Beck Diet Solution - Beck Diet For Life/Solution – February 2012 – Support, Discussion, Buddy/Coach

02-01-2012, 07:12 AM
Welcome to the discussion group, support group, diet coach group, diet buddy group relating to the two books by Dr. Judith S. Beck:The Complete Beck Diet for Life ( the first bookThe Beck DIET solution: train your brain to think like a thin person. (

The Beck Diet Solution is a psychological program, not a food plan. It provides a step-by-step program to learn specific techniques to stay on our diet, lose weight, and maintain our weight loss for life. The program is based on Dr. Beck's clinical research in Cognitive Therapy (CT).

The Complete Beck Diet for Life expands the earlier work and includes a food plan with suggested menus. From the cover:With The Complete Beck Diet for Life you'll discover the 5 stages of successful dieting and maintenance. You'll learn how to motivate yourself, give yourself credit for every change you make, create time and energy for dieting, and handle hunger and cravings. Dr. Beck eases you into changing one step at a time. You'll master one task before moving on to the next. And you'll learn techniques to deal with challenging situations, such as sticking with ou plan at celebrations and dealing with "food pushers." With Dr. Beck's skills, you'll achieve a lifetime of healthful eating and lifelong motivation.

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02-01-2012, 07:13 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Close to on plan, CREDIT moi; it's still the evening snack that's my challenge. In the afternoon, when I wanted trail mix that wasn't on plan, I took a glass of water instead. That worked.

I saw trees trying to bud on my long walk (CREDIT moi). The warm temperature is messing with their heads; hopefully this won't hurt them when real Spring arrives.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Kudos for making your January exercise goal - overcoming a slow start instead of giving up.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Kudos for such clarity that you didn't allow the frustration of your reality to derail your eating plan. Speaking of Alaska, do you miss their current -65 degrees F temperatures?

Beverlyjoy – Twelve hours is a long day; hope things are going well.

FutureFitChick – I hate time wasters who impose on my life, but Double Hate the time wasters that I insert all by myself. Kudos for continuing to leave a bite on your plate.

maryann - One more time I salute those of you who face heaps of 13 year olds day after day and stay the course. Love the thought that fairness should burn calories.

Tazzy - Congrats on nine pair of pants hemmed and ready to wear. Do you have the clothes for all four of you ready for the cruise?

Readers - chapter 4 Stage 1 The Success Skills Plan
Success Skill 8 Follow Your Plan, No Matter What
resistance technique 10
Do a positive fast-forward.
Imagine, in detail, how you will feel 10 minutes after resisting the unplanned food. Visualize how you will feel: Strong and in control? Proud of yourself? Hopeful that you will get to your goal? Delighted that you exercised your resistance muscle? See yourself tomorrow morning when you get on the scale. Think about how good you will feel that you didn't give in. Once you see the entire picture, ask yourself, Which seems better: eating or not eating unplanned food?

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 101.

02-01-2012, 09:05 AM
Hi friends... checking in while I have a chance. My stepmom is doing as well as can be expected...They might let her go home today. It amazes me how they can do a shoulder replacement on a 86 year old and send her home in 48 hours. But - it's up to the doctor of course.

My cousin is here and we will have a 'changing of the guards' so to speak. She'll stay with DSM for a few days. Then my other cousin in coming in from out of town for a few days. And then... I will come back.

My food has been good. I've been taking healthy food to the hospital. Wonderfully, this is new hospital with strict standards of healthy food in the cafeteria and even the vending machine. The vending machines have different kinds pretzels, baked chips, nuts, trail mix etc. NO candy at all. The 'sweetest' things in the vending machine are Rice Krispie treats, animal crackers, and all fruit 'roll up' treats. No pop in the pop machines, either. Amen!

I'll be heading home later today.

I'll check in later, if I can.

Have a GREAT day.

02-01-2012, 09:45 AM
Hi Coaches/Buddies/Friends!

Yesterday my planned meals were great and my urge to snack could have benefited from more resistance. I'm liking my new daily routines and have already checked many items off my list, including weighing and 5 daily minutes on my rebounder. I'm finding my new "roadmap" is helping me to think about things which sometimes don't happen otherwise.

Dr. Beck suggests on p 168 of the green book that a lifetime exercise plan include 2 weight training sessions, 30 min. of exercise/day and increasing spontaneous exercise. My goal this week is 30 min per day on not including my 2-4 mile work days, spontaneous exercise and 1 weight training session. I have been resisting the weight training and may try and schedule a session at a nice rec center. I used to lift weights with DH but he turned into a military style coach and I developed a resentment. I need to work through that. :lol:

BillBlueEyes, yay for continued walks and drinks of water instead of trail mix.

Beverlyjoy, glad to hear your stepmom is recovering nicely and that you're sticking with your plan. Kudos for hospitals w/o junk!

DH just arrived....must go....:wave: everyone else!

02-01-2012, 10:19 AM
Good Morning, Coaches. On plan except for some bite size chocolate foraging at school. Tracked food for today. Credit exercise yesterday and plan for walk today. My stomach hasn't been feeling great - maybe adjusting to a ton more veggies with WW. Weigh in is tomorrow. It is just a number. It is just a number. It is just a number.
In honor of the new month I have started Project 333. It is about decluttering your life starting with the wardrobe. You are supposed to select 33 items of clothing - jewelry, shoe, bags, scarves all count then box up everything else you have and live on the 33 for 3 months. Then you re-evaluate, switch out for the season and donate what you didn't wear. I must tell you I did not get down to 33 but I am close. Half my wardrobe is in a second closet and I am not going into it until May. I have made a New Year's resolution for no more clothes this year. This helps me to see I have more than I need of everything.
I have also attacked several household closets which are looking in pretty good shape. One big one left.
Simple is best. I don't need more than I need. That goes for food as well.
Hey to all.

02-01-2012, 02:21 PM
Hello everyone! I am so glad January is over. It just seems to me to be a "do nothing (good)" month to me. The skies are overcast, it is cold, damp and rainy here and I just plain want to spend more time in bed burrowed under the covers. Now, I understand why Punxsutawney Phil (I had to look up the correct spelling of that PA town) has to be coaxed out of his hole. Let's hope he predicts less winter and an early spring.

Bill Good Job in resisting your all time favorite trail mix with a glass of water.

gardenerjoy – Major Credit on meeting your January goal. Sometimes, you just have to slug through it to get where you want to go.

Lexxiss – Major Credit on keeping your focus amidst potential life interruptions that want otherwise.

Beverlyjoy – Great to hear that your DSM is doing well and that there is pitch relief in sight as well.

FFC – Great to hear that you are tackling that small but significant task of leaving "just one" behind for the garbage and/or the dog.

maryann - Love the idea of 333. I have had long deep discussions about the place that "stuff" should take in our lives. This has been a slow evolution over the past couple of years but as I lose weight, I am finding that I need less. I wonder if there is a correlation?

Tazzy - Counting the days until your cruise?:D

Credit: 8 days in a row of OP eating. It does get much much easier.

Speaking of exercise, Lexxiss, today I have my other group I lead preparing for a walking challenge which will start February 16th with "Warm Ups". Using a deck of cards, you deal yourself 5 cards. Using a numbering system of 2-10 you add up the cards and that is how many reps you do of either marching in place or lunges. If you get one Heart in your hand, you double the number of reps. If you get 2 Hearts in your hand, you automatically do 100 marches/lunges and 100 ab crunches. I got a lot of Hearts so I will be needing to do 500 marches or lunges and 500 ab crunches today. I am going to hear about this! :rofl:

Don't forget to measure yourself before you start, Lexxiss, because you will really enjoy seeing the tape measure a month from now. I never thought about doing something like that until one of the leader's of one of the other groups I belonged to had us do that. I am so glad I did. When the scale doesn't move, you still are losing. Even when I took a "leave of absence" from exercising during my RA flare-ups, I still was losing inches! Go figure.

BTW, I also credit myself with exercising my Resistance Muscle a lot and, hopefully, showing others how to as well.

Have a great day!


02-01-2012, 03:21 PM
Yesterday I suffered from horrible cravings all day but managed to stay with my written food plan.I am particularly proud (big credit) of not eating after dinner while watching tv. I must say that as many times as I tell myself to do something other than watch tv in the evening (which normally causes me to want to eat), I am so emotionally drained that I succumb. I was rewarded with a 1.2 lb loss this morning and now I'm only 2 lbs away from getting that charm (again--this time I hope it sticks!)

Today I've eaten my breakfast, lunch, and afternoon snacks, but it's only 2 pm and I'm uncertain whether I can hold out till after 6 (I have an appt for a pedicure at 6). It may seem self indulgent to be getting pedicures while my Mom is in the hospital, but I've had this appt for a long time and I am trying very hard to take care of myself, which I didn't do the last time she was in the hospital which resulted in a weight gain.

BBE I too am challenged by the evening snack (see above)

Beverlyjoy: I am encouraged that someone else is doing the hospital duty and staying on plan. Credit you!

Lexxiss: persist in your quest to find a weight lifting program. It makes an enormous difference.

Maryann: project 333 sounds intriguing...I badly need to declutter and was slowly doing so when my mom got sick.

Pam: Great job on the 8 days!

02-01-2012, 03:27 PM
Hi Coaches -
Just finished Week 2 Day 2 of C25K. It feels good and I am not, repeat, not ruining this feeling with extra snacks tonight. No no no. The end.

This week has been much less crazy than the last few and I'm very grateful for that. A little downtime is a good thing. More practice time = also a good thing. More time to miss my cat = maybe not such a good thing, but I hope we will have a new kitten in a few months and that will help.

maplover - big kudos for getting back on track even as you're dealing with the stress of your mom's illness!!

FFC - glad you had a good day yesterday - you deserve it!

gardenerjoy - yay for a new doable video series! Kudos for overshooting your exercise goal.

BBE - I hear you on the evening snacks, which have been doing me in the past couple of nights. Not tonight though!!

Debbie (Lexxiss) - (((hugs))) as you deal with a dizzying schedule. Great job getting organized with the calendar. I'd be lost without my google calendar. Great job also working on your Beck Plan for Life!

maryann - you really are experiencing the sandwich generation right now! I know it will be coming soon for me as my parents get older (mom turned 70 yesterday). LOL at "I wish fairness would burn more calories"! Good luck with the weighin tomorrow.

Tazzy - well done on all the hemming - that's one of those tasks I can leave hanging (literally, LOL) for months! I know what you mean about feeling peckish - so annoying and tempting.

Beverlyjoy - well done keeping on track during these very very long hospital days! Sending good thoughts for your stepmom's potential return home.

pamatga - cool idea about the walking challenge and Heart cards! You are really creative in coming up with activities for your group.

Happy February all!

02-02-2012, 12:00 AM
This is the first time I've had a 100% day in awhile. It feels good. I should try that more often!

WI: +0.2 kgs, Exercise:+70 70/1300 minutes for January, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Lexxiss: you might like a more feminine approach to strength training. I like my Ellen Barrett DVDs for that. I have Fat Burning Fusion and Skinny Sculpt and will probably get more in the future. I buy her videos at Collage Videos because they put clips of the videos on line so you can check if you can stand the instructor's voice and music choices before you purchase: I know they work because I can feel my muscles after I've done one of those workouts!

02-02-2012, 06:59 AM
I am truly disgusted. I have gained back the 2+ lbs overnight. All I did was have one turkey and cheese sandwich on a wrap for dinner rather than the dinner I had planned because I made the mistake of going to my pedicure without eating first and was too starved to cook.....aargh. I am close to quitting.

02-02-2012, 07:00 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - A mediocre day, but moving on to have a better day today. I missed gym because I worked with a carpenter all day with some finishing up tasks, including getting a four inch hole drilled out the foundation of my house for the vent to exhaust the new bathroom. CREDIT moi for doing that which needed to be done.

Exercise was moving a bunch of furniture so that he can do some small jobs inside. I did enjoy noticing that I traveled the stairs from floor to floor more often than I did before I started my journey - I welcome the excuse to go to the basement for some item. Before, I'd leave stuff by the basement door until I accumulated enough to make the trip worthwhile.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Kudos for 100%. DW is pleased that she covered her gardens with leaf mulch since we've had little snow cover.

Erika (eusebius) – Love it, "Not tonight though!!" I'll steal that for myself tonight.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Neat that your "roadmap" is working for you.

Beverlyjoy – Glad to hear that your step mom is doing well. Yay for a hospital with healthy food standards - so often hear the opposite.

Pam (pamaga) – 500 lunges is a huge amount - hope you make it out with your muscles still working.

maryann - Project 333 sounds like such an eye opener to help prune the wardrobe. Myself, male here, would find it difficult to get up to 33 items unless I counted each sock, LOL.

maplover – Yes, take care of yourself - particularly with your mom in the hospital you need all the positive support you can muster. Kudos for an evening on plan.

Readers - chapter 4 Stage 1 The Success Skills Plan
Success Skill 8 Follow Your Plan, No Matter What
resistance technique 11
Distract yourself.
This will help you wait out the urge to eat. Get out the Distractions Box you created in Chapter 3 (pages 39-40). First, start the activity that you think will be most distracting. If you finish it and the urge to eat has not gone away, try a second activity and so on. Remember that watching TV and reading are often not distracting enough (especially if you are used to eating while engaging in these activities), listening to music helps some people but not others.

When you contact your Diet Buddy from now on, report on which techniques helped the most.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 102.

02-02-2012, 12:10 PM
maplover: don't quit! The kind of turkey and cheese that goes in a wrap has more salt than you would imagine. Shoot, the wrap itself probably does, too. Drink lots of water, stick to your plan, read some in your Beck book. That two pounds will be gone in no time. It's not what happens overnight that matters, it's what happens over the next two years.

02-02-2012, 02:50 PM
Gardenerjoy: thx for the supportive feedback. You are right of course, and also of course, there was a boatload of salt in that meal. And more in the other things I ate yesterday. I think I should pay more attention to the sodium content of my meals (I do track them pretty closely).

it is just discouraging not to be losing more weight more quickly and in particular to be working so hard to just tread water. Waking up at 3 and not being able to go back to sleep does not help. Sigh. Maybe I should work toward giving up caffeine again (does not seem to stick with me).

02-02-2012, 07:33 PM
GE everyone! I have actually been around on this site for the past two hours but one of the title's of another group's thread caught my eye and before you know it I was reading that and other ones as well.

map lover I ditto what the others have said. All food made elsewhere always has more sodium in it. We ate out last night at Applebee's and since I weigh every day (then record it) I expected a 2 lb increase, which happened, and didn't give it a second thought. It will be gone by tomorrow so I don't fret about it. Like gardenerjoy said it is what matters week to week, month to month not day to day. If you have either of the books, Dr. Beck covers this in one or more chapters.

Bill WTG with the subtle but important changes in stairs climbing. I have often said that when I was heavier I was so much more efficient with my body movements. Now, it pays to retrace your steps--after all it is just that ---more steps and more movement.

I don't know about the rest of you but I plan an evening snack every night. Period. I am following the recommended BLC food plan as my first choice which does have you eating 3 meals and 3 snacks. I find it hard to get in 3 snacks but I can get in 2 quite easily. Last year I flip flopped back and forth on this issue on my own but now that I am using that as the base food plan for this Buddy Challenge I am hosting, I feel it is important that I am "walking the walk". It seems to work. It is not necessarily that I "look forward to" that evening snack but simply that it is there as part of my food plan. Pre-planning helps with this a lot. The main advantage I see coming from doing this is that my blood sugar never really gets so low that I start grabbing at the first thing that crosses my path; something that I used to do when I would undereat throughout the day and come home with a sick headache and a growling stomach. I now deem that "condition" as a slippery slope as well.

Credit: I have had 10 days of OP eating and I see no reason why tomorrow won't be the same. I am finding the "secret" for me in staying OP is avoiding any sugar. Period. No sugar and no cravings. End of story.

Credit: I am more than okay with sitting for hours feeling empty and hungry. I am just liking what I see on the scales the next morning to do anything different otherwise. Lots of cold, cold water and/or flavored teas really help as well.

Bill The 500 lunges was only if a person got 5 hands with 2 or more Hearts. The choice was also either that or 500 marching in place. I chose to do a "split combo". I heard about this. One woman, who has such a "Can Do" attitude, did these in spite of having major surgery two weeks ago. She is such a trooper. She doesn't know this but I am voting a BL t-shirt for her based on her "fantastic attitude, team spirit and overall just being a great gal". Nothing I throw her way makes her winch. One in a million!

I have the group doing upper body warm ups today. One of the exercises I created was to take a pile of paired socks (in a ball) put an even pile at either foot, set an empty laundry basket about 3-4 feet in front of them and then crossing over they pick up one "ball" with the opposite hand, come to their full height and toss the ball in the basket. After the first warm up, time themselves.

Yes, erika, I do have fun with this although now I have to put a legal disclaimer on the bottom of the workouts I hand out because someone from a past challenge was touting it as her own. It is sad. I am not getting paid for this. I am just doing it so I can share with others, be accountable myself and have some fun while doing so. "Oh, well".

Take care everyone else!


02-02-2012, 08:12 PM
Hi Beckfolks/coaches/friends... It's good to be home. My dear stepmom is doing well. I was exhausted today and couldn't figure out why... knock knock who's there? - it's the hospital stuff.

I've been able to stay with my plan. I've planned/measured/logged food, lots of water, stretches & strengthening, ate seated only, no seconds, read arc/rc/beck, and more. I really wanted to eat the bean soup and corn bread DH was eating. I used my resistance techniques to walk away. I am grateful.

I weighed today and have lost two pounds from last week. Now my next mini goal is 199... that's exciting. So glad to be losing and working my program.

I hope you are all doing well. Thanks for your support, kindness and wisdom.

02-02-2012, 08:21 PM
Hi Coaches/Buddies/Friends!

A quick check in tonight. I had a great Beck morning! I worked on my Success sheet and checked many items off, especially since I had completed my exercise by 6am. I now have a notepad right next to the refrig and since my Beck reading this am discussed how little time it actually takes to make a plan I'm trying a new skill- writing down my daily plan while I make my smoothie and leaving next to the refrigerator. I might have been tempted to go out for lunch today but when I got home my written plan worked to easily guide me through a healthy lunch.

It's been a very long day working on company books and I need to sign off and prepare dinner.

maplover, glad you are feeling better! Dr. Beck's wisdom regarding the scale has been very helpful to me. Faced with your situation, I find it especially helpful not to use the word "gain". An overnight rise of 2# might be better described as a "fluxuation". It also helps me to recognize the sabotaging thought associated with "gaining 2 pounds overnight" as "I am close to quitting" and working through a new response card for next time.

02-03-2012, 01:58 AM
Hello Coaches

It's 72F, windows are open, ceiling fan is on and I have several credits to report before I head to bed...


-tracked my food today--way under--didn't even notice until I tracked it. was waaayyyy too busy. need to address this as eventually I will boomerang into feeling "entitled" to eat more.
-walked across the island of Key West from the Gulf of Mexico to the Atlantic Ocean where my sister lives, took me about 1.5hrs with lots of stops to take pictures, and to chat with a local who walked up as I was taking pictures of houseboats moored across from the marina. He and his dog Brutus live on one he said. I could live on one I thought.
-turned down food offered to me too late at night, turned down food not on plan earlier in the day, turned away from the tempting candybars at cash registers when I was feeling hungry. Hungry passed.

I have a bike to ride but in my enthusiasm at photographing fence patterns as I passed by house after house after house, my feet got tripped up in my wide leg linen pants and I fell on the sidewalk hard, camera in hand. I survived, camera survived, the knee is really sore and turning very black and blue. Not sure how well I will be moving tomorrow. I need to get work done so I may stay fairly still until my visit to the bird sanctuary, (Billblueeyes I promise a full report-see attached pics of 2 Florida burrowing owls!!! These were seen from the window of the shuttle bus en route from the airport to my residence-they just sit outside their burrow about 3 ft. from the sidewalk watching the world go by. Locals inserted a short length of white pvc pipe for them to easily scoot in and out of their nest and they also erected a homemade sign announcing the owl nest to the public).

At the end of the day tomorrow I will be on a "moonlight meditation cruise on the topic of Dreams".

Is this place even real? Hello? :carrot::carrot::carrot::carrot::carrot:

Much more to say, but I'll sum up with I made it to my artist residency and am finding it easy to settle in. ;)

Until tomorrow!

02-03-2012, 06:06 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Got to the gym, CREDIT moi. To my joy, I finally added five pounds to the dumbbells I use for my chest press. I'm still not back up to where I was last July when I fell off my gym routine, but it's neat to feel like I'm building back. Food was OK, CREDIT moi, including breakfast of an everything bagel with salmon cream cheese because I had a coupon from the nearby place for FREE, which made it taste twice as good.

onebyone – Waving toward Nirvana with Kudos for your ability to enjoy your environment. Thanks for the picture of the Burrowing Owl. I saw my first one in Florida a few years ago - just couldn't believe that their location was printed in a guide book; we drove there and, like you said, they were standing outside their burrows watching the world go by.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Waving back.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yay for a written plan. Double Yay for finding a convenient way to generate it.

Beverlyjoy – LOL at your knock knock joke, even though the constant interruption at a hospital isn't funny. Glad your DSM is doing well.

Pam (pamaga) – Gotta love, "No sugar and no cravings. End of story", sugar really is evil stuff.

maplover – Ouch for the pain of watching scale wiggle when you want the numbers to only go down. I agree with the others, there's more hidden salt in foods than you'd ever guess. Hope the sleep returns.

Readers - chapter 4 Stage 1 The Success Skills Plan
Success Skill 8 Follow Your Plan, No Matter What
tip:Do not use chew-
ing gum as a resistance tech-
nique. Some dieters tell me
"I can resist tempting foods,
but only if I chew a piece of
gum." To effectively exercise
your resistance muscle, you
need to get accustomed to
eating three meals and three
snacks with nothing else in
between. It's okay to enjoy
an occasional piece of gum,
but don't pop it in your mouth
because you think, I need it.
Once you learn to tolerate the
sensation of having an empty
mouth, you will be truly free.

When you contact your Diet Buddy from now on, report on which techniques helped the most.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 102.

02-03-2012, 09:40 AM
Hey folks! I posted this as a reply to another question but since many of you inquired about working with the nutritionist, I thought I'd post it here too!

This is about fueling for workouts, especially carb loading :)

If I'm exercising in the morning, I try to have my shake within a half hour. That's Milk (soy, almond, low fat, your choice but the calories & sugar will vary with your decision), 2 tbsp Better n'Peanut Butter, 1 tbsp whey (choc), banana, ice... so there the carbs are mostly from the banana.

When work out in the afternoons, I often have a piece of dense wheat bread with a bit of jelly for a fast burn up front. I also use Bloks during my workout. I used to use them for just longer rides (over 60 mins) but my nutritionist and I are messing with using them half way through shorter interval training sessions b/c I'm petering out about half way in. If I don't get to eat before my class/workout, I'll pop one or two Bloks right before.

I haven't had a training appointment yet since we've changed the system so I can't report there. She's also talking to me about recovery snacks b/c my training appointment will literally knock me out for a day or two. Recovery is a piece of fruit and a fat like nuts. I haven't thrown that in yet but it's my experiment for this coming week. She says recovery food is extremely important to fuel subsequent workouts. In Sept, I'll be riding two long back to back days so we're working really hard on what my body needs so I'll be ready for that.

As for the extra calories, well you just have to see how your body responds. I can burn almost 2000 on a long ride so a few hundred extra isn't a huge deal plus the after burn is really where you see the benefit.

Bloks are like carb enriched gummy bites. Took a bit of getting used to but I really feel the difference when I use them!

MAPLOVER: My nutritionist has strictly forbidden me from weighing myself at home AT ALL for this very reason! Fluctuations. It could be that you ate late or, again, the sodium factor. Sodium does a huge number on me... less so now but when I was heavier it really was bad. I drink green tea when I eat sodium-rich foods like sushi and it helps a lot. Trying staying off the scale for a few days, drink a ton and see what happens. And not to be graphic but some foods move through your system faster than others. That makes a HUGE difference! Makes me nuts but that's largely what causes my fluctuations. And scales can just be wonky. Hang tight! I know it's frustrating but you're doing AWESOME!

02-03-2012, 12:44 PM
Good Morning All,
Weigh in down a bit. 1 pound from ticker. I am through a rough food week and feel like I am settling into WW. Credit exercise yesterday for yoga. I tried to make homemade granola but it burned. Bummer. It is a terrific recipe and I will try it again soon.
I refined my 333 project (lol BBE who can't put 33 items together - men kill me) What an eye opener. After all the laundry was picked up and sorted I have three times 33 extra in the second closet. I just didn't realize. I had two really good moments on Wednesday. I gave two bags of clothes I had gleaned from the project to our hardworking school secretary. She was thrilled.
I also gave a public prize to a student of mine who is learning disabled and who pass my exam (a tough one) for the first time. The whole class hooped and hollered.
All of these plans - using up the food I have (granola), organizing clothes, etc... is getting ready for the sabbatical I am going to take next year. I am going to finish my book and play mom full time. School will be tough to let go but i need a break.
maplover: If you haven't gained you are not treading water, you are a winner. Remember you said last time your mom was sick you gained? Congrats for doing things differently.
Lexxiss: Credit for writing down food. I agree that it helps stay the course. I do it online now with WW.
Pamatga: Terrific. 10 days OP. I bet it feels great.
Fyreflie: Thanks for the nutrition info. I like to know what other people are eating.

02-03-2012, 06:39 PM
Hi coaches/buddies...yesterday was a healthy grateful. I fulfilled many of my goals: planned/measured/logged food, ate seated only, no seconds, lots of water, exercise, read my materials, said no way to some extra goodies I came across during the day, lots of water, and more.

TGIF - should have a nice weekend. It's not so hectic like when I was taking care of my stepmom in the hospital.

Saw the surgeon about my gallbladder..the poor sad thing. It's going bye bye later on.

We have a Super Bowl Party on Sunday. I am planning ahead in my mind now to have some healthy things for me to eat.

Have a wonderful weekend!

