Beck Diet Solution - Beck Diet For Life/Solution – February 2013 – Support, Discussion, Buddy/Coach

02-01-2013, 07:08 AM
Welcome to the discussion group, support group, diet coach group, diet buddy group relating to the two books by Dr. Judith S. Beck:The Complete Beck Diet for Life ( the first bookThe Beck DIET solution: train your brain to think like a thin person. (

The Beck Diet Solution is a psychological program, not a food plan. It provides a step-by-step program to learn specific techniques to stay on our diet, lose weight, and maintain our weight loss for life. The program is based on Dr. Beck's clinical research in Cognitive Therapy (CT).

The Complete Beck Diet for Life expands the earlier work and includes a food plan with suggested menus. From the cover:With The Complete Beck Diet for Life you'll discover the 5 stages of successful dieting and maintenance. You'll learn how to motivate yourself, give yourself credit for every change you make, create time and energy for dieting, and handle hunger and cravings. Dr. Beck eases you into changing one step at a time. You'll master one task before moving on to the next. And you'll learn techniques to deal with challenging situations, such as sticking with ou plan at celebrations and dealing with "food pushers." With Dr. Beck's skills, you'll achieve a lifetime of healthful eating and lifelong motivation.

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02-01-2013, 07:09 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Exercise was walking to a neat talk about the evolution of birds last night. Since the dinosaurs are gone, crocodiles are their nearest living relatives - quite a contrast. It felt good walking in the warmth as dusk fell. Only an hour later, it felt cold walking home. Now it's bitter cold outside. CREDIT moi for the exercise and for letting the mind get a workout.

Eating was only OK. I did manage to eat a smaller dinner since I'd overdone my snacks. The joyful stress was finally purchasing a replacement computer for DW - her's is ancient. It's fun to find that everything I know about computers has become obsolete between purchases and so much fun to catch up. I came out of it with a neat printer from the group called All-In-One: scanner, fax, wireless printing from all computers anywhere in the house, special cartridge for printing photos. On sale by itself but with an additional 20% off when purchased with DW's new laptop (she'll continue to use her old printer).

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Congrats for choosing a mom who shows up with tickets to an NBA basketball game - that's planning ahead, LOL. Kudos for that simple banana decision - one small step.

Beverlyjoy – It's worthy of Kudos for planning and logging despite exasperation. Hope that pain gets under control.

maryann - Good luck at the family wedding. Wish wedding weren't designed for over eating.

BigchiefDavid – With Mardi Gras and Superbowl upon you, day 37: Reduce Stress is just what you need. Read on.

nationalparker – LOL at two coats on the dog. Walking in the cold is its own joy if you're moving fast enough to stay warm. Neat that you do audio books in the car.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Yep, three days of recording your food into MFP is a Kudos series. So good to hear that panning is getting easier.

IBelieveInMe2 – And you crack me up with "JuliaWhoWearsTheGrayPantsAgain!" - I'm loving these names.

Julia (Julia150) – Yep, it's "schizophrenic weather" around here. LOL at keeping a book until overdue to avoid facing that you don't want to read it - that's so like what I can do. I have several books in my current reading stack that linger because I don't feel like finishing them. Wish they were library books so I'd return them. Congrats to JuliaWithoutIronedClothes for a fun NSV. I love it when my clothes tell me that my body is changing.

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

characteristic 3
You Like the Feeling of Being Full

. . . I noticed this phenomenon recently when I had dinner at the house of a colleague. There were 10 of us in all. Although I'm usually oblivious to what people eat, on this particular night I decided to pay attention. This is what I observed: Two of us (both women) ate sparingly. Three of the men (all of normal weight) ate more than we did, but not a great deal more. The other five (all of whom are overweight) ate much more than the rest of us.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 36.

02-01-2013, 09:39 AM
Good morning and TGIF! I'm alternately stressed and happy. Cold water pipe in the bathroom froze up last night. I forgot the temp was dipping low (5 this morning and -10 with the wind chill as I walked from the parking garage to the office building). Misery to me. Dr. appt yesterday ended with biopsy, so will know more in a week but I'm anticipating it's nothing and keeping positive. We then did a little shopping at Trader Joe's, and Dick's Sporting Goods where I had a major score with a black Columbia shirt that'll be perfect for cold hiking and camping for $3.69 down from $36. I rarely find deals like that as I hate slow shopping. But DH loves that store and so we lingered. Plan was for Panera for dinner, but he spotted Noodles and Company, and asked if I wanted to try that. Ok. I went way out on a limb (yes, sarcasm) and ordered the smallest mac and cheese with a grilled chicken breast. Ate the chicken and half of the mac and cheese (which was so-so), logged it and it fit in perfectly with my day and I left the rest. Double score. I felt good about that.

Weighed this morning and down a pound finally. Official is tomorrow, but the way things are going, I'm counting this and still weighing tomorrow. No scolding please. :)

Enjoying a tribute to the Blues this evening with DH and my plan is very fluid for dinner - local cajun spot if their chalkboard menu has an item that fits my food plan/eating preferences (no seafood, pork, etc.) If not, have alternate plan.

BigChiefDavid - will consider home swap during these crummy single-digit times for festive times in the Big Easy. :) GREAT attitude with the back on plan despite all of the parties and great news with no gain.

JuliaWhoNowGoesShoppingInHerCloset - YAY on thegray pants working out perfectly. I haven't begun to explore all that's available on MyFitnessPal - excited that Maryann shared about the UPC symbols, so will figure that out this week, along with opening up to others on there. Lunchmate was a bit of a blowhard, to be honest. With work, family life, pets, etc. I won't reschedule and we'll see how it rolls.

BillBlueEyes - Great deal on your printer and I like your attitude of learning the new technology that's moved forward since the last purchase. I find myself being stressed about that. I say tech is passing me by (but I am also the one who wants to adjust the volume ON the tv, not via a remote, etc. which drives people bonkers).

IBelieveInMe2 - Great attitude that those pounds are OFF TO STAY! You're doing great! Keep up the strong focus this weekend!

BethFromDayton - It seems that you tackled the REAL work with the extra food on your plate because you left some the other day that wasn't the spare/intentional addition. That seems to be even HARDER when it's part of the "real" meal, if that makes sense.

Lexxiss - I'm impressed with the great job with the bar food choices and splitting the veg burger and fries, etc. I, too, get home from an event and often think - ahhh, I need something extra now - I ate five hours ago. But to stop and think and put back - credits abound!

Maryann - Good luck with weigh in! I couldn't go a month without changing my ticker if I was less than it said - so good restraint! I wonder why that is. And I didn't do personals recently, but what a great compliment from your boss that you've been such a bonus to the school. Hold onto that feeling!

02-01-2013, 10:12 AM
Good Morning, Coaches.

Happy Dance! I moved my ticker down two pounds this month. Last night I remembered what Beck taught me two years ago, "Eating is not an emergency." I also planned smart. I am birthday chair for our AA group so I am responsible for buying cupcakes once a month. I FINALLY bought the kind with the frosting I don't like. Wow! Who would have thought it took six months for somebody getting an MFA to figure out to NOT buy the food she likes. But that is the way it is with food addictions. It is not an easy program but it really is very simple.

Excited for the day and spending time with DH and DS during the five hour drive to the wedding. Decided not to bring snacks in the car. I'll eat before I go and then have a nice meal when I get there. I'll be thinking of nationalparker when I walk along the shore. I miss the beach as much as you do. If I could have changed one thing about my life it might have been not moving away from the sea. But then I wouldn't have my farmer husband. Can't pull a walnut tree up from the roots and take it with you.
BBE: Your dinosaur lecture reminded me of a show I brought DS to when he was five years old. It was in a huge arena and was called, "Walking with Dinosaurs." It had HUGE animatronic dinos -amazing. Then came out the T Rex. Every little boy in the stadium was hiding in mom's lap with eyes closed.

02-01-2013, 01:21 PM
Happy Friday coaches and buddies,

My every other Friday off work.

Today's big news :carrot: Tomorrow is my official weekly weigh-in but today the scale is <icon for drum roll> at 201.4. Getting so close to a milestone!

Oh, last night I was so close to disaster. DH's birthday cake is still loitering in the kitchen as are my very favorite sun-dried tomato rolls. I was bargining with myself "one piece of cake or one roll will be OK", "I'll just have ONE" Yes, one piece or one roll would probably be OK but I'm just not confident that I could stop at one just yet. Plus the thought of endangering my downward trend stopped me. So..I went to bed with my nightly treat of 1oz of dry roasted peanuts and my book. Whew, danger avoided.

BillBlueEyes Yes, my obligation/commitment to crummy books is pretty nutso. I pondered today's quote for a bit, I can't remember if I felt good being overfull or if I just never paid attention until I was stuffed. Kudos on the evening walk! Brrr on the way home.

BeverlyJoy I hope your back is better. I have experienced back muscle "fatigue" and that's nasty but never severe discomfort. I can't imagine what your going through with real pain. :hug: Lots of credits for all the positive things you did.

IBelieveInMeToo Last time I lost weight (grrr, hate saying that) I gave away all my "fat clothes" too. I had started a nice new wardrobe for my 150 pound body and went up, up, up. I packed away all the size 6/8 because they are quality, classic pieces. So I know I have my plus sizes and I know where my 6/8 clothes are but I can't figure out what I wore in between and where those clothes could be. I know I wore SOMETHING. While working on declutter this weekend, I'm going to do a search/rescue because it won't be long before I'm going to need something. <Wait a minute, this was adddressed to you, not all about me> I wanted to second your statement "this is it" no more up and down. You and I are so close weight wise and goal wise. We CAN do this and we will.

BigChiefDave Kudos on the stable weight with all the celebrating going on. That's an achievement. That's how thin people do it, I think. They handle big food events in balance and moderation. And yes, getting into clothes that didn't fit before is a big deal. So much more tangible than the numbers on the scale.

Beth I'm so admiring your committment and work on planning. I am going to check out MFP today. (I am eating 2 days with my own plan this weekend) I identify with what you have said in the past about typically eating what sounds good at the time. I do that as well, but it frequently resulted in last minute choices that were not so healthy, eating out etc. It sure contributed to my weight. Anyway, big :carrot: to you. And, ummmm, being able to get your jeans off without unbuttoning...WhooHoo and time to go closet shopping!

Lexxiiss Big victory over the old habits by skipping the banana. I'm impressed with your excellent choices in the face of "bar food". How was the game?

NationalParker Great score on the shirt! Yup, on your assessment of lunchmate being a blow hard. You were being so diplomatic in your first post about her :) she sounded like a PITA to me. I very much dislike being preached at. I can do my own research, thank you very much. Plus eliminating a huge food group (unless medically necessary) is a short term proposition (in my humble opinion). I have a friend who has celiac disease and can't eat gluten. She snacks on Cheetos :). Wild temperature swings in your world too? 5 degrees???? ouch, I'll quit complaining about the 20's. I grew up in an area where it was rarely above 10 degrees in the winter. After a certain point it doesn't matter what the temperature says: it's just damn cold. Yay on the pound drop!

MaryAnn Safe trip to you! Great job chosing treats you don't like, good disincentive! Enjoy your time on the ocean, I'm pea green with envy :). Congrats on the official ticker change! I'm a mental stickler for "official" weights (for myself). What's up with that?

Today is a big day for BootedKitty. I hope it's wonderful. OnebyOne I hope things are going smoothly for you today.


02-01-2013, 01:28 PM
Hi coaches and buddies, busy day today, but I'm so happy! When I weighed in this morning I could see a number I did'nt expeceted, but most of all I measured my self and actually I've lost half centimeter of waist and...can I say..bottom??? :) :censored:
In Kilos, I've reached my goal!!! I was 52,5!! half a kilo more (lost) of what I planned for this month! Next step is arriving at 52! I can do it.
The response card which represents me today is: BELIEVE IT!:bravo:
As about response cards I wanted to ask you all something: is there a particular one you created personally, not suggested by the book or by Dr.Beck's blog which has been very helpful in some kind of situations for you?
For example, I had the problem when I used to go to the restaurant mostly, but also at parties for example, to keep on pecking at bread, or "grissini", (did I explaine myself correctly?), while waiting from one course and the other... so when I realized that that brought me to eat much more of what I wanted I wrote this response card:
Well, this card was very helpful, because now I've learned how to master those situations when I'm at the restaurant!
Tell me about yours, I think we can learn from each other.
Have a good on-track weekend! :bike2:

02-01-2013, 02:09 PM
I got a ticker:carrot:

02-01-2013, 10:36 PM
Happy February everyone!

Lots of credits to me for today--I did two walks at work (and in between I got a cortisone shot in the big toe on my right foot). (If that doesn't work, I'll have to schedule surgery.) And today was my first day of the 30 Day Shred. Wow--kicked my butt. But I got through it all, or at least, kept moving through it all.

I'd stuck a post-it on tonight's dinner, so remembered to put extra chicken on the plate (beyond the weighed chicken I intended to eat) and mashed potatoes which weren't on the plan at all. And I didn't eat them. And it was pretty easy. I didn't finish the chicken I had measured out either. By eating more slowly, I am recognizing full better. (Which is the goal, of course)

Two people on my team brought donuts today. One of them even brought them to the daily standup meeting. There was a lot of donut talk, but I didn't eat one--and wasn't even horribly tempted. I admit, though, I'm really looking forward to the weekend in March when I've promised myself a donut. I walked out of the meeting saying to myself "I'm glad I didn't eat a donut!"

Like many of you, I have clothes in various sizes. I'm also planning on putting darts in some of the jeans that are just a bit too big so I can wear them a while longer.

Time for me to plan for tomorrow--which is bound to be a full day and weekends, as we know, can be harder than workdays.

BillBE--Thanks so much for making the new thread happen! Credit for adjusting dinner based on snack size. Congrats to your DW on her new computer.

nationalparker -- Let's both homeswap with BigChiefDavid--he can go between houses, and we'll party (OP) in New Orleans. Credit for making a plan appropriate dinner at an unplanned restaurant!

maryann -- Credit for cupcakes-I-don't-like selection. That's a great way to be sure you aren't tempted. Have a great drive and time at the wedding.

JuliaPostingBeforeThisNovelGetsAbductedByAliens -- Credit for averting disaster--that's got to be hard to do with cake and tomato rolls both calling your name. I've heard good things about Lose It! as well as MPF, but I find it really helps to be able to record everything (and have it look up the calorie counts for you). (nice ticker)

Bootedkitty -- WONDERFUL! You are almost there! Losing weight and CM--I'm so excited for you!

Here's one of my response cards:

I’m at a party—why can’t I eat?
• Once I start, I’ll feel permission to continue to nibble. I don’t want that to happen
• I am not really hungry. I have a desire to eat, but not a need to eat. I want to only eat when I need to eat
I can’t nibble at a party and lose weight. Once I accept that I cannot nibble at parties, dieting will be easier.

02-02-2013, 12:32 AM
Hi coaches/friends - I am feeling some better today. We are with our family and my two grandchildren bring smiles to my face. I am being very careful about my back.... not lifting. It's doing some better.

I've been cooking and making things for their freezer. I tried a new healthy recipe.... Itaian Sloppy Joes make with turkey sausage. I've renamed it: Sloppy Giuseppe's. It's delicious.. I'll post it later on. I have been eating some chocolate... but, thoughtfully.

I will check in again tomorrow. Have a great weekend.

02-02-2013, 07:05 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – DW's new computer works as expected. She's thrilled with the speed improvement over her old clunker. It came with Microsoft Windows 8 that imitates a cell phone - must seem neat to those who've grown up latched to their cell phones, but seems gratuitous to me. My new HP printer is both amazing and freighting - it wants to collect all data about me, including resumes, so that headquarters can "serve me better." Right! So far I've managed to fend off that feature. Kinda neat that it's driven over the air from my router rather than over a cable. Don't mind me - kid with a new toy here.

Exercise was a walk, CREDIT moi, that included a trip to the local hardware store with its coupon for a free compact fluorescent light bulb each month. Since this was February 1st, I just assumed that I'd lost the January free bulb. But the clerk punched both January and February and gave me two bulbs. They just made me a loyal customer for life.

Beverlyjoy – LOL at "Sloppy Giuseppe's" - hope you do post the recipe in our recipe thread. Glad the back is healing.

maryann - Such a smart decision with the cupcakes - glad you're putting your new MFA to work already. Now I want to see "Walking with Dinosaurs" to see if I can face them with eyes open.

nationalparker – Love that Columbia shirt for 90% off. I savor such bargains. Yep Double Kudos for mindful eating at Noodles and Company, with an extra Kudos for tending to your DH's choice of restaurant. (If you have a "local Cajun spot" then you don't need to fly to New Orleans, LOL.)

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Bon Voyage on your 30 day Shred. Double Kudos for the extra chicken and the unfinished chicken both. And more Kudos for the donuts ignored. I hate that donuts are socially acceptable at work.

Julia (Julia150) – Onederland keeps creeping closer and closer. LOL at "DH's birthday cake is still loitering in the kitchen" - you just need a NO LOITERING sign.

Kitty (Bootedkitty) – Yes you can say "bottom" - or "hips" if you like. If you try to write ***, however, it will get replaced with ***. Big Kudos for standing down the bread on the table. That's a BIG challenge for me. I try my favorite phrase "That's not about me." Helps me a lot.

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

characteristic 3
You Like the Feeling of Being Full

. . . We light eaters skipped the hors d'oeuvres and several of the side dishes altogether and ate some of the entree, vegetables, and rice. The moderate eaters had some hors d'oeuvres and finished most of what was on their plates. The big eaters ate lots of hors d'oeuvres and side dishes and finished just about everything on their plates. They couldn't possibly have still been hungry, yet all of them had seconds. They also ate much larger portions of dessert.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 36.

02-02-2013, 08:00 AM
Hi Coaches!

I guess I did not post yesterday....I had an incredble Beck inspired success last eve. Much stress late night a drive by McD and home to my own healthy dinner. credit. weighed this morning as expected up...I didn't eat until pretty late and "not eating" after a long day was not an option. Work calls. It has snowed at the ski areas all week so we will be very busy.

Keep on truckin' everyone!

02-02-2013, 12:45 PM
Quickly checking in with my official 3rd week weight-in.


The last time I weighed under 200 was 4 years ago. I'm feeling pretty pumped today!


Will check in later.

02-02-2013, 03:50 PM
Happy Saturday! It's been a productive one so far. Last night we went to see Blues at the Crossroads, a tribute to Muddy Waters and Howlin' Wolf. Superb! Thrilled with a few of the best from days gone by. Came home and we'd done a light, quick dinner early, and both of us were hungry. I waited it out, and then finally gave in and had an english muffin. I didn't hold out like Lexxiss, but I had been tempted to toss a frozen Trader Joe's imported from Italy and scrumtious cheese pizza (I added a few words to what they call it).

On the treadmill for only two miles this morning and DH and i will get out on the trail this afternoon for a snow walk. It snowed through the night and more coming later today. Have chores to get done, packing to get done, and hope to get good sleep before a too-early wake up for the flight.

I'll be following when I can, but sporadic check-ins. Aiming for 80% wise choices and 20% things I would not normally order, sliver of DH's birthday cake, etc. Now that I write that, it looks like a big chance for slipping. Maybe I need to go 90-10 ... I KNOW I don't want to come back with added weight to work to remove.

02-02-2013, 04:14 PM
Hey Coaches and Beckters:

I don't usually lose weight around the Super Bowl, but that became a possibility after last night. DW and I headed down to riverfront--temporarily renamed Super Bowl Park--and spent the night dancing away at the outdoor music fest. Funny, but you would have thought you were at a Saints rally with all call outs and responses to "Who Dat Say De Gonna Beat Dem Saints?"

Um, just the majority of the teams they faced this year.

Beautifully clear, slightly chilly night with thousands of your new best friends surrounding you, and it all ended with fireworks. It wasn't planned exercise but the spontaneity inspired me.

Until that time...

02-03-2013, 02:40 AM
Julia150: Congratulations to you on being so darn close to ONEderland!!! You are doing great!!! I need to refocus and PLAN again, so that I can follow in your footsteps! I haven't seen the 100's in a few years either. I miss it dearly!!!

02-03-2013, 07:34 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Worked a little at my DS's new house. There's so much to be done after buying a house to get it ready. Forty years owned by the same extended family means lots of small things haven't been repaired in ... well ... forty years, LOL. CREDIT moi for being a useful human being.

Only minor exercise and only OKish enough for eating. So minor CREDIT moi as it could have been worse. DW tried a new "Winter Vegetable Stew" recipe from the newspaper for dinner. Best part was lots of Hubbard Squash, otherwise a bit bland. But it made it a vegetarian day for me and my heart. Yay for trying new stuff even when it doesn't make it into the rotation.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yay for snow in those parts of the world that service skiers. And Yay for snow in those parts of the world that wish to have fresh water melting down the mountains in the summer. (Are you really going to institute a 14 mph speed limit in Aspen? Wouldn't walking be faster?)

Who Dat BigchiefDavid – Kudos for dancing. Double Kudos for spontaneous dancing with your DW outdoors with live music and fireworks. Laissez Les Bon Temps Rouler!

nationalparker – Bon Voyage! May all of you come back. But no more than that.

IBelieveInMe2 – Yep, Onederland is in your future. And "refocus and PLAN again" is indeed the path there.

Julia (Julia150) – Happy Happy 200.2 - one eleventh of a kilogram from Onederland. Holding my breath here.

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

characteristic 3
You Like the Feeling of Being Full

. . . Why did they eat well beyond the point of fullness? Probably because they all had such thoughts as:
This tastes so good. I don't want to stop.
It's a special occasion, so it's okay to splurge.
I want to show my hostess that I appreciate her efforts.
I can't resist such wonderful food.
. . . They probably also overate because they wanted to feel overly full at the end of the meal.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 36.

02-03-2013, 09:08 AM
Hi Coaches!

After anticipating a quiet day at home I was called in to work. That's ok with me. I've weighed this morning and will head down for my green smoothie the best and most reliable part of my food plan. credit. My most recent success has been to enlist the use of a cool Victorian tray. Last night all components of my planned dinner and snack (fresh pineapple) and took everything upstairs. It was a creative way to close the kitchen and this morning before I leave I'll carry all the dishes back down for cleaning. It worked well in more than one way.

BBE, I don't recall that I've ever been able to drive faster than 14mph in Aspen but interesting they are thinking of making it official. lol

02-03-2013, 11:48 AM
Good Morning Everyone,

Just realized that I don't think I've posted all week. Had to find the Feb thread and still need to go back and catch up on the last of the Jan postings. Weighed today and down another 1.6 so that's 7 total for January. Very happy with that. And even taking into consideration the last two days, Friday was the opening of the new pub in our community (we've all been waiting patiently for this for about 1 year, we live in a new community) and yesterday we celebrated youngest DS birthday (14 today he is - wow, where does the time go). He's not a football fan and his birthday always falls on Superbowl weekend so we did it a day ahead.

Very busy at work and home, not much time for extra computer surfing at either. The only place I get to at home is the WW online program and I must say I really love it and don't miss standing in front of someone to weigh for their approval or disapproval as it might be. Didn't think I'd like the online route but have been pleasantly surprised.

Well, busy day again today, already headed to the car wash with the dogs (for the car - not them), it's warmed up again here 3C this morning, on Tues it was -26C, consequently with the warm up you get the dirty cars. Sometimes I think a carwash business in Calgary could be a good thing. The dogs love the warmer weather and spend most of the day on the weekends outside, makes more puppy tracks to clean but guess it's all part of the deal. Going to pay some bills now and then tackle floors (washing and carpet cleaning - again a few puppy mistakes).

Hope everyone enjoys the day and for those Superbowl fans hope the food and drink choices fit into your plans!

02-03-2013, 11:51 AM
Hello buddies/coaches:
I did the happy dance too soon. I was up a pound today, probably because DD made some oven fries and she put lots of seasoning on them. I'm sure I stayed within my calorie limits although I am just doing it mentally. I didn't put anything in my mouth that wasn't planned.

Yesterday was spent de-junking/de-cluttering in the basement. One trip to the dump, one trip to Goodwill and a drop off of books for the library sale. Losing weight and decluttering together are working well for me.

BillBlueEyes Yes, credit for home repairs/being a useful and trying new food. DH fixed 2 light fixtures yesterday that weren't broken. How he had 4 bad lightbulbs, I don't know. Seriously, he changed the lightbulb 2 times in each fixture and none worked so he was certain that there was something wrong with the fixture. He got out his multimeter and found there was nothing wrong with the fixtures. Another lightbulb and Voila!-working lights. One of lifes jokes I guess. You can let your breath out now for me dropping below 200. Ain't gonna happen today! I don't want your face to turn blue like your eyes.
Lexxisscool idea with the tray! Do your live in Aspen? Too cool. If you don't mind me asking-do you have 2 homes and commute to the other one to see DH?
IBelieveInMe2 Come on! Let's both get to the 100's SOON! You can do it and so can I. Won't that be a beautiful day to see the 1 instead of the 2. I'm smiling thinking about that day. :)
BigChiefDave-that sounds like so much fun. I feel like I live in the most boring part of the world. Enjoy game day! It's got to be crazy there.
NationalParker Have a wonderful trip! I'm so envious of your trip to the sun/surf. I'll be going to Phoenix in 12 days. It better be sunny there....
Beth, Kitty, OnebyOne and anyone else I missed. I hope you are having a good weekend.
p.s. Tazzy, we cross posted! WhooHoo for 7 January pounds! At first I thought you meant you were washing your dogs at the carwash. LOL I had to calculate Celcius to Farenheit-huge temperature swing. What's up with the winter weather this year? -16 F. Ouch.

02-03-2013, 02:30 PM
A quick ciao to everybody! Just to say that for having been a weekend with double birthday party it's been not too bad from the eating point of view! I could have done better...but I'm learning from any of these experiences.... Anyway, new week starting with lots of walking and swimming and staying OP definetely! :-)
How was the super bowl? I know it's a special event there! :-)
Have a good week!

02-03-2013, 03:05 PM
Hi all!

I'm going to give myself credit for what I did right yesterday--ate mindfully, sitting down, rearranged my dinner to compensate for an overly large lunch. I recorded all of my food and did my 2nd day of 30DS.

My overly large lunch happened because someone brought something over. We had a (social) committee meeting at our house yesterday and I put out snacks that I'd planned for--pita and hummus, apples and caramel. One of the people brought a tray of ham and cheese croissant sandwiches. I don't know that I even thought that it wasn't on my plan. I hadn't prepared for anyone to bring anything and for me to need to resist it. And I didn't resist it. And then I had more than I intended of the stuff I had planned for.

I know that Beck says to continue eating to plan after you eat something you shouldn't, but I'd planned a rather large dinner because I hadn't planned a large lunch. I didn't "not eat", though--I just substituted a smaller meal.

I didn't plan for today before bedtime. I got up and had a 'standard breakfast' and then planned for the rest of the day. (including the big dinner I postpponed from yesterday). So, credit for planning today, even if it was partway through.

Beverlyjoy--Let me know when you post that recipe--we like Sloppy Joes here and I know my current version is not low cal. (It's delicious, though)

BillBE--You're an early riser! I'm sure your DS appreciates all the work you're putting in at his new house.

Lexiss--Credit for driving past the junk food to have your planned and healthy meal at home. It's so much harder to do that when tired and stressed. Credit for "closing the kitchen" as a mean of staying on plan.

JuliaAboutToBreakThe200PoundBarrier--Almost to ONEderland--I'm so excited for you. Even with bein up again a bit, you're still almost there. You've been working really hard.

nationalparker--Credit for having something small when you wanted something big--that's success. Two miles on the treadmill sounds impressive to me! Have a great trip--and good luck reaching your balance of wise choices. I joine BillBE in wishing you to come back without extra!

BigchiefDavid--That sounds so much fun!

IBelieveInMe2--It looks like you're heading towards ONEderland yourself. Credit of recognizing the need to refocus and plan. Planning is hard--but we only need to take it one day at a time.

Tazzy--Congrats on being down 7 pounds for January. We do have car wash businesses here--and they do a booming business in the winter on the first clear day.

Bootedkitty--Credit for keeping to a 'not too bad' eating when faced with birthday temptations!

Happy Super Bowl day to those who are participating!

02-03-2013, 08:01 PM
I had to check back in for a pep talk. For some reason, when I was folding laundry I had a big crisis of faith. I am so scared that I can't lose this extra weight and uncertain if it's possible. My confidence just went down the drain. I don't get it. Has anyone been scared, not just discouraged? I'm not even tempted to eat off plan right now. i don't know where it came from.

02-03-2013, 08:36 PM

Look at the evidence. The evidence is real--you've been losing weight--you've lost 10 pounds. So you know that what you've done has gotten you to the point where you're down 10 pounds, and you know that continuing to do what you're already doing will get you down further.

Keep your eyes on the evidence.

I'm on Yahoo! messenger a lot of the time, so feel free to IM me.

Evidence doesn't lie--you're already doing it!

02-03-2013, 09:29 PM
Hi... checking in. We've returned home. It am ready to get on the scale tomorrow.

I will post my recipe tomorrow.

We had a wonderful visit with out family. Food was OK. I made thoughtful choices and planned when I could.


02-03-2013, 10:01 PM
I've not done well today. Too many tids and bits even with many baby carrots. Very frustrated with myself. Love the "not more" coming back. I need to use this. First day in a long while that I, too, feel like I cannot regain control.

Will check in with a positive note tomorrow. Thanks for good vibes.

02-03-2013, 10:40 PM
Beth-Thank you. I don't know why I can't give myself credit for the 10 (almost) pounds I've lost. It feels fraudulent at the moment. I don't know what's gotten into me today. I'm usually feeling so confident.

OK-time for a reality check-For the last 3 weeks:
1) I've stuck with my plan about 90%. I usuallly miss a milk serving and sometimes a fruit
2) On weekends when I plan my own food I've stayed at the calorie limit of 1200 cal
3) The gray pants fit, my usual clothes aren't tight at all

I can think of a way to discount all of these things too. But I don't need to go there. The proof is in the decreasing numbers.

<sigh> Maybe I just need to sleep it off

02-03-2013, 10:47 PM
Hey Coaches and Becksters:

Quick check-in...even with the blackout and Beyonce bouncing, the game's been anti-climatic. For a lifelong football fan, that's saying a lot (of course, I'm writing this as the game is still going, so who knows? Maybe it turned out to be one of the greatest SBs). Snacked too much at a SB party, but I was in my car ready to drive to get a Sunday night dessert when I read my Advantages card and decided to forgo the ice cream. Credit moi!

BBE: CREDIT moi for being a useful human being. We need more like you.

Nationalparker: sending you some positive vibes and I know all about those tids and bits.

Until that time....

02-03-2013, 11:00 PM
Hi all,

Checking in before I call it a night. The week's meals are planned and I built my shopping list. Tomorrow's meals are all planned in detail and entered into MFP. Credit!

I stayed on plan today. I added in a snack that wasn't on my plan, but I hadn't tallied calories at the beginning of the day, and I was short. I did my 3rd day of the 30DS. My abs are sore!

I'm starting to strategize for our weekend trip to Chicago. We're driving Thursday after work and returning Sunday night. I'm bringing my laptop and the DVD so I can do the 30DS while we're gone. The hotel has a fitness room. For meals, I'm still unclear how I'm going to make it work. I emailed my aunt to ask if I can stop and pick up a veggie tray and a fruit tray for the party. My goal is going to be to not gain weight over the weekend. Chicago pizza is calling my name--one piece and a salad. I'm going to work on making as good of choices as I can.

Have a great week everyone!

02-04-2013, 06:35 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Two good walks in the light snow, CREDIT moi. Light snow creates magic without the difficulties of trudging through the stuff or the need to wear ski goggles. Like snow in a theme park, LOL.

Eating was OK, CREDIT moi. Dinner was consumed on the living room couch watching the Super Bowl - only time I eat in front of the TV. Without the Patriots in the game, I chose to root for the San Francisco 49ers. That nearly caused heart failure as hope remained until the clock ran out. DW came in periodically to comment on the commercials and then to watch the last quarter run out.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Neat idea to enlist a "cool Victorian tray." When I choose one of our best glasses, I'm happy with plain water instead of a caloric alternative.

Beverlyjoy – "Thoughtful choices" always rate Kudos.

maryann - Waving. Sending condolences for the 49ers coming within one missed call of victory. Congrats on your amazing comeback.

Tazzy - Congrats on those seven pounds gone in January. Happy 14th to your DS - challenging times those. Hope you and your new pub can work out a healthy relationship.

BigchiefDavid – Yep, Super Bowl snacking is a challenge since it's a national tradition. Kudos for stopping that ice cream attack. Thanks for hosting the Super Bowl so our TV is filled with shots of New Orleans. And Congrats for getting the lights back on - it got a bit tiring hearing a zillion sports announcers speculating that the lights may or may not go back on.

nationalparker – Good Vibes! Good Vibes! Good Vibes! Frustration happens. And then it goes away.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Good grief . . . spontaneous ham and cheese croissant sandwiches would be a blow to any plan. If only pita and hummus are available, it's easy for me to eat mindfully. [Yep, I'm a morning person. Usually have the house to myself for a spell.]

Julia (Julia150) – Fantastic hat trick, " One trip to the dump, one trip to Goodwill and a drop off of books for the library sale." My sympathy to your DH for four dead light bulbs - I've wasted many an hour after installing a new part that arrived dead. Beck's chapter on Exaggerated Thinking can help when the all-or-nothing thoughts arrive uninvited. Catch 22 is that you haven't lost your mind if you can have that thought.

Kitty (Bootedkitty) – Double birthday party sounds like a challenge. Kudos for surviving. Super Bowl and Super Bowl eating are done for the year. I wish over eating wasn't part of the tradition.

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

characteristic 3
You Like the Feeling of Being Full

The Beck Diet Solution
This program teaches you how to change your mindset so that you actually feel good about feeling reasonably full at the end of meals. It takes practice, but you'll get to the point where instead of feeling deprived when you get up from the table, you'll automatically say, I'm so glad I didn't overeat.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 36.

02-04-2013, 06:45 AM
Hi Coaches!

OP yesterday except for the 3 small FF's I nibbled on at work. I did, however, resist the old cake from the bosses BD, which I was "welcome to take home". credit. I've weighed this morning and have my day planned.

Julia, thanks for asking....we moved from Alaska in 2003 because my mom is "here"-turned 91 in August.
~ "Here" is 20 m. W. of Denver in the small town where I graduated from high school. I got my job "here" in Oct. 2011.
~"There" is 120 m. further West. (GlenwoodSprings) They claim the largest year round outdoor hotspringspool. Aspen is 45 m. upvalley from GWS and I spent several years of my childhood halfwayinbetween.(Carbondale) We bought a mobile home a mile from the pool in 2005 for a getaway and formed friends there really fast. It's where our hearts hang out. We drive through Aspen alot because it has a summer shortcut over the continental divide.
I do enjoy my job-the $$ are making other things happen and my mom is pretty settled in. We just travel back and's exactly 2 hours on a nice day. My DH is retired with a disability so sometimes he will stay "there" while I work.
It's a workable arrangement.

02-04-2013, 10:38 AM
Good Morning Coaches
I slept on it and I feel a little bit better. I didn't help that I was p.o.'d at my DH.
Did you all see the flash of lightening about an hour ago?? It must have been mostly above my house. I did my daily weight and I've broken the 200# barrier! 199.4 I didn't feel like eating yesterday so I ate too few calories so likely it will go back above 200 but I'm not going to see it because I am not going to weigh for a few days. So There!

MaryAnn I hope your trip to the beach was great.
Bill-Thanks for the advice. I will be checking out that chapter.
Lexxis-Thanks for the explanation. I love outdoor hotsprings in the winter, esp. when it's lightly snowing.
Beth thanks again for your encouragement. Is 30DS the thirty day shred by Jillian Michaels? DD and I are going to check it out on youtube after school. How do you like it? I read some reviews and it will probably kill me.
NationalParker Don't forget your good advice you shared about taking the wrong exit and just continueing the wrong direction. turn around now and stick to your plan. Don't throw ALL your fine china on the floor!
Dave I thought the game improved after the lights came on. SF woke up! We were here at home so no extra food to tempt.

It's off to work now.
Everyone have a good day!

