40-Somethings - Are We Destined to Gain it all Back?

08-05-2012, 12:08 PM
I read a lot of posts here about how people came to 3FC years before, were really motivated to lose the weight, lost a large amount and felt great, only to gain it all back plus extra a few years later.

Losing this weight has been one of the most challenging things I have ever done. It is true that weight loss is at least a 90% mental game. The thought that I might finally reach my goal only to gain it all back in a few years really scares me. It doesn't scare me enough to throw in the towel and say why bother, but I just can't imagine having to lose this weight all over again.

Does the thought of temporary success but ultimate failure scare anyone else?

08-05-2012, 01:06 PM
It should scare you. I've been through it and never in a million years did I imagine that I would let myself get back to where I started. But I did.

Back in 2004 & 2005 I lost about 60 pounds by calorie counting & hitting the gym. I wasn't at goal but I felt great about how I looked. It's hard to pinpoint what happened but basically I was not vigilant about my calories. It took years to put back on. At first it was 10 pounds and I noticed my pants getting a little tight. "Oh 10 pounds...no biggie...let me nip that in the bud". But I was careless and over time I eventually gained it all back. It started with giving myself a little "reward" now & then but then I lost control.

Do I beat myself up? Yes. Have I learned anything? Yes. A lot.

My best advice would be to stay away from your trigger foods, don't let yourself get too comfortable at your new weight (and by that I mean don't get into the mindset that you can go back to a bad way of eating and it will be alright. It will catch up with you) and don't ever stop exercising. I quit the gym because I moved and I regret it. For myself, I realize that I will have to be careful and mindful of what I eat for the rest of my life.

ETA: That's not to say what happened to me will happen to you. I don't think everyone is destined to gain it all back. I know people that have managed to keep it off and not have any gain (or only a very small gain and manage to get it under control).

08-05-2012, 01:16 PM
Destined? no... Inclined? so it seems... And yes, that's terrifying.

I gained it all back then and then some plenty of times. This most recent time, I've stopped myself before gaining it ALL back. But since I had lost so much more than any other attempt, not gaining the last 20 back feels like little consolation.

But there's is only one reasonable solution, lose it again and resolve not to let the regain creep in again. There are lots of maintainers on this site. It's not easy, but it's possible. You just have to believe that you are capable and put in the work.

08-05-2012, 03:22 PM
I'm not afraid of regain any more, because I know the circumstances under which gains and losses occur (for me), and I can't fail so long as I remember what those circumstances are, and act accordingly.

I think we're "taught to fail" at weight loss, because we're taught and encouraged to see weight loss in terms of dieting... temporary behavior changes. We believe that once we lose the weight, we'll be able to eat what we want (or at least more than we did while dieting).

At or near goal weight (and often before) people all around us will push food on us and argue that we "don't have to diet anymore."

This time has been different, because I've decided that I will not do weight loss the way I did before, the way "everyone does it." Instead, I decided that I would find out what works for me, and commit to doing those things forever.

In the past, when I worked at weight loss, I would change my diet and my activity level to a degree that I had no intention of maintaining forever. I often cut calories to 1200 (or less) even though I had no intention of eating 1200 calories per day forever. I would exercise much more than I planned on maintaining forever. I would joint Weight Watchers or TOPS, but have no intention of staying in the group after I reached goal weight, inevitably deciding at some point that I was ready (and needed) to "do this on my own."

I weigh myself daily. I make only changes I'm willing to include in my life forever; and I attend a weight loss support group (TOPS - take off pounds sensibly) every week, and I don't judge myself based on weight loss. Managing my weight is something I WANT to do, not something that determines my self worth. I also don't set myself up for failure, by believing that when I've made a mistake that I've "blown it, and might as well keep eating until I have the strength and will to start over, hopefully tomorrow."

I don't "start over" anymore, I just "move on." And all these changes are going to be mine forever, because if I give any of them up, I know I WILL regain the weight.