02-04-2012, 01:19 AM
Hi Coaches/Buddies/Friends!

My day took a twist from plan when I got called in to work at 545am. *credit* for taking time for my breakfast smoothie before leaving when eating there/not eating would have been much simpler. I brought DH home a bacon/cheeseburger w/fries and made my own healthy dinner. *credit* considering I was out of my yummy salad and had to take time to make another one. We have lots of accumulated snow and it's still coming down so I anticipate some shoveling in my future.

BillBlueEyes, glad to hear you are still adding weights to your dumbbells! Wow-a free salmon/cc bagel. Glad it was in your plan.

Beverlyjoy, many credits especially saying no to the extra goodies that you encountered!

MaryAnn, interesting commentary on the 333 project. Glad to hear you are settling into WW.

Donamarie(fyreflie24), thanks for the nutritional info. It's just so great that you have the professional assistance as you are exercising incredible amounts.

onebyone, thanks for checking in with us amidst your busy schedule I adore the owls! Just an amazing adaption on their part. I have pangs while bro lives there and I've missed visiting for a few years. credit for keeping your food plan on the forefront, resisting junk and getting lots of exercise.

Pam(atga), credit for 10 days OP! Yep, sugar just leads to more!

Erika(eusebius), glad your week was less crazy . credit for finishing week 2 or your c25k.

02-04-2012, 01:40 AM
In honor of onebyone's trip, I started reading An Appetite for Murder by Lucy Burdette, the first in a series of mystery novels featuring a food writer living in Key West. It's fun and I imagine onebyone around every corner!

WI: NA kgs, Exercise:+35 150/1300 minutes for January, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

02-04-2012, 05:06 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Evening snack was exactly per plan, CREDIT moi, with no points off because I did it by going out to a movie. CREDIT moi also for not indulging in 1500 calories of buttered popcorn or a 700 calorie soda, even though those items have long ago fallen off my list of problem foods. For those who need to know, Drew Barrymore is still acting, but rather than being a precocious teenager, she's a precocious 20-something saving gray whales.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – I'm immediately drawn to a mystery "featuring a food writer" - hope you can keep your distance. Have you read the Millennium Series?

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yep, Kudos indeed for doing your on-plan breakfast smoothie before headed to work.

Beverlyjoy – Kudos for " no way to some extra goodies." Ouch for the gallbladder news.

maryann - Such a moving story that "The whole class hooped and hollered" when you gave the prize to the learning disabled student. Kudos that you're settling in to WW.

Donamari (fyreflie24) – Thanks for the tips on fueling long workouts - a 2000 calorie ride sounds like a big deal.

Readers - chapter 4 Stage 1 The Success Skills Plan
Success Skill 9 Get Back on Track - Right Away

You may not realize that all long-time maintainers, and even people who have never had weight problems, overeat from time to time. Why don't they gain weight? Because they don't think about it catastrophically. Instead, they just use their skills to get back on track immediately. They don't get down on themselves. They don't get hopeless. They tell themselves, Okay, I wish I hadn't done that ... Oh, well, I'll eat a bit less the rest of today.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 102.

02-04-2012, 07:15 AM
Hi coaches/buddies/friends - yesterday I stayed within the parameters of my plan..but, my food was 'all over the place'. Luckily I didn't eat too many calories. I logged my food, drank lots of water, always left a bite and tried to eat slower.

It's a hard time for .DH & I. Three people we love/care about are/were in hospice. One passed away last night. Food will not make my sadness/stress go away. This has been a very stressful week with my step mom’s surgery and these three other special people near death. But - I will take it all one day at a time. My stepmom is doing pretty well from her surgery on Monday, thankfully.

Super Bowl will be at the neighbor's/friend's house. I know that they are doing pizza. I am doing a big salad with dressing on the side for everyone. Lately when I go somewhere with pizza I scrape of the cheese and pepperoni and eat a bit of tasty baked dough. (sounds silly.. but it works) I will bring some pretzels & fruit, too. Pretzels can last me a long time because I pick off the salt. LOL.

Lexxiss/Debbie - it’s a wonderful idea to make a specific time to write down your plan! LOVE the reminder that gaining one day is really fluxuation… thanks for this reminder. Credit for say no choice to dh’s burger and flies and choosing to make a healthy meal.

Onebyone - you are doing very well while on your trip. Credit, yes, for not eating when your not hungry!

Billbe - I love salmon cream cheese, too. Not always easy to find. Good to hear you could add five pounds to your weights. You are on your way to where you where last summer. Credit for avoiding those heavy snacks at the movies.

gardener joy - Hi!! Glad you posted.

Fyreflie - I appreciate you sharing your workout information!

Maryann - I LOVE hearing of your disabled student getting an award and the others cheering!

Pam - I plan for an evening snack too. However, it has to be early in the evening 7:30 - 8pm. - so it doesn’t effect my reflux. I used to go between breakfast and lunch with no snack in between. A while back someone here was talking about how helpful a midmorning snack was for them. I find it extremely helpful. I eat three meals and three snacks. I am doing a happy dance in honor of 10 days OP and avoiding sugar!!

Erika - awesome to avoid a snack when that’s what you wanted/planned to do. I understand about missing the kitty cat too.

map lover - I think it’s a good idea to get your manicure. Sometimes it’s important to get away from the hospital. You can come back renewed and ready to be there again. I agree with the others… don’t give it up with food. Remember the scale is just information. Unless you ate about 7000 calories- your weight fluxuation is not ‘real’ weight gain.

02-04-2012, 08:26 AM
Despite some days of mental pain with my mom's situation, I am gradually getting a grip. My weight is gradually coming down (fluctuating in the right direction!) again. This morning I started the couch to 5k program and read my advantage and response cards and planned my meals. I am going to a play today with some friends and out to lunch beforehand. Hoping for the strength to stick with my plan and say no choice, especially for the after dinner period.

Oh an interesting thing. Thursday nite I took an Ambien (had a prescription but did not like the way I felt the next day so only took it once before). Not only did I sleep really well, but it definitely made my cravings go away the next day. Anyone else have this experience?

Lexxis: Thanks for the wisdom about fluctuations and kudos to you for the meal planning strategies.

onebyone: glad you are enjoying Key West and sorry about the fall from the bike. But great job staying on plan.

BBE: great to hear you are able to increase your weights

fyreflie24: kudos on the exercise and thanks for the good advice about fluctuations.

maryann:thanks for the heartwarming stories about your student.

Beverlyjoy: yay for the healthy day!

02-04-2012, 04:57 PM
Hi Coaches

I'm just back from another spontaneous 2 hour walk. What is it with this place that I can wander endlessly until 120min have passed? How does that work?
Oh Well as Dr. Beck would advise me. It just happens.So credit for the walk today.

I did myself a favour and went to the local OA meeting this morning. I found myself in tears there, so profoundly grateful to be right where I am today. To have a foodplan. To not be obsessed with my weight or my food/diet, to not be filled with the self-loathing and the disgust I used to just-live-with. In fact, I feel, I am truly living my life. I am scared here sometimes, but the anxiety is very brief and it passes and I do not/have not/will not eat over it. And now I have 6 locals to call or email and I still have you guys, to get this stuff out of my system before my system overwhelms me and I am called to the food. Whatever has happened to me, whyever it has happened now, I am just grateful. the meeting reminded me of where I have come from and truly how far I have travelled down my own road. credit for sticking it out to see what happens.

Food today was a very fast breakfast as I finally had a good night's sleep after only managing 4-5 hrs since I arrived. I think I have the ceiling fan/air conditioning/windows open or closed choices figured out for me to have a good sleep. I am ok with two windows open, but not all of the windows. (This is from when someone broke into our apt years ago and was at the foot of our bed taking $ out of DH's wallet in his jeans which were there on the floor. He left after he got that but I can no longer be blase about leaving windows open... but I digress.) So, no air con, one ceiling fan on low, ceiling fan in studio off, all studio windows shut.

In general I am not using the air con. I know from summers where I have to get used to the heat it is better for me to...just get used to the heat. Air con always interferes with that. But I won't be stupid. If I need it, I'll use it.

I have been worried about overindulging in The New-new foods/tastes/ingredients. This is a real trigger for overeating for me. But having a whole month makes me slow down and it's not an emergency. I can *plan* for that special meal/food. As a result I had a "cuban mix" sandwich for lunch, no conch fritters with it. That'll be for another day and probably on their own. Thank goodness I don't drink except occasionally. This place has a liquor store everywhere.

Better go. I am about to get caught up in my daily prints. I am, already, 3 prints behind! I do have my images sorted out though so I am, to me, over halfway done. Just have to actually manifest them in the world now.

maplover I just have to note how well you are doing. I think you are really turning a corner with your food and how you deal with it. Bravo. I can relate to the sleep/no sleep having an effect on appetite and cravings. I was *ravenous* yesterday and *exhausted* - just couldn't sleep well. I still always manage to sleep, but for me this was like insomnia. Today, with my 10 hours under my belt (bit more that usual) I am calm and food is not such a big deal. I just don't think straight if I am exhausted. Glad you are feeling better and also that your mom is doing ok too.

Beverlyjoy Good to hear you are planning planning planning and doing alright as well despite being all over the place with your food, but that place is well defined space within your plan, so carry on! Very good to hear your step mom is continuing to recover from her surgery. I've had several people close to me lose their gallbladder to the surgeon and ALL of them were thrilled to have the thing gone and all of them claimed the whole thing was no big deal. More of a hassle living with it than without it was the message I got. Just wanted to pass that along...

BillBlueEyes Drew Barrymore is pushing 40 and is still playing 20-sg. She's like the man I met this morning who made my jaw drop by telling me he is 85. I gave him early 60's. But then I overheard another man complaining about his botox dr. so The Physical Body is pretty important here--like it isn't's just really "out there" here. Speaking of which, kudos on the extra weights at the gym! and fyi I fed a Cooper's Hawk a (frozen) mouse, and brought dinner (yes I saw what it is to "eat like a bird") to cormorants, pelicans, turkey vultures, pigeons, ibis, herons and a vast enclosure of gypsy chickens, all rescued or injured birds. This place is at the end of my street and I'm going to go back to sketch there.

gardenerjoy How great! A Key West food writer. Tell me if the character goes to 5Brothers. I was just there this morning... How very nice to be in your thoughts:hug:

Lexxiss Credit you for taking the time to take care of yourself by taking the time to make a salad. So simple and so important. I admit I got to your last line about the shoveling and snow still coming down and when the picture of snow came in my head I pushed it out! :rofl: Although someone told me they were hoping I'd tell them we were having a terribly cold snowy winter. He says he wants the cold water to come down from Canada to cool off the gulf which I guess is way too hot, meaning, the hurricane season could be bad. We are all connected aren't we?

maryann I'm going to echo the others at how great you are to recognize the work of that student and how great a class you have to spontaneously do the same. Wonderful. Good to hear WW is working for you. I am doing well on WW and my meeting is next Tuesday so I am looking forward to it. However, I can't stay for the meeting meeting as I have an OA meeting at the same time and I get more out of that meeting than the one's held by WW--still I will go to the weigh-in, I'll get there early, and then I'll leave. I am lucky to have both.

fyreflie24 I'm just curious, but when did you "get serious" about your exercise, like the competitive part of it? Have you always been athletic, or always wanted to be athletic, or did it evolve as you started to work out for weightloss then you just pushed further with it or did you start as a way to set goals for yourself and to keep yourself exercising in that way? I ask as I have two little tiny athletic nudges in my brain. 1) would be to become a water aerobic instructor and 2) would be to join a Masters Swimmers group. Both of these goals require me to acquire/upgrade my swimming skills ie. I'd need to take some lessons, get some first aid related courses and all that. You are inspiring me to take the first step, which is to allow myself to think/dream about doing it. Thanks.

pamatga Good job being OP for 10 days! I too am staying away from the sugar. I won't completely eliminate right now, I am not feeling the need to do so, but I only have it for a real reason: restaurant dinner out, etc. I constantly have to turn down offerings of food from my sister. She loves to cook and feed others, but she knows not to push it on me after I say no. She's good like that. But she always offers.

Ok must go work now.
Everyone, thanks for being here. You too Lurkers.

02-04-2012, 05:45 PM
Everyone, thanks for being here. You too Lurkers.

Thanks, onebyone! Key West is really suiting you. I'm so glad. :hug:

02-04-2012, 10:21 PM
Hi, Everyone.

I just wanted to check in and let you know that I am going to be giving up my daily posting for a while. I hope to get back in every once in a while, but I have a ridiculous semester and am trying hard to keep up!

You and Beck will not be too far from me, as I am keeping my ARC on my daily to do list. Best wishes to you all!


02-05-2012, 01:00 AM
Did reasonably well through a family potluck.

WI: NC kgs, Exercise:+15 165/1300 minutes for January, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

BillBlueEyes: I couldn't get into The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo. People tell me that I didn't try hard enough, though, so I may try again. Have you read it?

Beverlyjoy: So sorry that you're dealing with so much sadness and sickness and stress right now. Good for you for remembering "one day at a time."

02-05-2012, 07:48 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Did gym, CREDIT moi, and then a walk to get avocados to make some guacamole for the Super Bowl this evening. Eating was OK, CREDIT moi, including dinner with friends and having only one homemade cookie for dessert along with the fruit salad. They live close enough to walk which meant coming home in the quiet of 10:30pm when we're seldom out walking. Mesmerized by the snapshots of people's lives as seen by the glimpse through their lighted windows.

onebyone – Joyful times for you down there. Gotta love your gratitude and celebration of your own journey.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Family potlucks are quicksand; Kudos for surviving. [Yep, after I saw the movie, I had to read The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo to get the details of the mystery. Then had to read the next two because I was hooked. My take is that you'd really like the book once you plow through his loooooong character building.]

Beverlyjoy – It's so difficult to face the final journey with friends. Kudos for not eating your way through it.

silverbirch – Waving back to our official lurker, LOL. Our local papers say that there's a fortune to be made renting out your house during this summer's London Olympics.

FutureFitChick – Read when seeing us gives you support, and check in when you're so moved. Focusing does require making choices.

maplover – Yay for sleep! Nope, I've never tried Ambien.

Readers - chapter 4 Stage 1 The Success Skills Plan
Success Skill 9 Get Back on Track - Right Away

Unsuccessful dieters do just the opposite. Instead of immediately getting problem-solving oriented, they lose perspective and then make poor decisions. When they eat something they shouldn't, they often tell themselves [I]This is terrible! I'm so weak! I lost control! I can't believe I did that! I might as well give up and eat whatever I want for the rest of the day because, starting tomorrow, I'll have to cut my calories way back and deprive myself.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 102.

02-05-2012, 12:12 PM
Hi coaches/buddies/friends - yesterday was a healthful day... always grateful for that! I really concentrated on working most of the facets of my plan. I accomplished many - grateful for that too.

-eat seated only - almost all of the time (it's so easy to just 'stick' food in my mouth)
- no seconds
- slowed down
- concentrated on TASTING the food
- did my journal work
- read my advantage cards,rc, beck book
- exercise
- sponataneous exercise (walked up and down the stairs for no reason except to do it)
- lots of water
- planned my food ahead of time
- used resistance techniques to help say No Choice unplanned food (gave into a few extra's too)

One credit am particularly happy about is going through my checklist of goals at the end of the day. I rarely do it. I'll try to do it more often.

DH and I went to the grocery together yesterday... I made sure no candy bars jumped into the cart!

Today we are going to some friends/neighbor's for the Super Bowl. I'll enjoy the game... but, the commercials, mostly. There will be four little kids running around. I know I'll love that, too. I've planned for some healthy foods and a taste of dessert.

Everyone - thanks so much for your kind thoughts in regards to the stresses and passing of a long time friend - along with two other family members in hospice. I appreciate it.

Somehow, I am not into total bingeing in the face of all his stress. I am 'hanging on' to sane eating, mostly. Not always right on plan... but, doing the best I can. I am REALLY grateful for the willingnes to try.

I hope you folks have a nice day.

02-06-2012, 12:22 AM
We watched Moneyball instead of the Super Bowl -- hey! At least it was sports related.

WI: -0.2 kgs, Exercise:+60 225/1300 minutes for February, Food: 85%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

BillBlueEyes: yay for one homemade cookie. Both the homemade part and the one part.

Beverlyjoy: hope you had fun at your Super Bowl gathering with all the kids. Great job on all of those credits!

02-06-2012, 04:22 AM
Success Skill 9 Get Back on Track - Right Away

"You may not realize that all long-time maintainers, and even people who have never had weight problems, overeat from time to time. Why don't they gain weight? Because they don't think about it catastrophically. Instead, they just use their skills to get back on track immediately. They don't get down on themselves. They don't get hopeless. They tell themselves, Okay, I wish I hadn't done that ... Oh, well, I'll eat a bit less the rest of today." pg 102-green book.

After 10 days of being OP, the train got derailed. I was so proud of the fact that I ticked off a lot of "to do" things on Friday only to find out that I couldn't eat my evening meal and ended up splurging on some of the best chocolate chunk cookies made by a friend's son who is an aspiring chef. 600 calories later (3 big cookies) I vowed the next day would be back on OP. Once again, it was a great day until I caved in and had some cherry coffee cake. I ate the top off once I realized that the bottom half was dry. Blech!

Today I was OP until I had one of Paul's Kit Kat bars. Got right back on the next meal and finished out the rest of the night remaining faithful to my food plan. I really liked what Dr. Beck said about not using chewing gum as a resistance tool. I actually tried that last summer and found out that it made me feel even more empty and hungry. I haven't done that since.

Starting today, I am only going to post once a week, on Mondays. I will try to do personals when I can but I am falling behind in keeping my diet blog current, leading the other group and doing one on one accountability with several buddies over there besides coming up with doing my own exercise program which I resumed this past Wednesday. It feels really good to be back walking on the treadmill and lifting some weights. I am also having fun creating workouts to help the group prepare for our walking challenge. I apologize that I am going to have to drop to once a week but I am hoping it will only be short-lived.

Credit for my ability to not catastrophosize (spelling?) my lapses. I ate all sitting down, not distracted but focusing on my "indiscretions", ate them slowly and mindfully, included them in my food plan (albeit 200+ over my recommended range) and "moved on". I was not tempted to continue eating more food nor more sugar. IMHO, that is progress.


02-06-2012, 07:27 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Good enough on food, CREDIT moi, until the Super Bowl that is. My first time at making guacamole was appreciated with a rare compliment from my foodie son - think the cumin and fresh lime juice made a difference. Unfortunately, using Red Bell Peppers to dip it didn't reduce the calories and I tried to eat away the tension. Ouch, but I will run no red lights today.

I did get in a walk, CREDIT moi, because we had no fresh Cilantro. Got that even though the produce manager had to go to the back because the shelf was bare. Had to fight my way through the chips aisle to get some to satisfy the younger folks who were coming over. Have never seen such a mob fighting to grab bags of chips - really funny. But, big problem: They were on sale "4 for 2." Which meant that after I one bag, I would get three more for the price of one. Ouch. Of course I did, but then had the good sense to make two guests leave with whole bags of chips after the game. Perhaps Martha Stewart wouldn't approve, but it seemed like a fair enough Judith Beck strategy.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – LOL at watching Moneyball - probably less stress on the heart than the high tension Super Bowl.

Beverlyjoy – Kudos for walking the stairs just for the exercise and for 'hanging on'. My vote for best commercial is the one where the young lady butts the guy's head to knock him out of the way of her Greek yogurt.

Pam (pamaga) – Yes, Yes, Yes, Kudos for making the choice to not catastrophosize one off-plan eating event to make it into a major divergence. And Yep, "that is progress."

Readers - chapter 4 Stage 1 The Success Skills Plan
Success Skill 9 Get Back on Track - Right Away

It's interesting that dieters can be so rational and reasonable in other areas of their lives. But when they go off their diet, they somehow think it is okay to compound one mistake with another. In fact, it doesn't make sense to eat one unplanned food and then go on to eat much more. Think about it this way: If you got a ticket for running a red light, would you continue to run red lights for the rest of the day? Would you say, I might as well run as many as I want and start again tomorrow? Of course not! You would stop at the very next red light you encountered.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pgs 102-103.

02-06-2012, 11:45 AM
Hi Coaches

fyreflie24 I'm just curious, but when did you "get serious" about your exercise, like the competitive part of it? Have you always been athletic, or always wanted to be athletic, or did it evolve as you started to work out for weightloss then you just pushed further with it or did you start as a way to set goals for yourself and to keep yourself exercising in that way? I ask as I have two little tiny athletic nudges in my brain. 1) would be to become a water aerobic instructor and 2) would be to join a Masters Swimmers group. Both of these goals require me to acquire/upgrade my swimming skills ie. I'd need to take some lessons, get some first aid related courses and all that. You are inspiring me to take the first step, which is to allow myself to think/dream about doing it. Thanks.

Hey! Oh wow... I don't think of myself as inspiring at all so thanks :) It was an odd evolution actually but I think one worth mentioning. A friend of mine was getting into cycling on his crossover bike and I took mine out to ride with him and keep him company. Well we really started enjoying the chat time and the coffee afterwards. Then he mentioned he wanted to ride a century (100 miles at a clip) in 2012 which evolved to the MS Breakaway to the Beach in September here in NC. Well my sister has MS. So that got me thinking. So I spoke to DH about getting a road bike. Well DH kinda freaked initially, and kinda rightfully so in retrospect. He'd been all over me for a few years about finding some nonfood (ie not going out to dinner) way of spending time together and I'd been resisting vehemently because of my weight and inability to 'perform' at his level. I was afraid of letting him down or him really knowing I wasn't the same wife he'd once had when I was thinner and in much better shape. My cycling buddy is a guy so I don't think that helped :o .

Anyway, when I spoke to cycling buddy about this, he was soooo encouraging. He's a great bud and a very confident person; I joke he has enough confidence to share with others and some of my accomplishments have been attributed to him having total faith in my abilities... kinda borrowing confidence if you will. Having someone outside the complications of a marriage allowed me a 'safe' place to try and fail and learn. The things that made me feel 'unsafe' were my own doing, not my husband though I have been able to communicate more openly with my husband about things that help like encouraging me up a hard climb. My projection if he's having an easier time with a climb and being quiet is that I'm disappointing him.

So the other benefit with cycling is that, I hate cardio. A lot. This is giving me something else to be focused on aside from the scale and gives the working out a purpose. So when I'm doing leg stuff with my trainer she'll say 'this is going to help you with hard climbs' for example. And I get a sense of accomplishment since I'm doing the same thing and can see improvement. I'm not going out to do a cardio run, I'm training intervals or endurance or climbs or strength. I'm not competing with anyone other than myself. My goal is to keep up with hubby without slowing him down. I also love gear :) I'm a photographer...I love the gear. I'm a cyclist, I love the gear :)

I don't consider myself competitive or trying to compete; I leave that to the really serious folk. But I love the purpose of cycling and that I can do it with both DH and a dear friend, or alone, or as part of the cycling community which is rich here in Charlotte. I'm also looking to this as a long term fitness strategy. Plus, have you ever really looked at a cyclist? They have amazing bodies :)

I'm sorry for being so long but I wanted to give you a very complete answer :) Go for it girl! I really think getting physically invested and involved is a fabulous long term heath and weight management strategy! I've toyed with being a zumba instructor as well :)

02-06-2012, 12:22 PM
Kudos Pam! Great attitude and best going forward!

Bill.. oh you and me dude... guacamole is a HUGE weakness of mine!

Beverlyjoy: OMG I hate those jumping candybars! Actually, my youngest has tried that a few times ;) I’m so sorry about your friend! Losses are so very hard (and actually how I put on this particular round of the 100+ lbs) so kudos for everything you’re doing especially in the wake of what’s going on!

Lexxiss: I’m soo bad at planning... soooo bad. Good for you for being diligent with that! Are you finding it very helpful?

Onebyone: omg that would be me trying to shoot and cycle! I’m not allowed to have a camera anywhere near me when I cycle for that very reason! Glad you’re ok! Glad you’re settling in well! Spontaneous 2 hour walk! Love it! I totally know what you mean about living your life again... I’m right there with you!

Maryann: How awesome your kids are so supportive of each other! Wow.. good for you for helping to instill that!

Maplover: YES! omg... sleep (or lack there of) and cravings and food...right here. My youngest didn’t sleep and I ate my way through trying to stay awake during the day and stay sane. Craved protein particularly. Being well rested is SO important for me on my diet and in life really. Not just you, I absolutely hear you on the sleep!

Futurefitchick: Best with your semester!

Saturday was my birthday and between that and the superbowl I was off plan but not as much as I might have been in past years (especially since my birthday part was at a DESERT bar! Yea and I chose it LOL! I really didn't have any...). My nutritionist has forbidden me from weighing at home and I have to say, it's been a bit of a relief. I don't do what I used to do which is weigh in, cheat and then spend a week getting it off so yay for behavior modification! My bodyfat is down 3% in about 3 weeks so she's thrilled with my progress. Hubby was particularly excited that we discovered I can shop at Victoria's Secret again (men.) and I had my makeup professionally done for the pix in my avatar. I also recently became a redhead... so lots of changes. January was kinda blah for me for some personal reasons not relating to weight (negative person in my life) but I feel really good after a lovely birthday as I was overwhelmed at the outpouring of wonderful people in my life. I'm a few lbs from 60 lost and the end is starting to feel attainable! I'm finding my weight loss more consistent working with my nutritionist so it's just a matter of staying the course and patience. Oh I'm so NOT patience! :)

02-06-2012, 12:31 PM
Hello Everyone!

Hope all are doing well. I'd like to say I've been following the program faithfully, reading ARC, eating mindfully etc but that would not really be the truth. I have not tracked on paper for a few weeks now, since I hit my all time low weight I've been basically in maintenance mode. I don't think when I set the goal for the cruise that I actually believed I could accomplish it, so to have it happen 6 weeks before was a big surprise to me. I've decided to accept where I am at right now as I'm very happy with it and once we return from vacation I'll set my next goal. I do plan on being very mindful of my food choices on the ship, DH and I spent 10 days in Mexico in 2009 at an all-inclusive and when the day arrived and we could hardly button up our jeans for the flight home that was not comfortable. :yikes: So I have decided that I'm going to try on my jeans every morning before I get dressed while on the ship to monitor my progress. A friend asked me at Zumba yesterday if they were stretchy jeans and I could happily (in this case) say no.