02-04-2013, 10:57 AM
Julia and nationalparker: I am sending you strength and the courage to continue moving forward on your journey!!! I often get afraid and discouraged on my weight loss journey, but that is when I read everything I can get my hands on to regain my focus. So good of both of you to come here when feeling discouraged. CREDIT for reaching out for help.

Julia: Your post just appeared that you have officially entered ONEderland!!!!! That is so awesome!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :D :carrot: I am so happy for you! :hug: I hope and pray that I am close behind, but I still have about 5 pounds to go..... (sigh)..... I am afraid I will never get there, but I am concentrating on doing the right stuff and trusting that the scale will eventually follow. I need to get and stay more consistent with my entire program (planning, food, and exercise). I will get there ~ one day at a time! It is about progress and not perfection, and I have definitely made progress in the past month.

02-04-2013, 11:36 AM
I went missing for way too long. An unintentional side effect to the practice "write before internet." It's been great for my writing! Not so great for the things I really want to do on the internet. Babies and bathwater come to mind.

I'm going to try "a few important things on the internet, then write" and hope that my new writing habit can sustain that. It will take me a few days to get back in the swing of things here, I guess, but I'm committed to making it happen.

02-04-2013, 12:37 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

Wedding weekend was good although not very relaxing. I had to tend to some family stuff--acting mature and responsible. I am glad I did it and I am glad I am done with it. I exercised everyday and made good food choices for the most part but just ate too much. Scale reflects it this morning but we will see how much the weight sticks tomorrow. Food planned for the day along with yoga. Teaching music in DS class.

I read a great quote the other day attributed to Buddhism but can't verify: "The problem is you think you have time." That really sums up why I am facing these addictions that keep me out of the moment, un-present. I am nearly fifties years into my "100 years" (I am counting on) and don't want to miss another second.

Julia150: Super terrific being in the one-sies. Read Day 36 in Beck "Believe it." It talks about the feelings you are having.
BBE: I am glad the Niner's made a game of it. I do not pout over any calls--That is the way the game goes. My great consolation is never having to hear from Ray Lewis again.

02-04-2013, 10:58 PM
Hey Coaches and Becksters:

Well the Carnival gods are giving us two days rest and then it's back to hedonism. In my case, our first major parade won't occur until Thursday night, which DW is dancing in. My job is to somehow keep my four-year-old son corralled and not lose my nine-year-old daughter. I have a plan, which if I use the 3fc system would be OPP (on parade plan), but I prefer not to for karmic reasons. In our town, OPP stands for Orleans Parish Prison, and I definitely don't want any of that.

I was OP today and I felt satisfied with my choices. I find more and more that because I'm eating slower and mindfully, I feel full at the end of meals and not tempted to eat more or desserts. Credit moi and Beck.

Until that time...

02-04-2013, 11:22 PM
Quick stop in. Cool thing happened this morning. When I was dressed and ready to go out the door, DD told me spontaineously that she can see a difference in my size. She said she didn't know how to say it without sounding mean but my stomach and hips look smaller. First person to notice and say something! I'm 15.2 pounds lower than the first part of November.
GardenerjoyYours was one of the first stories I read when I came to 3FC. I was and am inspired to read your story. I am looking forward to getting to know you.
IBelieveInMe2- thank you for your encouragement. I don't know what triggered my sudden feeling but I'm sure it stems from my "failures" at maintaining weight loss. And there are many, many of these failures. You are so right-stick with your plan and with lowered intake and more exercise you can't help but succeed. I'm waiting here on the other side of 200 cheering for you to join me.
Maryann Thank you for the reference from Dr. Beck and the support. I completely identify with your not living in the moment. I've missed so many things because of waiting to be thinner. Kudos for getting right back to your plan. It sounds like a busy weekend and maybe with some stress (?) involved.
See you tomorrow.

02-05-2013, 06:44 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Took off to see what ocean ducks were out. I'll count it as exercise since it was so cold with strong winds that I must have shivered the equivalent of a treadmill ride. CREDIT moi for having enough sense to wear extra layers, starting with a wool base layer. It's still hard for me to believe that I put wool next to the skin, but that's the design and it works. Boy does it ever contribute to warmth. We saw many Harlequins - ocean ducks with wild colors from which the name. We paused for lunch in the car on a pier with a clear view. A HUGE Great Black-backed Gull sat on a rock in front of us watching us eat. There was no doubt that it knew we were eating and that any loss of vigilance meant that our sandwich would be his.

Eating was on plan, CREDIT moi, except for the minor excursion when a member of our group passed around thin mints; I had one - Ouch but glad to have my thin mint hit since they're on my list of foods that I need every now and then to avoid feeling deprived.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Kudos for wrestling with balance; may you find what you seek. I do like the part of me that can hyper-focus even though that means the exclusion of some desirable sane stuff.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – I've never used 'upvalley' in a sentence; I suppose I need to get me to a place with real mountains. Kudos for leaving that cake at work.

maryann - Yay for "mature and responsible" even at a cost. When I'm in charge of the planet, all family events will be sheer joy. [LOL at "never having to hear from Ray Lewis again."]

BigchiefDavid – OPP sounds good to me. There's a news headline that I skipped this morning stating that Beyoncι didn't cause the Superdome blackout. I can't imagine anything it could say that would make me happier than just reading that someone felt called upon to state that. I assume that your DS didn't cause it either, LOL.

IBelieveInMe2 – Seems like a mindful path, "I am concentrating on doing the right stuff" - it does seem easier when we do our part and just let our body do its part.

JuliaOnederland (Julia150) – I did see a flash and wondered what it was about. "So There!" indeed. Kudos for accepting that the scale reading is real. And Kudos for raising a DD both sensitive enough and kind enough to tell her mom she's visibly smaller.

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

characteristic 4
You Fool Yourself About How Much You Eat

Thin people generally have a pretty good gauge of how much they eat. They don't overeat very often, and when they do, they naturally eat less at their next meal or two to compensate for it.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 36.

02-05-2013, 08:45 AM
Hi Coaches!

My plan took a turn yesterday. I ended up being "really" hungry at work yesterday evidenced the feeling of hunger and several other signs...a little clumsiness and general brain disorganization. I ate half a western omelette (waitress mistake) and pitched the rest. It did make me feel better. Got right back OP and ate light last night...too tired. I've weighed this morning and will make sure I put enough stuff in my morning smoothie since it's designed to get me through the day.

BBE, shivering and being generally cold is not my first choice for exercise. lol Remembering when I used to enjoy all the sea ducks from my front window in Alaska. I've always marveled at how they endure those cold seas.

Julia, kudos for practicing skills taking you into onederland!

gardenerjoy, glad to hear from you...admit that I looked elsewhere for you the other day and found you (of course) on the Feb. exercise thread!

MaryAnn, thx for the quote....I had to think about it for a minute.

BigChiefDavid, yay for recognizing that eating slowly and mindfully helps you to feel full and resist foods that aren't "top choice".

IBelieveinMe2, kudos for recognizing how much progress you've made in the last month despite the sabotaging thought surrounding your next 5 pound goal.

02-05-2013, 11:28 AM
Back again for a quick post. I have been maintaining good habits and maintaining my weight in the bottom half of my maintenance range recently, even while I was gone. I've been playing the Game On Diet (book by Krista Vernoff and Az Ferguson) with some book blogger friends. I may keep up that food plan even after the game finishes this week. I didn't like it at first but it's been working remarkably well for me. It's five small meals each consisting of a healthy carb or fruit, a lean protein, and a healthy fat, at least two meals must have vegetables. That's hard enough for me to plan that I've created a selection of meals to choose from and I rarely deviate because I can't come up with a legal deviation fast enough to bother.

Lexxiss: Thanks for checking up on me! Good job managing your food plan's turn yesterday and working on a strategy for today.

BillBlueEyes: We used to do some snowshoeing in the winter and I was surprised that wool was actually quite a comfort in the winter. Apparently it's bad reputation is due to a combination of low quality wools and that some people are allergic to it.

Julia150: I'm looking forward to getting to know you, too! Glad to have you on board.

02-05-2013, 04:06 PM
Hi buddies/coaches,
Stopping by for a quick check in at lunch. Well, I may never get past daily weighing. My plan to avoid the scale for a few days lasted, oh, less than 24 hours. 199.6 was the answer. So maybe, just maybe, I can believe it wasn't a fluke/temporary.
Beth My DD and I did the first level of the 30DS. I did pretty low impact. I don't care what she says that she has 400# people doing jumping jacks. I'd rather have functioning knees. I definitely got a work out but I'm not at all sore today so I'm thinking I need to work harder. What day are you on? What level?
BillBE That sounds very cold. Good for you to brave the weather so see some nature. And good job staying OP.
Dave Good job staying OP. You have had many temptations thrown in your path lately!
Back to work

02-05-2013, 06:34 PM

It feels like I've been underground like the groundhog so far this month. Head down and nose to the grindstone I have seen through a volunteer project to get the guild's tea room, which I voluntarily manage, painted. Two colours: silver leaf white on top with pewter mug gray on all the wainscotting and the door frames, doors and window frames. Funny, after the two coats of white I felt let down. It was the weirdest thing as an overwhelming feeling washed over me that I was simply returning the room to what it used to be. Weird as well as a long time member commented that the colours I chose were the original ones they saw in there.


I had about 8 volunteers to help me over the 3 days of painting and then I had a day before that getting the supplies and a day after attempting to return stuff into its place but I gave up after I accidentally chipped the corner of the protective glass on one of the tables. Now I have to get that replaced. That was the last straw. I went home and left it unfinished. Tomorrow I will return to that space with the support of 3 others to complete the job. It's also my turn to clean the pottery studio. I am responsible for 1/2 the list only. t shoudl be about an hour of work.

How This Affected My Food

Well I wish I knew how it directly affected my thinking and reacting to food but it put me into one of the worst places I have been with food in some time. To see myself taking care of Others, and positing several more ambitious, complicated, interesting plans for the guild while I can't get my own life and my own priorities sorted out is.... demoralizing.It was so obvious that I am not my own priority and my inability to drop any more weight ie. stick to my foodplan reflects this. Also, this week after washing my jeans they are tight in the calf and in the waist. Had I not donated my larger sized jeans I'd be wearing them so *credit* for doing that as I am nudged to deal with this weight gain before I have 25+ lbs back on.

I'm going to attend a local support group tonight. It's been a year since I did that and, coincidentally (don't think so) my weightloss stopped about a month after I stopped going. I need more than WW and checking in here, though without you guys, I would surely be 300+lbs, and as I head back down the scale I also know you will still be here for me. Thank you.

Bye for now.

02-05-2013, 07:48 PM
Hi coaches/friends... I am checking in. I got on the scale today and yesterday (credit) & I am up 3 pounds since last Wednesday. I looked at my journal and it seems like I am up and down with the same five pounds for the past several months. I've been between 215 - 220. It's not really much progress, only that I haven't gained alot in that period of time.

Yesterday I went to see an orthopedic back doctor (he's the doc for the hockey team) He's a DO & he gave me an OMT (orthopedic maniupulation therapy??)... boy, it sure did make my back feel finally better.

Today I met my new primary care doctor. I like her very well. I am pleased.

I promised the recipe for Sloppy Giuseppe's- I am posting it in the recipe section.

I'll try and catch up tonight with what everyone is doing.

02-05-2013, 11:06 PM
Hi all!

Food has been OP today except that I forgot to check how many ounces of steak I was going to eat, so I put 5 oz on my plate, rather than the 4 oz I'd put down in my plan. It still stayed within calories (and it was good).

Confession: I had never grilled a steak before. I did it on the George Foreman grill. I've always been afraid of steaks, but it was easy. I wouldn't have done it this time except DH asked for steak--and he never asks for a specific meal. Now we'll be doing it often.

I had planned for, and enjoyed, a single serving of ice cream last night. I purchased it serving size so I wouldnt be tempted. I enjoyed it--but not as much as I expected to. As a "savor every bite" kind of thing, it wasn't oodles better than the fresh raspberries I had for dinner tonight--it might not even have been as good! That's a good thing to have learned. Cutting (processed) sweets makes me crave them less, although I have fresh fruit at all three meals, and sometimes with my snack.

Exercise has been mostly OP, too. I got up to do Day 5, Level 1 of the 30DS and that was good. I usually walk 16 minutes with a co-worker twice a day--and we only did part of that in the morning lap because my knee was bothering me. I'm trying to decide how to proceed with the 30DS because sore knees are not an acceptable option, but I don't want to break the 'get up before work and exercise' plan.

I've been doing a pretty good job of entering my food into MFP in advance--easier on weekdays than weekends, but I'm going to keep at it. I won't be able to pre-plan Thursday lunch or any of Fri/Sat/Sun since we'll be traveling. At least we'll be doing a lot of walking, and I am looking forward to spending a few hours at the Chicago Art Institute!

gardenerjoy: I see your quote on Tazzy's sig: It's easier to stay on plan than it is to get back on plan. It ought to be on one of my response cards!

BillBE: What a lovely walk--ocean ducks and gulls during lunch. A thin mint is necessary to get through Girl Scout cookie season.

nationalparker: I'm sending lots of good vibes--and a belief that you can do this!

Lexiss: Credit for tossing half the omelette-eating what you needed and then stopping before eating it all.

Julia150: I'm so excited for you at being in the 1xx range! It is the 30 Day Shred. I'm going to do a light version the next two days and then rest from it in Chicago and see how my knees are doing. I'm also going to post in the exercise forum here for suggestions for a less strenuous-on-the-knees direction. It's great that DD noticed the size reduction, even if tact wasn't her strong point.

onebyone: Credit for recognizing that a support group is a good idea for you. Do you think you need to re-read the priority days? Credit for recognizing the priority issue-solutions can't come until after recognition.

IBelieveInMe2: You are close behind--you'll be in ONEderland soon! DH pointed out to me that I was trying to do everything at once (he also pointed out I was out of shape and overweight, but he was trying to be supportive about why 30DS was probably hurting my knees). You have a lot you're trying to focus on--planning, food, and exercise. That's just a lot all at once--and the best way to GOOD is through BEGUN.

maryann: Credit for good food choices while away--and exercising while away--those are hard. I hope none of the weight sticks!

BigchiefDavid: Deefinite credit for feeling full after eating slowly and mindfully. I'm finding the same thing. YAY for Beck.

Beverlyjoy: I'm so glad the back doctor was able to help you--back pain can be so all-consuming.

Have a great Wednesday everyone!

02-05-2013, 11:55 PM
Good Evening, Coaches.

Today is the day that never ends. Worked straight through lunch, came straight home to make dinner, then piano, now state project and i am beat. Quick check in because I am listening to son decide what "I" in the ABC Book on Vermont will be. I say insect (honeybee and monarch state bug and butterfly). He says "I" could be "information" Who will win, who will win?

OP until I tried to cure super tired with some chocolate. Ate almost no dinner for compensation. Not ideal but "Oh well."

02-06-2013, 01:03 AM
Hey Coaches and Becksters:

Quick checkin...Stayed OP today, but I've been slacking on the exercise and I'm planning on swimming tomorrow. I read the "Keep Up with Exercise" last night and I think I need some response cards for motivation and inspiration. It's ironic that previously exercise was the part of healthier me that was always the easiest to maintain. Of course, nowadays I'm not using food to reward the exercise (lightbulb suddenly turns on). Eureka!

Julia150 It's no fluke: you're doing it!

Lexxis I'm hoping your energy returns.

02-06-2013, 06:07 AM
Hi Coaches!

An early check in today....I went to bed very early and as a result yesterday was OP. My energy has returned and I'm packing up so I can leave right after work to go hang with DH, the pup and my pool friends for 4 days. I found myself using NO CHOICE several times at work yesterday and made sure to pack a lunch since I'd had a tough go the day before. Planning really helps. Lunch is already packed for today, too, and I'll grab a trusty banana from work before I leave for a nice snack on my drive over.

Onward and upward!

02-06-2013, 07:02 AM
(I also posted this in recipe thread)

Crock Pot Sloppy Guiseppe's (Italian Sloppy Joe's)


1 lb Italian turkey sausage, removed from casing
1/2 cup chopped onions
3 cloves garlic, minced
1 red bell pepper, chopped in 1/2-inch pieces
1 green bell pepper, chopped in 1/2-inch pieces
1 1/3 cups crushed tomatoes
1/2 tsp dried rosemary
salt and fresh cracked pepper, to taste

For serving:
6 whole wheat 100 calorie potato rolls**
6 slices reduced fat provolone (Sargento)
1 cup baby spinach


In a medium non-stick skillet, cook the sausage over medium-high heat, breaking up as it cooks into small bits until cooked through, about 5-6 minutes. Add onions and garlic, and cook another 2 minutes. Transfer to the slow cooker and add the bell peppers, crushed tomatoes, rosemary and fresh cracked pepper. Mix. Cook four hours on low.

My family loved it. DH and DS suggested using hot Italian sausage instead of the sweet Italian sausage I used. (too spicy for me with the hot). Use 1/2 the amount of peppers if they are quite large. It kind of taste like the sausage and peppers at a fair or street food. Yum.

Servings: 6 • Size: 1 sandwich • Old Points: 6 pts • Weight Watchers Points+: 8 pts*
Calories: 316 • Fat: 11.4 g • Protein: 27 g • Carb: 27.4 g • Fiber: 14 g • Sugar: 7.6 g
Sodium: 461.5 mg (without the salt)

02-06-2013, 07:31 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Another visit to physical therapy to be given one more exercise demonstrating that my left leg isn't as strong as my right. It's a good strategy to remind me that I have to keep working the muscles to build them back. Apparently I thought just sending them a memo took care of my part of the responsibilities. Then gym, CREDIT moi, where I saw another compulsive gym rat carefully moving dumbbells back to their proper locations. I am not the only an*l guy there, LOL.

Eating on plan, CREDIT moi. Dinner included fresh fish that was a tad tasteless - gotta figure out why. Fish is too good to ever be tasteless. Might have been farmed or something. Got more exercise when DW and I walked to a lecture about Louis Agassiz, the leading U.S. scientist of the mid 1800's despite his rejection of Darwin's new work and despite serious racist views. He was a leading figure deeply committed to not changing his ideas.

onebyone – Yep, we're here for you. Kudos for using your jeans as motivation. Congrats for your accomplishment for the guild. You deserve to give yourself credit for tending to a group that matters in your life.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Five meals a day does seem a challenge. Love the thought, "I can't come up with a legal deviation fast enough to bother." Do you have an opinion about schools dropping cursive writing?

Debbie (Lexxiss) – I so marvel at the wildlife portion of your Alaskan years. I also shudder thinking about the cold and shortened daylight. Best sentence of the day: "I'll grab a trusty banana."

Beverlyjoy – Thanks for posting your recipe for Sloppy Giuseppe's - that's one of the comfort foods that make me feel great about once a year or so. Yay for a back doctor giving your back some relief.

maryann - Tired does not cure chocolate. Tired does not cure chocolate. Tired does not cure chocolate. (Or something like that.)

BigchiefDavid – Such a whack upside the head, "nowadays I'm not using food to reward the exercise" - always a surprise to be reminded how much we rewarded ourselves with food.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – "Cutting (processed) sweets makes me crave them less" works for me, too. Kudos for recognizing the limits of ecstasy from ice cream.

OnederlandJulia (Julia150) – Believe, yes, BELIEVE. It wasn't a fluke.

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

characteristic 4
You Fool Yourself About How Much You Eat

. . .People who struggle with dieting, however, often delude themselves about how much they eat. In fact, at times you might deliberately try not to notice what you're eating because you know you would feel bad if you really paid attention. For example, you might eat a pint of ice cream standing at the freezer or finish an entire bag of chips while watching TV. It's as if part of you believes, If I'm not fully conscious of what I'm doing, it's okay to keep eating.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pgs 36-37.

02-06-2013, 10:19 AM
Quick Ciao, busy days at work, I need to "cut" some time for myself and for this forum to read your posts!!! Anyway, all fine with sports and eating OP, but I guess this week I won't lose a gram, but it's ok...let's go on and focus on what I can do today to do my best as Dr.Becks teaches us!
Have a good day!

02-06-2013, 10:30 AM
I was disappointed that I didn't do the 30DS this morning. :( I rolled out of bed at 6:30 when the alarm first went off. I grabbed a robe and went downstairs to start the DVD and just going down the stairs hurt my knees. Even a modified version didn't sound like such a good idea with sore knees. I really want to make a habit of exercising before work, so I need to find something else.

Tomorrow I'll have been at this a month, so I thought it'd be good for me to give myself credit for my accomplishments:

I'm working through the Beck book and learning how to think about food and respond to sabotaging thoughts
I'm using those thought processes most of the time
I'm eating sitting down
I'm eating more mindfully and enjoying my food more
I'm recording everything I eat in MFP
I did the leave food on the plate exercise and have regularly left food on my plate if I get full before I've eaten it all
I'm walking 30 minutes a day on work days
I started the 30DS so I know I can do a DVD workout once I find one that works for my body
I posted on the Exercise forum asking for an alternative to 30DS that's low impact
I made an appt with my PCP to get blood work done
I'm checking in and giving and getting support here on the Beck forum close to every day
I'm planning my food the night before or in the morning
I'm planning a week's meals at a time and going grocery shopping on schedule
We're eating at home more because of my planning and shopping, which saves money :D and keeps me on track
I'm bringing my lunch to work every day, keeping me out of the tempting canteen or from going out for fast food
We're eating a lot more fresh fruit and vegetables, so I've improved the quality of our eating, not just portion control
I haven't had a sweet snack at work all month
I've resisted donuts every time someone has brought them inI put this list together to put my stopping 30DS into perspective. And that isn't even a failure as much as a recognition that it isn't working for my body

02-06-2013, 10:45 AM
Just a quick check in. The scale is a big, fat liar. Today I was 200.2. I'm OK with that because I know I'm following my plan. I wish I could give up daily weights.
OnebyOne Glad you checked in, I've been wondering what's going on. You really took on a big job, big credit your devotion to your guild. I can understand wanting to do that over planning food. It's a whole lot more fun to spend time doing something with friends, for friends and seeing results of your labors in a short time. Planning food/diet is boring and not fast results (that's my issue, maybe not yours) Glad to hear you have a face to face group for support. I do like the daily support here though.
Beth- I really think that the 30DS is hard on my knees with this much weight onboard. I really did low impact and will probably have to exagerate the low impact stuff to have a good result.
MaryAnn Yes, oh well is a good response to the chocolate moment. A sincere question...How did the chocolate make you feel?
Lexxiss safe journey!
BillBE I disagree with you on the fish-I think it's all nasty. But good for you, someone has to eat that stuff. (except seafood, that I love)
Dave Thanks for the reality check.
Kitty Howdy, hope all is well
BeverlyJoy thanks for the recipie, it sounds good, I may give it a try this weekend.
IBelieveInMe2-I've gotta get ready for work but thinking of you!


02-06-2013, 10:46 AM
Beth- we crossed posted.
Holy Cow-look at all you've done! I am impressed and in awe of you!

02-06-2013, 12:19 PM
Hi, everyone. My name is Jenny, and I am just starting out on the Beck plan. They told me to find a "diet buddy," and it looks like this is the best place for me at the moment. I'm turning 47 this year, and while I am still reasonably fit (can climb stairs with a load of laundry), I am heavier than I have ever been at close to 200 lbs, and I would like to live the rest of my life at a better fitness level and at least be around for my daughters and husband as long as possible. I'm looking forward to participating in the forum. Thanks.

02-06-2013, 12:34 PM
Today's challenge is an excessively busy day. But I have a food plan and little time to deviate so I expect it to go well.

Julia150 and bethFromDayton: I talk back to Jillian when she brags about 400# people doing jumping jacks. I'll do jumping jacks when I get an all-expense paid trip to the Biggest Loser ranch and a chance to win big money. Without that incentive, no way. I figure I have a limited number of jumps left in my knees and I'm saving every last one of them for jumping off the back of the pickup truck when we're working in the yard. I substitute dance moves for all jumping moves in exercise videos, including Jillian's.
You might try Ellen Barrett -- her DVDs are longer but much gentler on the knees while still incorporating cardio, strength, and stretching in one workout.
I think some of Leslie Sansone's DVDs also have some strength-training and they are definitely low-impact.

BillBlueEyes: old-time librarians were taught "library hand" in school -- a neat noncursive form of writing used on the cards in card catalogs. Of course, they don't teach that anymore but I've run across old-time librarians who think they should! I guess it's character-building.

Welcome, Jenny19072! You're in the right place for diet buddies! This is a great group.

02-06-2013, 01:56 PM
Hi Becksters/coaches... I've been to the grocery and have a good supply healthy foods. My visit to the doctor was a reminder of being mindful about sodium in food along with foods that don't create reflux. It's challenging... but, I can do it. I need to keep my sodium from between 1500 and 2000mgs. For a while I have to cut out coffee, caffiene, chocolate, oily foods, citrus, tomatoes, onions... I'll be doing lots of planning.

I got out my journal and have planned my food for today. As much as I love being with my family... I must admit that it's often easier to have food sanity when I am home.... in my food 'comfort zone'. Mind you... it's no guarantee... but, it's helpful to be home.

I am feeling kind of blue. I need some sunshine!!!! I'll have to wait for some sunny days, I guess. A facebook friend just posted a picture with this saying: 'Some days you just have to create your own sunshine'. It's such a good reminder... but, I am not sure how to do this.

gardenerjoy.. credit for making a plan on your busy day.

jenny - WELCOME! So glad you posted. Folks here are friendly and helpful.

Julia150 - you said: The scale is a big, fat liar. I laughed out loud when I read that. You TELL that old scale. Credit for knowing it's just a number impacted by LOTS of things. Carry on.

bethfromdayton - I am doing a happy dance in honor of all your wonderful accomplishments! You are so right... can't focus on the ONE thing you didn't do. Also MUST focus on all the credits during the day. Excellent.

bootedkitty - glad you checked in. Some days it's hard to find the time for the forum... I often have to 'force' myself... always glad when I do, however.

billbe aha!... you've found another person who also returns the weights to the right spot. Good. Soon your muscle strength will be more even as time goes on. Credit.. for being OP.

lexxiss/debbie.. I, too, will sometimes go to bed early just to stay out of the food. It works. However, then I am up at 4am. Generally, I won't eat in the morning until around 8am. Credit for planning, packing and saying NO Choice!!

02-06-2013, 06:33 PM

Things are better today after finding a group I actually like last night. huh. go figure. Woke up *happy* and re-charged today. First time in a while.

Went to the guild. 3 members helped me thoroughly clean and declutter the tea room--a massive credit for doing that which was NOT planned but the others there just took it on. It was a mystery to me what to do next (decluttering/cleaning/organizing my achille's heel but I am improving) so I asked for help and was shepherded along.

Yay for people.

Food not bad except for fabulous cookies brought by the son of a volunteer helping straighten up the craft gallery side of the building the tea room is in (not my domain thank goodness). I did plan to do the tea room so if the gallery needed me I'd lend a hand. They were fine. I left early. Anyway, ate 4 cookies like I was a vaccuum cleaner. Then stopped. *credit*

Bye for now.

02-06-2013, 11:37 PM
Hey Coaches and Fellow Becksters:

Stayed OP today and managed to get in a decent early morning walk before my 8 am meeting. Tomorrow's a big day for the family: DW is dancing in the Muses Parade, which is all ladies Mardi Gras krewe (she's in the CT lady steppers--I'll leave the acronym to your imaginations) and I'll be prowling the streets for a parking spot that's, hopefully, only a half a mile or so from our viewing destination. Mardi Gras parades are famous for "parade throws:" the beads, doubloons, assorted plastic crap etc...but there are also highly-coveted signature throws, which in the case of Muses!

The women don't really throw the shoes, but I suppose if they did and a husband or two were clobbered, then they probably deserved it. :devil: Along with the throws, floats, marching bands, flambeaux carriers (yep, tipsy men carrying propane-fueled torches--what could possibly go wrong?), there will be long tables of king cakes, fried chicken, chips, desserts of many shapes and sizes.

BUT I HAVE RESPONSE CARDS!!!! And, of course, thanks to y'all and Beck, a few more tricks up my costume.

Until that time and weighing in tomorrow...

p.s. BBE: "He was a leading figure deeply committed to not changing his ideas." That line had me laughing out loud.

02-06-2013, 11:41 PM
Good evening all!

A quick check in as I'm really tired tonight and just got out of a hot jet tub and am ready to go to sleep! Work is busy, home is busy, I've had DH drop me off at the gym again this week since that works best. Had a small dinner and then took the puppies for a 30 minute power walk. Hopefully the walk and fresh air will make them sleep through the night :yawn: I think that's part of my being tired as well. Have been staying OP pretty well, decided last night to have some graham crackers for a snack and thought it was 2 points for 4. After eating 8 I checked the program to discover it was then 7 points. Ouch, but it should teach me to check before eating.

No time for personals tonight, too tired. Will get back for some on the weekend. :wave:

02-07-2013, 07:37 AM
:welcome: Jenny (Jenny19072) :welcome:

And, on the occasion of your first post, :wel3fc:

How did you find out about the books by Dr. Judith Beck?

And how did you find our Beck forum here on 3 Fat Chicks?

02-07-2013, 07:42 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Lots of good walking, CREDIT moi, included a trip to the library to fetch Life of Pi. Having seen the movie, I want to read enough to determine how close the movie came. Also had to read the final scene since it passed quickly on the screen and is crucial to making the key decision what to believe. Being deliberately vague since it's a good movie to see either after reading the book or without knowing the ending.

But the day included lunch with a group with nonstop talking. Food came from a self-serve table - only middling stuff but I ate as if I had to get my money's worth. Just got distracted by all the chatting and meeting a zillion people I hadn't met before but will be meeting again. New people challenge me and multiple new people at once is like Dante's ninth level. It's a non-repeating event, so it's not a future problem for me. Nevertheless, I wish I'd been more mindful.

onebyone – Yay for "re-charged" - you're so powerful when grounded. Cookies is what got me at lunch yesterday. May both of us return to mindfulness.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Busy is good. Hope it's making you happy. [Good grief, I'd never heard of "library hand" - but am sitting here remembering that I can read all index cards and penciled notations on books.]

Beverlyjoy – Such a lovely thought, 'Some days you just have to create your own sunshine.' Kudos for "doing lots of planning."

Tazzy - Yay for a "power walk" with your two lively puppy trainers. Apparently this is busy times for Beck posters.

BigchiefDavid – Continue to send supportive thoughts for remaining sane when all of New Orleans is dedicated to insanity. LMAO at "CT lady steppers" - it doesn't get better than Southern bawdy.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Congrats on your First Month Anniversary. 36 Kudos - one for each of your accomplishments and one each for giving yourself credit for them. Neat list.

Julia (Julia150) – Alas, the scale jitters up and down, requiring you to keep the faith in the path you're taking.

Kitty (Bootedkitty) – Thanks for the clear and simple, "focus on what I can do today."

Jenny (Jenny19072) – We'll collectively be glad to be your Diet Buddy(ies) and ask that you play that role for us. Are you reading the "green book?" Kudos for posting your first two Advantages: "a better fitness level and be around for my daughters and husband." Glad you've joined us.

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

characteristic 4
You Fool Yourself About How Much You Eat

[I]...You'll learn how to effectively respond
to the voice in your head that tries to convince
. . . . .you that you must eat right now!

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 37.

02-07-2013, 10:56 AM
Hi Coaches!

Travel went well yesterday, although I forgot my trusty banana. :lol: Food choices were reasonable since I didn't have a "plan" for dinner. Water aerobics is on my agenda today and some really healthy meals are planned. I always get really motivated when we go visit our local CSA. It's just such a great concept and yesterday's visit even included a trip to the basil greenhouse to pick several hot peppers for a thai veggie dish.

BBE, glad you are delving deeper into the ending of the movie. I thought the movie was great and haven't read the book.

:welcome2: Jenny, kudos for embarking on the Beck journey and hopping right on here as a diet buddy!

BigChiefDavid, my neighbor has hundreds of beads hanging on the porch of his old looks pretty festive! Great job with all your response cards during all the festivities!

onebyone, glad you are feeling more centered! I notice I have those days when everything just feels like too much and reaching out for support is such a great strategy! Credit!

Ok, better get that smoothie made and head to the pool!

02-07-2013, 11:06 AM
Hi friends/becksters/coache... I had a healthy day yesterday... I am so grateful.

I planned my food and diligently kept track of my sodium and planned only for non-reflux foods. Credit. It takes time and effort.. but, I know I can do it.

I did some journalling, drank alot of water, did my exercises, always left a bite, said 'not fair- oh well' many times, and tried to eat a bit slower.

Today is a paperwork day: banking, some tax things, letters, etc. It's got to get done and I am not waiting until the very last minute. However, I do have some thank you notes that are way over due.

billbe - Credit for your walk to the libary. It's nice that you can walk so many place where you live! Oops on the extra at the gathering. They say a blizzard is coming your way. Be careful now. I hope it doesn't shut everything down and bring life to a 'stop'.

tazzy - many credits! Your tub with a jets sounds wonderful. Great idea to have DH drop you off at the gym... once you are there, you'll get to it. (Sometimes it challenging to muster up the energy to go to the gym.) Carry on.

bigcheifdavid credit for you OP day! Sounds like lots of fun for Mardi Gras. LOVE the name of your wife's group.

onebyone - being recharged and happy are certainly a good feelings. Yes, credit for stopping at four cookies!

lexxis/debbie - glad the trip went well. Once I forgot my banana on a road trip and got one at the gas station. They had apples, too. (they are like mini marts anymore) Healthy planned meals ahead... sounds great. Carry on.

Have a good day.

This came thru my facebook today:

Beck Think Thin Thursday Tip: Successful weight loss and maintenance is a combination of all the small things you do in a day, not a result of any one big thing. That’s why it’s important to give yourself credit for every big AND small thing you do well!

02-07-2013, 11:51 AM
Thanks, Beverlyjoy, for the Thursday tip! I'll take credit for not letting the cheese of the month club shipment derail my eating yesterday. We had a lovely little cheese tasting and wrote in the tasting log book that came with our first shipment. All while standing, but much more attuned to what I'm eating than normal. It took the place of one of my small "meals" and I know it wasn't too much because I'm at the bottom end of my maintenance range this morning.

If cheese is in your plan for special occasions, I recommend L'Amuse Signature Gouda from Holland -- crystalline texture with a nutty flavor and some sweet butterscotch notes. Yum!

02-07-2013, 03:55 PM
I need to catch up on posts and do personals later, but I wanted to report that my scale broke and, when I stepped on my old scale this morning for my Thursday weigh-in, it said that I had entered ONEderland!!! It said 197, so I am hoping that I am truly at least into the 100's!!! Still have a long way to go, but this is exciting!!! I need to buy a new scale now, as the old one doesn't have ounces on it. I hope it reports near the same weight. Regardless, for right now, I am doing my happy dance!!! :broc:

02-07-2013, 04:09 PM
Yes, Coaches. Hello.

I woke up today expecting to see a snowstorm out there but apparently I am 12hrs too early. So, due to the unexpected good-ish weather I drove over to my WW meeting and weighed in and came home before DH had showered. *credit for getting things done* The scale settled at 253.2 a drop of 1.6lbs. *credit*

I'm back to implementing some tried and true structures around my food. These being:

-three meals a day nothing in between
-meals planned
-meals tracked
-accept my foodplan (and if it isn't right I can change it up-but only after an honest effort)
-no seconds
-0 to 2 sugar-free items per day
-keep checking in

gardenerjoy Funny you mention cheese! I picked up Fresh Polish Cheese Edamski last night. It was a toss up between that and the Smoked Monterey Jack. No idea what it tastes like yet. I promise to describe it for you--your "butterscotch notes" description has me flummoxed.;)

Beverlyjoy *credit* for all you do to stay on plan every day. I have to say that I too need to practice eating slower, especially since I have re-committed to not having seconds. I sometimes feel soooooo saaadddd that my meal is over so stretching things out is a great strategy on a lot of levels. Thanks for the reminder. BTW do you have any story telling gigs coming up?

Lexxiss Forgetting your trusty banana reminded me of the visual we had at WW a few weeks ago. Someone brought in a banana holder (jpg attached) and it sent the ladies in the room into giggles. DH thought a banana holder was a perfectly reasonable thing which seems strange to me and had me giggling. I know you are actively decluttering so I won't suggest that you NEED this item, but I wonder if you owned a banana holder would you remember to fill it? Seems tough to me from all angles some how. (geez. even that sattement sounds giggle-worthy!) Enjoy your swim! BTW can you swim in that outdoor hotsprings? Or do you just stand in it? Sit in it?

