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8isenough
12-27-2012, 10:40 PM
You guys, this is so humiliating. I lost 16 lbs over 6 weeks and then allowed a small cheat. That led to one excuse after another and now I've gained 10 back. Why can't I stick with this? How can I be such a failure?
I stopped coming here because I couldn't even face what I had done but now I realize that it was a huge part of the problem. I need this group, advice and support. I'm so bummed but I'm going to start all over again next week. I've started cutting back to prepare and I'm not scared to start over but I'm just p***sed at myself.
Had to come clean.....


scorbett1103
12-27-2012, 11:16 PM
:hug::hug::hug:

The first step in fixing a problem is admitting there's a problem to fix :)
You CAN do this. You are NOT a failure - mistakes happen, they help us grow but they do NOT define us. You know what happened, and by posting you also show that you know where your support is to get back on track. We are here for you, if you decide to get back on the horse we will cheer you on every step of the way!!

Nolawhodatchick
12-27-2012, 11:30 PM
Try to think of it this way, maybe having that experience, as bad as it feels, just serves the purpose of showing you how much you really do want to do this. What's wrong with you? Probably nothing, we all have challenges. One thing that I've never had before was a clear plan on how to eat after weight loss to ensure it stays off, and IP and this group is giving me that. I think a lot of getting this right and having success in weight loss is 1. having knowledge, and 2. having support. You will get tons of both here, which will allow you to do this. Welcome!


sonyainva
12-28-2012, 02:26 AM
Brush it off and start again. You can do it!

Sammie12
12-28-2012, 07:32 AM
You took the first step you came clean & now today is a new day. Just get back on track & what you have gained should drop right off.

Maile
12-28-2012, 08:07 AM
Today is a new day to get healthy again. If you had the strength to lose 16 pounds, you can do it again. Good for you being accountable and posting. Keep posting. You can do it!

Willi
12-28-2012, 08:09 AM
What is wrong with you? Nothing, you are a human being like the rest of us! Welcome back to the light!

kileymed13
12-28-2012, 09:01 AM
As others have said, you are here and talking about it. It happens and sometimes I think you have to live through it to see how easy it is to slip away for a bit because of one cheat. Congrats for coming back and talking about it. You got this!!!

ragdoll74
12-28-2012, 09:07 AM
Welcome back! You can do this again.

Just take it one day at a time, and when temptation strikes tell yourself you are not going to cheat today. The longer you stay 100% OP, the easier it will get.

:dust:

Billster
12-28-2012, 10:56 AM
I know these feelings all too well. I started IP in January 2012, lost about 40lbs- didn’t do as well as I could have. I quit IP in May 2012 due to some other things in my life and IP was not an option. Ate really well didn’t gain, August 2012 I had a major life changing even went to a very dark place for many weeks- ate my feelings away! Gained all the weight and then some. Decided that this is not what I wanted my life to be! Went back to IP Nov 2012 for 4 weeks lost 20 lbs now I have switched to alternatives due to cost. Still losing, not as fast but I’m happy with that!

There is nothing wrong with you what so ever! We have all gone through this with some diet or another. You need to figure out 1. Why you keep falling into old habits 2. Why you want to lose weight. Some of the hardest things I have found during weight loss is soul searching sometimes you really don’t like the person you see however you’re the only one who can change it. I have struggled so much over the years, however now I found my motivation- I’m trying to have a baby, this keeps me from putting garbage into my body. My mom always said… your body is your temple.

FutureFitChick
12-28-2012, 11:44 AM
8isenough, I used to feel the exact same way. Hang in there it will get better as you get back on track and more comfortable with it. (I still have the fear I will return to those feelings one day, but I hope not to.)

One thing I have found really helpful is a book by Judith Beck (http://astore.amazon.com/3fatchionadie/detail/0848731735/104-4216363-1799918) and the related forum here at 3FC. http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/beck-diet-solution/270828-beck-diet-life-solution-december-2012-support-discussion-buddy-coach.html These have really helped me change my thinking, that I was a failure for being overweight/obese so much of my life, to giving me usable tools that I can apply in my life now and in the future. I can't say enough how important this change in thinking has helped me. Good luck and keep posting, even when you find yourself off track.

BeccaGrim
12-28-2012, 01:18 PM
I would say first of all, forgive yourself. You're human.

Second, at least for those of us who have a lot of weight to lose and I am one of them, we didn't get into this situation because food is all that easy for us to manage. But you're starting again, going forward, feel good about that.

learning to fly
12-28-2012, 01:36 PM
I think something probably is wrong, but it's not your fault. Sounds like you are beating yourself up over it, and you have to STOP that immediately. Saying that it is your fault is such a twisted self-hurting thing that I (and probably a lot of us here) have done for so long. You need to change that and have only loving, compassionate thoughts about yourself and about everything you do/not do.

One thing that is most likely "wrong" is that you triggered insulin spike and believe me nobody can fight that, it's a super strong force; how do you think we got to be so obese? None of us loved how our bodies were starting to look like as we were gaining and gaining, but no one could stop. The only way to beat this thing into submission is to take a few days aside, and calm your insulin down...the hard few days, yes, and maybe it will be 10 days, but that's what you got to do and then there will be no need to cheat any more, regardless of what your other feelings are. And like everyone pointed out, each and every time you feel down, this place will cheer you right back up.

And yes, it is helpful to analyze "what's wrong" but no more "what's wrong with me". :)

BeccaGrim
12-28-2012, 01:42 PM
Learning to fly,
That was so well put. Bravo.

Rebecca

learning to fly
12-28-2012, 01:51 PM
Learning to fly,
That was so well put. Bravo.