BBE Sorry about your football team, I am not a football fan and don't understand any of the game so it was not on our TV. Good job in sending home chips with the guests. Why is it when there's a 2 for 1 or 4 for 1 sale we figure we have to get all the free ones when we were willing to pay the money for 1 only??

pamatga Credit for stopping the sugar eating! That's something I really need to get a grip on right now too. This week I'm trying to eliminate most of the bad "white" stuff from my eating, the sugar and flour products.

beverlyjoy Senidng :hug: your way as you deal with all the emotional stress right now in your life.

FFC Good luck on your semester!

onebyone You sound so positive and happy in your recent posts. I'm happy to hear the weather for Florida and hope it holds for my trip there this Saturday. I'm happy to hear you have found some good support so far with OA and WW. Enjoy your time there!

Lexxiss Love the reminder that they are flucuations on the scale and not necessarily a weight gain. Once again it's only a number.

fyreflie24 Thanks for the workout smoothie recipe. Tried it yesterday and really like it with peanut butter and banana. Nice change from the blueberry banana ones I've been having for the last 2 months!

Hello to everyone else I missed. Have a great week everyone.

02-06-2012, 12:41 PM
Hi coaches/buddies/friends .. Yesterday went well until AFTER the Super Bowl game - where I ate healthfully - when others had a spread of fattening unhealthy goodies. Not fair... oh well. I made the right choices during the day - often needing to use my resistance techniques.. For whatever reason (maybe stress from a stressful week & feeling 'deprived' when I wanted to comfort my self with food all week & I didn't)- who knows) When I got home from the party -I had chocolate milk, crackers and bread... all unplanned. It's not the worst I've ever done. But, it just doesn't feel so good.

However.... I've gotten up with a new resolve to have a healthy & wonderful day. I've planned my food and will aim to do what I know will help me. I just must muster up the 'willingness'. It is always about willingness to try and do what I know works.

I will go see my Aunt in hospice and give her a hug and a kiss today.

I have writing to do and other things related to work.

I am also getting nervous about my gallbladder removal surgery next week. It should be a good thing - in the long run. I'll be brave. I don't want to gain weight back as a result.... please, please, please.

fryeflie - thanks for sharing your exercise journey.

billbe - sorry your struggled at the party. I LOVE this that you said: but I will run no red lights today. I am writing this down.

pam - thanks for reposting the quote from the green book about hopping right back on our plan when we get off track. Such a good reminder. I will miss your daily/semi daily posts. But, sure do understand how there's only enough time in the day to get it 'all' done.

gardenerjoy - so good that you read your cards pretty consistently. Credit.

Tazzy - I am glad you reached your short term goal so quickly! I think putting those jeans on daily is a good idea - clever way to see how your weight is doing in a place with out your scale.

I became a Facebook friend of The Beck Diet Solution and today they posted this:

Monday Motivation: When people tell us that they can’t lose weight because it’s too hard, we remind them that likely they’ve done other hard things in life, like getting a degree, being successful at a job, or learning a new skill. Those things didn’t come to them overnight and they had to work hard to achieve success and made mistakes along the way. Dieting is no different.

However: it comes from Dr. Beck's website originally:

Have a great day, Becksters.

02-06-2012, 10:20 PM
Hi Coaches/Buddies/Friends!

I completed my first full week of my Think Thin for Life Plan. I found my daily/weekly goals to be reasonable and I'm continuing to refine and redesign. Highlights…..
1. I found I could fit my 5 min. daily stretching in At work on the days I work.
2. I found writing my food plan while making my smoothie worked better than any way I have tried, so far.
3. I found my daily reading in my Beck book to be educational and motivating, especially since I was "never finding time" before.

I'm trying again this week and will continue with similar guidelines. No change in weight but I did weigh every morning and recorded it.

I've a busy evening yet...we travel tomorrow night after work...depending on the weather. Still lots of snow here although we haven't had to shovel for a few days now.

BBE, love the chips story!

Beverlyjoy, sending supportive thoughts as you prepare for your surgery.

Tazzy, great plan putting on your skinny jeans every morning.

Donamarie, thanks for taking the time to share your cycling journey. Yes, I find the planning helps.

Pam(atga), will look forward to your weekly posts!

gardenerjoy, we watched the puppybowl on An.Planet!

onebyone, :waving: with envy...have you ever visited Nancy's secret garden?

maplover, yay for starting your new exercise program.

FutureFitChick, best wishes for your semester!

Goodnight coaches.

02-07-2012, 01:22 AM
A productive day that included a trip to the gym that has the hot tub and steam room. Ah! But, I earned the relaxation by getting on the elliptical first!

WI: +0.15 kgs, Exercise:+65 290/1300 minutes for February, Food: 85%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

fyreflie24: glad you had a happy birthday! I went red with the hair about half-way through my weight loss, too.

02-07-2012, 06:05 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - The sun was out and the ducks were out on the Atlantic Ocean making for a good walk, CREDIT moi. Even though the classic image of the Common Loon is a Maine lake, they're easier to spot when they've returned to the ocean. It's easier to eat on plan, CREDIT moi, when I'm outside and there's no source of unplanned food.

During an evening meeting conducted over food I did well, CREDIT moi. This is a meeting where, in the past, I've failed to stop with the nibble food and just nibbled my way through the night.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – There's a crowd at my gym that go straight to the steam room, hot tub, and relaxing pool without bothering to stop by any exercise equipment, so Kudos to you for earning your relaxation.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Love the thought of getting in your five minutes of stretching at work. Kudos for "finding time" for Beck reading now despite the time crunches in your life.

Beverlyjoy – Ouch for the reality that the gallbladder has lived its life and is taking early retirement. Glad that the rest of you will keep marching on.

Tazzy - Such a neat idea to use your jeans as a reality check during the cruise. [Whatever's the psychology of the '2 for 1' and '4 for 2' sales, it pushes my buttons every time.]

Donamari (fyreflie24) – Oh Yes, "yay for behavior modification!" - it so works!!! Love when a pro will admit that they love the gear part of their thing. I saw a scuba diver going into the ocean yesterday with a MASSIVE rack of underwater digital camera gear with lights. I was diverted from watching ducks to focus on his multi-$K of gear.

Readers - chapter 4 Stage 1 The Success Skills Plan
Success Skill 9 Get Back on Track - Right Away

To lose weight successfully, you need to learn how to stop yourself at the first mistake, put it in perspective, and recommit yourself right away. Because that's just what it is: a mistake. We are all human and, therefore, not perfect, so mistakes are an inevitable part of life. I don't know a single dieter who followed a plan perfectly, day in and day out for the rest of his/her life. I still make mistakes from time to time. But I limit them and get back on track right away. Expect to make mistakes from time to time and expect to use all of your skills so you can get back on track right away, too.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 103.

02-07-2012, 09:54 AM
Good Morning, Coaches.
I am feeling overwhelmed this morning. Rough sleep. My principal approached me about next year's plans and I was force to confront the issue of my sabbatical. In the end, I am happy he started the ball rolling because I didn't realize the timeline for application was next week. There hasn't been a sabbatical granted in my district since 1998. I feel foolish applying but I wrote the letter late last night anyway and hope to submit by Friday. Lots of feelings are coming up about leaving my job. DH is behind me.But it is tough to think about leaving the students. I tried to eat my weight in chocolate at school. Tracked everything this morning and I am only a few exercise point away from coming out all right for the week. This too shall pass. Important to keep OP and to ask myself "How important is it?"
Best to all.

02-07-2012, 10:08 AM
Tazzy: OH the jeans test is the ultimate test imho! I told my husband when I get down to my goal weight, I’m getting a great pair of jeans and if they ever don’t fit he has my permission to have a hissy fit at me. So exciting about hitting your goal early! I know what you mean about having a hard time believing you’ll hit it; I feel that way about my June 23rd goal... Great job with maintenance! That’s as challenging as losing quite honestly :) Glad you like my smoothie! The banana is particularly wonderful preworkout. :)

Beverlyjoy: I’ve started to really relish in 1) I didn’t ‘splurge’ like I used to or would have and 2) I’m jumping right back on the bandwagon. That my friend is how we keep this off in the long run! Best with your surgery... speedy recovery vibes your way.

Lexxiss: I find I’m doing loose planning... I have good stuff in the house that’s fast and easy to go to and that’s working... but I do need to be a bit more organized :) Congrats on your first week of Think Thin for Life!

Gardnerjoy: OH that’s funny about the red hair! My husband keeps calling me his ‘new wife’ LOL

Bill: I would have been right there with you goggling over the underwater gear... omg, the housings alone are a fortune!! Great job with the meeting and resisting the nibbles. I hear those types of changes are the key to maintenance so thank you for modeling that!

Rocking and rolling here. I pulled my knee so I'm hoping to get a workout in but we'll see how it feels. I'd swim if I owned a bathing suit but not quite yet... yes that's my pathology :o

Have a great day!

02-07-2012, 01:34 PM
Hi coaches/buddies/friends Yesterday was mostly healthy. Once again I ate extra in the evening. I need to 'nip this in the bud' as they say. I will work very very hard tonight on NOT eating after 7:30.

Actually, I hardly worked my Beck program yesterday, except to write down what I ate. It proves to me that I do better when incorporating the Beckisms that have worked for me in the past. At the very least - I must plan/measure/log, read my arc/rc, and not eating standing up.

Yesterday, I went to see my aunt in hospice. She was having a good day - we had a wonderful visit. I am grateful.

Another relative, who was also in hospice, passed away yesterday. He lives a couple of hours from here. So, I'll go there tomorrow for the visitation and I can swing over to where my stepmom is recouperating from her surgery. Actually, it will work out well - bacause I need to go back there anyway.

I have much to do. I'll try and get back later for some personals. As always, I appreciate all of your support, wisdom and kindness.

02-07-2012, 05:27 PM
Well I had major insomnia last night. Woke up at 1:30 and though I tried to read for a while and go back to sleep it never really happened so I ended up just getting up around 3:30. One good thing. That gave me plenty of time to work out. I'm alternating between bodyweight workouts at home (took a leave from the gym while mom is in nursing home) and couch to 5K. This morning it was c25k. Last time I did this I had to take an ibuprofen beforehand (major arthritis in ankle) but it didn't bother me this morning.

I got basically nothing done at work and came home early thinking I would take a nap, but couldn't fall asleep. I have to go to a boring 2-hour "visioning" meeting for my homeowner's assn tonite. Would skip but I'm the secretary. Aargh. Trying now to keep to my food plan for the rest of the day, always difficult when I'm so tired.

Beverlyjoy: Sorry for the illnesses and the stress I can totally relate

Gardnerjoy: great job reading your advantages and responses, I need to do this every day and track it!

Pamatga: thanks for the wisdom on catastrophism. Maybe I'll do a response card on that.

BBE: nom! Guacamole! Chips! Hard to resist! But good strategy giving away at the chips.

fyreflie24: love the bike story! Happy belated Birthday and happy weight loss!

Tazzy: congrats on reaching goal. The jeans are a good strategy.

Lexxiss: good for you for planning food and reading Beck every day.

Maryann: "important to keep OP" Yes!

02-08-2012, 12:51 AM
Good Evening Coaches

Here in Key West I made it to the only WW meeting they have on the island. I took the "blue bus" there and the "green bus" back -- my first use of my bus pass. It still floors me that it is "patio weather" outside. I was printing this morning with the ceiling fan on and the windows open and then oopsie a drop of sweat fell from my forehead right onto the fresh ink on my fragile Japanese paper. The fibres soaked it up and spread it throughout so it looked like the veins in a leaf. I didn't even know I was that hot! So, until my exhibition next week, I am in the air conditioning all the way. I did get four large colour prints done today so I am pleased. I need to ramp it up though and especially need to have projects in the works tomorrow as the studios have an evening for the public to come and get to know the artists in residence-me and my neighbour in this case. I am sure this will include a sneak peek at my work, my studio space and this newly renovated house. Being the very first resident here is a pretty big deal. The Community here is very proud of their efforts and me working in it is the culmination of all their hard work.

How great is that?

But I, greatly, digress.

I did get to my weigh-in. I can't believe it's a 6pm weigh-in. I kept thinking "man I am going to be 2-3lbs heavier than I *really* am". I chatted with a few folks in line-we were a big group--and everyone hates the night-time weigh-in. However, I just have to realize that I can compare this week, to next week, and so on and so on, and it's not just about the number but about the behaviour and the staying on plan no matter what and the getting back on plan if something goes askew.

In the end I discovered my new walking shoes weigh 1.2lbs and so they had to minus that from my scale weight and I was an actual weight of 268.6 tonight. That's awesome to me. I am sure I am "really" less - brain stop dwelling on that part already:devil: I don't know if I will be 259 or less when I leave KW. Seems unlikely from here: 3llbs a week. But my 10% is coming up-261.4-so that would be fabulous to reach. Or even the 264.4 for 25lbs off. Any or all of these milestones would be an added bonus to my trip to KW.

My bathing suit arrived yesterday and it fits perfect. My sister got it for me.
I am looking forward to getting some swimming in even though my leg looks so awful! (It doesnt hurt though.:))

I overate at dinner tonight, after the WW meeting. I took a med size frozen dinner with a few servings as one srvg. I was too tired, kind of stressed and held off eating until after my weighin = too hungry. It was ok, and I counted it, but I *knew* I wasn't going to stop eating the food until it was gone. Yesterday though, I did save 1/2 of something when I saw the WW pt count for the whole thing was 24! My day is 38. (it was a large frozen burrito).

Going to bed now. See you tomorrow.
PS resisted stupid chocolate bars at the check out AGAIN! :devil:Thats 2 weeks of turning away from those dumb things!!!

02-08-2012, 01:13 AM
I had a 100% day on a Tuesday! Yay! For those of you not keeping careful track of my schedule (heh), on Tuesdays I'm home alone for several hours, usually with tasks to do in and around the kitchen. For several Tuesdays in a row, I've struggled with eating too much, but today I stuck to the plan. My main motivation was so that I could write this post!

WI: -0.55 kgs, Exercise:+35 325/1300 minutes for February, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

02-08-2012, 07:12 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - A rather simple day. CREDIT moi for breathing for 24 hours, LOL. I helped the carpenter finish the three tasks that remained from our rehab this summer that were in the way of putting things back in order. I did face a difficult task reinserting a metal bracket in the metal baseboard heating - one that was made to be inserted before the finned copper pipe was installed, but now had to go in afterwards. I thought of putting it off until today just because it's hard, uncomfortable, contorted, and unpleasant. But I reminded myself that it would be all those a day later and, in addition, would hang over my head for the day. So I took a break, then just charged forward and did it, CREDIT moi.

onebyone – Continued Kudos for "resisted stupid chocolate bars at the check out AGAIN!" Congrats for coming to own a bathing suit so that you can indulge in your Florida warmth.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Wish that I could read your Tuesday "home alone" without thinking of Macaulay Culkin saying "This is my house, I have to defend it." But 100% on plan is good defense.

Beverlyjoy – Thanks for the reminder to 'nip this in the bud.' Continuing to send supportive thoughts as you mourn your lost relative and visit your hospice'd aunt.

maryann - Ouch for the chocolates trying to sooth feelings. Congrats on moving forward with the Sabbatical letter.

Donamari (fyreflie24) – Now that's a great report, "Rocking and rolling here."

maplover – Ouch for the lost sleep, but Kudos for using the time for workout.

Readers - chapter 4 Stage 1 The Success Skills Plan
Success Skill 9 Get Back on Track - Right Away

Mistakes are not the end of the world, and
they are not the end of your diet - as long as
you know how to respond to them. Successful
maintainers make mistakes, but they recover
from them right away.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 103.

02-08-2012, 07:24 AM
Hi.. I am still struggling with evening. It's totally stress eating. I am grateful, however, my weight is the same as last Wednesday. I will keep trying. Today, I am going to be going to check up on my stepmon and also an out of town visitation for a family member who passed away. I am going to be packing my healthy food.

Yesterday I read my advantage cards and response cards & kept track of my food. - until the extra in the evening.

I am getting a head cold - phooey. Moving forward.

Have a healthy day, friends.

02-08-2012, 11:20 AM
Hi Coaches/Buddies/Friends!

I engaged in unplanned eating last night after our travel West. Fortunately, I'm very good at getting "back on track-right away".
I was still very tired this morning which means;
1. Have a written down plan
2. Follow my plan
3. Exercise
4. Accomplish something at home.
5. Remember these are my days off and find some time to rest/relax.

~I just finished writing today's food plan and it's next to the frig. *credit*
~I am dressed and ready to head to the pool/athletic club. I will lift weights, ride the recumbent bike, steam and brave the pool (24 degrees outside).
~I have already cleaned and prepped veggies. I have my paperwork lined out. I have a procrastinated project in the works. It can be done today
~I will find time to knit
Credit Beck Credit Moi

I'll hopefully get back here later. (DH is pacing around me...time to go)

Beverlyjoy, sending supportive thoughts your way. :hug:

02-08-2012, 10:13 PM
Coaches, Hi.

I worked all day today. It's only a week until my exhibition here so I need stuff for all those walls! Yikes.

I am missing my morning weigh-ins. I have to content myself wiht the only weekly weigh-in at the WW meeting. Or I guess if I get to my sister's in the morning I can try her scale but it's off too. Better to wait I guess. I keep getting bit by the "no-see-ums". They aren't mosquitos just something that likes me. O well.

Tonight we had the Meet the Artists' in residence on the back deck of my cottage. My fellow AIR has a cold. He really hates being sick I think. I sure don't want to catch another cold so I tried to stay away but who knows if I will be successful? I feel bad for him as he has to teach his 3 day class starting tomorrow. He's going to be a wreck. I tidied up my studio and living space and had "the audience" in and that was fun but I felt lonely after everyone left. My sister is gone "up the keys" to Ft. Lauderdale for the night so I am "alone" here in KW. It's kind of weird. Maybe.

Foodwise I had the leftovers of my big burrito from the day before yesterday for breakfast then worked through until I was feeling really low energy so I ate some lunch and had some blueberries and then didn't eat dinner until after the Deck event. I had some wine during the Event, which I tracked (I never drink), and my points are bang on for the day. No physical activity to report as I just didn't leave the house. I have yet to ride that free bicycle.


02-09-2012, 01:34 AM
A drive-by report tonight. Wishing everyone well!

WI: -0.3 kgs, Exercise:+40 365/1300 minutes for February, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

02-09-2012, 06:28 AM
Back up to 169. I can't believe I have GAINED WEIGHT since I started this. Not that much but this is the top that I always bounce back to. This is despite thinking that I am working really hard at this.
In the green book, I have been stuck for the past few weeks at the no choice success skill which is the foundation of the resistance techniques. This morning I am finally feeling some willingness to move forward with this and am making some cards about this and about Oh Well, which for me is the equivalence of acceptance. Don't know if any of you have tried OA, but I was very involved with it for about 15 years in the 80s and 90s. "Accept the things we cannot change..."
Perhaps I am faced with the existential question--death is something we truly have no choice about. I am having my nose rubbed in this no choice question every day and maybe I am being rebellious about it (well I have no choice with Mom's death, but maybe I can have as much fill in the blank with favorite food stuff as I want.) I did not binge last night but ate too much and did not eat mindfully after coming home from seeing her. This was after having a great OP day where I actually ate slowly and mindfully.
All of this is not helped by the fact that I go to sleep at 10 and wake up anywhere from 1:30-3:30 and cannot get back to sleep. This morning I bolted awake at 2:30 thinking "I need to get mom seen by a specialist." She seemed a little better today--actually seemed to recognize me, but still is completely incoherent.
Sorry to rant on so much about this, you all have been wonderfully supportive. Don't have the energy right now for personals, but I have read your posts and identify with all your struggles (and celebrate all your achievements large and tiny).

02-09-2012, 07:13 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Exercise was to walk (CREDIT moi) to the dentist to be reminded why flossing is so important. Then to walk (CREDIT moi) the width and breath of Home Depot looking for an inexpensive piece of carpeting for a utility room that takes a beating. Some day we'll put a proper floor in this room, but need to cover the plywood sufficiently to protect it until then and to at least make it look like we live there, LOL. First time in my life I've bought from one of those LARGE rolls rotated around from the GIANT rack of rolls and cut from the machine. It was fun to watch.

Survived potluck dinner at a reading group, CREDIT moi, since no one brought high calorie dishes. Since cauliflower is a veggie, I chose to ignore whatever was the sticky stuff that held it together - it was yummy.

onebyone – Congrats for surviving your first meeting with the locals. And Kudos for "bang on for the day."

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Waving back. Talked to a Southerner last night. Winter gardens were the big thing in his youth - Kale all year round.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Can't be a better feeling than "I have a procrastinated project in the works" - I get goose bumps when I finally complete one of those.

Beverlyjoy – Yay for "Moving forward" despite the head cold.

maplover – You're in a tough time of your life right now where you deserve to give yourself some slack. As Beck says in today's quote, each time we over eat can be turned into a learning experience. Continuing to send you supportive thoughts.

Readers - chapter 4 Stage 1 The Success Skills Plan
Success Skill 9 Get Back on Track - Right Away

To help yourself respond quickly to mistakes, I'd like you to use a Cheat Sheet (page 104) every time you eat unplanned food. It will help you view mistakes as learning experiences rather than catastrophes. Instead of feeling guilty and bad about yourself when you make a mistake, you will be able to benefit from the experience. The Cheat Sheet will help you evolve from thinking, I've blown it . . . I might as well start over tomorrow, to thinking, Big deal, I made one mistake ... I deserve a lot of credit for stopping now ... This is a good sign that I'll be successful in the future.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 103.

02-09-2012, 09:25 AM
Hello and Good Morning Coaches

I am truly hungry this morning and contemplating a visit to a cafe around the corner for breakfast. But, I have to clean up my studio first. I left my ink out last night on my work surface. Geez. It was because I was showing how I make my stuff and what a work surface looks like when you are printmaking and then when it was all over I just left it. I am sure it's not dried on and anyway it comes off with soap and water so it may take a bit of doing but I can get it off there.

Today is more work. I am going to focus on some small paintings today. I have two small canvases, 8x10 and 2 even smaller ones, 8x6.You can't do much with these small things so it's easier and harder to do them. Harder to plan, easier to execute as they are, well, smaller!

I need to sharpen my favorite carving tool. I brought my whet stone but have never done this. Will have to consult The Internets for help. I am worried I'll accidentally wreck this tool. I'll try not to :(

Food today is as usual: three meals a day, one or two snacks of fruit if needed. All food tracked and measured. Exercise of 30min or more.

maplover When I came to 3fatchicks I was under 250. I think once I was even 237 or something. Since being here (4yrs?more?less?) I have gained all the way up to 291-which is my highest recorded high. I may have been more at some other point in my life. I don't know, but I *do* remember how that felt. I too was active in OA in the 80s, and now here, in KW there is a group I like so I will go once a week for the duration of my stay but at home I have tried and it doesn't feel like it fits there but I will probably try and go once a week there too when I get back. My posts here have been honest no matter where I am at. If you search older ones you can see I have been discouraged, I have been absent at times, I have been despairing and I have eaten my way through stuff. Especially through my move last year. I am now losing the weight. I have found that stress and fear and worry will show up on the scale. My body retains things and holds onto things and the scale just climbs. This could be part of what you are experiencing now with the enormous emotional demands you are under.I have also found that SO LONG AS I AM OP, this false weight will be lost. My body eventually realizes it is ok to let that all go. I need to trust that I am following that plan and over time it will work. All I can do is follow the plan I can't tell my body to metabolize that food and process it already! That's out of my control. I let that go. And it came to me to say and OA saying-don't leave before the miracle happens. I am so sorry you are going through this time with your mom. I wish the best for you both.

Must go. :wave: Hi silverbirch

02-09-2012, 09:27 AM
Hi! My trip is going well. My food has been 'all over the place' - but, within the boundaries of my plan. I am grateful for that.

My stepmom is making good progress with her recouperation from her shoulder replacement. She has a wonderful attitude.

My cousin and I drove out to see the other cousins for the visitation of her dad.

Things, all in all, are going OK. I have no plans to 'overeat' today... just because I am not home will NOT be any excuses. I brought healthy foods with me.

Hoping you all have a great day. Thanks for all your support!

02-09-2012, 05:21 PM
I just don't know how you knew I was here, onebyone. I was sitting very quietly and very still and I thought I was camouflaged really well. I suppose an artist knows how to look and see and observe. And then somehow turn all that into art. Glad it's going so well in Key West. You sound as though you're really getting into the groove.

I've started logging my food (over on the maintainers board) and I'm planning as well as I need to. The logging has made a huge difference. I'm getting back into that 'not about me' mindset and minimising the number of nuts I eat. Still nursing a back injury which requires more and more work on the abs and glutes. It's all in a good cause.

See you. :wave:

PS Thanks for the title, Bill. Official Lurker. I like it. Might put it on my cv (= resume).

PPS Thanks for letting me lurk. I learn from you all and, although I hardly ever post, I always beam good vibes in your direction.

02-10-2012, 01:16 AM
After several weeks of struggle, I suddenly in the last few days found willingness to follow my plan. And it's making a difference! I think I was of two minds about where I want to end my weight loss, saying to myself "I want to see if I can get down to 165." But that's not the same thing as stating it as a goal, so I wasn't actually acting as if I wanted to do that. And, yet, still being disappointed by a lack of downward progress. Now, I'm stating it, "I want to weigh 165." It's a goal so I might fail. I might succeed and decide that it's too hard to maintain there and let it drift back up toward 170. I might succeed and decide to maintain at that weight or lower. I can handle any of those three outcomes. What wasn't working so well was the half-commitment.

WI: NC in kgs, Exercise:+0 365/1300 minutes for February, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

maplover: Hugs! I think you're doing great. One way to look at it might be: how much overeating would you be doing right now if you weren't paying attention to Beck? Things will get easier for you in the future and you are building a great skill set now that will kick in place when that time comes. Are there other things, besides food, that would be a comfort right now?

