Beck Diet Solution - Beck Diet For Life/Solution – August 2012 – Support, Discussion, Buddy/Coach

08-01-2012, 07:49 AM
Welcome to the discussion group, support group, diet coach group, diet buddy group relating to the two books by Dr. Judith S. Beck:The Complete Beck Diet for Life ( the first bookThe Beck DIET solution: train your brain to think like a thin person. (

The Beck Diet Solution is a psychological program, not a food plan. It provides a step-by-step program to learn specific techniques to stay on our diet, lose weight, and maintain our weight loss for life. The program is based on Dr. Beck's clinical research in Cognitive Therapy (CT).

The Complete Beck Diet for Life expands the earlier work and includes a food plan with suggested menus. From the cover:With The Complete Beck Diet for Life you'll discover the 5 stages of successful dieting and maintenance. You'll learn how to motivate yourself, give yourself credit for every change you make, create time and energy for dieting, and handle hunger and cravings. Dr. Beck eases you into changing one step at a time. You'll master one task before moving on to the next. And you'll learn techniques to deal with challenging situations, such as sticking with ou plan at celebrations and dealing with "food pushers." With Dr. Beck's skills, you'll achieve a lifetime of healthful eating and lifelong motivation.

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08-01-2012, 07:50 AM
:welcome: spanky :welcome:

And, in case you didn't get one of these some six years ago, :wel3fc:

How did you learn about the books by Dr. Judith Beck?

And, how did you "stumble" onto this Beck Forum?

08-01-2012, 07:51 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Sorta standard day - nothing to report. Eating on plan (CREDIT moi) included dinner eaten inside with both green and white beans from our garden, Sun Gold cherry tomatoes from our garden on the salad, and broiled local Cod. This long, slow, drizzly rain is good for growing stuff, but dreary for humans.

Walk included passing Whole Foods and Trader Joe's without going inside where FREE samples would tempt, CREDIT moi. I half-heartedly looked through the new bin of used books at a Good Will rather grateful that nothing appealed since my to-be-read stack already overflows. I did have the random thought that decades of shuffling through used books and I've never seen one by Anais Nin. Perhaps no one ever parts with her books. Spent the rest of my walk trying to figure out if I believed that my brain had a secret list of all authors whose books I've seen at yard sales in order to be able to make that last statement. Walk ended because I reached home, fortunately, with question unresolved and head spinning.

onebyone – "Yowsa" indeed at that 150 peeking at you. That's one major medical screening. Five hours is a long time to be poked - hope you remember to bring a good book. Kudos for dealing with that list of calls to officials and authority figures. That's really moving forward.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – For some reason I've never thought to monitor if I'm hungry when I wake - neat idea. I have had to face that I was choosing my portion based on what DW had left in the dish after serving herself.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Used carpet is about the most unwieldy thing to maneuver that there is. Yep, the race continues, you're welcome back at any time, LOL.

Nature Girl – Yep, "Patience ... Onward" - obviously the right path but such a challenge. Kudos for surviving your 24 hour weekend and getting back on track. Sending supportive thoughts that the job with the salary you need will show up.

maryann - Kudos for remaining OP while foraging for food at Legoland for two days. I'm particularly impressed that you had an avocado in your pocket to add to the salad. Shopping therapy doesn't seem so expensive if you deduct the cost of two hours of a traditionalist therapist, LOL.

Ann (Newlifestyle) - It's a good thing (right?) to be too tired to eat all your allocated calories. Kudos for OP and tired both.

soonfit - One way to bound the time spent here is to limit personal responses. You might consider them only on weekends or you might try Joy (gardenerjoy)'s technique of limiting them to three. The daily reporting of your progress is the most important, so honor that first. [The difficulty of waking early is that it calls for going to bed early - which can be even more difficult for some folks.]

spanky - Kudos for making it through your first three days of Atkins Induction, but Major Kudos for "all my food and my plan ready for tomorrow" because planning is the foundation of Beck's strategies.

Yep, it's the Cognitive Boost that's the draw for most of us. I'm a fan of the strategies that help me fight the easy drift back into my old way of eating any time a desirable food appeared. Glad that you've joined us.

Readers - chapter 7 Stage 4 The Think Thin Lifetime Eating Plan

Once you have learned to follow your plan in any situation, you are probably ready to learn how to be more flexible with your eating - if the following statements are true:
You are committed to keep practicing all of your Success Skills and to solve any problems that arise in implementing them every day.
You now, without question, that you can tolerate hunger and cravings.
You can have tempting food right in front of you and confidently tell yourself, No, I didn't plan to eat it, so I'm not going to have any.
You can enjoy reasonable amounts of any food without losing control.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 167.

08-01-2012, 08:22 AM
Good morning Coaches
Happy August 1st. I can not believe how fast the summer is going.
I think I will walk to work today. It is about a 40 minute brisk walk. It will do me good.

Bill- Your dinner sounds delicious. I haven't eaten cod since I was a child living in British Colombia. My mother enjoyed fresh cod and didn't make it once we no longer live in BC. Funny how I never had it again. Something to ponder. I will have to try it.

onebyone – Wonderful pre weigh in. You will be in the 240's in no time. Wow that is a long medical screening. It looks very thorough. We could all use one of those.

Joy - I have never thought about whether I am hungry in the morning or not. Is there a reason you want to be hungry in the morning when you wake up?

Debbie – Credit to you for checking in, even when you are so busy. I look forward to your posts.

Nature Girl – I hope you get a job you like and the salary you need to receive.
It has been said, 'do what you love and the money will follow' - hard to do that when people are trying to make ends meet. Good luck.

maryann - yay for shopping therapy. Yay for making memories at legoland for your DS with his cousin.

soonfit - I too struggle with spending too much time on here that I don't have time for exercise. Now I am finding it easier. I think by not doing personals when I don't have time. The relaxation CD's were recommended by Elizabeth, she had mentioned that if any of us were interested in the name just pm her. I am very grateful she recommended them. I needed the relaxation CD.

Elizabeth....thank you again for suggesting a relaxation tape/cd. I finally am learning to relax and enjoy life once again. I can't believe what a difference it makes.

spanky - Welcome spanky. I look forward to getting to know you.

Well I need to pack my planned lunch and then off to work
Have a great day everyone.

08-01-2012, 09:37 AM
Morning all! I cannot believe it's August already! Ok, hubby and I are focusing this week to stop eating when approaching full, so last night he was cutting grass and I was eating supper and was enjoying the food and I got to approaching full and had maybe 3 or 4 bites left and sat there and had an argument with myself about whether to eat the last few bites or not and said NO! I am no longer hungry and threw it in the trash!!! Progress. Also we bought a bag of chocolate chip cookies Sunday, had a few and the bag in in the pantry untouched since then, normally Iwould have eaten them all by now. So major credits!! Have a blessed day.:hug:Tammy

08-01-2012, 10:40 AM
I super-sized my snacks for no good reason except that I have a problem on Tuesdays. I need to work on a better food plan and, even more, a better schedule. Or something.

Credit for overshooting my exercise goal for July with more mulch hauling and spreading.

Huge credit for successfully engaging in a bread fast for the month of July. I'm very much looking forward to baking my first loaf of bread today, on Loaf Mass, and to having a panini for supper. Aside from being more in touch with the season, the bread fast helped me break some bad habits and establish some new ones (bulgur wheat makes a very nice basis for lunch). I want to move forward with a great deal of appreciation and gratitude for bread, something that I consume in small portions with mindfulness.

WI: -0.3 kgs, Exercise: +60 1415/1400 minutes for July, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Welcome, spanky!

BillBlueEyes: I once owned Anais Nin's first journal volume and no longer do -- which means there was, one time, a book by Anais Nin in the Greater St. Louis Book Fair. I can't say I've ever seen another, though!

BillBlueEyes and Newlifestyle: The "hungry in the morning" idea came from Bob Greene's Best Life Diet book. He wants you to eat breakfast and his response to "I'm not hungry when I wake up" is "well, then, you obviously ate too much and/or too late the night before." It kind of stands to reason that one should be hungry after the longest break from eating that we take. Since I struggle, sometimes, with keeping my evening eating from drifting into overeating, I find this a useful strategy.

helping rachel
08-01-2012, 11:26 AM
Starting Day One of Beck's Pink Book today. Ready for this 6 weeks adventure and then lather, rinse, repeat if I am going to get new ingrained thought processes.
Complete my Advantage Cards. Posted them in 2 places to have them accessible to read.

I lose and regain the same 20-25 lbs over and over. I am sick and tired of using food.

I am following a 1200 calories plan with 25 grams of fiber. Plan to exercise everyday minimum 30 mins. Weighing is on Friday with an accountability group.

Grateful to have an Online Beck Community to process the ups and downs with.
Commitment and change is inspiring to read throughout the years of Beck posts.

08-01-2012, 12:08 PM
Hi Everyone,

l ended up having a really bad evening yesterday and it kind of overflowed into this morning. Got home to find Dexter had made a huge mess in his pen, got that cleaned and then DH called to say he was stuck in Charlotte because of weather in Washington and he would not be home last night. Got Dexter ready to go to puppy school and the automatic garage door wouldn't close, I expected to get to class late but we just made it. A huge thunderstorm rolled in just as class was ending with a lot of hail and by time I got home my garden was annihilated by it. And this morning the garage door would not close again and I closed my fingers in the car door. :cry: I guess this would be a good oppportunity to say Oh Well.

Day 1 of the BDS book and I made my new advantage cards. Sure is different from what I wrote down 1 year ago. I have not read the whole chapter yet but will do that at lunch time today.

Back to my desk for now.

08-01-2012, 01:39 PM
NewLifestyle: Good for you, walking to work. Little actions add up to big results.
BBE: I have never read Nin. Can't add it to my list of 15 this semester though. At some point in my life I will do nothing but grow veggies and read.
Tazzy: Sunny thoughts for a better day today.
Helping Rachel: Welcome. There is peace with food to be found here. It has been a slow process but worth it for me.
gardenerjoy: Big Congrats on bread fast. Grains are my fundamental problem and all of my worse neurosis have grown up around it.

As for me. HAPPY ANNIVERSARY! Two years ago I started Beck. It has fundamentally changed how I eat. I have been over 200 pounds twice in my life. I have confidence and hope that I will never have to go back there again. As a present, I get to change my ticker down two pounds. Thanks to everybody for helping me continue on this path through your honesty and effort by participating on this site.

08-01-2012, 02:41 PM
Hi Coaches

I'm really, REALLY, struggling with my 2nd painting for my show. Thankfully, (:luck2you:luckily) our set up has stretched to Friday morning so I have even more time to fret and get them right. I'm painting a cave diver. I look at the image and think "looks like clouds there" and then I think "looks like waves". The water/sky thought mess me up as I need to *feel* the thing I am painting and this clouds vs. waves thing is like night and day. Interesting. I'm sort of settling on "fog" as the solution: a watery cloud. The painting btw, since I have entertained this fog thought, has improved. So, there is hope or me and my artistic career. For today I do not have to throw in the towel and slash all my paintings in the studio in an artistic :rollpin:fit of rage as per some "Films of Temperamental Artistes".

*credit for weighing in and seeing :rollpin: (maybe I have a bit of that temperamentalness...:dizzy:) +3.1lbs for a weight of 253.8lbs. Sigh. Salt. water. gravity. Official weigh-in is tomorrow morning so OH WELL.

*credit for tracking and posting and being consistent in my plans/making plans

*credit for persistence and willingness to face myself in all areas

Back to work. Have a great day Coaches.

billblueeyes Sometimes I think you are a genius in your summations of the posts of others. You must write one wicked business report - or book review! I have never thought of my dentist as an authority figure DUH! Thanks for that.

maryann :congrat: on 2lbs down and 2yrs here! Beck does make permanent shifts in our lives -- you've made so many more changes too beyond the weight as well. I'll give you a :congrat: for all your accomplishments!

Tazzy I'm scared to go to my garden due to the heavy rain we got yesterday. I have seen that hail fall around here as well, but not yesterday. Sorry it hurt your garden. The good thing about having a bad day is it is OVER and we get to have another day which more than likely will be better. Kudos for starting Beck again as well and recognizing the changes you have already made from the first time you started Beck, to this time.

helping rachel Kudos to you too for beginning Beck once more. Those first weeks of Beck are so critical they are worth doing as many times as it takes. Beck can indeed stop the yoyo-ing. You're in the right place for sure.:hug:

gardenerjoy Congratulations on meeting your goals this past month. It was you that gave me the idea to forgo wheat for a while. Thanks for that! It's been a successful experiment for me. I think I could limit my wheat intake to twice a week and that would be optimal. Have you managed to get the exercise/food/writing back into place yet?

CatholicCajun Congrats on stopping when full. That's not very easy to do. It takes a lot of presence of mind so good job! I love August, but it's a bittersweet love affair as I know that every day this month brings me closer to the end of summer. Makes me realize I need to really enjoy these summery days.

newlifestyle I hope you had a very pleasant walk to work. Kudos for getting your exercise in! Do you walk by anything interesting? Are you in the city or the suburbs or the countryside?? Are there many routes you could take to work? Will you walk home too?

Ok back to it once more. Hope to update this post with another jpg of a finished painting in a few hours... Bye!

UPDATE! Success. Finally. At last. I've attached painting#2 called submerge. Starting #3 now. Even tougher. Of course.

08-01-2012, 05:15 PM
Big credit for another "argument" won, this time not against myself but with a friend, and not really an argument, my friend called to bring chinese to work for lunch and I did not want chinese and she kept insisting so I said that I had not taken my fluid pill (no lie, I did forget) and after a few more whines she gave in and just came by for a visit and I had eaten lunch, so if she had brought stuff I had the excuse that I had already eaten. It is so hard to deal with food pushers and she is not as bad as others I've had to deal with.

08-01-2012, 10:03 PM
Something new- Evening posting 101!

Still tweaking the plan to see what works. What hasn't been working is my planned exercise. I have done "zero" planned exercise this week. I get up and get dressed to exercise and never find the time. Tonight tennis was rained out, but oh well, there is always tomorrow....

*weighing this morning
*reading posts
*tweaking diet
*taking a walk
*planning snacks
*having a coffee instead of icecream while out w friends
*enjoying the coffee

Maryann: Happy Anniversery! Acquistion Therapy works for me also!
GardnerJoy: Thanks for the posting info
BBE: Thanks for confirming that the daily reporting of progress is the most important.

Good Night!

08-01-2012, 10:08 PM
I'm back. Following some advice I saw here to just read the posts and log my day for a while as I acclimate.

Today I bought the book [pink one] and workbook as planned and am digesting the first 3 steps.

I made my ARC, I picked Diet 2 [Weight Watchers, but currently on Atkins Induction], and put a shocking pink "Sit Down" sign on my fridge. Despite my brief report here, I cleared the afternoon and evening and did every single recommended thing in the book for these 3 steps. When I get to work tomorrow I'll post the rest of the reminders as planned.

I notice this--I'm nearly unaware of any thoughts I have when I walk through the kitchenette at work and snag a donut. It seems like it's a "See it--EAT it" kind of knee jerk response. I never consciously think "Gee what a good looking donut, it's free, there's coffee, I'll take two!" Obviously something is going on in my mind--I am aware of the visual appeal of, say, the shine on the chocolate frosting--but that's about it. Like a trout to a lure! So this I need to become conscious of. I think the sitting down rule will also help.

I'm going to take a couple days with these 3 steps. So far I am OP today and have my meals and snacks lined up for tomorrow.

BBB--I was drawn to investigate this thread because I found gardenerjoy's post on her fiftieth birthday. I was reading the Goal postings for inspiration!


08-02-2012, 06:45 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Gym got done, CREDIT moi, with no more excitement than I dropped a weight on the floor. I didn't want to, but got stuck doing something I had just done two days ago - hope it was a fluke and that I'm not declining in two days time.

Eating had some on plan portions, CREDIT moi, and an excursion - Ouch. I attended a three hour BBQ picnic sponsored by my company. Things got confusing with rains starting and stopping and food being put out in stages when staff wasn't huddled inside. So a second plate was necessary, but I overloaded with pulled pork in a very sweet BBQ sauce. Good news was that I overloaded with skewers of grilled veggies instead of the rice dish, the rich salad dressing, or hot biscuits. I spent over an hour thinking about the huge dessert table. Then, still chatting with friends, skipped the brownies, big cookies, and cake to serve myself the strawberries that were meant to go with the shortcake and whipped cream. Some good, some bad.

onebyone – Kudos for persistence to complete submerge - It's so encouraging to me that you just don't give up.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Neat that you did Lammas Day - which I had never heard of before. Is your wheat fast now over?

maryann - Happy Second Anniversary on your Beck path. Yep, never have to go back there again. Love the definition of the good life, "nothing but grow veggies and read."

Tazzy - Ouch for Dexter acting like a puppy, then a really, really bad sequence of events to make Job wince. Kudos for keeping your wits and not waddling into food in an attempt to make it all go away.

Ann (Newlifestyle) - A forty minute walk to work carrying your planned lunch is a fine start to the day.

Rachel (helping rachel) – Welcome back into the monthly thread. Neat that you're starting the Pink book from scratch - it doesn't get old, and it's easy to mistakenly think we're doing it all right. Would you care to share some of your Advantages Card?

Tammy (CatholicCajun) – Super Kudos for leaving three or four bites - that's hard for me. And Yep, Kudos for standing down a well-intentioned food pusher.

soonfit - Kudos for these two
.....*having a coffee instead of icecream while out w friends
.....*enjoying the coffee
I love being reminded that it's important to also enjoy the coffee.

spanky - Dramatic to make a "shocking pink "Sit Down" sign on my fridge" - that'll get your attention. There are three folks posting who are starting the Pink book so there can be some fun feedback. Kudos for meals and snacks lined up for tomorrow.

Readers - chapter 7 Stage 4 The Think Thin Lifetime Eating Plan

If you meet these criteria, congratulations! You now have the self-control to start varying what (and perhaps when) you eat. If, on the other hand, you haven't yet mastered the skills you need, don't worry. Go back and reread the first three stages; then do every task again. It takes dieters varying amounts of time to fully master the skills in these stages, so make sure you go as slowly as you need to.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 167.

08-02-2012, 10:41 AM
Hi Coaches!

I'm finding myself scattered and tired this morning. I'm also feeling grateful because I was intuitively reminded to get back to basics VIA Beck skills. I have written my lunch and dinner food plan and placed it on the counter next to the refrigerator. credit. I did not weigh this morning, but after rereading this I "just did it." credit. up .5. My current weight trend is "down". Gotta love that spontaneous exercise up and down those stairs.

Reading BBE's post this morning I could "feel" his moment, from my perspective. It felt like food clutter with stuff swirling around...trying to make sane decisions in the company of lots of people. For me, it's a bit chaotic. It's a major reason I enjoy eating at home these days. I really thrive on pre-planned OP living. It keeps me sane.

BBE, credit for making more good decisions than bad (in my opinion), especially when finally getting to the dessert table. Your description….so many foods I love to eat (overeat) but just know in my heart don't fit with the program anymore.

onebyone, I LOVE submerge!! It reminds me of DH freediving! credit for persisting with your tracking and posting while so busy creating your required paintings.

spanky, such an interesting observation regarding your lack of thought process regarding the donuts. credit. I think you will find as you progress with BDS that the "thought process" gets turned on, especially as you learn to eat sitting down.

soonfit, I smiled….I am still tweaking my plan to see what works. great list of credits!

CatholicCajun, I don't have many food pushers in my life and felt pain when I read of your friend and the chinese...ouch. credit for persistence on your part which resulted in your being able to eat your own lunch.

MaryAnn, Happy Anniversary and I wish you many more to come! Such a powerful reminder as to why we keep coming back, "It has fundamentally changed how I eat." That is a recipe for success!

Tazzy, wow! What a tough day you had and at the end I read, "Day 1 of the BDS book and I made my new advantage cards." Big Credit! Your success skills kept you on the right path during a very stressful time. How are your fingers doing?

Rachel, rinse, lather I love the thought of a new ingrained thought process!

gardenerjoy, yay for exceeding exercise, for noticing the need for a better "Tuesday plan" and for entering August with a new appreciation for bread with associated mindfulness.

Ann(Newlifestyle), hope your walk was fulfilling. credit for "taking the time".

Ahh...spending some time reading/responding to posts has had a calming effect. I am off to continue my project.

08-02-2012, 11:02 AM
My snacks went out of whack again. I'm not sure why. Something along the lines of procrastinating something that I want to do and, yet, I'm afraid will disappoint me. Or something. I maybe need to work a little more on the issue. Or work the mechanics of following my plan a bit better.

WI: +0.35kgs, Exercise: +60 60/1400 minutes for August, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

onebyone: love the painting submerge. It manages to be both peaceful and adventurous at the same time.

maryann: happy Beckiversary!

spanky: the sitting down rule really helped me be more aware of my environment and food triggers. It makes me so happy that my goal post brought you to our group!

BillBlueEyes: Yep -- I ate bread yesterday. A very tasty home-made panini!

Sending calming thoughts to Lexxiss, Tazzy, and everyone else!

08-02-2012, 12:06 PM
Good morning everyone!

Another quick check in, had a much better day yesterday after I got to work. DH got home from his extended trip to NC with an unplanned overnight stay in Chicago. Dexter did not have any messes in the house, DS & I tried to get to puppy school but an accident blocked a major intersection and instead of fretting over getting there on time we pulled over to a parking lot with a big green space and I taught DS the things we had already learned with Dexter. We had a good 30 minutes of our own training there! It's a work in progress for all 4 of us, 2 legged and 4 legged! Dexter had a lot of energy still last night when the rest of us wanted to go to bed so we had a game of tug of war at 10pm in the back yard. He was up a lot through the night but I think his routine was off. Let's hope for better tonight. It's also raining today so that will cool down the house for everyone.

I'll get back for personals later today, things are quieter at my desk right now so should be able to take a few minutes for that. My fingers are doing okay, at least I had not slammed the car door shut, just closed it softly and forgot to take my fingers away from the frame around the window. I think the dumbest part was that I then tried to pull them out and it took a few seconds for my brain to say, just open the door handle with your other hand!:?:

Be back later :wave:

08-02-2012, 02:13 PM
Savoring these first three steps into Beck. I have indeed been carrying around my "Reasons for Wanting to Lose Weight" in my head. For years. For 8 years to be exact, the year when I was laid up for six months and gained about 40 pounds.

One of my "Reasons" is that, after 8 years, I still have 20 pounds to lose and I want CLOSURE. Feeling awful about my weight has become an obsession with me, and it's time to get the job done and move on. Enough already of enviously eyeing the perfectly trim midsections of other people [who have obviously done something right to look so good]. Envy is replacing the act of getting my own trim middle for myself. It's as unproductive as envying someone else's new car instead of working to get my own.

That said, I am on plan today and have read my ARC 4 times already. I sat down for breakfast--surprisingly difficult while herding a 6yr old son and 4 dogs through the morning chaos--and for lunch as well.

It will be a slow afternoon here at work today--idleness is a danger zone for me. I plan to read Beck and work on a talk I'm giving next week. Instead of snacking.


08-02-2012, 06:20 PM
Hi Beckfolks/coaches...

Checking in. I've been in Michigan and storytelling alot this week. I've been writing food down and am down one pound from my 'official' Wednesday weighin from last week. Happy to be able to change my ticker. I checked back on the calender. I weigh exactly what I weighed on June 1. I guess maintaining is better than gaining. However, I've had a few ups and downs on the scale since then.

I've changed my food plan a bit. I've been eating too much unhealthy food lately. Even if it's at my calorie range... it's made me just plain feel bad. So, the past few days I've included some green smoothies for a jolt of micronutrients. I have tried green smoothies before... that's when I learned
cruciferous veggies don't agree with me. I've been taking it real slow and trying to figure out a way to include a smoothie for breakfast and one in the afternoon.

Soon I am going back to Michigan to spend some time with my grandkids. As Billbe says... those little smile-makers. I love the picture it puts in my mind's eys.

For three days I didn't have internet access. (withdrawal!!!) I've had it back now for four days. It's always challenging to go out of town. My plan is to not even look in my son's pantry. There's really nothing in there I 'need' to eat there. It's being out of town that often trips me up. I've been reading my cards about being out of town and restuarants.

Hope you are doing well. Be kind to yourself.

helping rachel
08-02-2012, 08:54 PM
Hey Becksters:

I came up with the idea to put them in a photo album that flips daily similar to a devotional book. I put it above my sink where I tend to hang out once a day at the minimum.

Here are my Advantage cards. I have them printed and placed in 2 places.
Day One- Aug. 1
Advantages –Diet
I want a new way of relating to myself…regarding food and self-care.
I will feel better as when I eat crappy, I feel crappy.
I won’t feel so self-conscious.
I will have more energy.
I will save money, as the clothes in my closet will fit or at least a range of them will!
I will be valuing myself as I will learn to be consistent.
My thoughts won’t rule my life, my values will.
I will have a sense of accomplishment.
I will feel in control of eating.
I will love being healthy instead of lazy and disengaged.
My rebellious side will not be in charge, my true self… will decide what is best for me.
Balance when it comes to food.

Worked 7-7 today. Planned lunch, within 1200 food plan, trying to psyche myself up for walk. Will hit treadmill while Olympics are on.

helping rachel
08-02-2012, 09:12 PM
Day 2- Commit to a Diet Plan

I will commit to 1200 calorie diet .
Plan my meals with ideas of what meal breakdown looks like.***** Typed up grocery list for all that I need weekly. Bless my sweet husband he will eat whatever I fix.
Will come up with Food menu plan****** Typed up a 2 week meal plan
Will come up with modification plan. Not sure what to do with handling my triggers.
What to do on weekends? Wine on weekends seems to be my downfall. 2 glasses are my max but tend to be my crutch. I don’t lose when I drink wine even though I am allowed it. So I am going to have to work my “No Choice” muscle until the stuck scale gets to moving. I can socialize and enjoy without my Merlot in my hand.
No troubles during the week on this.

08-03-2012, 06:32 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Eating was on plan, CREDIT moi, including gazpacho on the patio for dinner. I don't get tired of writing that. Still no full sized tomatoes from the garden. I'm sure they're delaying so that they can all ripen on the same day, LOL. Heaven forbid that two would turn red each day for a spell.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Ouch for whacky snacky. Kudos for "Exercise: +60 1415/1400 minutes for July" - month after month after month.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yay for "just did it" and "back to basics VIA Beck skills" - I like the straightforward.

Beverlyjoy – It's a joy to hear you're out storytelling - so good for your soul. Neat plan, "My plan is to not even look in my son's pantry."

Tazzy - Yay for the return of your DH - I do hate those forced overnights on short trips. Love your spontaneity setting up your own puppy training with your DS.

Rachel (helping rachel) – Thanks for sharing your Advantages; this one particularly grabs me, "My thoughts won’t rule my life, my values will." Congrats for choosing a DH who "will eat whatever I fix."

spanky - Kudos for making a plan to get through an afternoon that could lend itself to snacking. And Major Kudos for figuring out how to sit for breakfast during morning chaos. Can you tell us what that dog is doing in your avatar?

Readers - chapter 7 Stage 4 The Think Thin Lifetime Eating Plan

Even if you have met all of the prerequisites, you don't have to transition to flexible eating now. Are you having such thoughts as, I'm losing weight ... I don't want to rock the boat! That's okay - you don't have to start right away. Mark your calendar to revisit your decision in a month or so to see if you feel ready then.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 167.

08-03-2012, 07:13 AM
Hi Coaches --

it's 3:00 a.m., and I'll be back at work in the morning at 10 for a 16 hour I'm going to make this quick.....

Credit for staying on for dealing with food pusher supervisor who really wanted to see me eat a donut at briefing this afternoon...bottom line was I told her thank you for bringing donuts, they looked delicious and I would sure be having one later in my shift since I was full from lunch right then. That satisfied her....and credit -- I never touched one. :carrot:

And credit I'm not stress eating, but listening to my relaxation, hope you all are doing well. I'll be off this weekend, and will come in here and catch up with all of what is going on with my favorite Coaches.....

Thought: A calorie doesn't care why you eat.......and every bite does count.

And.............Happy August! :hug:

08-03-2012, 10:58 AM
Completed my three event rotation of on plan food, exercise, and writing in one day. There were grumpy moments with all of it but I stuck with it like a gymnast on the balance beam.

WI: -0.15 kgs, Exercise: +45 105/1400 minutes for August, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

08-03-2012, 11:53 AM
Completed my three event rotation of on plan food, exercise, and writing in one day. There were grumpy moments with all of it but I stuck with it like a gymnast on the balance beam.

Kudos, gardenerjoy! I just completed my triathalon finishing with a personal best. Yesterday I ate OP, painted like crazy and got lots of work related exercise, especially with ups and downs off the floor. I've done well but hope not to be participating in the painting olympics 4 years from now.

BBE, I'm still so curious about your gazpacho. I have never tried it. PS-I finally looked at a picture of a Green Heron...not what I expected and understand why I've never seen one since they don't seem to frequent either Alaska or Colorado.

Elizabeth, I thought your response to the food pusher was very witty. It made me think that telling someone you were still from lunch was a really "valid" reason not to eat a donut, especially as we work on our Beck skills.

Rachel, great that you acknowledge that you don't lose when enjoying weekend wine and making a plan to say No Choice. Yes, you can enjoy and socialize without Merlot. I do it all the time now.

Beverlyjoy, thanks for checking in with us. Yay for maintenance and for boosting your nutritional intake.

spanky, credit for reading your cards and for eating sitting down, even while dealing with kids and dogs. I have to say your post yesterday sparked an acknowledgement with me regarding an unhappy event, weight gain...and now seeking closure and movement forward. I acknowledged some lingering pain, made a plan to deal with it and feel like I have made a shift. Thanks for sharing a personal part of your life and I send you support for closure.

Tazzy, I smiled at the thought of you and DS just pulling over and having an impromteau training session in a parking lot. What a great and positive response. It sounds like lots of spontaneous exercise for you. What kind of a pup is Dexter??

08-03-2012, 03:35 PM
Hello Coaches:

I need some coaching.... The green book and cd arrived today. I flipped quickly through the green book and I see there are differences between the two as far as "stages" instead of new rule a day. If I am correct, she also has caught the wild card I have been playing which is that since I am still learning the steps I haven't started my dieting 100%.

Does anyone have any input on listening to the cd's? I set it up to play in the car, but was flipping through to get to the "important" stuff.

I could really use some of the relaxtion "tapes" that have been mentioned. One of the "buddies" did respond to "pm" the other buddy that has input -- I don't know what pm means. I thought private message, but there isn't any contact info on the profile.

*staying on plan so far today with food
*credit for setting up cd's in car
*credit for trying to find relaxtion cd's
*credit for weighing in
*credit for reading posts
*credit for trying to re-evaluate exercise plan

08-03-2012, 04:13 PM
Happy Friday and a long weekend for us in Alberta as well. The weather is supposed to be in the high 20's/low 30's, looking forward to it. I did not get back here yesterday to do personals. Figures as soon as I plan for that I'd get actual work to do at my desk.

Soonfit I can't help you with the differences in the Beck materials as I follow the pink book. I'm also guessing that you cannot private message someone yet as there is a 20 day/20 posting rule for access to more of the options on the board, like the tickers. Credits to you for all of the other things you have accomplished!

Lexxiss Dexter is a rescue puppy and he's a German Shepherd cross, we are led to believe with Rottweiler based on his coloring and temperament. I guess there's a DNA test we could have him take but that would be one more expense and between the adoption fee, his neccessary items and dog training starting next weekend, he's tapped out his account. I think for now German Shepherd cross is a good enough identity for me to know! When we got stuck in traffic he started to cry in the back of the car and bark so I figured he wanted out to pee, a close parking lot, green space and a DS who was game to go there made it all work out. And last night he slept from 10pm - 4:30am before waking us, we count that as success in our house right now. Guess they need routine just like the rest of us sometimes. Credit to you for all of your physical endeavors lately!

gardenerjoy Yay for a balanced gymnast!

onebyone Your paintings are great, hope the 3rd one worked out well for you also.

maryann Congrats on your Beck anniversary.

Elizabeth779 Great strategy for a food pusher, I'll have to remember that one myself. I'm pretty fortunate that I don't have to deal with that in my life too much. My DH will often ask if I want a serving of something he's eating and I will usually reply that I'll have just a bite of his. I've become pretty good and being satisfied with only 1 bite of ice cream instead of a whole dish.

BBE Your garden makes me very envious. I just noticed this morning that I have one tomato just starting to change color. It was one plant that was spared in the hail storm.

help rachel It sounds like you have some good planning in place to be successful with Beck. Credit to you for that. I do my best when I take the time to plan and organize, when I'm not prepared is when I have a big tendency to think Oh well and that not the context we learn in the books.

spanky Credit for coming here to post instead of snacking. Distraction is a good antidote for that.

Weighed today and am the same, exercise yesterday was taking Dexter for a walk around the neighborhood and playing a game of tug of war with him in the backyard. I better keep doing this while he's only 32 pounds, once he gets to 60 or 70 he'll be tossing me around the yard. Read my ARC card both days, need to continue reading the book. So much is now ingrained from doing it last year, but I'm sure there will be things that I'll think "oh yeah, totally forgot about that".

Not sure how often I'll get back this weekend but will try and check in quickly. Have a good weekend everyone. :wave:

08-03-2012, 04:59 PM

Hi. I am fighting the urge to go to bed and pull the covers over my head. We had our super-intense Dr. appt's yesterday. The whole day felt like an theatrical production. I sit in lounge#4. health professional comes in, calls my name.
I follow.
I enter a room.
A scene unfolds before me: oh! nutrition counselling. oh! immunization. oh! ultrasound. oh! stress test. oh! hearing test oh!oh!oh! until I see the Physician who goes over my results so far then sends me back to get oh! more tests.


It didn't feel impressive yesterday going through it, but today it does.

As I suspected, a few weird things to check into for me. :(

But, overall, every health professional was impressed with my weightloss and my determination and my attitude. I was very quick to tell them all I am 40lbs down, doing Weight Watchers, planning on doing more as I progress yada yada yada. They love that, and it's true. The good Dr. has a healthy skepticism, in that she doesn't expect me to actually, ever, be under 170, which I haven't been since I was 17, and that were I to need the cholesterol meds, which I don't yet need, but am headed that way, or be unable to shed the blood pressure meds, which I have, and would love to toss, (and in fact, plan to toss), that really I should just take the medication and not wait until the weight comes off to see if I need it as the weight may, in fact, not come off.

The weight could also come off and I still need the meds, but that's more of a c'est la vie thing to me: I tried, it's my body, O Well as Dr. Beck would say.
But I am not there yet.
Anyway, I felt no judgment or negativity from the Dr. It was all good. I think she's seen many good intentions not materialize and truth is, the stats on successful weightloss are dismal.

But *I* am going to be the exception. why-the-F would I still be here, still trying, not to BELIEVE that *I*could*be*the*exception*?!

No one else has to believe it but me.
And that's just fine with me.
No one else can DO it but me either.
Not-as-fine with that, still *wish* it was otherwise, but O WELL. So be it.

DH got a shocker though. We have not discussed it yet. He has an appt. with our family Dr. on Wed. The Dr. was trying to reach him last week. Now we know why. Yesterday his Physician said to him.
"And you're 43?"
"And do you smoke?"
And do you have diabetes?"
"Yes, you do. You have diabetes."
"Oh crap. I do?"

And so we know why the family Dr. was trying to reach him.

DH lives on white bread, white potatoes, gummy candies, chicken wings, red meat and coca cola. Has for all his adult life. Hates most veggies, ALL fish and seafood, and fresh fruit except apples and pears.

He's going to have a bit of a transition to make, should he decide to make the changes. My uncle refused to "live like that" and got sicker and sicker and was in the hospital more and more, and finally died from complications of his diabetes, about 20yrs earlier than his parents and his siblings.

