Can you pinpoint any one thing that made you pack on the pounds? Maybe there were many factors? I ask because if we can isolate the thing(s) that made us gain weight to begin with, maybe we can avoid the same traps in the future. I know that pregnancies and emotional trauma/stress caused me to overeat and become unhealthy. Although my pregnant days are done, I do worry that if the emotional rug ever slips out from under me again, I will turn to food for comfort. I also somewhat enjoyed the invisibility factor/security blanket/anonymity that being overweight gave me. It was almost like wearing a costume so that my true identity remained hidden. Now that I know the dire consequences of giving in to emotional eating, hopefully I will avoid falling into that trap once more.
04-22-2012, 08:14 PM
Lifestyle changes such as getting married, moving, etc.Now that I am at goal I will certainly watch out for similar changes in my life so I can plan accordingly.
04-22-2012, 08:18 PM
I just had this conversation with a lady at the gym...I swear I don't remember gaining 88 pounds...O' I know I did all by myself...I was tired...I was lazy ..I love love love bad greasy food...I had kids.
I graduated HS in '92 at a curvy 132...and I thought I was fat!! omg!!
Then by time I got married in '95 I was 150...18 pounds in 3 years...freshman 15?... I guess plus some.
between June 95 to July 97...I was pregnant....2 sons in less than 2 years..I left the hospital with our youngest son in July '97...weighing in at 178 pounds.
and for the last 14 years...minus my current journey ..my lowest weight has been 170 in June of 2004 and my highest of 220 in January 2011.
I have been losing weight steady now for over a year...and as of this morning I weighed in at 164 this morning...the smallest I have been in 14 years!!
I truly believe I will make it this time..something feels different...I feel strong....I feel supported....I feel like I have time!! Maybe its having teenagers and having more time for me....but I do know I will never ever go back.
04-22-2012, 08:25 PM
It was life changing things for me, too. I gained 10-15 pounds during college. I gained a little weight when I got married, maybe another 10 lbs there. Most was with pregnancies, though. I turned 25 right after my oldest was born and lost a good part of the weight right away...within 6 or 8 weeks. But, it was pretty quickly after that when I got pregnant the second time and I really never lost any of that weight at all. I went through a lot of thyroid and hormone issues and I actually weighed more a year after my second was born than I did at nine months pregnant with her! I think I lost a little bit of weight after my third was born. But, it wasn't enough to make much difference and I ended up gaining it back anyway.
04-22-2012, 08:36 PM
Okay, I was never thin, but in 2001, I weighed 192 pounds. By 2007-2008, I was at damn near my high weight. That's only six years.
Some of it was college--I no longer had someone strictly controlling what I could eat on a daily basis, and, having been on a diet of some sort since I was about 5-ish, I went a little hog wild. Some of it was having a boyfriend-and-then-husband who was both a jerk and who himself was quite overweight and made horrible food choices. The only way I could get his undivided attention was going out to eat with him.
I'm sure my odd brain chemistry (read: mental illness) had something to do with it, too. So did being on Seroquel and Effexor, though that was really just the last bit.
I gained about 30 pounds my freshman year. Probably a similar amount the next year. It all adds up. I once had a really wise, really smart friend tell me that my addiction to food wasn't any different than someone else's addiction to alcohol. We all have our crutches; I just had to carry around the proof of mine every day.
04-22-2012, 08:51 PM
I could not gain weight in college though I tried. I was playing basketball at least 4-5 times a week and that was during the off season. Graduated about at about 220 lbs.
Continued playing basketball 2-3 times a week after college but bad eating habits took me up to about 230.
When my wife had our second child I no longer had time for basketball and kept my bad eating habits which over the course of 5 years put me to about 250.
Went into sales management where I sat behind a desk all day instead of being up and about. Add in drinking almost every day and I put on about 15 lbs a year until I hit 300.
04-22-2012, 09:16 PM
For me it was a business trip to Vancouver, where I had free rein with expenses. Vancouver is full of great crepe places and Asian restaurants (two of my favourites), so I overindulged steadily for 5 days. Upon my return I remained in self-indulgence mode and the weight piled on.
