Faith Based Support Groups - Christian Encouragers ~ NOVEMBER

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11-04-2012, 12:09 AM
:angel: Welcome Friends :angel:

You've found a great place to come
and vent, share or ask for prayer support.
This is a great group who will be very
encouraging, caring and loving....
....anyone is welcome to join!

A Servant's Prayer --

Jesus, My Jesus....How marvelous are your ways....
Far more splendid than my mind can envision.
What an honor to be chosen by you.
A lowly child I am, but empowered by the Holy Spirit
to fulfill the great hope to which you have called me.
I give myself totally to you, Lord.
Take my imperfect heart and make it perfect.
Peel away the hardness.
Close the doors I have opened to the temptations of this world.
Gently remove the roots of painful memories, sins, doubts and fears.
Discard anything that separates me from you.
Lord, fill the emptiness with the light of your love
that I might be a beacon calling the lost back to you.

To love as you love.....
To serve as you serve.....
To forgive as you forgive.....
Always mindful of my nothingness while doing great
and marvelous things in your name and for your glory.
This I pray, Jesus, in YOUR name ...


11-04-2012, 12:16 AM
:wave: HI EVERYONE ~ welcome to the new NOVEMBER thread. I've been so busy lately and with so much on my mind that I forgot to start the new thread. I had thought of it earlier today, and got distracted. That's so easy to do these days.

As you know we went out of town both Thursday (for new glasses) and Friday (for my CT Scan). Today, we were home and I just did stuff around here: light housechores, laundry, plus sorting and tossing clothes as I went through our winter stuff, etc.

We had a nice hearty lunch out yesterday, so I ate a really light dinner last night to make up for that. Tonight, we had fish and I had a mixed coleslaw salad with mine too. I made some HM hot chicken noodle soup for lunch as well; that's always nice on a cold day like today.

Our dear Fido wants to go outside now. Hope you all have a lovely, restful Sunday tomorrow ... :hug:

Misti in Seattle
11-05-2012, 12:53 AM

Just checking in and saying a prayer for everyone to have a restful night and good day tomorrow.

11-05-2012, 02:04 AM
hi guys, I have been soooo lazy the last couple days. I mean, LAAAAY-ZEEE. I didn't do anything except babysit a few hours on Friday and eat just about everything in sight. (pms. ughh) Sat was marginally better. I didn't eat as much but still raided my nephew's trick or treat bag and I went shopping which meant a couple hours of walking around. Went to TJ Max and got a new yoga mat, new running shoes, and a 5 lb kettle bell. fun! Today I got back to the Y and worked my tail off. H.E.A.T. class was hard as heck. I did everything except I wouldn't ever wanna see video of what my attempt at the pullup bar looked like. We were supposed to do either 30 opposite knees-to-opposite wrists while hanging from a bar. My entire 285 lb body hanging from a bar. umm sure. Or the other option was to hang from the bar and fold my whole body up at the waist like a giant taco and do 10 toe-touches to the bar. ya, right. So my version was to hang from the bar as much as I could with sweaty palms which wasn't much at all. I also did yoga, an hr on the machines, and 45 mins strength training. (3hrs 45 mins)

Decorlover- when I first started working out after 4th of July weekend I couldn't even exercise for a full hour. I just built up my endurance very slowly. I think my only secret is to vary the workouts and do lotsa different things. I workout usually 4 hrs a day, sometimes 5. But I can't do any one exercise for that amount of time. I rarely do anything longer than an hour at a time. I do strength training, yoga, Ripped class, jogging, water aerobics, HEAT class, machines like elliptical and cross trainer and recumbent bike, etc.

11-05-2012, 02:10 AM
Ronnie- I saw them in concert last year, it was great! Right now my newest fave song is Hold Onto Me (busted heart) by the band For King and Country.

hope everyone had a good weekend, goodnight!

11-05-2012, 09:52 AM
Hello everyone. I have had trouble getting into WW. It is a difficult switch from Atkins since I wasn't allowed any breads on Atkins. It is taking some adjusting to my will power not to gorge myself on carbs. Because of this I am up 4lbs since a week and a half ago. I figure some of it is water weight because my body needs it to digest all of the crap I am eating. So today I am starting a workout program and the diet. I need prayers to stay motivated. I hope all of you are doing well. Happy pre-election day! I can't wait for it to be over!!

11-05-2012, 10:27 PM
:wave: HI BACK, EVERYONE ~ we actually had some :sunny: show up for a short while today; wished it had stayed longer though. I spent the day doing more cleaning in prep for Christmas and winter. November is a great month for doing this as the cold weather and snow comes.

Today, DH & I scrubbed the entire stove and oven (and I polished my kettle too). Plus, I did laundry and some other light chores. I think I was on my feet for a good part of the day; and all movement counts in my books. ;)

Eating has been good over the weekend and today. I made homemade turkey vegetable soup and biscuits for dinner tonight. Now that the colder weather is here, I like to make more soups, stews, and baked oven dinners. :D

Hope you all get out to vote tomorrow ... :)

11-06-2012, 01:20 AM
oh psychnurse, I second that! I can't wait for it to be over too! I do think voting is our responsibility but I've had it with all the election stuff and political ads. My mail-in ballot has been sent in already so I am over it.

rosebud- I like heartier meals this time of year too. I love doing crockpot meals. It's getting cold and blustery out, I had to turn the heat on for the first time tonight. At least for a little while.

today I ate more but its ok cuz I burned over 4000 calories in my workout today. I think I just needed a bit more fuel. Took HEAT class again. Boy, is that tough. Tomorrow is Ripped class, it's hard but my favorite. Well, that and yoga. I guess I luv them both equally, they just couldn't be more different. I like varying my workouts so I don't get bored.

Question to all of you: I notice since I've started working out a lot (3 hours or more) that on those days I need more sleep. I think it's a no-brainer that when I exercise that much that I require more food to fuel my body. And I don't feel guilty about that. But I kinda feel guilty (lazy even?) to admit I sleep about 10 hours on days I work out really hard. Is it normal to need more sleep? I have always liked to sleep so I honestly don't know if my body needs more sleep after a hard workout or if I have fooled myself into thinking its ok to stay in bed till 10am.