This being said, I know DH had little real influence on my food and my eating. If I overate, or ate in secret, or rebelled with food, it wasn't about his choices.
It was me.
If he was supportive, or indifferent, or overtly, or covertly, sabotaging me in the end, I have made the resolution to eat better, to choose better for myself, to value my own life more, and to keep trying things, keep fighting until something stuck. It is my decision to stick too; easier if he's onboard but I don't do it for him. I do it for me. The ripple effect is this will help him as I feel better, have more energy and am more at peace knowing I am doing what I should be doing.

I sure hope he chooses to fight the fight and not do what my uncle did: decide he just doesn't want to live without his favorite poison.



update: DH and I had to pick up a few things at the grocery store tonight. I said "You're out of bread. Do you want to get bread?" We're talking white bread here--the no you can't eat that type of bread--and he looked at me with a lost look in his eyes. I said, "you know, I am sure you can find some kind of bread that would be ok and that you could tolerate. What do you want to do?" "No bread. From everything I read I can't eat that." "What will you have for breakfast? Will you eat like me and just skip the bread? Go wheatless too?" And he just gave me a half smile and said "I'm just not going to have any." And this is my fabulous DH, though he did have a coca cola as soon as we got in. Still. He's on it. THANK GOODNESS. Back to my market paintings.... see ya.

08-03-2012, 05:29 PM
Checking in with Team Beck.

I have been OP for all 6 days of my 14 day Atkins Induction--Score!
I joined an Exercise Challenge at 3FC and am doing what I planned--Point!
Read my ARC 3 times so far, sat down to eat, and am "Self-Kudo-ing"--Yess!
I'm making a defensive plan to cope with 2 Bday cakes---A Win!!!

One of my "Reasons for Losing Weight" is so I can keep up with my 6 year old. Not as easy as it sounds, I am 55 years old and I don't want to parent him from the sidelines if I can help it. This morning he stood up in his bed singing "Happy Birthday to Me" at the top of his lungs; it is the first Bday he really seems to 'get it'.

There will be 2 parties and 2 cakes. A local hero known as "Banana Man" will come to sing to him. Excitement reigns. I made very sure the cakes I am making are types and flavors that don't tempt me--cake is huge for me so I'm going into this weekend at DefCon7 defensive stance. I will eat my Atkins meal before going to the grandparents' tomorrow and I will carry an Atkins meal for the after-Sunday Mass party as well.

I feel seriously fierce about protecting the truly hard work of 6 days' induction from mindless stray bites of Blue Choo Choo cake. This is a non-negotiable for me this weekend. I can't get closure if I can't stick to the Atkins/Beck plan I laid the very first time the cake starts flying! This will pump those "Say No" muscles for sure. I'll be weighing in on Sunday morning and it matters.

That's a Puddin Jack in my avatar--she is surfing. I have 2 of these dogs, but this is a pic of another. It's a good icon for My Life these days.

helping rachel
08-03-2012, 11:15 PM
Go Team Beck!

Looks like several great decisions are being made.

Day 3- Credit for eating sitting down. Funny how many times I caught myself wanting to eat something standing up.

Walked 45 minutes with daughter. She is upset that she gains weight so easily and doesn't think it is fair. Tried to share Beck but didn't go over very well. Will wait until she is ready to hear it.

Ate on Plan. No wine even though there is a bottle open. Had a delicious grapefruit instead and so enjoyed it. Counted as 2nd fruit for the day.

08-04-2012, 07:55 AM
Hi... checking in. Yesterday was a healthy day - I am grateful for that. It's a major credit as I am out of town. I feel proud. I wrote down everything I ate. DIL got out the blender last night so I can make my morning green smoothie. (Thanks Lexxiss for my initial inspiration on smoothies.)

Today my SIL and niece are coming to town. YAY

Having fun with my grandchildren... the little loves of my life.

I am feeling more willingness to try than I have a long time. Grateful.

Have a great day.

08-04-2012, 08:00 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Some weeks ago I bought one of those one-strap back packs at a yard sale (for a great price) - wanted to try it out. I love it for errands and minor usage when fast access is more important than rigorous connection to the body. Well, I finally opened a zippered pocket that I hadn't noticed before and found a wallet! Yep, with twenty credit cards and other personal ID's (only 11 cents in cash). A fun challenge to try to remember where I bought it. So my walk (CREDIT moi) was searching out the house. I've found it, but three attempts haven't found them at home. A quest - such fun.

Gym was gym, CREDIT moi, notable because two guys spoke to me at a gym where not speaking seems to be the code. And eating was on plan, CREDIT moi, with more Kale from our garden. DW made a comment about "late summer" which was a bummer since that implies that the seasons continue to change even when it feels good right now.

onebyone – Congrats for surviving your marathon doctor's examination. And Congrats for all the good news about your health. Sounds like your DH has been secretly learning from you all these years and is ready to start making some changes.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Another Hat Trick day. My new visual of you is the body of those Olympians on the balance beam, LOL.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Just love it, "my triathlon finishing with a personal best." [Come visit, I'll show you green herons.]

Tazzy - Yay for Dexter taking you for a walk and then tug-of-war for resistance exercise - versatile dog, him. [Cheering for your lone tomato that stood down the hail.]

Rachel (helping rachel) – Major Kudos for the walk and efforts at helpful mothering. My take is that kids hear even when they reject us. It was a major surprise to me to catch myself eating standing up after I was very sure that I wasn't the kind of person who did such a thing.

Elizabeth (Elizabeth779) - Sixteen hours is one loooong shift - good luck. Kudos for stiffing the donut - regardless of how much the supervisor wanted you to take it. Thanks for "A calorie doesn't care why you eat..."

soonfit - My take is that any of the ways you approach the Beck plan will work. But stick to one way. If you do this for a lifetime, you can take on the other book for a refresher from a slightly different angle. I would benefit more from relaxing CD's than from a reading of Beck, but I get info far better from reading than from radio or TV either one because I can read faster with better discrimination. I'd suggest continuing with the Pink book - it's working for you.

Here's the link describing how to get your ticker - The ability to do Personal Messaging (PM's) arrives with the same criteria.

spanky - Super Kudos for recognizing that a "Blue Choo Choo cake" is not a rare culinary treat despite how much you love your DS. Congrats for your six days on-plan with Atkins Induction. [Thanks for identifying the Puddin Jack - spiffy little dog there.]

Readers - chapter 7 Stage 4 The Think Thin Lifetime Eating Plan

It's important to make this transition at some point because you never know when life will throw you a diet related curveball. Inevitably something unexpected will happen. Maybe you will start a new relationship, begin caring for a sick relative, or work new hours. Flexible eating will teach you how to stick with your diet by creating an alternative pan. It's important for you to prove to yourself that you can eat more flexibly and still lose weight - and keep it off. Remember, flexible eating is a skill like everything else. It takes practice, and it gets easier over time.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 168.

08-04-2012, 08:18 AM
Hi Coaches!

Just a note here...I thought I posted this earlier but had not. My perfectionist says, don't post's outdated and you may have missed someone. My Beckist says, check in

I made it through yesterday not OP but pretty darn close. credit considering the carpet installers were here for 8 hours. I'm happy that today I get to return to normalcy. Work today...and DH returns. I'm excited for his reaction to the project. Fortunately, I know him well enough to know he'll be really excited, too.

BBE, one day I will take you up on the green heron viewing...hopefully during the gazpacho season. Nice that you were able to incorporate walking with good deeding.

soonfit, I haven't listened to the CD's. I have both books and the workbook. Originally, I went through the book/notebook day by day and found the process super structured and helpful. Now I find I often delve into the green book when I'm in the reading mode. Nice list of credits!

Tazzy, great that you are reading again. I'll be interested to hear some of your revelations this time around.

onebyone, sending continued support as both you and DH absorb his diagnosis. Major credit for not eating over it. Thx, too, for the update regarding DH's bread decision. Glad that he's really thinking about stuff.

spanky, great insight knowing that induction is not the time for sugary white flour extravaganzas. Sending you willpower anyway.

Rachel, great job not indulging in wine on a Friday night since that was your plan.

Beverlyjoy, I love the green smoothie habit. Glad to hear you're revisiting it and that you are feeling strong! I'm drinking my smoothie now but it's not green today even though I added kale. I also have golden beet, raspberries cucumber and my usual protein powders.

08-04-2012, 12:05 PM
For the first time ever, the Wii said that I'm normal BMI. Woohoo! My Mii looks so skinny.

WI: +0.1 kgs, Exercise: +30 135/1400 minutes for August, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

helping_rachel: I sympathize with your daughter's sense of unfairness. That was a big one for me. It helped me a lot to compare myself, at Beck's advice, to "other successful dieters and maintainers." When I thought about "everyone" going to Hardee's for lunch when I couldn't, it felt unfair. But when I tried to imagine BillBlueEyes and some of the other successful people at 3FC going to Hardees, I couldn't imagine they went there very often. If they didn't belong there, than neither did I. Suddenly, eating my planned lunch from home felt like the thing to do -- it's what other successful dieters and maintainers do.

BillBlueEyes: my Mii's new body has more in common with the Olympics gymnasts than mine. I'm the same age as Nadia Comaneci. I remember watching her at the 1976 Olympics and realizing that, at age 14, I was already too old to make the career choice of Olympics gymnast. Besides the age factor, I was also nearly a foot taller, so it was never meant to be.

soonfit: I started with the green book, but didn't do that diet right then, choosing one of my own devising instead. I did eventually use the diet in the green book for a few months and I also, eventually, went through the pink book day by day. This is a long journey. There's lots of time to try lots of things. You don't have to find one right way. Just try something for awhile and see what works for you.

Elizabeth779: what relaxation tape are you using?

helping rachel
08-04-2012, 12:13 PM
Hey Team Beck!

BBE, Thank you for your consistency throughout the years on this thread. Your dedication doesn’t go unnoticed and it matters to me.

Soonfit, Looks like you are setting yourself up for great success.

Tazzy, What fun with Dexter! I bet he is a good motivator to walk. I like reading that you are re-reading and committed to the Beck process again (from doing it last year).

Onebyone, Kudos for going thru a battery of health tests and listening to insight from your Doctors. Great job for not overeating. Stay close to the truth of what you have done to take the 40lbs off.

Spanky, I smiled at your breakfast audience with your son and your dogs. Being at the same starting place as you encourages me. I am reading and replacing new thoughts right along with you. It will be a new experience to create “new grooves in this noggin!”

Elizabeth: Kudos for dealing quite well with a food pusher. I already have a hard enough time with the “food pusher’ within☺
Do you like your relaxation tapes and do you mind sharing with where you purchased them?

Beverlyjoy, Your storytelling sounds fascinating. How joyful for you to have time with your grandkids. KUDOS for weighing the same as June 1! That is wonderful.

Lexxiss: I like how you are planning your meals and then eating on plan. I am sure that is what has helped you to lose your weight and keep it off. Would you be open to sharing your smoothie recipe?

Sending good vibes out to the rest of the Beck team.

helping rachel
08-04-2012, 12:18 PM
GardenerJoy: Thank you for the great advice and wisdom. I will mention that to her. I appreciate you sharing your perspective and insights.

KUDOS for your mii and normal BMI! What an accomplishment for you.
I love how you record your exercise right along with your weight.

08-04-2012, 12:22 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

FINALLY back home. It took an 8 hour drive to get here but I stayed OP. Amazing and I am grateful. Bonus was 1 pound below ticker this morning. Today will be grocery shopping, haircut, nails and a wedding this evening. I am not afraid of the wedding. I am committed to program. I am a little blue this morning and fighting some anxiety. This always happens when I first "Slow Down". I get scared with the stillness. Credit yoga at 10 a.m.

Lexxiss: I love the feeling when you can finally sit back and enjoy the fruits of your effort. Credit.
BBE: My professional summer is over Tuesday. The good news is fall is my favorite season
beverlyjoy: Good to hear from you.
gardenerjoy: I am looking forward to returning to my healthy BMI. I was there six months ago and hop to be there again by fall.

08-04-2012, 12:47 PM
Team Beck:

Still OP for my 7th day of Atkins Induction. That's halfway. Tomorrow I weigh and take a few measurements. Lifted weights last night and got my exercise bike time done early this morning. I'm so focussed on it, I feel the will I'll need for Party #1.

I plan to eat ahead of time and to stay busy with the camera like a Good Mommy. And bring a bag of veggies and dip if I do eat.

I shared one Reason from my ARC with my DH. It's new in the past couple years. At 55, I find, when I'm with the 30 somethings with whom I work, and the other Kindergarten Moms, I am self conscious about being "old". I work in Molecular Medicine where everyone is smart and the intellectual competition fierce, but am already hearing things about them not wanting to work in my lab because "we're on different wavelengths socially", they like different TV, different music, different bars---than people my age do. So on top of this I feel fat and stodgy. Yuk. It makes me want to at least be the best I can be physically as well as mentally. DH and I had an interesting talk about this--perhaps it's not uncommon for middle aged people still in the work place. It sucks.

So today is shopping for next week's menu and wrapping presents, then facing down the ChooChoo cake.

Thank you Beck Team! Kudos to all of us for posting here!


08-04-2012, 10:13 PM
Hi Coaches

I am so wiped out I cannot even describe it to you.

I did the farmers' market today, up at 6am, loaded the car, unloaded and shlepped tent, tables, display sticks, market stock, chair and etc. to my spot. Set all that stuff up and then sat back and whoa Nelly it was stinking hot today!

I was so wiped out from the goings on of this week and then the heat today. wow. We had to be out of the market early-ish and I am usually one of the last ones packed up so I started a half hour early, which was tough in that heat. By the time I was lifting my lightweight canvases into the car I thought my arms would drop them I felt so spent. Drove home, collapsed on the couch in front of the fan in the air conditioned apartment.

DH informs me he's going out to get a thing to take his blood sugar and that he wants to be "well on his way" by the time he sees our family dr. this week. DH LOVES to know "more than the doctor" and he's also into being his own science experiment. I hoped this part of his personality would assert itself. It has. The "this won't beat me this stupid thing" part. Then he says "And you can't bring anymore crap into the house." OMG I wanted to throttle him. I said "DO you have any idea how hard it has been for me to try to do what I am doing with the crap you brought into the house? THANK GOD you're finally on board." Last night he informed me he was going for a walk at 11pm every night ( he always loved walking at night) and I was welcome to join him "But you have to keep up or it won't do any good". Sheesh. He's 6'3 with a wide walking step. When I keep up I am pretty much race walking/jogging and 11 pm is really off my body clock. I won't be there every night but might aim for 3 nights. He'll be walking alone tonight.
After this he says "and we're buying groceries once a week every week". Hello? Been trying to get that show on the road forever too. I said "what foodplan are you on? Are you doing the diabetic exchanges?" he's already decided "they're not that great of a diet" so he's just going to eat and monitor his blood and figure it out for himself as "everybody is different". For me *I* have to educate myself as to what is ok what is not and really it's mostly serving sizes and really his diet is my diet is our diet now and then I had a HUGE:devil: sabotaging:devil: thought: what if I just don't do it, don't go along with anything he wants, just mess him up. So AWFUL! I feel so mean. I am sooooooooooooo grateful he is taking personal responsibility and not wallowing, though I know that will come, especially as he says goodbye, cold turkey (what else?) to his beloved coca cola tomorrow.

Anyway, my early morning will be spent at the garden tomorrow, trying to pull out what must be massive thistles overshadowing the veggies. I am wondering about buying some shears just to lop them off at ground level for now. I do not have any hope of eradictating these pesky weeds. It' been hot and dry and my veggies will be super thirsty. Hopefully I'll have some to harvest for all my effort.

Have a good night.

08-04-2012, 11:30 PM
Hi Coaches... checking in. I used many Beck techniques today. I was able to make good choices & stayed out of the pantry here at my son's house.

My son and daughter in law are part of a wedding this weekend. We are watching the little ones. DH's sister & our niece came into town, too. We all had such a wonderful day.

We got take out food for lunch and dinner. I made a good choice at lunch with a tossed salad with chopped fruit, some pecans, and parm cheese. We got Chinese food for supper - I got some steamed veggie dumplings and had a couple of shrimp. Credit for good choices!

I am so glad the computer is working this weekend at my son's house & I can check in. I may be the only person I know without a smartphone or whatever to get on the internet from my cell.

I hope you are having a good weekend. Thanks.

08-05-2012, 06:36 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - My quest to return the wallet found in the backpack from a yard sale failed in three more attempts. Ouch. DW teased me that I could just leave a note instead of walking to the house and back over and over - that I was just using it as an excuse for the exercise. Dead right, CREDIT moi. Walked to the garden to harvest more cherry tomatoes and cukes and to stare wistfully at the lovely green large tomatoes. Recalling something from my childhood, "A watched pot never boils." Wondering how the tomatoes know?

Food was on plan, CREDIT moi. I had the opportunity to serve myself seconds at dinner and I didn't. Gotta remember to remove the bowl of food from the table before we start to eat. Usually served plates are brought to the table, but last night the white bean salad (enough for two meals) was sitting there to serve ourselves. Mindful eating is easier if I'm not staring at an abundance that requires me to make decisions.

onebyone – Wonderful news that your DH is facing his challenge with full testosterone blasting instead of avoiding. Ouch that you have to deal with the exuberance of a newly-converted. Perhaps he'll take you shopping and show you where the fruits and veggies are sold in the stores. Or he can introduce you to farmers' markets. He might make the transition to eating veggies easier if he has his own 'modern' cookbook, like one by Mark Bittman.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Kudos for bliss. (Translation for the troglodytes: One's 'Mii' is a digital avatar constructed with one's Wii. Advocates come to think of it as a real word. Even non-believers are expected to know that 'Wii' is a religious instrument used to invoke Endorphins which are peptides from the pituitary gland associated with carnal bliss.)

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yep, Kudos for "check in anyway" - regardless of the demon lurking behind 'anyway.' [Preparing a bed at Ye Old East Coast Green Heron and Gazpacho B&B.]

Beverlyjoy – Yay for a DIL who'll get out her blender for your smoothies. Neat choices from the take out foods.

maryann - Congrats for one pound down after an eight hour drive. In my previous life, I could eat a pound of nibbles in half that time.

Rachel (helping rachel) – Grapefruit is a terrific substitute for wine. [Thanks for the kind words.]

spanky - Ouch for "self conscious about being 'old'" - it's a painful feeling. We had our kids later and worked at the kindergarten with parents who saw us as the age of their parents. They got over it. Here's hoping that you continue to find co-workers who understand that everyone at work doesn't need to giggle at the same experiences.

Readers - chapter 7 Stage 4 The Think Thin Lifetime Eating Plan

As you make this transition, remain inflexible about checking off your skills every night on your Stage 4 Success Skills Sheet (pages 272-273). To guard against falling back into unhelpful habits, you will need the Success Skills Sheet to remind you what you need to do - and to keep yourself honest. Old habits sometimes die hard, you will need to stay vigilant. Continue to increase your spontaneous exercise, in addition, work up to a minimum of 30 minutes of daily movement and twice-weekly strength training.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 168.

08-05-2012, 10:33 AM
We got rain! Twice!

WI: -0.2 kgs, Exercise: +60 195/1400 minutes for August, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

BillBlueEyes: thanks for translating my geek speak!
I'm not sure whether to wish you luck in finding the wallet's owner or if you want that to go on for a few more days to get a bit more exercise. A librarian would probably try to find a phone number using the names on the cards.

Beverlyjoy: love seeing the grandkids' reports!

onebyone: I love BillBlueEyes' words for you -- so useful having the male perspective.
My DH realized that he had high blood pressure recently. He went from no exercise to 60 minutes a day overnight. And a few days later I had to run out to the drugstore at midnight to get Maalox when he ended up with exercise-induced heartburn that produced the worst pain he'd ever experienced and didn't go away by bedtime. It turns out he wasn't drinking water because he thought that would make the heartburn worse. :dizzy: Nope. The cure for exercise-induced heartburn is lots of water before and during exercise. Oh well. There are worse things than a DH getting healthier and we've both experienced it -- a DH who isn't paying any attention to health at all. We'll both adjust!

08-05-2012, 10:41 AM

Very sleepy still. I may stay groggy all day. We've got an overcast day here. It rained last night and looks like it could do it again today. I'm ok with that.

Already 9:30am. I thought yesterday I'd have already been to the garden and back by now. I'm a lot slower than I assume I will be pretty much all the time.

Foodwise, I've been lax recording my food this week. DH's diagnosis is not a excuse for me to lose my way now. I did *credit* weigh in and saw 252.7. So I am a bit up from last week. I need to return to planning and tracking. I am just not sure if I am now doing a diabetic foodplan or continuing with my WW.
I *think* though that a diabetic friendly foodplan is pretty much an ideal eating/weightloss plan. DH has not given me any direction on this yet. I don't want to make us food that is bad for him so I need to educate myself. And what's good for him will be good for me as well. I know that. I knew many folks at OA whose foodplan of choice was the diabetic food exchanges. Anyway, my life has to go on as DH makes his own decisions which, I know, will filter down to me fully formed.

Dishes have gotten out of control again. No clean spoons for instance, and just one fork available. Piles of plates again. Time to get caught up and it is becoming more and mre clear that when I start the dishes I need to continue on until they are finished as my previous "last pile I need to do" is now just one more pile in addition to the new stuff.

Just thinking about it makes me even more tired.

*credit* just saw my signature line and I am halfway through week #3 wheat free. :carrot:

OK logging off now to go arrange my day.
Bye for now.

08-05-2012, 01:13 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

A beautiful quiet morning in my home. I could ask for nothing more. i had plans to get up to yoga and then shop but instead I slept in till 8 am. I really need to just stay put. I may not get out of my pjs today or I may slip off to the pool this afternoon with DS and DH. The wedding was a success and may mark the first time I didn't eat wedding cake.

Food is written down. The house is bursting with fresh fruit local strawberries, peaches, blackberries, and cataloupe. I will juice today.

BBE: I always laugh when things like a white bean salad are a temptation. When did that happen? My old eating habits were so appalling - a bag a cookies, a loaf of bread, that an innocent little salad would slip right by with no condemnation.
gardernerjoy:I am hoping for lots of rain this winter.
onebyone: Diabetes is very scary. I am glad your DH is taking it seriously.

08-05-2012, 01:38 PM

I just made my own declaration to DH: no more plastics in the kitchen or for cooking, including food in cans which have plastic linings=almost every can I think. This is a level of environmental cleansing I have thought about but since DH's diagnosis, and then the same evening I watched a Canadian science series I hadn't seen in years--it's been on the air for decades-- and the topic was "Programmed to be Fat?" and so I settled in and was reminded that proven 100% or not, it wouldn't hurt to get rid of the chemicals that may be leeching into my food. Here's the link:
We are in a priviledged position to be able to replace the few things we buy in cans with the glass equivalents, often 1.5-2x the cost. It will require, got it, another key Beck skill: planning our food. DH is onboard so we move ever forward.

Billblueeyes: a super-sized :thanks: for the reference to Mark Bittman. Just watched his TED talk, looked up his books--many at our library! So excited. Thanks again.

If anyone has any suggestions of what yu consider to be exceptional vegetarian cookbooks I would love to check them out. If you want, PM me with them; perhaps it's not Beck-related... and I don't want to clutter the thread.

Off again.

08-05-2012, 05:39 PM
Spanky here, reporting my first Atkins weigh in results from 7 day's induction: I lost a whopping 4 pounds and an entire inch off my chest. Mongo CREDIT!

The Birthday celebrations are over and no cake has passed my lips. POINT!

Losing the inch allowed me to wear a cute outfit I couldn't before and I felt so good in it, I made sure to savor and memorize the feeling. That thought will keep me on track going into week 2. I mean, I felt wonderful--what a buzz!

I rewarded myself with a vintage Woodstock T-shirt from 1969 off ebay!

This brings me to another Reason on my ARC: I'm tired of feeling like I fail all the time. Today, for the first time in years, I don't feel that despite the fact I have a long way to go. I'm doing something right.

Beck Kudos to all,


Nature Girl
08-05-2012, 06:10 PM
If you thought I had checked out again after just checking back in, not true--we were camping so far up a canyon that cell phones and internet do not reach. Beautiful, and very relaxing next to the river.
TH & FRI were OP except for one extra beer; substituted healthy dinner that DH cooked for what I had planned. Never pass up someone else at the stove - just adapt it so that it works on plan! SAT had a fast food glitch at lunch but got right back on track for rest of the day. Rode my bike Th, Fri, and this morning. Today was a longer ride than usual - credit moi.
I've been thinking about you, Onebyone, and your DH's diagnosis. It relates directly to my desire to recommit to this program. What I wrote down on paper while 'puterless was this:
Advantages Card: I only need one reason: I absolutely need to avoid diabetes. I lost my uncle two years ago to the disease, and another friend just three weeks ago to the same. My mom has dealt with this for twenty years and I see the ravages to her body because of it. I don't plan to check out in 12 years at the age of 66 like my uncle and our friend; I don't want to struggle like my mom. So NOW is the time to get my act together, keep my weight in a healthy range, and choose foods and exercise that don't put me at risk. Healthy habits, reasonable choices, changes that support this lifestyle: that's where I need to be. I'm working on some kind of visual or physical reminder of Richard, Liz, and Mom so that when I'm tempted to give up or backslide, I can look at or touch these symbols and be strong.

08-05-2012, 06:37 PM
Hi folks: Back home from another weekend away. I was able to stay within my food plan and not overeat. It's really a miracle and I am very grateful. Why can I 'do it' sometimes and other times I can't manage? I suppose it's a question we all ask ourselves at different times.

I will have more time next week.

Take care now.

08-06-2012, 05:33 AM
Hi Coaches -- I guess I should say good morning coaches since it is very early Monday morning -- I've finally had enough sleep that I'm awake...I will say I would not have been able to make it through the overtime day on program without having a food plan and sticking to it. Even if I strayed, it still wasn’t far, it was more like not being able to eat everything because I was not hungry, or choosing to eat a peach instead of the apple I wrote down, etc… credit for that.

So I planned my food through Friday, but then Saturday morning after 4 hours sleep I was up early to take my mother on errands (she’s elderly and can’t be out on her own, she gets confused), so I was flying without a plan and OH MY GOSH did it feel panicky….but I did well, for the day….and then this morning again was without a plan, so got in here and worked on my Fitday to write out a plan…..but then I ended up today eating FOUR!!!! Skinny Cow ice cream bars at 100 calories each, but looking over my half-baked plan for Sunday, I didn’t have enough food, so no wonder I was getting into the ice cream………..”ohhhhhhhh wellllllll, it happened, get back on track Elizabeth!”

About the tapes, about a month ago I was looking on the internet about relaxation tapes, and also about …..well….hypnosis as it relates to weight loss….and this is because I used a hypnosis weight loss record (yes I said "record" -- as in vinyl record....yes I'm old) a long time ago when I was a teen to help me. In my search I read about Tom Nicoli and his involvement with a Dateline NBC program about weight loss. He is not one of these entertainer type hypnotists that show up at county fairs, etc....he's the type that does this for health reasons, in fact in my city I did some research and there are some that do this as part of a psychology practice or to help with phobia issues, weight loss, stop smoking, and other problems and habits, includign preparing for dental and medical procedures or surgery, etc.

I downloaded as an app to my phone his weight loss series, and I will say I’m quite impressed with them. (I will also say I’m guarded against messages I would not want to hear, or messages that are contrary to my beliefs, so I have listened to these tapes when not in a relaxed state to be sure I know that I’m listening to, and I do approve of them.)

I believe they have helped with my motivation immensely -- NOT more than Beck though -- but more as an addition to Beck, everything about the tapes helps me want to do Beck more and Beck better -- it just reinforces everything I am doing with Beck. I then additionally purchased his relaxation, and insomnia, and "emotional clutter" CD's. His weight loss series deals with motivation for making positive life changes for weight issues, and he has one that encourages me to want to exercise, and I think they work very well. The additional CD’s I have are similar, but even more relaxing, and those tapes I listen to when going to bed and instead of his “waking” me out of the relaxation and messages at the end, they just go to nice playing sounds and music that drift me off to sleep. Ann (Newlifestyle) and I have been talking on private message since she started using them too, and I wasn’t going to mention them in the thread, but a couple have asked so here it is.

Beck is what is essential's first, it gives me tools, but the relaxation and the hypnosis weight loss CD's help a lot also. If I only had one of the other, I'd never give up Beck though....Beck is essential, without the Beck techniques, I would not be successful.

So in other words, I think Nicoli’s tapes and Beck’s cognitive therapy training techniques are a one-two punch for my weight loss issue……and time will tell for sure. Just like with Beck you have to do the program, just owning the book won’t help, with Nicoli, you need to consistently listen to the tapes/cd’s, etc…..and it takes a couple weeks for it to start working, but it does.

(Looking at Ann…..well hon, I did it, I talked about it....I know I said I didn’t think I should, but here it is….) also Judith Beck does recommend relaxation tapes in BDS on Page 229. NOTE -- she does not recommend on that page hypnosis -- it's that my relaxation tapes involve hypnosis since I have used that in the past.....I recommend either a search for relaxation tapes if you only want the guided relaxation tapes, and relaxing sounds, music, etc.,....and if you want to incorporate hypnosis with the relaxation, music, etc....I do recommend Nicoli now since I've been using them.....but you have to of course decide for yourself -- it's such a personal decision....

oh dear, I's late and i'm tired....Thank you for listening my dearest coaches.... :)

Well I have these great notes for the personals....i'll tackle those tomorrow...but I think I'll go to bed and listen to one of the tapes and get some sleep.....zzzzzzzzzzzzzzz. -- I'm going for my first water aerobics class in the morning!

08-06-2012, 07:22 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - I continued with my failure to return the found wallet, CREDIT moi because it's a nice walk to and fro each time. Today, however, I have decided that I will take the universal advice of everyone who knows what I'm doing and leave a note for the owner to call me. Went for an evening walk with DW even though rain was possible. It became real and I learned that my new golf umbrella does indeed keep me very dry. Except when the wind is strong and it works like a sail. We had to abort the walk to keep the umbrella from self-destruction.

Eating was on plan, CREDIT moi, with several opportunities for junk food ignored. I was offered an 'Energy Bar' which wouldn't have had much appeal except that it was offered from a full box - from an abundance. Seems that I'm sucked in to the abundance aspect, just like the old comics of Scrooge McDuck diving into his pool of money. Once I'd declined the Energy Bar, declining two types of factory cookies was easier.

onebyone – Kudos for continued wheat free. Can't wait to hear what new recipes you and your DH find attractive to increase the veggies in your life.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Yay for rain. Yay for rain. Ouch for DH's exercise induced heart-burn - good to know that water is the antidote.

Nature Girl – Thanks for sharing your family's history of diabetes - frightening disease that is. Kudos for all the exercise and for appreciating nature without computers. Both admiration and LOL at "Never pass up someone else at the stove - just adapt."

Beverlyjoy – Yay for another weekend away on plan. Hope you find the answer why that's sometimes easier than others and let us know.

maryann - Love the image of your house "bursting with fresh fruit local strawberries, peaches, blackberries, and cantaloupe." [LOL, Yep, I should note the NSV that I was tempted by a white bean salad instead of a sleeve of Girl Scout Thin Mint Cookies.]

Elizabeth (Elizabeth779) - Thanks for the info on relaxation tapes. Neat thought, "GOAL that is – instead of just driving around the block, around the block, around the block."

spanky - Oh Yes, Mongo Kudos for your first seven days of Atkins. Neat NSV that it allowed an outfit to be worn. Absolutely love that your reward was a Woodstock T-shirt. Reminds me that last summer as we were looking over stuff from our attic that might look good on our newly painted walls, adult DD spotted a poster, "Do you know that's from Woodstock?" "ummm..yes." "Is it real?" "ummm...bought it in 1969, so likely." "That's worth money!" "Over my dead body." So now it hangs in her apartment, greatly admired.

Readers - chapter 7 Stage 4 The Think Thin Lifetime Eating Plan

Experiments to Vary the Think Thin Eating Plan

experiment 1
Add your snack foods to meals.
Some dieters prefer to have larger meals instead of snacks. You can do an experiment to see if this works well for you. Take the food you would have eaten for a snack (from Snack Options, page 224) and add it to another meal. You can add your midmorning snack to breakfast or to lunch, your midafternoon snack to dinner. Find out:
Do you like having a larger meal instead of a snack?
Do you get overly hungry between meals?
Does skipping snacks set up craving for unplanned food?
Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pgs 168-169.

08-06-2012, 09:12 AM
Good morning coaches

Today it has finally cooled off. We had a huge storm yesterday and it was still humid but as I woke up this morning it was much cooler. I have struggled with posting as I feel content with being OP. Thanks for the reminder that I need this group if I don't want to slide down that slippery slope.

Bill, I am like you, I would have kept walking to the rightful owners place to see if they were home. I try to find any excuse to walk. I enjoy walking so much, I just wish my family would enjoy it. Wow on having an original poster from Woodstock and kudos for finding a place in DD's apartment to display it.

onebyone – Hugs to you as you go through the struggles with DH and Diabetes, and the learning curve that will go with it. My brother was just recently diagnosed with it and he is amazed at all the info he is getting from the Diabetic nurse and the dietician.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Thank you for your post about heart burn. Last night I had heartburn and thought I should eat something or drink milk to make it feel better and then I read your post about drinking water. Who knew, water actually works.

Nature Girl – your adventure away sounds peaceful. I find sometimes DH and I can get caught up with computers. The only time we stay off of the computer is when we are on vacation. It is always a struggle to talk DH into leaving the computer home.

Beverlyjoy – Great job staying on plan. I work shift work and I find when I am not getting enough sleep or I feel stressed I find it hard to stay on plan.

Debbie- I love it when a plan comes together. When my house is in order it makes it easier to relax in it. We will be renovating my brothers house and I know once it is done it will be much nicer for him. You inspired me to think about renovations for him with all you have been doing to your home.

maryann - reading about all those local fresh fruits makes me want to live in California, except I would miss the snow we get here.

Elizabeth - Wow your long hours make me tired. Kudos for realizing planning is the key. Thanks for recommending the relaxation tapes.

spanky - Congratulations with the week on Atkins completed. We too are older parents, I find many grandparents help out with their grandchildren in our community while their children work so this works out as we have more in common with the grandparents than the parents.

Hello to everyone else, I hope you have a wonderful day.
Credit for posting. I don't want to slide down that slippery slope.

Take Care

08-06-2012, 10:47 AM

Sometimes I find I have to do contrary things. Like, yesterday I had to let go the control over the food list and shopping, handing it over to DH. He had already planned a plan and *I* wanted to take control of it as a part of me did not trust him. So, instead, I could hear myself being overly emotional about it (the reaction did not fit the action--always a sign of some other issue being triggered and not really about the issue at hand) and I told myself to let it go and hang on to myself, keep my opinons to myself and support DH as we go shopping, together, with a list, and a dollar value, all things that have not come together in this specific way in YEARS.

I did see how his "condition" is drawing us back together. We had been living farther apart emotionally and now we are back with each other with a common cause: to make sure DH gets his blood sugar under control. He has attacked it like a bear and I can only say how phenomenal that is. Bad news, life changing news, you just don't know how people will react until it's upon them. "I chose well," I thought, as I watched DH take control of his life. SO AWESOME... it lessens the anger that this whole thing had to happen at all.

Today I plan to get the dishes done. Again. Coaches how many times am I going to mention the dishes?! Everytime they interfere with my Beck plans I suppose. They interfere by causing me to avoid the kitchen and that sends me off my foodplan as I don't want to cook from scratch or spend time "in there". And DH wants to bake(!) rolls(!) from a recipe that says it's ok for your blood sugar and he wants to make his own BBQ sauce too and I do believe this is for our dinner tonight. He needs clean clear space to do that and he needs to do that for his health and I need to encourage and support his actions so I need to do the dishes.

