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LockItUp
07-16-2012, 09:58 PM
I've been trying very hard to be logical and rational the last couple weeks. I KNOW that weight loss is not linear and that there is a difference between fat loss and weight loss!!!!! I KNOW I KNOW I KNOW!!! But I'm about to lose my $h!t.

I seriously have gone through 3 scales trying to keep myself from losing it. I pulled my old one out and that 4 lbs I thought I've lost, I haven't. I haven't lost any weight this month!

I honestly feel like a crazy person right now! Am I eating too much? Too little? Is it the foods I'm eating even though the calories are in range? Are my macros off? More cardio? Less cardio? More weight training? Less weight training?

When I read these types of posts by other people I always say to be patient, trust the process, if you are eating in a deficit you WILL lose etc. etc. I totally know these things and I tell myself these things, but I still find myself thinking I must be doing something wrong!

I'M DRIVING MYSELF INSANE! I want to crawl out of my head to make it stop.

I don't know what I'm asking for here really. Commiseration? Tough love? A slap in the face to snap me out of this?

:shrug::stress::tantrum::bomb::tired:


mimsyborogoves
07-16-2012, 10:13 PM
*thwap*

YOU CAN DO THIS, LOCKITUP!

Hope that helps!

Thedollylala
07-16-2012, 10:21 PM
What about measurements? Try and take them and if you don't gave any prior let these measurements be your starting ones... Just an idea :)


linJber
07-16-2012, 10:22 PM
Here's my little smack X - You always have such wonderful insight. Just hang in there and things will move a gain. As you said, trust the process. It is VERY frustrating to see a stall on the scale, but you know things will change again soon. I think we worry too much about the tiny details. Just keep eating a healthy diet within an appropriate range of calories and the weight will come off.

Hang in there - here's a hug, too :hug:

Lin

mimsyborogoves
07-16-2012, 10:24 PM
Here's my little smack X - You always have such wonderful insight. Just hang in there and things will move a gain. As you said, trust the process. It is VERY frustrating to see a stall on the scale, but you know things will change again soon. I think we worry too much about the tiny details. Just keep eating a healthy diet within an appropriate range of calories and the weight will come off.

Hang in there - here's a hug, too :hug:

Lin

This. I was being short and sweet, but you always help us out and we need to help you out. It will be okay and the scale will change, you just gotta BELIEVE! :D

KittyKatFan
07-16-2012, 10:51 PM
I will give you some empathy. I have been there, where you think you have done everything right - and probably have - yet the scale doesn't reflect all your good work. In fact, a situation similar to this one is what derailed me a few years ago after I had lost around 100 pounds...:(

Don't give up. You will get through this! Have you been doing a lot of weight training and adding more muscle? Is it that time of month? One thing that always gets me is sodium intake...if I have too much sodium, I drink tons of fluids and end up with a lot of water weight.

Or maybe it's the dreaded "P" word: Plateau. If so, maybe it is time to change things up, like a different or more vigorous exercise plan.

Good luck, you will get through this :smug:

envelope
07-16-2012, 11:39 PM
What time did you weigh on your old scale? My weight fluctuates 3-4lbs through out the day.

I know it is difficult to wait it out. I am irritated with my scale right now too. I am just going to keep on plan and keep on going...eventually the scale will have to give in and give me a nice woosh.

:wizard: I hope the woosh fairy comes to visit you soon!!!

Porthardygurl
07-17-2012, 12:10 AM
BACK AWAY FROM THE SCALE!!! BACK AWAY FROM THE SCALE!!! DO NOT TOUCH THE SCALE...

:) Did that help? No? Ah...well...all i can say is...time will tell and so will your clothes and even though you want to see that number change on the scale..its better not to look too often at the scale..you will get too discouraged..If you are driving yourself crazy..it means you need to take a break from that darn scale and just trust in your program you are doing...

tinneranne2
07-17-2012, 12:24 AM
We judge ourselves by the scale not because its the most accurate measurement of our evolution and success, just the most convenient.

At least you aren't gaining. I know that might seem like very little consolation when you're putting in so much effort...but its still something.

Chubbygirl253
07-17-2012, 01:08 AM
I totally understand. I was getting to the point that I was obsessing about the scale. That's why I had to stop weighing daily. You will lose eventually if you stay on plan but I know you know that already. You gotta quit obsessing though. For me the answer was to only weigh twice a week, but that might not work for you.

