Living Maintenance - Maintainers Weekly Chat November 5 - November 11




BillBlueEyes
11-05-2012, 05:20 AM
I am so happy that Halloween is over.

Yesterday I brought the remaining 4.5 pounds from my 5 pounds of candy to an event where it was gobbled by folks who hadn't already gorged on the stuff. And I never had a single 'fun-sized' bar - none, nada, zero. A good show for me to begin the eating season.

Only Thanksgiving, a wedding, Christmas, and New Years left to complete the year, LOL.

Now could use upping my exercise a notch; need more cardio. DW can read while she works the elliptical - perhaps I can learn to do that.


Mudpie
11-05-2012, 06:28 AM
Good morning all! I think I finally have things under control enough at my other house that I can start thinking about what I'm eating again. I'm up 1.8 lbs. since I last weighed myself in October so that's not bad.

Bill Good job with the Halloween candy! I did not fare as well :o. I can't imagine doing anything on an elliptical :faint: except maybe watching TV - tried one at a client's house.

My prime job today (aside from the dogs) is to get the buzzard's (formerly known as my father) transfer started. He actually called my cousin yesterday and agreed to it. :yikes:

Hope everyone is adjusting well to daylight savings. Mudpie is not so neither am I - we were up at 3:20. :tired:

Good week all!

Dagmar :yoga:

WardHog
11-05-2012, 08:10 AM
Good morning Bill and Dagmar. I stayed in bed until my alarm went off, but my son was up at 5. I guess it's better than yesterday, when he got up at 4:30. I hate time changes.


Megan1982
11-05-2012, 09:12 AM
Only Thanksgiving, a wedding, Christmas, and New Years left to complete the year, LOL.

"Only", right? 'Tis the season. *sigh* I weighed myself Friday to discover that I haven't gained weight. I've maintained. I've been eating some sweets at work as lots of people have been bringing in baked goods and my resistance is nil, but I guess I'm too busy and tired to eat at night. And I have successfully stayed away from the Halloween candy. Anyway chaos will reign supreme this week, etc etc. :blah: Opening night for the play is Friday night so we have rehearsal every night this week, and starting Wednesday through the weekend I have an intensive sampling campaign beginning at work. Not my choice to schedule life like this. My focus will actually be getting enough sleep. I have to drive about 4 hours each day and when I do this I get so tired it can by scary.

Falling back made it much easier for me to get up today. I've really been struggling to wake up in the dark. Finding out I had an "extra" hour to walk the dog yesterday morning before I had to head to the theatre to supervise set building felt like a little gift. Of course yes, the dog is going to be ready to go a little earlier too.

Dagmar, GREAT job staying in control w your dad!!!

Bill, way to stay away from the candy! I read on the elliptical and actually look forward to it. I let myself read more "fluff" at the gym only, and it keeps me on the machines longer. It is helpful to have a book reader stand to help keep pages open, or there are clips they make that help clip pages open so you don't have to keep your hand on it constantly.

Have a good week everyone.

bargoo
11-05-2012, 09:22 AM
dagmar, it will be a couple of weeks before my body is ready to accept the time change.

saef
11-05-2012, 09:28 AM
My dilemma this week: I have a half tank of gas left, because fortunately, I filled it before the hurricane.

For several days now, I have been driving around and through the lengthy lines for gas, trying to run errands without getting caught in the traffic jams that they are causing. Waiting an hour or more is not uncommon. And sometimes by the time you get near the pumps, they run out and have to close.

On Sunday, there was a line of people waiting with gas cans at the Mobil and people walking down the street lugging cans to God knows where.

Usually, I could arrange to work from home all week, but unfortunately, I have to drive into Connecticut for two consecutive days to interview two job candidates.

By Wednesday, I need to find a gas station that is open and isn't out of fuel, and wait in line to refill the tank. I am thinking maybe that's what I'll do on my lunch hour in Connecticut -- where residents are developing a hatred of cars with out-of-state plates who are coming from NY & NJ to fill their tanks and recreating the gas lines that exist in the places from which they're fleeing.

We are living in a very weird time down here.

bargoo
11-05-2012, 09:36 AM
Saef, I have a Keurig coffee brewer and get my coffee mailed to me. I got an email from them , their main distribution plant is right in the area of the worst flooding, shipping may be delayed. Really, I don't mind sitting here dry and safe in California. I also got an email from WebMD they have over 700 employees that are affected by the flooding.
My suggestion to those people in Connecticut who are annoyed by gas lines....ADJUST !!!!

alinnell
11-05-2012, 10:37 AM
I'm trying to get the animals used to the time change. It felt wonderful to wake up this morning at 3 AM knowing I could "sleep in" until 5 AM (the former 6 AM). The dogs appreciate that it is light out and they can romp in the yard for a while before going in to work. The orange cat will take some time, though. He started bothering us at 3:30 and didn't quite take the hint that we weren't getting up.