11-06-2012, 10:13 AM
Chubbygirl- I know that your body uses sleep to break down fats for energy. So it is a good thing that you get extra sleep after working out so long. Your body has to collect its energy source since you are expending more than your intake. :) 10 hours sounds wonderful. Since working nights I don't sleep much. This is hard on weight loss. If I have a week off I lose more since I am sleeping regularly. If only we were as rich as politicians :)

11-06-2012, 10:44 AM
I am another who doesn't get much sleep,about 5 hours is average....not by choice I would be glad to sleep 8 hours.
I am going to go vote in a little while, I still like to go to the polls to cast my vote, I hope you are voting, however you choose to do it if you are an eligible voter.

11-06-2012, 08:13 PM
I've heard that we need a minimum of 7 hours of sleep for weight loss. I try to get that but not sure if I always get at leat that because I wake up a lot during the night and have nights of insomnia.

11-06-2012, 10:04 PM
I have always tried to get 7-8 hours sleep, but lately I have had fitful sleep so not getting as much as I used to. I also have to get up at least once to go to the washroom as I hold a lot of water in my legs, then I have a hard time getting back to sleep sometimes. At one time, I could fall asleep on a dime, but not anymore. DH getting up and messing about has caused this, so I asked him to try and curb that.

Speaking of DH -- he claimed tonight that some of the stuff he was doing was just teasing me. I suspected it -- and was quite perplexed, saddened, and disappointed by this behavior. I told him that I didn't think that was very funny, or considerate. I just cannot fathom doing that to anyone. :dizzy: My, what a strange sense of humor. :( He claims that he is gonna stop, so we'll see if there is any difference. Thanks for your prayers for him/us. :hug:

LAURA ~ there is no doubt in my mind that all that exercise would make you more tired. Remember when we were kids and were outdoors running around & playing -- that always tired us out, esp in the summer months. Enjoy your sleep! ;)

We had a really busy day running errands and shopping -- picking up stuff we needed for DH and the house. DH needed some winter coats. We picked up a roll of runner for our porch/ramp to keep us from slipping in the winter. DH kept sliding down the back ramp every time he went out, esp since it first snowed on November 1st. I got lots of walking in today, so will be turning in earlier tonight I'm sure. :D

11-07-2012, 02:17 AM
I chuckled a little when I read some of you only sleep about 5 hours. I don't think (after working out for 4 hours) that I could get up after only sleeping 5 hrs unless my house was on fire. Our bodies are all different. That's ok. I'm not going to worry about it.

had a good workout today. Luv my Ripped class. It's so hard but it's great.
And yoga after was such a special treat tonight! At first I was disappointed to hear my favorite teacher wasn't leading the class tonight. But the sub, who we've had once before, is also wonderful. Different but so good. She is a Christian woman and really projects that. And she is so kind and encouraging and has such a gentleness about her. During the cooldown when our eyes are closed she goes around the room covering us in blankets and rubbing our feet. It's so nice to feel pampered for a few minutes. I told my friend Heather she mustn't miss next week because this teacher is subbing the next two Tuesdays.

11-07-2012, 07:53 AM
rosebud, I am not an expert in your husband's illness but I suspect that he has enough awareness that he knows his actions are not quite his normal self. I bet he wonders at times why he does the things he does. What I am getting at is the statement that he is teasing you might just be a coverup or excuse for behaviour that he doesn't understand. rosebud, you must need the patience of a saint and I am praying that you can cope with this, it must be a strain on you.

11-07-2012, 04:10 PM
Hello everyone! Today has been a good day since I set my mind to making it that way. It is rather cloudy but that is wonderful for this nocturnal creature! Although I am not completely photophobic, I do enjoy a nice sunshinny fall day as well. I have been doing some low impact exercises. Most stretches and isotonics. I feel uncomfortable going to our rec center. There are super skinny women on the elipticals all the time. I don't want to gross them out.
I am trying to decide what to set my goals at for the month for exercise amounts. What do you think are good starter goals??

11-07-2012, 04:17 PM
I was also thinking do any of you have any tried and true low fat comfort food recipes?? I love salad but when it is cold it isn't the thing I want to eat.... any tips would be great!

11-07-2012, 05:53 PM
I was also thinking do any of you have any tried and true low fat comfort food recipes?? I love salad but when it is cold it isn't the thing I want to eat.... any tips would be great!

Homemade soup. I made soup twice last week and have several servings stored in the freezer. I made hamburger cabbage soup that is pretty low in calories. I also made ham hocks and navy bean soup a few more calories but so satisfying on a cold day.

11-07-2012, 07:03 PM
psychnurse- start small and build up from there. any exercise you like is good. the elliptical is great. I do it almost every day. you aren't going to gross anyone out! If I worried about that I would never have the confidence to go into a class or even go to workout. you're beautiful, you can do it!

bargoo- that soup sounds good. I like doing beef stew in my crockpot as well as pot roast and lotsa chicken recipes.

today I'm not working out but I'm going shopping later so that's gonna be a couple hours of errands and stuff.

11-07-2012, 09:48 PM
rosebud, I am not an expert in your husband's illness but I suspect that he has enough awareness that he knows his actions are not quite his normal self. I bet he wonders at times why he does the things he does. What I am getting at is the statement that he is teasing you might just be a coverup or excuse for behaviour that he doesn't understand. rosebud, you must need the patience of a saint and I am praying that you can cope with this, it must be a strain on you.

BARGOO ~ that is so very insightful of you. I was just coming in to tell you that I thought the very same thing today. DH apologized for the teasing and told me that he was having a very hard time dealing with this condition. This was his way of coping.

Every time he can't remember something new, gets very upset. He cried today becuz he couldn't remember how to get to the grocery store. I told him not to worry about that, but it was the fact that he couldn't remember where is was that upset him so badly.

Then he reminded me how he had a "mental breakdown" after his first wife died and that he felt like that was happening again. I told him I had already suspected that, so that was exactly why I got him this new medicine from the doctor for depression and anxiety.

