Living Maintenance - 2013 Maintainers Hopes, Dreams, and Goals




Megan1982
12-17-2012, 10:51 AM
2012 is dwindling away. In the midst of all of the holiday hoopla, let's not wait until January to think about our goals for the coming year. As we spend days with our family and friends, let's think of what's important to us.

I guess I'll start. I'm going to focus on health related goals for the purposes of this post, though I'm certainly not trying to limit this thread to that! I will admit I'm not the happiest personally and professionally right now, but am also not ready to make the changes needed to in those areas. I will focus on health, because I am always happier when I'm feeling good in my own skin.

2013:

- Work on improving my self-esteem and not letting it be tied to my weight. No matter what I weigh at the end of the new year, I hope I feel better about myself. I've been really down on myself lately. Not sure how to actually do this... but need to make a change. I think it will start with a few new clothes that fit and flatter, and renewing my yoga attendance that fell off a bit in the last few months.
Repeats from last year:
- Lose 10 lbs. I said it last year, too. I was organizing pictures last night and was not happy with what I saw. I need to log my food, STICK TO a calorie count, and stop giving into drinking so much alcohol at social events.
- Come up with a more balanced/routine exercise regime. I'm hoping breaking away from the gym will help here rather than hinder. If I work out from home, it's always there, always an option, rather than thinking "oh I can't work out" when the gym is closed, since that's more and more frequent.

ETA 1/2/13: In thinking further, I really want to commit to doing more yoga in 2013. To achieve this goal, not just the abstract idea of achieving it, I've decided to commit to practicing yoga at least 3x per month. I'm even going to make a chart to post on the fridge. This will mean mostly making it to my weekly class 3x per month, but also should I get involved in a play/have rehearsals I will need to make it up by (gasp!) taking the time to do it at home.


alinnell
12-18-2012, 02:51 PM
As many of you know, I did manage to lose about 12 pounds in 2012. I'm maintaining that loss now through the holidays. I'll go on to try and lose the last few (about 10) after my vacation in January. Until then, I strive to not gain.

I do have to relish the fact that even at the weight I am now, while not happy about it, it is 15 pounds less than that when I was married almost 25 years ago. So it's all good. I just remember what 140 looked and felt like and I'd like to look and feel that again!

There will be a lot of changes for me this year. We're moving our business. My DD will be going to grad school (one possibility is in Pennsylvania, and another in Texas). And lord knows just how close her current relationship is. While I don't see her getting married just yet, there is that possibility, but with him going into the army and her going to grad school, I just don't see it. Also my DS is graduating from high school and will be going off to college. (He's gotten one acceptance so far). We'll be true empty nesters. Well, except for the animals. DS says he wants to take the cats but there's no way! And I do hope DD takes her cats when she goes off. We're babysitting them now and four cats is just too much!

Okay, so my wishes:

--lose that last 10 pounds
--get used to being empty nesters
--get serious about exercising again
--enjoy our 25th anniversary year and the Mediterranean cruise we're taking to celebrate it

Mudpie
12-18-2012, 05:29 PM
I want 20 minutes a day to just sit and be still.

Dagmar :yoga:


sontaikle
12-18-2012, 08:24 PM
In 2013 I want to continue to maintain and finally decide if I want to bulk or cut. Not quite sure what direction I want to go in! I'm eating 1800ish to cut right now, but it's more so that if I choose to indulge next week I have a cushion :lol:

I want to continue to challenge myself with my weight training. I've made some great strength gains over the year and joined a new gym with a lot of weights! I want to continue to push myself and eventually squat 2x my bodyweight. I'm up to 185lbs, so I'm on my way there! :D

The main thing I want in 2013 is to find my place professionally. I left my teaching position because I wasn't supposed to be there. I'm hoping that in 2013 I can find my place. I don't want to be miserable going to work every day.

fitmom
12-18-2012, 10:44 PM
2012 was a great year for me health and fitness-wise. I managed to not only get myself into stellar shape but gain strength too.