BillBlueEyes Your search for Life of Pi endings reminded me that I want to read a Longmire novel. I've been watching the series, which I like, but I heard an interview with the author who says Walt Longmire is a really funny guy which comes through in the book during the passages where he talks to himself and to his dog but that kind of literary device is hard to do in a 45min tv episode. It just reminds me that each medium has its own parameters to honour. TRIVIA: The author started to write the first novel and wrote two chapters and then put it in a drawer... for 12 years. Once finished the publisher suggestd it be a series (not what he thought) and then he had to write and write and write--no more writer's block he says. Ah, what success and support can do for a person eh?

bigchiefdavid You are to be really *credited* for staying the OP course during this week of festivities. I can only imagine the food you have to negotiate. Thankfully, there is much much more going on besides food during mardigras--you can indulge in everything else! Wishing you well and continued success....

Jenny19072:welcome2: I look forward to your posts!

IBelieveInMe2 Well that Onederland surprise is indeed :carrot: dance-worthy! Congrats. No matter what the new scale says you are in it to win it! *credit*

Bye for now.

02-07-2013, 05:03 PM
Indulge me popping in again, friends, but I have to tell *onebyone* that we have such an item! Known as a *banana guard*. It's invaluable - protects from all the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune and the piece of fruit arrives unbashed and unbruised at its destination. It encourages people to take a trusty banana with them. We keep it in the bottom of the dresser with all the other plastic boxes.

But if you can manage without one, don't get one if it will just clutter up your space.

I read here regularly but can't commit myself to posting and coaching at this point. You're doing so well!

02-07-2013, 07:58 PM
Hi all,

I'm just checking in quickly before we leave town for the weekend. I stayed OP today, even with a "didn't know until we got there" lunch selection. I just had a second breakfast, since eggs and toast are easy to count!

My goal is to track all weekend while I'm gone and to stay under maintenance level. We'll be eating out all but one meal, so I'll have to be really aware of what I order at restaurants I'm not familiar with.

Have a great Friday and weekend everyone!

02-07-2013, 09:22 PM


I'm so proud of you! What a great feeling!


02-07-2013, 10:54 PM



The scale IS just a number but sometimes that number just feels sooooo good! Kudos!

OK, onebyone and Silverbirch....I have never seen one but I am definitely cracking up! I read posts from newest to oldest so I read Silverbirch's comment before onebyone's....ending with the picture. Although I owned a kitchen store I do not have one, have never seen one, will not buy one (decluttering) but will sure start looking for one!

BTW-I looked two different places today for another trusty (organic) banana but none were to be it the off season for good bananas or am I just at too high an altitude for reliable organic produce? Just wondering....

02-08-2013, 12:40 AM
Good Evening, Coaches.

Strayed off plan again in the search for chocolate, compensated by a little dinner-- an egg and some snacking. Tomorrow I am off work and committed to juicing to get fruit and veggies back in my system. They have really disappeared in the winter.

Sad tonite but told myself it is what it is. More tomorrow.

02-08-2013, 07:07 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Weirdest thing: the zipper on my winter coat gets stuck in the up position about once a week. The problem is that it gets stuck near the very top and I can't remove the coat. I think I've located the problem as several inches of weak fabric that can easily jam into the down moving zipper. Hate to replace the coat for such a simple problem. Proposed solution: I'll put a piece of electrician's tape over the weak fabric. I suppose that a fashionista would suggest tape of the same color as the coat, but I only use red electrician's tape, so that'll have to do. I'll keep you posted.

That story has no relevance, nor interest I suppose, except to introduce that the reason for my walk, CREDIT moi, was to find a cloth tape made for fabrics. Unfortunately, there are no sewing stores within walking distance, so I failed. I did find 'hemming' tape at a CVS - seemed just right until I noticed that it's double sticky. Hopefully you've stopped reading because I have to admit that I used a coupon for a FREE bagel with cream cheese. I did count it as lunch, but 'twas a whopping glob of cream cheese.

onebyone – Yay for "tried and true" - when all else fails, go for what works. [Longmire hasn't crossed my awareness yet - thanks for the tip.]

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Being able to participate in a cheese of the month club mindfully is worth of Kudos.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Making a business card for you:HAVE BANANA WILL TRAVEL
. . . . . .Wire Lexxiss
. . . . . . . .Aspen. . . . . .Hope this helps. (With apologies to Paladin.)

Beverlyjoy – Thanks for "all the small things" quote. I need that when facing cookies 'crumbs.'

silverbirch – I never expected that I'd know someone who actually owned a banana guard. I thought they only existed for the giggles.

maryann - "Really disappeared in the winter" makes one appreciate how folks in the era of Little House on the Prairie must have anticipated the first fruits of the season.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – And a happy weekend to you, also.

IBelieveInMe2 – "Happy Dance" indeed. Happy Onederland!

Julia (Julia150) – Waving back.

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

characteristic 4
You Fool Yourself About How Much You Eat

...You might tell yourself that what you're eating doesn't really matter - that is, the calories don't count if you're only eating the crumbs in the bottom of a bag of cookies, the icing that's left on the cake cutter, or a broken piece of pretzel. Maybe you justify eating too much because you're eating out, celebrating, or vacationing. Or you might make the excuse that you should eat something because it's free or someone is urging you to eat.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 37.

02-08-2013, 10:49 AM
Good morning, Coaches.

I am better this morning. This seems the pattern after a good night's sleep. I am going grocery shopping today. I am using r Dr. Oz's flat belly
Menu just to try new foods/recipes this week. He also recommends tart cherry juice in the morning and the evening and some kind of Relora Herb for stress. It is a good excuse to check out the health food store. In my re reading of Beck this morning, she tells us we have to continually make time for dieting. I think I have put the food part on the back burner. I will try juicing sweet potatoes today with apple. I have only worked through 1 of the two boxes we have. Planned step class.

Weight is back down to ticker--it only took a week to get over my trip to the beach.

Watched the movie Sessions because I was trying to see a few of the movies that had garnered a nomination. I won't way I was shocked because the movie wasn't good enough to be shocking. It just relied too heavily on the sex part and didn't really develop characterization. The only good new movie I have seen is Lincoln.

IBelieveInMe2:I add my congrats to everyone else. It is a big deal.
BBE: Once again I am reminded of the difference between men and women. I have never used the words "electrician's tape" and "clothing" in the same sentence. Ever.

02-08-2013, 11:49 AM
I tried eating one of my five small "meals" at 9:30 last night. Bad idea since it triggered hot flashes and insomnia. The idea was to get supper, which is what I label the meal I eat with DH, over earlier for an earlier bedtime. But getting to bed earlier doesn't help if a rumbly tummy and other symptoms keep me awake. A worthy experiment so I'll take credit for that.

Since you are all having fun with bananas, have you seen the banana slicer? The reviews on Amazon are hilarious: Hutzler 571 Banana Slicer (

Stay safe, BillBlueEyes, and anyone else in the path of the winter storm.

02-08-2013, 12:56 PM
Hey Coaches and Becksters:

Weighed in yesterday and lost 3 lbs. Credit moi! The Carnival madness continues, but DW and the kids are having a great time, which is what's most important to me. Tonight, I'm heading downtown solo to get some photos for work, so I'll be working and not overindulging. Tomorrow, it's back to parade town with the kids, but we'll be packing healthy snacks, plenty of water and a few response cards to boot.

Until that time...

02-08-2013, 03:44 PM
Hi Coaches! Sketchy Internet and i'm typing from my iPad. Credit moi, last evening I chose not to engage in emotional eating. I am always grateful for that. Morning was cold I had almost decided not to go to the pool. Said no choice and went anyway but not before actually returning to the house reminding myself that my self imposed rule do not leaving in the morning with my smoothie applied even when I was running late. Credit

Hope you Nor-Easters fare well with Nemo.

02-08-2013, 08:40 PM
Hi coaches/friends... I am so grateful to be able to say that yesterday a healthy day. I did have some credits: planned/measured/logged food, exercise, water, left a bite, no seconds, journal, did some deep breathing, and tried to slow down.

I got on the scale again.. I am down. I hope I can finally get under 214 soon.

Billbe - stay safe- time to hunker down.
Onebyone - credit for bringing back previously helpful actions! I had gigs in January... and I have some coming up in February and March. Thanks for asking.
Bigchiefdavid - GREAT on three pounds down. Carry on!
gardenerjoy - it takes alot of figuring it out... to see how and what works with food. It's a learning process for sure.
Ibelieveinme -[B]WONDERFUL!!!!! I am so, so happy you've gotten into onederland!!!

So sorry I don't have time for personals for everyone. Have a great evening and Saturday.

02-08-2013, 09:37 PM
I havent posted in the last few days. I have had a rough week at work including having to call CPS about a student this morning. It was a soul-sucking week.
I am going to eat a favorite food in moderation tonight just cause I want to.
People in the northeast, take care.

02-08-2013, 11:48 PM
Trip is going great! Following becks on trip ... not great. In fact, pretty terrible.

Quick note to those affected by the blizzard - hope you're safe and warm! Bill be careful if you venture out!

02-09-2013, 07:07 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Zipper update: Realized that clear tape would be best for a permanent fix to my coat. Then remembered that Scotch Tape is clear, so tried that. Worked perfectly, but pulled off after several cycles of putting on the coat. I do need a more permanent tape - perhaps the nylon tape sold for emergency tent repair at the sporting goods stores. There's a crafts store (Michael's) within walking distance that might have something. Current attempt is normal Adhesive Tape from the medicine closet since it's made of cloth. It's working, but the white is highly visible when the coat isn't zipped. Such a great diversion while the snow just keeps getting deeper outside.

Exercise was walking (CREDIT moi) to the supermarket for bananas. I'd made my normal weekend trip at 7 am yesterday - when no one would be there. Was I ever wrong; it was packed. When leaving at 7:30 am the parking lot was jammed with folks looking for a space. But the bananas weren't available yet - a first for me to see a supermarket without bananas - which is why I had to go walking later to get them. Eating while watching the snow accumulate was good enough, CREDIT moi.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – LMAO at the Amazon reviews of the banana slicer. Sending sleepy thoughts your way.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Neat use of No Choice for swimming.

Beverlyjoy – Yay for "a healthy day."

maryann - Sweet potatoes cooked with apples is one of the best - can't wait to hear how they taste when juiced.

BigchiefDavid – Congrats on those three pounds. Will think of you enjoying the parades while I'm shoveling. I do have the advantage that I can't snack while wearing gloves, LOL.

nationalparker – I'll also think of you being warm when shoveling today. Enjoy your trip.

Julia (Julia150) – Sending supportive thoughts as you process your feelings for doing the professional thing with the Child Protective Services call. Kudos for being aware that feelings aren't hunger. I wish you well.

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

characteristic 4
You Fool Yourself About How Much You Eat

...You can also fool yourself in other ways. You might use eating something that you shouldn't have as an excuse to eat even more. Perhaps you've said to yourself, Since I strayed from this diet, I may as well blow the whole day. So you eat and eat, promising yourself you'll start again tomorrow.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 37.

02-09-2013, 09:36 AM
Hi everybody, it's saturday, finally! I weighed in this morning and I was happy to see I'm stable, because it's been a hard and busy week and I overate on thursday evening. I had a craving, I identified the trigger.. but....I don't know, I didn't want to reply to my sabotating thoughts, sometimes it happens unfortunately. I'm not perfect, I know that. :^:
Anyway, I told myself I'm not a bad person for that, and I compensate with my eating yesterday, I stayed OP I went swimming, walking every working day of the week, so credit to me.
I ate a small breakfast this morning and only a salad without dressing sause only vinegard for lunch, because I'm gonna have pizza tonight so I'll be within 1400 Kcal, good planning!
Anyway about cravings and overeating I decided to create a sort of card with some questions I will have to answer to when those situations happens. A sort of PIR (post incident review) to identify time, thoughts, feelings and so on. I will force myself to answer the questions, I think this could help preventing overeating and understand better how to avoid it.
I wish you all a very good weekend!

02-09-2013, 12:00 PM
Hi all.

Checking I. Com Chicago on my iPhone.

BillBE--I saw the original of your avatar yesterday!

Even eating two restaurant meals yesterday (brunch and dinner) my best estimates had me close to my weight loss calorie goal.

I had two pieces of pizza, feeling a bit defiant about it and while eati g the second, thought about having a slice from the other pizza, but eating slowly and savoring my Chicago pizza left me full and satisfied after two slices.

For brunch, I asked for one egg instead of the two that came with the meal, but their definition of a small amount of hash browns didn't match mine. So, I partitioned it off and only ate what I "kept" as a serving.

No exercise unless you count walking all day at The Art Institute.

Today is grandma's birthday party--97th--I am rereading Beck before we go and reminding myself that special occasions aren't an excuse for going off plan.

Best to all--personals will wait until I have a computer again!

02-09-2013, 12:37 PM
Hey Coaches and Becksters:

Quick check in before heading out for Carnival world...sending positive thoughts for those facing the snowy onslaught..

Bill--just remember to use those legs when you're shoveling, and I've found it's much harder snack on the parade route when there's a kid on my shoulders, not that it can't be done :)

Until that time...

02-09-2013, 12:50 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

Credit for having a plan even though Dance Duty sent me into the office for chocolate foraging. As has been my pattern, I compensated with a small dinner. (Grrrr. ) It is the weekend and I am changing this pattern this minute. Credit for going to DS Spaghetti dinner and eating nothing (I ate homemade split pea soup before I left-yum.) Planned food and planned walk today. Just hanging with DS sounds good to me. We desperately need seem winter here in california. The draught is ominous for my farmer husband.

I juiced a sweet potato and two fuji apple and it was DELICIOUS--fresh and sweet. After I go food shopping, i am going to try pineapple, orange and sweet potato. I hear it is even better. Going to juice for DS this morning. It feels like a luxury.

BBE: Might think about an iron-0on stabilizer-one sided. You can iron it on the back side of the zipper. Should cost about 10 cents. Joanna's fabrics has it.
Lexxiss: What goes in your smoothie?
Julia150: Sorry for the tough week. I certainly know how that goes. Blick.

02-09-2013, 01:37 PM
The Game On Diet has a "day off" and another "meal off" each week. I did okay with the day off -- used it on days when the 5 defined meals wouldn't work around restaurant meals or events. But the "meal off" has backfired on me twice--turning into an hour-long overeating orgy. Not a good fit with my Beck skills. My plan needs some flexibility, but it still needs to be a plan!

BillBlueEyes: Hope all goes well with the clean-up from the big storm. Kudos for finding distraction in no-calorie coat repair.

02-09-2013, 03:00 PM
Hi! Yesterday was a healthy day... grateful for that. Yesterday I really concentrated on eating slowly. Two meals were over 20 minutes . Dinner was about 17 minutes. The snacks were about five minutes each, maybe. Taking baby steps. I took Dr. Becks advice to count to ten after my bite of food is thoroughly chewed. That slows ya down, for sure. It actually takes a longer time than I thought to get a whole bite really chewed and swallowed.Credit.

My food was about 90% on plan. In the evening I had an extra rice cake and some apple. I still was within the perimeter of my plan - but, not planned. DH called and said he was hankering for 'real sloppy joes'. I didn't eat any and switched my dinner. But, it worked fine.

Some other credits: planned/measured/logged food, read Beck, exercise/sodium/water, always left a bite, seated mostly, deep breaths before each meal/snack, gave myself credit during the day, and did a meditation.

In congunction with my sodium watch I poached chicken to have in the freezer. Also, I've been cooking up bean/legumes to have on hand too. I am always amazed how much sodium is in almost any processed food.

Such a GOOD reminder from the excerpt from Dr. Beck's book today about NOT letting a time of overeating derail a whole day.. by starting again tomorrow. This is something that I still struggle with.

Gardenerjoy - credit for trying to make it all work. It is a learning process being on maintainance. For me, too, sometimes it's hard to have a 'free' meal and then not carry on eating off plan. It's hard to 'transition' back to the plan that very day. Practice, I guess will help, maybe.

maryann - I so understand how chocolate call be like a magnet. Hop right back on your plan and you will be fine. Your juice sounds delicious!! I saw Dr. Oz's show on the Belly Fat Diet. I was considering it... I can't eat dairy in the morning because of a medicine I take. I can't eat citrus (lemon) because of my reflux. Let me know how it goes.

bigchefdavid- great idea to have your child on your shoulders as a decoy from eating!!! Credit.

bethfromdayton - so glad you checked in. Credit for using many of your Beck techniques. Happy Birthday to your Grandma. Carry on!

bootedkitty - Credit for maintaining your weight during a busy time. You've handled so many things so well... identifying sabatoging thoughts, making a new card, and your PIR card. Glad you know you are NOT a bady person for eating some extra. Credit on all your planned exercise.

billbe - am loving the Tale of a Zipper. I imagine the food stores were packed yesterdday, indeed. I hope you and your family are OK and have some heat/power.

nationparker- credit for chekcing in. Hop back on your plan and do the best you can. Have fun!

Julia150 - yes, those reports to CPA are such an emotional time. Glad you checked. Enjoy your favorite restaurant... sounds like you are going with a plan. Credit

lexxiss/debbie - credit for no emotional eating! Yes, gotta get in your smoothie.

Have a great day!

02-10-2013, 07:47 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Zipper update: Medicine cabinet Adhesive Tape stayed tight on the coat's inner lapel all day - no stuck zipper. It was a good stress test since I shoveled then rested for some six circuits zipping up and down each time. The snow was pretty heavy where mounded by the street plow making the whole affair a good upper body workout. A black magic marker would correct the brilliant white of Adhesive Tape. But I've seen magic marker make stains when wet, so that's not an optimum idea. The best notion to date is maryann's suggestion to use iron on patches. Iron-on makes them seriously permanent and I can get black. I've found them on Amazon in the new category of "Add-on Items" that will ship free on my next order of $25. All I have to do is find $25 worth of books that I need. I must buy books to make the patch on my coat fashionable. Rabbit in a brier patch.

Shoveling (for the exercise, CREDIT moi) loses its fun pretty quickly so I intersperse reading The Drunkard's Walk: How Randomness Rules Our Lives which has me mesmerized. The book might achieve its goal to make be believe that I can't predict anything outside of random patterns. Each pause between shoveling seemed to draw its own snack - Ouch for a day of multiple snacks justified by all the exercise I was getting.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Kudos for working the issue of juggling real life with a five meal plan. Love the thought, "My plan needs some flexibility, but it still needs to be a plan!"

Beverlyjoy – Eating slowly is easy for me at dinner with DW. We get to chatting and can go on for a long time. It's harder for lunch at my desk or snacks when I lose track and then suddenly all the food is gone.

maryann - Whatever "Dance Duty" is at a Middle School, it makes me want to go chocolate foraging from here, LOL. It's ominous also how little attention the drought is getting in public press - as if the source of our food was only the farmer's problem. [Thanks for the Iron-on tip - that's gotta be the way to go.]

BigchiefDavid – Yay for kids on the shoulders for keeping the hands away from snacking. Keep on trucking through Carnival mindfully. [Thanks for the reminder. I'm using the new bent handle snow shovel that helps to keep the back straight.]

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Super Kudos for eating mindfully while out and about in exciting places and celebrations. That carving up of breakfast deserves its own Kudos. Happy Birthday to your 97 year old grandmother. [Yep, The Art Institute of Chicago claims that its copy is the original of my Avatar. Will have Theo talk to them.]

Kitty (Bootedkitty) – Seems like a major part of success that you have accepted "I'm not perfect" and move from there to find responses to Sabotaging Thoughts. I drool every time you mention pizza, since the best pizza I've ever had was in Milano.

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

characteristic 4
You Fool Yourself About How Much You Eat

The Beck Solution
As you read this, you can probably see how this kind of thinking doesn't make good sense. Yet, in the moment, your sabotaging thoughts override your rational mind. Recognizing and responding in a helpful way to these sabotaging thoughts is a key component of this program. You'll be practicing this skill daily.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 38.

02-10-2013, 10:48 AM
Good morning everyone,

Ended up with a suprising weigh in this morning, down another 1.4, was convinced no loss was going to happen but just kept saying "follow the plan". Went to Costco yesterday and was getting really annoyed with everyone who had to stop for a sample, to the point of almost telling the store to line all the samples up in one aisle and then those of us just there to shop could while those there to "eat their lunch" could get out of the way :dizzy: And credit for me I didn't have any interest in trying any of them!

Going into the office today as I volunteered our boardroom for a workshop. It will give me a chance to do a few things at my desk that need undivided attention. I have some tax related work on files where we hired entertainment to come to Calgary who are non-residents. I'll have time while there to come back and catch up on personals. :wave:

02-10-2013, 11:57 AM
Last day of the Game On Diet, but I think I'm going to keep going with that food plan for awhile. Except that I'm adding an orange back to my breakfast. And I'm letting go of the "meal off" notion and going back to the more Beck notion of planning meals out as needed.

I started four weeks ago near the top of my maintenance range and I ended near the bottom! Going on a diet is an unintuitive way of getting into maintenance, but I was really worried about some part of me deciding that maintenance meant going back to "normal." When, really, maintenance means maintaining what I've been doing for the last 3+ years: planning, cooking, exercising, eating with restraint.

I was pleased how easy the Game On Diet was for me. My companions on this really struggled. Beck was right -- dieting is a skill set. And, after 3+ years, I've got skills. Not perfect, of course. But then, that's one of the skills -- to not let perfectionism get in the way of progress.

02-10-2013, 12:18 PM
Hi Coaches!

Glad to hear the storm is passing. I'm watching tv for a guy with big arms shoveling...I think I'll recognize the tape on his jacket zipper :lol:

As for me, still looking for a ripe organic banana as I travel back today and am in need of "just one".

Food has been pretty good these past few days and I actually managed to eat less than usual yesterday as a surprising reaction to the stressy issues which have popped up while I've been here. credit. Today is a dessert auction w/appetizers after church. DH just placed a smoothie in front of me which will help with the hunger issue. I made a gluten free blueberry pineapple cake and while it's not OP it does not have crisco frosting, either. I made an small sampler, which DH and I both sampled. I think he'll buy my cake for an outrageous amt of money instead of some of the others which have unidentified ingredients.

Better run!

Have Banana (I hope) Will Travel!

02-10-2013, 01:25 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

Quiet sunny day here in California. The boys are down at the ranch pulling out a tree. I plan to hang here near the gas stove and get not much done-- a difficult idea for an overachiever such as myself. Food was mostly OP--homemade split pea soup was a hit even with DS. Just got back from my first yoga in about ten days and boy was I tight.

Grocery store shopping has still not happened. Today is three weeks since i have hit the supermarket. Part of the delay was a self imposed pantry challenge to save some money and use up everything I have--no waste. My ground rules were I would shop when I ran out of milk for the boys or couldn't provide DS with at least five fruit and veggies a day. The challenge is a little easier for a farmer's wife whose husband brings up a box of sweet potatoes, picks oranges off our tree, grinds the wheat berries from August into flour and still has frozen pear puree from July. Credit though for regular meal planning and cooking from scratch--a lot. DH says I am no longer allowed to tease about Mormons since we "out stock" them now.

Anyway, for this shopping trip I have a new phone app which adds up costs on the shopping list. I can put the best price for the four stores I will hit.

Lexxiss: How is it possible that you mention crisco frosting and I think "Yum?"
Beverleyjoy: Glad yesterday was healthy. Thanks for the reminder that a diet starts any minute of the day we decide it to start.
BBE:Your book does sound interesting but i have to read The Vintage Collection of Contemporary Stories edited by Tobias Wolfe. I wonder when I will return to pleasure reading.

02-10-2013, 02:32 PM
Hello coaches/buddies,
Well, I have had 2 nights and a day to recover from the report my team made. I am reconciled to the fact that we had to make the report for the good of the student. My biggest concern was for the isolation of the student and his lack of socialization. It will probably be some time before we hear of any action.
Today is day 2 of non JC food. Yesterday went fine. I didn’t have much of an appetite so it was easy. I was probably under 1200 cal. but one day a week is not going to kill my metabolism. ( I hope 2 days doesn’t kill it either because today I don’t feel like eating either). I just drank a protein shake and will continue with those if I don’t feel like eating.
Only 4 days until we go to Phoenix now. I can’t wait to see the sun and my SIL. I don’t even know what to pack for 60 degree weather!
Gardenerjoy- I have read the banana slicer reviews on Amazon in the past, laughed my head off. I thought about the same thing you did when you read banana keeper. I clicked the link and was surprised to see that people are still writing reviews about the product. I clicked on your reviews and found the review of “Thin for Life”. It sounds interesting. I have so little faith that I can keep the weight off if I am able to lose it. How long have you been maintaining?
BigChiefDave-congrats on the 3 pounds! I hope you have been able to avoid all the foods around you this weekend. Kudos on the planning.
Lexxiss-Kudos on avoiding emotional eating. I find a certain satisfaction and peace when I recognize and avoid feeding my feelings. I hope you can find some organic bananas soon. Safe travel home.
Beverlyjoy –I hadn’t noticed your ticker before. Look how far you’ve come! I’m so impressed. I am going to pay attention to really chewing my food before taking another bite. I think it was OnebyOne who mentioned how disappointing it is to come to the end of a good meal. So true for me.
NationalParker-It sounds like you are having a wonderful trip. Did you have a week in FL? I hope it’s given you a nice break from the winter weather.
BillBlueEyes-I’m enjoying the zipper saga. I’m sure a fabric store could recommend the perfect fix, but if one is not readily available you are certainly inventive. I have been complaining about our dreary weather but I should be thankful that we aren’t having to dig out of all the snow and navigate the streets. Stay warm and safe. Your area must still have power. We don’t realize how much we rely on it until we don’t have it. I’ve never lost power in my suburban home but plenty of times at the lakehouse.
Kitty-good job on maintaining. I like the idea of a post incident response card. One of my thin friends told me that she unconsciously decreases intake the day after an indulgence. I guess that’s the key to maintenance.
Beth- Happy Birthday to your grandmother. I hope she is in good health and able to enjoy her family. I have learned so well that special occasions are for overeating, unlearning it is going to take some time and mindfulness. I’m looking forward to my trip to the sunshine and my brain is already thinking EAT,EAT,EAT as much as you want, it’s a vacation. Good for you for re-reading Beck for a refresher. Have a safe trip home.
MaryAnn- Credit for stopping the pattern in its tracks. Dance duty sounds like a reaaaallll treat. Is this normally your rainy season? What do you grow? My dad was a farmer, we spent many a spring hoping for rain. Three weeks without a trip to the store? I can hardly go 2 days. I always forget something.
Tazzy- Great job on the 1.4 you weren’t expecting. Costco on a Saturday is nasty. Actually, we were there too but just pricing a new laptop so we were only in the front corner of the store and out again. I have found that going late in the evening can almost be a pleasant experience there.

Thank you my friends for being here. You give me hope.

02-10-2013, 02:53 PM
Oh wait, where is IBelieveInMe2? Are you enjoying being in the 190's. Let's not stay here too long OK.

02-10-2013, 02:58 PM
Hi Folks - I've had four solid days of healthy eating. I am so grateful. I feel like I have my 'foot in the door'. (I know that I can sometimes derail quickly - am working on that.)

I am still concetrating on slowing down. Had two meals at 20 minutes. Credit. I am trying TASTE the food more... really enjoy it. Credit. I did my meditations. I don't know why I stop doing that. It's always a good thing for me. Also: sodium/exercise/water were good. I planned/measured/logged, always left a bite and a few others. I am most proud of wanting to eat last evening. Even 'prowling' around the kitchen... BUT - shouted back to those sabatoging thoughts.. NO choice, stand firm, red light. I went through I few other things and the urgency passed by. Credit.

I did a little walk about in the garden. My Lenton Roses (Hellebores) are in bloom. I have a huge patch of them... so pretty and cheerful for a February day.

maryann - credit for going to your yoga class! I, too, am trying to use up what foodstuff is around before buying much more. Food is so costly.. it amazing, really. Good for you. How nice to have all those 'home grown' foods around.

lexxis/debbie - I hope you find your organic banana soon! Good for DH... putting a smoothie in your hand at the auction/appetizer - dessert affair at church.Credit. Did he buy the cake you made?

gardenerjoy - I am glad you figured it out... about how to use your foodplan. I absolutely agree... dieting is a mind set group of skills.

tazzy - wonderful that the scale is down!! Major credit for bypassing the free sample at Costco. I do know a couple of folks to try everything and eat there like meal. I try to put on my blinders and No choice hat when see the free tastes.

billbe - glad your zipper held up through the shovelling! Sounds like a 'winner'. Shovelling is such good exercise. Oops on the extra snack. My mind goes to "I can have some because I did my exercises' , too. It's tricky.

Julia 150 -I am sure if you were justified in the referal/report. It's just so very emotional. How exciting to be taking a trip to warm weather. Good idea filling in with your protein shakes. Carry on.

Hope everyone has a GREAT day.

02-10-2013, 05:21 PM
Hello everyone, I'm back again. I figured out all the calculations for tax forms, now I just need to fill out the documents. Wasn't expecting it to take all day but am only here for a couple more hours so guess the filing won't get done too. Oh well, it'll keep!

beverlyjoy Credit for 4 days on plan! Roses in full bloom in your garden make me very envious in February. I don't usually see too much in full bloom here until late May or early June.

Julia150 Congrats on making it to onederland, it's been awhile since I did personals so missed letting you know sooner. Are you taking a break from JC food or are you on your own now?

maryann I wish I could avoid grocery shopping as much as I seem to have to do it. I've stopped stockpiling so many canned goods, there's no need to have 10 cans of corn in the pantry for 3 people who live a 10 minute walk to the store. I think it was a throwback of my mom's keeping lots in the cupboards, she grew up without much so I'm sure it's a safety net thing for her. Where my parents live now is much smaller so she's learned to downsize her pantry supplies as well.

Lexxiss I laughed at your DH buying your cake at the auction. Sounds like a good plan to me. I'm not a fan of Crisco in anything and can taste it as soon as I take one bite. Guess if I did more baking that way I'd eat a lot less of it! Did you find your organic banana yet?

gardenerjoy Great job on getting to the bottom of your maintenance range. Out of curiosity how big of a range do you have for it? I have not thought about maintenance ever, as I've never been close to achieving it.

billblueeyes Loving your stories about the zipper and tape. I think our go-to solution here when tapes involved is Duck Tape and it comes in lots of fashionable color choices and can be a pain to get off of something! Interesting concept of having to order $25 of books to get free shipping on the tape! Kind of like the logic of saving money by buying something on sale that you really didn't need anyways :D Hope the snow shoveling exercise routine is over soon. Our snow is melting really fast and one of the trees outside my office window is covered in buds. Not going to be a good thing for the tree, same thing happened last year.

BigchiefDavid Congrats on the 3 pounds. From my trip to New Orleans many years ago I remember beignets and hurricane drinks the most!

bethfromDayton Happy birthday to your grandma and credit for realizing that the event is not only about the food. I'd consider walking in an art museum all day exercise.

:wave: to booted kitty, national parker, ibelieveinme2, onebyone and any others I may have missed. Back to work.

02-10-2013, 09:08 PM
Hello Everyone! I am still here. I wrote out notes for personals the other day and actually thought I posted them, but now realize I never did. I haven't read my advantages or my Beck book for a few days, and I need to just do it so that I don't get derailed. I was so excited that my old scale said 197, but ~ as I suspected ~ I was still over 200 on the new scale I purchased. I trust it more, as it is very similar to the one I have been using. DARN IT!!! :( I will wait for my Thursday weigh-in to change my current weight, but I so want to be in ONEderland to stay...... soon!!!!! I have been a little laxed on my program over the weekend, so I really need to buckle down and get back on track immediately!!! This lifestyle change stuff is hard and constant work ~ at least for me, it is!!! But it will be worth it!!! I need to remember that ~ and ALL of my advantages! Why does it have to require so much effort to stay on track, but it is so darn easy to get derailed?!? That fact is hard for me to swallow. :p

Okay, now for personals. Bear with me if some of this is old news. Hopefully, my comments will still apply. I added new notes when reviewing the recent posts today. I will divide up my posts, so that I don't lose too much to cybespace if I hit the wrong key while typing.

gardenerjoy: That is great that you are practicing good habits and maintaining your weight in the bottom half of your maintenance range recently! It sounds like the Game On Diet helped you get refocused and that you have a good sense of what you need to be doing to continue to do well on maintenance. CREDIT to you! :)

onebyone: Sorry to hear that your experience of painting the guild's tea room put you in one of the worst places you have been with food in some time. :( CREDIT to you for exploring this relationship and your feelings about the situation. CREDIT, too, for going to your local support group. I was so happy to hear that you woke up happy and recharged afterward! Congratulations on the 1.6 pound drop on the scale, and another CREDIT for implementing the tried and true food structure that works for you! Ouch on the 4 cookies that one day, but good that you stopped there.

Beverlyjoy: You made me crave Sloppy Joe's when you posted your yummy recipe! :p Good luck keeping your sodium down and planning!!! It sure sounds like you are well on your way now!!! CREDIT for all of your hard work and for using your Beck principles! :)

bethFromDayton: I wanted to recommend Kneed-It bands for your sore knees. I injured my left knee during a workout awhile ago, and have sore knees often just from the extra weight, and I alternated these bands and a stability brace from our local Kroger store, and it has really helped me. Have you tried any braces or bands? If not, I highly recommend something to fortify your sore knees during workouts (and other times as needed). Good for you for giving yourself CREDIT for your accomplishments this past month! You are doing so many things right, and I am happy to see that you acknowledged yourself for those things! Regarding gardenerjoy's advice about workout DVDs that would be easier on your knees, I also like Leslie Sansone's walking workouts. Great that you are using Beck principles while in Chicago! And, last but not least, Happy 97th Birthday to your grandma! That is awesome! :)

Julia150: Sorry to say that I am most likely NOT yet in ONEderland after all, although seeing the 1 on that old scale gave me hope, if nothing else! Thank you for all of your shout outs and your clapping and cheering for my one day in ONEderland! You have been a great support to me and I really appreciate it! So sorry that you had a rough week last week. Please remind yourself that you did the RIGHT thing by contacting CPS for that child. Sending you hugs! :hug:

Jenny19072: WELCOME to our group! I will be turning 47 this year as well, but not until December. And I sure hope to be in a much better place this time next year! I, too, would like to live at a better fitness level and be around as long as possible for my kids and husband. So we have some things in common! Good luck on the Beck plan! Hope to hear from you again soon! :)

Okay, now onto a new post for more personals.......

02-10-2013, 09:32 PM
BigchiefDavid: Sounds like you are doing well staying on plan (or close) with all of your recent festivities. CREDIT for that and for keeping your response cards handy! Neat about your wife dancing in the Mardi Gras parade. Your description of the parade cracked me up! :lol: And OMGosh, I am so impressed that you lost 3 pounds at your weigh-in, especially with all of the food temptations surrounding you!!! WooHoo!!! :carrot:

Tazzy: I, too, am tired because of my puppy waking me in the night and/or very early in the morning. Good thing they are so darn cute!!! :) Wishing you a good night's sleep! CREDIT for reminding yourself to "follow the plan" and for being down 1.4 today!!! :)

BillBlueEyes: DARN on the eating too much at the group lunch several days ago. YIKES, new people challenge me as well. CREDIT, though, for realizing you weren't mindful enough. OUCH on that bagel with cream cheese! You are totally cracking me up about the zipper on your coat!!! :lol: I vote for Duck (duct) tape, too! It is so useful, comes in a variety of colors and designs, and adheres really well to just about everything. What's the latest in the "jacket saga?!?" :lol:

maryann: I am sending you strength for RESISTING chocolate, unless it is planned for in advance. I was sorry to hear that you were sad, but glad that you felt better after a good night's sleep! Wow and CREDIT to you that it only took a week to get over your trip to the beach!!! I hope I will do as well when we go to the beach at the end of March/early April!

