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05-02-2012, 11:10 PM
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Tired Of Just Surviving
Thread Starter
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: Las Vegas, Nevada
Posts: 1,222
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Height: 5'7
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I feel fatter than EVER!
Some days like today I still feel fatter than ever and I don't really know why
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05-02-2012, 11:40 PM
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Senior Member
Join Date: Jun 2009
Location: florida
Posts: 665
Height: 5'9"
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I just replied to a similar post and I totally sympathize with you! I am on that hate train lately too. I don't know why because my high weight was comfortable for me due to denial, and I'm a lot less now. I just think that maybe the realization of how far I've gone backwards is a factor in that. And the mirrors at the gym make me look absolutely elephant-like, and that is not motivating when I'm trying to lose weight and exercise! I just keep thinking that maybe tomorow I will feel better about myself. Keep on keepin' on, and the feeling has to go away, because the fat has to go away! Go away fat, go away! Burn in he!!
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05-03-2012, 12:05 AM
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Member
Join Date: May 2012
Location: Chicago, IL
Posts: 65
S/C/G: 188/188/145
Height: 5'11
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I feel like that all of the time. And that feeling doesn't go away when you get smaller, so don't let it balloon out of control now! When I began to lose weight about a year and a half ago, I hated looking in the mirror. I told myself I felt fat because I was fat. As I lost weight, I got more and more self conscious about my body. Even at my lowest weight (140) I told myself I was fat, which was just untrue. Soon my negative self talk caught up with me and I regained about 15 pounds. Anyways, my point is, the longer you let yourself look in the mirror and think things like "elephant," the bigger a problem it becomes. You can still feel fat at your goal weight. Everyone has those days, but you have to figure out the underlying reasons you FEEL fat (I mean beyond weight gain, like stress at work or home). I don't know if that's why you feel particularly fat today, but this negative self-talk has always been my problem. And there has usually been a reason behind it that had nothing to do with my weight.
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05-03-2012, 01:42 AM
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Back with a story
Join Date: May 2009
Location: Midwest
Posts: 3,754
S/C/G: 281 / 254 / 160
Height: 5'3" - I got taller!
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I feel that way some days, too. That is where having things like a measuring tape, pictures, and support can give a reality check. No matter what my hormones or schedule is doing to me, it is simply not true that I look or feel the same as I did almost 100 pounds ago. And whenever that devious little lie sneaks in there I have to preach truth to myself and banish those thoughts. They're deceptive, destructive, and have no place in my head.
You have made amazing strides. So have I. That is all we need to know
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05-03-2012, 07:36 AM
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Senior Member
Join Date: May 2011
Location: NW PA
Posts: 1,609
S/C/G: 255/holding at 162/160
Height: 5'-7"
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You've made such great progress and that's what I know you really focus on. Your posts are usually so upbeat! But you're over half way to your Onederland goal, and 1/3 of the way to your end goal. We see how long things take and start to think there is no progress when we stall for just a few days and it all gets to us sometimes.
And - I'm not being critical - I'm just stating a fact. I think as we make progress, we have a reality awareness that was missing when we were at our heaviest. It's as if all of a sudden we actually realize the true nature of our weight rather than the image of our weight that we let fool us into thinking we didn't look so bad. When that hits, we do realize we are still bigger than we should be for health reasons and we feel that we are still fat.
No one uses the term "fat" in here. We say all the other kinder words. "Heavy" - "At my highest weight" - "When I started" - we have a million of them! But, in our own heads, we all think "fat." So I guess it's normal to feel fat sometimes! You're making such great progress. This feeling will pass.
Lin
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05-03-2012, 11:00 AM
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Stevia Nicks
Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Winnipeg
Posts: 77
S/C/G: HW334/SW314/CW304/GW170
Height: 5'11"
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SO right there with you!
Last edited by Luceia; 05-03-2012 at 11:00 AM.
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05-03-2012, 11:09 AM
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IR/PCOS/Pre-Diabetic
Join Date: Nov 1999
Posts: 1,797
S/C/G: 310/*ticker*/150
Height: 5'4"
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I know how that feels! I think there have been some really good point made in the responses above. I especially agree that having a chart of pounds lost or measurements or every-10-pound pictures is often a wake-up call to me that I actually HAVE lost weight, and that my plan works when I actually WORK MY PLAN! *sigh*
I also think linJber hit an uncomfortable truth; one I've never really thought about but it rings true. When I really look in the mirror, I don't see my progress because I'm still overwhelmed (after all these years) at how fat I look. So I feel fat, too. I ignored it for so long, and had some unrealistic "I'm not that bad" image in my head, that when I see the reality, I'm shocked.
