post is "what matters IS that I am noticing". When we start noticing we find new paths. For me, I will rarely eat a dessert "out" and if I do make that choice it's after I've done the research just because they tend to be made without any health thoughts, whatsoever. That conclusion came post-dessert at a local bakery….looked healthy,smelled healthy...thought it was fairly "ok" then found out the gluten free crust was "pure butter" (according to the chef)

IBelieveInMe2, yay for persistence to distance yourself from your "funk", which was and is a very real life situation. I love reading that after doing all kinds of positive tasks that "life is good and I am hopeful once again." Kudos!

onebyone, very nice job planning so much that you are ahead of your "old" scheduling ways. Progress is seen in many areas of our lives...not just with food. Credit for all your planning energy amidst a tough emotional time at home.

Beth(from Dayton), kudos for taking the 5 extra minutes at the end of a long day to log your food. ?Nice, too, for OP exercise!

03-14-2013, 05:16 PM
HI...coaches... I need to catch up. First of all: xtals - lulu - bellevian

WELCOME!!! So glad you are all here and have posted. Folks here are friendly and supportive.

Yesterday I was in a whirwind, it seems. I had to perform and I felt stressed and headed into carbs and chocolate. I had no willingness to not use the Beck techniques. Today - I woke up and my food felt 'shakey'.... not knowing if I could get through the day. I did make a plan. I am trying to 'hold on tight' to what I know works. So far so good - however, my hardest time is in the evening. That's when I need to pull the resistance techniques out of my hat - so to speak.

In Dr. Beck's first book she suggests weighing once a week. (or more if you like) Her other book says to weigh everyday. I think that weighing everyday is making me a little frantic about what it says. I am really trying to look at the number as information. Another thing I need to tatoo to my brain. I may weight every other day for the next week or so. I'll see if I can get back to it.

Lately I feel like I can only concentrate on eating healthfully - like it's my fulltime job. It's like I don't have time or energy for anything else if I am eating healthfully. It's kind of crazy. Like I can't work and not overeat... like it takes more energy than I have. I am always thinking about having the right food around. What I will eat... what my husband will or won't eat. Watching my sodium, too. Phooey. Do any of you ever get that feeling?

lexiss/debbie - credit for your OP days!! Yay! Credit for all your planning. Carry on.

lizagna -credit for weighting. Also for getting in all that running! So nice that you've connected with folks that are at a similar level in running. YAY. I am a children's performer: stories (oral tradtion - no books) , puppets, singing. I've been doing this since 1990. It's the most joyful profession I could have ever imagined.

nationalparker - I can identify feeling like it's all going to derail when you are out to eat or in a place that is totally in your food comfort zone. Hop right back on your plan and don't look back. This whole thing is learning process. Sometimes it's easier than others.

lulu - so glad you posted things you have learned about yourself. It reminds me to do the same. Thanks. Reading your cards twice a day is a good goal.

Julia - safe travel. Credit for almost reaching 20 pounds... yay.

gardenerjoy - ouch on overeating. Credit for planning to check in while you are out of town and going with a plan! I like reading your page on the weight loss books.

billbe - glad that tax stuff is over. Ouch on the extra food. Credit for moving on from the food and planning for healthier times. I like it that I am doing more performing agian, too.

Ibeliveinme2 - I hope you are out of your funk soon. Emotional eating is a hard thing. Credit for the exercising! I , too, sometimes struggle when DH goes to bed and it's me, the quiet of the evening and food in the kitchen. That's when I try to close the kitchen. Carry on.

onebyone - credit for you OP days! Sorry to hear that thinking about Looloo might be giving you a tummy ache. That can happen. I hope you trip goes well!!!

Have a great day, folks.

03-14-2013, 05:33 PM
Hello Coaches! Day 24. No, I have not fallen off the face of the Earth. Life has definitely been hectic the last few days. We moved our grown son, sweetie and baby out on Monday. I helped Sweetie clean the new place and schlepp stuff up and down stairs. (Credit for lots of spontaneous exercise) It was exhausting and incredibly disruptive. Some rooms in our house still look like an episode of "Hoarders". I am getting it put back together a little at a time, as I work a full time job. Through it all I did stay OP except for one sneaky piece of pizza. I'm not going to beat myself up for that, but it wasn't my finest moment either. I THOUGHT about reading my ARC but could not locate my purse (which contains my cards) so just went for it. Today I located my Beck book and caught up on the three pages I hadn't read. Good stuff. I love the "Oh well" shrug. Will put that to use regularly.
My scale also got moved and is showing me that I have gained weight this week. Each day it is creeping up a little more. Wondering if it is working right on the carpet....I am being rigorous at counting and measuring, but perhaps I have set my calorie counts too high. Or perhaps the intermittent fasting just is not a good fit for my particular body. Will give it a few more days and re-evaluate.
Now that I have my own space set up in one of the rooms the kids were using, I can start exercising to DVDs in the morning. I will have to start slow, as I twisted one ankle doing the moving. Maybe adding in some intentional exercise is the key to getting the scale to move down again.
I know this is long, but I felt I needed to tell all in order to be in integrity with myself. Will do personals tomorrow. Thanks for getting my long communication. Glad to be back.

- Nola

03-14-2013, 11:31 PM
Hi all!

Food was just as planned today, except for my typical swapping of fruit--the raspberries needed to get eaten, so the blueberries are waiting until tomorrow.

Exercise was OP as well--so that's credit, too.

Many busy things tonight so it's late and I still have to plan tomorrow's food. I had a neighborhood association meeting (I may not agree to do this another term), and spent time doing things for our event next weekend. DD the younger loves fonts and layouts, so she helped me design the menu cards that we put out by the food.

At the grocery trip today (I'm still doing those on schedule), I purchased some Skinny Cow ice cream treats--which were *not* on my plan for tonight. On the way home from the meeting, I considered having one, and realized it wasn't on my plan, I wasn't really hungry, and I wasn't going to have one, even if calories could have permitted. Credit to me.

Hope everyone has a great Friday!

03-15-2013, 12:42 AM
Hello Everyone,

Quick check-in, it looks like I have some reading to do to catch up with everyone. Everything seems busy in my life right now, work and home. Computer time at home is tracking on WW online only and tonight paying bills! Exercise has been walking the dogs, took them separately tonight and got a 1 hour walk for me and more enjoyable walks for each of them I think. They are now both laying asleep beside the desk so guess it worked.

Food has been so-so. I've managed to fall into a bowl of really cheap Easter chocolate eggs and was not using any resistance with them. Moving on and away from them.

Hope to get back over the weekend to catch up. Hi to all the newbies!

03-15-2013, 12:52 AM

Full full full day running every which way to get my supplies for my week away. I have them all, they just aren't all neatly put together into compact carrying cases. I am saving this for the morning. I did dillydally somewhat as we had a vet appt for Looloo where the vet showed us how to poke Looloo with a needle int he scruff and hold her "still" (sort of) as the saline fluid dipped into her. We are to do this on our own eventually "even everyday is not too often" he said. yikes. I guess though we did get a guideline for her in that if after this subQ treatment going on for 2 weeks her bloodtest numbers don't come down (they are VERY HIGH for kindey disease) she probably won't be bouncing back to a normal level as the kidney disease will show tiself to have progressed too far. But at least we will know this. I feel AWFUL leaving DH alone with the cats right now. But, on the plus side, her snuffles are gone. Yay. Anyway, my day went like this: weigh in at WW = +1.2 to 255something -yeahyeahyeahwhateverblahblahnumberI was OP it'll come downit'sokand youworeyourjeansnotyourweighinclothesyoumayaswellh avehadbreakfast shopping at Whole Foods for my week-bought too many things-more than my list but all good stuff so--is ok and will be grateful for it once I am there - then before hoem i feel almost faint -yikes no lunch, little breakfast = cheap fast food chinese/get fried stufff/poor choice/eat it all anyway when I gethome-eat, see cats, eat, email, then go get DH at work - he feels icky-sore tummy (maybe I do have a bug?)wants fast food-get fast food-eat small amt- come home, get Looloo-off to vet-first attemt to train us to give fluids-Looloo UNHAPPY CAT-squirmy, difficult, takes too long, is at vet too long-we find out she weighs even less: 4.5lbs how??-is ravenous when we get home YAY eats eats eats-need a few more food things for friend's list-of to get them and get a treat while we are out-come home-write email-be with cats-more email-more cats-gather all electronic cords/chargers/memory cards/sticks/camera-that's it for packing. Plan to get up extra early and pack in the am when I can think again Must go now. G'nite!

03-15-2013, 03:51 AM
Hi everybody, Today I feel a bit upset...all this stress at work, all these busy days...I spend 10 hours everyday in office...I feel so tired, luckily today is Friday! But last night I surrendered to a craving...uff...Nutella in my cupboard was calling me..and I gave it way!!! :( Uff... It's so disappointing. And I was so happy yesterday because on wednesday I went out for dinner to a friend's house and I didn't take "bis" and didn't eat dessert I really deserved credits for that and then yesterday...bum! I fell at Nutella's feet!!! ahaaargh!! Oh well, today I'll compensate...but I really hate that. About the diary, I went back on my footstep, I restarted writing my eating diary because probably is too early for stopping doing that, I feel uncomfortable without it and I spend time counting calories anyway so I prefer reading them black and white on paper!
I read you all even if I write little, and the support I read in your stories really makes me feel better.
I wish a very good weekend to everyone!

03-15-2013, 04:58 AM
Hi everyone
Thank you for the very warm welcome
I found out about the Beck Diet books through the internet. The dietician at
my health clinic mentioned cbt, but I didn't know what that was, so I started
searching around and came upon the Beck pages.
I live abroad (in Israel), so I ordered a copy of one of the books - it took a while to arrive but it has been very inspiring. I felt as if I was missing out by not being able to share the experience. This site helps fill that gap.
wishing you all a good day - Linda

03-15-2013, 08:15 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Fun walk, CREDIT moi, because it was a tad more chilly than I predicted so I had to walk more briskly to stay warm. Such a fun time of year when I know that cold is just temporary since Spring is coming.

Snacks weren't in line - Ouch. I'm getting ready to take the weekend off and packing isn't my thing. When I get a butler, his first assignment will be to tend to all packing for any trip I take. I'll be out of range of the ether all weekend, so I'll next post on Monday.

onebyone – Ouch for a day all on top of itself. Sending good vibes to your DH to care for Looloo while you have your fabulous week. May your creative juices flow.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Have a good trip.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Drooling over that Alaskan fish.

Beverlyjoy – Yep, evenings are a challenge. Keep on keeping on.

Tazzy - Ouch for those "really cheap Easter chocolate eggs" - at least it should be a bowl worth falling into.

nationalparker – Reaching behind the wagon and grabbing your arm. Gotta just challenge the errand mind that "tells me that I'm a failure."

