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mimsyborogoves
07-13-2012, 09:51 PM
But I can NOT get the motivation to exercise! I remember when I first started all this I was in a competition, I had friends to go to the gym with me, I had REASONS that basically forced me to exercise. Now that I don't have that, and that I have a job where I'm on my feet all day and am really tired by the end of my shift, I can't ever get off my *** and go to the gym. On my days off, I don't want to do ANYTHING (unless it's going shopping or hanging out with my boyfriend).

Exercise just isn't fun to me. It sucks. I get bored with it so easily. The classes my gym provides don't fit in with my schedule (which is constantly changing because I don't have a set schedule). I just have no desire to do it, which is bad because I really need to exercise if I want to meet my goals! I can eat on plan with no problem; in fact, most days I eat right at 1200-1300 calories and my limit is 1500!

I wish I had someone to make me go exercise, lol.


LockItUp
07-13-2012, 10:01 PM
I hardly ever feel MOTIVATED to exercise. I just do it. I work, have 2 kids (3 years old and 7 months old), a husband, and a house to take care of, plus meals to make for everyone. I definitely don't always feel like working out, I'm almost always tired, and I never get a day off (part of the gig). BUT, I really want to have an amazing body, muscles, great cardio endurance, strength, and all kinds of other things that exercise provides, so I just do it.

You certainly don't have to workout to lose weight, it's really mostly diet (so that's the good news)! If it's something you want to do for all the other benefits, you just have to commit to doing it, motivation or no motivation!

Arctic Mama
07-13-2012, 10:15 PM
Oh man, Stephanie, everything you said is right on the money. I just do it, like brushing my teeth, washing my hair, feeding the pets... I maybe want to workout a few days a week, max, and usually that goes away when I am tired or busy. But my health demands I work out and I am a better wife and mommy when I am healthy, so I do it. It's become as routine as everything else I have to do, and I figure it's okay that I'm more of a reader/knitter than triathlete ;)


kurisitaru
07-13-2012, 10:16 PM
Start small.

20 minutes, go for a walk.
Start the C25K
Start the 30 day shred, just do it 3x a week or 5x.

Tell yourself it's ONLY 30 minutes of your life. And JUST DO IT. There isn't a motivation sometimes, it's like homework. You don't want to, it can be grueling you avoid it for HOURS and HOURS and then you finally do it and it took 30 minutes, wasn't that bad, and you feel better suddenly.

If this doesn't work, and you can't just tell yourself to do it, then do something you can love. Anything can be exercise.

Do you like clubbing? Go dancing with friends. (avoid drinks and stick to water) but go dancing! Dancing is GREAT exercise and it's fun.

Do you like biking?
Hiking?
Swimming?
Walking a dog?
DDR?
Volley ball in the park with friends?
Soccer with friends?
Zumba?

Still not feeling it?

Sign up for a belly dancing class 1 - 2 x a week.
Sign up for kick boxing.
Volunteer at a local animal shelter to walk dogs.

mimsyborogoves
07-13-2012, 10:28 PM
I love a lot of things and I hate a lot of things.

I love dancing, but no one to do it with cause I don't have a lot of female friends (and the ones that would be live too far away) and I know damn good and well my boyfriend won't, lol. I can't afford much else aside from the gym, which I paid for with my graduation money. I love swimming, but I get bored with laps and I'd rather do cannonballs, which I don't think they like at the gym, lol.

It really just boils down that I need to do it, but gosh it sucks.

TheRainFalls
07-13-2012, 10:35 PM
I know how you feel. I was trying to work out 6 days a week. It was too much with my work schedule and daily life. So I decided to reduce my workouts to 3 days a week and if I have the chance I will throw an extra day or two in. If I can't fit extra days in then oh well. Good luck to you and I think you are doing great so far!

Texas Yankee
07-14-2012, 12:10 AM
Do you have a video game system, like the wii? You could do Just Dance, and they even have an exercise option. It is fun and doesn't feel like exercise at all if you like to dance. Wii Fit Plus? There are a lot of active games for a lot of different video game systems.