Since losing 50 pounds last year I've gone on several similar business trips and managed not to gain weight by planning ahead.
Access to gourmet/exotic food is probably my biggest trigger.
04-22-2012, 09:22 PM
I can't say I was ever thin, basically the weight I am now in my teens and twenties. Then took a job where I was required to eat away from home (hotel breakfast, fast food lunch, restaurant dinners) and gained 100 lbs in less than 18 months. Maintained that weight for the next 20 years even after I quit that job.
04-22-2012, 09:52 PM
I lost 53 pounds in 2009 and then I went through some major life changes. I gained it all back and am trying to lose it again (and more). I try not to beat myself up over it, but I think the real answer to your question from my perspective is the weight comes back the moment you take your foot off of the gas. The change you are making really does have to be a life style change and you can't go back to your old ways. On an intellectual level, I knew this, but I hadn't really lived it.
04-22-2012, 10:00 PM
Lost a lot of weight about 10 years ago from running. Now I have health problems combined with mostly working from home has made me not move as much and put on weight. I have been avoiding the doctor because I am back up again.
I relate with what others have said...
When I am not vigilant, I gain weight. Also my brother relocated to where I live and we eat out a lot for entertainment. :(
04-22-2012, 10:31 PM
I started antidepressants at about 90lbs and quickly went up to 135lbs. Later I went on anti psychotics and went from 135lbs to 161lbs within two months. So yes, I can think of one thing that helped me (I am responsible of course) pack on pounds.
Eating for entertainment was another thing but we don't do that anymore. I put a stop to it. With my dietary issues it's just about impossible anyway. I need to eat at home where I control everything and know what in my food.
04-23-2012, 12:12 AM
I got a little chunky in high school and hated it so all through college I was overly diligent about my food and exercise. I had lost instead of gained the freshman 15 and pretty much stayed at that weight until I was pregnant with my first child at age 23. During that pregnancy I gained 36 pounds by stopping at McDonalds every chance I had basically and never really lost that weight other than the 10 or so I lost in the hospital from having him. My weight just slowly and steadily continued to climb as I had 2 more babies in the next 3 years and continued the bad eating habits. Then when the kids were 3, 5, and 7 my husband was diagnosed with esophageal cancer. I did lose a bit during the next 2 years mainly due to stress. But once he passed away I ate my way through my grief to my highest weight. I just felt too tired, lazy, unmotivated to exercise or feed myself properly.
I think time to heal from that and also like jajomo I think my kids being teenagers gave me more time to be able to focus on myself and finally see it was time for me to live again.
04-23-2012, 12:29 AM
I gained 25 in the past 9 months in response to a failed relationship. It wasn't even a seriously relationship; I just really wanted things to work out with the guy. I get so weak when I'm heartbroken. I have a friend who will work harder at all aspects (school, diet, work) in response to rejection or heartbreak just to get a sense of revenge. That's a trait I'd kill for! Anyways, I've overcome the heartbreak, but my eating habits have stuck with me. After being introduced to the joys of eating large and fattening meals, it's just SO hard to go back.
04-23-2012, 12:31 AM
for me, I think it was depression and lonliness that caused the weight gain,. I just turned to food for comfort and somehow managed to gain 40 lbs very quickly in a measure of 1 1/2 year. I never saw it coming even though I ate the worst foods, I never drank water, always had 2-3 of coke a day, had fast food at least 4 days a week, sometimes 2 times in 1 day, ate the heaviest calorie and sugar foods for breakast, donughts, and pastries, had deserts every night. And I guess just stopped caring. But all of this gave me comfort and satisfaction while eating. But I had on blinders that I gained the weight I did, until I was horrified when I saw how large I was at my sister's graduation. I had always been 125-130 then shot up to 170, now thankfully after cutting all of those bad food eating habbits and eating only healthy foods I'm back to weighing 125-130, I hope to never go back to the state that I was in before.
04-23-2012, 01:27 AM
Never really was thin, unless you count childhood. Started gaining pretty bad when I hit puberty, and was somewhere between 250-275 throughout high school, where I've stayed a good chunk of my life.
