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03-05-2003, 04:51 PM
Here we go... this is a small group of ladies (I use that term loosely :D) who help each other through the jouney of weight loss and all of life's ups and downs with encouragement, humor and caring. Please join us - we would love to have you post with us.

03-05-2003, 05:00 PM
Man, it didn't take long to get to the new thread...what was that, a week and a half?

I just had some yummy Indian food as a birthday meal--I LOVE that stuff. Now its time to take a post prandial stroll.

03-05-2003, 05:47 PM
Hi Ladies,

I just barely got the new thread started, then the phone went out in the whole area. That happens out here in the sticks.

Happy Birthday, Kat!! - Are you close to 40 yet, or not talkin? I had to look up "prandial". For those of you who also had no clue to it's meaning, it means "of or relating to a meal" Hmmmm I bet you've wanted to work that into the conversation for a while, huh? How about this - my weight gain was prandial.... :D Hope you have had a wonderful birthday, Kat. You deserve it!

Essey - I can surely understand your frustration over the job situation. Maybe it would be best to just find something else now while there is still money coming in. Easier said than done, I know.

Hello also to Carree, Donna, Julie and Ruth. :wave:

Back in January when I started over with WW, I made a new list of reasons to get the weight off. I looked it over today and although improved health is a definite incentive, there are also some reasons that made me laugh. But they are true! Like, I want to be thinner than a certain extended family member who thinks she is waaayyy smaller than me, even though the difference is not all that much - less than 2 sizes. Anyway, I also remembered the pantyhose incident and that gave me another reason to keep on trying. You guys are a great incentive, too.


03-06-2003, 12:02 AM

Thanks for pointing out fun reasons to keep on keeping on. I do have one niggling little one in my back pocket--I want to send a skinny pic of me to my butthead ex and really rub it in--especially with anice little note letting him know that I'm (will be in a bit over a year) bringing in 40G/year. *grin*

As for the birthday, I'm turning 36 and am thrilled to be approaching 40. I loved turning 30 and I bet 40 will be even better!

03-06-2003, 09:02 AM
Hey ladies!

Jan: Like the idea of "sticking it to a relative!" Unfortunately, the one I would like to rub it in to is dead. He was my mom's brother and called me fat and ugly ugly names my whole life. At my graduation party where there were friends, teachers etc besides family, he said I was a fat cow and to get out of the food line as I didn't need any. The man was evil and is probably burning in **** right now, but even as sick as he was, I would NEVER wish that fate on anyone.

MissFrog: I hope you look at 50 the way you do 40. I turn 50 in Sept (part of the reason for losing), and don't mind the number so much as it is a :censored: to get old! Everything quits working right, your boobs fall south of the Mason Dixon, as well as your butt and your arches! :lol: All the celebrities you grew up with are dropping like flies and your new choices flounce around like they just bounced off the Chicken Ranch.

I had dgs for almost all day yesterday. I sat for him in the am, went to the mall and did my walk and came home and she called and asked if I could come and get him. She had a migraine and was vomiting so out I trooped again. He didn't want to leave his mom until Nonny bribed him with his favorite; a trip to TCBY for "pink ice cream with M and M's." You know us grannies, we let the kid do stuff the mom would kill us for and I let him ride in my car with the window down so he could put his little hand out. I kept asking if he was cold and he would say, "No, I not!" Poor little guy wanted it down so when we got to Jack's plant to pick him up he could yell, "surprise" to his granddad, but fell asleep 1/2 mile before we got there! We took him where he wanted to eat for dinner, "Cwacker Bawal" and boy he ate like a trooper. The one thing bad that happened (though it cracked up the whole restaurant!) was they dimmed the lights. Now T is afraid of the dark so when that happened, he thought they were turning them out and yelled, "WHO TURNED OUT THE LIGHTS?" Hard to believe the little stinker is only 2 1/2!

I have to finish posting so I can go downstairs, do the morning chores, and torture my lower body with resistance training this am!


short & sassy
03-06-2003, 09:38 AM

KAT, happy birthday!!! Wow, I like your reason that you gave for losing weight. Wouldn't it be great to be a fly on the wall when he got that letter and saw your picture. Talk about a visual!!

JANA, great idea to write down your reasons for wanting to lose weight. Probably something that I should do.

