Looking Good, Feeling Great - short or long hair on overweight women?

01-01-2012, 02:23 PM
I have pretty medium length hair, and it can go either way pretty easily. (It grows super fast). I think I always liked the look of short hair better though - on other people.

Do you all think short hair looks ok on overweight people or does it make us look even bigger?

just curious on thoughts.

01-01-2012, 02:31 PM
I've always had longish hair (it's curly, so while grows fast it doesn't look it) and I thought it looked good on me at my starting weight and at my goal weight. I do admit I would "hide" behind my hair (I've got A LOT of THICK hair so it's always out and big) because I thought it made me look thinner. Now I just embrace my hair because it's unique.

I think much of it largely depends on one's face though. Certain hairstyles look better or worse depending on people's facial structures. It also depends on the type of hair, how it grows...I guess it work to say that one hairstyle works for overweight people and another works for thin people...everyone's faces and hair are different after all!

01-01-2012, 08:18 PM
Can't say one or the other work better in terms of the general population. Different cuts are flattering for different face shapes.

I was always able to find hairstyles both long and short, that looked pretty good, regardless of my size. Like sontikle said, everyones faces and hair are different.

01-01-2012, 09:21 PM
My mother always wanted me to have a close-cropped short hair cut, because she said it makes my face look thinner, and I think she was right (for me, not for all overweight women), but I also think it makes me look ridiculous - a thin face on a huge body, like a large snowman with a teeny, tiny baseball-sized head.

I don't think length is as important as fullness. A tight ponytail makes my head look just as small as a pixie cut, so I like volume. Right now, I have long hair, and I do often put it in a ponytail (even though it does make my head look too small), but I prefer to have it fuller so that my head looks more balanced with my body. So while it does make my face look fuller, I don't feel like a pinhead.

I think it really depends on not only your face shape, but what you like.

01-01-2012, 09:56 PM
I've had both & always loved my longer hair. In fact, I regretted the short style that I took prenatals to make it grow faster.

I think it all depends on the person. Some styles are more flattering than others.

01-01-2012, 11:26 PM
I always say try it! It'll grown back! :) I also figure that everyone's hair looks nice when it's on a happy, smiling person.

Short hair - really short hair - takes a lot of maintenance which I found too pricey. I have shoulder length hair now which I find nice and easy and flexible, but I feel way less unique.

Short hair when done wrong can also look too matronly. When I had short hair I didn't like wearing glasses and I had lots of lovely, feminine earings.

01-03-2012, 12:25 AM
Back when I was at a much healthier weight, I decided to cut my hair. That's when I realized a shorter hairstyle will never look good on me no matter what my weight. Right now my hair just goes down to the top of my shoulder blades. I would probably grow it a little longer and maintain the length, but probably won't go any longer than that. my hair needs the weight of long hair in order to keep it from going poofy.

My hair is wavy - that 'wonderful' place between curly and straight. And very prone to frizz. I recently gave up my straightener and decided to stick with my natural hair type.

01-04-2012, 04:52 PM
I think it depends on your face shape. I've seen overweight and obese women who look great with short hair. I look aweful with short hair. But mine is way too long right now, chopping off 5 inches this weekend for a good medium length

01-04-2012, 09:16 PM
I am overweight. My hair is long and grey and I am in danger of resembling a deranged bag lady.
I can not gather enough courage to change my yearnings to dress like a side show fortune teller.

01-06-2012, 02:55 PM
I keep mine pretty long because short hair just doesn't suit my face. I've seen girls who are bigger than me with short hair and it looked fantastic on them so it's not really a weight thing I don't think.

01-06-2012, 03:30 PM
I agree with others that it depends on face shape/cut/type of hair.

I've seen some larger women with long hair who can pull it off really well. I've also seen it look really bad (the example I'm thinking of the woman had a very round face and super straight long hair it might have just been the cut too but it didn't match very if that makes sense?). It seems like the styles that I found the most flattering that were longer tended to have more body to them (wavy or curly). However, I could also imagine a scenario where someone had "too much" hair so in the end you just have to experiment a bit.