What about just getting a step and doing that while you watch TV, or doing sit-ups or burpees during commercials?

I am NOT a gym kind of person but I don't mind walking the dog, or playing Just Dance with the kids, or boxing on the wii. And I don't mind doing the bike while I watch TV or the ipad, but that's an investment.

I hope you find something that you enjoy.

mimsyborogoves
07-14-2012, 12:29 AM
The only thing about not doing it at the gym is I forked out the money for it so I should use it. But I don't know how to make my gym time more interesting; I do the same thing every time, lol. 'Bout the only machine I like to do is the elliptical, and I'll jog a couple laps before I do that as a warm-up. But I don't really like to do anything else that my gym offers. I think I'd enjoy the classes, but I'm usually working during the times they are offered. Like I said before, I enjoy swimming but I don't like only being able to do laps.

I need more variety and/or a trainer, but I can't afford that. Bleh.

alaskanlaughter
07-14-2012, 12:31 AM
i hate the thought of wasting my money on a gym membership if i don't use it...so i made it a habit to go to the gym every weekday and i take weekends off...i also use the gym once on the weekend (because i already paid for it darn it lol) and i use the hot tub as a reward for all my workouts

i get up early in the morning to get a good workout in...because i know later in the day i will be too tired and/or busy to get there...for example today i got up at 5:30 a.m. for the gym, went to work from 7:30 a.m. to 4 p.m. without a break or a lunch (i ate on the job) and i'm on my feet all day at work, then i ran errands, came home and got teenager, took him to important things, went to teh store and JUST got home at 7 p.m....if i had waited until NOW i would NOT be going to the gym LOL im exhausted

alaskanlaughter
07-14-2012, 12:33 AM
The only thing about not doing it at the gym is I forked out the money for it so I should use it. But I don't know how to make my gym time more interesting; I do the same thing every time, lol. 'Bout the only machine I like to do is the elliptical, and I'll jog a couple laps before I do that as a warm-up. But I don't really like to do anything else that my gym offers. I think I'd enjoy the classes, but I'm usually working during the times they are offered. Like I said before, I enjoy swimming but I don't like only being able to do laps.

I need more variety and/or a trainer, but I can't afford that. Bleh.

i also get bored very easily....i challenge myself by doing intervals...like running HARD for a few minutes, walk a minute, run HARD again, repeat and repeat...or perhaps for you to do some jogging, then 15 minutes elliptical, than 15 minutes of rowing, then 15 minutes of spinning, then various sets on the weight machines, etc...design whatever you want to prevent boredom...take some good music to listen to...and when it gets too easy, switch it up or up the intensity of the workouts

Alyj89
07-14-2012, 01:41 AM
I thought about trying belly dancing (at home) for exersize eventually. It's something I've always found highly sensual, and I've never danced anything in my life so it would be totally new to me. I would love to learn to dance sexy-like and burn more calories while doing it. maybe you could try something like that!

I'm just like you though. When I started out I exersziced everyday for about a month. I got so bored. I haven't done it in a long time and I'm still seeing he weight drop do I just have no motivation to do it :/ it's just so damn boring !

Chubbygirl253
07-14-2012, 02:46 AM
i hate working out. i know some people like it, but not me. i bet there are very few people at my weight that actually enjoy it. but to meet my goals i know i need to. and as i shrink it will get easier. the day before yesterday i had such an amazing work out that even though i was exhausted afterward, i was so proud of myself and excited that my mom said it almost seemed like i had taken something that made me hyper. i think she thought i was hopped up on energy drinks or something. but it was just excitement from my great performance. but by the next day (yesterday) i was in so much pain. i had really overdone it. i'm still sore but i allowed myself 2 days to recover from the punishing workout. but tomorrow, come **** or high water, i'm getting back to the work outs. i need to find a happy medium with my workouts so i'm getting exercise without hurting myself. maybe i won't be giddy afterward but i'll be satisfied and proud.