I have wanted to organize my photos for years. I wanted to start scrapbooking, but I just don't have the time. So, I just decided to put them in regular photo albums. It is still very time consuming. Arranging them in chronological order can be difficult after so much time has gone by.I've been able to get close by using either the home we were in or the camera I was using to group the photos. I have completed 4 albums and they probably contain over 750 photos. They now range from 1975 to 1990. Wow, just 13 more years to go!! But over half of those are already in books, I just have to go through them and find the photos that my dds have taken and replace them. That won't be too hard to do since I was using an APS camera. (The camera that prints an index card of the photos on each roll)

DONNA, sounds like you had a fun evening with the grandson. I hope your daughter is feeling better.

ESSIE, I will keep you in my prayers with your job situation.

Well, I need to get ready for school. I'll check in with you later.


03-06-2003, 12:09 PM
Hooray...I'm officially 36! *doing the nekkid happy dance*
One year closer to meeting imporant life goals, and one year further away from unhappy, unsatisfying, painful old experiences and memories. ;D

I realized that I never answered the question about my handle--FROPVD stands for Flow Restricted Oxygen Powered Ventilation Device. Its a device we use to mechanically ventilate (breathe) for patients in an emergency setting. It used to have the nice simple name of "demand valve" but the powers that be decided to give it that ridiculous name. I thought it silly, took it as a handle as a joke, and it stuck. 9 years later I answer to "Fro" as easily as my real name. *grin* No frogs involved in the handle whatsoever, although I do have a tree frog photo pasted over my face on my hospital ID badge. *lol*

03-06-2003, 12:42 PM
Kat: As usual, I am old and senile and didn't see your user name correctly. Sorry! Happy Happy birthday by the way! Oh, to be 36 again.....Nah, that would mean the kids were still in the house! :lol: I do hope your birthday is a very special one. Today is my niece's 12th birthday.

For all you other ladies. I hope today is an incredible OP day for you. You all take care!


03-06-2003, 12:48 PM
*lol* I sincerely doubt that you are senile, and the 50s are NOT old. :D I actually thought it was funny, especially in light of my name badge photo. (I change it periodically...for a while it was of Einstein when he was in his 30s)

03-06-2003, 03:16 PM
Dang, a person leaves for a little while and there are a bunch of new posts! I love it!

Kat (Fro)- You crack me up - you really do! Who else but you would have a handle like that, and get it to stick?? I never minded my age, either, but have to admit the body does change quite a bit. Especially about the saggy boobs. I say my bra size is a 44 LONG - Ha Ha Ha!! And my hands look like my mothers. Which ain't all bad - she was a hard working woman!

Donna - So sorry you had to put up with that peice of crap uncle! Why do some people feel that insults are the way to help someone else change - and I betcha anything this guy wasn't exactly Mr. America himself. It's usually the slimy weidos who think they know how to improve others.

Ruth - You are making such good progress with the photos! Your family will thank you someday for taking the time now to organize all of them.

Essey - Hope things are fine at your house.

Carree -don't make me come after you!! :D Where in the world are you and why haven't you checked in with us?? We miss you!

Got all my shopping done today and have a roast with potatoes and carrots in the crock pot. The house smells yummy! Tomorow is the big party, so younger dd and I have some preparations to do tonight for that.

Ciao bellas,

03-07-2003, 09:39 AM
Good morning ladies.

I only have a minute as I have to go and sit for the dgs again today. Jana knows how I hate to do that! :lol:

Jana: Hope you and Katie and the family have a great time with her party. Don't eat too much cake and other junk I am sure the teens will have!

Kat: How is the ole psych rotation going? I was a psych major in college and worked later in a facility with mostly nonviolent developmentally disabled, but we had this one lovely lady, Lola, who was bi-polar and whoowhee. She would turn on you in a minute and brother was she strong. I used more 5 point restraint with her than with anyone. When she was up, she was such an adorable woman though.

I keep hoping it will warm up today. It is supposed to be in the 60's and 70's tomorrow and the sun IS shining today.

Well, I gotta run. Everyone have a great day!


03-07-2003, 01:25 PM
Man, 60s and 70s? I wish! We were at -15 again last night, and my apt. is a sieve, so that means it was bloody cold inside as well. I can't wait for mud season to arrive, because it means warm weather will not be far behind.

