Beck Diet Solution - Beck Diet For Life/Solution – July 2012 – Support, Discussion, Buddy/Coach

07-01-2012, 06:23 AM
Welcome to the discussion group, support group, diet coach group, diet buddy group relating to the two books by Dr. Judith S. Beck:The Complete Beck Diet for Life ( the first bookThe Beck DIET solution: train your brain to think like a thin person. (

The Beck Diet Solution is a psychological program, not a food plan. It provides a step-by-step program to learn specific techniques to stay on our diet, lose weight, and maintain our weight loss for life. The program is based on Dr. Beck's clinical research in Cognitive Therapy (CT).

The Complete Beck Diet for Life expands the earlier work and includes a food plan with suggested menus. From the cover:With The Complete Beck Diet for Life you'll discover the 5 stages of successful dieting and maintenance. You'll learn how to motivate yourself, give yourself credit for every change you make, create time and energy for dieting, and handle hunger and cravings. Dr. Beck eases you into changing one step at a time. You'll master one task before moving on to the next. And you'll learn techniques to deal with challenging situations, such as sticking with ou plan at celebrations and dealing with "food pushers." With Dr. Beck's skills, you'll achieve a lifetime of healthful eating and lifelong motivation.

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07-01-2012, 06:24 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Food was on plan, CREDIT moi. We continue to enjoy New Jersey blueberries in abundance. Dinner on the patio was Pasta Primavera and deviled eggs. Felt like our little corner of heaven. I used my leap second to covet a handful of roasted pecans - couldn't figure out how to actually stuff them in, LOL.

DW and I hiked (CREDIT moi) the Fells (Middlesex Fells Reservation area for those not in the local lingo) to continue our quest to include places where we have some elevation change to get ready for summer. The Fells is a dynamite chunk of land close to Boston with the look and feel of the White Mountains of New Hampshire. I carried a liter of water but no snacks; I've come to realize that carrying a snack when I'm only hiking for a few hours is one of those Thinking Errors - a fear of getting hungry thing. I don't get hungry in just a few hours and don't need an Energy Jolt to keep going. My body does need the water which I drink whether I feel thirsty or not.

onebyone – Neat idea that frozen bottle of water - especially for "but requires PLANNING." Ouch for the forces of nature in your garden. Some critters are deterred by rings placed around the plants but I have no idea about your cucumber beetles. Is that a cucumber beetle in your avatar?

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Kudos for making a plan despite difficult family dynamics. Lots on your plate at moment.

Nature Girl – Major Kudos for choosing your bike over all the fast food places in town. And Kudos for recognizing that your mom's anger is her issue, not something that you or your dad caused. Hope you found a rewarding place to enjoy dinner with your dad.

maryann - Welcome home. Major Kudos for sending back the dish with the nuggets of fried chicken - I love, love, love those. Took me forever to figure out that my fondness for General Gau's chicken was just liking KFC in disguise.

Tazzy - Seems time for a jump start back into your rhythm. Perhaps you can adopt a temporary food plan just so you can get back to making a plan. That Calgary Stampede looks like a big deal, and being ready for those long days is crucial. Yep, Kudos for posting and accepting as a platform to getting your mojo back.

Ann (Newlifestyle) - Yay for "on plan today." Hope you survive the heat.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
Confidently Follow Your Plan While Traveling

travel skills
When you travel, you have less control over your food for a longer period of time than in practically any other situation. You will probably need to use all of your Challenging Situations Skills, as well as some additional ones listed below.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 160.

07-01-2012, 02:44 PM
Hi beckfolks, coaches, friends - We got our power back a couple of hours ago. That is my number one gratitude. We had a storm blow through Friday afternoon.. it was a micro burst - 80 miles per hour wind... yikes. (actually came about ten minutes after posting here - the sky got black.) We never expected this much impact. 300,000 households my area lost their power. Luckily my mom had power - so grateful for that.

At first the radio said our area wouldn't get power until July 3-7! To our happy surprise it came on a couple of hours ago. :) We kept our fridge and freezer closed - but, by the time we could find any ice it was too late for most of the food in our fridge/freezer. We threw away most of the food, except for some half thawed things in the freezer. Actually an unintentional way cleaning out the fridge. We will cook up those things today we could save.

It's all OK - we are all well. It was SO HOT & feel weary of this ordeal, though. We checked on mom and took a few things to her freezer. Spent time helping neighbors. We shot off some fireworks for the kids at dark.

Our neighbor, however, came over yesterday morning with a dozen donuts for us and a dozen for four other families, each, on this end of the street. I find it fascinating that is what they thought DH and would need to get us through the heat and mess. :dizzy: Actually, it was something that didn't need cooking or refrigeration. LOL So, yesterday I ate 4 donuts and we found a restaurant for dinner where I had a salad. Today we will go to the store for fresh food and things we tossed out.

It was kind of a lost healthy food couple of days. But, I will move forward. Tonight DH is cooking up turkey tenderloin, pork tenderloin, hamburgers, turkey burgers, chicken breasts and hot dogs = all on the grill. A couple of families are coming over. We'll take some to my mom, eat some this week, and freeze any of the cooked food that we can.

I've learned that I am way too old and fat to live in 100 degree conditions without a fan... let alone not air conditioning. Of course, I didn't have either as a kid... But, I am a softy on it now - literally and figuratively. ;)

I hope you are all well, safe, & cool.

07-01-2012, 04:43 PM
Okay. I'm hitting the reboot button. I've been having the sabotaging thought that I've really messed it up and I'll never get on track again. I finally had the helpful response that it can't be harder to fix things up after a month of off-plan behavior than it was when I started this originally. Then, I had to fix things after decades of overeating.

So, I'm going back to the beginning. I literally read some of my early posts from August 2009 and some of the beginning pages of the Complete Beck Diet for Life and I'm going to do some of the same things I did then:

I've created a Mix and Match Meal Plan *credit*. I'm going to select from that for my nightly food planning.
I've set up an accurate Ticker to track me back to my maintenance weight.
I'll weigh daily and report here daily.

I also know that new things help when I'm trying to find enthusiasm for eating healthily so here are two new things:

I'm going on a bread fast for the month of July. This is more of an appreciation for seasons than a diet measure. The 1st of August is Loaf Mass, rooted in an older pagan celebration of the first fruits of the harvest. One of the first fruits was wheat. In northern European climates, the first of the wheat ripened at the beginning of August and most folks had been out of wheat for weeks or months. That first loaf was sacred. So, a way of replicating that experience is to fast from bread for some period of time before August 1. I did it once before for a few days and always wanted to do it again for longer. Now's the time.
When I want to veer off plan, I'm going to read from a book that I picked up at the library: 50 Ways to Soothe Yourself Without Food by Susan Albers.

I have a written food plan *credit* and have so far today followed it to the letter *credit*.

WI: +2.65 kgs, Exercise: +65 1400/1400 minutes for June, Food: NA%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

BillBlueEyes: yay for a hike with water and without snack. I'm going to remember that for my next hike.

Beverlyjoy: so glad your power is back and you are all well and safe. Losing power in this heat is a scary prospect.

07-01-2012, 11:58 PM

Went to the garden. Watered it. Weeded some of it. I'm just managing to keep the weeds from swallowing the garden. It's what I thought would happen. The soil in the garden is pretty poor too. Nothing is really taking off. Maybe this week.

*credit* weighed in: 254.0lbs. Happy to see that number. Still on track to have a week without dipping into my extra weekly points. My sister and I are both staying the course. Today was tough but it's done.

My kitty Looloo wasn't herself the past few days, but she seems to have turned the corner on whatever was bothering her. She's come out of hiding and that is a huge relief. This cat is more inscrutable than most.


07-02-2012, 12:25 AM
Hi Everyone,

Better day today, I woke up this morning and thought it's the first of the month, a fresh start and time to get back on track. While making breakfast I decided to calorie count again, it's worked in the past and there is no reason not to do it. I could come up with lots of excuses but that's not going to help me reach my goal. It might be harder for days when I'm working at events but I can plan accordingly and take food with me that will work.

For dinner tonight we had fresh rainbow trout and salmon done on cedar planks on the BBQ, fresh corn on the cob and I picked spinach and swiss chard from the garden. We all kept commenting on how good it tasted and I realized that we were not eating anything that had been frozen, canned, boxed or processed. Yay for a great fresh meal. After dinner DS wanted to treat his dad and I to something from Dairy Queen. He's got money burning a hole in his pocket I guess. I drove over to DQ but had looked in my calorie book before going and decided there wasn't anything there I would use calories for. So they got their treats and I came home and had a 1/2 cup serving of frozen yogurt. Just finished 1.5 hours of ironing and waiting for it to get dark to see the Canada Day fireworks at the equestrian facility next to our community.

I have to go to Costco tomorrow but will use my "no samples" technique which I'm pretty good with. I'm going to avoid bread as well as I do feel much better when I'm not eating it. Gardenerjoy, maybe I'll join you on the bread fast.

One other thing I have decided to change is recording my weight. In the pastI have weighed everyday and tracked it on a small calendar. I will continue to weigh everyday but will now only track it on Sundays. I know it's just a number but it's starting to become more than that and it's affecting how I handle my days. The journey continues.....

Thanks to everyone for all your support and words of encouragement. :hug:

Nature Girl
07-02-2012, 01:08 AM
Better day for Mom today, so better day for everyone! I think today's motto is "Ride it out" which comes from my mt bike riding and x-c skiing: when I find myself at the top of a scary steep hill and want to get off and walk, I remind myself that I've done this before, and I need to "Ride it out" - don't panic half way down - usually it ends up exhilarating instead of scary. I'm not sure this experience has much potential for exhilaration, but I do need to remember, both with Mom and with eating issues, that once I'm on track, just "Ride it out"--stay the course--stick on the path--don't panic--no need to jump ship half way through the tough part.
Eating was on plan as far as the 4 rules go. I'm not sure we want to talk about breakfast after church--biscuits & gravy. But *credit* I drew a line down the middle & only ate half, and that kept me sustained until past dinner time without even a snack which is so unusual for me. And *credit* I'm getting so much better at planning to each meals or snacks so I don't get caught with low blood sugar and feel I "have" to grab fast food and eat in the car.
Headed in now to do PT strength work--that's the third section of my three pronged effort: nutrition, cardio, & strength. Right now I'm focusing on doing upper body work connected to the PT I had for shoulder surgery in January. Very soon I want to add in some lower body work and also abs/core.

07-02-2012, 06:57 AM
Hi coaches -- I realize I went MIA for a couple weeks. I was totally overwhelmed with work, home, piano practice....wasn't just one thing, just was everything, and was off the internet....just did everything I needed to do and then was resting a lot. My days off changed at the end of June and that affected my rest/sleeping as well. Through all of this I have been neglecting myself and my commitment to health and fitness. Credit I'm climbing back up. Have Beck book beside me to read more, and have just ordered the other beck books on Amazon (great prices, you just pay for shipping).

I commit to July being "Better With Beck." I going back to "reading Beck as if my life depended on it." To do that I have to read "Beck First". I'm choosing counting calories, and just starting where I am with just counting the calories and tracking the food. The gym is there, beckoning.....I think it's time to walk in the doors and get moving.

Bill -- You sound on track with your maintenance. The pasta primavera sounds good and so does your hiking. You did say "I used my leap second to covet a handful of..."......Bill what is a "leap second"? It did prompt me to buy the other Beck book (and workbook to Beck book 1) though, figured there was more I needed to read/learn that could be helpful.

Beverlyjoy -- glad you're "back on the grid." I agree with you about wondering why people bring donuts. I've noticed this occurs when people bring food to families who have had someone pass away.....more often now it's sweets instead of casseroles, veggies, salad, etc. Heard about that awful storm -- glad you're safe.

Gardenerjoy -- you have lots of helpful ideas -- thank you. I like the food mix/match plan and am going to find a way to incorporate that. I went to look at your blog also -- very nice. I want to read that book about "Why Calories Count." I'll include that in my NEXT amazon order.

OnebyOne -- Congrats on the 254. I enjoy the gardening talk -- it still always reminds me how we need to "pull weeds" and "tend" our health and fitness "garden."

Tazzy -- I agree with you about with it being the frist of the month it's a time for a fresh start. I'm going to count calories also. Good for you for eating out of the garden and eating non-processed. You are our example in a processed and fast food world.

Nature Girl -- Great thoughts about "Ride it Out." I'm going to use that also. I actually realize I do that sometimes at the beginning (have been playing piano for church services for the last month) of a difficult hymn or mass setting....and sometimes at the beginning it does feel steep and scary and then I just "ride it out" or "get through it"....I'm going to apply that now to my fitness goals -- make a plan, I've been here before and done this before, just Ride it Out. This is a good idea you have presented....because sometimes for instance I've brought my healthy meals to work for my 10 hour workday but THEN will suddenly change plans and go through fast food or start to eat unhealthy stuff brought in by others (goodies, etc.).

Well to all of you thank you for inspiring me to get back on track and stay on track for July -- here's to us -- let's pull weeds, plan, study Beck, and "Ride it Out" -- if we do that, when we start our August thread we'll all be in a better place than we are right now.

07-02-2012, 06:58 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Happy Canada Day to all our Canadian friends. Hope it's cool enough for your fireworks.

Eating was close enough to on plan, CREDIT moi. The bulge was a family celebration dinner with the standard restaurant portions. The Cambodian Salmon dish was just scrumptious beyond belief - that sort of restaurant meal that makes the prices feel OK since it's something we couldn't have made at home. We started at home with a toast and appetizers, then returned here for fresh fruit for dessert on our patio in the twilight. Twas a good use of the restaurant for the entree alone.

Got in some walking, CREDIT moi, that included a local book store to buy the printed trail map of the Fells, where we went hiking the day before using the web version. Buying maps is one of life's joys. Boston used to have a map store where you could browse and dream - it fell with so many other Mom-and-Pop stores around here.

onebyone – Ouch for a slow starting garden. Around here it's still not too late to get a tomato plant along with some good dirt. Maybe you can have a second wind. Happy vacation week with your DH.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Bon voyage reboot. Like the idea of the month without bread to honor the early farmers without grain before the early arriving wheat. I'm slowly drifting toward accepting the notion that bread hasn't been the best thing to happen to civilization.

Nature Girl – Just love the notion of "Ride it out" - gonna steal that one. Glad your mom is having a good day. Yep, Kudos for choosing to eat only half that biscuit and gravy. My take is that you're winning every time you avoid the might-as-well-just mentality that seems so ready to pop up anytime we're not eating perfectly.

Beverlyjoy – Ouch for that burst of foul weather that took your power. Glad you're back on line so quickly - news says that some folks won't get power for days yet. LOL at donuts as the emergency food, but it's neat to have thoughtful neighbors.

Tazzy - Kudos for choosing Calorie Counting for you eating plan. That meal with all fresh greens from your garden has me drooling - as does having both Rainbow Trout and Salmon on one grill. Good luck on your "no samples" Costco trip - my take is that indulging in their samples makes all the humongous sized stuff seem like a good idea. Every trip to Costco I think that a case of mangoes is just the best idea ever. It's not - mangoes is a great idea in the portions that DW buys them on a regular basis.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
Confidently Follow Your Plan While Traveling

tip: If you eat
unplanned food, don't use it
as an excuse to continue eat-
ing unplanned food until your
trip is over. Read your Cheat
Sheet. Answer the questions
and get back on track imme-
diately. Don't compound the
problem by continuing to eat
more, because it's just not
worth it. If you overeat at
the beginning of the trip, you
might gain a little weight. If
you continue to overeat, you
might gain a lot of weight.
Which scenario would you

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 160.

07-02-2012, 11:31 AM
Nice to get a satisfying whoosh of weight loss on my first 100%op day in recent memory. I kept myself very busy, which distracted me from the fleeting moments of hunger. The worst was after supper while watching a movie. Mentally closing the kitchen worked.

WI: -0.45 kgs, Exercise: +60 60/1400 minutes for July, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

onebyone: your competition with your sister is working. I'm finding your current efforts inspiring.

Tazzy: glad to have you making a fresh start on the same day as me!

Nature_Girl: yay that your mom is getting better. That was a good strategy with the biscuits and gravy -- eat half and skip snacks -- especially if it doesn't happen too often.

Elizabeth779: great to see you back here! And welcome to the group of us who seem to be using July as our month to be "Better with Beck."

BillBlueEyes: I remember map stores! I encountered a fairly large collection of maps when I was cleaning the bookcase, but they are neatly stowed so I left them there.

07-02-2012, 11:52 AM
Good Morning, Coaches.

The beginning of every month, I change my ticker. Credit for honoring that commitment especially when the number went up two pounds. It is just information. I am vacationing in Tahoe. The weather is beautiful and I am determined to relax. My goal for the day is to feel a little hungry and to stop before I am full. What I eat is less important although I will get in five fruits and veggies and play a little tennis.
I hope to catch up with everyone's post soon.


07-02-2012, 11:35 PM
Hi Coaches!

Still trying to be mindful during this continuing difficult time.
~weighing everyday
~bringing lunch to work and pitching all toast edges

I had a legitimate taste at work today, which turned into two. Seeing an issue I gave the rest to the dishwasher. credit.

DH and I are now sitting down in the morning and planning his day on paper. It's helping him to stay focused from one day to the next AND it's helping me get that dinner thought out and recorded early in the morning. We stuck to our plan tonight. This is working now and when we need to change it we will.

Gnight....long and tiring day.

Nature Girl
07-03-2012, 01:50 AM
One step forward, two steps back...not a great day for Mom today. Lots of indecision re: what is the best next step for her now. And there are deadlines looming...arghhh! Only good thing: I did not eat over it. *Credit.* My main goal for these 9-13 days is stick to the rules re: sugar, booze, eating in the car or standing up. If I can make good choices in other areas re: food, well, good for me. But those are bonus credits. When I get home I will assume those four habits have stuck and start refining the actual content of the meals, etc, and looking at other Beck strategies that will help. It's a journey, folks! And sometimes it seems like a journey right up the side of a steep mountain, across a desert, or through rush hour traffic.

07-03-2012, 07:01 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - I just don't get tired of eating on our patio in the evenings. Our resident Blue Jay has accepted my presence sufficiently to attend to his (her?) bath three times when I was sitting not three feet away watching. Splashes half the water out; keeps a wary eye toward the sky; takes a break and dashes to the nearby tree to be sure he isn't being followed. Food was on plan, CREDIT moi, including a moment of scanning the fridge for something-to-eat before my conscious brain recalled that I don't do that. As a kid we repeatedly were told, "An idle mind is the devil's workshop." I had no idea that the devil was interested in what I ate, LOL.

Gym was gym, CREDIT moi. Walking home managed to pick up two hardback books for a buck. One is Bridges over Madison County - because it's so short and I think I've only seen the movie, but I'll find out for 50 cents.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Yay for "a satisfying whoosh." I gotta remember that "very busy" helps to prevent nibbling before the next thing.

Debbie (Lexxiss) –Yep Kudos indeed for "gave the rest to the dishwasher." And Kudos for some serious planning - "on paper" even.

Nature Girl – Seems wise to choose four key points to stick with while in your trying days helping your mom. Like the visual, "It's a journey, folks! And sometimes it seems like a journey right up the side of a steep mountain, across a desert, or through rush hour traffic."

maryann - Lake Tahoe, fruits, veggies, and tennis - sounds lovely.

Elizabeth (Elizabeth779) - Oh Yes, "'Ride it Out' -- if we do that, when we start our August thread we'll all be in a better place than we are right now." Kudos for "climbing back up" - certainly the best way to be at a good place for August. [Re Leap Second: In order to keep time aligned with the earth's rotation - which dawdles a bit from exactly 24 hours in a day - the navigation community inserts a second into time now and then to wait for the earth to catch up. This matters when navigating since the earth spins about 500 yards at the equator in a single second.]

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
Confidently Follow Your Plan While Traveling

Before You Go: Pack your dieting supplies. Bring this book, as well as your Response Cards, Advantages Deck, Cheat Sheet, and Diet Notebook. Consider bringing your food scale and measuring cups and spoons, if you will be eating in. Some dieters, who know they won't have the opportunity to buy their own food when they are away, like to bring snacks, such as nuts, canned tuna, cheese, fruits, or high-fiber/high-protein bars. Other dieters know it is better for them to make do with whatever food is available because carrying extra food is too tempting.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pgs 160-161.

07-03-2012, 11:37 AM
I was 100%op yesterday until after supper. Sigh. I had been resisting going back for a second serving of rice, so when the leftovers wouldn't fit in the container, I ate the part that wouldn't fit.

Two new responses to fix that problem:
1. I need to measure the cooked grains that I'm eating this month instead of bread. If I'd measured the rice I had with supper, I wouldn't trick myself into thinking that just a bit more would still be on plan. For now, I'm going to consider 1 cup a serving of cooked grain. That may need to shrink but it will get me into the habit without too much resistance.
2. Take out two containers to put away leftover rice!

Credit for an on plan lunch from the hot bar at Whole Foods and for buying fruit so that I could actually eat the fruit that I wrote into my plan.

WI: -0.15 kgs, Exercise: +50 110/1400 minutes for July, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

maryann: hope you have a lovely relaxing time at Lake Tahoe!

Lexxiss: cool that you and DH are planning the day together and dinner plans slip right in. I hope that practice works long enough to get both of you through this difficult time.

Nature_girl: thinking of you. Those are such tough times when it's not clear what the right path is for someone who is ill. As you noted, it's hard enough trying to figure out how to get our own selves up the mountain, much less helping to make life decisions for other people.

BillBlueEyes: I hated Bridges over Madison County. Obviously, I was in the minority. And, it had something to do with when and where I read it. So, I'll be interested to see what you think.

07-03-2012, 02:46 PM
Hi Everyone,

Got into bed last night and realized I had not posted here. Had 2 good days OP, no extra snacks or bread yesterday and writing my plan down for those days it's made it easier to stay on track. I'm having to pay more attention to what I'm eating and making wiser choices. It's showing on the scale already, down 2.6 from Sunday morning, but I'm not writing it down. I weighed yesterday morning as well and because I did not write it down I had forgotten exactly what it was about 10 minutes later.

When I made lunches last night for today I did the full meal plan for me and also figured out the main entrees for the rest of the week. This little bit of planning and control is helping already.

One big credit yesterday was that I was at Costco so early the sample tables were just getting set up. Sure saw a lot of people shopping and "stuffing" food into their mouths as they went.

Off to eat my lunch now and concentrate on it and the others at the table instead of staring at a computer screen! Have a good day everyone. I will get back for personals soon.

07-03-2012, 09:16 PM

*credit* weighed in this morning and saw :carrot: 251.6 :carrot:
Gee. Such a big drop. LOVE being so close to the end of the 250's. OMG. It's been a few years since I was under 250. When I first joined 3fatchicks I was so worried about going over 250. That didn't last long as I skipped through them on my way to a grand stop in the 70's, then toyed with 290. All changing now. It takes what it takes.

DH's birthday today. We drove to an aracded with classic video games and spent the afternoon there, playing everything including Dance Dance Revolution which is about 15 years after our time. OMG so fun. I remember seeing boys playing it at the theatre arcade. They always looked goofy doing it as they tried to impress all the girls. I'm sure we looked worse! It was an awesome workout though. I was sweating like crazy and laughing my head off at the same time. Time to find my wii version and do it at home again.

Must go. Time for dinner.


Nature Girl
07-04-2012, 12:35 AM
Interesting day in that things were pretty even and reasonable for Mom, but I had a bad headache all day. Thank goodness I was able to lay down for a while, and I didn't deal have to deal with the headache yesterday when things were tough at the rehab center. I'm thinking it may have been food related--I felt on the edge of a low blood sugar reaction all day. In the morning I had some oj provided at the therapy gym during Mom's PT, then went and had a nice protein filled piece of quiche (I know, calories & fat, too, but sometimes you have to choose) before doing some shopping for her. Dozed through dinner & had peanut butter toast, but then when I went up to visit, I got real yukky feeling again so Dad bought me fast food on the way home. Again lots of protein. First time I've eaten in the car since I made the rule, but when you're that weak and clammy and almost dizzy. desperate measures are called for. Frustrating because all week I have been able to plan for snacks to keep this from happening, but today I'm a mess! ?
At least I didn't have the huckleberry shake he had--*credit* for that!

07-04-2012, 06:41 AM
Hi Coaches!

I have a moment to check in....yesterday was extremely busy. Work was super busy and I came straight home and got DH loaded in the car for PT. We didn't got home until almost 8pm.

As to Beck principles, I noticed several things during my busy day. One, I made myself eat my orange and muffin even though I was way too busy AND I resisted several homemade goodies brought in by coworkers. When I got home I had 5 minutes to change. I grabbed a pair of pants and as I was starting to change the thought ran through my head, "I hope these still fit". An old thought pattern, countered with, "I know these fit...I weigh everyday and have had no change in weight since the last time I wore them." credit for persistance.

Happy 4th of July everyone! No fireworks for most of Colorado, which pleases the pup. We had a significant rain yesterday which made everyone extremely joyous!

07-04-2012, 07:29 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - To stay on my eating plan I maneuvered through both Whole Foods and Trader Joe's without a single FREE sample, CREDIT moi. That included passing on the yellow mango chunks being cut next to the massive mound of them. Such a small caloric hit would have been OK for me, but my experience is that it would set the tone that the next sample was also OK. It is so clear how to sabotage myself: just wander, without a plan, around the FREE food and let my inner child want, want, want. I distinctly had the thought in both stores, If I really didn't want to have the FREE samples, I'd walk straight to the checkout now that I've picked up what I need. I knew that I could make that choice. And then I did! It's embarrassing how simple it is.

The walk, CREDIT moi, was just OK; It gets shortened when I stop to shop. My mind was convinced that I had to walk straight home because of the frozen food in my backpack. My mind seemed to have forgotten that I had looked at some frozen entrees at Trader Joe's but hadn't purchased any. There are so many of us up there in my brain.

onebyone – Congrats on that swoosh. Love the image of you and your DH doing Dance Dance Revolution at the arcade.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – This one cracks me up, "2. Take out two containers to put away leftover rice!" I can so fall for that portion that doesn't fit in the container I'm already filling up. Once, I dumped it all into a second, larger container then had this awful feeling that I was making too many dirty dishes.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yay for rain in Colorado - about time for some good news for you guys. Kudos for avoiding homemade goodies.

Nature Girl – Kudos for keeping your wits at all with the headache joining all the other stuff you're facing. Good to hear that the day was "even and reasonable" for your mom. Continuing to send supportive thoughts.

Tazzy - Interesting, it helps me when I see "a lot of people shopping and 'stuffing' food into their mouths as they went" - brings out such negative judgement that makes me not want to look like that. Kudos that planning is helping.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
Confidently Follow Your Plan While Traveling

On your way: Read your Response Cards and relevant sections in your Diet Notebook on the trip there. If you haven't packed food to eat on the way, and the only available foods are relatively high in calories, you'll have to eat small portions. Remember, if you're still hungry, it's not an emergency! You will have another snack or meal coming up in a few hours or the following morning.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 161.

07-04-2012, 09:41 AM

*credit* for my weigh in even though it said +3.7lbs (255.3)! Yep. Scales. Gravity. Salt. Humidity. Who knows. That 251.6 is nowhere in sight this morning. Official weigh-in is tomorrow so thank goodness for small mercies.

I'm off on a solitary drive this morning. It's a planned getaway for me. I wasn't sure I needed it when I got up, but now, after doing the dishes, which had piled up for two days (man that's fast) and dealing with ickky ickky compost and garbage and recyclables for the garbage man this morning (NOTHING worse than dealing with the garbage in the summer I swear) I'm ready to run away. I have a looming deadline for tomorrow; two in fact, but I'm going anyway.

I'm back home this afternoon. Plenty of time to get things done.

OK coaches. I remain On Plan/On Track and within my daily points for the week.


07-04-2012, 11:38 AM
Good morning everyone,

Happy 4th of July to my US friends! It's also oldest stepson's birthday today, 18, wow, now he can go to bars in most of Canada. Sure doesn't seem old enough to be doing that. At least his birthday plan is to have all his friends over to his mom's and they will drink at home instead. Saving money and also the driving/safety issue. Wise thinking for a group their age.

Had a pretty good day yesterday, weighed and down another 1 today. Stayed on track until after dinner. I ended up with the start of a nasty headache in the afternoon and ate as soon as I got home, helped that dinner just needed to be heated up. Decided later I wanted something sweet and was going to the pantry for a measured serving of chocolate chips when the bag of marshmallows from our weiner roast on the weekend called out. I thought it would be easier to calculate them, 100 calories for 4, but made the mistake of taking the bag with me instead of taking a serving. After 12 of them I decided it was certainly time to put the bag away. BBE - I probably looked like the people I judged in Costco they day before.:o

:wave: to everyone who's around.

07-04-2012, 01:27 PM
Happy Independence Day to the Americans on board!

Like Lexxiss in Colorado, Kirkwood's celebrations have been canceled. The only fireworks shows that are happening in the St. Louis area will be the ones shot from a barge or over a lake. We're going to stay home and be prepared to yell at any neighbors who shoot off fireworks. I think I'll politely ask them to point their bottle rockets toward their house instead of mine. ;) We haven't heard any fireworks in recent nights like we usually do, so maybe the neighbors are refraining this year under the circumstances. Fireworks are illegal in Kirkwood anyway, but that hasn't stopped them. It would be nice to know that even if my neighbors aren't all law-abiding, at least they don't want to start fires.

Yesterday was on plan with measured cooked grains. I thought I was hungry after an early supper but drank lots of water and found distractions and did not go to bed hungry even though I didn't eat again.

WI: -0.3 kgs, Exercise: +30 140/1400 minutes for July, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Nature_girl: keep trying. It's all a grand experiment. I'm surprised how often I think I have the answer and either it wasn't the answer or it stopped working for me. You are in strange circumstances so it's likely to take a lot of experiments to figure out what's going to work.

Lexxiss: Yay for pants that fit, just like they did last time!

BillBlueEyes: yay for simply walking to the checkout!

onebyone: yep on the vagaries of the scale. It's just a number. Much more meaningful month-to-month than day-to-day. Hope you have a lovely getaway!

Tazzy: Happy birthday to your Canadian stepson on the fourth of July! I definitely have to measure or count things on the counter right outside the pantry and put the bag back to stand any chance of staying on plan.

Nature Girl
07-05-2012, 02:25 AM
Mom's ok and we've got plans that everyone is ok with for her continued rehab, so I took the morning to go up to Glacier National Park and visit some of my favorite close to the highway spots. Nature therapy: stunning mountains, tall green trees, rushing water, deep lakes, lots o tourists. Am I still a tourist if I've been coming here for 51 years? It truly is therapeutic for me! And I had a chance to be active, also, although no time for actual hiking.
Stayed on plan all day, at least stayed with 4 rules. Dinner was about a ton of Famous Daves takeout to Mom's place, eaten on the terrace. Actually I believe I eat LESS when there is a big platter in the middle of the table--I tend to eat until I full (ok, quite full!) but don't have that compulsion to clean my plate. Like I've said, this week, portions and actual food choices are not part of my plan; I will add that in next week. I drive home tomorrow--feeling good about where Mom is, how Dad is doing, and the decisions we made while I was here. My brother takes over next.
Rode my bike and did my PT strength tonight. That has been a habit I have enjoyed getting in to, and I plan to stick with it!
Northern MT has had a lot of rain (6.1 inches in June) so fireworks are allowed here and I have never heard so many all at once and over such an area before--it's 11:30 and the "thunder" is still constant.

07-05-2012, 06:37 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - It was a gentle Fourth of July. Ate nothing off plan, CREDIT moi, and did little. There were occasional fireworks all day (illegal) with a large set in the Charles River in the evening. Since our Australian Shepard is gone, there's no negative side, so they can just be enjoyed. We even started the day with a quarter inch of rain.

