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mammasita
02-09-2012, 03:26 PM
Love it, hate it?

We've all heard that Valentines Day is a "Hallmark Holiday" but it has it's romantic aspects (IMO).

I've always been on the fence. Going from despising the entire idea when I'm single and lonely to hoping I get flowers or a card (or chocolate LOL) when I'm dating/in a relationship. For the most part, men don't really care either way, but I'm wondering what you all do for your significant others (if anything)?


NEMom
02-09-2012, 03:37 PM
The only reason I like valentines day is because my DH will actually spend time buying a sappy card for me. Otherwise, I do not hear the mushy stuff throughout the year.

astrophe
02-09-2012, 03:43 PM
Don't really care either way. DH and I have always low keyed that kinda stuff. I know he loves me daily, I don't need chocolate or a card. Same with previous boyfriends.

I always considered it an elementary school thing... because in my life that was when the main action was for valentine's.

But now with a elementary child I enjoy her efforts at making me cards -- they are childish and cute. And helping her with her student cards for classmates. :)

A.


mammasita
02-09-2012, 03:46 PM
But now with a elementary child I enjoy her efforts at making me cards -- they are childish and cute. And helping her with her student cards for classmates. :)

A.

Definitely! I completely left out the kids. I love picking out cards for my son to give out to his classmates and seeing what he makes for me and brings home from school. He's 11 now, so this might not last too long LOL

Nadya
02-09-2012, 04:15 PM
I don't love or hate it. This year is going to be rough though. I broke up with my boyfriend of four years in June - and for good reasons - but we're constantly in talks of reconciling so that's somewhat confusing. But what's even worse is I think I'm...maybe...in love with...or just have strong feelings for...someone I can't have. It hurts. I'll be thinking of him on VD, realizing he's with someone else. At first, it hurt really bad to think of it but I've been trying to put less and less thought into it so it's not hurting quite as bad now. It'll probably hurt like **** on VD anyways though...

Alicia87
02-09-2012, 04:17 PM
Love it, hate it?

We've all heard that Valentines Day is a "Hallmark Holiday" but it has it's romantic aspects (IMO).

I've always been on the fence. Going from despising the entire idea when I'm single and lonely to hoping I get flowers or a card (or chocolate LOL) when I'm dating/in a relationship. For the most part, men don't really care either way, but I'm wondering what you all do for your significant others (if anything)?

I'm with you! I've always been all "I hate valentine's day" when I'm single and hoping he thinks of me when I'm in a relationship.

This year I'm on the boo bandwagon because I just went through a recent break-up lol. But at least I recognize it for what it is :) My friend and I decided to have a v-day's sucks party for the two of us and have a girls night :)

berryblondeboys
02-09-2012, 04:25 PM
Oh man, I hated Valentines Day. Like HATED IT all through high school and college. In HS it was the prom fundraiser to have a carnations sale and to pass them out on Valentine's. If you didn't get one, the school would buy a yellow one and it would say "from a Secret Admirer"... So, getting the single Yellow Carnation basically meant you were a loser.

OK, so I never was a complete loser, but I only got 4-6 each year when girls with boyfriends would get TONS and the clique-ish groups would all send a gazillion. Well, I wasn't in a clique. I flitted within a few groups, but didn't really 'hang out' with any. Man... tough days.

Then in college it was all about boyfriends and I never had a boyfriend ALLLLLL through college. The guys I liked were always taken and no one else interested me... Plus, I had major insecurities and kept my distance.

Then, I met my DH and we spent our first weekend together as a couple over the Valentine's weekend. It wasn't PLANNED that way, it just happened that way and that day, V-Day was the first time we made love. So now how can it NOT be a big deal as it's a special anniversary for us as a couple?

Now we try to go out around that time, but never on Valentine's as it's insane, but some time in February we try to take an evening for us to celebrate our relationship. 19 years this year. (married for 18).

So, it's odd that this loather of Valentine's Day got it so turned around like that, but it happened.

But mainly, I think it's a day to feel miserable if you are single and don't want to be.

