Okay, So here is the thing. I am currently on WW and have lost a total of 27 pounds so far and im still going, but the other day I was having a conversation with my boyfriend (in another state, so we dont get to see each other much but we do as much as often) and i am going to go see him this weekend and a couple months ago he had said that he wants me on top of him and so I was thinking i'd do that for him this weekend, like surprise him, but im really nervous. He is very thin, i've had 2 children and so lets just say, i have jiggly spots which i HATE! How can I make myself comfortable enough to do this for him? Will I hurt him? Whats the best way I can do this and get over this fear and just enjoy myself? PLease any advice would be great!!!!
You will not hurt him. I was nearly 200lbs heavier than you are now and I've never injured a man that way!
As for jiggles and confidence? I promise he won't be looking at rolls or jiggles. His focus will be on your face and your mammary area If you're still horribly uncomfortable at the thought, put on your best dress, the one you feel sexiest in and just leave it on. You're covered, you look good, and you're having fun.
Don't let this hold you back. You need to be proud of how far your body has come, and know your boyfriend wants you, jiggles and all.
I think you will be pleasantly surprised! I feel I have more control...ummm....of a lot of things when I am on top. You will not hurt him. Not sure what you envision, but...st the risk of giving too much info....I never lay on top of hubby more of an on my knees kind of thing, or on my knees with my hands balancing by his shoulders. This way my full weight is never directly on top of him. have a great weekend! ;-)
The majority of your weight could be on your knees/lower legs and candle light is super flattering Also a nice babydoll can be super sexy and cover the tummy, if that's what you are uncomfortable with.
thank you ladies... any more ideas... Its not my first time "on top" but with him it is...i dont know why i am so nervous but i am. gah. I know i shouldnt worry too much on it though...
thank you ladies... any more ideas... Its not my first time "on top" but with him it is...i dont know why i am so nervous but i am. gah. I know i shouldnt worry too much on it though...
I had the same concern about a year ago when I had intimate relationships with a guy I hadn't been with in 12 years. Anyways, you know what I did that worked great? I bought one of those really sexy black.....gosh what would you call them......it's made like a one-piece swim suit, but it's sheer, really sexy, and holds you in....and the best part...it snaps loose at the crotch! So, when you're "in the moment", you can just un-snap the bottom and the rest of you (your tummy) stays tucked in. I've had two babies myself so I know what you're talking about (the jiggly stomach lol). This worked PERFECTLY for me. You can secure that midsection and enjoy the ride!
Last edited by angieand2girls; 11-08-2012 at 09:32 PM.
I started out with wearing a top. It made me feel way more comfortable and "secure" as it prevented the sight of the jiggling. After I became more confident, the shirt was not needed anymore lol!
Girl, I've had 2 kids, and lots of my parts jiggle. My boyfriend is more focused on the fact that he's got a girl on top of him doing naughty things than what's jiggling or covered in stretch marks. (which there are a lot of stretch marks too!)
I say go for it! Be confident! Forget about what jiggles and sags or crinkles up! No one is perfect. But trust me, if you go at him with confidence and a sense of fun, he'll LOVE it. You aren't going to hurt him. Have fun!!
Last edited by Pint Sized Terror; 11-08-2012 at 11:19 PM.
Oh girl, if he wants you on top, he knows what hej's got and what he wants and you're not going to squish him. You just climb right on top of him, laugh when you're getting situated, have FUN with it, let him watch you because that's what men want. I might be exceptionally blessed, no I AM exceptionally blessed, but the one place I know that my husband is crazy about me is when I'm in THAT spot and letting him just enjoy me while I enjoy myself. If your boyfriend is anything like my husband, he loves your jiggly parts and it'll be a nice change for him to be able to relax and play. Good on you for your progress and wanting to surprise him. You're awesome!
Last edited by valarielala; 11-12-2012 at 12:29 AM.
Men are usually turned on when their women take this position. Idon't think there is anyway you will hurt him. He will be too excited to notice if there is even the slightest chance of discomfort. I was about 230 with my BF back in the 90s, he was about 130, he never complained and liked me on top. i think the majority of guys like their women on top.
You will definitely not hurt him. I have a male friend (he was about 180lb at the time) that had a 350lb woman ride him and he loved every minute of it. From what he told me, she was his best sexual experience lol.
Overweight and sex...HELP!!
Also a nice babydoll can be super sexy and cover the tummy, if that's what you are uncomfortable with.