The gym (CREDIT moi) was nearly deserted. Walking never happened as I was too busy doing Fourth of July nothing kind of stuff. I did finish Bridges of Madison County. It's short. I thought it terrific. I bought in to the author's tiny inserts to make it real: The two kids made three trips to Iowa to help tell the tale; Robert Kincaid's passionate letter ends with a P.S. saying he put a new engine in his pickup; The daughter remembers arguing for three days with Francesca about the pink dress. I'm an easy sell even though I neither believe in love at first sight nor lasting passionate love with a stranger. The part of me who wishes it were so relishes reading about those so enraptured.

onebyone – Yay for "On Plan/On Track" and a get away when the soul needs it.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Kudos for "measured cooked grains" - it so helps me to read of your evaluation, plan, and execution. So there's my review of Bridges. It's easy to see how it could get under the skin of someone who wasn't in the mood to suspend reality. And also easier to identify with the last cowboy having a fling while living a large life, instead of with a woman who felt merely satisfied enough with her life and is cheating on a good man.

Nature Girl – Glacier National Park is one fine choice nature therapy; it's on my Bucket List. Glad to hear your mom's plan is "ok." Kudos for sticking to your plan in a stressful situation.

Tazzy - Super Kudos for 18 year olds who understand the "driving/safety issue." Ouch for the marshmallows that snuck under the radar.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
Confidently Follow Your Plan While Traveling

Your arrival: If you are staying in a hotel, the treats in your room can be very tempting. Put them in a closet, cover them with a towel, or ask the hotel staff to remove them. You can also give back the mini-bar key.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 161.

07-05-2012, 09:46 AM
Hi Coaches!

I enjoyed my first big smile moment of the day reading BBE's review of Bridges of MC. I did enjoy the book...reading it after the movie had come out. I bought it at an airport bookstore and enjoyed it's completion on a long flight to Alaska....enhanced, perhaps, as I imagined Clint Eastwood just appearing on my

Ah, back to Beck....Yesterday was a good Beck day....far too busy at work to eat my packed lunch so I legitimately switched to two pieces of dry sourdough toast. The boss brought in a pie and I had one polite bite. I stopped at the grocery on the way home and purchased "vegetarian BBQ ribs", courtesy of Morningstar. I added 1/2 ear of fresh corn and a quick version of rosemary roasted baby potatoes and DH and I had a festive OP holiday dinner. credit. I was rewarded with a good weigh in this morning and am feeling confident I'll move my ticker again one of these days.

Medical appointments today so I need to keep moving.

Keep up the good work everyone!

07-05-2012, 12:24 PM
Since it was too hot to grill, our 4th of July dinner celebrated America as a nation of immigrants -- Chinese stir-fry and Irish beer. At least the ingredients of the stir-fry were nearly all local, including about 8 cups of greens from my very American vegetable garden. Credit for growing and eating greens.

The neighbors refrained from shooting off bottle rockets at our house -- thank goodness.

WI: +0.05 kgs, Exercise: +55 195/1400 minutes for July, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Nature_Girl: Glacier National Park is the most beautiful place I've ever been.

BillBlueEyes: good points, all, about Bridges of Madison County. I read it on a trip to show off my new husband (second marriage) to my slew of relatives in Indiana. He was, understandably, not that keen on the whole idea and it was not a pleasant trip which scared me so early in our marriage. I felt that the book celebrated this 4-day affair as a great and miraculous event. At that moment, I didn't care at all about a 4 day relationship -- I wanted to know how to manage the miracle of a 40 year one. I would probably feel better about the whole thing now that we've been married for 20 years.

07-05-2012, 12:29 PM
Hi everyone, I was missing in action due to computer virus. Yikes, it is all taken care of now thanks to DH. I have been eating on plan, running on the treadmill for 30 minutes and running in the pool each day. I feel good. Busy at work, stressful situation, I haven't eaten over it.
4th of July was crazy at my workplace as we are close to the border. It was fun and many people wanting to have fun. I am back to work in a few minutes so off to pack lunch. I leave things to the last minute.
Everyone seems to be doing great. Kudo's to all of you. Have a wonderful day.

07-05-2012, 02:41 PM
Hi Coaches

Went to my WW meeting and saw a -2.4lb drop to get me to 253.2. Soon soon very soon I will bid adieu to the 250's. *credit*

Pleeeaaaaassssseeee let it be soon.

I was 90% up to my sister's challenge to stay to my daily points this week, and except for the very last meal on the very last day I did just that. I'll take a *big credit* for 90%. When I got back home after my day out I was ravenous and I had a bite here and a bite there and I didn't stop and all of a sudden I was 10pts over my daily total. Just-like-that and all the food eaten while standing at the stove mostly. Wow.

Our side bet was for each of us to lose 3lbs for the week, a ridiculous amount, I was at exactly 3lbs when I weighed in at home this morning but mysteriously 0.6 climbed on between my house and the WW scale. My sister meanwhile is almost exactly 100lbs less than me and she lost 0.6lb even though she did what I did AND she started bikram yoga. She feels all is lost for her and that WW doesn't work for her, and never has, and that she cannot eat carbs at all and that she must suffer to lose her weight. Meanwhile she is 3.2 (I think) lbs down in 3 weeks. I just couldn't get her to see the positive side. She wants to lose weight faster and was MASSIVELY disappointed in her less than 1lb loss after sticking to the plan. I can do nothing to change her outlook. I encouraged her to commit to it for a month at least and two months would be better but I am afraid she's not going to. At least, for me, this is my foodplan of choice and it's working.

ok back to work. I've attached an image of an 8x10 I painted for a charity thing. It's called Just Walk Away. I find it hilarious, but I am kind of biased.

07-05-2012, 05:10 PM
Good Afternoon, Coaches.

It is a sunny 76 degrees, no humidity and the sky is a blue seen only here. It has not been an easy 2 days. I have been recreationing with a large group. I did not give myself enough alone time and by last nite I was a mess. Thanks to hubb and DS I am better this morning with a new attitude. Rafting, zip lining, swimming, all have their place but so does good old fashion productivity. Often it is a cure for my blues.
Up early this am, taught DS how to make French toast, then we weeded for two hours. Finally I hopped down to the hardware store, picked up some pumice stone and cleaned the rings off the toilets here in our cabin. They have been bugging me for three years. I am a little embarrassed it took me this long to do it.
As for food, with the blues of the last two days came chaotic food. I ate salads and fruit but also other non productive stuff. High on the scale today. I really don't know how I will get back to the discipline I had a year ago. All I know is I can keep exercising, keep up with fruit and veggies, keep checking in here.
BBE: 100% agree about Bridges of Mad. My take: Anyone can fall in love for three days and if it was a love of a lifetime it could wait another three days to tell the husband.
Lexxiss: Credit for planning and dumping bread crusts.
gardenerjoy: Thanks for reminding me about water.

Nature Girl
07-06-2012, 12:47 AM
Home from MT after a grueling 7 hour trip--now trying to unpack and repack for a 3 day trip west this time. We have a traditional event Saturday, which I would possibly skip this year, if it weren't for the other obligation/complication in my life I haven't mentioned yet: I have a job interview over there. I lost/gave up my job this spring; finished the school year mid-June and have been filling out applications for teaching jobs ever since. Finally one wants to interview me, and ironically it's 10 miles from our friend's house! This is my first interview in YEARS so of course a certain amount of stress. Well, I'll just rehearse all the way over while my husband drives, and by 12:30 I'll be done and ready to relax in our camp trailer for the rest of the weekend. That's when I'm going to sit down with Beck and my cards, etc--look at my current plan and see what to do next.
BTW food today? Who can remember--all that driving! Actually I stuck to my rules (using the exception to "No eating in the car" which is "except on trips of over two hours" to nibble crackers, grapes, string cheese, cherry tomatoes again. Dinner tonight: hummus, multi grain crackers *credit*. Didn't sucker into those awful storebought cookies at any of the rest areas I stopped at *credit*.
No WiFi (or electricity, either probably) until Sunday so I'll check back in then.

07-06-2012, 05:57 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Feeling annoyed that my dried figs pounds won't evaporate rapidly, I ate uber on plan (CREDIT moi) with one skipped snack and left half the pasta primavera at dinner (extra CREDIT moi for leaving stuff). This morning I expected a swoosh on the scale like a kid expecting a gold star for actually doing his homework. Alas, the scale weighs my body, not my expectations, so stayed the same. My brain has not yet evolved, LOL.

Took a good walk, CREDIT moi, in the early morning to beat the heat. The heat has the benefit that I arrive home as wet as though I've really worked myself. The drawback is that the used book store on my route wasn't open so I couldn't dawdle.

onebyone – When you learn how to do patience let me know, LOL. Especially when a milestone is close enough that "I can taste it." Kudos for "this is my foodplan of choice and it's working."

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Yay for 8 cups of greens from your own garden - just love these bountiful months. [Thanks for your backstory on reading Bridges - it's so easy to see that a four day affair wouldn't feel good then. Congrats on your 20 years together.]

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yay for countering too busy at work with sane alternative eating rather than justified snacking. [Laughing at your Clint Eastwood memory. When I insisted to DW that she had seen the movie with me, she finally remembered Clint Eastwood ... and then the rest of the movie, LOL.]

Nature Girl – Seven hours is indeed a grueling drive. Kudos for mindful nibbling during it all. Sending supportive thoughts for your interview.

maryann - Kudos for recognizing that pumice stone to toilets is a cure. As is teaching DS to make French toast. [LOL at "if it was a love of a lifetime it could wait another three days to tell the husband." I'm stuck with the need to scold Francesca for emotionally abandoning her DH - a nice guy had to live out his life without knowing why his wife was distant.]

Ann (Newlifestyle) - Kudos for not eating over stressful busy at work. LOL that some of the U.S. craziness on 4th of July spills over the border. What do you mean by running in the pool?

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
Confidently Follow Your Plan While Traveling

During the trip: You may have to use every Challenging Situation Skill from pages 131-164 to resist eating unplanned food. Read your Response Cards regularly. Get back on track immediately if you make a mistake, or you will likely find that your mood is adversely affected for the rest of the trip. It's worth it to stick with the plan, and it will get so much easier the more you practice.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 161.

07-06-2012, 07:02 AM
Good Morning all.
I have discovered a bird's nest in our maple tree. It has been so hot here so I put on the sprinkler to try and get the ground moist so worms will be readily available for the bird to feed her babies. I also put out a dish so the bird can get water. It is a makeshift bird bath. lol. The birds are chirping out there, that is why I am awake so early. They are so cute.

Bill-Wow,walking in that heat is brutal. Any thoughts of when the heat wave will be done. I feel bad for the people who have no power. I heard on the news today they are keeping the pools open late in some cities in Canada. My son and I went swimming at 10 last night. He is usually in bed by 8:30 so he thought this was fun. We have an 18 foot round pool so you really can't do laps in it so I run in the water and make a great whirlpool for my son. That way he can enjoy the pool and I can exercise while I am in there. I might go to some acqua classes so I can learn other exercises to do in the pool.

onebyone – congrats on your weight loss. You are doing great. Your painting is awesome.

Joy – You make me want to start gardening. Baby steps. Yeah for neighbors not shooting off fireworks in the direction of your house. I don't know what the fascination is with fireworks.

Debbie – Your life sounds so busy. You must be very organized to make it all come together. I don't know how you do it. Vegetarian Ribs sound delicious. I am going to try and find some.

Nature Girl – Good luck with your job interview.

maryann - do you have any good tips for making french toast? Any time I have made it, it becomes soggy/mushy. I am not sure what I am doing wrong.

Tazzy, I was thinking of Calgary last night as sneak a peak at the Stampede was on. I loved going to the stampede when I lived there. I miss Calgary. We do go back quite often to visit family.

Hello to everyone else and have a wonderful day.

Take Care

07-06-2012, 10:12 AM
:beach:Coaches, Good Morning.

Woke up with a hungry tummy. *credit*
Weighed in and saw 252.2 (-0.4lbs). *credit*

Guess it's going to be hot again here today. I am grateful for our air conditioned apartment. This is my first place with A/C. I know what it is like to try to make things and get ready for the market when the house is super hot. Not fun.

DH and I have Dr.'s appts this morning. DH is :mad: about having to go. He's going to be on my case about it until we get there. He hasn't had a check up for about 4 years and he hasn't had a bloodtest in even longer. The last time I got him to go (he'll only go if I schedule our appt's back to back) we both got bloodtest requisitions and for whatever reason, I think mine was more urgent, I had to go without him and inspite of my insistence, he wormed his way out of it.

Not this time.
But he's going to put me through it until it gets done.
OK I'm off to get some coffee and get ready to go.

update: DH came out of the Dr. barely able to contain himself about his superhuman bloodpressure reading: 110/70. Sheesh. Mine is 130/80 with medication that I hope to chuck as the scale descends. I told him it was worth all the pain he puts me through to find that out. Next will be the blood tests. let's see where our cholesterol lies and we can talk again after that. My new Dr. is in some ways more thorough than my old Dr. and in some ways not as thorough. Odd. There was much more covering up and averting of eyes during the physical exam. Kind of weird to me but whatever. I got zero lec tures about everything as in the short tiem I have been seeing him my weight continues to fall.
Doctors love that.

Superhot here today. Love it. Love it. Love it.:beach:

07-06-2012, 10:20 AM
Hi... checking in. Been struggling off and on this week. I've been only doing so so planning. I need to stop using thinking that just because I have an event or unusual circumstance to face.. that it's an excuse to wait 'one more day.' I have a hard head. I'll keep trying.

I am starting to 'fret' about a birthday party for a our little neighbor on Sunday. I need to get a plan in mind. I know there will be sloppy joes and bbq meatballs, cake, & ice cream. Probably more... hopefully, some veggies, too.

I have written down my plan today. I am marking it off as the day goes by. So far, no seconds.

I will carry on. Thanks for listening.

07-06-2012, 11:10 AM
Still doing well on my new mix-and-match plan, but I've got a challenge today -- lunch out at a restaurant to be determined, but likely not one of the normal ones that I already have a plan written up for. So here's my plan: 1 carb, 1 small protein, lots of veggies. Unless I can get a good-sized main dish salad, in which case, I'll skip the carb.

WI: +0.25 kgs, Exercise: +60 255/1400 minutes for July, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

onebyone: your sister needs to read some of kaplod's posts about not giving up when you're succeeding. Here's a good one:
The painting made me laugh! What a great expression -- and who thought a bird could have an expression!

Newlifestyle: my favorite first step toward gardening is to have a basil plant. In a pot, if necessary. It's so useful in the kitchen -- great for summer cooking with tomatoes. And the plant is probably as cheap as a bunch of fresh basil at the grocery store. You may still be able to find a plant a local nursery, maybe even on sale.

07-07-2012, 06:11 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Eating was on plan, CREDIT moi. Dinner on the patio included a salad with four types of lettuce from our garden. The main course was a summer white bean dish to make it a vegetarian day. I get plenty of protein, including a protein shake when I do gym, so a non-meat day feels like a healthy hit to the body. Mango was evening snack.

A good exercise day starting with gym, CREDIT moi, and including three hours of serious yard work at my DS's house. It felt good to get so drenched in sweat. I didn't remember to drink water until later in the evening - really dumb. I don't seem to feel thirsty until I feel the dehydration. Gotta work on replenishing water as I'm losing it.

onebyone – Congrats to your DH for his "superhuman bloodpressure reading" - naturally he will assume this is due to his healthy lifestyle instead of genetics, LOL. Yay for a doctor who observes your weight loss and refrains from the lecture.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Neat to develop a plan for Restaurant TBD. Yay for fresh summer Basil.

Beverlyjoy – Good luck planning for a birthday party that will have all the comfort foods at once. It's been years since I've had sloppy joes - used to love them.

Ann (Newlifestyle) - Yay for being wakened by birds. When our kids were young, we had a 12 foot diameter pool that saved many a brutally hot day. DW and I would even sneak out at midnight to cool down - it felt deliciously naughty to be using the kids pool without the kids, LOL. I LOVED making the whole thing a whirlpool to tumble the kids.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
Confidently Follow Your Plan While Traveling

After the trip: On the way home, plan your meals for the rest of the day and the next day. If you get on the scale and find you have gained weight, don't get discouraged! Reread pages 102=105 to get yourself back on track.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 161.

07-07-2012, 07:32 AM
Hi Coaches!

I've been tracking food and weight daily...getting lots of spontaneous exercise as I do all the household chores now. Work today,and I'll take my lunch. Busy, too, moving forward with new decluttering which feels good.

I have a to do list before work, including DH's written plan. It helps us both get through the day better.

07-07-2012, 10:49 AM
Good Morning Everyone :wave:

Busy, busy here at my house. Got through my first Stampede event, lots of stairs in an old theatre that is 3 stories high. My calf muscles still hurt but I have another event there on Monday to limber them up again! Event went well, only one small foray into the mini donuts, which is crazy as I don't really even like them much anymore. Weight is up this morning but I think it's a combination of Thursday nights food, not enough water and really sore muscles. Tomorrow is my official day to record my weight. I do feel better about only writing it down once a week and just weighing for knowledge on the other days.

Going to head out to see some horses jump today at a national show here at Spruce Meadows. I can smell the horses from my house on days when the wind is blowing the right way. It's nice to live in a city of over 1 million but still have the rural life a few blocks away. Need to get ready for the day. Hope everyone has a good weekend!

07-07-2012, 11:33 AM
Hi Becksters/coaches/friends... Yesterday was an on plan day. I am very grateful. I did plan and write it all down, left a bite, drank lots of water, did my exercises and avoided DH's candy.

I am giving myself credit for really wanting some of DH's candy last night - right at bedtime - BUT I used my resistence techniques for not eating it. I know it's down stairs in his office - in his desk. I would have had 'sneek' down to the basement and search for it. I just wasn't going there. I am very very grateful. You see.... I wasn't willing to leave that candy alone two days ago. But, I was last night. YAY

I found this yesterday & it was helpful:
Sean Anderson (a three hundred pound loser& maintainer ) said:

'You're taking a stand against the patterns of the past. You're deciding in grand fashion to choose change. Your iron-clad decision is powerful, unbreakable and a true relief. This time isn't the others. When this decision is made and your transformation becomes top priority, suddenly you feel lighter. For me, it was the first time I took charge of myself. I was choosing change before change chose me and come what may, I was going to succeed. It was decided. It was chosen. It was a stand like no other because every excuse, rationalization or circumstance I allowed to shape me before, suddenly ran into a steel curtain zone where they were immediately rendered powerless.'

Have a great weekend.

07-07-2012, 12:41 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.
Today is the beginning of my new eating program. I have stalled out long enough and I want to take a stand now instead of 15 pounds from now. I have chosen "Eat to Live" plan by Dr. Furhmann. I am giving it two weeks to see how I feel on it. It is a lot less protein than I have been eating and a ton more veggies. These next two weeks are the perfect time for me to start. It is regimented days (camps for DS) with only one night away from home (family reunion)
It will not be easy. I will go through much withdrawal, I realize. I will have lots of time to get to know the program, shop and cook. So here goes. I am going to the store to get a ton of stuff I don't usual buy - almond milk, nuts, flaxseed and copious amounts of greens for juicing. I will also get easy stuff for DS lunches so that I don't get overwhelmed. Wish me luck on my first day.

Newlifestyle: No special tips on french toast. Just milk and eggs. Make sure the bread is at least day old. Cook at med. heat for awhile.
Beverlyjoy: Great quote. Today is the day the steel curtain of determination is set in place for me.
Tazzy:Best thoughts for weigh in. Remember, it is just information.

07-07-2012, 01:04 PM
I ended up with a main dish salad at a restaurant lunch yesterday. My bread fast helped me skip the buttered toast that came with the salad.

Today's challenge is our late 4th of July family gathering. The predicted high: 110 degrees. So there won't be much in the way of walking like sometimes.

One of my SILs is doing Whole30 so I'm making two cabbage salads. My normal creamy cole slaw is low-fat because I use yogurt instead of most of the mayo. But that has both dairy and sugar that isn't on her plan. So I made up another dressing that is high fat but no dairy or sugar -- cashews, olive oil, lemon juice, and a plum (to try to get it a little sweet), blended to liquid. We'll see if she likes it. It turned out pinkish purple even though I peeled the plum.

WI: -0.55 kgs, Exercise: +0 255/1400 minutes for July, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Good luck, maryann! Trying a new plan every once in awhile really helps me. I get to learn some new things, try out some new foods and habits, and generally get off to a fresh start.

07-08-2012, 05:26 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - A good eating day - exactly three meals and three snacks, CREDIT moi. Since dinner on the patio was omelets, it was a second vegetarian day in a row. Our Blue Jay did his bath thing right next to me then perched on the chair where my feet were resting - less than a foot away. Beginning to feel like a pet bird, LOL.

Exercise (CREDIT moi) was two hours of physical carpentry of the drenched-in-sweat type. The big deal was that a two pound bag of trail mix was set out for the guest workers. I chose to ignore that the whole time. My clue that I shouldn't indulge was that I didn't want a small amount to boost my energy; I wanted a HUGE handful . . . followed by more HUGE handfuls. An open large bag of trail mix is just evil to me - especially since it was gently being pushed by the grateful hosts.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – A salad dressing that includes cashews blended to liquid sounds good. Kudos for not being thwarted by that buttered toast.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yay for the benefits of family planning.

Beverlyjoy – Kudos for "avoided DH's candy" - know that can be difficult. Love the quote, "every excuse ... immediately rendered powerless."

maryann - Bon Voyage on your new "Eat to Live" plan. Yep, 'tis the season for a ton of veggies.

Tazzy - Kudos for exercising on the staircase of an old theatre - while on duty even. Love the thought of being able to smell the countryside from your city life.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
Confidently Follow Your Plan While Traveling

Memory Box Cards

The first time you follow your plan while traveling and find that experience meaningful, file it in your Memory Box. Made subsequent cards for any future trips with meaningful experiences. This is what Renee wrote on a Memory card:Memory CardI usually overeat when I travel, but this time I packed
lunch and a snack ahead of time. It felt really good to
eat in a healthy way, and I felt much better than I usu-
ally do when I got to the hotel. I managed to skip all of
the snack from the mini-bar - I've never been able
to do that before. Although I think the portion I took
one night were too big, I basically stayed in control
the whole time.Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 161.

07-08-2012, 06:15 AM
Hi Coaches!

Yesterday was a healthy Beck centered day. I did encounter a sabotaging thought last night, thinking, "I'm doing great maintaining my weight through this ordeal WITHOUT exercising". Reality IS that working 4 days a week where I walk constantly and never sit down once during an 8 hour shift IS exercise. I'm also mowing the lawn, hauling all the groceries and performing most of the household chores up and down two flights of stairs. In my thought, I was not giving myself credit for lots of physical activity. I give myself credit for a healthy body/mentality which allows me to accomplish all I do.

Interesting....this morning I was staring at all the cookbooks on our bookshelf, thinking it would be nice to purge in order to make room for new books more pertainent to our evolving food interests. Today is a day off. DH wanted to do something and in my search for a "field trip" I found the Vegetarian Society of Colo. is holding their annual Veg-Fest. DH is really excited as he is really committed to change. I'm excited, too, as it brings us closer together in our eating habits. There are lots of speakers, demos and food booths. I've weighed this morning and am just a hair off ticker weight. I'm feeling very mindful and have given myself permission to enjoy a day of tasting new things, while researching foods to incorporate into our evolving health plan. We have picked two speakers who will be discussing subjects of interest to both of us and I will invest in at least one new book.

BBE, yay for two vegetarian days in a row, especially as you avoided the "vegetarian" trail mix.

Beverlyjoy, thanks for sharing part of the post from Sean. I read it to DH, who is able to relate from his side of the track, as a normal weight person who is trying to reform his junk food habits. Great job resisting DH's candy!

gardenerjoy, kudos for planning ahead for a successful meal at a new restaurant, especially with bread avoidance.

MaryAnn, great that you are starting with a new food plan, especially a healthy one. I love your shopping list!

Tazzy, yay for lots of spontaneous exercise at the Calgary Stampede. I've always heard lots about it.

07-08-2012, 10:52 AM
At our family gathering, we managed to feed a diabetic vegetarian, a paleo dieter, a bread faster, and a person with an allergy to red meat. Not everyone could eat everything served, of course, but no one went hungry. Credit for not going back for seconds even though others did.

WI: +0.05 kgs, Exercise: +0 255/1400 minutes for July, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

BillBlueEyes: LOL at "Yay for the benefits of family planning." Good job recognizing the dangers of trail mix, especially when pushed by grateful people. So many levels of complexity, there.

Lexxiss: I hope you and DH have a fun day -- that sounds like a great event!

07-08-2012, 12:11 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

Yesterday was a success. I was OP 100%. I felt good - no acid indigestion (which has been happening lately); slept 7.5 hours straight (which hasn't been happening lately); shopped for 2 hours to gather all the healthy food I will need for the two weeks. I was willing to spend more for the fresh produce and healthy nuts, dried fruit etc... I wasn't hungry all day.

I have started logging what I will eat on a great website called "Calorie Count" i typed my food for the day into the recipe analyzer and it showed me the nutritional breakdown. This is important because I am a little worried about getting enough protein now that diary is off limits and only 12 oz. of meat a week is allowed. Today's food has plenty of healthy fat and 52 grams of protein so I shall be ok.

So far so good. Off to a nice walk in the cool morning.

gardenerjoy: Credit for the variety of eaters fed. Intentional eating is paramount to health and rarely connected with the idea of "picnic"
BBE: Blast the trail mix! Analagous to a drink on the table to me. Both have certain demoralizing effects.
Lexxiss: It is so easy to underestimate what we do. Your persistent insistence on awareness is impressive.

07-09-2012, 06:46 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - At dinner I chose a sane serving of a rotisserie chicken - CREDIT moi. From somewhere deep in my brain a rotisserie chicken is a food to overeat. In my past, I've easily split one with a friend. Sign of some mental progress.

Appears that I treated Sunday as a day off from physical exercise - Ouch. The most exercise was wielding a screwdriver, LOL. I have a new book from a yard sale and at three chapters in I've grown weary of the characters. This might challenge me to follow the advice of others on this thread and just stop when I'm no longer interested. Learning the personality quirks of someone I don't like just to find out the plot twists won't be worth it. I'm not ready to quit yet, but I write this to help me prepare for the thought.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Congrats for surviving the dynamics of a family gathering while staying your own path.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yay for the Veg-Fest as a "field trip" - neat way to explore new stuff. I've gone to the one in Boston several times, but, unfortunately, over sampled. I'm particularly boggled that I can't tell from vegan cheese. [LOL that trail mix is vegetarian.]

maryann - Yay for the successful start of your new eating plan. Can you have fish instead of red meat?

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan

Confidently Follow Your Plan When Life Gets Stressful

You've learned the skill of making time for dieting. But sometimes, no matter how well you practice this skill, life gets in the way. You have to fit in a series of dental appointments; you get a fender bender and lose the use of your car for a week; you strain your back; one of your parents is in the hospital; you take a second job.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 162.

07-09-2012, 10:30 AM
We had rain! It's supposed to be cooler today, too. So I'll get to do gardening as exercise. Woohoo!

WI: -0.2 kgs, Exercise: +55 255/1400 minutes for July, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

BillBlueEyes: I'm sure I've mentioned Nancy Pearl's rule, but I'll say it again for the newbies. Nancy Pearl is the librarian who does book recommendations on NPR after writing a book about books called Book Lust. She says to give a book 50 pages. And, then, when she got older, she amended it to say that for every year you are over 50, you get to subtract a page. Because life's too short and there are too many books. When you're 100 years old, you get to judge a book by the cover!

07-09-2012, 01:42 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

I am declaring yesterday successful. Ate all my veggies, flax seed, green smoothie. I ate more than my 150 cal personal choice when making my son molasses cookies. Still I am under ticker this morning.

Unbelievable frustration trying to get ATT to help stop crank calls. I promised myself I wouldn't scream and I haven't but my stomach is in knots. Oh Well.

Food is pack for my journey to DS summer day camps.

Gardenerjoy: Love Pearls theory on book reading.
BBE:contemplating the number of calories burned when lifting a screw driver.

07-09-2012, 04:08 PM

So yesterday a friend from Ottawa was in town. I drove over, picked her up and we tooled around my new town for the day. I had a great day and felt better about living here (an unexpected benefit) as I showed her the art spaces I have discovered so far. S is from Hong Kong and speaks several asian languages well so she is my person of choice to go to asian food restaurants with and a new always-packed Vietnamese Pho place opned up around the corner so we went there for lunch. I had a "safe" choice: Pho Ga or chicken soup with rice noodle. She managed to get us seats fast and explained what was written on the menu and the ordering system there; invaluable practical information.
Normally on Sundays I am just vegging out.
The market on Saturday was thrilling: torrential downpours, lightning, non-stop all morning. I didn't put anything out in the booth for two hours, then had a minimal display. No $ came my way and I spent minimal $ too. I did paint a great little painting, moose in bathing suits, I think influenced by the movie Magic Mike, which I haven't seen yet. Anyway I mention all this to say my food consumption has been higher than last week. I am into the weekly points in a big way this week. I lost a daily point this week as my weight went down enough for that to happen. I have 9 more points to lose before I hit the lowest of the low daily points. But yesterday, after seeing my friend, DH and I were out back BBQing and he brought a big bag of chips outside with him and I just munched away and thought wow, these are the best chips I've ever had, and kept eating. I had NOT ONE THOUGHT of being on a foodplan, or restricting my food amounts; nothing. Complete and total mindless eating. I "came to" about 3/4 into the big bag and went wait a minute. I don't eat this stuff like this anymore, but, as always happens, I had triggered the MORE :devil: monster. I had a large dinner and an extra dessert but that was it. I have still to track my points for it.
Afterwards I can say the reason behind the "celebratory meal", which is what it felt like, was the good visit with my friend. I was worried about the state of my apt and did the kitchen cleanup before I went to get her as well as a clean up of the bathroom. I was worried she'd judge me for my place, she'd not like where I live (in general) she'd be critical, I wouldn't like her that much anymore aka we've both changed and etc. It was all the opposite and I felt so relieved and I ate over it.
I'm now concerned I will see a rise in my weight on official weigh in day, or no change at all. As of today I am on track and all that. *credit* My mindlessness while 100% totally and completely mindless food consumption lasted only for the time it took to eat 3/4 of a bag of chips. Not even the whole bag. I will take a *credit* for that and for stopping and for having spent so many days on track and not binge eating that I saw it for an abnormal behaviour and not the norm.
*credit* true progress.
*credit* also yesterday for choosing to walk to several local sites: my garden, the restaurant, the art store, with S. she is very active. She and her spouse think nothing of dropping their canoe into the Rideau Canal and canoeing to Kingston from Ottawa as "something to do"- a 3 day canoe trip. She is "really old" she says but I have no actual date. I suspect she could be close to 60 but I say this based on her accomplishments only, not on any physical signs. I truly admire her and she inspires me.

Going now.


Nature Girl
07-10-2012, 01:52 AM
Stayed OP today as I plugged away at more applications and waited for a 2nd interview callback that never came. Then I managed to break three rules all at once though when I opened a mike's black cherry (booze, sugar) and drank it on the way to the mailbox (standing up). Back on track for dinner...PROMISE tomorrow morning I'll do PT and ride my bike before it gets hot, which will be early because it was 105 here today. And soon as two apps are done, I'm taking a break with Beck, my notes and a bunch of colorful markers.

07-10-2012, 01:53 AM
Good evening Coaches:

I had a good day, no binges. I received my Beck CD's in the mail and will download them tonight onto the computer and into my phone so I can listen to them at work for reinforcement. I listened to my diet relaxation positive reinforcement CD's last night a lot and it has been helpful today. I ate well today and did lots of walking....

OnebyOne -- good job on figuring out how you were eating because of your anxiety about your friend coming to visit.....that will help you sidestep those feelings next time.

Maryann -- good job on preparing all your food and for planning your new program. I've seen him (Furhman) and looked at his books, and he has a comprehensive and well thought out plan. Keep us posted how it works for you....

