100 lb. Club - Am i the only one that feels this way?




CHUNKEY_MUNKEY
03-25-2012, 06:11 AM
ok so here it is .... im still not comftable saying the number out loud ( that is never a good thing hence trying to loose some ) but here are my stats

5'6 size ,16 womens, weight ..... well into the two hundreds lets say about half way through it.

by no stretch of the imagination am i fit looking

but i dont feel very fat .... being well into the two hundreds i KNOW i am fat .... but i just dont feel that way i feel chunky like as in 30 lbs overweight but i just dont feel fat

im able to function decentley well i play sports ( i suck but i like to play )

i LOVE to get dressed up and go dancing evrey weekend and i mean dance not just stand there ....

i shop in all the regular size stores .... forever 21,charlette russe, H&M, NY&Company ( im the biggest size in there but i fit )

call me crazy but i just feel like evrey woman myself included is some sort of sexy at the size she is ... weather its 300lbs or 100lbs and people just struggle to fit into what is considered "correct"

am i deluded?? is this some sort of denial?? does evreyone else see me as fatter than i see myself?? sometimes i wonder if this is some sort of self defense mechanism on my part ... evreytime i get on a diet i sucsseed in getting down to a size 12 ( which for me with the vanity sizing is about 190 lbs )and i feel like i look great ... and then i get comftable eat evreything and enjoy myself and end up right back here seesawing to keep in my size 16s

why cant i ever seem to feel the drive to want to be better than 190lbs ... ? that seems to be my .... "im comftable i dont need this diet because im too good/happy enough/this is realistic for it" weight


astrophe
03-25-2012, 09:46 AM
I'm that way. I don't have any particular body image woe motivating me. It's all health.

When I cruise somewhere between 180-200? I think/feel pretty cute so I don't have a HUGE motivation getting me to 165. My PCOS symptoms reduce greatly so I don't have that any more either.

I don't know what to say other than I've been in those shoes. Had I stayed there I would probably be happy there but I struggle with maintaining skills and here I am losing again.

I guess I'll worry about it when I get there and maybe take a maintain break at 200?

I'm not sure.

A.

PrincessAmy
03-25-2012, 10:22 AM
I know how exactly how you feel but my range is 175-180 I get there and feel cute but not hot lol and before I know it I'm 199! I wont go over 200 again. And I have no idea why I've done this...cause I don't even want to be that size. I'm determined not to stop though. Maybe make a mini goal until you get to your ultimate goal that surpasses your comfy weight like mine is I will be 160 by my bday! Its like a dream for me lol I wish I had more advice on this but atleast you know your not alone :)


Vex
03-25-2012, 02:10 PM
Yep, me too.

That's why it took me so long to decide to lose weight - I feel fine. I mean, yeah I KNOW I'm way over what I need to be, but somehow it never bothered me enough to DO anything about it.

It's actually rather a petty thing that made me start losing - a trip to Universal Studios this summer, and I knew there was no way I'd fit on everything there.

Some times there are slaps in the face we can't hide from or ignore.

qtapostolic
03-26-2012, 10:19 AM
You've lost over 60 lbs!:D I bet you do feel and look cute!
I'm only 5'3 so my comfy zone is in the 160's (far from that right now) everytime I've been there (since being this tall) I fit into a 12 and stop paying attention to what's going in my mouth. Then I gain back everything I lost plus some. I wanted this time to be different because the thought of losing weight and ending up bigger than 238 terrified me! So, I've been prepping myself that my goal is 130 and maintenance is a neccessity!! Personally, I can't let myself get comfortable again, I can't ever say, "this is good enough" or I'll get into trouble all over again. This is a big reason I love 3FC, there are so many fantastic ladies who've lost their weight and they are maintaining by still counting calories and staying accountable here. They inspire me and I know I want to be like them in a year or so!
I'd say, "Go for the Dream Weight, You are worth it and You can do it!"

