Weight Loss Support - Nighttime- do you sometimes want food more than sex?

10-17-2012, 11:18 AM
I know, it's so wrong.

Last night I found myself pushing my boyfriend off because ALL I could think about was the cookies in the kitchen that a friend made. Like, I couldn't even enjoy myself because I was too busy mentally fighting the urge to binge.

This has been happening to me a lot.
It's not normal, and I guess this justifies that I have a problem.


10-17-2012, 11:28 AM
Were you hungry or just food obsessing?

If you were hungry I'd say that it's normal. If you were food obsessing, I wouldn't say it's completely abnormal, but ya maybe a small problem. Does that happen a lot?

10-17-2012, 12:27 PM
I think just food obsessing! I had one cookie, and when I went to the bedroom all I could think about is that I wanted more! Delightful, right? lol

10-17-2012, 12:40 PM
If you can't wait to have sex before going after cookies, that's not a good headspace to be in (unless the sex sucks).

10-17-2012, 12:41 PM
Haha, this is exactly how I felt on Saturday. I just wanted DF to be done so I could eat some of the peanut butter pie I made. Shh, don't tell him I said that!

10-17-2012, 12:43 PM
For me it's not that the sex sucks, but that the medication I'm on (birth control and zoloft) has pretty much killed my libido.

Arctic Mama
10-17-2012, 01:01 PM
Nope. I cannot say I've ever felt like that. Sex is a requirement to keeping my marriage and self healthy and happy, cookies just make me fat. Yes, sometimes I want cookies, but they're never on the same level as human interaction, especially of an intimate nature. I wouldn't say that is normal or healthy and investigating why that food has such an obsessive hold on you might be in order.


10-17-2012, 01:21 PM
This has been happening to me a lot.
It's not normal, and I guess this justifies that I have a problem. Thoughts?

I almost always want food more than sex. Although there's nothing physically wrong with me and I can orgasm quite easily, I've never been a highly sexual person. I don't get mentally aroused very easily and sex often feels like work to me. I wish it were different, but I don't think it's wrong. It just is. And I've never denied my husband when he wants sex (which fortunately isn't too often these days, though we're as close as ever).


10-17-2012, 01:35 PM
I just got divorced. Since this forum is anonymous, I will admit here (and only here) that a small part of my motivation for forgoing cookies is to find someone to have sex with! Cuz I miss it. (I do know skinny is not a prerequisite to finding love, blah blah blah. And I am not waiting until I have lost the weight to start looking. I just know that it's easier when I am smaller.)

10-17-2012, 01:50 PM
Obsessing over anything to the detriment of other things is a problem. Doesn't matter if it's cookies over sex or sex over cookies. It's the obsession that is the problem, not the object of the obsession. If it's a common problem for you, then it might be worth looking into a bit. If not, then get the cookies out of the house and get busy with your boyfriend.

10-17-2012, 02:06 PM
I've never wanted food more than sex since I've been married. But, I will admit that I have binged during the day even after considering that it'd be less comfortable with my husband that evening.

10-17-2012, 02:14 PM
No. Sex > food. :lol: I'd likely go all day without food if that was required to have sex that evening.

10-17-2012, 04:16 PM
depends on the sex in question as well as the food in question. ;) just kidding.

i wouldnt turn down sex for food, buuuuuut, i also dont keep things in the house (like brownies.. mmmm) that i know ill obsess about.

my advice: toss those cookies in the trash and move on

10-17-2012, 05:46 PM
Simple answer is no. I'll leave it at that.


10-17-2012, 05:52 PM
Um, given the topic of thread, use of the carrot emote seems awfully questionable. :lol:

Missy Krissy
10-17-2012, 05:58 PM
Yes, I'd take food over sex. Especially something rich and cheesy.

But then, I'm not claiming to have a "normal" relationship with food either.

10-17-2012, 06:04 PM
Um, given the topic of thread, use of the carrot emote seems awfully questionable. :lol:
How about bananas instead? :D


10-17-2012, 06:07 PM
Simple answer is no. I'll leave it at that.


That is incredibly shocking coming from a man. :lol:

I second the questionability of the use of carrots for the given topic LOL!!!

10-17-2012, 07:29 PM
No, that has not happened to me. BUT, if I overeat and feel bloated beforehand, then that affects if I want sex or not.

10-17-2012, 08:00 PM
Okay haha I don't mean food over sex in general. I guess I just meant eating/food affecting your libido. I know that if I just oinked out, I then won't be in the mood for sex, or I'll just want to oink out more!