I'm not afraid of regaining the weight, because I have a plan, and as long as I stick with it, I'll be fine. The most important for me, has been the group support I get daily here, and weekly at my TOPS group. I fully expect to be in both groups forever, and I know that I'll do fine as long as I stick with that choice. If I decide I "can do it on my own," I will fail, because I can't succeed "on my own." Thankfully, I don't have to.

08-05-2012, 05:40 PM
Scares the crap out of me. But as Kaplods said, if you find something that you can stick with forever, it will be much easier to keep the weight off.

That's why I'm not doing any strict low carb 'diet' program like Atkins. I'm just finding an amount of daily carbs that works for me, and I will adjust as needed as time goes on. Eventually all my carbs will come from vegetables, legumes, and a little bit of fruit.

I love eating low carb so far. I don't have constant cravings for sugar, I get full much easier than with calorie counting, and I actually think about food less. If I'm vigilant and keep reminding myself of all the reasons eating low carb is best for my health and happiness, I think I can stick with this forever.

Sustainable is the key word to dietary changes. If you know now that your current eating habits will never actually be 'habit', that you'll always be fighting yourself, if you can't bring yourself to actually enjoy the food you're eating...then it's probably not sustainable.

Only Me
08-05-2012, 05:45 PM
Yes and no. Yes, I know that I can (and have) gained most of it back. No, because I know that 1) I can stop myself before I gain all of it and more back (and I did, this past spring) and 2) I can lose it again.

I also know that I have to be constantly vigilant for the slow creep. Slow, small changes to the way I eat and live that add up to pounds gained over time. Avoiding the scale when I don't think I'll like what it says so that I can ignore the pounds creeping back. Buying to buy myself a bigger size when my clothes stop fitting or when it it's a new season. I have to be constantly watching for these signs and cut it off there, because I am so much more physically and mentally happy and fit where I am now than were I was at 160 or 156.

08-05-2012, 05:56 PM
If we keep the dietary habits we've learned to lose the weight then we shouldn't be worried about gaining it back. It's all about a new way of life, not losing it and then going back to the way we ate before. Does that mean we never have a "free" day? No, not at all.. but we must always stay on top and stay with what we know works.. maybe only slightly eating more calories to maintain.

08-05-2012, 06:31 PM
Ok, I'm a bit over the line of 40-something, but wanted to comment on this.

Oddly, the stats don't scare me. After all, I've already accomplished something I've never known anyone in real life do, lose 100 lbs through plain old calorie counting and exercise (and keep most of it off for 2 years). So while I know it's always going to be a battle to keep the weight off, not scared of the challenge. This is one area where I feel my age/experience is an advantage. I know what didn't work for most of my life and finally figured it what I needed to do to make changes that I could stick with permanently.

Another advantage is having 100 lbs. to lose meant there were no quick fixes and then back to old habits. I made changes to my diet and activity gradually, then kept improving them as the weight dropped and I needed to do more to keep the deficit growing.

I think ignoring the math of weight loss is what gets so many regaining. The calorie level needed to support a 165 lb body is drastically less than what maintained 265. I didn't "break" my metabolism, I improved my body to the point that it needs much less to get through a day. I know it doesn't feel that way when I now exercise 6 hours/week when I used to move no more than I had to, but it's annoyingly true. Mentally it feels like being a healthy, active person should result in being able to "get away" with eating as many calories as I used to, but sorry to say, it burned WAY more calories carrying around extra 100 lbs all of the time than I'm ever going to burn through exercise now.

08-05-2012, 06:54 PM
The thought of regaining used to scare the stuffing out of me too. But as I progress, I have gained the realization that all these changes I'm making must be permanent. I've read so many personal stories of people who lost weight and re-gained and they seem to have a common theme. That theme is that once you get to goal, you're done "dieting" and you can go back to old habits. I now understand that this is simply not true. I will have to watch what I eat for the rest of my life. In effect, the "diet" never ends. That used to overwhelm me but now, I have a calm acceptance of the fact. A person over on WW put it in perspective for me with this question, "Which is harder? Weighing 300 pounds or eating properly?"