XLMuffnTop
03-26-2012, 10:43 AM
It sounds like you carry your weight well and it's very "compact!" I'm 5'7" and am down to 237 from 252 and just got out of my 24w jeans. I was down to 219 a few years back and was still in size 20 jeans!

I guess because of this, I can't really say I feel the way you do. I can tell my weight inhibits a lot of things, although after 15 pounds I can already tell that's changing. It's wonderful your weight isn't keeping you from doing all the things you love. So many people wait to "start living life" until they're at a certain weight, myself included. We miss out on so much doing this and you're not!

Maybe you could have your numbers checked by a doctor, cholesterol, BP, etc. and get a full physical. You could strive for better overall health regardless of your jean size. Being closer to the "healthy" weight range could help that.

CHUNKEY_MUNKEY
03-26-2012, 01:19 PM
XLMuffintop

your right my weight is very compact ... i think that is what made me not realize how much i actually weigh .... i am happy with the way i look when i get dressed in the morning unfourtunatley the size 5 girl standing next to me at forever 21 makes me feel fat but without her there i feel fine .... lol

dont get me wrong there are definitley times i feel fat , like when im at the club and i notice evreyone is a size 2 and im amoungst a very small handful of size 16's there ... i will say i feel even borderline inferior to the other girls ... but that wont stop me from going to these events with my other girlfriends and such ....

runningfromfat
03-26-2012, 03:05 PM
There is NOTHING wrong with being happy with your body at a higher weight!

For me, when I was at my highest weight I was unhealthy. My joints ached, I didn't have enough energy, I had lots of insomnia, and other medical problems. So for me further weight loss was obvious. I also have family members who have had cancer, heart attacks, high blood pressure etc... all are things I want to avoid.

It sounds like you have an amazing outlook on life and that dancing has to be great for your figure too. ;)

But why not focus on your health instead of your looks? You might want to send InsideMe a message because I remember her posting something similar when she was starting out. There's a lot you can prevent now by dealing with weight loss and I can tell you health issues that I didn't even realize that I had disappeared with further weight loss! The amount of energy/lack of joint pain really is tremendous.

Ultimately, it's up to you but I've been infinitely more successful focusing on small changes to improve my health (like cutting out sugar, increasing physical activity etc) rather than clothes. Shoot, I'm pretty happy NOW about how I look but I've seen a big reduction in knee pain in just the last 10lbs and am hoping that it'll be almost gone in the next 20lbs. :D

I know you're young but trust me, it's SO much easier to deal with your habits NOW. Work on incorporation better foods, portion sizes, more activity etc (although it does sound like you're already pretty active now, which is GREAT!). Deal with the habits first and the weight loss will come. But it might be a lot easier for you to do that instead of focusing entirely on the number on the scale.

Trazey34
03-26-2012, 03:57 PM
I agree! My self worth was never ever tied to size. I never understood how people could they were "bad" and conversely, "good" due to how much they weigh LOL

That being said, at 323 pounds, there was definitely a lot of "above the neck" viewing going on. I always had perfect hair and makeup, nails, etc., because that's what I looked at. In my mind, I was "a bit heavy" but not that bad. Reality would smack me in the face when I saw photos, etc, but I never FELT enormous!

Justwant2Bhealthy
03-26-2012, 06:45 PM
I think everyone's goal weight should be where they feel comfortable. Where you can do whatever you want to do and feel comfortable doing it, just like you said. Nothing wrong with that. That is exactly what I am aiming for: not a specific weight or size, just small goals along the way -- I will reassess my end goal as I go along.

My first major goal was to get back into a size 18, and I did that on top some time ago -- now, I want the bottom to get there (of course by then, my top will likely be down to a 14-16). When I feel comfortable and can walk well, and do whatever I want without feeling pain or hearing cracks in my knees, that will be my "comfort zone" -- and then I'll go for maintenance.

