Weight Loss Support - 300+ And Ready To Try Again...#325

05-01-2003, 12:25 PM
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We want to invite everyone to join us in our journey.
We share laughter and tears.
We share what works for us and what doesn't.
We recently started a Topic of the Day.

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Tuesday.......Tuesday Tips
Wednesday.....Wednesday Weigh ins
Thursday......Thankful Thursday
Friday........Friday Facials, Fingernails and Fun
Saturday.......Sit-up Saturdays - any physical activity
Sunday.........Soup and Salad Sunday - recipes

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05-01-2003, 01:07 PM
Hi all! :wave: Far be it from me to start a new thread and then get yelled at for not posting. :rolleyes: I can't believe I missed a whole thread! I went and got a cut and perm on Tuesday. Been working. Same old, same old.

I did make a trip out to where the graduation is going to be held and found out where to park so I won't have to trudge up the hill when it's over. I also got a look at the seats and.....I think, I'll fit. (or at least be able to fake it reasonably well! :o ) That makes me feel 100% better! :D

I have running around to do tomorrow to get the food for his buffet. I still haven't heard from my two nieces if they and their families are coming. You would think since they are not married long that they would understand the necessity of RSVPing, but NO, still haven't heard. Actually, I just heard yesterday from their mother so I guess the apples don't fall far from the trees.

Let me try and catch up with some replies:

2cute: That Richie Poo tape sounds like a great idea. I didn't know he had put something like that out. Of course I haven't seen the old boy in quite some time. :lol:

Deon: They say visualization is a great tool for success and it looks like you're doing just that. "I am trying to visualize me skinny and healthy and active." I have never been able to visualize or fantasize so I'm in BIG trouble. :(

Michelle: Oh... Cottage Cheese....of course! How silly of us!!! :o

Mary: It sounds like you had a wonderful holiday off. I'm glad you could do some stuff that you like to do.

Kat: I was sorry to hear about your trama in the ICU. It must be terribly hard (er) when it's someone you know. [[[hugs]]] So did your sister call for WW. It sure sounded like you put your own finger on the success button when you said: "when we used to go diligently...and I lost 40 lbs". Soooo, what are you waiting for?? * That banana bread sounds great. But didn't your momma ever tell you not to eat in front of people without offering them a bite??? What's with coming back and posting "MMMMMMMMM!"???? That was NOT NICE!!! :nono: Great list of Mistakes, by the way!!!

Steph: What a great attitude!! I'm glad you really liked Curves. That's a real step in the right direction.

Lori: That's amazing that chocolate would do that to you. I guess after you haven't been around it in awhile, just like caffeine from coffee or pop, it will react on you.

Barb: Good job going to the doctor. I'm sorry they had to poke and prod you for a good vein. Maybe the results will be good and it will have been worth it. If 2cute doesn't need that tape, I'd sure love a copy of it.

Amanda: Welcome to our little corner of the universe. We would indeed love to have you join us. I'm glad your going to be having more time on your hands. Tell us about yourself. I'm married for almost 27 years, 2 sons (almost 22 & 24), and I'm running for a seat on the local school board (again). I hope you'll post often.

Lucky: Wow! 2 miles! and 2 days in a row! You must sure want to make an impression on the new crop of men you might be meeting on this new job! You go, girl. I see you're down to 200, 1 more pound and you'll be in Onederland! That's awsome!! :D

Tina: Oh honey! You have definately been in Internet **** lately. I sure hope Tony was able to help you out! I'm glad you were able to work out the work schedule to where you won't miss a race! That would be catastrophic!!!

Lovnmom: I just love your quote for your signature line. Thanks for joining us. You're welcome to come back.

Sandy: Have a wonderful weekend away. We all know you deserve it, I'm just jealous I'm not coming with you! :eek:

Ahhh, finally caught up. I've gotta run. I'm taking #1 son to get photographed for graduation, because his mommy wants a nice picture!!!

See you all later! Love ya.

05-01-2003, 01:54 PM
Good afternoon chicks,
Got a few minutes here at work "well, not really" I'm taking a few minutes to check in with my favoritest people.:) And wanted to give people something to read when they came to check the posts.