I can only imagine the difficulty with gas lines in the storm ravaged area. It is important to keep your tank full when anticipating disaster, but once it's over, it's impossible to keep it full. My new car, while not the best on gas mileage, has a larger tank and I can go 2 to 2 1/2 weeks between fill-ups. My old car required weekly fill-ups. I prefer this although I don't like the price tag--my last fill up was over $80. Thankfully gas prices have gone down since then!

I'm taking Chico to the vet this afternoon. It's been 6 months since his amputation. Keep your fingers crossed that his white count is better this month.

bargoo
11-05-2012, 10:52 AM
Allison, good luck with Chico's exam m hope it is all good news. I went to a pet fair Saturday. There was a beautiful little boy there, a poodle in a wheelchair. He doesn't seem hindered by it all.

Mudpie
11-05-2012, 11:27 AM
Allison, good luck with Chico's exam m hope it is all good news. I went to a pet fair Saturday. There was a beautiful little boy there, a poodle in a wheelchair. He doesn't seem hindered by it all.

As long as their bowel/bladder function is not affected most dogs will adjust readily to "wheels". Most dogs adjust to just about anything, as long as their handlers are confident with them and inspire confidence in their dogs.

Dagmar

bargoo
11-05-2012, 11:29 AM
As long as their bowel/bladder function is not affected most dogs will adjust readily to "wheels". Most dogs adjust to just about anything, as long as their handlers are confident with them and inspire confidence in their dogs.

Dagmar
I did hear someplace that dogs are not like us , in the event of an amputation for instance, they will wake up notice something is different and will figure out how to make it work.

alinnell
11-05-2012, 11:37 AM
I did hear someplace that dogs are not like us , in the event of an amputation for instance, they will wake up notice something is different and will figure out how to make it work.

That is exactly how my vet explained it. I know Chico has adapted quite well. Interestingly, he does better when running or trotting that with walking more slowly. At first he was unable to get himself up off the floor if he was laying on the amputated side, so we'd have to help him. He's learned how to do it himself now. He does slip and fall more easily, though.

bargoo
11-06-2012, 10:40 AM
Weight still holding this AM. Just got out of the shower as soon as my hair dries I am going to go vote. I still like to go to the polls to cast my vote. I hope everybody that is eligible to vote does so..After voting off to shopping.

traveling michele
11-06-2012, 11:20 AM
Weight still holding this AM. Just got out of the shower as soon as my hair dries I am going to go vote. I still like to go to the polls to cast my vote. I hope everybody that is eligible to vote does so..After voting off to shopping.

Voting is happening in "my" library. I got to school before 7 and there are lines here. Many older volunteers who seem a little stumped by the technology-- the lines are barely moving-- they have some incessant beeping that they can't figure out how to turn off...... going to be a long day for me.

I vote absentee-- it's an option in California-- I love it..... can't wait for the results tonight.

alinnell
11-06-2012, 11:39 AM
I vote absentee-- it's an option in California-- I love it..... can't wait for the results tonight.

Me, too. A couple weekends ago, DD was home from college and she and I poured over the voter pamphlet. She voted, then I voted, then DH voted a week later. It was nice to be able to do it on my own time without feeling the pressure of people in line waiting for my spot in the booth.

Ugh. I have a "My Yahoo!" page and on it I get a daily recipe from Epicurious. Often they don't appeal to me, but today's Linguine with Clam Sauce was intriguing--until I read the ingredients which included "1/2 cup plus 1 tablespoon of olive oil." Can you even imagine how greasy that would be? Gross.

Megan1982
11-06-2012, 01:39 PM
I voted today. I was going to vote early but didn't quite get there, but also there's no need in this rural area. I voted at 8:00 AM and was the 27th person cast a ballot. There were 3 people voting, but no line at all. That's my kind of voting! I was very glad I researched the amendments ahead of time. There are 11 on the FL ballot and a few of them are incredibly long.

Michele, you always talk about how many other people use your library for various functions. Do you have a walled-off office, or is your work station out in the open? That really would be a constant inconvenience! I don't blame you at all for being annoyed by it.

Allison, one of my family's favorite recipes is Clam Spaghetti. My mom said she originally got it from a cookbook years ago that had 1 cup of olive oil (I think a full cup - if I'm remembering her story right) for 1 lb of pasta. She reduced it to 1/2 cup that became "the standard" family recipe, and I probably use about 1/4 cup or just over when I make it. Olive oil can be reduced, and it's still really tasty! (However it's so delicious that portion sizes are tough to control.) We have made this recipe for friends over the years and now our friends make it for their friends, etc. I still get texts from college friends that say "making your clam spaghetti tonight!"

How did Chico's vet visit go?

Last night was my cast's first night in the theatre with a real set. I think it's going to come together! I have a few errands to run today, get some last-minute picture frames, trash bags, make copies of playbill, random things like that, but I think it's going to work. There is some tension between one of the actors and the rest of the cast & crew that I'm trying to defuse before it gets serious. Have a great Tuesday all!

alinnell
11-06-2012, 01:45 PM
How did Chico's vet visit go?

