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artflunky
04-30-2012, 11:57 PM
I just started phase 3 and I'm getting nervous about heading into 4. I have the overwhelming opinion that many of the people in my life are waiting for me to fail on maintenance. That was the most asked question while I was going through this journey. "But how are you going to keep it off? You're never going to keep it off. As soon as you start eating carbs you're just going to blow up!" The majority of this was from my friends who spent so much time telling me why this diet wouldn't be for them, they're not willing to give up this or that while at the same time looking in amazement at the weight I've lost. I guess I should use it as motivation to stay on track but it's also making me anxious. Has anyone else experienced this? I should probably ask, "Has anyone NOT experienced this?". What do we say to the haters?????


sanaroph
05-01-2012, 12:00 AM
artflunky I am nowhere near phase 4 but I guess I would just remember the program is designed so you can maintain it for life. For your friends who think you can't keep it off, the best revenge is doing just that, follow the program, and you should be fine :hug:

Nadya
05-01-2012, 12:13 AM
Just smile and tell them not to worry about it. They're jealous from the sounds of things and you gotta let those kinds of comments just roll right off you.


Jewelrydiva
05-01-2012, 12:18 AM
No, No, No....Girl! Not an option! Washing the negative and worries away!!! Stop considering "when I fail" and flip it around to "when I do well"....You're a ROCKSTAR! We're here to support you!

2Poles1Girl
05-01-2012, 01:30 AM
Has anyone else experienced this? I should probably ask, "Has anyone NOT experienced this?". What do we say to the haters?????
OFTEN and by MANY people. Depending on my relationship with them, I most often say with the utmost sincerity "well, I might and only time will tell. This is what I'm doing for now and for my health I hope I will keep it off". Then I shrug and softly turn my body a bit as if to say "this conversation is over". I don't get defensive, I don't explain the concept of maintenance to them, I don't engage further. I just speak from the heart and leave it. I owe them nothing really. Nor am I willing to put myself on a platter for their entertainment.

The truth for me is that I'm a addict and I know it's a life long, day by day challenge. I might gain it back, but I hope not.

Hang in there and stay centered in YOU, not giving credence to the words and opinions of the naysayers. You are far more deserving.

Ladyonadiet
05-01-2012, 04:47 AM
Keep Your head up...You can do it....and in the words of Jewelrydiva...."You're a Rockstar!!!!" ;)

Sewmam
05-01-2012, 07:33 AM
You know what, their opinions don't mean squat! (I mean those naysayers, not the kind people here...)

I lost over 147 pds in the past year, have been on Phase 4 for a month now and there is no way I've ever going back. I just saw my gyne and she's selling Medfast and, though impressed with my weight loss, made a passing comment about how I'm in the honeymoon phase after losing the weight and that most people gain at least some of it back. I was rather ticked off, seeing as I only see her once every couple years and she doesn't know me or what this journey has meant to me. I am not a bloody statistic!

Okay, that's my vent... anyway, this journey is yours alone. You lived with the fat, you struggled to get rid of it, you have developed a new mindset of health and hope for the future. It doesn't matter what any of your friends or family say. They will probably follow your example. ;)

Having said that, I am finding that Phase 3-4 are about rediscovering what my triggers or tolerances are, and perhaps it will mean giving up certain things, or limiting them to a 'splurge' day. Some people find they just can't tolerate grains anymore, so they don't do them. At that point, nothing is written in stone. You have to find the balance that will work for you long term. It's actually rather scary, but very empowering too.

Good luck!!!

sekc14
05-01-2012, 08:00 AM
.... I just saw my gyne and she's selling Medfast and, though impressed with my weight loss, made a passing comment about how I'm in the honeymoon phase after losing the weight and that most people gain at least some of it back. ...


I would've been tempted to ask if she tells all her Medifast patients before starting them on the program? I give medical professionals the same respect they give me. They have a lot of education and experience but, they're not perfect. I feel the doctor's comment was her sales person coming out. I hate feeling "sold". You've done a great job with your health, losing weight, and sticking with the program, Sewmam!

