100 lb. Club - I'm so discouraged
05-10-2003, 10:46 PM
I bought a new pair of rollerblades today, because my other ones were cheap and really hard to skate in. These skates were kindof like a reward to myself for getting this promotion at work.
So I went out skating tonight for almost an hour, with Jordanna in the jogging stroller. And THREE times, when cars drove by, someone yelled out "fatty" or "fata$$" at me. :cry: Don't they realise that the last thing they should be doing is insulting me, because at lease I'm making an effort to be active and healthy? And to yell something like that out at me, when I've got my daughter with me. :( I am so upset, things like this make me never want to leave my house and go out. :cry:
05-10-2003, 10:52 PM
oh my god sometimes i just HATE people!!! you ARE making the effort, and you are gonna be so hot they will trip over their jaws.
i understand, i had a similar experience awhile back when i was riding my bike and it really upset me. so i can't just say "ignore it" because i know it's impossible.
just try to keep your chin up, remember that you have tons of people who love you no matter what.
and ENJOY those skates! are they totally better than your old ones?
05-10-2003, 11:18 PM
I don't handle those situations gracefully. Usually I yell back something to the effect of, "Well, at least I'm not an ignorant a-hole like you!" or just flip the universal sign of the bird. I'm not advocating my responses, though.
I'm jealous. I can't rollerblade to save my life! I need to have those old fashioned 70's four-wheelers.
05-10-2003, 11:34 PM
Some people are just idiots anyway...wouldnt have mattered what you looked like or what size you were, they'd have to insult to make their own little selves feel big. I remember once when I was playing tennis about 20 yrs ago, some guys drove by and yelled the same things to me. At that time, I was 5 ft. 7 and weighed only 150 lbs! But as I already felt huge ( I always have, no matter what my size), to me it confirmed what I thought and made me want to cry. I never had really great self esteem and they definitely took what little I had that nite. Takes a long time to get that back too. People should think before they show their ignorance. I commend you for going out rollerblading. I'm like Jennelle, I cannot do that hard as I try! So forget them and keep up the good work!!:)
05-11-2003, 12:01 AM
gggrrrrr. how dare they?? don't you wish you had one of those paint guns???? my secret fantasy.. to always carry one, and to shoot everyone who shouts those rude things.
raelynn, honey.. just be glad those idiots aren't in your life at all. no matter what you did ,it would never be enough for them. you are perfect the way you are. and you'll be happier when you're thinner.
living well and being happy are the best revenge for this kind of nonsense. although the paint gun would be LOTS quicker and more satisfying in many ways.
05-11-2003, 12:21 AM
Oh raelynn, I'm sorry. That is just so awful. I haven't had people scream things out at me lately, but someone I thought was my friend was saying some hurtful things. And I know as well as you that you can't ignore it. But at least you know yourself that you are making an effort to do something. Were these kids? It was probobly someone who has never had to deal with anything involving their weight. They were just ignorant :censored: I'm proud of you for what you have accomplished. and Thumbs up to you getting into some roller blades, I'd fall and break my neck.
05-11-2003, 12:52 AM
Thanks for the uplifting words. I've always liked skating (growing up in Canada, you kind of need something to do in the wintertime :lol: ), and I bought my old rollerblades in 1998 for $40. They never fit that well, the skate was made of hard inflexible plastic, and I could never get them done up tight enough. The right foot would always be bent in, and I was really worried I was going to break my ankle. So that's why I got these new ones. They were a bit expensive ($192), but they are ABEC 5 (the best you can get - this number means how easily the wheel spins on the bearing. my old skates were probably a 1 or a 2). The skate is flexible, and has laces, a velcro strap and the plastic strap that can be really tightened because the lever acts as a ratchet to tighten it (if that makes sense). And the brake is neat, because you only have to lean back on your heel and the brake engages automatically (normal skates you have to lift your heel).
I'm a geek, but I took pics of my old skates and my new ones. :)
05-11-2003, 02:44 AM
Yeah, just remember that the people matter never say horrible things like that.... and the people who do don't matter. That's so discouraging though.
Great new rollerblades, they look very comfy. Have a great time blading. I'm going to have a friend teach me how to blade this summer! I'm already thinking I'm probably going to kill myself.... all in the name of weightloss! LMAO. -Apryl
05-11-2003, 11:58 AM
Just remember, YOU are out there moving, and setting a good example for your child. "They" are just driving in their cars. Who is really better off? This is what I try to do when it happens to me.