08-07-2012, 08:03 PM
I hope not. My life depends on it. I'm Type 2 diabetic.

A couple months ago, after an hour on the treadmill (hence my name here) I got an annoying blister on the bottom of my foot. Over the next week I watched in horror as it blossomed into this big ugly thing over an inch in diameter. It scared the crap out of me, and gave me the swift kick in the butt that I needed to not only cut out the sweets, but to lose weight in general.

I watched diabetes take my friend's feet, then her legs, and eventually her life. As much as I sometimes feel my life isn't worth a whole lot, I owe it to my kids to stick around. They already lost their mom (cancer). They don't need to be without dad as well.

08-11-2012, 05:56 AM
I've had successes so failure shouldn't worry me, but getting to even just one of my goals seems impossible.

I agree it's mostly in the head, and self-fulfilling prophecy (whether you believe you can, or believe you cannot, you are right), so there is probably a lot of self-sabotage that I employ to avoid reaching my goals for whatever reason.

It's complex.

I'm not afraid of gaining it back, necessarily, I'm afraid of never getting to where I want to be.

08-14-2012, 11:34 PM
I dont think we are destined to gain the weight back that we've lost. I think that we will always have to be conscious of the fact that we can gain it back if we dont watch what we are doing and forget how easy it is to gain it. That means we have to weigh ourselves regularly and not let the lbs keep creeping back on.

08-15-2012, 09:43 PM
I have a 40 pound range, and I've lost and regained it 7 times in the last 30 years. So about every 4 years. I regain about a pound a month--which is like 120 calories extra a day. This time, I'm just not going to switch to "maintenance." Menopause particularly scares me, because I've heard how many people gain weight then, and how hard it is to lose it.

08-16-2012, 12:11 AM
I've lost and regained before (50lb or more in a cycle). Last fall I started actively trying to lose weight. I lost 30lb, which put me within spitting distance of being "overweight" instead of obese.

I took a break for vacation, and came down with a minor stomach bug. That "stomach bug" took three months to diagnose and another four months to get used to living with the "new" digestive disorder. The medications make my weight spike, or give me a terrible case of the munchies. For most of that seven months I was in too much pain to exercise, and sometimes too much pain to walk. I didn't track my weight. High fiber made it worse, so I had to cut out all fruits and vegetables for awhile. I ate a -lot- of scrambled eggs and white rice, sprinkled liberally with sesame oil.

But I've learned to manage my condition. I've learned what triggers it, what soothes it, what all the trade-offs for the medications are. And I've started getting on the scale again. In 8 months of paying -no- attention to what I've eaten, I appear to be up a pound and a half.

No, I can't explain it. But it might give you hope that it's not a senseless fight. The one thing I tried to do when I wasn't tracking was to not eat when I wasn't hungry, no matter how good the food sounded. Sometimes the medication got the better of me, but I tried.

But whether I gained 1lb or 50lb, or even if I'd painlessly lost weight in those 8 months of not paying attention - I'm not where I want to be yet, so it's time to strap my boots on and start at it again.

08-16-2012, 12:30 AM
I personally find it a lot harder to keep it off than to take it off. I have lost and gained it right back before and I have lost and kept it off for a little while. I have never lost and kept it off for good. So, this is definitely something that scares me, as well. I really don't know how to maintain; and that is the problem. It is the rare person who loses it and keeps it off for more than a year; let alone 5 or 10 or forever more. I believe I will pretty much always be struggling with my food issues. That doesn't mean that I don't think I will ever reach my goal. It means that I think it will be a struggle for me to keep at it forever. Historically speaking there seems to be a point in time where I just get tired of fighting it.

09-13-2012, 05:26 PM
I too am like maripossa. I am a champion at losing weight!! Unfortunately I am champion at gaining weight too! What I fail miseribly at is MAINTAINING weight.

