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XLMuffnTop
01-11-2013, 10:55 AM
So, my office is having a monthly breakfast thing they have. I'm just getting back on track. Despite the fact I can smell wonderful food and know my boss is going to be PO'd I'm not there, I am refusing to go.

In a few months when I have a routine down, I may take part but not today. My boss takes these things very personal when everyone doesn't get involved and socialize but now is just not a good time to be faced when temptation. I've already had my breakfast, there's nothing healthy and it's not even time for a mid morning snack.

So, no matter who gets miffed and huffy, they're just going to have to get over it and I'm doing what's best for me! So :p

Also, good morning and happy Friday!!!! Yay!!!! :carrot:


Kery
01-11-2013, 11:34 AM
Hm, can you maybe bulls**t your way around something like "I'm sorry, I have SO MUCH work I absolutely want to finish today, so I'll just pop 2 minutes for a cup of coffee and then I'm out, but I promise I'll join next time OK?"
(Seriously, that's the kind of stunt I pull of the time, and it always works. And people even consider me as an uber hard worker on top of it, when all I actually do is being very organized ansd getting myself seen in the right places at just the right moment. XD)

joefla70
01-11-2013, 11:56 AM
Does your boss know that you have an issue with the food items being served? Or is that personal info that you don't want to disclose? Because if your boss knows, I would hope that he/she would be supportive of you and have food items at the breakfast that are suitable for EVERYBODY. But in any event, there should be some healthy items at the breakfast (at least fruit).


Ija
01-11-2013, 12:13 PM
Back when I was in the early stages of dealing with my food issues and had to avoid the office/meeting/holiday snacks, I simply blamed my doctor (e.g., "Sorry, I'm on a doctor-ordered diet for a health issue and she stressed that I need to follow it consistently.")... made things easy :)

sontaikle
01-11-2013, 12:44 PM
The school I worked at had breakfasts like that. Luckily they had tea available I could grab, but most of the time my excuse was: "Oh I already ate breakfast because I have to eat as soon as I wake up." and then I would just have the tea so I could stay without eating.

It wasn't entirely a lie...I always would much rather eat as soon as I wake up.

Radiojane
01-11-2013, 01:35 PM
I work in a very small office, but with three skinny men (ok two skinny and one that could lose about 30lbs - I started with 235 to lose). They all have a sweet tooth so they are constantly leaving candy bars on my desk or offering me danishes. I'm usually able to say no because I'm drinking enough water to keep me full and I don't crave sweets very much.

The worst is when we go down to the restaurant for coffee in the afternoon (we work in a shopping mall). At least three times a week they have pie and ice cream. They still eat it in front of me, but at least they've stopped badgering me about it!

XLMuffnTop
01-11-2013, 01:58 PM
I am an extremely private person so I don't really wish to share whether my doctor ordered me to (fill in the blank) or not. I'm an art student stuck in a finance position/department until I can make my grand escape I sometimes feel like the office black sheep so sometimes socializing isn't easy and just can't bring myself to do it. Plus, part of my rebellious side likes to go against the grain. :devil:

It's a pot luck that rotates through the employees once a month. About 7 people or so of 80 bring for the group, then the next month is a different 7 people and so on. You never know exactly what's going to be there but it's usually donuts, cakes, pastries, sometimes some savory meats/casseroles that are usually just too fatty and calorie dense.

My boss can just be very emotional vested regarding others' participation. My coworker and I have discussed this as we have the same feelings from time to time regarding different situations. She felt guilted into going to the Christmas party whereas I dug in my wheels and refused to go. It is optional after all! I could tell there was some temporary passive aggressive stuff going on but thankfully my boss got over it. She's a good supervisor; this is just her one quirk so I deal with it. :lol:

I'm fine with the way it was handled, I'm just more happy I controlled myself and didn't join in or walk by afterwards and pick. Everything has now been eaten or packed away.

Renwomin
01-11-2013, 02:04 PM
It is great you resisted it even under pressure from your boss's attitude! :carrot:

elvislover324
01-11-2013, 02:13 PM
Good for you! I am done with doing things that put me in a personally awkward position just for the sake of others, whether its work or family or friends. I used to try so hard to please everyone and where did it get me? Nowhere and no one gave a crap when I needed support (I think they were used to me doing everything for them and thought I never needed help).