Beaming good vibes to silverbirch, onebyone, and everyone else!

02-10-2012, 06:59 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Gym was gym, CREDIT moi. Already the New Year's Resolution crowds are thinning out. And eating was on plan, CREDIT moi.

Our order of seeds for this summer's veggie garden arrived. Glad to have them, although it's more fun to receive them during a blizzard. We continue to have little snow and unseasonably warm days.

onebyone – 'Tis a good day with "All food tracked and measured." Good luck on your small paintings.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Kudos for recognizing that your thinking wasn't at the level of commitment that you wanted.

Beverlyjoy – Such a good idea to bring the healthy foods with you.

Official Lurker (silverbirch) – And I can feel it, "I always beam good vibes in your direction." Kudos for minimizing the nuts - so many calories in those little buggers even if you only eat a cup or two.

Readers - chapter 4 Stage 1 The Success Skills Plan
Success Skill 9 Get Back on Track - Right Away

The One Situation in Which You
Shouldn't Eat When You Planned To . . .

It's actually very important to refrain from eating if you are feeling upset, stressed, or rushed - even it it's time to eat. It's important to wait because you can't possibly enjoy your food when you're feeling this way, and you are likely to feel unsatisfied and overeat.
Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 103.

02-10-2012, 07:21 AM
Hi Coaches/Buddies/Friends!

Yesterday took some twists and turns and I came out somewhere in the middle, "coulda done better coulda done worse". I had to take DH to an appt in the afternoon then we spent time walking through stores looking for a cheap ring for him. He lost his wedding ring shoveling. I'm still hopeful we'll find it in the Spring but things like that rub on a really sensitive emotional spot. "If we had money we'd just go buy another nice one".

Anyway....we found one for $5.99 at the curio shop and as we were driving home right by our favorite mexican restaurant DH exclaimed, "I'm really hungry". He really wanted to go there and I had to remind myself that he is affected every day that I make a food plan....sometimes he deserves to have what he is wanting. (I did make sure I thought it through and identified it as legitimate not just a sabotaging thought) We shared our usual appetizer and went home. Reality is that we go there twice a year now and for a year we ate lunch there every single day. I see improvement.....

Anyway....after we got home I ate sourdough bread and 2 100 cal. bars. I was not hungry I ate emotionally. I went to bed.
Credits for the day: making a plan, exercising, weighing and being mindful at dinner.

BillBlueEyes, I love those rolls, too! Hmm....I'm wondering what was the sticky stuff holding the cauliflower together. Kudos for Thursdays OP day!

maplover, sending continued support with similar thoughts as gardenerjoy. (I just spoke with a friend under stress who has gained 30# in 3 months). Perhaps your working your program to the best of your ability right now is keeping you focusing on your food instead of in blast off binge mode.

onebyone, love your reports in! Love "food as usual".

gardenerjoy, great reevaluation with a new plan!

silverbirch, great that Beck is helping you with some continuing maintenance tools.

Beverlyjoy, glad you are staying within the parameters of your plan.

:wave: everyone else!

It's 420 am here and I've managed to get to my office without waking DH. I've been procrastinating on company books and if I could fit an hour in this AM I would make great progress and FEEL BETTER. I acknowledge that my food plan and my work plan are related.

Have a great day coaches!

02-10-2012, 10:38 AM
Hey Coaches...

Ok I'm reaching out here... I need some help.

I'm sabotaging. I know I am. As I've mentioned ad nauseam by this point, we leave June 23rd for the beach and I promised DH I'd wear a bathing suit for the first time in about 15 years. I don't think he's ever seen me wear one on the beach, ever. I carry my weight in my lower half, especially my legs so it's really hard to disguise. When I started this journey in August, a 'friend' told my husband I was setting myself up for failure. That kinda stuck and on one hand it makes me feisty and on the other hand it kicks in my "I'd rather no fully try and fail than give it my all and fail". Of course it's ridiculous to look at a few extra pounds over goal as a failure when I've come this far but I know I'm not getting out there and exercising like I should be. I feel the wall I feel the block. I've struggled with this for years is many areas of my life. Anyone have any suggestions?

02-10-2012, 11:21 AM
Donamarie, big credit for reaching out! I caught your post just as I was "heading to the pool"-swimsuit and all. I live 2 miles from a year round outdoor hotsprings pool. After spending 20+ years in Alaska without a pool, beach or a swimsuit I made peace with myself "in" a swimsuit at my high weight. I had to acknowledge that I was never going to lose weight if I waited to do everything I wanted to do until I got to a certain weight/size/etc. I think your coaches here have gently reminded you over the past months to let go of the idea that your ultimate goal weight must be achieved by XX date.

You have made such incredible progress! You have changed your lifestyle around 100%! Credit Credit Credit!!! You continue to move in the direction of your goals! I am so impressed with your determination! My suggestion would be to continue everything you are doing but consider redefining your "Countdown to Ocean Isle Beach on June 23".
~perhaps find some goals that are reachable and not "weight based"

I am not a goddess in my swimsuit but I feel lots more comfortable now than I did 80+ pounds ago. My original purchased suit is mega sizes too big. Last year when suits were on sale I bought a smaller one which fits me now. Success. I am buying a new one this month which will be smaller than the last. Success. I look at all the bikini babes at the pool everyday and accept that I'm 53 and it's ok not to be one of them. Success. There are bizillions of super adorable swimsuits out there. Perhaps your original idea for a suit might change. Start looking.

When I started my journey I couldn't ride my bike around the block. I've made great progress and I look to you for inspiration. We are all on different paths yet have a common bond.

My card tells me:
"My weight isn't who I am. It isn't a measure of my worth. It's just a number that tells me important information."
Green book-p. 58

ETA-Went back to my project then thought "My swimsuit is not a measure of my worth. It's a garment which, when I wear it, allows me to enrich my life doing something fun with my family."
And, BTW, every time I wear it my DH comments how great I look.

02-10-2012, 11:32 AM
Hello Everyone,

This will be a short post as I've got lots to do before we head off on our cruise tomorrow! Still surreal to me that it's finally here, we booked in last July so it's been a long wait. I've got some strategies in mind for eating and will try those jeans on every morning to stay on track. I didn't work this hard to lose 30 pounds to gain a bunch back in one week.

fyreflie24 I totally agree with Lexxiss on your situation. You have made significant progress on your journey and you have to be very proud of that. I dont' know that I will ever feel 100% comfortable wearing a bathing suit but I have also realized that I don't think others pay as much attention to us as we like to think they do. I may notice someone at the pool or the beach, take a quick look and carry on with what I was doing. I'm assuming they are doing the same. And honestly I don't need to have all the attention. Remember measurements of inches and how your body is changing from all your cycling can be much more important that the number on the scale. It's sad how much we let that one little number impact so much of our life. Continue with your plan and you are going to look fabulous on the beach in June, regardless of what the scale says.

:beach: We won't have any internet access on the ship (well none that I'm willing to pay big money for) so I'll be away until Feb 20th. See you all then :wave:

02-10-2012, 04:26 PM
Hi Coaches

I talked to the cashier at the Officemax. She was from Buffalo, NY and has been in Key West for 3 months she said. We both agreed that this feels like July, and not winter. The woman I walked past yesterday would not agree. She was wearing a baby blue knee length downfilled coat zipped up to the neck. To her, it is indeed Winter. Very easy to see who's from here and who is not.

I had a rough sleep last night. I couldn't get to the point of falling asleep until after 1:30. For the first time since I got here my mind was playing between home and here, back and forth, back and forth. The reason for this was I had to submit my application for the 2012 Studio Tour--did it through email, but I had to gather my images from my netbook, write out the info they wanted, and email it off. I had to get DH to go over there this morning with 2 post-dated chq in hand, which he was not thrilled to do as it messes with his before-work-in-the-morning time. Also, I was thinking how I wouldn't be able to do this kind of artwork at home yesterday and I thought I should give it one last try to see if there is any space close by to where I live and lo and behold a brand new artists' collective has formed in the north of the Big City, about 30min from me, which is all great. I sent off an email asap to the contact person and got one right back. The price is right, the location is right, but, again, DH has to go over at some point-he's got to call/email and arrange the meeting with the woman--and then he has to bring that chequebook and secure me the space. As my sister said, right now it's all about me. Which, she said was fair, as it has been all about him for more than a year. Amen sister.

Foodwise, I ate a lot this morning. I tracked it, and I stopped *credits* but it was nervous eating. So much yet to do for my show. Just now, I ate more than I wanted, I was done/full enough, but went past that but I stopped before I was stuffed* big credit here*. It's too hot and humid to be overfull. Thank you to this latitude so much closer to the equator than where I'm from.

I spent the whole morning editing images on the computer and when I got them printed the people at the copy place just used the low level Windows fax pgm and all my images are the wrong size. I had them sized to the size of my linoleum blocks and my woodblocks. They are pretty hopeless there. I can deal with it, but, it adds more work, again, to my project. I am hoping for a "happy accident" though. Sometimes my plans are not the best plans and the unplanned thing is the better thing. We'll see. Enough of them are okay that I can be busy all weekend long anyway. I still have time. But just barely. Set up for me exhibition is Wednesday.

Better go. I have to get to work now.

I'm planning some exercise for later today, perhaps an evening walk.

Tazzy Enjoy your trip! Looking forward to hering your report when you get back... soak up that sun!

fyreflie24 I just got a size 20 bathing suit. I was looking at all these suits, the ones with the skirts, the ones with the halters, the ones with the top and bottom separate-tankinis, and I thought, what do I want a suit for? Am I wearing one to lounge around a pool, one to be a bathing beauty in? For me, the answer is no. I want a suit that works and that I can actually swim in without worrying about this or that part. So I got a speedo. And it's *yawn* navy blue--but it does have an X back and it does have a bit of white piping on the edges of the straps and the neckline. We really are much more interested in ourselves than anyone else is. Look at the swimming thing practically; if you want to swim, you need a suit. Do you want to swim? Your hubby is well aware of your concerns with the whole thing and I can guarantee that he wants his DW living her life to the fullest and not held back by some imaginary yet-to-be achieved version of her future perfect self. You are already good enough. Get the suit. Wear the suit. Be brave. You deserve it. Smile.

Gotta run.

:wave: to everyone.

02-10-2012, 05:15 PM
Good Afternoon, Coaches.

It has been an uncomfortable week for me. I spent the last two days deliberately ignoring my food plan, tracking schedule, and all the healthy Beck habits that brought me to the point I am today - especially SITTING DOWN when I eat. No sitting down is always a huge sign I am on the run emotionally. I don't want to take responsibility for what is in my mouth. I don't want to stop for a moment and feel my feelings. Blick!
But it is a new day. I have finished my sabbatical proposal and resume. I haven't done a resume in 22 years. I look at the paper and am proud of my accomplishments - including a teacher of the year award. Then out of nowhere I get an email from an ex student's mother - thanking me for teaching her daughter four years ago. She said her daughter still uses the writing skills I gave her and she wanted me to teach her young son coming up in two years. Wow. Here is the tough part that I think you people will understand more than any other group in my life. All that good stuff, all the praise just made me want to eat more!
Why is that? Why is it so uncomfortable for me? Maybe because accolades prove I am not invisible. And I so want to be invisible, sometimes. Yet sometimes I want everyone in the world to see and love me. It is complicated stuff.
What do I know? I am a sister among brothers and sisters in this world - no better, no worse. I have a place here, it is small and ordinary but it is mine and I deserve happiness and fellowship. Eating won't take that right away. Being fat won't take that right away. Being thin won't give me anymore than my fair share of love. Simple. To treat myself so poorly with food is mistreating God's kid. I won't have it. This fits in with Donamar, Lexxiss and Onebyone issues with the swimsuit. I have the right to enjoy my body in the sun, in the water, in the arms of someone I love. I don't have to earn these privileges. I am enough exactly this moment, exactly at this weight.
I have tracked today. I am going to walk the track when my son goes to basketball practice.
Best to all of you.

02-10-2012, 11:35 PM
I chatted with my brother for two hours in his hot tub last night, leading to a nice whoosh of water weight! Not to mention relaxation and familial bonding.

WI: -0.85kgs, Exercise:+35 400/1300 minutes for February, Food: 95%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

fyreflie24: Nodding along with Lexxiss and Tazzy and onebyone. I never stopped wearing a swimsuit because I wanted too much to do the things that require one (especially hot tubs, see above :-) ). Even now, I don't look good in one because I have asymptomatic varicose veins that I'm not willing to treat for the sole purpose of looking better in a swimsuit or a skirt. I look great, and professional, in slacks and that's what matters to me. Knowing that I don't look so hot in a swimsuit, I can attest to the fact that people are not paying attention to how I look. Most of them are spending too much time worrying about how they look in their swimsuits! Which means we're all spending too much energy on that particular issue.

Here's another thought I've been having that might help. I think our culture does a number on us women. We are surrounded by thin women in fashion and other advertising and that gives us one ideal of beauty we strive for. And, yet, we're also tangentially aware of what Playboy models look like and assume that is what men want, so there's another ideal of beauty to strive for. There's at least thirty pounds of difference between those two ideals of beauty! I think subconsciously we want both -- to look like fashion models in clothes and Playboy models when naked and it's driving us, collectively, nuts. Swimsuits are the worst -- we want the slender limbs of a fashion model combined with the generous proportions of Playboy models at the same moment. The few women who can make their bodies conform to that are called Sports Illustrated swimsuit models -- the rest of us have to find a way to be happy with something considerably short of our culture's ideal.

I had an idea for you. Is there some place where you could swim laps once every week or two as cross-training for your biking? Swimsuits are on sale right now (I just bought a tankini in one size and color and a contrasting-colored bottom in a larger size from Lands End). How about buying a swimsuit today to fit your body at this moment? And then using it for your athletic pursuits. One of the best paths women have out of the above conflicting ideals is to start appreciating our bodies for what they do, including athletic pursuits. Who knows? Maybe this time next year, you'll be telling us about training for a triathlon.

Wow, maryann, what you wrote was really powerful for me -- hope it made you feel better, too.

onebyone: I finished An Appetite for Murder, the mystery featuring a food writer in Key West. I really enjoyed the characters and the setting was a lot of fun! Hope you're enjoying the real life Key West as much!

02-11-2012, 05:27 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Eating on plan even though we had a dinner guest, CREDIT moi. Sometimes guests mean a high calorie dessert, but last night was fruit salad - just right.

Did gym, CREDIT moi, including compulsively sorting the dumbbells into their proper slots which is a good excuse for me to lift ones that I'm not yet strong enough to use for my work out. And today is the day of the month for me to tick my journey counters, CREDIT moi.

onebyone – Ouch for the complexity of handling your Canadian business affairs from Florida. Major Kudos for buying yourself a bathing suit for function instead of Sports Illustrated posing.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Two hours in a hot tub and I'd look like a prune, LOL. Thanks for the reminder about how skewed we all are in our expectations about women's bodies.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Love the thought of a $6.99 wedding ring; I might do that when we vacation this summer so there's no possibility of losing the real one.

maryann - Yay for an unexpected bit of appreciation for your teaching, with Kudos for working on accepting it as reflecting the person you really are. Just love, "I am enough exactly this moment, exactly at this weight."

Tazzy - Waving toward a cruise ship somewhere warm - Bon Voyage.

Donamari (fyreflie24) – Sending supportive thoughts as you wrestle with the classic bathing suit issue. I join the others suggesting the Nike approach - Just Do It. What I tend to notice about women at the beach is their confidence; their size isn't so different to me from their size fully clothed. I do enjoy folks who are happy in their own skin.

Readers - chapter 4 Stage 1 The Success Skills Plan
Success Skill 9 Get Back on Track - Right Away

what to do . . .
To make your Cheat Sheet, get a 3x5 index card. On it, write the following questions:
What was the situation, and what were my sabotaging thoughts?
Did I eat this food slowly, while sitting down and enjoying every bite?
How do I feel now that I've given in?
Had I read my Response Cards and Advantages Deck today?
Did I try any other Resistance Techniques?
How can I avoid this situation in the future?
What can I say to myself next time?

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 104.

02-11-2012, 05:53 AM
Hi - I am struggling. I did a bend and twist while unloading the dishwasher. Ouch! Phooey. I can't take any nsaids because of surgery next week. I can take a muscle relaxer - that helps some. I'll try again to make a plan.

Am going to our cousin's for dinner. (Dh's first cousin & his wife) It's been quite a week for them. Each had a parent in Hospice - One did pass away. They will have healthy foods available. Actually, they asked what they can fix that I can eat. That's really very nice.

All I can think about is chocolate. Isn't that crazy? However, I have not eaten any chocolate.

Thanks for your support.

02-11-2012, 10:38 AM
All I can think about is chocolate. Isn't that crazy? However, I have not eaten any chocolate.

I hate when food talks to me. Good for you for talking back and saying NO! :hug:

02-11-2012, 10:40 AM
I am humbled by your kind and generous outpouring of affection, advice and concern. Thank you! I'm in the process of doing some real soul searching and your words of wisdom have certainly helped! I'll let you know here I end up settling :)

02-11-2012, 11:55 AM
Good Morning. Coaches.
I feel good this morning. A new start. Credit for taking DS to Basketball and walk/jogging the track while I waited. Credit for lots of veggies yesterday and a plan for yoga this morning. I thought last nite about my unwillingness to feel that empty stomach at the end of the evening. I know Beverleyjoy was talking about extra snacking at nite. Today, my goal is to go to bed with the slight concave stomach that means I stuck to my plan.
BBE: So being OC can burn calories? Right on.

02-11-2012, 12:24 PM
Maryann: I don't know if this works into your food plan but I bulk a bit of extra protein into dinner and that usually does a great job holding me over at night. If I'm wanting something, I drink tea. It fills and can even be sweet, like mint... Glad you're feeling so positive about a fresh start :)

02-11-2012, 09:58 PM
Hi Coaches/Buddies/Friends!

I have been very busy. Our church has a very "big" dessert auction tomorrow. It's fancy desserts that sell for big bucks. Last night I dipped into some of the cashews designated for the Five Nut Tart, but this morning reminded myself that tasting was not an option. *credit* I've been baking off and on all day, only stopping for exercise, meals and a 3 hr. meeting. Actually, we haven't had dinner yet so I'm off to fix what I had planned.

BillBlueEyes, kudos for yet another month ticking your journey counters!

MaryAnn, glad you are feeling better.

Beverlyjoy, I hope you are feeling better.

02-11-2012, 11:27 PM
Hi Coaches.

I had a stellar work day creating the best print I've ever made.
It's a six colour woodblock reduction print that took 8 hours to do. I made three prints and now my block is destroyed except for the whites of the eyes and the teeth. Those were the last bits to be printed.

My subject was the other artist in residence. I am going to offer him one of my three prints tomorrow. I have made him look crazed but I'm sure he'll like it. I can't show you guys my print yet as I want to hold off until it's displayed this week at my exhibition. I am *very* proud of it. *credit*

Food was second to my art today. I had my firstmeal at noon after my walk. Forgot I hadn't had breakfast. Then didn't eat again until after 8:30 when I had cleaned everything up. Clean up was awful btw. Ink everywhere - especially the floor and walls of the shower! I almost thought it wouldn't come off....but it did. *credit for elbow grease*

I made it to my OA meeting this morning and walked there as well, killing two birds with one stone. *credit*

Tomorrow I go to see the Sheriff's Farm. The local Sheriff here has a farm beneath the jail with rescued animals in it: tortoises, albino python, blind horse, chickens, even a So. American cavie! The inmates tend to the critters. I'm really looking forward to it.

Time for bed.

Have a good night coaches.

02-12-2012, 01:15 AM
I didn't want to exercise today but finally got it together and did it anyway. Credit!

WI: +0.15kgs, Exercise:+45 445/1300 minutes for February, Food: 90%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

onebyone: congrats on the prints! Love the description of the Sheriff's farm.

Hugs for Beverlyjoy and anyone else who is struggling.

02-12-2012, 08:43 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Eating on planish, CREDIT moi with the only exercise going by subway to opera which entailed a bit of walking (CREDIT moi) in the cold.

Feeling sheepish that I'm running through a list of Whitney Houston songs this morning, with relish, when I was somewhat baffled by the music of Sir Peter Maxwell Davies last night. The performance of The Lighthouse was performed at the JFK Library in a room with a huge glass wall behind the stage overlooking Boston Harbor to simulate being in the Orkney Islands off Scotland. Visually stunning.

onebyone – Walking to OA is just the best. Had to google "So. American cavie" - Beware! Animals that cute tend to get adopted and taken home.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – I could use more of your "did it anyway."

Erika (eusebius) – Waving. I'm trying, but I didn't leave last night's performance humming any melodies - no earworms. I'll keep going believing that it'll soon seep into my soul.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – I couldn't go to a dessert auction - my bidding hand would just raise itself over and over. Now I've got a "Five Nut Tart" mouth worm.

Beverlyjoy – Monster Kudos for "I have not eaten any chocolate" - since the chocolate ear worm is insidious.

silverbirch – Waving. He's one of you guys; would you kindly send him to Italy for a spell to learn to compose like Madame Butterfly?

maryann - Thanks for the reminder that going to bed with a "slight concave stomach" is just fine. Slightly Concave is Not an Emergency.

Donamari (fyreflie24) – Tea is such a good diversion when food is calling.

Readers - chapter 4 Stage 1 The Success Skills Plan
Success Skill 9 Get Back on Track - Right Away

In choosing to follow this program - in order
and as described - you are choosing not only
to lose weight, but also to lose weight for life.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 105.

02-12-2012, 11:13 AM
:wave: Bill, Peter Maxwell Davies is indeed one of us but I have no influence over him. Ask Her Maj to intervene as I think he's Master of the Queen's Music at the moment. Orkney is a fabulous place which I think you'd like for the birdlife. I heard woodpeckers drumming this morning when I was out on a walk. We have run out of milk but it's five miles to the shop. I thought I was flexible and all that but this has skewed my day. If someone could drop by with a pint I'd be grateful!

02-13-2012, 12:01 AM
Hi coaches

We are freezing here in Key West today! It was only 69 and tonight we are at 57F? 53F? Lest you mock me, and many are as I am now getting "aren't you from Up North? How can you be cold??" Indeed. How can I be cold? I've only been here 13 days... but I am freezing as if it wa below zero. What's up wiht that? i actually turned the heat on in my cottage and the temperature dropped by a degree--so I'm layering and getting under covers asap. I would never have believed it had I not experienced it.

And yes, I can hear the tiny violins playing for me...

*credit* for being open to the possibilities. It looks like I may have a buyer for my spare portrait print. My subject talked about my print of him to his collector friend who came by to see it hanging on the clothesline and said if I were willing to sell he'd be willing to buy and for me to come up wiht a price.

That is the tough part. But I'll try. *credit for trying new things*

Foodwise, I ate well today. I declined dinner out for two good reasons 1) need to work as much as I can before exhibit set up on Wed/Thurs
and 2) weigh-in is Tuesday night and I don't want to blow it so better to stay home right now. *Credit* for prioritizing.

Off to bed. My feet are freezing.

02-13-2012, 12:36 AM
Survived a community pot luck. It helped that no one brought dessert! I ate lots of my own cabbage salad and little tastes of other yummy things.

WI: NC in kgs, Exercise:+65 510/1300 minutes for February, Food: 90%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

02-13-2012, 07:20 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - I was pleased that I didn't take any grocery-store cookies when offered, CREDIT moi, then found my hand repeatedly dipping into a bowl of dark chocolate covered roasted almonds. Big Ouch. I'm aware there's a theme to my diversions.

Great walking, CREDIT moi, with DW and a friend to a concert and dinner in the low 20-something degrees F. I love walking in the cold when I'm properly dressed.

onebyone – Yep, count me as one playing tiny violins as you suffer in 69 degrees F - some 59 degrees warmer than here. Kudos for skipping dinner to pursue your art. (Make it a steep price. You don't have to sell and a good price would help boost your art mojo.)

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Pot lucks are such a challenge. Smart to have brought a cabbage salad that you were happy to consume.

silverbirch – If I've got the math(s) right, 5 miles to the shop and 5 miles back would be about 2.5 hours walking - just right to clear the mind and skip a meal in the process. Thanks for the tip about Orkney - I'm adding it to my Bucket List.

Readers - chapter 4 Stage 1 The Success Skills Plan
Success Skill 9 Get Back on Track - Right Away

tip:Consider making
a Cheat Sheet card for your
Diet Buddy, so your buddy can
review the questions with you
the next time you stray.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 105.

02-13-2012, 12:45 PM
Good Morning, Coaches.
Back from Tahoe last nite in snowy conditions. Credit exercise the last four days straight. Credit food tracking although I still have yet to eat ONLY my daily food allotment and not dip into my weekly allowance. If I am to lose I must have days when I eat to the lower calorie end. I am better about sitting down and eating. Today's skill will be to watch the clock like I use to and say - I will be eating in an hour anyway. I have got to flex those muscles again.

gardenerjoy: I was just thinking about cabbage. It will soon be on sale for St. Patrick's Day. I don't make it enough at home.
BBE: Credit a walk in 20 degrees. This is boggling to my California mentality.
Onebyone: Terrific to say no to dinner. I was doing that kind of thing when I was losing. I seem to not be doing it maintaining. this could be an important pattern.

02-13-2012, 04:05 PM
GD everyone!

For the time being, I am only reporting in on Mondays, as I mentioned last Monday. I have read all of your posts for the past week. I do want to keep up with what is happening with all of you.

I did not have a good week this past week. It went fine until Wednesday where it seemed everything that I usually do on "auto pilot" up to this point in my journey failed to work for me. I detached, trying to analyze the root cause and I even followed through on solving the problem as Dr. Beck mentions in the pink book. Still, my off planned eating continued. I detached once again, examining why I was overriding all good common sense but emotions are not logical. I am hoping that all of that ran its course but I feel bushwhacked by what happened and bruised by the whole ordeal. Today is a clean slate and I move forward.

Have a good week everyone!