Gardnerjoy -- impressed you fed all those people with different eating styles -- that's not an easy task gal! I love the info about 50 pages, then subtract a year and at 100 we get to judge books by their covers....I did this HUGE sin this weekend -- was reading Northanger Abbey for the first time and could not WAIT to find out the ending and googled the book summary....LOL....after that could settle down and enjoy each and every word.

Lexxis -- that's great your DH will go with you to explore more veggie meal planning and tasting -- I'd never get my hub somewhere like that without a promise of a chunk of carnivore something :o

BillBlueEyes -- sooooo, uhmmmmm Bill....was that two hours of carpentry withOUT a shirt???? Inquiring Minds wanna KNOW!! :o:o

Okay, I've caused enough trouble for one day.

Here's a Beck Team Hug.:hug:

07-10-2012, 04:11 AM
Hi Coaches!

Yesterday was a good Beck day. Some days work is easy, but I had to kick in my resistance skills more than once to avoid sugary/fat items. credit for pitching the rest of the funky cool whip pie from the walk in that the owner brought in on 4th of July.

BBE, kudos for a sane portion of that chicken. We aren't eating them too much these days but it always seemed to be a trigger (stand up while eating) food for me....salty and oily.

Elizabeth, great job following through and getting the Beck CDS for listening at work.

NatureGirl, credit for getting right back on track!

MaryAnn, yay for 100% OP!

onebyone, credit for stopping with those chips! (one of the hardest things to do). Glad you got to do lots of walking with your friend.

gardenerjoy, yay for gardening as exercise!

07-10-2012, 07:26 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Eating was on plan, CREDIT moi, including only one evening snack of fruit. My dinner salad was a tomato cut in wedges - perhaps to remind me how much I was longing for seasonal tomatoes around here. We're still eating greenhouse wonders, for which I'm most grateful in February, but am now tired of eating them.

Gym, CREDIT moi, was uneventful. And my walk included errands and watering our community garden.

onebyone – Yay for feeling good enough about your personal space to invite an out of town friend over. Kudos for the de-cluttering that got you there.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Nancy Pearl's rule is the greatest - just loving the notion that when I'm 100, I can judge a book by its cover.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Bye, bye funky cool whip pie
Drove my Chevy to the levee but the levee was dry
Them good ole boys were drinking whiskey in Rye
Singin' this'll be the day that I die
This'll be the day that I die.

Nature Girl – Ouch for being seduced by the Un-Magic Mike. Hope those applications bear fruit. And hope all is going well back with your parents.

maryann - We can't get anyone to stop the recorded-voice credit card companies and the fake political poles. Let me know when you find the silver bullet. Kudos for stopping with the molasses cookies - those are seductive.

Elizabeth (Elizabeth779) - Kudos for eating well and "lots of walking." [Without a shirt??? Surely you jest; Magic Mike is onebyone's inspiration, LOL.]

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan

Confidently Follow Your Plan When Life Gets Stressful

A university of Toronto study shows that during harried times many people tend to comfort themselves with food, especially candy, chocolate, cakes, and chips. However, such life stressors don't have to be recipes for diet failure. You can follow your diet no matter what - if you're prepared.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 162.

07-10-2012, 11:22 AM
I was hungry all day yesterday. Credit for staying on plan.

Back when I was overeating, I had no idea that some days were just hungrier than others. Now that I know that hunger is not an emergency, I have unmasked an ebb and flow in hunger level that doesn't seem to correlate with much of anything (maybe moon phases like the tides?). It helps explain why my overeating used to ebb and flow as well. I suspect that at least some of my overeating episodes were rooted in actual hunger. For some reason, that makes me feel more sane. It also makes me grateful for my new mindset where hunger doesn't equate to panic. Hunger is no bigger deal than the occasional minor twinge in an arthritic knee or getting DOMS thirty-six hours after a new workout. Hunger requires no action--I can simply observe it.

WI: +0.1 kgs, Exercise: +65 375/1400 minutes for July, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Elizabeth779: Glad you're enjoying Northanger Abbey. I thought that was startling funny -- not at all what I thought a Jane Austen novel was like.

BillBlueEyes: Missouri has a No Call List which is pretty effective. No more credit card companies, but we still get the fake political polls because, of course, the politicians exempted themselves!

07-10-2012, 02:06 PM
Day 3 with Dr. Furhman. I am enjoying the food but the prep time involved is daunting. I don't know how I will do this when school starts. Anyway that is not today's problem. I keep in my mind the mini goal of 14 days. I will be back under 160 by my niece's wedding.

gardenerjoy: Thanks for reminding me that sometimes I AM hungry. I am not doing anything wrong. In fact, it is a mark of success when I feel an empty stomach. It is so important to retrain my thinking.
Elizabeth: So far, I feel great on his plan. I am happy to refocus on fruits and veggies and he seems to provide enough fat and protein ( I don't know how) to keep me satisfied. I just have to quiet my mind that dreams "It won't be enough!!!)
BBE: One day with no house phone and it feels terrific!

07-10-2012, 11:32 PM
Hi everyone, just home from work. Work has been busy. I need to find balance in my life. I am off to bed.
Have a great night and I hope to do personals tomorrow.
Oh yes, I stopped at McDonalds on the way home. It is not enjoyable food. I think I was an emotional eater tonight.
I need to work on this.
Good night all.

07-10-2012, 11:39 PM
Hi Coaches

I tracked my food today. I went over my ww daily points though. I had seconds of some potatoes at dinner even though I had already put them into a bowl for storage for tomorrow. I just stood up, walked over to them, and chose to eat them, with margarine, while standing, in the kitchen.
That, though, was the worst of it today and I have moved on with my life.

I weighed in and saw +2.7lbs today. Ok. Fine. I think I am going to miss Thursday's weigh-in. We're off to see a woodcut print art show by my former teacher and it's a 4hr drive to the show. We'll stay overnight in the area, maybe camp, maybe not, and then be coming home on Thursday, my weigh-in day. Oh well. It's not a reason to go off plan or anything like that. I just keep on keepin' on.

Bye for now.

Nature Girl
07-11-2012, 01:57 AM
Pretty good OP day; did the three things I said I would do:
-Upper body workout this morning
-Sat with my notes & lists & Beck stuff--organized, prioritized, read the beginning of the green book, made plans for this week.
-Bike ride this evening; turns out that Central WA has the same long lovely evenings that MT had, you just have to start sooner! Ride was more challenging than last week, with roads and trails and a couple small hills. This fists in w/ one of my three cardio goals: Move-just do it! Pile up the miles and minutes. and Push yourself each time.
My new goals for this week are
-Pay attention to portion sizes
-Focus on foods from the superfoods lists
-Push the cardio--make sure to get the biking, hiking, or walking in!

Maryann: So smart to realize that time to do this plan during school is an issue for later no need to give up or stress on that now. Also, probably by fall you will be in the habit and it won't take so much time.

Onebyone: Sounds like you had a great time walking with your friend. I was lurking when you were in Key West and I was envious of your long day walks there---sounds like this walking thing might be your thing!

07-11-2012, 06:25 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - It was a good day eating on plan, CREDIT moi. I felt desire for additional afternoon snacks - when I had something to do that I was avoiding - but pulled up the memory that dinner wasn't that far away.

Didn't get much exercise as mentioned in today's quote, "simple don't make time to exercise" - Ouch. But do get to increment my monthly counter for staying the course; CREDIT moi once each month just for breathing, LOL.

onebyone – Have an adventure on your trip to the woodcut print art show. Will you get to talk to your old teacher?

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Yep, Kudos indeed for "Hunger requires no action--I can simply observe it."

Nature Girl – Yay for meeting three serious exercise goals. Our papers are printing pictures from your area of amazing red sunsets due to Siberian wildfire smoke.

maryann - Kudos for recognizing that it's projecting to worry about the time to cut veggies once school starts. It boggles that our minds can dig up these kinds of thoughts.

Ann (Newlifestyle) - "I need to find balance in my life" - a lifelong quest to be sure. Kudos for recognizing that McDonald's isn't enjoyable food.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
Confidently Follow Your Plan When Life Gets Stressful

Create a Stressful Times Mindset

When people are stressed, they often give themselves permission to let things slip. They stop running errands, put off routine medical visits, call their friend or family less frequently. Dieters, in particular, get loose with eating and exercising. They fail to plan their meals in advance or go to the market often enough. They grab food on the run, eat unplanned food, and simple don't make time to exercise.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 162.

07-11-2012, 09:17 AM
Hi Coaches!

A quick check in....yesterday was good with a major resistance success at work. credit. Today is planned.

BBE, thx, I will always remember your words when I hear that

07-11-2012, 11:10 AM
Yesterday, I was not as hungry as the day before, but I thought about food constantly. Another interesting observation. A hungry day tends to trigger a temporary obsession with food -- not surprising, but I didn't know it to be true. In the past, I might have catastrophized about that -- "I'll never get over this! I'm permanently broken! What's the use!" Better to observe that sometimes my mind and body just do this thing.

I came up with a metaphor last night. There are times when my mind and body put me in the mood for a hot bath and a J.D. Robb novel -- even when my TBR stack has 20 other novels already in it. I might act or not act on that desire. But what I don't do is turn it into a crisis. "OMG! I'll never get on top of my book obsession!" My response is along the lines of,"well, duh!" And, I won't judge myself harshly just because I had the inclination.

I want to treat my food obsession just as tolerantly and gently as I treat my book obsession. It's part of me. It's not going away. I can accept that and move on with my life, sometimes indulging myself and, more often, talking myself into some other pretty distraction that doesn't add to my book count or my calorie count.

WI: -0.4 kgs, Exercise: +60 435/1400 minutes for July, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

07-11-2012, 02:10 PM
Another 100% OP Day. Part of me wants to say "Easy" and the other part says "I don't think so." Credit where credit is due. Food prepped for the day ( no easy task), exercise planned.

onebyone: I completely relate to the Zombie mode of "sleepwalking" to more food. Drat. This food compulsion is insidious.
Naturegirl: How great to bike. I have read numerous studies that show it is not the calories burned but the "being outside" part that is so instrumental in good health.
BBE:I like the sailboat analogy. We are never steering directly at our destination. We are always veering one way or the other. The only requirement for reaching our goal is to have the destination in the front of our mind.

07-11-2012, 03:37 PM
Hello coaches, mighty fine coaches, I might add.
Thanks for being here.
Bill - The quote for today is what I needed. Thank you. I need to set a plan in place when I am feeling overwhelmed or stressed to help keep on plan. Your words to the song made me laugh.

onebyone – Your day with your friend sounded wonderful. Have a great time on your outing with DH.

Joy - your words are very valuable to me. I need to learn not to judge myself harshly just because I have an inclination....thank you.

Nature Girl – There was an article I was reading in the local paper that mentioned being outside with nature helps people to feel better. I thought of you as you are always outside it seems.

Maryann - Wow 100% on plan again, Kudo's to you. I would love to be OP. I know it is a choice but right now I feel overwhelmed as the have identified my son as gifted and people are expecting him to behave in a different way. I think they forget he is still a nine year old boy. I am also worried about what this means for his schooling, etc. I am probably worrying for no reason. We just found out so this is all new to us.

Debbie, I hope you are having a wonderful day. Yeah for today being planned.

Have a great day.
Hello to everyone else.

07-11-2012, 04:16 PM
Hi Everyone,

Quick check in for me, half way through the Stampede and my last event is tomorrow night. Doing okay on food, trying to drink enough water at events and walking lots.

Things at home are busy too, we are in the process of trying to adopt a rescue puppy and are pretty excited about the whole thing. We have a home visit on Friday scheduled so they can see us interact with him and hopefully allow us to adopt! :crossed:

Looks like I have lots of posts to catch up on as well. I'll be back soon.

07-12-2012, 06:53 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Hot enough that the bird bath evaporated, albeit with a little splashing help from its feathered guests, but not so hot that I couldn't have dinner on the patio and just savor the moment. Did so without using off-plan food to make it more so, CREDIT moi.

At gym, CREDIT moi, a second ceiling air conditioner is being installed. This one isn't over an area that I use, but it's an impact anyway since I have to go inspect how the job is going. Watching a monster heavy box being lifted with winched lifting ladders fascinates me. Now I want my own winched lifting ladder - just in case I ever need it. I'll put that on the same list as the magnificent device that can lift a whole 4'by8' panel of sheet rock to the ceiling by one man. If I had a barn, it would be so full of neat toys.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Such an interesting insight that we don't kick ourselves for reading some odd book when we have a selected "important" stack waiting. Yet we let our responses to food get under our skin as if we'd stolen the family jewels.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yay for a planned day.

maryann - Yep, not "Easy" - just a way of avoiding giving ourselves credit. Kudos for seeing through that.

Tazzy - Good grief - a puppy adoption interview. Talk about an unneeded source of stress. Good luck with that process. By the by, please tell me there isn't an 800 Pound Chocolate Bull ( at the Calgary airport for Stampede. How do they keep folks like me away from it, LOL.

Ann (Newlifestyle) - Good luck sorting out what it means to be parent of a child labeled "gifted" even as you deal with the awesome beauty of just being a nine year old boy. Yep, I can see that as a source of stress calling for comfort - for which food will falsely sound like a source.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
Confidently Follow Your Plan When Life Gets Stressful

Create a Stressful Times Mindset

One common sabotaging thought they have is, I deserve to comfort myself with food. If you have that thought, agree with the first part of it bur respond to the second part. Of course, it's true that you deserve comfort. But if you seek comfort in food, you will only end up feeling more stressed and out of control - and you may gain weight. Instead, do what successful maintainers do when they feel stressed. They look to other people for comfort. They treat themselves to something special, such as a massage. They pray or do mediation or yoga.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 162.

07-12-2012, 11:36 AM
Credit for not eating over an explosion of family business issues.

On the good news side, we had our first sweet corn of the year last night -- grilled with nothing on it. Yum!

WI: -0.3 kgs, Exercise: +60 495/1400 minutes for July, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

07-12-2012, 12:15 PM
Hello coaches,

I ran this morning and it is funny how it clears your head. A nice escape rather than eating food. While running I realized that there are others out there that have bigger fish to fry. I just need to be well informed so I make good choices for my DS. Thanks for listening to me. I am on plan so far today. My lunch/dinner is packed for work and I am not taking any money so that I don't buy anything.

Bill, I thought my DH was the only person who saw all these gadgets and wanted them. I think it may be the engineer in him, not sure, maybe it is a boy thing you often hear people say a boy and his toys.

Tazzy, how I love the Stampede. I walk for hours and hours. I always have so much fun there. Have a great time enjoying all the memories you get to make.

Joy, Sorry to hear you are having family issues way to go not eating over it.
Sweet corn is so yummy enjoy.

Hello to everyone else and have a wonderful day.

Take Care

07-12-2012, 01:31 PM
Hi friends... checking in. Food has been so, so. I did manage to lose some of the weight I put back on. I also hurt my knee somehow. This is discouraging. So I am doing RICE. If it's not better in a couple of days, I"ll check in with the doctor.

I am writing down everything I eat. Credit.

Take care now.

07-12-2012, 01:38 PM
Good morning everyone,

Sore feet today, not a good start, I picked the least painful shoes to wear but they already hurt. I'll try to sneak in some sitting down durning the event but that rarely happens.

Yup BBE By the by, please tell me there isn't an 800 Pound Chocolate Bull at the Calgary airport for Stampede. How do they keep folks like me away from it, LOL.
He's there in all his 880 pound glory. Was a bit surprized myself to see the news story. There's a lot of extra stuff this year with it being the 100th anniversary. It was interesting to read that they are hoping to shellac it for future use. I'm not sure I'd want to even taste the chocolate that's had who knows how many hands in it??

We get to meet the puppy tomorrow, with this being a rescue dog there is a big process to go through to make sure the home is suitable. They are trying to lower the number of abandonded and returned dogs. This little guy and his sister were left by their momma on one of the native reserves near the city.

Well, back to a couple things on my desk before heading out.

07-12-2012, 01:57 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

I feel very grateful for another 100% OP day. I remember this feeling of being in the groove and I also remember not being able to get into the groove. I don't want to go back

It is easier to stay OP than it is to get back OP!

07-12-2012, 09:37 PM
Hi Coaches!

Today had twists and turns as DH's back has not improved. Our "fun" day turned into hang out at home. I felt disappointment, since we were going to a Vegan dinner tonight. I countered my feelings by ;
1. taking a nap after acknowledging I am tired
2. wrote a plan for MY healthy dinner, which I'm going to follow through on soon.
3. worked on picking up/decluttering (distraction technique)

07-12-2012, 09:46 PM
Hi Coaches!

Today had twists and turns as DH's back has not improved. Our "fun" day turned into hang out at home. I felt disappointment, since we were going to a Vegan dinner tonight. I countered my feelings by ;
1. taking a nap after acknowledging I am tired
2. wrote a plan for MY healthy dinner, which I'm going to follow through on soon.
3. worked on picking up/decluttering (distraction technique)

I was going to write some personals tonight but I'm having some issue with a disappearing cursor??? A bit frustrating and it's more than dinner time. I must take care of myself tonight.


07-13-2012, 05:27 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Summer days slow down my mechanisms - even my brain seems to move slower. On plan, CREDIT moi, with the changeup of adding Canadian bacon to my breakfast instead of the cereal that I love. The notion being that a slab of protein will fuel my day like the paleo people insist that my ancestors would have had. It's not really new; for years I've occasionally purchased some slices of Canadian bacon for a few breakfasts, savored the infusion of morning salt, honored my internal cave man, and moved on.

Walk (CREDIT moi) included returning the DVD Tibet - Cry of the Snow Lion to the library. So hard to envision when our planet will be so civilized that a society of Tibetan Buddhists can be allowed to exist. Having visited and experienced the people, I'm not an objective viewer.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Sweet corn is just the greatest; I had two ears myself last night, but they weren't grilled - I'm jealous. Kudos for "100%op" despite family business issues.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Ouch for DH's continuing back issues with Kudos for dealing rather than eating. Does the Tennessee Pass problem impact you?

Beverlyjoy – Good luck with your RICE Diet Program. Hope your knee issue is briefly temporary.

maryann - Yay for "in the grove."

Tazzy - I assume "sore feet" means lots of healthy walking. Maybe it's a signal that you deserve new boots, although in Texas serious cowboy boots can easily cost US$1000. Shellacking chocolate is a crime against nature; failure to eat chocolate is a crime against nature; eating chocolate patted by the masses is disgusting. I can't think of a good solution. Good luck with your puppy interview today.

Ann (Newlifestyle) - Yay for running to clear the head - the world's best free drug.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
Confidently Follow Your Plan When Life Gets Stressful

Create a Stressful Times Mindset

A second common thought is, I just don't care anymore. This statement is probably both true and false. You probably don't care as much at that moment. But you probably will care very much the next time you get on the scale or suffer other negative consequences of overeating. And even if you don't care very much that moment, try projecting ahead to when the stressful time is over. Will you care then?

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 162.

07-13-2012, 10:58 AM
Still dealing with family business issues and it's going to be "hot" for at least a few more days. We're meeting on Sunday. If agreement can be reached, then it will be just a matter of implementing it -- still a bother, but at least not so emotional.

My weight is back down to my trend line for the year. I'm not sure that means anything at all but it makes my chart much more satisfying to look at.

WI: -0.75 kgs, Exercise: +60 555/1400 minutes for July, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Newlifestyle: credit for this thought: "others out there that have bigger fish to fry." An excellent reminder for me -- there would be no family business issues without the family business which has been an enormous blessing in our lives.

Beverlyjoy: great to see you here. Credit for RICE instead of food (even rice) to fix a knee. I seem to remember that in the past you were able to take time that had to be spent with your feet up working with your Beck material. Is that something you could do now?

Tazzy: hope you survived the day on your feet and that they get a good rest soon. I recommend the yoga pose called "legs up the wall."

maryann: yay for being back in the groove. I'm enjoying being here in the groove, too.

Lexxiss: excellent three-point plan for dealing with disappointment!

BillBlueEyes: Irish bacon comes from the same part of the pig as Canadian bacon, but cut differently. Good stuff.

07-13-2012, 02:12 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

OP yesterday. Tried new dessert within food program - dates, avocado and cocoa powder blended up. It makes a nice chocolate pudding.

This morning was rough. I drove an hour to get DS to his violin camp only to find he had not brought his violin. I totally lost it, yelling disproportionately to the situation. Still, he is first violin player with no violin and that his only job - to get the violin in the car. The teacher was kind and arranged around it and now I am sitting at coffee shop feeling terrible about myself. What am I to do? I can't take the morning back. Failure is pressing in on me. Credit for not eating. I will pick him up in two hours and make amends. Credit for "trying" to get off my back. If I don't get off my back it will be even worse for my family. I came from a long line of black out ragers. Damage was done that I can't undo. I need to put my one blow up in context and realize I am not like my parents but I am human.

Tough stuff to feel when I am not using food as an anesthesia.

07-13-2012, 03:23 PM

To me the weekend in the middle of July is the weekend that is the middle of the summer and therefore the peak of "green". I think of this as all growing things--if they aren't well on their way now they won't make in our Northern Climes.

It was shaping up to be a fantastic, art-filled adventure weekend and then, my mom's cat Max died. He died yesterday. My mom, with her alzheimer's affected brain remembers he's dead, then thinks he is lost, then wonders who took him. It pretty much just cycles like that. She has never lived without a cat and my Key West sister made arrangements with the villa where my mom lives that she would be getting a new cat if/when Max the cat died.

And so, I now miss my painting slam event at my former Ottawa art school teacher's Toronto gallery. It's Saturday and would have been amazing. I was so excited to go. And then Sunday is a fundraiser for the local jazz festival. Artists were asked to donate a 4" x 4" canvas for auctioning off. I'm dropping my contribution off today. The paintings are presented without names and the event is called Who Dunn it? (Dunn means something but I know not what.) I was looking forward to attending. Also tomorrow is DH's atv team building work thingy. He will still get to go as his boss is going to pick him up and bring him to the event since I'll have the car.

As you may guess, I am stressed. Visits to my mom are tough. This one will be tough. My Ottawa siblings are distant from me,and not communicating at all with my Key West sister. I try not to be in the middle or trapped in the role of go-between/messenger, so in this case I sent an email to my brother and copied my sisters on it. Just said I'd be there over the weekend and why. No doubt they will be upset that my mom is getting another cat. Our disagreements all stem from differing outlooks on how my mom *really* is. For me, if the head nurse, and the villa, feel it's fine for my mom to have a pet, and they see her everyday, then it's ok. If there is a problem, we'll deal with it then.

Foodwise, I need to be on the ball and have a plan and remember what the heck I am trying to do. I was up 1.8lbs at my official weighin yesterday to 255.2. I was not surprised; happy it wasn't 3lbs. Today I am back down to 252.2. *credit*

So, thanks for being here and for reading. I'm taking all of you with me on my travels. I'll be checking in over the weeked as we are in a hotel this time (thank you to the villa for being all booked up) with wifi.

ok I have some stuff to get to today. TGIF.

07-14-2012, 06:57 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Another summer day - as if it were the season or something, LOL. Dinner was on plan, CREDIT moi, including a sliced cucumber picked from the garden within the hour.

At the gym, CREDIT moi, a large guy was pulling a sled laden with weights under direction of his trainer. It was such a funny sight. He's a BIG guy - strong, tall and BIG. Watching him pull the sled reminded me of slaves pulling the blocks for the pyramids from the movie Moses. My walk included watering our community garden where four cucumbers had appeared in three days. Just appeared. My theory is that cucumbers don't grow as do normal plants, they apparate like in Harry Potter movies.

onebyone – R.I.P. Max. Sending supportive thoughts to the humans whose lives were richer for your presence, and for the family tribulations to be faced with your passing. Have a safe journey to Ottawa, onebyone, focusing on your tasks at hand and not what could have been.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Yay for family business possibly improving from "emotional" to "a bother." Thanks for your reminder that it's a blessing. I sometimes forget when I'm sweating about the tribulations of repairing my old house to first stop and appreciate that I've got a place to live.

maryann - Sending supportive thoughts and cyber-hugs as you accept and love maryann through the violin incident. Nine year olds can be pretty resilient when they don't have to hide the unpleasant stuff. Yep, you are not your parents. Kudos for not turning to food to try to make it better.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
Confidently Follow Your Plan When Life Gets Stressful

Create a Stressful Times Mindset

A third thought is, I can't do it anymore; dieting is too hard. This thought usually arises when dieters have had intermittent difficulty practicing their skills for several days, but the experience of a few hours colors their memory of entire days or weeks. Whenever you feel burdened by life's stresses, ask yourself, Has sticking to my diet been difficult for every hour of every day? Or were there some hours or even days that it was easier? If you feel overburdened, identify the specific times or situations in which dieting was difficult. Ask your Diet Buddy for help in identifying times of trouble.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 162.

07-14-2012, 08:44 AM
Hi Coaches!

Yesterday was OP amidst two huge outflows of $$, an event which used to push me back into old food habits. We got a huge co-pay for DH's surgery *ouch* but I made arrangements and decided to order the new carpet anyway. *credit* for continuing to be totally happy "getting paid to exercise". Speaking of, today starts a 5 day stint....something unheard of 90 pounds ago.
Our simple joy here has been picking the sour cherries to go directly into our morning smoothie and deciding it OK to share our abundance with the eager birds. It's the first year we haven't stashed them all for a pie...perhaps because we both know we really never enjoyed the pie with all the just seemed it was what we were supposed to do.

BBE, yay for OP eating including a yummy cucumber. You haven't mentioned gazpacho yet....

gardenerjoy, yay for a happy weight chart, especially amidst tough family drama.

onebyone, sending support as you travel to lend a helping hand to your mom. I'm in agreement, especially since she's always had a cat, as long as the villa agrees. Hang in there!

MaryAnn, kudos for taking deep breaths and commiting to resolution w/DS. It happens to all of us. We are human. Glad to hear you enjoyed your new dessert concoction. My new WOE has several avocado recipes I've yet to try. We're limiting/cutting out dairy here at the moment.

07-14-2012, 09:23 AM
Good morning Coaches

Bill - Enjoy the cucumber, your posts lead me to believe you truly live in the present. Enjoying each situation as it presents itself. Thank you for reminding me I am blessed to have a place to live instead of complaining about something that needs to be done in my house.

Onebyone - May your siblings understand the importance of your mom's well being rather than worrying about a cat. Sometimes our intentions are based on something totally different than what we voice. I want to apologize for all siblings out there who sometimes don't get it. I am guilty of that. Thank you for your honesty it made me realize some things need to happen because they are what is important....hugs to you.

Gardenjoy - I have never heard of Irish Bacon. I will be on the lookout. Happy weight chart gazing.

MaryAnn - Hugs to you. Thanks for the reminder it is okay to be human. I appreciate all your posts. I too have a nine year old and can relate.

Debbie, Yikes with all the expenses. The carpet once installed will make it worth it. We always made jam because we always just did that. Berries are much better tasting in a smoothie. Have a wonderful weekend.

Hello to everyone.
Have a great day.

07-14-2012, 12:26 PM
Yesterday defied planning which is where my mix and match meal plan shines -- I swapped out the homemade meal I planned for the restaurant meal that was on my mix-and-match plan. Credit!

WI: +0.2 kgs, Exercise: +60 555/1400 minutes for July, Food: 90%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Sending supportive energies to maryann and onebyone during stressful times.

Nature Girl
07-14-2012, 01:45 PM
I wrote a post last night to catch up for missing two nights of non-reports, and then lost it--too tired to rewrite so I'll do it now.
Best news:
1)Mom is home from rehab center, PT people think she is doing well, and my brother is there taking care of her and Dad.
2) I reached my first 5 pound goal! Actually it's 7#, and the best part of that is that it reminds me that this really does work-sticking to guidelines, staying active, eating healthy. I'm so proud!
Other news- no change in job situation; no more interviews yet which is really depressing but since last Monday I haven't eaten over it. Dogs are having a hard time with heat and each other--one's at the vet right now. Very hard to deal with. The heat we had all week (no AC) may have broken this morning, or this could be another thunderstorm and it will warm up again later...hard to know.
Stayed pretty much on plan this week, and didn't fall into the dessert menu afterwards. Had decided it was ok, but when it didn't happen, had a fresh, ripe nectarine with yogurt & 1tsp honey later. *credit*!
Need to plan bike or hike later today if (hopefully) the rain drops dry up, and plan dinner for tonight so it's easy when I get hungry.
Onebyone, Sorry about the changed plans but you are strong & brave and you will feel right about helping your mom.
Maryann, I remember those days with my kids too, it always felt awful for me afterwards. Good for you for not eating over it!
BBE: Re: your wishlist of big boy toys: my DH too! And we do have a barn to store stuff, so that can be dangerous!

07-15-2012, 06:16 AM
Hi Beck Coaches -- it's a fast drive-through (the good kind -- lol). It's after 2:00 a.m. on my day off and I'm ready to sleep (early for me).....

Yay me for having great discussion with girlfriend today about 3FC support, and Beck book....sent her a copy of my advantages list because the list has been helping me -- it drives, fuels even my motivation, STRONG desire for controlling food intake.

Yay me for using relaxation CD's the last couple days to help stress levels....

YAY everyone for checking in and continuing with Beck....God Bless Judith Beck wherever she is tonight! It really is the key that unlocks the door to our success. I truly believe that.

Ahhhh wish I could stay more, type more, respond to great posts you'all have made last couple days, but head ready to hit the keyboard.....nite all

Beck Team Hug!

07-15-2012, 06:38 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Stayed on plan when having dinner with friends, CREDIT moi, even though there were options. I did have one cookie with the meal, but take solace that it was only one and there was stuff I didn't eat. There are opportunities for FREE ice cream today on National Ice Cream Day. The only ones that I already know about aren't on my trajectory, so perhaps I'm safe. But there are a lot of ice cream parlors about that might try to trip me up including a Ben and Jerry's truck that roams around Boston unpredictably. I've never seen it; today would be the wrong day to be my first since there'll be some FREE cones.

The heat discouraged walking beyond getting to my friends' house which wasn't that far away - CREDIT moi anyway. This lack of rain business is growing old; it means that I have to water the plants which requires patience.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Good luck at your family meeting today. Yay for using "mix and match" as it was meant to be used.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Ouch for both $$ AND $$ - it's hard for me to spend big twice in a row. Kudos for making a sane choice with the cherries. [With the cukes arriving, gazpacho is coming - drool.]

Nature Girl – Congrats on those seven pounds gone and Cheers for your mom moving forward in recovery. Good luck in the job lottery - may the one for you come your way.

Ann (Newlifestyle) - Hope all is going well. Presumably Canada is too intelligent to have National Ice Cream Day so you're safe.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
Confidently Follow Your Plan When Life Gets Stressful

Create a Stressful Times Mindset

Prepare for such sabotaging thoughts by making Response Cards:UNDER STRESS RESPONSE CARD #1It's true I'm under a lot of stress right now. But stick-
ing to my plan isn't hard every hour of every day. And,
in fact, there are times when sticking to my plan has
made life easier because I didn't have to think about or
struggle over food. It's not worth it to me to throw in
the towel and stop watching what I eat because I will
definitely gain weight, feel bad about myself, and feel
even more stressed.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 163.

07-15-2012, 08:15 AM
Hi Coaches!

Yesterday turned crazy but I stayed OP. Kirk's DD had her baby while I was at work necessitating a 10 min. turnaround at home before driving down to the hospital. Compounding things....I got a call at 556 am that I was supposed to be opening at work (thought I was 7am gal). I left without smoothie and worked my shift without feeling hunger. credit for making the smoothie before the hospital trip. Addl. credit for not partaking in take out chinese which I ordered and picked up for the new dad. Instead, we stopped at Whole Foods for a tasty caesar salad topped with tofu. Work again today, but gratefully no trip should be necessary.