I'd say for 2013, I'd want to continue along the path I've been going with weight lifting and see where that takes me. I'm finally at a place where I'm truly happy with my outer appearance which is nice and I don't really care what the scale says. The main thing is that I'm feeling good in my own skin.

Hopefully, this next year will be great for all of us!

CherryPie99
12-19-2012, 09:33 AM
I am currently thinking about my hopes and dreams for 2013 (assuming the Mayans were wrong ;) ) but wanted to add some preliminary thoughts.

Some of the basics -

- Since I entered maintenance in July of this year, my goal will be to continue to maintain my weight - I had been actively trying to lose weight for 2.5 years, so this adjustment has been challenging.

- A pie in the sky wish for the year is to get a sponsor to pay for skin removal on my thighs. I know that I was beyond fortunate to get skin removed on my abdomen and around, but that makes the thighs even more noticable

- Like Megan, I want to work on not defining myself by a number on a scale.

- I hope to heal my IT Band issues and run a 1/2 marathon.


I wish everyone luck on their goals, and Megan I just wanted to say that I obviously know you only from this venue, but you seem like a wonderful person and I hope that you will get to that point of not judging but instead loving yourself ((HUGS))

freelancemomma
12-19-2012, 02:36 PM
My overarching goal for 2013 is to blast out of my comfort zone: take new professional risks, reach out to new people, and go full speed ahead on my personal projects, with the aim of integrating them into my professional life. I also need to gain better control of my irrational anxieties around my kids, which are a big drag for them.

In terms of nutrition and fitness, I hope to:
- continue to maintain my weight
- continue to work out 4-5 times per week
- fine-tune my eating plan so I'm following volumetric principles more often (not all the time).
- get a better handle on snacking and nibbling.

Freelance

saef
12-19-2012, 02:50 PM
Still thinking about this, because I take it really seriously ...

To be revisited within the next few days.

traveling michele
12-19-2012, 03:08 PM
Still thinking about this, because I take it really seriously ...

To be revisited within the next few days.

Ditto!

Shannon in ATL
12-19-2012, 04:42 PM
As I think I failed on most of my 2012 goals I also need to take 2013 seriously. And, I need to visit in on 2012 and see just how bad it was before setting these...

bargoo
12-21-2012, 10:39 AM
I have just reached 5 years of maintenance, at this time next year I want to be able to say I have reached 6 years of maintenace.
I hope to get a dog this year, quit talking about it and do it. I am not new at owning dogs but I am not good at the heartbreak that sometimes goes with it. That's true about life in general, isn't it ?

traveling michele
12-21-2012, 11:06 AM
I have just reached 5 years of maintenance, at this time next year I want to be able to say I have reached 6 years of maintenace.
I hope to get a dog this year, quit talking about it and do it. I am not new at owning dogs but I am not good at the heartbreak that sometimes goes with it. That's true about life in general, isn't it ?

I can't wait to hear all your doggie stories once you find your forever friend.

krampus
12-21-2012, 12:28 PM
2012 was a good year. I got a scale for Christmas 2011 and was almost 140 when I stepped on it. Now my upper limit excepting occasional blowouts is 125-126. I did lots of good things for my appearance and health in 2012 - recommitted to a more balanced diet (this was helped greatly by moving out of my parents' house and getting a job with regular hours), joined a gym and have gone most days since joining, started lifting, quit smoking cigarettes, and sleep 8 hours nearly every night.

The cusp of 2013 is here. I am pretty happy with my progress and would like to continue it for the rest of my life. I am hoping with continued strength gains in the gym, the appearance of my torso will continue to improve, resulting in smaller pants and more confidence in a swimsuit.

ICUwishing
12-30-2012, 09:52 PM
2012 was a major leap forward in my attitude about my weight and appearance - I accepted the process and let it work. I don't flinch or hide from the mirrors, even without clothes on. Maybe part of it's being 45 and just plain tired of beating myself up for so long, but I feel very ready to move ahead from here without wasting time staring in the rear view mirror, literally!

