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coolacrity
01-21-2013, 06:46 PM
This popped into my head earlier, but I had no idea where to post. I hope this is general enough for this forum.

So, what do you guys think about shapewear? (Corsets, torsets, butt lifters, and other things.) Do you wear them? Do you think of it as cheating or what?

I don't know if it's a testament to youth or anything, but I used to hate the idea of them, even of underwire bras. It seemed like false advertising to me (brr. 'False advertising'. I hate the phrase here, but it's probably the most accurate at the same time...). And I still don't like them entirely, but I tend to wear them. I sort of feel bad if anyone compliments me that day, honestly, because it smooths out a LOT (like the "perma-muffin top" I have).

However, I do wish I could find shapewear for your arms that didn't cost like $85. Everything I said would go out the window if I could find that!


mnemosyne
01-21-2013, 06:51 PM
However, I do wish I could find shapewear for your arms that didn't cost like $85. Everything I said would go out the window if I could find that!

Google Ch'arms. It's sold on one of the shopping channels. I have NEVER tried them and cannot endorse them, but the line looks like Spanx for your arms, and is WAY less than $85.

And no: shapewear isn't cheating. Even superskinny people wear Spanx. I don't wear it much, because spending that much for it mid-loss seems silly, but I will wear it.

CIELOARGE
01-21-2013, 06:54 PM
I am a huge believer of shapewear! As a matter of fact, I wear them everyday!!

Nothing wrong with keeping things where they belong. :D

Do you feel guilty if somebody tells you you look great because your hair is done and you are wearing makeup????

Shape-wear enhances your figure and, in my case, is more comfortable because I have lots of lose skin in the stomach area (due to pregnancies)


nelie
01-21-2013, 06:59 PM
Are clothes cheating? Is makeup cheating? hair cuts? bras ? :)

I think if something makes you feel good about yourself, do it.

elvislover324
01-21-2013, 07:11 PM
Shapewear for arms?!?! *Interest is PEAKED!!!* I always wondered about it but thought I was crazy. I am going to look up your recommendations, thank you!!

For bottomwear, there was a thread recently we were talking about it but I can't find it. I think it was when we went off on a little tangent.

I wear capri shapewear under my dresspants and jeans, it's almost like footless tights but with a higher waist and much snugger (think extra tight control top all over). I love them, I think they are Leggs brand (runs about $7 a pair so they don't last forever). I'm not sure I am fooling anyone but I like how I feel and right now, that's all that matters.

So to answer your question, no way it's cheating!!

teekim22
01-21-2013, 07:16 PM
Well..not sure if I see a difference between shape wear and push up bras ;)

alaskanlaughter
01-21-2013, 07:43 PM
i dont think it's cheating, any more so than choosing flattering clothes or high heels etc to enhance your looks....

on the other hand, i've never worn shapewear and never plan to...i'm HIGHLY claustrophobic and just the thought of being encased in something like that is enough to give me a mental panic attack lol

Arctic Mama
01-21-2013, 07:45 PM
I love shape wear - corsets and garters are among my favorite pretty underthings and more seamless shape wear regularly appears under sheer dresses and tops. It isn't cheating at all - I have loose skin and lumps and bumps from my properly fitted bras and panties, smoothing them out is just finishing off an outfit. It's not like I use shape wear in place of working out or losing weight - but it's akin to saying that using hairspray on an updo is cheating because you'd otherwise have flyaways. Bodies aren't perfect, a little finishing makes a more attractive final product. And if it makes me look better and feel more comfortable in my clothes, who cares?

Are divas on the red carpet cheating with Spanx and double stick tape to keep all those lovely dresses in place and photo perfect? My body's been through a lot more than most of theirs, I'm at least as entitled to my finishing work as they are!

Remington90
01-21-2013, 07:56 PM
I also like to wear them to keep things in place and to avoid the buldges. I mainly wear one for my muffin top as well as the buldge under my bra. They were great and if it slims that down I don't care what anyone says.

I look forward to the day where I don't feel like I "need" to wear one to feel good in a tight outfit, but they certainly aren't cheating.

If they were, I'd have to give up makeup and straightening my hair as well.

If it makes you feel good, then embrace it and wear them :).

coolacrity
01-21-2013, 08:25 PM
...I don't wear make-up besides the occasional lip gloss and I have dreadlocks, lol. But your arguments are well taken!

I too long for that day, Remington90.

