Weight Loss Support - Help what motivates you to keep going?




mmr28
04-29-2012, 02:24 PM
Hey everyone! Im starting a diet/workout plan tommorow 4/30/2012 and every time i start one I end up eating horribly and back to my old ways Ive been trying to lose 20lbs for about a year now and it just doesn't happen! please help! what keeps yall motivated and I could use support buddies! I feel fat unattractive and unconfident! please help summer is around the corner and I just wanna feel confident and sexy.:(


kassiebby1124
04-29-2012, 02:38 PM
Honestly? It was my boyfriend. But we broke up 2 weeks ago. So now I'm doing this for me. I want tattoos. He hates them. I always wanted them. I want to feel sexy. And I'm doing this for me now.

mmr28
04-29-2012, 03:22 PM
hey kassie, sorry to hear you broke up with your boyfriend now more than ever you should feel motivated to better yourself for you so, your ex will realize what he lost. Summer is is almost here girl, and we need to feel sexy! so, lets do this! :carrot:... I dont want to make excuses it only takes one hour min to just work out!


pixelllate
04-29-2012, 04:37 PM
At the end of the day...nothing really. I just don't think too hard and just maintain my habits no matter how wretched I feel. I kind of turn into a zombie, and sometimes I talk about how I sad I am, but the one thing I don't let it affect is my calorie deficit. I don't really obsess over pretty clothes, or how I will look in them. I just focus on just my eating and activity, and I try not to think about my goal body. I tell myself that I would be health conscious even if it won't make me look different. This mindless method I guess sounds like a miserable way of doing things, but its been OK so far-when times are hard, it can be tough to go on, but I just zone out and keep going. The nice thing is that weight loss isn't really a brain thing-like I couldn't use this method studying for a test because thats a mental exercise, but with weight loss, its just physical, so miserable or happy, my body still burns the cals.

valalltogether
04-29-2012, 04:50 PM
if you always end up back in your old ways, just start slow. change one thing at a time, if that helps. try not to restrict everything you once enjoyed, because you'll go nuts..we all would!

anyway..what motivates me is looking good in a bikini. and finally, finally buying clothes without wrestling in the dressing room, hiking up my pants to cover my belly and just being exhausted and drained. i'm also a few years away from 30 (omg) and i know that it is important to stay active and strength train if i don't want to take a nosedive into flab city soon...

mmr28
04-29-2012, 05:04 PM
@ pixelllate- I like your input, I might have to try that... instead of focusing on picturing how my goal body will look like, I need to remind myself that it is about health! Thanks!! :)

mmr28
04-29-2012, 05:08 PM
@ valalltogether- that is great advice! but I feel like it go slow then it will take FOREVER to lose weight! I hate that feeling in the dressing room trying to squeeze into pants because I don't want grab the next size up because it makes me feel fat!! lol Summer is around the corner and I would like to look good in a bikini! :/

Pepino
04-29-2012, 05:08 PM
Hey everyone! Im starting a diet/workout plan tommorow 4/30/2012 and every time i start one I end up eating horribly and back to my old ways Ive been trying to lose 20lbs for about a year now and it just doesn't happen! please help! what keeps yall motivated and I could use support buddies! I feel fat unattractive and unconfident! please help summer is around the corner and I just wanna feel confident and sexy.:(

I quoted you so I wouldn't miss anything :)

I think the key is to take it ONE DAY AT A TIME! Or if that is too hard, one hour at a time. **** even one minute at a time! In otherwords, if you fall off the wagon and eat say a donut, don't use that as a reason to abandon ship. Just 'choose' to not indulge the next 10 minutes. Sometimes the thought of eating healthy and exercising for the long haul can seem over-whelming. IF that is the case...don't think that way! Just think "What am I doing to do today to take good care of MYSELF and treat my body good?"

I also think it is very important to do a cupboard/fridge purge. Be brutal! Anything unhealthy goes out the window! That way, when moments of weakness strike...you only have healthful options!

Keep apples around for when you crave sweets....pop some almonds in a bowl when you crave chocolate....rice cakes when you want to watch some TV with chips. Sparkling water when you want pop (you get the idea).