2013 needs to be about fitness improvements. While I may now be firmly in the healthy weight range, my HDL cholesterol has slipped and I didn't do my touchy shoulder any favors by taking a job behind a computer screen for 8 hours a day (and then spending even more time on it at night). Here's my thoughts.

Hope: To learn to enjoy moving. I have been a dedicated sofa spud for a long time - I would really like to turn that around permanently, this coming year. I want to get uncomfortable with sitting in a chair.

Dream: To see just how fit I can really be - not like bodybuilding or anything, but to reach a point of physical "grace" where everything works like it should and there's no activities that are ... daunting or scary. Such as skiing, for instance. I feel too "brittle" to risk downhill skiing. Silly, but these are real limitations in my current body.

Goal: Since a goal is just a dream with a deadline, I need to clearly define what I want to do in order to figure out what kind of a fitness plan I need to have in order to get there, and how I'm going to measure my progress. I think a trainer will be involved, at least early on. Some of the bigger waypoints will be:

Comfortably touching my toes (palms flat on floor is a "hope")
Being able to run (jog) a 5K without walking
Swim 200 continuous yards of butterfly
Doing one unassisted pullup

saef
01-01-2013, 12:08 PM
I'm going to put my goals in vaguer terms in 2013, which is contrary to what all resolution advice says . The experts all emphasize setting very concrete goals and employing visualization techniques. And I am generally one to research & implement best practices in doing stuff. Not this time ...

Also I think it would be helpful if I bumped this thread periodically, to check in how I was doing. I completely forgot that I even formulated any goals by the time the 2012 resolution thread was revived a few weeks back. If I don't check in, I won't know if I am on track.

I feel like I have been working so hard on my body that I've been neglecting my mind. After so many years of living from the neck upward, and trying to ignore three-quarters of me & thinking that portion was simply a life support system that was keeping the the brain functioning, I've been overcompensating and trying out a life that I always wondered about, one in which there was more doing & less thinking. I bought into an unreflective jock stereotype. This is not true, but I've been living that life as though it were. When I used to be reading, I was exercising, or on the stupid Internet. When I used to be at the theater or in a museum, I was buying produce or cooking. Well, theoretically, anyway, I was unreflective. I still did all that stinkin' thinkin', but my mind turned on me because it didn't have enough to play with. I wasn't getting it enough toys. I was turned inward, instead of outward, following my natural curiosity about arcane stuff.

So I am thinking my goal for 2013 is to achieve a better balance, and maybe to reignite some of my creativity, which lately goes for Internet posts rather than real creative projects. (Oh, dear, it's back to The Artist's Way ... which everyone was reading 10 years ago ... do they still? I lost mine in the flood.)

I need to go downtown more. When I hover near home is when I'm focused too much on the gym, food acquisition & preparation. When I am out on the streets, I am looking into performances & exhibitions & bookstores & etc.

That is what I want more of in my life during 2013.

Question is, can I do this and maintain my current fitness levels? I worry that I can't. Something has to get reduced to make the time for what I want more of.

CherryPie99
01-01-2013, 12:57 PM
Saef, sometimes you say exactly the things I am thinking - it's almost creepy! I was writing my blog yesterday and thinking about how I have almost neglected having a life in exchange for having a great body.

One of my goals, too, is to get back into a life - into other interests other then working out. The question for me is how to balance and how to find the time!!

Jen

freelancemomma
01-01-2013, 05:35 PM
My biggest goal for the year is to take more risks of the "feel the fear and do it anyway" variety. I also plan to take my creative work up a notch.

F.