It's sad that other's don't revel in the successes here because it demonstrates that it's possible to heal from obesity without expensive and risky weight loss surgery. I'm amazed and saddened that the food industry puts so many wrong choices out there to tempt the public with health destroying foods that lead to misery, depression and further health complications down the road.

atho128
05-01-2012, 08:08 AM
I too am no where near phase 4, but I lost of lot of weight my senior year in highschool and was happier than I have ever been and then of course gained it all back in college because I didn't phase out of my diet and didn't pay attention to my triggers and just lost control. But I personally think that anyone who has stuck to the IP program long enough to lose all of their weight and reach phase 4 has all the knowledge they need to keep the weight off forever, and not to mention the motivation and support from all the people here. So tell those haters that you know what you're doing and you refuse to let gain the weight back. Gaining the weight back again for me is not an option. Just like cheating on the diet is not an option. Stick to the program and in 5 years you can laugh at all your fat friends!

reneepw
05-01-2012, 09:02 AM
Artflunky...kill them back with kindness..'thanks for your concern. I KNOW you are just worried about me but have no fear..my mind is firmly in control and I will be successful.'. Then smile and brag about new clothes that loon great on you :-). I think people fear success more than failure...
You did great on IP and everytime I open this forum it gives me motivation to keep going.

Lettuce wrap
05-01-2012, 09:12 AM
I would sum it up with this. " haters gonna hate". Really it's what they do. But I have spent many years trying to ge them not to , to make everyone happy, to make them believe in me.. That got me unhappy with an eating disorder..sooooo..now I let them hate. The people in my life who care and want me to be healthy are on my side. They worry about things like my health and happiness. They encourage me to be a better person. I can count those people on one hand..the rest are just the fringe..

Chloe222
05-01-2012, 09:39 AM
OFTEN and by MANY people. Depending on my relationship with them, I most often say with the utmost sincerity "well, I might and only time will tell. This is what I'm doing for now and for my health I hope I will keep it off". Then I shrug and softly turn my body a bit as if to say "this conversation is over". I don't get defensive, I don't explain the concept of maintenance to them, I don't engage further. I just speak from the heart and leave it. I owe them nothing really. Nor am I willing to put myself on a platter for their entertainment.

The truth for me is that I'm a addict and I know it's a life long, day by day challenge. I might gain it back, but I hope not.

Hang in there and stay centered in YOU, not giving credence to the words and opinions of the naysayers. You are far more deserving.

I would do exactly what 2Poles1Girl writes. No need to polarize anyone, no need to argue. They have their own demons and w/ your weight loss, they are facing their own issues, in this nasty, divisive way - but that's the only way they know to deal with this. You are a more evolved person.

Congratulations on the weight loss, looking great!!

ProteinGal
05-01-2012, 11:00 AM
Tell those naysayers maybe they should try IP, that will shut them up. They are jealous.

Congrats Artfunky! You show them!

Darralyn
05-01-2012, 11:06 AM
Artflunky I am so counting on you to succeed as your success helps us all and we all need you to do a great job with maintenance and set the trail for us to follow. It will be hard but with the tools you've gained I believe you will win. I believe in all of us! If we stick with IP 100% and learn our triggers we cannot fail!

evepet
05-01-2012, 11:52 AM
I just started phase 3 and I'm getting nervous about heading into 4. I have the overwhelming opinion that many of the people in my life are waiting for me to fail on maintenance. That was the most asked question while I was going through this journey. "But how are you going to keep it off? You're never going to keep it off. As soon as you start eating carbs you're just going to blow up!" The majority of this was from my friends who spent so much time telling me why this diet wouldn't be for them, they're not willing to give up this or that while at the same time looking in amazement at the weight I've lost. I guess I should use it as motivation to stay on track but it's also making me anxious. Has anyone else experienced this? I should probably ask, "Has anyone NOT experienced this?". What do we say to the haters?????

It's still early days for me, and while I can feel the difference in my body, it's not particularly noticeable to anyone else at this point. So that type of comment hasn't come my way as yet. In fact, only my SIL and sister are aware that I'm 'on a plan', and they are pretty encouraging... even if they are thinking I will probably just regain whatever I manage to lose, they're being polite enough not to say so.