Originally, my biggest goal was to be healthier as my moniker says, then second -- to feel comfortable in my own skin and body. I'm glad you know what and where you want to be; now you can just enjoy it ... :D

silentarctic
03-26-2012, 08:15 PM
Nothing wrong with feeling great even if you're not at a perfect weight. I'm obese and I have moments where I feel great about me too. Not all the time, and other than when it comes to say flirting with guys I don't let my appearance hold me back, I am in step aerobics and if there was a good rec league for womens basketball I would play (but there isn't... :( ) I go out often, not EVERY weekend but I am a DANCER when I do go out. I am huge but I still have fun, I don't hide whats the point to that.

I don't Karaoke but honestly I think even if I ever am thin and stereotypically attractive I won't ever have the guts to do . I don't mind being on a dance floor but I hate being the center of attention, i always have. At least since I was a teenager. Developed mega stage fright, I don't think being thin etc would really change that. Maybe getting older will?

Really though I think its great you don't let weight interfere with your life. I don't either and I am way heavier. Whats the point in waiting? If I don't lose the weight I'll be sitting here at 40 regretting that I didn't have fun in my 30's. They way I regret spending my 20's sitting at a computer nearly 24/7.

linJber
03-26-2012, 09:57 PM
I think many of us have felt the same. My reality check only came when I saw photos. Otherwise, I felt I looked fine. My highest weight never kept me from doing what I wanted. And I never had any weight related health issues. None. So what is the reason to lose? Just knowing it has to be better in the long run to weigh in the "normal" range, (or close to it,) I guess.

I'll say this, though. Being more than 90 pounds lighter has made a huge difference in things I never realized were "wrong" before. The things that I could do before are just easier now. From simple things like up and down the stairs from the 2nd floor to the basement doing laundry, to following the general contractor around a job site at work, to getting up off the floor at the gym. It is all easier now. That has to be better, right?

Most of you who posted are young. Learn now that you need to do this for your health. Don't yo-yo up and down for the rest of your life. Adopt healthy changes and keep them. You will thank yourself 30 or 40 years from now when you're my age.

Lin

InsideMe
03-27-2012, 01:22 PM
I've always liked my body too, even when I was a size 16 or 18. I'm finding now I'm becoming more critical of it but trying to still love it....But, Yeah photo's don't lie! I'm very much the same way, my mind tends to play tricks on me. Now that I can also fit into those clothing stores, I saw a pick of me this weekend and I'm like wow I'm still "chubby" not fat now but "chubby" where I didn't see it in the mirror before I went out. I think the best indicator is to just check your percentage of body fat. The fat jiggles, the muslce makes you lean and clothing sits and fits much better. Plus do this to be healthy not to fit into a particular size. How do you look naked? That's what I do, I still see the fat that needs to go that could be detrimental to my health down the road because I carry it all in my stomach and stomach fat goes skin deep around your organs....so not just getting rid of most it but also improving my health is very important. :)

CHUNKEY_MUNKEY
03-27-2012, 04:50 PM
yes i know the health is a very important aspect of loosing weight ....

im trying to use that as motivation to do this ....

grrrrr...... =(

MARLA26
03-27-2012, 05:43 PM
We cannot delude ourselves into thinking we are thin and look fabulous. We are not thin.

We cannot be a runway model at our size. We are missing out a lot in life by being so overweight. We are limiting our dating and job opportunities.

We will have a much better time and look a lot better in our clothes when we weigh around 130 pounds.
And we will be a lot healthier. We will live longer.

I know. I am at 188 pounds and am going back down to 130... But I plan on staying down there. No yo-yo for me.

To be the best you can be, you must make up your mind once and for all to be thin also. And when you get down to 130...go into maintenance.

Most of us on this forum need to make a complete lifestyle change. Being overweight is not a good lifestyle for any of us here.

:hug:

PinkLotus
03-27-2012, 06:30 PM
We cannot delude ourselves into thinking we are thin and look fabulous. We are not thin.

We cannot be a runway model at our size. We are missing out a lot in life by being so overweight. We are limiting our dating and job opportunities.

We will have a much better time and look a lot better in our clothes when we weigh around 130 pounds.
And we will be a lot healthier. We will live longer.