We spent our dinner praying, crying, and praying but it seemed to help him feel better (and me too). When he cries, then I do too becuz I feel so badly for him. I explained to him that the teasing was upsetting me becuz it's hard enuff to deal with as it is, but at least now I know that this was his way of dealing with it.

Oh, and talk about GOD-Inspired Intuition: today, I was feeling so weak and stressed -- my patience and mental strength felt like it had been stretched to its max; or sucked out of me like a vacuum. So, we prayed together on and off all day long for supernatural Holy Spirit Power & Strength & Peace. Prayer and/or Praise always seems to help me when this happens, like today.

Then we went outside to do some stuff and that helped get our minds off things for awhile. I made a list of things we can do over the month of November -- keeping busy can help us both in this situation. We cut and put out our indoor/outdoor rugs today; then we put out the markers for the bushes; and then we washed the kitchen cupboards and walls.

We do this big fall cleaning every November to get ready for Christmas, and the winter time is the best time to do indoor stuff anyways. DH likes to help me with all this; and today, he told me that it is helping him too. I think he'd like to put up some lights here this year, so I'll get him to do that too.

Spending some time outdoors in the :sunny: always helps me feel better, so we did that for a little while too. I'll try to use my ski poles this winter whenever it is mild & sunny, like today was for a little while.

Thanks so much for your Prayers -- they are so appreciated at this time as we go through this ordeal (and it is an ordeal, trust me). I am as weak as the next person, and if it wasn't for JESUS carrying me through this, I really don't know how I could stand it. I kept thinking about you during your chemo sessions, asking Jesus to sit and hold your hand. I have been doing that a lot lately too.

We never know how something we have gone through or said will help someone else out, esp in a crisis; but GOD does and that's why sharing and supporting and praying for each other is so very important. We all will go through trials in this life and we need each other for that ... :hug:

BTW, I made homemade soups this week too -- chicken-veggie with noodles and tomato-veggie with dumplings. Today, I had a kind of chili soup for lunch too (I had some leftover frozen chili, so I added some chopped tomatoes & broth to it for a thick soup).

11-08-2012, 12:30 AM
rosebud, sometimes I just sing praise songs, they just seem to come to me, some I had forgotten about. Do you have a CD player, maybe if you could play some nice religious recordings it might be soothing to him.

11-08-2012, 09:41 AM
I loved reading your last post ROSEBUD :-)

11-08-2012, 09:43 AM
Gary, good to see you, bless you.

11-08-2012, 10:48 AM
Hi, everyone....

So glad to read everyone's posts. You are all inspirations to me! Praying for each and everyone of you daily.

DH and I have been out of town for the last couple days. He had a conference about 3 hours away from our home & asked me to come along, so we left DS3 (who's 16 now) home with doggie and being slightly supervised by grandma (from a distance as she can't stay in our home due to her allergy and health issues). I'm so thankful that he's responsible enough for us to be able to trust him this way. But, I'll be glad to get back home tonight. Actually, being alone in a hotel room most of the time is a pretty boring 'vacation'. Went shopping a little, but, being as this is a pretty big city, everything's waaaay too expensive and, unfortunately, the clothes are still as ugly as at home, so I only bought some artificial flowers to put on our Christmas tree.

Tomorrow, we have to head out to DS2's college (3 hours away in the opposite direction) because he called Monday as we were leaving home with car trouble. The car is stranded in a Walmart lot in a neighboring town and he was fortunate enough that a classmate just happened to go to do her grocery shopping and saw that he was having trouble, so she took him back to his dorm. He helped repay her by using his employee discount card for her purchases:) We're not sure what's wrong with his car, but may be the fuel pump (which would be bad, because we'd probably have to pay a garage to fix it) or fuel pump relay (which would be good, because DH can fix that easily in the parking lot). Or.....could be something else:( I hate to think it, but it may be time to get him a different car...we thought this one would be a decent one, but we've had nothing but problems with it for 5 years. DH is working on replacing an engine in an old Escort we have and if he ever gets it done, it would be a good car for DS2 to finish up school with. Just too many issues going on right now and none of them getting finished.

Some of you may remember that my mom has bipolar schizophrenia and has been on court-ordered meds for the last 5 years. Well, she just found out that the court order expired a year ago this month and she was not notified of the change in status (which is disturbing on many counts, but we'll just let that go). Anyway, when she found this out, she called her nurse and told her not to refill the meds and that she wouldn't be needing her services any longer. So, ok, now Mom's off her meds. Last time she was off meds, it lasted 20 years and she was so nasty, combative, paranoid (people are after me, people are poisoning me, people are putting drugs in my home....), and out of control, we didn't even know where she was most of the time. She'd just pack up her stuff and leave because of all the people who were after her. She only ended up on the court order because she threatened to have the police chief here killed because he had apparently, in her mind, been paid by the 'people who are after her' to harass her and watch her.

Now, I've done some reading related to my own allergy issues and found out that wheat allergy can actually cause schizophrenic-like symptoms, so I've asked her to eliminate wheat, but I didn't tell her what I had read. Now, she's back on wheat, saying it was too hard and she gained weight the 5 days she eliminated it, so I guess I'm going to have a really hard discussion with her to 'lay down the law' and let her know that if she's not going to try to control this behavior on her own, we will have to have her committed again. If it could be as simple as eliminating wheat, I think she should do her best to comply with the diet. I can't let my family go through what she's put us through in the past. If anyone gets the chance, we could really use some prayers about this. The one good thing is that she no longer rents places to live. She owns her own trailer designed specially for her allergy issues, so she can't just cancel her lease and leave like she used to. She's pretty well stuck where she is and will have to deal with the situation here.

Sometimes I do wonder how I made it through my childhood and adolescence, with a Mom with her issues and a dad who handled mom's issues by drinking his way to oblivion every day, plus, being molested by a neighbor for a couple years. I've even had counselors ask me how I survived without becoming a drug addict or alcoholic myself and the only thing I can come up with is that GOD WAS WITH ME EVERY STEP OF THE WAY. People who didn't even know the full extent of the situation were praying for us. And, I believe God's angels were there keeping us safe at times when we were left on our own or riding in a car with dad way to drunk to drive. I remember driving him home myself when I was 13 and hadn't ever driven a car yet, but, in those couple instances, he knew it was safer for him to tell me what to do than to try to do it himself.

hmmm....don't know what brought all that back, except for being worried about Mom again.