Petite Powerhouse
02-09-2012, 11:05 PM
Oh man, I hated Valentines Day. Like HATED IT all through high school and college. In HS it was the prom fundraiser to have a carnations sale and to pass them out on Valentine's. If you didn't get one, the school would buy a yellow one and it would say "from a Secret Admirer"... So, getting the single Yellow Carnation basically meant you were a loser.

OK, so I never was a complete loser, but I only got 4-6 each year when girls with boyfriends would get TONS and the clique-ish groups would all send a gazillion. Well, I wasn't in a clique. I flitted within a few groups, but didn't really 'hang out' with any. Man... tough days.

That's OK: I never got even one—not even one from the school. :o :lol: I went to four high schools, so I crossed paths with ... oh... about 3,500 to 4,000 people or more at school in four years, and no one ever saw fit to give me one lousy carnation. My friends and I felt silly giving them to each other, so, yeah.... I tended to be the only person in the classroom without a carnation.

mandalinn82
02-09-2012, 11:23 PM
My wife is a floral designer and has been for the past 9 years.

My Valentine's Day consists of baking a ton of stuff to keep her and the rest of the team fueled up, working with her at the shop until midnight or later for two days prior (I can't do anything that requires design skills, but I can tie bows on arrangements, write out cards, and create routes for the delivery drivers to follow the next day, which saves time for the actually talented people to do what they do best), bringing her dinners in tupperware, and rubbing her feet at night. Oh, and if the day falls on a weekend, I usually end up delivering, too.

One year I tried to do a romantic Valentine's dinner after she got off work. She fell asleep eating it, with her fork halfway to her mouth.

Even when I was single, I was never one of the "I hate Valentines Day" folks...just never got bothered by it.

sontaikle
02-09-2012, 11:29 PM
I said this in another thread, but it's just a day for my fiance and I to celebrate each other because we can never remember our anniversary. I hope that when we get married we would remember that, but I wouldn't be surprised if someone calls to remind us, haha.

We're celebrating Valentine's on the 16th, actually. We figure that it will be much easier to go out that day instead. :dizzy:

sheramama
02-09-2012, 11:52 PM
Valentine's Day stopped meaning anything in my relationship years ago...though the best one I had was our 2nd one together. I was away at school and was really upset we couldn't be together. When we did, he planned a nice dinner, kicked out all his housemates, and danced with me in the middle of his bedroom as he sang our song. *sigh*. Those were the days.

Now, it is about the kids. They love making out the valentines and having the party and getting something special from mommy and daddy.

Beach Patrol
02-10-2012, 10:05 AM
When I was younger, VDay meant a lot to me. I wanted the flowers, card, romantic dinner, sex-by-candlelight & 80's hair band music playing softly in the background, etc. But now I'm much older (& wiser, one would hope!) & I see it as just another money-making scheme for flowers & cards & candy makers.

That said, my husband is ever-grateful that I am not a "red roses" kinda woman... I love love LOVE pink carnations! - and OMG, they're so CHEAP on VDay, when other men are out spending crazy money on red roses, my husband is at the grocery store, getting carnations for less than 10 bucks. I love a man that knows how to save money! :D

leopardspots
02-10-2012, 10:15 AM
I only hated V-day when I was single in high school and didn't have a boyfriend. I wish they didn't do the carnation thing in high school. Its distracting and distressing to a majority of the female student body.

I've been with my husband since I started college. We don't do anything for V-day and I am completely fine with that. He treats me so well and and is loving and attentive every day of the year. I prefer that to men who treat a woman like crap every day excluding V-Day, anniversaries, and maybe X-mas when a man goes all out and buys you stuff to pacify you. (Like my father).

This year, I have made a point to sent flowers to a few of my single girlfriends at work for birthdays etc. I have never recieved flowers at work myself but am very secure and happy in my relationship. Every girl should feel special and recieve flowers at work/school once in their life!

krampus
02-10-2012, 11:45 AM
I always thought Valentine's Day was a fun occasion to make ridiculous cards for people. This year I bought Justin Bieber valentines to give to coworkers and friends and will probably draw penises on them or something. I can never be serious about anything and I like holidays in general.

