Weight Loss Support - Taking a scale pledge, need it to be public




LockItUp
10-22-2012, 05:32 PM
Some of you may know my obsession with the scale; mulitple-times-a-day-weighing, my 2 scales in the bathroom phase, and it goes on. Well, I need to stop, it's starting to mess with me, and it's starting to be a problem. So, I decided I not only need to stop weighing multiple times a day, but I need to stop weighing daily for a while.

I've started a new workout program today, I'm counting my calories still, so I know I'm good. I don't need the scale every single day when it's causing me problems like it has been.

So, I pledge publicly to only weigh in on Mondays for the next 6 weeks. :fr: And I'm totally freaked about it, but I have to do this for myself.


DandelionCupcakes
10-22-2012, 05:38 PM
I'm having that problem, too. I think I'll join you there! Good job and thanks for posting it, totally what I needed to read today. <3

Misti in Seattle
10-22-2012, 05:39 PM
If it is bothering you, I hope you are able to stick with it and hide the scale for a while!! Personally I weigh multiple times a day but I LIKE it and enjoy taking frequent peeks. :) But we are all different; I know it does make it hard for a lot of people.


mandalinn82
10-22-2012, 05:49 PM
Good for you for recognizing a problem and making a solution. Look, in 6 weeks, you might decide you miss it, or you might decide to reintegrate, but you'll never know until you try.

Lambiechop
10-22-2012, 05:54 PM
Good job! I am also scale obsessed and since I started heavy lifting 2 weeks ago I've been trying my hardest to care less about the stupid number when I KNOW my body is changing and I can see it in the mirror. Best of luck!!

mandydawn77
10-22-2012, 05:57 PM
I tend to weigh every morning, but yet I tell my daughter she should only weigh once a week so she doesn't get discouraged. I guess I should practice what I preach :) You can do it!

krampus
10-22-2012, 05:58 PM
Not weighing yourself is one of those things - if you decide you hate it, you can always resume!

Good luck finding a healthy head space. I know you've been busting your butt lately and experimenting with a few different methods - keep us posted!

1spunkygal
10-22-2012, 06:02 PM
I'm guilty of this too husband thought I was the only one.... I showed him I was not. He doesn't get it NEVER been overweight in his life.

mottainai
10-22-2012, 06:34 PM
Best of luck to you with this!!

I've gone through various periods of weighing and not weighing, sometimes one works and sometimes the other. Right now I'm also in a place where I really feel like I can't be watching the scale, so I've made it one of my goals, actually, to not weigh myself for a few weeks. Like, I'm actually crossing off the days that I manage to not do it, just like I would for going to the gym or whatever.

I know it's hard, coming off after being sorta obsessed with the scale, but I know you can do it, and we'll all be happy to hear your progress! (:

juliastl27
10-22-2012, 08:02 PM
you're a stronger woman than i!

LockItUp
10-22-2012, 08:13 PM
Thanks for all of the support.

In months past the scale has been a very helpful tool; it hasn't gotten into my head like it has the past few weeks. It's gotten to where it isn't just a simple hop on the scale and see what's crackin'. It's gotten to where I cut off even water early evening because I don't want it to reflect on the scale the next day. Calorie content being equal I have been choosing foods that weigh less than other foods because I feel like maybe it'll make some small difference on the scale the next day . Or like the past 2 weeks I've stopped lifting because I can't stand the thought of a gain from sore muscle water retention. Just not good, not healthy, not normal or okay in any way shape or form. And having just typed it out it sounds even more sick than it did before. But as you can probably now plainly see, the scale and I need some time apart!

masterptr
10-22-2012, 08:19 PM
Wow...
how about make a schedule and try to work with that.
i.e., once a week? (every certain day?)
but it is not just about the weighing.. it sounds like you So want it to weigh less, you are doing things like not consuming water... not working out ...
I hope you find a peach with this scale war.
try not to hop on scale if you know you have water retention. I usually wait until after my TOM and etc.

Arctic Mama
10-22-2012, 08:25 PM
The scale has seasons of usefulness, like any other tool. I am generally a daily weigher/logger too, but decided to mostly shelve it during this pregnancy (after religiously sticking to my plan and logging everything the last time!). It was the right choice for me now, and the other choice was the right one for me then. Things change! I'm back on my plan fully and still not weighing, because it does my mind good to focus more on behaviors than results right now. And in a few months, or particularly postpartum, things might change again.

It's okay to make changes and as our wise Krampus indicated, you can always pick it up again ;)

So I witness you pledge and am fully on board, myself. Scale abstaining, for a time, will do us both good!

Steph7409
10-22-2012, 09:46 PM
Good luck. It sounds like a good idea for you right now. And please don't worry about it sounding "sick" to think about how much water you drink or the weight of your food. I think everyone here has had similar thoughts at one time or another. Letting go of that sort of unhealthy thinking is hard, so kudos to you for starting that process!

susiefleshner
10-22-2012, 09:52 PM
I too have the same problem. It's starting to control me and get into my head.

I wish you lots of luck and you can do it.

mottainai
10-22-2012, 09:56 PM
It's gotten to where I cut off even water early evening because I don't want it to reflect on the scale the next day. Calorie content being equal I have been choosing foods that weigh less than other foods because I feel like maybe it'll make some small difference on the scale the next day .

Me too, me too.

angieand2girls
10-22-2012, 09:57 PM
Stephanie - the behaviors that you mentioned are the exact ones I was having which played a role in why I made the decision to go long periods without weighing. I support you fully! Like ArticMama said...it can do some good to your mind to focus on behaviors rather than results for a while...I think it will help put you in a better headspace. Then, once you and the scale have developed a healthy relationship again, you can go back to more frequently if it suits you. :)

TripSwitch
10-22-2012, 10:17 PM
Me too, me too.