Well, time to go pick up a fuel pump and pump relay for DS2's car and, then, see if there's anything to do until DH's conference is done about 3:00.

Thanks for listening to me vent a bit. Remember God is with us no matter what is going on in our lives. Our families are sometimes faulted, but He uses whatever situation we're in to show His glory and love. Praying 'without ceasing' for you all!

11-08-2012, 11:22 AM
Ronni Praying for you and your Mom's situation. My babysister is evidently bipolar schizophrenia and my BIL calls me to tell me what is going on for me to pray for her. My heart goes out to him because my family seems to think everything is his fault. He and I both believe a lot of it is caused by things that have happened to her in her life... especially abusive marriages and she told him she's been raped when young. He went to prison for a little over a year and is now doing house arrest because he was getting drugs for her. He took the blame for it instead of letting her because he didn't think she could handle it. She won't take medicine and he is afraid to have her committed because he has promised her he will take care of her and see to it that she is never raped again. The said thing is that with him on house arrest she is able to off by herself without her. One of her 2 sons tries to go with her. She was such a sweet person, but her personality is completely different since this has developed and she won't take her meds. He says she say horrible things to him and her sons telling her sons she hates the day she had them. I didn't know about the wheat connection. I have no way of getting in touch with my BIL until he calls again because he doesn't want her to know he called me. He calls because he says I encourage him and make him feel better... he is a Christian and he knows I pray for him. But when I hear from him I will tell him about the wheat. He does the cooking so he may be able to handle that part at least.

Gary - Good to hear from you.

Rosebud - Sent you a website PM as I'm not always sure about sending them on threads.

Prayers continue for everyone on this thread.

11-08-2012, 12:44 PM
Ronni and pattygirl prayers going up for situations in your families.

11-08-2012, 08:05 PM
Ronni and pattygirl prayers going up for situations in your families.

Thanks Bargoo appreciate it.

11-08-2012, 08:43 PM
TRISH ~ thanks, yes I found that site; it is a very helpful tool -- @ Sending prayers up for your BIL and his wife/partner? and the kids too. Praying she will see that she needs meds to make her better again.

RONNIE ~ thanks for your prayers; and am praying that DS2's car can be fixed without too much expense, and for your MOM that she also will see that taking her meds will help her feel better and help her to function at her best too. This is so common with those with this disorder.

GARY ~ thanks, hope you're feeling well ... :hug:

BARGOO ~ yes, we have two stereos here with lots of Christian music, plus his own special stereo is set to our local Christian station and I try to put it on every day for at least a little while.

We kept busy today doing more fall cleaning and got a lot accomplished. Will be turning in early to rest this body though .... ;) Take good care everyone -- you are all in our prayers every day too ... :hug:

11-09-2012, 02:36 AM
RONNI, TRISH, ROSEBUD, PATTYGIRL- praying for your family situations.
RONNI- I am so sorry you went through all that! :hug:

I, too, am stressed with family stuff right now. Our landlords (who are crummy landlords anyway) told us that we have to move out by Dec 1st because they will be moving into this house. They say they sold their home but I think it was foreclosed. Last summer we were getting mail from the bank about their unpaid mortgage. Our rent has kept this mortgage current so I expect they'll move in here until the bank forecloses on it too. So we are scrambling to make housing decisions right before the holidays. I don't think the landlords have our deposit money either, which is ridiculous because we have been fixing up this house to make it livable. (when we moved in there were holes punched in the walls and doors. Heck, the bathroom didn't even have a door! So we made repairs to make the place livable and I bet you dollars to donuts the deposit money won't ever be seen. Ugh. It's just the last thing we needed right now.

Other than that I'm ok. I had a good workout today to take my mind off things for a bit. And tomorrow I'll drive a little over an hr north and my fiance will drive an hour or so south so we can meet in the middle for a date night. Spending a couple hours with my hunny will make me feel a lot better.

11-09-2012, 07:52 AM
Laura, sorry about the house, I am sure God has something much better for you.
Have a wonderful date tonight with your honey.

11-09-2012, 03:19 PM
LAURA ~ that is a tough situation for sure. DH and I went through a similar situation a few+ years back; and GOD found us a place to live and he will for you too. We put an ad in the local paper that we needed a place ASAP and that's how we got a place (then later, GOD helped us buy this place). It is possible that the place you are living in may be free & clear to your landlords; but that is conjecture on my part. Obviously, they are also in a housing bind too. Sending up ^prayers^ for all of you in this situation ... :hug:

RONNIE ~ I too am sad for you that you had such a rough childhood; so I am sending up some special ^prayers^ for GOD's healing grace upon you and your life ... :hug:

11-09-2012, 06:22 PM
I have been reading the posts this week and have been overwhelmed with the strength of character and faith I see here. Thank you for sharing so openly with us. Just reading what some of you are going through and seeing how you are handling it makes me want to be a better person. Thanks for that!

I am praying for the needs here. They are all so different but isn't it great that we have a God who understands and knows our needs?

11-09-2012, 09:09 PM
Made my appt to have my mammogram Monday morning. I was surprised to be able to get in so quickly and will be thrilled to get it over with. Didn't say glad to have it done, just glad to get it over with.:dizzy:

Laura - Sorry about losing your home and especially after putting so much work in it. I agree with Bargoo that God has something better for you.

Rosebud, Wilma, Ronni and everyone else - :wave: Praying for y'all.

Have a good weekend.

11-11-2012, 05:06 PM
Praying for everyone. It seems that this is going to be a hard winter with all of the issues everyone is facing.

