UK Fat Chicks - so much to lose

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11-11-2012, 08:23 PM
Hi, Im new on here. Ive tried to diet before, but am starting again, Im going to follow slimming world, I have the diet, but dont want to go to the classes. Anyway, I started at the gym today, and decided to weigh myself, i felt so depressed afterwards, Im 20 stone, Ive never been this much ever. I know i can make changes, and get back in control, but really need some encouragement. I suffer with back pain and pain in my legs, and know this is due to my weight. Feel really daunted by the challenge ahead. Maggie

Misti in Seattle
11-11-2012, 10:34 PM
Hi Maggie. Congrats on your desire to get started. :welcome3: You can do it! We are all in the same boat here!!

11-12-2012, 01:27 AM

I have found it better to focus on small changes I could live with long term and add them up as I go along.

A little here, a little there, a little somewhere else, has led me to year of maintaining. It's not been a perfect journey, but I've done it!

Congrats on embarking on a new life! A bit here a bit there, you'll get there!:hug::carrot:

mountain walker
11-12-2012, 07:01 AM
Hi Maggie,
As you can see from my ticker I started wayyy heavier than you are now.....and I had been up over 23 stone for a long time. There is a support group for us around 300lb on 3fc. I know you are less than that but there is some really good help and advice and some members that have lost alot more than me.
All I can say is that I focused on the long term and health goals rather than "gotta lose 5 stone in 2 months" which is the mentality I had previously and why all my diets failed. If I have a bad day or few days now I try to be a bit more philosphical about it rather than convince myself I am a failure.
Go for small achievable goals rather than "OMG 10 stone ( or whatever) to lose I will NEVER do it" I don't beast myself at the gym 5 times a week I can't afford it and it isn't practical for me for several reasons. But I walk my dogs every single day and have increased from a very slow 0.25 of a mile to a quite fast 2.6 miles a day with more if I have the time.
You have made the biggest step by actually starting your journey in the first place!
Good luck.
Oh and plan your meals and shopping!

11-12-2012, 01:05 PM

The big picture can be incredibly overwhelming to look at. Setting a TON of mini-goals helped me with that! It's a good way to break it up and focus on smaller chunks of weight, plus you get to celebrate successes more often which helps keep your morale up!

You got this!

11-12-2012, 01:34 PM
Hi advice to you is, "Don't think about your final goal". Pick a small goal and focus on that. Sometimes focusing on how far you've got to go can really keep you from getting started. I kept gaining weight because every time I thought about how much I had to lose, I put off starting my diet for another day and another day.

Also, let's say it will take you a year to get to a good place. The year is going to pass whether or not you commit to your diet. So ask yourself, in a year, do you want to be proud of your progress or wishing you had stuck to your plan?

Learning 2 Live
11-12-2012, 06:21 PM
Patience Grasshopper...

I agree with the others who said that you shouldn't focus on how much weight you want to lose overall. Definitely start with mini goals. Or if you get too obsessive about the numbers (I do) just focus on your weekly goals. My weekly goals consist of drinking enough water, getting enough sleep, exercising at least 4 days a week and eating out no more than 3 times a week. Sometimes you just have to take it one week at a time, or maybe even one day at a time.

They say it takes 3 weeks of doing something before it becomes a habit. So just create goals one at a time and add on when you feel comfortable. Don't overwhelm yourself. Running a race can only be done one step at a time. So don't focus on the finish line just yet. Focus on making those first steps and go from there.

Oh yeah and NEVER GIVE UP. It will happen eventually.

11-12-2012, 06:32 PM
I agree with what others have said. Sometimes the "Big Picture" can seem overwhelming. I focus on each day. I plan for the day ahead. If you slip don't throw in the towel, just keep moving forward. You can't change the past, you can only improve the future!

11-13-2012, 05:02 PM
Hey Maggie

I'm restarting a weight loss journey. I originally lost 8 stone to get to 12 stone and slowly 4 crept back and I've been yoyo-ing between 16 - 17 stone for a year or so. I'm also following slimming world but not going to classes.

So I need to get 4 stone down but I'm going to focus on half a stone at a time... Setting small goals and fun rewards...

Good luck - I only joined today and it seems so friendly

11-14-2012, 10:31 AM
Hi Maggie :)

If you look at it as a lifestyle change instead of a diet it can make it seem less of a challenge. I started at 240lbs and at that weight could not imagine being able to get any less than past the 'obese' BMI - so I picked 178lbs as my goal weight, instead of going to 150lbs (normal BMI cut-off). It makes it less daunting and a lot more encouraging to see your progress on a weight loss ticker if you split it up into two or more big milestones.

I've now got past my first ticker of obese->overweight BMI and started on my second ticker towards the overweight->normal BMI. I'm planning for my third ticker to be towards maintenance weight (somewhere in the middle of the normal BMI range). It makes me feel amazing to reach a milestone when I get to the end of a ticker! :) xx

11-14-2012, 10:42 AM
:carrot::carrot::carrot:Welcome Maggie
I try to focus on one day at a time,but mostly I go hour by hour.
First make it through breast fast then midday ,lunch ,dinner and the dreaded Evening.Thank God I made it through another day.
Somedays are much harder then others and not quiet sure way.
Find what works for you everyone has different preferences.
I lurked here along time before joining but I was on Ideal Protein which I love
Good Luck

11-14-2012, 12:56 PM
Who can lose over 100lbs? No one? Who can lose a pound? Everyone.

Who can do it for a year? No one. Who can do it one day at a time? Everyone.

11-26-2012, 03:09 PM
Hi Maggie,
It's daunting to start with but just think - today is the very last day EVER - you will be that weight, by tomorrow you will be a few ounces less, by your next weigh in, a pound or more....
Good Luck

12-29-2012, 09:33 PM
Oh yh I found ppl from the uk lool a newbie to this ..but need to lose like 6 stone I know people hav a lot more to lose than me but I find it so daunting but I really want to be slim by the time I'm 21 that's about a year and 3months to lose 6 stone............aHhhhhhhh!!!!

01-06-2013, 07:59 PM

I only joined today but am also feeling daunted by how much I need to lose. Reading through posts on here tho, the idea of small goals seems to be the way forward.

I hope your doing well so far and am hoping i will too :)


01-06-2013, 09:36 PM
I'm new too and am at my heaviest ever of 204 lbs on a barely 5ft frame. I need to lose around 70lbs, which just seems impossible at the moment. The most I've ever lost is 40lbs, but that all went back on! And it took forever. So I'm feeling pretty daunted by the task ahead.


01-07-2013, 09:58 AM
Hi Siobhan

I feel just the same when I look at the big picture, but as so many people have said on here, I think we should aim for small goals and can then be pleased when we reach them.
Ive been too embaressed to put my weight on here as yet, but am working up to it! I'm going to have another look around the site and decide on a small goal to aim for.

Best of luck


01-07-2013, 07:36 PM
I've found setting small goals is what has helped me get to where I am. even though I still have a long way to go.

Welcome to your journey Maggie!

01-08-2013, 08:55 AM
I've decided to floow everyones advice here and not think of it as a 100lbs, but losing 5lbs 20 times. It seems much more do able like that!my first weigh in this evening which I'm oddly looking forward to :)

01-08-2013, 10:44 AM
Best of luck for your weigh in.

01-11-2013, 08:10 AM
Itís really not easy to deal with weight issues but with proper action to control it and encouragement and support from your friends and family you will get through this.