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Kudos for "just as planned."

Julia (Julia150) – Yay for a scale that gets the message.

Kitty (Bootedkitty) – Yep, Kudos for staying your path despite the too-busy. Nutella has brought down many a noble person. You can get back on track for the weekend.

Nola (Nola145) – Oh the agony and the estasy of moving out a grown DS and family. Kudos for the exercise.

Liz (lizagna) – LOL at, "I can out-eat any number of calories I burn." Kudos for all that running - at whatever speed. [My ear was designated for someone else, Uncle Sam can't have it.]

Lulu (LuLu01801) – And Kudos for giving yourself Credit. Yep, you can do it; the desire to commit will come. This is what I did that I had to stop, "I make excuses for most of my eating."

Linda (xtals) – Yay for starting this journey with a suggestion that Cognitive Behavior Therapy is a good thing.

Readers - chapter 4
How to Use the Beck Diet Solution

The Two-Week Wait

...If you start dieting too son - that is, before you have the skills you need - you might find dieting too challenging. You might get discouraged and maybe even abandon the program altogether. Readiness is more complicated than simply wanting to change. Think about other changes you've made in your life. For example, you didn't suddenly start driving one day simply because you wanted to. You had to learn driving skills one at a time. You had to practice them over and over until you got good at them and developed a measure of confidence in your ability to drive safely. It's the same with dieting. You need to learn certain skills and to develop confidence in your ability to use them consistently.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 46.

03-15-2013, 09:03 AM
Hi Coaches

I have my cothes packed. Next is the food, then the supplies. Getting there. I have wi-fi s there is no communication break for me which is comforting. My most important task is to have some breakfast before I go; a real breakfast. I decided to pack my big fluffy robe. It takes up a third of my suitcase! Worth it I think as I am spending evenings, and mornings with Others. Oh DH's alarm went off. Time to get back to it. BBL. Have a good planned day--or, better yet *plan* to have a good day! That should be dr. beck's new slogan.


03-15-2013, 09:57 AM
Good morning, coaches! Happy POETS Day! (That would be P*ss On Everything, Tomorrow's Saturday.)

Don't have time to do personals this a.m. (what do you mean, "Thank the good Lord for sparing us her rambling" huh?.....), but wanted to do a quick check-in. Last night DH & I ate out. I PLANNED in advance what I'd have--salad with grilled salmon. Big credit. It was eating out that derailed me last week.

Oh, one personal. Bootedkitty, I SO identified. Costco carries Nutella--in TWO-JAR PACKS. Several months back it called my name, & both jars were gone, empty, licked clean within a week. I have learned that for me it's the crack cocaine of trigger foods. I congratulate you that you didn't eat the contents of the entire jar in one sitting (credit), and that you have recovered from the hypoglycemic coma enough to post. Yea U!

This has been such a great week--thank you each and every one for sharing and supporting.


03-15-2013, 12:04 PM
I didn't overeat yesterday in spite of leaving three hours later than I intended. I skipped a snack because I was too busy packing. I was tempted to double up on the second snack, a sweet treat provided by the cottage proprietors that I wrote in my food plan since I knew it would be here, but I just added some grapes instead.

Exercise: +30 585/1400 March

LuLu01801: great job with your list of things you learned about yourself. How can we help? I'm always good for suggestions about how to avoid boredom and ways to counter justifications (because I've had so much practice with dealing with it). Credit for reading your Advantages twice a day -- that's a wonderful habit!

Lizagna: This is great: "You not only need to know whom you can trust--but what you can trust them for." Thanks!

nationalparker: I have one bratwurst a year. That sort of plan can work well, but I see what you mean about too many splurges in too few days. Good for you for getting things going the right direction again with a veggie-heavy plan.

Beverlyjoy: I've often had the worry that I spend too much time on my healthy lifestyle. I even have data. It's not uncommon for it to be 6 hours on a day that I go to the grocery store or Whole Foods, exercise for an hour, and do all the cooking and cleaning required to fix all meals and snacks in my own kitchen. Have you noticed that it takes longer to eat a salad than it does a hamburger and fries? Six hours is almost a full-time job!
One thing that helps is to realize that it took a lot of time to overeat, too. I just never counted up the hours. Mindlessly eating junk food while reading a romance novel in the car killed an hour or two some days, back then, and that wasn't even a meal! Some days, now, I have lunch on the table in five minutes from foods I fixed a day or two previously -- it would take over half an hour to run and get "fast" food to bring home.

03-15-2013, 03:13 PM
hello again!!
thanks so much for all your comments to me.
I really appreciate it.
gives me a sense of a potential connection with all of you that could actually help make things happen for me.
tell me . . . how do you all get used to and remember to eat sitting down?
I always taste when I cook . . . how do you stop doing that?
even when I think as I begin "I won't", I just do.
is there any of you that have broken the habit and actually NEVER do it anymore?

03-15-2013, 03:30 PM
I always taste when I cook . . . how do you stop doing that? is there any of you that have broken the habit and actually NEVER do it anymore?

It's only been 2.5 months, but I feel as if I've broken the habit. The last time I "slipped" was at a party in early February.

On one occasion, I let myself taste the chicken for flavoring. But just one taste. I don't know what I'm going to do the next time I make spaghetti sauce--that requires several tastings :-).

I think there's a big difference, though, between deliberately taking a small test to figure out what additional spices are needed, and slipping a strawberry piece in my mouth when I'm cutting them up.

I expect I'll have to do the first with my recipe-free sauce-based things (sloppy joes, spaghetti--that sort of thing). I don't do any tasting of items that are just being put on the plate or being prepped.

I used to be likely to have a few pieces of the shredded cheese that fell out of the bag while I was adding to a recipe--I don't do that anymore. I used to nibble a piece of rice or noodle that fell to the counter while moving the food to a serving bowl. I don't do that anymore. I used to nibble on fruits and veggies as I chopped them up--I don't do that anymore. I used to lick my fingers before washing my hands when I got something on them. I used to take a bite or two as I brought my plate to the table--I don't do that anymore. And don't get me started on how much batter or dough I can eat while baking, or cookies while removing them from trays.

I also recognize I never can again. I will never be able to do that and be confident I'll continue losing, or maintaining weight. Eating more deliberately has to be a permanent habit for me. I have not been that deliberate or mindful today--and I think that is contributing to why I feel hungry right now. (I'm looking forward to my 3:15 snack--but I'm not eating it early!) (or standing up)

Does that help?

03-15-2013, 03:37 PM
that sure does help, Beth!!
thanks so much for taking the time to explain that to me.
when you don't throw a strawberry in your mouth while cutting them, do you have to remind yourself not to do it, or do you have to stop yourself from doing it, or have you just broken the habit so it hardly comes to mind?
just wondering how this habit progresses.

03-15-2013, 04:26 PM
I think it's a progression.

Step 1: Reading my response card and reminding myself before doing kitchen work that I wasn't going to eat standing up. This had a few slipups, and several times of stopping my hand its way to my mouth

Step 2: Reminding myself, but being aware that I would do it if I weren't reminding myself.

Step 3: Being aware that I used to do it, and I don't do, but I would be doing it if I hadn't stopped.

I have not yet broken the habit to the point where it doesn't come to mind. But that's okay--if I stay at Step 3 and have stopped doing it, even if I'm aware of it, that's not a problem. And if I reach that Step 4 where I don't think about it, that'll be okay, too.

03-15-2013, 04:37 PM
Hello Coaches,
I am back. I had a great vacation, in terms of vacation. It was the eating that wasn't so good.
I made healthy choices for the most part. My weight is up and I know it will go down.
I went grocery shopping so the house is restocked with good healthy things to eat.
I have a few loads of wash to do and I am off to start supper.
So far today I am on plan.
I will read all the posts and be back.
Have a great day.

03-15-2013, 06:14 PM
Good Afternoon, Coaches.

I have missed reading everyone's posts. I have until April 12 to finish the final revisions of my thesis. Until then, I have given myself permission to do the best I can putting first things first. I have put a couple of commitments on hold, allowed myself to exercise when I can and most importantly resigned myself to maintaining weight. DS, DH, work are non negotiable.

Weight at ticker today. Food is planned for the rest of the day. I have started my day over at 2:00.

Hello to newcomers. Eating standing up is one of my greatest challenges. I have an advantage card that reads "If I want to stand while I eat I must buy bigger clothes. "

Best to all.

03-15-2013, 06:20 PM
I think I am slowly climbing out of the hole I was in. Life has settled down a bit and a night out (alone) with friends last night helped a lot! Still many stressors and reasons to emotionally eat, but I feel somewhat back in control of my choices and decisions. Thankful for that!

St. Patrick's Day is coming up on Sunday here in the U.S. and it is my brother, Pat's, birthday. My family is Irish and we celebrate pretty much all day long. I will get in exercise walking/"marching" in the parade, but I need to plan for "liquid calories," if ya know what I mean! ;) Will eat a good breakfast at home before the parade, so that will start the day off on a good note. Otherwise, I will concentrate on small portions of decent food. Not sure yet where meals will be. St. Patrick's Day is one of my favorite days of the year! :luck2you:

Beverlyjoy: I am planning to read the whole pink Beck book again, so I am right there with you. CREDIT to you for realizing that running away is NOT the answer and for trying again! I don't know if I like the weighing every day or not either. I usually weigh every now and then during the week and use Thursday morning's weight as my "official" weight for the week. Yes, I can relate to the feeling that concentrating on eating healthy is a full-time job ~ and it feels like there is no time or effort left to devote to anything else. It can really get me down and frustrated if I let it, but ~ especially at these times ~ I really try to focus on ONE day or even ONE meal at a time. It is just something I have to ~ and, more importantly, I CHOOSE to ~ do if I want to keep my weight in check. I do sometimes resent that food and weight loss consume so much of my effort, but that is where all of the Beck principles come into play for me.

BillBlueEyes: CREDIT for being back on track after snacking your way through your 1040 form. I like your idea of "only planning six inches of rope at a time" to help avoid that "end of my rope" feeling! :) I want a butler for packing for trips, too!!! :lol:

xtals: A belated welcome to you! :welcome2: Glad to hear that you have been inspired by the Beck book and principles, too!