The psych clinical is going well, though we missed it this week due to instructor illness--I'm stuck trying to figure out what area to target in my care plan for my psychotic patient. I've not yet seen him do anything untoward, although he does tend to emulate the staff, and does it well enough that he might be mistaken for one of them if you didn't know better. Of course, I've only had a chance to work with him one on one twice, and he was quite lucid both times. It is an interesting place...one man managed to sneak up behind me and started fondling my barrette...I handled it calmly enough and thanked him for the compliment on it, but I still want to know how he snuck up behind me--I'm just glad he was only interested in my hair adornment!

03-08-2003, 08:17 AM
Hi Ladies,

Kat - Be glad it was only the barrette he fondled! :D It will be interesting to see how his personality unfolds...

Donna - It is supposed to be warm here today, too. We are all so needy for a warm day! I plan to spend as much of it outside as possible.

Well, the party was very loud, but they were really having a good time, and were unusually neat with the snacks and stuff. One of the boys was the DJ, and brought his strobe light and big speakers. It kind of took me back a little, lol. The 6 girls who spent the night are in there now talking it all over - one of them has to leave soon - and the things they say are so funny! Boys, clothes, and music are the main topics now, just as they were in the 60's with my friends and me. It never changes, does it??

Have a good Saturday!

03-08-2003, 09:34 AM
Hi Everyone and a big welcome to Essey!

So sorry I haven't posted in awhile. This thread is now jumpin', and I am way behind in reading all of the entries.

Happy Birthday Kat! I do believe this is THE YEAR for you! You will reach your goals both weightwise and career as well! Just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Remember....the time goes by anyway.

I am just so tired when I get home from work. I have survived a year and a half with the boss from ****. God has given me favor in his eyes, and he seems to be mellowing a bit. But my brain is on overload, and some nights I don't even go to the computer to read the threads, and that is not like me. I am still very thankful to have a job, and also that DH has a job. He was out of work for almost two years.

Okay, also I am so very weary of the WINTER THAT WON'T GO AWAY here in New England. ENOUGH ALREADY!. This last storm just did us all in.

The sun is out today, and it is a new day.

God Bless All,

03-08-2003, 11:54 AM
Hi everyone!
Beautiful day but more rain and snow on the way. Suppose to start warming up near the end of next week. I hope so this is getting depressing. Maybe I will get the hubby to take me out for a ride to get out of the house. Nothing else here. I am starting some classes next week. One night I am doing a Microsoft Office class and on Saturday a class so that I can voluteer at the local abused woman shelter. That is my passion right now.

Have a good weekend everyone.

03-09-2003, 08:32 AM
Good morning ladies!

Essey: Hello to you! I worked at a YWCA abuse shelter several years ago and it is certainly interesting. You will find that many of these women still want to go back to the abuse. Our location was secret though spouses and boyfriends would find the building they could not get upstairs, but these women would see them downstairs and want to go talk to them! Amazing how the mind can be brainwashed. Good luck on you classes.

Carree: I quit my job in August because my boss's daughter worked (well actually DIDN'T work) for her and I would end up with someone elses work to do so that this other person could do the daughter's work. I got fed up and quit and found out that about 2 weeks later they fired them both. I just talked to someone that works there yesterday and the President has gotten booted along with two of his cousins that he had hired and the whole company was sold to the man that was the president when I started there. Brother!

Jana: Hope you had a great time with you daughter and her friends!

Kat: The lady I spoke of would pet you, then whack you one when you weren't looking! :lol:

Well, gotta go.


03-09-2003, 09:30 AM
Hi everyone, :wave:

CARREE!!!!!! So glad to hear from you! Sorry your boss is such a pain. I had a boss once that would kick the trash can and punch the walls when he was mad, which was all the time. My stomach would be in knots before I ever got to work. I got out of there as soon as I could. About 10 years later, the guy ate a bullet. Sad.

essey - don't you just love starting new classes?

Donna - The 2 birthday girls even ran the sweeper after the party. The only evidence that there was a party here is the bd cards on the piano.

Had a nice visit with and old friend from Florida yesterday. She and I have been buds for 35 years, and she is younger dd's Godmother. We looked at pictures and did a lot of gabbing since we had a lot to catch up on. She hadn't been here for 5 years. It is so nice to visit with someone who knew you "when".

Have a great Sunday ladies, and I'll see you later!