I guess long story short, maybe talk to a hair dresser and get their opinion. For me I always preferred to have short hair when I was larger. I have a round face but never carried a ton of weight in my face either. Short hair gave me a bit more volume but not an overwhelming amount. Also, when I have long hair that almost always means a ponytail the vast majority of the time and me at my highest with a ponytail was not the most flattering site in the world mostly because it would make my body look a lot bigger than my head. :lol: So maybe if I wasn't so lazy I couldn't pulled off long hair better. ;)

ETA: DH always prefers me with short hair no matter the weight but I've had other boyfriends (obviously before meeting him!) that liked me with long hair better regardless of weight so who knows!!!:shrug:

01-08-2012, 08:27 AM
I have shorter hair and I like it, I would love it more if I knew how to style it.

Never have been good at styling, I love it when I leave the hairdresser because my hair looks full and spunky. Then the next day it is back to the plain way I manage to style it.

So, I think long or short a lot depends on how you style it. I need Class 101 on how to do hair! LOL But I guess at least it's me.

01-08-2012, 04:52 PM
I've had both while heavier, and seeing myself heavier with shorter hair looks worse to me when seeing pictures. I think, for me, it accentuated how big my face was :( However, I don't believe it to be true for everyone as, like said above, everyone's face is different :)

01-11-2012, 02:38 PM
i think medium hair, long hair tends to stick and overlap over back and shoulders which is not always complimentary, and i guess extremely short may feel too exposing too

01-11-2012, 04:35 PM
I'm going to be extremely honest because of the anonymity of the internet here, but I have frankly never seen a big girl with a short hair cut that made her look better. I'm with kaplods- it DOES make your head look smaller sometimes, but that's generally not a good thing. Now, maybe I'm just not remembering all the bigger women I've seen with short hair cuts, and maybe there are some out there that look great that I just haven't seen yet, but for the most part, I think chin length or longer helps.

Around Halloween, one of my female friends came over wearing a costume that involved a wig. Her hair is usually very, very short, and she is a bigger girl. The wig was long and full, and she looked SO much better-more feminine and more proportionate- wearing this cheapie Halloween wig than she does from day to day in real life!

01-11-2012, 07:49 PM
For months I've been waiting for my hair colour to grow out so I could wear my long hair down. The other day I decided to wear it down. It just emphasised how fat I was. I think it's purely a personal choice for long or short hair, and if it suits your face type. I have lots of overweight friends with short hair and they look great, and some with medium. I think for myself I need a colour and a trim.

01-12-2012, 05:22 PM
when I was in my 20s I LOVED having short hair. I have medium length now, which I wear tied back in a pony tail most the time. I don't think I feel like one or the other looks better by body type, maybe more with the particular case(?). Whatever makes you feel attractive.

01-12-2012, 09:24 PM
I think it depends on the complexion. IMO if I get my hair cut I tend to look fat, I Haven't cut my hair in three months and i think I look better, so...longer hair for me is best

01-18-2012, 09:33 AM
I have longish hair and HATE it... when i was younger and a lot thinner I had really short hair, like a pixie cut type... as I started gaining weight I started letting it grow and numerous people in my life tell me that fat people just don't look right in short hair... so now I'm kind of stuck with this below the shoulders mop that I hate and it takes me forever to dry it and it makes me so hot and uncomfortable... I figure one of two things will happen... as I get thinner I will actually embrace the long hair because hopefully if I'm not as fat I won't always be so hot and uncomfortable OR, I will cut it all off, yay... Its such nonsense because I keep it tied back most of the time anyway so I don't know how thats better than having short hair lol.... ok anyway I'm kind of ranting but I love short hair and cutting my hair short is a mini motivation for my weight loss...

03-02-2012, 10:48 AM
Well, my hair is down past my waist right now (and tends to go from long to holy-cow-that's-loooong from year to year). Looking at other women, I think that anything from collar bone length to longer looks good on heavier people. I'm not sure that a really short haircut can't look good on plump girl, but I've never seen one that did. Maybe stylists around here don't know how to deal with the different face shape as well as they should?