Lexxiss: YAY YOU for choosing NOT to engage in emotional eating!!! That is not an easy thing to resist! CREDIT, too, for saying "NO CHOICE" to the pool and the smoothie. Your smoothies always sound so yummy! :p

Bootedkitty: Good for you for not beating yourself up about giving in to your craving and for reviewing the incident to help prevent overeating in the future! CREDIT to you for learning from your mistake! :)

02-11-2013, 02:54 AM
Just a quick "jump" in the forum to wish you alla a good start of the week! Here in Italy is snowing after a sunny weekend! Credit to me for staying OP and for not eating at dinner yesterday after a "long-lasting-Italian lunch" in a special occasion. :-)
Still have to write my "post incident response card" but I'll do it tonight after swimming. Any idea is wellcome! :-)
Again, have a good monday!

02-11-2013, 07:08 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Shoveled and shoveled and shoveled some more. Multi CREDIT moi for the exercise. Walking was so funny when I'd head down a well shoveled sidewalk only to encounter a wall of snow, then have to backtrack. It was like wandering in a maze. I was impressed by how much sidewalk was clear over the 2.5 miles that I traveled. The snow is still white everywhere so all is beautiful.

Unfortunately, today's shoveling also had snacking in the breaks. I'm just like a toddler, I want a sugar hit after running about. My snacks were healthy but the digestive system consumed the calories just as fast. Good news is that there's no more snow in my domain.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – It's encouraging to relish your thought, "I've got skills." Persistence pays.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – LOL at your DH buying your cake. Blueberry pineapple cake does sound good.

Beverlyjoy – Walking about in your garden is super; DW's garden has four foot drifts. The good news is that her stuff likes a period under snow.

maryann - Clearing down the pantry seems like a good idea. When we cleared everything for our re-painting, we found stuff of unknown vintage just waiting to be tossed. I suspect it could have sat there for another dozen years.

Tazzy - It's the little quirks in tax laws that drive me nuts. If I own a mutual fund that makes me $1 from overseas, I have to figure out a whole section of tax code to handle it. Makes me think that putting cash under the mattress wasn't so dumb. [Yep, it's a strain on the trees when they bud too early.]

IBelieveInMe2 – Just the reminder I need today, "This lifestyle change stuff is hard and constant work." [Yep, duct tape is vicious stuff. I own a bunch but have some awful experiences with the residue it leaves behind when removed.]

Julia (Julia150) – Good to hear that you're successfully weaning yourself from the JC food. Right now, Phoenix sounds wonderful.

Kitty (Bootedkitty) – Thanks for starting our Monday with a smile. Hope your snow comes in a small batch.

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

characteristic 5
You Comfort Yourself With Food

When thin people are emotionally upset, they don't turn to food for distraction or solace. It just doesn't cross their minds. If anything, they tend to lose their desire to eat.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 38.

02-11-2013, 09:07 AM
Hello, all! We returned from our trip home to Florida yesterday, and now are working to get back into our routine. I unwisely hopped on the scale this morning after earlier deciding that I would wait until my regular weigh-in day on Saturday ... yeesh. Back to work with healthier eating. We didn't eat a LOT, but a lot of things that we do not have at the ready, or choose, when not on vacation.

Will plan out the meals for this week and have already planned one indulgence on Valentine's Day, but are celebrating DH's birthday with his family this weekend, as well. Need to get crackin' on exercise if only to burn a few of these calories off. Seeems at home I do much better with the indulgences since I"m not in vacation mode/mentality.

Two goals for me by tomorrow evening - to have reread a few of the earlier chapeters of Beck's book, and get caught up with the week's worth of postings to see how everyone is doing. I couldn't really read/write online during the trip and now am so "lost"... Hope everyone is doing well!

02-11-2013, 09:16 AM
Good morning all!

I'll do personals tonight, but wanted to check in this morning.

My dieting schedule calls for planning meals (and preparing a shopping list) Sunday evening. With all the things to do after getting back from a trip out of town, it didn't get done :-(. However, I did it this morning so I'm ready for my scheduled grocery trip after work today. Weekly meal planning is getting easier since I can cut and paste from previous weeks. Planning for today isn't detailed enough, but I weigh or measure everything, so I know I can fill it in today on a break from work.

I stayed very close to my calorie goal while I was in Chicago--even with two pieces of Chicago pizza (can't get pizza like that in Dayton, except for Uno's) and a piece of grandma's birthday cake. I am actually down after my weekend away! Credit to me!

I had an interesting breakfast out experience. I picked a menu option, but ordered 1 egg instead of 2, 2 pieces of bacon instead of 3, 1 pancake instead of 2 (butter on the side, no powdered sugar), and fruit instead of hash browns. I ate my entire meal--and was uncomfortably full. If I was uncomfortably full after 1/2 to 2/3 of the listed items, that just tells me how huge the listed menu really is!

I appreciate the good wishes for my grandma's birthday. She is in good health--frail, but healthy and still sharp. I feel very fortunate.

I have my scheduled doctor's appointment this morning. I haven't tested my morning blood sugar in so long I can't remember--so I guess I'll find out this morning what it is. I'm fasting until after my appointment, since I'm sure he'll want to order blood work. The first item on my ARC is getting my blood sugar and cholesterol under control. I'll find out soon if I'm making progress there.

BillBE: I love the saga of your zipper, too. I saw pictures of the snow on TV--wow.

Happy Monday to everyone!

02-11-2013, 09:38 AM
Hi Coaches!

Very brief, but checking in. credit. Weighed this morning. credit. Have a

I traveled last night...thought if I left at 530pm I would miss the worst of the ski traffic. wrong. My two hour trip was 4.5 hours. I stopped on the West side of the divide to look for bananas...a wait out the traffic thing. Alas, I finally asked and was told no one can get organic bananas here right now. I bought apples. Decided, too, I'd better eat. credit for avoiding the multitudes of poor choices and heading in to noodlecompany for my favorite asian salad w/tofu. credit.

02-11-2013, 11:44 AM
Good Morning, Coaches.

After reading posts this morning, I had a feeling that everyone is in the mainstream of life and that is a good thing, not always easy but a good thing. By posting here, I feel like I am paying my tribute to the health gods despite my busy schedule. That is, also, a good thing.

I did the first leg of my return to shopping yesterday--the health food store (I couldn't go to box stores on a Sunday afternoon-good gravy.)I took my time to see what was available. I found the tart cherry juice I am supposed to drink at morning and night (for the flat belly diet) Expensive but I am willing to give it a shot. The other two shopping legs will be this morning after step class.

I wrote my food plan down. It is complicated because it is a new menu. I know once I get the hang of it, it will get easier. Credit for doing the new and uncomfortable. Stepped on the scale and it was up instead of down but I know that is because I have been exercising more and my muscle are sore. Credit for knowing it is just a number.

Julia150: We farm walnuts and open ground that rotates. We desperately need rain.
Beverleyjoy: Congrats on your streak. Thanks for the reminder to eat slow. Boy, do I need that
BBE: How is the leg with all this exercise?
Lexxiss: My number one nightmare is traffic. I moved to my city years ago because I couldn't take the LA traffic.
Tazzy: Yuck for working late, credit for getting the thing done.
IBELieveinMe2: This is a long race. You will be back on track and below two hundred in no time. Just keep doing what you have been doing.
BethfromDayton: It always amazes how little food I actually need (compared to what I want)

Everybody else, A big Wave!

02-11-2013, 12:18 PM
Posting, credit, even though my day already feels like it's running behind. Encountering a new sabotaging thought for maintenance -- I'm at the bottom of my maintenance range, that means I should get to eat whatever I want, right? Wrong. Doing some of that yesterday means I'm now at the mid-point of my maintenance range so I don't have to worry about that thought today. But I'd like to handle it better next time the opportunity arises.

Exercise: +30 450/1300 minutes for February

Julia150: I declared myself in maintenance on January 1st, but mostly because I weighed the same as I did on January 1, 2012. That's how I knew I was in maintenance--I've been maintaining! A year ago, I wasn't sure if I was at my final weight. Maybe I would go lower. Or maybe I would find it all too difficult to maintain and choose a higher weight. It took a year to figure out what range I wanted for my maintenance weight.

Tazzy: I'm maintaining in a 2 kg range (a little less than 5 pounds). In the last year, I've been both lower and higher -- in about a 9 pound range. I'm hoping, this year, to keep things a bit tighter now that I'm committed to a range.

bethFromDayton: Good for you! I managed a loss with my last food-centric trip to Chicago, too. I skipped snacks and walked a ton as well as eating some of the best food of my life.

02-11-2013, 07:21 PM
Hi coaches/friends... I had another healthful day yesterday. I am grateful.

The day went in all directions. DH and a neighbor were helping a different neighbor put his tv on the wall with speakers. Well the neighbor with the new TV had a drill accident and had to go to the ER. I had a roast and veggies in the crock pot. When folks got back from the ER our friends ordered a pizza for the four families helping. I was going eat in at home and go over after. DH had a great idea.... he suggested..just bring the crockpot over and add it to the supper. It worked out well. I stayed out of the pizza, donuts, cookies and candy. CREDITS!!

During the afternoon 4 of the neighbors kids were here... I was watching them while folks worked on the project. We did some art projects, watched a Disney movie and had a snack... It was tortila and potato chips. I dished them out and didn't have a bite. Credit..

So, I was able to to stay within my plan. Also... been working on slowing down. I did my meditations, did will with sodium, always left a bite, no seconds, gave credit, weighed/exercises/water, and did my journal work.

I don't have time for personals today. Thanks to everyone for your comments and support.

02-11-2013, 10:39 PM
Hi all!

I started my week off right--food on plan, 40 minutes of walking (I'm still slow but at least we're moving), grocery shopping as scheduled, and tomorrow's food already entered into MFP.

I also had a doctor's visit this morning--and my fasting blood sugar is much improved. This is a big deal and is half of the first item on my ARC (cholesterol is the other half). My weight is down from the last time I saw him (last Feb)--but he doesn't realize it went up 10+ lbs before it came down.

I've signed up for another resolution challenge through April Fool's Day. That'll be my last exercise one for a while--I'm having toe surgery on April 3rd and will be mostly off my feet and definitely not exercising for 6-8 weeks. I am not looking forward to it, but the podiatrist assures me that the pain will get worse and not better, so, we scheduled surgery.

Beverlyjoy: Credit for slowing down the eating. I find that hard--I feel as if I'm getting better at it--but if I'm not diligent and get caught up in conversation, I speed up. Definite credits for counting to 10!

BigchiefDavid: Looking forward to hearing how a child on your shoulders kept you from snacking!

BillBE: I'm picturing a wall of snow--and feeling like you're in a maze. Fresh snow sure is beautiful.

Bootedkitty: When I initially learned about CBT for non-food stuff, I was told it can be a valuable step to recognize you're having sabotaging thoughts, even if you aren't good yet at responding to them. If I recall correctly, the first step is to recognize, the second step is to respond, and the third step is to internalize. I tell myself "I recognized it. Next time, I'll respond <this way>." Experience tells me CBT gets easier. So, credit for recognizing!

gardenerjoy: I had to look up the Game On Diet. It sounds as if you're adjusting it well--especially by planning instead of just taking an entire meal off. Thanks for the reminder about not letting perfection get in the way of progress.

IBelieveInMe2: Soon you'll hit that 1xx for real. At least with a new scale you know you're getting accurate numbers. Credit for getting back to reading your response cards. I don't know if this would help you, but I keep a copy of the ARC where I see it (and read it) every morning when I get ready for the day. Even if I don't read it a second time, I always read it once, and it keeps me focused. Thanks for the pointer about Kneed-It bands--I'll look them up. The doctor says it's the inner meniscus (both knees) and to never do jumping jacks again, but I can keep walking. (I probably have some various knee braces in the basement--I've injured them before.) (Oh, and some fitness DVDs, including Biggest Loser and Leslie Sansone, came in the mail today.)

Julia150: Are you going to keep up with JC 5 days a week and your own food 2 days a week while you're gone? (Is that still your plan?) For Arizona in the winter, you pack several sweaters and plan to layer--it will be cool in the mornings and at night and be lovely most afternoons.

Lexiss: I love your search for an organic banana. Credit for having a smoothie before being tempted with hunger at a dessert auction and for selecting a good choice at noodlecompany.

maryann: Credit for compensating for chocolate with a smaller dinner. I know Beck says we should eat the rest of the day normally, but it seems to me that normal compensation makes sense. That is, a smaller dinner, but not skipping dinner. I ought to try juicing--you inspire me. I'm impressed by cooking from the pantry, too--I have tons of food in there--I think I'm going to go through it and bring my son a load of food!

nationalparker: Welcome back! Credit for planning this week's menus already. I know what you mean about rereading earlier chapters--I find myself leafing through the pink book and just re-reading sections of it almost every day.

onebyone: Hope all is well.

Tazzy: Credit for following the plan--and congrats for it being so successful! Having the rule "no eating standing up" keeps me in line at the grocery and Sam's Club.

Hope everyone's week is starting out great!

02-12-2013, 01:40 AM
Quick check in here.
Had my JC appointment and I'm under 200 there too. (I always consider my official weight to be first thing in the morning bare nekked) At home I was 197 so I survived my weekend off JC food. I am going to go to 4 days of JC food and 3 on my own so I'm going to have to tighten up my planning. We are getting hit with a HUGE tax bill this year. Got to be conservative :) Some of the food I really like and it's so darn easy.
Beth- I hope I can be as successful on my weekend away as you are. Big credits to you.

I think I just had a lightbulb go on! Page 31 in the pink book "Just as the decision to eat can reduce tension, the decision NOT to eat can reduce tension". I am going to plan a few indulgences for my weekend away and eat very basically (exchanges) the majority of the weekend. The trip is NOT about the food. I'll feel so self righteous too. Heehee

Going to bed, I'll have personals tomorrow.

02-12-2013, 07:37 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Exercise was threading myself along plowed sidewalks and in streets for 2.5 miles to get to a class and back - CREDIT moi. Walking in the rain isn't so romantic when there's packed snow underfoot making for uber slippery. But, it was neat to be able to go at all. Also moved my car to shovel the snow that had been blown underneath. So now I'm really done. Our planned evening event was cancelled, so we grabbed the chance to see the movie Quartet with Maggie Smith. Since I'm in love with Maggie Smith, my opinion is suspect, but it was a charming movie. Short with good music. Despite the high price of movies, when the story is brief, the movie should be brief - my thanks to Dustin Hoffman for doing that in his first directed movie.

Eating wandered in the afternoon - Ouch. Think I'll take the approach of Lent as an excuse to get my house back in order.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – That's a demonic Sabotaging Thought: when you're doing well you should be able to eat "whatever I want." Shuddering.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – 4.5 hours is a long trip. Love the image of Diogenes looking for an organic banana, LOL.

Beverlyjoy – Kudos for dishing out snacks to the kids "and didn't have a bite."

maryann - Kudos, indeed, "for doing the new and uncomfortable." [My leg is sufficiently restored that I don't think of it as a limitation anymore. Still gotta do my exercises to get it back to 100%.]

nationalparker – Neat to plan in advance to have one indulgence for Valentine's Day.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Congrats on the down scale reading after a trip to Chicago - with Chicago pizza even. Your breakfast story is sobering.

Julia (Julia150) – Ouch for the "HUGE tax bill" - next time I visit a National Park I'll think of you as a sponsor, LOL. Monster Kudos for internalizing the neat Beck thought, "Just as the decision to eat can reduce tension, the decision NOT to eat can reduce tension,"

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

characteristic 5
You Comfort Yourself With Food

On the other hand, when you're distressed or bored, you might immediately want to grab food. Eating can distract you from your negative feelings and soothe you. In fact, there are certain foods - chocolate, for example - that contains substances that release "feel good" chemicals in your brain.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 38.

02-12-2013, 08:47 AM
Hi Beckfolks/coaches/friends - yesterday was a healthy day - I am grateful.

I had many credits (which I will mention first) - planned/measured/logged food, mindful of sodium/exercise/water, read arc/rc, always left a bite, tried to eat slower (breakast & dinner almost 20 minutes), no seconds, & checked in. Also, I have increased the reps on most of my exercises.

Now for the struggles (Dr. Beck says to remember all the things done right which often outnumber the struggles). I ate some extra in the evening: apple, rice cake, bite of potato. I was able to stop myself. Dietician suggested putting a chair in front of the fridge as a 'sign' the kitchen is closed. Also... I answered my sabatoging thoughts with No Choice and Stand Firm. Credit and grateful to be able to stop. Also, I struggled with licking the spoon, fingers, & tasting while preparing food. I will work on that today.

I've been writing more stories lately. It's so easy, however, to hop on the internet when using the laptop for work or writing. I must work on that.

billbe - credit for your LONG walk. Sounds like your injury is healing very very well. Oops on the extra food. I think it's a good idea use 'Lent' as a way to get on your plan again... they way you'd like. 'Switching it up' can be very helpful. It can renue the enthusiasm.

Julia - I kind of agree to keep your neked early morning weight as your 'official' weight. It just keeps it simpler. Of course, your JC person will take it, too - but, it's with clothing, food etc. YOU know what the 'real' number is. Tell her that number, member.

Somethings wrong with my computer. It's going crazy.I'll try to get back later.

02-12-2013, 09:10 AM
Hi Coaches!

A work day and home life filled with extra chores w/o backup support from DH AND pup being with me, which was the emotional decision of my trip over the hill. DH has been gone about a month now and while I do understand why he'd rather be "there" right now I got quite disenchanted with living without the pup for so long...I always get to enjoy daily conversations w/DH. Result...our conversation last eve....he is feeling bad now about not being over here with me to be part of the support system (translation-not so fun w/o pup).:lol:

I've weighed this morning and have accomplished many other chores. I so appreciate everyone here. I will try to get back for personals after work....usually very tired. I am going to pull out my original crystal mardi gras beads today and will wear them to work.

02-12-2013, 09:28 AM
Good morning, coaches and buddies! Yesterday was a so-so day, mostly on plan. I did the marketing for the week after work, but need to finish the meal plan. Credits for talking myself OUT of going to our local cajun place for a take-out meal that is my favorite and on their menu infrequently. I now am able to split it in half and enjoy for two smaller meals. BUT - I can save that idea and use it another day. Struggled with being tempted to snack on this and that - and didn't fully log everything on MyFitnessPal, which I need to this morning. Also credit for getting on the treadmill.

DH picked up our pooch from his folks, who were petsitting her with their dogs, so number one chore tonight is a bath for her.

We don't watch tv often, and I'd dvr'd the Downton Abbey on Sunday - now I'm itching to watch it - but the treadmill is in another I have to make the time to just WATCH it. We try to make fairly good use of our evenings, even if it's DH practicing guitar and me playing with pets and puttering. I have a few projects lined up that I want to tackle and I want to learn mosaics and not sure how the best way to start is. Our local continuing education classes used to offer that, but not the past few semesters. I might call and see if it's being considered for the summer. If not, I'll jump in another way.

Scale shows a two-pound gain from the trip ... phooey. I certainly did eat to reflect that, though, I believe.

Bill - Thanks for the good words about Quartet - I'm anxious to see it and love a shorter movie. I much prefer black/white movies of the 40s/50s when they told a tight story in 90 mins or less :)

JuliaWhoIsSolidlyInOnederland - GREAT JOB here lately! Sounds like you're doing a good job planning for your weekend. Good luck and as Bill said, don't return with any more of you... (clearly do as I say he says and not as I did!!) ha ha My trip was wonderful; went to Charleston SC for a few days in the middle of the week, as well.

BeverlyJoy - I like the visual of the kitchen being closed. I want to create one for myself of the kitchen closed before a meal as well ... to not graze. (maybe a picture of a cow in a field, but a pretty one?) Hm. Thank you for the idea of the visual.

Lexiss - Your travels there always get me stressed with the snow and the mountains - I detest winter driving. My sister lives in Colorado Springs and was just in Breckenridge where the ski traffic nearly tripled their drive time. At least it's that and not pileups and wrecks that are slowing it down, I guess... Enjoy the pup! I think I just realized you're only FOUR POUNDS away from your goal - that's WONDERFUL!!

Lunch is at my desk at work today, so hope to get in and read more and do more personals. Take care, all!

02-12-2013, 10:30 AM
My computer seems to have stopped 'jumping' around. Grateful.

Back to personals.

nationalparker - credit for not going to your favorite restaurant and changing your plan in an impromtu manner. Those two pounds. If your food was OK... it's probably other factors. Just a number Dr.Beck says. I will have to check out Downtown Abby. Everyone is loving that show.

lexxiss/debbie - I am always kind of amazed at all the traveling. It's hard being without the doggie for someone, for sure. Have you found any organic bananas?

bethfromdayton - credit for seeing those lab numbers go down and the doc noticing a weight loss - even though it's more than he thinks. You might be able to do some upper body exericises after your surgery - if the doctor permits it. (seated)

gardenerjoy - maintainence (I hear) is a challenge to, kind of, find out how to do it and finding a comfort zone. Credit for working on it.

maryann - credit for getting all the things you need to begin the Belly Fat PLan. It takes effort, often, to get all things ready. Yes, that number is just a number. Don't we need to tatoo this to our brains!

bootedkitty - credit for making those good choices.

Ibelieveinme - gosh... the new scale saying a different higher number than the old is hard to take. That happened to me, too. Either way... it will work out. Hop back on your plan and it will be fine. Thanks for mentioning reading the advantage cards. Sometimes I forget.

tazzy - my Lenton Roses aren't real roses... it's a nickname because it's a flower that generally blooms in February, even in the snow. The plant is Hellebores. Credit for working on those taxes!

02-12-2013, 12:40 PM
Quick post. I have a new piece up on Huffington Post which effects my day in odd ways and I'm never quite sure when they're going to put it up until it's there -- so hard to plan around. I already had a full day planned! But, no complaints, this is a very good thing.

A Librarian's Tips for a Healthy Heart (

02-12-2013, 09:46 PM
Good Evening, Coaches.

Busy day at school then home to make Valentine treats for DS for school and try to make an official stew! I think I have made one other in my life. We'll see.

So far, new plan makes me feel very unhungry. One small chocolate at school and then a handful of DS sweets but Credit for an otherwise perfect day. I now eat a yogurt before any meal. Interesting, certainly filling. Lots of prep it seems in the morning but I can stick it out until it gets easier.

Tired and still have to help with music and homework. Good thing I can demand hugs for payment

02-12-2013, 11:07 PM
Hi all!

I deviated from lunch and dinner today, but still stayed within parameters. I forgot my lunch today--first time it's happened in the 5 weeks I've been packing instead of buying at the canteen. Fortunately, I had a spare frozen meal in the freezer, so I ate that and bought an orange from the canteen to augment it. Tomorrow I'll bring in today's lunch--and another backup freezer meal.

When I grocery shopped yesterday, I planned sauteed onions and mushrooms with our steaks tonight--but somehow hadn't included it in the day's plan. I had it anyway. I planned for 4 oz of steak, but had 4.5 oz. I did limit myself to the half potato and the measured butter and sour cream I'd planned for.

We did take an extra walk tonight, so credit for that.

I've got tomorrow's eating all planned out and entered into MyFitnessPal. I find that it's easier to plan ahead if I just enter everything the day before instead of trying to prepare a separate written plan. Because of how MFP works, I have to enter quantities and be precise. I don't always add the food notes for how I varied, though--I need to get better at that.

Interestingly enough, I find it easier to "Enter tomorrow's food into MFP" than "Plan tomorrow's eating". They are the same thing--but one "feels" easier to me than the other.

I was thinking today about taking time for dieting. I am doing things now that I didn't make time for before--creating a weekly meal plan, shopping on a schedule, making lunch the night before, preparing my snack the day before, daily exercise. Credits!

02-13-2013, 02:54 AM
Good morning everybody, wednesday...half of the week, as someone said it's a so and so week for me, having up and down in life is normal I guess. I stayed OP anyway, but if you are not "in the mood" and concentrated on what you do, you don't feel you are doing well, isn't it? At least it seems to me it's working like that this week.
I have to focus on listening to my stomach when I eat, I'd like to "jump" and start flying alone, but maybe it's not the time yet.
Ok, go back focusing on today and what I can do today to feel proud of myself and give myself credit! :-)
Have a good day.

02-13-2013, 06:08 AM
Hi Coaches!

I made a phone call from work to find my absolute favorite in the world,SumoMandarins, were in at WhFoods. I drove 40miles RT after work to acquire 12 at a cost of $24...reminding me on the way home of the old phrase, "I'dwalk a mile for aCamel". :lol: BTW-there were plenty of organic bananas but since the Sumo season is 4-6 weeks I have only one focus now. credit for healthy obsessions! OP yesterday, with my last few bites of dinner given to the pup. I weighed already (so-so) and am getting my home-work done before taking my mom to her monthly eye appt. in Denver. Update-DH is contemplating taking "Greyhound" back over after only 48 hrs.w/o pup. :lol: Love me love my dog. :)

BillBlueEyes, wow! 2.5 mile walk post blizzard is great, especially with rain falling. I'm familiar with that scenario after all my years in coastal Alaska. ..nothing slicker than rain on snow/ice. Kudos for engaging the Lent inspired opportunity to "get my house back in order". BTW-I buy my smoothie powders throughAmazon...makes it easy to get that free shipping...I just stock up again. I just can't imagine paying to ship when I could get it for free...

Bootedkitty, credit for staying OP even though you were not in the mood. I agree, sometimes when I'm having a so so week I don't feel like I'm doing so well. I also find that feeling comes and goes which is why I appreciate the support of the group VS "flying alone".

Beth(FromDayton), great job having a spare frozen meal in the freezer AND a commitment to replace it. Credit for avoiding the canteen for 5 weeks now! Funny how it works-easier to enter tomorrows food into MFP. I call it finding "your groove".

MaryAnn, great that you are feeling "unhungry" with the new plan. Is the yogurt before each meal just to help with feeling full or is there a more scientific reason? You asked about my smoothie-sorry it took a bit to respond. My everyday ingredients: ginger root, beet, kale, apple, carrot, parsley, cucumber. I often add berries (blueberry/raspberry) and always have a scoop of amaranth/quinoa based protein powder and a greens powder. Mediocre on taste (at times) but super great for energy.

gardenerjoy, many kudos for the great articles you have been writing for H.Post. I had time last eve to read every one. I feel like I know someone famous now.

Beverlyjoy, I smiled when I read that your DH suggested you just bring the crockpot to the neighbors the other night. What a great idea and I'm glad it worked out well. I am reminded again, that it's really OK to bring something healthier and that other folks really don't mind.

nationalparker, I'm wondering if your sis takes the back road from Breck to Co.Springs. I live right off I-70 in both locations and the ski traffic on weekends is B-A-D. I'm a great winter driver, though, and don't mind the roads...just the traffic. Credit for recognizing you can have a certain meal "another day" when you've planned for it. I think it's a great Beck inspired strategy.

Julia, I love "the trip is NOT about the food". Credit for planning ahead.

IBelieveInMe2, I agree with your statement, "This lifestyle change stuff is hard and constant work.." It does seem to get easier when we practice our skills everyday, just as Dr. Beck suggests.

Tazzy, I'm so glad you continue checking in here despite your busy schedule. Re:Costco-I think it's funny, too, how everybody lines up for samples now that I don't participate. Credit for skills which result in "no interest".

BigChiefDavid, looking forward to MardiGras report. Credit for losing weight during "the season".

02-13-2013, 07:10 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – In a lecture last night I learned that the nitrogen fixing bacteria, Rhizobia, that all farmers know clusters on the roots of beans where they add nitrogen to the soil, exist in the digestive tracks of ants that live up in the canopy. Just blows my mind. If you live in the top of a tree you're a vegetarian and need protein - so just make it from the air using Rhizobia bacteria. If people could learn that trick we could survive on Ramen noodles! Nature never ceases to astound me, whenever I can get info past my Latin-word-phobic brain. CREDIT moi for "Enrich Your Life."

Dinner was the doggie bags from a visit to Thai restaurant after the snow shoveling. Their 'small' meal easily makes two meals - we arrive with our own plastic containers to make the process easier. Sometimes the predictable is comforting.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Congrats on yet another Huffington Post publication. Enjoyed your wordplay around 'heart.'

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Gotto go get me some Sumo Mandarins on your recommendations. LOL at trying to picture the plastic container for their odd shape.

Beverlyjoy – Neat idea to put a chair in front of the fridge. I'd need one in front of the pantry as well, LOL. I googled for a picture of your Lenten Rose Hellebores - tough looking flower there.

maryann - Good luck on that [I]"official stew" (pondering what that might mean).

nationalparker – Kudos for having the system of splitting your Cajun restaurant meal into two meals. I'm glad to hear that others do that regularly. I once offered to split a single meal with DW but she sneered - she wanted her doggie bag for the next day.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Yep, Kudos indeed for making time for dieting.

Kitty (Bootedkitty) – For me, when not "in the mood" I judge my results harshly. Thanks for pointing that out. Since our newspapers are quite full of the surprise announcement from the pope, I can only imagine the coverage by the Italian papers.

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

characteristic 5
You Comfort Yourself With Food

The problem, of course, is that you feel better only momentarily. What happens as soon as you're finished eating? You still have to deal with the problem that made you upset. And, on top of that, you feel bad that you strayed from your diet. You become self-critical, undermine your confidence, and feel even worse than you did at the start.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 38.

02-13-2013, 09:46 AM
Good morning - I have a mission and need your help! I counted it up yesterday and have nine weeks until I have to work the special event for work ... and would like to really push myself through these nine weeks - to stay on my exercise (I seem to make better choices nutritionally and hope it'll help with toning), eat within my guidelines and hopefully see some decent progress. I would love to be able to fit into a few of my nicer clothes as I have to dress up much more than I do for a typical workday ... and run around an arena for 12 hours in heels each day. The stress I feel when thinking of this project is nearly palpable, I feel I will be the heaviest person there. I've worked this event over the years about five times and even when I was at 145, I felt oversized as I was still in 10s and 12s. I will do a response card that relates directly to this event - The momentary lift of eating something not on my plan/that really won't work into my plan will be followed by self-recrimination and will not get me to where I want to be in nine weeks. THANKS BILL - perfect timing for that nugget today.

Yesterday after work, I took a friend to get her car that was at the shop, and then on to home, arriving about an hour later than normal. The last thing I felt like doing was getting on the treadmill, but the sun was going to be setting soon and so walking alone (well, with a poodle/terrier mix that does NOT look threatening) on the trail was not an option. Regardless, I hopped on the treadmill and felt good when I was done - headed into the kitchen to prep dinner (mozz bruschetta turkey burgers/sans bun, carrots, vegetarian baked beans with onions yum)...
Rooted around and found a John Denver cd and put that on high volume while cooking and danced with dog in the kitchen, singing Leaving on a Jet Plane at the top of my lungs - hitting one of the same notes he does every now and then. I dance, she leaps around and I worry she'll tear an ACL. Time alone is good for the soul now and then. (again, no judging on my music likes - haha!)

Lexxiss - WOW - on driving to get those SumoMandarins. I must look them up - I've not seen them in my markets or Trader Joe's. I squawked at paying $8 for 5 apples this week. But they were beauties. (And your line of being a great winter driver has me smiling - that's a line I can never utter - I HATE IT and am not good, having seen way too many wrecks and slideoffs that stress me beyond belief.)

BillBlueEyes - Good job right back at ya for splitting the meal in two servings from your Thai spot. Our cajun place uses styrofoam, so I try to bring my leftover container with me, as there's no place here that recycles styrofoam (does anyone know WHY there are so few places to do that - it's the easiest thing to recycle!) ... On another side note - there were boxes of donuts around this office yesterday for various "fat Tuesday" celebrations, including a German one!

BootedKitty - You got it right - I agree, when my week is blah, I feel I am doing less than great, even if I am doing well. Interesting to connect that. What challenges do you see coming up for the weekend - anything in particular?

BethFromDayton - I, too, am getting better with recording on MyFitnessPal - I want to get used to it and maybe start connecting with those who are in this forum, not wide open - is there a way to do that for those who are interested? Or is it just you're "open" or "closed"? Can you tell I don't facebook, etc.? The credits are rolling for you - great job!

Maryann - How was the stew? I, too, am intrigued by the "official" moniker - fill us in! Hope you were able to stave off any of the treats calling when prepping them last night.

GardenerJoy - Every time I type your name, I think of how I'm anxious to get to work in my gardens this spring! Are you looking forward to that as well? It seems so bleak up here, after seeing the azaleas and dogwood in bloom at home.

Julia150 - Safe travels for when you head out for your long weekend trip! I am going to work on eating slower, thanks for the note on that - I'm finding that I start eating when we sit down, and end up finishing before DH... and that bothers me. I have less on my plate than him, but don't want to speed through.

IBelieveInMe - Hope your evening was a good one and you're starting out the day strong! Anything coming up this weekend that you're going to be challenged by a bit? I like to hear your plans as you seem to work the Beck mindset very well. We have another birthday celebration for DH, this time with his family at our home (folks, daughter). He's picked the menu - easily workable within plan - and he suggested an ice cream cake (yes, in February). That is NO temptation for me, so a double bonus - I will have a sliver if any. I want to find a small cake, though, so we're not sending it home with his folks, who don't need it either. Temps are to be back in the 15-25 range, so outdoor activity might be curtailed.

02-13-2013, 12:06 PM
Quick post again. Yesterday's marketing on social networks put me behind on some things but I'm persevering. Eating wasn't up to par yesterday, but I still had a loss on the scale this morning -- anxiety burns calories? Plan to get back on track today including dinner at my brother's where I know I can count on a healthy meal.

02-13-2013, 01:27 PM
Hi there.
I'm assuming this is an ok place to "sign up"? I've been stalking now off and on for an embarassingly long time. In a nutshell, I've lost 66 pounds since last April through a combination of a specific workout program at my local health club, lots of water exercises, and eating healthy. I have 2 more months in "the plan" at the health club, where I'll continue with the exercise but just not the personal trainer. I am STUCK. I have bounced around with the same 5 pounds since mid-December. I thought I'd re-discovered my motivation last week FINALLY, but alas, yesterday I answered the call to my earlier sugar cravings, and the rest as they say, is history. ANYWAY, I've started reading Beck. Again. The newer book. Can this group be my "coaches"? I understand that for this to work, I need to be accountable daily. I really, really need something. I want to lose at least 30 more. So, since my nutshell is starting to expand, AND I need to get to school (Kindergarten Instructional Assistant), I'll add more later. Thank you in advance. Really. I feel a touch of hope, having just introduced myself...putting it in print, as it were:)

02-13-2013, 02:24 PM
WELLCOME kindercoach!! You are in the right place to find support, and people who have passed/are passing the same experiences like you are!!
And thank you all who have replied to my post about my so so week! It really gets frustrating sometimes staying in control, even if you know perfectly it's the only way to feel good. No choice is the freedom of not having to choose... this so so week can be stressful! But I realised that I may only need a vacation from work in the end...ufffff....

About the Pope, well...lots of words on the newspapers but in this period we also have a lot of (useless) words about politicians because on 24th february there are the elections.
I'm bored and fed up by both the subjects.. about the Pope because I think it's been humble from his part admitting he's just a man, an old man who doesn't want to go on with this role, and I respect him as human being, but I'm an unbeliever so I think Church is just politics, I don't really care about what they do.
And I feel disappointed about the "other" Italian politics, because, as you may know things are not going so well here from the economical point of view (like in most part of the world I think...).

Going back to us...challenges for my coming weekend?....always.... MUM'S LUNCH!!!!! AAaaahhaaaa :p


02-13-2013, 03:14 PM
Hi folks/becksters/friends...

Kindercoach - WELCOME!!! I am so glad you posted. Folks here are helpful and friendly.

Yesterday was about 90% op. My plan took lots of twists and turns... but, I stayed within the perimeter of my plan. I did, however, eat a few hundred extra calories in the evening. It will just take me a couple of days to figure out the best way to combine my three needs in eating. There's alot to choose from, kinda. It won't hurt me to eat cooked fruits and veggies for a little while.

I am happy to say that I got to move my ticker to 213. I had been playing with 6 pounds for several months. I am pretty happy about it!

I did my journal, planned (went out the window) - but, did OK, measured, logged food and sodium, exercises, meditation, arc/rc, and breakfast/lunch/dinner we 20 minutes long or so. Credits.

I've been to some meetings and am putting all my stories on paper. I have most of them in my head. This will be a big job. (22 years worth!) I am trying to figure out how to find a literary agent to help me get two children's books published. It's just so hard - most publishers don't take unsolicited copy anymore. Not fair.....