You can do this!!!! The longer you eat healthy the less you want unhealthy foods. :carrot:

Pepino
04-29-2012, 05:09 PM
Oh and the swear word they omitted was "H" "E" double-hocky sticks. Not the F word!!! I just saw that they omitted it and it makes it look more scandolous than I meant LOL

valalltogether
04-29-2012, 05:13 PM
oh mmr trust me.. i "started" this in january and i've lost about 10-11 lbs. i feel ashamed just saying that because it seems so pathetic. but i truly believe i'll never see those lbs back because i'm making a lifestyle change. and it's HARD to change your lifestyle. I've tripped up a lot of times and gone off plan. i'm looking forward to really concentrating and accelerating my weight loss through to summer.

but the main point is, they say that 2lbs/week is the most you should really be losing to avoid a yo-yo situation. you don't magically wake up one day just fat. it takes time to gain weight. you also won't wake up one day magically thin. it's gonna take time to lose it, too...

fyi i use myfitnesspal and it really helps me track my calories. plus you can add friends and see what they are up to and even what they are eating, too. it keeps me accountable.

mmr28
04-29-2012, 05:20 PM
@ pepino-You are so right, You said "if you fall off the wagon and eat say a donut, don't use that as a reason to abandon ship." I do that all the time... like after eating something bad I just quit! Thanks for the encouragement!! I will definitely be cleaning my fridge and pantry out.. LOL @ omitted "H" E" double hockey sticks! your silly!

Exhale15
04-29-2012, 05:24 PM
Someone on another post said something to the effect that you don't lose weight to get healthy, you lose weight by getting healthy. To me, that means developing healthy habits, like eating more whole foods, clean foods, drinking more water, getting more movement and fresh air. There's lots of possibilities in the exercise category & my biggest challenge was finding something I enjoy doing, instead of avoiding doing what I didn't enjoy.

Ultimately, my motivation is wanting to be happy with myself, the choices I make for myself and my quality of life.

mmr28
04-29-2012, 05:24 PM
@ valalltogether- dont be ashamed that you only lost 10-11lbs since january atleast you lost something, I know sometimes its hard to stay on track and you fall off. I know its going to take time! :( I guess i just have to work hard to keep it up!.. Thanks for the advice: " lose two pounds of week max to avoid the yo-yo situation." (hate the yo-yo situation) Im going to try fitness pal... Keep up your weight lost too! Lets bring our sexy back for the summer ladies! Lol :)

mmr28
04-29-2012, 05:28 PM
@ Exhale15- I love that "you don't lose weight to get healthy, you lose weight by getting healthy." I think you are right! Im going to have to try to develop healthy eating habits! Thanks!! :)

ValRock
04-29-2012, 05:36 PM
I keep going, because what's the alternative?

To start eating junk and feeling like crap and putting on weight? No thanks! Time will pass no matter what I do. I can commit to being healthy and lose some weight, even if it's a slow process... or I can throw up my hands because it's not happening fast enough, and pack it back on!

All I know, is that in 3 years it won't matter if I found the magical miracle diet cure and lost 100 lbs in one week... if I've somehow managed to pack it all back on afterwards. What will matter is that I have changed my life and habits to a degree that maintaining a healthy weight is not something I have to struggle with, it just happens :).

pixelllate
04-29-2012, 05:45 PM
I keep going, because what's the alternative?

To start eating junk and feeling like crap and putting on weight? No thanks! Time will pass no matter what I do. I can commit to being healthy and lose some weight, even if it's a slow process... or I can throw up my hands because it's not happening fast enough, and pack it back on!

All I know, is that in 3 years it won't matter if I found the magical miracle diet cure and lost 100 lbs in one week... if I've somehow managed to pack it all back on afterwards. What will matter is that I have changed my life and habits to a degree that maintaining a healthy weight is not something I have to struggle with, it just happens :).

That's right! The weight can come on an doff but I have accepted that the desire has never changed. Yes we can regain the weight or never lose any more, but for many reasons (health, lookin hotter, just accomplishing it-whatever it is) we will always want it. Right now I am doing the weight loss process slowly but consistently, because I want those habits to be easier with time. :carrot:

ValRock
04-29-2012, 06:18 PM
So true. It's a lifelong committment and with the statistics showing something like 95% of dieters will relapse and put on all the weight back on sometime later, what's the alternative?

It will be hard going and you need to be in control for the rest of your life. No easing off, no quitting and no saying, "well, I'll get back on the wagon tomorrow" because tomorrow might never come until you wake up one day and all the weight's back on again.

Pretty grim?? Yeah, we can TRY looking for the positives but somedays it WILL be harder to see the positives than the negatives.