Today is Thursday, and it's my weigh day.........I lost 1 lb....don't know how, but will take it anyway it will leave this body. My hubby was in the bathroom today when I was drying off, and well he said WOW....your getting hips...I mean I had hips but they kinda blended in with everything else you know what I mean. So now, I stand in front of the full length mirror (yes I do :eek: , don't like it, but I do it!!) and if I raise my arms up over my head well it kinda gives my body a different shape :) that includes HIPS!!!!! I know I have a long way to goal, but that was one of those little things we like to talk about!!...Okay, now I know you are all gonna run to the mirror and put your hands up over your head :lol: and check it out....you don't have to admit to it, but I bet over 1/2 of you do it....

Lucky: onederland :cloud9: I hope to join you someday....

Mary: Thanks for the chat last night and the update on "DAYS"

Thin: Thanks for the long post for me to read, I got my little afternoon fix!! And OMG, I just called my best friend at work to remind her that we have less than 24 hours to wait and we will be on the road!!! LOL, am I excited or what!:D

Barb: Hope I've helped with the postal strike for you to have somthing to read too...although I think it was either Kat or Michelle that mentioned it, but you girls know I can't go back and look, that would take time.....lol

Well Love ya all, and I promise to try to post tonight...if not, well I will chat with you all on Sunday night or Monday....

ps) Now if I'm sitting in my chair on vacation and have a jello shot for everyone.....well how many is that??? I thinks I would be sick....so maybe when I am shooting, I will say this one is for the thread....LOL....I's think then maybe I will still be able to see straight and make it up the stairs to bed...
Hugs to all,

05-01-2003, 02:01 PM
Another beautiful day in the neighborhood!

Just got a few things done around the house, now I am waiting for the mailman to come, then I have to go to the bank, grocery store (looks like Mother Hubbard's Cupboard around here:lol: ) and to get my monthly haircut.

Today, I also got daring and put on my white pants outfit, since I went through the trouble of hemming the pants anyway, why not wear them?;)

No more chocolate for me:p

05-01-2003, 02:22 PM
Hi Gang -
Thought I'd pop in for a quick lunchtime hello! It's turning out to be a good day around here. The weather is beautiful - should make for a nice walk this evening. I've eaten exactly what I packed today and not strayed a bit. Although while I was heating up my lunch in the kitchen a work I think I heard the junk food in the vending machine calling my name. :s:

Sandy/Thin -- just let me know who wants the tape and I'll send it out. Then whoever gets it can send it on to someone else if needed.

Sandy - Yippie --- One more pound closer to your goal!!! :strong:
You are going to have so much fun this weekend! I can't wait to hear all about it! Yep, I'll probably be making shapes in the mirror! I can admit it --- it was just recently that I really started looking in the mirror - and then realized I don't own a full Length mirror.

Hey wait! Are you guys talking about Days of our Lives??? Maybe I need to join in chat --- I haven't tried it yet. I've been watching Days off and on since High School. Now I usually watch on my work at home days.

Thin --- Good luck with all the graduation activities. Sounds like you'll have your hands full for a few days. :flow1:

Lori --- Wear that white pants outfit with pride --- you are working so hard and I bet you look beautiful in it!!!! Once a month haircuts? I am so bad about making appts. Yesterday was the first time since Oct. that I had mine cut. I need to go more often so I don't get so shaggy. :flow2:

Well, I've played enough for now ---- gotta get back to work...

Oh --- before I go, just one more thing to share. One of my co-workers just made my day. We are friendly, but not really close so she doesn't really know about my 'healthy lifestyle' change - she sent me an e-mail to tell me that I was looking svelte these days and to ask me what I was doing!! I've never been called svelte before!!!! It feels so good when people notice. I am going to see my family in two weeks for the first time in 8 months. They don't know that I've been losing weight --- I hope they notice.

Now I am ending this book for real!
BYE for now!


05-01-2003, 04:40 PM
quickie, I mopped the kitchen today and am working on the newsletter for my society. I also ate a whole bag of malted milk balls. OhPooh.

05-01-2003, 07:41 PM
I had my hair cut and permed yesterday too. :)

I quit working outside early today. My legs are so black and blue - I have to admit I tend to be careless when I work. I think one too many rocks have hit me!!!!

I am still trying to smooth out this one area in the yard. WHAT a hard job.

I did get in a 3 mile walk. Sometimes when I am walking I wonder if I will ever break into running? Ya just never know.

Glad you are all in a good place. It seems my fellow non-posting in a rut Chicks have come out too. :yes:

05-01-2003, 07:43 PM
Let us be grateful to people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.

~Marcel Proust

:df: :flow1: :lol:

05-01-2003, 07:46 PM
I read this on another site and found it thought provoking.