BBE, no Ben and Jerry's trucks here. lol. Thx, as always for keeping me current on all our important holidays.

07-15-2012, 08:22 AM
Good morning,
Quick check in before I leave for work.
Yesterday was OP for me....yeah. I was away from home all day. That is a first OP not being at home.
I hope everyone has a great day.
I have a busy weekend. A bit stressful but I haven't eaten over it yet. I am trying to remember, "This too shall pass"
Have a wonderful day. I hope to get back for personals.
BBE- I will fit 1/2 cup of ice cream into my meal plan today for national ice cream day.....Ice cream is not a trigger for me so I should be okay.
Take Care

07-15-2012, 10:33 AM
I ended up eating an extra snack yesterday when supper was going to be late and I was grumpy about having to fix it when I was tired and hungry. It kept me from uttering the words "Let's order pizza." So, I'm going to consider it a good thing as long it remains an isolated event.

Our family meeting got canceled due to illness today which means the drama continues. We're going to attempt to resolve things in a conference call on Tuesday, but we attempted to resolve things with phone calls last week and it didn't help which is why the meeting was called. We'll see.

We may go to lunch with the bits of the family that aren't sick, so I can't plan the day. That is sometimes cause for frustration in me. I'm going to focus instead on planning for the week and try to flow through today.

WI: -0.3 kgs, Exercise: +60 675/1400 minutes for July, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

07-15-2012, 11:51 AM
Hi Everyone,

We get our new puppy today! We passed the home visit and he really loved it here and did not want to leave when his foster mom was ready to go. We had to wait 24 hours after before he can come home, to be sure you still want to proceed and that you have everything ready for him like food, chew toys, leashes and stuff. Lots of shopping yesterday but such fun. His rescue name was Exodus but we have renamed him Dexter (after the tv show we're huge fans). Once I get some good photos I'll figure out how to post one here. Looking forward to taking him on many walks and lots of play time.

Today is track the weight day and down 1.2, pretty happy with that considering I did not write down anything all week. I was very concious of what I was eating and all those event steps really added up. 15,620 steps from the event on Thursday, again in an old renovated theatre and I was on lots of stairs between the basement and the catwalk. At least my continual weeding in the garden and flowerbeds keeps the hamstring muscles limber. My garden is doing great, the heat wave last week really got things growing. I plant sunflowers by one fence for privacy from the neighbors and I swear you can see them growing. The package said they could get 12 - 14' tall, last years ended up being 9' and they got pretty hard to support, I'm going to need rope this year instead of string.

Hope everyone is well, time to get a few things done for puppy-proofing the house.:woohoo:

Nature Girl
07-15-2012, 03:26 PM
I love hiking! Feeling all the muscles in your legs & thighs working together, hearing your heart go pitter patter and knowing it's getting stronger, the soaking wet t-shirt afterwards signifying all the calories you sweated away. And all this while walking through towering pine trees, flowering bushes, and watching squirrels, dragonflies, and uncountable birds skitter in and out.
Went 1 hour 10 minutes on a steep local trail--haven't been to the top yet but in this heat 40 minutes UP was enough.
Broke two rules yesterday: at a fruit stand, ate a huge bing cherry sample standing up. But stayed away from the tasting station where they had all kinds of jams, etc to taste on crackers.
After eating my nightly allowed dark chocolate, I felt it tasted bitter so I had a marshmallow (no sugar!). That actually was worse--way too sweet--so I learned. And didn't have more.
Tazzy: I'm so jealous about your puppy but I guess three dogs (two who are fighting lately) is enough at our house. This should lead to plenty of extra steps as you take the puppy for walks, right! BTW, my DH says it is impossible to puppy proof a house...all you can do is resign yourself to the impact.
Gardenerjoy: A healthy snack instead of a pizza feast or a complete fall off the wagon is definitely a good thing--especially with family stress complicating things.
BBE: Nt'l Ice Cream day: Geez--- glad I didn't know til it was over!

07-16-2012, 06:06 AM
Hi Beck Coaches --

Oy vey what a day, had a very stressful day -- and reacted well for most all the day -- credit -- I give myself credit for that -- AND EVEN WENT TO THE GYM -- credit -- but then late at night maybe I stayed up too late....and then after keeping on track all day OP, then tonight it just fell apart and I ended up eating popcorn when I wasn't hungry and THEN a piece of cake.....I'm not sure why I did that -- has that happened to any of you where you do the right things and give yourself credit and then late at night it falls apart? Any suggestions what I should have done instead?

Bill -- good for you for keeping in control with the food -- sounds like the cookie was your controlled decision.....and I'm with Nature Girl in that maybe it's a good thing I didn't know it was ice cream day.

Naturegirl -- good for you for that nice hike -- sounds wonderful....VERY wonderful. That hike beats getting sweaty on a treadmill at the gym with the music blaring.

Tazzy -- ahhhh Dexter the puppy....Dexter is a great name. Good for you for all those steps at the event, and I also think you can see sunflowers grow....they're the most amazing flowers.

Gardnerjoy -- good luck with the family conference call. I understand about being in the kitchen and tired and hungry....that's a real perfect storm for me for eating.....

Newlifestyle -- good for you for not giving in to eating because of are making your resolve stronger doing that.

Lexxiss -- how wonderful your day turned crazy because of a baby -- and more wonderful that you stayed on track.

Everyone hang in!

07-16-2012, 06:30 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Eating on plan (CREDIT moi) had two highlights: I ignored platters of factory made cookies of three different kinds that I happen to like - had none, as in zero; I took plastic containers to dinner with DW at our favorite Thai Restaurant so that we could both bring home half our meal for a second dinner. I'm not fond of the Styrofoam clam shell take-out containers, so just brought our own. I also wanted to test my new one-shoulder back pack bargain purchase from a yard sale; it's kinda fun, it feels more casual than a normal backpack and faster to slip on and off. I wouldn't climb a mountain with it, but carrying takeout home from dinner was just right.

My body thinks that I've forgotten how to exercise. I just got busy and didn't. Except to walk to dinner, OK, CREDIT moi for that. I sometimes forget that the walking I've incorporated into my life also counts, even when I don't get take a planned long excursion. Got hit over the head with one-more-new-study showing that exercise, particularly walking, delays Alzheimer's.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Ouch for continuing drama. Here's hoping that the next round of phone calls will provide the break through needed. I wish my mind would just forget phrases such as, "Let's order pizza."

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Congrats to the new Step Grandma. Hope the mom and kid are thriving. Kudos for stellar responses to a series of whack-a-mole challenges in your day.

Nature Girl – Just savoring your hiking "through towering pine trees" - what a way to live. With a Bing Cherry on top, no less.

Tazzy - Welcome home new puppy. LOL about your sun flowers, "see them growing" - you might experience that with the new puppy as well. Kudos for 15,620 steps with so much up and down.

Ann (Newlifestyle) - Thanks for "This too shall pass" - a good antidote to several of the exaggerated thinking's that Beck discusses.

Elizabeth (Elizabeth779) - Yay for sharing your Advantage List with your girlfriend - it's great to have folks who understand how we're thinking. Kudos for relaxation CD's instead of comfort food - good Beck stuff there.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
Confidently Follow Your Plan When Life Gets Stressful

Create a Stressful Times Mindset

Prepare for such sabotaging thoughts by making Response Cards:UNDER STRESS RESPONSE CARD #2I will feel generally more in control if I control my eat-
ing. But I do need to look for other ways to comfort
myself. Food is just a momentary distraction that
comes with really negative consequences. When
this stressful period ends, I know I won't want to
be heavier.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 163.

07-16-2012, 12:22 PM
Good morning,
Today started out great and I hope it continues that way. I walked on the treadmill as it is still really hot outside, ate my smoothie, and played peggle with DS. I will have to go make lunch and then I am off to work. Who knew a part time job involved so many days. Two to three days suits me fine.

Bill- What a great plan to take your own containers to the restaurant. I rarely take leftovers because I am not keen on the styrofoam containers.
Thanks for the reminder that the walking I do counts as exercise too.

Debbie, congrats on your new grand baby. Great job with all the stress hiccups in your day.

Joy, I hope all the stress with family business gets calmer.

Tazzy - how exciting for you to have a new puppy. How lucky for the puppy being matched with you.

Nature girl, where you live sounds so beautiful.

Elizabeth, I think I could incorporate a relaxation cd into my life. Thanks for giving me that thought.

Onebyone- Thinking of you, wishing all went well in Ottawa.

Maryann - I hope you are having a great week. My thoughts are with you.

Hello to everyone else out there. Have a great day.
Take Care

07-16-2012, 12:49 PM
My choice at an unfamiliar restaurant was reasonable -- especially my choice to have two small bites and no more of the pasta side which turned out to be macaroni in alfredo sauce. The two small bites proved to myself that I don't even like that sort of thing any more.

DH developed sudden-onset eye floaters yesterday with the accompanying stress of trying to figure out if that's the sort of thing you call a doctor for on a Sunday. It turns out it is. We went to the eye doctor's office first thing this morning. The advice is always have new floaters checked. It's usually a benign thing but it's a symptom for a retinal tear which needs to be diagnosed and treated ASAP. Fortunately, DH's retina is fine so he just needs to give his brain time to tune out the floaters.

WI: -0.05 kgs, Exercise: +45 720/1400 minutes for July, Food: 90%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Elizabeth779: night eating is a challenge for lots of us. I've experimented with a number of strategies and it varies over time which works better. The best, for me, is to go upstairs away from the kitchen and do something else -- taking a bath and/or going to bed being the most fool-proof. At various times, I've allowed myself some specific snack after supper -- candied ginger or popcorn -- but nothing else is allowed. Other times, I've mentally closed the kitchen after supper clean-up.

BillBlueEyes: I just saw a statistic this morning that New Yorkers have a longer life expectancy than the rest of the country in spite of higher stress, air pollution, and other urban dangers. The explanation is that New Yorkers walk.

Nature Girl
07-16-2012, 02:11 PM
Had to postpone my hike this morning due to thunder & a downpour, but that kept the dust down and activated the sage so the air smelled amazing. Went 6 minutes further up the hill--tomorrow will be a bike day because I've got a blister developing.
Goals for today: arms and abs exercises, plan food for day, two more applications.
Three insights I worked out on the trail:
-That fancy drink I indulged in the other night wasn't even any good - the only part I liked was the vodka--so next time think before you "indluge"
-Fresh ripe nectarines w/yogurt really do satisfy when your mind is on dessert
-Only about a third of the hike feels like its going to kill you, and you feel so good afterwards--totally worth it!
Tazzy, I got off this site after responding about puppy proofing and my SIL who is a 4th year vet student was on Facebook talking to a friend whose Mastiff puppy was eating dish towels and then um, "leaving" them in the yard. Good luck with that puppy proofing!
Gardenerjoy, Isn't it interesting how our tastes change but our brains don't know it yet? We still think we crave the old unhealthy, over-rich stuff.

07-16-2012, 04:26 PM
Hi Everyone,

Dexter is now home with us and will take some time to settle in. He's quite comfortable in the house and loves his new dog bed and toys. Not too crazy about the crate for sleeping in, he had me up 3 times last night to go outside. At least he has a good strong bark and it's only a couple times to wake me. He didn't make any messes in the house so that's encouraging. It will be interesting to see how DS made out with him today, he knows he had to let him out about every 3 hours and when he called me at work at 8am and asked what time we'd be home I think the reality of having the dog set in and all the work it will be. My guess is that Dexter will sleep alot today. The one good thing was DH was outside with him for 1.5 hours last night and he would usually be sitting in front the computer complaining he was bored! He won't be bored anymore!

The sunflowers are pretty evenly spaced and Dexter looked like he was learning the weave agility game from the dog shows while he was exploring.

Weighed this morning, stayed the same, exercise has been gardening mostly over the weekend. I'll get a morning walk in now before leaving for work as that's my shift with the puppy. Also weighed him this morning and he's 28 pounds. I figure if i pick him up every now and then it will remind me of how much I've lost and don't want back.

I'm going to try and figure out how to attach a photo.

07-16-2012, 07:18 PM
Good Afternoon, Coaches.

Driving back from a three day family camping trip without DH, I nearly had a terrible accident. The bike on the bike rack almost fell off. I had to park on the side of the 5 lane freeway. When I went to get out of the car, I was so flustered I neglected to put the car in park. I hopped back in and braked but it was pretty scary. DS was in the car. A CHP stopped to slow traffic by me. So many things could have gone wrong. I am still jittery. My last post was about me feeling out of control and it took today's event to make me take action. I need to do less. I need to say, "No." I cancelled the scheduled basketball camp for this week. I am staying home all week except for DS piano lesson. I am not scheduling ANYTHING ELSE that requires me leaving home for the next four months. I already have one event a month scheduled till December. That is plenty.

I don't know what I am running from but it can get me killed.

Credit for staying OP this weekend with family and little sleep. This is a miracle. Credit for not jumping into food to make me feel less scared about what might have happened. Yoga Tomorrow.

Hope to catch up on Personals tomorrow since I will be HOME.

07-17-2012, 04:56 AM
djdjdafjdsjdkafkjljldkfjfggggrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr -- just finished great post -- personals and all, and was writing something about beck............when I LOST IT!!!!

fuss fuss fuss....too tired to reconstruct it all, but from now on, I'm going to write my posts in MS Word first and then copy them over.....

so now I really need my relaxation tape!!!

Everyone have a great day today on your programs.....


07-17-2012, 05:11 AM
I'm going to start having a personal Beck quote of the week for a while -- going to learn some of these principles like I'm 6 years old and it's a Bible verse.....I typed this in MS Word -- not losing stuff NO MO!!

Here is the Beck Page 30 I typed:

"The inner argument between sabotaging thoughts and helpful thoughts can make you feel tense. The tension is unpleasant. Often, you’ll try to alleviate that tension by deciding to eat. But before you eat, take note: Interestingly, what usually happens is that you find your tension abating as you reach for the food – before you put the food in your mouth. However, just as the decision to eat can reduce tension, the decision not to eat can also reduce tension.”

07-17-2012, 07:14 AM
Hi Coaches!

It's been busy here. Yesterday afternoon we went back to Denver to return the pup to the new parents. I hadn't eaten but an apple at work and I stopped to think through the evening before departing. I paused, and reflected how much my Beck skills help me stay OP in day to day life. We had a snack at home then stopped at a favorite Asian fusion place for a yummy salad before proceeding onward. I knew physical hunger WOULD come and didn't want to get to the family event before eating. credit for OP eating and weighing every day.

I'm hoping the week slows down a bit.

BBE, I love the description, "factory made cookies". Thx. Kudos for not even one.

MaryAnn, I hope you are finding some peace today after your scary event.

:wave: everyone else! Keep up the great work.

07-17-2012, 08:31 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Good day at the gym, CREDIT moi. Watched a muscular guy pick up the 100# dumbbells to to the same chest press that I was doing with 55# dumbbells. Good thing that I don't even think of comparing. Walked to do an errand; came home soaked with sweat mostly from the heat, not the exertion.

Eating was on plan, CREDIT moi. No real temptation emerged since I've removed the foods that were part of my over snacking. We picked a zillion more cukes from the garden; DW promises gazpacho for dinner tonight. I'm psyched.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Stopping at two bites of an unneeded pasta dish is so sane. Need to learn that.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Kudos for keeping to a plan to avoid physical hunger before a family event.

Nature Girl – DW would so love to have your downpour - we remain without rain here. Neat perspective that only one third of a hike feels like it's gonna kill you.

maryann - Yep, Super Kudos for "not jumping into food to make me feel . . . " - food doesn't seem to solve feelings. Ouch for the near accident. Glad to hear that one of those neat California Highway Patrol guys stepped in helpfully.

Tazzy - You're gonna have to starve yourself if you attempt to match your loses to Dexter's gain, LOL. Love hearing about the puppy; I remember those days.

Ann (Newlifestyle) - Yay for an indoor treadmill when it's too hot to be outside. You made me go google 'peggle' - looks fun.

Elizabeth (Elizabeth779) - Ouch for the late night popcorn and cake. One thought is to write down your evening snack the day before - it's easier to follow a plan than to "behave rationally." Good luck. I like the Beck reminder that the decision to not eat can also reduce tension.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
Confidently Follow Your Plan When Life Gets Stressful

skills for when you are under stress
You will need most of the same skills as for other challenging situations:

Review your Response Cards and Advantages Deck often.
Use your Resistance Techniques.
Check in with your Diet Buddy to stay accountable.
. . .

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 163.

07-17-2012, 11:43 AM
I super-sized a snack in order to ward off the hunger that I had on Saturday. Interesting experiment, but I won't do that again. An extra snack in response to true physical hunger is better than eating too much just in case I might be hungry later. The first would be rare and in control, the second holds the seed for completely out-of-control behavior around food.

WI: +0.3 kgs, Exercise: +0 720/1400 minutes for July, Food: 70%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

07-18-2012, 07:14 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - On plan included dinner of gazpacho on the patio, CREDIT moi. OK, it was gazpacho with our cukes but purchased tomatoes. But joyous, lovely, yummy gazpacho. Protein came from cheese toast made with a smokey cheese. Also had a cuke salad with my lunch. Yay for summer.

Walked (CREDIT moi) in 98 degree F. Stopped at Whole Foods for peanut butter, which had gone up in price - from $2.99 per pound to $3.00 per pound. Go figure. Had planned to be noble and avoid all the FREE samples. Then made the weird decision to walk through the store to count how many temptations I'd skipped. I skipped six cheese, crackers and/or dips of various kinds. Then fell for a small cup of sponge cake with fresh whipped cream - neither rare nor unusual, but beyond my willingness to just say NO. Ouch. Fortunately, it was small and I only had one. Gotta remember how easy it was the times I walked straight from my purchase to checkout without dallying about seeking temptations.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – I find it a challenge to give up the notion of stocking up for future unavailability of food. It's new to me lately to leave the house over a period that spans my planned snack and NOT have to take it with me. But, when I'm really busy, I don't miss or need my snack; skipping it is just fine.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yay for being aware of using your Beck skills to stay OP on a daily basis. Puppies and small children are even more wonderful when they can be returned to their new parents, LOL. Hope your week slows down.

Elizabeth (Elizabeth779) - Love the notion of learning Beck strategies like you were a "6 years old and it's a Bible verse."

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
Confidently Follow Your Plan When Life Gets Stressful

skills for when you are under stress
You will need most of the same skills as for other challenging situations:

Imagine the aftermath (gaining weight once this stressful period ends versus maintaining or losing weight).
Use you Cheat Sheet.
Weigh yourself every morning.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 163.

07-18-2012, 11:42 AM
DH's eye problems are ongoing. We went back to the eye doctor yesterday and he's going to a retina specialist today. It's still probably fine, but if they can detect and fix any tears as soon as possible, it's much easier than if the retina detaches which is what can happen if you ignore it.

I desperately wanted to eat over everything, mostly the way this is impacting my schedule and, especially, my ability to get any writing done. For the most part, I resisted (CREDIT), but I did have a larger than necessary serving of my homemade frozen yogurt with the justification that it's wholesome. But that's not a helpful thought for me -- I'm quite capable of overeating wholesome foods.

WI: +0.1 kgs, Exercise: +45 765/1400 minutes for July, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

07-18-2012, 01:31 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

Things have been quiet for the last two days. I have been OP for 12 days. I am one pound below ticker. My head says, "12 days and one pound down is terrible. Something is wrong." This thinking sets me up fall off the wagon. The real truth is my diet has been extremely healthy. It is moderate weightloss I am after and it is better than the pound above ticker I was two weeks ago. All in all, I am please with the new food program. The no dairy is a big change. DS has never been crazy for cheese or milk so things seem to be an easy transition. I just have to be vigilant he gets his calcium - Almond milk, tofu, legumes etc...

See how everything seems reasonably easy when I am not over scheduled? I am keeping to that commitment as well.

Family wedding this weekend. My goal was to be below 160. We'll see.

Gardenerjoy: Absolutely understand the ability to overeat healthy. In my case it is always about keeping the stomach full, with whatever will do the trick.
BBE: That last circle around the store is always the most treacherous.

Nature Girl
07-18-2012, 02:36 PM
Put off my bike ride yesterday am because I was applying, then last night a tremendous thunderstorm (with flash flood warnings and everything!) hit and stayed for 2 hours, complete with downpour. So this am I go going right away on the bike, even though it threatened to be too hot. It wasn't and I'm glad I did it!
Yesterday's food detour was tacos at Jack in the Box, bought to share with DD, eaten by me after I ate my 99 cent chicken san. Why did I do that? Mostly thoughtlessness and keeping busy while we waited for an appointment...silly.
Oh yeah - weigh in yesterday am- down 1 lb. Yes! I knew that 7 lbs in 2 weeks was not sustainable, simply the jump start you get at the beginning, so I'm good with a pound or so a week. Down is good!
My mom saw her surgeon yesterday and all is well--my brother left so they're on their own but she sounds ready for it, and we filled their freezer and adapted the house so they should be fed and safe. May go back in August (depending on job situation) just to visit Glacier again...1/2 day was not enough and we can also check in w/ her progress.
Today: more applications, more heat in the 90s, more healthy eating...same old, same old, I hope.

07-18-2012, 02:39 PM

I'm back from my Ottawa Odyssey. My trip has completely thrown me and I feel behind the 8 ball on all fronts. But--we were successful in Ottawa and O Well to the mess here at home and the pending art projects whose deadlines are fast approaching. I'll get 'er done.

So,we were successful in finding a new companion animal for my mom. My mother has named her new cat Trixie, and even with her memory issues she remembers the name. Brains are fascinating things, but I digress... Trixie is a fantastic, cuddly, purring 2 year and 2months old grey tabby cat. A small little girl.
In the shelter Trixie jumped in my lap and started to purr. Incredible for an animal in a shelter situation, but we found several super-friendly cats there. I've attached a great photo of my mom and Trixie getting ready for their first night together. My mom is 84, soon to be 85 in September. She looks great here with her new companion.
:hug: to them both and
:hug: to my sister for being there with us
and a :hug: to myself for getting the job done.
There were several points where we really didn't know if this was the right thing to do given my mother's situation. My mom wasn't sure as her self-confidence was shaken due to the death, in her lap, of her other cat only a few days before. As of this morning, my mom is totally taken with this active little cat and just adores her. :cloud9: And, we have residence staff members who we have hired to make sure the cat is fed and watered if my mom forgets so this is really what made the decision for us. And we have each agreed that one of us will inherit this charming feline if it comes to that.

This kitty will never go to the animal shelter ever again.

:welcome2: to the family Trixie.

Foodwise omg. What to say. I'd do well for 3/4 the day then lose it/not track/be too stressed out/be influenced by my sister or mother/not be able to find a place to get good decent takeout food and not have the energy to get to the grocery store or the brain power to think my way out of anything. I made some bad choices in the car coming home too once it was over but that's when I am always in danger. Basically I held onto my plan about 70% I'd estimate. I weighed this morning and I was 255.4, only 0.2 up from last week's official weigh-in so if I held the line, while disappointing as, yet again, for another week, I am in the 250's, I could have just as easily been up 5, 8 in those same 3 days. So I am going to give myself a *credit* for what I did manage to do right and a *credit* for being back on track today and for tracking my points. I already got some exercise *credit* by walking to the garden this morning and watering. Did some weeding and lifted my tomato plants up off the ground, re-adjusting the plant ties to the stakes to help support them better. One plant gave me a big show of 4 or even more regular sized tomtoes I hadn't spotted until I lifted the plant up. And they're starting to change from green to white, taking them to the stage before they turn red.

Must go. I have to choose some images to paint today. I have a lot of work to do in the coming weeks.

Thanks everyone for your good wishes and your concern. I'm glad you're all here.:hug:

07-18-2012, 02:47 PM
Hi Everyone,

Quick check in as I supposed to doing some reconcilation reports and am finding all kinds of the other things to do instead at my desk. Kind of the same way with ironing at home!

Still dealing with getting up 3 times a night with Dexter, going give him more time to get settled in. Our house looks like we have new born human baby with toys on the floor, sleeping crates and exercise pens. I'd really like to be able to leave him set up outside on nice days but have no idea how much barking he might do. One neighbor behind us has a chihuahua and a mini weiner dog and those 2 bark incessantly. We think their names are Heidi-no and Cocoa-no as that's the only way they are ever addressed. We don't want to be those kind of pet owners!

Weight is gradually decreasing and I'm back to the ticker number. I have not really thought alot about it lately and thankfully all this lack of sleep has not made me try to fix it with food. Probably helps that there are limited choices in the house as I really need to grocery shop. BBE I like to think that I'm not the type of shopper grocers are wanting when I go into the store for a couple items and only leave with those things. After working in a grocery store years back and learning about the "loss leaders" to get people in the door and hope they buy more I try not to do that. I love that you went back to count how many samples you passed by, sponge cake with fresh whipped cream would be a downfall for me too!

maryann creidt for 12 days OP and being 1 pound down, maybe you'll get a big whoosh to reward you for your persistance. Which program are you following now?

gardenerjoy Sending healing thoughts for your DH eye situation. I too am guilty of thinking if it's a healty food choice a little more can't hurt.

Well the telephone calls keep interuppting my posting so I guess I should go back to work.:dizzy:

07-18-2012, 07:31 PM
I'm new to Beck, and I'm both encouraged and scared! I've lost all confidence of my ability to lose any weight and then keep it off. So many diet failures and self-recriminations. Beck is so refreshing in it's approach; I actually feel hopeful. Yesterday, I had to commit to choosing two diet plans, so I chose WW and a low-glycemic diet. I've joined and failed in WW soooo many times. Although I did stick to it once for over a year and lost 50 lbs. I know it can be done and I fee encouraged that Beck will give me the tools. She is so positive that it works, as long as we do the steps in order and do them faithfully. That's my plan, to follow the book faithfully and to reach out for support (something that has been difficult for me to do).

Do I tell family, friends, and coworkers that I'm on WW?

07-18-2012, 10:42 PM
I give myself credit for not going by and getting a McDonald's frappachino today (lg) but made up for it as had burro and 2.5 chicken strips all fried. Also give myself credit for green beans for dinner with ranch dressing. I'm ok today not as good as it could have been but not as bad as it could have been either.

07-19-2012, 07:30 AM
:welcome: vegasgal :welcome:

07-19-2012, 07:31 AM
:welcome: grabec :welcome:

07-19-2012, 07:33 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - On plan, CREDIT moi, included sushi for dinner instead of DW's planned fish because the lights went out shortly before 6pm and have stayed out. Ouch. I post from a local 24/7 coffee shop to which I've schlepped with my laptop in the pre-dawn hours to get a cup of coffee. We wished for rain; it came in a deluge; included a lightning strike two blocks away. Be careful what you wish for.

Exercise was gym, CREDIT moi, as well as walking to dinner. Earlier it was too hot to even sit outside. Last night I had to cover with a sheet against the chill. It's not boring.

onebyone – Welcome home. Monster Kudos for sticking to your gut understanding of your mom's situation and getting her that kitten. Yay for covert tomatoes.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Kudos for staying your path in a stressful time. Sending supportive thoughts to your DH for a rapid solution to his eye issues.

Nature Girl – Ouch for "thoughtlessness" eating. BTDT. Waiting is another form of stress. It's stress day on the Beck thread. (Methinks we got your thunderstorm yesterday. It had that Washington State magnitude.)

Tazzy - "Gradually decreasing" is good. Kudos for recognizing that.

Woodland - Glad that your new food program is working, including enough calcium for a growing boy. [You remind me that a smart person told me that the last run down the slopes was the most accident prone - more tired, more ice, failing light. I had the good sense to take off my skies one run before the lifts shut down for the day. Gotta bring that wisdom to Whole Foods, LOL.]

vegasgal - "encouraged and scared" is a realistic start - like you've got your head screwed on right. Following the Beck steps, even when they seem silly or unnecessary, seems to work for the rest of us. Charge forward.

My choice is to tell family, friends, and co-workers that I'm eating more healthy after talking to my doctor. No more, no less. For me, it worked to mention my doctor (honestly, since he'd always been on my case to lose weight) so they wouldn't argue, and then give them no handles to discuss my food choices. You'll have to find what works for you. Be prepared to need a thick skin for inappropriate opinions. Glad you've joined us.

grabec - Kudos for recognizing that you deserve credit for good choices made without demanding perfection before you do. It's certainly the season for very good green beans. Glad you've joined us.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
Confidently Follow Your Plan When Life Gets Stressful

In addition, you can decide whether you want to stay at your current calorie level or go up to the next level for a predetermined period of time. It may be reasonable to add a little more food (especially if you have less control over you food), even if you stay the same weight or gain a little.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 164.

07-19-2012, 10:44 AM
I am so happy to find such an active group! Thank you for starting and keeping this thread going! Since I started the program I am now surronded by post it notes and handy "ad" cards for reference. Dr Beck certainly has my number! So many of the points that she covers are certainly my issues. I am struggling with "sitting down to eat". I know that it is important, but sometimes I just have to stand and eat. I have three kids and work part-time from home. Since it is summer vacation, everyone wants something to eat all the time. It's like a 24 hour diner around here. Shop for food, cook the food, clean up the food.... Oh my! Food, Food, Food...
Still trying to fit in the exercise. I am lucky to have my cousin dieting also and she has been a good example for me. I was getting dressed every day to go to the gym and it never happened, so she recommended that I pick just two days to go and one of them should be a weekend day while hubby is home. When I filled out my day breakdown, the only thing I could put after 9am was "chaos erupts".
I have to figure out how to add the tracker to the bottom.
Thanks again everyone for your support!

07-19-2012, 03:08 PM
Day 13 OP credit step class yesterday and yoga class today. Have written down my food and cancelled a few things to make the day less crazy. Credit for honoring my commitment to be less busy.

I am giving a little wedding shower at my meeting tonite. I have written into the plan 1 cupcake.

Welcome Vegasgal and Grabec and Soon fit: I have been over two hundred pounds twice in my life. Food addiction is insidious and demoralizing. The Beck skills have helped me tremendously to find sanity with food.It takes intentional time and effort but it is worth it.

Tazzy: I am following Dr. Furhman's Eat to Live program- the less extreme plan which allows 12 oz. of animal protein per week. It has been quite an adjustment and takes time to prep the veggies but my eating is a lot healthier. I log what I eat into a cool website that breaks down the nutrition guidelines and when I am short on calcium, I take a supplement for that day. The no diary has been the biggest challenge.

NatureGirl: Your "silly" eating really resonates with me. So many times I have asked myself, "What happened? Now I try to look at the feelings happening at the time and try to understand the trigger.

07-19-2012, 04:54 PM
Coaches, hello.

Went to my weight watchers meeting *credit* weighed in to see a +2.6 = 257.6 today. I was really feeling like giving up, but I haven't given up yet and I am still down from 291+, so I keep moving ever forward. I know why I saw that number and I am taking steps to see another number next week.

All this talk of numbers number numbers :dizzy: is driving me :crazy: nuts so I am doing something that has been a successful strategy for me in the past. I am:mag: changing my focus. Instead of :frypan: beating myself up over :devil:why oh why oh why aren't I under 250 yet; look how far you have to go to get to a "decent" weight; you're losing weight waaaaaayyyyyy too slow, you'll never make it; you know you have so many places to go and you're going to show up at them fat, still fat :devil: (sabotaging thoughts I see you :mad:) I am going to change my program this week, aiming to have success with being wheat-free for 7 days and to get 20min of planned exercise for 7 days.
That's all.
The numbers game is really beyond my control. I can't "make" my body produce a "good" number on cue. At this point I feel so frustrated that seeing 255 again just doesn't feel "good enough" (today anyway) but... I can choose to move for 20 minutes and I can choose to avoid wheat products each day. I have never tried eating that way before so for me novelty like this helps me get re-focused on what I can do vs. counting down the days hoping to see a "better" number on official weigh-in day. I need to feel successful everyday right now.