I will try to get back to personals later, if I can.

Remember - treat yourself as kindly as you would treat a good friend.

02-13-2013, 03:20 PM
Welcome, Kindercoach!! I'm looking forward to learning more about you and your challenges! GREAT JOB so far - you've really done well.

I've only been here a little while, but everyone has been very welcoming and supportive, as well as handing out great tips!

02-14-2013, 12:04 AM
Hi Everyone!

Welcome Kindercoach! As others have said it's a good group of people here, very supportive and encouraging.

Yesterday was okay until after dinner, I hate it when I don't plan well, I was still hungry and ended up endlessly snacking. Guess the only plus side was it was on rice cakes but they still were not on the plan. Am feeling the same way tonight after dinner but think I'll go and get an apple instead!

I'm really tired this week and am looking forward to a long weekend with no definite plans. I'm paying for being in the office all day on Sunday. At least the puppies have been sleeping through the night, even last night when I had a sneezing attack at 4am, they didn't stir at all. Here's hoping it's the same tonight without the sneezing.

I'll be back soon!

02-14-2013, 12:34 AM
Hi all!

I'm up a bit late tonight--but need to get some sleep.

Food and exercise OP today. DD asked what was for dinner tonight and I had to pull MFP to know what fruits we were having for dinner (strawberries and blueberries).

I didn't make my lunch and snack for tomorrow afternoon right after dinner, so just did it now--and found that I was hungry. Credits to me for not having any of the strawberries, ham, or cheese that I was packing up.

I am wondering if I need to start thinking about adding an evening snack. I'm eating less at dinner (didn't finish my measured cup of tortillini and 3/4 cup of meat sauce). I ate one tortillini past the recognition that I was full. I had a sense of defiance--this is my dinner--I measured it out--I get to eat it all, which is how the extra one got consumed. But m goal needs to be stopping when I'm full, even if I've stacked the deck in my favor by giving myself a measured portion. I still can get full before I finish--and I need to honor that and not listen to my mouth wanting another bite of the tasty goodness.

I found it easier to stop at lunch--finished almost all of my salad--but realized I was full with strawberries still there. I had another rebellious moment where I wanted to eat my delicious strawberries--but resolutely stopped and closed up the container.

There is definitely something in me that wants to finish what's on my plate.

I have everything planned out for tomorrow. Credit for that! Oh--and I was down another pound this morning. I'm waiting to see if it "sticks" before updating my ticker.

Beverlyjoy: Credit for staying within the parameters of your plan. YAY for 213!

BillBE: I'm glad you were able to enjoy your leftovers. That sounds like a fascinating lecture.

Bootedkitty: Do you have a strategy for Mum's Lunch? It's an on-going thing--and it sounds like your mom is a great cook!

gardenerjoy: Credit for the scale success!

Kindercoach: Welcome! This is a great group to have for diet buddies and coaches--and a great group to be one for. Congrats on the 66 lbs--that's terrific.

Lexiss: I'll drive 40 miles for a SumoMandarin (and I don't know what those are).

nationalparker: Credit for getting on the treadmill even when you didn't feel like it--and finding out you felt better for having done it. Your special event coming up made me think of the woman in the pink book who is concerned about people judging her on the beach. Do you think there's any way to let go of the anxiety about being 'not as thin as everyone else at this one specific event', while still keeping the motivation?

Tazzy: Credit for selecting an apple rather than the rice cakes. If you want food after dinner, do you need to plan an evening snack? I know I'm starting to wonder if I do. I hope you rest less-sneezily tonight.

Have a great Thursday everyone!

02-14-2013, 12:42 AM
Thank you for the welcome. Today was MUCH better than yesterday, which ended up in an all-out binge. I did valentines for my Kindergarteners tonight along with chocolate hearts...sampled some...but DIDN'T EAT THE WHOLE BAG :)
Tomorrow night is weigh-in. I'm upset at myself b/c if I'd not gone crazy yesterday, I'd probably have a decent loss. Very new to PRACTICING the Beck tasks, but I KNOW them well:^: such as, do not let one mishap derail one. More tomorrow-

02-14-2013, 06:51 AM
:welcome: kindercoach :welcome:

And, on the occasion of your first post, :wel3fc:

How did you discover the books by Dr. Judith Beck?

And how did you find this Beck forum on 3 Fat Chicks?

02-14-2013, 06:55 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Exercise was walking, CREDIT moi. The sun was out; snow is melting down and not yet blackened. A great time to be out. Made it to a favorite brick-and-mortar book store to find a Valentine's Day card for DW; I'm set once I compose a note. She specifically doesn't want roses or chocolate so I bring her flowers periodically when they first appear in the stores and her gardens are still being winter.

Food was good for meals, CREDIT moi, but continues to be off for snacks - Ouch. I've got taxes to prepare and other stuff that I'm fighting instead of doing. So, snacking happens. Gotta go organize some healthy responses. Think I've been coasting so long I've forgotten how to fight.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Perhaps "anxiety burns calories" - if one is smart enough to work the strategies and avoid snacking like I've been doing.

Beverlyjoy – "Twists and turns" sounds par for the course. Can't wait to read your children's books when published.

Tazzy - Yay for dogs that will choose to sleep through a sneezing attack - a minor gift of privacy, LOL. Neat to plan an apple.

nationalparker – Seems like a golden opportunity for a motivated nine week program. My recommendation is to concentrate on working your eating plan and your exercise plan and let your body choose the weight and shape it wants to be for your event. We're here to cheer you on. Kudos for using John Denver as an exercise coach. [We have ZERO places to recycle Styrofoam around here. NONE. Wish there were.]

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Do I ever know this one, "There is definitely something in me that wants to finish what's on my plate." Kudos for stopping before the strawberries.

Kitty (Bootedkitty) – Oh Yes, "No choice is the freedom of not having to choose" - it does feel good when the decisions are behind us. Good luck at your MUM'S LUNCH. I can imagine being bored already with the too-much-coverage. Even without being able to read Italian, I was a fan of the Corriere della Sera because I could figure out generally what was going on. We were overwhelmed here with election coverage before November, so you have my sympathy.

kindercoach – Congrats on those 66 pounds gone forever using a stellar set of plans. Yep, posting is the way to 'sign up,' and Yep, we'll be your Diet Coaches/Buddies and ask that you play that role for us.

This business of losing the same five pounds over and over is amazingly common. You've made a smart move by seeking accountability. The sugar craving cycle is a big deal to break. Sometimes a period of absolutely NO sugar can help reset the brain that life can proceed without the sugar-drug. Glad you've joined us.

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

characteristic 5
You Comfort Yourself With Food

The Beck Diet Solution
Instead of trying to comfort yourself with food, the Beck Diet Solution teaches you to calm down in other ways: by using distraction and relaxation techniques, by countering your sabotaging thoughts, and by solving the problems that were associated with your negative emotions in the first place.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 38.

02-14-2013, 09:20 AM
Happy Valentine's Day to all! :val1: DH woke up before my alarm went off, whispering Happy Valentine's Day ... nice wake-up! I'd forgotten, even though we celebrated V-Eve last night, each wanting the other to open the gift we bought. I gave him a new lighter frame backpack for overnighting (how romantic, I know) and he got me a pair of new Keen hikers. I'm not 100% on the fit yet, but we'll see. I LOVED them in the store in another color scheme and wonder if that's coloring my judgment.

Treadmill again last night, and got in three miles. Glad I did as DH didn't get home until after 8, so no trail walk was in the plans after dinner and his shower.

Today is the volunteering gig at the school and then Subway - on our trip I saw someone getting a new chopped salad that they were offering, which looked miles better than their regular one, so I'm going to see if mine has that option. Goal - no chips! :) I can do that for sure today. I want extra calories at the ready tonight.

BillBlueEyes - That is a great mental approach - do what I can for the nine weeks and where I land is where I am. At least if I do my all-out best, then I can ask no more. Reread the chapters on overeating and definition of full last night. Good review. On "Plateau" but I am skipping that until I get to one.

BethFromDayton - I DO need to get over the anxiety of this event. I hate that I work in the athletics field and am surrounded by VERY fit people and struggle with this. It wears on my mind and makes me feel inferior. I DO feel they're judging me in this part of my life only. I don't feel that way at a beach, a pool, out to dinner, whatever. I wonder why I have this block. Thanks for the eye-opener. I'm going to mentally work on this. MAJOR credits for not snagging even the healthy stuff when you were prepping meals.

Tazzy - The weekend is only two more days away - hang on! Hope you're able to fully relax and enjoy the pups! And get extra sleep! :)

BeverlyJoy - Yay on moving that ticker down!! You're right around the corner from your halfway mark and that is just amazing! What an accomplishment!

Kindercoach - Kudos for recognizing that the candies weren't on your plan and stopping! :cheer2: I struggle with keeping one holiday's treat at one treat on one day! I tend to think of holidays as a week-long celebration and while that's fun for happy times, it's not fun for me on the scale.

02-14-2013, 09:21 AM
Hi Coaches!

Tired this morning and chose not to weigh before my morning coffee(s). Committing here to accomplish that task when I undress to shower.
BBE-you could have written my post for good but snacks off. I haven't forgotten not to fight....many times I just choose not to.

Welcome! kindercoach! I find that the daily accountability is such a strategy for success. I'm glad you've joined us.

nationalparker, I really liked BBE's suggestion...take these nine weeks as an opportunity to work hard and let your body decide (then you accept) where you are then. In my experience, the perception is an inside job and as you persist day by day week by week you will find you are gaining a new sense of security. I find now, that I am proud of who I am and why I am regardless of where I am. I look forward to sharing your ongoing steps of progress.

:wave: everyone else. I slept in and have less than an hour now before I hit the road.

02-14-2013, 11:22 AM
Hi Coaches,
I'm checking in quickly. I'm working a half day today then off to Phoenix. The weather reports predict temps in the lower 70's. I'm so looking forward to seeing my SIL and her husband.
I'm bouncing around in the upper 190's this week. I have been sticking to the plan with the exception of my nightly indulgence of 1 oz of dry roasted peanuts.
Yesterday afternoon I had a tedious, contentious staff meeting. It was the worst time I've had in 4 weeks wanting to eat fast food (Dtr requested Scholtsky's-love their sandwiches). I had a few bites of her sandwich and stopped with the off plan eating. I have another meeting with the same people in 45 min. I may just lay under the table and whimper quietly.

I don't have time for personals before I go. Thank you all for being here.
JuliaIsLeavingOnAJetPlane (for you NationalParker)

02-14-2013, 01:33 PM
Hi Folks/coaches/friends.. I am just stopping by for now. This Beck Diet Solution link came through my Facebook today. Thought maybe someone might want to read it. It's about dealing with Valentine's Day Candy.

I'll be back later.

02-14-2013, 01:49 PM
Beverlyjoy, thanks for sharing that! I especially like this one:
Just because everyone else is eating it doesn’t mean I can. My body doesn’t know or care what they’re eating. It only knows what I eat.

I think it needs to go on one of my Response Cards.

Today, I have already stood firm against: brownies, red velvet cake, Esther Price candies, heart candies, chocolate heart candies, donuts, tootsie pops, and chocolate covered cherries. (And it's not even 1:00 yet!)

I am really glad I haven't eaten of these. I am really glad that I am staying on plan. I did have to move away from the brownies and red velvet cake when people started eating it (I could smell it), but I moved away and I didn't have any and I am glad.

Prior to this, I might have had one of everything--and maybe skipped lunch because I'd eaten so much sugary stuff.

Today, I had my planned lunch (frozen meal and strawberries) and enjoyed the juicy sweet strawberry flavor across my tongue. I would not have been happier if I'd eaten sweets--and I'm not spending any time regretting it (but I'm giving myself lots of credit) (and it's getting easier to resist, for which I'm also giving myself credit). There were be other opportunities for me to have any of those things when I've planned for them. For now, I'll stay glad I stood firm and am keeping on track.

02-14-2013, 03:57 PM
Wow! Compared to bethFromDayton, I've had no challenges today! We had a nice lunch out at a favorite restaurant--and we both chose salads. Otherwise, the day is going to have it's normal allotment and types of foods.

Our special Valentine's day activity was shopping for luggage for our upcoming (late May) trip to France, including 4 days in Paris. That felt quite romantic!

Exercise: +30 550/1300 minutes for February

Welcome, kindercoach!

Bootedkitty: love this thought: No choice is the freedom of not having to choose

Beverlyjoy: so excited that you're putting your stories down on paper! Do you have a community college there that offers non-credit classes? I've started taking one and there are lots of folks just starting out and trying to get a handle on the complexities of writing and publishing.

02-14-2013, 07:32 PM
Good Afternoon, Coaches. Well, I am home from middle school and primary school and finally semi safe from the INSANE amount of sweets around. Semi-safe because DS still has a bag from his class. Oh Well. I would I would not take his money. i would not take his clothes. Why would I take his candy?

Mostly successful with treats - more than planned but I followed through with yoghurt before eating, Ginger tea, tart cherry juice etc... Tonight I will have half of a lettuce and bacon sandwhich and then close up the kitchen. i have a four day weekend which is really nice.

DH surprised me with earrings and a card placed in the car seat which I found this morning.

BBE and nationalparker: My "official stew includes beef chunks ( I rarely cook beef) covered in flour, not in a crockpot and no Lipton Onion Mix i.e. traditional. It was tasty and we had enough leftvoer to freeze for a second meal.

Lexxiss: The greek yoghurt before each meal allegedly boosts the body's belly fat burning capability. (Research but who knows what that means. ) I find that I am not hungry but it requires 33 percent of the calories I am allowed so I am thinking of just doing it twice a day.

Wave to everyone else.

02-14-2013, 07:33 PM
Hello Coaches/Buddies!

Well, I need to confess right up front that I indulged in Valentine's candy on a family road trip to and from Pittsburgh (from Ohio) today. We also stopped for lunch at a pizza place. OUCH x 2!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :o But, as I took my last bite of candy in the car, I thought of the analogy of throwing all of the fine china down or throwing myself down all of the steps or driving 5 more miles out of my way ~ and I STOPPED my binge!!! I will eat a very healthy and light dinner, review my Beck principles and response cards, and MOVE ON!!!

I weighed in this morning (forgot until after morning pills and breakfast) and I am only .2 down from 2 weeks ago if I disregard that "fluke" 197 weight on my old scale. It beats gaining, though! I plan on a better loss at next week's weigh-in. I need to remember (when tempted with unhealthy food and candy) how much I want to see that scale read 1xx for real!!! I can do this ~ IF and WHEN I put my MIND to it!!!

bethFromDayton: Way to go on RESISTING all of that unhealthy, fattening stuff today ~ and for feeling good about your choices!!! You should feel extremely proud of yourself! You are doing so awesome! :D

kindercoach: WELCOME to the group! So happy you finally posted! You have done so well to lose 66 pounds since last April!!! Best of luck to you as you join us and set out to lose at least 30 more! This group is wonderful! :)

:wave: to everyone else! I learn so much from each of your stories, struggles, and triumphs! Thank you for being here!

02-14-2013, 08:16 PM
Hi again... checking in. Happy Valentine's day.

Yesterday went well. I am grateful. I am especially grateful that I did not overeat yesterday. Wednesday is my 'official' weigh day. In the past I might eat extra because my 'food/diet/warped/brain thinks I have a whole week to make up for it. But, it went fine. I weighed myself this morning and it said 213 for the third day in a row. That's fine.

I am getting excited about putting my stories down on paper. Many I have been telling for over 20 years.... but, I've never really written all that many down.

Gardenerjoy - I've never thought of the community college as a resource for learning more about publishing. Thanks for the idea. I have sent one children's stories out to many publishers. They probably receive hundreds a day. There are very few publishers that actually will look at a manuscript without using an agent. I've tried some of the little publishers too. I'll keep trying.

It's been a busy day. I'll get to personals tomorrow!

Happy VD. ;)

02-15-2013, 12:17 AM
Hi all,

I had a very successful day--both eating and exercise. I forgot my celery sticks for lunch so didn't eat them, but everything was completely as planned. We actually walked a bit more than we usually do, so that's a good thing.

The planning ahead is sort of funny--I find myself pulling out my phone as I'm preparing dinner to see exactly how much of each item I said I was going to have. I resisted the planning process so thoroughly and now it feels more like "no choice" and it's pretty easy for the weekdays. I expect it to be more of a challenge for the weekend.

I resisted all the sweets at work, and then, used that strength to stand firm on having something sweet this evening. There was no way I was giving in at home when I'd resisted all that temptation at work!

DH is wonderful--he brought me roses this evening (after FTD screwed up the delivery at work--FTD called me to apologize). Several other women got candy, but DH knew that flowers would be the way to my heart this year.

I did plan a sweet for tomorrow night--but it's in my already-entered-into-MFP day.

I have an upcoming weekend long party in March that a friend and I do all the food for. I do mean all the food--5 meals plus constant snacks. I've got to start cooking and baking for it, so I've decided to start this weekend with something easy to resist. I'm making 20 lbs of taco meat on Saturday--but we had taco meat for dinner tonight, and even if I decide I want taco meat, I can keep some out and plan taco salad for Sunday or Monday dinner. That'll be an easy start to preparation before I tackle baked goods.

I'm glad tomorrow's Friday!

02-15-2013, 01:11 AM
Well, my 3rd entry is only happening b/c I committed to posting. I feel hypocritical b/c today I didn't even TRY to avoid all the Valentine candy, even looked for it.

BillBlueEyes, most interesting what you posted about the "reset" of the brain, and the sugar-drug. The health club I attend is currently running a support group, which met tonight. Our reading/talk had to do with exactly that, even quoting some study determining that sugar is MORE addictive than cocaine. I believe it.

I did go to my aqua zumba class this morning, so that's a credit, correct?
Tomorrow morning I plan to go to another aqua exercise class.

I'm not sure how I found the original Beck book...I am thinking I just came across it one day in a bookstore. I've always been intrigued by cognitive therapy, and I know the first time I picked up the book, I told myself that maybe THIS was the answer. Alas, the ball is completely in my court at the moment. Just really, really struggling.

I've read 3fatchicks off and on for years. I'm thinking I must've been specifically looking for a group dedicated to the Beck Diet Solution. I've looked at many a forum, and this one is by FAR the most active and dedicated. It's very heartening to read all your encouraging comments to each other, and to see myself in some of your posts.

So, tomorrow is a new day. Is it ok to state a specific goal to the group with a plan to report back tomorrow? I was thinking, NO SUGAR...again...hope springs eternal. Thank you all again for the most warm welcome. It touches me.

02-15-2013, 07:26 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Lots of walking, CREDIT moi. Sun was out; it was warm enough to wear light gloves instead of bulky mittens; sidewalks were clear. The aftermath of our snowmageddon is strikingly mild.

Food was good, CREDIT moi, and snacks were less awful - I improved. Specifically I ignored an opportunity for factory cookies when offered. DWs valentine to me was a gorgeous Granny Smith Apple - one of my ten most favorite apples - that became my evening snack. She liked the card and poem that I gave her. Valentine's Day successfully done. Someday I'll live on a planet where holidays aren't potential sinkholes for the males, LOL.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Now I'm already getting excited about your four days in Paris. Beware the baguettes. And wine. And outdoor cafe's. And cheese. Just relax and enjoy yourself, LOL.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yep, I know about "many times I just choose not to" - we can both work on that.

Beverlyjoy – Thanks for the Valentine's candy support. Speaking of stories, that stinky Carnival Cruise ship had a couple on board who had planned a dream shipboard wedding and honeymoon. Got married by the captain and then the troubles began. Perhaps you can invite them into your 'Wedding from H*ll' club, LOL.

maryann - LOL at "Why would I take his candy?" I never thought of that when I was stealing my kids' candy.

nationalparker – Super Valentine's gifts! Congrats for evolving your sense of 'romantic.' It might just be worth taking those Keene's back to the store to revisit the fit, even if you come home with the same pair. They have a zillion miles of walking in them that's worth the effort to be sure that you love them.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Zowie - that's a monster list of junk food to face in one morning. Kudos for standing them down and another Kudos for being glad. Yay for choosing a DH who's astute enough to give you roses instead of candy.

IBelieveInMe2 – The one that keeps me laughing is "driving 5 more miles out of my way." Kudos for stopping.

DoneLeftOnAJetPlaneJulia (Julia150) – Waving toward warm, sunny Phoenix. There are no contentious staff meetings there.

kindercoach – I can believe it that sugar is more addictive than cocaine. Neat that you just happened upon the Beck book and came to it with a positive appreciation for Cognitive Therapy. Yep, I think it's a great idea to state a goal and report back. We'll be looking for it.

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

characteristic 6
You Feel Helpless and Hopeless When You Gain Weight

When thin people gain weight, they don't usually see it as a catastrophe. They figure that they'll simple watch what they eat for the next few days or increase their exercise. They have confidence that the scale will go back down.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 38.

02-15-2013, 09:46 AM
Happy Finally Friday! The evening was a good one. Came home to a surprise of two dozen red roses and a wonderful card, despite our early V-Eve gift opening. All on program, except that we didn't get on the trail walk. I think deep down, when it was 7:30 and he said let's go now before dinner and I said, I'm too hungry to go now and then eat dinner at 9:30 - I hate eating that late (unless in Italy, then all rules fly out my window). I thought I'd get on the treadmill and then just tossed that idea out when we started a movie. I plan to be active today and on the weekend, though, so a day off is okay.

Major credits abound here - KUDOS to IBelieveInMe, BethFromDayton, Maryann - all the candy that you faced down. Good job! Credits to Kindercoach for hitting the aquazumba (sounds fun!) in the morning to get your metabolism rolling. Way to go! Glad you posted. I looked around our office to see what was out there. Luckily I didn't find something like donut holes. Small = innocent, right? :) Ack!

BillBlueEyes - Your line about holidays being potential sinkholes has me smiling. The card aisle in my market was mobbed with men yesterday. I agree on the hikers - I have a pair of the Keen hiking boots and those have been my go-to boots that have taken me so many places, so I'm hoping these will be another good pair. My Merrell's that were a good deal still have to be broken in a little more, or I need much, much longer laces for them. So that's a spring project. Good for 1-2 miles, no more, which won't get me far from home!
-- The confidence that the scale will go down has been missing in my life since it started going up. I need that back. Good reminder.

GardnerJoy - Oh, the trip sounds heavenly! I'm so looking forward to hearing about your experience (and the savoring of the baguettes at cafes) :). I want to go to Normandy, to the WWII cemeteries, etc. I feel some odd connection with making a journey there. So I'd love to hear that Paris is a "must-do" along with that as DH would like to include that. Of course, this is "down the line" not nice and close like yours!!

JuliaWhoMightBeStandingOnACornerInPhoenixArizona - Have a great time out there and soak up some sun's rays (Vitamin D, I mean! Yeah, that's what I mean) for me! I actually stopped in Winslow, just to stand there and sing the right song line as a joke when I was in my early 20s. Getting somewhere at a certain time must not have been a priority to me then. :)

Lexxiss - How are your weekend plans shaping up? Still have the pup or take pity on DH and "loaning" him back? :)

I'm hoping to pop in a few times as weekends are the time I tend to stray foodwise more often.

02-15-2013, 12:15 PM
Hi Coaches!

I voiced this into my iphone on the way home from Denver yesterday:

"Today was a good Beck day despite being unplanned and very spontaneous. I went to dim sum w/DD and asked for a box near the end of the meal. I packed up stuff we would probably have kept nibbling on and gave it to her. credit. I successfully shopped WhFoods w/o buying any of the multitudes of sugary treats. I knew that if I bought something I would eat it. Great Beck reality check. On the trip home I enjoyed a sumo and said NO CHOICE to the bread which I had in my bag.
I'm recognizing that the longer I practice my Beck skills the better my decision process is becoming. I really do want to think more like a thin person."

I did have an unnecessary snack late in the evening when I should have just gone to bed...but the good news is I continue to work on it. credit.

I weighed this morning and am running out of time...another trip to Denver...both WhFoods and Costco included. Will the Valentines stuff be on sale? Probably. I will resist.

BBE, my DH would love to live on a holiday-less planet. I have to say with his injury they are all the more difficult. Credit for honoring your DH in the way you know she likes. Kudos.

nationalparker, :lol: no rescue for DH this weekend. I work tomorrow, Mon and Tues. Rescue scheduled for Wednesday.

02-15-2013, 02:07 PM
Sorry to pop in so quickly. Just realized this: I was asked to step in to work on a project that needs complete attention to detail and the repercussions of one error are valid. I do these every few months and it's nothing I cannot do, however, today is the start of a crunch time with this, so within a half hour of starting, I had turned from my computer, reached for my snack repeatedly. No hunger. Just the calming of crunching dry cereal expected. Must be aware of this today thru next week. Buy gum.

Second note is that I'm just finishing up the book, Unbroken, by Laura Hillenbrand, an amazing story of WWII survival including in a Japanese POW camp (I think I’ve mentioned here before as it’s been very moving). Among all of the horrid details of their life there, this recounting has stuck with me - when the war was over, a U.S. B-29 bomber dropped a note saying they’d return the next day with provisions for the POWs, along with the pilot’s chocolate bar with a bite taken out of it... the captain of the POWs cut it into 700 servings - one for every POW to lick his finger and dab it into the choc shaving for a taste of freedom. Food for thought.

02-15-2013, 03:44 PM
Hi coaches... checking in. Another mostly good day yesterday. So grateful.

An extra snack in the evening, however. For Valentine's Day we got Chinese Takeout. I opted for some Won Ton soup, only. It was hard to figure out the amounts and sodium. (that was high I know). It left me in a quandry about counting everything. I was stressed because DH got me a candy bar for Valentine's Day. What is that all about??? I just stuck it in the freezer. It may get planned for later. I was feeling a little 'frantic' with it around. I had to remind myself of many things: it's not planned, eating it isn't an emergency, and I am trying to stay within a reflux food plan. (no coffee, no chocolate, no tomotoes, no citrus, no onion and garlic. Ack!!!) I've got to give it a chance. My chronic heatburn is not good. The candy bar may go into the trash.

Yesterday's credits include: logging my food and sodium, exercises, lots of water, meditation, weighed in the morning, and took three deep breaths before each meal.

The neighborhood cuties came over after school to tell me about their VD parties. Wow... a huge sugar high was evident. They were wound up. Sounded like a fun afternoon for them. I did have a small goodie for them. It was good to get the goodies out of the house.

nationalparker: I can so relate to being nervous or in a crunch and automatically think of food. It helps when you are aware. That's quite a story, the POW chocolate tale. It puts things into a different perspective. I also noticed that the grocery was jammed with men getting cards and goodies. The Valentine area was wiped out. Amazing.

billbe - I love that you got a Granny Smith apple and your holiday sinkhole thoughts. I laugh way out loud at the thought of a club for folks who's weddding's are ruined. My nightmare was over in a few days... their's however, was so awful - I can't imagine. Poor folks. Nightmare is right.

lexxiss/debbie : you said: I'm recognizing that the longer I practice my Beck skills the better my decision process is becoming. I really do want to think more like a thin person." That's wonderful. I'd like to be there some day, too. Yes... hang in there... yes, the candy is on sale.

kindercoach - posting when you are struggling is just as important as posting when you're not struggling. Glad you did post. Credit for you zumba aqua class and planning for more. Yes.. sugar is evil. LOL I try to avoid it when possible.

bethfromdayton : many credits. I so good that you are getting into the planning process. Credit for NOT eating the sweets at work. Every time you resist.. it helps you for another time. Carry on.

Ibelieveinme - Major credit for stopping the binge. Awesome. Carry on.

Hope you are all having a great day.

02-15-2013, 06:31 PM
I could use some help from my coaches on a particular problem. My husband and I both work from home. Twice a week, I get the house to myself for a couple of hours. What I want and plan to do with that time is watch PBS costume dramas from Tivo and handle mundane paperwork. Productive but low-key relaxing and fun. It's worked just often enough in recent weeks to make me think that it could be an excellent addition to my routine. But, most of the time it's turning into an eating fest. Aside from that being terrible Beck practice, it's a big waste of time that I really do want for another purpose. I've been trying to get this to work for several weeks and not making much progress. The TV is too close to the magnetic force field of the kitchen. Any ideas?

Exercise: +30 580/1300 minutes for February

BillBlueEyes: LOL at all the food items to beware of in Paris. I swear every person I meet who's been to Paris says "You've got to eat...." I'm planning for us to walk all day so we can account for some of those calories.

02-15-2013, 09:46 PM
Good evening, Coaches.

Came up to our cabin in Lake Tahoe. beautifully sunny -- a death blow to any skiing this weekend. I tried to find one of my usual walking paths which didn't have too much snow. Credit nice walk down the Truckee River. I came back to the cabin, took a bath and preceded to fall asleep on the floor for an hour and a half. Obviously, I didn't realize how tired I was. Credit for son's candy remaining safe. Credit for throwing two of the three sweetheart candy boxes my mom sent us down the drain. Credit for logging in food and waiting for a nice, baked sweet potato to finish off food for the day.

Gardenerjoy: I wish I had an answer for you. I am in a similar fix at my work desk. I like my job but I can't stop chocolate foraging. One thing kind of helping is putting my advantage cards into my iPhone timed to go off at different intervals so I can remember my Beck skills.
Beverleyoy:I started my writing "career" at college extension courses. There are also lots and lots of conferences which will give you ideas. Children book authors are a very active group.

Thankfully, weight was at ticker this morning. A triumph post holiday.

02-16-2013, 12:56 AM
Here I am, happily reporting that I left sugar alone today. I have also eaten very healthy, and am currently making our usual weekend pizza. I make it with a thin crust, WW flour, lots of peppers/onions, minimal cheese, so I can eat ALOT of it. :)

Tomorrow my sister comes to visit. She has always been uber-supportive of my weight loss efforts. She was also born with most of the shopping genes God handed out :) . I am in need of some assistance in acquiring more fitting attire, pun intended, so that'll be fun.

'til tomorrow -

02-16-2013, 07:21 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Zipper update: The patches I'm eyeing on Amazon ( are "Not recommended for use on nylon, or rayon." My jacket's outer layer is nylon. Back to square one. Tents are made of nylon and outdoor stores such as EMS or REI sell tent patching kits. That's the next thing to try. The local outdoor stores have sales right now on winter base layers that I need, so might just trot me down to investigate both.

Eating was 100%, CREDIT moi - a much needed reversion to my path. Even better, when I conjured a trip to both Whole Foods and Trader Joe's, I planned in advance to have NO FREE SAMPLES. With that in mind, I did the obvious: I walked directly to the items I wanted to buy and then to check-out. There's no need to wander past the gates of h*ll to see if I was interested. Extra CREDIT moi for avoiding FREE. My goal was to buy a Sumo Mandarin; I snagged four; One became my evening snack. Absolutely Yummy.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Good luck facing "the magnetic force field of the kitchen" when you're in a relaxed mood. Best thought I have is to plan an acceptable nibbling food - baby carrots would work for me. It's not calorie free, but I don't feel bad afterwards.

My library's New Books section had Salvage and Demolition ( by Tim Powers. Only 21,000 words - a "novella." That polished kind of writing like your blogs or The New Yorker - I relished the couple of hours it took to read. Thinking about it overnight, all the pieces were tightly knit like a perfect scarf. Fit my definition of acceptable science fiction - only one unreal event. Special Limited Edition: $60. The book is beautiful and a joy to hold. Not particularly recommending another item for your list, just wanted to share how much joy I found in one neat book.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Kudos for dim sum with grace. I love stories of eating all the foods that lure us - in appropriate quantities. Thanks for the Sumo Mandarin tip. I've had them before but forget how good they are. FWIW, they were 3 times more expensive at Whole Foods than Trader Joe's - that's a bunch.

Beverlyjoy – Yay for "neighborhood cuties" who walk away with your goodies - a symbiotic relationship of the best sort.

maryann - Tossing candy while waiting for a baked sweet potato is one very good day.

nationalparker – Congrats for choosing a DH who appears with unexpected roses on Valentine's Day. Kudos for being aware that you can use strategies to counter the eating that accompanies stress. Thanks for the WWII POW vignette about 700 servings from a chocolate bar.

kindercoach – Big Kudos for setting a goal of no sugar, posting it, doing it, and posting the result. Yay for a sister with shopping genes - wish I had one of those.

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

characteristic 6
You Feel Helpless and Hopeless When You Gain Weight

. . .You're probably different, though. What goes through your mind when you see on the scale a higher number than you'd expected? You probably have such thoughts as, I can't believe it! This is terrible! I'll never lose weight!

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pgs 38-39.

02-16-2013, 09:23 AM
Hi Coaches!

I have my Sumo packed and am ready for work. 90% op yesterday including a fantastic lunch at WhFoods. My indisgression was trying the Alaska wild cod at Arbys(no sauce, no lettuce fed the bun to the eager pup). Fish seemed pretty real and now I'm over it. credit. Basketball/tv event tonight so I've written my plan and set it beside the fridge. When I get home I'll make my tray and head

BBE, we don't have a TJ's yet. I did $2.99/lb at WF. Still worth it in my beautiful fruit is still cheaper than a starbucks. Kudos for 100%OP day!

kindercoach, great job avoiding the sugar. I didn't realize until I was off it how much I was connected to it. I feel so much better without it.

gardenerjoy, I second BBE's idea of acceptable snacks. I don't know what time of day you have on your own. I've been solo here for weeks now. Even though I'm separated from the kitchen by a great distance I found myself going up and down the stairs in the evening. I started making myself a "tray". It has my dinner, salad, yogurt, piece of fruit and a beverage. I carry the tray to the TV room and thats it. It took my planning ahead but when the tray was done I was done and it seems to work. I find that if I CHOOSE to I can have a mindful meal in the tv room. Late lunch?

02-16-2013, 11:38 AM
Thanks for the suggestions, everyone, for solving my problem where relaxed time in front of the TV morphs into overeating behavior. Mulling things over. I have until Tuesday before I face this situation again. Reading my advantages cards, as maryann suggested, just before DH leaves the house would help. Finding an acceptable nibbling food like BillBlueEyes' baby carrots would help. Copying Lexxiss's behavior of building a "tray" of planned food is brilliant. Or, I could think of it as packing a sack lunch or a picnic. Once I've assembled the planned food, the kitchen can be closed until DH gets home.

Exercise: +55 635/1300 minutes for February

BillBlueEyes: Salvage and Demoliton does sound like a wonderful book to behold -- the cover is gorgeous.

02-16-2013, 12:57 PM
Good Morning, Coaches. Slept ten hours last night. Confirmation that I was tired. Beautiful Day this morning. I have promised myself I will work until noon then, if I have written two of my papers, I can go for the nice walk on the Truckee. Yeah for OP yesterday. Food Logged in today. It amazes when I put my food in the calories calculator and see how little I can actually eat. I guess that is why we do it.
Looks like I will brave skiing tomorrow. I won't have a lot of snow expectations.

Best to all.
Mary Ann

02-16-2013, 08:10 PM
Hi folks... checking in. Friday I stayed on my plan, almost. I had two evening snacks again. I need to work that. I did, however, forget to put the chair by the fridge like the dietician suggested. I'll try that tonight.

I made a huge pot of chicken and noodles. Many dinners in the freezer, too.

DH ate the dark chocolate that he got me for Valentine's day. I took one little bite (planned) and got reflux symptoms... I had to try one more time.

I need to start to get ready to go visiting our family. It will be challenging... low sodium, acid reflux and softish food. I will work it out some way. In a way it's almost a good thing I have all these off limits foods... I will have to NO CHOICE to all the goodies they have. I hope I am strong enough to do it.

Gardenerjoy.. I like the suggestions for your free time food dilemma. My dietician suggested putting a chair in front of the fridge to indicate that the kitchen is closed. I don't know why you couldn't do it during the day... using it as an indicator that you have your planned snacks and to stay out of the kitchen at that time.

maryann - I do belong the Society of Children's Book Writers and Illustrators. I have not, however, gone to any conferences. Good idea. Thanks.

Be back on Sunday.