Decide what I want my body to be and look like and then "stay focused on that".

If I want to eat chocolate chip cookies FIRST remember how I want to look and THEN decide if I really want to eat them or not.


05-01-2003, 08:31 PM
I'm here.....just all by my lonesome today. :( I don't know, that could actually be a good thing. ;) Dh and Trey went up to his Dad's to work on the Impala, and Brian is out and about running around the neighborhood. It's so quiet in here it's scary. :eek: One might actually even be able to think.....:chin:

Food has not been good the last two days. (Wed & Thurs) It's hard when you've jumped back on the wagon to not fall back off a couple of times....or even just take a jumping leap. At first I told myself (Wed) that I would take just one free points day and then I would get right back on track and I didn't even beat myself up about it. But then one turned into two. :mad: But I'll tell you this......two will NOT turn into three. :no: I think sometimes when I'm off from work, I just have too much time on my hands and my thoughts, hands and appetite tends to wonder. I knew better than to buy those darn burritos. :yes: But I can't make everyone else suffer because I'm trying to better my life. Oh well....what can you do? :rolleyes:

On to replies: (sorry, they will be short)

Thin: Thanks for starting the new thread. Glad you feel better about the graduation, but doesn't it make you mad that you even have to worry about something like seatsize? :mad:

2cute: I miss you.....come back soon.

Lucky: Sorry to hear about the bruises....you've been working awful hard lately, huh? Speaking of work, have you started your new job yet?

Mary: Have a fantastic day off. Sorry about missing chat Wed. night. I'll try to do better. :crossed:

Sandy: Have fun on your girlie trip and think of us. Yeah, right. :lol: We want a full report when you come back.....what you can remember.

Sara: Where are you birthday girl?

Michelle: I know you're busy my friend, but hop back in and let us know how WW is going.

Baylee: We miss you. Haven't heard from you in awhile....how's T.O.P.S going?

Barb: Thanks for making us feel good with your great posts. We're glad to have you with us.

Steph: It's so good to have you back with us, posting on a regular basis. I've missed you.

Kat: Sorry to hear about the situation you had at the ER the other night with your friend's Dad. That was one of the things I hated dealing with when I worked in the ER too. One night they brought in a friend I went to school with......he had been in a horrible car accident and had died on the way to the hospital in the ambulance. They put him in one of the ER rooms, with the lights dimmed and it took hours for his family to get there. Everytime I walked past that door, I knew he was just laying in there.....it was a very difficult night. :(

Well, I know I have more replies to make, but my phone will not stop ringing. Mom is calling from out of town, so I have to give her my undivided attention. She can hear my fingers typing on the keyboard and keeps saying, "You're on the internet aren't you? You're not paying attention to me!" :lol: She's right.

I'll check in with you guys later. Have a great day!

Oh yeah.....

I am thankful that both my children are mean, happy and healthy. :lol:
I am thankful for a wonderful dh who just today told me how beautiful I am, and always makes me feel that way.
I am thankful for all my wonderful friends here. What would I do without you?

05-01-2003, 09:50 PM
Tina...WW is going great...today is the first day I went to the top of my range in points. The past 2 days I was under. I am trying to bank some for a birthday/1st communion party we have to go to on Saturday.

Work has been busy...I have been training a new employee and I'm looking for another one since I am going to fire one soon! Just working on the paper trail now!! She is the type that would sue us for discrimination or something like that!

OK I gotta run....I had to work till 8 tonight and andrew needs a bath!

TTFN Michelle

05-02-2003, 12:17 AM
I had a busy day indeed; I finally got a chance to relax about an hour ago :)

In addition to bank, store, haircut, I also had to stop at the computer place and make my payment, write out bills to stick in tomorrow's mail (including rent :p ), clean the cat box, and do a truckload of laundry. I'm saving housecleaning for the weekend.

Tomorrow is a trip to the post office for stamps, and Rite Aid to pick up my prescriptions--provided it doesn't rain. Otherwise, I may clean the kitchen and bathroom instead.

05-02-2003, 04:05 AM
I have been busy, busy, busy. And been trying to stay offline to keep phone line free due to more family medical emergencies. My brother in law has been in the hospital and it has been touch and go but he has made through the woods this time, I am just so afraid that next time it will be the end. I dont know if I am ready for another death in that family so soon. My father in law died just 2 yrs ago from lung cancer and now his son, my brother in law is dying of emphazema. And he lives with his mother and I think she is going to completely fall apart this time.