All good. His white count had fallen from over 5000 to 2100 last month, but is back up to 4800 yesterday. His liver enzymes are a bit elevated and if that continues next month, they'll probably have to change his oral chemo drug.

BillBlueEyes
11-06-2012, 01:50 PM
I've voted. Some helpful folks were passing out hot coffee and donut holes. I passed on both - never did figure out which candidate was paying for that.

We had some six amendments to vote upon with violent arguments on both sides of several.

Hope they're able to vote in New York - weather sounds bad down there.

Glad your performance is coming together, Megan. Cast tensions seems to come with the stage.

traveling michele
11-06-2012, 02:28 PM
Michele, you always talk about how many other people use your library for various functions. Do you have a walled-off office, or is your work station out in the open? That really would be a constant inconvenience! I don't blame you at all for being annoyed by it.



I'm right out in the open. :devil:

There was a gentleman (I use the phrase loosely) that was irate about voting. He wanted a guarantee that his vote would be hand-counted. He said the machines have a margin of error of 1.5% and he wanted assurance that his vote would be correct. He wouldn't leave until an official came as he wanted to fill out a formal complaint. I guess some people have nothing better to do.

There is still a horrible beeping but someone is at least looking at it now.

I'm glad Chico's bloodwork looks better Allison!:)

alinnell
11-06-2012, 02:43 PM
I guess some people have nothing better to do.

That is how we feel about the guy who is suing us. Back story: we built a house (did the windows, doors, mirrors, shower doors, etc.). Man buys house. Man decides he'd prefer part of the garage turned into a guest house. Work was done. Bill was sent. Man didn't want to pay, decides to sue the builder--builder in turn sues all subs (us included). Fast forward 5 years. This has still not gone to court AND he's decided to also use the city, the developer of the country club and his new next door neighbors who want to build their house on the vacant lot. Meanwhile his wife divorced him and is now on "our" side and providing testimony against him. Meanwhile, he owns I believe NINE other houses--ALL of which he has lawsuits going on with. Talk about having nothing better to do!

Shannon in ATL
11-06-2012, 03:15 PM
I voted last week as I had classes scheduled all day today. The lines here have been inconsistent. My poll site has had long lines all day, but some others have reported no lines at all.

alinnell
11-06-2012, 03:57 PM
You know, it just dawned on me that NONE of us has said one thing pro or con for either presidential candidate.

I like that.

We are all proud to vote and promote each other's right to vote, and that's how it should be.

I belong to another chat board where there are some really foul things being said about both sides.

THIS board is much better!!!! Thanks!

Shannon in ATL
11-06-2012, 04:19 PM
I wish I had a 'like' button for your comment, Allison. :)

bargoo
11-06-2012, 04:33 PM
We didn't say anything about the candidates because 3fc told us not to.

saef
11-06-2012, 04:44 PM
Yes, but it's also because no one "forgot themselves" and violated that policy.

I'm amused that I have to choose between waiting in line for gas or waiting in line to vote, because I probably can't accomplish both after work this evening. Of course, I'm choosing to vote & delay getting the tank filled till sometime tomorrow, if I can.

Shannon in ATL
11-06-2012, 05:57 PM
I agree Saef - I'm on a couple of other forums where we asked people not to talk specifics about the elections. I'm a mod on one of the HR ones and people continually 'forgot' that we had asked them not to stir stuff up politically. I deleted a lot of stuff the last few weeks. :)

Mudpie
11-06-2012, 08:18 PM
That is how we feel about the guy who is suing us. Back story: we built a house (did the windows, doors, mirrors, shower doors, etc.). Man buys house. Man decides he'd prefer part of the garage turned into a guest house. Work was done. Bill was sent. Man didn't want to pay, decides to sue the builder--builder in turn sues all subs (us included). Fast forward 5 years. This has still not gone to court AND he's decided to also use the city, the developer of the country club and his new next door neighbors who want to build their house on the vacant lot. Meanwhile his wife divorced him and is now on "our" side and providing testimony against him. Meanwhile, he owns I believe NINE other houses--ALL of which he has lawsuits going on with. Talk about having nothing better to do!

Mental illness comes in many forms.

Dagmar :dizzy:

Mudpie
11-06-2012, 08:24 PM
So the buzzard called here today. He said he'd left his "intimate things" behind last week and demanded that I bring his glasses and address book to the palliative care place.

I was so taken aback that he would dare call, not apologize for the damage to my house, and then demand I run an errand that I said almost nothing.

I said I was busy working and would see what I could do. No address book - don't want any additional escape assistants recruited from same. I will drop the glasses eventually at the nursing station. I will never visit him again but I can drop off the occasional item.