That being said, I think we all get into that down-turn mode, and feel fat and like the dieting isn't working and we'll never lose weight. That's when folks tend to stop posting as often, even stop coming by to read/lurk. For me, that's become one of my signals that I may be unconsciously gearing up to go off-plan and give up. Look at my join date and you'll see I've been hanging around 3FC for YEARS... and I've yo-yo'd myself up and down these 50 pounds countless times. But the support and encouragement here always keeps me going, even through my fattest-feeling times.
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05-03-2012, 11:34 AM
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Senior Member
Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Pacific Northwest
Posts: 321
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Height: 5'4
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SmallSteps -
Quote:
Originally Posted by synger
I ignored it for so long, and had some unrealistic "I'm not that bad" image in my head, that when I see the reality, I'm shocked.
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Ditto.
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05-03-2012, 11:50 AM
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Senior Member
Join Date: Mar 2012
Posts: 207
S/C/G: 292/265/180
Height: 6'
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BIG hugs Smallsteps I can totally relate to your feelings. When I hit a bump in the weight loss journey I feel like I'm back as heavy as when I started. I start thinking, "oh my diet is not working any more. This is it. This is where I hit the wall." The only thing that really helps is telling myself that I'm being irrational (ME? Noooo haha) and that it will pass. I've lost this weight with my current meal plan and exercise routine, so how would that progress stop if I keep on keepin on with what I've been doing? I've seen the quote on here of "more good days than bad days" and that really helps too. Just a few little things that usually help me.
I hope you get to feeling better really soon! You have come so far. You've posted pictures of your progress (I know that was hard for you). You are absolutely gorgeous and such an inspiration to me personally. Thank you for that friend
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05-03-2012, 12:08 PM
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Started IP 8/20/14
Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: North Carolina
Posts: 240
S/C/G: HW292/SW284/CW284/GW200
Height: 5'8"
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Quote:
Originally Posted by synger
I also think linJber hit an uncomfortable truth; one I've never really thought about but it rings true. When I really look in the mirror, I don't see my progress because I'm still overwhelmed (after all these years) at how fat I look. So I feel fat, too. I ignored it for so long, and had some unrealistic "I'm not that bad" image in my head, that when I see the reality, I'm shocked.
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Yes, that!!! Lin and Synger hit the nail on the head.
I am there with you - some days, I feel like I have such a long way to go that it feels like too much. And although I am receiving compliments left and right from coworkers and friends, I am hard on myself. I still look in the mirror and see a FAT girl. She's fatter than she was at 292!
IMO, these feelings are all due to increased reality awareness as Lin said.
Anyway --- you aren't alone. Hang in there and keep moving forward!!
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05-03-2012, 01:01 PM
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50 and Fabulous :)
Join Date: Oct 2011
Location: Charlotte NC
Posts: 584
S/C/G: 250/229/160
Height: 5'4"
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Yup, Lin nailed it (as usual ) but just offering you a big hug and to echo the sentiments, been there too!
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05-03-2012, 01:58 PM
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Senior Member
Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: Corpus Christi, TX
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Height: 5'4"
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05-05-2012, 05:33 AM
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Senior Member
Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: Sunshine, Melbourne
Posts: 353
S/C/G: 308/307/198
Height: 5'2"
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I feel fatter than ever. I don't really feel any different than I did 30 lbs ago. I know some of my clothes actually fit me now but when I look in the mirror I am still 307 lbs. I don't know what's going on with me.
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05-05-2012, 03:47 PM
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Junior Member
Join Date: Apr 2012
Posts: 11
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the skinny, attractive ones with amazing bodies are always complaining about themselves and always gabbing about some new diet that they are on which makes you feel like a fat lard cause youre sitting there eating. doesnt really matter what youre eating, just that you are like 100 more pounds than they are and they are on a diet and think they look bad, what must they think when they look at you?
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05-05-2012, 10:26 PM
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Senior Member
Join Date: Nov 2011
Posts: 123
S/C/G: 256/See ticker/Healthier!
Height: 5'6"
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I'm right there with you.
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