Well on to better things. I have been walking all week, 3 days anyway. 1 1/2 mile the first time and a mile the other times. I feel so good. But I only lost .6 lb. And am sooo frustrated because I am still .2 from that d*** 25 pound mark, it seems like it has been a hard goal to reach but i will reach it next week. I am going to live on lettuce and celery all week if I have to.

Being Thankful Thursday, I am thankful for my mother and my best friend because both of them told me today that I was an inspiration to them and my mom said she wouldnt be doing WW if it werent for me and she wouldnt have been making the meetings each week. And my friend has been trying but cant seem to stay on track and she said that each time I tell her about my little successes it gives her new inspiration. Thank you to them.

Now on to responses......

Sandy: I know how you feel about that one pound, having only lost .6 this week, at least it was down .6 and not up!!:D

Thin: I am trying so hard to visualize but all I see is M&M's!:m: :chockiss: :m: :chockiss: :m: :chockiss: Hey where did that kiss come from?! Can you tell I am also pms right now. another reason I am not down more, I'm sure.:rolleyes:

Well I haven't caught up on all the threads I missed so I will have to go back and read them before I can respond to everyone, so if I missed ya sorry and I still think of all of you daily. What do you think keeps me going!!!:D :grouphug:

In those famous shwartzeneger words, "I'll be back!!"

05-02-2003, 08:24 AM
Hi girls, well I'm getting ready to take off, I have to be at the drs first at 8:30a.m. to have these stitches out (the test on the mole they took off came back yesterday and thank goodness it was negative!!)<~that was my thankful Thursday. Then I gotta pick up my bestest friend and we are outta here!!!

But, how could I leave without checking in on my bestest cyber family!!! You all mean the world to me and I know Iwill think of you often over the weekend, you have been my link for so long now and I talk to you all almost daily.

Deon: I wanted to say I was sorry about your FIL and now your BIL, my mom has emphazema too and would you believe she is still smoking!!!! Makes me so mad!!! I quit and my step dad quit and he smoked 3 packs a day.......I so wish she would quit, the dr talked to me about it and explained it all to me and said there is no cure, but if she quit that it would save future damage and give her life a little longer. I try not to think about it cause we are close.....but on a lighter note, do you know about callwave? Its an internet answering machine for those of us who don't have a seperate line for our computers. Well you can go to callwave (www.callwave.com) and download it and follow the directions it gives you. I think it costs me $2.50 a month on my phone bill to have the call forward busy thing and then call wave used to be free but now I think I have to pay 5.95 or something a month....anyway it's still cheaper than another phone line. There are other companies that offer it too, I think if you type in internet answering machines in your search bar it will pop up the various ones for you.....good luck with it....I love it. And it comes with caller ID, so even if they dont leave a message you get to see who called.

Hugs to you all,

05-02-2003, 10:01 AM
Good Morning Gals!!!
TGIF!!! I am so ready for the weekend. At least ready for a break from work, but food always gets so difficult on the weekends because hubby seems to think that just because we have a couple days off work we have to eat out every meal. Not this weekend - I am putting my food down. My goal is one meal out this weekend.

Deon - Hey, -.6 is still going in the right direction. :)

I weighed in this morning for a loss of -.4. Yes, I am disappointed, but at least there was no gain. My eating wasn't too bad this week, but I know I didn't exercise enough since I was feeling pretty rotten most of the week. I also slacked off a little on my calorie counting --- I log everything I eat/drink into a journal and it makes me more aware of what's going in, I know I had too high of a carb intake.

My goal for the next two weeks is to make wise choices, exercise in some way everyday and lose 6 more pounds by the 16th. I am making this a two week goal because on May 17th we leave for Florida for a 9 day vacation!!! I grew up down there and all my family is still there. I know that food will be a challenge, but I am looking forward to a lot of walking on the beach and swimming during vacation! I've always wanted to go wave-running and I think I may do it this time. My brother said he'd go with me! I can't wait to take a break from real life and relax for a while. :cool:

Well, speaking of real life, I need to get started on my day's work. Normally I work at home on Friday, but I had to come in the office today for a meeting.

I'll check in later and make more time to reply to everyone then.

In the meantime, everyone give yourself a big pat on the back and remember to smile and be proud of all of you accomplishments!!! You are wonderful!!!:D


05-02-2003, 10:03 AM
Oh, I almost forgot....

Can't wait to hear all about the fun with the girls!!!

