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beachlover86
01-07-2012, 01:02 PM
I'm back. I had lost about 50 lbs and even though I hadnt reached my goal I was feeling pretty good. Fast forward a year,a move in with the boyfriend and a new year resolution I Stepped on the scale and realized I had gained 25 of it back and was back in the 200s:mad: I can't believe it!!! I want to get back on it but feel depressed and helpless that I let this happen. Has anyone else felt this.I worked so hard to lose it and let it come back so quick. How do I deal with this and help to get my mind set to finish my ultimate goal? It doesn't help that my boyfriend isn't very supportive. Any advice is appreciated!!!


Aclai4067
01-07-2012, 02:05 PM
I feel ya. I gained 25 since this summer myself. I was 2 pounds away from being the smallest I've ever been in my adult life and just... got too relaxed. Then got sick of trying. Then was just "taking a break." Then was just "enjoying the holidays." Ugh! Time to dust ourselves off and keep going. We did it before, we can do it again!

luckymommy
01-07-2012, 02:23 PM
Beachlover, I have lost and gained the same 50-75 lbs. more times than I care to recall. In between those large gaines/losses, I have gained any variety of lbs. and lost and gained, etc. I guess I'm trying to say is that I get it. I understand the struggle. I understand the overwhelming feelings of disappointment that coincide with weight gain. However....none of those feelings are going to change anything for the better. On the contrary! It is most likely that they will cause you to gain even more weight.

The best way that I have found to deal with this type of a situation is to just let it go. Accept and love yourself for who you are and acknowledge the fact that you are more of an expert now. You know what it takes to lose those lbs. and you also know (hopefully) some of the things in life that can lead you to gain. The only thing that is useful about the past (in this case) is what you learn from it. That's it. So, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and make a commitment to stick to your plan. But here's what I do....I make an absolute commitment to just stick to my plan for a single day. Yep. That's not too terrible or overwhelming is it? ;) Well.....it kind of can be. Nevertheless, it IS possible and you can do it! Commit to one day and imagine yourself waking up the next morning and feeling so good about staying on track. Then? Then you do the same thing for another day and another day and before you know it, you're back on track and you start to feel empowered again. You keep that momentum going as long as possible and within some time, you realize that you're actually doing it! If you slip, repeat the above. ;)


CaliforniaDreamer
01-07-2012, 07:34 PM
I understand, as you can see I joined this site in 2010 and I've only lost 17 lbs. That's because the first time I joined I lost about 31 lbs, then I gained it all back, then I lost 20 lbs then I gained it back. My advice is to continue working towards your goal and when you reach it just weigh yourself weekly so you don't get to high on the scale. I also reward myself, I set weight goals and when I reach them I buy myself something.

Heather
01-07-2012, 08:29 PM
I was nearly 300 pounds and got down into the 170s. Now? 230s.

I've been gaining back for several years, yoyoing up and down,but this fall/winter just packed on the pounds.

I hate it. Everyone hates the regain. But it happens to nearly everyone.

So, how to deal with it? I've had to get to the place where I could recommit to myself, and get back on track.

So, please don't beat yourself up, and know you are in very good company!

40lbsPLEASE
01-07-2012, 09:05 PM
Beachlover, I have lost and gained the same 50-75 lbs. more times than I care to recall. In between those large gaines/losses, I have gained any variety of lbs. and lost and gained, etc. I guess I'm trying to say is that I get it. I understand the struggle. I understand the overwhelming feelings of disappointment that coincide with weight gain. However....none of those feelings are going to change anything for the better. On the contrary! It is most likely that they will cause you to gain even more weight.

