Well that is how it is for me now. I'm not worried about a goal, just getting through the day. And today wasn't a good one. I am on a low carb plan and ate a bagel, one slice of pizza, and some cookies. But I did get in an abb workout and lots of water :D. So it wasn't a total waist!
The abb workout is only 10 min long and I'm going to try to do it at least twice a day. We'll see how that works!
03-27-2003, 11:23 PM
day by day - good idea! Those days will add up to a week.. then the weeks into months... and before we know it we have developed good eating habits.
Moving over to calories has been really good for me - it's probably just because it's something new, a new obsession. I hope it lasts! I've been at the YMCA for over a month now - I am most impressed with that! I love to go. Not noticing really any difference yet - but all this sweat can't be for nothing. It will work!
I am now keeping a pretty regular excerise journal online here, with 3FC. I can really see that I am improving. So Bella.. you are right, day by day. :)
03-28-2003, 01:36 AM
So true, one day at a time is a good way to see things. I've been a bit slack with my eating this last week and it shows - no weight loss. I need to just take things one day at a time and focus on what I can do now and how I can exercise more and eat better. I've been struggling with my water as well, it always seems that the days I get that in I overeat, what is with that? It's suppossed to fill you up not make you hungryier. Oh well I just keep trying, it is only by keep on keeping on that we get better and succeed. No one ever said weight loss was easy!
Dana that is so great that you have now really gotten used to exercising. I hate to miss mine now yet for so long I never did a thing! Exercise can really become one of the bonus's of losing weight instead of a chore.
I do hope everyone is well and keep on at it, we are getting there bit by bit :)
03-28-2003, 01:05 PM
one day at a time.
one of the best things to come out of all of those "anonomous" groups. i try to follow it, but i get swept up in the future a lot. it's just a good mantra to keep in mind.
03-28-2003, 01:14 PM
Bella, you are so right. I do set the goals, and strive to reach them, but realize that I must meet my daily goals to get there.
I too, recently switched to calories, and it has been a good thing for me. I realized that I can eat whatever I want, as long as I don't go over in calories for the day. There are foods that I had been keeping myself from, but craved, until I finally splurged. I am now going through some stress eating (I take the state boards next week, and with it costing $380, I can't afford to not pass the first time). But if I eat the big wonderful meals, and don't snack in between, I am just fine. The other good thing about this test is that I tend to procrastinate and now I'm cleaning the house more, walking more, riding my bike more (pretty much anything to avoid sitting down to study). I really need to look at this as one day at a time.
Bella, are things getting any better for you? I know that you were having a tough time. Are the girls enjoying thier spring?
03-28-2003, 06:47 PM
Well, lots of things have been happening in my life.
My terrible, icky job just sank their claws into me. They gave me a promotion. AHhhhHHHHHhhh!
The good thing is that I managed to work out that I'd go down to 30 hours a week. So, that leaves a smidge more time for my school work. The bummer is that they're not going to do anything until July 1. So, until then, I can dream about leaving. :)
The scale has been kind to me lately and I've been doing very well with my plan. I've decided to try BFL starting April 1 (I have to finish reading the book). So, we'll see how that goes.
I have been to the gym almost every night! Holy crap! My boyfriend made the statement that I live there now but I really don't feel that way, just go in, do what I need and get out. Like brushing my teeth, except more frequent :lol:
03-28-2003, 10:24 PM
Is it just me or I'm I the only one that wants to see pics of goddess jessica's "cute boyfriend"?
Congrats / my sympathy on your promotion ;)
03-29-2003, 01:18 AM
I agree, I would like to see!!
Speeking of the other side, I was showing someone (a mother of my daughters friend) a pic of the family. She said my husband was HOT, I agreed and was VERY proud!!
I know kinda off the subject, but I was kinda proud. I also stayed on plan all day today, and looked for another house. I found something I liked and am going on tuesday to see if I can get a loan. I am kinda happy.
That made up for the stressfull part of my day. With my hubby leaving in less then 2 weeks (we think) I think it's starting to hit me. I have been a bundle of nerves all day. Felt like crying most of it. I just want it to be over. But I'm hoping that when he gets over there and is able to let me know he is allright, I'll be much better!