Dagmar :eek:

ChrisMohr
11-07-2012, 10:11 AM
Hi gang,
Today is my 59th birthday. I had a Halloween blowout but am mostly maintaining. Today I want to eat moderately. I'll enjoy whatever I want within reason at my party this Friday and then back on maintenance. I'm learning to isolate special events and eat lightly between them, even as the holiday events pile up on me! Still nervous tho... right after my birthday I go to a three-day wedding convention with vast quantities of food at all three meals all three days... As my wife and I ask these days, ITWY? (Is this worth it?) For my birthday cake the answer is yes. For pancakes and bacon and sweet rolls for breakfast at a hotel convention, I'm going to say no. Wishing us all success! Nervously, Chris

bargoo
11-07-2012, 10:15 AM
Chris, Happy Birthday !
Wishing you a successful and cautious 3 day trip.

alinnell
11-07-2012, 10:23 AM
Happy Birthday, Chris! I agree with you regarding the breakfasts and cake. Cake comes but once a year (or more, depending on the size of your family) but breakfast is every day and doesn't have to be anything overly big. I'm sure you can ask for a plate of eggs and fruit.

traveling michele
11-07-2012, 11:46 AM
Chris-- do you work in the wedding business? At first I thought you meant you were going to a 3 day wedding celebration! Happy Birthday!

I'm in a vile mood this morning and hope to shake it. My weight is way up again.... then I come to work and it is a DISASTER after voting in the library. I've never seen such a mess. All of the booths, etc. are still here so I don't know how I'm going to conduct classes around everything. The worst thing is that the door to the outside was left unlocked all night-- the custodian was supposed to stay to lock up. There are books and food and trash everywhere. I'm not amused. I have 8 kindergarten classes plus 3 second grade classes to see today. Hope the kiddos behave.

I know we are supposed to talk politics but my dd and I were shocked to see that in her state (Washington) they legalized the recreational use of pot. Really?! How do you pull someone over for pot use? How much is too much? How is that a good idea? What's next?

ICUwishing
11-07-2012, 12:56 PM
Well, it does provide law enforcement some much-needed resource relief. Most departments have been cut and cut and cut ... and this way they can overlook the pothead buying his 5th Biggie Fry while they go after the violent criminals. :D Hopefully, it will lead to some common sense zero-tolerance rules about driving, employment around heavy equipment, potentially lucrative taxation, etc. Hopefully, it can be handled in a grown-up, solution-oriented manner - but I won't hold my breath. Ann Arbor (home of UMich) hasn't legalized it - instead, they simply do not prosecute it. I think it's a $5 ticket.

Sheila53
11-07-2012, 01:04 PM
I know we are supposed to talk politics but my dd and I were shocked to see that in her state (Washington) they legalized the recreational use of pot. Really?! How do you pull someone over for pot use? How much is too much? How is that a good idea? What's next?

What I read in the paper was that they were establishing a legal limit like alcohol. In fact, it sounded like it would be regulated a lot like alcohol and could provide a lot of revenue. People could grow a certain amount for personal use, much like homebrewing. The big thing seems to be that it flouts federal regulations so we'll see how that works out. Colorado also legalized marijuana last night. I predict a lot of court battles.

paperclippy
11-07-2012, 01:56 PM
Hey folks, just realized I haven't really posted in this thread yet this week! I voted yesterday but had to stand in line for an hour in freezing temps. :brr: Then I barely made it to work in time for an entire day full of interviews (recruiting for summer interns). Phew!

Michele, there are a lot of details to be worked out regarding legal limits (like for alcohol) and such, but I'm sure a google search can provide you with all of the reasons some people would like to legalize marijuana. I will refrain from providing my personal opinions because I think this may violate the "no politics" rule, but there is plenty of info out there and it is worth reading both sides of the story.

I was lazy this week and didn't want to cook, so instead I made a big pan of lasagna Saturday and we made a huge pot of soup Sunday, but now I'm totally sick of eating lasagna or soup for every single meal. Oops. I have one more soup recipe for the week which I'll make tomorrow in the slow cooker.

Meanwhile at work I am fighting a losing battle against Windows in my attempt to make my software show the right cursor (I'm a software developer, for those who don't know). :mad:

saef
11-07-2012, 04:05 PM
I can't believe how easy it was to get gas in Connecticut this morning. After I moved away from I-95 and into one of the towns, gas was expensive and they only had regular, but there WAS NO LINE AT ALL.

After I helped conduct the interview, and ate lunch, the sleet and blowing wind began, so I left at 2 PM & drove back home to work at my desk in the living room for the rest of the day.

It's so strange to go from a hurricane to a snowstorm in such a short span of time.

Mudpie
11-07-2012, 04:43 PM
I don't smoke marijuana any more - did that in my early 20's and then gave it up due to severe penalties if caught, plus a criminal record following you.

DH and I tried it again for recreational use last year and we were both so paranoid and freaked out and so high that we agreed it wasn't for us. I would never, ever toke and drive. Same way I won't drink and drive - my judgement just goes to pot :lol: if I have even one beer and am not legally drunk.

I wonder how they will work out legal limits? Drugs affect different people in such different ways. My DH can drink 3 beers and still be quite rational and able to do stuff. Me, I'm loaded after 3 beers and can only sit and giggle.