LuLu01801: :welcome3: Yes, of course YOU CAN DO IT if we can do it!!! I'm just not so sure I am "doing it" yet! :?: I will get there, though. Definitely making progress, at least in my thinking, which helps! CREDIT to you for doing the workbook and for sharing the "things you've learned about yourself" and reading your ARCs twice a day! It sounds to me like you already "dove in" and ARE doing it!!! ;) You are on your way! Sitting down to eat is still a challenge for me. I have to remind myself to do it. I had become used to standing up all the time when I ate, even for meals. Sometimes, even if I have begun eating a meal or snack standing up, and even if I am almost finished, I remember....... and go SIT DOWN for the rest of the snack/meal. Every little baby step helps to form the habit!

gardenerjoy: CREDIT to you for planning for the entire time you will be out of town! That is great! CREDIT, too, for realizing that you need the accountability of 3FCs every morning. I agree that checking in will give you more confidence in your plan and your desire to follow through with it. Thankfully, though my hubby can emotionally exhaust me at times, he is VERY helpful in so very many ways in our family life. He is an expert at getting things done and problem-solving. Both are a challenge for me.

Julia150: YAY for 191.8 lbs!!! You will hit that 20 lb mark in no time! Very proud of you! You are such an inspiration to me! I just wish I was right there with you!!! One of these days.......... ;)

Lizagna: Congratulations on being down 1.6 lbs at your weigh-in!!! That is happy information from the scale and proof that hard work pays off! I love your term "wogging" for walking with the occasional jog! :lol: I sooooo want to be a "wogger!" CREDIT to you for planning and following through this time while eating out! Progress, not perfection, is what it's all about! CREDIT also for finding two groups where you feel like you belong. It feels good, doesn't it? :hug:

nationalparker: Can you feel me r-e-a-c-h-i-n-g for your hand as I hang off the very back of the weight loss wagon?!? Two indulgent meals do NOT make you a failure!!! Remember that this is just a sabotaging thought trying to further derail your efforts. Let go of the two "unwise" meals before you leap back onto the wagon!!! :)

Lexxiss: Thank you for the reminder that PLANNING makes things so much more "stress free!" I need to plan and I need less stress, so it will be a win-win! ;)

Nola145: My entire house looks like an episode of "Hoarders!" BUT, I am currently working with a professional organizer to turn that around ~ one session, one room at a time! We have already made some progress, which gives me HOPE! CREDIT to you for weighing so that you know that your weight is creeping up lately! Now you can tweak something in your plan and hopefully get "better information" from your scale in the coming week! OUCH on the twisted ankle! Hope it is better soon!

bethFromDayton: Much CREDIT to you on skipping the Skinny Cow ice cream treats and for all the right reasons! Is this your BIG weekend? Good luck to you with everything!!! :)

Tazzy: OUCH on the Easter chocolate eggs ~ cheap or not! CREDIT for moving on and away from them!

onebyone: CREDIT for checking in when you are so busy and for packing!

Bootedkitty: Sorry that you are upset and under a lot of stress at work! I hope things settle down for you soon. CREDIT for posting and for acknowledging your mistake! Now it is time to forgive yourself for the Nutella slip, let it go, and move on. :)

Newlifestyle: Welcome back!!! CREDIT for posting!

To everyone else and those who are just reading along: :wave:

03-15-2013, 06:40 PM
Hello Coaches: It's Day 26, the day to start really noticing sabotaging thoughts. I have spotted a few, but for the most part just reading my ARC takes care of any real danger of eating off plan. It will be interesting to see the other techniques Beck suggests. Food rigorously on plan again and weight up almost another pound. This is nuts. Obviously the intermittent fasting is not a fit for my body/metabolism. I made the decision today to go back to just a straight calorie count. Still no flour/sugar/potatoes/rice. One would think eliminating those things would almost guarantee weight loss, but alas, no. Cravings are eliminated though, which makes everything way easier. For me, trying to incorporate baked goods of any kind (except flax bread) would be recipe for disaster. Credit for knowing what my gateway foods are and not ever eating them. (Ah yes, there was that one slice of pizza...) That being said, next Monday is my mother's 82nd birthday celebration. I am planning in advance a small piece of cake. Birthday cake is part of my plan. I find it's a little scary to contemplate eating it. I now have a healthy respect for anything made of flour and sugar -- sort of how I feel about rattlesnakes. Luckily, the party is at her house and the snake -- er, cake will stay there and I will go home. Two hours away. Safe.
BethfromDayton - So awesome you passed on sampling the Skinny Cow. Good job!
Onebyone - Have a great trip. Looloo will do better with the sub-cue fluids. My sister did that for her cat for three years. And I learned to give my Shadow boy insulin shots twice a day. It does become easier and our animals somehow understand that we are helping them. If I am late with Shadow's shot, he comes and finds me.
Kitty - It seems like you've made a good decision to go back to writing things down. Credit for recognizing you are uncomfortable without the written plan.
Linda in Isreal - Belated welcome. Relative newbie myself. This is a good place. Good support and inspiration.
GardenerJoy - I just read your Fifty and Feeling Fabulous post. It was very inspirational. I am 60. I would like to think I can finally get back to where my body doesn't hurt all the time and I can move with ease again. I'll reread you when I need a boost to carry on.
Lulu01801 - Hi there. Like BethfromDayton, I do take tiny end-of-tongue tastes of things like sauces. Mostly, though, I am eating salads and single-serving foods, so it doesn't come up that often anymore.
BethfromDayton - You are awesome and amazing with all the small but critical habits you have managed to break.
Thanks for being here, Coaches. Have a great Friday evening.

03-16-2013, 12:27 AM
Hi all.

Food was OP (except my predictable fruit substitution) and exercise was OP.

For two days in a row, I've had 3 bottles of water. This is good for me--I'm cutting down on my diet coke. I wasn't ready to do it before, but now it seems like it might be time to limit myself to 1 or 2 a day.

I'm glad things are feeling easy right now because this weekend and next week are all devoted to getting ready for our event. I don't have any cooking to do until Wed/Thu, but I'll be shopping, organizing, and writing up plans.

Hope this is the start of a great weekend for everyone!

03-16-2013, 11:15 AM
Good morning everyone,
Thanks for all the wonderful posts you write. Food was on plan yesterday and Maryann thanks for the light bulb moment. I don't know why I didn't realize I could stay on plan by being in control and just saying no and sticking to it.
It was such an empowering feeling. I will keep practicing to try and master this.

Thanks to everyone for being so understanding that I may not have personals for everyone. I guess it is from not wanting to leave anyone out, regardless of emotional cost to me. I will practice this technique also. Wow I am hard on myself.
We are going to a Chinese buffet and I am hoping to stay on plan.
I will post later.
Have a great day everyone.
Take Care

03-16-2013, 12:04 PM
Newlifestyle: Thanks for reminding me of my own quote. It has been powerful to me as I try to maintain during the last push of MFA work. "The one thing I have control over, what goes into my mouth, is the one thing for which I won't accept responsibility." Perfection with personals doesn't exist. Blogging for two and a half years has been a journey. Sometimes I address all. Sometimes none. Sometimes I float into resentment when no one responds to my brilliant post. Sometimes I get a jewel of recovery from someone I don't identify with at all. it all comes down to the fact that I am still here. I still post. I have more peace with food today than I did two years ago.
IBelieveinMeTO The luck of the Irish be with you tomorrow.It is funny about celebrations. I don't drink or overeat. There are times when I feel, "Why do I go anywhere, do anything? I am not allowed any fun!" I compare it to quitting smoking. Nothing seemed valuable or fun ever again so why would I try? I realized mid way that the thought was from a person grieving. I was grieving my old friend "cigarette. " Now I grieve my old companion overeating. I let myself be sad, then I try to discover something new and exciting that I missed while I was overeating.
bethfromDayton: Diet Coke is a toughie. I usually allow myself three a week. Not perfect but better.
Nola145: My Dad turned 82 yesterday. Sugar is my downfall. When it is removed from my diet I do so much better. Like a snake, however, it always slithers back.

As for me, I am typing all day. Weight at ticker.

03-16-2013, 12:28 PM
I made a more decadent choice then usual where we had lunch, but only ate half. I brought the other half back to the cottage but I'm not sure I'll eat it. I didn't actually feel that good after. Is it sick that I feel sad about that? That I'm sad that foods I used to enjoy make me feel icky now? I suppose I'll turn it around and make it a good thing -- maintenance would be harder if high-fat, high-sodium foods made me feel good, after all. And I can be glad that I eat so few of them now that my body isn't used to them.

Exercise: +50 635/1400 March

Newlifestyle: yay for lighbulb moments! No worries about posting none, a few, or all personals. You can see that we have a variety of people doing different things and some people, like me, who do something different every day -- sometimes none, sometimes a few, sometimes all. I'm doing all since I last posted today mostly because BillBlueEyes is out of town. Usually one of us steps up to the plate when that happens, but not always. It's all good.

bethfromDayton: good job getting more water and less Diet Coke. Tea helped me, too, since it's a healthy source of caffeine. I finally got off it completely but it took several tries. I still miss it, sometimes, but it tastes horrible to me now and I don't want it to sneak back in so I don't allow myself to drink enough to re-acquire the taste for it.

Nola145: LOL at "the snake -- er, cake." You're doing great thinking that through ahead of time. I rewrote my Advantages cards at the beginning of the year to mark my transition into maintenance. One of them is "I feel pain so seldom now." I was a little worried that would jinx it, but it's still true!

IBelieveInMe2: fun to see how much you're enjoying St. Patrick's Day!

maryann: woohoo on being so closed to done with your thesis and good job figuring out what it's going to take to get it done.
I like what you wrote to Newlifestyle about personals -- I've also had both experiences of expecting and hoping for more response than I got and of getting insight from the most unexpected source. A microcosm of life, I suppose.
I related to your grieving comment as well -- that's exactly what I was experiencing yesterday when it made me sad to feel physically bad after an unusually fatty, salty meal. Thanks for helping me name it!

Lulu01801: sometimes I find it useful to rewrite Beck's responses in my own words, often with more positive phrasing. Here's what worked to help me quit eating while standing: "I sit down when I eat because I enjoy my food more that way." I also use the response "Wash it off!" like a mantra when I'm in the kitchen. That reminds me that I no longer lick spoons, knives, or my fingers, now I wash things off in the sink.

03-16-2013, 10:25 PM
Good morning, chicks!

First and foremost. . .

@BillBlueEyes : Thank you. Your steadfast commitment to making this forum a home away from home is most appreciated. No matter how many times I fall off the wagon, when ready to get back on the wagon, I know exactly where said wagon is thanks to your efforts! Hope your vacation is fabulous! It's well deserved! Smooch!

Second. . .

@bethFromDayton : (Laughing!) +1 on buffets. Can't say that I'll swear them off. But once the "buffet management" skill set is acquired and truly ingrained, I will at long last have arrived.

@xtals : When determining best ARC placement, I think the first question to ask is. . .where do you spend most of your time? Strategic positioning could differ significantly if you spend most of your time in the car running errands versus in the office in front of a computer.

@gardenerjoy : Thanks for the Huffington piece!