I'm so happy for you. It might seem like a little deal to others that you should just go and not eat or whatever but I am totally on your side. We have to stick up for ourselves, no one else will! And I agree too with not telling anyone about what my doctor advises unless it has to do with workleave or special accomodations and even then, I'd only tell Human Resources. Some people have no respect! (Not people here, in work I mean.)

XLMuffnTop
01-11-2013, 02:51 PM
Yeah, I keep a very tight circle which is very supportive of anything I wish to do, and vice versa. My sister's kids have gluten sensitivities so holidays accommodate that, therefore they definitely understand me saying no to any food. Thankfully we're not a family of food pushers.

My husband is awesome accommodating. He has his own issues with food and weight though it's a fraction of mine. Still, during breaks before the semester starts, he makes great healthy lunches like baked salmon, sauteed zucchini and salads. I'm very grateful I don't have to deal with pressure on every front like some do.

novangel
01-11-2013, 03:11 PM
Yep. You may see me on here constantly complaing about the monthly office buffets. I'm over it. If I complain to them then I look like the office party pooper and I don't need the additiude. I will just bring chips and salsa and have to resist all the other crap the best I can. I made a suggestion a few months back that we all only bring in low fat/ healthy dishes (since everyone else there complains about their weight too) and that lasted about 20 minutes.

Just have to avoid the break room.

Mozzy
01-11-2013, 03:20 PM
Good for you for not giving in to temptation!

TripSwitch
01-11-2013, 04:16 PM
I literally have to deal with situations similar to this every single day at work... I've given up trying to explain why I'm not interested in eating anything for whatever particular reason I have at that moment... Just got tired of doing it over and over again, if you know what I mean...

So now I just feign interest, say how good everything looks, make a small plate and then I just don't eat it... And I don't feel the slightest bit guilty about it... In the least...

I may have to attend near constant "breakfast" and "lunch" meetings, but eating at them thankfully is not in my job description... ;)

misspixie
01-11-2013, 04:27 PM
If its a potluck can you bring your own small food replate it and still socialize? I mean bring your own stuff put it on a plate add a little of other stuff you arent tempted to eat eat your own stuff throw the rest away? It makes you look like your one of the crowd without having anyone making judgements about you and you can do as you like without a fuss?

Amarantha2
01-11-2013, 05:22 PM
Good for you for doing what is right for you.

XLMuffnTop
01-11-2013, 05:26 PM
People would definitely notice that eating food other than what was brought by the selected group. Anything healthy really stands out among glazed donuts with bright icing and sprinkles and cakes and pastries. The funny thing, except for my boss and a handful of others, they would be more aware of me eating something different than if I'm not there at all. They all stand or sit around and chit chat, mostly about the food and sometimes work.

I'm OK not being one of the crowd especially at an optional event. I just get temporary flack for it. I'm just proud of myself for not going this early into getting back on track. It's merely a verbal pat on the back to myself and knew so many at 3FC can relate. :D

Skellig19
01-11-2013, 06:55 PM
Oh man, OFFICE FOOD. UGH. I had no idea what a "thing" it was until I got my first office job. Right now I'm in the angry phase of dealing with it. It just makes me mad when people bring cookies and cakes to an environment that's unhealthy as it is (just sitting all day). Plus all my co-workers complain about their weight and do NOTHING about it. They continue to bring in crap!

I am slowly inching my way towards a zen acceptance phase regarding office food. Good for you for already being there and saying no! I find it so much harder to say no at work than at home.

mimsyborogoves
01-12-2013, 12:04 AM
I work at a department store and they have stuff like that going on all the time! One time I actually went, and it wasn't even breakfast food. They served CUPCAKES and orange juice. Who eats cupcakes for breakfast??? I quit going to things like that after that cause that's just ridiculous.

kadian43
01-12-2013, 12:18 AM
Is it possible for the OP if you show up to work and bring your own healthy snack/food and attend the social gatherings maybe your boss will understand and still appreciate that you made an effort to socialize.

mandalinn82
01-12-2013, 12:43 AM
I've done a lot of avoiding food at work events. I always attend, because ultimately, any gathering of employees is a networking opportunity, so attending helps in career advancement, even if it is technically "optional". Plus, these "corporate rituals" can really affect your boss's perception of your willingness to be a team player, so I feel it is in my best interest to attend.