Dagmar :dizzy:

Mudpie
11-07-2012, 05:40 PM
Chris :bday2you:


Enjoy your :hb:

Dagmar

ChrisMohr
11-08-2012, 12:27 AM
Thanks a zillion Dagmar! And I'm at the lowest birthday weight of my adult life, THE BEST GIFT I COULD GIVE MYSELF! And Allinell, yes, I own a wedding chapel and perform about 125 weddings a year as an officiant. It's an occupational hazard with too much cake and great food available several times a week, so I have to stay for pictures and then graciously leave the reception!

traveling michele
11-08-2012, 01:26 AM
I wonder how they will work out legal limits? Drugs affect different people in such different ways. My DH can drink 3 beers and still be quite rational and able to do stuff. Me, I'm loaded after 3 beers and can only sit and giggle.

Dagmar :dizzy:

With alcohol, they can do a breathalizer. My understanding with pot is that a blood test has to be conducted so I'm wondering how they'll screen. My family was joking that when they pull you over they'll look for fast food trash in your car (from the munchies). I don't even drink anymore-- half a drink and I'm wasted. Dh can drink quite a bit with no discernable affect (though I am always his designated driver). I also wonder how this will be enforced. I heard on the news that there may be quite a tourist business for tourists to go to these states (like people go to Amsterdam). Not sure if it has all be thought through.

I posted a funny dialogue about spinning on the exercise board but I'll post it here for anyone who wants to see. My friend sent it to me and I can definitely relate!


Inner Monologue Of A Spin Class Student
Nov. 2, 2012

By Stephanie White info

Oh man, why is it so early? Better not look in the mirror. Yep thatís definitely a bad idea. Itís WAY too soon for that. Wait, what is that smell? (*looks down*) Wow, is that coming from my spin shoes? Must address this after class. (*creates new iPhone ďnoteĒ*). Why is the woman next to me shouting at her friend? Itís 7 a.m. Why is she even making noise? Isnít the first rule of spin class NO talking? Letís kick her out. I guess class hasnít officially begun. Damnit. Can we get this show on the road? Oh crap, thereís a sub today?! Alright, Iím leaving. No, NO. Youíre already here. Stay put. This is only an hour of your life. Stop whining. (*takes a sip of black coffee*). Alright, which bike am I? Number 13? **** I totally forget. Why is this old man looking at me funny? Nothing to see here mister. Except for the red lycra-blend pants Iím wearing. I know theyíre not very flattering, but at least theyíre clean! Okay, heís still staring. Avert your eyes buddy. Oh, is this your bike? My mistake. Iím leaving, Iím sorry! Donít make that face. Itís just a spin bike. Not your actual bike, gosh! I guess this means Iím bike 31? Oh no, is bike 31 under the speakers? Perfect. Jesus, this teacher looks like a giant douche bag. I can see his nipples through his frat boy cut off tee. That doesnít even look comfortable. But maybe heíll play some Rihanna? Thatíd be sweet. Why wonít my red knobby thingy loosen up? Class starts in like 60 seconds and I reeeeeeeeally donít want to ask this teacher to help me adjust my bike. But really though, whhhhhy wonít this knob buuuuuuudge. Oh wait, there it goes. Thank GOD. Okay first song isÖ an Akon remix? Strike one, my douchey friend, strike ONE. But thereís still time to redeem yourself. What was that? Iím sorry, I could have sworn you just said, ďCrank your resistance up THREE whole turns to the right.Ē Iím sorry but I am not doing that. I physically CANNOT. Weíre not even warmed up yet. This is absurd. Iím just going to carrrrrrefully fake these numerous cranks youíre demanding. One, one and two thirdsÖďthree.Ē There ya go. Happy now? No one saw me fake that right? Maybe old man on bike 13 with the staring problem did. Whatevs. Iím really glad that Akon song is over. Is this Destinyís Child?! SAY MY NAME. Throwbaaaaaack. I approve. Are we climbing a hill now? Bring it on. Letís climb five hills in a row. I donít even care. This song is everything. Hold on, why are you yelling at us? Intervals? And tap backs? You know what? Iím not coordinated enough for this. Iím going to politely opt out of whatever it is this instructor is currently doing with his arms. Baby push-ups on the bike handles? This feels very silly. And now heís asking us to rotate our inner thighs toward the floor while we tuck our cores and release our shoulders from our ears? You want me to do WHAT with my pelvic floor muscles? No thanks! Iíve stopped listening. I canít hear anything over the bass pounding above my head. Alright, Iím already soaking with sweat. Are we there yet? Three more songs?! This guy has lost his mind. Clearly. If he starts playing a One Republic song while shouting new agey BS over the mic, Iím definitely calling it a day. He better notÖ omg RIHANNA! This. Song. This. Song. How did I ever question this man? I LOVE YOU AND YOUR MUSICAL TASTE. Shine bright like a diamond, shine bright like a diamond. Endorphins. So. Many. Endorphins. Icouldspinforever. Should I quit my job? Spin full time? This feels right. All of this just feelsÖ wait, is the song over? ****. Wait, CLASS is over?! NOOOOO. I donít want to go! Weíre cooling down? Iím not leaving this bike. I refuse to leave! I love bikes and music and exercise and life! Am I safe to drive? I feel a little bit high right now. Deep breaths. Take some deep breaths. Oh thank God, weíre cooling downÖ to a Bonnie Raitt cover? Is this Adele? This song makes me feel emotionally unstable. Am I already sore? Wait, am I crying? I need to exit the building. I feel, I feel very vulnerable. Is the instructor leaving already?! Bye dude. I underestimated you. Wait, I wonder if heíll burn me a copy of his playlist?! Oh look, there goes my pride! And that is my CUE.
Read more at http://thoughtcatalog.com/2012/inner-monologue-of-a-spin-class-student/#BUVLX1uHi8vXXhQ2.99