CanadianMomma
07-14-2012, 05:31 AM
I always try to think; instead of exercising what would I be doing in the next 30 min/1 hour instead? It's 99% of the time nothing worthwhile lol. Plus then once I'm done I can feel guilt free about crashing on the couch for an hour.

Does your gym have any drop in classes that you can go to occasionally when your schedule fits? Maybe make some kind of goal for the swimming you like, so you're not just swimming laps but working towards something?

JossFit
07-14-2012, 07:45 AM
So... basically everything that everyone suggested you just have some reply as to why that doesn't work for you. Awesome.

I think you're doing that thing where you don't actually WANT any help, you just want to vent... and that's okay. We're women and we do that sometimes. Just be HONEST about it.

You'll either get the motivation or you won't. You're a smart girl, and you know that you do need exercise, that you CAN workout from home, that everyday activities count as exercise, that working out first thing in the morning so you don't have any "excuses" later might be a good idea, that you don't need to be on a set schedule and go to the same gym classes all the time, that you can watch exercise videos on youtube (rather than buy them) -- yes, you know all of that, you're just making excuses.

Do or do not, there is no try.

sontaikle
07-14-2012, 07:51 AM
Does your gym have group fitness classes?

Even if you hate going to those you can build accountability if you keep going and everyone who goes gets to know you. They question you when you skip a class.

seagirl
07-14-2012, 08:05 AM
If you aren't going to the gym anyway, or you hate it, just consider the money gone and find something you love to do. Or will at least do. Like a walk. Or a hike. Or just some pushups and sit ups at home.

Or don't exercise. Just admit to yourself that you hate it and you don't want to do it. You may figure out as you lose more weight that you have muscles that would look better with exercise. And you may figure out as you get older that exercise feels good and will keep you healthy longer.

I never set foot in a gym, and I exercise more than my friends with gym memberships. But I want to. A gym membership means nothing if you don't use it.

freelancemomma
07-14-2012, 08:46 AM
Trial and error. Try a bunch of different types of exercise and figure out your top two or three (even if you don't absolutely love them). Then put them in your daytimer and get started.

Sometimes it pays to persist a few times before giving up on an activity. Last year, when I tried a kickboxing class for the first time, I thought it was for crazy people. For whatever reason I tried it a second and third time, and ended up liking it.

It doesn't work for everything, though. I still dislike going to the gym and hopping on one of the machines -- so I don't do it.

Through trial and error I figured out that I like jogging in the warm weather and taking one of three gym classes (kickboxing, spin, or pumping) in the cold season. So that's all I do. And never more than 4 hours per week, usually 3.

I'm never going to **love** exercise, but I've come to a point where I don't hate it either. And that's good enough.

F.

linJber
07-14-2012, 09:14 AM
First off, let me say I'm really inspired by all you younger women on here who get the idea that sometimes you just have to do what's best, whether you want to or not.

To Lauren - Congratulations that you are able to stay on plan with your eating. That is, by far, the bigger obstacle for most of us. Diet is what is going to take off the pounds. Exercise is going to help shape and tone your body into what you really want it to be. I'm going to bet my next paycheck (don't get too excited - it isn't THAT much!) that you never once regretted going to the gym or working out after you were done. Just do it. No excuses. As Taryl said, it's like brushing your teeth or doing the other mundane things we do every day. Stephanie said "it's part of the gig." Take advice from them and all the other wise women who posted. You won't regret it.

If going to the gym isn't possible (think hard about that - it probably would be possible to make the time if it was an hour long - already paid for - concert by your favorite artist, wouldn't it? We'd find a way) do something at home. You said you like to dance but don't have friends close by to dance with. Who needs a friend to dance? So what if you look silly? Just dance like no one is watching. You know enough about what your body needs to throw in some Zumba moves, or some Turbo Kick, or whatever. Just do it. Or jog around the block a few times. Or ride a bike. YOU WILL NOT REGRET any time you spend working out. I promise.

Lin

sontaikle
07-14-2012, 09:29 AM
Sometimes it pays to persist a few times before giving up on an activity. Last year, when I tried a kickboxing class for the first time, I thought it was for crazy people. For whatever reason I tried it a second and third time, and ended up liking it.



