General chatter - This is the last time we have a roommate!




BananaMontana
02-28-2012, 06:17 PM
In December one of DH's buddies got married while on leave. Okay cool. His wife goes to school in NY so he was going to move in with DH and I until the two of them deploy and when they get back he figured he would get his own place. Okay cool. In January, my husband and I move out of our 1 bedroom into a townhouse and spend a buttload of money doing so, but figure he'll be giving us money every month so we will be fine.

Well, his wife comes down for a visit and she insists they put in for base housing. It's a one year wait supposedly, so whatever. We only have a 6 month lease with him anyway. No big deal, right?

WRONG.

Base housing called her and they have something available now...2 months later. DH and I can't afford this place on our own. I let roomie's wife know that. She doesn't seem to give a crap. So, apparently they are moving out and leaving us screwed. I can't even call DH and let him know to talk to his friend about it because they are in the field. Awesome. So, his wife is making all of these decisions without talking to him at all and screwing us in the process. The best part? He can't drive so he will probably expect DH to pick him up at his house and bring him to work everyday once he moves. BUT that won't be happening. I will drop my husband off and pick him up if I have to in order to make sure it doesn't.

I will need the car anyway, since now I need to drop my classes and find a job so we can keep paying rent.

Awesome.

ETA: I'm sorry about the rant. I just haven't been this pissed in a long time.


tessendicott
02-28-2012, 06:28 PM
That sucks. I hate people who pull that kind of crap on others. It's completely ridiculous that they would leave you screwed if you only have a few months on the lease with them. Do they not realize how much that messes you two up?
People are so irritating.

evilwomaniamshe
02-28-2012, 06:48 PM
That truly sucks, but remember girl atleast you still have your dyson! :)


Candeka
02-28-2012, 06:52 PM
Is there anyway you can find a new roommate to finish off the rest of the 4 months? You said you have classes, so I am going to guess you are near a university/college. If so, you could post around there that you are looking for a roommate. The timing would work as most kids want to go home in June anyways.

BananaMontana
02-28-2012, 06:53 PM
I am about ready to clock somebody with my dyson.

This guys wife is telling me that my husband already agreed that if they pay a transfer fee for us to move into a smaller place and pay to clean the carpets it's fine. I KNOW this isn't true because he and I talked about it and he didn't want to move again. I swear I'm just going to get a plane ticket and move home then. This is so not working for me.

BananaMontana
02-28-2012, 06:54 PM
I don't know how comfortable I feel having a stranger move in with us. I was weird enough with this guy. A complete stranger freaks me out though.

evilwomaniamshe
02-29-2012, 11:38 AM
I am about ready to clock somebody with my dyson..


Dual purpose dyson, LOVE IT- you go girl!

Hope everything works out :hug:

tessendicott
02-29-2012, 12:10 PM
People are so inconsiderate. I'd call her out on being a liar.

BananaMontana
03-01-2012, 12:42 AM
Ha! Talked to my husband for ten wonderful minutes today...turns out she definitely lied about this supposed agreement made between the men and now he's pissed at our (ex)roomie. I just packed up everything from the common areas that belonged to them and put it by the back door. I told DH to let him know that he needs to put his cat into boarding when they come home this weekend because i am not taking care of her while they are in the field next week. I can't wait until he moves out now. I am so mad. On the plus side, he'll only be here maybe two weekends before he is gone.

It's too late t do anything though, because roomie's psycho wife went ahead and accepted the on base house. So that he can live in it with no furniture for a few months and then deploy, leaving the house empty for a year since she goes to school in new York. Yeah, makes perfect sense. I'm just kind of trying to play nice with her since I really don't need her gossipy bullshit dram in my life. (yes, I realize I'm gossiping now, but I feel like its different because I'm venting anonymously, where as she would try to turn people we know against me because she is a looney tune). This whole thing is causing a huge financial stress on my life

As I this whole thing isn't enough, now I apparently owe my school $2000 for last semester....this is probably a mistake, I hope. I have them looking into it so fingers crossed. If I do have to pay it then there goes the savings account, so husband and I will be even more boned. And the new phone I ordered for DH since I kind of broke his came in....and the battery doesn't work and the eBay seller is giving me **** about it. so, now I may be out $150 for a phone that doesn't work. Fabulous. On the plus side, at least if I have to buy a new battery it's only $30...I just hope the eBay seller refunds me the amount for the battery so I can move on with my life.

Boo. :( I hate how **** always piles up the minute my husband leaves. I haven't felt this down in a while.

Skittlez
03-01-2012, 01:42 AM
If the friend agreed to pay for part of the rent for those 6 months you can take him to court to pay for it, whether he lives their or not. Good luck!

sontaikle
03-01-2012, 05:17 AM
And the new phone I ordered for DH since I kind of broke his came in....and the battery doesn't work and the eBay seller is giving me **** about it. so, now I may be out $150 for a phone that doesn't work. Fabulous. On the plus side, at least if I have to buy a new battery it's only $30...I just hope the eBay seller refunds me the amount for the battery so I can move on with my life.