02-16-2013, 09:52 PM
Had DH's family over for his belated birthday celebration today. His two daughters brought not a thing (nearly 16 and 20)... not a card. They're not 4 or 5 and this is something that REALLY bothers me. To not even go to any effort, show up and expect to be served. I am really working hard to not eat my way through this, this evening. I served a large lunch instead of dinner - midafternoon. Then he and I bundled up and walked the trail tonight - I put on three layers of long underwear as the wind chill was 10. Not much talking but we got in some activity. I planned the treadmill but he actually suggested going. Dinner was mini bbq cheddar turkey meatloaves and went over great. I'd picked up the chocolate ice cream cake and was a bit disappointed. Cut my sliver in half and froze the rest as it wasn't worth the calories to me at all.

More positive note tomorrow, hopefully!

02-16-2013, 11:09 PM
I feel like I should be kicked out of the group. I really do. I know I am going through distorted thinking right now, but I allowed my Beck principles to go out the window again at dinner tonight. We have a lake house that we came to this weekend. Usually only come here Spring-Fall, but kids have Monday off, so we decided to come for a few nights. It is always a challenge to eat well here, because it feels like "vacation mode," but I know I can do it because I did it the year I lost 35 pounds. I was going to wait until summer to mention my struggles with eating well at the lake house, but I guess the time has come. Tonight, I was really hungry and my husband (who is usually very supportive of my weight loss efforts) recommended that we go to an Italian restaurant that we discovered last summer. I knew it would be bad news and I wouldn't make healthy choices if we went, so I suggested somewhere else. My hubby and kids really wanted to go to the Italian place, so I fairly easily gave in. And I ate as though Beck did not exist. :?: So now, here I sit, writing this post and feeling like a complete food failure. It is overwith and I know I need to learn from the experience and move on, but I feel like I "should" give myself a hard time for this. Now, my DH is mad at me for writing on here instead of spending time with him. I am just not having a good night! :cry: Just wanted to check in and let my coaches know how I am feeling. I have my Beck books with me, but forgot my response cards. Perhaps after I spend some time with DH and kids, it would do me well to get in some late night exercise on the recumbent cycle and create some response cards specifically for the lake house.

Any comments or suggestions or a pep talk would be very much appreciated and welcomed! I feel as though I am on a slippery slope, but I will NOT give up on myself or this weight loss effort!!! I just need to learn to CONSISTENTLY put my words into actions.

Sorry I do not have time for personals, but I am trying to stay as caught up as I can with everyone. :dizzy:

02-16-2013, 11:35 PM
nationalparker: That is too bad that your DH's daughters didn't even get him a card for his birthday. :( I bet they come around eagerly when they need something from him, right?!? I know it probably makes you feel sad for him and mad at them, but STAY STRONG and do not eat your way through your feelings!!! That only hurts YOU!!! I just wanted to respond to your post real quickly and let you know I am thinking of you and sending you strength! :hug:

02-17-2013, 02:45 AM
You absolutely do NOT deserve to be "kicked out" of the group. I feel I can very much relate to how you're feeling, b/c I also fall into many of the "distorted thinking" pitfalls. One of them is an "all or nothing" mentality, which try as I might to is very difficult. A counselor told me that certain patterns of thinking are alot like grooves in a record. They've been used for so long, they are VERY automatic. This is where the training of cognitive therapy comes in, changing our thinking pattern. I also have felt VERY MUCH on a slippery slope, still do. We are vulnerable, and at such times we ESPECIALLY need to post. From all I have read of these dear people's exchanges, you will never find rejection, shame, chastisement, just great encouragement and gentle direction. You DID try to change the course of the evening; focus on that. It IS incredibly difficult when you're out of your normal surroundings, in vacation mode. I am planning what to do next weekend when DH and I are going to be away for the weekend, without all my "props" for my food preparation.:) Anyway, if YOU deserve to be kicked out, then so do I, and I'm not going anywhere!
Hope you have a better tomorrow. (Sheesh, I sound like Scarlett in "Gone With the Wind.") :)

02-17-2013, 07:15 AM
Ibelieveinme2 - of course, you should NOT be kicked out of the group. We all have our struggles here. If losing weight and keeping it off for life was so easy.. we wouldn't need 3fc and The Beck Diet Solution. You need to forgive yourself, hop back on your plan., and get out your Beck materials. Plan, plan and plan some more. Take it a day at a time.

02-17-2013, 07:51 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Another ding for day 40: Enrich Your Life, CREDIT moi, when DW and I offed to the Institute of Contemporary Art ( to see the exhibit This Will Have Been. Walked through lightly falling snow to and from the subway. Both exciting and painful to relive the 1970's with its confrontations about AIDs, HIV, Native American rights and other issues - some of it through the photographs of John Mapplethorpe, himself controversial. Contemporary art is exciting, but uber challenging for me; I'm more comfortable with the stuff I've always seen and understood. DW says I'm not contemporary. Oh Well.

Eating was 100%, again, CREDIT moi - again, much needed. Even another Sumo Mandarin for my evening snack. Again, absolutely Yummy. Lunch was the peanut butter and pecan sandwich that I had earlier stuffed in my pocket while sitting in the foyer of the ICA; it's easier to stick to a planned meal if I'm carrying it. We watched workers using huge cranes dredging a corner of Boston Harbor from three fixed barges - beautiful in the falling snow.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Love the notion "packing a sack lunch or a picnic" to another room in the house.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Can't get over the image that you're 'carrying' - albeit a Sumo, LOL. Congrats for trusting Arby's to provide real Alaskan wild cod.

Beverlyjoy – This reads like the secret to success of a long marriage, "DH ate the dark chocolate that he got me for Valentine's day."

maryann - Congrats - sleep is good. google provided stunning pictures of the Truckee River - would love to be walking there.

nationalparker – Kudos for walking in serious cold. Sounds like your DH's two daughters might still be holding grudges from their parents' divorce and need a little nudging to begin the transition to seeing their father as a human being. All kids are challenged making that transition. Alas, it's usually suggested that the Evil Step Mother not wade in. Sending supportive thoughts as you have to watch this unfold.

IBelieveInMe2 – You are one of us. Neither a large meal nor distorted thinking changes that. The challenge is to get past the tsunami of Sabotaging Thoughts so you can seek a strategy for eating at that Italian restaurant since, if it's a family favorite, you'll be going again. Beck lists some good strategies in her chapter on eating away from home. You might start by choosing one for your next trip, e.g. not ordering a personal dessert but planning one bite from your DH's. By happenstance, the Beck quote today can be dedicated to your very situation.

Scarlett (kindercoach) – I'm glad that you're "not going anywhere!" Thanks for the reminder that we're here because we want to be "changing our thinking pattern."

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

characteristic 6
You Feel Helpless and Hopeless When You Gain Weight

. . .The Beck Diet Solution teaches you
how to learn from your eating mistakes and
to recommit yourself to your diet right away.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 39.

02-17-2013, 10:28 AM
Hi Coaches!

Yesterday OP, with the exception of a few extremely small nibbles at small FF...a corner of bread and a taste of some new chips a coworker brought in. After the chips sat in a main area for awhile I moved them out of reach...politely, of course. credit. I've weighed this brain was trying to talk me out of it and I was happy with the number...geez and I could have just as easily missed it. credit for doing it anyway.

BBE, credit for an OP day made all the better spent with your DW "enriching your life." Your sammie sure struck a smile with me as I read....Yes, i love your line, "It's easier to stick with a planned meal if I'm carrying it." Kudos!

IBelieveInMe2, I hope you are feeling better today. My take is that BDS doesn't say your experience is never going to happen. You are learning skills which will help you to find an effective strategy...whether it be pre,during or post event. You felt bad you posted here. Credit! A new skill at work in your life.

nationalparker, I have two step daughters in their late twenties who are still not too proactive with their dear dad. I can't control it. I've been learning in my life that "letting go" and acceptance help me the most especially as I accept that they may never change. It sounds like you did all you could to make for a happy day for your DH. Credit.

:wave: I need coffee. :lol:

02-17-2013, 10:51 AM
New day here - sunny morning with a dusting of snow on the ground. It was 16 when I woke up, so while I'm itching to get into the gardens, that will be waiting for quite a while. Didn't sleep well; mind was running loose on things.

His daughters have both talked to us about how the divorce made them all happier - just was not a positive situation before. Early on, she was like velcro - followed me everywhere in the house, through every single aisle in a store, etc. Having no children of my own, I struggled with that. Though their mom is still a screamer/yeller, they are raised to be the center of her life - no chores, no help with anything. Which isn't flying when they're here. A few months ago I REALLY was aggravated with an issue with the younger one; she wouldn't choose a birthday card that DH was paying for for her grandma- she just wanted to look at makeup and then pouted when he wouldn't buy it. SERIOUSLY? He was disgusted and I was furious when I found out. This is so so different from the way I was raised and as you say, Bill, my opinion would not be welcome. But now and then I've had a straightforward talk with her about expectations we have in our home. These weekends are such a stress on me. I need to come up with some coping mechanisms because I certainly don't want DH to not look forward to his kids' visits, infrequent as they are.

02-17-2013, 11:14 AM
IBelieveInMe - I feel for you - many of us have the "Oh, no, I blew it all" mentality when we go off course - even in one larger unplanned meal. I feel as if more damage has been done than actual. Credit for trying to change their restaurant choice! We'll work with you to come up with some plans to not view that as vacation mode. I feel for ya!!

GardenerJoy - Thank you for posting about your eating when DH is out issue; I like knowing I'm not alone. I find myself doing the same thing and am trying to break the desire to graze when DH is working opposite schedule of me - coming up this week for two weeks. He doesn't care what I eat; yet I find myself almost wanting to eat things I don't eat when he's around (instant mashed potatoes and salad for dinner. MAJOR comfort food!) ha ha... I have no advice - just understanding.

Bill - Sounds like you put together a superb Saturday in all aspects! Good job! I have never heard of a pb and pecan sandwich, but will share that with DH as he loves pecans. Me - I love Trader Joe's natural peanut butter :)

Lexxiss - Major credits for weighing and what a nice treat to receive! Happy Sunday! Do you have to work all weekend? Hoping not!

02-17-2013, 11:56 AM
My eating didn't get much better yesterday -- another disadvantage of letting things go on Friday, it triggered further problems on Saturday. So, today, I have a fully written plan to follow (credit!). That should help. It usually does.

Exercise: +80 715/1300 minutes for February

Beverlyjoy: I like the idea of a big visual cue to remind me that the kitchen's closed -- I can implement that!

IBelieveinMe2: Are there healthy choices that you could make at that particular restaurant? I have pre-planned meals at all of our favorite restaurants so that if we make a last-minute decision to go to one, I swap the pre-planned meal into my day's plan and consider myself 90% on plan for the day, which is still an excellent grade. Maybe while you are at the cabin now, you could plan your meals for your entire spring stay (subject to change, of course). That would be a good use of this weekend whether or not you eat as well as you could now.
If that sort of slip caused a person to be kicked out of the group, I would never have lost my weight! These things happen. Beck teaches us to learn from them.

BillBlueEyes: good for you for checking out the contemporary art even if it wasn't your thing.

02-17-2013, 03:21 PM
Hi Coaches... checking in. Yesterday was mostly OP. - grateful.

My mom came over for dinner yesterday. We all had chicken & noodles, spinach, & DH and Mom also had some Bob Evans mashed potatoes. I said No Choice to the mashed potatoes and cookies that my mom brought over. Credits. DH insisted on mashed potatoes because his Grandma always had mashed potatoes with chicken & noodles. His family has food traditions that don't waver. Mom took the rest of the mashed potatoes home. YAY

Some other credits included: plan/measure/log food, sodium, water, exercise, no seconds, leave a bite and I read my arc/rc.

I did, however, have two snacks again in the evening. I couldn't resist tasting DH's chocolate covered malted milk balls candy. (in Easter fashion) I will work on doing better in the evening.

I've decided that when we go on our trip to see our family (GS's sixth birthday) I will bring several of my low sodium foods. I know I can't be as precise as home. I'll do the best I can. Twice in my long life I've eatening in a sane manner while on a trip or vacation. (Not many times..eek.) In the past.. moving forward.

The past three nights I have woken up at 3:00 am. I haven't eaten anything (Credit)- however. I need to keep myself up later or something. By evening I am SO tired. Tired can reek havoc on my food plan.

Hoping you are all having a GREAT day.

02-17-2013, 11:37 PM
Hi all!

Weekends are hard. Saturday wasn't too bad, but today, Sunday, we got up late and didn't have breakfast, so had our lunch, and then went to dinner as planned. I had planned a (pre-portioned) treat for this evening--but substituted a bigger (pre-portioned) one :-(. I'm still within calorie ranges, but it wasn't to plan. I need to work on that. It also tells me that it works much better for me when treats are pre-portioned--and I'm not going to buy any more of the one that I gave in to!

Credits for tonight--next week's meals are planned for shopping and tomorrow's food is already entered into MFP.

Tomorrow I'll pick up the results of last week's blood work. I know it's much improved, but I have to compare the numbers side by side to understand them properly.

We have a huge food-centric weekeend-long event in March. My sabotaging thoughts were telling me that I could just enjoy myself and then start up again on Monday. My talking-back voice wasn't being insistent enough--but it does keep whispering: easier to stay on track than get back on track. Easier to stay on track than get back on track. (I just made a response card that repeats that 7 times--different colors, different fonts)

Given that, I'm trying to come up with a practical strategy that includes some indulgences--but doesn't derail me. One thing that occurred to me is that I could save a few of my favorite baked goods, package 1 or 2 pieces as a snack, and freeze them--and enjoy every so often over the following month--as planned and controlled treats.

My BFF and I are in charge of the food so there will be a lot of healthy and on plan options--fresh fruits, veggie trays, salad bar for lunch, fresh sandwich fixings, boiled eggs at breakfast time. I don't have to be derailed over the weekend. But there will be incredible quantities of sweets and baked goods, though. (This weekend, I lined up others to bake: <I typed the list and then deleted it--don't want to make everyone else think of all those sweets!>)

I have 4 more weeks to get myself in gear for it--including the baking I need to do without over indulging. This is going to be hard--but lots of people bake without stuffing themselves with crumbs and the "broken pieces". I can learn to do that, too.

We spent several hours this weekend working on the plans--we're actually a bit behind because I've prioritized weight loss over the gathering. It just means we have to work smarter--since planning and measuring and logging is staying a priority for me.

Beverlyjoy: YAY for DH eating the chocolate bar before you tossed it! If you've eaten in a sane manner on a trip TWICE then that means you can do it--you have past successes to look at, so you know it's something you can succeed at--you've succeeded at it in the past.

BillBE: Wondeful on 100% eating. When you share some of the things you do--and walk to--I am so envious of having all of that available to you.

gardenerjoy: You got some suggestions that sound really good. I know that I do best with "action plans" rather than "don't do" plans. If I am tempted to get a snack, I am going to do <X>--where <X> could be the baby carrots on a tray. I hope Sunday went more smoothly with its written plan.

IBelieveInMe2: Mistakes and falling off the path are part of the process. It sounds as if you are coming up with strategies to deal with the lake house and deal with eating there. One thing that struck me was that you felt you "should" give yourself a hard time. I don't think you should--in fact, I think you should give yourself credit for recognizing the issue, checking in with all of us about it, realizing you'd need to work on your approach for the lake house. There is no real room for giving yourself a hard time if you're working on improvement--you were right with the "move on" concept.

kindercoach: How did your shopping go with your sister?

Lexiss: Credit for navigating WhFoods w/o sugary treats. Credit on getting on the scale--and liking the number!

maryann: What a lovely weekend to be in Lake Tahoe. Big credits for not digging into DS's candy! Food logging is said to be one of the most powerful tools a weight-loser can adopt--even if it does amaze us how many calories are in foods!

nationalparker: How are you doing with the snacking at the computer? All I can say about stepchildren is that they're hard. (Or rather mine is. DH's stepchildren are awesome.)

Hope this is a start to a great week for everyone!

02-18-2013, 07:16 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Only left the house all day to shovel snow after it had ceased blowing horizontally with high speed. CREDIT moi for that exercise.

Even though suffering a bit of cabin fever, I ate on plan, CREDIT moi, including only one of my three planned snacks. Unfortunately, my supply of Sumo Mandarins is depleted, so evening snack was California Navel Oranges. It's so hard to reconcile happy, sunny citrus fruit with snow blowing horizontally.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Such a pain that yesterday's drift off the path affects today's journey.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – LOL at "politely" moving the offending chips. Kudos for getting your head to make yourself priority #1.

Beverlyjoy – It's news to me that mashed potatoes is what goes with chicken and noodles - not visualizing much green there, LOL. Yep, the evil Easter candy is already on the shelves.

nationalparker – Kudos for venting here to clear your mind for dealing with your step daughters. [Yay for natural peanut butter - I take mine straight out of the grinder at Whole Foods.]

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Now that's a super plan, "indulgences--but doesn't derail me." I always like hearing how to avoid the over-restrictions that encourage derailment.

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

characteristic 6
You Feel Helpless and Hopeless When You Gain Weight

. . .Thin people have faith in their ability to make good decisions about what, when, and how much they're going to eat - and to follow through with these decisions. Even when they eat more than usual, such as at a party, they're confident that they'll return to a more controlled way of eating afterwards.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 39.

02-18-2013, 08:57 AM
Hi coaches and buddies, quick check to say I resisted to my mum's temptations and managed to eat "normally" yesterday at lunch! Then in the evening I practiced some excercises at home, plus 15 minutes with the step machine! Credits for that! And again, as I already told you I'm re-reading the pink book and I'm at the chapter (I don't remember the number) about resisting hunger, so today I'm fasting, I only had breakfast and till this evening I'm not gonna eat anything. For dinner I'll only have a vegetable soup. This excercise, when I did it the first time, really helped me to understand I can resist hunger and cravings if I want. I do it from time to time and it really makes me feel better and stronger! Credits!
Credit for going walking during lunch break today, for a longer walk (since I had nothing to eat......;))

02-18-2013, 09:13 AM
Hi Coaches!

Yesterday OP with much welcomed resistance to extra snacks. credit. I've weighed this morning and am off (early) to a very busy day. The restaurant should be very busy with holiday skiers. credit for packing my Sumo.

BBE, time for more Sumos? We're 4-6 weeks and counting down..

BootedKitty, great job with mom's event and working through your pink book again.

02-18-2013, 09:20 AM
Hi... stopping by quickly to post this thought from The Beck Solution - via facebook.

Monday Motivation: We asked one dieter what helps keep her motivated to stay on track and she said, “I remind myself that when I’m off track, I feel TERRIBLE. When I’m on track, I feel great. Staying on track feels hard some of the time, but being off track feels hard ALL of the time, physically and psychologically.”

What a GREAT reminder.

I'll be back.

02-18-2013, 10:06 AM
Great message for my Monday morning, BeverlyJoy. I DO feel so much better when I'm on plan/on track. I'm ready for another weekend, though. Felt like this one was a bust.

Challenging work week for me, as well as DH and I will not overlap at all with out schedules so won't see him until Friday night. I have had issue with grazing and wanting to snack more when he's not there. Because I can? But I can't.

Will walk on treadmill tonight - will not be home before dark, so that's my option. Have done well this past week - we went after dark again last night, felt very cold to me still. Beautiful clear sky with stars to gaze at ... DH found big dipper, orion belt, etc. I just see plane lights. When we were in Montana hiking/camping this past summer, the stars were just magnificent, so that brought back good memories.

New Valentine's Day hiking shoes are packed up to be returned. Tried them out in the house for a while, and just a "no go". I am NOT one to mail order shoes, but DH likes to try. Feel a bit guilty about it, but for the years I'll keep those, I want them to be great.

02-18-2013, 12:09 PM
Good morning, Coaches.

Good to catch up on everyone's weekend.

Beverleyjoy: Great thought for this morning.
IBelieveinMe2: Same thing happen to me last light. I am at my cabin and after a long ski day I feel like I can eat whatever i want. Discouraging, I know.
nationalparker: Family is tough. Step family, I can imagine, is even tougher. There is no right answer. Like Lexxiss said, I am successful when I can take the right action and release everyone else from my expectations.

As for me, I am hopping back on the slopes this morning for a half of a day. Tired but DS loves to be with his cousins and so it is worth it.

02-18-2013, 12:26 PM
I followed my plan to the letter yesterday (CREDIT!). Then, I somehow forgot to weight myself this morning when I expected the nice reward of a drop in weight. Oh well.

Today, I have a couple of hours in the house to myself. I have my in-house picnic planned and a full strategy that includes reading my Advantages and putting up a physical reminder that the kitchen is closed. This is the first time I've regretted our open floor plan that makes it impossible to close a door to the kitchen -- there isn't one. But I can put a bright red ottoman in the path which will be a nice STOP sign.

Exercise: +50 765/1300 minutes for February

02-18-2013, 07:00 PM
Hi folks...coaches...becksters - I stayed within my food plan yesterday. Everything got changed around as far as my actual eating evolved during the day. However, it was all within my plan. Grateful.

Taking nsaids lately.... boy they are sure hard on the tummy. I"ll be glad when I don't need them. My 'pieces & parts' are needing nsaids these days. I am grateful for my heating pad and frozen peas, too.

Some credits include: writing down all my foods, lots of water, exersices, no seconds, always left a bite of food, meditation, good sodium number, read advantages, and took three deep breaths before eating a meal or snack. I did try to eat slower - dinner was over 20 minutes.

Tomorrow I see the dietician again. I always leave with some good ideas and better insight into things.

Catch you later.

02-18-2013, 11:38 PM
Hi all,

Food partly on plan today. I say partly because my frozen breakfast was horrid and I didn't eat most of it and I added in an extra snack but stayed in calorie range. Exercise was good--took my walks at work even though my walking partner had the day off for the government holiday.

I printed off three "It's easier to stay on track than get back on track" cards--one for my desk at home, one for my desk at work, and one for my purse. I am trying to internalize this completely before our gathering in March, since I know I'm going to find it a terrible temptation and it is not easier to just take the weekend off--that is a sabotaging thought that does not lead me to my goals.

My intent is to come up with a written plan for that whole gathering weekend. I know it sounds like a lot of effort for just a weekend, but I know it is going to be a real challenge for me to stay on track.

Credits--I read my ARC this morning and read more of the second book. I grocery shopped after work, as scheduled. Dinner was totally on plan. I made tomorrow's lunch while getting dinner ready so it's ready to go.

I need to read my response cards every day...

I'm off to enter tomorrow's food into MFP and call it a night!

02-19-2013, 12:59 AM
Hi all,
So this morning I met with my "small group personal trainer" for the first time in several I had the day off from school and was really wanting to eat, even after full, but journaled!

BethFromDayton: KUDOS for planning what you're going to eat for the entire weekend!
I didn't actually go shopping yet with my sister. She's here for 3 weeks primarily to help with the parentals, who are 90 and 91. Hopefully we can work it in.
Also, LOVE that you have "easier to stay on track than to get back on track" written 7 times on a card. I MUST DO THAT and carry a copy WITH me.

Beverlyjoy, THANK YOU for the Beck motivation reminder. I will place certain of those in visible places around my house. Ohhhh, mashed potatoes. I feel your pain!
Kudos for staying on your plan even with the variation.

GardenerJoy, YAY for you! Recognizing the issue and then writing your plan and following through. The visual of your red ottoman in front of your refrigerator made me smile:)

NationalParker, sorry for the distress in your family. I've never had to deal with such dynamics, but other family members have...
Also, sorry that you and your DH will be two ships passing in the night/day this week. Do you have that list of alternative activities handy? :)

Lexxiss, YAY for you, resisting the extra snacks! I was thinking how not eating isn't an option for those of us with this particular addiction, unlike other vices: smoking, gambling, drinking, etc. I do not mean to diminish the efforts it takes to abolish those habits, or any for that matter...just the fact that we can't just quit food. We need food. Food is wonderful. I want more food. :)

MaryAnn- sounds wonderful- "day at the slopes." I decided the other day that skiing is going on my wish list for someday when I am really fit.

BootedKitty- I AM SO IMPRESSED about the step machine. I've seen people use those at the health club, scaling Mt. Everest. Or, perhaps I'm thinking of the mountain climber. Either way, good for you; also, resisting your mum's temptations. It's so tricky when we need to navigate our eating at someone else's home/meal, etc.

BillBE, you may want to shoot me at dawn for saying this, but I wish for snow! We live in the Pacific Northwest and haven't gotten ANY this year.:( The flip side is, we won't need to go to school until the 3rd week of June this way.
YAY for staying on plan, especially when it's blowing snow and you're housebound. I always want to bake/eat comfy things at such times. Perhaps it's not a bad thing we aren't privy to snowstorms.:)

02-19-2013, 02:05 AM
I am so thankful for this group!!! :) Thank you to those of you who wrote to me with your encouragement, support, and Beck wisdom. Yes, mistakes and learning are all a part of this process. There I went with my perfectionistic, all-or-nothing thinking again (when thinking I needed to be kicked out of the group for not being "perfect") :o ..... darn it! Thank you for pointing that out to me. I also appreciate your suggestions for next time I am in that situation. I look forward to having a positive story to share with all of you next time!

I am feeling better after healthier eating and a great workout this evening! We just came home from the lakehouse in the early evening and I had a Canine 101 class (for people) as part of our puppy's preschool/socialization class. Then out to dinner with the family, so ate a bit late, but made much healthier choices tonight! I really need to work on strategies and response cards and planning for the lake, because I don't want to dread being there at all. We really enjoy spending time there, so I want to get a good grip on eating there so I can feel confident going/being there. I think what happened is that I went there without a plan, other than being as "good" as possible. That "plan" failed miserably Saturday night at the Italian restaurant. I also kind of panicked when I found out we were going there (spur of the moment), and ~ rather than focusing on making decent choices ~ just thought, "What the heck?!?" and ate what I really "wanted" to eat; that is, what the saboteur in me wanted to eat. I tried to quickly think of my Beck principles on the way to the restaurant, but my panic took over and I was just overwhelmed with all of the yummy "bad" stuff on the menu. Anyway, that will NOT happen again. I am going to pull their menu up online and PLAN what I will choose next time.

bethFromDayton: You are such an inspiration to me with all of your planning and thinking ahead and putting your weight loss journey FIRST! I really feel empowered when I read your posts. I can just tell that you will be a success story! Keep up the great work! You are already planning ahead and gathering strategies for your weekend in March. You will do just fine. And we will all be here cheering you on!!! :cheer2: :cheer3:

BillBlueEyes: Your excursions in the Boston area sound so wonderful! CREDIT to you for all of your walking to and from places, all of your snow shoveling, and for being so adventurous! Yes, the Beck section on "You feel helpless and hopeless when you gain weight" is right up my alley! Thanks for posting those excerpts from the book, BTW. They are helpful. Your Sumo Mandarins sound delectable!!! :T What is the latest on the zipper?!? ;)

Beverlyjoy: CREDIT to you for all of the things you are doing so well lately! Good to hear that the dietician is helpful to you. I hear ya on those NSAIDS! My 46-year-old body needs them often, too; mostly for headaches.

kindercoach: CREDIT to you for meeting with your small group personal trainer! I quit my old personal trainer when I had foot surgery this past summer and have thought about shopping for another, so I am curious what you will be doing with your trainer. :) Please keep us posted. Awesome that you chose to journal rather than overeat! More CREDIT! ;)

gardenerjoy: Sounds like you are really doing well practicing your Beck principles lately! CREDIT! I need to come up with a visual reminder that the kitchen is closed, too! Thanks for the reminder.

nationalparker: I hear ya on wanting another weekend and another chance to do better! My weekend felt like a bust, too. That must be so difficult not seeing DH during the week. Stay strong and hang in there!!! You know what you need to do.

maryann: Where is your cabin? I should probably know from reading posts, but I don't. At least you are burning calories while skiing all day. CREDIT to you for that! Sounds like you and DS are having fun! That's priceless! :)

Lexxiss: Much CREDIT for exercising your RESISTANCE muscle on the extra snacks!!! You are an inspiration for all of us! :)

Bootedkitty: Sounds like you had a great Beck day yesterday!!! Way to go! Thanks for checking in!

I sure hope I didn't miss anyone who responded to me in my state of despair! If so, it is not intentional! I do best when I take notes as I read, but I am kind of "winging it" tonight. Need to get some sleep now! Thank you ALL for being here and for all of the support and encouragement!!! :hug:

02-19-2013, 07:06 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Zipper update: Since I can't use the cotton patches that I planned to order as 'Add On' to a $25 order from Amazon, I was free to order the one book I'd gathered on my list. Good news - I love ordering books. However, I discovered that I'd already ordered it from the local library and don't need it. Zipper saved me $18! How cool is that.

Eating was 100% on plan, CREDIT moi. Including NO snacks. I've been avoiding snacks as a sort of mental penance for my over-indulgences of recent days - even though Beck doesn't recommend that sort of thing. I'm trying to get back to the feeling of "sufficiently satisfied" instead of "full" all the time. Dinner was light; I ate two falafels on one six inch pita bread with lots of hummus, cucumber, lettuce, and tomato. It was merely sufficient, but we were in a hurry to go out and it felt just right. Since we were at a concert for the evening, I missed my evening snack.

Did gym, CREDIT moi. It was unusual because I bumped into two different friends to briefly chat. If that happened more often I'd be more drawn to going.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Love the image of the bright red ottoman as a kitchen stop sign. Interesting side effect of an open house design.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Kudos for avoiding extra snacks - you must be sending me good vibes in that arena.

Beverlyjoy – Thanks for Beck's "being off track feels hard ALL of the time." Ouch for 'bits and parts' needing meds.

maryann - Yep, cousins are just the best. Happy skiing.

nationalparker – Thanks for the reminder to go look at Orion's belt; it doesn't care that I'm cold, LOL. Congrats for making a clear decision about your hiking boots.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Ouch for having to work when your walking partner had a vacation day. Kudos for not eating about it.

IBelieveInMe2 – So neat to realize how easy it is to fall into a hole when we're without any plan. When we first got our pup many years ago, we had to call in a gifted dog trainer to help the family. Her insight: the only mammal in the house acting appropriately was the dog; the rest of us had to act like lead wolves so that doggie would know how to behave. We did. She did. Had a lovely 15 years together. Good luck with yours.

Kitty (Bootedkitty) – LOL that fasting instead of eating gives you more time to walk - don't remember Beck mentioning that advantage. Hope your hunger experiment went well. Kudos for eating sanely at your mom's.

kindercoach – Great choice to journal instead of snacking - Kudos. [When we don't have snow, I miss it.]

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

characteristic 6
You Feel Helpless and Hopeless When You Gain Weight

. . .You, however, may have constant sabotaging and demoralizing thoughts that undermine your confidence. When you overeat, you might believe that you'll never be able to control your eating.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 39.

02-19-2013, 07:52 AM
Hi Coaches!

I'm on a mission this morning....I open at the restaurant at 530 and plan to have the car packed and the house shut down before I leave. En route I need to drop off the pup at moms, drop recycle and library books. I'll drive over the hill after work.

Credit for taking time to read every word of every post here since I checked in yesterday. All of your words are so helpful to me as I try to live each and every day as healthy and happy as possible. Credit to us all.

I weighed this morning and packed two for at work and one for the drive over. credit. Dinner will get planned when I see what's in the refrigerator over there. Fortunately, DH is super happy eating healthy, too, so I need not worry...just need to stay out of his snack cupboard.

02-19-2013, 08:54 AM
Quick up-date about my fasting yesterday: everything went as planned! It gave me a new "wind" of motivation, because I know once more again that I can resist hunger and cravings. Tonight I'm gonna read the next chapter about cravings actually! Those are my worse enemies....!!!! I'll beat them, I'm sure! :-)
Have a good day.

02-19-2013, 11:06 AM
Thanks, coaches, for all your help with my home alone time. It went exactly according to plan. Woohoo!

Credit for forestalling a couple of potential problems.

1. I realized I would have a hard time closing the kitchen in the daytime if it was dirty. That's actually probably a reason that I've been struggling with this so much. If I clean the kitchen for the first half hour of time I allotted to relaxed Tivo watching, it awakens the notion that I'm entitled to a treat (or two). So, if this is going to work, the kitchen needs to be cleaned before DH leaves. Credit for cleaning the kitchen TWICE earlier in the day because that's what it took.

2. I realized I would have a hard time keeping the kitchen closed if there was a lot to do to get supper prepped. So, credit for doing much of the preparation at lunch. I opened the kitchen a half hour before DH returned so I could have supper ready when he got home. The parts of me that think treats are a good idea can't make a very good case when there's only 30 minutes before supper.

Exercise: +80 845/1300 minutes for February

02-19-2013, 01:39 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

I was up before the crows (not as early as Lexxiss) to drive down from Lake Tahoe to get DS to school. I know all of you on the blog will laugh at this, but it didn't really occur to me there is snow and ice at 6:00 am in the morning in 20 degree weather. All the trucks were stopped and no one else was on the highway. Hmmmm. I am a California girl almost fifty years now so I might not have a realistic perception but it looked and felt pretty scary to me. Credit for slowing to 40mph as suggested by road signs. Credit for not taking the mountain roads, sticking to the well travelled highway and finding a new back (below the snow line). DS was only ten minutes late and I learned a little something.

Day off today. I will write up a rough draft and do some cooking because I don't want things to go bad. (My mushrooms are looking a little slimy). Op yesterday, very nice. Skiing was beautiful. I put in a little more than two hours and declared that is enough for a second day of the season. DS was fine with that. Credit for continuing to stay fit enough all year to ski in winter. There are less and less people my age on the slopes.

Wave to all

02-19-2013, 03:14 PM

I come here with a heavy heart. I've spent the last week overeating. First to deal ith the emotions around going to see my mom. Then during my visit. And now it/I haven't stopped sine I got home Saturday night. I have been binging at times. Choosing all foods and lots of it. I just couldn't hold to the thought that could cope with my mom AND stay on plan--though I've done exactly that in the past. I weighed in on Sunday at 259.7. (+3.2).

I'm just totally at a loss. I don't know what to do with myself. DH continues to lose weight. I am grabbing the lbs he's shedding and this weekend I was eating a good 1.5-2x the amount he as and still wanting more. I *should* be consuming 1/2 what DH eats. Beck is right,

You Feel Helpless and Hopeless When You Gain Weight

. . .You, however, may have constant sabotaging and demoralizing thoughts that undermine your confidence. When you overeat, you might believe that you'll never be able to control your eating.
I do feel this way. But I feel a tad better for sharing it too.

Bye for now.

02-19-2013, 06:01 PM
Onebyone, I know how you feel, I know what it means thinking you'll never manage to control your mind, feeling guilty, feeling you are failing, feeling phisically bad for what you eat. Change thought. What you did is done. You are not perfect, nobody is, but you can learn from this experience! Which were the sabotating thoughts you had? Identify them, write them down and reply to them, now for next time. What could you have done? Which strategies? Think about that, teach your brain a different way to deal with emotional eating, show your brain the right way to cope with that situation, see the positive end of that movie, many times. Let your body feel the positive effects of acting positively! You can do it, and you will! I'm sure of that! When I read about your "discomfort" about going to your mom's, I remembered I read something about that on Beck's Blog www beckdietsolution com. If you want you can go on the blog page and search for the title "In Session with Deborah: Difficulties Going Home". I hope it can help.
A big big hug!!!

02-19-2013, 07:01 PM
Hi... I too am feeling discouraged. Saturday, Sunday and Monday I weighed 210. Today I weighed 214. I gained four pounds overnight. I KNOW I didn't eat the calories. I know it's the medicine I am taking - but, it was disheartening as I saw the dietician today. We both agreed that it's just information. The good news is I have lost ten pounds in the last four months since I have been seeing her. Credit.

I have eaten extra today. But, I'll eat my planned dinner. I don't have to wait until tomorrow.

Now I must concetrate on preparing for going to visit family. GS's birthday is coming up.

Onebyone - thanks for posting that reminder. It seems that way. But, we just have to keep coming here and start planning again. We have to forgive ourselves and go forward.

Hope you all are having a good day.

02-19-2013, 07:46 PM
Good evening - I'm wanting to just veg completely tonight. Walked on treadmill or on trail for 7 of the past 8 days, and am debating on whether to treadmill it tonight or take a break. Such a terrible work day - I think the pounding on it would be a bit carthartic. But I also want to kick back with a cup of hot tea and Downton Abbey, which I dvr'd and am looking forward to relaxing with those folks.

Have a terrible habit of if I skip a meal (rare) I over eat those calories and more. Today I managed my apple and banana during the afternoon, so need to remember I DID have 200 calories there!