Ok, that's all I'm going to talk about myself today, lol.
Goddess, congrats on your promotion, lol
Denise, Things are getting stressfull for me. But the girls are loving the warm weather. And so am I!!! Thanks for asking! Good luck on your test.
Dana, good luck with your new plan and trips to the YMCA. I am hoping to start curves soon. I hope that will help!
And for the rest of you, HI and Keep up the good work!
03-30-2003, 07:33 PM
I'm not doing so well. I've been eating way too many sweets, have been snacking, eating more, and eating out too. I'm not adjusting yet to new circumstances. There's a family matter that's been very stressful the last few weeks, bringing up other family issues, and making the awful situation with my sister worse. I'm just not back to normal yet. I need to get back to normal. I've also been eating out more which is a happy thing because it's social and I have enjoyed the company, but I haven't gotten used to eating healthy while eating out. I know how. I just haven't been doing it. I feel angry right now. I feel angry at my sister for continuing to hate me, and for showing it, and I feel angry that my family ignores the whole situation. I've just come from the dinner table in tears. The family just ignores. It's just Jeanne. Jeanne cries sometimes. No. Actually, Jeanne gets angry sometimes. I'm a little angry at myself too for fleeing from the table and not confronting my sister and my family, but on the other hand, while they are having their dinner, that might not be the kind thing to do. Perhaps another time would be better. I just get so sick and tired of being hated and ignored. I've dealt with some of my compulsive eating issues -- eating instead of feeling an emotion or eating as a reaction to emotions. I still do a little of it - just not on the scale as before. But now, I have to feel the emotions I used to cover up by eating, and deal with the causes. I can't do that yet, but I know I have to learn. Darn it.
I have started. I've had a frank talk with my parents last week, which has been somewhat helpful. At least my mother understood why I left the table. My dad I think was just glad I left. But I haven't confronted my sister yet. She may never change. This may be a permanent situation, and something I may have to learn to deal with. The question is how. I can't spent time with the family hated and ignored for the rest of my life. I need to set up some boundaries.
03-31-2003, 02:55 AM
I shook my groove thang @ a wedding last night for about 4 hours straight, does that could as my exercise point for the next 2 weeks? :lol:
03-31-2003, 10:30 AM
lol, That is what I do for exercise for most nights! I love to dance and it is usually for about 1-2 hour streaches. My kids love it as well!
Good job! I bet your feeling it today.
Well my weekend was pretty much shot as far as food. But I didn't eat that much, just the wrong stuff! Most of it was because I haven't been feeling good. When my stomach is sick, I don't feel like eating anything with protein in it.
We'll see, my daughter has a doc appt because of her ear and I'm going to weigh myself there. We'll see if my scales match the docs scales. I'm kinda worried!
03-31-2003, 11:58 AM
Alright, I hate to be a downer, but I just found out some horrible news about a good friend of ours. About a year ago, she had a bad pregnancy, the child had no liver, or kidney, and they were forced to terminate the pregnancy at 18 weeks. She took it very hard, but they thought that since they weren't trying and she really wasn't watching what she ate/drank (she didn't know that she was pregnant until 14 weeks) that could have been the underlying problem. She's been trying to get pregnant since. They finally got pregnant (she's 16 weeks) and they were estatic. There were some early problems, and she spent some time in the hospital, but everything seemed to be going ok. Then last night, while out of town visiting family, she suffered a ruptured ectopic pregnancy resulting in internal bleeding. It look right now as if she will be ok, but there is a lot of blood around her liver and she is somewhat touch and go. So, please pray for my friend and her family. They need it right now.
03-31-2003, 01:12 PM
Sorry to hear about your friend, Denise. How awful. he will be in my thoughts & prayers.
03-31-2003, 07:04 PM
I wonder what the Cute Boyfriend would think if he knew I posted him here. Hmmmm... I think he'd dig it.
Here's him in all his cuteness, while we were hiking a couple months ago.
03-31-2003, 08:48 PM
Denise, my thoughts will be with you and your friend.