saef
11-08-2012, 09:15 AM
And Allinell, yes, I own a wedding chapel and perform about 125 weddings a year as an officiant. It's an occupational hazard with too much cake and great food available several times a week, so I have to stay for pictures and then graciously leave the reception!

How interesting! I'll bet you look great in those peoples' wedding pictures!

Happy belated birthday, Chris!

saef
11-08-2012, 09:18 AM
An unexpected gift of working from home today, due to one of the recent manic swings in our weather pattern. We got several inches of snow yesterday, which I avoided driving through by leaving the office early & working from home for the remainder of the day. The evening commute that I missed out on was chaotic. Heard from a friend that it took her an hour to drive nine miles because of traffic diverted around an accident.

I'm drinking coffee and trying to call on dwindling stores of energy. I keep staying up till 10 PM when my wakeup time means I ought to be in bed by 9 PM. How do I stop this behavior?

alinnell
11-08-2012, 10:42 AM
Michele~I saw your spin dialogue thing on FB and had to send it to my DD. While I don't know if she has those things going on in her head, she is known to do two spin classes a day, so I hope she thinks it as funny as we do. I have dialogues going on in my head all the time. (She just wrote back--she says it rang quite true for her too!)

Got our cars washed last night and it looks like rain today. There was a slight chance predicted for tomorrow so now I wonder what will happen.

My in-laws are going to go look at kittens tomorrow. MIL ordered FIL to "bring home the cat stuff" that we've had stored at our office so they'll be prepared. FIL says MIL has been talking to herself lately (she used to talk to the cat) and he thinks it'd be healthier for her to talk to a living creature. She's also been saying how nice it is to not have a pet to take care of, so who knows what they'll do. There are four great kittens at Animal Samaritans--three are polydactyl and one looks just like my Louie only a different color. Those are the ones they want to see about adopting.

Golf is back in season! We have a tee time for Sunday afternoon. Then we'll probably go see Lincoln. That looks like a great movie.

Shannon in ATL
11-08-2012, 11:41 AM
Allison - we are looking forward to seeing Lincoln as well, let me know how it is.

Love the spin dialogue, Michele.

Saef - I often push myself awake too late, can't seem to break the habit though.

Chris - happy late birthday! Owning a wedding chapel sounds fascinating. You get to see so many different people at a high point in their lives. Neat.

I've never smoked pot. I get loopy from a beer or a glass of wine, and am pretty sure I have had some seconhand highs from concerts in my youth, so I avoid it for the safety of all around me. :)

I got up and went for a run in the cold before work this morning. Felt good.

Good week everyone!

Mudpie
11-08-2012, 05:43 PM
I have been feeling quite "doltish" since yesterday evening. I cannot for the life of me figure out how to sign in to hotmail on my client's computer. I am on a guest account and can access everything else but not the hotmail. I am now going to lug DH's laptop to the client's house, plug it into the modem, and see what happens. ARRRGH! I am only there for 4 days and have enough stuff with me that it looks like an expedition to conquer Everest! :p

Dagmar :dizzy:

traveling michele
11-08-2012, 06:33 PM
I love polydactyl cats! I hope they choose one of those Allison!

alinnell
11-08-2012, 06:41 PM
I love polydactyl cats! I hope they choose one of those Allison!

I found out a few minutes ago that the one with the most toes is already adopted, but there is a chance one of the other two are still available.

saef
11-08-2012, 10:22 PM
I had one of my irritable days, because I didn't get to the gym first thing in the morning. Instead, I was folding laundry, washing dishes and vacuuming from 6 AM to 7:30 AM, when I sat down to work. Consequently I felt slightly behind all day, as if I always struggling to catch up.

Yesterday's snow has melted and temperatures are supposed to rise into the 60s again. I feel as if all I do is read weather reports these days.

bargoo
11-09-2012, 07:46 AM
We have snow in the Sierras, not too far from me. Fortunately I do not have to shovel it ! We are glad to see it, though as last year we didn't have much rain or snow and we do need it as we do need water to survive. of course we , and you , prefer that it doesn't come all at one time.

