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purplekitten7
01-18-2013, 07:32 AM
I'm sorry guys but I just need to vent!

My boss knows I'm trying to lose a bit of weight/eat a bit healthier, and apparently he is too...and yet every day this week he has been snacking on crisps and chocolate in our office and keeps offering me some "you know you want some", and today to top it off he bought blueberry muffins (my fav ftr) and has left them on my desk...now I do cut myself a bit of slack on a Friday and allow myself a treat if I feel like it, but one muffin is 275 kcal, and as tasty as they smell it's just not worth that many calories for me. I'm still annoyed he seems to be intentionally trying to make me fall of the wagon!

Thanks for listening, sorry again - I do feel a bit better now that's out of my system!


Misti in Seattle
01-18-2013, 08:31 AM
How rude of him! Personally I would just laugh and pick up the muffins (or whatever) and take it over to a table where everyone can dig in. He can't force you to eat it, and this is just where your own strength to say "no" is going to have to take over. And I'd bet that when you do this a few times (laughing about it outwardly and if it bugs you don't let it show) the fun will wear off for him and he will stop doing it.

purplekitten7
01-18-2013, 08:40 AM
My desk is central in the office so it's where all the share stuff gets put. I'm actually quite proud of myself because although it's tempting, I've made the decision not to have one and even though they're right in front of me I don't really want one anymore! Good job I'm stubborn eh?! I will instead tuck into my yummy tuna salad and save those 275 calories for something that will do my body some good! I think tbh, it's because he can't stick at his diet and me doing it is reminding him of that


changeforme
01-18-2013, 10:19 AM
it's because he can't stick at his diet and me doing it is reminding him of that

exactly! stick to your guns, you know what you're doing and why and we're proud of you!

LockItUp
01-18-2013, 10:20 AM
People are like that. I have people trying to feed me constantly. If you don't want it, give it away or throw it away. You are not obligated to eat any food just because someone gives it to you!

purplekitten7
01-18-2013, 10:24 AM
Thanks for your support! And I'd just like to say, the muffins remain untouched! It's nice to know that even with temptation literally in my face, I can still make the right choice! I feel good :)

BuddysBuddy
01-18-2013, 11:04 AM
How RUDE ! There's a Walgreen's commercial out now that a woman reaches over to her husband who is eating a powdered doughnut and smashes it to bits. I would be very tempted to do the same thing or at least take a muffin (as if to eat it) and do that in front of him. I am lucky that I work from home and the only person at work who can sabotage me is myself. Thankfully I have avoided that so far this year. :p

DoughDoh
01-18-2013, 11:19 AM
I honestly think that your boss is trying to make himelf feel better for not sticking to his own diet - if you take one snack then it makes it ok and guilt free for him - this is not ok. Keep up your hard work and show him you can do it - cheeky bum! lol xI'm sorry guys but I just need to vent!

My boss knows I'm trying to lose a bit of weight/eat a bit healthier, and apparently he is too...and yet every day this week he has been snacking on crisps and chocolate in our office and keeps offering me some "you know you want some", and today to top it off he bought blueberry muffins (my fav ftr) and has left them on my desk...now I do cut myself a bit of slack on a Friday and allow myself a treat if I feel like it, but one muffin is 275 kcal, and as tasty as they smell it's just not worth that many calories for me. I'm still annoyed he seems to be intentionally trying to make me fall of the wagon!

Thanks for listening, sorry again - I do feel a bit better now that's out of my system!

elvislover324
01-18-2013, 11:31 AM
Good for you purplekitten!! People like that tick me off. I am so stubborn, even if I wanted the muffin I wouldn't have it just on principle!

I do find it odd that it's a man trying to sabotage you though, usually it's the women!

I am so proud of you, let that muffin sit there!! (It doesn't taste half as good as it looks, I promise you!!)

elvislover324
01-18-2013, 11:33 AM
And....I'd be surprised if that muffin was only 275 calories. Ones I thought were about 400 turned out to be closer to 1000, yuck!!!

purplekitten7
01-18-2013, 11:41 AM
According the packaging it's 275 - they're fairly small ones! But even so, not worth it! I could have a full meal for that! I'm lucky in that the ladies in my office are lovely (there are only the 4 of us in total) so they'd never sabotage!

I'll be honest, I was tempted for about half an hour! But rather than just tucking in, I checked out my spreadsheet (I keep track of all my cals there) and worked out what I had already eaten, what I had packed for lunch/snacks etc and it just wasn't worth taking up that much of my calorie allowance! (Thank god for being a bit of a math geek) If I'm gonna treat myself with something naughty, it'll be 100 calories or less!

kurbain
01-18-2013, 12:08 PM
BuddysBuddy - I love that Walgreens commercial. I saw it yesterday for the first time and thought it was hysterical.
People in my office are constantly bringing in treats. They'll let everyone know it's there, but no real pressure to indulge. Yesterday it was a key lime cake with white chocolate frosting. I wanted some, but didn't give in!
Stay strong purplekitten! You're doing great so far. Don't let your boss ruin it! You should bring in healthy things for him to snack on! Bring in a veggie or fruit tray. That way you can snack on it with everyone else and he'll see what you're doing there. It just stinks when you have someone trying to sabotage your efforts - especially when they know you're trying to be healthy.

Missy Krissy
01-18-2013, 12:20 PM
I don't know what type of relationship the two of you have, or what the mood is in your office, or how you like to handle conflict, but if it were me I would be direct. I'd say something to him like "I'm really working hard to make healthy choices. Please don't leave treats on my desk again." Then he'd be a d*ck to do that again.

nichole87
01-18-2013, 12:32 PM
Ahh. I know how annoying this can be as my boyfriend is constantly shoving food in my face, he says he supports me, yet he doesn't understand that eating a cookie in front of me and going"mMMmmm" is a very stupid move on his part, I am hungry and I will take you out!!! Lmao!! But in the end its a great feeling when you have the willpower to just say no!!

purplekitten7
01-18-2013, 12:40 PM
Kurbain - good idea with the fruit/veggie platter but not sure how it would go down at work. I might start experimenting with healthy option cakes/flapjacks/biscuit type things so they can all indulge but not do so much damage!

Missy Krissy - I'm not so keen on direct, I've found it really easy to resist it tbh so I'm just going with the "haha no I'm being good thanks" laughing it off type approach! I wish I could be a bit more direct sometimes but it's just not me!

Nichole87 - I know exactly how you feel with your boyfriend! My fiance was doing the same but I sat down and had a chat with him the other night, now he's much more discreet about it! haha

bargoo
01-18-2013, 12:57 PM
If the muffins are still sitting on your desk, untouched an hour from now, pick them up carry them into the ladies room and dump then in the trash can.Don't announce what you are doing, just do it.

penmage
01-18-2013, 01:07 PM
Good for you for resisting!

bethFromDayton
01-18-2013, 01:35 PM
I don't wish to be unkind, but I don't think you're going to see any change in his behavior unless you're direct. It may not come naturally to you, in which case you can choose to accept his behavior, but those are probably your only choices: be direct, or accept.

<non weight related> There's a man in our office, about 10 years older than me, who calls all the women "young lady". All of us find it offensive. He once called me "young lady" when noone else was around, so I didn't have to embarass him in front of others to say, "You know, 'Joe', I don't really like being called 'young lady'." He was taken aback, but guess what--he stopped. He has called me "young lady" once since then and immediately realized he had and apologized (he's breaking a habit, I understand that.)

We all have to decide what we're comfortable with, but I've learned that asking for what you want really increases your chances of getting it. (Or reverse that, stating what you don't want increases your chances of not getting it.)