I am upset today as well. Though it is petty reasons compared to some of the others posted here. I am not doing well on Weight Watchers at all. I am actually up 10lbs since I stopped Atkins. I am devistated. I have been staying with in my points ( points plus) then I realize that a lot of people are having trouble on Weight watchers with this new program. I am looking in to the older program to see how much different it is. I guess Points Plus allows you to have more points... I don't see how that is going to help. I guess I will go back to my salads, work out regularly and give the rest to God. Please pray for me I am feeling very discouraged and ready to give up.

11-11-2012, 08:41 PM
Psychnurse ~ yes, try the older version of WW; many people here prefer it, plus you can do a modified version later on, if that doesn't help. What I mean is limit the number of fruit and starch grains you have each day i.e. have .5 fruit serving two times a day like 1/2 cup strawberries (or any other berries) plus a small apple; or half banana or orange. Don't give up; some of that 10 lbs could be water-weight and you have caught it early so you have lots of time to turn things around. :hug:

WILMA ~ thanks for the prayers; yes, the needs seem varied but a trial is a trial is a trial. They can have similar effects on all of us mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Plus, we have a LORD who has experienced much suffering also, so He knows how to comfort us too. :)

We've had a pretty good weekend here; some rough moments but not too bad. Sometimes, DH doesn't realize I'm his wife and thinks I'm just some lady taking care of him. Oh well, at least that appeases his mind a bit. Since we haven't lived here long and I do look different from losing weight, that can be understood (I actually weigh less now than when I met him and I do look much different too).

He is sleeping right now, which is good becuz he hasn't been sleeping much at night at all lately but he has been much quieter so I can sleep which is nice. Yeah! Most days he thinks he is in the wrong home, but I am now just telling him that he just moved here (which is the truth -- just stretched out a bit ;)); so hopefully that will work for a while anyways. He was able to go out and ride his bike today as the snow melted on the roads.

We had some ***** fall the other night, but it has almost all melted now. The temps have come back up above 0C or 32 F as well. We had a pretty white dove come by here today; I said a thank you to GOD for that becuz that always reminds me of "The dove of Peace" and we have been praying for peace of mind for both us, so I thought that was interesting for sure.

Food has been very good this week. Today, I roasted a chicken with loads of veggies; and made a pumpkin custard for me (and DH has a pumpkin pie) at the same time (making double use of the oven).

Hope you all have a wonderful week coming up; ^prayers^ have been sent up for all of you ... :hug:

11-12-2012, 09:32 AM
rosebud, your dinner sounds delicious.
Have you tried just humoring your dh ? When he thinks you are someone else just say something like "I am here to take care of you today." That is the truth, I know little about Alzheimers but from what I have heard it is useless to try and straighten out their thinking. My mother went through this with her older sister, she just talked to her as if she could comprehend no matter what or if there was a reply. I am praying that you will have physical strength but emotional strength as well. I know this is difficult for you but God can and will provide. Lean on the Everlasting Arms.

11-12-2012, 06:07 PM
Have you tried just humoring your dh ? When he thinks you are someone else just say something like "I am here to take care of you today."

YES, this is exactly what I am doing these days -- a lot; and it is working too. He is much calmer and seems to be more at peace too. When I worked in the nursing homes with Alzheimer's patients that is what I would do, just go along with what they say and not debate things. It does work well.

My devotion today talked about this -- "Courage is not about having more strength, but continuing on even when you have run out of strength." pp

Oh ya, I am leaning all right -- yes, on His everlasting arms for sure! :hug:

11-12-2012, 10:14 PM
I have been having trouble with Weight watchers also. Have a book of recipes of the old version and it is just like the first version of First Place. Gee both made a mistake when they changed , sometimes change is good and sometimes it is not good. The old version is like a diabetic diet. Right now I am desperately trying to not eat nothing with Cholesterol in it trying to get my Cholesterol down, for if I changed insurance they would not cover me for anything to do with my heart unless I pay them 500 and something dollars a month . Gee! My age the cholesterol and over weight. You have to have insurance and gee they charge a fortune to have a good insurance !

I been trying to restore my Grandmothers home then I plan to restore my family if possible. Going to try and get them all together for a reunion and Thanksgiving each year if possible. I may be crazy , but I have to try.

11-12-2012, 11:25 PM
HEY BOOTSIE ~ hey there girl, nice to hear from you. Will send up some ^prayers^ for you for those concerns you have with your health, your family, and health insurance. Man, that is the price of a mortgage on a house here: seems like highway robbery to me. We are so blessed in this country of ours -- Canada. Your president is doing his best to help with this issue; he needs lots of support on this battle, for sure. May GOD help him & bless him.

Don't be a stranger now ... :hug:

11-13-2012, 02:31 AM
hey everyone, just stopping in briefly to say I'm still around. Just been busy. Working out a lotas usual. Among other things, so I just haven't been on as much. keep up the good work everyone!

11-13-2012, 08:15 PM
Psychnurse I'm going to jump in here....check out this link and see if you might be a person who would benefit from the Metabolism Miracle diet. I'm just wondering. A person who is Metabolism B, doesn't respond to the lower calorie diets like a normal person will. See the check list here:
scroll down to almost the bottom for a list of symptoms.

Don't give up! Before MM diet, I tried and could not even loose 1 pound, I was so frustrated with my efforts, I ate less, I exercised, and never would loose. Now I have lost 10 lbs and some inches since Aug 1st. It is the solution for me.

Check out the lists!

11-13-2012, 10:16 PM
Nelly that is me....
Thank you for the prayers Rosebud ,until you said you was praying for me did not relize that I needed prayer. Thank you

11-14-2012, 09:10 AM
Thanks Nelly! I will look into it. I am so tired of struggling. I did really well on Atkins but it is so family un-friendly. I won't want to give up because I know this is something I need to do.... I am still working on my goals. I think it will be for December since November is almost over :) oh well I'm still plugging away! I hope you all have a great day!

11-14-2012, 10:40 AM
This was weigh in day for me. I'm almost to my pre-Minneapolis weight. It took a bit longer to come off but its coming off. I have been exercising more also which helps a lot. I've been working on Christmas gifts each evening and that's keeping my hands out of the snacks. Yeah!