Ok, I can't help you with much else :( but I'm a geek so maybe I can help you get a cheap battery for your phone at the very least. What kind of phone did you order?

Depending on the phone an older phone's battery might work in it, and if it's branded for an older phone you might be able to get it cheap (like a couple of dollars).

astrophe
03-01-2012, 10:41 AM
If you want to vent anon, change your profile pix if that is you.

Last thing you need is looney tune dieting and stumbling across old posts you made.

Hang in there with this! Can YOU put in for base housing? Military get to break lease without having to pay fees don't they? I could be wrong but my cousin is military and has to change all the time and she never worries about it. She says the apartments let her go without fussing because she's military. It isn't her fault she gets moved around.

A.

JudgeDread
03-01-2012, 10:46 AM
:devil:Does the dyson suck up "lost" jewelry? You could always pawn that for money....lol

That was my evil side talking...don't do it!

That doesn't mean you can't hide a cat turd in someone's shoe:D

XLMuffnTop
03-01-2012, 01:01 PM
OK. This may or may not work but....

My DH and I had a two year lease on an apartment. The first year and a half were great then things went downhill fast! By downhill I mean there was a shooting in the parking lot right outside our bedroom and it took the cops a whopping 30 minutes to show up. In addition, there was stupid loud music at all hours that kept us late and hampered job performance. It's hard to focus on fixing an F-15 when you're sleep deprived apparently.

DH talked to his master chief about it and they all agreed it was a crappy situation and we needed out before we got robbed, injured or worse. They offered to type up deployment papers to get us out of our lease even though we weren't actually leaving.

See if there's someone in the command that your DH can talk to or if he knows if this has been done before. No, it's not exactly legit but someones you do what you have to do to keep your head above water financially. I really don't think most service men and women are paid enough for what they do already but that's another rant.

puneri
03-01-2012, 01:15 PM
Search on internet You may get new roommate, sometimes things happen for better.you may get a better job.Something better is coming your way.

BananaMontana
03-01-2012, 03:28 PM
Ok, I can't help you with much else :( but I'm a geek so maybe I can help you get a cheap battery for your phone at the very least. What kind of phone did you order?

Depending on the phone an older phone's battery might work in it, and if it's branded for an older phone you might be able to get it cheap (like a couple of dollars).

I bought a Samsung Fascinate for Verizon. I don't know much about batteries that would work for it. If you can help that would be fabulous, since it looks like this guy is not going to work with me and I really don't feel like going through the claims process.

As for everything else...we can't get out of the lease. They will let us get out when he deploys this summer/fall but by then we would be on a month to month basis anyway. We can keep up with paying until then but it's going to be tight. If I can find work that will help, but if not then we will just have to stick tight to our budget and pray there are no emergencies ever. Worst case scenario we can ask FIL for money and I know he would lend us some but I always feel lweird doing that since I feel like he blames me for any financial trouble we get into. Hopefully I can find a part time job though because then we would be golden.

And now as if life wasnt punching me enough, the little dog has diarrhea and I had to cut off pretty much all off his but fur because he had poops in it (puuuuuke!). So now he looks stupid.

Worst. Week. Ever. I swear, life waits until DH is gone and then punches me repeatedly.

tessendicott
03-01-2012, 09:45 PM
I agree with Skittlez, I'd take them to court over it. Did they actually sign the lease? You could talk to your landlord so at the very least they don't get their deposit back.

BananaMontana
03-01-2012, 10:17 PM
He signed the lease. We put the deposit down, so he wouldn't get that back anyway. I'm a little nervous about losing the deposit over his cat destroying that room.

I would like to take the to court of over it, but I don't want to start sme huge thing between the two guys. They're in the same unit and it would make work pretty awkward for my husband, y'know? I just want him out ASAP if he's leaving, because I don't know how well I can hold my temper. He signs the lease on the 13th so I'm going to see if DH can get one of his friends with trucks to move him out that night. I don't want to wait til the weekend, because his wife come for a visit on the 15th and if I have to deal with both of them in the apartment for two nights I will snap.

sontaikle
03-01-2012, 11:30 PM
I bought a Samsung Fascinate for Verizon. I don't know much about batteries that would work for it. If you can help that would be fabulous, since it looks like this guy is not going to work with me and I really don't feel like going through the claims process.


Ah ok :) I'm more familiar with HTC and Apple phones, but Samsung phones are pretty easy to grab batteries for. The $30 price tag is probably the official VZW one, right?