Other projects include a return to getting my house in order and to cook meals from scratch. To this end I have gathered my dishes and will do them today and I am making soup for myself from scratch and will make something for DH tonight from scratch. I have eaten a lot of pre-packaged and restaurant meals during the past 5 days and they are loaded with salt and I am such a sponge I expected the weight to pile on and not let go. Again, it's about what I can do to feel progress and this is always a good place to begin again.

At the meeting today there was a (rare) inspirational thought shared with us. It was: If you are tired of starting over, then don't quit.
I AM tired of starting over and once I re-framed my disordered thinking, I realized I am not starting again or starting over as I haven't stopped. I just need to shift gears.:scooter:

07-19-2012, 11:55 PM
Hello everyone,
This is a busy thread. It is wonderful to have all this insight from all you great coaches.
I had a busy day.
I was OP today and I ran on the treadmill this morning. I feel good. Thank you for all your inspiration. Great thoughts.
I was feeling those sabotaging thoughts of why bother posting, you don't have any thing interesting to say....blah, blah, for realizing they are sabotaging thoughts and are not necessarily real.
thanks to all of you for being here.
Have a great night.
Take Care

Nature Girl
07-20-2012, 12:19 AM
I am so proud of myself today - I climbed The Ridge! If you were a local you would know what an accomplishment that is--it's a three mile trail with 1800 feet of elevation gain, going mostly through sage brush and rocks to a stunning view of out entire valley. I have been going part way up the forested middle trail that is less steep, but today, somehow I got to the switchback section and just kept going. It was actually longer and harder than I remembered, mostly because of the heat. And going down is a challenge also because of the steepness. So I feel pretty good about this accomplishment! :carrot: Of course, tomorrow I will need to borrow my mom's walker...:dizzy:
Amazingly, that much effort didn't make me excessively hungry, so I was able to stay on plan the next day. I did drink gallons of H2O and other sugar free liquids, to keep up with the heat, the sweat, and the sunburn (oops).
Tomorrow I promise to do personals--you all have interesting things going on--but I've been on the computer all day (three more applications, done and sent:) and if I lose this I'll be frustrated.

07-20-2012, 06:36 AM
:welcome: soonfit :welcome:

How did you learn about the books by Dr. Judith Beck?

And how did you find this Beck forum on 3 Fat Chicks?

07-20-2012, 06:38 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Our power was restored by the time I got home from my pre-dawn excursion yesterday. Twelve hour outage is a long one for us; it's usually less than two. The food in the fridge and freezer remained cold enough that we lost nothing, although we'll eat what was in the freezer quickly out of concern for the thermal cycling. Eating was on plan, CREDIT moi, especially at the coffee shop where the fresh pastries dripped with hot, gooey, and yummy - yet I had NONE. A special CREDIT moi for a situation that was screaming to be titled 'special' enough to stray from the path.

Exercise was several walks, CREDIT moi, including to our community garden. The rain gave growth spurts to our cukes so cukes are on our agenda for both lunches and dinners for a week.

onebyone – Just love it, "If you are tired of starting over, then don't quit." Seems wise to me that you're focusing on the things you control and let your body focus on what it controls. Salt loves to look at itself on the scale. Yep, you're just tuning your plan; keep the faith.

Nature Girl – 1800 Kudos for climbing The Ridge. Neat that all the exercise didn't make you excessively hungry. Good luck with those applications - ya gotta kiss a lotta frogs, but you only need one prince.

maryann - Yes indeed, Kudos for honoring your commitment to reduce your busy. Hope your one cupcake plan went well last night.

Ann (Newlifestyle) - Sabotaging Thoughts come in subtle packages. Glad you've spotting them. Kudos for OP and for the treadmill session.

soonfit - That's exactly how I felt, "Dr Beck certainly has my number!" - like she was a mind reader. You have a challenge there in your "24 hour diner." Kudos for recognizing that you can find a way to plan what you'll eat even though you're still surrounded by food. A bunch of us have had problems with finishing what our kids didn't - an easy pitfall.

And Kudos again for seeking a way to get some exercise; again a challenge with your work load. Do try to continue to post your progress so you have a way to hold yourself accountable. Glad you've joined us.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
Confidently Follow Your Plan When Life Gets Stressful

You may also need to do some problem solving to reduce your stress. Ask yourself the following questions:
What do I need help with?
Whom can I ask for help?
Which self-care activities am I neglecting?. . .

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 164.

07-20-2012, 11:40 AM
Hi Coaches

Succeeded on a minor level yesterday: food from scratch, posted here, made a plan. *credits*
Did not get the 20min exercise in which I was going to do in the evening and did not clean up the kitchen.
I did manage to find the subjects/material needed to start and complete 3 small 12" x 12" paintings due next week. *credit* This task has been bothering me for weeks. I will start to paint them today. update: one canvas done. second started. *credit*

We did get our tiny Looloo kitty to the vet :( last night. She is always stuffed up and sneezy and she was really breathing loudly yesterday so off to the vet. That cat is a wild thing. She gave me a huge swipe on the finger which bled like crazy, she hooked DH's chin and neck as he tried to hold her still and the vet's eyes got big and he backed right off. Eventually we just ket her go and she walked around and the vet managed to get the stethoscope onto her tiny body and listen long enough to tell us her lungs sound fine (thank goodness) and he didn't hear any heart murmurs. He managed to (thank goodness) give her a shot of antibiotics that is effective for 2 weeks which will kick in in 48hrs for sure but should be beginning to do their work now, sicne 12 hrs have passed. When she gets better she'll get the full bloodtest/xray treatment to see where she stands medically. I was so happy he managed to give her the shot as the alternative was giving her a pill orally 2x a day! NO WAY JOSE. That cat would NEVER allow that. Such a wild beast she is!

So, with all this, the exercise, which I had put off until the evening, fell through the cracks. This morning, faced with already calling this week a failure, since I didn't meet the first of 7 days of 20 min of planned exercise, got m thinking about re-framing this whole thing.

It came to me to take a page from gardenerjoy's book re: exercise. She often had a ticker along the bottom of her posts with her exercise goal for the month in minutes and how many of those minutes she's accomplished. I changed my "20/min a day" to "140 min/this week". Call it semantics, or looking at the glass half full, but I DO NOT want to fail at my goals this week. I refuse.

And so I am faced with having to throw some food away to keep to that statement. *sigh* I bought a container of tabbouleh, 50% off, yesterday at the store. I have been eyeing tabbouleh for weeks and with the discount I snapped it up and had planned to have it for lunch today and then I went, wait a minute, what's in this. It's bulgur right? Well it's CRACKED WHEAT hello? I am wheat free this week so this has to be tossed! I have no one to give it to. DH would never in a billion years eat it. update: I threw this food out but tortured myself by smelling it. It smelled so good. Oh well.That was hard to do.

So that's the score for me on this Friday. Tomorrow will be a challenge DH company BBQ during the day, 90 minute Ghost Walk in the evening with his brother. They are talking pizza or fried chicken. I may need to bring my own food for both events.


TGIF :wave:

07-20-2012, 12:40 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

OP yesterday except that the "planned" cupcake became one cupcake plus the icing of another. Credit for stopping. Credit for packing all the extra baked goods to go to nephew's house who is throwing a party. Credit for step class today.

I am seeing a big change in thinking regarding meals. I am almost exclusively eating veggies and fruits - (except for 1 oz. nuts, almond milk, one cup oatmeal and two ounces of animal protein) The veggies have become the main course. I used to believe the grains (pasta, bread, rice) were the center of the show. I still need to assure myself I am getting all the nutrients I need. My brain is trying to trick me. I am getting MORE nutrients than I was getting from all the other crap I was eating. Interesting my "Stinking Thinking"

My knock-off Magic Bullet died. I RAN to the store. I make smoothies everyday for DS and myself. Oh when, Of when will I get a Vita mixer?
Big family wedding this weekend. I am packing my scale with me.

Onebyone: Congrats for weighing in. That is the most critical act any of us can do.
Nature Girl: The ridge sounds terrific. Aren't you applying for teaching jobs? What grade level?
BBE: Your cukes sound fab. I love juicing cukes with an apple. Terrific drink.

07-20-2012, 04:28 PM
Happy Friday!

I'm happy the weekend is almost here. Weighed today and down again so was able to finally adjust my ticker, not sure what exactly is making the weight go down now, maybe my body is ready to lose again after the 3 months of no movement. Exercise has been walking Dexter, sure get a lot more steps on my pedometer just from that. We have our first puppy class tomorrow so that should be an experience for all of us!

Dexter has been coming to work with me for the last 2 days as our DS is on a vacation with his mom and stepdad. 9 hour days are too long for this 3 month old dog to be alone. He's become the favorite office employee and when people are feeling stressed they come and visit with him. Could turn into a full time job for him, not sure how welcome he will be at 70 pounds.

Have a great weekend everyone! :wave:

07-20-2012, 08:27 PM
Hello all,
Today was a great day- OP, exercised and ate what I had planned.

Bill -that storm must have been awful. I know in this area it knocked out power and there was a tornado very close. Credit for not eating junk due to stress.

Onebyone - I went to bed last night with a sink full of dishes, I felt bad about it but was just so tired. I woke up this morning to a clean sink, my DH did the dishes and dried them and put them was so nice, and not to mention out of character. Kudo's for sticking to your no wheat plan.

Maryann- I drink smoothies every day, I just use the blender. Does the magic bullet work better? I hear people often talking about them. Oh yes, thanks for letting me know about using day old bread for french toast. I always used fresh bread and the older bread wasn't as mushy. Thanks again.

Nature girl - your hike sounded so amazing. I would have been terrified coming down. You are so brave.

Tazzy, what a wonderful experience having a puppy at work. I know the animals are used for pet therapy in some of the nursing homes in this area. People feel much more relaxed when in contact with dogs. I hope you have a great weekend.

Hello to everyone else and have a great weekend all.
Take Care

07-20-2012, 10:50 PM
I didn't mean to disappear a few days there.

DH's eye problems continue to be in a monitor mode. Saw the retina specialist again this morning. If no change, we'll see him again on Wednesday. In the meantime, DH has to keep his head above his heart -- no bending, extra pillows on the bed -- and no jarring, so only gentle exercise like walking. He's also finding that his eyes are light sensitive and his vision isn't as good as normal. He's spending most of his time watching videos on his laptop in the basement. I'm just grateful that's working for him.

My exercise is on track. My eating is pretty close. There have been many moments in the last few days when the desire to overeat was nearly overwhelming. But things were better today, as they often are. Grateful for that.

onebyone: glad your back and back in the game. Trixie is adorable! And so is your mom! I hope the novelty of wheat-free works for you. My bread fast has been working for me this month! It worked really well for the first two weeks -- now I've kind of found other things to eat, so I may need a new novelty soon.

Welcome, vegasgal and grabec and soonfit!

Nature Girl
07-21-2012, 12:32 AM
Got my bike ride done ASAP this morning despite threatened heat and very real wind. I'm beginning to feel progress--I can push harder, not just 'get through' the ride, and I have a tiny bit of "juice" left for the tough parts. The fresh air and heavy breathing are definitely therapeutic for handling the rest of the day, not to mention the satisfaction of early morning exercise and feeling like you have accomplished something right off the bat in the morning!
Eating was ok until the middle of shopping when I had a low blood sugar melt down and the best thing available was peanut M&Ms--really! Better than gummy worms or regular M& Ms, because of the peanuts. There are still some left in my purse, although not many. Dinner was 'out' and I brought 1/3 home--it was exception night for No booze so I savored my favorite local craft brew. Stopped at the store for something else and brought home more beer because that was soooo good, but had a moment of sanity (even under the influence!) and haven't opened it, so that will be next week's treat...maybe I'll have DH keep it in the barn, just to keep me safe!
Tomorrow: one more cardio workout for 6/7 days this week, arm strength workout for sure because I've been ignoring it and MAKE A PLAN for meals.
Onebyone: I think your plan to do the cumulative exercise minutes is brilliant--that way one messup doesn't ruin the whole week, and it's the total that's important, anyway.
Maryann: Yes it is teaching jobs I am applying for--K-3 is my preference--why is no one calling me back????Just one interview so far :?:I am so psyched to be back in a classroom by fall
BBE: Very strong resistance muscle that the power outage was not something to eat over, especially the early morning treat possibilities,,,very tempting

07-21-2012, 06:50 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - The gym (CREDIT moi) had few others - summer days are better spent outdoors, I guess. All the dumbbells are back in place after the interruptions from installing the two air conditioning units. I miss the distractions. I'm glad that Beck doesn't suggest that we don't do something else while working out the way she suggests with eating; I enjoy letting the mind wander while the body does its thing.

Dinner on the patio would have been more comfortable in a long sleeved shirt! We went from too hot to slightly cool with the storm. But eating was on plan. Out attempt to give away cukes failed - when our harvest is in, everybody's harvest is also in. CREDIT moi for an on-plan day.

onebyone – I'm so sympathetic for that tossed tabbouleh - I love the stuff; it's my go-to afternoon snack. But Kudos for sticking to your no-wheat plan. The stuff I usually buy at the supermarket easily lasts a week, but the fresh made from the local Armenian store has no preservatives and calls to be eaten quickly. Good luck at your two food events today. What is a "Ghost Walk?"

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Good news that your DH is finding relief for his eyes - it's a new thought for me that one has to avoid jarring the eye balls.

Nature Girl – I finally admitted that one of my attractions to cheap trail mix was the M&M's - the stuff that only contains quality nuts and dried fruits costs more. Alas, I converted, and found that I'm less drawn to over eat the stuff. Kudos for stopping with some left.

maryann - Yep, Kudos for stopping. [You make me consider adding sliced apple to my cuke salads - but the apple season and cuke season don't overlap around here.]

Tazzy - Yay for Dr. Dexter stress reliever, LOL. Congrats to your body for finally letting go some unneeded fats.

Ann (Newlifestyle) - Can't do better than "OP, exercised and ate what I had planned" - Kudos.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
Confidently Follow Your Plan When Life Gets Stressful

You may also need to do some problem solving to reduce your stress. Ask yourself the following questions:. . .
Which tasks, responsibilities, or activities do I temporarily need to postpone, do less of, do less well, or delegate to others.
Would anyone be as stressed in this situation as I am? If my negative reaction is greater than other people's reaction would be, maybe I need help to put things in better perspective.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 164.

07-21-2012, 09:11 AM
Hi Coaches!

DH just drove off...headed West. It is a big step forward for us both. I work today and was hoping for 15 min. snooze but decided to check in with my smoothie in hand, instead. Weight is up a bit (expected with yesterdays BD cake) but credit for squashing the sabotaging thought that I wouldn't weigh today. I'm not taking lunch to work today since it's always too busy, but instead kicked up my smoothie a notch.

I have a "project" while DH is gone which my mind wants to get started on but I think I'll check in with my body after work before deciding. It's time for the next step on my project. New carpet is being installed Aug. 3 and I need to rip the old off the staircase and paint stairs, spindles, baseboard and part of the adjoining wall. I promised DH I would not get on a ladder while he's gone and I must admit there are several spots I haven't quite figured out how to get to anyway.

BBE, if I lived closer I'd be on your front step with a basket for excess cukes.

gardenerjoy, I hope hubbys eyes continue improving.

onebyone, "Persist to Victory"

NatureGirl, belated kudos for a victory on "The Ridge".

Tazzy, yay for scale movement paired with mindfulness!

Ann(Newlifestyle), yay for OP and exercise!

MaryAnn, enjoy your wedding weekend!

It's sure a tragic time here in Colorado. As I sit in the quiet morning and look out at my beautiful flowers with hummingbirds soaring I am reminded that there are many families very near with broken hearts. I will try to live my day to it's fullest.

Nature Girl
07-22-2012, 02:19 AM
About all I did today was stay on plan and ride my bike--two of my three goals from here. Everything else was laziness....
I switch one snack from afternoon to evening and substituted another OP food for another, but no extra eating, even though I sure was tempted this afternoon. Why? Frustration...boredom...low grade anger...When I look at it now, I realize I need more distraction strategies just like Beck says. I also need to deal w/ the frustration instead of fantasizing about eating as revenge, which of course wouldn't end up hurting the right person in the end, even if that was a good idea.
Bike ride right up until too dark to see but beautiful. It was hard to think about doing my weights after 10pm, so I'm PROMISING myself I will get up early and do 'em before our little road trip tomorrow.
BBE: I'm jealous of your great variety of ethnic food markets and restaurants - we;re lucky to have Thai, and the only sushi in town is at the supermarket :/
Lexxiss: Good luck with your project; our road trip may yield a hum-dinger of a project; we'll see...

07-22-2012, 04:25 AM
Hello friends,

It's been a long time, so long I don't even know how to find my last post, so that I can see what issues I was dealing with then. I hope all is well for all of you. I have thought about this space every day, but am only just now getting back to checking in.

Long story short: in May I completed a full draft of my dissertation, defended it, earned my PhD Hood. On July 2nd I uploaded the final copy, and in August will receive my degree. Yay! I have two teaching jobs lined up for next year (not tenure-track, but good connections nonetheless). All good stuff, but . . .

Of course my eating and exercise have faltered, I can see that by the weight I just changed on my ticker and profile. I've gained about 12-15 lbs. mainly from emotional, mindless eating and not as rigorous exercise. So it's time to get back on track, which is why I'm here again with you all. :) I'm also here right now because I'm fighting the Late Night Food Monster.

Why my weight-gain happened: I was exercising SUPER discipline and resistance with meeting my dissertation goals, and finding it hard to be so disciplined with my eating and exercise. BUT -- the interesting thing is, I think (although I didn't keep track of it all) that I really slipped AFTER the big stress crunch, as I came down off of all the stress, what I think was post-dissertation depression. I'm not sure why that is, except that I think I really was just kinda depressed. There's more thinking to be done here.

* Checking back in here.
* Hard exercise three times this week (second week in a row).
* Resisting Cheetos for a week (which leads me to resist other Rabbit Hole Foods).
* Reflecting on how my Beck habits have slipped.
* Locating my Beck books (under a pile of other books).
* Putting up new academic Writing and Workout Wall calendar, and already filling it with six stickers!
* Carrying around my Beck food journal, although not yet writing in it.

I can't hope to catch up with all of your lives, but I look forward to dipping back in. Thanks for always being here!

07-22-2012, 06:07 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Walked (CREDIT moi) to have late morning coffee with a friend at a place with dynamite croissants. I don't know what the French eat, but I always have two - with butter. Well, I skipped my morning snack so that I could have one - which I did, CREDIT moi, without butter. Since the only two obvious ingredients of croissants are butter and air, more butter wasn't really necessary. It was good to remember that I can wander from my regular patterns without dropping off my plan.

When feeling some tension in the afternoon, my neurons started touting a handful of DW's trail mix as balm. My choice for response was a handful of baby carrots, CREDIT moi. In my personal plan, carrots have zero calories so that worked. (OK, I just googled: chopped carrots have 52 calories a cup but dry roasted pecans have 201 calories per ounce of weight. 'Nuts' and 'handful' shouldn't be used in the same sentence.)

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Sending supportive thoughts for the tragic event in Colorado. May the apartment situation resolve so that you can all grieve and recover without the constant bombardment of high tension news. Thanks for your reminder "to live my day to its fullest."

Congrats for sufficient recovery for your DH to travel West alone - that's a big step. Kudos for planning how to deal with a busy work day.

Nature Girl – These I recognize, "Frustration...boredom...low grade anger..." - Kudos for choosing a non-food response. [We should do a house swap for a week each year so I could savor the grandeur of your outdoors and you could enjoy our city perks.]

Dr. Mary (MaryContrary) – Such glorious news!!! Congrats, Congrats, Congrats for sticking with your goals to become one of the Girls in the 'hood. And Kudos, Kudos, Kudos for your credits, particularly "* Resisting Cheetos for a week (which leads me to resist other Rabbit Hole Foods)" - there are trigger foods for each of us. It's such a joy to hear your success and to hear your determination to get back on your eating plan and exercise plan. Will your teaching jobs require a move? (Your recent posts.) (

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan

Special Advice for When You Are Sick or Injured

Many dieters get completely derailed when they are indisposed. They view their situation in an all-or-nothing way: Because I'm ailing, I can't follow my diet at all, or, Because I can't do my usual exercise, it's not worth doing any. They frequently go back to old habits, gain weight, and have difficulty reestablishing their diet and exercise programs once they are well. They have many of the sabotaging thoughts described in the previous section, and the same Response Cards and skills apply.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 164.

07-22-2012, 07:45 AM
Hi Coaches!

I continue to accept the challenge of maintaining my new and lower ticker weight. I'm still up a few, but within my acceptable range. I had an unplanned snack last evening, but give myself great credits for last nights' food behavior. Life has been so stressful and with DH gone, the sabotaging thoughts really ran through my mind about stopping at the store and just having "one night" of food food food.

I did not stop at the store *credit* and made a healthy dinner. *credit*. My after dinner fare included Health Valley snack bars and some rice crackers with tofu cream cheese.....a far cry from donuts, potato chips and ice cream.

BBE, credit for a new habit regarding your croissants. I often notice these days that most things DON'T need butter (or smart balance). They are just fine without.

DrMary, Congratulations! Thanks so much for stopping by to share your news! I hope we get to see more of you. Great that your Beck workbook is moving around with you. That is the power of intention.

NatureGirl, credit for a day which included OP eating and exercise, even when feeling stressed!

07-22-2012, 11:44 AM
Hi Coaches

Had a fantastic scale surprise this morning: 252.6. Yay I tell 'ya. Yay. I will do my best to maintain/continue/surpass this number until official weigh-in day on Thursday.

Yesterday was a walkathon marathon. Out by 9am back at midnight. We did the Ghost (Walking) Tour of Toronto. Not much murder and mayhen in this burg! Ghost of the loser of a duel; the suicide of a long time bank employee jilted by the bank manager who was having an affair with her; a liquor mogul whose wife and child died in childbirth who threw himself in the well after they died due to grief; a few ghosts of factory workers. The most modern ghost was that of Dorothy the bank employee from the 50's. There has to be just the right amount of time between the event, the survivors/family/community, and the telling of the tale. I wanted to hear about a disco ghost forever dancing the night away, but there were no stories.. yet. The tour ended at the Hockey Hall of Fame and I wondered if after Gretzky passes he will be heard to haunt the wall of the museum, gently sobbing, as he mourned the move from the Edmonton Oilers to the Los Angeles Kings... that would be VERY Canadian.

The walk was 90 minutes. There was additional walking earlier in the day, more than an hour's worth for sure, so I pretty much met my weekly goal in one day. No wonder the scale dropped.

I messed up totally at the company bbq when they brought out what I thought were some kind of corn chip-y/salsa carrier thing and I LOVED it. I had three small triangles--would have easily eaten eeryone of them on the tray. I discovered after the fact that it was... FRIED BREAD! FRIED BREAD!!!!
For someone not eating wheat, this really should not have happened... and then I was asked "would you like a pita with that?" "Yes, please, that wuld be great." It was. I ate it. This was aftger the fried bread... nary a thought of avoiding wheat crossed my mind. It was just *poof* gone. Then we wanered through the Hot and Spicy festival and I sampled some mustard on a ...PRETZEL STICK! Argh! Wheat AGAIN! I looked at the pretzel and thought about it but did nt connect it to wheat; only to "pretzel". :?: The rest of that day was clean though and I remain clean this morning.

Looloo my cat is receovering. I enticed her to eat with the stinkiest fish I could find: canned sardines in spring water. She ate last night and at 4am, then at 10am she got some canned salmon. Caesar is in heaven as he gets to lick the bowl AND eat his own share. I am relieved she is on the mend.

better go. We are off to visit the Muskoka Arts and Crafts Festival. I have wanted to sell my wares at this long running show for years and years. It is notoroiously hard to get into. I want to see if it is worth the effort to try for this next year...and I get another summer car ride = my favorite summer acitivity besides swimming in a lake. Whih reminds me, I'm throwing my bathing suit in the trunk. Just in case.

Have a good Sunday.

07-22-2012, 12:02 PM
Good morning coaches,
Yesterday was op until someone at work decided to order chinese food, Since I don't really like fried rice I asked them to order me something without fried rice in it. I got chicken balls and chop suey. I ate the chicken inside the chicken balls and about 1/4 of the chop suey. I realized as I was eating it, it tasted fine but I wasn't enjoying it. I am not sure how many calories it was. Credit for realizing that foods that appealed to me before we just okay. I never thought I would get to that point with Chinese food. I knew with Burgers and things like that I was at the point of it really is no great meal so why bother eating it.
I am back on plan for today. I have ridden on my bike and I will go on the treadmill. I can't wait for it to be a bit cooler so that I can run outside without melting in the heat. I don't know how people in hot climates run out side. I have many things to do today so I am off. I just wanted to check in.
Have a wonderful day.

07-22-2012, 12:50 PM
I was on plan yesterday with much less struggle and angst. I ate what was on the plan -- no need for fretting! I'm glad my brain found a space where something was more entertaining than food obsession. I'm practicing being grateful for the easy days as an antidote to the out-sized sense of bitterness that fills me on the harder ones.

WI: -0.45kgs, Exercise: +50 965/1400 minutes for July, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Lexxiss: thinking of you and others in Colorado. The news seems relentless here, I can't imagine what it must be like there.

NatureGirl: yep, I'm also dealing with food does not fix frustration. I wish I knew what did! Distraction, as you say, may well be the best strategy. I'm thinking Pinterest.

MaryContrary: WooHoo on the Ph.D.! That is so exciting. What a terrific accomplishment.
I can so relate to the post-stressful event weight gain. I went to Ireland in June, my first overseas trip since I was in my twenties. It was great, my eating was good enough for a once in a lifetime event, and I gained a pound or two -- no big deal. Then something about the aftermath -- jet lag, depression, feeling out of sorts -- I gained 6 pounds in two weeks. Good for both of us for catching it before it was 20 pounds and for getting back to Beck.

BillBlueEyes: I love that you found a way to have a croissant in a sane (and probably French) sort of way.

onebyone: loved your ghost stories! I think your wheat experiences simply prove that you need more practice at that behavior. It would be a tough one for anyone used to the Standard Western Diet. My bread fast is easier in that regard. The pita and (maybe) the pretzel would have triggered my "nope, that's bread" response. I would have been tricked by the fried bread, too, just because I would have expected it to be a tortilla chip. One way that might help is to list the things that you will be eating instead of wheat: oatmeal, rice, potatoes, sweet potatoes, etc. If you can get that in your mind, anything starchy that is not on the list will cause you to pause and think about whether or not there's wheat.

Newlifestyle: that's a great step to recognize that formerly appealing foods just aren't good enough any more.

07-22-2012, 11:04 PM
oh my gosh -- this laptop hates me.....rofl with frustration.....can't get too upset, after all it's a machine.....but just lost another full post....there is SOMETHING I hit wrong on this computer....did it here instead of MS Word because I wanted to use the I'm going to MS Word, and will be right back COPYING over my

07-22-2012, 11:22 PM
Hi there everyone – here I am….dang….do not want to lose more posts, it takes more time from my Beck studies. Beck Diet Solution is changing me, changing my thinking and attitudes, and I’m finally learning it’s about what’s in my head and bad habits, not the food. This week two things happened that helped…..remember last week my quote of the week about tension created when we are wanting food, and the tension can be abated by reaching for food OR by saying no to food. Well, I also read and heard on the Beck CD that when we have sabotaging thoughts about “oh, eat that cookie, it looks good” or “I wish I could eat that,” that instead of having a wimpy answer back to myself like “oh, that cookies does look so good, it won’t hurt to just have a couple cookies,” I should have a strong affirmative answer like, “yeah the cookie looks good, but it’s not on your plan, and besides you’re full from dinner, go do something else and get away from the cookies.” If it’s the other sabotaging thought like “I wish I could eat that,” then I say, “But I wish – NO DESIRE – to reach my goal of health and fitness.”

Dear Beck Coaches….cannot begin to tell you what a huge change that made in my thinking…..started talking back to myself with these positive and affirmative messages and YOU and BECK are RIGHT – the resistance muscle can get stronger AND it happens FAST.

The other thing that is helped is that I committed to sitting down all meals….and then started the eating slowly and mindfully day….oh my GOSH….didnt realize just how MINDLESSLY I was eating. Now, I take a bite, put down fork (if alone even push plate away a little just to emphasize), then I actually practiced yesterday and today tasting, enjoying taste and texture, chew it up, swallow, then count to 10, take a sip of water, pick up fork and choose next bite. Again, oh my gosh what a difference that makes…..

I love Judith Beck. All my adult life I bought diet books that just dealt with telling me what to eat or what not to eat, but doing these exercises make such a difference. (Happy sigh.) And you know truthfully, it’s not just the book, because I’ve had that book for YEARS – in fact it was on the heap of other diet books that I had to go get and drag out and actually start doing the BDS exercises when I found this thread, so actually it’s this thread that is helping a lot also.

So, today, I’m feeling very hopeful about my chances for success finally, and also very grateful for the BDS and this thread.

Yayyyy I copied over and didn't lost this post!!! :carrot::carrot:

Personals next thread….

07-22-2012, 11:49 PM
Personals -- and I apologize for hogging (interesting word) space on the thread...

Bill -- I love croissants also, and I see from how you went from 2 with butter to 1 without after giving up morning snack, you can have your "croissant and eat it too." Good plan. I can see with your success that your planning and focus still exists in your maintenance, and that is helpful to see.

Mary Contrary -- DOCTOR Mary, has a nice ring to it. Congrats on your achieving your doctorate. :carrot: That is a HUGE undertaking, and I also tend to want to eat AFTER the "something" is over. My stress reactions are always delayed also. That's good knowledge for us to use and develop strategies to stay on track. I have a relaxation tape from someone that does help a lot. If anyone wants the name you can PM me and I'll give you the name, and there are other relaxation CD available probably on the internet. I don't want to advertise, and don't want this thread to appear in a google search when people google him...but would be happy to give it on PM. It's an amazing CD, and helps me after a hard stressful day at work.

Welcome Vegasgal, grabec and soonfit. I'd say to read the book and do everything she says and just how she says to do it. And keep posting...:)

Tazzy -- YAY on the new numbers on the scale....good for you gal!

Onebyone -- good focus and good job on catching the sabotaging thoughts!

Maryann -- how was the wedding -- it was HOT this weekend -- I am impressed you packed the scale....that was a food scale or body weight scale? hehe.....either is a good idea.

newlifestyle -- good for you for not listening to that sabotaging though "why bother posting" (or something like that).....since we are each other's coaches, that's like a sabotaging thought "I don't want to check in with my coaches"......we're glad you didn't listen. Those sabotaging thoughts are sneaky little devils, aren't they? :devil::devil:

Gardenjoy -- keep us posted on DH's eye problems. My dad has gone through that -- he has macular degeneration and has been through cornea transplants also. You sound focused and in charge of dealing with the worry and frustration that goes with that.....hang in there, and I'll keep situation in my prayers...

Naturegirl -- you are coming up with strategies to deal with anger and relaxation tape refers to "the situation is always the situation no matter what your reaction to the situation is" oh GOSH that is a bad paraphrase, hope you can get the idea -- sort of the situation is a "it is what it is" and is totally unrelated to my reaction is separate to the event in other words...but your focus to come up with strategies to "deal with" instead of "eating through" sound mindful. Good job.

Lexxis -- oh very proud of you for not giving in to the sabotaging thought to do a "drive by" through the store and stuff down the had some planned allowable snacks after a healthy're right much better than the stuff you would have had before BDS.

Wow....the posts lately show we're all dealing with STUFF and learning, and growing....Judy would be proud of us!

