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BrittStar027
01-16-2013, 12:31 PM
I'm a bridesmaid in my oldest friend's wedding Memorial Day weekend this year. I already have my dress, however, i'm afraid that as the wedding gets closer, it's going to be way too big. It's already on the loose side in some areas. I know it can be altered, but how much can it be altered?? Should i exchange it for something smaller now to be safe? I'm also afraid it won't be available as the wedding gets closer. Conflicted!


NinjaNurse
01-16-2013, 12:44 PM
Is it already ordered?? I would call the store and tell them what you need. Maybe they can change the size. Alterations can be $$$. If not, ask around for a reputable seamstress. They might be cheaper than store alterations.

mandalinn82
01-16-2013, 12:48 PM
If you want to keep the same dress, it can likely be altered a whole lot, depending on the style, but yes, it will cost you money.

I had my wedding dress taken in from an 18W to a 10 by an independent seamstress, and it looked great in the end. A competent seamstress can work miracles.


BrittStar027
01-16-2013, 12:50 PM
It's from Nordstrom, and it's still in stock. However, they've been systematically been putting different colors on clearance. I'm just afraid it won't be available if i need it. The seamstress that we would go to is going to be at LEAST $100.00 for alterations. The dress was already pretty expensive, so i really don't want to have to alter it too much.

djs06
01-16-2013, 12:56 PM
I had to order my bridesmaid dress for a July wedding in November. I just ordered what my current size was (at the time- they measured me)- they said that the dress could be altered a fair amount, plus it has a corset back so it's fairly adjustable. In the end, it wasn't worth the stress of buying a smaller size.

I would take it to a tailor and ask how much it could be altered. They should be able to give you a better idea by looking at the material, etc. As far as the price goes- you might need to have it altered regardless (depending on what kind of dress it is). But I hear you, the wedding stuff is EXPENSIVE, especially since it's not your own!

Katkat
01-16-2013, 12:58 PM
First of all...congrats! I know it's a dilemma but it much feel so good for that dress t be feeling looser. Yrs ago I was a BM and I actually had to have the dress altered.....but to make it BIGGER. So sad.

I would recommend, if you can exchange it, do so. I know it is hard to predict but I guess try and calculate what you have been losing consistently and figure out roughly how much more you think you would lose by wedding time. I would calculate a little on the low side, meaning if you have been losing 2lbs a week...calculate it at 1 or 1.5lb loss a week. And talk to sales lady at Nordstrom. They are usually pretty good at estimating sizes and Nordstrom is very good with exchanges, they will literally exchange anything. Will save you money with altering.

Hope this helps

MzPiggy
01-16-2013, 01:03 PM
Hi :) If you have dropped a dress size already i would see if you can exchange it for a smaller size first. If you can't get it any smaller, then the person doing the alterations should be able to tell you what they think, and if they can do it. And keep in mind it may take a few days to get it back from alteration place. I got married 2 months ago, and almost didn't get my dress back in time, but thank goodness it worked out.

elvislover324
01-16-2013, 01:05 PM
Is it possible you can return it and split the difference in size? For example, if your current size is a 16 and you expect to be a 12, get a 14? It stinks to pay for alterations but it will be so much easier to take something in vs. try to let it out (if you estimate too small a size). I never had a bridesmaid dress that ran true to size, I swear they made them that way to bank on alterations!

Good luck with your weightloss and your dress. It's a tough decision.

BrittStar027
01-16-2013, 01:06 PM
The worst part is, currently, the dress looks ridiculous on me. I'm very busty and it's a one shoulder dress. The pockets and pleats have to be sewn down regardless, which my mom will do (she's a pretty good seamstress, but i'm not sure how much she can alter the dress). I think i'm just going to order the smaller size and hope for the best.

This is the dress:

http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/ml-monique-lhuillier-bridesmaids-one-shoulder-taffeta-dress/3123741?origin=category&contextualcategoryid=0&fashionColor=Gunmetal&resultback=0

Katkat
01-16-2013, 01:14 PM
Such a pretty dress! I agree on ordering smaller size...your mom may only be able to alter so much before it starts looking funny!

benice
01-16-2013, 01:32 PM
Hmm...I bought my wedding dress from Nordy's and ordered two sizes down. At the time I ordered, I had 45 lbs to lose to get to goal. The seamstress told me that altering that much would not be possible with my gown (lots of beading).

I'd do two things: (1) check with their seamstress to see how many sizes down this dress can be altered. It looks like it might be an easy one to take in (2) find out what their return policy is. Clearly the dress you have will be too small. But maybe you will want to buy two dresses (both smaller) and then decide closer which one to return. I was recently in a wedding and JCrew had a 60 day return policy. I bought two dresses and then returned one at the 60 day point when I had a better idea about size.

On an unrelated note, the thought of fitting into my dress has been a FANTASTIC motivator for me to not eat junk :)

Alma4343
01-16-2013, 01:37 PM
It's from Nordstrom, and it's still in stock. However, they've been systematically been putting different colors on clearance. I'm just afraid it won't be available if i need it. The seamstress that we would go to is going to be at LEAST $100.00 for alterations. The dress was already pretty expensive, so i really don't want to have to alter it too much.