Here are some links:

http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=samsung+fascinate+battery&x=0&y=0
All amazon listings here should work with your phone, but if you want to be sure, make sure the listing mentions the fascinate. Most of the batteries are CHEAP. You can even splurge and get two, haha. I've bought batteries for samsung phones before (but not the smartphones) and they've worked out great.

http://www.ebay.com/sch/i.html?_from=R40&_trksid=p5197.m570.l1313&_nkw=samsung+fascinate+battery&_sacat=See-All-Categories
Ebay listings here. Most of them are quite cheap too, but I would go here if you can't grab anything off amazon :)

IF YOU CAN: see if anyone you know has a samsung phone they aren't using. You might just be able to use that battery.

BananaMontana
03-02-2012, 05:35 PM
Thanks for the help with the battery :) My sister actually used to have the same phone so she's mailing me her old one. Thank goodness for that!

Roommate situation is improving slightly. I talked to our roommates wife and she agreed to pay $250 towards April's rent if we will take him off the lease, so it looks like we'll be doing that. Just have to get both of the men folk to agree. It's not much, but it will get us through April and then we just have May to worry about before DH gets his promotion and then we should be okay.

This whole thing has been a roller coaster.

XLMuffnTop
03-02-2012, 05:54 PM
If you have any issues with the battery that's being mailed to you lemme know. I have a Samsung Mythic that's not being used that may be the same type. I'd be more than happy to check. And it would only take a day or two to get to you from my part of Texas. :)

SmallSteps
03-02-2012, 11:29 PM
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That doesn't mean you can't hide a cat turd in someone's shoe:D

http://d21c.com/Belinda/--Smileys/18/happydance.gif

BrittyK
03-11-2012, 03:13 AM
I don't know how into breaking your lease you are, but it's kind of easy since you're military. I've had friends break their leases for:
-feeling unsafe
-mold
-wanting to live closer to work
-rent going up
-roommate moving out and not being able to afford rent.

All they ever did was go to housing and tell them the situation and housing wrote them a letter to give to their leasing office to break the lease. Or if your husband has his orders yet saying he's deploying this summer or you can get a letter from his command saying he is, you can take that to housing and they'll give you the paper to break it.

If you're not into any of that, at the very least, get it in writing that's she offering to pay a portion of the rent for April.

I have another question though.. We're Navy, so I don't know if it's any different.. But our housing has rules as far as how much time we spend away from them. How is she getting a house, but going to be spending a year away in school while he's gone? We're only allowed 6 months and we have to get permission for that. If it goes beyond 6 months, they can kick us out and give it to someone else and we'd be put back on the waiting list for when we get back.

LEESE
03-11-2012, 03:22 AM
If you want to vent anon, change your profile pix if that is you.

Last thing you need is looney tune dieting and stumbling across old posts you made.

Hang in there with this! Can YOU put in for base housing? Military get to break lease without having to pay fees don't they? I could be wrong but my cousin is military and has to change all the time and she never worries about it. She says the apartments let her go without fussing because she's military. It isn't her fault she gets moved around.

A.

Not that easy it has to be written into the lease AND it has to be due to new orders.

BananaMontana
03-11-2012, 03:44 AM
I don't know how into breaking your lease you are, but it's kind of easy since you're military. I've had friends break their leases for:
-feeling unsafe
-mold
-wanting to live closer to work
-rent going up
-roommate moving out and not being able to afford rent.

All they ever did was go to housing and tell them the situation and housing wrote them a letter to give to their leasing office to break the lease. Or if your husband has his orders yet saying he's deploying this summer or you can get a letter from his command saying he is, you can take that to housing and they'll give you the paper to break it.

If you're not into any of that, at the very least, get it in writing that's she offering to pay a portion of the rent for April.

I have another question though.. We're Navy, so I don't know if it's any different.. But our housing has rules as far as how much time we spend away from them. How is she getting a house, but going to be spending a year away in school while he's gone? We're only allowed 6 months and we have to get permission for that. If it goes beyond 6 months, they can kick us out and give it to someone else and we'd be put back on the waiting list for when we get back.


It feels dishonest to have them write us a letter out of our lease. We made a commitment and I intend to follow through. This complex has been very kind to us. We have a large dog who is more than twice the weight limit, but they gave us special permission to keep him when we asked. I don't want to screw them over by ditching early, y'know?

As far as rules for on post housing....I could have sworn they had a 90 day limit for how long you could be away, but according to our roommate's wife they said it's fine. It seems a little unfair to me since there will be people on the waiting list who actually need a house to live in, but eh. Not my decision.

As far as making sure they give us the money...we are not taking him off of the lease until he gives us the money and my husband is willing to peruse legal action if he doesn't. I don't think it will be a huge problem though. Our roommate himself is a decent guy. His wife is just kind of strong arming him at the moment because she wants post housing.