I hope I haven't left anyone off, if I did I'm sowwy....but woohooo I feel caught up! :carrot:

Nature Girl
07-23-2012, 02:03 AM
Our road trip ended up taking 12 hours RT, included time spent with oldest DD which was great, and resulted in us purchasing a 1977 31 foot Airstream trailer! I'm SO excited, but talk about starting a project. The trailer is pretty much gutted and we will be able to start from scratch and build the interior just how we want it (don't worry, we've done this before, on a much smaller scale!) I'll try to attach a photo of our 1954 Ideal camp trailer, and also one of the new trailer in its unfinished state.
Regarding eating and exercise, I kept to my road trip road and ate fresh cherries as we drove; got nailed at Subway because believe it or not, their flatbread has more calories than their whole grain wheat bun! That's crazy!! But we rationed our sandwiches and except for a FF, SF iced latte on the way home stayed on track. BTW, I did get up this am and do upper body strength work before we left.

07-23-2012, 02:44 AM
Thanks, all, for the congrats! I'm happy to be back here writing to y'all, mainly because doing so reminds me that I am not / do not have to be alone with these issues.

To be honest, I am really struggling with the bratty part of me that I've suppressed for months and months so that I could accomplish this big-girl goal. This part of me wants to eat whatever she wants and read all the fun books she had to resist. This part of me only seems to be having fun when she is eating / watching TV / reading. And, new perspective, she likes to do it alone, so these activities have become so entwined with "time-to-myself." I might have acknowledged that I have sneak-eating issues, but this one in particular seems a needy one right now.

* Checking in here.
* Weighing in.
* Resisting standing-eating in kitchen, even stopping cleaning up after dinner to prevent this grazing, even spitting a piece of food out of my mouth. Really trying here!
* Resisting the late-night snack: writing here and drinking water.
* Resisting feeling shame about these issues.
* Looking the bratty part in the face, recognizing the frustration, boredom, etc. she holds. Thinking of how to PLAN for her fun, so that it doesn't continue without control, mindlessly.

BBE, I just traveled to England (first trip there!) and became fond of scones with butter. Seemed redundant, but they were, alas, rather marvelous. The new jobs do not require a move! Just learning how to teach more classes while I continue to work on my professional goals.

gardenerjoy, yes, I hear you about the trip! On said trip to England, I was dealing with the exhilaration of PhD-ness, presenting at an international conference, traveling with my Mom . . . lots of emotions which meant that coming back was even more full of emotions. Jetlag truly messes with the human body!

Elizabeth779, Thanks! And nice to meet you! You're right, this is probably extended celebration-eating I'm feeling.

Lexxiss, hi! I love "I continue to accept the challenge." I think I'll try adopting that perspective.

Waving to you all, and hugs. Thanks for being here.

07-23-2012, 06:35 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - The good part of my eating was to thrive during a family celebration dinner - CREDIT moi. I had mostly grilled veggies and salad with a smallish serving of the steak. Dessert was watermelon so that was easy. I had done well earlier in the day until I faced a can of SEE candy. That stuff should be outlawed - thank goodness it's rare around here (West coast thing). It was a gift to a friend who eats rationally and was sane enough to donate it to a group situation since he couldn't handle it alone. I got sucked in and finally had to leave the situation to get away from it. I might need to go back to my early days with NO diversions from plan. SEE candy is rare or unusual in my life, but also caloric and unnecessary.

Enjoyed walking (CREDIT moi) in our burst of mild weather. I particularly wanted to test drive my new one strap back pack for a longer walk. It works great: easy to slip on and off; easy to shift around to put things in or take out; rides comfortably with light contents. I recommend it - initially thought they were just a fad.

onebyone – Congrats on the scale surprise; I'll keep my fingers crossed until your Thursday weigh-in. Thanks for the Ghost Walking travelog. LOL at your Gretzky comments. I was raised to believe that Canadians would always have better hockey teams than the U.S. It does seem a tad unfair that U.S. teams get better simply by hiring top notch Canadian skaters. Ouch for the "FRIED BREAD" - particularly since it snuck in under your radar.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – LOL at "I'm glad my brain found a space where something was more entertaining than food obsession" - but crying at the same time. I do wish the obsession thing would just go away.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Kudos for standing down the Sabotaging Thought to have just "one night" of junk foods. (I wish you were at my side when I encountered that SEE candy.)

Nature Girl – Yay for a new toy that can help you get to more places to get exercise. Fresh cherries are so good during their month. Ouch for flat bread with so many calories. Love your Ideal Camp Trailer - lots of trips with that?

Dr. Mary (MaryContrary) – Nope, you're not alone; we're walking our paths beside yours. Like the notion of the "bratty part" of you - I recognize that, LOL. Write a book some day on how you "* Resisting feeling shame about these issues." 'Shame' seems like another word for 'Resist Change.' [Scones are evil.]

Ann (Newlifestyle) - Interesting that you are noticing that your tastes have changed away from stuff that was uber caloric. Before my journey, General Gau's Chicken was a weekly indulgence - in a LARGE serving from a local food truck.

Elizabeth (Elizabeth779) - Thanks for the reminder how to use strong, affirmative Helpful Responses to demonic Sabotaging Thoughts. (I type into the browser so I can get the site HTML, but 'save' periodically into Word - I've lost so many posts and HATE retyping them.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan

Special Advice for When You Are Sick or Injured

On the other hand, when dieters are sick, they often don't want to eat as much as usual, and they have the sabotaging thought, I should take advantage of the fact that my appetite is reduced to eat as few calories as possible. This is usually counter-productive to their recovery, and they often regain any weight they had lost - if not more - as soon as they are feeling better and eating normally again. Resist the temptation to eat in an unhealthy way when you're under the weather.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 164.

07-23-2012, 08:12 AM
Hi Coaches!

I'm very tired this morning...worked on the stair project most of my day off. The good news is that my "helper" is coming today while I'm at work to spray the walls up the stairway and up into the foyer of the upstairs. :crossed: it will be finished by the time I get off work. Still more to do but having the walls finished is a dream come true.

Eating was VERY poor last night....I had an early dinner then had a late dinner. Reflecting, I really reacted to the stress of the mess INSTEAD of basking in the knowledge that it is in the process of completion. Glad that I have today to get right back on track. I'm grateful that I've worked so hard to develop sane habits at work and feel like it will be a safe haven today. credit for that. I did weigh this morning even though I didn't feel like it. I also sat and read every post even though I have lots to do before heading to work. Thx everyone!

:wave: to everyone! I so appreciate the inspiration and collective wealth of knowledge we all share here through our ups and downs as we deal with the everyday reality of our relationship with food.

07-23-2012, 11:26 AM
Exercise yesterday was hauling wood. We know there have been ants in that pile and it's too close to the house for that. The good part of doing it during a drought is that the ants have found somewhere else to be, so I'm just moving wood, not ants, which would be creepy.

WI: +0.4kgs, Exercise: +60 1025/1400 minutes for July, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

MaryContrary: thanks for the "time-to-myself" thoughts. That's part of my issue, too. Maybe what I need is to just acknowledge it more directly. There are other ways for me to get it besides eating -- closing the door works remarkably well but for some reason makes me feel more selfish than eating too much. DH doesn't seem to be bothered by a closed door and generally respects it, so I should just get over it. Also, I may need to take my inner brat on a solo field trip to a museum or the zoo.

Elizabeth779: I type my posts into notepad, paste them into 3FC, and then do the formatting. I don't usually use smilies, but here's one just for you: :hug:

07-23-2012, 11:39 AM
Hello Coaches,
I am so grateful that this group is so active. BBE asked me how I found it and it was through a google search. When I came to the chapter on accountability I was totally thrown and thought and thought of different ways to be accountable. All of the sabotaging thoughts that she mentions went through my mind. I can't ask a friend or family member, it would be imposing on them and lalala.... I don't have time to meet with a personal trainer.... I found out about Dr. Beck when I started googling ways to find willpower. When I first started this program I felt as if I had found my "off" switch for hunger. Now I seem to have "stalled" in my efforts. But today is Monday and a new week is ahead!
Thanks to everyone for the welcome. I read all of the weekend posts and find that we struggle with many of the same issues.

credit for step/weight class this morning
credit for getting dressed for exercise class as soon as I got up
credit for starting to fill out "scheduling chart"
credit for sticking to breakfast plan
credit for writing on this thread
credit for adding to my ad card - It's easier to stay on plan that it is to get back on plan

Do I have to wait for 20 posts till I can add a ticker to my signature? If that is the case I will have to "plan" to post more often.
Have a great day!!

07-23-2012, 12:57 PM
Morning all! Just wanted to let you all know that I have not fallen off the planet! Been busy at all 3 stores getting the stores ready for summer sales and then Christmas! which we put out in September. HOpe all of you are well. This week hubby and I are working on drinking more water, we should be drinking a lot more than we do and with our temps. being so hot it is a must, plus it may help hubby with the kidney stones. Will check in more later. have a blessed day. Tammy

Nature Girl
07-23-2012, 01:02 PM
Yesterday couldn't get the new trailer photo to attach and forgot to add personals I had been thinking about, also...I'm trying again with the photo. We have been as far away as the Grand Canyon with 'Easy Livin' our first trailer, and I have lived in it five days/week for three summers as a campground host. I absolutely love my cozy little getaway! The new one is quite a bit bigger and we're still thinking about exactly how we're going to use it. And of course a name for it, and a decorating theme, and.....
Elizabeth: Seems like you're on the right track creating dialogues for yourself, especially strong, no nonsense talk-backs. Good for you.
BBE: It's funny because I just had the same 'butter' discussion re: croissants with my Dad! I'm ready to go with the house swap--you would love it here! Just this morning I was hearing the red tail hawk that nests in our cedar tree; a whole new set of birds for you, also.
MaryContrary: Congratulations! That is such a huge accomplishment, and don't you know way too many people who are ABD and never push all the way through and complete the task, like you did? Good job! Re: Bratty girl/big girl: I get sooooo tired of being a grown-up all the time :dizzy:

07-23-2012, 08:50 PM
Had sales people at the shop (on our day off at that!) anyway awesome couple, we really love them. We went eat out at our favorite little seafood resturant and had the cup of seafood gumbo, salad and split the seafood platter with hubby and passed on dessert-so credit for sharing and no dessert.
Now less one credit for not drinking water today!!! Will do better with that tomorrow!!

07-23-2012, 09:32 PM
Hi Coaches

I was successfully wheat free today. Not so yesterday. I have to say, I am discovering how insidious wheat is and how in-grained (yukyukyuk) it is in my diet. I made the decision to eat the hamburger bun while on the road with DH. We stopped at an iconic diner along the highway. Boy were they busy. Their "concept" was really disjointed to me and didn't really work; but obviously I am in the minority. Line ups, line ups, line ups. The highway in front of the place is divided and DH pointed out to me that this place bought the stairs from Ontario Place and had them moved to their location so the stairs could span the entire highway to make it possible for folks traveling on the opposite side of the road to park their cars, climb the stairs, cross the walkway, and end up on the other side to stand in line for burgers, fries and etc. You could dine on your food in a railway dining car and you washed up in another railway car converted into his and hers washrooms. It all bothered me. But I like trains and I want them to BE trains; to move and sway and not be a stop over for burgers and fries. I didn't even like the bun (!) finding it to be too "doughy". I also messed up with the cone part of my ice cream at the art show. And in this place we both found the ice cream to be too "airy"! The thing made me thirsty! My tastebuds are really shifting or the food out there is getting worse or maybe I am getting old and cranky:listen: eh sonny?

*credit* for weighing in this morning +0.9lbs
*credit* for tracking food
*credit* for planned exercise: 20min on wii fit Walk It Out today
*credit* for no wheat today
*credit* for getting back on plan re: wheat
*credit* for meeting my exercise goal in advance

Bye for tonight.

07-24-2012, 03:37 AM
Or, I should say, reflections on the brat. Glad to hear I'm not the only one struggling with this part of myself.

I feel better, already, just recognizing these issues here in this forum and within myself. It certainly seems key for me to welcome the brat, and give her controlled attention. That, BBE, would address the issue of shame. So it would be welcoming a change? Instead of resisting? I think I see what you mean. Thanks for these reflections.

Current challenge: getting a food plan out that works with late-night gym time. Doing a food plan, in general. Continuing to address the late-night eating issue.

* 40 min of interval training on elliptical + 15 minutes stretching
* Sharing lunch with DP
* Resisting cheetos
* Resisting standing-eating in kitchen
* Weighing in
* Checking in here

Up in 6 hours for an early commute, so no time for more personals. Hugs to you all!

07-24-2012, 05:56 AM
Hi Coaches – I had a very busy day. The Beck Diet for Life book I bought used for 88 cents plus S&H arrived today – note to self – when you spend 88 cents for a book, don’t be surprised when after pg, 224, the next pg is pg 193 AGAIN….lol but at least the book doesn’t get really messed up until after pg 224. I can still use it. The BDS workbook also arrived so I can use that. Coaches, it was a little comforting to here you have had the computer eat your posts also...

Right now I’m working on and will work on these until I get these down firmly before adding next step:
1. Sitting down while eating EVERY meal.
2. Eat slowly and mindfully.
3. Working on writing out a food plan.
4. The next thing I have to do then figure out how to do things on a busy day where I’m out of the house for 12 hours running errands…
I could have done better today…..and I will.

**Sat down and ate slowly and mindfully at breakfast.
**Said no to sabotaging temptation thoughts while running errands.
**Didn’t get stressed out when elderly mother brought up family issues.

Naturegirl – the trailers sound wonderful. I have a late 70’s Shasta, and I’m the second owner, it’s in great shape. I don’t get out to use it very much though, but hope to in the future. Sounds like you had a good trip, and you’re right, that flat bread shouldn’t be more calories! The blue trailer, and the airstream look nice. I have a late 70’s Shasta it’s in great shape – in fact on my advantages list is “I’ll be able to fit in the shower easier!” lol

Marycontrary – I can so agree with the ‘bratty part’ – and sometimes I think – WHAT THE HECK am I rebelling against??? MYSELF??? Lol I also can have a tendency to do things alone – because of the shift work I do mostly, and it can lead me to eating alone and tempting to eat something that isn’t on my plan because “after all, who will know…”. I like the format you use for the credit….I’m going to try that. I’m on the part where I work on the food plan also. I tried working on it in the wee hours this morning and it was not a good plan (hot dogs for lunch and pizza for dinner – I count calories). I’ve always just made it up as I go (can hear JB in my head saying “how’s that working for you?”), and the bratty side of me doesn’t want to give up doing it by the seat of my pants, but I think my next step forward is the food plan issue.

Bill – sounds like you did pretty well at the dinner – and wow, that can of See’s was quite a temptation. You said you “finally had to leave the situation to get away from it.” I call that “voting with your feet.” Lol….and good for you for doing what you needed to not fall into the bottom of the See’s can.

Lexxis – DebbieR – I’m impressed about your work on the walls/stairs – you must be exhausted….just think what DH will think when he gets back home and sees it! I understand what you mean about the “stress of the mess”. I need to paint here, but just the thought of the mess and upheaval of moving stuff around makes me crazy. I think the mess is as much work – if not more – than the actual painting. Hang in there gal!

Gardnerjoy – your first sentence is “Exercise today is hauling wood.” Oh MY GOSH….hauling wood – that makes my 5 pound kettlebell look pretty wimpy from my point of view – haha. And you’re right if the ants were in the wood, it would be really creepy – the only thing worse would be spideys! AND thanks for the hug.

Soonfit – again WELCOME – and credit for you for coming back again. Isn’t Beck wonderful? I have tried a couple of different Beck Coaches, the first was my godmother who is 100 pounds soaking wet, never had an extra fat cell her whole life, and it didn’t work out because she turned into such a food cop – she didn’t want me to eat certain foods she thought had too many calories – a banana was one of the foods on her no-no list – so that didn’t work out, and I wanted to ask a couple of other people in my life, but no one wanted to take the time to read the Beck book. The best thing about this group here is that they are also reading the Beck book so you can get coaching from a Beck perspective. Also, about the ticker – I think I did have to wait for 20 posts or something like that – it will past fast though…

CajunCatholic – Tammy – Christmas in JULY! And the seafood dindin sounds yum. And we’re glad to hear from you. Hang in there and don't work too hard!

Onebyone – kudos on your wheat free day. I can be a cranky, just ask my DH!

Nite all, I'm beat.

Beck Team Hug :hug:

07-24-2012, 08:36 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Dinner was leftovers from last nights grilling - grilled veggies only get better. Methinks we should have a cook who grills stuff fresh from the garden and loads the fridge for later reheating. Sweet potato, onion, zucchini, portobello mushrooms - just so good. Eating was on plan, CREDIT moi, until some tension in the evening when I had some of DW's trail mix - Ouch. That was triggered by the pecans in the salad. It wasn't the pecans themselves, it was that I served myself from the container without a plan for how many. I was just dipping into an infinite source. My original weight came from an infinite source of cashews and cookies. The part of Beck that's been most helpful for me is the planned serving.

Gym (CREDIT moi) came with a neat experience. I know that I'm not supposed to compare myself to others there - particularly not to the buff young guys - but the opposite happened. As I was carrying a pair of 55# dumbbells to my bench a guy who I've never seen before commented, "You're pretty strong." That felt so good, despite that it only meant You're stronger than me. Savoring it anyway.

CurmudgeonByCurmudgeon – Yep, wheat is everywhere. When I took the Canadian National Railroad from coast to coast I discovered what country is growing megatons of it - three days seeing nothing but wheat pass outside the windows makes an impression. I like your notion that trains should remain on their tracks as rolling stock. Kudos for "meeting my exercise goal in advance."

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Neat to move the wood when the ants were elsewhere.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yay for progress on the stairs project.

Nature Girl – LMAO at "I get sooooo tired of being a grown-up all the time." Your new trailer is HUGE. Drooling at the thought of your new birds. My guides list so many that are common your way and not here at all. Maybe it's time for your new trailer to be called Mindful Journeys.

Dr. Mary (MaryContrary) – I like the notion of giving the brat "controlled attention" - give her a walk and then send her back to her room. Yep, Kudos for resisting that eating while standing.

Tammy (CatholicCajun) – Good grief - thinking Christmas in July. Kudos for making wise choices at your seafood restaurant.

Elizabeth (Elizabeth779) - Your 88 cent Beck book reminds me of when I ordered a similarly priced Peterson's Birding Guide. It arrived as a black and white proof-reader's copy - Yuck, a bird guide in black and white. Yep, 12 hours out of the house is a challenge. When I plan it seems easy; when I wing it, I find myself floundering about. Good luck with that one.

soonfit - Glad you've chosen this group to be your Diet Coach/Buddy. Interesting that googling willpower got you to Beck. And Yep, it takes 20 posts and 20 days for the ticker to be allowed (a necessary SPAM deterrent). See Keep the faith - the time will fly.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan

Special Advice for When You Are Sick or Injured

Even when you are sick or injured, stay as close as possible to your diet and exercise programs. If you can't do your regular exercise, check with your health-care provider to see what you can do. Maybe you can swim or work out on machines that strengthen the uninjured parts of your body. Consider whether it would be helpful to consult with a physical therapist. And when you recover, make sure to build up to your previous level of exercise as slowly as you need to.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 164.

07-24-2012, 11:18 AM
Another on plan day and it continues to be easier than last week. DH's eye problem is gradually getting better -- he'll see the doctor again tomorrow who will hopefully tell us the same thing. I haven't written in days, but I aim to today -- trying to get in my trifecta of eating on plan, exercising, and writing all in the same day.

WI: -0.1 kgs, Exercise: +50 1075/1400 minutes for July, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

07-24-2012, 11:48 AM
Good morning all,
My days seem to be getting busier, credit for not eating over it.
I am calorie counting and I have been at the top of my calorie count.
The mention about planning makes me realize I need to plan my meals each day not just go by the seat of my pants. Errors can happen much easier when I don't plan.
I have done my exercise once again. I find when I do it when I wake up it works out better for me. Who knew.
Credit for coming and posting when I feel I have nothing to say.
Have a great day everyone.
Thanks for being here.

07-24-2012, 12:34 PM
Hello Coaches!
Got a later start today with my excercise/posting on thread plan. The plan is to post right after I finish excercising. So far, so good- credit! I soooo enjoy reading everyone's post and have many A-ha moments. Just this morning I was thinking that the reason I haven't progressed in the book was because some of the days/steps require more practice for me than just a day. Does that make sense- I don't want to add in another rule when I still haven't mastered the last one. My sabotaging thought is - Then I'll never get to the diet.... And lose the weight. So Elizabeth when you mentioned not moving forward till you mastered one of the days, it really clicked for me and gave me permission to not hurrry on. Thanks- credit to you!
I am also going to copy some of the format that my "buddies" are using. Thanks for simplifying posting and kudos to all, that post to all. BTW- As a newbie it is a little intimidating how you all have such a nice writing style. Truly you should have a blog sponsor....! I get so caught up in everything having to be done so fast, and with texting and emails you forget how to spell and write properly. I did learn from nuns, so this is an excellent way to get my rusty writing skills in better shape also.

sitting while eating
food plan

*exercising- step/weights
*posting on blog
*photocopying schedule chart to fill one out everyday till I get it to work
*eating planned bkfst
*weighing and measuring this morning
*putting in teeth whitening trays last night after dinner so I wouldn't snack
(that really works)

Thanks for the laugh this morning about the book.... And for the A-ha moment.
MaryContrary: Thanks for the credit list and current challenge idea for posting.
BBE: First, thanks for being an inspiration and for checking in every day to see how we are all doing. I just added grilled veggies to dinner plan for tonight. (yummy)! Unexpected compliments are the best kind and should be savored- Glad you are! I am an expert google-er. I use all sorts of variations of "whatever" and usually find just what I need. (I do this instead of dusting and vacuuming).

Have a great day everyone!

07-24-2012, 12:46 PM

I'm feeling hopeful for my Thursday weigh-in. The wii fit scale showed me: 251.5 this morning=my all time low in a few years. Getting closer to moving on out of the 250's but I won't count on that just yet.

I think limiting wheat has really helped this week. Inspite of not being *perfectly* wheat free this week, I have been more wheat-free than not. It's the way this whole losing weight over the long term is. I am more on plan than not on plan; more organized than not organized; dishes done more often than not; exercising more than before and etc.

I read a tagline on this site that said "It's not about willpower. It's about commitment."
It sure is.
You just keep coming back, keep changing it up, keep trying to move forward, keep trying, keep taking credit for your efforts, keep re-adjusting to Life, in other words, you stay committed to the goal of weight loss and whatever else is important to you.
It's not about dramatic overnight changes. And as an artist, I know that all those "overnight successes" are 10+ years in the making...

Bye :wave:

Nature Girl
07-24-2012, 01:29 PM
Yesterday was not a good day and although I'd like to just bury it and not even acknowledge it, I need to spend some time here analyzing what went wrong so that I can learn from it for next time.
The bare facts are my dogs had another giant fight and I spent the day at the vet-literally-because I had to take one in at a time, go back to pick up, etc. The part you need to know about here was on almost each trip I stopped for junk food.
Complicating the issue in my mind is that Tuesday AM is my weekly weigh in and I was up --it will read up a pound.
So first of all we have to find out why two dogs who have lived together happliy for five years are suddenly fighting so fiercly that it necessitates vet visits. This is incredibly emotional for me; scared for their safety, sad about their 'enemy' status, afraid of what we might need to do to remedy the situation. The emotions yesterday absolutely drained me.
Which is probably why I ate over it; but why this time and not the last, or not the other events lately that are so stressful (mom's surgery, joblessness, etc. etc.)?? I'm not going to go into detail about what I ate because it might begin to sound like food porn, I'll just say that by the time I got to the subway cookies, they tasted awful and I was sick from all the sugar. So that was good in a way because it may help me avoid them later.
And as far as my weigh in, mathematically I KNOW that what I ate yesterday did not make me gain a whole pound. But it feels connected of course. And in the long run that lack of loss this week is really frustrating because I worked out SO MUCH this week and ate so close to on plan. :mad:
So what to do, what to learn, how to prevent? (note long pause in typing here- it was really easy to state the problem but the solution is of course harder.)
-Stronger dialogues to keep me from turning in to DQ
-Who to talk to when I'm so upset & need to get it 'off my chest right' away?
-Write down how I felt after those cookies--physically I mean; of course I felt worse emotionally for eating (guilt, etc) but remind myself how awful I felt with all that sugar making me dizzy, etc.
-Keep healthy OP food EVERYWHERE- in the car, in my purse, etc. because if I had had access to a healthy snack when I started feeling low blood sugar, I wouldn't have turned in to the drive-in the first time, and the rest would not have followed.
-Make a list of where I can go for healther fast food and exactly what to buy there so when I get in an 'emergency' situation I can make a better choice.
Of course we need to figure out how to help our dogs get along but that is not the issue for this forum.
And why I didn't lose this week is very confusing but too much to try to troubleshoot at this point.
I had personals I was going to do last night but this is awfully long now so know I am thinking of all of you and getting inspiration from your comments.

07-24-2012, 09:03 PM
Hello all. I did not get to drink my water today, but I did really good with my eating. I ate all my meals (3) when physically hungry and the one snack also. So credit for not overeating and eating when only hungry. Have a blessed evening.

07-25-2012, 07:57 AM
Oh Naturegirl -- you're having a tough day -- I had a tough day too. And I ate stuff not on my plan. Arrived at work with my food and my plan and my co-workers had brought food, and I wasn't strong enough.....I think it's very upsetting to have your animals hurt, and even more so when your animals are hurting each to you for coming on line and spilling it out and writing it out and figuring it out here what you need to do different when this comes up again. Here's a hug. Hang in there gal!:hug:

My co-workers would have been fine with my just saying no thanks and sticking to my plan....I was the one who gave in so fast. I don't think my plan was good enough or something or I would have done better.

So tomorrow is another day, we'll just get ourselves up, dust ourselves off, read our Advantages and Response cards and try it again!

Here's to tomorrow....

Bill -- nice compliment at the gym.

One good thing tonight, talked on phone to friend as we drove home following each other and told her about Beck.....I'm going to go online and find the book and give it to her....Like me she has a lot to lose, has tried everything for as long as we have known each other, and she has two knee replacement surgeries in her future. I'm thinking Beck might help her too.

Okay, it's almost 4:00 a.m.....night all...

07-25-2012, 08:14 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Eating on plan, CREDIT moi. There was a moment when I thought nibbling would make everything OK, but I didn't. Everything became OK anyway. I was so happy at the store last Saturday when I grabbed a bag of California Navel Oranges. DW was skeptical, "The season is over." Well, she might have been right. They're good enough juice oranges, but they aren't the Navel Oranges that I love during the winter. DW insists that fruits have a season despite the supermarkets selling them year round.

Exercise was a walk (CREDIT moi) between two thundershowers. Our thundershowers yield little rain lately, just noise, wind, and a few minutes of heavy drops. We ended up watering our community garden after they were over. Harvested our first red tomatoes - cherry tomatoes, but red. And more cukes that just keep coming.

onebyone – Love the sequence of thoughts including, "more on plan than not on plan" - so good to be reminded to enjoy our progress without demanding the burden of perfection. Are you willing to explain your VW avatar?

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Eat, Exercise, Write - sounds like a best seller.

Nature Girl – Ouch for the surprise issue with your dogs. Hope you and your vet can figure it out. Sound strategy, "Keep healthy OP food EVERYWHERE."

Ann (Newlifestyle) - Yep, Extra Kudos for posting when ya don't feel like it.

Tammy (CatholicCajun) – Yep, Kudos for eating only when hungry.

soonfit - Super Kudos for the teeth whitening trick to prevent snacking. [Thanks for the kind words.]

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan

Before You Move On

In the next stage, you will learn how to implement a more flexible way of eating. Many dieters want to jump the gun and start this new stage too soon. Don't be fooled! It is essential to have mastered inflexible eating skills first. At some point, you will find that instead of becoming flexible, your eating has become too loose. You may also become lax in your eating habits. And your weigh will start to go up. At that point, you should return to inflexible eating until your weight comes back down.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 165.

07-25-2012, 09:27 AM
Hi Coaches!

I'm taking Newlifestyle(Ann's) advice and am posting even though I'm short on time this morning. My project moves forward, and food has been "good enough" for this time, as I have eaten from my healthy stockpile at home and have resisted all thoughts that this IS the time in life when you order take out pizza. I've weighed, picked up the house and am drinking my smoothie, which tastes so good this morning.

NatureGirl, I am so sorry to hear of your trauma with your dogs. credit for recognizing food won't make it better. Your list of responses to the situation is very thought out and makes lots of sense. :hug:

I must shower and head off to work.

Thanks all for being here!

07-25-2012, 11:05 AM
I achieved my trifecta yesterday -- mostly on plan eating, exercise, and writing. Today there probably won't be writing, but that's because DH is back to the doctor to have his eye checked. His vision is much improved so we're hoping for good news.

WI: -0.2 kgs, Exercise: +40 1115/1400 minutes for July, Food: 90%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

soonfit: LOL at using posts here as writing practice. A number of us here have come to consider ourselves as writers of various stripes so you may be on to something!
Beck's newer book, The Complete Beck Diet for Life, doesn't use the task a day structure -- so I took that as further encouragement to take as many days as needed to master a task.

onebyone: I think this is really the secret: "You just keep coming back, keep changing it up, keep trying to move forward, keep trying, keep taking credit for your efforts, keep re-adjusting to Life."

Nature_Girl: Hugs! That sounds like a really bad day. One difference I notice between yesterday's troubles and earlier ones is the unexpected nature and the way it effected your schedule for the day. When my day doesn't go the way I expect, I'm always in a danger zone for food. I think your analysis and your list of things to do to prevent it next time are right on target. I'd say don't worry about this: "And why I didn't lose this week is very confusing but too much to try to troubleshoot at this point." The troubleshooting you did is enough. Let the scale take care of itself for a bit while you get all those other strategies in place.

BillBlueEyes: Thanks for this: "Eat, Exercise, Write - sounds like a best seller" LOL

Greetings to all and sundry!

07-25-2012, 12:26 PM

I feel tremendous pressure today. So much that it is paralyzing me in my creativity and I can't have that. I am going to have to push on through and paint anyway. I've had a lot of self-doubt, a lot of second guessing, a lot of the sabotaging thought :devil: why bother?
As always, the Beck Diet Solution sugestions apply to many more situations than food. Though, of course, these "non-food" situations can EASILY translate into "...and I ate over it." ie. over the pressure.

This is not an option today.

*credit* for weighing in: +1.5lbs to 253.1lbs :mad: I know it's salt as I had some microwave popcorn last night after 9pm ... still ...:mad:
*credit* tracking food
*credit* sticking to experimental no wheat yesterday
*credit* moving ahead with my painting inspite of how I feel about them
*credit* for posting here and checking in and reading your posts when I feel lousy

Ok heading out where I have no distractions and can focus on those *&%$! paintings.


PS. BBE my previous VW avatar is kind of a dream of mine. I have always wanted to have a car with grass on it. No idea why. Check out the attached takes it one step further. Imagine if you walked into one of your meetings in that ;) Fun.

07-25-2012, 03:58 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.
Back from my weekend wedding which lasted six days. Although everything went fine, I feel pretty miserable. I had forgotten my scale (body weight) which means I couldn't get the info I needed. I am three pounds up today and it feels terrible. Plus, I have to pack for ANOTHER family reunion trip (my side this time) for one week in Southern California. I feel completely out of control and stupid for agreeing to all these events. All I want to do is cancel and be home. Three weeks ago I made commitment to no more events but this was planned months ago so I feel I just have to endure it. It is an 8 hour ride away into the very heart of the worse traffic in the world, except for a highway in Tokyo. (I read that once.)

OK Enough whining. Towards a solution. I am packaging in small snack size zip locks seven days worth of oatmeal/flaxseed and seven days worth of dried fruit and nuts . I am buying at the store individual portions of almond milk which need no refrigeration. My scale is the first thing in the car tomorrow morning and I am giving myself permission to spend any extra money necessary to buy salads and fruits instead of hot dogs at Legoland. (This is a tough one because fresh food is ridiculously expense.)