:dizzy: :joker: :cb: :dizzy: :joker: :cb:

05-02-2003, 10:57 AM
Good morning, ladies! :wave: I'm doing better yesterday and so far this morning with my food issues. I'm sure that the beginning of the week has sent me way of the charts as far as the scale goes. (yes, I'm still jumping on it in the morning and it's not pretty). I'm hoping to do enough damage control to maintain this Monday. With the party on Saturday, we'll have to see.

I got a call late last night and my best friend's father died last night. She's been like a sister to me (I'm an only child) for the past almost 34 years. Her folks were like second parents to me. This is going to be tough. She has so much on her plate already. (Long story, but trust me, if you ever feel like YOUR life is in the crapper, just give me a holler and I'll fill you in on hers. Then yours will seem like heaven!) Anyway, that will tie up 3 days this next week for the funeral, and call for a trip out of town.

Sandy: Congrats on the 1 pound!!! That's a great way to start the weekend. :) You better be having a couple of jello shots for me. I'm not a cheap date! :o Enjoy! I can't wait to hear all the details. I will live vicariously through you! :D

Lori: Oh no! You're cleaning the cat box again! I know where that led you last week! :eek:

Barb: Congrats on the .4! It's in the right direction, take it!!! Great job, planning what you eat, packing what you plan and not going out of that little safety spot. That takes determination, and my dear, YOU'VE GOT IT!!! :D

Mary: DROP THAT BAG OF CHOCOLATES! RIGHT NOW! I know, too late, you've already eatten the contents. :nono: That was yesterday, move on. Today is a new day!

Lucky: Gosh, I guess it's haircut week for most of us. * I sure hope those legs heal up real quick for you. You must be so sore! :o

Kat: "Let us be grateful to people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom." What a nice quote. Thanks for sharing. :)

Tina: QUIT WITH THE FREE POINTS DAY! :drill: Eating over is one thing, not being accountable for it is quite another! It will get you in too much trouble and it is far too hard to play 'catch up' later in the week. (take this from someone who is trying to do it)

Michelle: Glad to hear the WW is going good for you. * Hopefully your new employees will work out for you and you'll get some relief soon. [[[hugs]]]

Deon: I'm sure it's the PMSing that didn't allow your body to release much weight this week. But a loss is a loss, don't forget. I'm sure that by next week you'll have an even bigger one. :^:

Sara: Where the heck are you??? Beginning to worry here. We haven't seen you since just before your birthday. Come on out and let us know you're ok.

Ok, girls, I'm getting out of here. I have to play 'showgirl' for a few hours today and then go pick up food and try to figure out what I'm missing. :(

Hope to see you all later, but if I'm not here, you'll know where I am. Love :love: to all.

05-02-2003, 01:44 PM
I am such a busy beaver today! I'm in the midst of trying to play "supervisor", training a new person (taking Chatty Cathy's place), trying to post on here and eat a bowl of soup....
all at the same time! :dizzy:

I have already added a new acct, fixed the email server (that has went down twice) answered numerous questions and had a conference call with the main office and it's not even 12:30 yet! :yikes:

Great....one of the second shift employees just called in and said she wasn't coming in tonight. WHAT ELSE CAN HAPPEN?

Nevermind, I probably don't want to know. :no:

I'll be back later.

05-02-2003, 03:20 PM
Another day at Curves for me. Yippee! I don't know what I'm going to do over the weekend since I can't go there. I have early shifts both days, so maybe I'll go walking when I get home or after dinner. Exercise gives me much more confidence in myself. It's too early to tell, but I feel lighter. I'm trying really hard to stay away from the scale until Monday.
Tina- I hope the rest of your day isn't as crazy.
Thin- sorry to hear of the loss of your friends father, That's got to be tough.
Barb- congrats on the loss
Deon- congrats to you as well on your loss. Sorry about your family problems. Hope things get better
Sandy- I know you've already left, but have fun!
Lori-sounds like you had a busy day indeed. Take some time to relax.
Michelle- good luck on finding a new employee
Well I think that's everybody. The rest of you, get in here and post or at least say hi.

05-02-2003, 06:42 PM
I'm feeling completely unmotivated and uninspired these past few days. I need to re-examine my reasons for wanting to stay fat, because I'm am resisting, mightily, all attempts to lose.

If you don't see me around it's because I've decided that I need to stay away from the boards for a while...they are NOT helping at this point...and I end up spending too much time on my butt in front of the computer.