Doing all this to be healthy?? No, dieting at your starting weight is not a "doing this to be healthy" thing. It's dieting to look good in your eyes as a thin person. At your starting weight, being healthy means exercising rather than dieting. I know because I've got similar stats like you.

I hope I don't come across as a naysayer but we're very much in the same boat like so many others here and elsewhere.

Are you talking to me? Really? I hope I'm not understanding this the way you meant it.

ValRock
04-29-2012, 06:27 PM
No, not you! I was referring to the OP's situation and to myself really :)

Ok, I got it... I"m sensitive and cranky today. I'm so sorry... I read that completely wrong.

pixelllate
04-29-2012, 06:59 PM
Maybe this is encouraging-from the NYtimes-
”That 95 percent figure has become clinical lore,” said Dr. Thomas Wadden, a professor of psychiatry at the University of Pennsylvania. There is no basis for it, he said, ”but it’s part of the mythology of obesity.”
Dr. Kelly D. Brownell, the director of the Yale Center for Eating and Weight Disorders, said the number was first suggested in a 1959 clinical study of only 100 people. The finding was repeated so often that it came to be regarded as fact, he said.
[It was] clear that the 95 percent failure rate was so poorly founded. The figure comes not from any kind of random sampling, but from a study of 100 patients treated for obesity at a nutrition clinic at New York Hospital in the 1950′s. In 1959, its authors, Dr. Albert Stunkard and Mavis McLaren-Hume, published a paper in which they concluded, ”Most obese persons will not stay in treatment, most will not lose weight, and of those who do lose weight, most will regain it.”
That conclusion, Dr. Brownell of Yale said, has since become the most frequently quoted statement in obesity literature.
Dr. Stunkard, who is now a professor of psychiatry at the University of Pennsylvania, said the study was ”perfectly respectable” for that period. ”The paper made a big impact because everybody thought obesity was pretty easy to treat,” he said. ”This showed that, for whatever reason, it wasn’t.”
But the study has little relevance to the current understanding of how to control weight, said Dr. Stunkard, who specializes in the treatment of obesity and eating disorders. The 100 patients in the study were ”just given a diet and sent on their way,” he said.
”That was state of the art in 1959,” he added. ”I’ve been sort of surprised that people keep citing it; I know we do better these days.”
The intervening years have brought significant changes to the treatment of obesity, the most important of which, Dr. Stunkard said, has been the introduction of behavior modification techniques.
Since the 1959 study, though, the statistic has been reinforced by most other clinical studies, which also showed people with discouraging results.
”Unless we can prove they’re typical, the data cannot be generalized,” Dr. Brownell said. ”The people we see in clinics tend to be more overweight and have more psychological problems. They are more likely by a factor of two to have binge-eating problems.”
The true failure rate could be much better, or much worse, he said. ”The fact is that we just don’t know.”


Excerpted from Why “95% Of Dieters Fail” | A Black Girl's Guide To Weight Loss

chickadee32
04-29-2012, 07:54 PM
OP, I'll admit that I have a bit of a hard time relating to someone whose starting point is already a healthy weight for their height. But, the thing that motivates me to keep going might be useful just the same - it's pride in how I feel about myself, my health and my body.

Some people who start where I did are relatively happy with themselves. I wasn't one of those people. I was miserable, and I hated myself and the way I looked and felt most days. But almost from the very start of my weight loss journey I felt better about myself; not because I looked any different after losing 10 or 20 lbs (at my starting weight, 20 lbs was a drop in the bucket), but because I was doing something good for myself. I felt an enormous amount of pride in being successful at sticking to my eating and exercise plan, and seeing the results in my energy level, my improved fitness, and on the scale. And how I feel today in comparison to how I felt when I began... there's just no putting it into words. I am a different person, in so many respects.

When I have a planned splurge or off-plan day for a special occasion, I feel no guilt whatsoever - that's part of enjoying life, and I love good food, good drinks, and good times with friends and family too much to skip out on enjoying those occasions. But when I go off-plan for no good reason, i.e. eat junky foods devoid of nutritional benefit or skip the exercise because I just don't feel like it, I do feel badly. Being good to my body and taking care of it makes me feel SO much better - both physically and emotionally - than a few cookies makes me feel.

At your weight, my advice would be to focus on how you FEEL, physically and mentally, rather than focusing on the number on the scale. Eat mostly things that are good fuel for your body, exercise regularly for the health benefits and to improve your strength and stamina, and set some goals and take pride in seeing yourself accomplish them. If you do those things, the weight will take care of itself.