How is this for a reverse non scale victory - a nonscale loss
Last week I went to the mall to see if there were any swimsuits in cup sizes just to see how they would look. I was at Lord and Taylor. A sales associate asked if I needed help and I said "Yes, I'm trying to see if you have any suits with larger cup sizes - like for DD cups and bigger". She says yes, they have some on this rack (a few D cup suits that look more like B cups) and says, "And we also have a few cup size suits in the women's section." I ask, "Are those plus size suits." And she said, "Yes.".
Talk about going from feeling "Maybe I can wear a nice suit this year" to "She thinks I still need plus sizes, so I must look so big!" fast!!! Of course, I then take note that she's about 20 years old, no more than 5'1" tall and SUPER tiny build - probably wears a size 0 or smaller. I probably DO look plus sized to her.
Ah, perspective!!!! I'm between a size 8 and 10. A 1X swimsuit will fall off me! But to her - an 8-10 is huge too.
Last edited by berryblondeboys; 04-03-2012 at 01:35 PM.
I think very young girls/ladies think "normal" women's sizes are huge because many of them can wear those tiny junior's clothes. My coworker has a daughter that is the younger version of her. However, mom clearly wears a much bigger size than her tiny little teenage daughter, and you can see the difference in the mature development of a woman as she fills out. My coworker is very fit, and yet her daughter next to her is unbelievably small! Once again, just a perspective thing. Those teeny little ones will figure it out when everything develops!
Perspective is everything! I know that my own mental image of ME doesnt change much, everyone around me just shrinks or grows.
As an aside: The only place I have ever found cup size swimming suits that ACTUALLY fit and support my size is unfortunately Athleta. I say that because the suits are pricey but I was actually able to find a 32-34DD suit that was really truly 32-34DD. Also since tankinis are sold separately, I could get the bottoms that fit because most suits that fit a 32DD are HUGE through the hips on me. I am NOT proportional!!! You can usually choose between matching boy shorts, full coverage bottom or bikini (heh...no thanks, no way, not ever!) that match the top and the tankini tops are long enough to meet up with the bottoms.
Ouch. I know it's difficult for someone who has never been overweight to understand, but when you are clearly not a plus-sized person such comments sting a bit. I guess her thinking really isn't a surprise because her thought process seems to follow the thoughts of many clothing designers. Big chest = large size over all, small chest = small overall size (this is coming from a very flat chested overweight person). Maybe someday they will both realize the errors in their logic.
Ouch. I know it's difficult for someone who has never been overweight to understand, but when you are clearly not a plus-sized person such comments sting a bit. I guess her thinking really isn't a surprise because her thought process seems to follow the thoughts of many clothing designers. Big chest = large size over all, small chest = small overall size (this is coming from a very flat chested overweight person). Maybe someday they will both realize the errors in their logic.
One can only pray. Someday maybe I could find a button down shirt? Please?
But I do agree with Vex, she didnt direct you to plus size, you asked if there were plus suits in the womens dept. It doesnt follow that ALL the suits in the womens dept are plus size -
Did you happen to notice if there were any suits in about a size10 or 12 in "flat?" those are hard to find, too. Small bust does not mean small person! I guess we just have to laugh or we'd all just cry.
BBB - you've come way too far to give any credit to her comment. good luck with your quest for a swim suit. I'm sure you'll look fantastic!
Maybe she meant because you have big ones that a plus size would fit the girls better than the regular size one?(like you said the D's looked like B's)
I once went into Blame Betty and I bought my zombie dress which was a L and when I went to try on this monster dress the XXL didn't even fit me! That was insulting! Even at my heaviest I wasn't XXL, I was XL. blah! lol
Maybe she didn't assume you were looking for yourself???
OK this is true. My mind went immediately "there" as I guess I'm still not immune to feeling super big.
But then on the other hand, who would be looking for a suit for someone else? Though again, it could be my daughter (if I had one) and I might be looking for cup sizes for her and when I found some (if I found some) I could swing her by to check them out.
OK, tis true, but my mind still says she was thinking the opposite.
Did you happen to notice if there were any suits in about a size10 or 12 in "flat?" those are hard to find, too. Small bust does not mean small person! I guess we just have to laugh or we'd all just cry.
BBB - you've come way too far to give any credit to her comment. good luck with your quest for a swim suit. I'm sure you'll look fantastic!
Lin
Tis true - swimsuits are for the not flat and the not busty. Why????
And you are right... and it caught me off guard too! (And I did find one online. Hopefully it will be great!)
Perspective is everything! I know that my own mental image of ME doesnt change much, everyone around me just shrinks or grows.
As an aside: The only place I have ever found cup size swimming suits that ACTUALLY fit and support my size is unfortunately Athleta. I say that because the suits are pricey but I was actually able to find a 32-34DD suit that was really truly 32-34DD. Also since tankinis are sold separately, I could get the bottoms that fit because most suits that fit a 32DD are HUGE through the hips on me. I am NOT proportional!!! You can usually choose between matching boy shorts, full coverage bottom or bikini (heh...no thanks, no way, not ever!) that match the top and the tankini tops are long enough to meet up with the bottoms.
I was looking at Athleta, but ended up ordering a Fantasie suit. I'm larger than a DD in most bras. (I say most because sometimes I can fit a DD, but usually a DDD or G). It should arrive in a few days!
i don't think it was the clerk as much as it was the store. i'm a mere b cup, so i don't share your struggle..but i know girls who have big busts and unfortunately for most clothing stores: big bust = big person. so when you asked about larger cup size, she directed you to the only larger cup sizes they had: plus size.
just a thought! i saw your other thread on swimsuits and i would definitely not rank you as "plus size".
How is this for a reverse non scale victory - a nonscale loss