ChrisMohr
11-09-2012, 10:39 AM
Thank for all the birthday wishes and yes, the wedding biz is fascinating and rewarding (as long as I don't eat at all the receptions) Saef, I know just how you feel missing exercise. It's a healthy addiction for me too and what good luck that we get grumpy when we miss out on it!

Tonight's my birthday party. I come in at 181 pounds, which is the low end of my maintenance goal range of 180-185 (at 6'4" that's a nice low weight). So no weigh-in necessary tomorrow, tonight I just enjoy an Italian feast and a very chocolate cake (with five whole zucchinis in it, moist and yummy). Maintenance does offer some opportunities for foodie enjoyments that dieting did not! I can do this I can do this I can do this...

bargoo
11-09-2012, 11:04 AM
Chris , have a great birthday feast ! The cake sounds yummy, care to share the recipe ?

alinnell
11-09-2012, 12:25 PM
What do you all think of this?

Am I over reacting because my Dad doesn't want the hassle of flying down here for a vacation (I was thinking 2 weeks or so) for Thanksgiving BUT he's willing to go through the same hassle of flying to go see his "girlfriend"? Apparently she is graduating from college and her parents are throwing her a graduation party and she "invited" him (or at least mentioned it to him). He asked my sister to look into flights to South Dakota--preferably flying in in the morning and flying out that same night.

He told me about this on our regular Sunday phone call. My sister called the other day to discuss it. She thinks he's gone bonkers and doesn't realize how weird it looks for a 91 year old to be going after a 22 year old. She thinks that if he does go, he'll embarrass himself. I tend to agree.

Granted he's lonely. But he does have regular outings with friends and groups of people. I just don't get it.

JayEll
11-09-2012, 03:46 PM
alinnell, he is certainly a grown man and can decide what he wants to do. Who cares if he embarrasses himself? Is there no age at which we can stop worrying about what other people think?

However, if he does decide to go to her graduation party, I'd suggest that he ask a friend go with him, just so he's not traveling alone.

What you and your siblings think of his behavior is beside the point. I take it he is not officially senile or judged incompetent, so your main concern should be with his safety while traveling, not with whether you like his plans.

bargoo
11-09-2012, 03:52 PM
Allison., it is not your Dad's behaviour that would concern me. Why is a 22 year old associating with a 91 year old ? What kind of a relationship does she think this is ?
PS.........Anna Nicole Smith

WardHog
11-09-2012, 04:26 PM
Allison., it is not your Dad's behaviour that would concern me. Why is a 22 year old associating with a 91 year old ? What kind of a relationship does she think this is ?
PS.........Anna Nicole Smith

And if I were that girl's parents, I would be like, wtf?

alinnell
11-09-2012, 05:19 PM
And if I were that girl's parents, I would be like, wtf?

My thoughts exactly.

Meanwhile, my in-laws just called. They're adopting TWO polydactyl brother kittens!

bargoo
11-09-2012, 09:22 PM
My thoughts exactly.

Meanwhile, my in-laws just called. They're adopting TWO polydactyl brother kittens!

Well, Allison, some seniors can act approriately .Congratulations to them on the adoption.

traveling michele
11-10-2012, 12:24 PM
Well, Allison, some seniors can act approriately .Congratulations to them on the adoption.

Ditto and Amen. So sorry about your dad's situation. That is ridiculous. He obviously isn't acting rationally so your getting upset about it one way or the other is just a waste of your time. Happy for your inlaws though! My kitties are brother and sister and best of friends.

saef
11-10-2012, 02:58 PM
Allison, I must admit to being deeply curious about this relationship between the nonagenarian and the new college grad. Did they know each other in real life, and she moved away to go to college? Or did they encounter each other over the Internet, and have been communicating online but perhaps have never met?

It reminds me of stories told to me by a friend of mine who went to Ukraine on a Fulbright. She lived in a neighborhood with a lot of expatriates in it. Several times she met bewildered unhappy older American men who needed her help to contact their families & go back home to the U.S. The story was always very similar: The man had been corresponding with a young woman in the Ukraine for a time, had fallen in love with her, and had flown to the Ukraine to meet her. He was even prepared to offer marriage. He brought gifts and after they met at the airport, he bought her lots of stuff. But after just a few days, she'd split, and left him stranded, and he had no money left (or very little), no way of contacting her, because she was now ignoring his emails, calls & texts. He was deeply unhappy now. He saw clearly what had happened. His dream was over. He just wanted to get back home.

I know it's not the same thing, exactly, as it's certainly lacking that cross-cultural element, and I have no idea how the relationship started. But I always found it sad & touching. People just need & want love. Offer them even as little as a few crumbs, and their imagination often eagerly seizes upon those few crumbs & will use them to create a wonderful woman, whom they will continue to "see" before them for a surprisingly long time, even after they've met the actual human being in question & discovered she's not quite so wonderful.

alinnell
11-10-2012, 03:43 PM
Allison, I must admit to being deeply curious about this relationship between the nonagenarian and the new college grad. Did they know each other in real life, and she moved away to go to college? Or did they encounter each other over the Internet, and have been communicating online but perhaps have never met?