I am scared of regaining anything I have lost. In fact I waited a long time before starting this weight loss attempt because I was scared of the, "what if I gain it all back PLUS more" like I have in the past.

So I looked at where my past weight losses stopped being losses and turned into gains. This is what I discovered.

If I lose weight for a set date (my wedding, a vacation, a class reunion) I will be successful until that date or event. Then I slowly (or sometimes not so slowly) revert to "my old ways".

My most successful weight losses have been when they are medically supervised. When I don't keep my regular appointments, I gain weight. Sometimes I have a valid excuse for missing an appointment. But if I miss more than two consecutive appointment (or go longer than 2 months) I start gaining weight. I guess it's about Accountablity!!

I must plan! Good healthy eating does not "just happen". I have to plan meals ahead of time, I have to figure out what I need for groceries for those meals, AND I have to look at any other outside activities might be going on. This way I know if the meal I had planned can actually be made that day.

So this time I have told myself I am losing weight so I look really good when they bury me. Ok not exactly those words, but I have no "event" that I am losing weight for. There nothing more important than my health. If I am not healthy I cannot take care of the others in my life. I will continue to follow up with my doctor and dietician for the rest of my life.

I will plan. I will plan to plan. I will also execute those plans. Yes life happens, and sometimes things don't go as planned. I have a cheat sheet in my purse. It lists restaurants and meal options that I can work into my plan. If we end up eating out, even at a fast food place (eww) I know I can make a good choice.

I also know one bad snack or meal, doesn't have to lead to a bad day, week or month.

I hope the things I have learned about myself will enable me to continue to lose weight and to maintain that weight loss!

09-13-2012, 05:45 PM
I used to be afraid - terribly afraid. So afraid, that I promised I would never diet again after losing 50 pounds and regaining it all quickly plust 30 pounds more!

And then my health started to deteriorate and I realized that I had to face my fears and just deal with it.

In the meantime, I learned a lot about myself - my triggers, my habits, etc. And I learned what can lead to weight gain and so on.

I figure from on, for the rest of my life, I'll have little ups and down, but I'll keep them little. I know there will always be holidays and vacations to make the scale rise and I'll just have to deal with it.

AND, unfortunately, because I did get so heavy and had to then diet, my metabolism has slowed down, so I will gain more, faster than I did before I lost all this weight... I experienced this first hand with a 14 pound weight gain over 3.5 weeks while we were on vacation. 4 of those pounds left quickly, now I have the rest to relose again - PLUS the 5 pounds I had put in earlier in the summer.

What's different is that this time I knew I was off plan and knew I would have to get back on plan. Just like last December when I decided to go off plan for the holidays. I can deal with gaining and losing 10-15 pounds at a time. I just never want to have to deal with the 100 pounds again. I'm not even there yet and I'm tired - tired of the mental battle.

09-14-2012, 08:46 AM
It's eye-opening to read the statistics about all the weight losers who regain (myself included), but it's not a sentence anyone has to carry.

What I've realized is there's a huge mental difference between most yo-yo dieters and people who stay thin. Overall, most thin people don't eat like most overweight people do (that is, overweight not due to medical reasons). Using myself as an example, I've overeaten to the point of feeling sick COUNTLESS times, and have thought nothing of polishing off an entire box/bag of in one sitting. For many overweight people like me, overeating is simply a way of life. Most thin people don't - and don't want to - eat like that. I compare it to an alcoholic who drinks beyond enjoyment, and a non-alcoholic who can stop at one or two social cocktails, completely satisfied.

The trick isn't to stay on a "diet" the rest of my life. It's to change my approach to food; to practice common sense and gentle self-discipline in my eating. Once I know the foods and situations that trigger me to overeat, I can avoid them. Good grief - who [I]wouldn't be overweight, the way I've been eating! :o

09-14-2012, 01:34 PM
Even if it's true that 95% (or whatever such number) regain, it is not a random statistical process - it's not as if no matter what you do, you have a 95% chance of regaining.