Arctic Mama
01-21-2013, 09:17 PM
Just please be aware that you ladies might not ever have that moment! Too many people on these boards look for weight loss to solve all their body problems and find that it only does what it can - shrink adipocytes. The skin, the body shape, those are all still there. I have gone from a size 24 to a 10 and have a bit more left, but even with a very attractive body some clothes are STILL unforgiving and shape wear is really required to wear them properly. In fact, given the cut of clothes I'd say I need shape wear more now at a 10 than I ever did at size 24/XXX tops. It doesn't mean you've failed in some way if weight loss doesn't turn you into a model whose body looks magnificent in every clingy knit.

Just a friendly caution, have the proper expectations of massive weight loss. I could not go from super morbidly obese to overweight and not expect my body to show that I did. And even before I was ever obese some clothes STILL needed foundational garments.

ghost
01-21-2013, 09:26 PM
I bought my first pair of spanx to wear under a dress for a wedding a few months ago...I shall never go back to not owning them. If I'm a cheater, then I'm a cheater ;) lol! I like my lumps hidden.

Radiojane
01-21-2013, 09:28 PM
Even my best friend who is the perfect size 6 wears spanx. Embrace the spandex ladies. It's like the perfect lipstick or clutch. It finishes the outfit.

ChickieChicks
01-21-2013, 09:29 PM
I think the idea of cheating is funny and interesting. I wonder how I would look without vision correction, dental correction, medical skin care, tweezing, hair color, make-up, shaving, deodorant, flattering clothing cuts and fabrics, etc. Plus I am the ultimate cheater with a boob job! ;) I feel pretty awesome, though! :)

vabs
01-21-2013, 11:42 PM
I've worn spanx on and off, even when I was thinner. I didn't have a lot of jiggle but they got rid of visible panty lines like magic (feel free to suggest thongs if you want me to laugh in your face for a while :p).

Yeah, I don't consider it cheating anymore than wearing a bra is cheating. It would be great to have a ripped 6 pack, but I'd still have the VPL problem in some outfits. So spanx it is.

berryblondeboys
01-21-2013, 11:48 PM
My husband calls shape wear "real life photo shop". I've never really worn any kind of shape wear except for bras, but it really does help with smoothing under clothes - especially those jersey knit dresses! It's really the only time I wear shape wear = under a dress, but it makes me feel more confident if I'm not worrying about bulges and panty lines.

LockItUp
01-22-2013, 02:16 PM
If it's cheating, I'm more than happy to be considered a cheater!!!! :D

I've lost nearly 100 pounds in 13 months, had 2 babies who are still little, and I've earned the right to feel amazing in whatever I wear. My tummy is loose and may always be. I don't like the way it looks in a fitted top, so I wear a shapewear thingie that's like a tight tank top. I want to feel good in what I wear. I guarantee I will be investing in more shapewear when my budget permits it! I'm already married, so I don't feel like I run the risk of "false advertising" lol. But then again, are men that wear baggy clothes when they're suuuuuuuuuuper skinny false advertising by making themselves look bigger!?

Whatever makes you feel GOOD in your own skin, I'm all for it!

ChickieBoom
01-22-2013, 02:40 PM
Absolutely love this quote in your signature!

"A dream doesn't become reality through magic; it takes sweat, determination and hard work." -- Colin Powell

Horo
01-22-2013, 07:26 PM
What really changed my ideas about shapewear and foundation garments was when I grew an interest in vintage fashion. In the big view of things, it has only been quite recently that women of any size would go out in public without shapewear of some sort under their clothing. In the 1920's modern women liberated themselves of the corset, but then different shapewear to create that straight look (minimize the bust and hips) appeared. In the 30s it was absolutely essential under those new slinky bias-cut gowns and the more womanly, form fitting shape that appeared, and the silhouettes of the 40's and 50's can hardly be imagined without the shapewear that created them. It wasn't "cheating", it was expected.

Though we may be glad that women are no longer expected to always have on these sometimes constricting garments, I believe we also should realize the modern expectation that we should be able to look completely smooth and seamless in our clothing without shapewear is an unrealistically over-demanding expectation in the other direction. As others have said, even the celebrities who have it as their job to look appealing (and that includes intensive workout routines with personal trainers, diet plans with personal chefs, and teams of wardrobe people) make extensive use of shapewear.

My point in all of this is to say that if we; as women in general disregarding size, shape, or body changes as a result of weight loss endeavors; want to improve how we look in our clothes with shapewear, we should darn well do it, and shamelessly without any feelings of guilt or "false advertisement". We deserve to look and feel as good as we want to.

:soap:

(I will note that the decision to go without shapewear for any reason is one I fully respect)

AlmostMe
01-30-2013, 07:56 AM
I'm a big believer that if you have to wear shapewear every day then you're not wearing the right clothes for you. But for a special occasion...why not?

That being said...I exercise outdoors a fair bit and wear base layers - to keep warm - which tends to smooth things out.... It's nice.