Lilbert
07-17-2012, 04:56 AM
Ive been there for the past 2 weeks. Exactly same, I *know* im eating right/exercising, IT WILL COME OFF! It drove me insane, I woke up this morning and I'd dropped 3lbs overnight ;) Keep going you will get there! the scale is just a tool, it says your not gaining at the moment which is huge in itself, pretty soon it will say, well done! youve lost x amount. Do you have any smaller clothes you can try on instead?

seagirl
07-17-2012, 06:59 AM
I am right there with you!!!

I have basically resigned my self to never losing weight ever no matter what. My nutritionist (and RD) says it may take weeks to see a connection between what I'm doing and what the scale says. I have done a BodPod with her which measures fat vs. lean mass, so I'm hoping after 3 months there is a change in that.

Then I was flipping through pictures last night on my phone and came across some from October and holy heck my arms were huge! I was shocked. But happy that I could actually see a difference.

Try looking through some old photos.

and get rid of at least 2 of the scales...

DaugT
07-17-2012, 07:23 AM
I am with you right now, Stephanie!
I have seen your numbers over the weeks through the challenges, and you have lost at an amazing rate!! Be proud!!!

I just told my husband this morning after the scale was mean to me (LOL) that this is the crap that throws me off every time. I work my *** off (or at least try to) I stay on plan, and when the numbers start slowing down I say, screw it, all the work's not worth it and up I go again.

This time I am just determined that it's different. I have talked to myself over and over about how plateaus and slowdowns, etc, are going to happen, and regardless of whether the scale reflects what I am doing or not bottom line is I am doing my body good no matter what and it IS worth it! So right now I am just repeating that it's okay and am mentally more prepared for it this time.
It still sucks, but I almost feel like it's a test to see if I really, truly want this.

Hang in there! And get rid of either the old or new scale :) I also wish I had been taking measurements. I was measured back in Feb for something and I am going to see if they still have them. I think I will start measuring once a week when I weigh-in to have another gauge. :hug:

CanadianMomma
07-17-2012, 09:51 AM
Trust your body. You know what you've been doing has been working for you. You're giving your body everything it needs to be healthy, good food, lots of exercise and water. Your body is obviously working on something, maybe water retention from the heat? Gaining muscle/repairing muscle? Either way it can only be something healthy because you're treating your body well.

Chrissy31
07-17-2012, 09:53 AM
i am stuck too, i'm on medication and not sure if this is suddenly stalling my weight loss...there are no concrete answers i just need to keep pushing through...as do you. It will happen...have faith :)

bargoo
07-17-2012, 10:09 AM
Always use the SAME SCALE !!!!! Scales can vary. Pick one and stick to it.

mahtha
07-17-2012, 10:25 AM
I'm right there with you. 30 days OP and I lost exactly 1.5 pounds yesterday, the first and only loss in over a month. I'm beginning to question absolutely everything that has worked for me so far.
As you said, we just have to keep going. I hope at some point I'll see one of those magic whooshes I keep hearing about, but in the meantime I know giving up isn't going to get me any closer to where I want to be. :hug: I know it's hard, but you have to take your own advice :)

Brandis
07-17-2012, 11:07 AM
Maybe you are going through something similar to me. Now I don't lose like I used to. I will hold at a certain weight for what seems like forever, maybe two weeks, maybe a month. And then I will lose three pounds in a matter of days. I think there is something to this dieter's edema thing where the body retains cellular fluid in the place of lost fat. Especially since I know you have started heavier more intense weight training, as have I. It takes time for the cells to shrink down after a fat loss, and in the meantime they pull cellular fluid in. I know this is not proven, but I cannot explain any other way why I would suddenly be able to lose 3 pounds overnight and have it stay off with an accompanying drop in clothes size and measurements if it were not just placeholder fluid shifts. It seems that this is the way I lose now, and it usually happens right after my period, when you have major fluid shifts anyway. So I know this may not be the most encouraging, but it is the only thing I can come up with. And to let you know that I am going through something similar. Just don't give up. Every time I feel like giving up, I see a loss. Yours will come soon.