I was journaling about this recently: if I go off plan on weekends, and on holidays, and on vacations, that means that nearly 1/3 of the year I'm off plan. And that gets me nowhere. That was a good reminder to focus on weekends. I typically do okay on weekends, but I will do a response card for that since my vacation and holidays are a challenge.

02-19-2013, 11:39 PM
Hi all,

Today had a few minor variations, but was on plan. Someone put the Corn Chex back in the pantry with less than a cup of cereal left, so I had to substitute.

Exercise was on target and with help of DH, I got my new rebounded put together. I'm going to try it out tomorrow night.

I downloaded Susan Alber's 2nd edition of Eating Mindfully from the library e-book collection today, so that's my current reading.

Being discouraged is something that happens to all of us--and I have to fight the tendency to dwell on my failures as if they mean I'll never succeed. The truth is, though, there are lots of credits and successes that go along with the failures, which means I've succeeded in the past and am able to do so again.

Hope all is well

02-20-2013, 01:10 AM
Hi all,
This will be short and sweet. Credit moi' for not overeating today. I actually WROTE DOWN my plan for today. I had some variations, but didn't eat anything unhealthy, or go over my allotment.
Also, credit for going to Aqua Pilates this a.m. when I was SOOO tired and didn't want to get out of bed. Personals tomorrow! Thanks for being there!

02-20-2013, 07:31 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Exercise was walking to my last physical therapy session for my leg, CREDIT moi. The sessions covered by my insurance are completed; I am declared healed with instructions to continue the prescribed exercises for three months and the stretches for life; my handicapped parking chit has expired; all is well with the universe.

One more day on plan, CREDIT moi, including watching DW mix a huge bowl of her trail mix that is off limits. Off limits because it's not on plan and thus when my hand enters the jar it knows no bounds. I did have the urge to snack when I returned from physical therapy but had a glass of water instead. My PT said that one cause of Charlie horses (muscle spasms) is dehydration and that as we get older (ahem . . .) we lose our sense of thirst thus contributing to that. So I'm to drink water until my pee is pale instead of drinking water when I'm thirsty. Oh, well.

onebyone – Continuing to send supportive thoughts as you process the emotions of dealing with your mom. It's tough. Kudos for facing that you must take care of yourself anyway. Beck's quote today seems to have you in mind.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Neat demonstration that intractable problems can be broken down and solved, step by step.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yay for a spouse who wants to eat healthy.

Beverlyjoy – The scale jitters and we keep going. Wonderful thought, "I don't have to wait until tomorrow."

maryann - Two hours of skiing is great exercise - Kudos.

Woodland - Sobering calculation that weekends, holidays, and vacation constitute a third of the year. Kudos for facing that.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Thanks for the reminder, "there are lots of credits and successes that go along with the failures."

Kitty (Bootedkitty) – Kudos for success with the hunger experiment. Yep, cravings are one menacing enemy.

kindercoach – Oh Yes, Super Kudos for going to Aqua Pilates when the Sabotaging Thoughts were chanting their I don't wannas.

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

characteristic 6
You Feel Helpless and Hopeless When You Gain Weight

The Beck Diet Solution
This program teaches you many techniques to prevent overeating. But, equally important, it also teaches you how to learn from your eating mistakes and to recommit yourself to your diet right away. When you do so, your confidence grows. You'll know that you can immediately recover from slips and control your eating and weight.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 39.

02-20-2013, 09:39 AM
To My Brilliant Coaches

*credit* for being who you are. Thank you.

After a full day of getting everything out I woke up renewed this morning, and this inspite of both of my cats hassling me from 5am on.

After getting the gunk out I could once again see where I had gone off the rails--and this is a realization that's taken a while to re-learn. When I was actively losing weight, I simply *trusted* that the WW Scientists had done all the work in figuring out a foodplan and a system and a means to implement such into my daily life in ways that work. WHEN I FOLLOWED IT it worked. I did not fight it. I followed it. I have been ignoring its parameters: I eat large portions and I eat too much food. I don't plan ahead except vaguely as in I'm going to cook _____ today/tomorrow/on the weekend. I am waaaaaaayyyyy more focused on the eating and the food than the eating and the weightloss. Basically, these days it's down to I'm more focused on the EATING. Period. I forget about the weightloss part every day until my jeans are tight, the scale jumps up, DH looks slimmer whatever the trigger. And, the worst of this is a loooooooonnnnnngggggg history with overeating to solve problems of any kind and a loooooonnnnnnnggggg history of overeating to hide from problems and from people.

So, since everyone gets infinite do-overs I'm taking mine.

I *credit* got on the scale and saw (-3.3lbs) to 256.4. The travel weight is gone. Today I commit to tracking my food and to getting to the studio to further express myself.
*credit(s) moi* for posting yesterday while in the midst of crisis and for coming back today without embarrassment, just as a normal flawed imperfect human being.

Thanks so much for being here everyone. My days of abandoning this quest to lose weight while in a panic over a slip/a binge seem to be behind me. It's all due to to Beck. I give this program full credit for getting me on track every single time, and this ALWAYS gives me another chance to succeed a little bit more.

All the best to everyone reading this today.

02-20-2013, 11:41 AM
Quick check-in for a busy day. I haven't fully written a plan because next on the list is a menu for the week and grocery shopping, but I will write a full plan for the day before I eat lunch. It makes all the difference for me.

Exercise: +55 900/1300 minutes for February

BillBlueEyes: congrats on achieving healed as defined by the insurance company. It's really been impressive and inspiring to watch you take the steps needed for that.

onebyone: so happy to see you here, again. I'm glad you're feeling better this morning.

02-20-2013, 02:12 PM
Doing another fly-by here ... more issues so another crummy workday. But at least I've got a job; I recognize that and am thankful.

Ended up skipping on the coworker's birthday lunch outing that I set up (I handle the monthly outings so no one is skipped) ... it was to a famous burger joint and I would have ended up with a grilled chicken sandwich for too many calories, I'm sure. No time to leave the office, anyway, and sure enough, another issue arose right as soon as they left. I feel as if I'm in "fight or flight" mode all week, email with ! sign comes in and my heart starts pounding and stomach churning.

I need a response card for this that stress doesn't burn calories at warp speed, though it feels like it should.

Will catch up with personals hopefully this evening.

02-20-2013, 03:31 PM
Hello Everyone,

Again it's been awhile since I checked in here. I had an enjoyable 3 day weekend and only looked at the computer when I needed to track my food for WW online. Oh and my weight as well, which did go up by 1.4. Not happy about it but when I thought back to last week, not surprised either. I wasn't doing all the same things as before when I was losing and justifying eating "crap" because it fits into my points is not good thinking. Back on track since yesterday and have already planned to take the dogs for a long walk tonight. The weather has cooled off again but I am a tough Canadian girl and it is still winter here even though we'd all like to believe it's over :)

Hoping to get back for personals soon!

02-20-2013, 03:42 PM
Hi Coaches!

Yesterday's food was so so...not the kind of all healthy day I like but poor food choices were not associated with negative emotions so I'll just say that I'm ok with that. Travel was safe and meals were was just the "in betweens". Credit for sharing GS cookies w/DH while watching a taped episode of Survivor and leaving some in the box which has been stashed with his other "stuff". I weighed at the pool even though I don't like their scale. credit. Today's eating OP and I have a plan. That's always good.

BBE, kudos for such a stellar recovery! Just in time for some better weather, too....DH's injury on May 31 certainly goofed up a precious summer.

onebyone, glad you are feeling better today.

Back from the pool and my quinoa is almost done...It's more than lunch time here.

Take care everyone!

02-20-2013, 08:33 PM
Hi folks... checking in. Yesterday was an awful day, foodwise. Today, however, is going OK. Grateful.

I am facing time away from home - I've been reading my response cards and advantages. There's a big pizza party on Saturday. GS is having a bowling birthday party. I think I'll just skip the pizza and eat later. I will probably bring a banana. My dietician says that people don't really care what you are or are not eating. This is true except for my one wonderful SIL who's only flaw is that because she is overweight - she doesn't like others to make a point of eating healthy when she is not doing it. I've dealt with it before. I will work it out.

Sometimes I feel weary of having to deal with my food addiction. But, if I want to have food sanity I need to plan, log, and do all the other things around food.

I'll check in tomorrow.

02-20-2013, 11:50 PM
Hi all,

Today has been a good food and exercise day. I remembered half my lunch today (the fruit and celery) but forgot my frozen meal. Thank goodness for the one in the freezer at work! Otherwise, my food was completely OP--including two Girl Scout peanut butter sandwich cookies.

I had two Do-Si-Dos because I asked a woman at work to bring them to me--exactly two. She brought them yesterday, but I hadn't planned for them for yesterday, since I didn't know when she'd bring them in. So I planned them for an evening snack today and enjoyed them very much. Portion control is so much easier when there isn't more to get!

Avoiding snacks at work is so much easier than it used to be. There were frango mints and Girl Scout shortbread cookies out today (and ring pops) (and tootsie pops). I noticed the mints, and thought, "Oh chocolate. I like chocolate. That chocolate doesn't have anything to do with me." and didn't even really crave it--it was more of an observation than a wish to eat it.

I thought it would always be hard and I'd always be fighting myself wanting every sweet that came along, but as I've created rules for myself and learned how to be glad I'm not eating something, it has gotten a lot easier--and in not that long of a time. This is my 7th week of not having had an unplanned snack at work. And if avoiding snacks at work gets easier, then maybe eating carefully at weekend-long parties will get easier, too.

Beverlyjoy: I'm sorry you had a hard Tuesday. Good luck with time away from home--and chances are the pizza at a bowling alley pizza party won't be very good anyway--no reason to go off plan for poor pizza! Do you think it'll help to eat before so you aren't hungry?

Lexxiss: Credit for weighing at the pool--and for recognizing that your poor food choices weren't emotional ones.

Tazzy: Glad it was a good weekend away. Credit for walking in the cold--I grew up near Chicago--but I still hate cold! And credit for getting back on track!

nationaklparker: I'm sorry work is stressful. Stress not only doesn't burn calories, it tries to trick us into eating extra calories. Nasty stuff, that stress.

gardenerjoy: Yay for planning. It is almost funny to me how completely I've adopted planning--planning for the week and planning for each day. It does make a huge difference and it helps me stay on track so much better.

onebyone: I'm sorry you have so much going on right now. Are you up to recommitting to going through the pink book day-by-day again? I'm just wondering if you need to step by step get yourself back on track.

BillBE: Laughing at drinking until your pee is pale. Trail mix is hard stuff to just have a little of--some things are best left alone. It's an odd thing when insurance rather than doctors define "done".

Take care, everyone!

02-21-2013, 07:00 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Did gym, CREDIT moi. A guy laughed at me because I started my dreaded lunges from the locker room along the corridor to the workout room. I'd started doing this to hold at bay the Sabotaging Thoughts that I don't need to do lunges. In fact, they were painfully difficult when the cast was first removed, but have become slowly more possible as the muscles have been worked back to normal. Also got in a walk to the library to pick up two books they had ordered for me. I've become more addicted to the library than to Amazon, especially liking that the library takes the books back.

Snacking was awful at the opening of a friend's art exhibit. It was timed when I'd normally have dinner, but wasn't dinner - just cheeses, crackers, humus, and baked bites. Good news is that I stopped, partially by leaving earlier than I had to leave. I didn't plan appropriately because I couldn't figure out what I wanted. Back on plan now.

onebyone – Yep, Yep, Yep, "ALWAYS gives me another chance to succeed a little bit more." Going forward is a real life NO CHOICE.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Yay for busy. Do you have a bunch of clothes to buy before Paris?

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Those "in betweens" can get to me, too.

Beverlyjoy – Sobering, "people don't really care what you are or are not eating" as if we weren't the center of the universe. Good luck dealing with the sensitivities of your overweight SIL.

Tazzy - Three days without computers sounds like bliss. Kudos for getting past the junk food stuff.

nationalparker – Skipping a birthday lunch outing to avoid only bad choices is worthy of Kudos to be sure. LOL that "stress doesn't burn calories at warp speed" - or we'd all be skinny-Minnie’s.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – The big secret, "Portion control is so much easier when there isn't more to get!" Wish it could always be that way. Kudos for arranging exactly two Do-Si-Dos.

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

characteristic 7
You Focus on Issues of Unfairness
Are you surprised to learn that most thin people restrict their eating to some degree? They might be trying to maintain their weight or to stay healthy - or both. So they sometimes eat smaller portions than they would really like and choose healthy food when they'd really prefer to eat something else. They accept these limitations without too much struggle. They just don't think about it very much.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 39.

02-21-2013, 09:01 AM
Quick Ciao! I'm very stressed at work, due to an icrease of responsabilities, but this event this time seems to be good, because I have no time to thinkg about food, almost no time to have my fruit break...and the consequence is...I'm losing weight! Never thought this could be possible for me!
Anyway, can't wait for tomorrow evening to arrive and relax a bit!
I wish you all a very nice weekend, free from sabotating thoughts and with a lot of winning challenges! :-) Onebyone, happy to see you here again!
Don't give up!

02-21-2013, 10:25 AM
Hi Coaches!

Posting from a funky older laptop but it does save me from hauling the good one back and forth. Yesterday went pretty well as I didn't have a formal plan. I squelched sabotaging thoughts of a lunch out (not a good choice) and came home to prepare healthy. I do have a plan for today. credit.

BBE, great that you left the event early to prevent further uncontrolled snacking. Yep, events at dinner time are difficult. You did, however, show up in support of your friend. credit.

onebyone, glad you're back on track and here with us once again. I know it's been a stressful time for you but have to say you were missed. :hug:

BootedKitty, yay when stress at work makes it easier to stay op!

Beth(fromDayton), loved hearing how your Beck skills are making dieting so much easier! Great that you replaced that extra freezer meal at work so you'd have it when needed.

Beverlyjoy, yay for having thought out your trip in advance. Even though there will be difficult times it's much easier with a plan.

gardenerjoy, great strategy to make sure you get that written plan in before lunch.

nationalparker, credit for skipping the lunch because you knew the choices were less than stellar. As planner, you know there's always another event.

Tazzy, credit for checking in and for recognizing that even though you were staying within your points that your choices could be healthier.

02-21-2013, 10:27 AM
Coaches, good morning.

Today is official weigh-in day. I just did my usual unofficial weigh-in and it showed -0.2lbs overnight. *credit for weighing in.

Had a perfectly tracked *credit and planned *credit food day yesterday that came in on plan *credit. All systems go to do that again today.

Did not get even 1/4 of what I had to do yesterday done yesterday so it rolls over into today. The bad weather had me surrendering the car to DH so I just hung around here and came up with a 2nd version of my artist proposal that is due to tomorrow. Need to make significant progress on that today.

I am going to remove the pottery clutter from the Guild's porch right after I get officially weighed this morning.

Ok must go.


UPDATE: my weight was lower at official weigh-in than at home. Yay. 255.8 today. Also finally have a clear direction for my art submission proposal. Now to write it all down.
1.for tracking all food today
2. checking in with my coaches
3. putting my fork down, twice, during my lunch
4. and for planning ahead to my dinner
5. for sitting down to eat.
6. for facing the scale

02-21-2013, 10:52 AM
Hi all,
I'm back! Phoenix was beautiful. It was sunny, not a cloud in the sky and in the lower 70's. We had a wonderful time with SIL and her husband. Eating was not exactly great but I did notice a few changes in eating attitude. I ate some high calorie junky type food but much less that I would have in the past and when I got home I had a 2-3 pound gain. Instead of continuing down that wrong road, I got turned around right away and today am down to lower than when I left a week ago. I'm very pleased about that. I will do some reading tonight and see what's been going on with everyone.

02-21-2013, 04:08 PM
We're having a spot of weather here today. I kind of like the "whee! snow day!" feeling but DH gets antsy about the driveway. That sometimes means that my cozy day in unexpectedly turns into energetic snow shoveling days. Credit for working this out ahead of time, for a change. The prediction is wintry mix followed by snow followed by freezing rain. So, we're not touching it today. It doesn't make sense to shovel off snow just so the driveway can turn into a sheet of ice. If we shovel at all, we'll do it tomorrow when we can scoop the whole mess off together. I'll count shoveling as exercise which makes me much more cheerful about it.

Today's challenge is not to let either my "snow day!" sense of a day off or DH's anxiety affect my eating. Eating does not fix his anxiety and eating is not necessary for me to enjoy the day.

Exercise: +80 980/1300 minutes for February

BillBlueEyes: My favorite aspect of the library is that they store "my" books for me so I don't have to. Mostly I'll take my Ireland travel wardrobe to France, but I might buy one or two new things for fun. I came home from Ireland with a new scarf so I'm determined that I'll come home from Paris with one -- Hermes? Christian Dior? Should be a fun decision to make! DH has declared he'll be getting a tie as well.

Julia150: glad you're safely home and quickly took off the trip weight -- that's the way to do it! I gained weight after my Ireland trip last year and I'm determined to do things differently this summer after our France trip. I'm already telling myself that eating does not fix jet lag.

Beverlyjoy: good for you for thinking through the family visit challenges in advance.

02-21-2013, 05:50 PM
Hi Becksters - I am so happy that yesterday was a healthy day. Very grateful.

I planned/measured/logged my food, had no seconds, and always left a bite. Those are all the credits I can think of at the moment. My dietician reminded me of something Dr. Beck has mentioned too - to write down your credits at the end of the day. Good idea!!

I have much to do. I've read all the posts and so appreciate the input I've gotten this week. I am sorry I haven't had time to do the personals the past few days. On Saturday and Sunday I may not have access to a computer. I still have one of those old fashioned 'dumb phones'... no smart phone for me. Maybe next time - when my contact is over.

I am taking a bag of things for me to eat that will work in. I am taking three quarts of chicken & noodles for Saturday or Sunday night. It's low sodium.

It's my grandson's 6th birthday. Very exciting.

I hope everyone is doing well.

Billbe - sorry to hear that more snow is coming to Boston... get out your shovel again.

02-21-2013, 07:46 PM
Good evening - first of hopefully two check-ins ... work last night rolled until about 9:30 p.m. ... finally able to shut down and turn off and relax. Then pulled out some hummus and pita chips ... and they actually stll fit in my day's allotment since lunch was other than planned. But not a wise choice to turn to food to calm down.

Woke up and weighed - finally have the dang Florida trip weight off. HOW does it come on so dang quickly and leave so dang slowly? Ah well... Also woke up with major eye pain and lucked out with an have it checked out this afternoon - corneal ulcer. In my mind I know it's not related but in my heart I feel as if it's part of the stress from this week. Sense? First Rx was to be more than $100 ... pharmacist took it upon herself to call the Dr. and have an $8 one subbed instead - a blessing. I have to return for a followup with doc on Saturday and will swing by and thank the pharmacist again as I think I just asked will it do the same good job okay, thanks. Instead of a heartfelt THANK you - she didn't have to do that.

02-22-2013, 07:09 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Back on track for snacking, CREDIT moi. Dinner was a Turkish lentil soup that DW made from a newspaper recipe - good filling stuff in need of a little more jalapeno pepper than she used. Lentils, like beans, cry out for salt. The jalapeno pepper might reduce that need.

Exercise was good walking, CREDIT moi. The snow is gone but there's still ice. I'm wary since a friend just slipped and wrenched her arm badly. It's aerobic to walk briskly and stable to walk safely. Oh, well.

onebyone – Congrats for chasing your art proposal until you were clear. And congrats for the scale reflecting your persistence.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Ouch for some nasty weather in your area. Yep, shoveling is exercise as declared by my muscles. [Love the thought of buying a scarf and a tie in Paris.]

Debbie (Lexxiss) – I love stretching the life out of an old computer. Planned obsolescence is the pits.

Beverlyjoy – Yay for healthy. Double Yay for grateful. Kudos for hauling "three quarts of chicken & noodles" when that's what you need.

nationalparker – Hummus and pita chips are the best. For me, that means measured in advance since I can do one whole lot if I'm not paying attention. Congrats for choosing a pharmacist who knows the difference between $100 and $8.

Julia (Julia150) – Makes sense that the first thing a visitor from the Pacific NW notices in Phoenix is the sky. Yay for attitude.

Kitty (Bootedkitty) – Neat to turn increased responsibility into weight loss instead of unplanned snacking. Holding my breath for your elections. if you vote Monday, it'll be a full moon - folklore around here is that a full moon is when the crazies come out, LOL. Good luck. Italy and the world have much at stake.

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

characteristic 7
You Focus on Issues of Unfairness
. . .You, however, may have constant sabotaging and demoralizing thoughts that undermine your confidence. When you overeat, you might believe that you'll never be able to control your eating.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 39.

02-22-2013, 09:03 AM
Just a quick reply to Bill about the made me laugh! :-) With full moon we say wolfmen come out!! Seen the general political situation, I can previsualize much better a big wolfman "eating" everything...because a crazy man governing us would probably be better now! I've lost my hopes about politics and I can't see anyone in the Italian goverment able to save the situation. The problem is..most of Italian people, think the same way I do...
Oh well, we'll see...thanks again. Have a good weekend!

02-22-2013, 10:35 AM
Hi all,

Yesterday included a dinner out to an Italian restaurant I'd never been to before (and didn't have nutrition information on line). I ate more meat than I should have--but controlled the pasta, so credit for that. I usually fill up on salad and bread, but only had one small roll--credit. The salad was horrible, so I didn't each much. Anti-credit to the restaurant.

Breakfast, lunch, snack, and exercise were all OP (or over, on exercise). Even though it was a late night, I got today's lunch and snack packed before bed, and planned all of today's food in MFP. Credit. I'm thrilled about how much easier it is to plan now. I didn't "sneak in" a strawberry or cracker or celery stick while packing. That's getting easier, but it's still easiest when I pack during dinner prep or cleanup than later at night.

Weight is basically stuck this week, but I know I'm staying OP and at least it means that I have truly and thoroughly lost those 13 lbs, since it isn't going up.

I'm iced in and working at home today. 5:30 phone call to tell me DD's school was delayed (she wasn't going anyway--she's on a college visit with her dad) and then another 2 hours later to tell us school was closed. My work is more civilized--they texted--first a 2 hour instruction to report late, and then another saying it was closed. Fortunately, I anticipated this and brought my laptop home so I could avoid taking vacation time.

I still have my lunch and snack planned and packed--so that's what I'll be eating, just at home rather than at work.

Today is going to be a great day--even if I am iced in.

02-22-2013, 10:56 AM
Hello all,

I haven't been posting here for the last three weeks because my life all of a sudden went haywire! I work in disaster recovery and was deployed to the Northeast to assist with Hurricane Sandy recovery. The good part is that mucking out flooded houses everyday is a great workout, the downside is that with all the work and my schedule being thrown off, all my good work towards my goals was scrapped and now I'm busy picking up the pieces and trying to get myself back on track.

I already feel more comfortable and in control sitting at my desk with all my structure in place. However I am going to start my Beck journey fresh, at day 1, because I think I need it. I didn't respect the process last time and all of you who commented that wasn't the best method were, of course, absolutely right. Maybe if I'd adhered to the system more closely I wouldn't have had so much trouble when my situation changed.

So, today I pulled out my ARC, blew off the dust, and added a few new thoughts I'd had in my time away from it. I'm also going to put it on my phone and on my computer so that it's easier to access at times when I don't have my little notebook by my side.

I am a very goal oriented person so I'm going to try and make/set daily goals that are reasonable for me to accomplish and make sure to give myself credit (even though I'm not at that day yet ;))

1. Read my ARC at least 3 times!
2. Drink half a gallon of water!
3. Take my vitamins!

So far I'm off to a good start and I know I can sustain it.

02-22-2013, 11:25 AM
Hi coaches!
I'm at home by myself knitting a bit before I head to the pool. I have some serious agitation going on this morning.... Weather is crummy and I'm still tired. The good news however is that I have a very strong feeling that food won't fix this So I've started my day healthy and have a plan to continue. Packing and travel right after water aerobics so I'm committed to enjoying my final 15 minutes here by myself. Credit.

02-22-2013, 01:02 PM
After writing about DH's antsiness regarding snow removal, I was still blind-sided by his need to go out to lunch and, therefore, to start shoveling snow at 9:30 this morning. Oh well. My exercise is done for the day. My writing isn't started, but I'll get it there. I've already rewritten my food plan to reflect the new reality. I haven't rewritten my day plan, but I left it pretty loose so I should be fine rearranging things as needed.

Exercise: +50 1030/1300 minutes for February

02-22-2013, 01:34 PM
Good morning everyone,

I'm home sick today, it started at noon yesterday so I left work then and am feeling somewhat better today but am taking the time to rest (and do laundry of course, somehow I just can't sit and do nothing!). When I got on the scale this morning I was surprised to see 169.8, hoping it's still there on the weekend when I record it. My crazy body and it's swings in weight. I'm giving myself credit for continuing to track, weigh and measure even when the scale does not seem to reflect the efforts.

gardenerjoy Credit for having your exercise done early, did it include snow shoveling for you too? I like the snow around but hate having to shovel it.

Lexxiss I envy your access to the pools, it's one of the ways I really enjoy exercising. I should plan for that in my daily routine at times.

veganasaurasrex Credit for coming back to the boards and posting. It sounds like your job in a very important one. Credit for getting your books out again and setting goals for yourself.

bethfromdayton Credit for controlled pasta at an Italian restaurant and also for choosing not to eat horrible salad. I agree with you that finding the right planning tool really helps. I really like the WW online program as I just pull out my tablet and add things there. It seems so much easier than the old pen and paper way and I used to think it was the best way. Credit for 13 pounds gone forever!

bootedkitty Good luck on the full moon elections. I can relate to BBE on the crazies coming out around that time. It seems to effect our two puppies as well. :dizzy:

BBE I'm with you with the walking on ice, I'd much rather have the snow underfoot instead. It's getting much better here as we've had a lot of melting but neighbors seemed to be clearing things better and we can do most of our walks without encountering too much ice. Being on the end of leashes of 80 lb and 50 lb dogs on ice is a dicey situation at times. They seemed to have sensed how difficult it can be ahead when I say "slow" in a firm voice as we get to those patches.

nationalparker I know in Canada our health plans are different but it's good to have a pharmacist that knows the $8 generic drug will do the same job as the $100 brand name one. With the plan we have the generic is always the first option, our doctors have to specify if it needs to the the more expensive choice.

beverlyjoy Good luck at GS birthday weekend. Credit for taking some of your own food to stay the course. I have just upgraded to a "smart" phone but still won't use the internet on it. I figure what I need to put online can wait until I'm at home or my desk at work. Guess I'm just not that connected to the new electronics age! I only upgraded my phone because I could not get a new battery for the old one and our 14 DS has gotten into the habit of texting so at least I can reply to him.

Julia150 Welcome back from your trip, sorry you miss the sunshine already :( I personally find the action of travelling always increases my weight but it's usually back to where it should be within a day or two. Happy to hear for you that it's lower.

onebyone Credit for your official weigh in and moreso for all the other credits you have given yourself. :carrot:

Hi to anyone else I may have missed :wave: I think it's time for a nap.

02-22-2013, 03:08 PM
Hello Coaches/Buddies!

Don't have time to get caught up with everyone right now, but I wanted to post to say that, after maintaining the same weight all week, the scale finally went down 1.4 pounds today, so I think I am fully recovered from Valentine's Day and the big Italian restaurant meal last week. Thank God!!! I was in a serious funk after that, but focused once again on "back to basics" and it paid off. My current challenge is to not eat meat on Fridays, as I am a Catholic and it is Lent, so not as many healthy options available to me on Fridays. I am not much of a fish eater, unless it is "not fishy" and from a nice restaurant, so these Fridays of Lent will be a challenge to me. But, I will plan around it and do just fine. Today and for the moment, I believe I can do this!!! :) I'll take that feeling and run with it!!! :carrot:

Hope all is well with everyone. I did see that onebyone was having a rough time. Thinking of you as you get back on track! :hug: You can do this, too!!! :D

Sending everyone positive Beck thoughts and good wishes for a healthy weekend!!! :goodvibes

02-22-2013, 06:12 PM
Hi Coaches

Have been nose to the grindstone since 7am wrasslin' that artist proposal into submission. LOL yes, and into submission too. It's gone, sent off into the ether. Good thing I checked its progress as I sent if off with the blank questionaire not the one I've been filling in and working on for three days. So I re-sent the whole thing and told them to delete the first one, even though it had a much better opening letter.
Oh well.
They're not judging me by an opening letter.

Foodwise, no off-track snacking inspite of the deadline. *credit* This is a good thing. No a GREAT thing. I've tracked everything today. And I am planning my dinner as well. That's my next "test".

I sure have a lot of food in my fridge. When I eat proper portions, that's really not a huge amount of food. DH isn't eating all that much either. I noticed his tummy is really really smaller. Again.
I want that.

So maybe it's time to clean the fridge out and to freeze some stuff. Certainly time to stop buying food for a while. We really have enough.

That's my update. :wave: to everyone. TGIF.

02-22-2013, 10:50 PM
Good evening - late check-in for me. Looks like a lot of folks here are struggling with an issue or two at this point. Here's to a better ending to the month for all.

My eye was getting progressively worse today, and I tend to not worry much, but when vision is at stake, I decided to call and dr. wanted me to come back in today, so I went in and she referred me to an opthomologist (sp?) and that dr. said no wonder it's hurting, it's a line of ulcers on the cornea. So armed with more Rx, I'll battle this out now. Back there on Tuesday for a recheck after the meds do their thing. Two good karma deals with the first doc saying come right in, and the opth remaining open until we could get there.

I wish I could say the court date this morning regarding cessation of child support for a 20 yo step daughter went well - it's been delayed monthly since August. I struggle with this immensely as she was living with her boyfriend out of state for months. But the child support had to continue. Now another delay until March. I said to DH at least the court appearance is for this and not a murder case, right? Trying to find the positive in that which stymies us.

Bright spot was being down a pound this morning. S-l-o-w-l-y going down.

Dinner was bringing home our choice of small pizzas from a new to us spot - and actually able to work it into my plan today since snacking was nil. Woke up to an icy, slippery day today, and that often sends me into snack zone.

I've slacked on personals here this week; but I'm reading all postings - hope to write better positive note Saturday.

02-23-2013, 12:06 AM
Hi all,

Good food and exercise day for me today. Food was totally OP. Work was closed because of the ice storm, so I did a Denise Austin DVD at home.

Spent an hour and a half on planning the food for our big March weekend--today we concentrated on planning the snacks. I'm getting my head around the fact that many of these snacks are not for me. If I want to be thinner and get my sugar and cholesterol under control, then I can't eat all those sweet and baked goods over a party weekend. I am intentionally leaving out some of my favorites, though! (There won't be any flavored tootsie rolls)

Had to plan tomorrow's dinner tonight--there aren't enough leftovers left for having leftovers for dinner tomorrow! It also looks like I'll need an extra grocery run--we're about out of fresh fruit.

Take care, all!

02-23-2013, 07:51 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Did gym, CREDIT moi, adding a few more lunges on the way to getting back to the number I'd been doing before I broke my leg. Watched a buff guy using the same weights that I was using. Felt pretty good about that. Then remembered not to compare. So I felt smug that I was too cool to feel pretty good about that. It can be fudged. Walking was on dry sidewalks, a pleasure.

Eating was on plan, CREDIT moi, including wrestling with the desire for some extra snacks. Sticking to plan causes it to be easier to stick to my plan, to wit: DW said she saw some dynamite baked goods on sale at Whole Foods. She reached for them, then realized that I wouldn't eat them and she'd have to consume the whole bunch. So she didn't buy. CREDIT moi once removed, LOL

onebyone – LOL at wrestling your proposal into submission for submission. It is interesting that the volume of food we need to consume is so much less than we're driven to purchase.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Congrats for the snow shoveling exercise. We could use your DW's enthusiasm later today if the predicted 8 inches appear.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Knowing "that food won't fix this" is a terrific achievement - Kudos.

Tazzy - Congrats on that attractive scale reading. Hope you're feeling better.

nationalparker – Ouch with the eye issues; Yay for finding out and responding so promptly. A new pizza place sounds fun.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Great plan: eat your packed lunch and ignore the kitchen even though you're at home. Kudos for being mindful of the foods that are right for you at your event.

IBelieveInMe2 – Just what I need to hear, "back to basics" and it paid off. Perhaps Lenten Fridays are a time to learn to love lentils - one of my favorite foods ever.

Kitty (Bootedkitty) – Beck needs to add that to her book: Even when the wolfmen are out, I don't have to eat about it.

Jo (veganasaurusrex) – Congrats for helping with the Hurricane Sandy disaster. Kudos for gathering yourself together and starting anew.

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

characteristic 7
You Focus on Issues of Unfairness
. . .You, however, might frequently reflect on how unfair it is that others can eat what they want but you can't. Truth is, not only do you underestimate how much others restrict themselves, but also you overly focus on the injustice you feel because you have to limit yourself. In the past, this kind of thinking may have led you to stray from your diet, or you may have given up your diet entirely.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 39.

02-23-2013, 08:23 AM
Hi Coaches!

A very quick check in as work calls early today. I've weighed this morning and have my food day planned. credit. I picked up the BellyFatbook at the library (thx MaryAnn) just for some new reading and info. The book confirmed what I had suspected; that extreme changes in altitude and the pressure associated w/ do increase water weight temporarily. I've noticed for a long time that my post travel weight is often up by 5 pounds. So especially after traveling up to 12,000 ft twice in a day I'll certainly be using the scale for "information" only. lol

02-23-2013, 10:06 AM
Morning Coaches

Made it through another day on track yesterday *credit* I did have two wobbles though. 1) in the afternoon when I was really hungry (an aside to myself here: guess why I was really hungry? CAUSE I"VE BEEN ON PLAN HELLO? I AM SUPPOSED TO BE HUNGRY SOMETIMES!) Ok so I was really hungry and there were these tree nuts (BBE you know where I am going with this) and I had a few more than what I'd counted out. I was a) snacking while standing and b) eating off plan so I turned my back, reminded myself no choice and left the room and went back to work. 2) right before bed, the dinner food had not been put away (went to bed early) and I mindlessly, then deliberately, nibbled on it, taking a tiny slice here and then there and then another and then I stopped knowing I would eat a full meal's worth in another minute or two, standing up, and have to count the points, which I did. I asked DH to deal with it and he did and I walked away.

This morning I am finally off to the guild to get the pottery on the porch and deliver milk to the kitchen for the tea room this weekend.

Work today will be updating my art blog because I have a line on a gallery owner who is interested in my work. It'd be good if I looked professional!

LexxissBellyfat book. I am reading Wheatbelly. Wonder how they differ? Describing weight gain due to altitude made me think of the notion that "the air is thinner up there". Not in all ways, eh? Hope you have a good day at work.

BillBlueEyes Wow. I consider that a true victory to have your DW hold a bottomline mental image of you as someone who doesn't eat that stuff. You have consistently shunned it enough that she has made that switch when she thinks of you. That is persistence and I am sure it's not that you don't want that stuff either at times. *Kudos to you!

bethFromDayton*credit for planning ahead re: snacks and also for deciding to leave out some favorites which will be extra tempting when you see others eating everything "without a care" (this is what I imagine anyway). Sorry to hear you had an ice storm. Tired of hearing about winter!!

nationalparker Lots of challenges for you right now. *BiG credits that you haven't chosen food as a means to fix the court date re-sets and the eye issues. Congrats on the scale going down 1lb!:carrot:

Have a great Saturday.

02-23-2013, 02:42 PM
Saturday is my big planning day. Oddly, I don't have an actual plan for today. Correcting that.... Done! (credit).

Exercise: +60 1090/1300 minutes for February

02-24-2013, 06:16 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Zipper update: Found the right nylon repair tape in a camping goods catalog for only $3 - just right, and it comes in colors. I now need to find $47 more in outdoor items to qualify for free shipping. Made it to a local outdoors store, EMS (Eastern Mountain Sports), that didn't sell the tape but suggested tent seam sealer in a tube to fix the problem. "It can also be used to repair your hiking boots if the heel separates while on a mountain," they helpfully noted. hmmmm . . . goo from a tube to keep nylon from slipping into the zipper? I passed. Will keep looking.