03-09-2003, 09:59 PM
This Wednesday evening I am getting my bippy back to attending WW meetings. I am going to sit in the front row (okay maybe next to front row) and I am going to go every single week! No matter how much I have heard it all before....no matter how boring I think it is......no matter that I practically fall asleep in meetings.....

If I know so darn much why am I so far over my goal? :(


Have a great week!

03-10-2003, 07:24 AM
Happy Monday morning, ladies!

Carree - you sound very determined to take the bull by the horns! Way to go, girlfriend! Will you share your meeting topics with us? All of us Jaded Ladies could use the in-put of the discussions.

Hi to everyone else...

DD and I went to the mall in a nearby town yesterday. She had some birthday money burning a hole in her pocket and I was up for it, so we braved the Sunday mall crowds. All I bought was a new summer purse and a nightie. She went into every appropriate store and came home with only $6 left, but really got some bargains. A Power Shopper in the making! Makes me kinda proud... lol.


03-10-2003, 12:02 PM
Carree you can do it and with your incentive makes me want to try harder.

short & sassy
03-10-2003, 12:30 PM
Morning, another week behind me! I lost 3.8 lbs last week!! I am really on cloud nine. I started walking last week. Yesterday I walked two miles in the morning and two miles in the afternoon. I've already walked a mile on the treadmill this morning. I AM DETERMINED TO DO THIS!!!

JANA, sounds like the party went off without a hitch!! How old was your daughter, I must have missed that post or either I forgot!! Which is possible. "I have some-timers" LOL

CARREE, good for you. Have you tried ww online? That is what I'm doing now. Just hang in there, take one day at a time, you can do it.

DONNA, I have always wanted to volunteer at the abuse shelter. I know how those ladies feel, I was one of them at one time. I know how their minds work. I know the fear of being alone, the fear of not making it and I know how it feels to hope beyond anything that that person will change. I was very fortunate, my ex-husband found another woman which made my leaving easier. But many women are not that fortunate and they risk their lives by leaving. Stats show that violence gets worse once the woman leaves. Leaving the abuser is the most frightening decision a woman can make.

My own daughter is in an abusive relationship now. I asked her and my granddaughters to come back home, but she has too much pride for that. Right now she is saving as much money as she can so that she can get her another place. She is currently pregnant with her third child and hoped beyond hope that this guy would change. I've involved his mother at one point and we have managed to constantly have someone coming in and out of her home. That way if the bruises are there we can act on it. He knows that I will call the police on him in a heartbeat. The physical abuse has seem to stopped but the verbal and mental hasn't. She has finally come to the conclusion she must leave, right now she is biding her time.

Well, I've seem to have ranted enough. I have a strong reaction to the subject.

Hope everyone is having a good day. Hi Essey and Kat.


03-10-2003, 02:22 PM
Hey ladies!

I revved up this am and got to work and finished cleaning the house, packed my books, separated and labeled my snacks and put together the dog's bag for the boarder. I am anxious to go, but it is so COLD there! I hope my dgs has a good time because that is the whole reason for going.

Ruth: You were indeed lucky. Most abusers are also stalkers. It is very difficult to understand what propels a man to violence against someone he loves or at least says he loves. I am sorry, but I cannot see love when you are slapping, punching, kicking or burning your spouse. The children are very needy also. Their mom cannot provide for them emotionally because she is drained of any emotions. It is a truly sad situation.

Jana: I am glad you all had a good time and Katie got to spend that money!

Caree: Do you feel you need the face to face support? Like Ruth said you can always join online if you don't feel you need the meetings etc. Not everyone does. You can do this I know you can! We are all in the same boat here!

Essey: Hope all is going well with you!

I am off ladies! Take care


03-11-2003, 01:09 AM
Speaking of stalkers, I had one until just recently.
I met a new student/employee on campus last year and was patient enough to have a few short conversations with him (he's from Africa and speaks very little English)--evidenty a BIG mistake. I barely know the man...I've had a handful of very superficial conversations over the last 8 mo, and have actively discouraged him because even that minimal contact felt "off". I about fell off my chair a month ago when he informed me that he couldn't stop thinking about me, loved me, had loved me for a long time, and would be willing to wait for sex until I was ready. I'm thinking, "My God, I don't even want to have tea with you, let alone sex!" Not only that, the man is married with a new baby. At any rate, I'm glad that the little chat with the Dean and his boss seems to have taken the wind out of his sails.