So, how do I go to these events without eating? Rule #1, get something in your hands! A cup of tea or black coffee is perfect at a breakfast, or at an evening event where people are having cocktails, I get an old-fashioned or highball glass filled with club soda and a twist of lime at the bar (the second one is a particularly good trick, because it looks like a gin and tonic, and no one will ever know you're not drinking).

As far as the food, if you're asked why you're not eating, simply say, "Oh, I ate breakfast already!", then change the subject to something work related. So if a coworker said, "Amanda! You don't have a plate!" I'd say, "Oh, I ate a late breakfast! Anyway, how is <big project> going? I know you all have been working so hard on it!". Rinse and repeat. If you're not asked, just don't mention anything about the food or why you're not eating it. I've found that having a drink in your hand really helps with the questions, though.

Amarantha2
01-12-2013, 06:05 AM
I do know that in the past when I worked in offices & newsrooms, my career was hurt somewhat because of avoiding going to social bonding rituals involving food. I did eventually compromise and used a lot of tricks also, like taking a muffin, donut, piece of cake from the buffet & putting it on a plate with fruit if they had it, getting coffee, standing & talking awhile with that in my hand then drifting back out to my desk before everyone had gone back, nibbling fruit while working, eating a bite of cake or just putting the cake in a drawer or setting it aside & telling anyone who said anything I was saving it for lunch or something like that.

sontaikle
01-12-2013, 03:03 PM
I've done a lot of avoiding food at work events. I always attend, because ultimately, any gathering of employees is a networking opportunity, so attending helps in career advancement, even if it is technically "optional". Plus, these "corporate rituals" can really affect your boss's perception of your willingness to be a team player, so I feel it is in my best interest to attend.

So, how do I go to these events without eating? Rule #1, get something in your hands! A cup of tea or black coffee is perfect at a breakfast, or at an evening event where people are having cocktails, I get an old-fashioned or highball glass filled with club soda and a twist of lime at the bar (the second one is a particularly good trick, because it looks like a gin and tonic, and no one will ever know you're not drinking).

As far as the food, if you're asked why you're not eating, simply say, "Oh, I ate breakfast already!", then change the subject to something work related. So if a coworker said, "Amanda! You don't have a plate!" I'd say, "Oh, I ate a late breakfast! Anyway, how is <big project> going? I know you all have been working so hard on it!". Rinse and repeat. If you're not asked, just don't mention anything about the food or why you're not eating it. I've found that having a drink in your hand really helps with the questions, though.

This is EXACTLY what I did when I was working in a school. We had breakfasts a lot and I think it's better to go to these things because not going can hurt one's career. It sucks, but it's the way it is.

I always said: "I ate breakfast already" or "I have to eat as soon as I wake up," because people would point out that we knew about the breakfast. Tea or water is always available so I would just drink.

Sometimes there were pieces of fruit around, and a small plate of fruit can usually fit into my calorie count quite nicely.

XLMuffnTop
01-13-2013, 01:25 AM
Thanks for all the input.

I likely have less than a year left and will hopefully never been employed in the same industry again. So, I'm not very concerned with networking at this time. All of your suggestions are good to remember once I get in a field I will remain in long term.

jp4ga
01-13-2013, 09:47 AM
I have the same issue at work but it is a WEEKLY breakfast. I normally show up late and say, "I have an early lunch with a client today" or "I had a breakfast meeting already."

Not showing up at my work is not an option since we are all on the same floor, all calls are held, and it is held in the common area right outside of all of our offices. The boss actually comes and gets us. I generally pretend to be on a call and motion that I will be there in a minute.

Coffee or tea in hands work. When it is my turn to bring food I always bring fruit.