Psychnurse: I know how you feel. I thought I was doing everything right and the weight wasn't coming off. In spring I found a diet buddy and starting recording everything I eat on Myfitnesspal. This has been working for me. I didn't realize how much I was eating in a day and how much of the wrong foods. The program helps you make good choices. It might be worth a try!

Have a great day everyone!

11-14-2012, 12:06 PM
A quick flyby. Just so busy lately and more stress, but I've decided that is life. That's why we have to lean on Jesus so strongly. Today was late start at school and I take youngest DGD to school on those days. I was so exhausted last night I went to bed at 8:30 and didn't get up until 7:30 this morning. Watching the calories seems to be working, but I think rest would help more. Got to figure out how to get more. Read it is just getting back on Metformin so hopefully this feeling is temporary. I used to hate counting calories, but with them having to put everything on labels now, it really isn't so bad.

Bootsie So glad to hear from you, I've been wondering about you... actually missed you. I will be praying for you.

Y'all have a nice Wednesday.

11-14-2012, 01:32 PM
Well, do check it out.
I was so excited to just find something and someone who knew what I was going through trying to loose.

Loosing weight for me is hormonal(as stated in the Metabolism Miracle book), not totally based on calories, which is why the calorie limiting and exercise never worked. This was so exciting to understand and try since for me, it was the missing link...

gotta run. I am over on that thread I posted above at times with a couple other ladies who are on this diet. Come there and ask some questions.

11-14-2012, 08:26 PM
BOOTSIE ~ your quite welcome. We can pray about anything and everything; GOD cares about every aspect of our lives ... :hug:

WILMA ~ congrats on your successes there. :carrot:

LAURA ~ still parying you all find a nice place to live very soon.

TRISH ~ glad you are getting more rest; hope the meds help.

NELLY ~ happy you found something that is working for you. :)

We had a nice day here today, with some :sunny: even. The temps even stayed above 0c or 34 F for much of the day. Did more stuff around the house today. Food is great -- had tomato patties with veggies and colelsaw for dinner. I even pushed myself to go out for a walk after dinner and did the whole block despite a bit of a biting wind. I felt good when it was done though ... :D

11-16-2012, 11:49 PM
:wave: Just dropping by to say HI to everyone. We had a decent day; Dh had his moments on & off but we made it through all that. Had salad and home-baked pizza (thinner crust one) for dinner. I spent the day doing the floors and other lighter housechores. With all that, I got lots of walking in today and my feet were a bit sore but I'll rest them up well overnight.

We had glorious :sunny: all day long here even though the temps were just a tad colder, so it was a lovely day (no snow). The stars were out full tonight and so close it seemed that you could almost touch them.

The sidewalks and roads are still clear so I was able to go out for a walk tonight. I got DH to bring our dear FIDO with us and he loved it. DH took him back and forth several times, and the two of them have been conked out for the night for some time now ... :lol:

They are saying that we will have good weather with lots of :sunny: for the next week -- what a nice surprise this is turning out to be. I should get lots of walking in if it does. Hope all our friends here have a wonderful weekend ... :flow2:

11-20-2012, 11:12 AM
Thanks for all the prayers, everyone! Mom's decided to get back on a wheat-free lifestyle. I'm going to share a book about the effects of wheat with her, so she can make a more informed decision about it, especially considering her mental health. We're planning Thanksgiving with her here and I'm making crust-free pumpkin pie using vanilla almond milk to avoid both the wheat and dairy. It's sounding very good right now:)

I've been reading all your posts and praying for you all--just haven't had the time to post myself lately. Going to have to work on that....

I have to get ready to go to town now, as I forgot a couple things yesterday:p.

You all take care and have a great day!

11-22-2012, 11:09 AM
Good Morning! Happy Thanksgiving to our American friends. May you find plenty to be thankful for. I know I sure can!

I weighed in yesterday. No change but no gain! That's a good thing. I've been busy getting gifts ready for Christmas that I haven't had time to snack in the evenings.

Have a great day!

11-22-2012, 12:08 PM


11-22-2012, 04:08 PM
:thanks1:HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!! :thanks1:

Have a wonderful day -- enjoying family & friends & good healthy foods that GOD has blessed us with ... :hug:

11-23-2012, 08:53 PM
:wave: Hi Everyone ~ hope you all had a nice Thanksgiving with family & friends yesterday. Back on track for today, I hope ... :D

We had a big ***** storm today; it started with freezing :rain: but switched to the white stuff before noon. We have a snowy, white Winter Wonderland out there and it is snowing again right now. DH got his exercise in today pushing it around for an hour or so. It's good for him though; and he says that he actually enjoys it ... that's good! Gives him something to do in the wintertime.

Food was good today and I just did my floors today, plus the daily stuff (well, that's good exercise anyways). Didn't want to venture out in that mess as slippery snow and ice aren't that safe for me to walk in, so I'll try to find something else to do indoors instead. I am pondering over what I can do inside this winter; looking for ideas.

Hope you all have a lovely weekend ... :)

11-25-2012, 07:42 PM
Hi, Everyone! Hope that everyone had a nice Thanksgiving! We had a quiet one with just Mom over for dinner. So, I didn't mess up too badly and have actually lost 2 pounds since:carrot:

DS2 is headed back to school for the last 3 weeks of this semester and seems to be doing fairly well grade-wise. His schedule got messed up for next semester, so he needs to get that worked out. Tuesday, he has to take the Praxxis test for entrance into the teacher program, so prayers would be appreciated, as he gets a little stressed during these type of tests.

I'm trying to get my motivation to put up our Christmas decos. Don't know why, but I'm just not feeling it, yet, this year. I've been kinda fatigued the last few weeks, though, so hoping the mood will strike this week:wreath:

Well, everyone keep up the good work! You're all in my prayers every day. God bless and have a great evening!

11-25-2012, 11:46 PM
HI RONNI ~ sending up prayers for your DS2 that his tests go well for him; and that you feel some more energy soon too. :hug:

I had a pretty good day today, but DH had a few issues of confusion today. After praying for him a lot, he finally seemed better by this evening. WE did a lot of snow shovelling yesterday. I thought I would be tired or sore but I did OK. Not winded at all, so maybe I am getting more fit after all. My lower back was sore by the end, but was OK last night and today -- PRZ GOD!!!