Elizabeth: That is a riot about the book you bought - sounds exactly like what I would do.
BBE: Thanks for the reminder about unplanned nuts. Nuts are my only fat these days. I am developing a passion for them - certainly not yet to rival yours. :)
Lexxiss: Belated Congrats on your DH taking a trip by himself. That is a BIG deal.
Naturegirl: What an existing adventure - your Airstream. They are by far the best looking trailers on the road.

Wave to everyone else.

07-25-2012, 04:44 PM
pound by pound- post by post!

So today is Wednesday, which in my world means the weekend is coming and dieting is ready to be thrown out the window. This is a major sabotaging thought, so I have to plan accordingly and not fall off the wagon. Yesterday worked out really well and I added that to my schedule chart. I highlighted what I did that worked to keep me on task and chkd out what needs tweaking. (credit)

Naturegirl- Credit for posting about your feelings AND finding a solution, which I thought was brilliant. Making a list of healthy choices at the drive through. I don't know about you, but anytime food is handed through that window it seems like a treat.

GardenerJoy- Thank you for the kind words. I will check out the new book. I have the Beck Diet Solution which was the only Beck book at Barnes and Noble.

BBE - Hope you are enjoying your juice. DH planted a garden and we have had a few tomatoes, and one cuke may be ready, but that is all. I did make grilled veggies(from the store) last night..... Delish! Thanks for the idea and we have some leftover.

*meal plan
*mostly sitting down to eat
*practicing for my tennis match tonight
*keeping half my salad in the fridge for "later"
*posting when I didn't have any time and now I have even less

Have a great day everyone!

Nature Girl
07-26-2012, 02:10 AM
First of all thank you for all of your thoughtful, helpful, and concerned responses--I appreciate them and several of you had some good insights, or helped reinforce the plans I had! The dogs are doing well (in their own spaces, but healing) and we are pursuing solutions.
Two pretty good days since Monday - on plan beautifully yesterday and today with eating--not even any craving for off plan treats. I planned, ate, and recorded all food.
Rode my bike this morning so I'm back in the exercise routine--tomorrow a hike on the ridge, but probably not all the way up. Back to doing workouts in early am or evening due to heat.
*OP eating
*bought a bunch of energy bars, small packs of nuts, sunflower seeds, etc; I now have 'emergency' food in my car, my purse, and in my bike bag.
*wrote up a card reminding myself how horrible I felt after all that sugar--may have to actually tattoo it to my forearm, because subway now has a sign saying "Ask how you can get a free cookie" Today that seems disgusting, but I know I may soon forget and start craving
-More OP eating
-Hike in the AM
-Plan another healthy but yummy dinner like tonight's salmon, pureed cauli, and quinoa.
-Research (online) best choices at local fast foods for just in case times. When I did WW years ago, I went through that little points book you can buy and highlighted the best choice at each place--that way when I got stuck somewhere with a carload of kids, I could try to minimize the damage.
I'm noticing that feeling full after a healthy, barely processed meal like that feels completely different and much more satisfying than feeling full after too many pieces of pizza or some rich, salty,
Here's a funny from my youngest (20) DD: when I told her which drive-in I had gone to Monday and what I had ordered, she said 'Well, go big or go home!'
Soonfit: Tennis has got to be good for you and your goals! Send me a pic of your Shasta--I'm a new-ish member of a group of women who almost all have little old trailers like that. The airstream will definitely be the bigggg sister at events.
Maryann: Great job taking control of your environment on your trip and packing breakfast food and snacks! So much better than struggling all the time to find healthy food that works for you. Re: fresh food at Legoland: YOU ARE WORTH IT! In the big picture of the budget for a trip like that, healthy food for you will be a drop in the bucket, and it will reward you in many ways.
Gardenerjoy: Your insight that the dog issue was unexpected and threw me off when I'd planned well for other issues was really helpful--someday all of this will be stuff we can do as second nature and it will take more to knock us off course; for now prior planning is needed.

07-26-2012, 05:38 AM
Hello my comrades in sane eating / living!

Ever since completing my dissertation, I've found that I absolutely must get eight hours of sleep. Which means that the early morning dentist appointment (yep, maryann, in the heart of the worst traffic in the world) and running around wiped me out. So I didn't get to a late-night post on Tuesday, but I DID record what I had eaten that day AND made a food plan for today. Major Credit-Moi!

My plan has been shifted today, but having the plan helped me to ride the shifts with sanity. I also was able to budget out my tried-and-true snacks so that I consumed my protein shake after the gym, thereby avoiding the tendency to eat too much too late at night (which seems to happen when I visit the gym late). Credit moi for problem-solving this issue, so that even though the DP was snacking away, I said no and was happy with my shake.

I started back up my FP in my old journal, so I also flipped back through some of my last entries. Enlightening to see what I was eating when I was ten pounds lighter: significantly less than now. And that I was recording / planning measurements of these foods. Yes, BBE, I had forgotten how helpful the planned serving aspect of Beck is! Both my old FP entries and you have reminded me! Funny how the Universe works. (Major credit to you for the compliment at the gym!)


* Working out a plan that works with late-night gym time.
* Curbing late-night snacking two days in a row.
* Planning a bratty option in tomorrow's day, just in case.
* 40 minutes of interval training on elliptical, 15 minutes stretching.
* Watching portions, although not yet measuring.
* Exercising that resistance muscle!

Next challenges:

* Returning to A&R cards -- perhaps creating some new ones?
* Measuring portions

Nature Girl -- I wrote this before reading your post -- I can't tell you how sorry I am to hear about the dogs fighting. We have had two such incidents with our big dogs, and have discovered that they're being triggered by a combination of factors: not enough exercise combined with something exciting in the backyard (the first a bottle of sunscreen I left out there that they fought over, the second a new dog moved in next door that got them so excited they took it out on one another). Every situation is unique, of course, but I have found that attending to my own energy in the situation really helps the whole pack to get back on track. When I am scared and nervous after they fight, it affects the dogs' ability to recuperate. They (the canines) forget really quickly; it's the humans who hold on to negative energy. This is why I love having dogs: they force me to always be aware of the energy I project into the world. And they serve as a constant reminder of the importance of getting back on track. Warm supportive thoughts as you work through this situation.

Gardenerjoy, love your insights on taking credit just for troubleshooting a challenging situation. Think I'm also working on that Trifecta. Which is especially important to me before I have to throw teaching back into the mix.

maryann, sending supportive energy from just down the road, as you brave the stress of the LA area! Just think: one of your Beck supporters is nearby and facing the same challenges! We can do it!

Elizabeth779, great story about the book! I first encountered JB at the thrift store, can you believe it? It was gently worn, but all pages were in order. :-) I was struggling with the spontaneity thing, too; but when I really think about it, the way the brat eats is not spontaneous. It's indulgent and actually quite habitual. I always eat the same thing and feel the same way afterward. So planning allows me to *sometimes* have my favorites and yet not feel bad about it. If that makes any sense. Food planning is part of exercising that resistance muscle.

Thanks for being here! ::hugs all around::

07-26-2012, 06:54 AM
Hi everyone -- it's late but I wanted to do a fast drive by before sleep.

First of -- I went to the gym again this morning, even though I got up late and was rushed. I'm now working on food planning....oh my GOSH I suck at that -- it doesn't come naturally (Elizabeth takes a breath and says, "oh well"....breathe in, breathe out)....anyway, I've got to plan really didn't work today, so tomorrow is another day and I resolve to plan and execute my food plan better.

Gardener Joy -- SALUTE to your trifecta.....the planets were aligned correctly ;)

MaryContrary -- thank you for your post about the food planning. I have BDS on CD, and was listening to it tonight while working, and she was talking about the food planning. I am convinced now as hard and different as that can be (and as rebellious as I can be) that it is essential that I master that skill. Plan the food, and stick to the plan....I haven't yet, but soon. I actually forgot part of my food tonight....I need to plan better. I think the success is in planning the details....get that sleep must be working on what they call "sleep debt".

Naturegirl -- glad you got your ride, that will help you destress. I find your observation interesting: "Observation: I'm noticing that feeling full after a healthy, barely processed meal like that feels completely different and much more satisfying than feeling full after too many pieces of pizza or some rich, salty,..." I'm going to try to observe that also.

Maryann -- wow, you are a busy gal right now....but it sounds like you have a plan for this weekend. Good luck -- I agree with you gal though, it's easier to be at home.

Soonfit -- for a newbie to BDS, you are getting it going -- I'm impressed. You said you are going to plan for the weekend -- I think planning is one of the major keys to success. Hang in there gal!

Onebyone -- good luck with painting -- we're here for you!

Bill -- I love -- ADORE -- navel oranges in the winter....sweet like candy even.

Well everyone, we're all going through a lot.......let's drink water because it's hot out there (and the water is good for us)....and we'll just keep on trying....sounds like everyone is working hard to find solutions for what needs to be fixed and tweaked...

Beck Team Hug:hug:

07-26-2012, 07:15 AM
Hi Coaches!

Yesterday was an OP day. I was really wanting a "breakfast" at work yesterday. We weren't too busy. I analyzed it all...I wasn't hungry just bored. I remembered I had ingredients at home to have my "breakfast" for dinner. I took time from painting to enjoy my veggie sausage, healthy hash brown and pasture raised egg dinner. It fit into my "ethical" plan much better which is important to me, too. credit.

credit for posting this morning and for weighing even though I thought, "I'm just too busy today." I am heading over the hill w/mom this morning (in 45 min) and will arrive just in time for water aerobics. Yay.

Sending support to you all!

07-26-2012, 07:23 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Dinner included kale from our garden - all's right with the world. Eating was on plan, CREDIT moi, without notable challenges. It's time for me to adjust the plan since I'm maintaining just fine, but I want to drop the pounds I added last summer when I drifted. For the duration of my journey I ate at maintenance level and let the pounds slowly drift away. That's not working now - perhaps I've let the calorie level slowly rise, or perhaps my too-frequent wanderings are keeping me pegged. The Beck quote today about inflexible eating reminds me that inflexible is good.

Gym was gym, CREDIT moi. I was observing the different body shapes and sizes of the men and remembering that each had to consume calories relative to their size. It's a wide spread. My walk, CREDIT moi, was an errand to the library. I love scanning their rack of new books; found one on the unconscious mind - so I'll get some current thinking about all that part of my brain making decisions that I'm not aware of.

onebyone – Ouch for the pressure. Kudos for observing that it's a Sabotaging Thought that can lead to food. And Kudos for "moving ahead with my painting in spite of how I feel about them." [Thanks for the grass VW explanation. Yep, I'd look swell in that grass outfit.]

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Yay for your trifecta day. Hope DW's eye issue is resolving.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Kudos for standing down the Sabotaging Thought it's time to order pizza. The current issue of Nutrition Action Newsletter pans a new frozen Macaroni and Cheese Pizza - all white flour and processed goop with no redeeming nutrition at all.

Nature Girl – Yep, "Ask how you can get a free cookie" intrudes into one's equanimity - glad I don't face that one. Kudos for recognizing "Progress."

Mary (MaryContrary) – Yep, Kudos indeed for ignoring your DP's snacking. I wish I would match your "15 minutes stretching" - the body sure could use it.

maryann - Ouch for all the time with extended family. Six days is one long wedding. (Wondering if some bright PhD candidate has studied wedding duration/cost with marriage duration?) Kudos for planning and prepping for your next adventure. I wanna go to Legoland - can you go if you're not a kid?

soonfit - So neat that you've spotted in advance that weekend means out the window. You have to see it to be able to make a plan for it in advance. [Drooling over left over grilled veggies.]

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan

Before You Move On

However, if you never mastered inflexible eating in the first place, you may have a very tough time getting back in control and losing weight. I bet that has happened to you in the past and prevented you from achieving lasting weight loss up to this point. But mastering all of the skills in Stages 1-3 will ensure that this never has to happen ever again because you will always know exactly what to do!

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 165.

07-26-2012, 10:40 AM
DH's eye appointment got rescheduled to Friday when we arrived to the news that it would be at least an hour since the doctor was performing surgery. But his eye's improving every day so we're continuing to dial down the concern.

St. Louis set a record for heat yesterday at 107 and it was the 11th day this summer that we've had a high over 105 degrees, also a record. We made the national news on NBC. When I was picking up my CSA box, one lady was proposing to sacrifice our too-perky weather lady on the NBC affiliate to the volcano gods for some rain.

WI: +0.15 kgs, Exercise: +30 1145/1400 minutes for July, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

07-26-2012, 12:56 PM
Hello Coaches,

Dragging today but trying to stay motivated. Yesterday I followed the "schedule" from the day before which had worked and guess what it worked again. Soooo, much to my surprise and sabotaging thoughts there is benefit to filling out that time sheet. Now I have to plan my weekend food plan.... and move on to "my" next step which is overcome cravings. Then I officially start diet which I have been doing, but will still sneak in an extra, since I haven't officially started. sabotage, sabotage....

*on plan breakfast
*putting ad cards in better spots for quick reading
*filling out time sheet
*looking up gym class for later today
*shopping for on plan foods
*weighing in this morning and stopping sabotaging thought when I saw that I gained .2 when I thought for sure I had lost a pound (slow and steady)
I didn't gain it in a day and I am not going to lose it in a day.

Elizabeth- So right that planning is key. CD? I have to check that out also.

NatureGirl- Go big or go home- that is funny on lots of levels...Glad you shared and so great that you/we can laugh about it!

Lexiss and Gardner Joy- Wow look at your tickers!! You must be so proud!

BBE- Maintence is so key to the puzzle of weightloss. (I try to think of most things as a puzzle and try to fit the pieces in for "it/whatever" to come together). Congrats for never rewarding yourself for losing the weight by gaining it back. I have done this numerous times and I think most dieters have. It sounds like you are making a "plan" for your next stage.

Almost wrote have a great weekend, but caught myself. It must be because it's summer. Have a great DAY!

07-26-2012, 01:15 PM

Completed the three 12x12 paintings yesterday. Thank goodness. And I did not eat over it. *credit x 2* I have to go into the city (we have bad traffic too!) this eveing to drop off the canvases and my friend's 3 - 12x12's as well. It's important that I get there in time.

Today I continue painting, but this time for a gallery show that opens next week. It's a very lowkey opening but I still need work on those walls. I have my images ready and I'll sketch them out this afternoon and I have one other project for the market this weekend. I was asked to decorate the border of a sandwich board for the farmers' market. A 3" or so border is what I need to make on a 4x2 foot board. I think I am overthinking this and today I wil just draw something onto it and I am sure it will work. I need this project off my back.

Still no movement on those dishes so today's goal is to do one sinkful only.
Also, I couldn't sign up for the monthly WW this week so I didn't get to the meeting and I am shut out of my ww account until I pay up so I am tracking my food in my tracking book the old fashioned way: by hand. *credit for plans and for back up plans*

I'm at 40lbs down today. I think I saw 294 last year too so I am ok with claiming my 40lbs off avatar.

Off to work now.
Enjoy your day Becksters.

07-26-2012, 05:47 PM
Hi All,

Okay you know it's been awhile between posts when my last one showed up on page 9 and here we are on page 12!! Things have been busy in my world, I took the last couple days off work to be home with the dog as my DS was away for a short vacation. He got back last night so he can let Dexter out of his exercise pen for a couple of hours during the day and my time school starts we hope he can last all day. Spending lots of time with him outside and continually have to puppy-proof the yard. He really likes the mulch under some trees and this morning decided chewing on the tree seemed like fun too. We had 2 nights when he slept right through and are back to being up 2 or 3 times. Thankfully it's DH's turn tonight but I'm still woken up as DH is more of a deep sleeper and I need to tell him the dog needs out.

Weight is still the same, exercise is gardening and dog things. I'm sure I would really have a tough time at a Zumba class right now. Our weather has been warm for us (high 20's Celcius, mid 80's F), probably cool by some of your standards. Not sure I could function well in high temps, my theory is if it's that warm and humid I need some blue water, sandy beach and an umbrella drink in my hand. I was told once that Calgary is the second driest city for humidity after Phoenix, learned that from a piano tuner who keeps quite busy in our atmospheric environment.

My garden is coming along nicely, I'm envious when I read about all of you eating from yours already. Here it's more of an Aug/Sept/Oct harvesting schedule. Right now still eating swiss chard, green onions and just a couple days ago the beets. Have lots of pea pods on the plants, nothing yet on the green or yellow beans but flowers. And just got my first flower on the zuchinni so know I'll get at least one from there.

No time now for personals, trying to catch up on all the posts and hope everyone is doing well. :wave:

PS - Congrats onebyone on 40 pounds gone!

07-27-2012, 12:51 AM
Hello everyone.
I had a good day op. I ran on the treadmill as we got that rain we needed so badly. It is funny how I would run in the rain/snow/heat before and now for some reason it really seems difficult. I think I am becoming an exercise hermit.
A very busy day today. A good buys though. I feel exhausted right now and as soon as my head hits the pillow I will be asleep.

BBE - my friends are going to Boston on vacation and I thought of you and all the great ethnic food places there are. I live in a smaller town and not much here that is out of the ordinary/plain. Congratulations for the compliment at the gym the other day.

Lexi, I hope your day with your mom was relaxing. Your breakfast for dinner sounded yummy.

Onebyone, congrats on the 40 pounds lost, also congrats for getting your paintings done.

Gardenjoy - How wonderful it is that DH's eye is improving everyday. It must be a relief.

Nature Girl – The free cookie at subway reminded me of a time here they were giving away a free pumpkin to each family and some families kept on going back to get more, they didn't really want the pumpkin, it was just because it was free.

MaryContrary – My DH loves to snack. It drives me crazy. I am not sure why, as I am not interested in what he is snacking on.

maryann - My son would love to go to Legoland. We have so much lego here and he spends hours playing with it.

Elizabeth - What a great reminder that we need to just breath. I am not great at meal planning. I always just like to wing it. Which plan did you choose for your healthy eating?

soonfit - Grilled veggies sound great.

Tazzy, I remember in Alberta how even if it was hot during the day. It would cool off at night. Here it just seems to stay hot.

Hello to anyone I missed.
Have a great night.

Nature Girl
07-27-2012, 01:08 AM
OP Day, even though I had to rethink dinner when I discovered I hadn't bought lettuce for the planned salad. Did strength workout, didn't bike or hike. Will get up early and do it in the cool, followed by a shower and a friend's birthday lunch. Will plan for that while I hike--something to keep my mind off the steepness of the trail.
Best part of the day - didn't eat or drink over the dilemma that happened this evening: I have an interview next week for a job I am sure I will get (not being conceited, just know my qualifications and the competition). I will love it but I will earn about 1/3 of what some of the positions I am applying for pay. Many complications of this issue, but today's issue was when they called instead of being excited I said s***, knowing the decision I will have to make. Interesting thing was my body practically got me up and walked me to DH's ice cream, or the cupboard where the scotch is. But I resisted! Talked it out w/ DH, thought deep thoughts, purposely delayed dinner a while so it wasn't a reaction to the interview issue. it is so fascinating that that is the first reaction I have--EAT!

07-27-2012, 01:15 AM
Good evening, Coaches.

I am giving myself a huge CREDIT even though I don't feel like celebrating. I braved six hours in a car eating only my planned food. I brave my mother, already drinking, and I only ate planned food. I brave my mother's Macaroni and Cheese (the ultimate rabbit hole food for me) and I ate only what I planned. I can count on my hand the number of times I have turned down mac and cheese. I don't feel hungry but I feel upset and sad. My mom's drinking increasingly upsets me because of her personality changes. It was a HUGE deal for me to come down here. (I am talking crying for an entire day yesterday from sheer anxiety) and all I get from her is "You certainly have been uptight lately!" Me! The one that makes ALL the family events, that doesn't cancel, that plans, that hosts, blah blah blah. Credit for me saying only "Maybe it is because of you." which is probably the most honest thing I have said to her in years.

All this is the stuff I eat over, have traded peace and serenity for. But today I didn't. Tonite I type in my little room with my beautiful DS reading and feel icky but proud.

MaryContrary: Tomorrow I take 210 to the 57 to 5 to Dana Point. It is my best guess at optimum traffic conditions. I remember being a little girl and visiting my grandparents on California Avenue in Pasadena and we never ever thought about traffic issues. My condolences that you have to run errands in this nightmare.
Naturegirl: I am with you on your feelings about barely processed food. At this point in my food plan I am practically a raw foodie! fruit and nuts for breakfast. Salad for dinner and lunch. I do feel amazingly NOT hungry. It is weird to "count veggies and fruit" in my daily analysis because I never "counted them in Weight Watchers." Somehow I feel it will not be enough. That is just my head talking. Like it was "enough when I ate 13 servings of bread and an ice-cream!
soonfit: So much of the Beck program consists of "unearthing" the invisible rules we live by. When it is the weekend, I can over eat. When I am with my family, I can overeat. When I don't have planned food with me, I can overeat. These are the villains we must battle.

07-27-2012, 03:29 AM
The DP just finished the bag of Cheetos and I had not one. Major credit!

I have been feeling very happy today with my food plan, and with the solidity it adds to my life. So pleased and relieved to be back on track! Again there were shifts, but just the act/fact of having a plan helps so much. Especially when faced with peer pressure. I'm sure this is not what JB means by inflexible eating, but it is what worked for me in the past. Maybe, however, I need to fully master the inflexible eating, in order to prevent the gain when I encounter another stressful deadline like a dissertation. It's like mastering a sonnet before moving on to free verse? Hmmmmmm.

* working with the FP and writing down shifts.
* sticking to my planned lunch even though I was offered a much more appealing potatoes-eggs-sausages option
* 4 miles WATP with light jogging, ten min. stretching
* resisting the late-night snacking
* resisting standing-eating
* checking in here
* weighing in -- down four pounds, just because of the late-night shifts

Elizabeth779, credit on getting to the gym! Something helpful I did when first starting the food planning was to first find some tried and true healthy snacks. And then I slowly started making my meals healthier. I found that easier than making a huge shift all at once.

BBE, YUM to kale. I love kale, anything super-green and super-crunchy / crisp. I also love to stretch and always remember that it burn calories, too.

soonfit, great job staying motivated even when dragging! Dragging days often mean munching days for me.

Nature Girl, great job resisting ice cream and scotch! Good luck with the interview, and facing these difficult decisions.

And maryann, MAJOR CREDIT. You have faced so much and it's such a credit to your strength that you can enjoy your DS and feel icky and proud all at once. I am awed by what you have faced, and how you have faced it! In terms of your travels, check for traffic conditions and/or listen to AM 1070. The 210 and the 57 are the better fwys. Sending positive energy your way!

Off to make tomorrow's food plan! Good night, friends.

07-27-2012, 06:39 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Gazpacho on the patio for dinner. Just love it. Eating was on plan for the day, CREDIT moi, including one time thinking that a handful of DW's trail mix would make feelings go away - which I ignored. When I happened to open a kitchen cabinet I remembered that that's where the opened bags of chips are kept. Out-of-sight works for me; if those were kept on the counter, my wandering hand would be in them.

Walk (CREDIT moi) included stopping by the library to return a book that my online account showed wasn't checked out!!! I asked the librarian if that meant that I'd just walked out with it, but she assured me that they sometimes botch the checkout process. I'd had this sinking feeling that I'd become so absent minded that I picked up books and wandered out the door. Phew!

onebyone – Congrats on those 40 pounds gone forever. And Kudos for completing those three paintings that were bugging you.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – 107 degrees F is alota heat - Kudos for 30 minutes of exercise anyway. LOL at "sacrifice our too-perky weather lady."

Nature Girl – It is amazing, "the first reaction I have--EAT!" Kudos for going with your second reaction. Neat strategy to use your hiking time to plan. Good luck deciding on the job situation.

Mary (MaryContrary) – Kudos for standing down the Cheetos even as they were being consumed before your very eyes. Love the thought, "It's like mastering a sonnet before moving on to free verse."

maryann - Yep, Monster Kudos for facing the birth family and keeping your path. Moms have a special talent for remarks that slip right in. And additional Kudos for avoiding the "rabbit hole" comfort foods.

Tazzy - LOL at Dexter chewing on trees. How do you cook your beets?

Ann (Newlifestyle) - Yay for "good busy" and "exhausted" - despite the rain. Your "exercise hermit" comment reminds me of the neat picture of the Dali Lama on a treadmill.

soonfit - Kudos for recognizing "there is benefit to filling out that time sheet." And thanks for the reminder, "I didn't gain it in a day and I am not going to lose it in a day."

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan

Before You Move On

As you work on your Stage 3 skills, don't forget to keep adding more movement to your day. Continue to increase your planned exercise, including cardiovascular and strength training.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 165.

07-27-2012, 07:05 AM
Hello coaches -- so I did a better staying on my plan today than yesterday -- forgot part of my food, and learned I cannot have the BOX of ak mak crackers with me. If a cracker is on my food list I'd better take that in tupperware and leave the box at home....I'm counting calories and trying to eat healthy. I've tried every diet under the sun, but this is the closest I've come in a long time. I'm in the habit of doing it on the fly -- on the run, but now I'm listening to JB when she says it is vital, and necessary to plan my food a day I'm also learning these foods need to be something I like. I am using fitday to plan my foods so I can see protein, carbs, fat, and try to keep those all reasonable.

Maryann -- your staying on program today in the face of major temptations and the family situation with your mom is just wonderful. Your perserverence (sp?) is inspiring. Hang in there gal -- and keep posting -- we're here for you!:hug:

Marycontrary -- thanks for the suggestion, that's sort of what I'm trying to do -- find foods I like, and I don't mind repeating them day by day so I can get used to sticking 100% to the plan. I like what you say about being on your food plan adds solidity to your life.....I'm going to remember that as I tackle the food plan again tomorrow.

Naturegirl -- good luck with the job interview -- sounds like you have it!

Newlifestyle -- I feel like an exercise hermit also....will tell story soon about how people try to sell me weight loss stuff at the gym....I've chosen counting calories with a balanced diet with 3 meals, 2 snacks....JB's second book says not to try to eat too low calorie, especially when I weigh this much so I'm aiming for 1,800 calories right now and hoping increasing the exercise will help (it will).

Hi Tazzy -- good to hear from you.

Onebyone -- credit to you gal for your backup plan....we all need backup plans

Soonfit -- yes, they have a CD to listen to. I bought one used, and all was well except for the last two tracks on disc 4. But I have 98% of the book on CD's and put it on the computer and then on my phone so I can listen to it while working. I think it's reinforcing to hear it as well as read it. I bought it from amazon

gardnerjoy -- glad DH's eyes are showing improvement....and HOLY MOLY -- 107 in St. Louie? Oh my gosh. That's crazy -- it's only supposed to be that hot in AZ or the CA desert?

Bill -- you said you had kale -- I made kale chips for the first time today -- I liked them, going to make them tomorrow and use some garlic on them. So you say you were eating at "maintenance level" for your weight loss journey....that means you ate the number of calories needed to sustain your goal weight? I've been thinking of doing that based on what JB says in her second book.....I've always tried to eat 1,400 or even 1,200 and was so hungry, but I find it more manageable at 1,800. I'll read the section of today's quote tomorrow....curious what it might say.

Lexxiss -- good job, and good solution about having breakfast at night, good plan.

Okay, we're all hanging in there -- :hug:

Nite all -- I'll be back this weekend...

07-27-2012, 08:28 AM
Hi coaches... checking in.I've been reading... just not wanting to post. When will I learn that this is a place to come when struggling as well as following my Beck food routine. I've Been struggling with physical pain and trying to use food to 'help' it feel better. (how's that workin' for me? - not so good.)

I've had some healthy days along the way too. I have been reading my advantage cards & response cards, drinking lots of water, and writing it all down. I am up two pounds.

I have done two performances in the last week and it's been so joyful doing i

I must remind myself to treat myself as kindly as I would a good friend.

Carry on...& thanks for listening.

07-27-2012, 12:02 PM
Happy Friday!

I have to get back to posting here every day, even if it's just to check in. I realized this morning that it was Aug 01/11 when I started the BDS book; I'm going to pull it out again and start from the beginning on Aug 01. A refresher certainly would not hurt me!

Weighed this morning and up some, I know it’s from the theater popcorn I had on Wed when I decided to go to an afternoon movie on my own. I’m sure there is a ton of sodium in that so you drink more sugary beverages. But they did not get any of my money for drinks as I am not a big fan of soft drinks.

DH and I took Dexter for a walk last night. I suggested to DH that we plan to take him for a short walk, we left home at 7pm and got back at 8:20pm. We met lots of new dogs along the route and Dexter liked some and not others, there was a very unfriendly Bassett Hound and his owner didn’t seem much nicer! We saw some friends as well and it was pretty enjoyable until the mosquitos started to descend as it cooled off. Yes Newlifestyle, one thing about Alberta is that it can be uncomfortably hot for us during the day but the cool winds come down from the Rockies and you usually need a sweater by time the sun goes down. It was quite cool this morning when I was out harvesting green onions and Swiss chard to bring to my co-workers. BBE – for my beets I cook them a couple of ways, boiling them and then peeling the skins off after rinsing in cool water and my new favorite is roasting them (oven or BBQ) and then peeling them, gives them a great flavor. I always look like I’ve been in a slasher movie with my red hands afterwards. :devil:

Time to get to work, I left early yesterday and we discovered a flying ant nest under my desk and I was pretty freaked out about it. It’s not like I work outdoors! One of my co-workers sprayed some Raid and the bug exterminators have been called. Today is just a pile of dead ants but it really smells bad so I should get some work done before a headache sets it from the fumes. :dizzy:

Have a good weekend everyone. I’m heading out of town tomorrow to my parents for my mom’s birthday so may not check back in until Sunday. :wave:

07-27-2012, 02:18 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

Thanks for all the positive hugs.
I am off on the next leg of my journey.
Food is written down. I used my sister's juicer to make a berry drink with carrots and an apple. I much prefer my juicer, much easier to clean.

Salad is made.

Hopefully I can do personals tonite.

07-27-2012, 06:41 PM
I had an extra snack yesterday due to a plan and to-do list that were closer to wishful thinking than reality. I can't explain the big drop in weight. The scale gods are capricious.

I'm posting late today because we went to DH's eye appointment this morning. It went fine. As long as nothing changes, he doesn't have to go back for three weeks when we hope that this incident will be declared complete.

Today's high of 100 degrees feels like no big deal -- but I did my gardening work before 9:00 am.

Will anyone else be watching the Olympics Opening Ceremony?

WI: -0.95 kgs, Exercise: +60 1205/1400 minutes for July, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Beverlyjoy: good to see you back. I'm so happy that you were able to do programs!

maryann: sending supportive energies!

07-27-2012, 09:08 PM
Hello all. Quick check in. Busy with paperwork at work today. Did get some water in so a credit for that. Stayed within my hunger/fullness eating, so another credit. "Talking" with all of you, another credit. Only thing with is is that when I am on everyone is off. I only get to do the computer at night after work, I sometimes get to sneak in during the day, but not very often. Have a blessed evening. Tammy

07-28-2012, 03:24 AM
Today could have been more on plan, as always, but I did stick to my healthy snacks, and to my planned portions. Lunch was sharing some cheesy nachos & asada with the DP, after which I totally crashed and felt icky-blah. Didn't like this crappy eating, but appreciate the very physical reminder of what food like that does to my energy and mood.

I also splurged on salty snack after dinner, not as bad as recent months, but still not on the plan.

Is it me, or is it hard to practice inflexible eating when I don't live alone? I still struggle with saying no, with the fear of making others mad by resisting. Mostly this is my issue, I know. Something to keep working on.

All of these slips happen on the morning I wake up and my scale has dipped back into the 170s. Self-sabotage? Something else to consider. Let me allow my subconscious to process in sleep . . .


* Tracking food and maintaining portions
* Weighing in
* Checking in here
* Dialoguing with DP about my attempts to get back on track
* Getting back on track after my small slips

Much supportive energy to you all for the weekend challenges! :grouphug:

07-28-2012, 06:35 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Eating was on plan, CREDIT moi, with white beans for dinner seasoned with Sage and Rosemary from our gardens. I just love garden-fresh herbs. DW showed me a picture of a field of sage bush out West - enough to make it difficult to want to pay $2.99 for a twig's worth at the supermarket.