The more I read about IP though, the more I feel confident that it's structured through the phase off process to ensure that each of us learns how to monitor ourselves and keep the weight off successfully. And the 'retraining' of the pancreas supports that. I read a post recently where a dieter in maintenance talked about having her 'cheat days' and how her weight didn't rebound, etc... it was because her pancreas had been re-adjusted, and her metabolism was working efficiently to regulate the weight. I like re-reading Dr. Tran Tien Chanh's book (PDF file): The Unbalanced Diet Approach to a Slimmer You, as it explains somewhat the scientific rationale behind why this diet works, and it reinforces my belief that I can find permanent weight-loss results with it. That confidence in my own ability to keep it off once I reach maintenance will communicate itself to any naysayers. And if they still doubt me? Well, I'll politely ignore them and continue on my merry 'Perfect Weight for Me' way. :carrot:

mlucas
05-01-2012, 12:26 PM
I just started phase 3 and I'm getting nervous about heading into 4. I have the overwhelming opinion that many of the people in my life are waiting for me to fail on maintenance. That was the most asked question while I was going through this journey. "But how are you going to keep it off? You're never going to keep it off. As soon as you start eating carbs you're just going to blow up!" The majority of this was from my friends who spent so much time telling me why this diet wouldn't be for them, they're not willing to give up this or that while at the same time looking in amazement at the weight I've lost. I guess I should use it as motivation to stay on track but it's also making me anxious. Has anyone else experienced this? I should probably ask, "Has anyone NOT experienced this?". What do we say to the haters?????

Wow, i'm so sorry! You or anyone one of us should not have to deal with that.
It's total jealousy! Their insecurities! Get real! Tell them to get over themselves cus you are!
I understand what you are going through to an extent. I kept the diet a secret from my friends back home till just last night actually... in fear of the garbage that would come out of some of the haters mouths. But I got nothing but praise. I will tell ya though alot of women i work with hate on the diet. But I know its cus they are jealous and insecure with them selves and that they know, that they couldnt do it, nor do they want to push themselves to try...they are weak and know it. I dont know if you know who Katt Williams is.. but he said, if you got haters then you are doing something right! SO keep doing what you doin and let them haters hate! Keep doin you! Gain impowerment through there weakness... This diet has been an emotional journey already, this is one more step to being the new better, stronger you! You've shed all those insecurities, and past BS... step out and shine with your new strength and inner joy! You deserve it!
Sorry to say it .. but eff them! :D DO you BOO! xo

darbs7
05-01-2012, 01:53 PM
The unfortunate truth is that many people put the weight back on.

Don't be one of those....I am trying my darnest to also not be one of those. I have been in maintenance for 1 year on the 28th of this month. I am currently up about 5 pounds out of the 85 that I lost.

And yes....I still feel like there are a ton of people waiting for me to fail...so they too can feel better about not obtaining their own goal weight....NO Way will I give them the pleasure!



Here are my tips for keeping it off

1. Weigh in every single week...if you are avoiding the scale it is because you know you have put weight on.

2. schedule reboots for at least three times a year (mine are the month of January, May, and September)

3. REmember to do your phase 1 days every week...don't get lazy with this (it is easy to)

4. If you go up more than 10% of your lose....then do phase 1 until it is all gone.

You will kick butt...good luck and happy maintenance

CkM
05-01-2012, 02:03 PM
Don't comprimisewho you are because the people around you expect you to fail! Keep up your hard work! You have made a lifestyle change, not a temporary one. Your so called friends sound a little jelous if you ask me....

patns
05-02-2012, 12:03 AM
What is that expression..."The best revenge is living well?"
Just keep on keeping on.

I think we tend to project our own experiences on what others are doing.

This reminds me of years ago a coworker lost a lot of weight on Nutra System. I was secretly thinking she's going to gain it all back once she goes off the plan because that's what's what I did.

But that was at least 15 years ago and she still is at goal because she really became physically active. So your opinion givers are likely thinking you are going through all this work and will just gain it back because that is what they would do. So that just gives you more incentive to prove them wrong.

Ishbel
05-02-2012, 12:28 AM
And yes....I still feel like there are a ton of people waiting for me to fail...so they too can feel better about not obtaining their own goal weight....NO Way will I give them the pleasure!

LIKE LIKE LIKE!! (also like your maintenance rules).

Don't comprimisewho you are because the people around you expect you to fail! Keep up your hard work! You have made a lifestyle change, not a temporary one. Your so called friends sound a little jelous if you ask me....

EXACTLY - look in the mirror and think "WOW, someone is jealous of ME!" that's what I did, when someone told me I looked sick (at my weight and size, NO WAY do I look sick!) :)

Just keep on keeping on.

I think we tend to project our own experiences on what others are doing.