03-11-2003, 09:05 AM
Good morning ladies,

Hi Essey - how's everything at your house?

Ruth - WAY TO GO on the 3.8 loss. You're doing so very well, and I'm proud of you!!! My dd is 16 now... not sure if I mentioned that. I am glad your dd is getting her ducks in a row, because I am pretty sure she will need to leave some day soon. I will keep her in my prayers that she gets the courage to do that. I know she has to be afraid of making it on her own, but things have a way of working out once the first step is taken. Is there room at your house temporarily until HUD could help her?

Donna - have a wonderful time with dd and dgs! Be sure and check in when you get back. The weather here in Indiana is supposed to warm up considerably this week.

Kat - Your stalker is the kind they make movies of! Keep an eye out for the creep, okay? How's everything going at the mental health floor?

I had a very unpleasant experience yesterday. One of the gals from my church Fellowship board just blew up at me, for no reason, and quit. I was shocked beyond belief and so hurt by her angry, unwarranted words. Then others from the church told me that she is unstable and very jealous of my position as head of the board. She was recently asked by the elders to step down as treasurer because she wasn't doing the job on time, and not correctly, either. My opinion is that what she needs most is prayers from all of us at church to get her through her problems. But I won't be calling her to ask her back. It will be hard to face her in our little congregation, but I will smile and be nice even though I may not feel that way on the inside. I am not used to handling angry, petty people. Any advice??

Well, ladies I have pulled out the clothes from last summer and the bad news is, they still fit. The good news is, at least they aren't too small. :D Always something to be thankful for!!

Have a good day, jaded ones!

03-12-2003, 12:39 PM
Just a quick post as I streak through--its my son's birthday (14!) and I have a ton to do. The bad news: I was still fat when I woke up this morning. *grin* The good news: the scale read 118, not bad considering I had my birthday last week. ;)

I'm sorry to hear about the blow-up at church. I was the recipeint of a similar blow-up at ours last summer, and its still akward when I run into her. I just try and keep my distance, and limit interactions to a general and safe good morning. :)

Off to run errands and get rid of some spring cleaning rubbish...


03-12-2003, 12:41 PM
akward? *lol*:lol:

03-13-2003, 08:22 AM
good morning ladies!

I'm looking around, wondering where everyone ran off to...

Kat - Hope you had a great time with your son. Birthdays are so much fun! Although since mine is 9/11, it hasn't exactly been a barrell of laughs the past two years. BTW, thanks for the advice.

I will be helping out a family friend today, by watching her 4 y/o and 7 week old children while she goes with her sister to pick out wedding dresses for the sister. The baby basically just eats and sleeps but the 4 y/o is a gregarious handful. She likes to color and she likes Disney movies, so I'm set there, and since it should be a beautiful day, maybe we all could take a walk. It's been quite a while since I had a preschooler around for the day.

What's everyone else up to today?

03-16-2003, 09:29 AM
Sunday morning, on my way off to church....see you all later on! Enjoy the weather. :D Its supposed to be 50 here today--the first time since last September!

03-16-2003, 05:07 PM
It was beautiful outside...I even dug through 5 feet of snow to get to the laundry-tree and hung three loads. :)

Now I'm off the the peace-vigil, hoping to avert the prospect of another horrid war.

03-16-2003, 10:37 PM
Hi all,

Kat - the weather here in Indiana was beautiful all weekend, and I really took advantage of it. How did the peace vigil go? The threat of war makes my stomach hurt.......

We hung baby swings for the little ones, and took pictures of their first time in them. Then I helped DH clean out a shed and worked in the yard. Today everyone came for Sunday dinner and then we went back outside for another afternoon of fresh air and sunshine. The men on the porch and the ladies over with the kids... some things never change!

Someone should start a #5 thread....

Talk to you later!

03-17-2003, 12:11 AM
There were easily 800+ people at the vigil for peace on the statehouse steps tonight...it was really quite beautiful. We sang Dona Nobis Pacem at the start and close of the hour long silent vigil...I'll upload some photos to share...

03-17-2003, 01:14 PM
I am back!!!! It was a nice trip and I will try and post later!


03-17-2003, 02:33 PM
Meet us all over at the new thread!