@nationalparker : (Smiling) I gotchya! But there was no need for the rescue operation. You handled it brilliantly on your own. Credit to you for coming into the Beck Lounge and holding yourself accountable! How has it been going since then?

@Beverlyjoy : We're on the same page. Maybe even the same sentence. I spent nearly two hours every day this week, digging in, journaling and holding myself accountable. I worry, often, that it isn't sustainable. Or begrudge the spent time that could have been invested elsewhere.

But then I think about all the time that I've spent struggling over a food decision and then feeling guilty when I didn't make the healthful choice. Or the times that I've binged and was consequently too stuffed to be productive thereafter.

I'm taking it day by day. And hope that by the end of my 30 days, I'll have developed some habits that require only maintenance and not rebuilding. We will see.

How are you feeling now?

Third. . .

On my end, the international Beck buddying is going quite well. I had some amazing breakthroughs and for the first time in over a year, I consistently ate healthfully for an entire week!

Until next week. . .Beckward bound!

03-17-2013, 12:41 AM

A quick check-in from a non-tropical island. It was cold today and we went out for a walk to see what the island is like and were gone for 2+hours. I am *aching* from the effort but am glad we went. We have a much better notion of what is here, what is repeatedly seen/noticed and what is so interesting we need t get back and take another look.
Foodwise... it's going fine. I have been vegetarian for 2 days now. I miss meat. Can I say that? Is that ok? I want to say I *really* miss meat but I won't. Yet. My turn to make the dinner tomorrow night: roasted eggplant and mushoom lasagna. I expect it will be *heavy* on the cheese.

Must go. Very tired. Enjoy your night and the weekend.

03-17-2013, 08:38 AM
Hi Coaches!
Food was good yesterday and I've weighed this morning. Work was very busy and I found myself truly hungry. I had one slice of toasted rye w/peanut butter. That was just enough.
It's too early for a plan because I don't know what THIS Sunday will bring. I know I won't have internet, however….lol

Onebyone, thanks for checking in from your non-tropical island. Your dinner for tonight makes me wish I could visit.

Nelia, glad to hear that your international connection is working so well. It's just great that you've had some major breakthroughs and consistently ate healthfully for an entire

Gardenerjoy, yep, I hear 'ya, as those former foods are really not that enjoyable anymore. Good that you actually think you may not eat the leftovers…

Maryann, Yay for maintenance as you have been on your last push of your MFA work. Yay, too, for having more peace with food than you did two years ago.

Ann(Newlifestyle), welcome back! I believe you can learn to be less hard on yourself. I'm always glad to hear from you.

Beth(from Dayton), great that you are cutting down on the diet coke. I got so mad one day last summer when DH was injured and I was doing double work. I went to buy DC and it was $6.00 for one but $2.50/ea if you bought 5. It was after work and I didn't have the energy to haul 5...I looked and said, "I quit". Lol We now buy hansonsdiet but buy far less!

Nola, great job ditching the diet plan that did not seem a fit for your body type. Yay for the backup plan.

IBelieveInMe2, glad you are feeling better and look forward to your Irish report.

LuLu, you asked about not eating while standing and I'll share my experience. My greatest long term success has been at Costco/WhFoods. I never realized just how much standing food samples there were until I quit. In reality, what is the point for me anyway. Either I already know what it tastes like or it's really not on my plan. In the kitchen I try to be pretty vigilant because it keeps me aware. Dr. Beck does mention that for her veggie pieces in the kitchen are ok. I will have veggie pieces but if I'm cutting strawberries and want one I'll plate it and sit down. There are often times when I need to taste a soup, etc, and that's ok for me, too. I believe that as we keep practicing this skill it makes us truly aware of just how many times we do put additional food in our mouthes.

03-17-2013, 10:22 AM
Happy St. Patty's Day ... It's gloomy, drizzly and cold here. To those who are out at parades today, I hope you have better weather and a fun time!

I didn't hit the market yesterday and so felt I had "nothing" in the house (but i really DO) ... but need fruits and veggies galore. Will make my meal plan out today - last week I winged it and really have struggled at the end. Yesterday I made turkey chili with loads of beans and entered the recipe in MyFitnessPal and I don't know where I thought the calories were going from the nutritional info on the side of the cans between there and the table. Hm. It came out higher than I wanted, but it is a filling meal with good fiber. But need to stretch my portions with a veggie and not just diced onions on top. I've been over on calories for several days in a row and today that ENDS.

Thank you, I'm back on this Beck Wagon, and have my pink book here and am going to re-read the chapters that resonate most with me and redo response cards (which I said I was going to do this week and never did).

Yesterday I was alone and took the time to go clothes shopping. Found several dresses that were so simple and clean looking - "jackie kennedy dresses" I call them. Unfortunately they didn't fit well, my rear is still too big, so nixed tryign them on in a different size as then the bust would be too big, and will retry in early summer. Found a number of things that did work, and came home and tried to mix/match with pieces I have for spring. While it was 30 degrees outside. I rarely go clothes shopping but rather pick up a piece here and there, so it was fun. I feel like lately I've been a schlub with my husband in casual times and also at work - dressing to be invisible, and I deserve to dress better and feel better. I have clothes from The Loft that I LOVE but are too small and I've said if I don't fit into them this summer - pfft - they're OUT.

Thanks for letting me "journal" a bit here today. I think I feel like this is it - I can not go any further and am kind of giving up a bit. Instead of this is the first third of what I want/and can lose. Last weekend, DH was worried that if I lost weight, that I'd lose my curves. I said good grief no - I will always be hourglass, but I just want to be healthy, less weight on my knees for hiking, less strain on my heart going uphill, less risk of diabetes (my mom has it and it's STRONG in her lineage).

Off to investigate what the green Beck book is and either reserve at library to see or order from Amazon.

03-17-2013, 01:37 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

nationalparker: I 100% agree that it is important to dress becomingly at any weight. I remember I started Beck at a time when I had gone up ANOTHER size. I still bought two pairs of pants at the larger size, wore them for a month and a half and then donated them because they were too big. It was totally worth it because for that month and a half, I felt good about myself. It helped me be enthusiastic about Beck. I am very happy with my current wardrobe. I spent a couple of years pouring a lot of money into it. I think because the first thirty years of my life I looked like a refugee. Now that I know how to dress myself, I am tapering back (see: not being compulsive). In fact on March 20, I will have reached the one quarter mark of my goal to buy no new clothes for a year. It has really been fantastic. I have really pruned everything that doesn't make me feel terrific, is too shabby, isn't the right fit. I have put some time into making outfits that I keep together in the closet so all I have to do is reach in and dress. No thinking required. This all seems insignificant, but it is one of the pleasures that is replacing my food pleasures.

gardenerjoy: I must have missed the post. Where are you?
Lexxiss: Everytime I read your post I want to plan a ski trip to Colorado—and steal you internet LOL

As for me, credit for writing ten hours yesterday and finishing 10 pages. I need to do the same today and I feel I will be back on schedule. Food was good yesterday. I wandered into a Reese's but logged it into MFP. Yoga this morning felt good.

03-17-2013, 03:08 PM
Hello coaches,

I smiled when I read people's comments about personals, I thought I was the only one disappointed when no one responded to my posts. I go to my default thought "No one likes me here" Sometimes I don't have the time to respond to everyone as much as I'd like too.
I'm back from my conference. As usual, it was a mixed bag of good and less than inspiring. The good part is I'm 10 hours closer to a pay raise. Odd how the education values education (joking of course). I need 41 more hours by September. I know where I'll get about 30 more but I'm going to have to dig for the rest. It's not exactly a hotbed of opportunties here. (I don't know why I wrote all that down, who cares but me)
Eating was also a mixed bag. The first night traveling there was fast food. Breakfast day one was heavy but I pretty much only ate 1/2 of what I ordered. I certainly could have chosen a healthier option but chose not too. It's a weird mindset, I've been trying to lose weight for so long that a meal away from home HAS to be a reward. The other meals were provided by the conference and were only so-so. I didn't even want to eat most of it. The good news is that I didn't buy candy, chips or other stuff to nibble on.
I'm glad to be home, I missed DH and DD.
I have another party at my house on Wednesday. Then I will be done hosting for this year. I am not much of a hostess, it stresses me out, I don't like to plan snacks and desserts. Oh well, it's not a big deal, I'm sure they won't kick me out if the food isn't imaginative.
I haven't seen my counselor for 3 weeks. She had to cancel last week when I really needed her. When I start feeling overwhelmed, I have been telling myself that 1)I've aways gotten better in the past, I will this time too, 2)I WILL be ok, 3)I CAN change my life.
Thanks for listening folks, sorry to be such a downer.

03-17-2013, 03:37 PM
May I join you guys on here? I have read the beck diet solution a couple of times and it is very similar to what I learned in my binge eating therapy. I am considering rereading it when I found that thread.

03-17-2013, 06:10 PM
Welcome, Xena2013! Join on in and I look forward to hearing what challenges you and any tips for the rest of us! :)

Julia - NO NO no no, nothing personal when personals aren't included... I think many are just really time-cramped for some reason now. I know my work has REALLY picked up to where I'm working every day and don't have the time to catch up as much as I'd like - even when I PLAN to post at lunch, I struggle. I spend my time re-reading posts, then just post a quick update on me instead of thoughtful notes to all.

When DH is home, I tend to not post at all when at home. And I feel awkward with several short posts :)

03-17-2013, 10:32 PM
Hi all!

I didn't plan either Saturday or today in advance. :-(. However, I kept totally within my parameters and ate well. No exercise today, but DH and I walked yesterday. I wish weekends weren't so hard for me to plan out. I've got next week's meals all planned, though, and the grocery list made for shopping tomorrow.

I spent most of the weekend working on our big event that starts Friday. Unlike previous years, I even know what we're eating Wednesday night (when BFF and another close friend arrive) and Thursday night after we move everything to the hotel but come back here to sleep, and Sunday night after we bring all the stuff back here to be stored again. I'm pretty impressed with that--I've never done it before and it ends up being rushed and we're all tired--this time, it's planned.

I'm playing 'head in the sand' over eating during the weekend--it's going to be hard, and I don't think I'm going to try and eat at a weight loss level, but rather at a maintenance level. That will be hard enough. I don't feel good about that idea, though. It's easier to stay on plan than get back on plan (repeat as needed) (which is lots)

I recognized that I was starting to eat a bit more quickly again--preparing my next bite of food before I was finished with the one I was eating. I paid careful attention to slowing down at dinner. I couldn't decide if I was satisfied/full when I was almost done with dinner and I finished what was on my plate--not sure if I should have stopped 6-8 bites earlier.