Started to gain more with my first boyfriend (I was a late bloomer, in my early 20's). He was overweight too and we went out to eat a lot. When he got a job in another state, I moved in with him, where things between us went all to h3ll. It was a combination of many things; eating a lot of fast food and processed goodies from the store, eating as an escape, eating because I was severely depressed, having out of control arguments when I actually tried to eat healthier (I defintely knew how to eat healthier as I'd lost weight before, but he'd lash out at me if I didn't indulge with him). Talk about gaining weight fast, I put on 100 pounds in about a year, on top of already being 100 pounds too heavy! :o I think part of the reason he'd throw tantrums was that he didn't have to feel guilty about what he was eating if I had the same thing with him, and of course there's the old standby that he was afraid I'd get confident enough to leave him if I was more attractive. And of course at the same time he'd attack me for gaining weight. H3ll, when I lost the first 40 pounds and started dressing nicely and wearing makeup again, he attacked me for "letting myself go" and tried to convince me that I was too fat and ugly for him to be attracted to me anymore. Ugh.
Anyway, the point was that I was in an emotionally (and sometimes physically) abusive relationship, was constantly arguing, was extremely stressed, knew my father was dying, and I was eating nothing but crap and apparently a lot of it. That part of my life is mostly just a huge blur now, and I was admittedly drunk throughout a portion of it. I'm in a much better place now, no longer drink or smoke, have lost that 100 pounds I'd gained while with him (but still need to lose that other 100!), and hope my life will never get so messed up again that it will return to that blind, out of control blur.
04-23-2012, 02:15 AM
When I was 14 I felt really bad about my body and the weight change that naturally happens during puberty; I felt fat but in reality I was a slim, healthy weight. I started restricting my food and doing extra exercise and I think this created an unhealthy relationship with food that continues to this day.
I gained weight when I started dating one particular (somewhat abusive) boyfriend and began binge eating, and found it difficult to eat in a normal way or even just not obsess about food every minute of the day. I'm slowly retraining myself.
04-23-2012, 02:51 AM
Good post! First, if I could say one thing to anyone who has lost 1 pound or 200 pounds, BE CAREFUL! Those pounds can sneak on so easily, and before you know it, you can turn into a blimp.
I never saw it coming. I was thin until I was 35. Then, pregnancy.....I couldn't tell what was baby and what was fat. Then, going from an active job to a sedentary job. (I should have exercised to make up the difference). And last, eating out a lot with my foodie hubby.
I lost the majority of it once for a few years, and then when I wasn't paying attention it came back plus another 34 and put me at my highest ever. This time, I've learned and realize I have to be *very* aware, constantly, of every single pound. I still have 73 or so to go.
It happens so easily when you're not paying attention and staying aware of each pound.
04-23-2012, 07:12 AM
I was under 100lbs (naturally, no thought of food, no issues/no disorder) all my life until I hit college and went up to 140lbs within a year. I know that's not 'fat' but a 40lb gain in a year is a lot.
- Food for fun and not hunger
- Fast food, fast food, fast food (and not knowing calories - thinking a Caesar salad and potato was less calories than a plain burger)
- Food for fun!
- Food for fun, out with friends!
- Complacency (I'll never gain weight?)
Eating food because I wanted to and not because I was hungry. Before, I just ate when hungry.
I lost the weight (down to 120 which is reasonable for an adult woman!) and then re-gained 45lbs when pregnant with the same habit.
04-23-2012, 08:16 AM
I think for me it was a combination of two things. In my early years and teens I grew up in a different country, very male chauvinistic. If a man came up to you and sexually harassed you, the only thing you could do was to ignore him and hope he goes away. Also, while we weren't living in poverty, money was still very tight and we never ate out, never any fast food, ice cream was a once in two or three month thing.
When I moved to the US, two thing happened. I got my driver's license and now I could go anywhere I want, eat anything I wanted. Also, the idea of any male attention frightened me. I realized the more I gained weight, the more men will ignore me, the less unwanted male attention I'll get. And it worked.