I'll be lurking occasionally, may even pop in...I'm not sure. I just need to do something drastically different than what I'm doing now. I am heading in the WRONG direction!

I love you all and I'll miss you!

05-02-2003, 08:00 PM
First off, I'm not going to yell at you :drill: or beg you to come back. :^: You do what you need to do.

I can't tell you the times I've thought of emailing you or sending you a PM in the last couple of weeks because I've been thinking about you so much. There's always a certain "feel" I get from your posts that I just haven't been getting lately, and I knew you weren't truely with us. You know why I knew?

Because I've been there and I know how hard it is.

Just know that staying away will not help. :no: While we may not be offering you the inspiration you need, just remember....we still love you.

Something tells me that I won't have the chance to miss you though.....you just need some time to get some things straight. Please know, that no matter what....we love you just like you are. :love:

If you need me, you have my email. :)

P.S. Also remember, that if you stay away too long, I have your address, and I am not above coming there to kick your butt. :drill: :yes:

05-02-2003, 09:33 PM
Gee Baylee that was kind of negative of you. I'm really sorry you feel that way. But let me tell you one thing...I lost 97 lbs on Weight Watchers before I got pregnant with my son and I was posting on a thread similar to this one and everyone was very sympathetic to each other even if they weren't successful. It was because of those people that I was able to keep the inspiration going in myself. Having a time to sit on the computer and talk to people from all over the united states and then some and reporting my success each week gave me something to look forward too. Sharing ideas, recipes, exercise tips and just sharing lifes triumphs and dissapointments of members that are going through the same thing was reassuring that this fat chick wasn't alone in the world! Yes I gained most of my weight back while I was pregnant because my doctor said I could not lose weight but I could maintain...well I know how to gain and I know how to lose I never in my life learned to maintain. I am one who is determined to get this weight off again and I just needed to wait till the time was right for me and that is NOW. Yes SARA is a success story and Tina is well on her way...I know how she is struggling...we all struggle...if life was struggle free we wouldn't be FAT! Sara is my goal and Tina is my inspriration to keep struggling and doing what I need to do to get this weight off...As far as exercise..I walked 3 miles every morning when I was losing the weight the first time...and at night when I came home from work I sat on my FAT A$$ and talked on the computer to my friends and family and posting on the boards to keep myself from hanging around in the kitchen and eating! You have to do what is right for you but to come here and say the nasty things you said wasn't very nice. If you don't like reading about the lovely Mr. Stewart then you could just skip over those posts. Tina is very passionate about her NASCAR as I am about my son. I post often about him too. If you don't like the fact that most of us are struggling to get the weight off and going up and down and you don't like the sympathy or the comraderie (sp) that we share then all I can say is good riddance and you must be one anti-social individual and maybe as you said in your post its counseling that you need!

I'm really sorry that you feel that way and the only other thing I can say is farewell and best of luck to you!


05-02-2003, 10:06 PM
baylee... you have to do what's right for you, but please don't take it out on others. if you're angry about the choices you've made, like, 'having wasted precious hours sitting on my fat behind,' so be it. others find this forums, and others, inspiring. hopeful. a way to start. a way to think about starting.

whatever their stage of weight loss, many folks get a lot out of the act of posting and of interacting with others. i'm not posting much at all these days, but for way different reasons [not much to say, too exhausted, too sad, too stressed], but i know that there will be sympathetic ears and kindness. and that's quite enough for me.

for the long term, some of us will lose all our weight, and others won't. some will decide on surgery, others will not. regardless of what we do, we still have to find ways to deal with our eating habits and emotions. these issues don't magically disappear along with the weight. and we need to learn how to do this out of self love. and each of us has a different path.

so, good luck to you, and i agree with your decision,. if you're not getting anything out of this, and you're not contributing, then you are indeed better off going down a different path.

and PS. i know NOTHING at all about NASCAR, and really have no interest in it. BUT tina and many many others enjoy it. and that's enough for me! she can post all she wants to about it. and i've learned something from those posts: SHE WAS HAPPY!!!!! and there is indeed a celebrity who is kind enough to go out of his way to put a smile on the face of one of his fans. and he's cute, too.