02-13-2012, 11:54 PM
Hi coaches/friends - Today I went to the ortho and got a cortizone shot in my painful lower back. Am hoping it will do the trick.

I had asked my family doctor if I could take some nsaids (I take an old one, Daypro) She said no... not so close to surgery. When the surgery nurse called today to get more info... I told her how I wished I could have used the Daypro. She said I could have taken up to two days before the surgery. Grrrrr That would have nipped this back pain in the to speak. It's frustrating. Hopefully, the shot will help.

I've been struggling with my food. It's hard for me when I am feeling pain or very stressed out. I'll keep trying.

thanks for your support & wisdom and caring. I'll post again before surgery on
Wed. morning.

02-14-2012, 12:16 AM
Hello coaches

Very very short check in...

Forgot to eat dinner then ate something very light, tracked everything, went out for a walk to take a break from my work, took time to talk to people and am feeling good about the upcoming exhibit which will be smaller in scale space-wise than I originally thought. This has lessened the pressure but I still need to keep going. I have three key pieces to produce yet and two days.

Official weighin tomorrow night.

Time for bed. G'night.

02-14-2012, 01:23 AM
We celebrated Valentine's Day a day early. I had a generous plan that included bubbly wine and two pieces of chocolate, but I followed it to a T.

WI: +0.25kgs, Exercise:+15 525/1300 minutes for February, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

maryann: Here's the recipe for the cabbage salad I took to my potluck:
It's my favorite way to fix cabbage in the winter. For the potluck, I used a mix of green and red cabbage -- it was really pretty.

02-14-2012, 05:06 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Happy Valentine's Day to all of you who celebrate, and Happy Pre-Ides of February to those who don't, LOL.

At a movie with friends, I didn't overeat the shared pizza, CREDIT moi, but had more homemade cookies than I had planned - Ouch. My day had gotten jumbled when a routine checkup at the eye doctor took an extra-long time, so my exercise didn't happen - Ouch again.

onebyone – Kudos for being in the place where "a walk" is how you take a break from work.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Yay for chocolate and Double Yay for chocolate on plan. Thanks for the cabbage salad recipe.

Beverlyjoy – Yay for cortisone when that's what's needed. One more sleep until surgery - keep the faith.

Pam (pamaga) – Yep, "emotions are not logical" - would like to invite mine to stay out of the issues of eating and exercise. Kudos for "Today is a clean slate and I move forward."

maryann - "I have got to flex those muscles again" - you and me both.

Readers - chapter 4 Stage 1 The Success Skills Plan

Before You Move On

Master all Stage 1 skills before you move on to Stage 2. If you don't, I predict you will have a hard time - sooner or later - sticking to the Think Thin Initial Eating Plan. Make sure you check off all skills for seven consecutive days before moving on - it doesn't matter how long it takes. And be sure to keep increasing exercise.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 105.

02-14-2012, 09:39 AM
Happy V Day, Coaches.
Still trying to flex muscles. DS wanted to cook his first V day dinner for Daddy which made me dangerously close to sugar cookies. Like Beck says, Environment is key. Credit for getting back OP and exercise. Tracked all my food and need to stay within point limits the next two days.
gardenerjoy: I book marked that recipe and am going to try it when I get to the store. Thanks.

Two weeks into Project 333 - 33 pieces of clothing for 3 months. I did my first laundry and it was great to have so few pieces. I haven't struggled at all with what to wear. I feel things are getting simpler in my life and I am glad.

BBE: We share a common cookie tragedy. Credit for us posting it here and moving on . Oh Well.
Beverleyjoy: So sorry about your back. I always want to eat when I am in pain. It is an extra challenge you are facing.
Pamataga: I am in the same space regarding discipline. Mine is not extreme overeating but I can not seem to break out of maintenance. It is baffling and frustrating. The only answer I know is "Keep Coming Back."

02-14-2012, 06:54 PM
Hi Coaches/Buddies/Friends!

I just got home from work and was hoping to pop in but now DH is coming downstairs from his nap. I had a nice surprise, a card and a beautiful cutting board he finished for me. It's original maple from my childhood refinished with an addition of walnut and cherry on the ends. I guess I'd better go have some family time....

I weighed this am (up) and brought my bread/almond butter to work. Drooled over a few items but ordered fruit instead. *credit* Dinner is planned but I think I'll rest a bit first.

Beverlyjoy, I hope you're finding some relief. :hug:

:wave: everyone else!

02-14-2012, 11:51 PM
For You: :val3: A Valentine for Anyone who sees this.
Hi Coaches

One more day until my exhibition opens.

I have my priorities set as to what I absolutely must have and then down from there. My two multi-colour prints are still wet. Wonder if they will be dry in two weeks when I need to go back home?

*credit for getting to WW for my weigh-in. Down 2.2 =266.4. Getting there. I may reach my 10% goal while I am here, and since this is an evening weigh-in and my home meeting is a morning weigh-in I expect to lose a few more just cause of that shift, so I may well also reach returning home weighing less than 260. I just have to keep going, keep tracking, keep planning, and keep avoiding food focused outings.

So very tired. I was paranoid that I had caught the other artist's heavy duty flu. We were having great chats the past few evenings but he was pretty sick. He left early this morning as he had arrived a week before I did. I hear another artist will join me in a week or so. I also hear he is quite a character. I am *really* enjoying my time here. It has totally focused my year.

Have a great night.

02-15-2012, 07:02 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - It was a good Valentine's Day. It included gym - CREDIT moi - and eating 100% on plan, CREDIT moi again. DW appreciated the verse I wrote for the card I gave her; it's nice to be at a stage where she doesn't want chocolates, cut flowers, or frilly unmentionables. She appreciates flowers when there are none already on the kitchen table; currently we have an ENORMOUS Amaryllis lingering now for its second week - each year I'm shocked just how gorgeous they are.

onebyone – You do sound focused. May you continue like that as you prepare for your exhibition.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – That childhood refinished cutting board is one super present. Kudos for drooling and moving on.

Beverlyjoy – Waving. Hope all goes well with your surgery today.

maryann - Yay for continuing with your 333 plan - no doubt clothing retailers will fight this if it becomes popular. Can't wait to hear how you DS's dinner came out.

Readers - chapter 4 Stage 1 The Success Skills Plan

reality check

If you are thinking: I haven't mastered these Stage 1 skills, but I think I'll move on to changing my eating and work on my skills along the way.

Face reality: It just doesn't work to move on without mastering these skills. If you don't master them now, chances are you never will. Once you start Stage 2, you will be busy with changing your eating. It's likely you will be successful in losing some weight, but you are unlikely to be able to keep it off.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 105.

02-15-2012, 07:38 AM
Thanks to everyone for your positive thoughts and prayers in regards to my surgery today. Hello life...goodbye gallbladder.

02-15-2012, 09:54 AM
Thanks to everyone for your positive thoughts and prayers in regards to my surgery today. Hello life...goodbye gallbladder.

Thinking of you and sending healing thoughts your way.

02-15-2012, 02:58 PM
Good Morning,

Planned for choc at school rather than sink to stealing, sneaking and eating while standing. Hopefully this will help curtail the foraging. Weight is 3 pounds from ticker - meaning I haven't lost any on WW yet. Discourgaing but I will not be defeated. A little blue at school. I haven't slept well and face a meeting that will tell me I don't know how to teach becuase I teach poor kids.
On the bright side, DS Valentine dinner was a hit. Sugar cookies with red hots, fresh lemonade with hand picked lemons and green beans. He was jumping uup and down when Daddy came in.
Happy to read everyone. Personals hopefully tomorrow.

Mary Ann

02-15-2012, 06:31 PM
Onebyone: I’m sorry, I have to laugh... 57 is freezing? :) Good luck selling the portrait!

Gardnerjoy: Yay making it through pot luck! That’s HUGE CREDIT!

Maryann: Keep up the great work!

Pamatga: For whatever it’s worth, I try to tell myself that the entire journey, even the setbacks, is critical to make the necessary long term changes. I’ve learned a lot from these times. Best to you in figuring it all out and getting back on track.

Beverlyjoy: Speedy recovery vibes and hope you’re back up and at it very soon!!!

Bill: Glad you had a great valentine’s day!

So I had a fun experience the other day. I was whining to my husband because my XL workout wear is too big and I didn't want to buy stuff that I was only going to be able to use for a short period of time (I know I know, good problem, but still). So anyway, just on a shear whim, I tried on my old size small workout wear...and it fit! Now at 176 I seriously don't understand HOW it's fitting but it is. I also wore a size petite jersey dress for Valentine's Day lunch with hubby... mind you, two layers of lycra (very good to discourage eating, or breathing for that matter LOL!) but I marginally pulled it off. I'm almost to the point where I can say I have 30+ more to lose which is starting to feel attainable. So pretty positive all in all, just impatient, as usual :)

02-16-2012, 12:35 AM
Hey Coaches

I need to get in the shower and then to bed. Big day tomorrow getting my prints up for the exhibit tomorrow night.

I finished my key piece this evening. One more to go and I'll do it asap as soon as I get up. It'll be wet for the show but that's ok with them.

Credits: food is OP, tracked my food today, keeping it together until I can relax at 9:01pm tomorrow night.

Here they celebrate the sunset with an elaborate festival every night, but I just found out there is a sunrise gathering every morning. They are even a club! That's now on my to-do list as is swimming in the ocean (finally).


02-16-2012, 12:54 AM
I went to an advisory board meeting today where our appreciation gift was a heart-shaped box of chocolates. I quietly left mine on the table. I still eat chocolate but I'm extremely picky (or some might call it snooty) about what I eat. These were not good enough. I eat chocolate candies so rarely now that I'm willing to pay a lot of money for a truly amazing chocolate experience and I'm no longer willing to waste calories on anything less, even when it's free.

WI: +1.15kgs, Exercise:+60 625/1300 minutes for February, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Beverlyjoy: I've been beaming healing energies your way all day! Hope it went well.

02-16-2012, 06:32 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Even though the Amaryllis is still going, I fell for some Daffodils at Trader Joe's when shopping for pecans and raisins - fresh picked buds from Ireland at 10 for $1.49. I just love watching them slowly bloom. DW was thrilled at the hint of Spring.

Eating was on plan, CREDIT moi. Exercise was walking (CREDIT moi) to Trader Joe's.

onebyone – Congrats for finishing your key piece. LOL at the thought, why Yes, they do have sunrise in Florida.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Picky Kudos for passing on the chocolate even though it was FREE. It's a great place to be when you're eating so little chocolate that only the very best is worth it.

Beverlyjoy – HELLO LIFE. Hope all is well.

maryann - Just love DS's excitement over his prepared meal. Ouch for having to face those who reduce kids to scores on standardized tests. Test Scores are Just a Number might be Beck's response.

Donamari (fyreflie24) - Wonderful NSV's about old clothes that fit - Congrats for getting yourself there.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
challenging situations skills
You will now learn 14 skills that you will use over and over in Stage 3, particularly when you are eating out or entertaining guests at home. Practice them in each relevant situation.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 131.

02-16-2012, 09:48 AM
Good Morning, Coaches.
I feel full of positive stuff today. One more ridiculous meeting over. I didn't go off the deep end - too much. Took DS to piano and violin and heard him play as I was walking up to the building to pick him up. For a moment I forgot he was my son and thought, "Who is making that beautiful music?" And now I am driving up to Tahoe to ski for two days with a friend.Skiing might be an optimistic word - there isn't much snow around this winter. Food yesterday was on track until meeting then I buried myself in old XMAS candy and regretted it an hour later. Adjusted points with dinner and ended with a slight loss on the scale. Two pounds from ticker. Have planned food for the day. I am focusing on sitting down to eat everything.
BBE: I was thinking of pecans yesterday in the store. We have five acres we don't commercially harvest. DH brought me a big old bag I have to crack. At the store they were on sale for 14.00 a pound. Gulp. That is more than meat! I better get cracking.
gardenerjoy: I am with you on the pickiness. That is a good habit I have developed and use consistently - My body is no longer a trashcan for crappy food.
fyreflie: I definitely went through a clothing acquisition phase. For me it was a necessity to celebrate each new smaller size. I had to feel terrific about how I looked to keep on the journey. I bought new capris a couple of years ago I wore for three months than donated. This was my thinking - I spent more on one night of compulsive eating than I did on the pants and got three months more use.

Best to all.

02-16-2012, 10:27 AM
Hi Buddies/Coaches
Sorry I have been out of touch. My Mom died Monday evening and since then it has been a whirl of arrangements, etc.
Food has not been perfect, but weight wise I am holding my own. Will get back to you next week.

02-16-2012, 11:56 AM
Maplover: I am so sorry for your loss! Breathe, do what you need. Much love and healing to you. Losing a parent is never an easy time.

Gardnerjoy:Oh I am with you girl! I'm not wasting calories on garbage. If I'm having it, it's gotta be the really good stuff!

Maryann: I've become a real sale shopper since I know I won't wear some of this clothing very much but like you said, each smaller size is a big deal! And old smaller clothing is an even bigger deal!!!! :)

02-16-2012, 07:37 PM
Hi Coaches/Buddies/Friends!

maplover, I am so sorry to hear of your Mom's passing. :hug: Thanks for finding a moment to connect with us here as you are in the whirl of arrangements. I look forward to your return. Peace to you.

I had a day to myself and used it to focus on myself and with my continued self-care . I completed and crossed off many items on my Beck list and so far am 100% OP. Spontaneous exercise was a scrub down in the kitchen (with DH's help) and I spent time this afternoon decluttering the house and prepping veggies in my clean kitchen. *credit* Yesterday as I planned future appts. with my mom I realized that 12 weeks from today I will be in Alaska. Wow.

BillBlueEyes, so amazing that daisies picked in Ireland have still not bloomed. GJ with OP eating AND exercise.

Beverlyjoy, I hope you are recovering well.

Donamarie(fyreflie24), I noticed your cheerleaders have increased in number. Congrats on another mini-goal met! I have noticed, too, that old clothes fit me at a higher weight. It's because we're more muscle than we used to be.

MaryAnn, skiing not to great here, either. Nice job adjusting your points after your detour w/candy.

gardenerjoy, "discriminating" would describe your self described relationship with truly amazing chocolate.

onebyone, best wishes for your exhibit tonight!

Pam(atga), missing you. GJ getting back on track after your auto pilot was temporarily down!

02-17-2012, 01:24 AM
After doing so well with the chocolates yesterday, I wasn't on my guard and found myself eating a brownie today. Darn! I'll do better next time, though, because it wasn't good enough to repeat the experience.

WI: -0.35kgs, Exercise:+35 660/1300 minutes for February, Food: 70%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

maplover: So sorry for your loss. It's a very traumatic, busy, sad time with, I hope for you, some oddly tranquil and happy moments of connection.

02-17-2012, 05:53 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - The Daffodils that I got for DW are just slightly opening - I never get tired of seeing that process. (Apparently I didn't have enough coffee and called them daisies yesterday - Duh!) Did gym, CREDIT moi, where the manager said that his records show the New Year's crowd thinning more slowly than previous years - possibly due to better weather. Yay for one spot on the planet where more exercise is happening.

Food was on-plan, CREDIT moi, until evening snack when I had two extra California Navel Oranges. However healthy they are, they aren't on plan and are fueling the giving-in muscle. Today I'm going to update my Advantages Deck to increase my evening motivation.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Yep, a mediocre brownie is just a mediocre brownie.

Beverlyjoy – Waving in the direction of the recovery room. Hope recovery is doing its thing.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yay for spontaneous exercise - even though it's on the kitchen floor. [Thanks for echoing my word 'daisies' which made me wonder why you hadn't said Daffodils until I looked back at my post, LOL.]

maryann - Yay for a DS who makes beautiful music, with Congrats to the parents who fostered that. Ouch for Xmas candy lingering and grabbing you - is it time for that stuff to go out with the old Christmas Tree? [When I was a kid, we shelled pecans all the time - store bought pecan halves hadn't been invented yet, LOL.]

Donamari (fyreflie24) – I like the reinforcement, no need to waste our body with garbage food.

maplover – My heartfelt condolences for the loss of your mother and supportive thoughts as you face the journey of processing your grief. I'll continue to think of you for the week even if you're not posting.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
challenging situations skills
Before the Event
1.0 Change your mindset. In the past, did you ever think, It's okay to make exceptions on weekends, holidays, or special occasions ... when I'm traveling, eating out ... when I'm stressed? How well did this "It's okay to make exceptions" mindset work for you in your goal to lose weight permanently? The mindset of successful maintainers is different. They believe, None of these exceptions matters ... Because I want to maintain my weight loss permanently, I'm going to eat in the same way 365 days a year (unless I have made a rule that it is okay to use Special Event Calories).
. . .

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 131.

02-17-2012, 09:13 AM
Hi friends/coaches..

Home sweet home. I got home yesterday. (surgery was on Wednesday afternoon) Thanks for all of your prayers, positive thoughts and good wishes. I felt them all.

I am doing better. The surgeon said my poor sad gallblader was 'loaded' with stones. No wonder it didn't work! I am sore, but, better as time goes on. It only really hurts alot when I move around. However, I need to walk... so, it will work itself out. The pain meds are working... I feel loopy, however.

So far, things are going well for me. I haven't been sick to my stomach with the pain meds. This was a big concern. I had excellent care at the hospital.

I am a little wobbly because of the pain medicine - but, I am managing.

I've been keeping my food 'easy' on the tummy, until by digestion gets used to not having a gallbladder in the equation. Crackers/broth/rice/applesauce/lifesavers.

Thanks again...

BTW --I HAVE BROKEN THE SURGERY CURSE. (for any newbies - I had an ankle surgery scheduled for three separate times - then some legitimate crazy reasons always came up to cancel them) I am so, so glad this one happened!!!

02-17-2012, 11:13 PM
Hi Coaches/Buddies/Friends!

Where can you spend $1200, feed your DH multitudes of free samples, buy an unlimited diet drink for 64 cents, take credit for not one bite and walk out with a gigantic smile? Yes, Costco, coaches. I have a new computer and I delighted in taking one of every sample I could find and feeding every one to DH, who then didn't need to eat a $10 meal at Whole Foods. We got to WF late, anyway, and I decided hunger wasn't an emergency and went from breakfast until dinner without a meal without experiencing any hunger. *credit* I did not get all my planned exercise in today but got lots of spontaneous. Now to figure out my computer....

Beverlyjoy, so glad to hear you are doing well! Thanks for keeping us in the loop!

BillBlueEyes, I was surprised reading "daffodills" this am so thanks for the Thanks for the reminder about doubling up on fruit. I will remember as I eat my 2 giant organic strawberries tonight. Credit for a great day otherwise.

Hmm...BASKETBALL CALLS! DH is watching a great game by himself.

02-18-2012, 01:20 AM
Hi coaches

Gee it's later than I thought.

Ok so my exhibition went well. My name is on a wall in black vinyl lettering with a spotlight on it. What a kick that is. Got my work all done. I had to chuckle at the audaciousness of showing work made in the last 16 DAYS--the folks downstairs had been prreparing for 6 months.

Many people came, many people commented, many people enjoyed my work and my project idea. Today I felt a great melancholia sweep through me. I'd been fantasizing how this show would go for a year. I envisioned it 3 years ago, maybe it was 4 years ago, during my first three day visit. Now I am on the home stretch.

So, in my moodiness I alternately ate nothing, then prepared a large amount of food, but when I saw it, I took a normal portion, putting the rest in the fridge for later. Moderation how did you creep into my life?

I had an unexpected nsv yesterday as I stood in the mirror getting ready for my show. I was pulling on my fancy duds and I caught a glimpse of my rib cage, some kind of a curve, a bit of a concave line was back that I haven't see for years. That was a surprise. And while I didn't like some of the pictures of me that are now posted online about my event, I didn't hate them either. In fact I am at peace with how I look "Yep, that's what i look like" is what I think when I see my picture now. I think it helps me to know I am moving past that even as I look at that image. the weight is falling away and soon enough, that won't be me anymore.

Tomorrows challenge will be that of a night at a casino = buffet. I am eating light all day saving points for dinner and then one plate only, a few bites of dessert and that's it. I need to keep in mind that weigh-in is tuesday night.

maplover I am very sorry to hear about your mother. Please take care of yourself and do what you need to to get through this. :hug: So sorry for your loss.

beverleyjoy Yay or getting rid of the gall bladder and for being on your feet already. Excellent. Thank for checking in.

:wave: to everyone

02-18-2012, 01:50 AM
It was a relatively warm day here so I started seeds -- basil, two types of peppers, and three types of tomatoes. They are all safely indoors, now, but it was nice to have a pleasant day to work with dirt and water outdoors on the potting bench.

WI: +0.5kgs, Exercise:+45 705/1300 minutes for February, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

BillBlueEyes: I've noticed that more of my friends have taken up running this year. I'm not sure if it's a wider phenomenon or just something about my circle of friends. I just read a book called Strong Women, Strong Hearts that quoted statistics saying that our level of exercise participation increased through the 60s, 70s, and 80s, but leveled off after that. I'm wondering if it's starting to ramp up again?

Beverlyjoy: so glad to have you home safe and sound! And so glad to see that you're taking good care of yourself.

Lexxiss: sounds like a very successful Costco trip in so many ways. Have fun with the computer!

onebyone: congrats on the successful exhibition! That really sounds like it was fun and rewarding! I suppose the next day let down was predictable (but I never predict that sort of thing). Good for you for finding moderation within it.

02-18-2012, 06:56 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Had a 100% on plan eating day, CREDIT moi, including an evening snack of exactly one serving of fruit. As a bonus, I skipped my afternoon snack since we'd been out until almost dinner walking (CREDIT moi) - its bonus was a Common Loon and a pair of Hooded Mergansers on fresh water in February.

When we entered the movie theater last night the smell of popcorn was almost overwhelming. It's easy to understand why that stuff is hard to resist. Fortunately, my neurons seem to be past the gotta-have-popcorn phase.

onebyone – Yay for your name in lights!!! Congrats on accepting your own body - such a positive step along your journey. Good luck at the buffet tonight.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – We're enjoying the unseasonably warm weather, but DW isn't happy that her Crocuses are coming up now in mid-winter. It is a happy thought to plant the spring seeds outdoors in February, albeit in their containers for the grow lights.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Monster Kudos for doing Costco with such style; particularly like that you took all the samples ... for your DH! Are you guys caught up in Linsanity?

Beverlyjoy – Yay for "I HAVE BROKEN THE SURGERY CURSE" - I had felt bad secretly wondering if you were in for another cycle of that. May you survive your easy diet while training your digestive system.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
challenging situations skills
Before the Event
1.0 Change your mindset. . . .
If you're like many of the dieters I've counseled, you may be having the sabotaging thoughts, But that's not fair! I want to be able to eat like everyone else ... I want to decide when to loosen up ... I just can't be as controlled in some situations as in others. I always sympathize with the dieters, agreeing how unfair it is that some (actually only a few) people can eat whatever they want without consequences. But at least the unfairness of restricting one's eating pays off in all of the advantages of permanent weight loss.
. . .

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 131.

02-18-2012, 09:44 AM
Hi beckies/coaches/friends...

Things are going well for me, still. I slept through the night without needing to take any pain meds. Grateful for that. I had to weigh myself - orders from the surgeon. To make sure I am not holding on to water. It looks like I've gained a couple of pounds. I won't worry about it - it may be water and/or food. It's all OK. I can't go crazy with food/scale now - just need to be cognisant of making good healthy choices.

I am not allowed to do any exercises or stretching right now. I go see the surgeon next week. I'll need the go ahead from him to start that again.

Thanks again for all of your kind thoughts and support. I appreciate it very very much.

Bill - YES - believe you me that I was scared something would happen to make this surgery stop. I am SO grateful that I could go forward. YAY

02-18-2012, 11:27 AM
Onebyone: Congrats on the exhibition! So exciting to see your name in lights :)

Beverlyjoy: Glad you're recovering well.

And the news on our front today friends is...I'M OVERWEIGHT! That means, of course, no long obese. Thank goodness! One more step :)

02-18-2012, 09:23 PM
Hi Coaches/Buddies/Friends!

Another OP day as we trekked through FOUR Costco's searching for a close out for DH. No luck but we had a wonderful lunch at Whole Foods. DH got overwhelmed there on Friday and I thought a tour when we weren't shopping along with lunch might help out. It did. I got half my planned exercise and lots of spontaneous. *credit*

BillBlueEyes, what a great observation that even though the popcorn "smells" good that you don't need to eat it.

Donamarie(fyreflie24), congrats on being overweight! :lol:

Beverlyjoy, glad to hear you are another day better and keeping your spirit elevated!

onebyone, I'm just gleaming for you!

gardenerjoy, yippee for seeds and dirt!

02-19-2012, 01:09 AM
Struggling a bit with some entitlement eating, but I have a plan for tomorrow that I can stick to.

WI: +0.1kgs, Exercise:+80 785/1300 minutes for February, Food: 85%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

fyreflie24: congrats on being overweight instead of obese! That's a great accomplishment!

02-19-2012, 06:36 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - At gym, CREDIT moi, there were handouts of FREE granola bars, which I took, even though it's a bunch of calories for the bite - just can't resist FREE. Now I have to find a place to use them since one bar has more calories than a normal snack and I find the thought of half a bar as silly as half a banana.

Food was on-plan, CREDIT moi, including dinner with friends where I didn't have seconds even though others did. I did have the hostess's homemade blueberry pie by leaving most of the crust.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – The mantra: "I have a plan for tomorrow that I can stick to."

Debbie (Lexxiss) – I celebrate mastering one Costco trip; making four is heroic. Whole Foods can be overwhelming; I have a friend who went for tofu and came out with cooked plantains instead, LOL.

Beverlyjoy – Sleep has gotta be the best healing activity possible; savor it - exercise will come later.

Donamari (fyreflie24) – Monster Congrats for making your overweight milestone and leaving obese behind forever. 61 pounds lost is a big deal.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
challenging situations skills
Before the Event
1.0 Change your mindset. . . .
In deciding to adopt this new mindset and to limit their food intake, dieters get so much in return. When they view the situation in this way, they come to realize that the trade-off isn't even close. They would much rather gain the benefits listed in their Advantages Decks.
. . .

