General chatter - Date on Saturday and I'm FREAKING OUT




kassiebby1124
05-02-2012, 08:27 AM
Now, I met someone and we're going out on Saturday. I'm excited, fer sure. His personality is just like mine. But I'm worried about what he will say or think about my weight. /: We've met before, but not for a long time. I'm MILES better than I was in January, but I'm still really worried about what he will think. I'd really like for us to be in a relationship eventually so...yeah x:


bargoo
05-02-2012, 08:53 AM
Good luck on your date, I hope it turns out the way you want. BUT if your weight is a deterrent to him he is not the kind of guy you want in your life.

pluckypear
05-02-2012, 09:05 AM
Well he asked you out so that is a good start and you have met. I suggest you get yourself ready and go out on the date and have a great time. Also think about yourself first, maybe you won't like him as much as you thought. And I agree with the above if the weight is an issue he loses out not you. Would you put up with friends commenting on or judging you about your weight? I assume the answer would be no, so same with male friends.

You will have many, many, many dates in your lifetime. This is just a grain of sand although it may not feel like it now. :) Have fun and let us know how it goes.

Finally remember he is lucky to be going out with you.


kassiebby1124
05-02-2012, 09:19 AM
Thank you both :D Hopefully all goes well <3

sontaikle
05-02-2012, 09:25 AM
DON'T WORRY! :)

Guys aren't as shallow as we think they are. Yes, there are some bad apples out there, but most men are decent and will love a woman for who they are.

I know how you feel though, when I met my fiance I was obese and he was underweight. We probably looked silly together, but we cared about each other and that's all that mattered. Oh, and he made the first move! He asked me for my number and he was the one who set up our first date.

If the last time he saw you was at your starting weight, then I wouldn't be surprised if he comments or seems shocked at your appearance because you're smaller than the last time he saw you! :) (He may not comment though, because he may be unsure of what to say without offending you).

Just relax and have a good time. Be yourself and if you and him are meant to be, then you will be.

LeilaJey
05-02-2012, 10:33 AM
He's already seen you and wants to go out with you so I'm sure he thinks you're beautiful! Aaaand you've already lost weight since then so that's great. Are you open about what you're doing right now?

Have a great time on your date! :) Hope it goes great.

WebWoman
05-02-2012, 10:40 AM
I agree with the others - relax and try to have fun!

However, speaking as a mother.... don't be too quick to act on any 'suggestions' he may have at this early point in your relationship that you're not comfortable with. Respect yourself and insist he do the same. We all know guys will be guys and they're motto is: "always go for it". Please let us know how it goes!

MiZTaCCen
05-02-2012, 10:55 AM
woot woot enjoy your date!

I always try not to put too much expectation in someone especially if it's one date because in the end they just end up disappointing me. Just go, relax have a great time, be yourself and don't worry about what he thinks.

krampus
05-02-2012, 12:17 PM
Just be yourself, don't bother trying to put on airs or impress him since if you end up together he'll get to know the real you. Being genuine is awesome!