100 lb. Club - What was your defining moment?

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02-21-2012, 03:28 AM
I was thinking about NY's resolutions, how many people say they are going to lose weight. I did it myself pretty much every year once I hit puberty! But most people I know who have actually managed to stick to a weight reduction journey have had something that spurred them on. What was yours?

Mine was my Mum having a heart attack. I'd lost weight, gained it back after two kids and didn't really care anymore. Then my Mum had a heart attack and I saw her in hospital, came home and ate two chocolate bars, cried, and jumped of 3FC after a long hiatus. The motivation and support I got kept me going, its been a year now and I'm still plugging away :)

02-21-2012, 04:11 AM
I was diagnosed with posterior tibial tendinitis/dysfunction in October 2011... before the I was walking but not watching what I ate... once diagnosed I knew losing weight would help my chronic pain. I have tried for years on and off to lose weight but my condition just kept getting worse so at the end of De ember I decided to do my best. I was tired of being fat, was swimming but had to stop that too for a while and decided diet was the only way because of my issues. Now I keep myself going with monthly tight shirt and short pictures and measurements... not to mention coming on 3FC for support and just browsing through the goal photos. Everyone has been such an inspiration. Glad to he's you're getting healthy to avoid being sick maybe :) It is much easier before a problem exists

02-21-2012, 06:02 AM
my defining moment was struggling to fit into my size 14 bra. I know it's not huge and definately not bad health wise but i really couldn't afford to buy a new one as they cost $55. I was tired of struggling into my clothes and looking fat and frumpy.
This site has been fantastic, keeping me motivated and on track to lose the extra flab. My DH is now dieting as well so we are keeping each other honest!

02-21-2012, 06:30 AM
Good thread!

I can certainly relate to the 3 reasons before me. Investing in larger clothes was always heart breaking. My personal health issues. My mom's weight-related health issues which ultimately ended her life.

My defining moment wasn't any of those. I was profoundly unhappy. And when I took a closer look, the obstacle to my happiness always came back to my weight. Every time, without fail. I was done with unhappy, and started to make changes. :cool:

02-21-2012, 08:34 AM
My younger sister enlisted in the USAF and then an online friend I made began talking about how she was going through the process as well. For some crazy reason I got it in my head that I want to enlist too. This is the driving force behind my weight loss efforts although like most everyone that's overweight, I do want to lose the weight for me too. That unfortunately wasn't enough.

02-21-2012, 09:21 AM
This is so weird.. but I don't know. I guess I just got tired of it? Maybe I have little reasons... My mom was cronically ill my whole life, she had Lupus and several other diseases. I have a 10% chance of getting Lupus, which isnt really higher than most other women my age (7%)... that's not totally why though. I wanted to be thinner and healthier before I had a kid. I don't want to be the fat mom. I don't want to be the prego gal that no one can tell is pregnant... :lol: ...you know? I want to be the cousin on vacation after not seeing people for 2 years that they are all 'holy CRAP!'... you know? I want to make my body as healthy as it can be so I can be around for my grandkids, so they don't have to go through the emotional stuff my kids will have to go through when I have to explain to them where my mom is. Its a lot of reasons, but not a single one was my reason why, I guess.

I guess.. there is no good reason why I was still fat. Tasty food is still tasty now, I just can't eat it all... you know what I mean? :lol:

02-21-2012, 01:34 PM
Mine is a combination of factors, health is the biggest. Style has become second in my efforts. I have watched so many family members suffer and pass away from poor health choices (not just being overweight though). I know 25 is still young, but I also realized that I had let myself stay obese for 6 years. If I didn't do something, who knows, maybe I would still be fat when I hit 30? 40? Would I teach my future children my bad habits?
I suppose it is because I have a lot of open ended questions, maybe I can change the outcome even if others never see it happening for me. :^:

02-21-2012, 01:37 PM
I wanted to be thinner and healthier before I had a kid. I don't want to be the fat mom. I don't want to be the prego gal that no one can tell is pregnant... :lol: ...you know?

This.... I have shared that thought as well.

02-21-2012, 01:39 PM
I went on vacation to celebrate my culinary school graduation. Seat belt extenders, offensive comment from a friends dad, not being able to ride coasters at universal studios, ditto for go-carts, laughed at by teenagers, all within the span of a week. After this I mopped around for a few months because for the first time, I was blatantly aware of my actual size. Then i stopped feeling sorry for myself and got to it. :)

02-21-2012, 02:10 PM
For me it was seeing my doctor write down that I was "morbidly obese". :o I knew I was, but it didn't seem to matter until I saw him write that down. I knew I had to do something. I really didn't get serious though until a year later when he told me I have Type 2 diabetes. Now I am losing; have found this wonderful forum and am well on my way to better health! :D

02-21-2012, 02:36 PM
I moved to a fancy suburb about a year ago. I started noticing that all my neighbors and most people in the community are very fit. I am by far one of the biggest people around. I am the fatest Mom when I go visit my kids' school. I've been at this weight for the last 4 years or so, but my huge size has never been so obvious to me before. I am just tired of being fat. I want to to be fit and healthy.