Anyway, I'd much rather sit here and type out the words "do the dishes" than actually go and do the dishes so ... I'll go do the dishes. :wave:

08-06-2012, 11:28 AM
Hello Coaches,
Yesterday was my Birthday! And news flash, calories count on your Birthday.
I used my newfound Beck skills and stayed pretty much OP for the weekend. I planned to have a piece of icecream cake for dessert and was pleasantly surprised that the wine didn't interest me at dinner and ice water was much more satisfying.
I realize that my resistance to cravings could use some work. So I am going to make an ad card to refer to.
I plan to weigh and measure on Wednesday and am hoping that I am at least maintaining.

Spanky: Since I can't get a ticker till I post 20 times, on Wed I am going to copy your fill in ticker with my stats. I am hoping this will keep me accountable.

Elizabeth: Thank you for the info on Tom Nicoli. I have heard of him- I think I may have his insomnia cd and pillowspeakers. Last year was very stressful for me I went through a period where I couldn't sleep. I lost 20#'s, but at the time I would rather have been chubby and happy. Which is my normal state....

BBE- Thanks as always for your interesting updates...

Onebyone: Laughed at your story of "newdh". BBE's input was right on target, so glad to have him onboard.

Thanks everyone else for your posts.

08-06-2012, 12:25 PM
Credit for proposing that everyone bring their own sack lunches for a family business meeting. Our hostess didn't feel the mostest making that suggestion herself, but was grateful that I did. It sure made it easier to cater to everyone's diet needs which, at the moment, range from vegan to paleo.

Exercise was clearing a large oak tree limb that fell across MIL's driveway so that she could leave her house. I felt strong as I performed well-executed squats and lifted logs like barbells.

WI: -0.5 kgs, Exercise: +45 240/1400 minutes for August, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

onebyone: speaking of Mark Bittman, be sure to check out one of his slimmest volumes: Food Matters. Not completely vegetarian, but very low meat. My favorite vegetarian author is Mollie Katzen with The Moosewood Cookbook and related titles because they are so beautiful -- hand-lettered with drawings. Her book that is most relevant for weight loss, however, isn't so beautiful but very useful -- Eat, Drink, and Weigh Less by Mollie Katzen and Walter Willett.

Elizabeth779: Thanks for the Tom Nicoli information. I'm taking a look at that!

soonfit: a belated Happy Birthday to you!

08-06-2012, 03:07 PM
Good morning -- water aerobics was FUN!!! I had not been in a swimming pool for maybe 15 years.....was very self-conscious. I had shorts and a tank top on over my swimsuit, but felt more comfortable once I was able to "hide" in the was a good workout, and something different from the gym cardio/weights, and different than the kettle bells. I'm going to get a kickboard and do some of that in lane swimming.

Ooops, the time, I'm meeting a diet buddy at olive garden for salad.....later coaches! :carrot:

08-06-2012, 04:33 PM
Showing up today. Doing it anyway.

Having a terribly difficult day--several weeks ago my beloved Cairn Terrier Finnegan was given a diagnosis of terminal liver cancer. He's 15. I've known him longer than any human in my life today and he is the apple of my eye. The vet has told me what to expect as we go along this road and he fails a little bit each day. There's no pain according to the vet and Finn still shows up for life, so we're walking this path awhile yet. Fighting a very long defeat and it's an ongoing ache in my heart.

So I had to dig for inspiration this morning to keep up with the rest of my life and picked this reason to think about today from my ARC "I'm doing this because I don't want to waste all my hard work so far." We have a covered skywalk attached to our work site that allows me to walk over the city for about 2 miles and I walked it to make up for skipping the bike last night. Kudo.

That said, I am completely OP and not yet eating any of the delicacies I feed to Finn by hand to keep him going. Some days he'll eat just cookies, some days just turkey--at this point he gets whatever he wants. I thought I was too sad to exercise last night and just sat with him instead. Tonight I will just bed him down in the exercise area and get on the bike anyway.


08-06-2012, 05:51 PM
Oh Spanky, that's really tough -- I'm sorry your lil sweetie terrier is so sick. I'm encouraged by your courage to stick with your program so that you "don't waste all the hard work so far".

08-06-2012, 06:13 PM
Hi coaches/ friends...I am getting back into the swing of things. My two a day green smoothies are going down well, so far. I've stayed away from the crusiferous veggies. I think it has helped me to 'switch gears' a bit with my plan. It's like a fresh start that I need.

Yesterday - I logged & measured my food. Today I got on the scale it was the same number that I saw on Friday. Happy dance and credit. I've been to the grocery to buy the healthy foods I need to have around.

Recently I've seen the documentaries Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead & Supesize Me. Very thought provoking. The first is about juicing your way to health. I will not live only on juice. However, it got me to think about green smoothies again. Supersize Me is an eye opening flick about a healthy man who only eats food from McDonalds for a month and how distinctly it had a huge negative impact on his health. Makes a person not want unhealthy fast food. Some fast food places have salads, etc. howver.

I am planning to start my journalling and other Beck techniques full fledged tonight and tomorrow.

Today is the neighbor's birthday. We are all getting together for cupcakes. I don't want one. I've been doing clean eating the past week and it feels good. I always feel 'funny' when I am the only one not eating what everyone else is eating. I can always say that I am watching my sugar intake. People seem to think that's a great reason. as opposed to saying that I am trying to lose weight. I shouldn't have to explain... still, it takes practice.

spanky - HI! I am so, so sorry about Finnegin being so sick. Our furkids are our family. Credit for finding the willingness to dig deep to stay out of the treats/foods you are giving him.

elizabeth - CREDIT for doing that swimming. Carry on.

gardenerjoy - what a GREAT idea for folks to bring their sack lunches. It's something that I"ll remember in the future.

soonfit - HAPPY BIRTHDAY! It's a major credit to stay OP on your birthday. Well done!

onebyone - so nice to hear about you an DH coming together on things. I know it's a good feeling.

newlifestyle - I agree.. we all need to tatoo the message to connect with our coaches/buddies - on our brain!

billbe - dr Beck says it well that each time to use our resistence muscle it makes it somewhat easier later on.

Sorry I couldn't get to personals with more folks.

The next few days I must REST my ankle. It's very sore from the trip and all my driving. sigh.

Have a great day.

08-06-2012, 08:57 PM
*credit* spent 2 hours today liberating the garden from foot high weeds; mostly thistles.
Did not liberate the kitchen from dirty dishes.
DH cooked and cleaned whatever he needed to use to make and serve us dinner. A welcome change. He made rolls from scratch, low carb eperimental rolls that I love--almost too much. They are very eclair-pastry-texture like. I am craving them even now. They may be a problem for me. He also made diabetic friendly bbq sauce which was fabulous. He went out, grilled some beef patties, slathered on bbq sauce and put it on the bun he made.It was awesome. I felt good having just about everything made from scratch... and I didn't have to make it.

Also we had a mid afternoon veggie snack from the garden: the first carrots (6 of them), first yellow cherry pear tomatoes, red cherry tomatoes, and more green beans. Very nice. DH now gets why garden veggies are the best of all.

Think I'll go do something. Not sure what... bye for now.

08-07-2012, 12:12 AM
hi coaches -- wanting to catch up on personals

welcome spanky, it sounds like you are off to a right start with your're going through something difficult right now, and I hope that control over food through tracking will bring you some peace.

newlifestyle -- ann -- good for you gal for walking to work....that's impressive...and I'm glad you're enjoying the tapes.

Catholic Cajun -- good for you for working on the "stopping when full"....I've been redefining through Beck what full is -- used to think it meant stuffed.

Gardnerjoy -- I like what you said about fairness and it's important to mentor ourselves after successful dieters -- you're right, it does change the perspective when you follow what a successful dieter does versus what a person does who engages in unplanned eating.

Tazzy -- that's interesting about new advantage cards -- what did you notice most about what had changed in the cards?

Onebyone -- I'm sorry to hear about her DH's diabetes, but it does sound good that you are focusing on solutions, and that he's a willing participant in that. It's good how you are planning and persisting in your plans, even when it's tough.

Soonfit -- you are doing well -- and you are realizing that it takes "tweaking" to get the diet you choose to what you may even change at times or need further tweaking from time to time. In the past people like us would give up instead of continuing and tweaking things to fit what we need.

BBE -- you were talking about your company BBQ, and I appreciate how you showed balance by saying there was "some good, some bad." With food I tend to engage in all or nothing, black white thinking, and that leads to problems, I can see by your story that it is better to accept that there was "some good, some bad" and move on. I do notice you are good at turning down "factory made cookies"'re right, if we have a cookie in our life it should be a really good homemade cookie, and not be wasting calories on something factory made that is mediocre at best.

helping rachel -- good job on the photo flip album type advantages card. I didn't think of that, but that's a great way to do it.

Beveerlyjoy -- I"m glad you're back on track and enjoying your "greenies".

Everyone is hanging in there as best as possible.....we're very fortunate to have found what helps us change our habits...

08-07-2012, 03:27 AM
I am embarrassed to have fallen away again from checking in here. This feeling is my own issue, of course -- if anything, y'all never ever contribute to this guilt, thank goodness.

What was I doing? Grappling with a lot of excessive emotions. Just generally running away from some realities and yet also reconnecting with some of my Beck skills.

CREDITS (for last week):
* achieving a GREEN week for exercise (4 days, which on my rainbow smilie sticker system means I get out of the ROY and into the ROYG)
* resisting standing eating
* portioning food
* avoiding late-night snacks
* weighing in
* eating in the spirit of a plan, although completing these for real has been a continuing challenge

The emotions have been extremely powerful and hard to ignore. I feel: frustrated at our living situation (too many people with negative energy and messy habits); unappreciated for all I do around the house; angry at the DP for taking out anger on me; angry at the DP for not dealing with the daughters still living with us; guilty for putting off some professional and teaching goals I had assigned for myself. Again, I am offered the lesson: put myself first and I am a happier person.

Some reality: I just finished a major 8-year program. I got diagnosed with a UTI and needed some real rest last week. Maybe, just maybe, I need some major rest. So I've taken as my mantra Worf's view of procrastination: "A Klingon does not procrastinate! This is a tactical delay."

So I begin this week by prioritizing house goals to my (and to some extent the DP's) benefit. Organizing my clothing space and sorting out the clothes I'll wear for teaching; planning where to store my teaching materials; etc. A bittersweet moment: me, sitting in the middle of seventy-two library books, preparing to return them to my University. I have decided to make my checklist for return into a Checklist for Future Purchase.


* maintain last week's credits
* seriously commit to making Food Plans
* give some serious thought to why I might be circling around the same four pounds

Sending much positive energy to your parts of the world!

08-07-2012, 06:38 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - The saga continues: Once again I failed to return the wallet. I've become mesmerized with trying to catch this person at home (without knocking on their door after dark). And I've become addicted to the short walk (CREDIT moi) taking minor variations to observe some houses that I don't walk by often. Saw a new brick and paving stone driveway with a pleasing design. Did gym (CREDIT moi) where the one guy who speaks to me asked if I'd gotten my hair cut, which I had. Can't believe a guy would notice such a thing and then mention it.

Food was on plan, CREDIT moi. I avoided Whole Foods when I walked to Trader Joe's for bananas and some frozen entrees. I had planned to avoid the FREE sample, but it was a small cube of frozen juice which I took to reward myself for walking in the heat. I deliberately avoided the bags and bags of tree nuts that I often buy while I'm letting my wandering hands learn to behave themselves.

onebyone – LMAO at "I'd much rather sit here and type out the words "do the dishes" than actually go and do the dishes" - I have so done that. Wonderful news that your DH is charging forth; that meal sounds great and hearing that your DH had a veggie snack is just boggling.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Wonderful image, "lifted logs like barbells."

Beverlyjoy – Yep, it does feel "funny" when we don't eat what's going down around us. Kudos for just accepting that feeling to stay your path.

Mary (MaryContrary) – I am so stealing, "A Klingon does not procrastinate! This is a tactical delay." O course, the last thing I need is a clever excuse for one of my most challenging issues. Kudos for moving forward despite the challenges of your living situation. I can feel the bittersweet of returning all those library books.

Ann (Newlifestyle) - Yep, Kudos for posting and for being aware that there's a slippery slope.

Elizabeth (Elizabeth779) - Yay for water aerobics for just being fun! [Yep, black and white thinking seems to creep in so unnecessarily.]

soonfit - (Belated) Happy Birthday! Kudos for choosing ice water over wine in a social situation.

spanky - Sending supportive thoughts as you walk your beloved Cairn Terrier Finnegan to the bridge. I've taken that walk with our Aussie of 15 years and know the pain. Your covered skywalk sounds like a super place.

Readers - chapter 7 Stage 4 The Think Thin Lifetime Eating Plan

Experiments to Vary the Think Thin Eating Plan

experiment 2
Change the timing of your snacks.
Some dieters have the most difficulty sticking to their plans in the evening. If you like, try skipping your morning or afternoon snack and have two snacks in the evening instead of one. (Or you could try splitting your evening snack in two and then eat the food at two different times.) Or if you eat dinner late, try skipping your evening snack and having two afternoon snacks. If either variation works well, record it in your Diet Notebook. You might write, "Have a snack at midmorning, 3 p.m., and 6 p.m. Skip after-dinner snack. Choose from Snack Options."

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 170.

08-07-2012, 09:06 AM
Hi Coaches!

I'm still focused just having to deal with events as they come. Yesterday sis was flying in and I had to go back to work as my replacement gal had to take her DH to a dr appt. Sis' flight was late and I had to make a very quick decision. I was the lead car and my mom(91) drove behind, with my DH as a watcher. We drove all the way to the airport together and I got her into the parking garage...into the concourse to baggage claim where she would wait for my sis. I turned right around and got to work. It was interesting but worked.
Food is good and weight is good. credit.

spanky, anyone who has ever loved a dog (or cat) understands your pain. :hug: I have lost 2 beloved dogs since I started dieting. Sometimes we sat together and sometimes they watched me exercise. Either way, all he wants is to be around you. Take care, friend.

08-07-2012, 11:04 AM
Good morning Coaches,
Today is a beautiful day. It is not as humid as it has been. Nice change.
I realize DH is stressful, he does day trading and when he has other plans he expects me to do his day trading. I am sitting on my computer typing while refreshing his computer with stocks he is watching. I told him he can take a break from it, he is worried he will miss something, I reminded him if he is that worried he could stay home and watch them himself. I keep teasing him he puts too much pressure on me. I will not overeat over this. Who am I kidding, I will not have time to overeat...joking. I hope I finish this day trading early enough to go for a walk. I enjoy walking around this area as I see so many interesting things. Each day it is like a new adventure, if only my mind. I try and make all my walks fun. Credit for posting re the slippery slope.

Debbie, great plan with the car at the airport. You are always so inventive. I am so thankful you are one of my coaches. You think outside the box.

onebyone –How exciting your DH preparing the meal from scratch. This really is great he is so proactive with his diabetes.

Bill- I enjoy your persistence with the wallet adventure/walking program/ I too make up excuses to go out walking. I like an adventure. Imagine how thankful the rightful owner will be getting it back, even though they cancelled the credit cards, etc, thinking it had been Congratulations practicing avoidance with the bags of tree nuts.

Joy – It is so great when you can get spontaneous exercise while doing something to help another. Great idea about packing your own lunch. I am going to borrow that for a few occasions, thank you.

Beverlyjoy – It is wonderful your grandchildren are close enough for you to enjoy. Young children bring such joy. My son has two friends, that are always at our house. The parents keep saying how happy they are to get rid of them. We enjoy them here so we are okay with it. I am just sad for them as they are missing out on so much.

Mary – Good luck with all the organizing in your home. It is difficult when we put others in the equation, but the joy those others bring is worth it. Yikes to 72 library books. You must be special, they only let me take out a handful at my

Elizabeth - How was the Olive Garden, it is one of my favorite places. There isn't one very close to me. Water aerobics sounds like fun.

soonfit - Happy Birthday. Yikes that calories count on your birthday. I for some reason fail to remember this every time I have a birthday. Thankfully, it only happens once a

spanky - Hugs to you. Finnegan is lucky to have you as I feel you are lucky to have him. Take care.

Hello to everyone else.
Have a great day.
Has anyone heard from Erika?
Take Care

08-07-2012, 11:50 AM
I never wrote a plan for yesterday. Sometimes I do fine anyway, but not now.

I realized, again, that feeling behind is a trigger for wanting to overeat. Then, I had the horrible sabotaging thought that if feeling behind is the only excuse I allow for overeating, why was I working so hard to get ahead? Sheesh. Let's sabotage my healthy lifestyle, my writing, and every other goal I have in one sabotaging thought. I think not.

I skipped my weigh-in because I didn't need to see a discouraging number this morning. But I have an action plan and a food plan so I anticipate today going much better.

WI: NA kgs, Exercise: +30 270/1400 minutes for August, Food: NA op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

spanky: so sorry about Finn -- take care of yourself at this time!

MaryContrary: I love your rainbow smilie system. I've gotta get me some of those! And the words of wisdom from Worf are just perfect!

08-07-2012, 12:40 PM
Hello Everyone,

A very busy weekend at my house and the realization that it's really easy to not follow a plan when you keep the BDS book in my work bag and out of sight. Food wise it was not the best, I decided (can't blame anyone but me) that we should have Chinese food on Sunday night as I was going to pick up a friend of DS with him. It has been way too hot for my liking (not sure how some of you handle this - I'm guessing with some A/C to start with) I'd easily take a blast of winter snow right now. Consequently neither DH or I felt anything like cooking. Our dinner for 4 lasted for 2 dinners and 2 lunches for DH. Of course the place I really noticed it was on the scale but completely expected in being up. I'll keep up on the water to flush the sodium and such out. I'm going to take credit for making our lunches last night (DH - Chinese food, me - big salad with tuna and some watermelon) and also getting our breakfast stuff organized. Also wrote down a plan for today's food so that's one step. I have not yet read my cards today but will do so after posting here.

Exercise was some gardening, walking Dexter early in the day, playing with him in the backyard and decided to deconstruct, sand and paint a park bench that sits on our front step. I still need to powerwash the wrought iron pieces and spray paint them a new color before attempting to rebuilt it! Hopefully it all goes back together correctly.

Hope everyone has a great day :wave:

Update Figured out how to get a photo of Dexter for my avatar. Of course he's grown more since this one was taken 10 days ago.

08-07-2012, 02:52 PM
Hi coaches/friends.... yesterday was healthy... I am grateful for that.

While I was visiting my grandkids, I kept boucning my three month old on my knee while doing rhymes. This along with a four hour drive home makes for an painful ankle (my ankle with the compromised tendon). I will rest and ice, etc. Phooey .

I logged my food yesterday and weighed today. (down)

Trying different smoothies. Adding just a little bit of spinach to see if it gives me a tummy ache. (news at 11:00)

Hope you are all having a good day.

08-07-2012, 04:01 PM
Hi Coaches

Well gang, I could give you a long long list of everything that I have to do or I could tell you what I have already done.
That would be much shorter so I'll do that.
*credit* planning exercise around a chore and completing it in the morning. The chore was buying a new cordless phone cause ours got fried in a recent thunderstorm (I think-I hated that phone). The exercise happened cause I asked DH to drop me off at the store on his way to work, and without the car I had to walk home = exercise.
*credit* weighed myself on the wii. I was positive my weight would be up, as I have not tracked since our medical appointments last Thursday, and instead saw a 1.1lb drop to 251.7lbs. What I was positive would happen was not the reality. Not the first time.
*credit* posting here

That's about it and it's almost 3pm. I have an apartment to clean, paintings to plan and to paint, ceramic things to plan and to make, market commissions to complete for the weekend, stuff to make for Friday afternoon.

Geez, no wonder I feel under the gun. Hello?
I'd better go make a plan.

Oh and I'm going to take a special *credit* for finally mailing off my letter to the tax people. That took special, dedicated, effort and even with that, the letter was ready to go, signed, sealed, addressed, last week. So yes, a credit for sending it off today, with tracking, so I know it got there.

I'm off now to do a Beckian thing: make a plan.


Nature Girl
08-07-2012, 06:56 PM
I'm up, I'm down, I'm hovering at the top of a steep pitch, screaming "Nooooo!" but the carney is not listening.
First of all, my weight is down- 3 pounds in two weeks since weigh in :carrot::carrot: Ok, fine, working the program does work, dang it!
Second, awesome bike ride alongside a beautiful lake today. You have to find your passion, whether it is work or sport; I HATE to run and consider it hard and painful, but my little secret is that on a bike, I'm usually sweating like a pig, gasping for air, and yelling Further! Faster! Steeper! I don't mind the effort on my trusty bike on a mountain trail.
Third, I turned down the job. One minute I am giddy with relief over that, mostly because I finally made a decision, next I am panicked over what if no one else wants to hire me? But the stark reality was, however rewarding the work, we would have been on food stamps with that job, so might as well risk that waiting for one that pays a salary we can live on.
Spent an hour in my fav coffee shop this morning doing Beck stuff--planning, listing, reading. I figure August has to really cement a bunch of this for me, so that when everything gets crazy in September, wherever I work (my own first grade classroom or the Burger King down the street :p) I can do diet and exercise as a routine that I am already committed to and is (somewhat) easy.
OP today, and yes I have a plan for the rest of the day.
Beverlyjoy, I wanna bounce grandkids on my knee--lucky you, even though it caused an ouwie.
Tazzy, If you hide it, it doesn't exist--yes I've tried that strategy before with Beck materials, or weights, or other exercise materials...Gotta keep it right under your nose! PS Dexter is adorable
Gardenerjoy, We can come up with such clever ways to talk ourselves into whatever we want, can't we? Why isn't it as easy to talk ourselves into what is best for us?

08-07-2012, 08:22 PM
Quick check in...

Credit yesterday for volunteering to work at my ds's baseball snackstand and not eating anything. You wouldn't believe the amount of people that eat cheesefries (superyuck)!
Today went to the beach and planned to overeat, so that went well. I will weigh in and post tomorrow.

08-07-2012, 09:34 PM
Day 10 of Atkins totally OP--score!
Cardio and weights done--point!
Read my ARC twice--yay!

I was having a new snack today at work and was so lost in how good it was that I walked around with it telling everyone about it and didn't [B]sit down. I didn't realize until the last bite. Lesson learned. Tomorrow I'll do the "Hunger or Craving ? Exercise" in the book.

I'm thinking I'm able to do this diet while Finn is so sick because I want to feel like I can at least control something. Odd, but that's how it seems to be working.

I want to thank everyone for the kind personals regarding Finn. I want to start doing personals when I get through Day 14.


08-08-2012, 04:20 AM
Didn't get to go see my therapist in LA b/c the car needed some emergency service and the 10 fwy was totally shut down. So the library books wait sadly in the back of my car. I handled the day's shifts with relative calm: unexpected auto expenses, multiple insects in kitchen (they come in to escape extreme heat), etc.

Still, I had my therapist's voice in my head, and combined with the ruminating challenges I set in my last post, I realized that I need to recognize 1) how much I have accomplished since posting here and 2) that the expectations I place on myself have always been very high and challenging (usually based in a negative view of what I have accomplished).

More of a reality:

I have made a successful return to exercise and am steadily building the colors of my rainbow weeks (see picture below). gardenerjoy, and others, these stickers and colors really please the younger parts of myself (aka the Brat).

I have brought back into consciousness many of the Beck skills that got shoved out of my brain for my dissertation.

I have already begun planning how to maintain these skills once my new teaching begins.

Most importantly, I have lost the 4-5 pounds of English fluff I gained during my stay there.

Today's credits:
* weighed in
* controlled my salt intake at evening
* ate in the spirit of a plan
* checked in here
* gave myself credit

Much positive energy to all!

08-08-2012, 06:28 AM
Hi Coaches!

Checking in before we head over the Continental Divide for several days. My food choices were very poor last evening and I made very little attempt to resist. Fortunately, I have today to make some better choices. Family will come tomorrow so I have my meals planned out "just for today". I'm going to try and plan tomorrow's, too, with meals which suit everyone's needs.

08-08-2012, 07:59 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - I am so hooked. I walked twice (CREDIT moi) to attempt to return the wallet; No joy. She hadn't taken in her mail before dark and I didn't want to bang on her door after dark and possibly frighten her. Having such a good time that I now begin to wonder what I'll do with myself when this resolves - I'll have to find a new hobby, LOL. Walked to our community garden where I harvested our first full sized tomatoes. Picked about ten large and two dozen cherry sized.

Eating was on plan, CREDIT moi. Dinner consisted of tomatoes from our garden, cukes from our garden and frozen tamales from Trader Joe's. That included three servings of tomatoes - with just a touch of balsamic vinegar. Yummy beyond yummy.

onebyone – Yay for "make a plan" in response to "under the gun." Kudos for taking on the grocery store even with the walk home carrying the spoils.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Kudos for demonstrating that a Sabotaging Thought can just be downright demonic in trying to entwine itself into all the good parts of your life.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Congrats for such planning skills that you can include your replacement's DH's doctor's appointment. What a web. Kudos for some "just for today" thinking.

Nature Girl – I so vicariously love your awesome bike ride stories. Congrats on those three pounds gone forever and Three Kudos for following up on that loss with planning.

Beverlyjoy – Yay for filling the brain of your three month old DGD with the beautiful rhyming sounds of the English language - even though you did it at the cost of knee pain. You'll hear yourself coming out of her mouth in about twelve months.

Mary (MaryContrary) - Ouch for the reality of an LA freeway in your life with Kudos for using your "therapist's voice in my head" instead. Goodbye English fluff.

Tazzy - Love the new Dexter avatar. We handle heat with fans, not A/C, and it sure does kill the desire to turn on a stove. Good luck on your wrought iron bench project.

Ann (Newlifestyle) - Congrats for tending your day trading in person; I'm fascinated by the Knight Capital story of errant software spiking the market and losing some $400 Million dollars for the company. I'm waiting to see whose heads roll: the software team given an impossible deadline or the management team that insisted on launch without test. Kudos for "I will not overeat over this."

soonfit - Oh Yes, Kudos for not eating while working the snack stand.

spanky - LOL at the sight of you marching around with your yummy snack without even thinking about sitting down. Sending a gentle behind-the-ears-rub to Finn.

Readers - chapter 7 Stage 4 The Think Thin Lifetime Eating Plan

Experiments to Vary the Think Thin Eating Plan

experiment 3
Swap one Think Thin Eating Plan for another.
There are two additional ways you can easily customize your Think Thin Lifetime Eating Plan that don't entail figuring out calories. You can:
Switch your Think Thin meals. For example, have your dinner options at lunchtime and your lunch options at dinnertime. See if you prefer having a larger lunch and smaller dinner.
Use the recipes on pages 230-262. These contain the appropriate number of calories for each meal, and I think you'll enjoy the variety.
Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 170.

08-08-2012, 11:14 AM
Yesterday wasn't perfect but better than the previous day and better than last Tuesday. Credit for trying something new on a Tuesday that seemed to help. Progress not perfection!

WI: +0.9kgs, Exercise: +45 315/1400 minutes for August, Food: 80% op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

MaryContrary: thanks for the visual aid -- I like it!

08-08-2012, 11:32 AM
Good Morning, Coaches.

I was back to work yesterday beginning my new job as peer teaching coach. First time out of the classroom in 22 years. Lots and lots to do plus I have my next packet for my MFA to complete. Well, at least the blues have been replaced by manic energy!

Credit: OP for 14 days - truly amazing. Weigh in 1 pound below ticker. Credit Yoga tonite.

Started catching up with everyone's post. Always good to hear the victories won in this ongoing battle.

08-08-2012, 11:39 AM
Good morning everyone,

Well now on Day 2 of the re-start program, who knew Day 1 would take me 7 days! Read my ARC, set up reminders in my work calendar to read them (on a recurring basis until Oct 31), picked my 2 diet plans: Wheat Belly and calorie counting and made another Advantage card that is tucked under my computer keyboard for easy access.

Weighed, still the same, guess that Chinese food is going to take a couple of days to disappear. Exercise last night was trying to keep the dog entertained enough to stop barking at everything and finishing the painting of the wood for the bench. Tonight I hope to power wash the wrought iron sections before I start to repaint them.

Have a good day everyone.

08-08-2012, 02:00 PM

The desire to declutter my home and move ahead with the moving boxes and whatever lurks within them has, unexpectedly, returned. *credit* to unseen forces. I am about to see if the vanity that is covered in boxes and surrounded by boxes and clutter will fit into the bedroom closet if I clean out the closet.

You can see all the steps involved here I am sure.

I don't know *why* this seems do-able today and not other days. I suspect it has something to do with seeing a 250.0lbs on the wii fit scale this morning (*credit for weighing in). I am now just 0.1lbs away from being UNDER 250, which is my next goal. Success, success, success. NOTHING motivates me more than being successful...or even thisclosetobeingsuccessful.


My food is not being tracked closely this week. But I am eating what DH eats, and sticking to my own guidelines very closely, and this just shows me that his diabetic food choices are sound.

Yay DH. :carrot:

DH sees the family Dr. tonight who he hopes to shock with his detailed charts of blood sugar readings, dates, and times, all in a neat easy to read chart. DH is a natural statistician and in these circumstances it serves him well.

Anyway, off to tackle the closet.
Back later.

UPDATE: cleared out the closet and the vanity fit into it. I need to shove the vanity mirror in there on another day as well. Made a real mess moving the stuff that surrounded the vanity. DH has agreed to make a better organized pile of boxes than what I started to do. I don't d that kind of stuff very well. We left it undone as we were off to see the family Dr for Dh who commended him on his effrts so far adn was very very impressed with his efforts as he should be. On DH's side, the Dr.also passed the intelligence tests he set up for the Dr. to pass. All in all, a good day. *CREDIT*

08-08-2012, 04:14 PM
Hi Coaches,

Quick check in as I am off to work in a few minutes.
Today has been OP, and I think it will remain that way as I have a packed dinner and snacks and have included those in my plan. I am planning to start reading through my beck pink book again as so many others are doing. Thanks for talking about it.
I saw a woman I haven't seen at work yesterday and she has lost so much weight when I asked her how she did it, she said diabetes happened to me and I had to change how I eat. She looks amazing. She mentioned she didn't really care about her weight until there was a health issue attached to it.
Onebyone awesome seeing 250 on the WiiFit and for the passion to de-clutter today.

Hello to everyone, I will try to post personals after work tonight, if i have time.

Have a great afternoon.

08-08-2012, 05:59 PM
Hi folks... Yesterday was a healthy day... I am so grateful. I did complete many of my goals: planned/measured/logged food, always left a bite on the plate, wrote in my journal, did a meditation, watched my salt intake, said 'no choice' when I wanted to eat extra unplanned food (one time), and did some gentle stretches & strengthening exercises. Grateful for the willingness.

Wednesday is my 'official' write down my weight day. I am down 2 pounds from last Wednesday. I am particularly grateful for that number as I was out of town over the weekend. The past week I have made myself 'green' smoothies. One at breakfast and one as an afternoon snack. I am getting in lots of veggies and fruits - I especially can get 'lazy' about eating enough vegetables.

I am 'resting' my sore ankle for the next few days. Sometimes a person just has to be still.

gardenjoy - YES, progress is good, indeed.

billbe - Another chapter of Adventures of a Lost Wallet continues. So nice to get those fresh tomatoes. We've had some sweet banana peppers from ours.. no 'maters yet. Credit for another on plan day.

lexxiss - hop right back on your plan - you'll be fine. All your planning will help. Safe travel.

marycontray - phooey on car problems. Many credits, indeed. Hooray for rainbows.

spanky - I am laughing at your running around telling folks about your tasty snack and forgetting to sit down. It all comes together in time. Many credits. Carry on.

soonfit - major credit for avoiding those cheese fries.

naturegirl - happy dance for your weight loss! Credit for your bike ride and taking time for your Beckisms and planning.

newlifestyle - credit for packing your meals! It's certainly true... that some folks don't address their weight unless there's some kind of health emergency.

maryann - good luck with your new position. Fourteen days OP deserves a happy dance for sure... well done and carry on.

tazzy - I laughed when you said your first day back on Beck took seven days... I can relate. It takes what it takes.

onebyone - hooray for getting under 250! It's great that DH's diabetic food plan meshes with yours.

I hope everyone has a great day.

Nature Girl
08-08-2012, 07:25 PM
Today is just basic, not as fun as yesterday, so far. Getting a lot of tedious tasks out of the way, including 5 more job applications--I should start to get results really quick now because we're just weeks out before the kids are there.
OP dinner, pleasantly full so didn't have an evening snack. Same with breakfast/lunch; too busy sitting at computer to grab am snack. Ready for afternoon snack now.
Bike ride/hike is postponed until evening because although the temp is much better today (80s not 101), wind is high and I was busy with housecleaning work out this morning: all my daughters will be home this weekend so had to get the upstairs ready. I'm SO excited! Haven't had the three of them in the same room since the middle one got married last summer. SO excited! (Did I mention how exciting this is?!)

08-08-2012, 09:51 PM

The first time I listened to Beck's Solution, I thought for certain I was on the wagon for good. But years later, I'm a yo-yo dieting hot mess.

I've made attempts to revisit Beck, one of them here. But I just haven't been able to make it stick.

Any recommendations?

08-09-2012, 06:08 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Three times I walked (CREDIT moi) to attempt to return the wallet, and failed. I'm so happy. I don't have to get a life; This is my new thing. One attempt was a minor reroute of a planned trip to the library, so doesn't get a full credit. I saw a Northern Flicker along the way - a colorful woodpecker to make my day. Did gym, CREDIT moi, with bodies of London Olympians dancing in my head as if I'm headed to that kind of six-pack.

Lunch was one luscious 'mater sammish with real mayonnaise on a whole wheat sandwich thin and fresh Basil from the garden - on plan, CREDIT moi. Dinner included tomato salad and cucumber salad. Garden of Eden time.

onebyone – Holding my breath as you stand on that 250 boundary. Glad that your family doctor passed his intelligence test.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Yay for "for trying something new on a Tuesday."

Nature Girl – Kudos for raising three daughters who want to get together in the same room as adults. It's one of the great joys of my life that my two adult children like each other. It doesn't happen in all families.

Beverlyjoy – Kudos for that "'no choice' when I wanted to eat extra unplanned food."

maryann - Yep, Kudos for 14 days On Plan. Acknowledging the bittersweet of your first year out of the classroom.

Tazzy - LOL at the thought of entertaining Dexter while painting - lots of opportunities for I-Love-Lucy disaster there. Congrats for completing Day 1 of the Beck plan.

Ann (Newlifestyle) - Kudos for "packed dinner and snacks and have included those in my plan" - easier to be on plan when it's in the bag. Great to have a friend who's been successful at losing her weight.

Nelia – It's so easy to feel like we've reached a plateau on which to sit and then find out that it's not level. Kudos for coming back here to find the way back to your path. My recommendation is to start again with Day 1 as if you were new with new Advantages Response Card and everything - presumably life has changed and so will your ARC. Three current posters are starting the Pink Book right now so you'll have good company.

Does your life still include crazy busy and flying back and forth?

Readers - chapter 7 Stage 4 The Think Thin Lifetime Eating Plan

Experiments to Vary the Think Thin Eating Plan

Discover How Marketers Try to Get You to Buy

The Food industry spends $36 Billion annually in an effort to get you to buy specific products. Packaging frequently contains misleading phrases that many consumer advocates call "nutri-washing." These nutri-washing phrases make many relatively unhealthful foods seem healthful. These phrases include:

o "Made with whole grain." If the majority of the ingredients listed on the label are sugar, corn oil, cornstarch, corn syrup, dextrose, dyes, and artificial colors and flavors, then the few whole grains contained in the product can do little to make this product a healthful choice.

. . .

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 171.

08-09-2012, 11:28 AM

*credit* I weighed in this morning and saw a :goodscale 248.5 on the scale!!!

Oh Happy Day. finally.