What that statistic really means is that 95% of people who lose weight do not manage to continue the behaviors necessary to maintain the weight loss. And the good news is that whether you continue those behaviors or not is entirely up to you. Continue the behaviors, and you get to be one of the lucky people who don't regain.

As FirstLove notes, this requires keeping up a different approach to food than the one that got you fat. In my case, I have a bottomless appetite. The pleasure of eating has very little to do with whether I'm hungry. I know people who stop wanting to eat after they have eaten a reasonable portion, but I am not and will never be one of those people. If there is food available, and it is tasty, I will want to eat it. That is just who I am.

So, maintaining my weight loss will always require a certain amount of discipline, a certain amount of passing up eating opportunities even though they would be enjoyable, a certain amount of telling myself no.

It's not really fair. But then, I have a lot of advantages and blessings that other people don't have. I know people who are naturally appetite-regulated but struggle with other health problems I don't have to deal with. I know people who are naturally appetite-regulated but are unemployed, or have lost spouses to cancer, have children with severe behavioral problems, and so on. There are naturally appetite-regulated people who live in poverty, who live in war zones, or who lack the personal freedoms I have.

I'm getting a little hyperbolic with my comparisons, but you see what I am getting at - nobody's life is easy. We all have different burdens to bear. Not being a naturally appetite-regulated person is one of mine - it means I'll always have to work a little harder to stay trim than someone else might. But on the scale of things, that's not such an awful problem to have.

09-17-2012, 01:18 PM
@Carter, I absolutely love your reply. Well said!

-- Dana

09-23-2012, 08:34 AM
great thread, Guac, you may be in the 5% that doesn't regain, maybe noticing what has happened to others and asking the question will help your resolve to adhere to your maintenance program.

Maybe 3FC is helping to make the statistic 10% instead of 5% by all of us sharing our stories.

I remember thinking, I'm a skinny person now, I don't have to worry, but some change, in my first regain it was not jogging 3 miles a day, but still consuming like I was.

This last one was from a job change, hour and a half commute, but now I realize it wasn't the job it was me not making my health the priority it should be. I'm stubborn on a lot of things, so why not be stubborn about making sure I get in the number of steps I set as a goal for myself, making sure I stay on program.

My plan for the future it when I get to my WW goal weight to start going to meetings monthly, I'm a lifetime member, so for me you'd think it's a no-brainer, if I get to goal I have a free support system, I guess I had to get to a "certain age" to be wise enough to see that.

best to all


09-23-2012, 08:56 AM
I've come to the realization that in order for me to maintain not regain, I've got to keep on doing the things I've done to lose the weight in the first place. That means calorie counting, journaling my food consumption, and always having a physical challenge in place (currently training for my first half marathon). As soon as I stopped doing those things in January of this year, I started to slip back into old bad food habits (emotional binge eating), and of course saw the scale go up. I was able to nip it in the bud, but not after going up past my maintenance weight cushion.

I've had so many people tell me that I can now eat the dessert or that I don't need to exercise any more now that I've lost the weight. I can't listen to that awful advice because that's not the way it works; in order to maintain, it has to be a life-long change of habits, that I hope will one day be more natural to me than the urge to eat, eat, eat. I've come to terms with the fact that I am a recovering food addict, and that I may never be able to have "just one drink". I've found foods that I enjoy and don't make me feel deprived, and can happily eat over and over for years to come.

I've come too far to fail. Now that I've shown my children a healthy lifestyle of proper eating and exercise, how can I ever let myself go back? I don't ever want to disappoint myself, but I never want to be a bad example to them. One of my greatest fears is for them to have to struggle with weight the way I have.

09-25-2012, 09:19 AM
I've been on the scale roller coaster way too many times to count. I don't know how to explain it other than I just get lazy. Or maybe just sick of dieting? I don't think I've been able to maintain the mindset of it actually being a lifestyle change. Especially with the exercise. For some reason I have always just hated it.