At the gym, CREDIT moi, I added 5 pounds to my chest press with dumbbells. These aren't new pounds; just pounds that were lost last summer when I was skipping gym to work on my house. It's good to have them back. Walked (CREDIT moi) into threatening weather past some baseball fields with no games being played on a Friday evening. Apparently everybody else knew rain was imminent. I got caught in it. I didn't melt.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Congrats to you and your DH for working the TLC to help resolve his eye incident. I watched some web snippets of the Olympics opening ceremony - will work to catch the Hey Jude finale somewhere since that's about my favorite song ever.

Beverlyjoy – Yay for doing performances - good for you and good for the world. Sending supportive thoughts for dealing with physical pain.

Mary (MaryContrary) – Kudos for converting "icky-blah" into a lessons learned. I've the good fortune that DW continues to teach me about healthy foods, to the extent that my food plan has always been to eat what she prepares for dinner. I do have the problem that she is so parsimonious with snacks that she has room for an occasional shortbread cookie (which one isn't enough for me) and every day has trail mix in a measured serving for her afternoon snack. For me, nuts in a measured serving is just an invitation to get another serving. So I guess that I do have my own issues with inflexible eating due to not living alone.

maryann - Journey forth - making creative juices using native materials as you travel.

Tazzy - LOL at Dexter selecting a new set of friends for you guys. [Thanks for the tip to roast beets.]

Tammy (CatholicCajun) – Yay for busy with paperwork if that means that business is thriving. Kudos for water instead of soda or snacks.

Elizabeth (Elizabeth779) - Yep, for me a BOX of crackers becomes a serving. I gotta restrict the portion before I start eating.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan

Before You Move On

You will know that you are ready for Stage 4 when you have faithfully followed your Think Thin Initial Eating Plan and have implemented your Stages 1, 2, and 3 Success Skills consistently for a few weeks in a row. You will also have changed your basic attitude toward food and eating. You will have gone from, [I]This is so hard - This requires so much effort, to, This is pretty easy most of the time . . . And even when it's more difficult, it's so worth it to me to stay in control.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 165.

07-28-2012, 12:40 PM
No change in weight and I recorded yesterday's exercise yesterday, so I'm here now just to get back in the morning post habit.

Credit for eating yesterday that was in the spirit of a plan even though no plan ever got written. Credit for exercise that I'm feeling this morning -- hauling mulch from truck to bed in a hand cart and buckets and then spreading it.

We recorded the Opening Ceremony of the Olympics so watched the last bit this morning. BillBlueEyes, I loved the Hey Jude finale, but I'm a sucker for stadiums full of people singing together. It felt like the perfect song for the venue and for a "whole world sings along" moment. Of course, as a librarian, I also appreciated the children's literature segment -- Mary Poppins to the rescue!

07-28-2012, 03:02 PM
Good morning, Coaches.

Credit for walk on the beach this morning. I had it all to myself at 7:30 am. Food written down. My sister asked "Do you want something at the store?" I said, "Mushrooms and spinach." She did a double take. Not your classic vacation food run. DS is safely stashed with cousins at the beach while I go pick up more cousins.
OP yesterday 1 pound below ticker :)

I contemplated compassion and forgiveness on my walk. Forgiveness for my mother's drinking and forgiveness for my rigidity about it.

Mary Contrary: Completely understand the crappy feeling after you eat crappy food. What can't I remember that lesson?
BBE: Congrats on the weight gain. (That is something I don't usually say.)
gardenerjoy: The Scale Gods are a fickle crew. Good thing it is only information.

07-29-2012, 01:55 AM
Good evening Coaches -- I have news -- credit -- last two days completely OP with what I wrote out each day. Tonight is end of second day, and I notice I feel more calm, at peace, less noise in my head about "eat this, eat that, Get a ice cream cone," etc. I like this INflexible gives me boundaries -- I love that "I can eat it tomorrow.":)

Also my scale is down -- I had gained back up to 287, and this morning I'm down to 278.5....

credit -- went to gym and worked out hard....

I'm tired and hitting the hay early.....everyone hang in there!

07-29-2012, 05:47 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - The rains came, like big time. We got more than an inch over several hours. Even DW the gardener had enough. After whining about no rain, I suddenly felt deprived having to eat dinner inside. CREDIT moi for on plan eating. I face less cleanup in my basement than we expected.

My walk, CREDIT moi, was looking for birds in our favorite local spot to visit. We were surprised to find eight Green Herons on a tiny pond where one would have been a treat. Apparently, the drought around here forced them all to congregate on this one spot that still had sufficient water for their fishing needs. Or maybe it was just a summer family reunion. Who knows? We're so quick to assign reasons to the behaviors of animals as if we knew.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Ouch for feeling it; Yay for doing the hauling. Gardens look so spiffy covered with a layer of mulch.

maryann - I'm enjoying reading how you forage for the food for your plan among the natives. Sending supportive thoughts for the serious topics you're working for compassion and forgiveness.

Elizabeth (Elizabeth779) - Yep, "I can eat it tomorrow" is such a pleasant shock when faced with a standard item that doesn't really need to be consumed. Kudos for those two days on plan.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan

Before You Move On

Remain in Stage 3 until you've made that shift:

From Automatically Thinking This: to Thinking This:

Dieting is so hard. to I know I can keep this up.
I wish I didn't have to exercise. to I feel good when I exercise.
It's unfair that I can't eat like everyone else. to This is how all successful dieters and maintainers eat.
. . .

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 166.

07-29-2012, 10:46 AM
I met my goal to get back to 165 after my post-Ireland trip gain. Woohoo! Yesterday was one of those days when I just felt hungry all day for no visible reason. So, it's nice to get a reward on the scale for waiting that out.

Tonight's challenge is festival food. It's a Chinese festival so that should help increase the veggie quotient, although it will have a lot of sodium. I also have the option of bugging out to a cafe with decent salads, so I'll do that if the street fare doesn't look good enough to justify the calories and salt.

WI: -0.75 kgs, Exercise: +40 1245/1400 minutes for July, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Elizabeth779: yes! That was a huge surprise to me, too. Eating according to a food plan reduces the number of decisions I make in my day and is actually a stress reducer. Who knew?

maryann: yay for walks on the beach and spinach as vacation food!

BillBlueEyes: cool that the birding walk provided such a congregation of green herons. I think I've seen one. We commonly get Great Blue Herons, but I've never been able to identify the other ones beyond "maybe a heron? Or a kingfisher?" I need to start packing my Peterson Guide when I go to the park.

07-29-2012, 03:43 PM
Hi Coaches!

Food habits have been good and it's reflected on the scale right now. Credit Beck and moi for willingness to continue to practice the steps she suggests. I'm in the middle of a kitchen/refrigerator clean up and I can already "feel" that I'm going to pitch a few more things I just don't use/need anymore.

I have to share...I had the most wonderful/Beck inspired breakfast this morning. I departed from my usual smoothie and had an 100% organic breakfast on my front porch. In addition to my egg/toast and potato I added a fresh salad and thinly sliced carrots. I'm grateful to enjoy my food choices today.

BillBlueEyes, glad to hear DH and I are not the only ones assigning behaviors to the animals, "as if we knew". BTW-I always count the geese when they fly over. Yesterday I said "eight"...DH said, "we always like pairs"...then we continued with our ongoing conversation. Nice job at the gym! Adding back those dumbbells is just great! (near the Colorado River I've seen sage brush taller than me. It smells so good after a rain!)

gardenerjoy, yay for persistence getting to your goal for post vacation! Chinese festival here, too, but in Denver...don't think I'll get there.

Elizabeth779, yay for such a great revelation regarding your written plan. I write mine on a cute notepad and then save them on the refrigerator for future (menu) reference.

Maryann, I'm so glad to read that you're taking care of yourself and YOUR sobriety. You are the only one you can change...program reminds us of that. Still, it's very painful to watch another amidst the disease. How is the family scene meshing with your new food plan?

I think mom and I will go to Denver (Whole Foods). I just love that place...the smells, the beautiful produce and happy people. There are lots of items there that are not on my food plan but it sure beats that convenience store mentality.

Need to finish up in the kitchen.

07-30-2012, 12:23 AM
Happy Sunday evening Coaches --

Today was a good day -- OP again (credit) -- day 3, and went to the gym yesterday and today (credit). I'm a Jane Austen fan, and had started Persuasion (again!) but couldn't put it down and it was crowding on my Beck time which is really needed, so I did some power reading through the night and today, and finished it -- The boy gets the girl.....hahaha. It ends the same every time I read it! :dizzy:;)

Thought: Food is only food -- it really does hold an extraordinary power over us at times -- and it's power that we give it -- by itself, it's only a thing, a substance, necessary to sustain our life. Having been OP only 3 days, I'm just amazed at the difference of eating what I've planned versus grazing and eating emotionally. Oh, I always think a lot when I'm not emotionally eating....I FEEL more when I'm not emotionally eating...I think that's why I overeat sometimes to not deal with this might get interesting....but with the planning before hand such as you coaches and JB have encouraged, I do feel more calm, so this is good. I will be starting a blog somewhere to put down these thoughts/feelings when I get time....

Lexxis -- your breakfast sounds wonderful -- it sounds mindful, and glad to hear you're working your Beck skills, I always think of the joke:

"A man jumped in a cab in New York City and said to the cabbie: 'quick how do you get to carnegie hall?' The cab driver replied 'Practice, practice, practice."

That applies to Beck, we practice these skills until they are a part of us, until we have learned how to treat food as food, and how to not confuse it with our emotional needs, and how to give it the rightful and less powerful place it is in our lives....

Gardnerjoy --YAYYYYY for your getting back to your 165 goal....Proud of you gal! You are so right about how it reduces stress -- I've been very anxious the last few months....and I can feel the anxiety reduce the last 3're right -- it takes away all those decisions.....also, without all the decision thoughts, I recognize sabotaging thoughts easier...

Bill -- good for staying on plan, and adjusting to having to eat inside -- you wanted rain....and now you have rain....we'll call you "the Rainmaker"...did you get a pic of the green Herons? and I agree we assign human characteristics to animals....when I watch animal shows on TV you hear the narrator do that all the time.

Everyone have a lovely Sunday night.

07-30-2012, 01:40 AM
Good Evening, Coaches.
Well, a long, long day saying good bye to reunion members and driving with SIL and DN to Legoland. I am still emotional over family issues. At one point, I looked into the ocean and saw my 5yo "barely swimming" nephew on a boogeyboard, swimming in 5 Foot water with a huge wave coming. My mother was supposed to be watching him. I was watching the bigger boys down the coast. I screamed, dove in up to my shoulders and pulled him to shore. He was mad at me and my mother grimaced saying nothing - like I was overreacting. Credit for not collapsing into shame when others think I "overreact" Credit for thinking "Maybe God made me who I am for a reason." Maybe I'll never know who I help. All I can do is accept myself and not dive into a bowl of ice cream in self disgust. The miracle was another day OP. Sauteed mushrooms, steam veggies and a dry potato for dinner - not the ice cream everyone else had. All I wish is to be home. But I am grateful to give DS these memories of playing with cousins, summer at the beach, giggling in quiet corners over nothing in particular.

Gardenerjoy and Elizabeth: Congrats on good weight numbers. There is no luck. Those numbers are a testiment to effort.
Lexxiss: You're right about my sobriety. It is the only thing I can control.
I love perfect meal moments like you had on the porch. I remember a perfect half of a cookie (OP) eaten In Disneyland listening to Xmas carolers sitting next to DH and DS.
BBEAt this point, all my plans stop at rain and I say a simple "Thank you"

07-30-2012, 05:26 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Over the weekend I ignored offered snacks on two occasions, CREDIT moi. Some were just factory cookies - albeit Mint Milano and Fig Newtons, both favorites. But they also included a good Brie. It feels good to get back into stride by ignoring gratuitous offerings. It helps to stand away from the table where the food sits - an obvious Beck-like strategy.

Not much exercise - Ouch. It was a day of threatening to rain even though little actually fell.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Congrats on losing the impact of Ireland. Street Fair food so seduces me with the nibble here and nibble there aspect. Good luck.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yay for morning food that doesn't fit the 'breakfast food' mold - sounds like a nice event. [Love the thought of the smell of a field of sage brush.]

maryann - Major Kudos for accepting yourself. Maybe you're overreacting, maybe not - but it's you and the world is lucky to have you. Life isn't like a video game where we get to replay what would have happened if we hadn't taken evasive measures. And those who didn't will always roll their eyes.

Elizabeth (Elizabeth779) - Yep, "Food is only food" - but the trick is to get it to know that, LOL. Such an interesting observation, "I FEEL more when I'm not emotionally eating." [Nope, no Green Heron pictures - some folks can mix birding with photographing, but I'm not one of them.]

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan

Before You Move On

Remain in Stage 3 until you've made that shift:

From Automatically Thinking This: to Thinking This:
. . .
I messed up. I might as well give up and eat whatever I want. to I made a mistake. It won't even show up on the sale if I get back on track now.
I wish I could have eaten more. to I'm so glad I followed my plan.
What if I get hungry? to Hunger isn't a big deal. I'll eat again in a few hours or tomorrow morning.
. . .

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 166.

07-30-2012, 09:01 AM
Good morning,
Life has been great. I have been listening to relaxation tapes and I can not believe how much easier it is to stay on plan and exercise when you are relaxed...who I know I am a slow learner.

Bill - We have a heron. It is so beautiful to just sit and watch. How elegant it is. Reading your posts each day, makes me want to live vicariously through you. That is a compliment, in case you were

Joy – Yay for being back at pre Ireland trip weight. Congratulations.

Debbie – You mention the sage bush it reminds me to stop and smell the roses, even when it is not a rose. Sage bush, a rose in disguise. Your breakfast sounded lovely.

Maryann - Thank you for being you. You do make a difference in this world. Your description at the beach reminded me of an article in our paper that allowed a ten year old to be recognized as a hero. This family was visiting our local beach, (that has no lifeguard) they were allowing their children who were very young to play in the water far away from them. The children could not swim and one of them almost drowned. If it had not been for a ten year old boy who noticed this and was a very strong swimmer who rescued this child, there would have been a very different article in the paper. As a parent who gets to witness many other parents who think the universe will protect their children in these situations, thank you again.

Elizabeth - Congratulations and great job being on plan.
I love reading stories where the boy gets the girl...I am a hopeless romantic.

Hello to everyone.

Have a great day.

07-30-2012, 11:00 AM
The Chinese street food looked good on the menu -- noodle salad with numerous vegetables listed. Turned out to be more noodle than vegetable, however. And, apparently, salty. Oh well. The giant lanterns were very cool and we had good company.

WI: +1.0kgs, Exercise: +50 1295/1400 minutes for July, Food: 90%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

07-30-2012, 12:15 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.

Credit: food is written down for the day.
Exercise will be keeping up with two ten year olds at an amusement park.

NewLifestyle: What a great idea to start relaxation tapes. I am going to look into it when I get back.
BBE: There is such power in being able to stand back and watch how other people are really poisoning their bodies with the white sugar and white flour in cookies, etc. . . . I have so much compassion because often in the past, that person has been me.
gardenerjoy: It is amazing to understand what other people think is a portion of veggies. it is like calling fried zucchini a veggie serving. Glad the Chinese experience was fun.

07-30-2012, 01:50 PM
Monday, Monday....
Plan for this week is to not drop-off radar over the weekend. I plan to start planning for the weekend by wed. I am also thinking that my 'planned" diet might need tweaking. I am trying to do South Beach 1.5 which is my own hybrid liveable stage between phase 1 and phase 2. I am thinking I might be more of a weight watchers dieter where I can factor in all foods in moderation. Oh Monday and the second guessing....

*ordering Beck green book and cd's
*getting back on track
*posting here
*reading past posts and picking up tips
*sticking w breakfast plan
*getting dressed for exercise and hopefully exercising

Have a great day!

07-30-2012, 02:25 PM
Hi Coaches

*credit for getting on the scale to see: 251.8 Great. That 251 is sticking. Awesome.

*credit for week#2's 4 more days wheat-free.

*credit for reclaiming my kitchen workspace. Stovetop, counter, sinks are al clean. I do have a pile of dishes on the floor at the foot of the sink but that's after doing a sinkful now and again all weeklong. The usable space has me using it. I am cooking a Hungarian gulyas right now. We went to the European deli the other day and I bought a favorite shortcut (Gulyas Creme; here's exactly what I am using on ebay of all places: to get that taste of my grandmother's cooking I really desire every once in a while. I think I got it in my head to make this because I harvested my first hot pepper from the garden; an Alma Hungarian hot pepper! means apple in Hungarian and this pepper is small, round-ish, and yellow, like a small flattened yellow apple. I tasted it and it really is a mild hot pepper. (Last night we had some Black Valentine green beans from the garden! DH loved them, which is good cause I am so-so about the green bean. I really grew them for him.) So.That's my meal for lunch today and I'll have some light dinner tonight. *credit for cooking from scratch. Wow the house smells good.

Ok going now. Lots to do after lunch. I have to make major progress on my paintings once more. It's never-ending pressure right now. Oh well. *credit for just-not-eating-over-it!!:carrot:

UPDATE: attached jpg of completed painting#1 tentatively called Ripple Effect ... but I almost want to call it Storyteller or something like that. He looks like a grandfather passing down an intense story... would like a title that says that better I think. ideas? thoughts? suggestions??
painting #2 is about 30% done. It needs to be done tomorrow to make way for the toughest one #3 and the last one.

*credit* I made tough choice tonight and after adding up my daily points I *could* have had the snacky thing, in fact I made myelf a snacky thing and then ... didn't have it. It would have cost me too many extra points and I'd really rather see that scale slip below 250. It was a tough tough choice but I know I did the right thing by "closing the kitchen for the night". I feel good about exercising that resistance muscle as I head off to bed. Talk to yous tomorrow.

07-31-2012, 12:19 AM
Hi All,

Very quick check in tonight, busy with DS and Dexter, DH has gone to Charlotte NC for a 6 hour course tomorrow. He'll spend twice as much time on airplanes as he will in the classroom.

Weighed this morning and it's up, expected after my weekend of food. But I'm giving myself credit for only having 3 servings of bread in the month of July. It really does lead me to wanting endless amounts more. Started tracking food again today, last time I did was July 07 and I didn't even finish the entry for that day.

Restarting the BDS book on Aug 01 and am finding all my note books, cards and sticky notes so I'm ready. Off to get the dog and kid ready for bed so I can head there too. This getting up 2 or 3 times a night with Dexter is taxing on me. I can understand now why it's biologically harder to have a baby at 50! No stamina for it.

Have a good night all!

07-31-2012, 02:15 AM
Hi coaches -- another day OP (credit) and did lots of errands in places that had food and said "NO!" to my sabotaging thoughts every time. I am so sensitive to food triggers -- and Holy Moly they are EVERYwhere. Also, I planned ahead and made food for work week and split it up into containers for the next four days working -- will be working 16 hours on Friday for every Friday in August....oy going to need to be very organized to have my food with me.

And at lunch and dinner I left something on my plate. Did the exercise today in BDS about rating discomfort and hunger. I found out that hunger isn't as alarming or as uncomfortable as I thought. :carrot:

Tazzy -- I had a weight "bump up" today also. But it will go back down, we just have to wait to see it.:)

Onebyone -- good for you for not doing the "snacky" thang....I face that also.

Maryann -- you are SO focused with your food -- YAYYY!!

Soonfit -- good for you for getting back on track and continuing to post. I posted in here for WEEKS as I was trying to figure out how to get it together. And the diet -- that does take some "massaging" and "tweaking" to get it right. That green book will help you focus in on how JB recommends can apply that to South Beach 1.5 if you wish.

Gardnerjoy -- chinese food? yum.....I'll have to incorporate a chinese meal some time this next week. You're right though, it's a lot of salt.

Newlifestyle -- I'm happy for you about the relaxation tapes....the more I listen to them, the more help it is for me to stay OP. I relax so much at times I think I'm a wet day I put on the relaxation tape at work through my earphones, and I literally relaxed so much and so fast I sort of slumped forward.

Bill -- I love photography even thought I'm an amateur, but I love to take photos of birds....but you are right, if you're fooling with a camera and lenses, etc., you're not enjoying the moment with the birds (and that's what it's all about).

Maryann -- I can be an over-reactor's sort of an "ohhhhhhhhhh wellllllll" thing.....Anddddd we like you just the way you are :)

Night all. Beck Team Hug. :hug::hug:

07-31-2012, 04:05 AM
Just a quick check-in because I want to get a food plan done for tomorrow. My weekend was plan- and portion- inspired, although nothing was recorded. I did, CREDIT, measure the meals I made at home and worked on stopping eating when full. I also am finding it much easier to resist sneak- / standing-eating in the kitchen. Good good feeling.

Thought a lot about how challenging it is to maintain one's "unique" eating habits when one's support network tends to function more spontaneously and/or emotionally. (Thanks BBE and all for insights here, and big admiration to MaryAnn for persisting.) Mainly, for me, making this work demands 1) clear communication and 2) taking nothing personally. Also good good understanding, if the reality is always more challenging.

* 40 min. elliptical and 15-20 min stretching (yesterday)
* continuing to resist late-night eating
* weighing in
* checking in here
* continuing to work on a gym and home workout schedule that . . . works

Hugs and supportive energy to all!

07-31-2012, 05:35 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Even the unplanned is unplanned. When gardener DW finally admitted that it was too dark to work outside and that she was, by then, too exhausted to cook dinner, I was elected to go forth and forage from a local deli. With a rotisserie chicken came a FREE 2-liter Pepsi. Now I salivate for FREE, despite being truly hungry and smelling hot chicken. But I actually thought about what it would mean to come home with a bottle of sugar water that I wouldn't otherwise drink - just to honor my lust for FREE. So I paid for the chicken and left the Pepsi on the shelf, CREDIT moi. Just me and some deli salads (4 bean salad and broccoli crisp salad - both yummy) walked (CREDIT moi) home to finish dinner by 9 pm.

Gym (CREDIT moi) was uneventful. We're a ragtag lot compared to the Olympic athletes filling the news. Only one or two in the whole gym, trainers included, have that all-muscle-no-fat look of the swimmers. But I was inspired by the US swimmer whose outer swim cap came off yet she kept going to win without losing a stroke. Inspiring bunch all of them.

onebyone – I'm psyched that you successfully grew the Alma Hungarian hot pepper - Kudos for planning, overcoming hurdles, and following through with that. Particularly since you started with an un-tilled plot that offered a good excuse to just quit. I see Painting #1 as telling the story, And then God created turtles.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – LOL at "more noodle than vegetable" - describes many situations.

Mary (MaryContrary) – Oh Yes, Kudos for resisting "sneak- / standing-eating." It is difficult to maintain one's unique eating plan when it seems our whole world is peopled with spontaneous eaters.

maryann - Hope there's some maryann left after keeping up with two ten year olds at an amusement park all day. That's a lotta hyper-energy.

Tazzy - Ouch for the toll servicing Dexter through the night. Kudos for sticking with your low bread July.

Ann (Newlifestyle) - Yay for discovering that relaxation is your key to staying the path. [Thanks for the compliment.]

Elizabeth (Elizabeth779) - So vividly put, "and Holy Moly they are EVERYwhere" - Kudos for "NO!" to them every time. And Kudos for leaving something on your plate.

soonfit - Kudos for taking seriously that your diet has to fit - Ouch for the feeling of "second guessing" that comes with that. And Special Kudos for "*getting back on track" - the most important Beck Strategy of them all.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan

Before You Move On

Remain in Stage 3 until you've made that shift:

From Automatically Thinking This: to Thinking This:
. . .
It's rude to turn down food. to It's important for me to stick up for myself.
I should be able to treat myself in special situations. to I can eat what I want as long as I plan in advance to use my Bonus Calories for it.
When I'm stressed I need to eat. to I can deal with stressful situations without turning to food. And I'm always so glad when I do.

Once you've made these important thinking shifts, you are ready for Stage 4: The Think Thin Lifetime Eating Plan.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 166.

07-31-2012, 09:31 AM
Hi Coaches!

I'm still amongst you...just to the point of "very basic" right now, as I inch ahead with my project and make it to work every day. I had a very isolated food incident :lol: at work yesterday involving some kiddie cereal. I snarfed about a cups' worth then stopped. credit for a moment of food sanity when needed. I just finished my morning smoothie and am contemplating a little spontaneous exercise....dragging some old carpet up the big flight of stairs to the dumpster.

I look forward to rejoining the human race sometime soon.

07-31-2012, 11:43 AM
Hello Coaches:
I need some tweaking in my posting- Does that sound funny? I see a problem I need to solve- timing. By the time I sit and read the posts and respond, I have used up my planned exercise time. Not good! I think I will try to post in the evening and this way I can credit my exercise and food plan. Just some random thoughts I am having as I look at the clock.
I don't think there is any tweaking of the activity of posting and responding, because I pick up so many useful tips from everyone.

Tazzy: You reminded me about the notebook. Uh-Duh! When I bought the Beck pink book I also bought a notebook, which I have yet to use. I have been jotting on the index cards and they are all over my desk. I am, as of today jotting in my notebook, which is pretty and I think that is important. I still like paper in my life and can't seem to make the transition to paperless.

Elizabeth: Which relaxtion tapes do you like. I could use some relaxing... and yes I can't wait to get the green beck book.

Newlifestyle: Would you mind sharing your favorite relaxtion tapes also....

MaryAnn: I am over reactor also- Better to over react than under react.

MaryContrary: Thanks for the supportive energy

BBE: Those deli salads sound yummy! I have a thrifty gene also, and love free and on sale. What an early riser you are... That is another area I am trying to work on.

When evaluating why I overate yesterday, it was because I was so tired and I kept thinking - oh if I just have this snack I will have some energy to get through the day. Well guess what- I overate and never lost that lethargic, yucky feeling. Not sure what to do on days like that.

*taking a walk last night after never fitting in planned exercise
*writing in my notebook
*having planned breakfast
*getting up and getting dressed for exercise
*getting a better night sleep

07-31-2012, 12:35 PM

Finally feeling a bit more emotionally level today. I was very down, due to "lady troubles" the past few days. Ugh. But also, yay that it was a temporary, physical thing, and not a permanent state. Used to be a permanent state that black cloud...:rain:, so glad my life doesn't feel that way today inspite of my day to day grumbles.

BUT Becksters! I saw something on the scale this morning that has me :woohoo: woohooing... 250.7.


Two more sleeps until my next "official" weigh-in. Just want to keep it going and I hope to be a tad under that 250 mark so I am actually in the 240's..... this week or next week... whatever. I'm in my next weightloss phase. May she last for 30lbs+!

DH scheduled us for the super-deluxe executive health medical screening appointment for Thursday. This is a new perk his company got. It takes 5 hours(!) but we get the results before we leave. I am SUPER NERVOUS about all these tests. I can't imagine they WON'T find something with all this poking and prodding... begs the question whether I *really* want to know if something is wrong and do I actually tell them the truth about some of my weirder symptoms that I just know will be seen as red flags... prompting even more poking and prodding (I know catastrophe thinking here... I'm not a dr. and I need to remember to be a good patient...)
I guess so.

What we are doing is this-from their brochure:
•one hr with a physician

12-15 screening and diagnostic tests onsite in one visit:

•12-Lead Electrocardiogram Stress Test
• Abdominal Ultrasound
• Advanced Cholesterol Test
• Ankle Brachial Index
• Audiometric Testing
• Bone Mineral Density Screening
• Chest X-ray
• Female Reproductive Evaluation
• Fitness Appraisal
• Immunization & Flu Shots
• Lab Tests
• Mammogram and Breast Ultrasound
• Nutritional Evaluation
• Prostate-Specific Antigen Test
• Visual Acuity & Pressure Tonometry
• Respiratory Function

• Physician Consultation & Review of Results

On top of this, I called Revenue Canada to get what I need to get caught up with my taxes. I called the dentist to arrange payment for a bill I've been dodging. And I made the appt for DH with our family dr. concerning the results from our bloodtests done a month ago when we went for our physicals. Something is up with DH and I am expecting it to re-appear with the battery of tests we are doing on Thursday. He'll have the results from Thursday to bring our family dr. next week so, it's all good.

All these chores I have been fretting about for months done in one fell swoop. Can't help but feel good about that. It's just time to move forward in a big way Coaches. Thanks for the support every day...! :grouphug:

Ok I need to get to work. Bye!

Nature Girl
07-31-2012, 01:04 PM
OK I've been AWOL here for a few days and for better or worse I need to report and be accountable. I thought Iwas just taking a 24 vacation from paying such damn close attention to everything I ate and how I moved, but it of course turned into a long weekend. :( I don't want to know what the scale says today on my weigh in day. I will get back on track; I had an OP breakfast and if the wind ever slows down I will do long exhausting bike ride later both for cardio and to relieve stress of interview I have in 90 minutes. Eek! This is the job I really want but can't afford to take because of the low low pay. I've applied for 24 jobs in 13 districts, heard only 6 nos, and this is my second interview. That is a set of numbers I'm sure many of us would eat over. My friends counsel patience, but.....easy for them to say when they all have long term jobs paying 3x what this one will!
Enough about that - the point for this forum is that I am back on track and back accountable to all of you on a daily basis. Onward!!!

07-31-2012, 03:15 PM
I apparently need to watch the serving size on our greens dish. If DH doesn't eat his share, I eat what ever is left, no matter how much. I know it was too much because I didn't wake up hungry. One of my Advantages is: I want to wake up each day hungry and energetic. So, I notice when that doesn't happen. Credit for noticing and for thinking about how to prevent the problem from happening again.

WI: +0.55kgs, Exercise: +60 1355/1400 minutes for July, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Elizabeth779: Credit for doing the work to come to this realization: hunger isn't as alarming or as uncomfortable as I thought. That was a huge and quite surprising revelation to me.

soonfit: I switch up when I post here every few weeks or months depending on what works at the moment. Daily is important for me, but the most effective time of day seems to change (maybe with the seasons?). And, even then, things happen. I think of myself as a morning poster at the moment, but it's 1:11pm so I didn't manage it today! I also go back and forth on how many personals I do -- all, none, or something in between. So, feel free to experiment!

Hugs for Nature_Girl and everyone. I am so grateful for each of you here.

07-31-2012, 09:56 PM
Hello all,
I just got home so a quick post. Eating was OP, I still have more calories to eat but I am too tired. I guess because it is my bedtime this is good,
We had storms tonight, the rain is welcome. Maybe we will have green grass sometime this summer.
I will try to do personals in the morning.
Have a wonderful sleep everyone.
Talk to you soon.

07-31-2012, 10:40 PM
I just stumbled onto this very interesting. I'd always just assumed that "Beck" was a diet. I have a plan, but the cognitive boost might be just what I need to get me to and to keep me at my goal.

My status is I've succeeded at 3 days' Atkins Induction and have all my food and my plan ready for tomorrow. Now I'm going to find and begin to read at least one of the Beck books by lunchtime tomorrow.

I'll be back.


08-01-2012, 01:15 AM
Good Evening, Coaches.

Lots of good posting. I think I will do personals tomorrow. DS and I need to go to bed (triumphantly, I may say, having conquered Legoland for two days.)

The miracle is I remain OP with a VERY strict diet of only fruit and veggies, nuts and 1 cup oatmeal.
Lunch was tough - no food in the amusement park worked except a nice cut up pineapple and I supplemented with a few extra ounces of nuts. I found a caesar for dinner and added a couple servings of avocado. Still not hungry which I would never have believed. I goes Dr Furhmann knows his stuff.

The family pain seems farther way today. I treated myself to a St. John's outlet shopping spree while SIL took the boys to dinner. They have well made, incredibly expensive clothes. I bought three work shirts - becoming, colorful.

1 pound below ticker.

Good Night to all.

08-01-2012, 08:00 AM
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