I had 3 bottles of water yesterday and 2 today--I am definitely cutting down on the diet coke. I just think the water will be better for me.

nationalparker: I know what you mean about posting--I'm trying to put in a "no choice" category--checking in is essential to my success. I know what you mean about increasing veggies and decreasing portion sizes of the more caloric items. I hope you enjoy your new clothes!

Xena2013: Welcome. I look forward to getting to know you!

Julia150: One of the reasons I try to do personals is because BillBE's personals always perk me up. I don't manage daily, though. (Yes, we like you!) I hope things look up a bit for you soon--you've got so much difficult stuff going on.

maryann: It's amazing how great it feels to have wonderful clothes in the closet so you can always dress to go anyway. I've bought a lot of new clothes over the last 2.5 years--I hope to have to get rid of them all!

Lexiss: It's good to hear how someone else handles the tasting/eating. I'm so afraid of the slippery slope that I won't even have a celery stick while prepping a meal. Like you, I was surprised to realize how many samples there can be at grocery stores and warehouse stores.

onebyone: I wouldn't make a very good vegetarian--yes, it's okay to say you miss meat. Great for walking exercise!

Nelia: It just does take time, that's all. I'm glad your buddying is going well--a week of healthful eating is a fantastic start!

gardenerjoy: I hope to reach the point where decadent choices don't tempt me or at least, I don't enjoy them so much.

newlifestyle: How did your Chinese buffet go? (I am boycotting them until I feel more in control.) No one has time for everything all the time. I try to do personals pretty often, but can't do them daily, and I'm sure I sometimes miss people :-(, even though I try not to.

Nola145: Happy birthday to your mom. It's good to recognize what does and doesn't work for you--intermittent fasting has got to be one of those 'not for everyone' sort of things. I'm doing calorie counting with MFP--so far, I'm finding it pretty staightforward.

IBelieveInMe2: Hope you enjoyed your liquid calories without any negative after effects.

Take care, all.

03-18-2013, 12:34 AM
Hello there again Becksters,
I have now officially made my ARCs and am ready to read them in the morning, before lunch, before dinner and any other time I feel the need or have the time while at work tomorrow. I am researching diets now (day 2)...I have both the book and the workbook and am planning to read both along the way. I feel really ready to get my weight under control and get healthy. I am enjoying reading everyone's posts, thanks for already inspiring me!

03-18-2013, 01:02 AM
Coaches :luck2you:

Had a good food day. Stayed clost to my plan. My food wasn't swayed too much at all. *credit* Also a very good productive work day. We completed a large scale (4' x 16') drawing this afternoon, tacked up another sheet of paper (4' x 18') and then started and petered out. We are all wiped. I hung around for a bit then decided to use that bike. I rode 2km one way and 2km back. 30min in total. I covered as much ground+ a bit more than what we walked yesterday in three hours. My hands were frozen though. Still very chilly out but at least there was sun.

I had some anxiety early this morning as when I went to bed that drawing was going nowhere fast. I remembered that oh yeah, this is the process. We always make challenging work, demanding a lot of the other. We want to work at a very high level and so we get snagged. I despair at times, wondering if I am up to the task but it's such good practice for other areas of my life, like when I wonder if I will stick to my foodplan, or stick it out to lose weight, to get through the challenges and the negative emotions. We don't operate in isolation - one area of our life is not separate from the other areas--we are internally connected and so work in one field of endeavour is work on all fronts. Or so I believe anyway. Some challenges are more familiar maybe. Or we deal with them easier cause we have to more often. Anyway I am rambling as I am exhausted and need to get to bed. Monday tomorrow. We leave Friday morning. there is an ENORMOUS island celebration for the vernal equinox aka the arrival of Spring this Thursday night. *Exactly* what I wanted! Yay.

Have a great night.

03-18-2013, 07:43 AM
:welcome: Xena2013 :welcome:

And, on the occasion of your first post, :wel3fc:

How did you originally find the Beck Diet Solution?

03-18-2013, 07:51 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Spent a lovely weekend away from all web responsibilities. It's fun to remember that life once was spent with only real-life contacts. Imagine a time where "Real-Life-Friends" meant people - as differs from, say, the characters in a Dickens novel who were as real as friends. Food was high-camaraderie shared stuff. It served its role to bind friends together. My digestive track doesn't care what reasons stuff gets dumped down the gullet, but my head does. I enjoyed a weekend with friends and will have to think about how to share the common bag of dark-chocolate covered almonds without having my full share. (But I did turn down a fresh-from-the-oven biscuit with gravy - a childhood favorite. CREDIT moi for a small moment of sanity.)

Last night we saw the Pan-STARRS comet after sunset. It'll be around for a spell; it's worth making an effort to see it. One place to learn how to see it is the EarthSky site ( Just boggling to think of it passing by, headed out into cold dark space for another zillion years (or forever). The scale of the Universe leave me breathless.

onebyone – 4' x 16' is one BIG drawing. Sounds like you've having the event you wanted.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Ouch for feeling sick from old favorite foods. I don't take much consolation in that for myself. There is consolation in that you're self aware enough that you can understand the experience and plan for the future.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Truly hungry is unusual - Kudos for taking a mindful response.

maryann - Congrats on another ten pages completed. Happy 82nd Birthday to your Dad. Thanks for the image of sugar slithering back like a snake.

Ann (Newlifestyle) - As the others have written, I suggest that you don't need to feel bad about personals written or not. There's too many folks posting to write to everyone. When you're ready, pick one single post to respond to with something you just want to say - like you'd say to a friend standing there talking to you.

Nelia – Monster Kudos for, " I consistently ate healthfully for an entire week!" Glad your one-on-one buddy-ing is working. [Your words are kind - I thank you for them.]

nationalparker – Turkey chili is one of my favorites. Turkey gives it a 'halo effect' so that I minimize the calories in the beans, LOL.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Neat that you're expanding your meal planning even around this majorly planned event. Kudos for that extra water instead of diet coke.

IBelieveInMe2 – Happy Saint Patrick's Day to 'ya. Neat that you march a bunch to help with the celebratory foods and drinks. Hope the 'stressors' settle down.

Julia (Julia150) – Yep, I know that feeling that an important statement was missed - that's just the way it is with on-line friends when we aren't exchanging those crucial facial expressions that say, "this matters." Kudos for avoiding buying candy and stuff.

Nola (Nola145) – Happy 82nd Birthday to your Mom. Thanks for the image of flour and sugar being like rattle-snakes. (Apparently, a theme today, LOL.)

Liz (lizagna) – The only thing better than salad with grilled salmon is planned salad with grilled salmon. Kudos for that.

Rosebud170 – Kudos for charging forth on the program. Choosing a diet and backup is fun. Look forward to hearing what you pick.

Lulu (LuLu01801) – The eating standing up becomes much easier to break once recognized. When I read the chapter, I assumed that I never did that. Then I noticed. Woowzie - a bunch. Like always. It wasn't hard to catch myself. Stopping it happened slowly - but it happened.

Xena2013 – Yep, you certainly may join us here. We welcome you to be one of us serving as Diet Coach/Buddy to each other. Rereading the book gets the mind re-focused on the strategies again. Glad you've joined us.

Readers - chapter 4
How to Use the Beck Diet Solution

The Two-Week Wait

...I encourage you to follow the program as written, by giving yourself a full two weeks to prepare. But I've worked with enough dieters to know that you might not want to wait that long. I also realize that you may have picked up this book because you're already on a diet and want to learn how to stick with it. Whether you decide to wait until Day 15, want to start dieting tomorrow, or are already dieting or maintaining your weight, you still need to prepare your mindset. Start on Day 1 and do each step in sequence.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 46.

03-18-2013, 08:12 AM
Hi coaches... computer problems. I used my computer for only a few minutes in the last couple days. It just kept turning off.. Myr neighbor helped to fix it last night. (nice to have an IP person next door.) Checking in for now. I am struggling but, haven't run away. I'll be back later to catch up. I appreciate all the thoughts you've shared with me on my struggles.


03-18-2013, 08:34 AM
Thanks so much everyone!!!

BillBlueEyes - I am not sure anymore, I have read tons of weight loss books, eating disorder help books and so on. I think though that I stumbled across in a forum or a blog. I have the audio book and also the book. I still remember one thing that helps me stay focused "Hunger is not an emergency". :)

03-18-2013, 09:26 AM
Hello Coaches,
I hope you all had a great weekend.
Since Maryann helped with that light bulb moment I have been on plan everyday. Wow, thank you. If I go off plan please remind me it is my choice to be on plan.
The chinese buffet was a huge success...would have never thought I would ever say that. I ate salad, a cup of rice, the broth from wonton soup and steamed veggies and chicken.
Julia- I do care about what you wrote.

Hello to everyone else and thanks for accepting me for who I am.
Have a great day.

03-18-2013, 10:18 AM
This came through my Facebook newsfeed from The Beck Diet Solution:

Monday Motivation: We asked one maintainer to tell us the biggest advantage she has achieved as a result of losing weight and she said, “The greatest advantage is being able to more effectively deal with everything in my life. I have more energy, both mental and physical, and I just feel like I’m able to live BETTER on a daily basis!”

I'll be back!

03-18-2013, 10:43 AM
The last 36 hours of vacation didn't go that well food-wise. The problem was the food left by the proprietors. We stayed in a condo (they call it a cottage), but the place is run by a bed-and-breakfast, so they stock the fridge with breakfast foods and sweet treats for evening. Twice this weekend, DH said "boy, that's really salty." And I realized that I hadn't noticed. I'm sure the sweet stuff was too sweet, too, but I didn't notice that either.

That's when I realized that I wasn't tasting the food, I was tasting nostalgia. That's what B&Bs sell, after all. But I don't want to eat my nostalgia any more -- too many calories when it's just as effective to just think about it for zero calories.

Next time, I'm going to tell them we're on special diets and that I don't want any food in the fridge. My plan for the weekend was half-servings, which worked for the first 36 hours or so, but the servings got bigger and bigger. Right at the end, it was double servings. Sheesh.

There are way too many sabotaging thoughts, especially "I'm on vacation" and "If I don't eat this food, it will go to waste." I don't have good enough responses to those thoughts in this situation, so I'm going to change the environment. I'm writing it down on my packing list, "next time, tell them not to stock food," so that I'll see it next time we plan a trip.

Otherwise, it was a very relaxing trip. We had a really good experience with Rick's nephew and the computer that he's building with a little of Uncle Rick's help and a lot of his own research and experimentation. I also had a breakthrough in my writing due to the step back I took in preparation for the trip that helped me see the structure, the forest for the trees, and has made a difference in both what I'm writing and how I'm writing it.

Credit for weighing myself this morning (at the top end of my maintenance range, which is a good place on the morning back from vacation -- that's probably due to all the time in the hot tub melting off any water weight). Credit for a good plan to get back on track and lots of thoughts about how to deal with a timing problem at supper time. I don't have a full food plan because of that, but I have a plan to make a plan. Heh.