09-25-2012, 09:01 PM
my brother had a book a long time ago, the guy, I can't remember his name, he was a doctor, recommended slow burning carbs like sweet potatoes, peas, etc. instead of fast burning like white potatoes, etc. anyway he said to try and find an activity that to you is like play, bike riding, swimming, playing frisbee maybe, gardening, walking around the mall window shopping, tennis.

best of luck

09-26-2012, 01:14 PM
I've been on the scale roller coaster way too many times to count. I don't know how to explain it other than I just get lazy. Or maybe just sick of dieting? I don't think I've been able to maintain the mindset of it actually being a lifestyle change. Especially with the exercise. For some reason I have always just hated it.Ditto!! With my track record, there is no reason to think I can ever keep the weight off. I've gained and lost over the years. This is my 3rd major diet.

I don't like exercise. I'd rather watch TV than jog. I'm exercising now, though. Even though I love what it's done to my body, and even though I just feel better mentally because of it, I'd stop doing it in a heart beat. No problem.

I love being skinny. Yet somehow I manage to gain it back. Why? Lazy. Sick of dieting. Just like what you said.

I've done this 3 times. Each time I gained more and had to lose more. I did it in my 20s. My 30s and now my 40s.

I'm determined, determined, to not repeat this roller coaster craziness every decade.

The first time, I lost the weight and then I went on to have 4 children. OK. I can understand that. After my 4th child, I gained a total of around 40 pounds and I felt like a heifer. The second time, I don't have a good excuse as to why I gained it back. And I piled another 40 pounds on top of that.

My biggest mistake was thinking I could do it without a scale. Thinking I could go by the fit of my clothes, and avoiding seeing actual numbers. I didn't even own a scale until I lost weight in my 30s, and then when it broke, I never replaced it. One way I will keep the weight off is to never be without a scale. I will continue to weigh myself at least once a week after I've reached maintenance, if not more. I sure admire anyone who won't be a "slave to the scale" and who are able to maintain or even lose without the use of hard numbers. Me, I think I will always need to have that tool to lose/maintain.

Mistake #2 was just being lazy. I can remember my pants getting tighter around the middle and even saying out loud, "ugh, I'm gaining weight. I need to go back on my diet" and then never going back on my diet. It was work. I was lazy.

And it crept back on so slowly, and I felt so bad about myself.

Like I said, I'm determined never do this again, ever. I know what I did wrong before and I won't repeat it!

09-26-2012, 02:29 PM
This is a really interesting thread with some great comments. I just joined this site because after losing 60 lbs in 2009, I've been fighting the battle of maintenance, and... well... losing. I rallied a couple times and made and effort to get back down to my goal weight, but never got all the way there and after each effort I gained a little more.

Recently I've been really noticing how dissatisfied I am with the fit of my clothes (those that still fit), and after avoiding it for too long, finally stepped on a scale to see what the damage was. I'm up 19 lbs. Not the end of the world, but I don't want to keep going that direction, and I don't want this to be another short lived rally. I'm still trying to figure out what will make this time different.

I think one of the big challenges in moving from weight loss to maintenance was not having the short term goals and benchmarks to work toward and then celebrate. Fitting into that pair of pants, or hitting that next 5 lb interval. With out those little steps motivating me, I slacked off.

Also, as someone else already mentioned, the external pressure to STOP DIETING was huge. I had someone tell me on at least a daily basis that I was too thin and should eat more. I think the biggest issue though was that even at my goal weight, I was disappointed that I didn't look better. All that work, and I had saggy skin and a flat butt, and well... it wasn't very motivating.

People told me I shouldn't get rid of all my old clothes because I would need them when I gained the weight back. I swore I never would and got rid of everything that was too big. And yeah, I kind of wish I had more clothes that fit me right now, but I wouldn't have done it differently.

So, in answer to the original question, YES! I am very afraid I will gain it all back, but right now I'm trying to use that fear to motivate me to do something now and keep that from happening. We don't gain it all back overnight.