BillBlueEyes
01-01-2013, 05:38 PM
One goal for 2013 is to get my cardio back up to snuff. The six weeks in a cast were nearly couch potato, but before that I'd slacked off. My walking is sometimes like a two year old who stops to examine each leaf.

saef
01-01-2013, 09:09 PM
Jen, I'd be surprised if we weren't often thinking along the same lines. We've both lost a heckuva lot of weight. (You more than me, though.) We're both afraid of regaining it. We both have time-consuming exercise routines & we believe they are important to our maintaining our hard-won losses, but we also have other interests. We both like cats. (Again, you more than me -- I've got none, I only share Fritz when I visit my mother.) If you grew up where you currently live, then we grew up within about an hour-long drive from each other.

In other ways, we're probably very different. I have been through a real Dante's inferno of an eating disorder (since 3FC's censoring software won't let me use its simpler name), and on most days, I can't say with any confidence that I have truly emerged from it. I am much, much better than I was, but I know I'll probably never be able to eat spontaneously, guiltlessly & with complete peace of mind. I'm always going to have that overlay of introspection & something of a struggle going on underneath, even when I decide I'll suppress it briefly and feign normality because I'm a guest eating someone's lovingly prepared food. Once you lose that childlike Eden of food & eating with complete innocence, you can never, ever go back. I'm sorry for that but I think I've got to accept it & just work with it.

saef
01-01-2013, 09:12 PM
My walking is sometimes like a two year old who stops to examine each leaf.

See, Bill, you're the opposite of me. You need to just be a body in motion sometimes. Shut off your mind. Don't think, just do. Regress & simply become an animal in flight, either preying on something else or running from a predator.

Megan1982
01-02-2013, 09:26 AM
I feel like I have been working so hard on my body that I've been neglecting my mind. After so many years of living from the neck upward, and trying to ignore three-quarters of me & thinking that portion was simply a life support system that was keeping the the brain functioning, I've been overcompensating and trying out a life that I always wondered about, one in which there was more doing & less thinking. I bought into an unreflective jock stereotype. This is not true, but I've been living that life as though it were. When I used to be reading, I was exercising, or on the stupid Internet. When I used to be at the theater or in a museum, I was buying produce or cooking. Well, theoretically, anyway, I was unreflective. I still did all that stinkin' thinkin', but my mind turned on me because it didn't have enough to play with. I wasn't getting it enough toys. I was turned inward, instead of outward, following my natural curiosity about arcane stuff.

Perhaps a commitment to yourself to do something "cultural" weekly, or monthly, or however often is more often for you in 2013? I use the term loosely. "Cultural" could certainly include the horseback riding or bird watching you've mentioned you enjoy. You spent so much of 2012 in upheaval and what seemed like "survival" mode, living upstate, refurnishing and pushing to get your home completed. I hope in 2013 you can find some of that life balance that seems so elusive to us all.

The me of several years ago can completely relate to this feeling, Saef. When I first moved to rural FL I didn't know anyone, rarely drank, and there was not much to do. Weight loss was a great "project" to keep my busy. I feel I've swung too far in the opposite direction.

I wish everyone luck on their goals, and Megan I just wanted to say that I obviously know you only from this venue, but you seem like a wonderful person and I hope that you will get to that point of not judging but instead loving yourself ((HUGS))

Thanks Jen, your comment didn't go unnoticed.

Bargoo, I hope you find a furry friend who feels "right" this year. I have a theory that this happens when it's supposed to. Both of my dogs as an adult have found me at the perfect times.

Balance and getting out of our comfort zones seem to be common themes amongst our various goals. Here's to reaching our goals and self-improvement in 2013!

traveling michele
01-02-2013, 06:54 PM
My goals for 2013.....
I've been thinking about this for weeks and need to get something written down before I forget and don't post any like last year.

I love Saef's idea of bumping up this thread periodically so we can all check in on our progress.

Like many others, balance needs to be foremost in my life. I would love to be able to find balance in my workouts/food/life while still being at my ideal weight. This is much easier said than done.