Exercise: +50 715/1400 March

Welcome, Xena2013! You're in the right place!

03-18-2013, 10:47 AM

WhooHoo, so close to the 20/25 mark. (twenty since Jan 10 and 25 since october.) And almost into the 180's.
Thanks to all for tugging me along!

Beth I agree with you, the personals perk me up too. I admire the way you are planning your event.
NationalParker I do know that my default thought "no one likes me" is a faulty thought. I challenge it all the time. Jeez I was really feeling sorry for myself yesterday.
Ann Could you repeat the lightbulb thought. I can't seem to find what you were referring to. I need a lightbulb!
Rosebud I'm glad to see you back. I was wondering where my fellow PNW person was.

I am not reaching my projected goals but I am accepting that life happens while I lose weight and I may not alway follow a straight path. I really want to get to my saved summer clothes but I will accept that I am getting smaller. DD hugged me yesterday and said "mom, you're getting so much smaller." She is so sweet.

Hugs everyone.

03-18-2013, 12:37 PM
Woo hoo!

I love seeing the decades drop and you're almost to a new decade! We're about the same height (although 5'2" is pushing it for me :-), so I watch you!:devil:

I hit 209.8 today (so a bit behind you)--but it's still exciting to see a new decade and I'm rooting for you to get there soon! :carrot:


03-18-2013, 02:13 PM
Congrats BethFromDayton and Julia for weighing in a new "decade"! I love that feeling (and it's taking TOO DARN LONG to get there the way I'm going...) :)

Recouped yesterday with soup for dinner instead of the turkey chili. Bill, you're right - I gave it a halo because of the onions, peppers, tomatoes, turkey and beans. By golly, what could have any of those puny CALORIES in it? :) DH had picked up a steak for himself at a country market where the beef is local as I don't buy beef or pork, and I made him a mushroom/onion topping, carrots and mashed potatoes after a 14-hour work day for him, and he braved the cold temps and grilled his steak, all the while asking why was I not eating more for dinner. Finally just said I'd been snacking off and on and too much during the day. That made me stop and think - seriously - I was unwilling to stop the snacking and therefore modified my dinner? I put some of the cooked carrots in my soup, though. They were delish. Funny how much better regular carrots taste to me than the baby carrots.

Crazy busy work day today for me. NO CHOICE but to stay on track if I want to be in the club of the next decaders... :)

03-18-2013, 03:15 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

Welcome Xena2013!

In a hurry this morning. My son's teacher reassigned my volunteer music teaching to next week so I thought, "That is a sign from God to revise another story." So now I am to get my morning posts/business done, get to my hair appt. and cook dinner before I bury myself in the office again today.

Nice surprise from the scale, down one pound from ticker (for whatever reason) food is planned for the day. Exercise was step class.

BBE: What do you think of the OmniParker hotel? Is it close to Fenway?
Wave to all.

03-18-2013, 03:33 PM
hi everybody!
again, thanks for all you words of wisdom, it's helpful.
I've been aware of my eating standing up habit and paying attention to it.
hoping that, with enough time, I will break the habit.
I'm moving slow in the book, not sure why.
my heart and soul wants to dive in head first and go full speed ahead with the program.
but why do I sit back and dabble in it instead?

03-18-2013, 06:04 PM
iHola, Coaches!

Wow, I missed y'all over the weekend. Saturday started at 6 am, & the weekend didn't slow down until I went to bed last night. As a result, I did no planning for Saturday; and my consumption showed it. Blah! Yesterday morning before we left for Milwaukee, I planned, made two new ARCs:

ST: This doesn't matter.
RC: Yes! It does. My larger goal is accomplished with thousands of tiny, individual decisions--and this is one of them.

ST: It's [the weekend] [my birthday] [a special event] [fill in the blank], and I deserve a little break.
RC: No. The break is with what will help me lose weight, and interfering with what will make me feel best. Make choices right now for which Future Liz will say "thank you" every day.

and took along OP snacks. When we finally got home after the day in MKE & having brunch with my nonegenarian, sweet-but-totally-self-absorbed in-laws, I refrained from breaking the neck off a gin bottle and chugging it. CREDIT! Anyway, bad Saturday, but great on exercise and otherwise OP. Credit.

Oh, also, DH commented that I'm eating and drinking much more slowly--finishing way after him, which never used to happen. I have always been a fast eater, but for some reason this one has been fairly easy for me.

I am starting the process of saying good-bye to my hair. A friend in Germany just started chemo & has been freaking out about the prospect of losing her hair--so I'm going to have my head shaved in solidarity 3/29. DH, who is bald, is having more separation anxiety about it than I am. He loves long hair. But he's reluctantly supportive.

GardenerJoy - Big credit for not over-eating on Fri. And your excellent ongoing exercise stats!

Ann (newlifestyle) - Glad you had a great vaca, & major credit for making healthy choices and getting groc right after. Your comment about previously posting personals "regardless of emotional cost to me" says so much. Good for you for taking care of your own needs first!

Maryann - Wow, thesis! And family! And exercise! OH MY! Great job! Also loved what you said about "pruning" the clothes. Congrats on the 10 hrs of writing and doing yoga.

Ibelieveinme2 - Hope you enjoyed marching (credit!) and drinking on St. Paddy's. Glad you are coming out of the hole.

Nola145 - Great awareness in recognizing the sabotaging thoughts and reading the ARCs. Love the snake analogy. (Although, oddly, I really like snakes. Grew up in Texas where the rattlers we had there were more benign than a few of the people.)

BethfromDayton - Waytago on the + water & - DC. Sounds like your event planning is going really well.

Neila - Hi! Congratulations on the breakthroughs with the int'l buddying and a week of healthful eating. Woot!

OnebyOne - Sounds like you're doing great with the food & exercise. Of course you can say you miss meat! I am philosophically a vegetarian, and thus a total hypocrite. Bacon makes everything better.

Lexiss/Debbie R Credit on the food and treating hunger appropriately. That is a major feat. When you mentioned overcoming standing & eating @Costco... I just look at the people standing around like cows at a trough, & don't really want to be part of it. Then when I see kids with runny noses putting their hands all over everything.... that works as a deterrent for me. ;)

NationalParker - I don't think you were ever really off the Beck wagon--you just leaned off to the side a bit. :lol: Good for you on the clothes shopping and for taking such good care of yourself. WTG!

Julia150 - Of course we :love: you here! You asked, "Why'd I write all that down?" Because it's part of the fabric of who you are. And we are interested.

Xena2013 - :welcome3: I just got here a week ago. It's a wonderful place!

Rosebud170 - Credit on reading the ARCs! Happy to see you back.

BillBE - As others have noted, U so totally rock! Thank you, thank you, thank you for leading the way with this forum. So appreciated! As for resisting that biscuit--talk about WILL OF STEEL. I'm from the South, and only aspire to that level of strenth. :bravo:

Lulu - Here's the arc for learning a new skill (which we're all doing here--many skills in fact): unconscious incompetence (totally unaware of eating standing up), conscious incompetence (oops, I did it again); conscious competence (I will FORCE myself to sit down to eat); and unconscious competence (sit down to eat every time without even thinking about it). Any learning curve takes this route and takes time and usually includes the occasional slip-back to lesser evolvement. Keep plugging away at it. You're doing great!

Here's to a wonderful week!


03-18-2013, 08:40 PM
Hello Everyone! I just wrote a long post, but I think I lost it (in more ways than one :lol:). I am in survival mode right now. St. Patrick's Day was fun and festive, as always, but back to stress within our little family today. It is getting worse. Ate some comfort food today, but it didn't help.... surprise! :( Weight loss feels too hard right now, but I will not give up the battle. I need to be strong and healthy for ALL of my battles ahead of me. That can only HELP matters! Thank you for being here for me! Hugs :hug: to those who are also struggling and congrats to those doing well. CREDIT for checking in. It's about all I have time and energy for at the moment. Will attempt personals another day.

03-18-2013, 08:47 PM
Hi coaches - glad to have my computer working!

I've made it through the day well, so far. Grateful. Today I REALLY wanted some chocolate all day long. However, I used my resistance techniques to say NO CHOICE and got through it. Grateful for that too.

Welcome -- Xena2013! Glad you posted.

Lizagna - [COLOR= you said: DH commented that I'm eating and drinking much more slowly--finishing way after him, which never used to happen. It's wonderful that he's noticed that. Credit for both of you!

[B]Ibelieveinu2 - glad to hear that you are rereading The Beck Diet Solution again. You said: Yes, I can relate to the feeling that concentrating on eating healthy is a full-time job ~ and it feels like there is no time or effort left to devote to anything else. It can really get me down and frustrated if I let it, but ~ especially at these times ~ I really try to focus on ONE day or even ONE meal at a time It is just something I have to ~ and, more importantly, I CHOOSE to ~ do if I want to keep my weight in check. I do sometimes resent that food and weight loss consume so much of my effort, but that is where all of the Beck principles come into play for me. Thanks for the reminder.... we need to do what we need to do.

Neilia - We're on the same page. Maybe even the same sentence. I spent nearly two hours every day this week, digging in, journaling and holding myself accountable. I worry, often, that it isn't sustainable. Or begrudge the spent time that could have been invested elsewhere.

But then I think about all the time that I've spent struggling over a food decision and then feeling guilty when I didn't make the healthful choice. Or the times that I've binged and was consequently too stuffed to be productive thereafter. Thanks for your thoughts... yes, if I wasn't spending the time on overeating, I would likely be bingeing and having to 'deal' with all that comes along with it.

gardenerjoy - you said: Six hours is almost a full-time job! I can totally relate to spending that much time and energy on eating healthfully too. Yes - it can spend that much time overeating, for sure. Thanks for your thoughts.

Hope you've had a good day.

03-18-2013, 09:53 PM
Hi Coaches!

I didn't make it "in" this morning and won't be here tomorrow, either. I have to be packed for after work travel and am picking my coworker up at 530am. Food was OP both yesterday and today. I feel a cold coming on...I'm in bed w/laptop right now.

Welcome Xena!

03-18-2013, 11:34 PM
Hi all,

Just a short note from me since the evening has slipped away from me. Food OP today. I had an urge for one of those ice cream treat bars--and talked myself right out of it--"that's not one of your options", I told myself. (My wording of "NO CHOICE".) Ice cream treat is still in the freezer.

I had that same conversation with myself about climbing stairs today--"not an option--you don't have to feel like it." And so, I climbed the silly stairs. 3 different times today.