05-02-2003, 10:25 PM
Good Evening Ladies!
Well, I was very excited to come post tonight and let you know that I was feeling very positive today, added 1/2 mile to my walk on the treadmill tonight, went tanning (I always do it before I go on vacation so I don't get burned), didn't have a chance to make dinner, but made a very healthy choice, all in all, was having a pretty darn good day and was hoping to share that will all of you, but..........

now my spirts have been dampened a bit. :(

Baylee - I never had a chance to get to know you and I am very sorry for the way that you feel right now. If you don't think this is the right place for you to find your motivation and inspiration, than maybe you need to find other focus, but I see no need to criticize others and accuse people of not being honest. I will just say that for me, these ladies are a wonderful source of inspiration. I have gained and lost weight all my life. Something just clicked with me a few months ago and gave me a new outlook on life and I am finally making a healthy lifestyle change and doing this a smart way. No more fad diets, starvation, etc. Just slowly bettering myself. I do have a very hectic life and busy schedule, however, I am lucky that with my job I do have the flexibility to visit this site during the day and I always spend a little time on the computer late at night. I am not using the computer as a substitute for exercise. I think you get the idea of what I am saying. Everyone needs to find what works for him/her. Good luck in your endeavors.

Kat - Wishing you all the best and hoping to see you around here soon. I was really hoping we could meet in person one of these days. Thanks for being so supportive of me. I'll be thinking about you.

Tina - I hope everything turned out ok at work today. I know I don't know you that well yet, but I sincerely hope that you will not let things that have been said affect you. You are a wonderful, beautiful, inspirational woman and you need to feel free to talk about anything and anyone you want!!! :)

Steph - WAY TO GO!!! Another day at Curves!!! :strong:

I'll just close by saying --- I have learned recently that more than anything, weightloss is mental and very emotional --- everyone needs to reflect and find out what works on a personal level ---- for many of us, a part of the strength that we get is from interacting with the wonderful people around here. If this site is part of your weightloss plan, by all means lets have a great time together. If it's not, then please be considerate of everyone else who loves it here.

Wishing everyone a wonderful evening. I'll check in with you tomorrow!

05-03-2003, 01:41 AM
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Ok first of all I am very steamed!! Baylee, if this is not for you then just leave. Why do you have to step on everyone elses happiness in the process. Why do you have to put someone like Tina down for sharing her happiness with us? That was very hurtful, what did she do to you anyway, if you didn't like it you didn't have to read it!! Tina has been a wonderful person and has been very supportive of all of us! And yes some of us have had our losses and our gains but to sit there and say that we should rethink it because we are all still fat is ridiculous. Why not come here for support? Why not come here just because you like the company. I personally have lost almost 25 lbs. on WW and whether you believe it or not makes no difference to me, but I have also only been doing this for 8 weeks. So if you dont see alot of changes maybe you dont look hard enough and maybe its people like you that discourage those of us who give it our all and then have you put us down because we aren't changing fast enough to your liking!! Personally, glad to see ya go if you feel that way! :censored:

Well I better go before I say anymore. I may wait a day or two before I come back, just to let things cool off.

Oh ya Kat- don't feel like you need to go. There are some very supportive people here, in spite of baylee!!

05-03-2003, 01:43 AM
OH my.... what a shocker to come home to this. :eek:

I have no time to post at this moment... but I have to add a few comments....

I learned many years ago to "Live and Let Live"
I don't agree or approve of everyone in this world... nor does everyone approve or agree with me. And that is okay. No harm done. "To each his own" as they say.

I hope with time that all of us search our souls and find what is right for us.
Websites like this is not right for everyone. And I do spend time here that I should be exercising. And although I don't come here for sympathy... (I come for inspiration and hope and fellowship) .... I have gotten more than my share of sympathy.
And if we are honest with ourselves we may even find that Baylees comments just may help us more than hurt us in the end.

But... in the meantime I would like to share a motto that someone taught to me.
I try to live by it on a daily bases.

"Honesty without compassion is brutality"

Baylee... I think you said some powerful words here.... but unfortunately I also think there was a more compassionate way of saying it.
I feel if you had used more thoughtful and productive words instead of bitter and condemning words many more people would have heard your message instead of just hearing your anger, resentment and judging frustration.
I hope you find what you are hunting for.... You did not find it here... I wish you had... but I still hope you find it somewhere.

I think we will all have to find it "within ourselves"... not from others.
Sara found it within herself.... she was just gracious enough to share her journey with us. We did not do it for Sara... SHE DID IT. And hopefully you will find it "within yourself" soon too.

I also want to comment to the rest of us here in this group.
There are many of us who have overcome larger hurts and obstacles in life than this.
Some people deal with life's frustration by blaming others... some with self pity, resentment, and anger.
Others can have the exact same situation happen to them and they deal with it with self examination, forgiveness and strength and courage.