In thinking about weight goals the loosest markers I have are 150-200-250-300. I was a few pounds away from 300 last year, and a few times at that as well. I never touched it that I know.
250, well I've been fighting and staying in the 250-260 since April. Finally I am officially below that marker. On to 200.
Haven't been there in 9 years. And when I did get there and below it, I held that mark for a few months as I whizzed back up to 240-250.
150 and less, well I can hold up 2 fingers and tell you I have been under that number twice in my adult life that I recall. Actually, once in my adult life, once as a teen. I soooooooooooo look forward to saying when I am old and grey-er "And I spent the last half of my life in the best shape I have ever been in. It's never too late-look at me." To turn a life around 180degrees. I am looking forward to that. A step at a time. A challenge at a time. Now that everyone knows my secret heart's desire, I'll just take credit where credit is due for today/yesterday.
*credit* weighing in: 248.5 (-1.5)
*credit* checking in with coaches
*credit* 30min brisk*competitive* happy*walk with DH at 10:30 pm last night when I am usually in bed. I wondered if "shocking" my body would get me below 250 for weigh-in today. Looks like the strategy was on the money.*credit* for listening to my intuition on this.
*credit* for moving the vanity into the closet in the bedroom and beginning the process of creating a "winter bedroom oasis" - my goal for that room. It will require a total makeover. I will thrill DH with it as well as he will have the blackout curtains he longs for.
*credit* planning meals and cooking from scratch
*credit* just plain eating less
*credit* being 100% on board and supporting DH even if it means a shift in my own plans. I am willing to give up total control sometimes and this is a good thing.

Ok, off to plan my day. I have ignored some stuff to do other stuff this week. Now to prioritize what I really have to get done and to get doing it.

Thanks for all the daily support. Every one of you is a big help. Thanks.

Bye for now.

PS. DH had his first "normal" blood sugar reading last night after the walk: a much coveted 5.0 appeared on his glucometer. It is a HUGE success and accomplished in exactly one week. :carrot:

08-09-2012, 12:10 PM
I had another sloppy day. One benefit from posting here daily: I get sick of myself after about three days of reports that I'm not doing well. So, I'm highly motivated not to make it a fourth. I have a good, doable plan today. I am determined to execute it well -- and stick the landing!

Yesterday's challenge was getting DH to a primary care physician for the first time in over a decade. It went well but he was grumpy and anxious about the whole thing. His blood pressure was mildly elevated, but we knew that -- it's why he finally went. The doctor approved of his lifestyle changes and was willing to wait a couple of months to see if they work before discussing medical interventions. Now, we wait a bit anxiously today in hope that the blood test results show normal cholesterol and sugar numbers.

This helped this morning from the prologue of The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg, a dialog with a doctor describing a brain scan to a former overeater:

"When you see food, these areas" -- he pointed to a place near the center of her brain -- "which are associated with craving and hunger, are still active. Your brain still produces the urges that made you overeat.

"However, there's new activity in this area" -- he pointed to the region closest to her forehead -- "where we believe behavioral inhibition and self-discipline starts. That activity has become more pronounced each time you've come in."

I demonstrated in the last three days that my overeating brain pathways still exist, but I know that I also have behavioral inhibition pathways in place -- I intend to light those up today!

WI: NC in kgs, Exercise: +20 335/1400 minutes for August, Food: 70% op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Woohoo, onebyone! Terrific to see that number!

Hi, Nelia! Great to see you back here. Posting daily and constant experimentation work for me. I'm still holding out some hope, but I'm becoming convinced that I will never be on the wagon for good. It's going to require continued vigilance for the rest of my life. Fortunately, the vigilance has its own rewards (new recipes to try and vegetables to grow and farmers markets to visit and exercise formats to explore) and is also providing the basis for other goals in my life to come to fruition (writing every day has some similarities to following a food plan every day).

08-09-2012, 06:03 PM
Yikes. This is weird. Yesterday, after a stroke-like event [still undiagnosed] I had an emergency MRI and was sent home on some meds. I found myself sitting on the couch in the middle of the night [where I had not gone to sleep] with corn chips filling my mouth, and all over me and the couch and the floor, practically choking on them.

Turns out I was on a combo of benzodiazepines and a hypnotic. The doctor said, "Yeah, you see some weird behavior on that mix--one lady actually fried up some lettuce".

My head is clear today [no more meds] but I feel like a crazy person with the lame excuse that I was apparently eating in my sleep. I was afraid to weigh in, but I'll do it in the morning. Kind of panicky and feeling the urge to throw the whole day away and eat a bunch of forbidden stuff. I managed to skip ahead to chapter 20 and read about the damage done by continuing on a "Cheating Streak" and was able to calm down.

Eating OP all day and in my regular routine. Still OK'd to exercise and just did 30 min on the bike. Another MRI next week.

There goes the "perfect" Atkins Induction.

Whiskey. Tango. Foxtrot.


08-09-2012, 06:42 PM
Hi..yesterday was a healthy day. I stayed within the plan I had in my mind. However, the evening was 'sloppy'. I did log what I ate during the day. I still had calories I was entitled to eat. So I picked out a couple of things to fill in. However, I wasn't really hungry. I should really plan better. This food craziness we all deal with... it's mind boggling sometimes.

I do so much better when I write down a plan for the day.(usually do) Then those food thoughts don't have to 'spin around in my mind' all day. It's decided. I will do the planning for tomorrow.. . . like a diligent Beck person should do. LOL

I hope you're all having a good day

08-10-2012, 12:41 AM
Hello Coaches, do I ever need you all today.
I had one of those sliding down the slippery slope kind of day. Even though I ate within my calorie limit, it was uncontrolled eating. I did not eat healthy. It was all junk. I am not sure if I was just tired or what the cause of it was. I am off to bed. Tomorrow has to be a better day. Did I mention I am sleeping with my beck book to help me feel better. I still have that all or nothing mentality....I need help here coaches.
Thanks for being here.
Congratulations to all success you are having.

Nature Girl
08-10-2012, 02:34 AM
Started the morning with an hour bike ride; starts the day right!
Stayed on plan although dinner was a stretch. We were planning breakfast for dinner and that can lead to lots of sweet calories; I took some of DH's gluten free pancake mix & added wheat germ and oatmeal to my portion--instead of syrup had yogurt and strawberries. Barely touched the bacon, and saved some of the pancakes for tomorrow am.
Headed to Seattle to pick up 2 DDs tomorrow - will do my favorite walk in the city before I meet them. DD1 has also been working hard at healthier eating and exercise so we've agreed I won't cook ALL of their favorites this weekend- a successful and fun visit does not depend on non-stop eating. Now that is a total re-organization of my mindset!!!
I've been working on a food plan for how to get out of town and negotiate the big city without going way overboard tomorrow. Our fav pizza joint for din so that doesn't leave a lot of leeway for the rest of the day.
Onebyone: woohoo! You have been working toward that # and you made it! Great job. Onward and downward!
Gardenerjoy: how did you decide on your monthly exercise minute goal? I'm trying to figure out how to set a measurable goal; more specific than "Move - just do it!" "Rack up the minutes and miles" and "Push yourself every time."
Fingers crossed on DH's lab results
Spanky: Wow crazy scary but glad the weird stuff is over. IMHO, you can't
let a serious drug reaction "count" against your success so far; this is an anomaly and you can get back on track. Thinking good thoughts for your next tests.
Newlifestyle: Do you keep your Beck book right under your head when you sleep so the wisdom goes straight into your brain? Probably easier than slogging through each page while awake LOL

08-10-2012, 03:13 AM
Hi Everyone,
I'm new around here, I bought the pink Beck book a week ago and have been reading thru it and am just starting chapter 3. I am an emotional eater so the Beck Diet Solution is a logical choice for me plus my therapist recommended it. After losing ten pounds and holding steady for a week I have found that I have gained roughly 14 pounds :( I am mainly counting calories but am looking for another option as well, anyone have any suggestions?
Anyways I look forward to getting to know everyone

08-10-2012, 06:28 AM
:welcome: Jaye (Jaye68) :welcome:

And, on the occasion of your first month here, :wel3fc:

Neat that you had a professional referral to Dr. Beck's books.

How did you find this Beck forum on 3 Fat Chicks?

08-10-2012, 06:38 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Conclusion: On the third walk of the day (CREDIT moi) attempting to return the wallet found in the yard sale back pack, I went after dark. Lights were visible in the second floor apartment, but still no one answered the buzzer. Oddly, the front door was unlocked. I went in, turned on the stair lights, called "Hellooooooo" loudlly three times, waited, boldly walked up the stairs, and knocked. Voila! They came to the door. I wasn't shot. The police weren't called. Obsequious gratitude. The wallet is returned; life may resume.

Eating to plan was good enough, CREDIT moi. Two servings of fruit for evening snack is still one too many. I've got to work on that. Lunch was another 'mater sammish with garden fresh basil. Dinner included one salad of diced tomatoes and one salad with diced cukes. Life doesn't get better.

onebyone – "YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA" indeed - Congrats for that hard fought sub-250 pounds on the scale. Kudos for shocking your body with that night walk with your DH. And Congrats to him for that fast work on his blood sugar.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Thanks for the quote about the brain scan showing the exact location of Dr. Beck's Resistance Muscle. I'll take that to encourage my resistance since I can envision the reality of neuron growth.

Nature Girl – Have a nice trip to Seattle. Interesting that you have to avoid being the food pusher with a mother's urge to feed the kids all their favorite comfort foods. What an outrageous thought, "a successful and fun visit does not depend on non-stop eating."

Beverlyjoy – Love the reminder, "Then those food thoughts don't have to 'spin around in my mind' all day."

Ann (Newlifestyle) - Kudos for seeing that it's "uncontrolled eating" even when within calorie limits. If you're not doing a written food plan, you might try that - Beverlyjoy's quote reminds me of its value. Sleeping with your Beck book is a neat idea.

spanky - Good grief, that's a frightening story. Glad you're done with that crazy-making medicine. Kudos for moving on with bike exercise instead of hiding under a toad stool. WTF indeed.

Jaye (Jaye68) - Good start to see yourself as an "emotional eater" - I think most of us here identify with that. Ouch for the bounce back after an initial loss; that's a familiar theme as well. For me, the strategies seem to work against that when followed (instead of just being thought about).

I don't have a suggestion for your backup Diet Plan. My own plan is a portion control since my DW designs my daily evening meal. You might peek into the different groups here on 3FC and find one that you'd feel comfortable being part of. Glad you've joined us.

Readers - chapter 7 Stage 4 The Think Thin Lifetime Eating Plan

Experiments to Vary the Think Thin Eating Plan

Discover How Marketers Try to Get You to Buy

These nutri-washing phrases make many relatively unhealthful foods seem healthful. These phrases include:
. . .

o "All-natural." There is no government guideline for this claim, so any product can proclaim to be all natural, even if every ingredient is processed.
. . .

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 171.

08-10-2012, 09:31 AM
Good Morning, Coaches.

Welcome, Jaye. Food has been a central character in my life - a love hate relationship. When I first start dieting, I remember thinking, "Why go anywhere, why do anything, why see any friends? I can't eat while I am doing it." Food was the incentive for everything. It is different for me now. I have had to let go of food as my primary relationship. I have other senses beside taste. It has taken a couple of years to develop them but it has been worth it. I am on Dr. Furhman's Eat to Live diet. It sounds extreme, but after reading his book, understanding his logic, it makes sense and I have never been less hungry. I also have lost weight with The Zone and Weight Watchers.

As for me, Another day OP. It is amazing how little food I need to put in my body if it is the highest quality nutrition - Fruits, veggies, nuts, beans. I am not hungry. I am heading up the mountain today to write, write, write on my thesis. BBE's tomatoes sound very tempting. I wish I grew my own tomatoes. But then I know he wishes he grew my walnuts. :)

08-10-2012, 11:39 AM
That 100% OP was hard to come by -- it's amazing what determination will do. Not to mention telling all of you that I was going to do it.

I worked very hard at getting no where on my writing. Then, that effort was disrupted with equally unsatisfying errands. Oh well. It turns out that I can survive such a day without overeating. There were moments that I wanted to, of course. But I can honestly say at the end that I'm glad that I didn't. It would only have made a frustrating day more so.

Today, will be brighter, though. I schedule my writing earlier in the day to see if that helps. I can do that because our high is going to be 85 degrees. Woohoo! I can work outside in the afternoon.

DH's lab results just came in. Slightly elevated bad cholesterol and one of the liver tests. Both should be helped by lifestyle changes but he needs to go back in 3 months to get another blood test to see. He doesn't seem overly concerned and it just adds to the motivation, so all is good.

WI: +0.15kgs, Exercise: +30 365/1400 minutes for August, Food: 100% op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

That's scary, spanky! Take care of yourself at this time.

Naturegirl: I started my minutes per month goal pretty much where I was at the time. The standard advice of thirty minutes a day works out to roughly 900 minutes a month. If that sounds like too much, start lower. Thirty minutes three times a week is less than 400 minutes. Once you get going increase the goal each month by about 10%. You'll start racking up the numbers pretty quickly! I include stretching and strengthening in my minutes (because, otherwise, I wouldn't do them). At 1400 minutes, I'm likely to average over 30 minutes a day of cardio and get in a little variety as well. I've gone as high as 1800 minutes a month and that did seem to help when I was actively losing.
I keep track of my exercise at the monthly exercise challenge. Here's this month's: You're welcome to join us -- even mid-month!

Welcome, Jaye68! I prefer exchange plans. I switched plans every few months when I got bored. I tried variations of the USDA's Food Pyramid (now My Plate), the DASH diet, the diet in the Complete Beck Diet for Life (the green book), and Richard Simmon's Food Mover. My current plan is a mix-and-match meal plan that takes what I learned from all of those. My back up plan has always been Weight Watchers. And that's worked remarkably well for me -- I really don't want to do Weight Watchers but would if nothing else worked, so I'll make a good effort on anything else in order to avoid that fate.

BillBlueEyes: congrats on a successful resolution to The Wallet Caper.

08-10-2012, 11:48 AM
Happy Friday!

Just read through the personals, but I don't have time to respond to everyone today.
Big Congrats to OnebyOne!!!!
Spanky: That is a crazy story-- IMHO also I don't think that "episode" counts. Just a thought, but could ketosis be somehow involved in your health/stroke problems. I love the Atkins plan, but ketosis makes me crazy anxious, with headaches and brain fog.
BBE: Wow- Success at last! I am sure the owner is very happy and grateful!

*weighing in on wed and have been maintaining
*realizing I eat out of boredom, so have been trying to fix that
*playing in my tennis match- Win some, lose some
*staying op for most of the day

Have a great day!

08-10-2012, 06:19 PM
Finally Friday!

Today I'm clearheaded and eating OP. I did weigh in 1.5 pounds higher this morning and wonder if it could be the salt from the "Midnight Chip Bolus Dose"--or just my system being screwed up going from low carbs to the chip thing. I'm just recording it and moving on as planned. Kudo!

Wore my Vintage Woodstock Tshirt today--it was my reward for the first week on Atkins and helps me keep my chin up despite the gain so far this week. Point!

I have to give a talk to a group this Sunday--I've been researching my topic for a month and then practicing in front of Finn [always my best audience!] the past two days and am close to feeling ready. Trying it out on DH tonight to get some more critical input (!)

Lately, DH has been saying "Thank you for exercising" when he sees me emerge from the exercise room. Encouraging but not demanding and much appreciated support. Yess!

So. Here's wishing everyone an enjoyable Friday night!


08-10-2012, 07:34 PM
WELCOME, JAYE!! So glad you posted. Folks here are helpful, supportive and have wisdom to share.

Hi - yesterday was healthy until... DH put a piece of chocolate in my face and asked if I wanted some. I knew that candy was in his drawer all week. I said no choice to myself many times during the week. Something about it in front of me... I gave in to it. I did not have the willingness to use my resistance techniques. After that it was a bit or this and that. Then I certainly strengthened my 'give in' muscle. Sigh. Today has been sloppy too.

I keep thinking that next week I"ll be out of town for storytelling at my GS school and then off to Cape Cod. I need to get with doing what I know works. I give myself Credit for coming here and talking about it. I like to run away and not talk about it.

I just had a conversation with a friend who spoke to her neurologist. He told her she has had a stroke sometime in her life and it was never treated. She was close to 375 pounds and is now down to 253. Her doctor said that if she doesn't get the weight off, her blood pressure down, lab numbers in order, etc... she will not live a very long life or a life that is good as it should/could be. It made me think too. Some times I/we get so tired of dealing with all this food stuff. But, the alternative can be bleak. I am 60 years old this year. Sometimes I think it's too late for me... other times I think it's never too late. I jump back and forth. So another day moves forward. I go for labwork a week after vacation. It will be what it is.

It seems I need to read my cards and reread the books. Dr. Beck gives us a way to help us through it. I need the willingness to keep trying.

Thanks for listening.

Credits for yesterday (until the chocolate incident)
planned/measured/logged food
always left a bite
no seconds
planned for low sodium
did my exericises, stretches
lots of waters
said no choice several times
checked in

08-10-2012, 08:09 PM

Today is a day of meeting wth folks and getting ready for the farmers' market tomorrow. I have to wear my social hat on Fridays and Saturdays. I can lay low every other day whch seems to suit me just fine these days.

Food was OP yesterday but I am not tracking closely still. I dropped that for the first week of DH's diabetes testng as there is nothing in that house that is not OP *amazing credit for that* and I was so hyper aware of food, eating, obesty, and health all mixed together into one thought at all times, that I simpy had no desire to overeat. The scale reflected this mindset/effort but I have a :devil: sabotaging thought that "the 248 is not real".

Don't you want to just kick all these sabotaging naysayers :kickbutt: in the derriere?

So, today I am going to start tracking my points again. I need to recalculate to see how many I get per day and then I need to track. 'm not on the online WW or at the meetings due to $ reasons and will get back there on the week of the 15th. I have proven to msyelf that I can do fine without it, but why do that to msyelf f I don't have to? I am isolated enough and coaches of ANY kind are welcome...though YOU GUYS canl never be replaced.:val3:

:welcome3: Jaye68 The Beck books work. They really get under your skin even if the exercises elicit a "so what" kind of response when you read them. They did to me, until I did them. the *brilliant* thing about Beck is you don't have to be on any foodplan to start. In fact, she doesn't even want you to be dieting for the first two weeks of Beck. There are more important things to do in order to make this the last time you lose/regain/lose/regain --you know the drill as do I! There are several people in the group starting again at day 1. You are in GREAT company. I had to just trust that what she said would work. So many other things didn't-ever-work. I was *tired* of tryng, and failing and that kind of mindset was part of the problem.... Here we do not "fail" - we "find our way" instead. So glad you joined us.

spanky OMG how awful to have a stroke-like event and then the drug combo glitch. SO GLAD you have come through both! The cornchips episode was some kind of instinctual thing--probably the body seekng carbs is my completely uneducated guess. IT DOES NOT MATTER and in fact deserves a Beckian "O Well". *Mucho credit* for doing the bike exercise. That's a very positive health-supportng behaviour if there ever was one.:hug:

newlifestyle Sorry you had a less-than-great day yesterday. How's it going today?? The last time I did WW I spent all my points on crappy food all the time. Technically I was OP, but in my heart I knew wasn't livng up to what I wanted for myself. I also, btw, blamed WW for "allowing me" to do that. I am happy to see you have none of that in your post! I think it's fantastc you have decided to literally, sleep on it, nstead of act out via even more questionable food. KUDOS. Just keep trying and accept a less-than perfect day every now and again. Oh Well. It's what we all have to do.:hug:

Must go. Getting ready for the market again...geez these weeks fly.

08-10-2012, 10:55 PM
I found 3chicks via Google, I was looking for an online forum for the Beck diet solution and when I looked around 3chicks I saw the variety and also this particular section and decided to join.

Thanks for the welcome, I think I need to go back and reread the first 2 chapters of the workbook because obviously I missed the fact that she doesn't want you to be on any plan for the first 2 weeks :dizzy: even though my therapist also told me this.
I reweighed myself this morning and the bounce was actually 8 pounds rather then the initial 14 I thought and I know the scale is accurate because I weighed both of my 5 pound dumbbells on it.

I am buying a new bike (well new to me) this evening provided the guy calls me back, the weather is still nice enough up here that I can actually get out and bike.

I have taken the stairs going down once today and have done some walking, yesterday was a better day as far as the exercise goes.

What is the best time to weigh yourself?

08-11-2012, 12:19 AM
Hello coaches
Thanks for all your thoughts and advice. I do need to plan ahead, I think I need help with this. Does anyone have a site that they can do a food plan with?
Today was a much better day as I got up and exercised first thing in the morning and I think that kept me eating better.
I am off to bed right now. Thanks again for the kindness you show coaches.
Oh yes and thanks for helping me understand it is okay to be human...
Have a great evening.

08-11-2012, 07:48 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Eating slipped at two of my snacks - Ouch. I got my hand into DW's trail mix in the afternoon and I had two servings of fresh cherries in the evening. Food doesn't cure tension. Food doesn't cure tension even when I really, really want it to. Food doesn't cure tension even if I tell myself that I don't care.

Did gym, CREDIT moi. When I walked (CREDIT moi) in the rain, I carried my new golf umbrella. A HUGE umbrella is a mixed bag; it certainly keeps me dry, but it's just ... well ... HUGE. Watched some heavy rain in the late afternoon - so heavy that DW, who was on the road, and pulled off to wait it out. The fastest speed of the windshield wipers couldn't keep up and she was afraid of hydro-planing away. Today is the day I tick my monthly counters; CREDIT moi for the passage of time.

onebyone – Seems like a nice mix for an artist to bunch up the social stuff on the weekends so that some creating can get done during the week.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – I'm impressed that a gardener gets any writing done during the season.

Beverlyjoy – Yep, I also believe the continuing stream of studies that suggest "it's never too late." Have a good vacation on Cape Cod - be a bit careful in the water as we're hosting some sharks recently.

maryann - Good luck on your writing day. What's Eating Gilbert Grape.]

Ann (Newlifestyle) - Kudos for understanding "it is okay to be human" - I can't figure out why that notion escapes me so often.

soonfit - Kudos for "realizing I eat out of boredom, so have been trying to fix that" - it's odd that boredom can creep up in the little spaces even when we're busy.

spanky - LOL at "Midnight Chip Bolus Dose" - glad you're recovering from a startling event. Yay for Finn's patient listening.

Jaye (Jaye68) - Hope that bike works out. Kudos for taking stairs - one of my favorite lifestyle changes. My thought is that the best time to weigh is whenever you'll do it consistently every day. I like first thing in the morning before dressing because it eliminates every attempt to justify the number due to something other than my body.

Readers - chapter 7 Stage 4 The Think Thin Lifetime Eating Plan

Experiments to Vary the Think Thin Eating Plan

Discover How Marketers Try to Get You to Buy
These nutri-washing phrases make many relatively unhealthful foods seem healthful. These phrases include:

. . .
o "Trans fat-free." Products with this claim are allowed by law to contain small amount of this unhealthy fat - but many health experts believe that any amount of trans fat above zero is too much. Always check the list of ingredients for the word hydrogenated. If you see that word, the product contains trans fat, despite product advertising.
. . .

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 171.

08-11-2012, 08:26 AM
Hi.. I am popping in to post my food plan for today:

Breakfast: Green smoothie
Snack - carrots
Lunch - eggs and sprout bread, beets with greek yogurt
snack - green smoothie
dinner - steak, corn, big salad, evoo, vinegar
snack - rice cake with pnb and honey

No sugar is my goal.

I'll be back later.

08-11-2012, 08:45 AM
Hi Coaches!

We made it home last evening and I'm so glad to be back in my comfort zone. Meals have been OP *credit* but off plan snacks have quickly become unacceptable *ouch*. I have the tools to change this scenario around today. I have one more food event to negotiate before my sister leaves; a brunch tomorrow at a French restaurant. I will peruse the website this morning. DONE Not much for an aspiring Vegan but I can have potatoes, fruit and salad.

BBE, congrats for yet another month of ticking your counters. Thanks for the reminder that food doesn't cure the tension even when I don't care.

Jaye, :welcome2: Kudos for going back and rereading when you found you may have missed something essential. I weigh every morning for the same reason BillBlueEyes mentioned. I follow South Beach Diet, with calorie counting as a back up. I want to lose weight eating healthy foods and enjoy the incredible energy I have when eating OP.

onebyone, congrats for weighing under 250. It's neat that the combination of current events are not facilitating the urge to overeat.

gardenerjoy, yay for your OP day which is very inspiring to me right now.

Beverlyjoy, kudos for getting going with what you know works before your vacation to Cape Cod. Have a great time!

maryann, its so great to read your progress with your new food plan. It is true that with high quality nutrition we can really live with less food.

Ann(Newlifestyle), I use Livestrong when I'm calorie counting (my secondary plan) because it really works for my type of meal planning. I like, too, that if I've been away awhile my data is already there when I return.

soonfit, kudos for posting great credits!

spanky, kudos for a great bounceback after a very scary event. Yay for just recording it and moving on.

08-11-2012, 12:32 PM
100% OP two days in a row. Let's see if I can make it three!

WI: +0.15kgs, Exercise: +60 425/1400 minutes for August, Food: 100% op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Newlifestyle: I used SparkPeople ( for a while. And I've tried CalorieKing ( and FitDay ( All had an annoyance factor, for me, that my recipes are complicated to enter (and it would be so much easier if I were eating, say, a Lean Cuisine frozen meal). Although if you stick with it, repeated meals are as easy to enter as that Lean Cuisine. In the end, though, I keep coming back to pencil and paper (which is weird because I love computers). Computerized food planning and analysis puts me on a perfectionist path which isn't useful for me. There's a sweet spot for me between perfectionism and sloppiness and the computer programs are too much on the perfectionist side.

Jaye68: I weigh first thing in the morning.

08-11-2012, 04:33 PM
Hi Coaches, buddies, friends - yesterday was a wash. But, I got up determined to utilize what I know is helpful via Dr. Beck. I made a plan and wrote in down in my journal and posted it here. Maybe accountability will be helpful to me.

I am starting to get a 'game plan' in place for all the traveling I will be doing in the next couple of weeks. I am thinking I will stay with the higher end of my amount of exchanges. I will get a little note pad to keep in my purse to keep track. I must be careful of eating things that can trigger bingeing and not caring. I made it through an out of town visit recently & did well. I want to enjoy my vacation. I am so torn between food being part of the fun and not wanting to go crazy and eat anything I want. I am a 'one or the other' type if person. It's something I've worked on all my life. I hope I can find a happy, doable place in between. Your thoughts are welcome.

Time to catch up on some personals.

gardenerjoy - CREDIT for those two OP days. Carry on! I identify with you and the online places to keep track of my food. I've used Sparkpeople, too. It just made me obsess about it. I like pencil and paper too.

lexxiss/debbie - yes... always feels good to be back in your food comfort zone. I totally agree with your terms ' food event to negotiate' I think it's a great way to say it. BTW - what kind of a blender do you use for your green smoothies. I have an Oster blender. The more I read about smoothies, it seems folks recommend Blendtec or Vitamix. Yikes.. $400 for a blender. I know the point is to 'obliterate the cells of the food for optimal nutrition'. I like the sound of optimal nutrition but, choke at the thought of such an expensive blender to get the benefits.

billbe - glad you got to return the wallet, finally. Quite an 'adventure.' Oops on the extra and changes during your day yesterday. I think we need to have the phrase 'food doesn't cure stress' tatooed to our brains.

newlifestyle - I have used Sparkpeople in the past for keeping track of my food. I still like paper and pencil best. My DIL used something on her smart phone that would scan the product and it would give her the nutrition info and keep track. I'll have to ask her about it.

jaye - I think everytime we read or reread one of Dr. Becks books we find new info or something we have forgotten or something that we really need a the moment. I weigh daily in the morning almost every day. I am using exchanges as my first food plan with calorie counting as my backup.

onebyone - YES that 248 is true. YAY. It's helpful to have the hard to stay out of foods not around. The reason, however, not so good.

spanky - yes. the gain was probably salt. I always say.. hop right back on your plan and you will be OK. I often rehearse in front of my cat.

maryann - you said: When I first start dieting, I remember thinking, "Why go anywhere, why do anything, why see any friends? I can't eat while I am doing it." Food was the incentive for everything. It is different for me now. I have had to let go of food as my primary relationship. I have other senses beside taste. It has taken a couple of years to develop them but it has been worth it. Wow... that really is something I've been thinking about too. You said it so well. Thanks for this reminder.

naturegirl - I hope your trip is going well. Credit for that great bike ride.

nelia - I think when I/we are so totally far away from doing Beck. It's time to read the book and start over. It has been helpful to me in the past. Make new cards and all. Glad you posted!

Hope you are having a GREAT weekend.

08-11-2012, 06:40 PM
Yesterday was a definite scrap but today has been good so far. Unfortunately the bike is too small for me, however I do still have my other one that is still useable just rusty so I can still get out and bike. Coaches any suggestions on dealing with cravings for soda in particular? I am working on drinking more water which is a plus. Thanks for the tips on the weighing, I had not thought about doing it every day.
Yes rereading the first two chapters of the workbook are going to be important for me and I am also planning on picking up her other book. My brain is fuzzy at the moment so I will save the personals for later.

08-11-2012, 08:30 PM
Coaches, good evening.

I skipped out on weighng myself this morning. That's two days in a row. The reason? I don't want to see a scale number over 250 now.:devil: has me in its grasp:mad:

I haven't tracked my points either and I had another, new, :devil: thought while at the market today:"YOU don't have diabetes so YOU can go ahead and have the ______( insert all mnner of over-the-top-farmers-market-sweet thing here).
Wow. My brain has processed DH's diabetes into a "phew, you sure dodged that bullet--go celebrate" or "phew you sure dodged that bullet. Thank god that shoe has dropped. Now go eat whatever you want. You deserve it. You're doing so well."

Man. What a devious inner sabotager I have. Its VERY well practiced.

I had what I planned to have while at the market. *credit* but had too much after I got home from the market, a fiull meal, my first of the day, and then later snacks found foraging through the cupboard (some addictive groundnuts).

In reality, which is why it's so good to write this food stuff down cause I will mis-remember it every time, I have stuck to my plan and not overeaten according to how my stomach feels after my meals. I have been active as well. But I need to see this objectively, not just carry this around in my head.

Obviously the DH situation is only just starting to affect me which is par for the course with me. I always get a delayed reaction to crisis. I'm good during the event and right after, it's when the crisis has truly passed that I mess up--hence my "persist in victory" slogan. I have been victorious, I don't want to wreck that with uncontrolled eating. I need to live with my victory.

Bye for now.

08-12-2012, 12:28 AM
Quick check in once again,
Thank you all for your suggestions and support. I tried the site Lexi mentioned and I think it will work for me, I also came to the conclusion from all the posts that writing it down with a pencil and paper is a great way to do it also. Now I have two options that I think will work for me. Also I realize from your posts that it may be better just to stick to the same foods each day, until I feel that I am not on that out of control wagon. I don't know if you all realize how lost I would be without you all.
Thank you for being here and all the positive suggestions you offer.
I needed your support and you were all there.
Thanks for being my coaches.
Hugs to everyone struggling and congratulations for all your successes.
I had a great day on plan, just busy, good busy though.
Take Care
Have a great night.

08-12-2012, 12:32 AM
Persisting doggedly along this path, despite the feeling that tomorrow's weekly recorded weigh-in will look like a setback compared to last week. Even on Atkins induction, I have to prepare my mind for a mere pound per week loss.

I made myself lift weights before getting lost in the day. Made a fresh blueberry pie with berries from the farmers' market. Bringing it to my meeting tomorrow figuring if my talk doesn't go so well, I can still leave a good impression!

Onward! spanky

08-12-2012, 12:35 AM
I had a great day, only strayed OP once or twice today but I didn't beat myself up for it *Credit* I drank lots of water today *Credit* I took the stairs from the first floor to the fourth floor going both up and down *Credit* and I resisted the urge to eat a peanut butter cup this evening *credit* I also chose to order something that had more veggies and was NOT fried when my neighbor and I ordered Chinese for dinner *credit* I ordered the Four Seasons and have more then HALF left *credit* I usually finish the whole thing in one setting. So all in all it was a great day for me OP.
Thanks for all of the support.

08-12-2012, 05:36 AM
Hi Coaches -- missed you during my work week Tues thru Fri, but I did get more sleep that way. Was making myself get right to bed when I get home at 2:30 a.m. I pulled another 16 hour shift on Friday, but I planned my food ahead and pretty much stayed OP except for a foray into some kettlekorn. But I had a few handfuls, and the next person that walked into my area, I gave him the paperwork he needed and made him take the kettlekorn with him (credit). He had been stuck out in the heat working and looked grateful to have something to snack on.

I'm down to 276 on the scale, so am happy about that. I have fallen down on exercise this week though after the foray into the pool. So that’s what I need to increase. There is a Challenge on 3FC called "Fall Back to Basics." It's the Biggest Loser Challenge that is held about 3 times a year on 3FC, and it is fun and motivating if any of you are interested.

Also about Beck book, and Advantages Cards – When I am doing best OP, I think it may be because I’m using the “BECK FIRST” rule – which is this: I don’t read the paper, turn on TV, Play WWF with my sister, read email, come to 3FC, nothing of that kind UNTIL I’ve read my Beck book and Advantages Cards first. THAT being done, it gives me motivation and focus for my day. I write in my Beck book, and at the top of each Day, I put the date when I read that day. I’ve fallen down on that this week so am going to get back to BECK FIRST!

BBE -- congrats on finding the home for that wallet. It would have made a good documentary!! My son and his friend returned a wallet last December and there was a problem at the house, looked like a possible home invasion, and they ended up having to back away and get a ways away and call police. You said, "Food doesn't cure tension even when I really really want it too!" So true, so true. I'm glad you wrote that -- it's now a response card in my card binder.

Mary Contrary – Welcome back….missed you and glad you are back with us. Now I have a new definition and attitude about “procrastination” -- just a tactical delay! Heh heh. You have had a lot going on. I’m like that though, an overwhelming rush of emotions at times. Hmmmmm just had a thought: “Maybe the only thing we CAN control is food.”

Newlifestyle(ann): Hi sweetie – Olive Garden was tasty. Had 1 and 1-2 bowls salds, one breadstick, and that chicken apricot with veggies thing that was only about 290 calories. That was my main meal for the day. I agree with you about packing food to work, it’s the only thing that gets me through. I look up stuff on Lifestrong quite a bit. I do use Fitday for calorie counting though. I have played around with the program for years, but since starting on Beck have used it more than all the other years combined. I can do it on my phone, laptop, or online and then sync them all, and I like that.

Tazzy – pic of Dexter is precious. You are right about keeping Beck book IN sight at all times. I used to go to WW, and had this big book holder thingee that is blue, my pink Beck book fits in there perfectly on the right side, and then on the left side fits my Advantages Card binder, pens, highlighter etc. Easy to throw in my work bag -- the prob though is to remember to take it out when I get it home.

Naturegirl – Very good that you “spent an hour in coffee shop doing Beck stuff, planning listing, reading.” That’s great, and I think essential to consistent Beck success. You mentioned a fast and good workout….can I suggest kettlebells? They have a 20 minute, and even a 10 minute workout, and because it uses the whole body, it’s a good workout to fit in to a busy life.

Nelia – Welcome back. You did the best Beck thing in the world….you got back on track. CREDIT, and good for you gal.

Soonfit – I see you’re hanging in there. I hope I haven’t lost track, but I think you have been on Beck now for 2 weeks and have started your diet?

Onebyone – Congrats on the 248.5 – oh my gosh, I haven’t seen 250 for so long, and you really encourage me by knowing you got there….try not to worry about the “bump up”….remember that the scale is only information (judy says so!)….try not to let 251, etc. scare you into sabotaging you off plan. (I’ve had that happen in the past). Also CREDIT for your major decluttering project. Sounds like you are taking care of house Clutter and BODY CLUTTER both!