03-02-2012, 11:23 AM
I had a hair dresser tell me once that hair style is all about proportion, he was right.
When I was at my heaviest I wore really short hair , which looked good if you only looked at my face, but otherwise it looked like I had a really tiny head on a Big Body.
I didn't need longer hair so much as I needed more volume, it would have better proportions for my body.
My hair is short again, but I think I want to let grow a little, maybe 2 inches.

03-02-2012, 12:13 PM
ANY hairdresser will tell you it completely depends on your face shape. Some cuts look HORRIBLE on heavier women and I wonder what on earth they were thinking, but some of us can pull it off. I just cut 6-7 inches off mine and it looks a thousand times better. However, I have a heart shaped face, my face is slim and I have REALLY thick hair. I would ask a hairdresser.


03-02-2012, 11:21 PM
You have to be careful on short hair. If you have a cut that accents a part of your face that you'd rather them not focus on then its bad. I have had long hair for as long as I can remember and in school I always wore it up till I realized I hated it that way but I wouldn't go short. So now I have mine at shoulder length with layers and it stays curly. I much prefer shoulder length rather then long or short.
It's really up to the person and how they like it.

12-10-2012, 07:41 AM
Not to dredge up an old thread, but I have a really fat face and neck. Plus my neck is short compared to the average neck, but my double chin makes it look even shorter! I have short hair (very short hair) and my parents love that hair cut on me but when I look at myself it seems like it makes my face and body much fatter than they are.. And I'm huge.. 375 pounds on a 5'2" frame..

I'm trying to grow my hair out, I haven't had a hair cut in 7 months (barring the trim I had a week ago to remove split ends and shape it a little).

I had long hair (down to butt) in high school but chopped it all off just prior to senior year in 2001. Had short hair like that ever since. But since my huge weight gain (due to medications) of over 100 pounds my face really plumped up something awful. I hate how short hair makes me look now. I used to love it on me when my face and neck were much much thinner. So for me, I think longer hair will probably look good on me. I plan to grow it past shoulder length, probably bra line length and with soft layers in the front from about my chin, down. So we'll see.

01-01-2013, 02:28 AM
I've only had very short hair twice in my lifetime, and both times it was just way to much maintenance. Because of the size of my head, very short hair just made my head look even bigger. And, everytime I've lost weight, I get the itch to go for a "makeover" and they always cut my very long hair (at least to my shoulders). This time, I'm determined to get to goal and stay there a while before cutting my hair.

For everyday, I usually wear a ponytail or pinned in an updo, but I have a large basketball head, so it doesn't look so much like a too small head on a larger body. Also, I have waves, and in the right amount of low humidity, curls, so I try to leave some "poof" when I pull my hair back.

It's really a personal thing, but stylists should be aware of what's below the neck when they recommend new hairstyles.

01-01-2013, 02:41 AM
I was terrified to cut my long hair. When I finally went through with it I was so thrilled. It looked fantastic. I chopped off 15 inches so I was able to donate it.

But honestly, like everyone has said, there are many variables in determining what hair length will look good.

Misti in Seattle
01-01-2013, 08:55 AM
I'm going to be extremely honest because of the anonymity of the internet here, but I have frankly never seen a big girl with a short hair cut that made her look better.

Well, here is your opportunity LOL. I look MUCH better with short hair, not only because I have extremely thick, fine hair which just wilts in a longer style, but because short hair is just more flattering.

And souvenirdarling, short hair does not always take "a lot of maintenance." Totally depends on the person. My photo below with shorter hair was taken "straight out of the shower" with a tiny bit of gel and left to dry, natural color, natural curl. (I spend endless hours in the pool and don't have time to mess with it.) We are all different! :)

First photo below taken in October; second in December.



01-03-2013, 09:06 PM
I recently cut my hair short and get tons of compliments. Mine is chin length in front but "stacked" in the back - its really chic. I like it because when I work out in the morning I go home and wash my hair and can condition and go - no blowdry or irons on it. My hair stylist also does hair for tons of ladies I know and I went to a luncheon the day after I got my cut - a couple hundred women were at this luncheon. My stylist said her phone immediately went nuts with text messages of women wanting the cut. I had hair just below shoulders before that. my cut is feminine and whispy. I wear earrings which are long and drop below the edge of my hair - so it give me a glam look. hope that helps.