So, an OP day, even if I was fighting myself a bit. I'm starting to really feel the stress of this weekend's coming event--and that's not really like me. I just planned out tomorrow's food and I'm going to try and get some rest. Oh--and I texted to see if I could get a massage tomorrow after work! I'm not sure I have time for it but it would help a lot!

03-19-2013, 01:28 AM
Hello Coaches

Cold. Windy. Stormy. So I went out to the pier to see what that was like and well, it was cold and windy and the waves were crashing on and over the pier so I stayed off of it. Smart I thought.

I realized this morning I have never been in a situation where I actually HAD to ration my food. Never, Not once. And here I am, on this island, being protective of my...butter! I still have half a loaf of bread but could have eaten that 6x over by now but had to say NO and NO CHOICE as if I want more I have to take a ferry off island to get it and pay $7 to do that and then $7 to come back. I had already made the decidion to just stay put until the residency is over on Friday morning at 11am. So, with 4 fruits to go (celery and gritty-on-the-inside blueberries still await me) I am learning to ration my food, eat smaller portions, and truly appreciate what I have and the little treats that come my way. Planning is a BIG part of this. I am also vegetarian still. The Aussie writer who is here working on a novel, and whose book of short stories I bought today, has an enormous steak every night. My artist friends cringe. I just look at it longingly hoping he can't see me stare with big Bambi eyes, lest he mistake my longing for something else...

Today I went out for a walk *credit* and we started our second drawing (4' x18') which won't be resolved until Wednesday as one of our members goes off-island tomorrow. While me and S work en plein aire on paintings, if the weather cooperates, and inside if it doesn't. We are excited to see her go and when she returns she may bring back...bananas!!!!

Ok time for bed. :wave: to one and all.

03-19-2013, 03:56 AM
Quick Ciao, as usual! Terrible day yesterday! During the night it snowed so much and the streets were very dirty...going to work just a few km from home I slipped with my car on the ice and went against a sidewalk...uff... two flat tires! I lost a lot of time taking the car to the mechanics, but fortunately I didn't hurt myself.
And I have to say I've been "a good girl" because even if I was sad for the accident and for the money I'll have to spend for the car...I didn't "wreak" on food... oh well... I hope these coming days will be better.
Ah, for whom doesn't know it, or for whom is interested in becoming vegetarian, I read a nice book (bought on saturday, finished on sunday) it's not new but I found it interesting it's "Skinny B....". You may have heard about it.
Have a good day!

03-19-2013, 06:58 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – When walking, CREDIT moi, I stopped to chat with a friend who was also out for a walk. It amazes me that I'm surprised to meet someone that I know when I'm out within walking distance of my house. It's as if my focus on walking changes that I actually live around here, LOL.

Food was OKish - I'm attempting to get back into full rigor after a delightful, although indulgent, weekend. There's snow on the ground outside right now - I know what my morning exercise is going to be.

onebyone – Amazing that you really have to ration your food for the week. There must be some way we could work that notion into our real lives.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Yay for the joy of spotting the "forest." I hate it when someone else leaves food that will perish if I don't consume it - like that's my problem.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Two day OP is worth Kudos.

Beverlyjoy – Kudos for throwing " NO CHOICE" at chocolate - wish I'd had you with me this weekend.

maryann - Always a nice sign, "food is planned for the day."

Ann (Newlifestyle) - Count me as also a believer, "it is my choice to be on plan."

nationalparker – Saluting the "club of the next decaders" - a new name for me, for sure. Kudos for being aware that snacking interferes with planned meals.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Yay for an ice cream treat that still lives in the freezer. And Kudos for those stairs climbed.

IBelieveInMe2 – A great rallying cry, "but I will not give up the battle." Hope you find some relief from stress.

Julia (Julia150) – Congrats for raising a DD who can be so supportive. Saved summer clothes is a terrific motivator.

Kitty (Bootedkitty) – Ouch for the blown car tires - Yay that it wasn't worse. Monster Kudos that you didn't "wreak" on food about it. Let us know how you like Skinny B*tch - folks tend to love it or hate it with passion.

Liz (lizagna) – Love this ARC, "My larger goal is accomplished with thousands of tiny, individual decisions--and this is one of them." That's a good one for when the zillion folks whisper in our ear, "Oh one can't hurt you." [LOL at "WILL OF STEEL" - biscuits do have a special draw.]

Lulu (LuLu01801) – Moving slowly through the Beck book isn't bad - the important thing is to concentrate on the strategies so that they can become second nature. Kudos for paying attention to eating while standing.

Xena2013 – Oh YES, my absolute favorite, ""Hunger is not an emergency."

Readers - chapter 4
How to Use the Beck Diet Solution

A Task a Day

You'll have a new task to complete every day for the next six weeks. You'll perform some tasks only once. Others you'll do daily or weekly. The program is designed for you to progress one day at a time so that you can learn one skill before moving on to the next.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 46.

03-19-2013, 10:29 AM
Well, the hits just keep on coming. We may have to put our dog to sleep.

I've got a stressful day today. The students start filming our training video today. They have a really good teacher who will keep them on track but I suspect it is not going to be easy sailing.

OneByOne Loved the humor in your post today. It must seem strange to ration.

I guess that the 190 was a teaser yesterday. The first time I stepped on the scale this morning I SAW A NUMBER IN THE 180'S. But no, it was an error but still.... It's coming! Today was up a half pound. It'll get there.

No time for personals today. But know that I appreciate all of you and your support.

03-19-2013, 11:43 AM
Quick check-in. I followed my plan precisely yesterday when I finally wrote it. Credit! I just wrote my plan for today so that I could report to my coaches that I had one. Credit, again!

Exercise: +75 790/1400 March

03-19-2013, 12:27 PM
here's a question for all you Becksters . . .
how do you ever just sit and eat without distraction?
I eat alone at home and typically surf the web, write emails, facebook, etc. while I'm eating.
at work I eat at my desk, I'm either working or poking around online.
I can't imagine just sitting there and doing nothing but eating.
I'm too much of a busybody.

03-19-2013, 01:38 PM
Good morning, coaches!

I planned and was OP yesterday. This morning I took a planned day off from exercise. (Windchill -4. Even Emma the Rocket Dawg didn't complain about missing THAT wog!) And I have my eating plan in place today. Similar to my quest for immortality: so far, so good.... :D

Joy (GardenerJoy) - Congrats on being OP and planning! CREDIT! You are a magnificent role model.

Julia (Julia 150) - I'm so sorry about your dog. We had to put our ancient coonhound down in December. We had adopted her and our cat, Oreo, from the humane society 5 yrs ago as a bonded pair (they were both 10 & had been together since puppy/kitten). Oreo was so devastated when Jazz passed, he quit eating (visits to vet -> no underlying health issues other than broken heart), and we had to put him down a few weeks later. So I would feel your grief regardless, but particularly with that experience so close. You and your dog are in my thoughts, and I hope for the very best. - Good luck with the video! Hope it goes well, and glad you're working with a great teacher!

BillBE - LOL about walking around your neighborhood vs. living there. There is something about being outside and moving with purpose that turns it into a new universe. When I'm out wogging the roads I've been taking for years, sometimes I pretend I'm a visitor who's seeing it for the first time; and it makes for a neat experience.

Lulu - You have to be willing to change something if you're going to create change.

BootedKitty - So sorry about your car wreck, but BIG CREDIT for not wrecking your eating. I'm glad you're safe.

Onebyone - Loved hearing about the food rationing. (Would not love to do it....) Great job!

Beth (Bethfromdayton) - Fantastic job on OP food & exercise and your use of internal RCs with the "no choice". Rock on!

Debbie (Lexiss) - Credit OP and planning! Fend off that cold. Take Zicam as though it's a food group.

BeverlyJoy - SO glad you got your computer working again. It can be both frustrating and isolating when they're on the blink. WTG with staying OP and using your "No Choice" resistance muscle!

IBelieveinMe2 - Credit for checking in. Glad St P's was good, and sorry you're having to deal with the family stresses again. Sending hugs. :hug: Hang in there. You know we all believe in you. You'll get through this.

Have a great day, everyone!


03-19-2013, 02:18 PM
Happy Spring Eve, everyone ... it's not -4 here but it is in the 20s with the wind chill and I'm so ready, along with everyone else, I'm sure, for the winter thaw. I feel much more alive when I'm warm.

Did well enough yesterday - not perfect, but I don't know that I'll ever attain that. Gave DH the meal choices for dinner and he picked shredded bbq chicken sandwiches on wheat buns, veg. baked beans and caprese salad and exclaimed over how good it all was.

Tomorrow is the court date, unless we find that it's delayed again. (Since AUGUST!) ... every month or few weeks another dang delay and I'm over-the-top frustrated. But trying to stay positive.

Julia - I'm SO so sorry to hear about your dog. Do keep us posted - how difficult to go through this on top of everything else. Hopefully not, but I know the feeling of having to consider.

OneByOne - Did the banana boat arrive? I loved reading about your rationing, as well. There's a weird part of me that believes a part of my spirit was around for the wwii rationing as I'm so interested/intrigued by that, and thankful that I don't have to save coupons for gasoline, etc.

Lizagna - LOVE "wogging" the roads. I wog with my dog. She clearly expects me to do an all-out sprint, like she does. Silly pooch.

Bill - You are doing a great job on the activity outdoors! Hope there wasn't too much snow to shovel - I haven't seen the news/weather, only noticed that they were up to "U" on the winter storm naming. Do they end when winter ends and begin spring storms with "A" tomorrow?

Lulu - I can only eat without distraction when I'm eating with another person. I honestly think I'm just as distracted with lively conversation as I am with a book or movie, though...

BootedKitty - Thankful that you're safe after the icy drive, but a tough unexpected expense with the two tires. Be careful! And kudos to you for not wrecking your meal plan!!

Beth - Good vibes coming through to you for this weekend's gathering. Sounds like there will be food galore. Maybe review your accomplishments so far right before you head off to it - and maybe wear a piece of jewelry that is a symbol of your hard work so far - so when you glance at it, you bring yourself back to being centered with the food. You are doing GREAT so far!

Lexxiss - Hope you're able to stave off that cold! Take care of yourself. (Are the sumos gone? It must be the lack of that Vitamin C...) We never got in sumos at my markets. I didn't research where to actually FIND them, though.

Hi to everyone else - ran out of time on my lunch!!

03-19-2013, 04:32 PM
Hello all! I am almost afraid to post here because I've been doing such a bad job lately with being OP and even following Beck. Sometimes I feel like the only one who struggles THIS MUCH with a weight loss journey. It seems ridiculous that as someone who is accomplished and successful and bright with advanced degrees is constantly failing about something that should be so obvious and simple.

How do people pick themselves up when they feel so very down and like they just keep failing?