Last year I tried to lessen some of my rigidity and I gained weight. I am starting 2013 much higher than I want to be. My problem is that when I lessen my rigidity, I go too far! I need to reign things in and not let them spiral out of control.

My goals for this year are:

1. Return to and maintain my "ideal" weight, which is 118-120.

2. Workouts-- last year my goal was to work out 310 days. I haven't done the final tally but I was close but didn't quite make it. I think this year I will count number of workouts rather than days. Some days I workout twice and I was only counting that once.

Therefore my workout goal is to workout a total of 320 times, with at least 200 of those times being Bikram Yoga.

3. My last goal is more abstract, but very important. I want to think less/obsess less about my weight. It gets into my head way too much. I can't let my moods and self opinions be so affected by what the scale says each morning. I know this one is the hardest one for me.

saef
01-03-2013, 09:47 AM
I have to say this:

All of you who post on this forum, yes, all of you, are wonderful people.

And all of you are too hard on yourselves.

ETA: Our resolution in 2013 should be to be kinder to ourselves & not just to drive ourselves in areas where we feel we are not quite up to snuff.

bargoo
01-03-2013, 10:03 AM
I have to say this:

All of you who post on this forum, yes, all of you, are wonderful people.

And all of you are too hard on yourselves.
Including our dear friend saef.

saef
01-03-2013, 10:16 AM
Bargoo, yes, I agree. It's something we've all got in common here. Which is probably a really big clue to us about the eating and body image and weight loss and maintenance thing.

krampus
01-03-2013, 12:19 PM
I want to step things up professionally. Too long have I coasted (and am coasting right now) - I need to take more initiative in my job, instead of sitting around thinking "there's nothing to do" I need to MAKE things to do.

I also want to continue training and do some serious hikes this summer.

Megan1982
01-03-2013, 12:47 PM
Saef, I agree! (With Bargoo, too.) I'm tying "being kinder to myself" to my goal to improve my self-esteem and self-image, it fits right in there.

ICUwishing
01-03-2013, 01:09 PM
I made the "being kinder" to myself a major goal for last year, and can testify that with a lot of practice, it gets easier. What I tried to do is that when the negative trashtalk started, I would interrupt it and ask what language I would use if I were talking to a friend who needed support? Why was I talking to myself in a way that I would NEVER consider using on another human being? It does make a difference. You will see yourself as a person with value, who deserves to be treated with respect. Even better, it makes it much easier to identify the emotional vampires in our lives - those vile creatures who live off the power and happiness that they suck out of us. And, best yet, cutting them off from that power (with a cheerful smile) is like pouring salt on a slug, and it's very gratifying to watch. :D 2012 was a very good year for me, in this category.

losermom
01-03-2013, 01:40 PM
Agreed! Trash talking about our less than perfect behaviors is something we'd never say to each other. We need to treat ourselves as well as we treat each other and those that we love irl.

My goals for 2013:

1. Do more pampering for myself. I find that the more I pamper myself physically the less I aim to pamper myself with food.
2. Socialize more. I say this every year. I don't know if it's my age, my location or our weather, but it's hard to get people to do stuff with me. I got tired of being the only hostess so I've slacked off on it. Why do I take rejection so personally?
3. Get on the scale daily and not allow the number to mess with my head. When I don't weigh daily it's easier to deny, deny, deny.

Steph7409
01-03-2013, 09:21 PM
I feel like something of an interloper here, since I haven't made it to my goal weight, but wanted to say that this thread has been very moving and inspirational for me. So, thanks.

As for being too hard on ourselves:

It's something we've all got in common here. Which is probably a really big clue to us about the eating and body image and weight loss and maintenance thing.

Word.

losermom, ditto to every word of your post. When I was really working my plan last winter, I indulged myself by going to bed before midnight and taking naps on Sunday afternoons rather than by eating. It was lovely and I need to get back to that.

I'm also making a real effort to be more social (and it is an effort). I've joined a couple of MeetUp groups and have a couple of outings planned with total strangers. And I've resigned myself to being the only one who ever hosts anything. The upside: less driving.