I know. I am at 188 pounds and am going back down to 130... But I plan on staying down there. No yo-yo for me.

To be the best you can be, you must make up your mind once and for all to be thin also. And when you get down to 130...go into maintenance.

Most of us on this forum need to make a complete lifestyle change. Being overweight is not a good lifestyle for any of us here.

:hug:

No one here is deluding themselves. People are talking about feeling good about themselves at a certain weight/size, and there's nothing wrong with that. Loving oneself and feeling good about oneself are things that we are all entitled to, and we all SHOULD feel like that, even if we aren't "thin".
I have no desire to be a runway model or 130lbs. If you do, then that's great and I wish you all the best. For me, I was happy at 170lbs and according to my doctor, healthy as can be...160 is my ultimate goal (and it's a healthy weight according to BMI), but I'd be happy at 170.
And most of us (if not all of us) on this forum are here because we are making a lifestyle change.

CHUNKEY_MUNKEY
03-27-2012, 07:19 PM
im not deluded by any means and as pink lotus said i dont think any of us here are .... we are all here for advise support and to share experiances .... because we all know we need to make life style changes.

i am at very similar stats to pink lotus as far as height starting weight and goal and i agree i dont want to be runway thin .... i dont want to be a 130 pounds ... if thats for you then please do it !! and be happy to have achived something you wanted ..... but its not for me ,

i think curvy is womanly and sexy and i like it
id be VERY happy at 170 ... i would feel perfect at 160 but at 170 id be happy ! extatic even

so i did the full picture thing .... i see what evreyone is saying .. the camera dosent lie (&*%$# !) lol ... i dont want to settle for being ehhh ... looking i must and will do this ! and i will post the "before" picture proudly , because the "after" picture will reflect all my hard work ... it CAN be done !



and hopefully by my birthday this year i can have some nicer arms and shoulders ....

ugh =/ they look like a line backers shoulders and i thought i looked so cute today !

roxmysox
03-27-2012, 08:28 PM
I'm 5'2(ish) and my goal weight is 170. Based on a previous weight loss attempt several years ago, I expect to be a size 12 at that weight. I am very large breasted and curvy. I don't see a problem in the world with aspiring for a goal that others may not feel (for whatever reason) is "appropriate" for YOUR body.

Just do you. That's all we can really do, anyway.

InsideMe
03-28-2012, 09:38 AM
Chunky you are a curvy sexy diva, so work it girl :) Just keep going by how you feel, and seriously take a good hard look in the mirror naked. OMG, that does it for me all the time. I know I'll never be model thin (I've 2 kids too) but I can still grab handfuls of fat on my belly and it's not loose skin, so for me, healthy wise, it has to go so I don't have a heart attack, or heart disease down the road. For me it's hard not to look in the mirror now (cause I've always liked how I looked) and say hey I'm look great now (I do) but to let it go to my head and think I don't need to do this lifestyle anymore....that's where I screw up and I gain it all back and I don't notice the weight coming back on and then I'm back to the beginning. So for me it's to look at myself realistically with love, objectively but not being mean to myself and say to myself that I need to do this to be healthy....the nake thing in front of the mirror works wonders! OR sit down naked and take a pic! OUCH! LOL

mammasita
03-28-2012, 09:46 AM
XLMuffintop

your right my weight is very compact ... i think that is what made me not realize how much i actually weigh .... i am happy with the way i look when i get dressed in the morning unfourtunatley the size 5 girl standing next to me at forever 21 makes me feel fat but without her there i feel fine .... lol

dont get me wrong there are definitley times i feel fat , like when im at the club and i notice evreyone is a size 2 and im amoungst a very small handful of size 16's there ... i will say i feel even borderline inferior to the other girls ... but that wont stop me from going to these events with my other girlfriends and such ....

I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN!

At my highest and even now, I look in the mirror and think "I look really cute today" then I get somewhere and see the "skinny" girls and it just deflates my confidence.