Goddess, arn't we a proud girlfriend. Love is great isn't it!
Today was not so great. I had to take my daughter to the doctors for a real bad ear infection. It almost ruptured. Poor baby, now she is full of drugs and felling better.
I weighed in at the doc and he gave me a higher weight then my scales give me. My scales say 273 and the docs say 275. That sucks. But I will be going by my scales to chart the loss. Because a loss is a loss no matter what scale it's on.
Well I will talk with ya all tomorrow.
03-31-2003, 09:28 PM
Bella - hope your little one feels better real soon! :( those ear infections can be pretty painful!
Denise - my heart goes out to your friend!
Goddess - aren't you the lucky girl with the cute boyfriend.
Jeanne - hope things turn around for you soon.
Me.. I'm just getting ready for my big scrapping weekend. By the way I was acting you'd think I was going on a cruise or something :lol: First night away from the family - ever! Should I be this excited? LOL
Counting calories has been great for a pleasant change! I just hope this keeps up! I don't plan to be on plan this weekend. :cbg: :moo: I've already bought my M&M's :m: :m: lots of them :m: - they are a staple while scrapping!
I do plan to exercise :strong: they have a great gym at the resort and I have some workout buddies that I will be with.
03-31-2003, 09:46 PM
Well hello everyone:
Another grand day OP. I love OP days. I feel really good.
I walked for 2miles over the course of the day.
had a great NSV--- Guy at the doctor office noticed I lost weight and said I looked great. So what would he say after I lose the 90 plus to go.....????? Guess DS will have to go to the doctor after I lose it all and we will find out. :)
04-01-2003, 03:14 AM
Jeanne - Do you live with you parents/ sister? Have you ever thought of moving out? If it's always making you miserable prehaps you should get some space between yourself and them and see them less? If not you really need to sit down and have things out, It's awful to see this upsetting you again and again, with you health problems you have enough on your plate.
Denise - That's awful :( I do hope she is O.k, sometimes ppl just can't have healthy babies no matter what. I hope they can find out wether it's bad luck or something more sinister. Poor lady
Dana - When you said a big scrapping weekend I thought oh no your going to be fighting alot! Then I remembered :D At a resort??!! Wow sounds fancy and alot of fun, have a great time and enjoy yourself
Goddess Jessica - Yes he is cute! And young!
Belle - Don't worry about a 2lb difference, really that's nothing and is often the difference between weighing first thing and the middle of the day. I've had to stop myself weighing during the day because of the gains I see, as long as you get those numbers going down that's all that counts
Bluvsu2 - Congrats! Isn't it great to have all that hard work noticed? More you lose the more comments you get - Enjoy!
As for me I went out for dinner on Saturday so didn't worry about points then just enjoyed myself and ate sensibly. I've started eating alot more fish with my main meal and I think that's helping. I noticed ages ago when I had a fillet of fish and vege's I always seemed to be extra light the next day. It's got about half the cals of red meat and that's gotta help!
04-01-2003, 01:20 PM
Ah, but I am stuck at the moment. I can do what I'm doing, and should be grateful for a place to stay for now. With my back and arm problems - which should be temporary, I don't see how I can practically make such a drastic change as it would require a change of career as well. I need to wait it out till I'm in decent shape physically if it doesn't destroy me first. I so wish we were a loving family, able to talk and be close to one another. I desire this, but it isn't the reality, is it? In all fairness to the family, they are under a great deal of stress right now - which is why things are worse. My youngest brother is bipolar and has up till two weeks ago refused to see a doctor. It's been destroying his life and it's been hard to stand by and see it happen. As of two weeks ago, he had a crises, has been involuntarily hospitalized, and is finally being treated, which is a blessing, but naturally, it's been a difficult time here.
But, yes, something must give in this situation. Possibly it's been helpful in my weight struggle as I feel my weight is the ONLY thing in my life I can control. I made the big 100 this week. Yes, it's the only thing I can control it seems.
04-01-2003, 03:28 PM
Big hugs to you Jeanne! My heart goes out to you and your brother. I dated a man once who was bipolar. Yikes - The good time were so good- he was like a drug... but those bad times were the worst. The relationship lasted almost 2 years with a terrible ending. It is such a hard disease - and hard to understand. I will be thinking of you.