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 131.

02-19-2012, 10:20 AM
Morning coaches -

Well, it's been a **** of a few weeks. I am so glad I'm now able to focus and put my attention where it should be - on Beck and healthy eating and exercise.

Some good things have happened. I did start running again (though I haven't this past week and will restart tomorrow). I performed the Rachmaninoff preludes I've been working on for months, and they went pretty well, though I still learned about some things that I want to improve. And yesterday I had a long sitting session with my meditation group. One of our council members brought in a CD of a TIbetan sound healing practice (chanting syllables and visualization) which was really fantastic.

So I feel like I'm now in a good head space to recommit to my program and be a contributing member of this group again. I have started rereading the pink book from the beginning and I'm excited to continue. Thanks, as always, for being here for me.


02-19-2012, 02:30 PM
I am listening to BBE and working on exercising the Not Giving in Muscle. I am listening to Gardenerjoy about the insidious attraction of chocolate. Just for Today I will sit when I eat. I will NOT eat chocolate.
Lexxiss: Great to exercise by cleaning house. That is a real WIN WIN
Maplover: These times must seem nearly impossible to walk through. Be gentle and kind to yourself. There is no wrong way to grieve.

Thoughts to all those recovering from overwork, surgeries and expectations.

I have been MIA from the blog and SUPER MIA from food plan. Credit for lots of exercise in skiing and yoga. Yesterday, I had a good cry about work and feelings of loss because I am leaving work and today I am willing to take a forward step. I will work on my paper all day, cook chicken noodle soup and fresh cranberry jello with bananas. DS and DH are under strick orders to pick another bag of oranges and a bag of the newly ripe Tangelos from our trees at the ranch. Changed ticker to reflect my true weight.

02-19-2012, 04:09 PM
Hi coaches/beckies/friends - yesterday I felt a little better than the day before. I am making slow progress - but, moving forward.

All the meds have made my tummy a little queezy. I have anti-nausea medicine which is helping. Today I am going to try to eat more healthful foods. Still they need to be lite-ish. No raw veggies yet - or spicy foods, or lots of fatty foods - or big meals. I was told to add these kind of foods slowly back into my daily plan. That's what I will do.

I am hoping that soon I won't need the heavy duty pain meds and can get by with tylenol. I am not rushing anything, however.

My dear little neighbor girls came over in their cheerleading outfits (5 & 7 years old) They did some cheers to 'cheer' me up. Loved it!

maryann - I am glad to hear of your dedication to exercises. Sorry that you are struggling with the food. Great idea to have family pick up the healthy things to have around the house.

erika - Hi! glad to hear that your performance went well. Sometimes we need to get out 'head' in the right place to move forward with the best choices with food. Those are the days when I tell myself to plan, plan, and plan some more.

billbe - credit for not eating the granola bar right away. And... eating only the inside of pie along with no seconds. This consititutes a wonderful on plan day. Carryon.

lerxxiss/debbie - credit for good choices at Whole Foods. I LOVE their take out food...however, it is often heavy in calories. Spontaneous exercise is great.I love how DH had a free cosco meal and you strengthened your resistance muscle at the same time.

fiyreflye - I am doing a happy dance in your honor of being overweight. This is major. Rejoice, for sure.

gardenerjoy - it's so fun to get out the seeds and get them going for spring. I love it, too.

I need to weigh myself again. I am not sure whether to wait or do it daily. My food has been off plan for a week. I don't know quite what to do. I may wait until Wednesday... my official weigh in day. I do know, however, my main goal now is to be healing from my surgery. A couple of friends have reminded me my body has much to heal and readjust to. My head is usually so crazy when it comes to food.

Thanks again, folks, for your wonderful support.

02-19-2012, 09:34 PM
Maryann: Good for you for feeling emotions and moving on. I struggle with that so kudos :)

Erika: Congrats on the concert! I LOVE Rachmaninoff!!

Bill: You are and continue to be an inspiration :)

Beverlyjoy: OMG your own cheerleaders! Love it!

GardnerJoy: Good for you for the preemptive plan! Sooo important!

Lexxiss: You lived through FOUR Coscos?! OMG woman, there should be a medal of honor successfully navigating through that!

I'm sorry, I had to laugh at not only the cries of joy that I'm overweight but that I'M happy I'm overweight! Oh the twists and turns and surprises of this journey! LOL!

I have also neglected to acknowledge how much I appreciate the community of artists collected here and how you each inspire me in my own work :)

Have a great week!

02-20-2012, 01:04 AM
Map lover I am sorry to hear of your recent loss. :hug:

fyreflie WTG on moving from obese to "just" overweight. I am so proud of you.

beverlyjoy I am so glad that your surgery went well and you are at home recuperating. I had my GB out in 1992. Life got better--much better.

bill you are doing so amazingly well with exercising your resistance muscle. Daffodils have been up around here for the past several weeks. Even the dogwoods are in bloom (this should be the end of March instead of now).

lexxiss You are the Shop Goddess! Wow! I wonder how many steps was in all of that purchasing? GJ on exercising your control over FREE samples.

maryann I am going through a "weird" period myself. When that happens food and control of it just seems to get blown away. I am resisting a full out binge but gosh I just keep thinking I am beyond all of this, already!

onebyone :congrat: on your exhibition. I am so sorry that I wasn't able to get down there. I have been too sick to travel this past week for one thing. Hope the clothes arrived though and that you could wear them.

Well, this self-paced walking challenge (since February 16th) is getting off to a super start. I am having everyone "virtual" walk their state of residence. They decide where they want to go within their individual state, find out how many miles it is to travel, walk it and once they "arrive" they google that city or point of interest and share with the group some interesting facts or trivia. Everyone has really loved that added twist to getting in more exercise.

I am in the process of developing a challenge around the Beck skills and nothing else. It should be fun. I hope that it will start on March 23rd and run through to May 23rd.

I have gotten back to walking on the treadmill 3-10 minute sessions each day last week and then I got sick. I had a roaring fever than follow up chills so now I have been benched for the past four days. :( I dipped into chocolate last night. I have been craving that like madness and no resistance to speak of. Erika, play it again. I hear you! Arrrgh.:mad:

Take care all. I am thinking of each and every one of you.


02-20-2012, 01:16 AM
I followed the plan I made yesterday. Yay! It was more or less our 3rd Valentine's Day so it was a generous plan. That's the last so that should end my entitlement eating problems for a couple of weeks. Next up, a vacation in March. But I usually do pretty well when traveling. Easter isn't until April 8, so I'll see if I can get myself firmly back on track so that's not a challenge. There's no need for it be.

WI: -0.1kgs, Exercise:+40 825/1300 minutes for February, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

BillBlueEyes: maybe you need to find a friend to share the granola bar with?

eusebius: great to see you again! Cool about the Rachmaninoff.

pamatga: wishing you a quick recovery

02-20-2012, 06:35 AM

Thank you so much for your kind words about my mom. Your support means everything to me.

I am in the midst of getting papers together to settle mom's estate and collecting her furniture and other effects from her villa at the retirement home. It is a daunting task! She was a definite pack rat. I have been thinking hard about this for the past few days. Hope you don't mind me dumping some thoughts here. She was not a hoarder as depicted on tv. There was no mountain of junk preventing her from sleeping in her bed. In fact if you went into her villa you would think she was neat (some of this doubtless due to her neatnik companion, Dave). But she had one area in her study where she kept her papers that was a mess and she had stuff stashed in little nooks and crannies all over the place. She must have 30k photos, going back to the last century. Now this stuff is all in my house and I have to sort through it.

I am the same way. Neat on the surface, but pack ratty in reality. How does this relate to weight loss and Beck? The stuff that I stash away from sight is stuff that I don't want to deal with...I'd rather lose myself in a tv program, drinking a glass of wine and noshing on almonds, than sort through the things I don't want to see. This is the type of behavior that has sabotaged me throughout life...I become deliberately unconscious around food, hiding from myself what I am really eating. One of the benefits of Beck is that she makes you examine all these weird behaviors. But change is hard....

I am sorta back. Yesterday I hauled out my cards and planned my meals. Need to reconnect with the green book. I am still stuck on the "no choice" part of the resistance techniques.

BUT I am so blown away by everyone's creativity and successes here:

Beverlyjoy: glad to hear you are recovering

Lexxiss: credit you for deciding food is not an emergency and all the exercise

Onebyone: your exhibition sounds great. Congratulations! Oh and it must be so nice to discover your ribs!

BBE: You are an inspiration. Congrats on the OP eating.

fyreflie24: Congrats on reaching "overweight." That is a big accomplishment

Gardnerjoy: Yay for plans!

Erika: Congrats on the running. Me too. I've started couch to 5k. Also Rachmaninoff recital--Excellent!

Maryann: here's to forward steps.

Pamatga: love the virtual walk challenge idea.

02-20-2012, 08:29 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Invited DW to join my walk, CREDIT moi. We were surprised to find almost no birds despite the feel of a warming spring day, with the major exception of a Common Loon on fresh water again - this is the season when they usually stay out on the ocean waiting for the fresh water to thaw.

Eating was on plan, CREDIT moi, until evening snack when I had extra fruit - Ouch! I gotta stop that; think I'll read and reread today's quote.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – LOL at 3rd Valentine's Day- that's unusual and super romantic. Neat to think of the period of Lent as a good time to drop the extra eating - I'm gonna steal that notion.

Erika (eusebius) – Ouch for having to fight your way from **** and back - glad you've found your way out. You've made me yearn to go listen to some Rachmaninoff and think about the sounds of Tibet.

Beverlyjoy – Touching thought of your neighbors in their cheerleading outfits to cheer you up. It's difficult to find a food plan in the midst of GI confusion.

Pam (pamaga) – Love the motivation of mapping miles walked to places in my state and reporting - you're so full of creative ideas. Glad that you continue to do well, despite a chocolate dip last night.

maryann - Yay for chicken noodle soup - life's universal cure. Green with the thought of picking oranges. We do get to occasionally pick apples around here and I always get that little kid feeling of joy when I take my first bite.

Donamari (fyreflie24) – Neat new Avatar! Speaking of artists, does your business slowly come back after the Christmas deluge and drop-off?

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
challenging situations skills
Before the Event
1.0 Change your mindset. . . .
So why can't you made exceptions? The fact of the matter is our body processes calories in exactly the same way whether we are home or out, whether it’s a regular Monday or a holiday, whether we're working or on vacation. A calorie is a calorie, regardless of the situation in which you eat it. And if you make one exception, why not make more? Then you really put yourself at risk of gaining back weight. Just think: There are about 104 weekend days a year, not to mention the numerous holidays, anniversaries, birthdays, showers, weddings, parties, restaurant meals, fairs, conferences, meetings, special occasions, and vacation days.
. . .

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 131.

02-20-2012, 12:01 PM
Thanks Bill... yes, that image is edited LOL! It was actually kinda a big deal for me as I LOATHE pictures of myself!

The shooting aspect of the business will come back in the spring but I have a lot of post production/album/clean up from last year that will keep me busy for a while!

02-20-2012, 12:11 PM
Hi Everyone,

Back from the cruise and my weigt is up. No surprise there. Will do a much longer post later. Using the tablet now to post this and hate typing on it. The office desk is buried with everything from the suitcases as it's next to the laundry room and the mountain of dirty clothes. For a warm vacation we sure went thru a pile of clothing.

Am going to catch up on posts and check back later. Also need to go grocery shopping. I accidently left the fridge freezer compartment door slightly open and came home to a thawed mess but did not lose a lot of expensive food, mostly half filled bags of bread products, not sorrry to see them go.


Just noticed I spelled weight wrong on the first line. Really wish I could find an arrow key on here that doesn't erase everything!

02-20-2012, 12:44 PM
Morning coaches -

Great weighin this morning - back on track! I am so happy to have a completely OP day behind me.

Today is "Family Day" - a statutory holiday here in Ontario. We've decided to spend it taking our daughter to the Toronto Zoo, partly because we are cat-deprived and looking forward to seeing some majestic jaguars and leopards. This will result in some nice spontaneous exercise - a good bonus.

I ran this morning (restarting at Week 3 of Couch to 5K). Time for a smoothie now and I'll take a salad with me to the zoo.

maryann - kudos for lots of exercise and for taking care of yourself emotionally.

Beverlyjoy - sorry about the meds making you queasy - I know how that feels. Kudos for planning, planning and more planning!

Donamari - big congrats on reaching your goal of being no longer obese!! That's fabulous.

Pam - the walking challenge is very creative! It reminds me of the "Life's Odyssey" challenge I used to do on where we sailed somewhere different every week. Hope you are feeling better soon!!

gardenerjoy - WTG on following your Valentine's plan!

maplover - I am so sorry about your mom. :hug: And I am super impressed that you are here telling us about your experience and getting yourself back on track - even starting Couch to 5K. THat is truly inspiring!!

BillBE - Cool to see a Common Loon on your walk! We usually just see them on loonies, LOL.

Tazzy - welcome back!! I hear you about typing on tablets - much prefer the laptop for posting. Hope you enjoyed the cruise - I'm sure the weight will go right back down before you know it.

Smoothie time! Have a great day, all!

02-20-2012, 04:36 PM
Hi Becksters/coaches/friends....

First of all, I want to thank all of you for your continued support, good wishes, prayers, wisdom & kind thoughts in regards to my gallbladder & hernia (yes, they fixed a hernia too while they were in the neighborhood) surgeries last week. It means a great deal to me, for sure.

I am starting to get into a rhythm of sorts.. figuring out what I can eat and the best ways to heal and feel better. The literature says to start slowly adding 'regular' food back into your daily plan. Also - keep it very low fat at first. Frankly, these things all 'sound pretty familiar'. It's a work in progress. The main thing is to eat healthy food to heal well. I cannot do any exercise until I get the OK from the surgeon - makes sense.

I hope you all are having a GREAT day. Be kind to yourself.

02-20-2012, 09:49 PM
Good Evening, All.

I worked most of the day on my 20 pg paper. DS is an angel and worked side by side own his on little projects. Food Planning was minimal. My only two goals were sitting down while eating and no chocolate. I was successful at both.

I read the heartfelt posts and viscerally understood it all - having gone through all the experiences mentioned. Glad everyone is speaking the truth. Glad everyone showed up today to write.

Best to all.

02-21-2012, 06:10 AM
Hello Coaches/Buddies/Friends!

I'm working overtime despite a tired waitress/computer hand which is giving me some tingling and pain. Last eve after waitressing I spent 2 hrs on the phone trying to get old and new computer synched. I went to bed at 6 and slept until midnight when the brain could finish paperwork to give to mom so I might leave this afternoon after waitressing and head west to the hot springs. I'm thinking my hand/arm might love 5 days of soaking.

Yesterday I found myself wanting/starting to mindlessly snack/feed at work. I stopped several times and pitched 1/2 a (bad) sandwich after taking 2 bites. *credit* I had a med. bowl of chips after dinner (unplanned, too). I was still under my calorie allotment. *credit* for not starting an all out foodfest. Spontaneous exercise was walking back and forth to moms (with paperwork) in the bitter cold INSTEAD of driving.

Sending warm wishes to everyone as I head back to bed for a few more hours of rest.
~BBE, I'll dream of the loons conversing in the early dawn out my bedroom window in the chilly Alaskan (sea) water. (and yes, I think Lin is pretty cool)

02-21-2012, 06:38 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - At gym (CREDIT moi) I use four sets of dumbbells. Uber joy was that I took three of the sets from the wrong locations in the rack and returned them to the correct locations without shifting others. Yay for distractions to amuse. The long walk got usurped when unexpected visitors dropped by and stayed for two hours. Yay for connections to humans; Ouch for loss of me-time.

Food was good enough, CREDIT moi, including leaving a bite at dinner which I've not been doing. It was mango couscous, a favorite, because it seems so exotic despite being, calorically, just tiny pasta.

Erika (eusebius) – Kudos for taking your own salad to the zoo. I still love zoos, but just like circuses, we don't get there so much with the kids grown.

Beverlyjoy – Seems like a sane approach, "The main thing is to eat healthy food to heal well" - keep on keeping on.

maryann - Congrats for working on your paper, and Kudos for doing it sticking to a plan of "no chocolate."

Tazzy - Yay for a successful cruise with the whole gang; you'll have the opportunity to work off that cruise-weight should winter ever arrive this year, LOL. I know that pain of trying to find the arrow keys on a new device.

Donamari (fyreflie24) – Sending supportive thoughts for you, your nephew, and your dad. Thank you for sharing your personal journey. I am struck by power of the word 'silence' in, "I learned that I fill my silence with food."

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
challenging situations skills
Before the Event
1.0 Change your mindset. . . .
Making exceptions also can lead to obsessing about your decision. Should I make an exception for this party? Should I make an exception for that event? Sticking to a predetermined rule takes the struggle and pain out of dieting.
. . .

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 131.

02-21-2012, 11:19 AM
Morning coaches -

The zoo was lovely (and packed for Family Day). I restarted running at Week 3 of C25K and also got about 90 minutes of spontaneous walking at the zoo. Yay! Today: intense rehearsal with cellist coming up. I need to take lots of deep breaths and remember to surrender/get out of my own way while playing this crazy music. Staying in the moment is so hard sometimes. But it's crucial for so many things including this journey.

Beverlyjoy - wow, there was a hernia in there too? You are doing an amazing job taking care of yourself - keep up the great work!!

maryann - Sometimes it's important to keep our goals manageable and you did that, kudos!

Debbie (Lexxiss) - the hot springs sound fantastic and well deserved! Kudos for nipping mindless eating in the bud and spontaneous (chilly) exercise.

BillBE - Continued kudos for healthy eating & exercise despite unexpected visitors. I know you'll get that long walk in very soon.

Wishing a great day to all,

02-21-2012, 10:17 PM
Hello Coaches

I have to say that I am enjoying the evenings more than anything else here in Key West. Think of the nicest summer evening and then imagine having that every night. That's how I think of it here, though I am told that in summer the temperature doesn't waver between daytime and night time and neither does the humidity. This weather is truly like the summer that is so fleeting where I live. I have actually added an extra month of summer to my life this year, even though it will be separated by the tail end of winter and that pesky spring in the middle.

And KUDOS to me for managing to stay on my foodplan during my stay here. I am most surprised by my weigh-in tonight: 264.6 (-1.8). :carrot: This after going to a casino buffet, where I had one plate of mostly protein, then a second trip back for soup and a few, I mean like 3, breaded/fried things and then one piece of sugar-free dessert that I think was a big calorie bomb. I did walk a lot searching for a machine with a jackpot for me. Alas, I walked a lot ;).

And yesterday I effortlessly walked 4.5 hrs, heading deep into the throngs of tourists. THREE cruise ships were docked in port. Every one of them was taller than the roof of the 3 storey hotel at the waterfront. The call for tourists to board the ship was heard for blocks. I can't even imagine how big a loudspeaker, or how loud that must be if you were standing near it. As it was, I was a good three blocks away and it's as if it was an announcement over the PA in your local Kmart. Amazing.

I stayed away from the tourist stuff pre-exhibition and I was smart to listen to my intuition. I am so taken by that, so excited by the level of crowds that I would not have seen the little rocks, the coral, the local doorways, as much for the distractions of the moving crowd, the snippets of every kind of conversation and the sheer energy of this fast moving I'M ON VACATION tourist. On top of that it's spring break so there is a whole other level of frenzy. It's been 5 days since my exhibit and I haven't made anything so tomorrow must be a workday. I want to fully realize having printed all of my 29 days of February images here and not at home. I won't be happy if I let that happen so it's got to be back to work for me.

As for my weight/food, I am a mere 0.2lbs away from meeting my February goal of -25lbs. *almost* there. It was a squeaker today.
Basically I am striving for a 25lb loss every 3 months. I need to do that 5-6 times to reach my goal weight. At 261.4, 3 pounds from now, I meet a very important health goal of 10% down. I am going to re-double my efforts this week and see if I can't reach that on my next weigh-in. 3lbs is a lot to ask, but not if I am walking 2hrs everyday, which is very very easy to do here.

I'm sure going to miss this place.

Bye for now.

02-21-2012, 10:20 PM
Hi Coaches/Buddies/Friends!

:wave: from the West side of the Continental Divide. It was a better day at work-too busy to eat...even my PBBBB sammie so the ingredients sat in my bag. We had a healthy snack on the way over and it occurred to me upon our arrival that it would be a perfect night not to cook and enjoy our multi-grain cereal instead of ordering pizza or driving through a fast food joint (not that we ever do that anymore, anyway). Tomorrow I'll soak in the pool and get some rest then get back to exercising.

BillBlueEyes, interesting how we organize our environment, even when we're away from home. Yay for leaving a bite.

Erika(eusebius), yes, patience helps in more than one venue.

ETA-onebyone, we cross posted. Congrats on a fantastic weigh in. You have me missing my brother and Key West. He lives on Atlantic Ave.

02-22-2012, 05:57 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - A day of just barely good enough eating, CREDIT moi. I was over on afternoon and evening snacks. I need a new card, Food doesn't do Taxes.

onebyone – Love your description of "I'M ON VACATION tourist" - frightening thought of three ships full of them descending on a small town. Two hours of walking a day sounds like heaven.

Erika (eusebius) – Thanks for "Staying in the moment is so hard sometimes" - don't know why drifting away happens to me so often. By-the-by, we heard a live cellist holding the cello between her knees instead of on the spike on the ground - new to me.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Continue to drool with every mention of your PBBBB sammie.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
challenging situations skills
Before the Event
1.0 Change your mindset. . . .
I wish it were different. I wish I didn't have to be so careful every day. But I do (and so do all successful maintainers). And most of the time, I just don't think much about it because I know that the advantages of maintaining my weight are so much greater that the momentary pleasure of eating more on a special occasion.
. . .

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 132.

02-22-2012, 10:12 AM
Morning coaches

Another good day. My commitment is holding and rereading the pink book is helping to shore it up. The scale is inching down, for which I'm grateful. And food fog and fatigue are starting to abate with the healthy diet and exercise. Planning the next day's food the night before has been a very successful tactic.

Today: Week 3 Day 2 of C25K. My morning choir rehearsal was cancelled, so I get an extra couple of hours to enjoy my coffee & knitting, yay!

onebyone - yay for an extra month of summer and congrats on your continued weight loss success!

Debbie (Lexxiss) - glad you had a better day at work. Soaking in the pool sounds lovely.

BillBE - LOL at Food Doesn't Do Taxes. I've noticed it doesn't practice or clean the house, either. Interesting about the cellist - I wonder how she stays tension-free that way. (Maybe she doesn't…)

Time to enjoy my unexpected free time! I've started reading Andre Agassi's autobiography … quite interesting stuff.

:hug: to all!

Wishing everyone a great Wednesday,

02-22-2012, 04:15 PM
Hi folks.... my computer is not working very well. My laptop won't stay on. My desk top compter is sad. I'll try and post when I can.

I am eating different things. Tomorrow I see the surgeon and I hope I can drive.

Take care...thanks for all your support.

02-22-2012, 09:48 PM
Hello Everyone!

Finally got to use the PC in the office and not have to type on that tablet anymore.

Our cruise was really good, great sunny weather, nice sandy beaches, palm trees, blue water, all the things I really like. We had temperatures ranging from 57F the day we left Tampa to 101.5F in Belize.

I noticed a couple of things on the cruise. We were on Carnival and they are at the “value” end of the scale for pricing. They seemed to be more focused on the quantity of food over the quality. The fine dining restaurant had some great options for dinner (we never did get there for breakfast or lunch) and they served reasonable sized portions. I’m not sure how many of you are aware that portion sizes in Canadian restaurants are much smaller than those served in American restaurants (my DH and I often split entrees when traveling and find the amount to be sufficient). We tried frog legs (do taste like chicken but with a much denser texture) and alligator fritters (okay) for the first time, we had lobster and jumbo shrimp, escargot, oysters, chateaubriand, prime rib, chicken, different fish dishes and lots of yummy desserts. I did not think I needed dessert at every dinner but my resistance muscle did not seem to come on the vacation. I did notice many times as well when I was uncomfortably full. Seemed like we ate lunch too late and our dinner seating was for 6pm. Usually felt like I needed a snack by 10pm but the only 24/7 food was pizza (too greasy) and ice cream (too late to eat and cold).

The buffet service had the usual breakfast items, an area with made to order omelets, a grill station with the bacon, sausage, french toast, waffles, etc. I was quite excited to find oatmeal on the second day however I enjoyed it with brown sugar and cream the whole week (a very likely culprit for the weight gain). There was also the standard continental breakfast fare of pastries, yogurt, cold cereal and fruit. Lunch was hamburgers, hot dogs, pizza, Chinese food, sandwich station (had a great arugula, mozzarella and tomato sandwich one day) and a salad bar area. I only went to the salad bar once and that was on the night we skipped dinner in the dining room. But eating a big plate of veggies was really satisfying. It still surprises me how much food people can pack on their plates and how many times they will go back for more. Again they were there for quantity and not the quality.

onebyone - I had to laugh at your comment about the 3 cruise ships in port, the day we were in Grand Cayman there was 5 ships. That’s a lot of extra people wandering on a small island.

We saw some great stuff and had fun in Grand Cayman, DH wanted to see H-E-L-L (a lava rock looking area that's part of a reef), so I went back for my 3rd visit! :devil: (It was my 3rd trip to the island). We sat on Seven Mile Beach and I was feeling pretty comfortable in my bathing suit. As discussed earlier, I just remembered that no one was paying as much attention to me as I thought they were. Kind of how I would glance at someone else and not give it another thought. Our 13 year old DS is now in the puberty/heavier stage and it made me sad to see him go into the water trying to cover his tummy area with his arms and hands so people could not see him. Not sure how to explain to a 13 year old boy that no one is really looking.

Cozumel was fun, we did a speedboat tour to a private island and got soaked doing 180 turns in the water. I ordered a drink at the bar there, rum punch, took one swallow and thought this is terrible and didn’t drink anymore. I guess that’s one credit for me!