This was me when I tried spinning for the first time. I remember HATING it and I never wanted to do it again. My mother urged me to try it again after I had been exercising a bit and my legs were a little stronger.

Now I'm addicted. I'll drag myself out of bed on Sunday mornings to get to the advanced 8am class no matter how late I was out the previous night :lol:

luckystreak
07-14-2012, 09:57 AM
I always saw going to the gym as an escape.. you download the best pumping music on your ipod and blast it as you do your cardio.. just feels so good.

Eventually though even I got slackish with this method, and found dance classes and now Im SO excited to go!! I never want to miss zumba classes lol

Exhale15
07-14-2012, 11:03 AM
But I can NOT get the motivation to exercise! I remember when I first started all this I was in a competition, I had friends to go to the gym with me, I had REASONS that basically forced me to exercise. Now that I don't have that, and that I have a job where I'm on my feet all day and am really tired by the end of my shift, I can't ever get off my *** and go to the gym. On my days off, I don't want to do ANYTHING (unless it's going shopping or hanging out with my boyfriend).

Exercise just isn't fun to me. It sucks. I get bored with it so easily. The classes my gym provides don't fit in with my schedule (which is constantly changing because I don't have a set schedule). I just have no desire to do it, which is bad because I really need to exercise if I want to meet my goals! I can eat on plan with no problem; in fact, most days I eat right at 1200-1300 calories and my limit is 1500!

I wish I had someone to make me go exercise, lol.

Honestly, several months ago I could have written this post. But hon, you really have to get yourself moving. You've spent the money so either (1) get there at least once a week - make it part of your health practice, or (2) stop perseverating about it and chalk it up to a bad decision.

Your body needs exercise beyond being on your feet all day, shopping, and hanging with the boyfriend. Figure out something.

I do a lot of different things, because that's where my head is at right now. I used to go to the gym religiously, now it doesn't really fit into the schedule, so I do dvds and step at home + yoga + walking.

You've got lots of suggestions and support here, now it's up to you. The best thing about living a healthy lifestyle is that it is up to you :)

JohnP
07-14-2012, 01:19 PM
Cardio is boring. Don't do it.

Weight lifting is challenging and interesting. You might even find it is fun.

Just remember to start LIGHT. Like rediculously light. Focus on learning proper technique and increase the weight every workout. It won't take long before you're very challenged.

Wheresmychin
07-14-2012, 01:51 PM
I bought power bands and have started doing excercises in front of the tv. But I do prefer to go for a brisk walk when time allows.

mimsyborogoves
07-14-2012, 03:16 PM
I think I'm just gonna go back to what I was doing when I was in my biggest loser challenge; that seemed to give me the best results. I'd do cardio MWF, and then do part cardio/part lifting on Tues and Thurs. I just wish I had some friends or something that could go to the gym with me and give me a reason to look forward to going.

Like for instance, when I was going with my friends before, after every workout we'd go sit in the sauna and talk. I don't have that anymore, it's just me and my exercising and everyone else at the gym keeps to themselves; no one talks to each other and it's just kind of lonely and boring.

And I just want you to know that all of your suggestions have been great, and have given me lots of ideas. It just boils down to me wanting to do it and not being lazy. That's the main thing, being lazy, lol.

JohnP
07-14-2012, 06:00 PM
If you go into the free weight section 90% of the guys there will be willing to talk to you if you're looking for social interaction at the gym.

tinamariex16
07-14-2012, 06:10 PM
I hardly ever wanted to go to the gym.. until I started weight training. I used to go and do an hour of cardio and leave. Now that I've started weight training, cardio bores me to DEATH. When you feel the progress you're making it just gets you pumped up. It also helped that there are some attractive men in my gym, so I go for the eyecandy!

I don't know if you use websites like tumblr, but there are huge huge fitness communities and blogs of people going through the same exact thing that always post great motivation. I take a peek on there and it makes me want to get up off my butt.
-edit- ^Oops, just saw the link in your signature.