She is from South Dakota and was in Salt Lake for an internship for the summer. She was hoping to be hired after the internship, but that didn't happen. She attended the church my Dad goes to (Zion Lutheran). One Sunday, it was recommended to the parishioners that they quit sitting in "their" pews--move somewhere else, sit by someone you haven't met, and introduce yourself. So Dad sat elsewhere and introduced himself to her and that's how it all started. Since she didn't get hired, she needed to go back and finish her degree and that's where they are now. Dad does say that he has no intention of marrying her, but that if he were younger he'd consider it.

saef
11-10-2012, 04:13 PM
Allison, sorry, I know this is unhelpful, and this relationship is deeply discomfiting to you -- but this would make such a great short story.

Has anything like this happened before, or is it uncharacteristic?

Is he lonely? How full is the other part of his life?

bargoo
11-10-2012, 04:22 PM
Allison, throwing my 2cents in.....
Your father may feel younger associating with this young girl....
This young girl may think your father is filthy rich and she will be happy to help him lighten his bank account.....
This young girl may be a perfectly sweet , nice young girl who thinks of your Dad as a friend and may think he reminds her of her Grandfather who she loved very much.
There may be nothing to worry about but I would ask your Dad not to sign any papers. I would go so far as to suggest a third party accompany them on their dates or whatever they do. In other words he should never be alone with this girl. If it is all innocent, no harm done.

BillBlueEyes
11-10-2012, 05:24 PM
My guess is that the 91 year old man has that typical male clueless response to a nice kid - sees friendly as girlfriend friendly. I've know at least three women whose style was so outgoing that most men would think it flirting. One was the most conservative, long-time-married woman I've ever met.

My own news is that I broke my leg on Thursday - a real break not just the tiny fracture kind of thing. Was doing too many things at once with my adult DS while also walking down a flight of stairs. The last step and I parted ways. It's not the worst thing to happen; should be all over in about six weeks. But, 'tis a bit awkward on crutches for the moment.

bargoo
11-10-2012, 05:58 PM
Bill. sorry about your leg hope it heals quickly.

saef
11-10-2012, 06:44 PM
Shame it didn't happen a few months later, Bill, rather than now & after the snow melted. You could shrug and mutter, "Skiing accident," which always sounds very dashing. But there's always "thrown from my horse," which is good in practically every season, and would fit in with your Downton Abbey passion. Or "fell out of a deer stand." Or "took a bad spill on my mountain bike." But no, I sense from your posts that you're an upstanding, truthful person, and willing to tell stories on yourself. So I'll just wish you a speedy recovery. All that healthy eating has to do something for us, doesn't it?

Oh, and I am so not getting caught up on my hurricane-postponed writing projects by lingering here ... All forums and such develop an incredible fascination for me when I have a long document to rewrite.

traveling michele
11-10-2012, 06:54 PM
Ouch Bill! Sorry about that. Years ago (when my now 21 y/o dd was a toddler), I was carrying her down the stairs in one arm and my then dachshund in the other. I fell and managed to rescue the dog and the dd, but my foot was killing me. Dh was out of town so I managed to get myself to urgent care. They took an xray and didn't see a break so put me in a boot. Four weeks later when I still couldn't bear weight, I took myself to a specialist who took an xray-- and said-- yep--it's broke. Wonderful. It was healing at that point so it was never casted and it doesn't cause any pain or problems.

Lately my great dane has been bounding up the steps when I go up with the dachshund. She (the dane) can't go down gracefully-- more like a giant slide-- our steps are steep and wooden-- and the dachshund can go up but not down, so I have to carry him down. More than once she has almost taken us both out so I'm trying to remember to make her go down the stairs first so we don't all kill ourselves!

EZMONEY
11-11-2012, 09:32 AM
Big bummer Bill. As one who has broken several bones I know it ain't no picnic.

Hang in there buddy!

alinnell
11-11-2012, 11:46 AM
Oh, ouch, Bill! I hope it heals well (my Mom, when she broke her leg--also on the stairs--should have had surgery to fix it, but didn't and it healed very crooked and she never could walk properly again).

saef~this is quite uncharacteristic of my Dad.

bargoo~my Dad has gone so far as to open a 2nd checking account to hide from my brother and SIL who manage his other one. He told my sister about it and my sister told me. He said it was so he could have his own spending money without a thousand questions from my SIL whom he considers meddling. He's well off enough financially as he has hardly any bills, but he's not filthy rich by any means. And he does do some stupid things with his money. (For instance he has a life insurance policy that, due to his age, has a huge yearly premium. I believe it was $14,000 for a policy that will pay out only about $50,000. My brother and SIL want to cancel it, he wants to keep it. Only thing is, if he lives longer, he'll have paid out more than the benefit will be and he just doesn't see that.)

Gary, I read your post on FB about not being able to go to church and sit in "your" pew. Sorry you can't go to church, but when you do go back, be sure to sit in your pew and don't get yourself into the mess my Dad is in! (I don't think Angie would like that!)