02-21-2012, 02:41 PM
I never did have a defining moment. This took years of built up frustration that finally got to me!There was always that thought (or dream) in the back of my head for YEARS that I wanted my fit body back. Especially after having my kids, I realized how hard it was to run with them, play with them and just get up off the couch! Plus I'm a single mother so I knew I had to be around for them, I didn't want to die young and leave them, and I just wanted to live. So tired of being tired, so fed up of dreaming about it I WANTED it. I still want it, even though I'm stuck in a rough spot right now, it's different this time because I'm better now then I have been in the last 15 years. So I will keep going :)

02-21-2012, 02:55 PM
I realized I had no excuses anymore. For awhile it was because I had just had kids (2 in 2 years), then it was because I was depressed, then it was stress of being a single parent 90% of the time, then because I was in the stressful process of buying a new house and making it a home. I gave myself permission to get bigger and bigger.

When my husband deployed last September I dedicated myself to the process of losing weight. I didn't want to be the fat wife and mom any longer. When he got home in January I had lost 50 lbs. Still a ways to go but I'm determined to make my goal by this summer.

02-21-2012, 03:06 PM
Mine was when a friend of mine posted a picture of a group of us at a baseball game. I hadn't seen a full body shot of myself in a few years and it finally hit me. Also, my sister went from 151 to 108 last year and I felt like if she could do it so could I.

02-21-2012, 03:10 PM
I'm not sure if I had a defining moment.. I probably read a book or something. I knew summer was coming and I had just moved out of my parents house. Something had to be done for my health. I didn't realize how large I was for my height until long after I started exercising and changing my eating.

02-21-2012, 03:21 PM
This one is easy for me. Health or should I say lack of Health.

I have been diagnosised with the following: GERD, Hypertension, Hypercholesterolemia, Hyperlipidemia, Metabolic Snydrome, and Impaired Glucose Tolerance.

02-21-2012, 04:32 PM
My defining moment really was when my last IVF failed at Christmas. My doctor has told me for the last 10 years that my weight is causing my infertility. I want a baby and a family so bad, I know that if I want a chance of ever getting quality eggs out of myself I need to drop the weight. Now I think every time Im putting a donut in my mouth I am one day further away from having my own family. So I am doing something about it.

02-21-2012, 04:52 PM
I've had many. I had/have a lot of depression issues because of my weight, and it's because of that and some more personal stuff that went on in my life that I pretty much locked myself in my house with my computer and barely left to go to the store. At my age, that kind of behavior is just crazy - these are supposed to be the years I get to be carefree and have fun! A few weeks ago an old friend of mine sent me a message telling me how much he missed me, how sorry he was for 'not being there' and how much he wants to see me. It clicked that I really needed to just do it when my first thought wasn't how sweet that was, but "I can't see him yet, I'm still fat." I know he and none of my other old friends care, but I can't get over it. :(

02-21-2012, 05:09 PM
Mine was during this Christmas. I have three siblings, all of which are married. My boyfriend was able to come and join our family celebrations and I thought it would be great to have a picture of all four of us with our partner. I felt great that day and I thought this would be perfect! Well, once the picture was taken and shown, I could not believe how overweight I looked (Especially compared to another sibling whom I've always compared my weight with). That was my turning moment in really wanting to find something to help me lose weight.

The other thing that has been a big motivation is how I feel about myself. I constantly compare myself with others and feel very unsatisfied. My insecurity with myself has caused issues in my relationships and I now see a need for a change!

02-21-2012, 05:33 PM
Mine was going to the gyn to get my checkup and them telling me I had high blood pressure. Then I got on the scale and for the first time they had to move the bar to 300 and I was horrified. Then on top of that the Dr had a student with her who did my exam and the whole exam she kept making comments and being snippy about my weight, even though I told her that. I got it and I know I need to do something. I left the office in tears and went home and pouted. Then I looked up high blood pressure and it freaked me out to see how serious it really is. So that was that. I decided right then to change my entire lifestyle and I have been since.

02-22-2012, 05:03 AM
I have been with my husband for 8 years, and married for 4 this March and I realized not once has he been able to pick me up and hold me or carry me. Kinda silly I guess but I realized how depressed and sad it actually made me, and how it brought on other feelings of shame. I am hoping if I work hard and do well, next year for our anniversary he will be able to carry me through the door.