Just took it easy today -- did some laundry, baked some tea loaves, and made a nice roast chicken dinner. The temps are colder, but we didn't have much more ***** today; just cascading, pretty flakes of varying sizes, here and there.

Hope you all have a wonderful week coming up ... :D

11-26-2012, 12:07 PM
Hello all!
I hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving. I am almost done with my Christmas shopping!!!

I am back after being very discouraged. Weight watchers did not work for me and caused me to gain 10lbs back. I am pretty upset. I thought I was doing well. So, as of today I am back up to 259 :( I decided to go back to my modified Atkins diet that I lost 25lbs on in 2 months... so hopefully it gets better from here.

I have been thinking of everyone and hoping you all have been doing better than I have! Any special plans for Christmas!!?? How is everyone's shopping going!?

11-26-2012, 02:13 PM
Hi Everyone,

Ronni - I pray all goes well for DS2 and is test and praying for you too.

Rosebud - I thought of you and our other Canadian friends when I saw how cold it was up there. Still praying for you and your DH.

psychnurse05 - WW didn't work for me either, but I know those it does. Proves we are all different and so are the ways we eat to lose weight.

Our T-Day was nice. Glad the week e - nd is over and everyone is back in school or work. DH is scheduled for a MRI in the morning and will get results Friday. Sure pray they will be able to find the problem and fix it. Sure would be nice for him to feel good for Christmas.

No shopping yet. Don't know how that is going to go just yet with us having to help buy groceries. I love Tony's kids but sure hope they get their own place soon. Right now I don't really care one way or another if they get it here in town or move back to southern FL. Things got a little better with them for a while, but now that we are getting closer to his DD graduating from LPN school, they are getting worse than they were before when they knew they needed us. I am constantly having to clean and pick up after everyone as no one seems to want to even clean up their own messes. Therapist came today and they left the baby's room a mess and nasty wet diapers in the trash can instead of cleaning it up. I had to make the oldest girl do it. I have to really pray these days to hold my tongue... it has gone on for so long I would really like to explode on them, but don't think that is the Christian way to handle it. The good thing that has come out of this is that I really appreciate MY kids better. I realize what a GREAT set of kids mine are. I would appreciate you praying with me that Tony's DD gets a good job and they are able to move soon. Also pray that God will help me to be patient and Christlike in the mean time. Thanks.

11-26-2012, 11:58 PM
Psychnurse ~ I had the same problem with WW -- I lost at the beginning (2-3 months), then stalled out completely. I find for me a lower starch carb plan works better for me; I do eat some, but limit them, focusing more on whole grains too. I also limit my fruit. So my plan is a modified plan, I guess you would say. As the day goes on, I eat less grain/starch carbs.

We're having some friends over for Christmas again this year; not sure how many there will be yet, but I am planning to have oven-baked BBQ Ribs & Wings this year, for something different (guests said they love that idea already). :D Haven't got much Christmas shipping done yet (maybe one gift); haven't had much opportunity to yet -- maybe this week.

TRISH ~ I have always thought that there are two main types: carb burners and protein burners (my theory only). People like my DH can eat all the carbs of any kind that he wants and he still doesn't gain weight; while I must limit them or I gain weight. Plus, in order to lose weight, I must eat a modified Protein Plan. I just have to make sure to eat some grain carbs each day, or my blood sugar levels fall too low. As I get lower, I may be able to lessen them even more, but we'll see. Thanks for your prayers; DH/we really needs them. Prayers continue for your situation too ... :hug:

I know how you feel about being in a situation where your patience is being tested daily; DH Alzheimers is like that. One issue we had on the weekend was that he didn't want to shovel the snow off the porch/steps and laneway. He didn't use his snowblower becuz he can't remember how to use it. It was all more complicated than that, but I went out and did the steps myself -- then he felt guilty and came out to help me. I ended up doing about half the laneway as well. In our situation, the best way to keep peace, is not to debate or react to him on anything, so I don't. This is the way to show GOD's love and grace to him too.

The temps have dropped down to -10 C (22 F) [and lower], and as the week goes on, that is supposed to go down to -20 C (12 F?) ... :brr: Must dress much warmer when outside now. It takes a bit of getting used to at first, but after a while, it may be OK (I hope). ;)

11-27-2012, 10:45 AM
Rosebud - I know your situation is much more trying than mine. I know how things are when DH is ill like now and nothing I say helps. I've kind of learned to keep quiet and just be there and love him. Sometimes it is hard because it feels like he doesn't care or love me, but I know that isn't true. He sees all that I'm going through and the sacrifices I made for this situation plus dealing with his problems during all this time. Watch for the "special" thing your DH does that you may almost have to look for because they seem so small. I love watching the Christmas movies and I know he doesn't care for them so much. This year he has been recording them and we watched them almost all day Saturday and Sunday and he is still recording plus he is playing some of the old Christmas videos etc. Funny thing is I wouldn't have noticed it if it hadn't been for the fact that I was getting ready to watch one Saturday while he was asleep and found it had been recorded. So those little things are "special" I love you messages we get from them. Thanks for me the prayers.

As for the situation with the kids, I may be giving in to the pressure too much. DD came home and last night she came in and asked me if I wanted her to make enough coffee for me to have some too (she never does that). I never drink coffee in the evening but I had a headache so accepted. She made me a cup and brought it to me. I've decided that #1 I'm sure she isn't happy with the fact that she can't buy the groceries she needs. #2. She is getting ready to graduate and is the speaker for the ceremony. #3. She needs a job and is already doing on-line classes for RN and add to that trying to be wife and mother. Her DH wants to move back to FL and I have no idea what she wants. I've decided to start being more encouraging to her which I've always tried to be and also I'm starting to encourage everyone for when they do move on how nice it will be that they will be free to do things their way again and so will we. I also want to tactfully talk about how I will be able to go back to my Wednesday morning Bible Study and meet friends for breakfast, lunch and stay up late with DH since I won't be babysitting because Jaxx will be ready to go to day care. Tony says if they decide to go back to FL, we are to encourage it and not try to stop them. Youngest DGD still tries to push to get her way, but I think she will soon learn that I'm not a pushover.