The best way that I have found to deal with this type of a situation is to just let it go. Accept and love yourself for who you are and acknowledge the fact that you are more of an expert now. You know what it takes to lose those lbs. and you also know (hopefully) some of the things in life that can lead you to gain. The only thing that is useful about the past (in this case) is what you learn from it. That's it. So, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and make a commitment to stick to your plan. But here's what I do....I make an absolute commitment to just stick to my plan for a single day. Yep. That's not too terrible or overwhelming is it? ;) Well.....it kind of can be. Nevertheless, it IS possible and you can do it! Commit to one day and imagine yourself waking up the next morning and feeling so good about staying on track. Then? Then you do the same thing for another day and another day and before you know it, you're back on track and you start to feel empowered again. You keep that momentum going as long as possible and within some time, you realize that you're actually doing it! If you slip, repeat the above. ;)

LOVE this!! :yes:

beachlover86
01-08-2012, 12:32 AM
Thank you all for what you've said!!! There was a lot of good advice. I do really need to let it go and just move forward! Hopefully I will get there. Just have to take it one day at a time!

redlight
01-08-2012, 12:49 AM
I lost about 40 and gained about 30 back.

susieyarb
01-08-2012, 05:15 PM
Well Beach and the rest of you, I'm right there with you! I can't believe I've regained so many pounds after working so hard to lose it!

I'm re-commiting to lose it again and be done. I know I've gained MORE than half mine back and it just makes me sick. But I know that I've just got to move forward from here and not look back. It's a new start and a new day and of course a new year!

I officially start tomorrow.

Would you all like to start a support group for Looking Ahead and Losing it Again??

I for one would love to have the specific support of others who are right in the boat with me!

Vivian27
01-08-2012, 08:27 PM
I'm there as well. I beat myself up but you know what I eventually dusted it off and realized that if I want this I just have to do it. Now I have my plan in motion and even though I had gained back 37 out of the 45 lbs I had lost I am moving forward. It's hard and a lot of work but if we did it before we can do it again. Good luck and keep in touch!!

LOSINITWITHGRACE
01-08-2012, 08:30 PM
I have to. lost 30 pounds gained 20 back.. so I am trying again too.
Good news is we didnt it once , WE CAN do it again!

Keep the Faith!
Grace.

Jesseka
01-08-2012, 08:41 PM
I lost 30 pounds smart and safe last year prior to my wedding...I put 25 of them back on within 4 months. I just came to this conclusion myself, if I keep dwelling on what I HAVEN'T done, I'll lose focus on what I have done. And if I dwell on letting myself go off track, I won't push myself to go back on track.

Good luck on getting BACK on track, and always remember..You are BEAUTIFUL. You are WORTH treating yourself well and loving your body. Best of luck =]

kellost
01-09-2012, 10:56 AM
Hi there,

Long story short, I hit my goal of 125 lbs in June 2010. Hit my goal! It was amazing. I couldn't believe it, and I felt so wonderful. Then I went on vacation that summer and gained a little. Then that fall I gained a little more. I've never been that low ever since.

I've gained some of the weight back. Not all of it, just some, but still it's pretty disappointing. Pants not zipping anymore. Once again, there is a pile of clothing in my closet that doesn't even KIND of fit.

Over the holidays (I'm pretty much talking Halloween until New Years), I've eaten pretty poorly. Cookies, you name it. The weight is up, up up. And in that time I had moments of hopelessness where I thought to myself "I'm going to gain it all back". That sick thinking was creeping back into my mind.

What I can say is, you are not alone. I swore up and down that I would NEVER allow myself to be out of the 130's ever again. I worked so hard to get the weight off, I swore I would not let it happen. But I did.

I've been eating well since the new year, and I feel a lot better. More energy, and more hopeful that I'm heading in a good direction instead of back down the drain. I don't have all the answers, but I do know that eating better has made me feel better. It's really never too late to change directions and go the right way. I don't know if I'll be back at 125 again, but I'm hoping to fit into some of my clothing again by spring.

Best of luck to you in this journey!

mizzie
01-09-2012, 01:14 PM
Yep, so many of us have been there. I'll add my story to the bunch.

I started at 220 and lost 67 pounds. My goal was to get under 150 (healthy BMI) and I was only 3 pounds away! But then I hit a plateau and only lost about 1 pound in 1 1/5 months. I got discouraged and decided to take a "break" for a week to see if I could shake my body out of it. Well, a week became a year and I gained 45 pounds back!

So, here I am, started over again. I was like you, I felt so depressed and ashamed that I gained so much back. I felt like everyone was saying "well, she was looking good but now she's packing it all back on." Some of the clothes I'd bought hardly fit anymore and others didn't fit at all!