Beach Patrol
07-17-2012, 11:23 AM
I've been trying very hard to be logical and rational the last couple weeks. I KNOW that weight loss is not linear and that there is a difference between fat loss and weight loss!!!!! I KNOW I KNOW I KNOW!!!

I don't know what I'm asking for here really. Commiseration? Tough love? A slap in the face to snap me out of this?



Ok, but remember... YOU ASKED FOR IT! :D

http://i.chzbgr.com/completestore/2008/7/10/whatdidthefiv128602072625004457.jpg


Ok, now that THAT'S outta the way...
yes, of COURSE you "know" all those things. But knowledge often gets pushed to the back of the line when emotions are in full force. And let's face it, when we're in weight loss mode and we're not actually "losing weight", then we're suddenly in OMGWTF mode and all our knowledge is clearly in the back seat, crying like a little b****.

I think we've all been there at some point or another. I know I have been for the past couple of months! Still fighting that stupid 5 lb gain, and still KNOWING what it is, and YET .... YUP! - still with the crazy. :dizzy:

The only thing that truly helps me is to constantly remind myself that altho I still haven't met my 140 lb goal, I AM IN MUCH BETTER SHAPE AT 158 than I was at 192 - DEFINITELY MUCH BETTER!!!!

Now if you'll excuse me, I'm gonna go give my scale a piece of my mind!!

http://goingsteadyblog.files.wordpress.com/2011/09/stupid-scale.jpg

http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-OgK0XAeAU-k/TsQP-IMEA5I/AAAAAAAAAys/17qNT6R19RM/s400/broken-scale-picture.jpg

toastedsmoke
07-17-2012, 11:45 AM
Just keep at it. This is not a race or a competition. Keep the healthy habits up because they're good for you. Play with your numbers (macros, calories, cardio time, weight time) if you want, but don't lose sight of the point of all this. Which hopefully is to be healthy. You've done so well and at an amazing rate, give your body a little time.

The scale was driving me crazy. It really helped me to rationalize that "okay when I get to that magic number on the scale, what is really going to change? Am I not going to keep on plan then?" So now I figure, if I keep on plan, my numbers make sense, and I'm honest, eventually I'll get where I want to go. No hurry.

LockItUp
07-17-2012, 05:22 PM
Thank you so much, everyone, for taking the time to comment. It really has meant a lot to me to read all of your replies. I feel much better today, and you all are a big part of that!

What about measurements? Try and take them and if you don't gave any prior let these measurements be your starting ones... Just an idea :)

I took your advice. I do take measurements the last day of every month, this morning I took a few just to see the progress and I HAVE lost inches! That helped!

*thwap*

YOU CAN DO THIS, LOCKITUP!

Hope that helps!

Thank you! It does help!

Here's my little smack X - You always have such wonderful insight. Just hang in there and things will move a gain. As you said, trust the process. It is VERY frustrating to see a stall on the scale, but you know things will change again soon. I think we worry too much about the tiny details. Just keep eating a healthy diet within an appropriate range of calories and the weight will come off.

Hang in there - here's a hug, too :hug:

Lin

Thanks. You're right!

This. I was being short and sweet, but you always help us out and we need to help you out. It will be okay and the scale will change, you just gotta BELIEVE! :D

Now I have that Journey song stuck in my head! "DON'T STOP BELIEVIN'"!

I will give you some empathy. I have been there, where you think you have done everything right - and probably have - yet the scale doesn't reflect all your good work. In fact, a situation similar to this one is what derailed me a few years ago after I had lost around 100 pounds...:(

Don't give up. You will get through this! Have you been doing a lot of weight training and adding more muscle? Is it that time of month? One thing that always gets me is sodium intake...if I have too much sodium, I drink tons of fluids and end up with a lot of water weight.

Or maybe it's the dreaded "P" word: Plateau. If so, maybe it is time to change things up, like a different or more vigorous exercise plan.

Good luck, you will get through this :smug:

I have been doing a lot of weight training. I upped it to 4 days a week after almost a month off. Probably some water retention, I have been sore non-stop for over 2 weeks. I definitely will not be giving up!

What time did you weigh on your old scale? My weight fluctuates 3-4lbs through out the day.