Good luck to all in 2013.

alinnell
01-03-2013, 09:39 PM
Steph~interlopers are WELCOME!!!!! You've come a long way and don't ever feel like you don't belong! As the rest of will attest to--once a loser, always a loser and once you've lost and maintained a one pound lose, you are a maintainer.

WELCOME!!!!!!!!!!

bargoo
01-03-2013, 09:40 PM
Steph, you are a maintainer, you have lost 87 pounds, that is outstanding ! You are welcome to join us.

losermom
01-04-2013, 09:10 AM
I feel like something of an interloper here, since I haven't made it to my goal weight, but wanted to say that this thread has been very moving and inspirational for me. So, thanks.

As for being too hard on ourselves:



Word.

losermom, ditto to every word of your post. When I was really working my plan last winter, I indulged myself by going to bed before midnight and taking naps on Sunday afternoons rather than by eating. It was lovely and I need to get back to that.

I'm also making a real effort to be more social (and it is an effort). I've joined a couple of MeetUp groups and have a couple of outings planned with total strangers. And I've resigned myself to being the only one who ever hosts anything. The upside: less driving.

Good luck to all in 2013.

Steph, in no way are you an interloper of any kind. The minute you maintained a 1 pound loss you became a maintainer. Welcome! I'm not a very good poster, but I do read a lot.

Regarding the hosting, you're probably right. I don't get it though. It's not like my house is super nice or anything. Most of my friends live in much nicer homes and neighborhoods and are probably better cooks than I am. And you're right about the driving. That way I don't have to worry about how much I drink. :devil:

saef
01-04-2013, 09:21 AM
Steph, NOBODY is an interloper.

Life is hard. How else are we all gonna get through it okay, if we don't make friends and help one another?

I'm another one who isolates herself. Partly it's from being an only child & being good at amusing myself. Partly it's the effort of maintenance -- I work out alone, I shop & prepare food alone. And partly it's that really, really annoying problem that social gatherings always involve food, and people who are together with other people & happy usually think it's time to indulge, and the herd mentality of giving one another permission "to be bad" (in the cute way that women sometimes talk about it) is not good for me.

Where are the people who meet up to go for a hike instead of to have a huge heavy dinner with wine? Where are the people who'd go horseback riding with me & not require a slice of pizza afterward? Must find these people in 2013. Because I need more friends to help me get through this life.

Mudpie
01-04-2013, 10:11 AM
Steph, NOBODY is an interloper.

Life is hard. How else are we all gonna get through it okay, if we don't make friends and help one another?

I'm another one who isolates herself. Partly it's from being an only child & being good at amusing myself. Partly it's the effort of maintenance -- I work out alone, I shop & prepare food alone. And partly it's that really, really annoying problem that social gatherings always involve food, and people who are together with other people & happy usually think it's time to indulge, and the herd mentality of giving one another permission "to be bad" (in the cute way that women sometimes talk about it) is not good for me.

Where are the people who meet up to go for a hike instead of to have a huge heavy dinner with wine? Where are the people who'd go horseback riding with me & not require a slice of pizza afterward? Must find these people in 2013. Because I need more friends to help me get through this life.

I agree with all of this 100%. My problem is I'm too beat from the dogwalking to do anything during the week. I don't drink alcohol so that further complicates socializing (all the other dogwalkers drink so I organized breakfasts as get togethers). I also don't really have the time or energy or money for hobbies.

That leaves??? Church has been suggested but I'm not religious - SIGH. And DH is quite vehemently atheist.

Dagmar :?:

ICUwishing
01-04-2013, 12:56 PM
Where are the people who meet up to go for a hike instead of to have a huge heavy dinner with wine? Where are the people who'd go horseback riding with me & not require a slice of pizza afterward? Must find these people in 2013. Because I need more friends to help me get through this life.