Except now I've lost so much control that it led me to where I am now. Severely morbidly obese, unable to live my life the way I want to, very unhealthy. :/
04-23-2012, 08:16 AM
I was a skinny child growing up and my parents would tell people I eat like a bird. When I was pregnant with my first child at 12 weeks I weighed 106 pounds. (I think I went up to 127-130 with that one) I bounced right back after he was born. After I got married and had my second child, (I think I went up to 150's when I was pregnant with her)we bought our first computer, 1993-94. (I didn't work, so sitting at computer put a few pounds on) Anyway I remember a year later we moved and I think I weighed around 130. About 4 yrs after that I went to nursing school and that's where the came on. I ended up in the 140s. Well after working, stress in marriage, work, kids etc, I went up to the 150's. In 2009 I started developing fibromyalgia and in 2010 I hit the 160's. This year it topped out at 172...that's when I said enough is enough. It's sickening to think I used to be so skinny, I never ever thought when I was young that I would be fat when I got older. I thought I would always have my cute hourglass shape. HAHA wrong!
So far I have lost about 14 pounds:carrot: It's not much but I feel better, look better, and I can fit into my 150s clothes again lol. I would love to get down to 135. That's my goal anyway, but I will take less! lol. 125 sounds better, although I don't want to set my standards to high yet.
I know one thing that has helped me lose weight, cutting the sodas, all sodas. I used to love them! but they are so bad for you. Now I drink water or unsweet tea with lemons. I was also a chocoholic..lol...cutting 90-95% of that has helped too. The most important thing, I could not do this without God. I have no will power and prayed to him to help me. I need the strength from him, because if I didn't...whew I would still be eating very badly.
04-23-2012, 11:46 AM
I don't know if there is any one thing. I was always thin until I went to college (136-148). I quickly started gaining weight after HS and got to 184. I had stopped running and exercising, started eating really bad. Parties and drinking for the first time. Living much different.
Then my husband and I married and moved away and gained more weight. When we moved back for college/graduate school, I decided to get control of my weight and I joined weight watchers and got to 158-163. I kept it off for two years and then I gained a lot back when I was pg with my oldest. Lost it (within 10 lbs) and kept it off a couple years until my job changed and I was working in a job with lots of meetings with meals and travel. I started eating junk and then eventually decided to stay home with my oldest, had two more kids, and was struggling with everything. Weight piled on.
I've lost 20 or so lbs twice and regained it since 2003 but this is the most I have lost and longest I have kept it off. I have some things going on in my life right now and as much as I want to overeat, I think it's making me not eat much at all. Which is both good and bad.
04-23-2012, 12:06 PM
I was skinny up until my second child....I quit smoking & had a tubal ligation done...so I feel that triggered my over eating and also it is much harder now for me to lose weight...I just couldn't lose the weight from my second child and quiting smoking...(I am slowly losing it now...well, I have only lost 11 lbs, but i have been praying like crazy, exercising and eating approximately 1400 calories a day..)....
04-23-2012, 12:33 PM
I lost a lot of weight for my wedding in Sept. 2010, after we went to Paris/France for our honeymoon and though I ate whatever/drank a lot of wine, I didn't gain weight b/c we were walking several miles per day and weren't snacking b/w meals.
When we got home, I cut out the walking/exercising but kept up the eating/drinking. Wine each night, big pasta dinners etc. The weight started to creep back on and I told myself tomorrow, Monday, etc. to re-start and kept losing motivation until my friends wedding 10 months later - I had ballooned up almost 4 sizes. I was larger than I had been when I started working out for my own wedding...that was when I finally decided to make some life changes...
This cycle has happened to me so much in my life. I lose weight, start looking/feeling good, then start telling myself I can slack a little on eating/working out b/c I look good...and then I don't look good anymore LOL. I think I've finally managed to stop the cycle. This June will be 1 year into my journey...longer than I've ever managed before.
04-23-2012, 12:47 PM
I was a skinny child, then I was a curvy but healthy teen and young woman. I understand now that even then my eating was very disordered.