But, the way I see it, you can mope about it (and possibly gain even more) or do something about it. I won't lie, starting for the second time is harder. The feelings of anger and shame don't help and it's also not new anymore. It's harder to feel happy for the pounds lost because of the feeling that they shouldn't be there in the first place. But you just need to give yourself a shake and take it one day at a time. Don't think about it as gaining and having to do it again. Think of it as starting new.

kurbain
01-09-2012, 02:06 PM
I'm right there with you. In July, I was back up to about 197 (my heaviest non-pregnancy weight). I got down to about 178...then gained it all back. I'm going to weigh-in today, but I'm guessing about 200. Maybe a couple lbs over, but hoping not. Ugh. We just have to dust ourselves off and start over!!

Beach Patrol
01-09-2012, 02:27 PM
I've yo-yo'd my way from 126 to 192 & everything in between. It never feels good to see a "re-gain" on the scale. After all our hard work, all the sacrifice, etc. to get where we want to be, then to just blow it! - ARGH! -no matter WHY we blow it... holidays, life set-backs, getting too complacent, etc - when we blow it, we get angry at ourselves! - And really, it's no wonder we get aggravated with ourselves & down on ourselves. We worked hard to achieve a goal & then ... just... UN-achieve it. ARGH!! But of course all that "whining" never does us an ounce of good. And yet, we do that too. ~sigh!

I'm currently in my 7th attempt at losing weight. I've succeeded in losing weight SIX TIMES already. So I know I can do it!! - what I DON'T KNOW if I can EVER do is MAINTAIN. Because I've never done it (obviously.) And that's kind of scary. Because I really am very tired of the lose/gain/lose/gain crazy cycle. But I know it's GOOD FOR ME to be at a lesser weight than I am now (or especially have been!) I'm healthier & feel so much better, not to mention look way better & have an easier time with fitting into my clothes or climbing a flight of stairs or painting my toenails :) when I'm 140 or below.

But even tho I know there's the possibility that I won't meet my goal weight this time... or that I will gain it back after I've met that goal...(OMG I sooo hope the tips/tools I've learned THIS TIME will stick!!!) I still refuse to give up trying. NEVER GIVE UP!!!!!! That's the only thing I've ever done that helps me. So I will continue trying, continue learning, continue making myself a little thinner day by day by week by week by month by month... DADGUMMIT it ain't easy!!! But it's definitely WORTH IT.

beachlover86
01-09-2012, 02:44 PM
Wow! At least I am not alone (so many similar stories). At least I am taking control before I gained it all back. I have been on plan food wise and exercise and for a week and just taking it day by day. Good luck everyone

Susie-I would love a group like that. I think it would be very helpful!

susieyarb
01-17-2012, 01:22 PM
How is everone doing?? I was pretty happy with my week one loss of 5 pounds.

I can already see a big difference in myself getting rid of all that bloat! My jeans are fitting better.

Trying not to look back is hard but every time I start it, I stop myself from negative talk and turn it positive by thinking of something I learned from the first loss and then what I learned in regaining it.

I'm going to try and make a support group for those of us who are losing again after a re-gain. I think it's a big need! If you all know of one already in place please let me know!

beachlover86
01-17-2012, 02:45 PM
Wow! 5lbs that's great! I lost 1.5 last week which I'm happy with. Since I recommitted I've stayed within my calories and been exercising 5 times a week. Hope everyone else is doing well!

Eliana
01-17-2012, 03:26 PM
Your story sounds a bit like mine. I got within 10 pounds of my original goal of 135 and then started dating my now fiance. I never gave up! But somehow I've gained 20 pounds. I was still exercising and professing this healthy life style. However, there's just something about our significant others, especially when the relationship or situation is new. It's sabotage, and I can't really say why. My fiance is very supportive, but he NEVER says "no". That is completely up to me, and I've struggled with that. Also, when he wants something like a Sundae, if I say "no", I feel like I'm denying HIM something. I've had to rethink that.