Life is not the result of what happens to us.... it is how we CHOOSE to react to what happens to us.
Some children are beaten or abused by adults and grow up hating all authority figures and abusing their children. Others say... "I will learn from that experience and be a better parent than my parent was."

I hope we all "learn" from this experience and allow it to "teach us" how to be wiser in our choices, honest with ourselves, and accepting of others opinions ... even when they do not match ours.

Don't waste your energy being hurt, angry or feeling superior.
Just ask yourself... "what can I learn from this situation?"
Be honest with ourselves... but remember the statement "honesty without compassion is brutality" also holds true for YOURSELF.
Be honest but compassionate towards yourselves.
The choice is YOURS. We can let this tear us apart as individuals as well as a group.
OR we can choose to make us wiser and stronger individuals as well as a wiser and stronger group.


Kat.... there is another old saying... "you can take the girl out of the country.... but you can't take the country out of the girl."
Kat... you may leave us... but we will always be with you.
You can never binge again or win a victory over food again... without thinking of us. We will be there encouraging you on and celebrating with you in spirit. I hope you peek in often. You will be missed.

Baylee... we will miss you too. You are family here. But I do understand that sometimes family members need to leave home to find their own way in life. I hope you find not only the answer to your weight problem.. but I hope you find "peace" too.

05-03-2003, 01:56 AM
Ok maybe I reacted without first thinking. After reading 2cutes post. But it just angers me that there are such hurtful people out there. That we "fat people" have finally found a place where we feel accepted and comfortable and yet people like baylee are still able to sqeeze in here and step all over us!! It just makes me furious! Why can't you just keep your harmful words to your self or share them with some other less intelligent person who might thrive on that! Why did you feel compelled to come in here and dump on us and put us all down in the process? And FYI I only spend a few minutes at a time on here. I don't claim to exercise regularly, just this week I walked 3 days, but who knows maybe next week I wont walk at all and I know that last week I did not walk at all, but you know what that didnt matter to the ladies in here, they just encouraged me to go out there and try it and I finally did, so I do actually owe that to them. No they didnt do it for me, but they were there for me. And I know they are just ladie on computer like me and could be totally full of it, but I like to think that there might still be a few honest "normal" people left in the world.

OK done now.

05-03-2003, 07:57 AM
Deon I'm with you on this one. Besides....lets ask ourselves honestly...If we weren't on this computer posting would we truly be using this time to EXERCISE...I really don't think so!!

These ladies here are a great group of people offering their support for all aspects of our lives not just weight loss. How can you not accept them with all their faults and love them as your family! Friends are what make your life complete!! Not being thin!

And Baylee I know you are reading this because if you said all those nasty things you did you are one to be peering in here every few minutes to see what responses were created towards you! If FAT PEOPLE wouldn't be fat because they did housework then all these FAT PEOPLE in the world would have the sloppiest, dirtiest houses in the world. Housework doesn't make you THIN! I have been FAT all my life but I keep my house as clean as I can and do my laundry on a regular basis. I still have time to eat 3 meals a day and then some. Its the food choices we make that make us FAT. I take care of a family, house, work full time and go to school full time yet I still find time to eat...its the choices that I have made in the past that keep me fat...So honest my A$$! Just because you are active doesn't make you thin if you are going to make the wrong food choices...but those choices are OURS not yours! You just have low self esteem and need to take the focus off of yourself and put it on someone else because you have not been successful at your weightloss for whatever reason!

Sorry girls...but when someone attacks my family I have to stand up and take a stand!!


05-03-2003, 11:14 AM
Good Morning all
First of all let me say to Kat and Baylee I will miss both of you.

I know I do not post much but I come several times a day to catch up on all of my friends. I am constantaly falling off my plan but I try to be honost about it. I have not lost any weight in several months but at least I am not gaining. I do not exercise at all. I know I am fat but what the h. I have been most of my life.

I will continue to come here because you are all my friends I need all of you. I have got to where I like Tony Stewart even though I like Dale Jr. more:D That was for Tina.

I will continue to talk about my brother because I love him.

I will be at chat tonight at 8 central hope some of you come, I can't talk to myself people will think I have lost my mind(maybe I have):dizzy:

Dh and I are going into town today he asked me for a date:)
well I have rambled on enough. hope to chat with all later

05-03-2003, 01:49 PM
Do not post here! Instead, come and join us and all our friends at 300+ And Ready To Try Again.....#326