04-01-2003, 07:47 PM
Jeanne, remember bipolar can be treated and lived with. My mother, sister, 2 aunts, 4 cousins, and myself have all been diagnosed with bipolar disorder. Most of us are handling the disease just fine. I have come to the realization that I will take medication every day for the rest of my life. I know that in order to be a good mother, I must. Don't get me wrong, there are still days when I'm feeling more down than others, but then again, who doesn't have those days. Bipolar is a difficult disease to admit to having, our society looks down on mental disorders. I pray that your brother will be able to understand that this is not a curable disease, but a treatable one, and one that does not go away over time. I hope that everything works out during this difficult time for your family.
Dana, I am so jealous of you. I hope that you have a great time. Just one little reminder that a wise woman once told me, "just because you eat 1 pound of m&m's, doesn't mean you'll only gain 1 pound."
04-02-2003, 01:22 PM
A good reminder Denise. I've been hearing that from several people. This disorder is more common than I thought it was, and it's good to know it can be treated. It gives me hope for my brother. Thanks! So glad things are working out for you too with the meds! Thank God there is help.
04-02-2003, 06:19 PM
Wow, I didn't realize we could start a club for women who dated bipolar men. My ex was sooooo bipolar. One minute swearing up and down that he was going to get help, the next, locking himself in the den and refusing to go. ACK! Worst still, he was my first live-in boyfriend so I thought ALL relationships were suppose to be like that. Sigh.
04-02-2003, 06:48 PM
Unfortunately, I qualify to be in this club as well! My guy was diagnosed, but unmedicated (his choice) so it was quite a roller-coaster ride.
04-02-2003, 09:36 PM
for those that dated bipolar men... wasn't the sex amazing!? holy cow!
I hate to admit it.. but I think that's why I stayed so long :lol:
04-02-2003, 09:47 PM
Well, I have never dated a bipolar man, but my husbands best friend is bipolar and is currently in jail. What a trip he is!!
Well my daughter is doing great, but I'm not. I got strep and was VERY sick yesterday. I weighed in today and (late due to daughter and me being sick) but I lost and I am SO happy about it. But being that I haven't eaten for the last 2 days, it isn't a shock.
I am in the process of buying a house, just put in the application for a pre approval. I'm nervous. My credit isn't great and I'm just worried. I will know some time tomorrow.
Well that is all for me. I'll chat again tomorrow, hope all of you have a great evening!
04-03-2003, 03:18 PM
Dana- The sex was INCREDIBLE.... when it was there. But those MONTHS when there wasn't any sex at all... ack!
Bella, good luck buying a house!!!! That is so my dream (in about 10 years!). Let us know all the details. Have you found a house yet or are you just going to be pre-approved first? Burn a gold candle and think postive thoughts!
04-03-2003, 03:47 PM
Bella, good luck with the house! I am so excited for you. I hope that the car thing works out as well.
I am thinking about getting my hair cut. I've been growing it for so long, and always planned on donating it to locks of love, but I'm just not too sure if I am ready to have chin-lenght hair again. I have an appointment for tonight to have it colored (I've got to was that grey right out of my hair). We'll see what kind of mood I'm in when I get there.
Hope everyone is doing well today!
04-03-2003, 06:50 PM
My day has been soooo poopy!
First, I spend 2 hours at the dentist. That's enough to put anyone in a bad mood.
Then, I have this huge project at work that requires a lot of attention and my boss (who is not involved in this particular project) keeps bugging me with questions that I have to answer 3 times:
"Where is it?"
"It's in your box."
"The box on your desk."
"I can't find it, where???"
"Here...in the box, on your desk."
So, I got a big chunk of the project completed and my eyes are hurting so, I decide to take a little munchie break and have my EAS AdvantEdge Peanut Butter & Caramel Bar (It's sooooo yummy) and she comes in a freaks out in the middle of my delicious bar so it totally ruins my break and makes the bar taste like dirt.