05-11-2003, 01:47 PM
Living in Southern CA, EVERYONE rollerblades (except me). :) I asked for a pair of rollerblades for my birthday, so we'll see if I get them. I'm so nervous about trying them so, I hope you won't mind if I use you as my rollermodel. :)
As for the jackasses on the road, I don't know what to say. I totally get offended when people yell crap like that. But then, I wonder what kind of people DO that? When's the last time you drove to work and had the desire to yell random personal comments to people along the road? I mean, how BORED do you have to be with your life? Did he chuckle to himself the rest of the day, like, "remember when I yelled at that stranger on the road? Aren't' I a witty one!" Take pity on the neanderthals... they're going to miss evolution. :)
05-11-2003, 04:49 PM
You are a lot nicer than I would've been--somehow my middle finger always seems to say what I just can't bring myself to say. ;)
05-11-2003, 06:40 PM
I'm so sorry that some people are such total and complete jerks!! You are doing a great job and setting a great example. Don't let them throw you off track or discourage you from what you are doing. Hang in there and know that you are doing great things!
05-11-2003, 07:45 PM
I am so sorry! Some people can be so mean. But at least we are only fat, we can lose weight but they are going to be mean and unloveable all their life.
05-11-2003, 11:09 PM
I'm so sorry that happened to you. And more than once. Yuck. Here's a hug from Oklahoma> (((((Raelynn)))))
05-12-2003, 12:09 AM
I wish I knew something to say that would make you feel better but I don't. There will always be bullies and because they get their own self esteem from draining if from others , they always pick on the people who can afford to lose it the least. We all know though that you are the better person. ;Hang in there sweetie.
05-12-2003, 12:14 AM
It's real ballsy to sit in your car and yell, and judging from the ever expanding waistlines of people they probably could lose a few pounds themselves. Jealous,*******s!
By the way your beautiful Raelynn and you go skating whenever, whereever, and as often as you want to!!!!!!!!!!!!!
05-12-2003, 01:16 AM
I have had this happen too and soooo want to yell ,"Tiny Penis!!" next time it happens!
You keep on going!
05-12-2003, 07:22 AM
Peabrains! That's pretty obvious. SO peabrained they probably wouldn't recognize it as an insult if you yelled that back at them.
I've never had to deal with anyone yelling anything like that at me. But I can imagine how hard it would be to deal with. But YOU know where you are in your journey and what you've been able to accomplish (promotion, rollerblading in the first place, a beautiful daughter) and somehow I have a feeling that yelling from a car is the "best" they can claim. Ignoramuses.
05-12-2003, 10:45 AM
"Tiny Penis!" that is SO Great.
I had a similar experience Raelynn - recently - and I cried and cried. But you have to realize that only really really stupid people say things like that, and they are usually just covering up and trying to make themselves better because they have a low self esteem.
i just feel sorry for them.
05-12-2003, 11:11 AM
I hate people like that. As much as our minds say "they are losers with no life", our hearts wince. ((HUGS))
I am sooo proud of you for getting out there and rollerblading. I tried that a few years ago and the 2nd or third time out, I lost control and wacked my head (no headgear on - smart, I know) and I have been scared ever since. I even sold my roller-blades. Kinda wish I hadn't done that.
05-12-2003, 12:28 PM
I wish I could wave my magic wand and make it all go away. I am so sorry that this happened to you. At least you are out there doing something. Don't let those "tiny penis"'s stop you! I am proud of you.
05-12-2003, 02:01 PM
The world is infinately filled with morons. Don't let stupid kids get you down.
I've had similar things happen to me, when I overheard someone talking about how fat I was. It is mostly just stupid people who feel better about themselves and their own problems by pointing out the faults in others. It is really sad for them, because they have nothing better to do then hurt others.
plus, they each have a tiny penis.
I agree with Matt, they definitely sound like they're overcompensating for tiny penii...
After working in a city where you get various hoots and hollars every time you walk down the street, I started laughing every time someone says something mean. Nothing takes the wind out of a jerk's sails more than making them fall flat. A big laugh, wave, and smile really seems to do the trick. Even though I'd really just like to kill them. Grrr. Sorry that happened to you.
05-14-2003, 12:15 AM
Thank you guys so much for the encouragement (and LOL @ Matt). I am determined to keep rollerblading, despite the losers that are all around me.