And I would seriously consider shapewear for my arms. My arms are and always have been disproportionately fat for the rest of my body. It makes wearing suit jackets pretty miserable and shopping for them difficult. If it fixed that, so I could wear a jacket that fit the rest of my body...well, I'd definitely wear them for special professional events.

LockItUp
01-30-2013, 08:19 AM
I'm a big believer that if you have to wear shapewear every day then you're not wearing the right clothes for you. But for a special occasion...why not?



Sounds like maybe you're one of the lucky ones who does not suffer from loose or saggy skin from weight loss. It doesn't matter what clothes I wear, my stomach makes it impossible to wear anything form fitting without it looking like a mess. I suppose if I stayed away from anything clingy or form fitting I could avoid the shapewear, but that doesn't seem fair -- lose all this weight and still hide under baggy clothes. Anyway, I know you didn't mean anything offensive by your comment at all! Just wanted to point out what I did.

marigrace
01-30-2013, 08:29 AM
Look what it did for Sophia: http://www.tumblr.com/tagged/the%20millionairess?before=25

ReillyJ
01-30-2013, 03:34 PM
i don't find it cheating at all but then again i'm married, lol. And since i'm pretty much at my goal i'm finding that i'm stuck with a spare tire belly button jiggle that just doesn't fit with the rest of my body so i am trying to find some shapewear (like a cami or tank top) that i can wear daily that i feel will really show what i've accomplished and reign in that loose skin around the mid section.

What brand and specific piece of shapewear do you ladies wear that have posted?

elvislover324
01-30-2013, 04:57 PM
I have both the capri and bikeshorts from Leggs. They cost about $7 at CVS or Walgreens/Walmart but you can find them cheaper on Ebay. They don't last forever (they can get runs like tights) but I get at least 2-3 months wear out of them so it's worth it for me. I like the firmer control ones as the light control just feel like wearing tights under my clothes whereas the firm ones feel awesome to me!


http://www.leggs.com/shapewear/?list=true

melsweetie84
03-03-2013, 01:16 PM
I have to say, I love the few pieces of shapewear that I do have. I've got two camisole type tops that have the tummy slimming panels or whatever. I wear them under EVERYTHING, just because it feels good to be held in tightly like that. I swear, it even helps with my posture & keeps my back from hurting like usual.

ReillyJ
03-03-2013, 03:48 PM
I have to say, I love the few pieces of shapewear that I do have. I've got two camisole type tops that have the tummy slimming panels or whatever. I wear them under EVERYTHING, just because it feels good to be held in tightly like that. I swear, it even helps with my posture & keeps my back from hurting like usual.

i would love to try some of those!! Except i'm worried about the top part of the cami compressing my breasts. I used to be HUGE breasted but now at goal i'm modest and don't need any further reducing ;P

Amarantha2
03-03-2013, 05:36 PM
Lol, it isn't "cheating," just underwear. As said in the thread women (& I'd add men) have always worn various forms of underwear and it is often designed to shape & firm things.

That said I don't want to wear that at all, it looks hot & I live in a hot climate & I think I look awesome for an old bat without all those garments.

Although really it just replaces things I guess I used to wear but no longer care to. To each their own.

Doomkitty
03-03-2013, 09:09 PM
My husband calls shape wear "real life photo shop". I've never really worn any kind of shape wear except for bras, but it really does help with smoothing under clothes - especially those jersey knit dresses! It's really the only time I wear shape wear = under a dress, but it makes me feel more confident if I'm not worrying about bulges and panty lines.

What about all the other products we use to style ourselves? Seems to me we could technically call a number of things "cheating"...

I think it's more important that, while we remain honest with ourselves, we still take steps to look and feel good so we're happy.

melsweetie84
03-03-2013, 09:14 PM
ReillyJ, they're sooooo comfortable! I got my first one for like, $10 at TJ Maxx & it's a lycra tank top, but below the bust, it's made to be quite tight. I've never been particularly blessed with boobs, so I have to wear molded/padded bras anyway, and I do so under this top. My second one that I bought, just recently, is actually an Old Navy active compression tank, & was $13. I wish I'd gotten a size smaller & probably will soon, but it's nice too for the purpose it serves (mostly just as a white undershirt but I've been sleeping in it too!).

Riddy
03-04-2013, 12:28 AM
Shapewear is part of my almost-daily routine! Between starting to have some loose skin on my belly, and being cold all the time, shaping camis are my new best friends.