Beverlyjoy – I paid attention to your remarking you have a “official weigh day”… made me realize I need that. – and credit to you for losing 2 more pounds – Judith says “celebrate each half pound loss” so that means you get to celebrate 4 times! Yay! Yay! Yay! Yay! And I’m looking at 60 also. A great motivating factor for me is that even though I’m 276 pounds and 60 is looming ahead, I can still be a better 59, and a better 60 by sticking to healthy eating and exercise. I’m glad you think so too, and you’re right – “It’s never too late.” It's never too late to lose BODY CLUTTER!

Gardnerjoy – I read your explanation of monthly exercise minutes, and I’m going to start doing that too. Think I’ll stick it in my signature or something. Thanks for the information and great idea.

Joyce68 – Welcome to BDS thread. Beck is wonderful, and the coaches on this thread are wonderful also. Beck works when we work it....there is a lot of work to be done to change bad habits and build new healthy habits. Beck teaches it day by day. I am being more successful than I have ever been before because of BDS, and every day I work with my Beck materials, the more I learn, and incorporate into my new lifestyle. Keep posting and best wishes to you as you start your BDS journey.

MaryAnn – I’m going to check out the Dr. Furhman plan. I saw him on Dr. Oz. He is very enthusiastic and very knowledgeable about nutrition. Best wishes on your thesis writing.

Lexxiss – you said, “I have one more food event to negotiate before my sister leaves…” Oh boy that hit it on the nail head, that’s what we do – we negotiate through complex food events and food choices, and BDS gives us tools to do that. By using BDS, we negotiate successfully. Before BDS, I was always losing those negotiations.

Spanky – glad you’re going to be alright, sounds like you had some scary medical event….take good care of yourself.

Dear Coaches …..(looking around)….I hope I haven’t missed anything….notice some of us are having some struggles….as we see from of the stories about the Olympians, sometimes it is our struggles that define us.

Ahhhhhhhhhhhh it’s good to be caught up on the thread!!! I missed you guys during the work week, but it’s always comforting to know you’re here….

08-12-2012, 07:08 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Eating was one snack away from on plan - Ouch and CREDIT moi. I had urges all day to go get more so I'm satisfied. Gazpacho on the patio for dinner - happiness. Discussion turned to England of the mid 1800's when Europeans first learned of the gorilla. (In their view, it was 'discovered' then.) Kinda exciting time to be in England when the ships kept returning with new species from around the world which didn't fit into existing views of creation, Garden of Eden, and Noah's Ark. Charles Dickens was releasing Bleak House in twenty installments and everybody was reading it. No wonder that Rowling knew how to release the Harry Potter series.

Exercise was a walk, CREDIT moi, past a park with multiple baseball games and a soccer game active. Good summer day.

onebyone – You have the most creative Sabotaging Thoughts, LOL. I know "addictive groundnuts" - from the same level of h*ll as addictive treenuts.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Yay for two days OP - cheering for three.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Hope you navigated the French Restaurant - it's the family event part that would be my challenge.

Beverlyjoy – I know that challenge of wishing food to be part of the fun yet avoid the slip into "not caring." Only thought I have is to religiously write it all down and plan to review it at the end of the day - using the awareness of the review process to help fight the "not caring."

Ann (Newlifestyle) - Yay for "busy, good busy" with Kudos for doing that on plan.

Elizabeth (Elizabeth779) - Gotta love it - you can have your paperwork if you take the kettlekorn, LOL. Whatever it takes. "BECK FIRST" is a super idea. [Your DS's story is scary - did it turn out to be a home invasion?]

spanky - Kudos for "Persisting doggedly" despite the negative projections about today's weigh in. Love the thought of a blueberry pie as backup to the presentation - hope it goes well for you.

Jaye (Jaye68) - Ouch for the disappointment with the too-small bike, with Kudos for resolving to continue with your older one. At times my older bike feels new again just by oiling its chain. In the olden days, an Original Coke was part of every afternoon. I thought I craved the caffeine hit, but now I think it was the sugar hit that I was hooked on. Poland Springs sparking waters worked for me for a few years until I've drifted away to plain tap water. And Kudos indeed for navigating the Chinese Restaurant.

Readers - chapter 7 Stage 4 The Think Thin Lifetime Eating Plan

Experiments to Vary the Think Thin Eating Plan

Discover How Marketers Try to Get You to Buy
These nutri-washing phrases make many relatively unhealthful foods seem healthful. These phrases include:

. . .
o "Calorie-free," "light," "reduced-calorie," or "sugar-free." Foods with these tags may still contain a considerable amount of calories. Government regulations, for example, allow "calorie-free" foods, such as packets of artificial sweeteners, to contain up to 5 calories per serving. "Low-calorie" foods may contain up to 40 calories per serving. "Reduced-calorie" and "lower-in-calorie" foods only need to have 25 percent fewer calories than their higher-calorie versions - and for "light" foods, a third of the calories as their regular counterparts. Some "sugar-free" foods are still quite caloric. Check the calorie amounts on the nutrition facts label to determine for yourself whether they fit into the calorie count for your snack or meal.
. . .

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 171.

08-12-2012, 10:07 AM
Third day in a row of 100% and the scale finally went down instead of up!

WI: -0.25kgs, Exercise: +60 485/1400 minutes for August, Food: 100% op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Jaye68: I finally weaned myself off soda in March. It took going cold turkey. I had reduced my soda intake over the years by increasing my water. But I was never able to eliminate it until I just decided it was time. I did it on vacation which is a little counterintuitive but a friend of mine had done it that way a couple of weeks earlier. Since my routine was all broken up anyway, it turned out to be easier to quit when I was away from home. I drink tea for caffeine in the morning, iced tea when we eat lunch out, and water, otherwise.
I can't say the cravings are fully gone. I was doing pretty well, but since the mold count went up a week or so ago, the cravings have returned with my allergies making mornings difficult. I'm going to try selzer with lime slices and crushed mint leaves. Maybe that will add a little sparkle to my mornings.

onebyone: I can definitely relate to being good in the crisis and then letting things fall apart in the aftermath.That seems like the kind of thing we can get better at, once we've identified the problem. Knowledge is power!

Newlifestyle: sticking to the same foods every day works great. Dr. Oz calls it automating your meals and suggests doing it for every meal and snack before supper.

08-12-2012, 10:29 AM

So, DH says to me last night, "Have some salad. It's good for you."

True enough that I was content with eating only the ribs I made in the oven. After 21 years, he knows who he's living with. And yes, I couldn't have given a fig for the salad. But then he brought it out, all made and everything, and I ate it. And it was good, but it grates my nerves to all of a sudden have a DH insisting on eating for health. He's super-annoying in that he dropped all the cola, all the sugar, and now walks every night, consistently. I feel a little less than and I guess it's exactly right when compared to him....

What I *know* about me is I am a food addict. I'm a compulsive eater. I don't ever drop anything easily or take on any new behaviour easily when it comes to food. I always thought DH was a food addict too. But like the excessive drinker, who stops drinking when the Dr. warns him off of it, or the "social smoker" (I've know two: my mother who only smoked with her teenage kids-us-and her brother, and my grandfather who gave up his pipe in his late 70's when the Dr. told him too) who gives it up and never looks back, perhaps this is DH's true state of affairs and not the messy food obsessions that I negotiate daily.

It gives me pause and reminds me not to "compare my insides to anyone's (his) outsides" as the 12 steps programs warn. Translation: how someone looks and appears is not necessaily how they are feeling and vice versa. I need to remain focused on my own stuff and keep working my own program re: food and be GRATEFUL (so very very very grateful) that DH is doing so freaking well. He is really awesome.

I'm off to the garden now. I keep seeing folks walking, jogging, riding bikes out there. I need to face the garden's weeds in the last three areas and tackle them before the rain comes back. I hope to bring home some tomatoes for tonight's salad.

*credit* for weighing in and seeing: 251.8 (+3.3):sumo:fie on you you ridiculous number.

Back later.

08-12-2012, 11:58 AM
Hi Coaches!

I'm working on getting back into a "post project" routine. I folded laundry, dressed and weighed this morning while coffee was brewing then enjoyed quiet time on the porch. It was sis texted inviting me for an early bike ride to Sbucks. I was all ready so I talked back to my saboteur who was telling me to just stay home. credit. I returned home feeling great that I could "keep up" which was my concern since bike riding has been not so regular this summer. (My sis is a triathlete) Credit moi!

onebyone, your post brought alot of emotion up in me. You are not DH did the "overnight" transformation very similar to your DH. I have continued struggles with my food addict. Gratitude gratitude gratitude! Perhaps a card....mine will read, "Despite worldly agitation (DH) I am grateful with my entire heart that we are on a parallel food plan. When I feel the agitation I will look at what I can change in myself".

Must run now….Bistro Vendome awaits us. I have a plan.

08-12-2012, 02:52 PM
Lexxiss It helps to hear I am not alone in managing the emotions around a DH who *seemingly* has just instantprestochango become a health-focused individual with no aching gnawing desires for their past way of life. Oh Well. I too am trying to focus on my daily routine vs. the Deadline/Crisis/Stressful Event timeline. Thanks for the reminder to keep going with that too.

gardenerjoy Kudos for 3 days 100% OP. It's always good to see yourself get right back on track.

BillBlueEyes I would have loved to enjoy gazpacho on your patio and discussed the era of scientific discovery and big time curio cabinet usage. Image the collections that began then--never seen as clutter or hoarding in those days--just signs of wealth, status and priviledge. Will you have a clear night sky to see some of the Perseid showers tonight? It's too cloudy here :( Congrats on your persistance with the wallet btw.

Elizabeth779 I signed on for the BLC Fall Back to Basics-- the one you mentioned in your post. I hope to get some encouragement to move more for a reason beyond myself and my health. I seem to need that sometimes. Thanks for posting about it.

Jaye68 Credit for so many credits! Great job.

spanky Just the other day I had "the feeling" that I too would be heavier than I hoped. I was doing that fortune-telling thing Beck talks about. Turned out I was wrong. It's such a great thing to be able to disconnect our feeelings as the driving force behind our food and food choices. How I feel is often irrelevant. It's a primary reason to plan the food. For me, as an emotional eater, I will make irrational choices in a snap second that I may have to live with for weeks -- like in the past when I would mindlessy eat "snacky things in family-sized bags" for instance. Kudos for getting your weights in.

Newlifestyle How was your day? Part of what I have seen here over the years I've been persisting with BDS is that every single person has had to work things out for themselves: food plans, which may change and shift over time, boundaries around their food and food behaviour, keeping in touch/reaching out/finding a level of support from outside of ourselves that is comfortable--whether regular lurkers, or posters, or private messagers, and always always always coming back and trying trying trying until we find our own authentic way to do this weight loss and then this maintenance thing. What the BDS system, to my mind, ultimately does is allow us and support us as we find our own way, cobbled together from all the vast mountain of tools and possiblities out there in the world that we may have tried or others have tried, until we find that combo that works for us--knowing we may have to change it later on BUT also knowing that we can make changes confindently and knowledgably and we do not have to lose ground as we do all that.

It's quite the toolbox even though I thought the whole Dr. Beck thing too simplistic and too much like a "OMG I know all that already" and I also thought it bor-ing. But I think now that being so basic makes it so very adaptable and just cause something is simple, doesn't make it easy. And who says I have to be "entertained" and not bored by my food choices/food plan? What does that have to do with anything except be an "in" for my :devil: sabotager... Hello?

Whoa newlifestyle, sorry for the long rambling post. I just know you are truly getting it as you struggle to find what's best FOR YOU. Kudos.

Have a great Sunday Becksters.

08-12-2012, 02:59 PM
Hello coaches.
Did I ever mention how much I appreciate you all. I think I am back on track.
I slept in and as soon as I woke up I walked on the treadmill. My food is now automatic except for dinner which I have made a plan for. I leave for work in a few minutes so my meal and snacks are planned. Thanks again for all the wonderful support that you do offer. If I say this too much I apologize. I just felt so out of control and it is such a relief for me to be back on plan.
I can't wait until I am back to posting personals to everyone else. One step at a time. Thanks for not giving up on me and showing myself I need to not give up on me. I need to make time for that relaxation tape as it helps me stay relaxed. Sometimes I take on the problems of the world even though they are not mine. It is a learning to do what I can and make a difference where I am able and to understand that I am no good to anyone else if I can't function for myself....yikes.
My DH too take a task and can just follow through with it, such as giving up coffee or walking every day. Maybe it is just how the male brain is wired. It doesn't seem fair but oh well.
I gotta go as I want to walk to work.
Have a great day, and thanks for helping me get back on track.
Take Care

Nature Girl
08-12-2012, 05:53 PM
So BBE, you mentioned that it was great my daughters get along so nicely? Well, they like each other so much that after pizza Friday night, they all took off together to the youngest's salsa dancing group, and DH & I drove home alone to an empty house :/ But everyone was back together Sat am, and we spent the day on the river in a raft and leashed inner tubes. Lots of laughter and sun.
As far as eating, pizza and beer was a blur after a very OP day in the city picking them up (and walking 3 miles in sunshine, BTW) The raft trip was good because the food we took was healthy and there weren't any 'bad' choices, except for when I "accidentally" confused a diet grapefruit soda for a Bud Light Lime, but if that only happened once (really!) and it was light beer, not too bad for 4 1/2 hours on the river, which is amazingly tiring considering you are just laying there basking in the sun and drifting along. For dinner I had on hand the ingredients for a taco salad bar that all diet types (gluten free, vegetarian, low cal, no onion, etc) could enjoy, and was similar to an old favorite from their childhood so it did that comfort food thing without involving gravy or lots of melted cheese. Today a family bike ride is planned when it gets cooler, and this morning only two indulged in Dad's famous french toast ( the two who wear sizes 4 & 6!) Dinner is an open question - I better have my Beck skills ready. By then we will have a SIL and three more dogs around. Craziness that I will miss like crazy on Weds when it gets quiet again!
DD#1 & I are committed to not undoing all of our hard work in this one weekend!a
I am attaching a picture of my three beautiful daughters last August at DD#2's wedding.

08-12-2012, 07:17 PM
Kudos to you for staying OP and dealing with the craziness and going for a 3 mile walk!

08-12-2012, 07:51 PM
Happy Sunday Afternoon!

Dh, DS and I are up in Tahoe for our anniversary. 11years. I am so grateful to have found DH. He is a terrific husband, father, man.

OP for today. Ordered salad last nite with dressing on the side and it came tossed with it. I did not send it back because the restaurant was so busy. It tasted terrific and I ate half of it. In a couple of days it will be three weeks on plan, God willing. I am two pounds under ticker. It is nice going back to work having gained no weight this summer. Last night I ordered a cupcakes in celebration, ate about a third of it and gave the rest to DS.

Who is this person eating?

Naturegirl: DS is 10. I enjoy every minute with him because I know the house will echo with his laugh when he moves out.
Elizabeth: Good for you putting "first things first."

Wave to everyone else.

08-12-2012, 09:45 PM
Hi everyone -- Happy Sunday...

BBE -- well it wasn't really "you get the paper if you take the kettlecorn" be exact I said, "you get your arrest warrant if you take the kettlecorn".....:lol3: And with my DS, I was very very concerned he had involved himself like that -- the wallet had $600 in it turned out it was an elderly lady and she was having dementia -- the front door looked like it had been kicked in, so they got back down the street and called it in. Adult protective services were called in, and she had locked herself out of her house and got someone to kick her door in for her....oh dear....she was asleep in the house even with the door standing open ... You were so diligent about returning that wallet (salute) and you had great exercise also while you were making your attempts! ::

Maryann -- Happy Anniversary! AND the new you is making all those great decisions and finding solutions when things don't go as requested or planned.

Naturegirl -- kudos for the 3 mile walk! you are our inspiration...

Newlifestyle Ann :hug: I am so glad you are doing better. And I appreciate you too, very much. I so agree with you about making time for the relaxation tapes.... and about the personals, it's really more than okay not to get those done when you don't have time....i think all the coaches would agree that our personal need for planning eating, family, nurturing ourselves, exercise, rest, reading Beck and our cards, and healing our spirits when we are down has to come before writing all the personal comments...we have to take care of our needs first....THEN we have time for writing personals.....Ann, and you're staying with the program...that is so good...I'm going to try the automatic food plan more this week when I get into my four day work week.....hang in there ann....we're here for you.

Onebyone -- YAYYY -- good for you gal on signing up for the will be fun. Also, I so agree with you about DH's being annoying....oh my gosh....:tantrum: I actually told mine he can start doing his own cooking when he criticized something I cooked today.....:lol3: I did that in front of my mother also, and I don't think he wanted to respond with both of us sitting there. Whenever he diets, he's loses weight so fast, and eats this spartan celery and carrot, and water thing....very unhealthy, but he's then so proud of himself that it's so annoying....glad your DH is changing his bad habits though so he will be healthier....and I agree with whomever said "they're wired that way!" (Our Bill is of course the exception and never annoying!)

Lexiss -- good job on the bike ride.

gardnerJOY -- so glad for you about your third day 100%.....that inspires me to want to be more 100% too.

hope everyone enjoys the closing ceremonies tonight.....I have a WWF friend who lives in London, and she says it has been so much fun to have the Olympics in her city.

Beck Team Hug :hug:

08-12-2012, 10:05 PM
Good Evening Everyone,
Today is my first post on this thread and I just want to let you know that I am glad that I stumbled across it. Last week I was looking for support and looked up 3Fat Chicks. I have been to this site before and was looking for help, I know how to diet but my head was not into it this time. I had been on a rampage for at least the last month, eating uncontrolably everyday. I just happenned to find your site and read a few posts, I went to the liberary and picked up both of the books and have been reading and trying to put into practice everything that I have read. So far so good, but the hard stuff has not started yet.
I have decided that the green book is the one that I will be using, I like the diet plan, with WW as a back up plan. I would like to know if there is anywhere that I could print the Success Skills Sheet because I still have the book from the liberary and dont want to hand write all of this out. My book will be here in a few days but I do not want to mark in it either.
I am sure that I will have several more questions as the days and weeks go on and want to thank you in advance for all the help, ( I have already read the last 2 months threads and have found them very helpful)If anyone can think of something that I need to know please chime in I know that I will need all the help I can get.

08-12-2012, 10:16 PM
@ BillBlueEyes, Beverlyjoy and @ Elizebeth779: Thanks for the warm (return) welcome. And I've taken your advice. I restarted Beck from Scratch this morning!

And, to answer your question, @ BillBlueEyes, while I still spend most of my time Khmerside, a good chunk is dedicated to travel. I leave for Israel in just a few short weeks! Very excited!

@ gardenerjoy : As for that continued vigilance, I share that same need. Although, I remain hopeful that someday I can be "cured" of my destructive thought patterns.

08-13-2012, 12:43 AM
First day going without any soda! Hoping to make it two days in a row, figure start small dream big :) today was a day of staying OP I did 2 loads of laundry and have drank 4 bottles of water so far, I am about to open my fifth bottle.

08-13-2012, 07:14 AM
:welcome: Iwanttowin :welcome:

And, on the occasion of your first post, :wel3fc:

Neat that you were looking for support and then found it - and it's us!

08-13-2012, 07:21 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - I descended into a platter of homemade cookies seduced because they were broken and I kept removing, one by one, the unattractive ones from view, like I was assigned to bring Martha Stewart order into the universe. Ouch! I kept the rest of the day on plan, CREDIT moi, instead of falling for that nefarious Sabotaging Thought that since I'd messed up I might as well blow the whole day.

Minor walking, CREDIT moi, carrying the unopened golf umbrella. Now that's a losing idea; it's too bulky to carry pleasantly. Usually, if required, I stick a small (12 inch) umbrella into a back pack where I don't notice it. If used, it keeps some of me a little bit dry - good enough. Yay for trying new ideas even when they don't work.

onebyone – Absolutely LMAO at "Have some salad. It's good for you." Major Kudos for resisting murder - despite that an all-female jury would acquit. [Good spot - maybe it's the curio cabinet that appeals to me about mid 1800's England before 'hoarding' was a disease. I would be fashionable. With local clouds we missed the Perseid shower.]

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Yay for third day and a scale that got the message.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – You're brave to go biking with a triathlete. Fun to read, "Bistro Vendome awaits us. I have a plan."

Nature Girl – Nice looking DD's - they seem to have inherited your notion of staying fit. LOL at three kids immediately abandoning the 'rents to go play. Sounds like a fun time in the crazy.

maryann - Congrats on your 11th Anniversary. With Kudos for leaving most of your cupcake instead of just snarfing the whole thing down.

Ann (Newlifestyle) - Yep, Kudos for "showing myself I need to not give up on me." It's nice to know the group is appreciated.

Nelia – Neat that you schedule a good chunk of your time for travel - I so want to get to Israel and the Middle East.

Elizabeth (Elizabeth779) - Ooops - you were blackmailing with some serious paperwork, LOL. Your DS's wallet story is just the kind of thing that I was worried about. The wallet I returned had no money (it appeared to contain the backup set of cards, like library card and laundromat card). What if the owner asked me where the $1000 was? Would I have been smarter to turn it in to the Police Station?

Jaye (Jaye68) - Five Kudos for five bottles of water instead of soda. And Kudos for an On Plan day.

Iwanttowin - My take is that the hard part is getting started and you've just done that - Kudos for sure. I don't know where the Success Skills is available on line to print out. If you're lucky your library will have a dime per copy Xerox machine available. Some folks can take a picture with their cell phone to print with their computer and do just fine.

And Kudos for wading through the last two months of this thread - you're really doing your homework. My only advice is to post your status (in whatever format works for you) as often as you can - daily is best. Avoid trying to do personal responses to the rest of us just now because it can seem like a burden that's a reason to not post at all. When you want to do personals, feel free to just start with one or two - it'll be easy to identify with the several others who are also just starting. Glad you've joined us.

Readers - chapter 7 Stage 4 The Think Thin Lifetime Eating Plan

Experiments to Vary the Think Thin Eating Plan

Discover How Marketers Try to Get You to Buy
These nutri-washing phrases make many relatively unhealthful foods seem healthful. These phrases include:

. . .
o "Reduced-fat." Not all reduced-fat foods are reduced in calories, too. Some replace the fat with sugar or other types of carbohydrate. For example, reduced-fat peanut butter usually contains the same number of calories as the full-fat version due to the addition of extra sugar.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 171.

08-13-2012, 10:20 AM
Hi Beckies... still struggling but, not running away. I've planned and written down what I have been eating. I weighed (+1).

I am reading my cards about travel and special occaisions.

billbe - I've heard about the shark invation at the Cape. Thanks.

iwantowin- WELCOME! So glad you posted. There's much wisdom and support here at the Beck forum. Also- no such thing as a silly question here either.

I'll be back.... gotta run my mom around to day.

08-13-2012, 11:13 AM
The high school friend who introduced me to Monty Python is in hospice care from prostate cancer that metastasized. He turns 50 tomorrow and will leave behind seven children. The four youngest are two sets of twins, one set are 8 and the other 4. So, I'm sad today. I seem more inclined to write over it than eat over it. That's a good change, anyway.

WI: -0.05kgs, Exercise: +60 545/1400 minutes for August, Food: 100% op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

onebyone: I really like what you wrote to NewLifestyle about each of us finding our authentic way. So true.

Welcome, iwanttowin!

08-13-2012, 12:03 PM
Welcome "Iwanttowin" Glad you found us! Thanks for the Kudos BillBlueEyes, it paid off because this morning the scale tells me I am down by 3.2 pounds :carrot: Great way to start the week off!
Will post more later gotta go jump in the shower, headed out with a friend this morning and to play with her grandson later.
Take care everyone and have a good Monday

08-13-2012, 12:46 PM
Happy Monday!

On plan today, so far! Still haven't officially started a "diet". I am trying to implement the steps into a healthy eating plan. I am stuck, but trying to be aware of my bad habits and change them for the better. And, to have the weight miraculously disappear. I also think with my crazy summer schedule, I am setting myself up for failure if I start a diet now. (is that a sabotaging thought?) So every week, I just try to stick with DrB basics and eat a healthy portion controlled diet. The two areas I struggle with are exercise and snacking from boredom. To fix these problems - I have recruited an exercise buddy and bought a "groupon" for a local "specialty" gym. I already have a regular gym membership which offers everything, but I never go. My buddy bought the same groupon, so hopefully when we start going we will continue. My thought is to start once my kids are back in school and I have more of a routine. The boredom issue is more of a serious issue- I have too much free time at home. I work from home, dh works from home..... I have started applying for part-time jobs online at local country clubs. And, I have an interview tomorrow....
So even though I haven't started a "diet". I am looking at why I eat/snack and trying to change that aspect of my life.

08-13-2012, 03:58 PM

Feeling a little blue today. I was going to say "not sure why", but the word OVERWHELMED keeps showing up in my mind's eye. So, perhaps I feel overwhelmed...?

Sometimes it's like this: a nagging nebulous irritation in the emotional regions that I notice like I notice a bruise which appears out of nowhere and takes forever to fade away. It hurts, a bit, when I touch it by accident. Mostly though, I don't even notice it.

THAT'S how it feels today.

That sounds pretty icky doesn't it?
My apologies coaches for my graphic content.

Used to be, I'd eat over this. Today I am going to be nice to myself. I am settling in to watch an episode of Breaking Bad. Happily I've just discovered I am 3 episodes behind! Yay! Things to look forward to.

I am also committing to continuing my decluttering and general clean up but at a reduced rate today: what's required of me is one: one sinkful of dishes done one load of laundry and emptying one moving box in the bedroom as well as moving the Martha Stewart 16-Cube Organizer shelf (mint in box!) to the bedroom where I *may* attempt to assemble it tomorrow if my ambition returns. It's a nasty piece of work this shelf is. the WORST designed product for assembling I have ever encountered. Two people pretty much required but I may try it anyway. DH doesn't want to go there so I may have to force the issue...

Anyway, not my problem today.
I'm turning on the tube now.

Have a good Monday coaches.

:welcome: Iwanttowin I smiled and nodded at your description of this: I had been on a rampage for at least the last month, eating uncontrolably everyday. Rampage is exactly right. I know it well. Sometimes I still rampage, but it's internal and I don't eat over it... I did a lot of damage to myself during my rampages. Glad you found us.

:wave: Nelia welcome back!

Jaye68 KUDOS for that 3.2lb drop. Awesome. Good things happen when we have a plan. * credit* for a day soda-free.

BillBlueEyes Your cookie descent reminds me, oddly, of a dream I had way way back the very first time I seriously tried to deal with my overeating. Permit me to indulge myself.

I dreamt that I made a pan of brownies, and I was cutting the brownies into squares but I kept cutting the line crooked and then I'd place the knife in beside the cut to try to straighten the line, eating the small triangle bit to hide the crooked line. Eventually I ate most of the pan, stopping only when a sliver was left. When I woke up I was HORRIFIED as I had been sugar-free for weeks and the dream was so real I felt so awful at having broken my no-sugar rule.
What it highlighted to me was my incredible will to be perfect and 100% perfect and nothing else was ok. I guess your desire to eliminate the mis-shaped cookies reminds me of this, oddly enough. YMMV.

gardenerjoy I'm very sad to hear of your friend in hospice care. :( Especially a friend who introduced you to Monty Python. That's a good friend indeed. So much loss there for him with such a large growing family. So glad you are writing about it and not eating over it. I tend to paint these things out. The Arts, in situations lke this, are often a great help, where food just muddies the emotions and makes things worse. :hug:

08-13-2012, 05:59 PM
Monday greetings,

My Sunday weigh in put me back to last week's weigh in with no loss/gain for the week. I'll take that--it figures to 2 pounds/week loss which, while skimpy for the "Might Atkins Induction", is still far better than I normally see.

Both the fresh blueberry pie and my talk got actual applause yesterday. My biggest win was making sure everyone else got a piece of the pie while I ate the leftover blueberries straight. POINT!

It was a busy weekend and I had another "adverse health event" (no drugs this time) plus the internet went down, hence no posting here. I also stopped reading the Beck books daily and am determined to dip back in this evening.

The house is a wreck, but I'm OP and Finn is still with me. It's a good day!

08-13-2012, 08:42 PM
Good Evening Buddies
Thank you everyone for the warm welcome, it feels good to be in a place where people know the types of struggle that can haunt me daily.
Today has been a very good day I read my cards I have sit down every time I have put something in my mouth, and I have been trying to watch what I eat although I have not started stage 2 just yet. So I will tale credit for all the good things that I have done today.
I did the experiment today to not eat until i was hungry and was suprised to find out that I never did really experience hunger. I don't know if it is that I have been programed to eat every so often or if I have a true fear of being hungry. If it is fear, what in the world happened that would put that kind of fear in a person. I have never went hungry or been in a position that I thought I would go without food so I don't get it.
I do need to work on getting some movement into my day, because I would really like to start stage 2 later tiis week or the first of next week. Wish me luck.
Thanks for listening

08-14-2012, 12:41 AM
Good evening coaches,
A good day OP, went to the dentist, didn't eat over the was only a cleaning but dentist visits stress me. I don't know why, I guess I am afraid they are going to find a cavity. I spent the rest of the morning driving a careless family to drs appt. and getting prescriptions filled. I was almost late for work, work was crazy busy, not sure why as it was Monday and I was hoping to get off early to come home...guess what I did not eat over it. Yeah.
I am now off to bed as I have to get up early in the morning. I just wanted to check in.
Thanks again for everything you all do. You all inspire me.
Have a great night.
Take Care

08-14-2012, 03:33 AM
Hi Coaches,
Day 2 without any soda!! I drank 5 bottles of water today *credit* and I played with my god nephew for a solid 30 minutes of running climbing stairs chasing him and sliding with him, he's 2.5 years old. I stayed OP today also and I invested in a small notebook I can carry with me to write down everything I am eating each day which I know will help me stay OP. When I was at the store with my friend this morning she asked if I had planned on getting some donuts for a breakfast, I looked at her and said "Nope not me" she smiled and said "Oh yeah you don't do those anymore" LOL We settled on whole wheat bagels and cream cheese but I only ate 1/2 of a bagel and was satisfied. I've discovered I really like the Sobe brand coconut water and I tried the Mandarin Mango this morning, it was yummy

08-14-2012, 06:08 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Did gym in the morning, CREDIT moi, unusual time slot for me. The different crowd made it feel like a different gym. Took an emergency walk in evening twilight, CREDIT moi, to score bananas since we were out. It's funny, but we are never out of bananas; both DW and I seriously want a banana for breakfast and, when the tomatoes aren't arriving, I need one for my peanut butter sandwich at lunch. Also walked (CREDIT moi) to the library to return all books. I'd rapidly consumed the popular thriller Gone Girl because I was intrigued by its hype. I discovered that I'm addicted to a page-turner, but am then annoyed if I don't care about the characters or the plot after it's over. It was like a video game - grabbed all my attention while playing, but nothing remained. Perhaps authors are chasing the ADD generation with multiple plot twists instead of just one at the end to explain the whole affair.

Extra snacking - Ouch. I'm still fighting tension about getting ready for our two week vacation starting Friday.

onebyone – "OVERWHELMED" is a challenge; would seem that whittling it down to a doable list - as you're known to be able to do - is required to divide and conquer. [Your brownie dream is fantastic. Just a small slice to square up the situation; then another; then another...]

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Sending supportive thoughts as you witness your friend in hospice care. Amazing that he gave you Monty Python.

Beverlyjoy – Kudos for "struggling but, not running away."

Ann (Newlifestyle) - Yep, dentist visits raise the stress. Kudos for "I did not eat over it" when crazy busy.

soonfit - One of the great gifts from Dr. Beck's books is the notion that it's more important to learn the strategies of healthy eating than it is to start the diet. My take is that once you're feeling comfortable with the basics, then you'll feel ready to start your eating plan - even on a crazy schedule. You're wise to proceed slowly on a lifetime change.

spanky - Congrats on the success of your talk with Kudos for resisting you own blueberry pie. Wishing you well in chasing down the unexpected "adverse health event."

Jaye (Jaye68) - LOL at a 2.5 year old exercise coach - what a bundle of energy. Kudos for stopping at half a bagel.

Carol (Iwanttowin) - Such an interesting question, what's the source of fear of hunger for those of us who've never had any concern for regular food. Neat that you discovered that true hunger isn't just around the corner. Wishing you luck on organizing your mojo for starting Stage 2.

Readers - chapter 7 Stage 4 The Think Thin Lifetime Eating Plan
Experiments to Vary the Think Thin Eating Plan

experiment 4
Trade Think Thin Initial Eating Plan foods with equal-calorie foods.
If you would like to occasionally include a favorite less-healthful food in place of a Think Thin Eating Plan food, you will need to do some experiments. Be sure to keep the number of calories the same within each swap, but - be forewarned - the portion size you are allowed will probably shrink.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 171.

08-14-2012, 11:29 AM
Just a quick check-in. *Whispers* Starting day 6 of a streak of 100% OP days.

WI: -0.35kgs, Exercise: +50 595/1400 minutes for August, Food: 100% op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

08-14-2012, 01:59 PM
Just checking in on my lunch break and finding that today is much more of a struggle then yesterday was. I do not feel real hunger when I stop and think about it but the anxity is awful today. At least I am thinking and not just stuffing my mouth aimlessly. Credit. I did walk for my 15 min break today.CR. and I have read my cards twice today Cr. I didn't realize this was so much like an addiction. I will be strong.

08-14-2012, 04:03 PM
Greetings. I made the new move to write out my meals for the day last night. It's on an index card so as to fit in my pocket and travel with me through the day. I switched everything so far for an OP equivalent but have written it down. Point

Walked our downtown skywalk for some extra exercise and lifted lots of 35 lb packages [48 to be exact] for an impromptu weight session.

Trying for a few personals today:

Bill--I once talked to a rare book seller and was embarrassed to admit I dipped into "Pop-Lit" occasionally. He smiled and said "We all have our favorite junk--mine is Ninja Thrillers" I felt better after that!

Iwantowin--I also wonder about why exactly I'm so concerned about my next meal. You'd think I could rely on the extra 16 pounds of fat I carry ---I means that's a spare 56,000 calories--I can tap in the event of an actual missed meal!

Newlifestyle--Dentists are on the top of my "Fear and Loathing" list. I suppose I may have watched Marathon Man at too young an age...

Jaye688--yep. My 6 yr old is the source of most of my "Spontaneous Exercise" a la Beck. Always count kids as Kudo Opportunities!

Gardenerjoy--6 days definitely constitutes a Streak--kudos! All my best to you as you see your friend and his family through this leavetaking.

Wishing everyone a long list of Kudos today!


08-14-2012, 09:09 PM

*credit* weighed in yesterday and today and had the same number appear: 250.7lbs
*credit* walked last night with DH for 30min in the rain and walked today for 45 min as I went to get kitty food this afternoon in the rain.

Still feeling worn out.
Still feeling overwhelmed.
Still have dishes to do.
Still have boxes to open,sort, and/or move.
Still have laundry to do.
Still have clothes to sort through.
Still have paintings to paint for Friday and for the weekend plus, I remembered yesterday, a special print to make for a couple I happened upon in Key West who reside in Tennessee. I was wandering taking pictures on my last day there, Feb. 29, and turned a corner to see a man in a light brown suit wearing brown flip flops. It was awesome.
And then I saw a woman in white satin wearing blue flip flops with a big blue flower on them.
I said "You two look like you are going to a wedding."
"Oh, we just got married about 10 minutes ago on the beach."
They were taking each other's picture so I offered to take them and asked if I could take one of them too, then said I may make a print of the picture and I may send it to them but they'd have to get in touch with me since I didn't know them and I gave them my card.
About a month or so ago I got an email from the guy and I said sure, I remembered, and yes, I was going to do that and when, ideally, would you want it? I recall a date mid-August. Could even be today. I am shying away from looking it up in my email. Anyway, yesterday I couldn't find the jpg I took of them and it took me hours of perusing my KW jpgs this afternoon, and finally I found it. Thank goodness cause about a month ago I had a memory stick in DH's computer and it sticks out at a weird angle and as I brushed past it my knee knocked it and the metal part stayed in the computer while the plastic part of it BROKE OFF! I have no idea what was on the stick. DH said "it's all just back up files right?" I said I thought so -- but days like today when I can't find an image I wonder if it wasn't on that stick... this time *phew* it wasn't.
And now, coaches, I have another piece of art to make.