Then I went through h*ll, and came out much heavier. I lost it. Then I got pregnant. I'm not sorry for the weight I gained while pregnant, but she's 7 months old now, so it's time to peel it off, with self-love and lots of yoga and protein.
Edited because it censored me! Haha.
04-23-2012, 01:02 PM
for me... it was EatingEatingEating... and not exercising enough. Junk food, healthy food... too much of all of it. Being sick for awhile & bed-confined thru a few surgeries, consoling myself with "extra ice cream" etc... and then ... the whole "being a woman" thing, with the crazy lopsided PMS, and now Menopause... ODG, the hits just keep on coming!
But I'm exercising my "watch out!" muscle now. Noticing when I've had enough. Measuring, weighing, counting calories. It's a real PITA, but then again, so is being fat. :^: And we know the mantra "Choose your hard" :D
04-23-2012, 02:01 PM
I'm petite, so...
I was a chubby child and lost a size a year in high school to graduate at a size 3.
I started weight training and running in college and dropped to a children's size 12.
As an adult, I kind of stayed around a women's size 2 until I got pregnant and put on 80lbs! I lost it in about one year, but I still fluctuate between the same 10lbs, hoping I can get down 15lbs.
So, in short, pregnancy made me fat! :)
04-23-2012, 04:14 PM
For me, it was being inactive. I ate a lot of sweets and high calorie meals but I never gained weight because I exercised 5 days a week. Then I got really depressed, quit the dance team at school, but my diet was the same. I gained about 30 pounds over the summer. So, I was a size 4/6, 140 lbs at 15, now I'm 24 and I'm at 200. For a while, I was at 180, but when I went on antidepressants I gained 20 lbs.
04-23-2012, 05:29 PM
I was a skinny kid and a pretty skinny teenager. I stayed like that in college, though my shape changed a bit because I was drinking and eating crap, but I was exercising loads. I gradually started to gain weight when I got married and then moved overseas. It was easy because I didn't really feel like I had to make too much of an effort at attracting anyone and there were loads of yummy new foods to try. So I gained about 5 pounds a year, so it was noticeable but not that noticeable for a while because I gradually went up. :shrug:
04-23-2012, 10:13 PM
I was a really skinny child to the point where people thought my parents were starving me because I would eat so much when out to eat with other people or at school and such. My sister was also really skinny but not nearly as bony as me growing up she was also an incredibly picky eater where as I would eat anything and a lot of it. I loved food and I think when my metabolism changed my mindset around food did not.
When I was 13 I hit puberty and got a little round in the face and a bit of a belly but my sister stayed slim making me very self conscience since I didn't understand why there was such a huge difference between us. She managed to learn to eat till full and then stop where as I had learned a love of food and how to gorge myself.
When I was 16 I managed to lose the chubby roundness by doing a lot of walking to and from school, dance classes and just being generally a busy teenager. I reached my lowest weight of 118lbs when I was 16 and stayed there until I went to university. My first year in university I gained 10lbs which really upset me and I gained an additional 10lbs my second year. I managed to lose 10lbs the following summer and maintained a weight of 135-140lbs for the rest of university.
When I moved home with my parent old habits crept in and I gained weight up to 147lbs which at that point was my highest ever weight. The following year my boyfriend and I moved to Toronto and over the course of a year I put on another 10lbs bringing me to 157. This past year I have managed to gain another 10lbs bringing me up to 167lbs and over the last 2 months I have gained 3-5lbs making me about 170lbs. I am now considered overweight and would really like to lose it.
I have found the biggest factors in my weight gain are hectic schedules and a lack of energy. These past 2 years my job and stress level are probably the key to my weight gain and if I could find the time and energy to commit to my health the weight would just melt off. I can't believe I have let myself get to this weight I remember when 147lbs was embarrassing. I also remember when I was a teenager doing a project on eating disorders for health class and having the woman at the walk-in-clinic try to get me to sign up for the group meetings when I was doing research. (I didn't have an ED but apparently looked quite thin). I still thought I was fat at 118lbs and 5'7. I think I have warped my body image and relationship with food and just need to get my head screwed on straight and make this journey to a healthy weight a priority.