A couple years ago my friends and I went to try on bridesmaids dresses. Oh how I wanted to cry standing next to them looking at ourselves in those "all over, full length, front and back, show EVERYTHING" mirrors.

runningfromfat
03-28-2012, 10:42 AM
CHUNKEY_MUNKEY- I think you look great in your picture but you'll also look great with further weight loss too. ;) It all comes in how you dress yourself and your self-confidence.

I also have to point out. Curves and weight are not necessarily related. Actually, as I've lost weight I've become quite a bit curvier. In terms of proportions my waist is a lot smaller now and waist to bust and waist to hip ration are at the lower end of 0.7's (and are even more extreme if you take my underbust instead of my waist) whereas before they were closer to 0.9 (at my highest weight).

MARLA26- I have to disagree. Yes, there are issues that you need to deal with when you're overweight/obese. Trust me I've dealt with them and still deal with some of them. But, when it comes to dating I'm not sure if I'd want to spend the rest of my life with someone that couldn't get past my weight as an issue. DH met me at my highest prepregnancy weight and I have to say that in a way that makes me really happy. I know he looked past my weight and saw me for who I was and loved me because of that.

Not everyone's purpose in life is to be thin. I'm an inch shorter than you and have no desire to get to 130lbs. Actually, I might not even get to the 140lbs on my ticker. It's something I haven't decided yet. Instead, I put my focus on having a fit healthy body. One that is easily maintainable for me that can lead to a long life to spend me with my kids and family. There's no need for me to look like a runway model. I just want to be at a weight that keeps me healthy and puts less pressure on my knees. ;)

CHUNKEY_MUNKEY
03-28-2012, 03:24 PM
Inside me ... omg sit down and take a picture is bad enough .... naked? no no im not ready for that yet ... thats how i KNOW i need to loose some weight .... omg that actually sounds scarier than the words "Pool Party" lol ....


Mamasita lol im glad i wasnt the only one who felt that way ..... i always thought i had some sort of secret i hate skinny people complex but after evreyone elses input i feel a little more normal now ... fyi im sure you must have looked nice in your bridesmaid dress too ... i think as women were quick to compare ... the things society is doing to us ....

Runningfromfat i know , loosing weight and curves are not always hand in hand .... im hoping to lose weight to enhance my curves ... but i just wanted to point out that i never wanted to try to loose weight to the point i became a stick ... some people are into that look ... im not ,

And i also have met my significant other already , even though im sure he would like me to loose some weight i know he likes me for me , and thats the kind of guy who will stick around forever .... im actually really proud of myself in that department i never have a hard time locating a boyfriend , any guy whos worth anyones time should like them for who they are not what they look like ... Looks dont last forever !

XLMuffnTop
03-28-2012, 03:45 PM
We cannot delude ourselves into thinking we are thin and look fabulous. We are not thin.

We cannot be a runway model at our size. We are missing out a lot in life by being so overweight. We are limiting our dating and job opportunities.

We will have a much better time and look a lot better in our clothes when we weigh around 130 pounds.
And we will be a lot healthier. We will live longer.

I know. I am at 188 pounds and am going back down to 130... But I plan on staying down there. No yo-yo for me.

To be the best you can be, you must make up your mind once and for all to be thin also. And when you get down to 130...go into maintenance.

Most of us on this forum need to make a complete lifestyle change. Being overweight is not a good lifestyle for any of us here.

:hug:

Um... ouch?

I don't want to be thin, I solely want to be healthy. I met my husband while overweight and he's a better guy than the type most of my thin friends date.

Thin and beautiful don't go hand in hand. There are many components that make up beautiful including personality and attitude. It seems like you're putting more emphasis on the thin part rather than the healthy aspect of weight loss. My view is reversed in part because my body is not meant to be "thin". I am broad shouldered and have wide hips (bone structure only, not including fat :lol:)

I'm not going to delude myself into thinking I can't have a great life, great lifestyle even if over weight. Again, there's no reason to STOP living life because you're over weight. No one is going to place a scale outside my door and say "Sorry fatso! Back inside! Your fat butt is fattening up society and making us look bad!"