Anyway, I'm lucky to have these first world problems. VERY lucky.

Have a good evening. Stay OP.

08-14-2012, 10:23 PM
Hello Coaches,
Today was another op day. I don't feel as anxious as I was feeling. Food was good, exercise on plan. I went shopping with a friend and she wanted to go to a buffet. I was dreading it but I chose well and stayed within my calorie limit. Shopping was fun.

Bill - it is funny how going to the gym at a different time makes it seem like a new environment. I think I will have a tomato sandwich tomorrow. Will you be going anywhere on your vacation or will you just stay at home and relaxing?

onebyone – i hope that this overwhelming feeling passes soon. I find we are all so busy in life and we forget to take care of ourselves while we are buys taking care of the house and others. Thank you for sharing your thoughts about what I was going through, it really helped me a lot. I love hearing about your art work, you are so creative.

Elizabeth, thank you for your support and for your suggestions. I hope you are having a great day.

Debbie, thank you for suggesting that site to log my food, it is so easy, who

Joy – My thoughts are prayers are with you and your friend at this time. congratulations being OP 6 days.

Beverlyjoy – Thank you for your encouraging words. It is really neat how when people are typing about their own situation you can get so much out of it. I am inspired by "still struggling but not running away"

soonfit - Good luck with your crazy summer schedule. I like the routine September brings, although I am sad to see my son go back to school everyday.

Maryann- Happy Anniversary.

Nelia - Welcome back. It is nice to see you back here.

Rachel - Congratulations on your organizing, it sounds like you are doing well. It is so nice your son is going to school so close. Three hours away means you could meet him for lunch or he could come home for weekends.

spanky - Great job writing out your meal plan. Congratulations for walking the skywalk. Keeping you and Finnegan in my prayers.

Jaye - That is awesome getting exercise with the 2.5 year old. I find children make you see life in a different simple beautiful way.

Carol , I am sorry to hear today is more of a struggle for you. Congrats on walking, and reading your cards.

Tazzy - how are you? How is Dexter?

Waving to anyone I missed and have a wonderful night.
Take Care

08-15-2012, 03:21 AM
Hi Coaches,
Another good day OP, I increased my water intake by 1 bottle making it 6 bottles today *Credit* When I weighed myself this morning I had lost another 2 pounds *Credit* I saw my therapist today and we focused on Beck and read thru the survey and she gave some good advice and gave me a challenge to learn to eat mindfully, she wants me to set my timer for 5 minutes and as I eat something take the whole 5 minutes concentrating on what it is I am eating, the taste, how it feels in my mouth, making sure I chew it well etc. I went for a 20 minute bike ride *Credit* I walked the stairs 4 times today. I did not go off program at all today, I refused to give in to the cravings for sugar/candy *Credit* I am on day 3 without soda *Credit*
Bill: Going to the gym at a different time is a great idea because it helps change things up a bit, so good for you!
OnebyOne: I am sorry you are struggling with feeling overwhelmed, I sometimes feel that way also, keep up the creativity it can be a very therapeutic release
Elizabeth: You share the same name as my niece whom I have never met because her family lives in another state on the opposite side of the country, so I smile whenever I see your name come up and I want to thank you for that.
Spanky: I am glad that you have figured out a way to write out your food plan which helps to control the binges and going OP Kudos to you!

Waving and sending hellos to everyone that I missed, this is my first attempt at doing personals so please bear with me.


08-15-2012, 05:20 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Eating was only OK, but CREDIT moi for that much. My immediate daily food plan is to measure all the perishable food and divide by the number of days before we leave. It is beyond my brain to consider leaving blueberries or peaches unconsumed. Bread stuff can go in the freezer for the two weeks. We've assigned various friends/kids to harvest our tomatoes while we're gone. I'm still wrestling with that part of the brain that thinks that nibbling will make choosing/buying clothes for my vacation easier. I did buy the socks that I needed, CREDIT moi. Still need a waterproof hat. DW thinks my current outdoor hat is funky and old. Apparently, that's a problem.

Exercise was walking (CREDIT moi) to go shopping. Stores are full of Back-to-School displays. Watched a toddler playing in the kiddie fountain in the park - sorta amazing that kids just figure out how to play in water without taking a course or reading the manual.

onebyone – Neat story of the Key West couple getting married in flip flops. Congrats for finding their picture. And Congrats that the 250 number remains real. Might I assume that your kitty appreciates that you walked 45 minutes in the rain for her?

Joy (gardenerjoy) – *Whispers* Kudos for streaking.

Ann (Newlifestyle) - On plan through a buffet is a big deal - Kudos. [We're off on a rafting trip so there will be excitement and exercise and camping style meals.]

spanky - 1680 pounds is one fine bit of extraneous exercise.

Jaye (Jaye68) - Congrats on another 2 pounds, with Kudos for hitting the bottle. It's so neat that you have a therapist who's supportive of your Beck journey.

Carol (Iwanttowin) - Yep, anxiety sure calls to be fed. Kudos for seeing it for what it is and staying your path with a walk on your break even.

Readers - chapter 7 Stage 4 The Think Thin Lifetime Eating Plan

Experiments to Vary the Think Thin Eating Plan

experiment 5
Add snack calories to the next meal.
You can plan in advance to skip a snack and use the snack calories (not necessarily a snack from the Snack Options) to add any kind of food with the same number of calories to your next meal. This means you can have an extra side dish, a larger portion, or additional ingredients in your dishes. Maybe you would like to have a dinner roll, eat extra steak, or put a special sauce on your vegetables without using your Bonus Calories. Of course, this means that you will have to calculate in advance how much of the extra food you can have. If you would like to continue doing this, write in your Diet Notebook, "Add snack calories to the next meal as often as desired if food is healthful; up to once a week if food is not particularly healthful."

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 172.

08-15-2012, 08:48 AM
Hi Coaches!

My new routine includes getting dressed first thing in the morning, so I weighed and then was work ready before coffee. That should free up more "time for dieting", which for me is an ongoing process of working my "Think Thing Lifetime Eating Plan". Since DH and I are leaning towards Vegan, I tried a cookie recipe I found in the newspaper and had been holding onto. Cookies were tasty, but didn't have the right consistency. I put the unbaked dough in a bag to pitch in the trash at work. credit. I hope to return later but time is running out and it's close to smoothie/exit time.

BBE, what river are you rafting?

Jaye, where are you in Alaska? I lived in Homer for 23 years.

Credit to all of us for persistance!

08-15-2012, 12:23 PM
I didn't keep my 100%OP streak going -- but 80% on Tuesday is pretty good for me. Especially a Tuesday that includes an ice cream social. I had one small dish -- exactly what I wrote on my plan. But timing and tension messed me up earlier in the day.

Today's challenge is that I've run out of vegetables to easily fix at lunch. I had this problem last year. I hate to buy lettuce July through September -- it won't grow locally when it's hot and there is such an abundance of local produce. But my normal lunch is so dependent on a big salad that I sometimes have a situation where the abundant season results in lower vegetable consumption.

I'll figure out something -- there are green peppers in the garden. DH prefers them red, so I was waiting for them to ripen, but I can steal some green ones. I'll pick up the CSA box in the afternoon and will feel rich in veggies again for a few days.

WI: -0.1kgs, Exercise: +0 595/1400 minutes for August, Food: 80% op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

08-15-2012, 03:02 PM
I am in Fairbanks, I have lived here for 21 years and really like it, I have yet to make it to Homer, I have friends that live down there but at the moment I am not working and I don't have a vehicle of my own so my traveling is limited.
Scale tells me I am 268 pounds this morning :carrot:

08-15-2012, 04:25 PM
Another OP day going on here. Point! I had another spontaneous walk in the skywalk to the optometrist [the walk connects all over the city at second floor level so it's a good place to get errands done]. Point!

My Plan Card and I are in agreement so far, but I am doing battle with a half of an ice cream sandwich that my son left in the freezer last night. The minute I knew it was there--unguarded--it began to bore it's way into my brain. So far bravely fending off the irrational thoughts "It's only half, it's a leftover!" "I can afford the carbs!" "He's forgotten it's there!", and-- the kicker-- "But sugar is BAD for Kids!!!" :devil: If I can just make it until it's dessert time, I can escape it by feeding it to it's rightful owner!

onebyone- I think a long walk is a great way for you to "reset" your brain when you're feeling overwhelmed. Nice choice!

BillBE -If your tomato crop is going great guns like ours, you might need to tell the neighbor to offload some at the local farmers' market while you're gone. But you can send your uneaten blueberries my way!

Lexiss - I'm finding I use that time before the rest of the house gets up to "calibrate" my mindset toward the fact that yes, today, I'm still on a diet!

newlifestyle -MEGA kudos for weathering a buffet lunch!!!

Jaye68 -You're inspiring me to consider making the switch from Crystal Lite to actual, bare naked water!

Gardenerjoy - How 'bout a plate of raw veggies and a bowl of 'legal' dip in place of a lettuce-based salad? That's what I served my son when he was too small to handle a salad without turning it into an art project...

So--kudos to all for showing up today!


08-15-2012, 06:27 PM
Hi Everyone,

I feel like I've been missing in action here. 7 days since my last post and about 5 days of reading your posts to catch up on. Weight is still the same, reading my ARC twice daily, am now on Day 3 of the pink book. At this rate of 7 days for each step that 42 steps is gonna take awhile. :dizzy:

Busy at work now with the upcoming Christmas season (I know it's a long ways away still but with my job it's like Christmas everyday and by time it's here I really don't care anymore). Puppy stuff is moving along, up 5 times last night with Dexter, seems to think he's a night owl now. Need to change that tonight, although he seems to sleep better when it's DH's night to get up with him. I must be more of a softy and the dog already knows that.

Hoping to find some time to read the postings and catch up with all of you.

08-15-2012, 09:29 PM
Good evening Coaches,
Well today was a little better then yesterday, and the anxity that I might starve to death before my next meal is not as strong as it was. The scale is down 2 lbs. this morning CR. and I did walk again today CR I kind of wish that I had taken some time off work when I started this because it is really a lot of work. I am doing everything so far but the written out meal plan. I am having a hard time with that, but I am following a moderate diet plan (no pig outs, just not measuring and weighing every bite just yet)
I did buy some colored index cards today so that I can write me responce cards by catagory CR and a cute little holder for them. Thank goodness for back to school time or I wouldn't have found that. LOL
I know that I have only been working on this for about a week but I can already see changes in the way I think about food CR and I am feeling much better about that. I am trying to get everything done in stage 1 but I think that if I try and do every last experiment I will be to old to remember why i started this.LOL
BillBE I am taking your advice and I am not going to personalize and messages just yet I already have enough on my plate LOL (who would have ever thought I would have enough on a plate) but I do really enjoy the feedback from everyone. It will just take me a while to work the bugs out of my plan.
Well thanks for listening and I will talk to you all tomorrow.

08-15-2012, 09:30 PM
Hi... I am back from my one day trip. I had a good time and fun programs. I ate pretty healthfully. Always grateful for that.

Now, time to get ready to go East. I've picked out a guideline for my eating.

I will check in often, if I can.

Take care.

08-15-2012, 09:51 PM
Today has been another day that has been OP so far and also without Soda again So far (it's going on 5 PM here as I post this) My challenge for tonight is going to dinner with a friend and not yet knowing where we are going and making a point of staying OP, I am bringing my list and my cards with me so I can look at them just before he picks me up and also as I am looking over the menu depending on where we are going, if we go to a place that offers Salad as an option then that is what I will have as I have been craving one all day!

Spanky thanks for the compliment I actually drink Crystal Lite also but much prefer plain old water, my favorite brand of bottled water is the Nestle Pure Life.

BillBE It is really wonderful having a therapist that is so supportive of the Beck program and is encouraging me to continue to work it. I actually sent a link to the Beck page to the advanced nurse practitioner I see for medication management so she can familiarize herself with the program as well.

I will write more when I get home from dinner.

All the Best

08-16-2012, 12:51 AM

Spent the day doing things and then went groery shopping, with a list, with DH this evening. * credits all around for us*
Got my 140 exercise minutes in for the week. *credit*

I had to talk myself out of so may treats today OMG. EVERYWHERE I went it was all I saw were the treats. But then I would get this inner voice that said "You're not there yet. You can't do that. You are still losing weight and getting smaller and that stuff will not help you." It's helping an awful lot that DH cannot eat any of those treats. I cannt bear the thought that I would bring that stuff into the house, forget it somewhere, only to tempt DH from his foodplan. I can't sabotage or test him like that. So, that thought too works to prevent me from bringing that home and it stops me from getting the stuff inthe first place cause one bite of the crappy snacky food makes me crave it for weeks. So, anyway all that to say I resisted all day long today.

I have my official weigh-in tomorrow. Still not enough $ for me to re-join WW and I have not been good with counting my points this week. I am not expecting to repeat the 248.5 I saw last week. I think I will more than likely be the 250-ish that I have been at for the last 5 days. But it's all just a guess. I'll report in after I find out for sure. I'm not that worried. I haven't over-eaten or gone off plan inspite of not tracking the points. I need to keep moving ever downward on that scale.

OK have a good night everyone.

08-16-2012, 12:56 AM
Good Evening, Coaches.

Like Tazzy I feel I have been MIA for awhile. Starting work and finishing a packet for my thesis is overwhelming. I also threw out my neck. I finally broke down and saw the chiropractorI did get some relief but today I am sore. I have continued OP eating super duper healthy fruits and veggies through 3 meals out. No exercise till my neck feels better.

Welcome Iwantowin.

08-16-2012, 01:27 AM
Wow I am on day 4 without soda!! CR I went to dinner with my friend and stayed OP, I decided on a burger with some grilled mushrooms and onions on it and instead of fries or onion rings I asked for a salad CR. I got to run around some with my god nephew but not as much as usual because he had other kids there that he knew and was playing with but just getting out and getting the fresh air is good. I read my list CR and my response cards CR as well as the Beck book, I am going into day 3 of my first full week on program. I have been telling more and more people about this program. The friend I went out to dinner with has diabetes so it was easy for me not to want to order any sweets after we ate. I enjoy spending time with him. When I weighed myself this morning the scale said 268 lbs so that is down another 1/2 pound for a total of 6 pounds so far :)
Take care everyone

08-16-2012, 05:27 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Eating was on plan, CREDIT moi, except for some extra nibbling again, Ouch.

Did gym in the morning, CREDIT moi, and got exercise shopping (rather last minute) for clothes required for our rafting trip down the C_olorado River through the G_rand Canyon. I'm psyched; just wish I had everything needed already. Shopped, CREDIT moi, to score a hat, three non-cotton knit shirts for on the water, and cotton 'dorm pants' for sun protection. It made me so happy that one shirt was marked $85 on sale for $20. Only super bargains reduce the angst I feel when shopping for clothes. Perhaps it'll work for me when Home Depot stocks men's clothing since I'm happy when I'm there.

This is my last post until August 30, 2012, since tomorrow I'm out of here at Oh Dark Thirty to get to the airport. Neither Internet nor cell phone signals make it down the mile high cliffs of the canyon – joyous forced separation from ether addiction. Have a sane, on plan, relaxing, two weeks guys.

onebyone – Kudos for "I resisted all day long today" - that's all that's needed. Yay for "doing things" to keep away from food.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – LOL at the convolution of "abundant season results in lower vegetable consumption."

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yep, a cookie has to deliver. Kudos for tossing the remaining dough rather than eating them anyway. We pick up your C_olorado River only after it enters Arizona at Lee's Ferry, on its way to the Gulf of California which it never makes because it's sucked dry before it gets there. We get off after 225 miles - just shy of reaching Lake Mead and Hoover Dam.

Beverlyjoy – Have a good trip to Cape Cod. You'll have fun company, since, by tradition, Massachusetts sends all its shrinks there in August.

maryann - Yay for a chiropractor who can make the neck begin to work again. Sending supportive thoughts toward completion of your thesis packet.

Tazzy - Having a visitor five times a night sounds like fun for Dexter. Sending you patience to out last him through this phase.

spanky - Now that's a challenging Sabotaging Thought, "But sugar is BAD for Kids!!!" Helpful Response: My Resistance Muscle welcomes the exercise.

Jaye (Jaye68) - That's a super Avatar picture - did you take it? Such a sane life to be craving a salad all day. Congrats on those six pounds.

Carol (Iwanttowin) - Congrats on those two pounds lost forever - are those the two that move you into the great Onderland? Powerful Sabotaging Thought to be fighting, "I might starve to death before my next meal."

Readers - chapter 7 Stage 4 The Think Thin Lifetime Eating Plan

Experiments to Vary the Think Thin Eating Plan

experiment 6
Bank all snack calories for a special meal.

You can also decide in advance to occasionally pool the calories from all three snacks and add them to one meal. For example, you might choose one of the following:
An appetizer and/or bread
A mixed drink or more than one glass of wine or beer
A special higher-calorie dish
A larger portion of one or more foods
A full-sized serving of dessert
Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 173.

08-16-2012, 06:56 AM
Hi Coaches -- Oy Vey -- I had an UNplanned food day, Sunday, Monday, Tues, and Wed....and did not do well without a plan to adhere to. Finally got my fitday caught up and can tell that spending 4 days fooling around with food is keeps me circling the block instead of going forward consistently. And to make things worse my Beck book is MIA!!! I hate the idea of tearing this room apart at 2:33 a.m., but I need to find that book. And along with my UNplanned food, I've been snacking on potato chips from the vending machine....not good.

Also, on Monday afternoon I had a major low blood sugar thing that happened in the grocery store, and I was very sweaty, shaky, irritable, and started feeling confused, and then was hugely ravenously hungry and it was awful....and it was my fault because I had not eaten right....

So, time to retreat and regroup, FIND the beck book, making a plan tonight before I sleep to get through tomorrow and Friday....and just make it better.


JAYE -- yayyyy for you for four FOUR days without soda!!

Maryann -- good for you for getting back on plan with food....proud of you -- tha'ts not easy with thesis, neck, etc....hang in there!

Onebyone -- don't you just hate the days that the treats are screaming EAT ME EAT ME EAT ME....some days are like that -- as noted above, I've been even stalking the stuff in the vending machines this week -- and I even have to go down to the basement -- it's not like the vending machines are on my way or anything.....sigh

Beverlyjoy -- good for you for planning to be OP on your trip. That's working Beck for your benefit. It tells me if you can do that on a trip, I certainly can figure out how to be 14 miles away at work and plan what food to take....

Iwantowin -- you'll like the feeling when you go through the how to put off hunger exercise....hunger isn't an emergency

Hey coaches...wait a minute...I think that Low blood sugar episode sort of scared me the other day, and I'm overeating again as a result....Hmmmmm....responding to your posts, gave me that insight...because it's okay to be a little hungry, but I need to be reasonable and if I get up I need to eat something before I go out to do errands, etc...

gardnerjoy -- congrats on your 100% day and 80%'re getting back y our Beck, when you can get the good stuff from a garden, it's hard to go back to buying it from the store....

Lexxiss -- Homer Alaska -- I've been watching that reality show about the family that lives up in alaska -- I don't think I'd make it through one of those winters....but then again, it's been 109 here for DAYS now, and maybe an Alaska winter sounds kind of good.

Have a good rest of the week coaches....I'll fidn the Beck book and plan my food and get back on trackk and have a good report for you this weekend....

Beck Team Hug....:hug:

08-16-2012, 09:25 AM
Good morning Coaches,
I hope everyone has a great day. I went for a massage yesterday at 630pm and fell asleep once I came home. I didn't post, yikes..
Bill- enjoy your vacation. I will miss your posts. I look forward to them each day. Have a wonderful time.
Hello to everyone, I will be back with personals. I woke up hungry...that is a first for me.
Congrats to all the successes. If you are struggling remember this too shall pass. Someone once told me while they were going through a tough time. I can get through an hour at a time. Which can lead to a day at a time and so on. They mentioned breaking it down to smaller time blocks.
Hugs to all.
Have an amazing op day everyone.
Take Care

08-16-2012, 11:14 AM
Hi Coaches!

I have a day off with no obligation until I take my Mother to a medical appt. very late in the afternoon. I continue to work on my life routine, Beck inspired, of course. I weighed this morning and have a food plan for today. credit.

BBE, I surmised you would be traveling to the mighty Colorado, which is but a trickle when it originates in the mtns. just behind me. I always take a moment to try and imagine how long it takes for the river I cross on my bike to reach the Grand Canyon, especially when my DH is at hiking towards the bottom and crossing over the black bridge. I will think fondly of you and your DW as I enjoy it's beauty from my home. Enjoy every experience you encounter.

Off to a great day! Thanks for being here everyone!

08-16-2012, 11:42 AM
Busy busy. I don't have a plan written for today (I usually do that the night before), but I'll do that next.

WI: -0.05kgs, Exercise: +65 660/1400 minutes for August, Food: 90% op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

onebyone: yes to "OMG. EVERYWHERE." I sense you're getting close to this being helpful: "That's not about me." I learned that one from BillBlueEyes and it really helped me, over time, to notice that stuff less often.

Jaye68: salad instead of starchy or fried side dishes is a great strategy! I've been amazed how many restaurants will do that. When I ask for salad, I also feel like I'm doing a little something to help all of us who need healthier choices in restaurants. My goal is that more and more restaurants will have that printed on their menus as an option.

Woohoo, BillBlueEyes! I hope your vacation is terrific! It sounds very exciting.

Elizabeth779: yikes on your low sugar episode! Well done getting back here and committing to finding your book and getting back on track. I think your insight that the low blood sugar episode scared you into overeating again is plausible. The Thin Commandments Diet by Stephen Gullo recommends carrying a "ThinPack" with you at all times -- on plan snack food that's available when you need it.
You aren't the first to have the book go missing for awhile. It usually turns up under some other stuff that you've already looked at three times and are sure a book wouldn't fit under that stack.

Newlifestyle: yay for waking up hungry!

Lexxiss: enjoy your low obligation day!

08-16-2012, 12:30 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

I woke up stiff but happy to have a day to write on my thesis. Scale today said 3 pounds under ticker which is exciting. My eating habits have completely changed in the last three weeks. It has made such a difference.

Jaye: Congrats on breaking the soda addiction. I know gardener joy and I feel the same way. Once we gave up the Diet Coke, it made a huge difference.

Lexxiss: Enjoy your day off. You deserve it.

Newlifestyle: It was really one of my first awakenings - it is healthy to have an empty stomach in the morning. That and sitting down while I ate. Credit.

Bon Voyage, BBE.

Nature Girl
08-16-2012, 01:20 PM
Took my DD to the airport yesterday and DID NOT eat over it.
Got three more job rejections yesterday and DID NOT eat over it.
Our town is threatened by wildfire; my friend is staying with us because she was evacuated; smoke and danger everywhere: DID NOT eat over it.
At least not yet...
That's all I can credit myself for right now

08-16-2012, 01:26 PM

Official weigh-in day: 250.0!! Figures it would withold that 0.1 to be under 250:mad: OH WELL life goes on and there's always next week and hey, I'm not 255 anymore! and hey! it focuses me back on tracking my points this week... DH is settled enough-we have a food shopping routine planned around recipes and a grocery list. *credits x 4*

I upped my exercise goal by 60min this week to 200minutes. I have done 40 today *credit* walking to get painting supplies from the *shhhhhh don't tell* dollar store. I have a great plan for these canvases all due TOMORROW so I am binge-working today, and happy for it! Must go. Many hours of work ahead of me.

Thanks helpingrachel for the Peter Walsh quote which is now my new avatar!:hug:

For BillBlueEyes:There is no rushing a river. When you go there, you go at the pace of the water and that pace ties you into a flow that is older than life on this planet. Acceptance of that pace, even for a day, changes us, reminds us of other rhythms beyond the sound of our own heartbeats.
- Jeff Rennicke, River Days: Travels on Western Rivers

Have the best vacation you ever had. (lol no pressure there eh?!) See you in two weeks!

Lexxiss here's one for you:

Sometimes, if you stand on the bottom rail of a bridge and lean over to watch the river slipping slowly away beneath you, you will suddenly know everything there is to be known.
- A. A. Milne, Pooh's Little Instruction Book :)

08-16-2012, 01:41 PM
Good Morning Coaches,
Day five NO SODA CR! Thanks for all the congrats the real test for me will be when I pass the one month mark. I have no teeth and unfortunately my gum line/bone structure in my mouth has reached a point where I can not even be fitted for dentures anymore :mad: So there are some things that I am unable to eat because of this. Like in the salad last night they had a celerey stick, a carrot stick and a sliced green pepper, I knew I couldn't chew any of those so I gave them to my friend. I also only used a small amount of dressing CR and it wasn't my usual choice of blue cheese CR. My neighbor's 10 year old grand daughter was missing all day and most of the night, they found her safe and sound just after midnight, I did not eat over that CR! The scale this morning said I was 269.5 I have a doctors appointment this morning so we will also see what his scale says.
I will write more later.
BillBBE Nope I didn't take the picture I found it online and thought it was really pretty and appropriate especially headed into the fall/winter up this way.

08-17-2012, 07:49 AM
Hi Friends... we are leaving for our adventure. I am going to write down all that I eat, read my cards (I've reading the chapters on going on vacation & dining out) do the best I can while on the road, have healthy snacks in the car, and will try to make good choices.

I don't know if I'll have internet access. I stll have a 'dumb' phone and can't get online via that. DH can via his fancy phone from his job. I am not suppose to use it, however.

Have a great week. Always remember to treat yourself as kindly as you would treat a good friend.

08-17-2012, 09:01 AM
Good Morining Coaches,
I had a good day yesterday but very busy that is why I did not post until this moring and it will be a very short one as I am on my way out the door for another busy day! I did follow all the Beck Steps yeaterday CR with the exception that I had a Rum and Diet coke with my DH last night at the end of a very hectic day. I am down another .02 on the scale this morning CR and I have made arramgements to get a mimi trampoline. I figure that I can put that at the back of the family room and use it while we watch some TV in the evenings. If I can do this in addition to the daily walks that would be great.
I hope everyone has a very good day and if anyone would be interested in posting their meal plans to give me some ideas on how you strcture your day that would be great I am starting that next week and want to work on it this weekend. Favorite recipes would also be helpful.
Totta for now

08-17-2012, 10:47 AM
Good morning, everyone! I exercised, wrote, and ate 100% on plan yesterday. Those are always good days.

WI: +0.25kgs, Exercise: +60 660/1400 minutes for August, Food: 100% op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

maryann: I hope your thesis writing went well!

Nature_Girl: yay for all those DID NOT eats! Scary photos on the news from Washington -- take care!

onebyone: Yay for all those credits -- I especially like the food shopping routine. I hope the dollar store paints work well for what you need!

Jaye68: So glad the 10 year old was found -- scary. Yay for Day five of no soda!

Beverlyjoy and BillBlueEyes: travel blessings!

Iwanttowin: cool about the mini-trampoline. I would love to know how that works for you.
We have a recipe thread here:

Here's my plan for today.

Breakfast: 1/2 c. cereal, 12 chocolate chips (microwaved for 1 minute, stirred every 15 seconds so the chocolate melts but doesn't burn), two big spoonfuls of yogurt cheese (then microwave 30 more seconds, stirring the yogurt in half way through)

Lunch: tempeh sausage crumbles ( smashed with a little yogurt cheese and mayo to make a sandwich filling, 2 slices of homemade bread, roasted mixed veggies. I made the tempeh sausage crumbles yesterday and it makes enough for three lunches, so that will come together pretty quickly. I also have in the back of my mind that DH may want to go out to lunch after his doctor's appointment. I have lunches pre-planned at our favorite lunch spots, so I'll swap in the lunch for that restaurant if that happens.

First afternoon snack: small dish of ice cream at the dairy when I take milk bottles back to the dairy. Ice cream isn't triggering for me so that's the one treat that I still enjoy in a planned and controlled way.

Second afternoon snack: 1/4 c of walnuts mixed with chocolate chips

Dinner: veggie pasta. I put the recipe in our recipe thread, but it's really more method than recipe.

That will probably be it. But I would also allow the popcorn DH makes some evenings after supper. Usually veggie pasta is filling enough and ends up late enough in the evening that we don't need an evening snack.

08-17-2012, 11:17 AM
Hi Coaches!

:cheer: :cheer: Cheering us all on! Steps we take every day make a big difference as we focus on our diets and our Beck skills. I weighed this morning and have a food plan. I'm short on time because I decided "spur of the moment" to go to Denver w/mom so I could complete some needed chores.

Jaye, yay for 5 days without soda! Thats a big deal! Kudos for using your new found resistance skills!

Iwanttowin, I'm glad gardenerjoy posted her plan for today. I'm in a back to basics phase because I've been doing this for awhile. I have been following South Beach Diet for 3 years now and have recently made a shift towards Vegan. There are lots of forums here (South Beach for one) where people post their daily meals. You might check around.
B-green smoothie (kale, cucumber, ginger root, peach) and two protein powders.
L-Superfood salad w/tofu and nuts...balsamic dressing
D-Bean tostada...refried beans, little cheese, lots of lettuce and salsa.
Evening snack-Soy yogurt.
I've adopted the Thinking Thin idea that if I don't "need" a snack I don't plan it in, however, I do have backups for a snack if I need one, usually 15 almonds.

Ok, gotta run! You are all the best!

08-17-2012, 06:22 PM
A la gardenerjoy. I think posting here is of immense help to me -- I often write posts in my head without actually getting them down here -- but I think I spend too much time on the writing.

Last week was not a green exercise week, but we had five grandkids in the house, two of whom I haven't seen for about four months. When the 7-year old girl said to me, "can you stay home and let me braid your hair?" I put my gym plans aside.

This week WILL be a green week. It's also the week that I'll stop drinking wine in the evenings, because there is no way I can drop weight and drink wine. ::sigh:: Last night I didn't have wine and the scale dropped by 1.5 lbs. There can't be a clearer sign.

Major trigger-food credit: yesterday evening, I was running around buying house food, about 3 different stops. Was already grumpy from too much LA traffic, and had consumed some rare, unplanned food for lunch. Was all set in my head to get back on track and then the DP texted, asking me to stop and get chili cheese fries for the kids. Now, these are a major craving of mine, especially during my menstrual cycle, which I had just begun. Credit for driving an extra 1/2 hour to get these, waiting in the drive-through, driving home with them smelling up the car -- and not having on single bite! Credit for not having a single bite when I was so angry about having to do this. Sheesh, it was hard. And in the future I think I'll exercise my right to say NO to requests like these. But I did preserve my sanity and my plan. So credit!


08-17-2012, 11:36 PM

Must get to bed at 6am comes early.
Tomorrow I need to remember to make a plan and to follow it and to drink my water. I'm super-cranky today but I have been working very hard and am just plain worn out so it's off to bed with me.

Weighed in this morning *credit*and saw: 250.7 Oh well... salt eh?


08-18-2012, 08:04 AM
Hi Coaches!

Committed to checking in...haven't weighed yet. Will do when I get upstairs. At work today. Saturday is the day when there's lots of food sitting around that coworkers pick at. I'm committed to NO CHOICE. I have a plan for

MaryContrary, well you DID make it through the CCF escapade. credit. Occasionally, I will get really tired of staring at a plate of really off plan food (set in a community spot by a coworker.) I give "time" for it to be eaten...then finally figure it is acceptable for me to put it on a higher shelf. My coworkers know I don't eat that stuff, but would love to. Picking up your trigger food has got to be hard.

OK, need to get ready for work..

Sending Beck support out today!

08-18-2012, 10:34 AM
We did end up going out for lunch yesterday, but it went according to plan. I graded myself at 90% on plan because I didn't 100% follow what I had written, but swapping out a pre-planned restaurant meal is doing pretty good in my book. Most of my weight loss happened with 80% and 90% days. But putting together a string of 100% days has always been my best path when too many 60% and 70% days are messing me up.

WI: -0.35kgs, Exercise: +45 765/1400 minutes for August, Food: 90% op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Lexxiss: way to go having a plan worked out for what you can predict will be a challenging day at work.

onebyone: Farmers Market today? Hope it goes well!

MaryContrary: I'm impressed that you could get take-out and be angry about it and still not eat it. Saying "no" next time seems like a good plan. That food should surely be a rare treat for anyone, no matter what they weigh. Rare treats, I think, should require effort by the people getting the treat -- they'll appreciate it more.

Greetings to all and sundry! Have a terrific weekend!

08-18-2012, 05:26 PM
Hello everyone,
This will be quick as I am off to work. I have had a busy week, it is my own fault as I am off work next week, so I ended up working more this week to be able to get next week off. I did notice that since I am worn out the snacks in our office were appealing to me yesterday. Usually I am fine with them sitting there and I don't touch them. I had a jujube and then I wanted more...yikes. I ate a handful. To me that is a handful too many. They were not planned. I don't like that feeling. Hopefully today will be better at work on the snacking front. I know you may say it was just a handful of jujubes but to me it is that feeling of the slippery slope.
I hope everyone has a great day.
Take Care

08-18-2012, 10:48 PM

Long, but successful market day today. Visited my art show downtown afterwards and then we had a breakast out for our dinner.

I ate unplanned food at the market this morning, and not a little bit. Over tired contributed and also I have not nailed my foodplan back down since DH's diagnosis. I/we have been so busy finding recipes for him, getting ingredients, planning what we can eat etc., that I have not figured out how to fit al that into my pre-exisiting WW foodplan. The two don't completely mesh as he is full fat and I had given that up. So I need to get a handle on this before my 250lbs either stall there or clibs upward. I want it to go down down down.

Have a great night.

08-19-2012, 09:08 AM
Hi Coaches!

Checking in...weighed this morning and have a plan for today. I'm short on time as work is calling. Yay for planned exercise while making $$. Sunday's are very busy.

Ann(Newlifestyle), yay for recognizing that slippery slope, even though it is just a small handfull.

:wave: everyone else!

08-19-2012, 10:43 AM
My snacks weren't reasonable yesterday. I think I wasn't that happy with my food plan. I've got one I like better today.

WI: -0.2kgs, Exercise: +60 825/1400 minutes for August, Food: 70%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Newlifestyle: Good for your in noticing that fatigue led to office treats becoming more tempting than usual. Useful information there.

onebyone: kudos for recognizing that your plans aren't meshing. That's a good first step for reworking things.

Lexxiss: hope you have a great day at work!

Nature Girl
08-19-2012, 01:06 PM
I think I would have been OP with food the last three days if I had made a plan, except for evening snacks. I just haven't made it a priority.
Have hardly left the house--I'm in that after holiday let down with my girls all gone--blahhhh.
Two nights of rule breaking snacks- made brownies one night when even DH wasn't home (not that he could eat them because they weren't gluten free) The good news is only ate three large, and threw away the last half of the third because it wasn't as good as I hoped. Got DD#3 to come get them the next morning so they didn't cause continued damage. The next night was ice cream from DQ-it was just so damn hot and I had such a felt good I have to admit.
Bike is broken so I'm planning to walk or hike today & tomorrow.
Rained this morning-hallelujah for us and especially for the fire fighters! Cleaned the air of the heavy smoke smell also.
Made a plan this morning and with luck can walk before evening because rain will also cool us down - 102 yesterday. I want air conditioning for Christmas! But that would be $17,000. And I guess I wouldn't need it at Christmass :)
newlifestyle- One of my rules is "No eating standing up.
" and that really helps with office junk food--it is rarely good enough to load onto a plate, walk to my desk, sit down and eat---and if it is, I can usually talk myself out of it by then, or at least moderate the size
onebyoneIt is tricky to coordinate plans, (yours and his) but at least you are both talking about plans, so you're talking the same language! Now it is details instead of your plan and his habits and food preferences...two different worlds
Lexxiss- paid to exercise--I need that! Mostly the no choice part. And good way to reframe it!