Rebecca

LOL Thank you! (it was a lesson hard learned for me) :hug:

pianonan
12-28-2012, 06:32 PM
I too have had a setback:( I read the forums everyday, but feel so frustrated. Thank you for sharing. You're post has given me renewed hope that I can figure this out and get back on track with IP. Good luck to you!

BeccaGrim
12-28-2012, 06:53 PM
What threw you off track? The holidays?

newbie12
12-28-2012, 09:01 PM
I lost 40 lbs. on IP last year. My parent died earlier this year and I got off the program and gained it all back. Finally got myself mentally ready to get back on IP again. Just started last Saturday and down 4 lbs. already.

There's nothing wrong with you, life happens.:)

8isenough
12-30-2012, 08:42 AM
You guys are SO great. So much amazing advice and positive energy here that I can't wait to read it everyday.
Update: my husband is going to try to do this with me!! He's likely going to be less compliant but he doesn't have more than 10 lbs to lose.
Thank you for all your loving words ❤❤❤❤

mom2hi
12-30-2012, 01:43 PM
And yes, it is helpful to analyze "what's wrong" but no more "what's wrong with me". :)

You brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for this inspiration. I am printing it and putting it on my fridge, and cupboard. When I feel myself being tempted..."what is wrong" makes me think, big time!

learning to fly
12-30-2012, 11:08 PM
You brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for this inspiration. I am printing it and putting it on my fridge, and cupboard. When I feel myself being tempted..."what is wrong" makes me think, big time!

Oh my gosh...I just read this now, reading what you wrote gave me goosebumps! LOL Awww I'm speechless :o :hug:

gazelle
12-31-2012, 08:11 AM
I think something probably is wrong, but it's not your fault. Sounds like you are beating yourself up over it, and you have to STOP that immediately. Saying that it is your fault is such a twisted self-hurting thing that I (and probably a lot of us here) have done for so long. You need to change that and have only loving, compassionate thoughts about yourself and about everything you do/not do.

One thing that is most likely "wrong" is that you triggered insulin spike and believe me nobody can fight that, it's a super strong force; how do you think we got to be so obese? None of us loved how our bodies were starting to look like as we were gaining and gaining, but no one could stop. The only way to beat this thing into submission is to take a few days aside, and calm your insulin down...the hard few days, yes, and maybe it will be 10 days, but that's what you got to do and then there will be no need to cheat any more, regardless of what your other feelings are. And like everyone pointed out, each and every time you feel down, this place will cheer you right back up.

And yes, it is helpful to analyze "what's wrong" but no more "what's wrong with me". :)


I see so many posts on different threads about "slip-ups" (I had one on Christmas Day). This reply really resonated with me. Especially the part about the insulin spike and how that is so difficult to overcome. We have all blamed ourselves for so long and beat ourselves up. I really like thinking about this as a "body" reaction and not a mental defect. It does make so much sense, but also means that I will have change forever how I approach food. Thank you so much for the advice and kind words. I hope that I will be able to move forward with myself in such a kind and loving way:)

learning to fly
12-31-2012, 01:26 PM
I see so many posts on different threads about "slip-ups" (I had one on Christmas Day). This reply really resonated with me. Especially the part about the insulin spike and how that is so difficult to overcome. We have all blamed ourselves for so long and beat ourselves up. I really like thinking about this as a "body" reaction and not a mental defect. It does make so much sense, but also means that I will have change forever how I approach food. Thank you so much for the advice and kind words. I hope that I will be able to move forward with myself in such a kind and loving way:)

Thank you! :hug: It's like I finally understood what it means to say, "it's hormonal". :D Insulin is a hormone...

As far as being kind and loving to yourself, it was a hard and long lesson for me...I'm still having a lot of "slip ups" when I think negatively about myself, it is not an easy or quick change. Often those negative judgments about ourselves masquerade as "I'm just being realistic", but often they are not accurate at all; and even when they happen to be, who cares! We really do gotta love ourselves, warts and all. Even having a "mental defect" - if we do, which is questionable, but for the sake of argument, lets say we do - it is not a reason not to embrace it as a part of ourselves. We can leave it be, or deal with it lovingly, not by trying to beat it out of us. :)

sassysi
12-31-2012, 03:38 PM
I am in a similar boat. I did the program, and got 50 lbs lost and wanted to lose another 10 but didnt due to money, etc. I tried to do the program on my own primarily and just cheat one day a week...bad idea. I think you can do the program in many ways on your own, once you learn all the methods and practices, to-do's and to-don't's. BUT, cheating one day a week was a bad idea for me. I have fallen completely off the wagon and gained 15 lbs back and hating my body and how I feel again. It has AMAZED me how fast and relentless the sugar/carb cravings come back. One drink, one or two bad meals, and your body is HOOKED again! Its like an addiction! It has opened my eyes for sure.
I am feeling exactly how you are...whats wrong with me that I'd do that again after swearing to myself I wouldnt go back there. But everyone is right, we make mistakes we are human. Our willpower has simply GOT to be stronger! Our belief in ourselves and what we want for ourselves is a bigger power! What matters is what you choose to do now to correct it. Just gotta buckle down and refocus again. I will be thinking of you as I do the same and get back on track. GOod luck!

lisa32989
12-31-2012, 04:00 PM
Thank you! :hug: It's like I finally understood what it means to say, "it's hormonal". :D Insulin is a hormone...
So are Leptin, Ghrelin, and cortisol. And they all have huge influences on weight loss!

BeccaGrim
01-02-2013, 06:22 PM
How are you feeling? Any better?