Did I mention how much this job is killing me.... one paper cut at a time?
ARGH!!! I hope I can make it to the gym tonight and work off some of this frustration.
04-04-2003, 12:15 AM
Goddess, I will burn that candle! I do have the home picked out. It will replace the moble home I currently have. But it is SO pretty!!!
Well I'm feeling better, my daughter is feeling better, and I got a great refund on my student loans so I am no longer in need of money. The only bad thing that happened is that my truck broke down and I had to get it towed. That sucked, but o'well. I did break my WOE by eating apple pie and ice cream. But after the stress of my truck breaking down I needed it. (I do feel crummy now!)
Denise, If you plan to donate your locks, you can't have them colored. (at least that is what they told me.) But I did just get all my hair cut off. I need to change my avitar (sp?) My hair is now above my ears. It's real short!! I love it.
Well I think I have posted enough for tonight.
04-04-2003, 12:24 PM
Bella, as long as it is not chemically treated it can be colored. At least that is what my salon said. I didn't cut it all off, I chickened out. I did get a demi-perm color and the grey is all gone, it'll fade out in about 8 weeks, so if I decide to cut it then, I can still donate it. The stylist blowed my hair straight and the curls are all gone!!! I can't believe it, I've never been able to do that myself. So, I'm not washing my hair until Sunday morning (I want the neat straight hair when my dh and I go out to either 1. celebrate my test being over or 2. forget about my troubles in taking it again.
Jessica, sometimes our bosses are like our children, we must hold hands to get them to understand even the simplest things! Just think of how valuable you must be to her, she'd be lost without you. I hope that your day is going better.
04-04-2003, 02:27 PM
Bella-change your avatar I want to see it!
Denise - I love demi-colors. I dye my hair ALL the time, I think it's fun! Let's see some pic when you get a chance!!
04-04-2003, 06:06 PM
It's FRIDAY!!!! :D :D :D
not much to report here. Seem to be somewhat back on track. Not going crazy at least. I had more sugar than I needed today and I'll be a little suprised if I make it within my calorie range today - but life is good. I kinda taking Bella's approach about one day at a time.
This weekend is my BIL bridal shower and Steve works, but other than that, not much going on. We are having a guy come out today and give us an estimate on some fence work. Hopefully it won't be too much. Hubby isn't the most handy person in the world.
jessicca/denise - what's a demi-color??
Denise - you should go for the hair cut - it always seems to give me new life!! How is your friend doing??
Jessicca - sorry your boss was being such a...boss!! BTW - Cute boyfriend!! :D
Bella - so glad that you are feeling better. I just hate being sick. Good luck with the house!!! The whole loan process can be such a pain in the behind!!
Jeane - I actually have never been involved with anyone who was bi-polar - the most I know is from TV (mainly ER). I'm so sorry you are going through such a rough time with your brother.
Dana - Hope you have a ball - be sure to tell us all about it!! Hope you took some PB M&M's with you!! :D
Kitty - Did you get a little more on track near this week?
Have a GREAT weekend everyone!!! :goodvibes
04-04-2003, 06:31 PM
Sandi, it sounds like you will have a nice relaxing weeking. Have fun at the shower! A demi-color doesn't actually dye your hair, but coats it with color. So, my grey hair is no longer grey, but now kind of red, while the rest of my hair is a dark red (because it coated dark brown instead of grey) so it looks highlighted, without having to have a weave.
Thanks for asking about my friend. She is doing better. She did lose the baby, and is still struggling with internal bleeding. They have her legs wrapped in some sort of bags that inflate in order to keep the circulation moving. They are planning on trying to release her in the next couple of days, but she won't be coming back to AZ for a few more weeks.
Well, hope everyone's weekend is great!
04-05-2003, 03:14 AM
This week was the most awful, horrible, terrible week I've ever had at school. I have begun to seriously question my choice of career and, at one point, had all but driven myself to the psych ward. (I say this in all seriousness.)
I haven't thought about dieting for a week. I went with hubby yesterday to look at the gym down the street, and it's WONDERFUL! He gets a really great corporate family discount, so we're going to join. At least that's exciting.