08-19-2012, 01:49 PM
Good morning coaches,
Thanks for being here for me. I had a much better day yesterday. I was op. I was tired from working late and I was going to order bacon and eggs at work, they are my comfort food at night when I am tired. One of my co-workers had oatmeal packages and I had a package of oatmeal and an apple instead. That is a first for me at work. I usually pack my own lunch/dinner but once I decide on having unplanned breakfast for dinner I do that. Yeah for not having an unplanned meal that would offer me comfort. I realized the oatmeal is a good comfort food for me.

Onebyone- Congratulations for a successful market day.
I am watching intently to see what sort of plan you adopt to mesh with DH. I feel like I need help in finding a plan that works for me. I still am following calorie counting. Maybe I need to eat clean regardless of my plan. Not sure, I do know I am still struggling with this.

Lexxiss- Have a great day OP. How awesome your work gives you a workout while getting paid. I love when work is busy as I tend to not think about food.

Naturegirl, how nice to have your dd visiting together. Sometimes I too get sad when my sister goes back home after visiting me. She wants us to live closer but she loves the busy fast paced lifestyle and I like the relaxed, slow placed lifestyle for my day to day living. I can't believe how expensive Air Conditioning would be.

Gardenjoy- Congratulations on making a better food plan today. As I read your previous post, I realized I need to stop that all or nothing thinking. Even if I am OP 85% of the day I should be happy instead of wanting to be OP 100% of the day.

Hello to everyone out there. I hope you are having a great day. May all your struggles be minimal and remember to give yourself credit for all you are doing.

Take Care

08-19-2012, 03:48 PM
I decided to count the 2 1/2 hours spend mowing the lawn as a workout. I am sore all over today, which seems to justify the green smilie sticker.

Credit for resisting another Rabbit Hole Food: I love pizza, and will put it on my plan in moderation. But the DP wanted one rather late the other night (messing with the plan in my head) and so instead of giving in and eating it, I changed all the doorknobs in our room, and didn't even stress-eat when I accidentally locked us in the room before finishing the doorknob installation! CREDIT.

Today I face a BBQ and birthday cake, but not much trigger foods are going to be here. The biggest challenge will be to limit my portions and not cave in to standing-eating. I will do it!

Next week's goals:

* No wine in the evening.

* Green week (although shooting for a blue) despite the stress of beginning teaching on Tuesday.

* Making lunches and snacks night before for my teaching days.

* To get below 180! Weighed in this morning at 180.4. I can do it!

You're all doing amazing things!!! xoxo

08-20-2012, 05:42 AM
Hi Coaches!

Yesterday I lived onebyone's recently shared nightmare....the boss was baking brownies when I arrived at work yesterday. I "had" one small piece, then continued to cut little slices off throughout the day. Now I figure it was probably two brownies in all *BUT* some really poor resistance techniques. I'm sure the pan will be there this morning. I think I'll transfer them to a plate, cover them and put them in the walk in cooler. It will be much easier to resist if they're out of my continual view.

I haven't weighed yet...I'm sure I will. DH and I have added a healthy addition to our daily fare since we weren't getting enough greens. When I get home from work I make us both a big salad and we sit and enjoy it while we talk about our day. credit. and thanks to Dr. Furhman for the reminder.

NatureGirl, great that you recognize that your eating would be helped with "a plan". Kudos . I hope the rain is coming your way.

Ann(Newlifestyle), great choice with oatmeal and apple VS bacon/eggs. I actually brought a small box of oatmeal to work. When I find I "do" need to eat it comes in quite handy.

gardenerjoy, great that you know that your snacks are better when you like your plan. For several months I was trying all kinds of new dinner combinations, which I really didn't enjoy. It finally came back to the automation idea...If we have 4 or 5 meals that are nutritionally sound and we both really enjoy...why keep looking for something better.

MaryContrary, major credit for coming up with a distraction project to avoid the late night pizza. It definately would not have helped with your goal on the scale.

Speaking of foods we enjoy...I have a beautiful electric pressure cooker and DH/I both love black beans. We've been eating our organic refried beans from a can for the past month. Last eve I timed it...10 minutes to prep all the ingredients and 25 minutes in the PC. Now we have beans for the rest of the week. credit.

08-20-2012, 10:43 AM
I was less hungry yesterday than normal. I figure since I complain with much resentment on the days that are hungrier than normal, it's only fair to acknowledge with gratitude the days when I'm less hungry. The low-hunger days are less frequent than high-hunger days, but they do happen. Maybe they will come along more often if I remember to notice them.

WI: +0.6kgs, Exercise: +60 885/1400 minutes for August, Food: 90%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Nature_Girl: good job for getting back at it with both a food plan and a plan to exercise.

Newlifestyle: cool to discover that oatmeal is both a treat and a comfort while still being a good choice!

MaryContrary: great plan for the week you start teaching -- good luck!

Lexxiss: ouch for re-creating onebyone's nightmare. Sounds like a great plan to get that fixed today. I like the idea of a salad as the moment for talking the day over.

08-20-2012, 05:21 PM
Hi Everyone,

Once again a long time between posts. I'm here now because I'm leaving work early today to take Dexter for his last set of immunizations and I don't want to get too involved in a project and then feel rushed.

I'd love to report that everything has been on plan and things are going smoothly. I have been weighing almost everyday, again it's staying the same. It's Einstein's theory of insanity, doing the same things over and over again and expecting a different result. Nope until I start to do things differently that scale is not going to move down. Dexter has now been with us for 5 weeks and in that time I think I've had 3 nights of a full sleep, being even moderately tired really makes me slip up. I need to get organized and maybe by doing a food plan for a week at a time that would help. I always think I should do a batch of cooking at a time and freeze single servings to have on hand. And lately I've been waiting for it to cool off and that has not been happening. Probably just another excuse!

I have been reading my ARC card and that's the one consistent thing. Once again it's time to focus and get going! At least I can give myself credit for getting back onboard with a slight increase on the scale.

Happy Monday to all :wave:

08-20-2012, 07:47 PM
Hello everyone,
A lady from work was talking to me in the cafeteria and she was mentioning she is doing a course to become a trainer/nutritionist. I was talking about the struggles I have been having with creating a food plan and my fear of eating too many calories. She asked me if I could be a guinea pig for her and she is going to develop a meal plan for me. She also mentioned about different fitness routines and I realize this is stressing me out as I feel I have too much on the go right now. I would much rather walk/run more often as I can fit that in to my day. I know I shouldn't be overwhelmed but I can't help it.

Gardenjoy--kudo's for being 90% OP and having 885 minutes of exercise for August.

NatureGirl: I hope your bike gets fixed soon. I enjoy your riding adventures. Enjoy your hike.

MaryContrary: Congrats for not eating Pizza even though you got locked in the bedroom. I think that would stress me out. Next weeks goals is a great idea. I need to do something like that.

Lexxi: Wow that is scarey living the brownie nightmare. Great idea to put them in the cooler. I have always been afraid of pressure cookers. I need to read up on them as they cut down the cooking time.

Onebyone - hello, I hope you had a great day.

Tazzy - I can't believe it has already been 5 weeks that Dexter has been with you. Congrats for reading your ARC cards.

Bill - I hope you are having a wonderful time.

Hello to everyone out there.
Have a great day.

08-20-2012, 08:09 PM
Hi Everyone,
Today is my 9th day without soda! WOOOHOO CR. I've been mostly staying OP. Yesterday I was over at my best friends house because her daughter said she would color my hair for me, well after we got done everyone was hungry so Dona my BFF made some spaghetti, she fixed me a small plate as she knows I am watching what I eat and how much I eat. Well after I finished eating slowly and mindfully CR I went into the kitchen to put my plate in the sink and was talking with her and I saw a package of pound cake, so I got out one small slice, as I was leaving the kitchen half of that slice fell off to the floor, gravity is a great way to get you back on track LOL.

I spoke with my diet coach/therapist today and we laid out a few good plans but implementing them is going to have to wait until next week due lack of money.

Once my friend gets a picture taken of me I will change my profile picture so you can see the new color, it is an auburn color, my natural color is very dark brown that most people mistake for black.


08-20-2012, 08:37 PM

I had several off the wagon incidents yesterday. I started the day with a calorie bomb that was unexpected: one serving of a thing that was 400 calories! Wow. And then, due to being tired, frustrated, confused about what I am eating and my foodplan now that DH has a condition and I re-connected with my inner co-dependent, and feeling upset that the condition of my apartment is getting worse and worse and all I can think about is having a holiday- well it all just piled on-oh yeah and my tea room paintings deadline which was today-so I ate the calorie bomb and did the classic "who cares. I don't care today. What can I have next?" and I didn't buy more stuff but the things I made were SUPER calorie heavy as DH is eating, basically, Atkins/low carb, full fat/high fat and I have been following this and this morning I *credit* weighed in to see 253.7



I *surprise surprise*(NOT) dealt with my stress by eating.
AND.... what else would someone like me who has used food for 40 years to deal with stress/problems/emotions do?
OF COURSE I would use food for these reasons WHEN I DON'T HAVE A PLAN.

Beck101 here.

Plan plan plan.

I had better get a grip cause that 248 number is now 5lbs away from me. It could be salt at this point. It may not be that. My gifted body loves to put on weight and really doesn't like to let it go very easily So. I need a shake.:dizzy:
And a plan.

It was a lot easier the way my DH ate before. It was so obviously BAD and OFF LIMITS that I could just say no to the junk food, the sweet things, the non-diet drinks, the white bread. Obvious. Now he eats what I eat, but full fat and I LOVE full fat. LOVE LOVE LOVE it. So, now what do I do? Cook his full fat and mine low fat? That's not gonna work. My work load has already doubled as DH now has to have a breakfast before he's off to work as work only has food he can't have. I also make dinners now, every night. And the dishes pile up and up when I am also trying to get my artwork done and meet my deadlines. Something's got to give and it seems to be my food choices. But there is now way I am gaining my weight back and no way I am not going to meet my personal goals by my birthday next year no no no. So, I am returning to weight watchers which is how I got this 40lbs off. It keeps me fcused and I will have to just *accept* that I eat only small portions of the food I make DH. He may have unlimited portons but that's my tradeoff for having fruit which is more important to me and not important to DH.

I'm going to work this out and I am going to have an apartment that I *love* and not just "live in". Change change change. I MUST change. If DH can make his major changes so can I.

Geez this is hard sometimes isn't it?

Thanks for listening.

08-20-2012, 08:46 PM
Yikes. Survived the weekend OP but today have lost my way. Dragged myself here to report it so I have someone to tell that I'm determined to NOT repeat today POINT!. Went way over my carb limit and surfed into dinnertime and more extra carbs.

My next move is to get that ARC card out, make a plan card, and get back on track.

No real excuse for this, I simply lost my focus. Getting it back as of NOW.


08-20-2012, 10:48 PM
Good Evening, Coaches.

I mailed Thesis Packet #1 1:00 this pm. It should have felt good but I have been very high anxiety these last days. Thankfully, I have stayed mostly on plan. A girl's weekend in Tahoe resulted in 36 cupcakes!!!!! being housed in my kitchen. On the whole, I am extremely proud of myself and scale said today just a half pound gain.

Newlifestyle: That is terrific getting a meal plan. I put my food in a nutrition computer program to make sure I am getting all the stuff I need to eat to be healthy.

Gardenerjoy: I agree. It is important to be grateful. It sees me through the tough times.

Cheers and hugs to those struggling with food tonite. I am thinking of you.

08-20-2012, 11:19 PM
Well Good Evening Coaches,
I haven't posted for a few days, I had to make an unexpected trip out of town this weekend and it didn't go very well as far as my plan went. We visited my brother who cooks like Paula Deen, and it was very good. Too good but I got some things done that I have been putting off for to long, and now the stress of a project not done is gone. Next time I visit maybe I can plan a little better and bring some things that are diet friendly. He lives way out in the sticks, so running to the store would be at least an hour trip and I just didn't have the time. Plan Plan Plan. I will do better.I just don't know how I could have gained 7 lbs in two days because I did hold back some, if I had just let completly go I would have been 15 lbs.
I havent got the mini trampoline yet but it is on the way!!! I had one years ago and I did like using it. I hope it will work out for me this time.
I did come home and get back on track today. CR. I read my cards and made a few new ones. CR I weighed this morning CR Even if it hurt a little and ate like I know you are suppose to even if it wasn't written down. I will make a plan for tomorrow and stick to it no matter what.
Ok thanks for listening and I will talk to you all tomorrow. Thanks for being there

08-21-2012, 09:07 AM
Hi Coaches!

I weighed this morning and have a plan for today. We had our big salad after work and when we sat down for dinner I wasn't hungry, but ate anyway, nothing "bad" just more than I needed. I'll continue to be mindful and try to notice this again tonight.

08-21-2012, 10:49 AM
I've never had anything from a food truck, so when I saw one yesterday selling baked goods, I swapped out my planned snack for one of their items. It was good and I'm glad I did it once. But I won't do it again. The frozen yogurt with fruit that I originally planned would have been just as tasty, more satisfying, more healthful, and less triggering.

Yep, Todd Akin is my congressman. You can thank my district for providing the country with some August doldrums water cooler conversation.

WI: NC in kgs, Exercise: +35 920/1400 minutes for August, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Tazzy: I hope your Dexter starts letting you sleep! Lack of sleep effects all of my abilities, including the ability to stay on plan. Good job getting back onboard!

Newlifestyle: cool that you have someone doing a meal plan for you. But, yeah, I think that plus a mention of fitness routines might feel overwhelming to me, too. Advice is good, but it doesn't mean you have to take it, especially not all at once.

Jaye68: yay for continuing to rid yourself of the soda habit!

onebyone: so sorry you're struggling. I am sometimes absolutely floored by how much effort it takes to have a healthy life. And sometimes SO resentful. And, then, it gets better. Maybe I'm getting better at it? Surely. That has to be some of it -- it's taking a little less time and energy. But it's also like a switch has gone on that helps me appreciate it all as a whole. These efforts (cooking, cleaning, gardening, shopping) are giving me the life I want and so I love them. Except, then, sometimes the switch goes off and I resent it all again. It's more on than off these days -- a definite improvement. I think it will get better for you, too. I keep writing thinking that I'm going to happen on what flips that switch, but I don't know what it is. Something about letting resistance float away and acceptance settle comfortably down.
I resent cleaning the kitchen less if I do it in small doses. It took a long time, but I'm now pretty much in the habit of cleaning it four or five times a day.
When I'm really feeling bratty about kitchen work, I arrange some entertainment -- get my husband to talk to me, or bring in the laptop and play video, or play music that I like. Music's the best because it actually makes it go faster. This one's a bit embarrassing but the best entertainment, if I'm home alone, is to learn all the words to a song. I print out the lyrics of something long and complicated like Leonard Cohen's "Hallelujah" or Cole Porter's "Anything Goes" and sing it over and over again until I memorize it -- that's worth several days of entertainment right there.
Automating meals helps. Eating essentially the same breakfasts, lunches, and snacks and only four or five different suppers has made us more efficient at all phases of kitchen work. But, of course, it took a long time to figure out what those foods were that we would be willing to eat repeatedly.

spanky: great job getting right back here and finding your focus again -- that's what makes all the difference!

maryann: Woohoo for Thesis Packet #1. I know how sometimes the anxiety makes it difficult to feel the relief and sense of accomplishment -- but try! 'Cuz it really is an accomplishment!

Iwanttowin: 7 lbs in two days is unlikely -- probably mostly salt-induced. Drink lots of water, while getting back on plan (of course), and it will disappear quickly!

Lexxiss: yay for another day of weighing in and developing a plan!

08-21-2012, 12:28 PM
Good morning everyone,

Two nights of sleep from 10:30pm - 5:30am, Dexter sleeps through the night if we let him stay in the kitchen where I'm guessing the tiles keep him cooler. It's working for now so no need to change it.

Weighed this morning and am up. No surprise as DH made fish & chips last night with the deep fryer (which was my idea to keep the house cool) so I'm sure that's a big part of it. Again need to get some planning done here. Tonight it will be veggies and meat. Lexxiss I love having salad, even more so when someone else makes it!

gardenerjoy Food trucks are all the rage here now, they have a website where you can follow where they will be each day. There's only one I want to try and they have crepes. The one day I did see it was on a walk to the library and I had already eaten my lunch. I agree with you that the snack you would have prepared yourself would have been just as good or even better.

onebyone One day at a time, one meal at a time if necessary. You have a lot of changes happening with DH's medical needs. You mentioned having to cook high fat for him and low fat for you, have you considered having a smaller portion of the high fat choice? I found when I changed from eating fat free yogurt to greek yogurt my portion size is significantly less and I feel much more satisified by it. I'm not convinced that everything low fat is a good route for us to follow. When you take out the fat, what goes in to keep the taste, more sugar and sodium?? With regards to your kitchen, does your DH contribute to cleaning? At our house, the ones who don't make meals do the clean up and it doesn't matter if they've been working all day or not. You may not have a "regular paying job" and feel that you have to do everything in the house to contribute but that is a notion that's been instilled in women for years and not valid in my opinion. Running a household is a job and an unpaid and unappreciated one most of the time.

Hi to everyone else :wave:, back to the paper on my desk. :comp:

Nature Girl
08-21-2012, 02:37 PM
Weighed in today and I'm back down to two weeks ago--the pound I was up last week is gone. Now time to concentrate (on exercise mostly) to go below that.
Fast food detour yesterday but got back on track.
Bike ride (well, fooled around on the bike in the neighborhood) in the evening to see if it was working--it is. When I finish this, I will head out because it isn't hot this morning.
Made a plan; leaving the dinner part open and will plan for dinner out; gotta figure out local places and good choices at each. I can then plan in dinner.
Tazzy: Glad Dexter is sleeping; tired makes good choices hard. Our dogs got in the habit of getting up a lot and we discovered that if we let them whimper for a while they would settle back down--they were training us to let them go out and check out any noise or smell that drifted in the house all night long. A couple rough nights convincing ourselves we weren't being cruel and everybody slept.
Newlifestyle: The AC $$issue is that we would need to put in a furnace w/ ducts and then AC; not depend on our baseboards and gas "woodstove". We have 10' ceilings and essentially one big room, so getting a room AC at Costco wouldn't work either, unless I just got one for the bedroom and then I would feel even more confined during the hot weather.
Iwanttowin: Anything that takes us out of our routine presents a challenge and a learning opportunity--next time you go to your brother's (or anywhere else) you will have strategies or at least know that you need new strategies.

08-21-2012, 05:06 PM
Hi everyone -- I fell off the grid -- sorry about that -- I've been working too much, doing everything too much -- including too much food. Dropped the ball on Beck and relaxation tapes....and reading everyone's posts to catch up I see that when we get busy, into new or different surroundings, overwhelmed, overbusy, is when we fall off track....and that has been what I have done...but the "track didn't move" -- I did! So, picking up Beck, going to listen to tapes today, and at work on break, and at home tonight, and make a plan for food tomorrow and get back on track.



Nature gal -- you said: "Anything that takes us out of our routine presents a challenge and a learning opportunity" Thank you for that reminder -- I should see things as a challenge and learning opportunity. I'll make a response card for that...Also, thanks for the insight about "how much time it takes to have a healthy lifestyle -- that is so true -- it takes no time no planning to constantly be running through fast food, or just eating mindlessly and on the're just full of wisdom lately :hug: what a help y ou are! :hug:

Tazzy -- I agree sleep is so important, last week I was going on 4 hours of sleep, then 3, then 2.....we just have to make sleep a priority.

Maryann -- Yayyy on getting your thesis mailed....what is your thesis about? Inquiring minds wanna know! Without knowing, it's easy to think: " mating habits of the green eyes, blue speckled New Guinea newt!" Of course that is what a gekko would think....heh heh....And YAYYY for resisting the 36're obviously a better woman than I am....if that had been me, I might have been OFF program, and only 32 cupcakes would have arrived in Tahoe!

Spanky, good for you for drawing a line and saying "no more."

Onebyone -- so glad you survived the food frenzy -- it's **** when that happens....but we just have to dig in deeper....hang in there!

Jaye -- YAYYY for cake falling on the floor -- I was dieting once and ordered cheesecake and while waiting was feeling guilty....then it arrived WITH A FLY ON IT!!! I considered that quite a sign, and sent it back and said I had lost my appetite for Also, YAYYY for days without cola.

Newlifestyle (Ann) YAYYYY for finding someone with knowledge who is going to help you develop a plan.....keep us posted how that works....and yes, you have to find the exercise that fits best for you....

Lexxis -- new acronym -- BWB -- Bosses With Brownies -- as if life isn't hard enough....and I know what you mean about just one little slice, and before I know it I've "one little sliced" myself into eating TWO brownies...I always have to deal with BWD -- Bosses With Doughnuts -- he brings them to our Tuesday meetings...and that SMELL from the box...oy vey!

MaryContrary -- yes, moving the lawn counts! Sounds like good exercise!

Hope I didn't miss anyone -- oh yes I did!

BBE -- Bill -- wherever you are -- your Beck Gals are hoping you're having a marveouls, relaxing, fun time!!!!

EVERYONE: If any of you have signed up for the Fall Back to Basics Challenge, tomorrow (Wednesday) at midnight central time is the deadline to either sign up and post starting weight, or if you have signed up but want to update y our starting weight, then ya need to do it.

BECK TEAM HUG! :hug::hug:

08-21-2012, 06:45 PM
Hello Coaches

Quick post to say hello. I hope you are all having a great day.
I walked today for over three hours. I am exhausted but I have a haircut booked so I need to go.
I had a great OP day. I packed my food and stuck to my plan. I will just follow my plan until she makes my plan.
Have a great evening and I will hopefully post personals once I am done at the hairdresser.
Talk to you all soon.

08-21-2012, 10:35 PM
Good Evening, Coaches. Worked like a dog today at school. Credit for deciding to come home and eat dinner with my family instead of making them go out to dinner. I will just work from home later tonite. It is so nice to be home with DH and DS. I need to remind myself to give myself breaks. OP at school which (for those who knew me last school year) is a terrific miracle.

Iwanttowin: Boy, can I relate to trapped with no OP food to eat. So much of my success depends on my plan. I have had to learn how to "look different" by bringing my own food, eating early and not eating at a dinner table with everyone else, special ordering at a restaurant. My mind says, "Stop making a scene." I hate to look different but I am more important than the person other people want me to be.

gardenerjoy: OK. I am googling Todd Akins. I really need to read the paper more.

Elizabeth: I am working towards my Master in Fine Arts in Writing. each packet is about 40 pages of my own work and critical work of other people's writing. My Thesis will be a book of short stories about women finding peace within themselves.

Naturegirl: Congrats on biking. Even the little jaunts are worth it. it clears our head, and gets us out of ourselves and away from thoughts on food.

08-22-2012, 04:50 AM
Good Evening Coaches,
Today was an OP day for me, giving myself credit for eating slowly and mindfully while sitting down, for taking the stairs at least once twice today, for NOT eating any candy or popcorn when I played Bingo this evening and for drinking 3 bottles of water while I was playing Bingo which goes from 6 PM to 7:45 PM. I am having some trouble with not having much around the house that is OP that I can use for lunch at least until I get more money next week then I can buy the stuff to make salads for lunch *yummy* my plan is to alternate between green salad and fresh fruit salads. I have also gotten my neighbor whom I eat dinner with interested in trying different stuff like CousCous (sp?) and Quinoa and Wheat Bulgur and brown rice instead of white rice, she is also trying to lose weight to lower her cholesterol but is not using the Beck system at the moment.... hmmm maybe I will just have to get her a workbook for a gift and get her started on it, anyone know if they make one in large print?
When I weighed this morning I was down 1/2 a pound. I have made a habit of getting up between 7 AM and 8 AM to weigh myself!

Anyways I need to get to bed
Night everyone

08-22-2012, 09:01 AM
Hi Coaches!

:cheer: Cheering us all on!

Last night we ended up at Whole Foods for dinner. I offered to split a garden burger/sweet potato fries w/mom instead of having my own. credit. I have weighed this morning and have a plan for the day. Work calls very soon so I'm off to make my green smoothie.

08-22-2012, 10:47 AM
Yay for a 100% OP Tuesday. I've been working for several weeks to get my Tuesdays to work well so I'm very pleased with that.

WI: +0.15 kgs, Exercise: +30 950/1400 minutes for August, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Tazzy: yay for better sleep!

Nature_Girl: glad the bike is working again for you. That should make for some fun exercise.

Elizabeth779: love this: A CALORIE DOES NOT CARE!

Newlifestyle: yay for lots of exercise and an OP day and a hair cut!

maryann: good job figuring out what you need to do for yourself around your work.

Jaye68: changing your Bingo habit from snacks to water is brilliant!

Lexxiss: half of a garden burger and sweet potato fries sounds just perfect. Hope you have a great day at work.

08-22-2012, 05:04 PM
I also brought down one of the Special k Peanut Butter Chocolate Protein Meal bars and snacked on that which helped curb any cravings for sweets. I'm down 2 pounds this morning, my goal is to be below 260 before the end of September and down to 240 by my birthday in November.

08-22-2012, 05:42 PM
Hi Everyone,

Read my cards, weighed, exercise yesterday was playing with Dexter and dragging him for a walk, Boy when he doesn't want to go he comes to a complete stop and digs in, it's hard to move his 40 pounds then! I had an upset stomach last night so dinner became oatmeal and froot loops of all things. I'm sure it says somewhere on the box that it's a great remedy for that. It was an sponataneous buy when I was in the grocery store and hungry. Big mistake for me. I am giving myself credit for going to a convenience store at lunch today and not buying the treat I thought I needed. Came back to my desk and ate my plums instead.

Dinner will be BBQ'd ham and some fresh green & yellow beans, beets, swiss chard and carrots from the garden. :carrot:

Just got the fall/winter schedule for the Sunday Zumba classes so need to get registered for those as well. I've missed it over the summer. :exercise:

Hope everyone is having a good day.

08-23-2012, 02:42 AM
This is Jaye68, I decided to change my user name to something a bit more Alaskan :D I weighed myself this morning and I am down 2 pounds! I have stayed OP today and read my Beck workbook and also my reasons for wanting to lose weight, I need to find my cards as I have temporarily misplaced them. This evening while at a friends place I asked her if she could measure my waist and I found out that I have gone from a 54 Inch waist to a 50 Inch waist!!! :carrot: I had been wondering for awhile why my pants keep trying to fall off :dizzy: well now I know!
I have also decided that I am going to get a puppy, my friends brother breeds dogs and he has a litter of Springer Spaniel Labrador Retriever crosses right now (it was an intentional breeding) and I really want one. I don't want to go thru another winter without a dog, by having a dog it gives me reason to get outside when it is -30 degrees below zero! It gets me walking several times a day EVERY day.

Tomorrow's challenge will be getting thru a birthday party with cake and ice cream without over eating. I am planning to allow myself to have a small piece of cake and ONE scoop of ice cream.

08-23-2012, 08:05 AM
Good morning coaches.
It is so funny how much better I feel after getting a good night's sleep. I have had busy days this week, catching up with old friends I had been neglecting over the years. None of this included food. Very strange for me, as I have avoided these friends because when we got together it was always a food/alcohol fest. I think we are defining new relationships that are not centered around food.
I walked again yesterday for over two hours, I slept like a baby. I have been eating well all week and walking a lot. I think bringing my own lunch and snacks with me have helped.
The weather is getting cooler and that allows me to be comfortable while I am out walking.
Hello to everyone and have a great week.
Take Care

08-23-2012, 08:12 AM
Finished 2weeks OP. my 1st diet choice is alternate day fasting, which I have committed to trying for 8 weeks. If I'm not happy with it I'll go back to WW, which has worked reasonably well for me when I didn't play around with the points too much! Am down 5 pounds, but I was down 5 pounds at the end of the first week, so no loss this week. I had 2 days of 500 cals, 1 moderate day of 1200 and the other 4 were normalish days. I think I averaged 1500-1600 cals a day over the week. So while I think I would lose a bit considering my weight with those calories, I think maybe this week was about evening out the water loss from week one, if that makes sense. If I don't lose anything in week 3 I'll have to think again! But still happy to,keep going.
Have been reading my advantage cards, cycling every other day and reading this site for inspiration. Back to school in just under 2 weeks (I'm a teacher) so I hope to be feeling confident enough about what I'm doing by then. Also sort of hoping it'll be easier as I'll be busy as can be by then.

08-23-2012, 11:21 AM
I exercised, had a 100% OP day, and wrote -- all in a day which featured several hours of general ickiness. I'm grateful that my routines and regimes and habits kick in to make all of that possible. I've been reading The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg -- an excellent companion to the kinds of things we talk about with Beck.

WI: -0.15 kgs, Exercise: +25 975/1400 minutes for August, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Jaye (Midnightsun68): I like your new user name -- it goes nicely with your avatar! I love the idea of a dog to promote a walking habit.

Tazzy: good luck wrestling with Dexter. There must be some strength training benefit there.

Ann (Newlifestyle): I'm so glad your sleep has improved along with everything else. Cool that redeveloping friendships has changed the food culture surrounding them.

Welcome, TeachMe! It sounds like you're off to a great start! Posting here daily really helps me keep on track even when I'm too busy to write more than a couple of lines about my day as a report to my coaches.

08-23-2012, 11:35 AM
Hi Coaches!

My step onto the scale this morning reflected my week of fluxuations between great/good OP eating AND several other generally accepted poor choices. credit for facing my # daily. Fortunately I have tools to correct my path of choice. I've had my green smoothie and am working hard at home *hoping* we can go try a new restaurant tonight which offers a vegan meal on Thursday.

TeachMe, :welcome2: agreeing w/ sounds like you are off to a great start. Which of Dr. Beck's books are you using for guidance?

:wave: everyone else!

08-23-2012, 12:01 PM
Hi Everyone!

Pretty good day yesterday, one unplanned snack and that was adding peanut butter to my apple in the afternoon. Exercise was an impromptu walk with Dexter at 9:40pm when he still had a lot of energy to burn before bed. At least he's bigger and barks loudly so I feel safer walking with him alone in the dark. He's quite brave until he hears the coyotes and then he's ready to go home.

Weighed, read ARC, ate slowly & mindfully. I'm going out for lunch today and we have not yet decided where to go. Hoping the one food truck I really want to try is close by, of course it was around the corner yesterday!

Lexxiss Good job facing the scale, I always try to remember it's only a number and as I have said before (can't remember where I saw this the first time) the scale is the most convenient way to measure our progress but not the most accurate.

Gardenerjoy Credit for an OP day!

Welcome TeachMe

Newlifestyle I can so relate to getting a good nights sleep. 4 nights now with Dexter sleeping through, we are really hoping its his new trend and not just a fad. I have a couple friends who I meet and it's always over food, one just had the lap-band procedure so our next get together will be an event at the zoo, there will be food but it's not the focus!

MidnightSun68 Like the new name. Our puppy Dexter is almost 5 months old, I could not believe how much work he was at night for the first month. The last time I had a puppy in the house was 14 years ago, how quickly one forgets and how much more energy I had way back then. The other puppy, Taz (where my user name comes from :)) was a bichon shih-tzu, he was really small in comparison to Dexter. We were told a bigger dog needs lots of exercise all the time and it's really true. It's keeping all 3 of us in the house more active than before and for that I am happy.

maryann Credit for a good start to the new school year.

Elizabeth779 Soooooooooooo NEW response card: "IT IS NOT OKAY TO EAT UNPLANNED FOOD BECAUSE YOU ARE TIRED, OVERWORKED, OR OVERWHELMED. A CALORIE DOES NOT CARE!" Thanks for the reminder, this is so true for me and I need to add it to my new cards.

:wave: to everyone else on the board!

Nature Girl
08-23-2012, 12:57 PM
Finally got on my bike yesterday - the day before when I promised to go after I posted my friend called for a shopping trip; what could I say? At least I spent 3-4 hours on my feet, even if it wasn't aerobic. Yesterday's bike ride felt great, and was on another beautiful trail in an area I am going to get to explore quite a bit.
Made a plan yesterday and when I had to switch it due to a meeting going long, etc I made OP exchanges so that felt good.
I'm feeling like my food is going really well right now...I was going to say hope I can keep that up, but in this case I don't like the word hope--it sounds kind of weak. It is up to me to keep up my healthy eating plan and actions--hope makes it sound like I'm a victim of circumstances or external forces. So here is that statement reworded:
"I am doing a great job staying on a healthy eating plan right now, and I intend to continue even when things change a lot in the next few weeks and there are a lot of challenges. I am strong and I can do this!"
Leaving this afternoon for a camping trip in my trailer--it's a women only thing about 80 miles away. I have a shopping list for OP meals, with a plan for the potlucks and possibly a planned in treat. Better to plan than to get a craving or feel needy and eat your way through a bunch of stuff. My bike will go along...I like biking in new areas.
Tazzy - sounds like you are really working the plan right now--good for you!
Lexxiss - credit for daily scale visits - I just can't do that yet.
Gardenerjoy-the Trifecta even with ickiness--tons of credit!!
TeachMe- welcome!
Newlifestyle- in my experience it's the walking (or other exercise) that puts you to it has multiple benefits
MidnightSun68- a new puppy-I'm so jealous! But with three dogs and two cats, we are at max right now.

No reports until Sun eve or Monday when I'm back from my adventure. But I will be writing them in my head to keep myself on track--thanks for being there even in my imagination!

08-23-2012, 03:14 PM
Hi Coaches

*credit* weighed in and saw a drop from yesterday's 253.5 to 252.3 this morning. It's all good. I am happiest when the scale moves down, even if I am doing the "two pound step dance" back and forth, back and forth, this month.

I'm avoiding the work of re-creating my foodplan. I am still up to my ears in work, still finishing up paitigns for the tea room. I have 9 "filler" paintings to do to take my display from "good" to great. I want members of the guilds to see that the space in the tea room and in the main gallery of this place, where I have more complicated paintings this month alongwith another member who does sculpture, are valuable spaces that can be fun. If some of my work sells too then that will cement it. But I never think anything will ever sell - even though I am a professional artist - but you can't make people buy anything and not only that, as soon as I think I have figured out my audience and what they want to buy, it changes. You just have to work to please yourself and let it all go.

See? Already off topic. Back to my foodplan. I can't re-join WW yet. I'll have to wait until the first week of September to do that. I am missing that structure but I know how to do it and what to do. Really, I need to write things down and make a committment on paper. I did join the biggest loser challenge. Not sure what that is except it is exercie challenges and I think that could be really really good for me. I'm willing to try.

I have a month until I go to Ottawa to do our performance art piece on the sidewalk from 7am to 7pm (!) and it'd be ret to be 10lbs less. FANTASTIC actually. I need to focus on those results and make them my reality.

Have a great day Becksters.

:welcome: TeachMe. Glad you've joined us.

08-24-2012, 03:48 AM
Hi Coaches
Credit me for only having 1 piece of birthday cake and 1 small scoop of ice cream like I planned and also only having 2 small glasses of lemonade. I weighed this morning and was up a pound, I seem to be the up and down dance right now. Today was an OP day. I got to see the puppies tonight and have decided on a male and have named him Yukon, he is chocolate brown with white on his chest and on the tips of his toes, he is a Springer Spaniel, Labrador Retriever Cross and is sooooo sweet, he is 4 weeks old right now as he is just starting to open his eyes. As soon as I can post pictures I will put them in my profile.
Anyways I have a busy morning tomorrow so I better get to bed.

08-24-2012, 10:32 AM
Thank you all for the warm welcome!
Went to bed hungry last night. At first it worried me and made me anxious, but something came over me and said it was okay. I have been a consistent night time eater, so the prospect of getting beyond that is quite exciting!