Exercise was removing some old horse hair plaster helping my DS get his house together. CREDIT moi for a tiny bit of energy but a huge help with the job they're doing because it seems so overwhelming to them. Had reason to walk the long aisles of Home Depot - that always makes my juices flow. Eating was 100%, CREDIT moi. Had some urges for snacks; ignored them.

onebyone – Yay for "I AM SUPPOSED TO BE HUNGRY SOMETIMES!" I tend to forget that. Tree nuts are a double hit because they're 'sposed to be eaten standing. Kudos for turning it all over to your DH.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – LOL at, "Correcting that.... Done!" Kudos for continuing, as always, to increment your exercise counter.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – I can understand that you Sherpas do have more fluctuations because of exercise at high altitudes. Do you wear shoes?

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

characteristic 7
You Focus on Issues of Unfairness
. . .Most thin people, especially women,
stay thin by being incredibly careful about what
. .they eat. They might tell you that they don't
. . . . .work at it, but mostly they do.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 40.

02-24-2013, 09:56 AM

Woke up to newly fallen snow. Again with the newly fallen snow. Would like to wake up to sun streaming through my window, birds chirping, and a nice breeze.

Will be awhile yet.

I've started to experiment with tea again. I am trying to find one that satisfies the urge to nibble/snack/eat something. Tried Key Lime and Ginger Tea yesterday. It smelled medicine-y but tasted ok. Stronger than your usual herbal fare. I have an unopened box of Iron Buddha tea that I'll try today.

I tracked my food yesterday. *credit* and ate sitting down except for picking at that darn ham again right before bed. I opened the fridge saw it there pulled it out and took a small slice or two. Then I had to track it. That was the worst of my behaviour yesterday.

BillBlueEyes*pondering* horse hair plaster. I actually picture horse hair as insulation=a lot of horse hair/ho many horse would that be? I wonder. IS it really horse hair that was mixed into the plaster? How do you get hair from a horse anyway? Guess when you brush a horse there must be hair in the brush... could just google it, but more interesting to roll it over inthe brain first. Kids today may miss that whole process now with readily available "answers" to everything (can't trust all that internet stuff says the middle-aged person).

gardenerjoy Yay for continued planning and being on plan.


02-24-2013, 11:27 AM
Hi Coaches!

Interesting the variety of topics we touch on here. :lol: I'm sure my house has horse hair plaster somewhere but I have absolutely no desire to find out. I think my area had more mules and burros...hmmm...

I weighed this morning and have had my thoroughly enjoyable green smoothie. I pulled a nice AlaskaKingSalmon steak out of the freezer and actually am imagining it right now grilled outside. Funny, because it's snowing quite heavily right now. It is possible....Anyway, I guess that means I have a plan and it's sitting on the counter is just as good as written down.

BBE, kudos for another OP day...the tree nut discussion reminded me of all the madadamias on the trees in Hawaii. A friend made a serious "cracker" because the shells were super hard and very round. You had to eat them sitting down because there was no way to open them standing up. BTW-I do wear shoes at high altitude but was just chuckling to myself on the trip a week boots were in the back seat and I traveled w/socks and my plastic sandals from HK...apparantly very confident about my car AND driving skills.

onebyone, kudos for putting the ham away and tracking it. I'm a sucker for was a TGiving ham which was the start of my 20 pound weight gain Nov.2008....bought another for xmas....another for Easter and joined 3FC in May....I had come too far to head back.

gardenerjoy, credit for just making that plan! Your post reminded me how difficult the planning used to be and now how much easier it is!

02-24-2013, 11:33 AM
During a qi gong routine yesterday, I surprised myself when I touched my nose to my knee in a seated forward bend. Six years of yoga & qi gong and I can no longer claim to have the world's tightest hamstrings.

Exercise: +60 1150/1300 minutes for February

onebyone: I've had good luck with chocolate yerba mate (not really tea but has some caffeine) and Celestial Seasons Bengal Spice Tea (herbal with no caffeine -- that's what I drink in the afternoon and evening if I want something with flavor but no calories). For fully caffeinated teas in the morning, I get a kick out of experimenting with teas mixed by a local tea shop.

BillBlueEyes: LOL at the perfect $3 solution that isn't a solution until you spend $50. This time of year, you might find a whole new coat on sale at that price. Yay for 100% on plan by ignoring snacks.

02-24-2013, 11:52 AM
Good morning, Coaches. Super busy work week accompanied by overwhelm ( I should it expect it by now but don't). OP most of the weekend except dinner out before seeing Crystal Gayle concert. I gave DH the tixs for Valentine's Day. Lots of writing for the thesis today. I had the shocking thought, "I really don't want to do this anymore." But perhaps stopping after $40,000 and two years of work is an extreme decision that i might contemplate for awhile. I must walk step by step through the project-just like I do when facing my food addiction.

I really have noticed a difference in my sweet cravings since I have been drinking the Tart Cherry Juice and eating the yoghurt suggested by the FlatBellyPlan. (Onebyone and gardenerjoy It also has me make a ginger tea with lemon and mint.)

Lexxiss: I knew going up to Tahoe messed with my weight. Thxs.

Weight at ticker today and off to yoga this minute.

02-24-2013, 01:52 PM
Hello Coaches! It's DAY 6, so I am checking in to tell you I'm here and looking forward to becoming an active member of this thread. I DEFINITELY need support in order to make this journey. So many times I've tried it on my own and well, I'm still overweight (alot) so I guess we know how solo dieting goes. I actually discovered BDS from this very forum. Was cruising the internet looking at weight loss support forums and spotted the name of a program I was unfamiliar with. Your posts were inspiring so I went to Amazon and read reviews. I realized I had used a CBT book to quit smoking many years ago. That was the hardest thing I've ever done, so I figure CBT could work for weight loss too.
I'm using a calorie counting diet (1600 per day) and eating low-carb foods generally. My body and brain feel so much better when I cut out the flour and sugar, and even the potatoes and rice. Sigh.
So far, I've followed the BDS to the letter (credit), but that is normal for me for the first ten days or so of a new diet. I am looking for a break through by being here AFTER day 10, being accountable every day and helping you all to do the same once I've gotten my feet wet.
On a personal note, I am 60 years old. I live in the countryside outside of Vancouver, Washington. My husband and I own a computer repair shop. In my spare time I also write erotic romance books. I have a special needs son still at home. Have been over 200 pounds since his birth 20 years ago. My overweight was the cause of uterine cancer I was treated for last year. It's way past time for me to get real. The ARC process was helpful with that.
Okay, that's my intro. Kind of a long one. Glad to be here. Happy Sunday!

02-24-2013, 02:54 PM
Hey Coaches and Becksters:

Here I am with my tail between my legs. I fell off but I want to get back on the horse. On the plus side, we have a new dog that needs to be walked on a daily basis; Mardi Gras is over (although that was almost two weeks ago), I followed Beck for more than two months so I have new tools for "Getting Back on Track" and there are many more advantages and motivations too numerous to list. Suffice to say, I have a great life; it gets better everyday and losing weight and keeping it off will make it even better.

See you on the boards. And thanks for your support!

02-24-2013, 09:47 PM
Well, we were at the lake again over the weekend and went back to the Italian restaurant. This time, I went in with a plan. CREDIT! I am mad at myself for eating one meatball (medium sized) from an unplanned family appetizer, but ~ other than that ~ I ate MUCH better than last time. Enjoyed a large Caprese (mozarella, tomato, and basil) salad and only 2 pieces of pizza. Overall, much progress over last time! :D

I really need to catch up with everyone, but you guys are posting too fast for me......LOL! I promise to do personals soon! I think of you guys often and wish all of you well. :)

02-24-2013, 11:02 PM
Hi all,

Food this weekend? Not so good. Half my weekend was not to plan and the other half unplanned. I stayed in calorie range but I felt uncertain all weekend, not knowing what I was going to eat.

Exercise this weekend? None today or yesterday. I wasn't feeling well yesterday and finally this afternoon thought to check my blood sugar--low. I'll need to keep an eye on that--I've changed my eating habits a lot but my meds haven't been adjusted with it yet. I'll be back on track tomorrow walking at work.

Next weekend is our big baking weekend--I'm going to plan to have a treat each of those days--and hold myself to exactly what I plan for. If I really want more, I'll bag a snack-sized amount up for later in the week.

BillBE: Yay for the lunges and getting back to pre-broken leg levels. Your smugness over feeling too cool made me laugh. Your zipper saga some point, a new jacket? I love the reminder that thin people stay thin by being incredibly careful--it isn't luck, it isn't just how they operate--they work at it. It is not unfair.

Lexiss: Let us know how the BellyFatbook is. I do think food currently defrosting is a plan.

onebyone: Credit for decreasing your wobbles--it sounds like there were fewer Saturday than Friday, so that is progress!

gardenerjoy: Yay for planning! Weekend plans are still so hard for me. You really are getting flexible (literally)

maryann: I love Crystal Gayle! I remember her very first hits. Everyone working on a thesis wants to stop--but that doesn't mean it's a good idea or that you want to stop more than you want the degree, does it?

Nola145: Welcome. You may well find that the CBT techniques come easily to you since you've used the approach before--I know that has made a difference for me. Are you using an app or tool for calorie counting? Looking forward to hearing more from you!

BigchiefDavid: Back is back--and getting back on track is all that counts. One of the neat things is that the horse doesn't move when you fall off, making it easier to get back on.

IBelieveInMe2: Credit for having a better experience at the Italian restaurant--and for giving yourself credit for making progress!

nationalparker: How are your eyes? I hope they're feeling better and the ophthalmologist has good things to report on Tuesday.

Tazzy: I hope you're feeling better. Did your weight swing stay where it belonged when you tracked this weekend?

veganasaurusrex: Welcome back. How are you back to Beck goals going?

Best to all--I hope this is the start to a great week for everyone.

02-25-2013, 06:56 AM
:welcome: Nola145 :welcome:

And on the occasion of your first post, :wel3fc:

02-25-2013, 06:59 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – Eating was good enough, CREDIT moi. Went to dinner with some new friends, walking in the light snow last evening, where the restaurant was so under crowded that we dawdled chatting for an hour - as if we were at home. It's not very aerobic walking on icy snow since going slow is the only sane approach, but it's good for all the small muscles since so much effort is spent assuring stability when climbing over mounds at intersections.

onebyone – New snow is great when the sun is shinning.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Congrats on growing flexibility.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yep, an AlaskaKingSalmon steak sitting on the counter is a written plan - hieroglyphics, maybe, but clear.

maryann - Kudos for confronting the Sabotaging Thought, "I really don't want to do this anymore." It loses power when stared in the face.

BigchiefDavid – Goodbye Mardi Gras. Welcome to the new personal trainer dog to lead you on walks.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – It's a new week. Sometimes weekends are best when they're gone - sorta like visiting relatives, LOL.

IBelieveInMe2 – Taking on that Italian Restaurant is worthy of Kudos. Now you've got me drooling for a Caprese salad - which I love when the tomatoes and basil come from our garden.

Nola145 – Yay for arriving at the Beck Diet Solution with an appreciation of Cognitive Behavior Therapy already. That's a running start, for sure.

Kudos for promptly addressing day 6: Find a Diet Coach by arriving here. Yep, we'll all be glad to serve as your Diet Coach and ask that you perform that role for us. Neat that you've already got your diet plan working. Glad that you've joined us.

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

characteristic 7
You Focus on Issues of Unfairness

The Beck Diet Solution
So many of the dieters I've worked with were preoccupied with the unfairness of dieting that I decided to do an experiment, which turned out to be a lot of fun. I asked numerous people who don't struggle with dieting (they ranged from very thin to "normal" weight) if they would change their eating habits if all foods contained exactly the same number of calories and were equally nutritious. Many of them, especially men over age 40 and most women (of any age), told me that, yes, they would eat differently. Either they would eat certain foods more frequently or they would regularly eat larger quantities of food. In other words, they usually [I]do restrict their eating.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 40.

02-25-2013, 08:44 AM
Quick check! Welcome to Nola 145!
Good weekend, quite OP, still a loto to work on, but credit for recognizing that! :-)
Credit to me for exercising last night, for going walking instead of eating today at lunch, and for this positive feeling today!
Credit for understanding that I still have to focus on one ability: leave something in the plate when I don't eat at home.
On saturday I'll have a good occasion to practice, since I'm going out with some friends of mine.
Have you all a very great week!

02-25-2013, 09:39 AM
Hi Coaches!

Welcome Nola145! I look forward to sharing your journey.

Off to work...weighed, had smoothie and have my Sumo packed. Food was good yesterday, especially the AlaskaKingSalmon which turned out perfect on the grill.'ve been missed!

02-25-2013, 10:25 AM
Hello Coaches et al

OMG *credit for stepping on that scale this morning. It showed me a 254.4. This is the second lowest weight this month--the first was a 252 on the 7th. So :carrot::carrot::carrot: 3 dancing carrots for me and for getting back on track.

-tracked yesterday and stayed on plan
-planned my meals
-eating veggies once more
-checking in
-writing & reaching out when it gets overwhelming & BEFORE I eat
-pursuing opportunites that emerged over the weekend instead of letting them slip by then feeling bad about that, which is a direct line to overeating over those feelings
-eating sitting down
-saying NO CHOICE when I catch myself starting to nibble at the stove
-asking DH to help me stay on track

Feeling pretty good needless to say. Now, I just would like to see the sun, but I can be happy I heard some birds this morning when I opened the small window to let Caesar take the air. That was a joy.

Today I am working in the ceramics studio. Planning to be there the whole day - or most of it anyway.

Lexxiss Have a good day at work. I hope you get some big tips today.

Bootedkitty I have a very tough time leaving something on my plate. I always want to put MORE on my plate so I never ever feel there was more than enough there to begin with. This exercise always shows me just how emotionally attached I am to food. *Bravo for trying and remembering to try!

BillBlueEyes It strikes me that your awareness about what your body does to allow you to walk (foot position, ankle strength, balance) is really sharp right now. Glad you are being careful, but not so much that you avoid activity altogether. *kudos*

BigChiefDavid:wave: Nice to see you back. It doesn't matter how often you go--the difference here is that you continue on. You haven't lost what you had/accomplished/set in motion before. You just took a detour and made a U-turn.

Nola145:welcome2: Looking forward to hearing from you!

02-25-2013, 10:48 AM
Dear Coaches/Friends
I need to get caught up here. I tend to stay on track better when I post and read regularly. I just want to say Thanks again to all of you. You inspire me. It's so nice to have a place to be honest with people who share similar struggles.
I am staying pretty close to on track here. Close enough to keep on the downward trend anyway, however slowly. I am less than half a pound to reaching a total of 20 pounds lost since November and 15 since Jan. 12. That milestone represents a big one for me. With a history of dieting as long as mine, there are losses that seem legitimate and small ones that I discount.
Time to get ready for work. Have a good day everyone.

02-25-2013, 10:56 AM
Good morning! Welcome Nola145!! Looking forward to hearing what challenges you face and what tips you have :)

Kept myself on track on the weekend - alternately I find them easier to stay on track, or more difficult - at times I cannot decide which, it seems. But this one was okay, food and activity-wise. Next goal is within two pounds (only 5% of starting weight but at least a start) and would love to get there soon!

I think it's ironic that before my eye issues we had such gloomy days and now with the light-sensitive eye, we're on our fourth consecutive sunny day! I remember a few years ago we had close to 20 overcast days in a row and when we finally got the sun to shine, the weatherman said, "Don't be alarmed folks, that ball of fire in the sky is just the SUN!" :) My sister, who lives in Colorado Springs, lords it over me that she has the sun for 350 days a year, or some such nonsense ha ha.

OneByOne - GREAT job for getting back on track and a nice reward to see the number on the scale. Pat yourself on the back for taking the reins again.

BillBlueEyes - Sounds like a wonderful way to wrap up your weekend with a relaxing dinner out. Be careful (and it sounds as if you are) with the slick sidewalks - you're right on the muscle work to maintain steadiness with the slipperiness!

BigChiefDavid - Good to see you posting again - if none of us ever strayed, this website and forum would not exist! Enjoy your new pooch, sounds like he's found a good home.

BootedKitty - I enjoy reading your posts as you are always focusing on strengthening a Beck skill. Many credits to you!

BethFromDayton - Sounds like you did great with balancing the planned/unplanned. That is a good focus/ability. Is it long before your meds will be evaluated with your healthier lifestyle? When I see you're walking the building laps, the only building I know in Dayton is the Air Force Museum, where we spent two days on a rainy camping weekend a few years ago ... so I picture you walking and looking at all the planes and I'm sure I couldn't be farther from the actual scenario. :)

Lexxiss - Grilling sounds like a good idea - it's over freezing today... maybe DH will grill something for dinner. Will make me think spring is creeping closer.

IBelieveInMe - Sounds like you did phenomenol at the Italian restaurant, albondiga be danged (I THINK that's the Italian word for meatball - Booted kitty correct me!)

Maryann - Here's to a much calmer week for you... can you take time in the evenings to find one thing that will settle your mind/soothe you?

02-25-2013, 11:36 AM
Hi All
I have just started the becks diet book and have come to the diet Buddy section
I'd really appreciate a coach and would be more than happy to coach back.
I have 12lbs to loose for my wedding in August and really need some support!
I have chosen the dunken diet as my first choice .
Anyone out there to help?
Thanks in advance

02-25-2013, 01:52 PM
Afternoon snacks yesterday went badly due to changed plans. I don't always handle that situation well either logistically or emotionally. Oh well. Things go according to plan most of the time and it's more important that I handle "most of the time" well even if I mess up the odd exception to the rule.

Exercise: +40 1190/1300 minutes for February

maryann: "I don't want to do this anymore" sounds familiar to me. One thing that often helps is to let myself contemplate quitting for awhile. Write a pros and cons list or do some other decision-making exercise. Almost always, I will decided to proceed, after all, but I'll feel better for having allowed myself to make the choice. I feel more empowered and I usually have a more clear grasp on what is making it hard and how I can help myself a bit more.

Welcome, nola145!

Welcome, lexy! This thread is one big mutual coaching system. Jump right in!

02-25-2013, 03:47 PM
Hello coaches!

I'm not sure I'll ever get the hang of updating on weekends. At the very least I've been keeping up with my Beck steps, even though I haven't been posting.

I'm reading my ARC at least once a day, and I'm good at reading it three times a day at work, but the lack of structure on weekends is a struggle for me. When do you read your ARC when your days vary instead of sticking to a strict routine?

For Day 2, my first diet is going to be 1500 calories a day and if that's not structured enough then I'm going to join Weight Watchers.

For Day 3, I was mostly successful at eating sitting down over the weekend. Today I wrote "sit down!" on my hand as a reminder so hopefully if I see it traveling towards my mouth while I'm standing it'll jolt me into remembering. t seems like SUCH A SIMPLE THING. I think oddly enough sometimes I'm even obstinate with myself - I KNOW what I'm supposed to be doing but I'm still being myself. It's really frustrating. I understand the overeating or impulse eating more than I understand my unwillingness to do things like read my ARC or drink water. I guess it's all just naughty sabotaging thoughts.

Thanks everyone for sharing your journeys!

02-25-2013, 04:51 PM
Hello Coaches!
Here I am on Day 7. Thanks to all who made me feel so welcome. I can tell I am going to be part of a great support system. Today I took a look at my kitchen and didn't find much I need to change. I live with five other adults (hubby, grown sons, and friends of sons - don't ask). None of us are into junk foods. Chips are kept behind cupboard doors. My downfall has always been bread. We keep it in an open basket on the counter. Now I have added my freshly-made OP flax bread, so I won't be tempted by the naughty flour stuff. At work, it's a little trickier. Although I am self- employed, we do keep a hospitality table for the customers who are waiting for service, including cookies. I am planning to move them so they are not visible as I sit at my desk. Also, I always have wrapped candies out. I'll make sure those move to another counter so they are not close to me. It is too easy to "forget".
Beth, you asked about an app. Nope, I still have a "dumb phone", though I am hoping to upgrade soon. I work with computers, so it is easy enough to go online to look stuff up. Do you have an app you like?
Julie, I am also in the Pacific NW. It's hailing outside as I am writing this. LOL.
Alex, Welcome! We're practically twins. What is the Dunken Diet?
I'll check in tomorrow, sooner if I need to. Have a great Beck Day, everyone.

- Nola

02-25-2013, 06:28 PM
Hi Everyone,

Back at work today and having major technical issues keeping emails and printers working so decided to take a moment to post. Also have my car in for service, the check engine light came on, and although it was probably related to a gas cap issue they found 4 other major things that needed to be done at 60,000 km so that's now a $700 bill when I pick it up. DH got a really nice bonus at work last week, guess where some of it is going. :(

Weight was good yesterday, back in the 160's! Guess the hint of it last week was enough to convince me it would happen. And my mantra of repeating stay on plan, stay on plan must be working too. Didn't get to the gym with being sick but got out with the dogs for a couple of long walks. Good all around for all of us. They have even been sleeping through the night on those days, an AHA moment for me right there!

Welcome to Nola 145 and Lexy. Welcome back to BigChiefDavid and others!

Will try and get back for more personals later!

Just realized when I updated my numbers that I've now lost 25 lbs. Time for another sunburst!

02-25-2013, 10:29 PM
Nola145: Welcome to the group! CREDIT for your plan to restructure your work environment. I have a special needs daughter who is 13. She has Spina Bifida. I can so relate to being overweight since the birth of a special needs child. We had also lost one of our twin boys 3 years prior to her birth, so I about went off the deep end with her diagnosis! She does really well with AFO braces and a walker and is cognitively fine, but we have been through quite a lot with her health care. What is your son's special need, if you don't mind me asking? Only share what you want to. So happy you found us and posted! I wish you the best of success on your weight loss journey! YOU CAN DO IT!!! :hug:

BigchiefDavid: Glad to hear that you are getting back on track. CREDIT for posting again!

bethFromDayton: Please don't worry too much about your food and exercise not being so good this past weekend. You have done SO well overall, so don't let a little setback derail you! CREDIT for planning treats for your upcoming big baking weekend.

onebyone: I love your 3 dancing carrots for yourself!!! CREDIT for celebrating yourself and getting back on track and for all of your accomplishments/credits!

Julia150: CREDIT for your downward trend! I think that is GREAT that you are down almost 20 pounds since 11/15 and 15 pounds down since 1/12! That IS a huge milestone!!! I am tired of winter, too. I am just thankful for any sunny days we get here in Ohio, like today! I am sending you some sunshine to brighten your day! :sunny: The sun makes everything feel better!

nationalparker: CREDIT for being almost to your goal of 5% of your starting weight! Don't underestimate the importance of each little milestone! Every baby step is significant and they all add up to success!!! CREDIT, too, for keeping yourself on track over the weekend! :)

lexy: Welcome to the Beck book and the group!!! Best of luck to you on losing weight for your wedding in August! 12 pounds sounds very doable by then if you put your mind to it. One thing I would caution you to do, though, is to focus on making this a permanent lifestyle change rather than "just for an occassion" ~ or you risk gaining the weight back after the wedding. Is your diet the Dukan diet? If so, I tried that very briefly but found it to be too difficult to maintain. I didn't give it much of a fair try, though, I have to admit. Any diet can work for you if you stick to it! Exercise helps immensely, too! Do you have a plan for exercise?

gardenerjoy: A change of plans is a difficult situation for me, too, in many ways. CREDIT for recognizing that you are OP most of the time! That is what really matters!

veganasaurusrex: CREDIT for keeping up with your Beck steps. I think a lack of structure on weekends is a struggle for many of us. Good luck deciding whether or not to join WW. CREDIT for having a back-up plan! Sitting while eating IS so basic and sounds so easy, but IS difficult for me, too. You cracked me up about writing "sit down!" on your hand! :lol: I can also relate to being defiant and obstinate with yourself. It IS so frustrating! CREDIT for recognizing that these are sabotaging thoughts. Catching ourselves in the act is the first step to making a change!

Tazzy: Ouch on the unexpected car issues and expense! :( Being down 25 pounds ~ 5 :sunny:s ~ and into the 160's is AWESOME!!! Much CREDIT to you for your hard work! I can't wait for those days!!! I like your "stay on plan" mantra. Thanks for sharing your "AHA moment" about the dogs sleeping through the night on your long walk days. More inspiration for me to get out and WALK with my pups! :)

BillBlueEyes: CREDIT for going to dinner with new friends and doing "good enough" with your food in that situation! I remember you saying that meeting new people is difficult for you, so many KUDOS to you for being willing to let new people in a little closer! :)

:wave: to Lexxiss and Bootedkitty and everyone else!!!

I have had a migraine headache all day long and the only thing that seems to help ~ temporarily ~ is eating. CREDIT to myself for not overeating under these circumstances! :cp:

02-25-2013, 11:27 PM
Hi all,

Food would have been OP today--except Kroger was out of our Monday night rotisserie chicken. I made a healthy adjustment at the grocery store (what better place to do that?) and we did fine this evening. I pulled some frozen cooked chicken from the freezer for tomorrow's planned lunch of salad with chicken (that's where a serving of the leftover rotisserie chicken was supposed to go!) Credit for figuring out an appropriate substitution.

Grocery store did have Sumo oranges. I'd never heard of them before Lexxiss mentioned them. I looked at the them, and thought "what are those strange looking fruits?" and then saw the sign. They were $1 each, so I bought 3 since they came so highly recommended. One is planned for lunch for tomorrow.

Walked 3 times at work today. Credit to me. Tomorrow's meals are planned and entered into MFP. I love how that works as 'writing it down' for me! I have to add in an extra workout somewhere tomorrow or I'll be over calorie-wise, but I can do that--it's all planned for!

Still reading my ARC every morning when I put on my rings, but not reading my other cards enough. I need to work on updating those so that I'm reading what I need most--not eating while baking, planning ahead for busy days, planning and controlling my eating at parties, planning and following a plan on weekends.

I understand the defiant and obstinate path....for me, it was the planning that I rebelled against doing even while accepting it was a good idea. I am now a total convert. My days are so much easier when I enter everything the night before. I have no questions about breakfast in the morning, so I'm not making food decisions while tired and rushed to go to work. I have lunch planned and packed the night before--again, no questions or difficulties when rushed. Snack comes along with me--I know what I'm going to eat at 3:15 or so when I need it. Dinner is planned out so when I get home I just have to zombie-robot-like make it--no decisions. (Deciding is harder than cooking).

As a bonus, planning and preparing is saving us money since I'm not eating out for lunch anymore and we're going out to dinner less frequently. My grocery shopping is more "directed"--I buy what we need rather than some random "I think we'll use this" quantity of stuff, again saving money. Second bonus: DH is eating better and has lost 10 lbs.

Hope everyone's week is starting out well.

02-26-2013, 07:31 AM
:welcome: Alex (lexy) :welcome:

And for joining this month, :wel3fc:

How did you find out about the books by Dr. Judith Beck?

And how did you find this Beck Forum on 3 Fat Chicks?

02-26-2013, 07:35 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies – It was fun walking, CREDIT moi, on a scant inch of snow - especially since nine inches had been predicted at one time. It was all melted by noon. Camelot snow, LOL.

Eating was only good enough, CREDIT moi. I got bored during the evening and tried to nibble my way out of it. Nibbling doesn't cure boredom. What a surprise, LOL. DW tried a new way of preparing Butternut Squash. Squash is just the best thing for getting through winter.

onebyone – Good stuff, "saying NO CHOICE when I catch myself starting to nibble at the stove" - Kudos. The stove has the ability to make us forget that we have a plan.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Many times I'm so happy with the spontaneity of changed plans, but when I'm focused on a path, the changes challenge my eating. I like your perspective, "most of the time" well.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yay for grilling instead of hiding inside just because it's February outside.

Tazzy - Ouch for a stiff car tab. I think mechanics can smell when you've got fresh money in your pocket. Neat that your dogs sleep better when you exercise them.

nationalparker – Ouch for wasting sunny days when your eyes need the shade. Hope you're on a healing path.

Beth (bethFromDayton) – Congrats on improved eating that shows up in your DH! Kudos for responding flexibly when your rotisserie chicken wasn't available.

IBelieveInMe2 – Yep, Double Kudos for standing down the call to food when the head is hurting.

Julia (Julia150) – Small numbers that represent big milestones are just the best.

Kitty (Bootedkitty) – Walking instead of eating is a double winner.

Jo (veganasaurusrex) – LOL at "just naughty sabotaging thoughts" - aren't they all. Kudos for such an effective simple strategy of writing "sit down!" on your hand.

Nola (Nola145) – Neat to clear away the visible candies and snacks. You are so lucky that five adults are all OK without junk food.

Alex (lexy) – Congrats on your wedding arriving in just six months. Twelve pounds is certainly possible in normal times, but you might want to be sure to get there early as possible before you face the intense period when everyone will want to feed you to try to calm you down.

Yep, we'll all be glad to be your Diet Buddies and ask that you be ours as well. Hope you clue us into the "dunken diet" - making it clear that it's obviously not the one that many college kids try on Saturday nights. Glad that you've joined us.

Readers - chapter 3
How Thin People Think

characteristic 7
You Focus on Issues of Unfairness

The Beck Diet Solution
. . . I also came to the conclusion that there are two types of thin people: Those who don't have to work at staying thin and those who do. For the most part, those who don't have to work at it have small appetites, don't eat unless they're hungry, and get sufficient exercise. The rest fall into the second category. They have to work at it. Most thin people, especially women, stay thin by being incredibly careful about what they eat. They might tell you that they don't work at it, but mostly they do. This doesn't mean they're lying; they're just so used to eating the way they do, they consider it the norm. To them, eating small portions and lower-calorie foods is a way of life. They decide that fattening foods are either entirely out of bounds, or, more likely, they indulge in them only occasionally.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Beck Diet Solution (Pink book), pg 40.

02-26-2013, 07:58 AM
Hi Coaches!

Meals were OP work not so good. I had bites here and there...nothing substantial just about the habit. I'm just about to weigh in. credit. Perhaps I can open the freezer again and put my plan on the It's a busy day with a trip to Denver right after work...when I'd rather be sitting in a comfy chair.

Welcome Alex(Lexy), I look forward to sharing your story.

02-26-2013, 08:58 AM
Hi becksters - I got home last night. It was a wonderful visit. I got on the scale this morning and am up 2 pounds. I am planning for a healthy day.

It was a great visit with my son and family. DS made some meatballs and left out the salt because he knows I am watching my sodium. That was thoughtful.

Time to get back into the swing of things.

Alex(lexy): WELCOME!! Glad you posted!

I"ll catch up more later. Have a great day.

This came through my Facebook news feed today:

Tuesday Reality Check: If you want to lose weight and keep it off, it means you’ll have to learn to tolerate feeling hunger and cravings. While they can be uncomfortable, nothing bad will happen as a result of experiencing them. They’re a normal part of life!

02-26-2013, 10:21 AM
Coaches, good morning.

The sun is out. OMG. and maybe we won't et another dump of snow today and tomorrow? *fingers crossed*

I've been doing very well, sticking to my plan, making plans, tracking, and last night I planned to eat a certain amount of food, and then when I cooked it up there was more than I thought and a whole extra serving went into the fridge for leftovers for today-that I am really looking forward to. I ate my dinner and then brought my plate into the kitchen and stared at the leftover food in the pan. I *really* thought long and hard about putting more on my plate since it had been "planned" for, but it's not about the food. It's about what goes on in my head when I deal with food. I am committed to no second helpings. It would have been that. I was also practicing having a "normal" sized portion, and it would have changed that. And I am trying to emotionally detach from my food cause it takes up way too much space in my brain. So I had to say No Choice. I felt *sad* about that, but wrapped it up and put it away and moved on to our planned dessert. And I made a cup of tea (ginger peach).I am *trying* to instill new routines around food so it can feel "normal" to leave the table not overstuffed. Normal to eat one serving. Normal to move on from a yummy dinner to something else--don't have to have ALL the yumminess right then and there. I can spread it out. IT S NOT AN EMERGENCY-no need to eat everything, right away.

ok having breakfast now and I'm off. Enjoy your day.

02-26-2013, 11:05 AM
Good morning, all! Was in a snacky mood yesterday and reached for too much portioned stuff that was NOT on my plan ... and not fruit, either. Back on track today, hopefully. Followup at dr. today for eye ... it seemed to regress yesterday, better before the appt. than after. Feel like the past 10 days has been a stressful struggle. Now DH has a cold that I'm trying to stave off. I took yesterday and today off as sick days from work; have a lot built up and am looking to get fairly recuperated before heading back in as a one-eyed worker. Should be back in tomorrow. Still did about four hours of work from home yesterday, but today might not.

Freezing rain/sleet this morning. Did a trail walk last night in the wind. I am hating wearing my glasses again, and basically kept that eye shut most of the time. Forgot how they fogged up SO MUCH in the winter. I know I should be thankful for having the glasses.

Still tracking everything on MyFitnessPal and that's working well ... I wish there was a way to track food in different colors or something - to track the unplanned eating. Might be a way, i have no idea... :)

02-26-2013, 05:11 PM
Hi Coaches:
Thanks for being here to receive my post. I'm on Day 8 today, which means I had my one-week weigh-in this morning. Down six pounds. That's pretty motivating, even though I know most of it is water and the loss of a couple of very recently gained pounds. I also know there would have been no loss at all if I wasn't following BDS and eating on my low-carb plan. So credit me for the whole six pounds, water weight or no. :)
I've got my schedule for planning and managing pretty much figured out and it has worked well this past week. Peeking ahead to tomorrow, though, I'm concerned. I have not exercised regularly in about 6 years and I am way out of shape. I will have to start with baby steps and I'm not really sure where those steps will fit into my day. I am going to allow myself to try a few different scenarios and see which one feels like it is most realistic. But I am committing to doing SOME form of exercise every day.
On a different note, I cannot seem to get my profile pic to show up here, though it seems to be loaded just fine in my profile. Do I have to wait for a certain number of posts or something? Any clues?
I promise to start responding more to your posts, coaches, just give me a couple more days to get forum participation more integrated into my day. I hope you all have a wonderful Beck Day.
- Nola

02-26-2013, 05:16 PM
Hey Coaches and Becksters:

Quick check in. OP today and planning a late walk with Brees--the new dog. As it stands, we are currently fostering Brees and he came already named, but we'll take another look at the name when he's comfortable with us. More tomorrow. Thanks for the support. And BethfromDayton, you're right: writing it down does make it much easier.

02-26-2013, 11:51 PM
Good evening everyone!

Pretty good day, had all the food planned yesterday for today, just tweaked a couple of things when dinner came and I served beans instead of potatoes. One of my colleagues brought a box of chocolate covered macadamia nuts from Hawaii and I figured they were one of BBE's rare and unusual treats so I could justify having some. :smug: I should consider them rare if I'm the one that's travelled to Hawaii to get them! They arrived yesterday and today I put them in a file cabinet so I didn't see them every time I turned around! Not sure when my colleagues will figure out where they are.

Exercise was taking the dogs for a 40 minute walk on ice and snow (we got another 3 inches last night) and then standing with them in the backyard for 15 minutes while they played. Guess I can't really consider that part exercise on my part! If someone is out there with them Dexter doesn't bark endlessly at what seems to us like air, I'm sure he does it just to annoy the neighbors. One bad thing about a brand new community is the lack of trees and vegetation to keep yards private and dogs from freaking over seeing light from other houses' windows. With all the fresh air here's hoping they sleep all night again. Probably just jinxed myself with typing that.

Well the kitchen calls, need to figure out tomorrow's plan as I sure don't want to do it in the morning. :wave:

02-27-2013, 07:48 AM
Hi Coaches!

I've weighed and will go look in the freezer and make a plan for the day....oh, got it...don't even have to look. I'll go pull out two bison burgers to thaw thereby finalizing it...think I'll grill again. Sounds fun for a "day off". Food was good yesterday. I did enjoy a piece of "planned" birthday cake at work yesterday and resisted dinner out instead returning home to cook. It was so much easier than going through the mental challenge of much...when I could just pull my healthy stuff out of the fridge...prepare and

I've had a few moments lately to reflect on how practicing Dr. Beck's principles are having a lasting effect on me. Funny now, how odd it feels to eat something standing up...and how normal it feels to just walk by all the samples at Costco. It's enjoyable to stick with a planned meal at home instead of running out for spontaneous food. I like the "routine" of weighing everyday. I can pause and give myself credit for continuing to practice suggested skills and pick myself back up after I've chosen not to "resist".

Thanks to all my coaches who continue to post and provide such wonderful insight.