If it is from Nordstrom, I would buy the smaller size. You can always return the one that doesn't fit at the time of the wedding. So, you would not be out any money.

djs06
01-16-2013, 01:42 PM
:lol: I feel your pain, I'm busty too and my BM dress is strapless. I haven't even tried it on yet but I know it's going to make me look like a big ol' cow.

Sounds like a good solution, though!

tobehealthy
01-16-2013, 01:47 PM
I too would buy a smaller size, but keep both and decide closer to the event. I started IP the week after my sister's wedding, and within two months had another event I wore the dress for (evening gown). I had to have it taken in more than four inches! Be prepared!

lisa32989
01-16-2013, 02:17 PM
It's from Nordstrom, and it's still in stock. However, they've been systematically been putting different colors on clearance. I'm just afraid it won't be available if i need it. The seamstress that we would go to is going to be at LEAST $100.00 for alterations. The dress was already pretty expensive, so i really don't want to have to alter it too much.
You don't give size details but let me give you mine.
I started out at 260 in a size 24. Five months later, at my current weight I'm wearing 16s and 18s (depending on brand/cut)
That's a LOT of sizes in 5 months, which is what you're looking at.

I think I'd AT LEAST buy one that is snug now and plan for alterations (and PRAY like heck it is still available for exchange in late April!)

MHOFWIW

cbl70
01-16-2013, 02:20 PM
My vote....Buy another dress in a smaller size. Keep them both until you get closer to the date. Return the one you don't use.

lunarsongbird
01-16-2013, 02:24 PM
I got married in October and I was told time and time again that most of the time dresses can be altered down two sizes.

NinjaNurse
01-16-2013, 02:28 PM
My vote....Buy another dress in a smaller size. Keep them both until you get closer to the date. Return the one you don't use.

Love this idea. And I love the dress!! Which color???

chicagoboiler
01-16-2013, 03:30 PM
With the link you gave us...not sure if there's more in stock but it looked like they only have 4 sizes left. Maybe they have more since it's a bridesmaid dress, but that is something to take note of. If you can, order a smaller one. I started IP in June and got married in October and had 5 dress sizes to take it. It was essentially a reconstruction of my dress. Some seamstresses stop at about 2-3 sizes smaller because of the need. I think regardless, you will spend money on alterations...but consider it a good problem to have and how amazing you'll look in it!

BrittStar027
01-16-2013, 10:01 PM
Right now i'm a size 16, as is the dress i have (in grey for those who asked). I'm literally shoving my chest into the dress in order to zip it, but the bottom section is on the big side (I'm curvy, so it looks awkward on me, but one of the other bridesmaids is pear-shaped and it looks fabulous on her). Meanwhile, after i've shoved my boobs into the dress i feel like i've done some sort of olympic event. I'm afraid if i get the 14, my boobs will not fit in May, but if i keep the 16, there's going to be a ton of fabric to take in on the skirt part. When i lost all my weight before, i went from a 38 DD (what i am now) to a 36 D and was in a size 10/12. I guess i'm just going to order the 14 too and hope i can return the wrong-sized dress in May. So frustrating!

bubbleblower
01-16-2013, 10:17 PM
Right now i'm a size 16, as is the dress i have (in grey for those who asked). I'm literally shoving my chest into the dress in order to zip it, but the bottom section is on the big side (I'm curvy, so it looks awkward on me, but one of the other bridesmaids is pear-shaped and it looks fabulous on her). Meanwhile, after i've shoved my boobs into the dress i feel like i've done some sort of olympic event. I'm afraid if i get the 14, my boobs will not fit in May, but if i keep the 16, there's going to be a ton of fabric to take in on the skirt part. When i lost all my weight before, i went from a 38 DD (what i am now) to a 36 D and was in a size 10/12. I guess i'm just going to order the 14 too and hope i can return the wrong-sized dress in May. So frustrating!

Look at it this way, perhaps: You don't necessarily have to wait until May to return; just wait until it's obvious the larger one is going to be too big and return it. I've been amazed at the rate of change with this diet!

GeauxTigers82
01-16-2013, 11:00 PM
I started IP in June with my sisters wedding looming in October. I ordered my dress in July. I was still in an 18, but ordered a 16 knowing I was sticking with this diet. I should have ordered a 12, but by that time, it was discontinued. I had about $125 of alterations done and it was perfect. Of course, the dress cost me $150.... So $275 total... Could have gotten a better dress for that money! I would get the smaller dress, too.

staceyjblack
01-16-2013, 11:02 PM
I guess i'm just going to order the 14 too and hope i can return the wrong-sized dress in May. So frustrating!


Nordstroms will take anything back- they have excellent customer service.

greeniris
01-16-2013, 11:34 PM
I started IP at the end of May and had to order my dress for my son's October wedding by early July. Based on what I had already lost, I ordered the dress 3 sizes smaller than what I fit into at the time I ordered it. The sales clerk made me sign a paper saying I knew I was ordering the 'wrong' size. Two weeks before the wedding it still had to be taken in some, especially in the waist & hips, but even in the bust a little too. (See the last pic in my sig.!)

tunafish246
01-17-2013, 12:40 PM
My sister was my maid of honor for my wedding this past August. She bought her dress then went on IP. They basically had to cut the dress in half as it was a size 24 and she went down to around a size 12-14.

If I were you talk to the place where you got your dress from. Depending how complicated the dress is (her dress wasn't) they might be able to make big alterations.