I remember the first V-Day I had a boyfriend, I baked him brownies and woke him up delivering them, and he was like "what's this for" and I was really upset that he'd forgotten Valentine's Day. Since then I've pretty much just celebrated by having dinner and hanging out. I secretly hope my guy does something really out there this year for me, but I'm not counting on it nor will I be too let down if he doesn't.

mammasita
02-10-2012, 11:50 AM
I always thought Valentine's Day was a fun occasion to make ridiculous cards for people. This year I bought Justin Bieber valentines to give to coworkers and friends and will probably draw penises on them or something. I can never be serious about anything and I like holidays in general.

I remember the first V-Day I had a boyfriend, I baked him brownies and woke him up delivering them, and he was like "what's this for" and I was really upset that he'd forgotten Valentine's Day. Since then I've pretty much just celebrated by having dinner and hanging out. I secretly hope my guy does something really out there this year for me, but I'm not counting on it nor will I be too let down if he doesn't.

LMAO @ penises on the Justin Bieber cards! HILARIOUS, I love your sense of humor. I actually bought my boyfriend a card with a picture of turtles "humping" on the front. He loves turtles and I couldn't resist.

konfyoozed
02-10-2012, 02:06 PM
my husband is not the romantic sort. i am the romantic sort. we're both aware of this difference, and made the decision, jointly, that he had to make some sort of effort three times a year. my birthday in october, our anniversary in may, and valentine's day. it might seem weird, but he likes knowing "okay... i need to be cheesy on these days to make the wife happy." on the flipside, he gets uncomfortable with anything romantic from me, so he's asked me to tone it down to those few days (plus his birthday!) so we're both happy and comfy with our 'romantic holidays.' it's weird, but it works for us.

i know he loves me without all the cheesiness. i see it every day in the little things (especially the fact that he takes care of the cats' litter box without argument because for some reason it makes me gag and i'm the one that wanted the cats). this year i'll be making him a special dinner and dessert of his choice and will enjoy it with him (calories don't count on valentine's day right?)... because most other days he's limited to chicken or fish and lots of veggies :P

FatToFitWife
02-10-2012, 02:13 PM
I've always loved it :) but, really only because it is also my birthday! My husband always does a very good job of making it a special night for me. I love any excuse to tell & be told how loved he/I am haha! And I'm always, always the one who is the cooker, cleaner, nurturer, planner, etc. So if I can get spoiled one night ... Heck yes!

Ciao
02-11-2012, 09:40 PM
we never go over-the-top on valentines day.
maybe send some cards to some friends but that's it.

it's not really different from the other 364 days we spend loving each other unconditionally, so we don't emphasize it.

the only day we put great emphasis on is our anniversary (which will soon become our wedding anniversary date as well) and that's really our only special day of the year. :)

MedChick87
02-12-2012, 05:06 PM
I never really hated Valentine's Day, even when I was single...which was most of them. This year will be only my 2nd Valentine's Day with a boyfriend. I thought it was a cute holiday but never really gave it much thought when I was single. I don't expect a lot of money to be spent, but I do think it's nice to buy (or make) a small, meaningful gift to celebrate the relationship. My current bf was shocked to hear that I didn't expect a lot on V-day; most of his ex's treated it like it was more important than Christmas or something. I don't really get girls who have super high expectations on V-day. It's a cute holiday, but it's not the end-all, be-all of a relationship.

aleksandra
02-13-2012, 02:01 AM
i see most of our best-halves are not really into valentines day :D
well, i personally am a romantic soul, so i actually like valentines day as a tribute to love in all forms. i often get something little for my parents, my pets and my boyfriend. it's not really about the presents, it's more about the care and thought one has put into what they are giving away on valentines day - even if it's cliche chocolates ;)
even though my boyfriend is not really romantic, i think he's realied it means a lot to me, so he remembers, even though he never makes a big deal out of it. that's my job :D

zoritsa
02-13-2012, 10:44 AM
After having worked in a floral shop for many years...I didn't care whether or not I ever got anything.I never wanted flowers,chocolate was nice,but not needed,lol...and I couldn't go out,because I was working and then so tired afterwards.I've been out of the business for 12 years or so now and I still don't mind either way if I get something or not.I do like getting flowers from time to time(just not roses),but I'd rather make a nice meal at home and enjoy the day just like any other day.