I know I've probably over simplified this posters comments but it just got under my skin that so much emphasis was on "thin" and health was thrown in almost offhandedly.

InsideMe
03-28-2012, 03:52 PM
We cannot delude ourselves into thinking we are thin and look fabulous. We are not thin.

We cannot be a runway model at our size. We are missing out a lot in life by being so overweight. We are limiting our dating and job opportunities.

We will have a much better time and look a lot better in our clothes when we weigh around 130 pounds.
And we will be a lot healthier. We will live longer.

I know. I am at 188 pounds and am going back down to 130... But I plan on staying down there. No yo-yo for me.

To be the best you can be, you must make up your mind once and for all to be thin also. And when you get down to 130...go into maintenance.

Most of us on this forum need to make a complete lifestyle change. Being overweight is not a good lifestyle for any of us here.

:hug:

I don't want to jump down your throat but your way of thinking reminds me a lot of when I had an eating disorder. Please stop thinking this way, it's a self perception of yourself that your not good enough until you hit 130lbs. You are good enough no matter what the scale says. It's hard to break this way of thinking but it really isn't healthy and I struggle with the words you wrote in that post cause it triggers me back to a time in my life when I did nothing but binge and purging, I thought those things as I put my fingers down my throat.....it's not self love it's self hatred. Loving you at no matter what size you are is key, but changing to be healthy is what's needed. Not to be a certain weight on the scale or size in clothing....Please stop thinking this way, it's not healthy at all :hug:

WebWoman
03-28-2012, 04:27 PM
We cannot delude ourselves into thinking we are thin and look fabulous. We are not thin.

We cannot be a runway model at our size. We are missing out a lot in life by being so overweight. We are limiting our dating and job opportunities.

We will have a much better time and look a lot better in our clothes when we weigh around 130 pounds.
And we will be a lot healthier. We will live longer.

I know. I am at 188 pounds and am going back down to 130... But I plan on staying down there. No yo-yo for me.

To be the best you can be, you must make up your mind once and for all to be thin also. And when you get down to 130...go into maintenance.

Most of us on this forum need to make a complete lifestyle change. Being overweight is not a good lifestyle for any of us here.

:hug:

You hit it right on the head, especially about missing out on dating and job opportunities. I'm 50-something and am dating again - Men, both young and old are very visual creatures and always want the pretty, thin girls no matter what THEY look like. Although it's not fair, looks are the thing that attract them initially, and they don't want to be seen with someone who their friends might make fun of (fat is a big no-no.).

Likewise, studies have shown that being overweight may hurt your job opportunities when interviewing with similarly qualified thinner applicants.

Most importantly, do it for your health. You may feel great now, but wait until you're in your late 30's and up and your BP, sugar level, Cholesterol, etc. labs come back too high.

I was at 184 (size 16) and am heading straight to 140 where I intend to stay. Life is too short to spend it overweight and unhealthy.

guacamole
03-28-2012, 07:30 PM
To me thin and healthy go hand in hand. So, yes, I want to be thin and yes, I want to be healthy! My goal weight happens to be 130lbs, however, if I were over 5'5, I would probably pick something higher. I am not looking to be a runway model - I don't think there is such a thing as a 5'5 runway model anyway. However, I am looking to feel good and look good - both are important to me and I make no apologies about it.

When I was over 200lbs and even in the 190s and 180s - I simply did not feel good. Because I did not feel good, I did not look good. I was lethargic, had high blood pressure, couldn't bend to tie my shoelaces, got chub rub between my thighs in the summer heat, got winded going up and down the stairs, etc. It wasn't pretty. I have no idea how I would have felt at 200lbs in my 20s - maybe youth would have overcome the weight and I would have felt fantastic and had no motivation to lose weight. I can tell you that becoming overweight in my mid 30s was no picnic, health-wise. The older you become, the harder it is for your body to carry around the excess weight with no consequences.