Belize City was a bit sketchy outside the fenced-in tourist area so we stayed in there and were only on land for a couple of hours.

Roatan, Honduras was our absolute favorite stop on the trip. It makes me think that’s what Mexico would have been like about 40 years ago. We also had the best lunch of the trip there, BBQ’d chicken, sea bass, coconut rice and beans and fried banana chips. DH and I would love to go back there again someday on a land based vacation.

I didn’t do much exercise on the ship, a few laps of one deck one morning but that was really it. I just took the time to relax and rejuvenate. It’s back to Zumba this weekend and we are supposed to get some snow so maybe I can get some shovelling in as well.

I’m getting back on track with eating and read a book called “Why We Get Fat and What To Do About It” by Gary Taubes on vacation. It’s a book that looks at the scientific perspective of weight gain and loss with lots of historical data to back it up. It challenges all of the information we have been taught for many years and backs it up biologically. I’d try to explain more but I need to re-read it a few times to understand it more clearly myself. It’s like a biology class all over again! The general plan is called the “no sugar, no starch diet”. I started it seriously yesterday and am on day 2 with a headache. I had the same thing happen when I did the PINK Method plan in December and by the 4th day the headache was gone and I had a lot more energy and didn’t feel sluggish. I cannot believe how removing refined sugar and flour can increase my energy level. But right at this moment I’d kill for something sweet! Keep saying to myself NO CHOICE, over and over again. My weight gain is slowly disappearing, I figured out the number of calories I would have had to eat each day on the cruise to have the weight stay and it was about 4000 extra per day. I didn’t have that much brown sugar or cream on the oatmeal!

Sounds like everyone is doing well and I’ll be back with personals soon. Think I need to check out the low-carb thread for some ideas.

02-23-2012, 12:29 AM
A plan never got made today, so it was impossible to follow! I would have done better with a plan, so I have one ready to go for tomorrow.

WI: +0.1kgs, Exercise:+45 870/1300 minutes for February, Food: NA %op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

onebyone: your experience in Key West sounds simply wonderful.

Lexxiss: love your new avatar! That's just what I imagined that pool was like!

Tazzy: thanks for the report on cruising!

Hello to everyone else!

02-23-2012, 01:47 AM

I felt better today as I did some artwork today. Surprise surprise. I carved 5 linos today and am only 2 behind. It's not bad. I'm having trouble getting stuff printed as the printers are almost non-existant around here, so it's affecting my output. :mad:

My sister was over experimenting with marbling fabric. She too has decided to take advantage of my studio space. The more the merrier.

Tomorrow we are going to Grassy Key to sit in a local cafe with the locals. She's a fiction writer, usually literary/crime fiction, and she needs to soak up some authentic ambience for a piece she is working on. I, of course, will soak it up for my paintings and prints ant take some pictures as well.

Tomorrow night the new distinguished artist in residence is having an opening at the local gallery. I met him today. What a happy man. His wfe, who is here, is his manager and geez. I went to his website and he is a one man industry. His courses are booked up 3 yrs in advance he was telling me. His work sells. He does courses in exotic locations and they get sold out. He is successful and happy and why wouldn't he be? He also paints everyday. Which is what the other artist in residence said: he paints everyday. So I must emulate them.

Foodwise, well my sister is a food pusher. I have pointed it out to her since I've been here. Sometimes she stops. Sometimes she doesn't. It's up to me to police myself with this issue. She doesn't really get it. And that's ok. She doesn't need to. I tracked my food today *credit* and got out for a 2 hour walk to visit the sunset celebrations at mallory square. It did not disappoint.

I talked myself out of fried chicken, which would have been ok and tracked, but opted instead for what was in the cupboard: some salmon and in the fridge: some blueberries. I was happy to eat light. Eat light, be light, I guess.

Off to bed. G'night everyone.

02-23-2012, 06:38 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Well, I tried to use food to make progress on the taxes anyway. Ouch. There's a part of my brain that thinks that fruit, even dried fruit, is good for me on-plan or off. Ouch, Ouch, Ouch. I can CREDIT moi for leaving half of my dinner since I'd been nibbling and wasn't really hungry. At least I worked at staying in the game. Will work harder today.

onebyone – Just love reading how you are savoring your time in Key West. Neat to go sip coffee with the locals like Hemingway researching his next work. The phrase "distinguished artist" has a nice ring - you're on your way.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Yay for having today's plan in place. The Boston Globe had an article on all the early blooming - seems like folks are just accepting the early spring with scant memory that late February and March can be serious winter months.

Erika (eusebius) – Yay for "Planning the next day's food the night before has been a very successful tactic."

Debbie (Lexxiss) – You look sooooo happy in the hot springs.

Beverlyjoy – Hope all goes well at your surgeon visit today. The Boston Globe had a picture of an endangered Atlantic Sturgeon - but that's different.

Tazzy - Neat cruise! Kudos for "feeling pretty comfortable in my bathing suit" - you worked to get there. Ouch for being 13 years old ... just in general - it's such a difficult time. Fritters are not on my plan, but "alligator fritters" would have passed my rare or unusual exception.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
challenging situations skills
Before the Event
1.0 Change your mindset. . . .
Copy this Response Card and add it to your others:If I want to lose weight permanently, I can't make
exceptions. I'd rather be thinner!
. . .

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 131.

02-23-2012, 09:58 AM
Ok Coaches

I'm off to tackle the bicycle riding roadblock. I have bike. I will travel. I'm going to head up to the Office Max on my bike and get some photocopies done which I need to get caught up in my artwork. While gone I will get some breakfast out.
My plans todad have been changed. No Grassy Key/Keys ambience. We'll do it Saturday. Tomorrow though, I *finally* get to swimming water! My sister's friend came over to ask me what i wanted to do. I said "swim. Do you do that?" and she said no. but then relented saying we could go to Bahia Honda I just looked at that site. Nice but no pictures of swimmers. Guess they didn't want to clutter the website up with Humans in Bathing Suits.

Ok. Time to get going. I promise, coaches, to report back that I rode the bike.

02-23-2012, 10:12 AM
Hi Coaches/Buddies/Friends!

I used resistance and diversion skills several times to avoid driving to pick up something I really wanted but was definitely not on my plan. Success and I do feel better for my resistance this morning. My shoulder/arm is still not doing well but food won't fix it.

BillBlueEyes, I am counting the days until paperwork is finished. Credit for leaving part of dinner and always for working to stay in the game.

gardenerjoy, yay for a plan….reminding me to make mine.

Erika(eusebius), I'm happy for you jumping right back into your Beck skills; planning and rereading are key.

Beverlyjoy, I hope you have a good day at the dr.

Tazzy, thanks for the interesting synopsis of your trip. Great job acknowledging you didn't really gain what the scale is showing and getting right back onto a no sugar/flour plan.

onebyone, I look forward to your bicycle (and possible swim) report. Great job avoiding the fried chicken. It's one of my favorites and once I start I don't want to stop. The exhibit tonight sounds interesting...think my bro is attending.

02-23-2012, 02:13 PM
Hi coaches -

Yesterday was a good day up to about 11 PM (when I should have been in bed). I know exactly what happened. My husband and daughter got home last night from her violin lesson and my husband was in a state of frustration about my daughter's behaviour at her after school program. She has apparently been saying inappropriate things (which I think is not too unusual for 8-year-olds) and the after-school teachers (who have very little training) don't know how to deal with it. So my husband got really upset for the whole evening, which of course really upset my daughter who wouldn't go to sleep until nearly midnight. When I pointed out to my husband that this behaviour wasn't necessarily helpful, he of course just got more upset. So, sleep-deprived and confused, I forgot all my helpful Beck techniques and just started eating.

From this I learn several things:
1. I need to sleep. This is a deal-breaker.
2. I need to figure out what the heck to do about my husband getting so upset about my daughter. It's a fairly frequent occurrence. I get upset sometimes too but I think he is doing it a lot more than I am lately.
3. I need to read my cards in these situations. I know this, but I need to remember it all the time.

I guess I know that I can't control my husband's behaviour and I've talked to him many times about it but I just feel somehow responsible when he upsets my daughter so much. It's gotten to the point where she is saying things like "Mommy never yells at me" to him when he gets upset. I suppose I just need to be a container for all of this and be big enough to let it happen (since it is anyway) but this isn't always easy.

Thanks for listening, everyone. It helps just to type this out to you. Sleeping in this morning helped, too.

Beverlyjoy - :hug: I hope your visit to the surgeon is helpful.

Tazzy - great to hear all about your cruise! I'm so impressed with how you dealt with the huge food offerings. That book by Gary Taubes sounds interesting - let us know what else you learn!

gardenerjoy - amen on having a plan. In general it's helping me too.

onebyone - nice job dealing with your sister's food pushing! Great that you are able to be so productive right now.

BillBE - ouch indeed … I am really feeling the ouch today as well! I will be working harder today too - thanks for the inspiration, as always!

Debbie (Lexxiss) - nice job using your resistance and diversion skills! I need to strengthen those …

Practice time! Have a great day, all.

02-23-2012, 02:30 PM
Hi everyone! I am coming here for accountability as I begin using the Beck diet solution. I have tried so many diets in the past and really need to change the way I think and feel about food and dieting. I am in such a bad place with the way I feel about myself so here I am trying to do something but in a different way. Just wanted to introduce myself as you seem very supportive of each other ! I have a plan and a back up-I pretty much can recite every diet known to man-I just don't stick with them. So hopefully I can be successful by changing the way I deal. I just realized today that I eat everything standing up! Ok-lots of work to do. Thanks-Kim

02-23-2012, 03:36 PM
Hello Everyone,

Welcome tchermom! This is a great, supportive group to join.

I seem to be back on track more today, weighed this morning and down another 2.4 so that's 5 of the 8 gained now gone again. Not as many cravings for the carbs yet today, just finished my lunch of leftover chicken and broccoli with brussel sprouts and think that should hold me until dinner. I have a couple of eggs with me, just in case. I did give in to my need for something sweet last night but decided to make a strawberry smoothie with my almond milk and protein powder. I figured it was the best low carb choice I could make at the time, as much as I prefer blueberry-banana smoothies the carb count in both of those fruits is too high.

onebyone I'm looking forward to your report on the bike riding. It is one of my favourite activities when the weather cooperates. I put it in the shed in October but hope to get it back out by early April. It sounds like you have a very creative family with your painting and your sister being an author. I'm glad you are enjoying your time in Key West and your weight loss progress is fabulous!

eusebius Sorry to hear about your struggles with DH and DD. :hug: If I had any advice I'd certainly share it but I don't. :shrug: Hang in there and credit for realizing the strategies you need to put into place.

Lexxiss Like the new photo. Credit for acknowledging that food won't fix and ache or pain. Hope you get a nice break and some rest.

BBE Credit for leaving half your dinner after the dried fruit episode. I take a big envelope of papers to the accountant when our taxes are due. Only issue I have is my DH is a huge procrastinor and he used to show up the final day (April 30). Last year I got us in there by the end of March, the accountant was quite surprised! Maybe this year it can be mid-March, I always want the refund money sooner than later. :D

Hello to everyone else, time to get back to work. Lunch is over!

02-24-2012, 01:12 AM
Good evening, Coaches.

Did my monthly weigh in at WW. I am down a pound for the month. No fireworks but the right direction. I have to work tomorrow for my next MFA packet. I took today "off". Isn't it funny how I see how I term it?? "Off" was organizing several closets in the house, cleaning bathrooms, cooking dinner, volunteering in DS classroom, attending two meetings. I need to remember giving myself credit is the solution to the cycle of food addiction. Credit for my day, then.

Welcome, tchermom. This is a place for recovery of food addiction and haven of "attaboys" when you feel crummy about yourself.

Tazzy: Good to hear about travels. I know when I give up sugar I get headaches. A bad sign that I have gotten hooked again.
BBE: I married my husband because he is my heart's desire and he has a terrific tax man:)
Lexxiss: I am hearing your practicing of the resistance muscle. I will do the same to morrow.

02-24-2012, 07:24 AM
:welcome: Kim (tchermom) :welcome:

And, even though you've been registered on 3FC for six years, :wel3fc:

How did you find out about the books by Dr. Judith Beck?

And how did you find this Beck thread on 3 Fat Chicks?

02-24-2012, 07:47 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Did better today - stayed on-plan, CREDIT moi, despite several calls that a little trail mix would make all tension vanish. And, made it to the gym, CREDIT moi, where I did my thing, including all the hated lunges, and then sorted the dumbbells into proper order so that the universe would keep on turning.

onebyone – Yay for swimming, Yay for biking. Ooops that the Bahia Honda Bridge seems to be missing a section - Huh???

Erika (eusebius) – Ouch for the tensions that go with being part of a family growing through the issues of life. Kudos for stopping to evaluate how you got into the extra eating and planning your way past it for next time.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yep, Yep, Yep, "... but food won't fix it." Lotsa places that fits, since real hunger is pretty rare in our overfed society.

maryann - LOL at your "day off" - feel free to drop by and organize our closets when you run out of yours.

Tazzy - Kudos for making choices for something sweet instead of just indulging in whatever. Have you lost your sea legs yet?

Kim (tchermom) – You are so on your way with "... really need to change the way I think and feel about food and dieting." Coming here for accountability is a leap forward in that direction.

Neat that you're already progressed along our Beck path to have chosen a diet plan and backup plan, and to recognize that you've been eating standing up. Awareness is the hardest part. Are you reading the pink book or the green book? Glad you've joined us.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
challenging situations skills
Before the Event
1.0 Change your mindset. . . .
Many dieters initially feel they have to "get their money's worth" when they eat out. Or they have a hard time turning down free food. If you also have trouble with this way of thinking, make the following Response Card:"Free" food is only free in terms of money. Eating
unplanned free food brings a heavy cost in terms
of reinforcing my giving-in muscle and increasing
my weight.
. . .

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 132.

02-24-2012, 08:04 AM
Thanks everyone for the warm welcomes. I had a good day on plan, did 40 minutes of walking/running, read my cards-several times, planned my food, wrote in my journal, and sat down for meals-that is hard for me.

BBE-I have been on here for a while and never lookes at this thread as I had tried Beck many years ago but I guess I was not ready to really make the changed suggested. I have the pink book and the workbook. I really like the workbook for daiy accountability.

Thanks so much for all the positive comments-busy day today and all weekend but am determined to not have the start over Monday mentality.
Have a great Friday-Kim

02-24-2012, 11:08 AM
Hi folks/beckies/coaches... My appointment with the surgeon went well. He gave me the go ahead to drive, do some gentle stretches/a little core/walking more, to try to eat different foods (& see how it goes) and get out do more 'stuff'. I told him that I am so tired. He said... 'you just had two surgeries in one day'. Your stamina will come back. Over all he was pleased. I am grateful for that.

I got up today and have made a plan. I can't go too spicy yet (I don't think)... so I"ll ease into those things. I've had three glasses of water. I think I am on my way. I'll let you know how the exercising goes.

Soon we will go visit my family. My Grandson just had his fifth birthday. I can't wait to see them. We are expecting a girl being born into our family in April. I call her Little Pink. It will be so nice to all be together.

Thanks for all of your encouragment, friendship and wisdom.

Have a great day. Be kind to yourself.

tchermom WELCOME!

PS... my computer is working today. I don't know from moment to moment. I'll have to address that. I am glad I can post now/today.

02-24-2012, 11:24 AM
Hi coaches -

Last night was better. My stomach was doing its level best to convince me that I was desperately hungry, but I held out. Evenings are very hard.

I did Week 3 day 3 of C25K this morning - week 3 complete now. I'm nervous about week 4 but trying to stay in the moment and also focus on how many more WW activity points I will get as a result!

tchermom - welcome! you are off to a great start and doing everything right! here's to a great on plan weekend for you!

Tazzy - i am so glad you shared your menu for yesterday - here's hoping the lower carb count results in great success for you!

maryann - kudos for your super productive day and moving in the right direction!

BillBE - well done staying on plan with eating and exercise - i wonder who is calling us about the trail mix, and how we can put them on the "do not call" list, LOL!

Beverlyjoy - So glad to hear your surgeon visit went well and that you are on the path to recovery. Happy Birthday to your grandson and how exciting about the new little granddaughter to come!!

Busy day ahead - time to enjoy some quiet moments and coffee while I still can! Have a great Friday, all.

02-24-2012, 04:05 PM
Hello Coaches

-Rode bike to post office and back yesterday. Was wobbly for first 15/20minutes but haven't riden in years. And this bike has brakes not on the handle bars but you break with the pedals like I did when I was 8. Front tire was a little flat too. Nevertheless I presisted in victory and made it to the post office to pay *gasp* 85cents to send one postcard. I had 5. I thought the stamps should be 25cents. Sign of getting old methinks.

-Went for a walk to the art show opening for the distinguished artist in residence next door to discover the wrong date and day was printed on the card. Methinks the same folks who printed my impossibly screwed up business card must have done these things as well. Opening is tonight, same time, same place, but alas I will be at Big Pine Key enjoying a poetry reading by Leonel Valle, who I am thrilled to be meeting as I have enjoyed his book of poems during my stay called Keys Latitude. Here's a sample:

Florida Keys

The Keys disappear
in the transparent distance
of a watercolor illusion.

From the prow of the skiff
they appear like small dogs,
a pack of green hounds,

running along the edge
of a crystal horizon
suspended between
turquoise sea and sky.

The Keys are like
india ink drops
on the edge of
a forgotten book

left behind where
we loved so much
before this savage
exile split us apart.

--Leonel Valle
Keys Latitude- Poetry of the Florida Keys

My sister knows him well as they are in the same writing group. I am really looking forward to this evening.

-And I went swimming this morning! Finally. I was unable to truly swim though as the water had an abundance of, no, not just waves, but SURF! I have never swum where the water had "surf" before.

-And I just found out that the husband of my sister's friend who took me to the beach holds the patent with another guy for...are you sitting down?... the pixel! We would not be here right now without those guys.

Ok *head is swimming* time to get some work done before we head out.

Food is ok btw but getting a bit looser as in I am eating larger amounts. I am tracking but need to keep an eye on my intake. Choices are still fine, it's the quantity.

*wave* have a great day.

02-24-2012, 06:39 PM
Hi Coaches/Buddies/Friends!

I'm having a tough day with my arm and am just about to call it quits. I passed on water aerobics this morning (not like my usual self) and stayed home to persist in paperwork. I got much accomplished but the hand is tired of typing. I overcame a major calling for bad food by going to Starbucks for their new SF mocha. It was good and the pastries did not return with me. I am going to try to relax this afternoon.

Kim(tchermom), Welcome!

BillBlueEyes, great you resisted that trail mix!

Erika(eusebius), glad you are feeling better today. I sure felt for you but had no words of wisdom. Not having kids, I have no idea about the complexities of the relationships you mentioned.

onebyone, glad you biked and swam.

02-24-2012, 11:54 PM
Good evening everyone,

I had a pretty good day today. Not 100% on the no sugar/no starches but feeling good about my choices. Was going to have my eggs and cheese for breakfast with spinach but when I went to make DH and DS breakfast smoothies the bananas in the bowl last night had disappeared. Found out DS had a banana split at 10pm last night! At least it was a healthy one because there was no ice cream in the house :D So the smoothies became strawberry only and I made way too much so that became my breakfast too. I did find I was hungrier sooner than when I eat the eggs. Had salad with leftover sausage for lunch and devilled eggs for my afternoon snack. I made a pasta sauce with lots of veggies and hamburger for dinner and did have a small serving of spaghetti with it. Just got home from grocery shopping and looked at a lot of carb counts on items and put them right back on the shelf. I think I did find a good alternative when I want something sweet, I picked up 2 boxes of Atkins bars and just tried the coconut bar, it is incredible, with the dark chocolate the smaller serving is very satisfying and only 3g of carbs. I also got the latest Atkins book from the library today and am going to start to read it to get more meal ideas. I'm not sure I'll follow the plan exactly but will customize it for me.

Weighed this morning and down another 1, 2 more to go to pre-cruise weight :carrot:. Have not read my cards for a long time, I have to go and figure out where they ended up after I unpacked from the holiday.

BBE The last time I cruised was in 1996 and I think I had sea-legs for almost 2 weeks after. I was quite worried about this trip as I get motion sick really easy on cruises. I ended up taking the OTC medication Bonine once a day and had no issues at all. Felt a little wobbly the first full day on the ship and noticed it once the night we got home when I got up during the night to use the bathroom. Otherwise it's been great. I think the technology on stability on cruise ships as come a long ways in 15 years. Would possibly consider another cruise vacation if it wasn't for the long line ups for everything. After seeing Honduras, DH and I are thinking a land based holiday there looks really appealing for our next big one. It's usually every 3 years that we do that.

Lexxiss Credit for leaving the pastries at Starbucks! Can't eat them if you don't have them.

onebyone Yeah for bike riding and ocean swimming. I know what you mean about swimming in currents, waves and surf. We sure don't have those issues swimming in Alberta! It's the undercurrents that make me so nervous when I'm in the ocean. Hope you enjoy your poetry reading! How is your DH doing without you at home?

eusebius Do you find that evenings are hard for you all the time? I notice when I don't eat enough during the day that I seem to need to fill myself up at night. Love the idea of putting trail mix or any snacks on a Do Not Call List. Wish that list worked for all the telemarketers who still seem to call my house! Thank goodness for caller ID, would really hate to get any spontaneous exercise having to get up and answer a phone call that I don't want. :smug:

Beverlyjoy Glad all is going well from your surgery. Take your time in recovery. When I had major surgery I figured I should be able to do things much quicker because all I could see from the outside was an incision and staples. Didn't remember how much had happened while they had me cut open and how long that would take to heal. Congrats on the upcoming arrival of a new little girl. Just had my first great niece on Dec 22, such a joy to have little ones around again.

tchermom Have a great weekend.

maryann I know exactly what you mean by a day "off". My DH wanted a day to himself after the vacation and went back to work a day after me. I mentioned to a friend that he was doing that and she wondered when I got a day like that. Even if I had one I'd still think there was a ton of stuff that I should be working on and would find it very hard to just sit and relax and live in the moment. Probably a skill we could all use some practice on!

Well we are supposed to be getting a winter storm this weekend. DH and I have an agreement that he and/or the boys shovel the snow as 3 years ago I wrenched my back and sciatic nerve shovelling heavy, wet snow and after using muscle relaxants and anti-inflammatories for 6 - 9 months my doctor forbid me from snow shovelling. Can't say I argued that one. Lucky for us when my parents downsized we got the snow blower. Has made life for DH much easier in the dark of winter.

Have a good weekend everyone!

02-25-2012, 06:37 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Was on-plan, CREDIT moi, including dinner at a restaurant with DD and her BF. And there, I left stuff on my plate, an extra CREDIT moi, since I planned to do that being aware that I'm a charter member of the get-your-money's-worth club. In swapping food at the table, I came to own a single fish taco from which I ate the fish inside and left the tortilla itself. That was a good choice, even though the fish was fried instead of grilled as I had assumed.

Walking, CREDIT moi, was to Whole Foods to replace my stock of peanut butter and roasted soy nuts.

onebyone – Ouch for 85 cents to send a postcard from the US to Canada. Someday the postal systems of both countries will admit that the costs shouldn't be the same as from here to Australia. Kudos for making biking and swimming a reality.

Erika (eusebius) – Congrats on your continuing C25K progress with Kudos for focusing on staying in the moment instead of fretting the next week. [Just LMAO at adding trail mix to the "do not call" list - definitely what I need.]

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Ouch for the arm out of action - hope that heals quickly. I continue to smile every time I see your new smiling avatar.

Beverlyjoy – Yay that recovery allows some stretching and walking - you're moving forward.

Tazzy - LOL at the memories at our house of coming down to breakfast and finding massive quantities of food missing into teenagers after we'd gone to bed. Kudos for being flexible with your own breakfast in response.

Kim (tchermom) – Kudos for sitting down - it blew my mind to find out how much I ate standing, including walking from the stove to the table. And even more Kudos for confronting the "start over Monday mentality" in advance.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
challenging situations skills
Before the Event
1.0 Change your mindset. . . .
Do you have the unhelpful deprivation mindset I described on pages 45-46? A typical sabotaging thought is, It's so unfair that I have to deprive myself. If you think you might have that thought, make sure you continue to read the Response Cards that you made on pages 99-100. And create this new one, too:I'm going to be deprived, not matter what. Either I'm
going to be deprived of eating whatever I want at this
special occasion OR I'm going to be deprived of being
thinner, being healthier, feeling better about myself,
being less self-conscious, being proud of myself,
having more energy, and feeling good when the event
is over!

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 133.

02-25-2012, 09:12 AM
Hi beckies/coaches/friends:

Yesterday was a healthy day. I did eat foods from all the different food groups. I didn't do well with a fresh apple. So, I'll stick with applesauce for a few days. Today I am planning to do my stretches. I accomplished some of my healthy living goals planned/measured/logged food, lots of water, left a bite, took a few deep breathes before each meal/snack, went to grocery & picked up a few healthy foods, and did some extra dusting & moving. I am still really tired, but, the doctor says I'll get my stamina back as time goes on.

Billbe - credit for maneuvering your supper to a healthy one. Not always so easy to do.

Tazzy - sounds like you are getting back to regular meals. It’s a douse of reality after a vacation we all go through. I am so happy you are losing the vacation weight. Carry on.

Lexxiss/Debbie - credit for walking away from the ‘goodies’ at Starbucks. I am sorry to hear of your arm problems.

Onebyone - credit for your wonderful bike ride! And, you went swimming too. Such great exercise. Thanks for that nice poem.

Erika - major credit for resisting eating even though your stomach was shouting 'I want some food'. Kudo’s for following through on your exercise too.

Tchermom - so many credits. Yes, every day we follow through… it helps build the foundation for incorporating these healthy habits in our lives. Carry on. So glad you posted.

Maryann - a am doing a happy dance in honor of your pound down. Remember - one pound is four sticks of butter! Good reminder to yourself and me too…. Giving ourselves credit is important.

Gardener/joy - I am always happy to see that you generally read your advantage cards, etc. It’s an important piece of the puzzle… really, no matter how the day goes.