I know it is difficult to wait it out. I am irritated with my scale right now too. I am just going to keep on plan and keep on going...eventually the scale will have to give in and give me a nice woosh.

:wizard: I hope the woosh fairy comes to visit you soon!!!

It was in the afternoon, which yes, I definitely weigh more in the afternoon. I had the 2 scales side by side and 1 is 3 lbs more than the other. BOOOO! I am definitely hoping for the woosh fairy!

BACK AWAY FROM THE SCALE!!! BACK AWAY FROM THE SCALE!!! DO NOT TOUCH THE SCALE...

:) Did that help? No? Ah...well...all i can say is...time will tell and so will your clothes and even though you want to see that number change on the scale..its better not to look too often at the scale..you will get too discouraged..If you are driving yourself crazy..it means you need to take a break from that darn scale and just trust in your program you are doing...

You're so right. My clothes are looser, I have pants that didn't fit right 2 weeks ago that DO now, plus inches down. IDK why I let the scale be the ultimate dictator of my success when there are other measures that show I have lost.

We judge ourselves by the scale not because its the most accurate measurement of our evolution and success, just the most convenient.

At least you aren't gaining. I know that might seem like very little consolation when you're putting in so much effort...but its still something.

That's very true!

I totally understand. I was getting to the point that I was obsessing about the scale. That's why I had to stop weighing daily. You will lose eventually if you stay on plan but I know you know that already. You gotta quit obsessing though. For me the answer was to only weigh twice a week, but that might not work for you.

I really do think I need to stop the daily weighing. Because it's really not daily, it's like hourly. Not good. I need to have DH hide the scale(s).

Ive been there for the past 2 weeks. Exactly same, I *know* im eating right/exercising, IT WILL COME OFF! It drove me insane, I woke up this morning and I'd dropped 3lbs overnight ;) Keep going you will get there! the scale is just a tool, it says your not gaining at the moment which is huge in itself, pretty soon it will say, well done! youve lost x amount. Do you have any smaller clothes you can try on instead?

I did just that last night, and there's definitely a difference!

I am right there with you!!!

I have basically resigned my self to never losing weight ever no matter what. My nutritionist (and RD) says it may take weeks to see a connection between what I'm doing and what the scale says. I have done a BodPod with her which measures fat vs. lean mass, so I'm hoping after 3 months there is a change in that.

Then I was flipping through pictures last night on my phone and came across some from October and holy heck my arms were huge! I was shocked. But happy that I could actually see a difference.

Try looking through some old photos.

and get rid of at least 2 of the scales...

LOL, I did take 1 of them back. Now just 2. I think I will take the newer one back too. I have been considering the BodPod! Is it spendy?

I am with you right now, Stephanie!
I have seen your numbers over the weeks through the challenges, and you have lost at an amazing rate!! Be proud!!!

I just told my husband this morning after the scale was mean to me (LOL) that this is the crap that throws me off every time. I work my *** off (or at least try to) I stay on plan, and when the numbers start slowing down I say, screw it, all the work's not worth it and up I go again.

This time I am just determined that it's different. I have talked to myself over and over about how plateaus and slowdowns, etc, are going to happen, and regardless of whether the scale reflects what I am doing or not bottom line is I am doing my body good no matter what and it IS worth it! So right now I am just repeating that it's okay and am mentally more prepared for it this time.
It still sucks, but I almost feel like it's a test to see if I really, truly want this.

Hang in there! And get rid of either the old or new scale :) I also wish I had been taking measurements. I was measured back in Feb for something and I am going to see if they still have them. I think I will start measuring once a week when I weigh-in to have another gauge. :hug:

Thank you for the commiseration! And you're right, it is worth it no matter what.

Trust your body. You know what you've been doing has been working for you. You're giving your body everything it needs to be healthy, good food, lots of exercise and water. Your body is obviously working on something, maybe water retention from the heat? Gaining muscle/repairing muscle? Either way it can only be something healthy because you're treating your body well.

Thanks for this. My initial instinct is to restrict calories and up exercise, almost as a punishment. Instead I've tried to be more mindful of the foods I'm eating, and have given myself a much needed rest! Very good advice.

i am stuck too, i'm on medication and not sure if this is suddenly stalling my weight loss...there are no concrete answers i just need to keep pushing through...as do you. It will happen...have faith :)

Thank you! Now I have the George Michael song "Gotta have faith" stuck in my head! :D

Always use the SAME SCALE !!!!! Scales can vary. Pick one and stick to it.