I agree that we should not hate ourselves for being overweight, though. Someone on 3fc had the quote that it is better to love yourself thin than hate yourself thin. I agree with that, although I am guilty of sometimes hating myself, or at least, hating the way I look and the the way I have let myself go. Sometimes a little acknowledgement that we are wonderful no matter what our size is necessary! ;) Thanks for this thread.

Amy23
03-29-2012, 09:28 AM
Up until I hit 307 I never felt "huge" either. I felt big and chunky, sure, but never like I was massively overweight. Until very recently I could walk long distances, and fast, without tiring (though when I hit the 307 mark my back started to really hurt when I exercised). But then I would see photos of myself and, like Trazey34 mentioned, reality would smack me in the face.

Sometimes we just don't see ourselves as other people do. I mean, from candid photos of myself I know what I must look like to other people: really fat. But when I look in the mirror that is not who I see. I don't know, I suppose our minds are just really good at protecting us from the truth. Mine got me this far!

That said, it sounds like you do tend to carry your weight well if you're comfortably fitting into that size clothing.

Trazey34
03-30-2012, 03:28 PM
ack! I can't look good til i'm 130 lbs??? eeek I better tell my husband (who is crazy hot by the way) that he was a FOOL to love me at 300 pounds just as much as he does at 160 pounds!! And I better call all the places that offered me jobs that I ended up turning down...idiots, offering me work when I was fat!! LOL

Sorry, I read stuff like that and think "don't put YOUR insecurities on to everyone else" Lots of people are happy (and not fake happy, the real kind, the kind that goes all the way through) at XYZ weight, and don't have to see a magic number for it suddenly to be "OK" for them to be happy, feel pretty, feel self-worth. It's nonsense to think otherwise.

Munchy
03-30-2012, 03:47 PM
I don't want to jump down your throat but your way of thinking reminds me a lot of when I had an eating disorder. Please stop thinking this way, it's a self perception of yourself that your not good enough until you hit 130lbs. You are good enough no matter what the scale says. It's hard to break this way of thinking but it really isn't healthy and I struggle with the words you wrote in that post cause it triggers me back to a time in my life when I did nothing but binge and purging, I thought those things as I put my fingers down my throat.....it's not self love it's self hatred. Loving you at no matter what size you are is key, but changing to be healthy is what's needed. Not to be a certain weight on the scale or size in clothing....Please stop thinking this way, it's not healthy at all :hug:

I was thinking the exact same thing. At 5 feet, I'm certainly not a runway model, nor am I on the thin end of the spectrum. What nutritional therapy taught me was that I was a great person and beautiful regardless of how much I weigh.
I got happy and confident and lost that little voice that told me that I wasn't good enough. I exercise, I eat right, and I'm happy. I'm not as tiny as I was when I was starving myself and lifting and running for hours a day, but I love myself so much more.

CHUNKEY_MUNKEY
03-31-2012, 05:26 AM
ack! I can't look good til i'm 130 lbs??? eeek I better tell my husband (who is crazy hot by the way) that he was a FOOL to love me at 300 pounds just as much as he does at 160 pounds!! And I better call all the places that offered me jobs that I ended up turning down...idiots, offering me work when I was fat!! LOL

Sorry, I read stuff like that and think "don't put YOUR insecurities on to everyone else" Lots of people are happy (and not fake happy, the real kind, the kind that goes all the way through) at XYZ weight, and don't have to see a magic number for it suddenly to be "OK" for them to be happy, feel pretty, feel self-worth. It's nonsense to think otherwise.

all i can say to this is :hug:

MrsTee
03-31-2012, 05:46 AM
We cannot delude ourselves into thinking we are thin and look fabulous. We are not thin.


Can I just break that down - Thin does NOT equal look fabulous. There are plenty of attractive ladies who are not THIN - and there are plenty of THIN ladies who do NOT look fabulous.
I think you have been brain washed.........