09-26-2012, 07:47 PM
the last time I kept only one pair of pants that was my biggest size, then when I gained back they were so holey, not holy, that I couldn't wear them, now I'm on the downward slope and my pants are getting to the (TMI alert..lol) point that I went in the bathroom and didn't realize until I was sitting there that I had pulled my pants down without unbuttoning, was thrilled but had to finish P-ing to tell DH...lol

anyway, my point is no matter how many times I gain weight something makes me try one more time to lose it again, of course "this time" I'm hoping is the last time, but if it's not then I'll try again...

best to all

09-27-2012, 04:06 AM
double post.

09-27-2012, 04:09 AM
I don't really think it is necessarily about getting lazy, though. I mean, sure there are times that I do feel lazy. Skinny people feel lazy sometimes, too. I'm pretty sure of that. I think there are just some people for whom it will always be a struggle. Think Oprah, Kirstey Alley, Delta Brooke...etc. even with money, trainers, better food options, more advantages, it is still a struggle for them. AND, when you have to really fight to maintain...well, sometimes you might get tired of fighting. I'm pretty sure I am that type of person who will always have to fight the good fight and work really hard...stay on the straight and narrow. etc.

Life is just not always conducive to that because at some point you are bound to come to a pass where there is another bigger struggle and sometimes it might win. You might have to fight something else or something bigger than just the weight. It could be for example a disease, a death of someone close, job loss, divorce, a sick child, or worse. If it was easy, everybody would be skinny. It may not be easy...but, it is worth fighting for...for as long as I can or until I find myself looking in the face of a bigger or more important battle. So yeah...I guess I believe it is a very real possibility that I might not make it to the elusive 5%; but that doesn't mean I'm not gonna give it my best effort. Somebody has to make it to the top 5%.

09-27-2012, 06:13 PM
well said mariposssa

09-28-2012, 01:58 PM
Hello, This is my first time to post. This topic is really on my mind. I have been on many diets...gained,lost,gained,lost. I recently was given a monetary gift and decided to use it to do the Ideal Protein. I am on day 5. I am very concerned about just gaining it all back. Food is definitely an addiction...it is all in the mind. If I can learn to control my mind, I would have it beat. So, that is a primary goal of mine while I do the IP diet. My goal is to lose 60 pounds!

09-28-2012, 03:02 PM
IDGirl - Weight loss is mainly a mental game. Just the fact that you are aware of that puts you ahead, I think. Good luck with your weight loss!

10-24-2012, 08:54 AM
Oh, we better not be; that would be really depressing! My philosophy is that we are learning, sentient beings. This is not my destiny! LOL

Recent history aside, I'm looking at this as, "done means done." I am DONE with being on this roller coaster. It is time to get off. Health is more important to me than candy. Ha, said during Halloween season. But for the first time ever, I don't feel like it is going to derail me. I am DONE!

If I say it loudly enough, often enough, and convincingly enough, I hope to make it true.

10-24-2012, 08:51 PM
There's an old saying "if you don't learn from your mistakes, you're destined to repeat them" not sure who to give credit for it, but it certainly applies.

I agree with Guac, you're ahead of the game if you have it in mind that maintenance is a challenge and aren't looking at being "cured" once you get to goal weight.

Many years ago a guy I worked with said when you gain a couple pounds get them off right away, I didn't listen to him then, but his words stuck with me, imagine how easy it will be for us to lose a couple pounds now and then compared to losing the 10's of pounds we are working on now.

best to all

11-03-2012, 01:24 AM
This is a great thread. I am no where near goal. But, I have lost and gained the same 20 lbs about 7 or more times. For me, I gain when I get scared to get on the scale. I think, I will diet for a couple weeks and then weigh and I NEVER do that. As soon as I take the leap and step on the scale, my weight starts to go down. So, I have committed to weighing every day the rest of my life. I am NOT going to be scared of the scale. My weight is what it is whether I step on that scale or not. I know this is going to make the difference for me this time. I realize some people think you should not weigh daily while trying to lose. But, I really do think this will work for me.

Thanks for sharing all your information!