I want to thank you all for your continued support and encouragement during this surgery time. (and always, really)

02-25-2012, 10:26 AM
I'm doing the happy dance this morning! :carrot::carrot: The cruise weight is gone and I've been home for less than a week. Now I can focus on my next goal just need to figure it out. :D

02-25-2012, 11:59 AM
Good Morning, Coaches.
Tracked my food yesterday. Credit.Continued with organizing and cleaning mostly because it diverts me from writing. Whatever - my husband is happy. Filmed DH playing clarinet in school rally. In the afternoon he was in the finals of the spelling bee, going down in the third round on the word "February". Basketbal at night. What full beautiful days he has and I get to watch.
I allowed myself to lay on the coach and stared for two hours in the afternoon. I kid you not. I didn't sleep or read or do anything. I looked out the window. I really need quiet and alone to stay mentally healthy. Finally by evening I got to writing and made significant progress.
Today I have to finish my paper - no more cleaning.

Tazzy: I noticed this morning - we have the same goal weight. Lets walk across the finish line together! That would be terrific.

BBE: Credit leaving stuff on the plate. My favorite quote that drives my husband crazy is "Wasted on the plate or wasted on my body."

Beverley: Credit for getting the food groups. It really does make a difference having quality food in my system.

onebyone: the bike is a huge deal. What freedom to try new things in the spirit of adventure.

lexxiss: i hope you had a great afternoon relaxing. Having a physical element is so troubling.

02-26-2012, 01:34 AM
Still struggling with getting food plans made. Also exercise, although I pulled off a good number of minutes today. Also writing. It's funny how all the important things for me to be doing fall apart at once sometimes. A busy day tomorrow, but I have a plan for food, exercise, and writing.

WI: -0.15kgs, Exercise:+75 1020/1300 minutes for February, Food: NA %op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Welcome, tchrmom!

02-26-2012, 07:10 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - 100% on-plan eating, CREDIT moi. Did gym, CREDIT moi. When the time came for a walk with DW, the wind was blowing snow horizontally. No kidding. The wind remained, but the snow lasted only a few minutes - just until we both had found other ways to occupy ourselves.

Keeping evening snack to exactly one orange was made easier because we went out to see the play, Wild Swans [Three Daughters of China] - the remarkable story of three generations of Chinese women by Jung Chang. The production made us tremble at the absurd power of the Red Guard during the Great Cultural Revolution.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – I recognize the part where all things fall apart at once, but can't figure out which is the keystone. And if I knew that, I'd try to put the keystone back in first, which would hardly work.

Beverlyjoy – Yay for feeling strong enough for shopping and dusting.

maryann - Kudos for knowing that you need quiet time, and then taking it. I love, "Wasted on the plate or wasted on my body" - perhaps I can work harder remembering it next time I've reached satisfied. (Congrats to your DS anyway, methinks February is itself misspelled, LOL.)

Tazzy - So, the sea legs walked away with the cruise weight - sounds good to me.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
challenging situations skills
Before the Event
2. Consult your Memory Box. Earlier in the day, read through the cards in your Memory Box. These memories can help motivate you for the upcoming event as you remember compliments and situations in which you were proud of yourself.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 133.

02-26-2012, 09:49 AM
Hi everyone! I did run for 30 minutes yesterday but ate off plan in the afternoon. We did go out to dinner and I went back on plan instead of restricting like I normally do so... I read my cards but not until after my off plan eating-I am so resitant sometimes! Well today is a new day and I have a plan now I just need to put my diet first and plan for the week.

We are leaving for Fla. on Thurs for five days for a family vacation-to go to Spring training and I am already stressing about my plan. I also tried on summer clothes yesterday and it was not good. I was about 10lbs thinner this time last year. Running to church -be back later!

02-26-2012, 11:55 AM
Good Morning, All.

I am off to yoga this morning. Worked hard last night and wrote 14 pages. Whew. I still have 20 by Thursday but it is a start. Food went a little wonky yesterday in the writing process. I woke up and tracked the points s0 I am still within the week's limits.

gardenerjoy: I just read an article about an analogy to organizing a life according to the most important goals one has. To fill a jar, you have to put the "big rocks" in the jar first. Then put in the sand and the gravel. Vice versa and you'll never get the big rocks in. I also find I stop putting all my big rocks in at once and am left with days of nothing of substance.

BBE: Every time we hold an election in this country without tanks in the street, I tell my students to be grateful.

Tchermom: If you need to buy a few more summer clothes for right now, buy them. That is what I did. Learning new food habits takes time. It is worth it. Fighting a food addiction is a long race and it starts with accepting who you are now and giving yourself credit. Not waiting till your perfect and then giving yourself credit.

Best to all.

02-27-2012, 01:23 AM
I got it all together today -- exercise, food, and writing. Thanks to a canceled plan in the afternoon that freed up time for everything, but I'll take it!

WI: +0.35kgs, Exercise:+105 1125/1300 minutes for February, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

BillBlueEyes: thanks for the keystone image -- that's very helpful! And funny.

tchrmom: love the idea of going to Spring Training!

maryann: yes, big rocks first. Thanks! That's another helpful image. I share with you and BillBlueEyes a deep appreciation for peaceful transition of power. I love Inauguration Day every four years for that reason whether or not my candidate won.

02-27-2012, 07:03 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Good enough with food, CREDIT moi, especially since lunch was a buffet and dinner was at the home of friends. We walked, CREDIT moi, to our friends' house in the dark despite the cold. It felt good - the neighborhood was very quiet. We were directed to bring absolutely nothing to the dinner, but DW tried to bring a token box of Girl Scout Thin Mint Cookies, which the hostess sent home with her; you'd have thought we had run into someone doing Beck with their own eating plan, LOL.

Joy (gardenerjoy) – Yay for everything together, with keystone in its rightful place. I just love when I'm clicking.

maryann - Kudos for "14 pages" - I suspect that even Shakespeare had to write one page at a time. I am moved that you remind your students that a peaceful transition of power is a wonder worth being grateful for.

Kim (tchermom) – Yep, the old resistance raises up like it was there first, LOL. If you're near Fort Meyers, kindly check out the Red Sox; we've got some problems to overcome.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
challenging situations skills
Before the Event
3. Develop an eating plan. After you read the cards in your Memory Box and fortify your resolve, decide what you are going to eat at the event. In Stage 4, you will learn how to be more flexible with your eating, adding your snack calories to a special meal if you like. But for now, I would like you to figure out what you are going to eat based on the Think Thin Initial Eating Plan and your Special Event Calories rule.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 133.

02-27-2012, 07:35 AM
Good morning everyone! Not so great on the personals yet but I'll get there. Yesterday was OP and I did exercise just with weights ONLY because I had it scheduled in my day. I feel like i ate well but I was up .8 this am and I know it is probably salt intake from my salad (ate out) so I need to relax. This is the part of me that either throws in the towel or changes my plan. My plan is not the problem it is my head that is the problem:)

So instead of repeating the same mistake over and over-the def. of insanity-I will follow the plan, go to zumba, write down my thoughts, read my cards and take it on day at a time.

02-27-2012, 09:08 AM
Hi Coaches/Buddies/Friends!

I've been caught up in live action...we traveled home last night and I'm off to work again. It's been a tumultuous few days and I'm doing my best to hang in there. My arm/hand is still not cooperating (neither is DH) but I'm hopeful...keeping my typing to a minimum. Fortunately, it's not my dominant (waitress) hand. Yesterday was just plain ol' "off". I'm back on track and have plans for a good day.
I know I need a credit here; *credit* for taking the high road this morning and not feeding more fuel to DH's grumpy mood. I do believe that my actions today will help ME stay OP with food even as I acknowledge it's not affecting him right now.

Take care everyone!

02-27-2012, 10:31 AM
Hi coaches - Quick checkin for me. I lost a whopping 0.4 lbs this week :( Considering I was into the food on WEdnesday night, I guess I should feel lucky to have lost anything at all. Well, onward we go. The plan is to continue with WW and C25K which gets more intense this week, adding quite a few activity points to my stash, so we'll see if that makes a difference.

I think I also need to start doing qi gong again ... I feel pretty low in energy and would like to change that.

Another concert tomorrow and then a bit of a break from performing until the end of March. Yay!

Have a great day everyone.

02-27-2012, 03:02 PM
Hi beckfolks/coaches/friends -

The past couple of days have contained healthy food in healthy quantities --- I am grateful for that.

I had the willingness to plan/measure/log my foods, take deep breathes before each meal/snack for centering, slowed down some, read arc/rc, did some journalling, lot of water, left a bite, and more. In the middle of the day I shouted back at some sabatoging thoughts of eating extra ice cream.The doctor gave me the go ahead for some gentle stretches -- I did them for my back and legs but, I could not do many core/abdominal things as it hurt. In time.

I am out moving around a bit more. I still get tired easily. DH reminded me that surgery was less than two weeks ago.

Erika - your .04 weight loss is equal to almost two sticks of butter. It' something. Credit. My sister loves gi gong and she sent me a dvd to check it out. Sounds good.

Lexxiss/debbie - sorry your hand is still hurting. Hop right back on your plan... sounds like your doing it. Take care... I hope life/things calm down a bit.

tchermom - don't worry about the personals. We all do them when we have time. Sounds like you are on the right track. When the scale goes up we all freek out. After time we know why it's up or down. Dr. Beck says to use the scale as merely information at that moment in time. Everyone love zumba!! Carry on.

billbe - your food being 'good enough' sounds like a credit as you faced to main meals that are away from and your food comfort zone. Wow... your host sending the gift back home... yes... very Beckie indeed.

gardenerjoy - YAY for an all togetherday! Carry on.

maryann - glad your wonky eating was still within your point range!

Tazzy - yippee and happy dance, both in honor of the criuse weight being gone. Carry on.

Have a healthy day.

02-27-2012, 09:28 PM
Good day so far. We just finished dinner and I still want more to eat but am waiting to see if my brain just needs more time to catch up. I've been busy reading The New Atkins For ANew You, and learning about that program. Yesterday I would go into the pantry for something and the smell of fresh bread was very tempting but I didn't want to eat it, just enjoyed the smell.

Weight was down 1 yesterday but up that same 1 today. I'm sure the snackfest of chocolate and white chocolate chips at 10pm last night had nothing to do with it. I couldn't sleep so got out of bed, didn't even get the food until about 11:30pm, should have gone to bed instead of the pantry! Think I'll see if Ihave any sugar free jello that I can make.

Have a good night everyone.

02-28-2012, 06:30 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Did gym, CREDIT moi, with two sets of dumbbells taken from the wrong slots and replaced in their proper slots. Eating was good enough, CREDIT moi - a little high because I was abandoned for dinner and combined dinner with a long walk to the library. I had in mind a place where I get a killer good veggi combo plate of Greek foods, but realized that there was this local burger place of renown that DW doesn't like and isn't on my normal walking paths.

So there I went instead. My need for red meat is satisfied for a year, LOL, although I did get out with no bun, no French fries, no sweet potato fries, no potato chips, no mayonnaise, no liquid calories, because they had a special with the burger on a bed of fresh raw spinach with chopped walnuts, hard-boiled egg, and red bell peppers. So the aura of good-for-me accouterments allowed me to consume all of the seven ounce, medium rare, fresh ground, flame grilled, burger with gusto. I will so miss red meat when it's all gone.

Erika (eusebius) – Good luck as you continue with your C25K journey. Kudos for marching forth and not getting snagged by your Wednesday diversion.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – Yes, Super Kudos for the high road when old marriages seem to call for snippy responses. Ouch for "off ... tumultuous ... live action" all done with a hand/arm in distress. Tomorrow is another day.

Beverlyjoy – Yay for healthy foods to aid recovery. Just love, "shouted back at some sabotaging thoughts of eating extra ice cream."

Tazzy - Kudos for knowing that you need to wait for your brain to get the message that you've had enough - I've found that I could overeat almost a second meal in that time period when I didn't wait. And Kudos again for catching the smell of fresh baked bread and standing firm.

Kim (tchermom) – Yep, " head that is the problem" - head-hunger is the driver since most of us rarely get stomach-hunger. Don't worry about personal responses; it takes a while for the different personalities to become clear. When you're ready to start, my recommendation is to just do one, or a few, to get your sea legs.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
challenging situations skills
Before the Event
3. Develop an eating plan. ...
If you can, find out precisely what will be served and write down a specific plan. If you can't find out ahead of time which foods will be available, you will have to make a more general plan. On page 134, you will find a general plan, based on your Stage 2 dinner menu. Use this plan or create your own, making sure to keep to the same calorie level as your usual meal. Add it to your Diet Notebook under the heading, "General Plan for Eating Out." Note that I didn't include Add-On-Calories. Most of the time, there will be extra fat in your meal that you don't know about.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 133.

02-28-2012, 07:13 AM
Hi Coaches/Buddies/Friends!

Aha..."tomorrow was another day" and now it's history. I stuck pretty close to my plan and my wrist/hand/arm is a day better. I stuck to my guns at work and consumed only my PBBBBB sammie...skipping the pecans because I forgot. I only used one slice of bread so the other is awaiting and I don't even have to pack lunch.
I'm running out of KB's on my internet which rolls over on the 2nd. I need to keep my chatter down until then.
Glad to hear of everyones' success and most of all that we "keep trying" one day at a time. I made muffins for DH, had one and didn't obsess about the rest. That tells me that Beck is working in my life. *credit* us all.

02-28-2012, 02:51 PM
GD everyone! I have spent the past 45 minutes reading the past week's posts to refamiliarize myself with everything that is happening in your lives.

:welcome2: tchermom! Glad to have another Beckie join us. We are like Trekkies only without the pointed ears. ;)

lexxiss sorry to hear about that unending issue with your arm/wrist/hand. Is it a pinched nerve or overuse tendonitis? I had O.T. in 1993 and I was on temporary partial disability for 3 years! I hope yours won't last that long. I have been having a lot of trouble this winter with both of my hands and their respective joints swelling up from my RA. My ring finger feels like someone tried to crush it. Being at the computer too long doesn't help either. OY!

erika great to hear that you are tackling a C25K. When is the eventful day?

Bill one of the biggest changes in my food plan has been to wean myself off of any beef, even grass fed. I still have a lean steak but it is now becoming every 6-8 weeks instead of every other week. Not quite as stellar as your "once a year" but I expect that in a few years it will be. Your meal sounded delicious. Great to hear that you are able to do so much walking in the winter months. Your body will be primed for the warmer weather around the corner.

Tazzy Great to hear that you both enjoyed your cruise and were able to lose the majority of the weight so quickly. Good habits are the KEY! Well done!

tchermom (Kim) Have you done the "miss-a-meal" experiment yet? I did not find that as enlightening as some people since at the time that I did it I was going for 8-12 hours without food anyway. Glad to hear that you already have a food plan and a back up one as well. It sounds like you are getting right into this program and working it quite well. Good Job!:carrot:

onebyone Sounds like you thoroughly enjoyed your time down in Florida. Maybe you could talk your DH to come down and visit there on a vacation and then you two can be the "I'm on a vacation" tourist as well.:D I'm so pleased to hear that you were able to stick to your food plan and also to continue to be accountable. Great work! :dancer:

beverlyjoy Glad to hear that you are on the mend, even if it seems slow. I hope you weren't double billed for the double surgery. ;)

I wanted to get on yesterday but I never turned my computer on at all. I have been doing a lot of gazing out the window as well, Erika, so I know how medicinal that can be. I try to do that the first thing when I awakened, after I have eaten my breakfast sitting down, while listening to Gregorian chants and smelling a wonderful pumpkin pie candle (we also "eat" with our olfactory senses too)

My days are somewhat organized around: managing my other group on BLC and the virtual walking challenge I am hosting, managing my 3FC blog and moderating the steady flow of comments I have received (on average about 2 dozen a day), tackling the last room in our home and de-cluttering that, resuming walking on the treadmill, weaning myself off of one of my arthritis pain meds and switching to another one (hopefully more effective), constantly seeking "balance" in all of my activities (translation: knowing when I am spending too much time at one and switching to another to give it its fair due). Those are all the things which are very meaningful and rewarding. The downside is chronic insomnia that now my DH, Paul, seems to have "caught". I just have a hard time switching off my mind when I know I need to get some sleep. Any helpful hints?:?:

I have been working on the next challenge which I haven't quite titled yet (I find if I have the title then the rest seems to flow easier) but it is definitely going to be probably working from either the pink or green book. I will probably request that everyone buy a copy of the book so we will all be "on the same page" literally as we move through it. I hope to have that challenge begin on March 23rd.

The walking challenge has been going quite well. People are sharing quite interesting facts about the towns they are visiting. Considering that it is only a 35 day challenge, the average overall individual goal of miles to be walked is 69. The group has expanded to include around 40-45 women with one man, whom I knew from another group I belonged to last year. The results of the food challenge that ended on February 15th was that one woman lost 24 lbs (but refused the prize of a t-shirt repeatedly) followed by three women who lost an average of 12 lbs in just under 6 weeks time. The key to their weight loss was daily accountability which they never wavered no matter if they had surgery (one had a hysterectomy) or whatever else was going on in their lives. My breath was simply taken away by the sheer determination and dedication of these women. I ended up awarding three t-shirts including 1 for best team player (who was such a cheerleader in spite of going through surgery herself) and a special t-shirt for a woman who decided to quit smoking and lose weight at the same time! She is now 55 days smoke free and 15 lbs less; in spite of losing her job in the middle of the challenge. I "covered her back" during a few real dark nights when I coached her into not giving up and gave her all the resources I knew of so she wouldn't fall back (which she didn't). I feel like a very proud mama of her baby chicks. Now, they can fly on their own. :hug:

I wish I could say the same for myself. My weight loss has been up and down the same blasted 8 lbs since January 2nd. I know that I was so concerned with making sure this challenge and group got off with flying colors I neglected myself. Ouch and a big one at that. Coupled with the fact that DH has been in a general grumpy mood besides being sick; I just haven't done justice to my Beck plan. However, I am here to announce that I move forward and pick up where I left off. I too have a specific goal to make by Easter and I plan to be there. Enough already.:mad:


02-28-2012, 04:11 PM
Hi Beckfolks/coaches/friend... I ate healthfully yesterday. My food changed and went in different directions, but I managed to stay with healthy and to not overeat. I am grateful for that.

I accomplished many tasks: measured/logged all food, lots of water, journalling, deep breathes before eating, no seconds, most often left a bite and slower.

I need to work on sitting down... it's very easy to nibble while standing, cleaning up, cooking etc. I am need to think of a way to give myself credit. I used to twirl in instances like that. Maybe I will put on my bracelet as a reminder to give myself credit and incorporate more important aspects of a sane relationship with food.

I am going to weigh tomorrow. It will be good to know what's going on with this. I know what I weighed the day of surgery (two weeks ago)... they had me weigh when I came home and weigh a couple days after to make sure I didn't start retaining water from different things. I will accept it... whatever it is. Then I'll know where I stand. It's playing with my head. It's important that I eat healthy food now. The first five or six days after surgery all I ate was soda crackers, lots of graham cracker, jiuce, applesauce, toast, etc. I don't know why - I tried to eat walnuts then. WRONG - not the right thing after gallbladder surgery. Surgeon told me to eat whatever I want - wrong thing to say to a compulsive overeater. He said to go slowly with high fat foods.

I've been working on our literacy program's fundraiser. Always much to do.

I hope you are all having a GREAT day.

02-28-2012, 04:29 PM
Good afternoon, Coaches.

Low this morning. Yesterday and today at work have been tough. especially one notorious kid with which I had imgianed i had made so much progress has become a defiant and nasty becuase I will not let him come into my class showing his entire bottom (pants belted on his thighs). I guess I am mostly down because of expectations. I am not God. I can't change people. I can only do my best. But all the other petty behaviors of 90 + kids that usually don't bug me are now getting to me. I am comforting myself with sugar which is even more disappointing. Still I am continuing to eat good food, write and pray. The toughest kids I have ever had have always driven me to terrific things in my life. I once left a school and found DH at my new school. The toughest class I ever had had drove me to apply for an MFA program. It is my challenges that force me to grow but oH it feels crumby in the process.

My prayer in the morning is this: God teach me to forgive myself and others. Remove walls that keep love out. Heal my guilt and remove my angry that I may be born.

Feels good to pray it this afternoon to before my last two classes.

02-29-2012, 06:34 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - I stood down several attempts for my mind to suggest that I didn't care about my food plan because a little trail mix would make whatever feelings I was currently experiencing go away - CREDIT moi. Walking, CREDIT moi, was out to dinner alone (abandoned for a second night in a row, LOL).

Reminding singles that today is the day where, by Irish custom, it is permissible for a lady to propose to a man. Do your thing.

Debbie (Lexxiss) – No question about it, making a batch of muffins and only eating one is solid Beck working.

Beverlyjoy – I remember twirls - your neat spontaneous exercise idea to remind yourself to stay the course. Yay for getting back to healthy foods to help feel sane.

Pam (pamaga) – Your walking challenge sounds amazing - it's easy to fell motivated by the thought of getting to the next town to report some obscure fact about it. Ouch for drifting; just observing that is a big step toward finding the path again.

maryann - Thanks for the reminder, "It is my challenges that force me to grow" - it's so easy to look for a comfortable spot in which to veggitate.

Readers - chapter 6 Stage 3 The Challenging Situations Plan
challenging situations skills
Before the Event
4. Review your Advantages Deck. In addition to reading your deck each morning, pull it out immediately before going into a challenging situation. You may even need to take a break during an event and to outside or to a restroom to read it again.

Judith S. Beck, Ph.D., The Complete Beck Diet for Life (Green book), pg 133.

02-29-2012, 09:07 AM
Hi Coaches/Buddies/Friends!

A brief, internet friendly check in....I weighed this morning and am down 1.5 from my stress eating day. I have an extra day of work this week and am getting ready. Spontaneous exercise this morning was up and down stairs to declutter, which by the way is going quite well. As I went through the fridge I took a bean brownie from a big pan to a smaller storage container and didn't touch the crumbs. I didn't feel like packing my almond butter and bread but did it anyway. Credit for changing behaviors and noticing their roots in my Beck plan.

BillBlueEyes, I am learning to love those meals I spend alone...I focus on me. Yay for standing down the trail mix.

MaryAnn, I'm hoping you are finding a more comfortable space. I am still nodding thinking of your rebellious student and am remembering times of discomfort. I love the saying , "It isn't personal".

Beverlyjoy, yay for such a great attitude! Your comment regarding the surgeon saying eat whatever you a compulsive overeater. I relate.

Pam(atga), nice to hear from you. Sorry DH has been sick and it's spilled into your life. Glad to hear you are moving ahead.

02-29-2012, 08:29 PM
Hi... gosh, it's been a busy day of being here,l there and everywhere.

I was running around taking my mom to the doctor and shopping. I am working on the invitations to the silent auction fundraiser for our group - literacy project for at risk kids. I spent a good portion of the day folding, putting stamps and stickers on envelopes, and much more. Actually - it's kind of mindless busy work... but, takes it's toll of oldish joints on the fingers. I will finish the first batch tomorrow. I can do more in a week or so.

On to the food... yesterday I stayed within my plan. A few things changed. A little sloppy... but, did not overeat. I planned/measured,logged food, read my arc & rc, lots of water, left a bite, did some exercises, and a few more.

I did weigh today.
2/08 - 203
2/15 - 205 (Day of Surgery)
2/22- did not weigh
2/29 - 203
I am just fine with how it has ended up.

Saturday DH and I will go visit our family. I'll be there for five days. I am still kind of tired from the surgeries - but, it will be OK. The surgeon suggested I travel with a pillow in my lap. That works... it's fine. I will start to read all my Beck stuff on travelling. I will add some exchanges to my daily plan.

I hope you are all having a good day!

As always, I want to thank you all for your continued support & wisdom.

02-29-2012, 10:08 PM
Hey everyone!
Sorry, been crazy here.

Quick update. I've renewed my yoga practice which has really turned into something since I'm now 50 lbs lighter than I was during my last class. I'm embarking on a 40 days of yoga journey at a local studio. Excited, but a bit nervous as it's not my local studio, but my trusting my heart that this is the right move. I like my 'home' studio and the classes/ style etc better but something about this style, this yoga, here, now, is doing something transformative and I feel led to follow on this journey. I think it's also going to help me in my current place in my weight loss journey and in cycling. So here I go... I'll try to check in whenever possible.

Best to everyone and nameste lol! :)

02-29-2012, 10:20 PM
Hello Coaches

I'm here at my sister's having officially moved out and completed my one month long artist residency in Key West. In all ways it was a success.

I went to my last WW meeting here on the island and was floored by my results. I reached BOTH of my personal weight goals for this trip. I am now under my goals of 264.4 = 25lbs off in three month AND, since my weigh-in was 261.2, I reached my 10% off my WW starting weight = better health!

I am so thrilled.

I need to hang on to my victories as it is now, when thins have gone so well and I am transitioning back into my ordinary life that I am in danger of re-gaining/eating more. I need to persist in victory and keep my head down and move forward, all the while savouring my achievements.

To this end I have not tracked yet today and I didn't track yesterday either.
I will be weighong in next Thuirsday at my regular morning meeting so I just need to stay on track.

I am bringing a calico cat back home with me. My sister has one at too many and I think my Caesar needs a friend so what better than a Key West Kitty Cat? Of course I am stressed about the unknowns of traveling with a cat in a small carrier under the seat in front of me on a plance, but mercifully the ride is fairly short at 3hours. The trip up the keys to the airport itself will be longer. This time tomorrow I will be 1/3 there. Please say a little prayer that this part goes smoothly. Kitty does have kitty valium and that is what I am counting on!

Ok, exhausted must go.
See you guys the day after tomorrow is my best guess.


03-01-2012, 12:53 AM
I smashed my February exercise goal by more than an hour! I think I'll set a higher goal for March.

WI: +0.15kgs, Exercise:+75 1365/1300 minutes for February, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

onebyone: yay for the terrific weight results at your last Key West meeting -- what fun! Does your Key West kitty have six toes?

03-01-2012, 07:15 AM
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