willow650
02-13-2012, 11:16 AM
My anniversary is today(13yrs) I made sure back then, Vday and Anniversary, were 2 separate holidays...lol Now, if we are together, we will have a night or 2 away somewhere or a great dinner at our favorite restaurant. He's military, and we have been apart for the last 2 years, so today and tomorrow will both suck. I dont want flower or candy sent me, cost too much. I just want him here with me, nothing else is important.

krampus
02-13-2012, 12:35 PM
I bought Passion Pit tickets for my valentine. I have all these stupid wishes for him to surprise me with flowers at work or something. I might try to pull a stunt like that for him tomorrow since I'm so nice.

MiZTaCCen
02-13-2012, 02:44 PM
OMG! I could always send a V-day card to my crush who is a contractor thats works in my building and become completely humilated and rejected....kind of sounds like a plan! I don't know why that popped into my head as I read this thread. it's kind of a cute idea but....

I think it just depends on the douche I'm dating at the moment whether I like it or not...Luckily my period does fall on it this year so I'm not emotional about it...though a couple weeks ago I was ready to ripped every V-day teddy bears head off I saw.

LittleBrownBike
02-13-2012, 03:11 PM
My DH and I have a standing rule: no cards, no flowers. I really don't like the idea of being forced to buy a card just because someone says its the right day to buy one... also I don't like the idea of my husband paying 3x for flowers just because its valentines day. If he is going to get me something I'd prefer something thats going to last more than a few days as well... every once in a while he surprises me with flowers but I don't expect them and am not disappointed if I don't get them... And if he did surprise me with flowers, I'd much prefer a mixed bouquet with daisies and stuff over red roses which are over priced and not as pretty in my opinion ;)...

I'm the same about going out to eat... I hate dealing with the extra people or the extra cost of going out to dinner just because its valentines... I'd rather cook something special... I do love to cook and one thing I love is an excuse to go the extra extra mile... Unfortunately my adult step daughter is currently living with us (total downer) and will be joining us for valentines dinner but I'm trying not to let that ruin the evening lol... I have a really nice menu planned and even printed up menus and am decorating the table etc.... from the lunch room chatter around my office, it sounds like a lot of people are staying home and making a special dinner....

BananaMontana
02-13-2012, 03:19 PM
I love Valentine's Day! I don't think hubby and I are doing much for it this year. I bought him a silly card and I bought some pretty underwear for the occasion :lol: I'm making him chicken Alfredo for dinner (puuuuuuke! My least favorite kind of sauce is Alfredo sauce!). Other than that, we don't have much going on. I know that he knows tomorrow is V-Day but I don't know if he'll do anything. In the past he has gone the whole nine yards andgotten me cheesy stuffed animals and chocolates and flowers, but we'll see if he does that this year. The longer we are married, the less romantic he is!

Ramra
02-13-2012, 08:49 PM
I used to feel uncomfortable around Valentines Day, because I was always single. It passed me by every year, until I met my current boyfriend.

We're going to be spending our 2nd Valentines Day together. Our plans? To watch a movie and share a big cheeseball. :P

Valentines day isn't a big deal to us. Although I did make him a Valentine out of construction paper. I think it's pretty cute. :)

EZMONEY
02-13-2012, 10:11 PM
For a lot of years Angie and I, if we find ourselves together in a store that carries V-Day cards, pick one and give to the other...read them and say..."Thank-You Babe"...then we put them back....:D

Saves us about $10!

Then we go, most years and will tomorrow, to our favorite Italian place we go to on a regular basis....

and will be home before 7:00 :D

Nothing that we don't do on a normal date night evening...

but I hafta say...

we like it like that :)

evilwomaniamshe
02-13-2012, 10:49 PM
:val1: Honestly EVERYDAY is Valentines Day 'round here! :val1: We celebrated Valentines this past wknd & had a nice dinner at a Mexican restaurant, as we wanted to beat the romantic rush! :) For Valentines Day tomorrow, I will make a nice one pot wonder roast chicken with potatoes, carrots & squash & bake an angel food cake with strawberries aka strawberry shortcake for dessert for 3 of us. I invited my MIL as she just lost her valentine recently after 63 years of marriage. :( Yup, Iza good DIL.... :val1:

FreeBird3
02-13-2012, 10:56 PM
It's just another day for me. I'm currently single, but even when I was in a relationship during Valentine's Day, I didn't get excited over it. I'd rather get the "Valentine's Day treatment" on my birthday. :) I think Valentine's Day is more for women bragging to other women....kinda like how some women like to brag about weight loss. ;) Not a jab at anyone on the message boards...I'm just recalling the times in my past when women would brag about how their husband/boyfriend bought flowers, candy, etc...almost as much as they brag about how much weight they've lost.....pre-Facebook days. LOL

sontaikle
02-14-2012, 08:39 AM
Wow, change of plans :) I'm happy about it too.

My fiance and I originally planned to spend Valentine's together on Thursday, go out to eat and NOT wait two hours. Well today he texts me and says he really wants to see me today and cook me a meal. How could I say no?

It means switching around my schedule last minute and forgoing the gym (but I think I'll just run and lift weights instead), but totally worth it.

He also was totally open to whatever I wanted to eat...so I said chicken and vegetables. Then I took it back, knowing he's not too keen on veggies, but he said if that's what I wanted then that's what he would make. :)

Although I said I would bake him his favorite cookies (chocolate cake mix cookies with peanut butter chips)...which I haven't done because I wanted them to be fresh! :lol: looks like I'll have to do that when I get home!

mammasita
02-14-2012, 08:50 AM
Happy Valentines Day everyone :D

EZMONEY
02-14-2012, 09:55 PM
Not even 7pm and my :love: wife :love: and I are already home from dinner at our favorite Italian place...

and already in our pj's...

getting ready to watch reruns of Big Bang Theory, side by side in our recliners with our lap-tops....

golden retriever spoiled ones at our feet...

what a great way to end the day :)

Sure, I miss those Nora Jones cd's on the stereo with the bedroom filled with candles a little...

but those days are in the past...

we roll a little different as we get older...

but no one I'd rather get older with than my :love: wife :love:

besides, Friday is date night and GRANDdaughter is coming for a sleepover :carrot:

Life is good :)

MissGuided
02-14-2012, 10:27 PM
That seriously sounds like a great night, EZ. I love BBT! Lol

Unfortunately, my other half is already asleep as he only got a few hours of sleep the night before. :(

LittleBrownBike
02-15-2012, 09:25 AM
I think that sounds like a great night as well EZ....

I got home at 5:15, played with my dogs in the yard for a little while then got to cooking, I did it up fancy and we had a 4 course meal with all the cute little serving dishes etc... my adult step daughter was with us (she lives with us)... we were done eating by 7:30, dishes were done and kitchen cleaned up by 8, all in our PJs and watching tv, surfing the net, and cuddling with my little dogs by 8:30... I think I was out cold fast asleep by 11, I was really tired from getting up early that morning and couldn't keep my eyes open...

nothing "romantic" about it but I loved it, I love my hubby so much although sometimes I worry about the routine nature of our days... but it seems to suit us well and we still fit in romantic dates, just the practical nature of NOT wanting to do those in the middle of the work week when we are both tired and not interested in waiting for a table or over paying for a meal I can make better at 1/4 of the cost ... and its hard to have romance at home when your adult step daugher is living with you and hanging around 24/7 lol...

EZMONEY
02-15-2012, 10:09 PM
:) Thank you MISSGUIDED and LITTLEBOWNBIKE :)

Sometimes life just gets in the way of Valentines Day :)

Angie and I had planned to go out since last week, we go early and didn't make reservations. We have gone early in the past, right before 5pm, with reservations and never really needed them. Boy am I glad we were there before 5 by 10 minutes, the place was busy then with about 50 people and got packed by 5:30! The place is not that fancy but wonderful atmosphere and food, we go at least once a month, usually 2.

Back when the kids were here we gave them goodies and made family favorite meals for the day.

I know the day can be sad for some, and frankly it has been for me too in the past...I remember once my ex-wife gave me a card that had Ziggy on it...with Happy Valentines Day..signed with just her name....:(

but that was many moons ago and long long ago...

Be good