Today is an eating day for me, but I am sitting down and keeping track of what I eat. And even though I made Swedish Coffee Bread this morning I did give a big chunk to our lovely neighbour so it'll be gone by tomorrow's fasting day.

Feeling grateful. Or maybe proud, which is one of the things on my advantage list. Love the thought that a calorie does not care! I'm interested in the posts about puppies because my son is desperate for one! But not till we finish the house extension I say!

08-24-2012, 10:59 AM
I had a weird energies in my day yesterday and my eating slipped.

I mentioned a couple of weeks ago that a friend from high school is in hospice care due to a rare form of prostate cancer -- we think the end is near for him. Yesterday, a cousin had knee replacement surgery and something went wrong at the end, now she's on life-support and in a medical-induced coma. We won't know until later today how she's going to do. While that was all processing, I got an email from one of my book club friends that she wouldn't be with us at our meeting last night because her mother was in the hospital with heart issues.

It occurs to me that I might be better off emotionally as well as other ways if I made my food plan bedrock on those sorts of days instead of letting it slip out from under me.

WI: +0.25kgs, Exercise: +0 975/1400 minutes for August, Food: 70%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Nature_Girl: LOL at us all being present in your imagination for the long weekend. That happens for me, too, and it's so helpful to have my personal posse of coaches along everywhere I go!

TeachMe: terrific that you're adjusting to your new food plan.

Jaye (Midnightsun68): sounds like a wonderful puppy -- I like the name Yukon!

onebyone: I did the Biggest Loser challenge here on 3FC one summer and found it really motivating and fun.

Tazzy: Cool that Dexter means getting to take walks after dark.

Lexxiss: hope your home projects went well and you got to try the vegan meal.

08-24-2012, 02:50 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

I don't go to school on Friday so I feel I have some leisure to catch up with personals.

NatureGirl: I 100% agree that hope is a word which sets us up excuses. The hardest thing I have learned is to focus on the the footwork to be done and "let go of expectations/hope." I was called a "Hope Junkie" by my counselor last week. I "hope" my family will treat me differently. I "hope" i won't feel anxiety at my job. I am always disappointed. If I take care of myself and let God do the rest, I am much happier.

Big credit and example of letting go of my "hope addiction" : I said "No" to another weekend away. Even when the weekend was designed to be in my honor for my 25th sober anniversary. I feel guilty and I am uncomfortable But I made a committed to not schedule more than 1 event a month through next year. This is big change for me and I am willing to be uncomfortable. BEing away from home too much impacts my eating, spending and sleeping patterns. I need to stay home more.

Gardenerjoy: I feel for you. The scary stories of how fragile we really all are always make me very hungry!

TeachMe: Big, big deal to go to bed hungry. I have been working on it for two years and it still challenges me.

Jaye (Midnightsun68): Little changes like a puppy getting you out the door and out of yourself make big changes down the line.

onebyone: September is almost here. I know you will appreciate the support of your meetings, again.

Tazzy: Glad for the reminder of hungry isn't tired. I always get those two confused.

Lexxiss:I am "way into" finding new veggie meals now that I am doing "Eat to Live."

08-24-2012, 11:15 PM
Hi Coaches!

I weighed this morning and followed my plan to the best of my ability, resisting the urge to go out to eat twice (I was project-ing), and instead prepared two pretty easy meals. credit Tomorrow I work early and might not have any check in time.

gardenerjoy, sending supportive thoughts as you shoulder the hurts of many.

maryann, happy 25th! Kudos for honoring your commitment and staying home!

Good night all!

08-25-2012, 01:12 AM
Hi Coaches,
As promised here is a picture of myself with Yukon taken yesterday (8/23/12), he was content to snuggle on my chest. Anyways today was very much an OP kind of day except I skipped lunch but I also wasn't hungry I felt content around that time rather then hungry, a dear friend was in town for business from Anchorage and wound up having her afternoon free after the meeting we both attended so she and I hung out together over at Barnes and Noble and shot the breeze, I had a *Skinny* Vanilla Mocha and that was it! I got out and walked this morning despite the smoke in the air from a forest fire 25 miles south of here. Tomorrow I am headed up to the Arctic Circle with a friend so will be out of touch until I get back home which will probably be mid evening. I am looking forward to the drive, as I'm the passenger and can take photos and stuff :D

08-25-2012, 05:51 AM
I just ordered thee Beck Diet book from the library. Thanks for pointing it out!

08-25-2012, 11:15 AM
My cousin died. 57 years old and it's such a shock since no one expects that as the outcome of knee replacement surgery. I'm most sad for her mother, my aunt, who has outlived three of her four children.

My eating went out of control. But, today, I'm going to try the experiment I mentioned yesterday. Make my food plan my foundation, the one thing that I can count on in what feels like a pretty unstable world right now. I wrote a generous but reasonable plan with foods that I like.

WI: NA kgs, Exercise: +0 975/1400 minutes for August, Food: 50%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Jaye (Midnightsun68): cute picture of you and puppy! Yay for skinny vanilla mocha!

Welcome, jinee! Did you hear about the Beck books from our subforum? Which book are you getting from the library?

Thanks, Lexxiss and maryann for the words of support. Much appreciated today! And, maryann, congrats on 25 years sober -- however you choose to celebrate it!

08-25-2012, 12:58 PM
Hi! Glad to be home, sweet home. We had a wonderful vacation in Cape Cod. I practiced a few of my Beck strategies: NO seconds, leave a bite, taste the food, fork down between bites (most of the time) etc. I got home last night and weighed this morning. I am up four pounds from my weight before this trip. I got up today... have planned for a healthy day. I will give myself a bit of time to get back to my ticker weight or change it. I had good intentions of healthier eating - but, I did not have the willingness to do so.

As we left Cape Cod & headed for home I thought: goodbye ocean, sand dunes, salt water marshes, ocean sunsets, clam diggers on the beach, delicious seafood, houses with cedar shingles, lots of smiling people, 'Thickly Settled' signs, lighthouses, family and more.

At one of the Natural Resource Visitors Center I learned that the native people to Cape Cod ate mastadon some 6000 years ago. I was reminded that the Pilgrims first landed at the tip of Cape Cod, Provincetown. It was too barren so they went to what is now Plymouth, Mass. We will go back again.

We stopped on the Norman Rockwell Museum on the way home. It's so moving to see many of the original paintings used for his magazine covers.

I had lots of seafood. It certainly taste so good when it's fresh off the fishing boats.!

Trying to get back into the swing of things. I'll have to read your posts and catch up later today.

Take care now...

08-25-2012, 04:18 PM
Had a binge last night. I struggle with the credit business, so maybe was uncomfortable with saying I felt proud of myself yesterday. Then my good friend's mother died. That's 7 friends' parents in recent months and it makes me worry about mine. They are in their 80s but live very far from me so see them once a year at best. I found it all unsettling and somehow the trail mix became irresistible. In fact, I don't think it is irresistible. I know I made a choice to pretend I needed it because that's what I do.
And yet, credit for today. Despite a crummy night's sleep--what else could I have after the binge--I have stayed OP today and done my bike ride.

Gardenerjoy--I am so sorry for your loss. A big part of my previous weight gains gphas been down to bereavement, and like you, I think having the strong plan must be the way through it all. And look how far you've come!

Beverlyjoy--sounds like a fantastic holiday!

08-25-2012, 05:24 PM
Good afternoon, Coaches.

Gardenerjoy: I am so sorry about your cousin. My DH lost his father to a shoulder replacement surgery. Crazy vulnerable is the plight of we humans. I have your family in my prayers tonite.
TeachMe: I have learned to start over the minute I stop eating. I no longer count in days OP. If I binge until 9 pm. When I wake up at 7 am I have 10 hours of OP. This is a long race. It doesn't matter how many times you hop OffPlan, it matters how many times you get back on.
Beverleyjoy: I am jealous of your Cape Cod trip. I had mine all planned until it was cancelled in June. Hopefully, I will see it next June.

As for me, I had an OP day yesterday and today so far. Credit for step class and this morning yoga. Spending fabulous quality time with DS - reading aloud, teaching him to cook my black bean brownies, doing laundry.

Wave to Everyone else.

08-26-2012, 01:02 AM
Gardenjoy, I am so sorry to hear about your cousin. How shocking to go in for routine surgery and for this to happen. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Beverleyjoy, welcome back. Your trip sounds like it was wonderful.
Jinee welcome.
Jayne enjoy your drive to the arctic circle.
Maryann I too am a hope person. It is funny I never really thought about it until I read what you had written. Thoughts to ponder.
Hello to everyone else and have a great night.
I had a good day op but I am feeling that I need to make more time for me. It will be nice to get back in a routine once school starts.
Talk to you soon.
Take Care

08-26-2012, 11:30 AM
Hi Coaches

I'm sitting outside at my small, square, glass patio table. Boy it's heavenly out here right now. Warm, but not too warm. No humidity. No bugs. Lots of nice chirping sounds of insects--they even tak my mind off the traffic sounds beyond the back bushes. It's just a nice day and even nicer as I discovered I don't have a place to have to go to today afterall! I thought I had a committment today but it turns out my day is free and clear. And that's really what I need I need to free up the space in my head and clear out the old stuff. Decluttering for the mind.

I didn't make it to the farmers' market yesterday. Friday afternoon I came down with the worst "stomach upset" and I know it is related to all the food choices I have made. Not off plan but not good for my body either. I have been piggybacking on DH's foodplan and it's just not great for my body and I knew it, but I tried it anyway and it's obvious I have to get back to my foodplan pre-DH's diabetes diagnosis (which is fully under his control. That guy. When he makes a change he sticks to it. He's a great example for me.) Then I think I was truly exhausted from my non-stop summer of work and fretting and after waking up at 7am Saturday, the time I am usually arriving at the farmers' market to set-up, I sent them an email to let them know I wouldn't be there (useless-too late anyway) and I went back to bed and I slept right through until 3pm. I haven't done that in years. I just thought "whoa, I was really worn out." I was. Better today though. *credit for weighing in. Get this: yesterday 250, today? 253.5. Scales! Phooey! However, it is awesome to just not see 255 anymore. I am really under that. Great. Forward I go.

So this coming week it looks like my schedule is mostly clear and my plan is to spend the time really really applying myself to a clean up. I have made some progress over the summer months but not enough to be happy with it. I can do more but need some uninterrupted time and I am taking the time this week.

Also this week is a return to basics: to my foodplan being written out and planned daily. To finding my go-to meals for us both and perhaps taking a day to batch cook so I can freeze food in advance and just pull it out when we need it. That sounds heavenly to me right now.

I also begin the Biggest Loser challenge tomorrow so exercise will become a focus for the first time in a long time for the next 13 weeks.

Better go. I've attached a couple of jpgs. I really like the Queen Bee of Tea painting I did so here it is and I am including a shot of the tea room with a few of my paintings on the wall - one is missing but I wanted you to see the setting. So tough! I want those walls to be white! And yes, that's a real spinning wheel. This is an 1824 heritage building. It really clashes with my work. As Beck would say OH WELL:carrot:

gardenerjoy Very sorry to hear of all the losses you are experiencing. These events are always shocks, whether they are expected or not--more so if they aren't. :hug: Just remember that food did not cause these events and emotions to exist and so, food is not the cure to how you are feeling. You know this. When you feel overwhelmed, write it out. Please take care. So very sorry for your aunt as well. My condolences to her.

08-26-2012, 12:23 PM
It worked. Making my food plan the foundational support of my day improved my mood, my productivity, and my ability to cope with life. Who knew? Following a food plan does for me what I always hoped overeating would do, but it didn't.

WI: NC kgs, Exercise: +50 1065/1400 minutes for August, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

onebyone: Love the Queen Bee of Tea. I actually like contemporary paintings in early 19th century spaces. The simplicity of the forms in the setting reminds me to appreciate line in the art. As a writer, I sometimes get too caught up in story to remember to be visually attuned to artwork. Glad you're feeling better this morning!

TeachMe: good job getting back to what you need to do with an OP day and a bike ride.

Beverlyjoy: great to see you back home -- sounds like a lovely trip!

Thanks, onebyone, maryann, TeachMe, and Ann (Newlifestyle) for the supportive words.

08-26-2012, 01:50 PM
Good morning, Coaches.

Shopping for the week. Proud that most of my purchases for the household came from the fresh fruits and veggies and whole foods aisle.

My neck is really sore so I am not sure what exercise I will do. OP yesterday except for some nibbles of DS brownies which I taught him to make. They have black beans in them.

Best to all.

08-27-2012, 07:23 AM
Hi Coaches!

I just weighed and need to finish chores before work. Its been a rough week for me between mom/dh/work but I keep trying.

gardenerjoy, thinking of you and your extended family.

Jaye, cute pup! Thanks for sharing your picture...nice to "see" you, too!

08-27-2012, 01:36 PM
I'm already on about Plan D for the day. No activity makes me hungrier than changing plans. And I like planning -- I just also like it when my plans actually work. I just tore my planning sheet out of the notebook and started over. A clean slate. Now, I feel better!

WI: +0.2 kgs, Exercise: +60 1125/1400 minutes for August, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

maryann: hope the neck is better. I know how that effects every single movement through the day. Ice and naproxen help me.

Lexxiss: yay for "keep trying!"

08-27-2012, 02:05 PM
Hi Coaches

I have spent a lot of time this summer doing everything but what is always on my mind: getting my house in order. This is a week that I can dedicate to getting some projects done. I don't have any major deadlines or committments to complete this week and I can't say the same for September which seems to be loaded up already. Now's the time, today's the day to start. *credit* for planning and starting

*credit for weighing in: 252.2 this morning. Food is planned for today. Exercise is planned for today. *credit*

Off to have lunch now.

update: ENORMOUS credit moi for not eating over the assembling of the most horrific shelving unit known to mankind. Deceived by the Martha Stewart Living label I foolishly thought it would be a smart, easy, sensible thing to assemble but nooooooo. 8 hrs later and I almost trashed it twice. DH had to rescue me and I had to rescue him a couple of times during the process and we both had to hold our tongues. No matter. It's up. The before and after pictures can be found on the decluttering thread. I don't want to clutter this thread up after all my hard work today. A big difference was made in that corner of my apartment today. *credit credit credit*


08-27-2012, 04:25 PM
I totally blew program this weekend but am back on track today, I am doing the day where I eat breakfast and then have nothing to eat until dinner time. So far it is going okay, I am starting to "feel hungry" I put that in quotes because I am not sure yet if it is actual hunger or if it is just my body responding to the fact that it is getting close to noon time which is usually when I eat lunch.

The drive north was rainy and wet but still pretty, didn't get to see any wildlife except an arctic wolf who was taking a nap in the middle of the road! He or she moved too quickly for me to get a picture.

I get back into cell phone range and have a few text messages from my best friend telling me that her daughter had a miscarriage :( this would have been her second baby, they found out it was a boy and named him Noah. I also found out that one of my longtime neighbors passed away Saturday morning.

I didn't eat over this which is a good thing so I will give myself credit for that.

Thanks the pup is adorable and I can hardly wait for him to come home so I can start training him and just so I have some company.

Fall is definitely here, the leaves are changing and it is only supposed to be in the 50's today! I am looking forward to winter in some ways but not in other ways. The winters here in interior Alaska are long, dark and cold and often snowy.

I will write more this evening

08-27-2012, 06:58 PM
Finished the day OP! And actually planned my food for the next couple days. I have always resisted planning because I felt I was fine with flexibility. But today it occurred to me that it's not that I don't know how to cook a low-calorie meal, it's that if I don't have a plan I subconsciously allow myself to keep eating.

Anyway, I'm hoping tomorrow will be sane!

Midnightsun, I know what you mean about deciding if you're really hungry or if it just feels like time to eat. Some days I just can't tell.

Grateful to all who read and write here.

Nature Girl
08-27-2012, 11:46 PM
Did two smart things before I left on Thursday: first, realized that I would get to the campsite too late to bike, so I took my bike into town when I got groceries and rode around campus for an hour--fun! Also I remembered in advance to eat lunch before I headed to town so i wouldn't get hungry and go off plan--I think this stuff may be becoming habit!
Thursday: on plan through evening
Friday: OP until the shots around the campfire, but usually drinking a bit makes me want sweets and I avoided that so 'credit'
Saturday: wow, did I go on a sugar binge after a really healthy morning. But by dinner I had a sugar hangover and stuck to decent dinner and no liqour.
Sunday: OP except for quick stop mistake on the way home.
Unfortunately my bike got a flat tire Friday morning :(
Plan: Hike tomorrow morning right after breakfast, weigh in next, plan for the day and hopefully celebrate another mini goal with non-food rewards. My gut however tells me that I need to get busy with exercise in order to start racking up mini goal rewards.

08-28-2012, 11:29 AM
My day continued to defy planning and I ended up overeating over it. Darn it.

So, new rule. Snacks will only be eaten at home or from home.

I had been allowing myself one snack away from home -- ice cream (or custard or frozen yogurt) in the smallest size and in a dish. It's not triggering for me and it was a way that I could hold on to just a little of my former lifestyle that involved lots of foraging for treats while I was out and about. But I've noticed for several months now that it got me back into an old mindset. Every errand was potentially an opportunity to eat ice cream. It was the first thought I had when I thought of an errand (was there a place near there with ice cream?) and I'd get grumpy when I couldn't think of a good way to combine an errand with ice cream. Worse, I was finding myself, just like in the old days, inventing errands in order to get my ice cream.

That's all bad enough, but once in awhile it gets worse. Like yesterday when I was behaving the same way I did before I ever started this journey. Multiple stops, multiple treats, eating in the car as if I didn't have a rule against that. I even bought food at a gas station. I'm pretty sure that's the first time in nearly three years.

I came up with a metaphor. The ice cream exception is like tending a campfire on a hot, dry, windy day. Sure, if I'm careful and attentive enough, I can keep it from igniting a forest fire. But wouldn't it be more relaxing and fulfilling to make sure the fire is completely out and then take a nice hike? My life will be more peaceful with out this ice cream exception constantly on my mind.

I know how this will work. It will be an annoyance and an inconvenience for a couple of weeks while I adjust to snacks that only come out of my house. But the reward for that is years of more peaceful living with myself.

WI: NA kgs, Exercise: +35 1160/1400 minutes for August, Food: 50%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

08-28-2012, 11:36 AM
Hello Coaches

I know I wrote a post last night. Guess I didn't press send. No matter.

following through on day one of my week of decluttering/cleaning
weighing in this morning: 249.6 (under 250. great.)
making a decluttering plan for today
making a foodplan for today

An enormous bruise is forming on my forearm today. It's from that shelf though I don't remember what event exactly injured me. I bruise easily. It won't deter me from my plans today.

I have sent DH off to work, I have had breakfast, I await a short visit from a friend as she travels from her mom's place to her Ottawa place and she usually stops by and takes me for coffee. She'll be here anytime. After that, when I get back, I'll begin my work. Toe goal today is a clean clear living room floor.
My other goal is to eat sitting down. I've been eating often standing up. Not a lot of food, but I am eating at the stove, shoving it in! Now that I am creating calmer spaces, it will be easier and more inviting to sit down and enjoy my meals.

Bye for now. Have a good day yous guys.

08-28-2012, 02:05 PM
Hello ALL,

I am fairly new to the forum and I am ready to start the WS program, and I really need support. I find it hard to do it by myself because I d not have anyone to make me accountable for WI or logging daily. I am really looking for someone to just be a buddy. I know that I am delinquent and I know I can do it for 7-8 weeks. I just do not have anyone to email...etc... I really would like to just start. I have all the tools etc... I am not sure why I need the support but I do . Can someone find it in their spare time to be a buddy?


08-28-2012, 02:41 PM
Hi Coaches,
Just a quick post before I head off to my therapy session. I got on the scale this morning and was pleasantly surprised to see 265.9! That is down 2.2 pounds *credit* Yesterday I was doing the eat breakfast and then don't eat anything until dinner challenge and I only made it until 3 PM :( It is just something I will need to continue to work at. Today is my 20th day at 3FC and I am sooooo glad that I found this website and this forum it has really been wonderful.

Ciao for now

08-28-2012, 10:22 PM
Hello coaches,
A quick post. My son was at the dr's yesterday and she thinks he may have acid reflux or allergy's to food so we have to eliminate many things from his diet and track every thing he eats. This is working for me as I am eating OP, and preparing meals so that it works for his eating plan. Funny how easy it is when it involves someone else. I find it more difficult when it is just for me.
I am off to bed, got out walking today and just got home.
Have a wonderful evening. I am thinking of you all.
Take Care

08-29-2012, 01:25 AM
Hi Coaches,
I had a decent day of being OP, I've lost track of how many days I have been off the soda, actually I have stopped counting because I really don't think about even drinking it anymore. My therapist and I figured out that I have lost 8 pounds in 13 days of being OP! She is thrilled for me and I am feeling better and better each day. I am planning to get a support brace for my one knee to help ease the pain I sometimes experience going up stairs. We spent the last part of the session discussing Beck and came up with different ideas that I can implement. I am actually doing a bit more research on going low carb as a 3rd choice behind the portion control and the calorie counting.
Anyways if tomorrow is as nice as it was today I am going to get out and walk.
Have a good evening everyone

08-29-2012, 09:32 AM

*credit* weighed in to see weight rise overnight to 252.0lbs. Up 2.6lbs from yesterday.
*credit* for adhering and completing my clean up schedule for two days now-this includes yesterday.
*credit* made a plan for today's clean up.
*credit* for enjoying my new clean floor and emptier spaces
*credit* for eating from scratch
*credit for having vegetables at every meal yesterday

This morning I am feeling discouraged with my weightloss. Over the last week I have twice eaten much less than I am supposed to: once cause I just felt sick, and once cause I just forgot--this was Monday when I was assembling the shelf. After each of these days was when I saw the 249 numbers. As soon as I eat "normally" as in three meals, my weight goes up and over the 250 mark.

My :devil: inner critical voice tells me this is PROOF that I can't get below 250 EVER.
My :devil: says you don't know how to get below 250 and stay there. You can't do it.
My :devil: is actually telling me today to give up.

Give up? Really? A part of me wants to just give up but what I am really honestly feeling is tired. I've been moving lots of stuff around. It's heavy and awkward and my body is achey today.


Also, it is | in the middle | of projects that I get most discouraged. All I remember is the work I've done and then my :devil: says see? You didn't even make a dent. Look how much you didn't do and still have to do. Give up. and I am starting to feel tired of the constant focus and the lack of other things, fun things, in my life for this (teeny tiny) time period of my life and my mind wants to do something else.

It strikes me that as I am writing about my house clean up efforts, these words apply EXACTLY to how I feel about being 250lbs! It's nice, (it's great for shutting up doctors), that I've lost 40lbs, but the body, the photographs, the way I look and feel is better, but far, far, away from where I want to be even though it feels like I have had to work so very hard just to get here where I am less uncomfortable than I was but still uncomfortable.


BUT the *reality* is, this is when I turn the corner. IF I AM PERSISTENT... IF I JUST KEEP GOING... IF I DON'T GIVE IN... my environment will be permanently changed. If I stop now, it could revert and I will be discouraged as I can still visually see a big mess which is what I am working on today. From my seat in the living room area, I want to see a calm, clear, but fun visual horizon. Not the boxes and bags and piles of stuff that are impossible to decifer.

And weight-wise, giving up, or choosing to just not follow a plan, doesn't mean nothing happens. I won't be losing weight, and I won't be staying the same, I will be gaining, and what's truly worse, re-gaining my weight. Eating more veggies, and less everything else, is much easier for me to accept than it would be to accept back that 40lbs, or even 5 lbs., 2lbs, back, anything over that 250 is making me nuts. It's been 4 YEARS since I even touched 250. YEARS. I don't want to gain it all back in a few months and who knows how many more years of trying it would take to get back to where I am today.

I'm off to have a good day.
Hope you are too.

08-29-2012, 10:31 AM
It's going to be a packed three days to get everything done that I want done to meet my August goals and in advance of the remnants of Hurricane Isaac. We're hoping that it brings a couple of days of rain this weekend that are desperately needed. I've got mulch to spread, 220 minutes more exercise, 8000 more words, and other things on the list. Guess I better get to it.

WI: NA kgs, Exercise: +20 1180/1400 minutes for August, Food: 90%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

onebyone: love your discussion with the red-horned guy. And this conclusion: I'm off to have a good day. I'm going to go for that, too! Thanks for the challenge.

Jaye (Midnightsun68): Yay for seeing results of your efforts! The thing that helped my knee most initially was learning to do squats for exercise -- I started very gently at first, but as soon as my upper legs got just a little stronger I could feel the muscles working to protect my knees when I went up steps.

Ann (Newlifestyle): good luck with your son's elimination plan -- hope you figure it out. Cool that it's helping you out, too.

Welcome, Kimorea! What is the WS program? How did you find the Beck group? Are you reading one of Judith Beck's books? This group is all about being buddies for each other. It works better as a group, I find, because there's always someone here. I tried an email buddy once but it kind of just melted away. This group is rock solid and here 24/7.

08-29-2012, 04:18 PM
I hear the discouragement, I get frustrated and discouraged when the scale crawls back towards 270. Hang in there and don't give up, don't listen to your inner critic. Keep on program and read your response cards, maybe make one that says "What my inner critic says is NOT true!"
GardenJoy I had not thought about doing squats I will have to try that and see how it goes. I have been doing stairs at least once a week for several years because my therapists office is on the second floor of the building the clinic is in and they don't have an elevator. Anyways it is pretty outside and I told you all that I was going for a walk so that is exactly what I am going to do once I change shoes.

08-30-2012, 08:14 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Just waving this morning. Thanks for the good wishes for our eight day rafting adventure down the C_olorado River in the G_rand Canyon.

Wasn't just the rapids, was overwhelmed by the serenity: stars with Milky Way as we slept in the open on the sand; 1.8 billion year old Zoroaster Granite in the Canyon sidewalls; Ravens everywhere; (possible) California Condor way up; five Golden Eagles just circling; ruins from humans who braved the arid desert since the twelfth century. I never cracked the book we were encouraged to take along; didn't journal; didn't even take pictures (knowing that DW was clicking like mad). I simply laid back to experience the depth of time as I've never felt it before.

Eating was heavy, but not out of control - CREDIT moi. These rafting trips launch loaded with a quantity of food all of which must be eaten or discarded, so I had to watch steaks go into the garbage unless I volunteered to have a second; I didn't - special CREDIT moi for the many times I overcame the strong Sabotaging Thought that I should eat something so it wouldn't go to waste.

Hiked up side canyons for joyful exercise, CREDIT moi. It's a desert and the waterfalls overwhelm. Hard for my mind to balance that apparent contradiction.

Welcome to the new folks. I'll catch up on the posts as my brain reenters reality. Felt distanced from it all when the airport TV showed that one of the U.S. political parties had its convention, nominated its candidate, and I merely noted that the wife was wearing the predictable red dress. Would love to leave my brain back in the ether-less canyon while reality turns without me.

08-30-2012, 11:53 AM
I never made a plan yesterday, but I ate what I would have written, so I'm giving myself a passing grade for that.

I picked up the CSA box without going to the custard place by the train station -- the first time that I can remember in a long time. I missed the custard less than the quiet moments by the tracks with the always present possibility of getting to wave to an engineer.

WI: -0.5 kgs, Exercise: +90 1270/1400 minutes for August, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Jaye (MidnightSun68): hope you had a terrific walk!

BillBlueEyes: so glad you're safely home. We missed you! Sounds like you had a beautiful vacation with much wonderful and awe-inspiring adventure.

Greetings to all and sundry!

08-30-2012, 01:18 PM
Good Morning/Afternoon coaches.
Today has been a good day. I find that if I walk/run in the morning I are more motivated. Planning meals for the whole day is working well for me. It is weird how that works.
School will start back in a few days and I realize that I need to take care of me and not worry about being the only volunteer in the area, not really, it is just when you volunteer they always ask you to do more, I need to learn to say no when it causes problems with my healthy lifestyle.
Welcome back Bill. Your vacation sounds wonderful.
Hello to everyone else
I am off for another walk.
Take Care

08-30-2012, 06:07 PM
Hi Coaches

Weighed in this morning *credit* and saw a drop from yesterday and last week.

I continue to strive toward my goal of having a "normal looking" apartment when you look in the living room window from outside. I'm on day#4 of this myopically focused project and there has been much progress made. The last of the dishes are soaking right now (ick) and I've created a "privacy screen/wall" out of all my portable drawer systems. I am dismayed that I, once more, am really working in the dining room as a studio space again *sigh* However, I am happy to have a dedicated work space considering winter will come and I can't count on working outside when that happens.

Foodwise, I've started tracking again, writing everything down +the WW points value (my foodplan of choice), *BIG credit* for that. I continue to cook from scratch *credit* and today saw me do my first planned exercise session *credit* this first week of the Fall Back to Basics Biggest Loser Challenge. I'll be doing two official weigh-ins a week for the duration of the challenge, but recording them separately: Thursdays here and Sundays at the BLC thread.

On my to-do list is to make a to-do list for all the shows and events I have coming up and what I need to do and to make to get ready for them. I just discovered, because I didn't have a to-do list like this made yet, that I spent $5 needessly applying to a xmas craft show downtown. It conflicts with a visit to Art Basel Miami (hello!). I forgot that that was on my artistic drawing board for the late fall. Now that I am reminded of it, I'm using it as additional motivatio to stay on track and as my special reward to get me through the work of the next three months.

BillBlueEyes (or should I call you BillW i d eEyes given all the wonders you have seen while away!?) welcome back. I was happy to hear you just took it all in and resisted taking pictures. I often find the act of lifting the camera to the face to be a big barrier to the actual experiencing of the thing I am so desperate to capture. For all your seeing it through the camera, you kind of miss it.

08-31-2012, 08:55 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - On plan eating (CREDIT moi) included my first peanut butter, banana, and almond sandwich in two weeks. Yay for bananas which, apparently, are not selected for long rafting trips. I skipped my evening snack to the effect that I slept later this morning. Wondering if this if just jet lag or a new discovery.

Exercise, CREDIT moi, was walking on errands: once for bananas, and again to harvest our abandoned-for-two-weeks community garden. Glorious bunch of tomatoes picked, but broke my heart to see those that were lost due to neglect while we were away. I dressed for gym first thing this morning so I'll get there soon.

onebyone – Yep, Kudos for cooking from scratch. And Kudos again for tending your environment. If you were on my trip, you would have been torn between joining the group that was painting the waterfall from below and the group that climbed to the top. [LOL at BillW i d eEyes - that was me alright.]

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Kudos for skipping your traditional custard snack. Love the thought of an adult waving at the engineer of a passing train.

Ann (Newlifestyle) - Neat to hear that planning is working for you. Yep, it always surprises me too.

Readers - chapter 7 Stage 4 The Think Thin Lifetime Eating Plan

Create Your Own Recipes and Meals

You no longer have to be limited by the foods listed in this book. You can create your personal repertoire of recipes and meals for your Think Thin Lifetime Eating Plan. To do so, stick with the calorie level for each component of a meal (protein, whole grain, vegetable, etc.) and for the meal as a whole. Follow the food lists (pages 215-227) as a guide and use a calorie counter to ensure you consume the right number of calories. You can also use a number of convenient online tools to help you determine the calories per serving in your favorite recipes. I've included a sample Web site in Chapter 12 (page 264).

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 174.

08-31-2012, 10:01 AM
Hi Coaches!

OP yesterday, with exception of the 1 cookie I didn't resist at the end of a picnic w/friends. credit for bringing our entire vegan meal since we knew KFC was the main course. Our spontaneous exercise was a walk through the new Whole Foods which has opened 20 miles up the road near Aspen. It is smaller than I would have expected but we found a nice lunch though not the giant spread of the Denver area stores.

BBE, welcome home! I look forward to hearing more of your trip. I'm with you...looking through the eyes of a camera takes away from the moment a bit. I envy your look at the GC from the bottom...I may get there some day.

Green smoothies are being made and I've got to get going to enjoy my second, and last day at the pool. Tomorrow starts my last super busy days at work although I'm hoping it doesn't slow to a crawl.

08-31-2012, 11:12 AM
A quick report today. I've already spent an hour spreading mulch this morning in advance of the remnants of Isaac. Getting up early to empty the truck seemed preferable to dealing with soaked mulch when the storm is gone. I have some other pre-storm chores as well.

We've been getting a light rain this morning which is perfect -- when the faster rain comes, the drought-dried ground will be soft enough to take the water. It won't save the corn crop but will help soybeans, trees, and the smaller farmers I know from the farmers market.

WI: NA kgs, Exercise: +80 1350/1400 minutes for August, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

08-31-2012, 12:13 PM
Just a quick note this morning, yesterday was a very OP day. I got on the scale this morning and I am down another .4 pound, for a total of 11 pounds since starting this wonderful path!
It is a rainy wet day here this morning so far, I am hoping it clears later, I am helping a friend move, she had a miscarriage a week ago so needs all the support she can get.
Today I put the deposit down on Yukon!!!!!

08-31-2012, 12:50 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

Welcome, Kimorea. I think it is natural to rely on others when trying to make fundamental changes. I can't imagine doing it alone although my addictive mind WANTS me to go it alone so I have no accountability. I have been logging the truth here online for over two years and it has really helped.

BBE: I know that exact feel of the awe and humility when faced with the Grand Canyon. It was a milestone in my life. I use my memories of the canyon at sunrise on Christmas morning as a spiritual talisman. Now I want to go back with my boys but first I have to show them Yosemite. :)

Gardenerjoy: I wish we have CSA around here - oh wait, I forgot I have a personal CSA. DH brought two big sacks filled with pears. No greens, though which I really love.

Onebyone: The weighing thing is tough. I usually dabble with a new lower number, then it jumps back up, then slowly creeps back down. What does Beck say? On any given day the number is exactly what it is supposed to be.

Midnight sun. I have been to Fairbanks in August (honeymoon). It was beautiful . i bet the winters are intimidating, though.

As for me, I have been working hard and my school and school, school. I admitted to my husband yesterday that my new job represents about a 66% reduction in anxiety on a daily basis - so far. I have guilt about no longer being in the classroom but I am teaching twice a week art to kids. It feels like teaching felt ten years ago and it fills me with peace. I thought yesterday - this really is a dream job - Tues, Wed, Thursday. Full benefits, Good Bosses, Meaningful and Important. Then I stopped thinking that because I didn't want to jinx anything. OP except for some chocolate foraging I hope to eradicate next week. Change my ticker to morrow and I hope for a new low number.

08-31-2012, 10:51 PM

Spent the day not cleaning the house too much cause I did a pretty good job all week doing that *credit* so I could focus elsewhere. But I was kind of fuzzy today, kind of out of focus, kind of tired really. After doing my duty for the potters' guild *credit* and then getting some books from the library (too many. again. but it's fun for me to do that so *credit*) I visited my neglected garden and harvested a lot of yellow cherry pear tomatoes, red cherry tomatoes and two regular red tomatoes, pulled up my shallots after finding them amongst the knee-high thistles and weeds, and pulled up two potato plants and found two handfuls of potatoes in the earth below, and decided to pick two thai hot peppers and one hungarian hot pepper...I came home and just shoved it in the fridge and turned the tv on and that's how the afternoon went.

I'm at the farmers' market in the morning and the car is packed and ready to go.*credit*

Foodwise, I inhaled a bag of snacks this evening. I did it because I didn't have a plan for our dinner. I was happy not to eat much but then I felt I had to deal with DH and make him some dinner and as I was sorting through this I grabbed a bag of stuff and ate it. Huh. I counted the points and that's ok, I can fit it in my plan but it's not the right behaviour. So I said Oh Well, made some real dinner, sat down to eat it and made a plan for the morning and for the market where there are many food temptations. Back on plan right away. *credit*

Whoa. All of a sudden I am exhausted. Better go. 6am comes fast.

09-01-2012, 08:19 AM
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