Pat, you reminded me of DORY! "Just keep swimming, just keep swimming" :)

*********************

...there will always be people who don't 'believe'...<shrug> Sometimes it bothers me and then I try really hard to re-frame it. I've had people say "you aren't sick of that yet?" or "we'll see what happens when you're off the diet"

whaddayado??!! :shrug:

It's their world, not yours...and if they can't mesh what you are now to what you were...that's their problem! :)

Chin up grasshoppah!...I believe in you! You got this! :D

:hug:

Tinawebb
05-02-2012, 01:16 AM
They are probably the same ones who said you couldn't lose the weight in the first place. They were wrong once and will be wrong again.

usmcvet
05-02-2012, 11:23 AM
Tell them to keep their negative comments to themselves and avoid them. We don't need the negative vibes. Spend more time with people who support you. And keep checking in with us here at 3fc!

IPdivajen
05-02-2012, 11:43 AM
I get this too, big time! And all it does is fuel my desire to PROVE THEM WRONG! :)

Any time I'm tempted by anything I remind myself that I will not give the haters the satisfaction of being right. May be twisted, but at this point I figure any effective coping mechanism can help!! Totally makes me turn away from whatever I was craving.

You got this!

usmcvet
05-02-2012, 02:39 PM
I got myself into this situation. I plan to get myself out of this situation.
I am focused on success because I want to live longer and healthier. I want to enjoy life more and do more with my family. What others say about me and what I am doing may hurt my feelings but in the long run it does not matter. I am doing this for ME not them. Do this for you. We are all here for you. I know I've had a great experience here in the past month or so. I come in for my fix when I have some free time.

jennydoodle
05-02-2012, 02:53 PM
Here are my tips for keeping it off

1. Weigh in every single week...if you are avoiding the scale it is because you know you have put weight on.

2. schedule reboots for at least three times a year (mine are the month of January, May, and September)

3. REmember to do your phase 1 days every week...don't get lazy with this (it is easy to)

4. If you go up more than 10% of your lose....then do phase 1 until it is all gone.

You will kick butt...good luck and happy maintenance

What she said! I have been in maintenance for 5 months and still going strong. Maintenance is a lot of trial and error. You must find what works for you, what you can eat and not gain weight and how "free" your free day can actually be. Some people do "free meal" and some go all out. Either way, you have to find what works for you and what you feel comfortable with.

The best thing about maintenance, is there is always PHASE 1. It is the savior. It is what keeps you from gaining the weight back. If you stick to it and do not get lazy about having them, you should have no problem keeping your weight off.

I never encountered anyone who actually "hated" to my face so I don't know what to tell you. Although I know of some who hated behind my back ;) I would just say "I guess we will just have to wait and see what happens".

lkp888
05-02-2012, 03:05 PM
I found a couple of quotes that I would like to share that we should all live by, This is our journey not anyone else's, it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks, anyway hope you enjoy these:

The greatest pleasure in Life is doing what people say YOU cannot do.

My Life, My Choices, My Mistakes, My Lessons, My Business.

Have a wonderful IP day everyone!

free1
05-02-2012, 03:32 PM
While I think negative comments are terrible, maybe they're not haters and are instead genuinely concerned and/or curious. I'm not on IP but this is what you here from the media...that these types of plans will never work long term. I know from being on here that that is absolutely not true. One of my biggest 3FC inspirations is on IP.

Negativity is bad, the approach may be bad...However, there motives may not be. Unless you know that their heart's desire is to discourage you, I would chalk it up to bad choices, bad approach. Now, IGNORE THEM ALL.... :)

darbs7
05-03-2012, 09:01 AM
Quick story...last year today....I was at a work function and 2 weeks away from starting maintenance.....

My boss (who I adore) told me I look great but let's see if I can keep it off. I told him I would show him.

Yesterday I walked into his office and said....one year later and still all the weight is off....he was shocked that I remembered he said that and also felt bad.

I said wait until next May....I'll be down 10 more....going for size 4/6.

Sewmam
05-03-2012, 09:14 AM
What is that expression..."The best revenge is living well?"
Just keep on keeping on.

I think we tend to project our own experiences on what others are doing.


Pat - that is so wise. My first reaction to the initial post was to get ticked off at the naysayers, and there are negative people out there, but who knows what is going on in their heads and their lives? We can't control them. We can only control ourselves, our reactions, our futures, and that is where IP has really helped me. By following the structure of the plan, I didn't have to think so much about it, so my focus could dive into how I got there, how I want to change, my future health...

Thank you for your wisdom!