I am so thankful that you shared with Psychnurse about how you eat your grain carbs, but eat less of them later in the day. I actually believe I am going to have to do that myself. Glad to see someone else controlling blood sugar that way as I'm convinced that is how I am going to have to do it too.

Thanks for the prayers for us and prayers continue for you too.

11-27-2012, 01:22 PM
Hi everyone,
Mind if I pull up a virtual chair and join you?

I am a 45yr. mother of two, currently stay at home, pretty isolated, have 65 pounds to lose.

11-27-2012, 08:53 PM
eclecticgirl, welcome and good luck. Looking rorward to getting acquainted with you.

11-27-2012, 09:21 PM
:welcome: ECLECTICGIRL ~ we are glad that you decided to join us over here. I see you are from Italy -- we have some Italian in our family too (on my Dad's side). One of the great things about the net is that you can reach so many people with similar interests right from your home. :)

TRISH ~ yes, I agree that on the good days, my DH does try to do little things to help me out around here. It may just be carrying something for me, or sweeping a floor, but it's the intention that counts. When he's feeling down, he can get irritable for sure; so we try to weather those times the best we can. I try not to react to some of the things he says, but I am human too. Thankfully, I am getting better at it though. I say "Okaaay" a lot these days ... ;)

One thing I am really glad about is that I am not eating when stressed by it. Shovelling the snow let off some pent up steam the other day. It was kinda funny now that I think about it, but it was much better than "EATING MY FEELINGS" like I used to do. :D

Today was good; food was good. Just did stuff indoors today. A little of the ***white stuff*** fell today but not enuff that we need to shovel. :lol: We have some shopping planned for tomorrow, and they are predicting some :sunny: for the next two days too.

11-28-2012, 02:31 AM
:Shovelling the snow let off some pent up steam the other day. It was kinda funny now that I think about it, but it was much better than "EATING MY FEELINGS" like I used to do. :D.

Rosebud Talking about the shoveling snow let off some pent up steam made me laugh as I remember when I was married to DH #1. I was 19 yrs old and I got mad at him and his friend who was suppose to help me paint a room in our house. They were doing something else wasting time so I got in there and painted that room myself. They laughed and teased me because I finished that huge room within a little over an hour. Nothing like working off that anger. haha:hug: But we get through it.:dizzy:

11-28-2012, 09:27 AM
Rosebud, I am no expert but I would say that your DH is reacting to the Alzheimers and at these times he is not the man you married. I am praying that you can keep this in mind. I know this is difficult for you and you have your own physical concerns. I pray that God will keep you strong physically and emotionally.

11-28-2012, 10:38 PM
TRISH ~ :lol: oh, that is so right -- the exact same thing. When he said he didn't want to shovel, I said, "OK fine, I'll do it myself then". Famous last words, eh? Duh! :dizzy: So, I was out there flinging that snow around to beat the band; and it must have looked hilarious to anyone watching. I felt a teeny weeny bit embarrassed afterwards, but DH did come and help me finish it off in the end. :D

BARGOO ~ yes, that's true -- this is not the man I married for sure, and I am trying to keep that in mind. Half the time, he doesn't even think I am his wife. He asks me where she went and if I say I am her, he just laughs and walks away. So now, I just say "I don't know". It's a guessing game what's gonna come up next and how to answer him. Thanks for the prayers and advice; it's all greatly appreciated.

We had a busy day; doing errands and picking up lots of groceries today. Even picked up a few things for Christmas ahead of time that were on sale, so that was nice. BOy, it was cold out there though; :brr: the wind made it feel like -23 C (9F) instead of -13 C (or 19F). Was glad when we got back home to a warm house -- thank you, GOD!!!

11-29-2012, 03:34 PM
Have any of you had this dilemma? I know we are called to fast, however, I have heard that total fasting can cause diabetes (which is in my family and I am overweight.) So I know there is a Daniel's Fast, which I was going to do, but losing weight permeates my thinking so I felt like I'd be a hypocrite (not doing it in a pure way but with ulterior motives.) (Anything having to do with food = all I can think about is losing weight.) Do any of you fast? Perhaps as I have food issues it isn't a good idea, or maybe just start with one meal a week?

Justwant2behealthy: I think you are very brave, and I will pray for your continued strength in your difficult situation.

11-29-2012, 07:28 PM
Rosebud: I hate to hear of your issues with your husband :( I don't know if my dad is headed there or not, but my step mom is saying that is what he has. I am sorry it is so rough for you, at least I don't have to deal directly with this issue right now

Eclectricgirl I have heard of several weight loss systems that involve fasting, but I feel usually fasting is to get you closer to the Lord. This one I am thinking of is actually geared toward this goal and has a system. Called "The Lord's Table" and deals with eating behaviors as well. Google it and you can find more information on it.

I just started a diet back in August called Metabolism Miracle. I have found success because I am what she calls a Metabolism B person. Even if I would fast with this Met. B, I would actually gain weight because of the way my hormones are out of whack. This has helped me feel better and I have lost just over 10 lbs when before, I could barely loose 1 no matter how hard I tried.
Go to this link to another thread on this forum where I typed in some symptoms of Met B and see if you might be one who has it and could actually benefit from this and actually gain weight if you tried fasting.

11-30-2012, 02:58 PM
Welcome eclecticgirl! Sorry everyone I have been so busy getting things ready for Christmas. We have to put our tree up on our dining room table because our 8 month old Adalyn is in to everything!

I was hoping to win the lottery this week haha but since I didn't back to work I go :) I guess retirement is still 30 years away! Darn!

On a brighter note... I switched to the original points system of weight watchers and I have lost 4lbs. I a trying to remain optimistic, but we will see. So far I have stuck to it hard core and am going to implement an exercise program soon. I want to adjust to the diet first though. I hope all is well with everyone.
Justwant2be... I am so sorry you have to go through what you do. I think you are a saint, although you think of it as what you have to do. I want you to know that I am praying for you and respect you for your patience!