03-19-2013, 04:38 PM
Just wanted to check in and let you all know that I am still plugging away. Snacking more than usual, but main meals are decent. Need to get back to my exercise today, which can only help with my stressors and weight. Just clinging to my faith and hope for better days to come. This too shall pass and all will be well. One day at a time.

Julia150: So sorry that you might have to have your dog put to sleep!!! :( Please keep us posted. (I am a serious dog-lover! We have 3 dogs!) Hang in there! Hugs to you! :hug:

nationalparker: Good luck with the court date tomorrow!!! I'll be thinking of you.

LuLu01801: I force myself to sit and eat without distraction whenever possible. It is not easy for me either, but I can see the value in it, so I keep trying to get it right. You can do it, too!

Bootedkitty: So happy that you weren't hurt in the accident! Sorry about your 2 flat tires!

Lexxiss: Hope you don't get a full-fledged cold! CREDIT to you for resting to try to prevent it!

Hello to everyone else! :wave:

03-19-2013, 04:41 PM
veganasaurusrex: You are welcome here if I am. Not sure if you have been reading along, but I feel like a failure on the weight loss journey as well. Just doing my best to follow at least some of the Beck principles "in the meantime." Hang in there! You can do this!!! You deserve to be happy and thin, too! :hug:

03-19-2013, 05:02 PM
Hello all! I am almost afraid to post here because I've been doing such a bad job lately with being OP and even following Beck. Sometimes I feel like the only one who struggles THIS MUCH with a weight loss journey. It seems ridiculous that as someone who is accomplished and successful and bright with advanced degrees is constantly failing about something that should be so obvious and simple.

I could have said the same thing--in December, I realized that I was slowly killing myself--literally--and knew I needed to make changes. I didn't want to go in for my annual checkup because I knew my PCP would lecture me (in a professional, caring way). I'd seen multiple specialists in the previous months and they all lectured me (in a professional caring way) about my blood work. My blood pressure was climing, my blood sugar was out of control, my cholesterol was too high, I'm only 5 years younger than when my mom had a heart attack....and I was still eating as if I didn't have any issues--baked goods, sweets, fast food, big meals...although the sweets and baked goods were more of an issue than meal size, I think. I'm not even sure I was enjoying those foods that much--but I was eating them.

I remember getting myself a candy bar and thinking "Why am I doing this? Why am I finding it so hard to do what I know I need to do?" I actually talked to a few close friends about it and said that after the first of the year, I was going to contact my Employee Assistance Program and ask to speak to someone about why I was sabotaging my health.

As it turned out, I didn't make that call--a long conversation with a young woman who'd had weight loss surgery spurred me to action somehow--researching and rejecting that option, finding out about the CBT approach to weight loss, and finding that is a "fit" for me. Also, I found that calorie counting was easy and do-able with an app on my phone (MyFitnessPal)--I'd never found it easy before--I just didn't want to deal with looking things up. I'd done carb restriction (lost 40 lbs) but didn't want to do that again.

So all those things came together and for me, it appears to be working this time. I've lost 20-40 lbs before, though, so I know that my current stage needs to last--I hate to think I could be back at this point and weight (or higher) again. (I'm going to make some Response Cards to give to DH to give to me if I start gaining.)

I guess my rambling point is that it takes all of us some amount of time to get to the right place to accomplish goals. I'd be surprised if there are many people successfully losing weight who hadn't struggled with it before (and during) their weight loss.

I kept asking myself: What am I getting out of staying heavy? Do I want to eat this junk more than I want to be able to travel with DH? Do I want to eat this junk more than I want to be around for my kids and (future) grandchildren? What is keeping me from taking proper care of myself? I never figured an answer to what I was getting out of it or what was keeping me from taking care of myself, but somehow, I crossed that line.

You can cross it, too--one day, one meal at a time.

Good luck!

03-19-2013, 06:34 PM
hi everybody!!
oh WOW.....good stuff being said here.
I'm feeling overwhelmed with inspiration.
one of these days I will do personals as I do have so much to say to each of you.
but a quick question here to veganasaurusrex . . . are you vegan?
I ask because I am and I wonder/assume if we have that in common.
I have been a strict vegetarian for 14 years (no meat, poultry or fish) and 5 years later I went vegan (no eggs, milk, butter, cheese, etc.) so it's been 8 years of veganism at this point.
very interesting how I wouldn't stray from that commitment for ANYTHING.
not one bite of absolutely anything that is or contains those ingredients.
would dream of it!!
and here I am struggling with some simple boundaries around food and behaviors?
oh well.

03-19-2013, 06:43 PM
Hi Coaches: Weigh in day for me, day 29 of the BDS. So far I have lost 10.2 pounds. I think the 1500 calorie level is working for me. It's manageable and still lets me have a sugar free goodie every day, so I don't feel deprived. Yesterday I was out of town for my mother's 82nd birthday. I ate a light breakfast and packed my own light lunch, since I knew we would be going out to eat at dinner but didn't know where. Luckily, the restaurant Mom chose had good options. I ordered a big chicken salad. The chicken was crispy, which I would normally not eat, but aside from that was OP. I also had a very small piece of pre-planned "free" birthday cake that I had baked and taken along. It was good, but I was able to stop after just that small piece. Today I am right back on track eating low carb and counting calories.
I have about 20 statements on my ARC, but there are 2 or 3 that are really important to me. Anytime I think about straying, I refresh my memory and that keeps me on track.
My ankle is slowly getting better. I think I might try some Walk Away The Pounds tomorrow morning. Time to get moving.
Thanks for being here coaches. Good luck on your own journeys.

03-19-2013, 09:41 PM
veganasaurusrex Boy, you sure don't need to feel bad about posting here. Many of us are struggling. I've fought for years with my weight. I lose, I gain, only to repeat again and again. Can you change ONE thing about the way you are eating? Can you find ONE success each day? Despite being around sweets frequently, I just tell myself "I don't eat those things right now". I'm not ruling it out forever, just right now I'm abstaining. Every day that I DON'T eat those things builds on the success of the first day. One way I look at it is that my life isn't any worse for not having eaten a candy/cookie. Oh heck, I'm not making much sense :). Stick around, post and read. I think that you will find that all of us struggle, sometimes we do better, sometimes not. We are all in the same boat (or we wouldn't be here) and we can give each other the understanding and support that we all need.
LuLu I totally agree with you. There are a lot of inspiring messages here. You asked if there is anyone here who can sit down and eat without distractions? I'm like you, I surf the internet, watch TV and read while I eat. It's become a habit for me. I know the ideal is to eat without distractions. My compromise right now is to pause in what I'm doing (reading, TV, Web) and pay attention to each bite. I focus on the bite, chew, swallow and pause before I take another bite. No bite goes in without a pause in the action and actually experiencing what I'm eating.
NationalParker, IBelieveInYou2, Liz Thank you for the kind thoughts about my dog. One thing the vet said last night is that we can give him a good ending. He's been such a good friend to my husband and my son. I've watched my father-in-law keep a couple of his dogs going, they have been so sick and in pain, I just don't want my dogs last time to be painful or difficult. It will be hard but ultimately, I'm going to let my DH take the lead.
Hugs to everyone.

03-19-2013, 10:23 PM
Hi all,

I'm working on planning for the Big Event, still (on-going), but we're getting down to the point where if we have to, we can say "good enough"--there aren't any crisis items still open. (Well, one--but it's not mine!)

I did not want to make dinner tonight. I was so close to the "let's just go out for dinner" comment that had become our habit. But I've been drilling "no choice"/"not an option" into my head, and I've been listening to all of you tell of the times you've successfully said "no choice" and I said "no choice" to myself and went into the kitchen and made the healthy dinner I had planned for. (and drank water instead of diet coke with it)

I think everyone else sharing how they use "No choice" helped me to use it tonight--and strengthened my resistance muscle. I had a plan. I didn't want to, but I executed it, and it was a success and I'm glad I did.

Thanks for sharing your successes, everyone--it helps me a lot.

I've got to plan tomorrow's meals into MFP and then work a bit more before I can call it a night.

Take care, all.

03-19-2013, 10:34 PM
Hello all! I am almost afraid to post here because I've been doing such a bad job lately with being OP and even following Beck. Sometimes I feel like the only one who struggles THIS MUCH with a weight loss journey. It seems ridiculous that as someone who is accomplished and successful and bright with advanced degrees is constantly failing about something that should be so obvious and simple.

How do people pick themselves up when they feel so very down and like they just keep failing?

Hi veganasaurusrx - WELCOME!! So glad you posted. Don't be afraid of posting at a time when you are struggling. We ALL have times of struggling. This weightloss 'business' isn't so easy. If it was we all wouldn't be here. It's a complicated thing. In my experience we all go through times when it's a little easier than others. Please feel free to post.

I am had a good day on Monday.. always grateful for that! Today too. Monday I stayed with my plan... measured.... and logged. I counted my sodium, exercised, and got on the scale. (up a little) Today I got on the scale and it was down again.

Tomorrow I begin to read the Pink Book again.

I'll have more time later to do personals.

I hope you all had a good day. Remember to treat yourself as kindly as you'd treat a good friend.

03-20-2013, 12:26 AM

cold, windy and snowy today. So we stayed in and painted a painting while our other memebr went off to meet local friends and visit a gallery. While she was gone my friend's nephew took the opportnity to ome over to the island and snoop around this mysterious place or a while. He's doing vascular research for his PhD and needed to get out of the lab (!insert an hour+ of super interesting converstaion here)> When he arrived he brought with him some hearty bread, a bottle of Greek red wine. two kinds of fancy cheese-one hard one soft, granny smith apples and a small diet coke at my request. My artist friends are scandalized that I would "drink that stuff. It's really bad for you." Geez. I could tell them food stories that would curdle their cream--if they drank cream.
My friend made us lentil soup and we were off to the races with the perfect artist lunch. Awesome. And when our other friend returned from her day off-island, she had 2 bananas, more apples(gala and granny smiths) more cheese and crackers. More bread and cheese and leftover (yes, we didn't drink it all at lunch) wine for dinner which we ate in the studio because 2 other resident artists were using every burner on the communal kitchen stove. I woke up this morning to discover my pot of soup sitting on the counter. Huh? Did someone eat from it? How long was it out? Did someone take it out to make room in the fridge and forget to put it back?? I tasted it and switched out the pots to a smaller one and put it back.

Food is a big huge deal here. This experience is going to follow me for a while I think. Very interesting. I am also keeping up with Looloo reports. My DH is faithfully caring for her and bringing her back and forth to the vet. He got a new vet tonight who he liked better than the other vet inthe same place. Wonder what the politics are of switching vets within the same practice? Anyway, the prognosis for Looloo is more favorable with the new vet.

Better go. I went to bed at 2am yesterday. Think it may be a tad earlier tonight. I'm not concerned though. I'm just on island time.