Saef, I agree 100%. I'm a little better off because I do have friends already who are very active - they just also happen to be foodies and I think because I've been such a, um, stationary being for so long, that they have stopped asking me to do stuff with them, and we eat instead. Never gave it a thought until you made this post. I bet they silently wish I would offer to come out and play, instead of just go to dinner. :) Resolution: Play more.

Shannon in ATL
01-04-2013, 01:18 PM
I have to say this:

All of you who post on this forum, yes, all of you, are wonderful people.

And all of you are too hard on yourselves.

ETA: Our resolution in 2013 should be to be kinder to ourselves & not just to drive ourselves in areas where we feel we are not quite up to snuff.

I just had to read and reread and reread this thread again before I could reply to it.

Yes, we are all too hard on ourselves. Every one of us.

Steph - not an interloper at all. Welcome.

Becky et al - I also have some friends who would love to go on active outings, yet we always seem to make 'sit and eat' plans. Must get better about that.

Losermom - can I just use your goals? ;) Love them. :)

Michele - I see myself in so much that you write. I also relaxed this year and have gotten lost in the process. Maybe this year we can both find our balance again.

Back in a few minutes with my official 'goals, hopes and dreams for 2013' post. I don't like the word resolution, I've failed at too many in the past.

Shannon in ATL
01-04-2013, 01:37 PM
Okay...

2012 has been hard. I need 2013 to be better.

Goals -
1) to be able to touch my toes again by the end of the year - I got there two years ago, but let the yoga slide in 2012 so the ability went away. To get to that goal, I'm going to have to do more yoga. I'm not going to say how much more specifically in a goal, just more.

2) Get my pullups back - another skill I let go in 2012

3) Get back down to a maintenance range where my clothes fit and I feel good about myself. In my head I see that as 130-133, but I may find that I can adjust that if I get close to it again.

4) As I said above, get my balance back. Everywhere.

Now... how am I going to do these things?

I want to remember the things I like about myself. I want to renew my passion for me and the things around me. I want to learn how to loosen my restrictions without losing them completely. I need to relearn moderation and remind myself that I don't need instant gratification. To remember that it is okay to stop eating when I'm full, even if there is food left on the plate or candy in the bag. To get back to exercise, as it makes me feel better about myself and the energy it gives me makes the other things I want to do much easier. I will not reward myself without food. I won't eat out as much and will remember the joy I find in cooking new things.

I will find a balance between being so hard on myself that I close up under the demands of perfection and being stern enough that I have some follow through. I will remember that I have resources here and other places who can help me with this motivation sometimes, that I thrive when I'm sharing my successes and my failures.

I'll look for the things that made me do this in the first place and tap back into them.

I'll do everything I can to stop letting the minutia cover up the big picture.

Steph7409
01-04-2013, 07:01 PM
Thanks, all, for the warm welcome. I'm always trying to find where I fit in.



I will find a balance between being so hard on myself that I close up under the demands of perfection and being stern enough that I have some follow through.

I just posted almost this exact same sentiment on another thread. I find it hard to find that balance between being too hard on myself and being too self-indulgent.

Saef, there's a great state park somewhere south of Kingston (a friend took me there so I've forgotten the name) that I'd be happy to meet you at. It's got a bunch of carriage trails that go around a lake and is quite lovely. I too would like to find people to do more active stuff with but I don't like being cold, so I'm waiting for spring!

I think my overarching goal for this year is to simply be more active, to be more of a participant in life and less of an observer. I'm going to be 55 this year - not ancient, but old enough to stop frittering away my time. I want to go to NYC and visit some museums, I want to learn some new crafts, I want to run a 5K, I want to volunteer at the food bank. And so I shall!

traveling michele
01-05-2013, 11:17 AM
It looks like Steph and Saef need to meet up for some active socializing!

Shannon-- I agree-- we are quite similar in many ways.

Maybe someday we can plan a maintainer's meetup/vacation somewhere in the world to meet and be active!