Weight Loss Support - Unexpected NSNV's (Non-Scale Non-Victories)




ControlW
10-19-2012, 08:56 PM
I'd be the first to say that I love the Non-Scale Victories thread. I always share in the joy that everyone posts in there, and it's something that keeps me motivated when thing are feeling difficult. But as I've lost weight, I've come to find that some things are issues that I wouldn't have expected. And I though that this might be a good place to just vent about small annoyances that have come along the way.

(If this thread is inappropriate, please delete it. I don't mean it to be, but I am aware that it might be too negative for the forum.)

Anyway, one of the things that has been bothering me lately is that I feel bony. There are bones everywhere now. The hip bones now get to me when I sleep on my side, and that's been uncomfortable from time to time. Also, I read a lot at my desk, and I always put my left elbow on the surface with my hand resting against my clavicle and before that was nice and comfy and now it's not. I'm sure I'll get used to this over time, but it's getting to me.

Also, and this is one that I should have thought about but that I didn't is that I need to buy new clothes, but I don't have enough money to do so. So I feel that I look ridiculous at times, especially when I'm wearing a suit. I know that this will pass with time, but right now I feel like a kid wearing his father's clothes and that no one will take me seriously. (Although nothing of the sort has actually happened.)


Riddy
10-19-2012, 09:34 PM
Oh, I hear ya on the bony thing. I'm about ready to double up on yoga mats. :p

And my favorite pendant chain is now too long - it hangs too low in a lot of my shirts.

stimkovs
10-20-2012, 09:26 AM
yup- the good ol'bones. there's the +/-ive side of that. a) you will get used to it. b) - i now have to sleep with a teddy bear, because my arm is too bony to be put in the same position i used to sleep with. UGH.


also- ALWAYS BEING COLD. ALWAYS being cold.
i am the human icicle.


freelancemomma
10-20-2012, 10:23 AM
also- ALWAYS BEING COLD. ALWAYS being cold.

Hey fellow Torontonian. The always-cold thing is normal and expected when you're losing weight. Contrary to what some people think, the phenomenon has little to do with how much insulation (i.e., fat) you have on your body; it's about your metabolic rate, which goes down when you're eating at a deficit. Once you reach goal and bump up your calories to maintenance level, you should stop feeling cold within a couple of months.

F.

dogdaysofdiets
10-20-2012, 10:27 AM
The boney-ness drives me a bit batty too. Sitting for too long (like on the plane) hurts my tail bone...as does riding my bike.

But my biggest weight loss non victory would have to be my knee surgery. Thanks to losing weight (and inherited bad knees...that definitely had more to do with it than anything) and becoming more intense with my physical activity, I destroyed my right knee in June and had surgery in early July. My prize for finishing my weight loss and hitting maintenance mode...knee surgery. :dizzy:

angieand2girls
10-20-2012, 02:21 PM
Hey fellow Torontonian. The always-cold thing is normal and expected when you're losing weight. Contrary to what some people think, the phenomenon has little to do with how much insulation (i.e., fat) you have on your body; it's about your metabolic rate, which goes down when you're eating at a deficit. Once you reach goal and bump up your calories to maintenance level, you should stop feeling cold within a couple of months.

F.

Aaaah....interesting. Thanks for sharing that! :)

Skellig19
10-22-2012, 02:17 PM
Hey fellow Torontonian. The always-cold thing is normal and expected when you're losing weight. Contrary to what some people think, the phenomenon has little to do with how much insulation (i.e., fat) you have on your body; it's about your metabolic rate, which goes down when you're eating at a deficit. Once you reach goal and bump up your calories to maintenance level, you should stop feeling cold within a couple of months.

F.

Thanks for sharing this info! Super helpful! I thought I was going to be cold permanently but now I've got something to look forward to when I'm thin and maintaining. I will be thin, maintaining, AND warm! Hurrah! Seriously, this has really given me a boost. I had no idea.

Missy Krissy
10-22-2012, 03:34 PM
First of all - congratulations on reaching your goal! And secondly, it's ok to gripe now and then, we all do it. Give yourself time to adjust to your "new" body.

stimkovs
10-22-2012, 03:38 PM
Hey fellow Torontonian. The always-cold thing is normal and expected when you're losing weight. Contrary to what some people think, the phenomenon has little to do with how much insulation (i.e., fat) you have on your body; it's about your metabolic rate, which goes down when you're eating at a deficit. Once you reach goal and bump up your calories to maintenance level, you should stop feeling cold within a couple of months.