It has taken me months of denial and underestimating my situation to finally be where I hope I am now. I have to hope that returning to eating 6 mini meals a day, all healthy choices, is going to work. Eating only protein shakes and chicken did not work. Eating all the Christmas cookies I wanted definitely did not work. Starving did not work. Exercising more did not work. I have to hope that moderation will work if given time. At least the scale is no longer going up...

pattyhues
01-18-2012, 01:52 AM
As a woman your body undergoes stress, your metabolism changes to adapt to the what your body is going through. Are you increasing your intake of fresh fruit and vegetables? Drinking 8-10 glasses of water each day?
sometimes we need to step back and then make few reps forward and so on.

susieyarb
01-18-2012, 12:12 PM
Drinking lots of water has a HUGE effect on weight loss. Eliana, with your new lifestyle with your Fiance, are you eating more salt? Just remember what you did to go from 235 down to 145 (that's awesome!) and just do it again!!

You can definitely do it!

susieyarb
01-18-2012, 12:17 PM
Yesterday I was a little down about how FAR I have to go to get back to where I was before I started re-gaining. I was only 7 pounds from my goal! So I made a decision to re-think my goals and break it up into 3 phases. My first desire is to get back to One-derland. So I've changed my tickers to reflect that one chunk of the goal. When I reach One-derland, I'll adjust my goal to get back to 181 which is the lowest I got in 2010. When I reach that second phase I'll adjust my tickers to show my original goal of 174 which is what I weighed when I got married.

Mentally seeing that I have 22 pounds to go instead of 47 just seems so much more doable!

What "tricks" are you using to help yourself get back to where you were before you re-gained?

JudgeDread
01-18-2012, 12:42 PM
Well we've all been there. I at my max was 195...I dropped 50 lbs in one year just by changing my eating and adding exercise. But then keeping it off was a challenge in college! I got back up to 160..then went to the academy for my work..dropped down agian to 145...and now here I am 2 1/2 years later up to 157 :(

My best guess as to why it happened was lifestyle. Once I got out of the academy I was really active and kept running..until I had a hip injury. So I still went to the gym..got a boyfriend...cooked more, drank alcohol more..gained some.

Well single again for a few months..met the love of my life...gained a few more pounds going out to eat..cooking to impress..and still drinking far too many calories (don't worry I am not a lush, but those delish dark beers pack on a LOT of calories!)

So usually I work shift work..it changes evey 6 weeks..making it HARD to keep a normal schedule with fitness. My folks are in town and I haven't worked out since before they came a week and a half ago...my temp work detial has kept me on my butt ALL day since last May (going back to the field again this may..yet my duty belt is TIGHT!! :( )

So when it comes to changes into your lifestyle (work schedules, boyfriends, clubs) you have to find a new groove. It is so easy to get lazy. If I didn't watch what I am eating 80% of the time I would be screwed...but still slowly been packing on the lbs.

I am going to start P90x next week with my BF (so he says) and hopefully I can stay modivated since I don't have to drive 2 blocks to the gym haha! (yes I get THAT lazy).

I think designating a time, every day is important. I plan on doing it after work until my schedule changes again....I am way flabby and out of shape compared to 2 1/2 years ago..I could even do 2 pullups! NOT ANYMORE!

It is depressing...but ladies its easier to watch what you eat than modivate for exercise at times...do at least one to keep up with yourself. Don't give up and make goals here...we can all keep each other accountable!

kuchick
01-18-2012, 04:12 PM
Well, guess I need the support group for those back after a regain! I lost 70 lbs and have regained 15 since March. I'm not counting calories anymore and just got back to exercising. As of today, I'm back to counting and I've logged 55 minutes on the elliptical and weights! You can't fail unless you quit.

susieyarb
01-23-2012, 05:06 PM
How did everyone do over the weekend? I'm excited to see the teens again this morning. Just keep going, one day at a time and we'll get back to where we were again.

I'll never say never but this is definitely teaching me a strong lesson that I DO NOT want to do this again! Once it's gone, I'm going to work so much harder to keep it gone!

OhThePlaces
01-23-2012, 05:44 PM
I got within two pounds of my goal this summer and have gained back 13 lbs since my husband came home from deployment that same month. It is such a bad feeling to know that I worked so hard to get the weight off, and then I just decided to throw it all away and eat whatever I want. I feel so uncomfortable in my own skin now. You are NOT alone! All any of us can do is pick up and keep going down the right path! :)