Ditto

When I went to WW (and the only reason I went was to weigh in, I NEVER stayed for the meeting) I would do crazy things like not wear socks or underwear thinking that it would make a difference! Not to mention not eat or drink anything before hand thinking that would help as well... Definitely not healthy and ultimately not helpful for my weight loss... Thankfully for me and my sanity I got over it and now the scale doesn't make me nearly as crazy... I don't always like what I see, but now at least I don't react to it by doing things that I know don't work for me anymore...

linJber
10-22-2012, 10:59 PM
Good luck, Stephanie. You have such a fantastic outlook and have a real handle on your personal situation. I love reading your posts and know you know what you're doing, so this has to be the best thing for you right now. Just don't lock onto the 6 week thing if you feel you need to / want to / have to go back to weighing more often than once a week.

When I was losing, I weighed almost every day but only wrote down what I weighed on Wednesday. No other number counted or mattered. Maybe you'll get to that point after a few weeks. I find that now that I'm maintaining, I do better (read: stay on plan to a higher degree) when I weigh more often. We all have to do what works.

You are so close to your goal and I'm betting that's why the scale holds so much power right now. I know you'll be successful in this little quirky stage of losing weight. Hang in there.

Lin

freelancemomma
10-22-2012, 11:01 PM
It's gotten to where I cut off even water early evening because I don't want it to reflect on the scale the next day. Calorie content being equal I have been choosing foods that weigh less than other foods because I feel like maybe it'll make some small difference on the scale the next day.

I'm also guilty of doing the above at times. I'll find myself thinking, "I know this cauliflower is healthy and low-cal, but it weighs a lot, so if I don't excrete it by tomorrow morning the number on the scale will go up. Think I'll have some cheese instead." Crazy how we let that number dictate our lives.

F.

LockItUp
10-22-2012, 11:39 PM
I can't tell you ladies what a relief it is that so many of you relate to the scale issues. This is exactly why I love 3FC so much, no judgement, just honesty and support, and a good kick in the pants every now and then when needed.

And, Lin, I think you're right about it having such a hold on me because I'm close to goal. I've changed my goal weight about 4 times in the last 2 weeks, making it lower and lower just so it's further away (changed it back to a higher number now just for sanity's sake). I'm more than a little freaked about being so close.

JossFit
10-23-2012, 06:09 AM
You know I support ya. :)

takingcontrol
10-23-2012, 10:48 AM
Wow, thank you 3FC. Here I was having my own personal scale dilemma, and I logged on to read this post.

OP, good luck in your mission to stay off the scales, and well done for making your pledge public and getting something that clearly effects so many of us out in the open.

I was getting obsessed by the scales when I last lived in the UK, but haven't been on any at all in the last 6 weeks. I've also not been doing my eating and exercise right either. I jumped back on it yesterday, and boy does it feel good to know I'm making good choices again. But, the one thing eating me up was getting on scales. I don't own any, don't even know where I can go to buy a decent pair so I was going to go and use some electronic ones outside a shop, once a week or so. BUT, the idea of doing that just filled me with dread, I can't face getting back on something that took over my life and then know I can't jump on and off whenever I like. So, I made the decision not to weigh, ever. Well, until I'm back in the UK in a few months. I'll eat right, exercise right and hopefully see plenty of other good changes, but I won't weigh until I'm home. That thought fills me with so much relief! And I thought that was really strange. So, it's really comforting to read that many others have issues relating to the scales and the numbers.

Thank you for sharing :)

Wannabehealthy
10-23-2012, 10:58 AM
I started out weighing everyday because if I was gaining I wanted to know before it got out of hand. But now I'm getting to the point that if I feel like I gained, I won't get weighed. I don't let it go longer than a week, though.

LockItUp
10-25-2012, 11:14 AM
GAH! My public pledge did not help me entirely as I weighed myself this morning. Felt obligated to confess! Seeing as how today is Thursday and I had not weighed since Monday, that's still a really big step for me!

my25reasons
10-25-2012, 11:18 AM
I'm known for having this problem as well. It's bad when you know what your morning, afternoon and evening weight is - to the ounce. It's an obsession that only makes you beat yourself up more. I'm also working to knock this behavior off. Good for you for taking the first step! I think I'll join you!

Stars
10-25-2012, 11:33 AM
I weigh myself everyday too! But only in the morning, after going to the bathroom but before eating, that's the accurate weight. Anytime when you weigh after you already ate, even if it's hours later, it's not accurate so it ends up being a waste of time.

LockItUp
10-25-2012, 11:38 AM
I weigh myself everyday too! But only in the morning, after going to the bathroom but before eating, that's the accurate weight. Anytime when you weigh after you already ate, even if it's hours later, it's not accurate so it ends up being a waste of time.

Yes, I know the logic behind it for sure. But it's not a logical issue, that's why it's such a problem for me!

Stars
10-25-2012, 12:14 PM
Yes, I know the logic behind it for sure. But it's not a logical issue, that's why it's such a problem for me!

yeah, I know, it's a psychological thing. Same with me and a lot of us too! I tried to commit to not weighing everyday but I can't commit. It's so hard to not know what the numbers will be. :hug:

strutter5150
10-28-2012, 02:28 AM
I'm literally in tears...I'm not alone and I felt like I have been for a long time. The scale and I are not having a good relationship as of late and it's really messing with my head. I'm losing inches so I know logically I'm OK for the most part, but I'm gaining weight and it's killing my motivation. I need to take this pledge too, but I'm not sure if I can. It was easier to quit smoking and give up chocolate!!