You're right. I'm driving myself crazy unnecessarily by adding a 2nd scale into the equation.

I'm right there with you. 30 days OP and I lost exactly 1.5 pounds yesterday, the first and only loss in over a month. I'm beginning to question absolutely everything that has worked for me so far.
As you said, we just have to keep going. I hope at some point I'll see one of those magic whooshes I keep hearing about, but in the meantime I know giving up isn't going to get me any closer to where I want to be. :hug: I know it's hard, but you have to take your own advice :)

:hug:

Maybe you are going through something similar to me. Now I don't lose like I used to. I will hold at a certain weight for what seems like forever, maybe two weeks, maybe a month. And then I will lose three pounds in a matter of days. I think there is something to this dieter's edema thing where the body retains cellular fluid in the place of lost fat. Especially since I know you have started heavier more intense weight training, as have I. It takes time for the cells to shrink down after a fat loss, and in the meantime they pull cellular fluid in. I know this is not proven, but I cannot explain any other way why I would suddenly be able to lose 3 pounds overnight and have it stay off with an accompanying drop in clothes size and measurements if it were not just placeholder fluid shifts. It seems that this is the way I lose now, and it usually happens right after my period, when you have major fluid shifts anyway. So I know this may not be the most encouraging, but it is the only thing I can come up with. And to let you know that I am going through something similar. Just don't give up. Every time I feel like giving up, I see a loss. Yours will come soon.

I remember reading an article by Lyle McDonald that talked about that! OMG I'm totally going to just have that in my head now and it makes me feel MUCH better actually. Just having a reason, even if it's just a small chance, really helps me mentally!!! Thank you!!!


Ok, but remember... YOU ASKED FOR IT! :D

http://i.chzbgr.com/completestore/2008/7/10/whatdidthefiv128602072625004457.jpg


Ok, now that THAT'S outta the way...
yes, of COURSE you "know" all those things. But knowledge often gets pushed to the back of the line when emotions are in full force. And let's face it, when we're in weight loss mode and we're not actually "losing weight", then we're suddenly in OMGWTF mode and all our knowledge is clearly in the back seat, crying like a little b****.

I think we've all been there at some point or another. I know I have been for the past couple of months! Still fighting that stupid 5 lb gain, and still KNOWING what it is, and YET .... YUP! - still with the crazy. :dizzy:

The only thing that truly helps me is to constantly remind myself that altho I still haven't met my 140 lb goal, I AM IN MUCH BETTER SHAPE AT 158 than I was at 192 - DEFINITELY MUCH BETTER!!!!

Now if you'll excuse me, I'm gonna go give my scale a piece of my mind!!

http://goingsteadyblog.files.wordpress.com/2011/09/stupid-scale.jpg

http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-OgK0XAeAU-k/TsQP-IMEA5I/AAAAAAAAAys/17qNT6R19RM/s400/broken-scale-picture.jpg

LOL I needed that laugh. Thanks! And you're right, I feel like a different person compared to 60 lbs ago!

Just keep at it. This is not a race or a competition. Keep the healthy habits up because they're good for you. Play with your numbers (macros, calories, cardio time, weight time) if you want, but don't lose sight of the point of all this. Which hopefully is to be healthy. You've done so well and at an amazing rate, give your body a little time.

The scale was driving me crazy. It really helped me to rationalize that "okay when I get to that magic number on the scale, what is really going to change? Am I not going to keep on plan then?" So now I figure, if I keep on plan, my numbers make sense, and I'm honest, eventually I'll get where I want to go. No hurry.

Thank you for that perspective. You're right, nothing will change with a different number. I really am doing this to be healthy!

inglesita64
07-17-2012, 05:39 PM
I have lost 22 pounds. When I had lost around 10 the scale stopped going down for around five weeks. I kept dieting and exercising, going as desperate as you are going now, and when it finally moved I lost 4 pounds in a week. I never knew what happened, but now it is happening again and I do not pay much attention to it. I just get worried when I gain, not anymore when I don't lose, because I intend to maintain for some months. Try to think of maintaining till the rough patch is over... but don't give up!