F.

Thanks! I am hoping that it goes away, eventually. It's been several years, but I do notice that when I eat a little more, I am a little less cold!

HungryHungryHippo
10-22-2012, 05:44 PM
Ha ha ha--it's funny--there are little negatives, too! I discovered, the hard way, that I can't clasp things (like a cell phone) between my thighs any more! And there's this thing called The Thumper that I used to LOVE on my back. I got my husband to do it this w/e, and ended up with thumper-sized bruises!

twinieten
10-22-2012, 07:40 PM
Too funny! I don't mind the bonyness yet, but I'm not experiencing a down side to more bones (yet?).

I think the clothing thing is the biggest annoyance for me. Between my son growing and needing new clothes (adult sized, no less), and me shrinking and needing smaller clothes, we're going to be in the poor house! I love Goodwill and thrift stores, but I can't always find what I need there or I don't have the time to really look. Cha-ching!

Riddy
10-22-2012, 11:11 PM
Oh yeah, the cold thing. :yes: I used to be the always-hot chick at work, now I'm shivering with all the other girls. :brr::brr::brr: I have a wool sweater and fingerless gloves in my drawer, along with a big ziplock of tea bags.

I hope it gets better next year!

KittyKatFan
10-22-2012, 11:48 PM
I was wondering why I have all of a sudden found it to be cold all the time. Last summer, even with the A/C at 72, I was always hot.

This summer, in the middle of Texas, the heat barely registered with me. At work, I was constantly cold. My office heater was turned way up to the point where others thought my office was stifling. And 72 degrees in my house caused me to shiver.

During my unfortunate 2 1/2 week falling off the wagon, I was getting hot flashes (I hope it's not menopause). I have a feeling thou, the if I continue to stay on plan, I will start getting cold again.

StephMar
10-23-2012, 01:26 PM
I've found that I can't lay on my side with my legs together because my knee bones touching kind of irritates me. Harder to sit unless it's on a cushy chair. And I'm right there with the elbow thing. I never, ever thought that those things would be a problem. The buying clothes thing is runner up but now that I'm so close to goal, it looks like I will stay at size 8 so that should be ending soon. It's amazing how much easier it is to find clothes now.

mottainai
10-23-2012, 01:50 PM
I don't know about you guys, but the more weight I lose, the harder it gets to shave my knees!! A small sacrifice, to be sure..

Elladorine
10-23-2012, 01:53 PM
I certainly didn't mind getting "cold" this past summer, I live in the desert. ;) It made the 110+degree weather much more tolerable this year. :dizzy: It can make cuddling with the hubby difficult though, especially now that it's cooling off . . . I was freezing last night, completely bundled up to my chin under the covers. He had the ceiling fan on full-blast with no blanket and complained that I was too hot for him. :lol: Funny, I remember my mom always remarking that I was a "furnace" since I was always, always hot. I never realized at the time that the way I was eating and my metabolism probably had something to do with that (I was at least 100 pounds overweight as a teenager and god only knows how many simple carbs I ate every day)! :o

I sometimes feel I've become too obsessed with the topic of weight loss in general. Not nearly as bad as I was last year though; I'm doing my best to keep myself in check so I don't end up crashing and burning from the exhaustion of it on top of other stresses I had last fall. I don't want it to be the only thing I think about and talk about, that doesn't sound so good for my emotional health and well-being, plus it makes me a rather boring person in RL. :(

I still have a long way to go before I can even think about complaining about being bony. :lol: Then again . . . my poor butt is pretty small and actually bony (most of my excess weight is in my tummy) and I'm having trouble imagining the rest of me catching up with it properly! I can't wait until I have collar bones though, and I think they're just starting to emerge. ;)

Steph7409
10-23-2012, 10:08 PM
I'm not eating at much of a deficit but I'm still cold all the time. Maybe it's because I'm older (54 and post-menopause). It's annoying, because I'm spending more on heating my house. I'll feel like it's freezing, and then check the thermostat only to find it's 70!

I also find it difficult to lie on my side with all the bones sticking out. How do really skinny people do it? :)

Elladorine, when my collarbones first started to show, I couldn't stop touching them. It was the first time I could really feel that my body was changing. You'll be there soon!