ReillyJ - here are my everyday favorites -

Darn, link won't work - it's on qvc.com - Kathleen Kirkwood Sonic Slimmers Down for Good Cami - I have 4 of these - stocked up on ebay once I knew what size I like. I love the scalloped edge - I wear them untucked and pulled down low. It's more smoothing than shaping, and super comfortable.

http://www.boscovs.com/StoreFrontWeb/Product.bos?rch=Y&itemNumber=95683 - these look more like a regular cotton tank. They're firmer than the cami above and are shorter, so I tuck them in. Still comfortable for all day wear.

For certain outfits, I have Spanx, too. Their tights are the best, and I really like their Power Panties shorts. I have one of their hosiery long sleeve tops (also from ebay, way too much $$$ at full price), and it's great for warmth, belly smoothing, and arm firming. I'll actually be a little sad to put the shirt away when the weather gets warmer.

And I have to agree with the PPs - thinking shapewear is "cheating" is setting up some very high expectations of the female body. The woman who invented Spanx is about a size 2 - and she didn't like how her butt looked in white pants. So I have no guilt or shame about my collection of shapewear at size 22 or 10. :p

Porthardygurl
03-04-2013, 05:23 AM
Well... i must say..I love shapewear. My mother forced me into buying a Bustier for under my wedding dress.. I guess others call them corsets. It sucked me in alright..unfortunately, i gained 25 pounds too much before my wedding and i was having issues keeping my bubbies in my dress. However..it did slim me out good..and in fact.. i liked it so much once i lost a bit more weight..that i started wearing it under my regular clothes..such as nice shirts or a dress..because it gave my saggy boobs a lift and slimmed out my tummy..gotta love the boning in those corsets! I also wear a shapewear butt garment..It starts at the upper leg and it goes high up on your tummy, up to your bra actually..so you have full coverage of your stomach and flabby back..and i must say..i loved that too! Actually could fit into smaller jeans one time because my tummy wasnt so far sticking out..i just slid right into those jeans..yep..gotta love em..

PS i think its sexy to wear a corset..has a very feminine appeal..My hubby cant complain either.

Daki
03-04-2013, 12:41 PM
I was also going to bring up that in the grand scheme of things it's only been fairly recently that women didn't always wear shapewear.

Personally, I don't wear it too much. Just to formal things even though I would like to wear them every day. I find the restriction comfortable and it makes me more confident. Honestly, I'd wear a steel boned corset every day if I could bend in it. They are very comfy to me. I'm very, very excited about finding something to suck me in for my wedding day because my dress is form fitting. Fully plan on wearing that under things other than my wedding dress :D

So no, I don't think it's cheating. We do plenty of other things to ourselves that could be deemed cheating if shapewear was labeled as such.

bubblybarrister
03-04-2013, 01:35 PM
I don't wear it often, but will pull it out of I want to look extra nice or am worried about the way a piece of clothing is fitting. I don't think it's cheating - I think it's much more the norm now! I look at is an extra step to getting ready for a special event. :)

LadyP2013
03-06-2013, 12:12 AM
I think it is kind of a form of cheating. Since, you're going out in the public eye and looking smaller than you really are. Things are all mushed in underneath your clothing. I don't have an issue with shapewear. I used to wear it a lot but it got tiring with the tightness, it made me sweaty, and it's hard to put on. I just stopped wearing it. lol.

Roo2
03-15-2013, 04:28 AM
Well years ago my grandmother and mother were cheaters than because all women who were considered not" Loose women"wore girdles out in public.

My mom was a size 8-10 petite misses and weighed 106 lbs and 5 ft tall and wore what we consider shape wear. And was a 34 B and always wore a padded bra ,no nipples showing thru was acceptable.
So is wearing a Bra cheating ?? I don't think my Droopy Dog Boops would look too good in a Tshirt with nipples being visible ,after having kids and BF the girls are not as perky as the use to be !
I would rather wear shape wear than see people's butt cracks when they bend over ...that's just me...I believe in leaving something to the imagination.

thinkfit
03-15-2013, 05:03 AM
Personally I'm not a fan of it right now, because I'm still heavy enough that I don't feel it makes a noticeable difference. However, when I lose weight, you can bet I'll be all over it! Like many others that posted, I find the restriction comforting :)

Misti in Seattle
03-15-2013, 07:03 AM
Sounds like maybe you're one of the lucky ones who does not suffer from loose or saggy skin from weight loss. It doesn't matter what clothes I wear, my stomach makes it impossible to wear anything form fitting without it looking like a mess.

Same here! I have very bad stomach flopping and sagging... so much so that I later plan to have surgery to correct it. Match that to not much of a butt and super skinny legs and... well... you get the picture. I don't wear Spanx but found some really helpful tight leggings that I wear under my pants. It not only helps to hold things in visually but keeps it all from flopping around so badly. :)

Anyone who can lose a lot of weight without a few bags and sags which need a bit of help is VERY fortunate indeed :)